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Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. Only on the Jubile Show.

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Speaker 1: Holly is on the phone today for to Catch a

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Speaker 1: Cheater and she thinks that something might be going on,

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Speaker 1: so we're gonna see if we can help her out. Holly,

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Speaker 1: thank you for coming on the show. I'm sorry there

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Speaker 1: you're dealing with this. What's going on with Alan?

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Speaker 2: We've been married for four years, but we were together

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Speaker 2: probably three and a half years before that, so almost

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Speaker 2: eight years we've been together. He's just been really distant

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Speaker 2: all of a sudden, for like the past five to

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Speaker 2: six months. I don't know what's going on. I've asked him.

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Speaker 2: He's just like, everything's fine or it's not you. I'm

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Speaker 2: just going through some things. So I was like, okay, well,

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Speaker 2: if you're going through some things, do you want to

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Speaker 2: be in therapy or anything like that? And he was

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Speaker 2: like sure. So he started therapy, which I commend him

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Speaker 2: for and I'm like, oh, I'm I'm happy that you're

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Speaker 2: doing that. But she's steel like distant, and even after therapy,

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Speaker 2: that's not like it got kind of worse. To spend

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Speaker 2: his time on Twitch and on his phone, and we

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Speaker 2: even used to once a week, like we would take

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Speaker 2: our lunch breaks together from work and have lunch together,

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Speaker 2: and that stops like two months ago, Like, we don't

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Speaker 2: even do that anymore. I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 2: So I'm suspecting there's another person.

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Speaker 3: Is there anything that is pointing to another person outside?

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Speaker 3: I mean the distance is definitely a big flag for sure,

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Speaker 3: But have there been any signs of another person?

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Speaker 2: Well, he's always on his phone, right like I said,

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Speaker 2: and we don't do our once a month lunch breaks

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Speaker 1: So did he give you a reason for stopping those?

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Speaker 2: Well, he just said he's swamped at work, and everybody

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Speaker 2: knows that's a cliche. Come on, really, I.

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Speaker 1: Mean it could be.

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Speaker 3: I mean, have you tried to just show up at

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Speaker 1: Do that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, surprise, I mean, for lack of a better to,

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Speaker 2: I do not have the balls to do that.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, fair? Does he interact with his friends the

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Speaker 3: same way that he was before?

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Speaker 2: No? Really, So that's kind of weird too. And I'm like,

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Speaker 2: who is getting all of this attention from him? You know,

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Speaker 2: because it's not me, it's not his friends, it is

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Speaker 2: his phone. So I'm not going to go through his

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Speaker 2: phone like I tried to want we got a big argument,

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Speaker 2: it didn't work out, so I stay away from going

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Speaker 2: through his phone. I just don't know. I'm like, okay,

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Speaker 2: so everyone's supposed to help, but it got worse. So

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Speaker 2: now do I be like, stop going to therapy. I'm

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Speaker 2: going to look crazy.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: What if he's like having an affair with his therapist.

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Speaker 1: Oh, that would have been a plotwaste. Yeah, then I

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Speaker 1: would say ask him to stop going to that therapist.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then go to a therapist that can talk

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Speaker 3: about ethics and yeah, teach you how to get over

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Speaker 3: a divorce. And not getting a full blown, like one

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Speaker 3: hundred percent cheating vibe from this though, I'm getting more

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Speaker 3: of a like something's going on with him and he's

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Speaker 3: just isolating himself from the world's kind of a thing,

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Speaker 3: which is tough because when a guy gets to that space.

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Speaker 1: It's hard to break through. But if he's not acting

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Speaker 1: like if he's acting weird with his friends, also, that's

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Speaker 1: what I mean, he's an isolation phase. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I just feel like it's got

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Speaker 2: to be something like he's never done a drug in

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Speaker 1: Well that's good, yeah, all right, Well we'll try to

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Speaker 1: figure it out for you. We'll play a song. You

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Speaker 1: already told us what grocery store he's a Rewards card

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Speaker 1: member at, so we'll do the usual and call up

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Speaker 1: present to me from the grocery store and say that

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Speaker 1: he's this month's lucky winner of thirty six longstim red

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Speaker 1: roses deliver to anybody that he wants to, and we'll

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll play a song. Come back and get

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Speaker 1: your to Catch a Tater next, it's time.

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Speaker 2: To Catch a Cheater only on the Tuble Show.

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Speaker 1: If you're just joining us for today's to Catch a Cheater.

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Speaker 1: Holly is on the phone and she thinks that her

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Speaker 1: husband of four years might be messing around. We're about

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Speaker 1: to call him and pretend to be from the grocery

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Speaker 1: store that he is a Rwards Card member at, and

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Speaker 1: Card member who gets free flower delivery from our Florida department,

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Speaker 1: and we'll see v sends those flowers to Holly. Or

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Speaker 1: to somebody else. Hally, before we do that, why don't

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Speaker 1: you refresh everbody's memory on what's going on with Alan.

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Speaker 2: Alan and I have been together till it was almost

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Speaker 2: eight years four of them married. She's guys really distant.

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Speaker 2: He spends most of his time playing twitch or on

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Speaker 2: his phone. He stopped our monthly lunch dates that we

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Speaker 2: do together from work. He did start therapy, but it

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Speaker 2: only got worse after theffy and I don't want to

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Speaker 1: You ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Well, Hi, this is Jorable calling

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Speaker 1: from I was looking for our rewards card member named Alan.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, this is Alan.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Alan, Please don't hang up. This is not a

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Speaker 1: marketing phone call. I'm calling to give you some exciting news.

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Speaker 1: Here this month's big winner. Thank you very much for

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Speaker 1: shopping with this. Yeah, cloud befo, we're here in the

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Speaker 1: office and everything. Hey, Every single month, we choose one

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Speaker 1: rewards card member totally random who gets free flowers delivered

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Speaker 1: from our floral department. So it's thirty six longstem red roses,

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Speaker 1: a box of candy or chocolates. Or whatever, and a

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Speaker 4: Oh hey, that's pretty cool.

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Speaker 1: You said free, right, absolutely, Frank, nothing out of pocket

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Speaker 1: will give you a con from and everything, so you

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Speaker 1: know that it's free. It's just our little way of

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Speaker 1: saying thank you very much for shopping with us.

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Speaker 4: Oh well all right, I mean I guess I could

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Speaker 4: use that for sure.

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Speaker 1: Great. If you know the person that you want to

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Speaker 1: send the flowers to right now, I can do it

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I can give it to you on the

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Speaker 1: The first thing that I will need would be the

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Speaker 1: first and the last name of the person that you

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Speaker 1: would like to send the flowers to.

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Speaker 4: Okay, why don't you make the card out the judy

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Speaker 4: It's j U d.

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Speaker 1: Y okay, and you have last name on on judy?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, what the name is my last name?

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Speaker 1: So things your last name is? What was that your wife?

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Speaker 5: No not Actually I'm going to put this in the card.

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Speaker 5: But if you could write I love you mom, it's

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Speaker 1: Oh that okay, yes, I can do that. Were you

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Speaker 1: And at this point I'll just let you know that

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Speaker 1: I'm not from the grocery store at all. Wait what Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is actually Jewbel from the Jewel Show. That's a

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Speaker 1: radio show. Yeah, I'm Nina on the radio show too. Hi,

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Speaker 1: and I'm the h.

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Speaker 4: And wait, what's going on?

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Speaker 1: Your wife, Holly is actually on the phone with us.

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Speaker 4: Holly, Are you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: Nope? Holly. Do you want to explain what this is?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I kind of. I feel stupid now, but I

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Speaker 6: To do this because you've been getting like, really really distant,

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Speaker 6: and you haven't been telling me what's been going on,

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Speaker 2: Been asking you about it, and you've spend most of

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Speaker 2: your time on your phone and you've been canceling Island State.

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Speaker 1: The segment is called to Catch a Cheater Alan, So

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Speaker 1: if somebody thinks they're significant other might be cheating, then

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Speaker 1: they will email us to call them and see see

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Speaker 1: who they send flowers to.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, okay, I see now. Well I gotta tell you, babe,

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Speaker 5: I'm not I'm not cheating on you. I'm so sorry

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Speaker 5: that you even thought that. And yes, I've been distant lately,

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Speaker 5: and the truth is that I do have a secret.

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Speaker 5: But you know it's it's nothing about you. It's actually

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Speaker 5: my mom has been getting sick. Oh, cancer, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 5: We just kind of figured this out, and you know,

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Speaker 5: my siblings, they're not going to be helping me, so

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Speaker 5: it's it's like pretty much my responsibility here.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I mean, your mom

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Speaker 4: I don't want to put the burden on you. I mean,

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Speaker 5: I'm the kind of person who just kind of deals

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Speaker 2: I should have told you. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And also Alan, just a quick note, I get what

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Speaker 3: It sounds like it's been going on for a long time,

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Speaker 3: and you probably you know, you shouldn't have to bear

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Speaker 1: I have six months and if you if your partner

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Speaker 1: want to be there for you, Alli. Do you want

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Speaker 2: Of course I do. I'm even embarrassed that it had

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Speaker 2: to come this far. To be on the radio. But

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Speaker 2: like I wish I would have known, like this is

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Speaker 2: a big deal.

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Speaker 5: I'm sorry, you know what, it is my fault that

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Speaker 5: you feel this way, And you guys are totally right.

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Speaker 5: I mean you should have let her know and and yeah,

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Speaker 5: I guess I could use some help myself.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, there you got all that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well do you want to finish having this conversation

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Speaker 2: like outside of.

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Speaker 5: Actually, baby, you know what I really missed and we

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Speaker 5: haven't done it in a while because you know, I've

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Speaker 5: been so wrapped up and all this, But you know,

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Speaker 5: we haven't had lunch in a while, and I think

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Speaker 5: if maybe we go to lunch today that I'd be

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Speaker 5: pretty cool.

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Speaker 4: I'm sure up for it, of course.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do that, Okay. Well, yeah, yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: you have a lot to talk about, and I'm glad

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Speaker 1: that he wasn't cheating.

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Speaker 3: Me too, Me too. I am sorry to hear about

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Speaker 3: about your mom, Alan, And this is going to be

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Speaker 3: a tough time for all of you, but thankfully you

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Speaker 3: have each other and a lot of love, so you're

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Speaker 4: Thank you, and I appreciate you guys for that. The

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Speaker 4: Jewel Shows to catch a cheater,