1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: Calling all my Sweetish to the forefront. I'm your host, 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: Christo and this is the Keep It Positive, Sweetish Show. 3 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 1: Welcome to the Keep It Positive Sweetie Show, the place 4 00:00:12,520 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 1: where we he'll grow and learn together. Today's guests are 5 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:19,159 Speaker 1: The Bratt and Judy. The Brat and Judy are a 6 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:22,880 Speaker 1: couple people have grown to love watching, but today's conversation 7 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,279 Speaker 1: is about what it takes to happiness on purpose. We're 8 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:31,520 Speaker 1: talking love, partnership, accountability, and everyday choices that protect home. 9 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:39,839 Speaker 1: Welcome to the Kid's Sofa, The Bratt and Judy. Hey, ladies, No, 10 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 1: I love that we need the energy. That's y'all brought 11 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: good energy for the moment y'all walked in, So yes, 12 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:49,320 Speaker 1: I appreciate it. I have been admirers and fans of 13 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: y'all's first since y'all got together, and then Brat like 14 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: since I was a kid, like I don't know if 15 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: I told you this, and I was like, you know, 16 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: you meet somebody like did I say that out loud? 17 00:00:57,880 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: I think when I met y'all Doller's house, I was like, 18 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: I used to write your rap lyrics down on papers 19 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 1: and then like I was. 20 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 2: Like, Crystal, what, No, it's Okay, I appreciate that. 21 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:10,759 Speaker 1: Weird Okay, didn't Okay, you know, like after you play something, 22 00:01:10,760 --> 00:01:12,959 Speaker 1: you're like, was that too much? No, No, you. 23 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 2: Don't bother me at all. I appreciate it. 24 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:17,199 Speaker 1: No, yes, no, It's. 25 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 3: Like we have been following each other for a long 26 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 3: time and finally got to put you. 27 00:01:19,800 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: Know exactly, No, for sure, Judy, you have grown a 28 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:28,960 Speaker 1: multi billion dollar company empire from your salon roots. 29 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:31,400 Speaker 3: Speak that into existence. You said, multi billion. 30 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:36,480 Speaker 1: That's a billion a million, you said, that's what gods, Yeah, 31 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: you said it. 32 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:38,120 Speaker 3: That's what we're doing. 33 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:39,039 Speaker 1: That's what you're doing. 34 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:40,160 Speaker 3: And I believe it. 35 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: Touch and agree, Touch and agree, all right, I believe 36 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: in that power of tongue. But you have done so 37 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 1: much and I've watched you grow so inspired by everything 38 00:01:50,240 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: that you do, like your drops, every literally your drops 39 00:01:53,720 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: and your drops. Everything is so creative and I love 40 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: everything you all do together. Brad, you have had such 41 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:04,160 Speaker 1: a legacy from starting on very young rapping and just 42 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:08,079 Speaker 1: so so deaf that was like the and still is 43 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:11,080 Speaker 1: holding its name to this day. And everything that you 44 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:13,120 Speaker 1: have done and how you evolved and grown over the 45 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,119 Speaker 1: years is just outstanding and admirable. 46 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:15,919 Speaker 2: Thank you so much. 47 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:18,359 Speaker 1: No, seriously, thank y'all vote for taking the time. When 48 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:20,040 Speaker 1: I got the call and it's like, would you want 49 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: to I'm like, what I want to? 50 00:02:21,200 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 2: Yes? 51 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:25,600 Speaker 1: I love him, so thank you so much, thank you. Yes, No, 52 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:30,240 Speaker 1: you guys have y'all have been very intentional and like 53 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:33,240 Speaker 1: out with your relationship and with everything you have going on. 54 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: I feel like this season has been a little more quiet. 55 00:02:35,960 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 1: Has that been intentional? 56 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:45,960 Speaker 3: I feel like motherhood keeps us quite busy, and then 57 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 3: there is a sense of privacy that we want to 58 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 3: have with our child. We shared him with the world, 59 00:02:52,520 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 3: but then you know, once once he got here and 60 00:02:56,000 --> 00:03:00,600 Speaker 3: we started. You know, my wife is the first time yes, 61 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 3: so just extra protective, extra everything. So I try to 62 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 3: make time away from social media a lot to be 63 00:03:10,120 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 3: more present. And she just don't give it about social 64 00:03:13,560 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 3: media at all anyway, So if I'm not pushing it, 65 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 3: it's the true right she you know, she's in love 66 00:03:21,040 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 3: with being a mom. 67 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:25,920 Speaker 1: I love that. Let's talk about that first time mom. Yeah, 68 00:03:25,960 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 1: and even the process of becoming a mom, because I 69 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: think we're around the same How are you? Is it public? 70 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: How are yeah? So we're about the same age. So 71 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: for me, I just went to the doctor feeling like 72 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 1: I've waited too late to freeze my eggs. Talk about 73 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:43,680 Speaker 1: that journey of actually having a baby later on in life. 74 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 2: Oh man, Well, I didn't realize. 75 00:03:46,080 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 4: That your eggs go south after like forty maybe even sooner, 76 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 4: some people even sooner. So once I realized that, I 77 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,600 Speaker 4: was like, oh no. But then my wife has some 78 00:03:57,640 --> 00:04:00,720 Speaker 4: good old eggs up in there, so it's like, okay, 79 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 4: we're gonna get some of them. So, you know, we 80 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 4: were able to get some of her eggs extracted. But 81 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 4: she went through a horrible process. But we can elaborate 82 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:13,280 Speaker 4: on that, you know, later. But we got her eggs extracted. 83 00:04:13,320 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 4: I was able to be the oven and I was 84 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,599 Speaker 4: able to carry it. You know, I got examined and 85 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:20,680 Speaker 4: all that to make sure I was good and I 86 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:21,960 Speaker 4: was able to carry. 87 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:24,840 Speaker 2: At first, I was like carry, I'm not carrying. I 88 00:04:24,839 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 2: don't look carried. I thought what she said. 89 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:33,479 Speaker 3: What she said was, oh God, beautiful, you should do 90 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 3: it because it's gonna slide right out since you had 91 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 3: other children. But that's the exact word. I mean you. 92 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 3: And she put this on People TV. She said that 93 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:43,479 Speaker 3: on television. 94 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:46,719 Speaker 4: I did say that, but it means that your body 95 00:04:46,839 --> 00:04:50,159 Speaker 4: has had three children already, so it knows how to 96 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:52,480 Speaker 4: open and close and form. 97 00:04:52,640 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 3: That ain't what she said said, It just. 98 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:56,840 Speaker 2: Slide right out. 99 00:04:56,920 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 4: I shouldn't have opposed to somebody who's never had a 100 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:01,239 Speaker 4: child before. 101 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 3: And not only that, but she is, you know, she's 102 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 3: it's hard exterior, but she's the most nurturing person I 103 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 3: ever met my whole time. Wow, So I knew that mother. 104 00:05:10,520 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 3: I knew that not only motherhood would be greatful her, 105 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:15,920 Speaker 3: but I knew the experience of pregnancy she would enjoy 106 00:05:16,240 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 3: every moment of it. 107 00:05:17,279 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 1: And she did. Wow, she did. 108 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 3: She I'm talking you know, I share. I documented the 109 00:05:21,760 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 3: moment when she first felt it moving, and I mean 110 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 3: she was just crying and embracing all the parts of 111 00:05:28,560 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 3: it she enjoyed. 112 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:35,080 Speaker 1: Like yeah, no, that's beautiful. And like, Brad, you are 113 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 1: You're known for your hard, tough exterior, but now I 114 00:05:39,279 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 1: see a softer side of you. Has motherhood brought out 115 00:05:41,800 --> 00:05:42,359 Speaker 1: that side in you? 116 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 2: Absolutely? I think it's brought it out more. 117 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 4: And like doing our show and stuff, having to show 118 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:51,400 Speaker 4: so much vulnerability like that, that made me probably like 119 00:05:51,440 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 4: a little softer publicly, I've always been kind of like 120 00:05:55,160 --> 00:05:57,599 Speaker 4: a cream puffin side, but I have preferred to keep 121 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:01,240 Speaker 4: it hid until she came along and made it all 122 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:04,680 Speaker 4: like come out. And then after having our son, everything 123 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,479 Speaker 4: make me cry. It's like I'm extra emotional about every 124 00:06:07,600 --> 00:06:10,679 Speaker 4: especially when I look at him. Any little thing he does, 125 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:13,359 Speaker 4: it's just like I'm crying or I'm. 126 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 3: Like, oh my god, it's so adorable. 127 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,600 Speaker 4: Like you know, you just are so proud of every 128 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 4: little thing, and you know, yeah, I'm a cream puff 129 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 4: when it comes to him. 130 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 2: I used to like to keep it under wraps, but 131 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:24,479 Speaker 2: now I don't care. 132 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:26,799 Speaker 4: I'm old enough to be like, you know, not caring 133 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:29,520 Speaker 4: about what people think of me or any of that stuff. 134 00:06:29,680 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: Right, And was that part of like the persona as 135 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 1: an artist and she thought you had to keep up? 136 00:06:33,800 --> 00:06:36,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely absolutely. I was always taught. 137 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 4: My grandmother actually taught me, you know, you don't show 138 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 4: them your weakness. Come on and showed them your weakness. 139 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:43,080 Speaker 4: Then they play on that and then pull on your 140 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,760 Speaker 4: heart strings. So I was, you know, taught to be 141 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 4: a tough little kid growing up in Chicago. Plus I 142 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:51,920 Speaker 4: had to fight, you know, I had to fight. 143 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:55,719 Speaker 1: I've heard Chicago can be a place that really makes 144 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: you tough for sure, Judy. Where are you from? Originally 145 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:01,720 Speaker 1: New Orleans? It was okay, so that's another city where 146 00:07:02,400 --> 00:07:05,240 Speaker 1: like you gotta know, I'm good. 147 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 3: Well, I didn't have to fight growing up, I had 148 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 3: my first like I had three children before the age 149 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:13,960 Speaker 3: of nineteen. But you know, so I was into other stuff. 150 00:07:14,520 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: So when did you get into the hair business and 151 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:18,440 Speaker 1: like start, when did you start doing hair and know 152 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: that that was a skill that you had. 153 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 3: I started doing hair like when I was five, Like, 154 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 3: you know, I used to do My mom always tells 155 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:27,080 Speaker 3: the story, like I used to She used to buy 156 00:07:27,120 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 3: me Barbie dolls, and I used to just try to 157 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 3: cut their hair and give them a little bob and 158 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 3: then cut a little bit short until they ball head, 159 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 3: and then it was wound up with another you know, 160 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 3: I had to get another Barbie doll. And then I 161 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 3: used to sit on my dad's back and just put 162 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:43,040 Speaker 3: borrettel over his head. So I used to sneak clients 163 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 3: and also used to sneak my friends in from school 164 00:07:45,600 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 3: to do their hair when my parents were at work. 165 00:07:47,400 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 1: Wow, this is something that was just in you. Yeah, 166 00:07:50,440 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 1: when did you know that you had something to create? 167 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 1: KLAIDI scope. 168 00:07:54,280 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 3: I didn't, really, I didn't. I mean I liked doing hair, 169 00:07:58,840 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 3: I know, I always wanted my own salon. When I 170 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 3: got my own salon, I used to like buy products 171 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 3: from somebody that was always coming to sell products. You know, 172 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:10,559 Speaker 3: back in the day, they used to have an open 173 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 3: floor salon you know where, and then people used to 174 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 3: come in selling CDs, shirts, food, and so this guy 175 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 3: used to come in selling hair products all the time, 176 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 3: and he was like, you should, you should make your 177 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 3: own and I'm like, I don't want to do that. 178 00:08:23,400 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 3: I'm charging two hundred fifty dollars for sewing. I don't 179 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 3: want to sell no five dollars sprints. But he talked 180 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 3: me into it, and it just so happened. On one 181 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 3: of my clients cheated on me for another hairstylist, and 182 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 3: she came back with a boss by the middle of head, 183 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 3: so I had to grow her head to the middle 184 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:40,440 Speaker 3: of her back. So, even though it wasn't my fault, 185 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:43,560 Speaker 3: I then felt compelled to tell the guy that had 186 00:08:43,600 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 3: asked me that, well, can we figure out something for this, 187 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 3: and so that actually birthed drops. 188 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, well thank you for the girl to 189 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 1: cheat it, because we wouldn't listen. You know, I love that. 190 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,760 Speaker 1: Recently you talked about the importance of boundaries and self awareness. 191 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,599 Speaker 1: What is it that made you say, like now you 192 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: talk about being more private and protecting home. What is 193 00:09:10,640 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: it that really made you decide that you wanted to 194 00:09:12,800 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: just set boundaries and have more something. So I think 195 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: and being with my beautiful When I first Metfulness, she 196 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: was really reserved, and I've always been one hundred percent open, 197 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:30,319 Speaker 1: and I feel like us coming together it's me understanding 198 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:36,160 Speaker 1: my transparency is my transparency, and her transparency it's her transparency. 199 00:09:36,400 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 3: So even though we share a child, I also have 200 00:09:39,240 --> 00:09:42,800 Speaker 3: one hundred percent for respect for what she feels is 201 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 3: appropriate to share and not share with our child. So 202 00:09:45,520 --> 00:09:48,959 Speaker 3: then it's okay, Yes we are transparent, but then there 203 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:52,280 Speaker 3: are sometimes where we just need to be moms. You know. 204 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 3: I like content creation. That's something that I enjoy doing, 205 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:58,480 Speaker 3: whether it's the big cameras or whether it's just us 206 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:01,319 Speaker 3: doing a quick little TikTok. Right, she doesn't necessarily I'm 207 00:10:01,320 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 3: not gonna say she hates it, but she doesn't like 208 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:05,440 Speaker 3: it as much. She doesn't participate in it as much. 209 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:09,320 Speaker 3: So it's finding the middle ground. 210 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:11,560 Speaker 1: Of what works best for us, like when. 211 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 3: We do our content together outside of it feeling like 212 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:18,839 Speaker 3: pulling tea sometimes. Well, okay, so I could get probably 213 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 3: two three hours out of that's good. But that if 214 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:23,960 Speaker 3: my son don't want to do it, we don't make 215 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 3: him do it. We don't don't like it. If he 216 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 3: looks like he's in the mood, he's not gonna want 217 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,080 Speaker 3: to do nothing, He's not going to be in it. 218 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 3: I do feel a little sense of responsibility though, since 219 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 3: we've given people a peep into our life to give 220 00:10:36,760 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 3: them some updates, but not as much as I would 221 00:10:39,800 --> 00:10:42,320 Speaker 3: do with our life and our relationship for sure. 222 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:45,320 Speaker 1: No, I tetally you understand that, Brad. You have talked 223 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: about spending years in survival mode, which is something that 224 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:51,600 Speaker 1: I think a lot of people can attest to, especially 225 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: at the way the world is now, Like every time 226 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:56,560 Speaker 1: you turn around, it's something, but like we all feel 227 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: a sense of like survival and like I gotta make it. 228 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: I gotta make it from protecting yourself and staying guarded. 229 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:04,959 Speaker 1: When did you realize that you didn't have to be 230 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: in survival mode anymore. 231 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 4: That's a great question, because I think I was in 232 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 4: survival mode until I'm at beautiful. Wow, it's been survival 233 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 4: mode since twenty just before twenty nineteen. 234 00:11:20,720 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 2: Twenty twenty nineteen was the Essence Fest. 235 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: Is that when y'all met. 236 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:30,920 Speaker 2: We met in twenty eighteen. Help me out, beautiful. 237 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 3: Let's see how many years is it this year. 238 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 2: Of being together? I think five? Is it five or six? 239 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 3: I moved to Atlanta twenty nineteen, so it might have 240 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:43,360 Speaker 3: been twenty eighteen. 241 00:11:45,040 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 4: Yeah. So my thing was I was always guarded. I 242 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 4: didn't want people in my business. You know, as an artist, 243 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:56,600 Speaker 4: we're told to well back then, you didn't want people 244 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:58,880 Speaker 4: to know you in a relationship, right if that could 245 00:11:58,920 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 4: ruin your record safe, So everything stayed private. I was 246 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 4: definitely still in the closet, so I definitely wasn't telling that, 247 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:11,120 Speaker 4: let alone talk about any relationship. But it was Essence 248 00:12:11,200 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 4: Festival twenty nineteen, and for the first time I felt 249 00:12:16,040 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 4: like I didn't care what anybody said, and the love 250 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 4: that I felt from her, I just wanted everybody to know. 251 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:24,439 Speaker 2: You know, I wanted to hold her hand. 252 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 4: I wanted to just be close to it, and I 253 00:12:26,920 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 4: have never did that in my entire life. 254 00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: We all were like whoa. 255 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:32,560 Speaker 2: Yeah. 256 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:35,679 Speaker 4: We were at the Essence Festival and I grabbed her 257 00:12:35,720 --> 00:12:38,520 Speaker 4: hand and my whole team is like, the what is 258 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:43,640 Speaker 4: going on? So they all grabbed each other's hands, so 259 00:12:43,679 --> 00:12:45,680 Speaker 4: it looked like we were all just walking together like 260 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:47,720 Speaker 4: you would walk through a club or a crowded room. 261 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:50,560 Speaker 4: And I'm like, no, you know, like, let my hand go. 262 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:52,840 Speaker 4: I want to hold her hand. And I was just 263 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 4: all up close to it. My team was looking like. 264 00:12:56,679 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 3: I said on her now closed to go to our play. 265 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:00,760 Speaker 3: I was like, because I didn't know that this was 266 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:01,840 Speaker 3: We're not supposed. 267 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,319 Speaker 2: To be doing it. They lost their minds. 268 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:05,640 Speaker 4: They were like, what are you doing? I'm like, I 269 00:13:05,679 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 4: don't care anymore. I was like, I this is who 270 00:13:08,920 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 4: I'm feeling right now. And I'm like, and I want 271 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,360 Speaker 4: the world to know I don't care. I want to 272 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:15,200 Speaker 4: be close to her. I want to touch her. I 273 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 4: want to Oh. I just wanted to be all up 274 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,480 Speaker 4: underneath her and I that was the first time at 275 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 4: Essence Fast twenty nineteen that I didn't care. 276 00:13:21,840 --> 00:13:24,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, what did that feel like? Just to have that freedom? 277 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 2: It felt so good. 278 00:13:26,160 --> 00:13:29,360 Speaker 4: It felt good to not care, you know, and just 279 00:13:30,120 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 4: be around somebody that made you just want to do that, 280 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:35,960 Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, not want to hide them. 281 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 4: And she was already kind of like she wasn't like 282 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 4: a private person like that. I didn't realize that. You know, 283 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:46,040 Speaker 4: she was all on social media and stuff with her 284 00:13:46,120 --> 00:13:51,240 Speaker 4: different partners, you know before before before me. Yeah, I 285 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:53,719 Speaker 4: didn't scroll down that far. I was only into her. 286 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 4: So I was only into the you know, the callistope 287 00:13:56,760 --> 00:13:58,559 Speaker 4: stuff because I was doing promo for you. 288 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:00,839 Speaker 3: They would have been deleted. You wouldn't have seen them. 289 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 3: What you mean, when we were dating, you wouldn't have 290 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:04,839 Speaker 3: seen them because they would have they were to get 291 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:07,040 Speaker 3: you get deleted. What is that? You don't stay on 292 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 3: the page from your phone though, don't start a girl. 293 00:14:12,200 --> 00:14:13,360 Speaker 1: That's what we're doing today. 294 00:14:14,679 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 4: This is the same spaced Yeah, this is just the 295 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 4: way love goes list. 296 00:14:19,880 --> 00:14:20,800 Speaker 3: Okay, let me explain that. 297 00:14:21,040 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 2: Don't start put it out there. 298 00:14:22,880 --> 00:14:25,880 Speaker 3: I have if you get my phone, it don't matter 299 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 3: one hundred and like seventy thousand pieces of content, literally 300 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 3: like it's it's one hundred yeah, one hundred and forty 301 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 3: four thousand people. Oh I see it. 302 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:37,640 Speaker 1: Wow. 303 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 3: She she went in my phone and she found something 304 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 3: that I forgot was in there. 305 00:14:42,240 --> 00:14:45,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, like it's buried on the content in the relationship. 306 00:14:45,840 --> 00:14:49,600 Speaker 4: You scroll, you scroll and you delete. You scroll, you 307 00:14:49,640 --> 00:14:50,400 Speaker 4: scroll from. 308 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:52,200 Speaker 2: The time you met that person to the time you 309 00:14:52,280 --> 00:14:54,280 Speaker 2: still with them. You scroll and. 310 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:59,720 Speaker 1: You delete words. Otherwise, scroll and aleag and delete. You 311 00:15:00,240 --> 00:15:03,960 Speaker 1: about the way love goes? I want to get into it. 312 00:15:04,000 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 1: You guys have a new book that's coming out in February. 313 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 1: What's the exact release date? February third, February, let's go. 314 00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:14,200 Speaker 1: I'm excited. Happiness is framed as something you pursue, not 315 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:18,200 Speaker 1: something that just happens. What sparked the idea to say, Hey, beautiful, 316 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 1: we need to write a book. 317 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:22,280 Speaker 2: Her. 318 00:15:23,160 --> 00:15:25,520 Speaker 1: It's like, so you're in the brains of like the business, 319 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: like and the ideas. 320 00:15:26,800 --> 00:15:27,080 Speaker 2: Yes. 321 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:31,960 Speaker 4: Yes, February twenty third is a day after our anniversary. 322 00:15:32,880 --> 00:15:36,280 Speaker 3: I get a second on the third. 323 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 2: Oh, come out on the third. You're right, Okay, So 324 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 2: I feel like. 325 00:15:42,880 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 3: There's so much potential, especially when you have a likeness. 326 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:48,440 Speaker 3: You have people that follow you, you have people that 327 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:51,280 Speaker 3: want to know more, People want to sow into your life, 328 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:54,920 Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, And not like pastor church wise, 329 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:58,520 Speaker 3: but people want to support you in anything that you're 330 00:15:58,560 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 3: doing like my wife as an artists like being an artist. No, 331 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 3: we about to sell hair products, we're about to sell books, 332 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 3: were about to do a show. And because I felt 333 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:12,440 Speaker 3: like she didn't understand her fullest potential, we're working. I 334 00:16:12,440 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 3: mean we were together and I was like, are you 335 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:18,400 Speaker 3: much money sitting right? 336 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 1: And we don't leave money on the table. 337 00:16:20,000 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 3: Right at the table and not anything that goes against 338 00:16:23,120 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 3: your morals or you know, super extra hard work. But 339 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:28,520 Speaker 3: why don't we just do why don't we just do this? 340 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 1: Yeah? I love that? So what are some of the 341 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:33,920 Speaker 1: principles that we're touching on? And the way love goes 342 00:16:36,120 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: we talked about, I guess. 343 00:16:41,120 --> 00:16:44,360 Speaker 3: Because celebrity or not, everybody has it ups and their 344 00:16:44,400 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 3: down absolutely, and we gotta get the real absolutely, So relationships, 345 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 3: you're gonna argue, you're gonna disagree, you're gonna find your 346 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:55,200 Speaker 3: way back though. I think that's the key. And also 347 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:58,560 Speaker 3: knowing that it's not like a lot of people think 348 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:01,320 Speaker 3: it's fifty to fifty, but it's like eighty twenty in 349 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:04,880 Speaker 3: some areas, it's ninety ten in some areas. It might 350 00:17:04,920 --> 00:17:07,919 Speaker 3: be fifty to fifty in some but it's not that 351 00:17:08,040 --> 00:17:10,879 Speaker 3: And it's it's almost like we try to give people 352 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:18,120 Speaker 3: different tibits of make what make what's your thing is 353 00:17:18,160 --> 00:17:21,320 Speaker 3: your thing? Like lean into the thing that's yours, and 354 00:17:21,440 --> 00:17:24,919 Speaker 3: don't try to replicate or duplicate something else that you 355 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:28,159 Speaker 3: see whatever, whatever your person is strong in, let them 356 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:30,240 Speaker 3: lead in that whatever whatever you know that you know 357 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,320 Speaker 3: what I'm saying, you might be weakened. It's okay to 358 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 3: let them lead in that thing. And you don't have 359 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:36,080 Speaker 3: to fight over like the power position. 360 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:36,600 Speaker 2: Right. 361 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:39,919 Speaker 1: I love the Brad. Was there anything that you were like, 362 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 1: we need to put this in the book, or that 363 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: you really want to talk about or you don't. 364 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:45,399 Speaker 4: I mean we kind of go toe to toe in 365 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:47,240 Speaker 4: the book. We kind of get into it a little bit. 366 00:17:47,320 --> 00:17:49,879 Speaker 4: I mean we were having in writing the book, we 367 00:17:49,880 --> 00:17:53,240 Speaker 4: were having like conversations and recording them about real life 368 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:56,520 Speaker 4: situations and things that happen and experiences. 369 00:17:57,160 --> 00:17:59,120 Speaker 3: Because you don't see it the right way, you know. 370 00:17:59,119 --> 00:18:00,280 Speaker 2: You don't see it the right way way. 371 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:02,880 Speaker 4: I mean she has looked at my phone and saw 372 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:04,920 Speaker 4: something I had in my phone a text, and threw 373 00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:07,439 Speaker 4: my phone across the room. And you know, we we 374 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:10,560 Speaker 4: have real life situations. This is a real relationship. 375 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:13,200 Speaker 3: You know, if your ex told their I mean, if 376 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:16,919 Speaker 3: your current situation told their EGX, oh your feet are pretty, 377 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:18,800 Speaker 3: or they sent the picture of their feet in like, 378 00:18:18,840 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 3: oh that's cute. 379 00:18:19,760 --> 00:18:25,879 Speaker 4: What it was a harmless compliment, Like it wasn't like 380 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:28,399 Speaker 4: I was salivating over their toes and nothing. 381 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:31,200 Speaker 2: It was just just forget it. I don't even want 382 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:31,480 Speaker 2: to see. 383 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:33,400 Speaker 1: But this is like the type of things we talking 384 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:36,679 Speaker 1: about conflict results. How do we resolve that? 385 00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:40,120 Speaker 3: You get your phone throwed across the phone, that's how 386 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:41,600 Speaker 3: you resolve it. Break. 387 00:18:41,800 --> 00:18:43,240 Speaker 2: That wasn't a good reaction. 388 00:18:43,320 --> 00:18:46,399 Speaker 4: That's an example of a bad reaction right there. It 389 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:48,280 Speaker 4: didn't have to She ain't have to break my phone, 390 00:18:48,280 --> 00:18:50,560 Speaker 4: because then that caused more issues. I had to go 391 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,240 Speaker 4: get a new phone, and I felt really bad over 392 00:18:53,280 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 4: a simple compliment instead of us just sitting down talking 393 00:18:57,680 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 4: like we kind of know how to do now. 394 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:01,359 Speaker 2: That was early on in the relationship. 395 00:19:01,480 --> 00:19:03,200 Speaker 4: She had to break my phone because then I could 396 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:04,879 Speaker 4: have turned around and like, you broke my phone, I'm 397 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:08,239 Speaker 4: gonna break your phone, And that doesn't resolve things, you 398 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:10,080 Speaker 4: know what I'm saying. But I just let her have 399 00:19:10,119 --> 00:19:12,399 Speaker 4: her little funky attitude and be mad about it, and 400 00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 4: then we got over it, you know, after a few 401 00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:17,359 Speaker 4: days of her not talking to me, which I hate. 402 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:19,320 Speaker 4: I do not think you should go to being mad 403 00:19:19,640 --> 00:19:20,680 Speaker 4: with the person you love. 404 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:24,359 Speaker 2: You just fall right. All sleep well, so eat some 405 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:25,919 Speaker 2: food and go to sleep, and all. 406 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:33,440 Speaker 3: Fairness, all fairness. Being a person that has to carry 407 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:36,680 Speaker 3: as much as I do, sometimes I have to turn off. 408 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:41,120 Speaker 3: It's either that or the worries of the world will 409 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:43,080 Speaker 3: overtake me. And I'm not gonna want to do any 410 00:19:43,080 --> 00:19:46,160 Speaker 3: of this anymore, you know, not life, but just all 411 00:19:46,200 --> 00:19:48,240 Speaker 3: of it, like that business, all of that. There's so 412 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:52,320 Speaker 3: many different things that have to be carried as like 413 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:54,959 Speaker 3: the CEO of a business, as a person that is 414 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:58,480 Speaker 3: a provider for you know, different layers of their family. 415 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 3: It's like, okay, so I know we're going through this, 416 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 3: let me put this on in the bag for right now, 417 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:09,159 Speaker 3: so I can go to sleep, because because then as 418 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:12,439 Speaker 3: soon as I open that Pandora's box, it's all coming in. 419 00:20:13,040 --> 00:20:16,520 Speaker 3: And also when it comes to a conflict resolution, I 420 00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:19,360 Speaker 3: don't I don't respond immediately because I know I'm gonna 421 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:22,639 Speaker 3: say something I shouldn't, So I prefer to take a 422 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:25,919 Speaker 3: hour or two or a walk or something because I 423 00:20:25,960 --> 00:20:28,280 Speaker 3: don't I don't want to say something that I don't 424 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 3: mean because I'm mad right. 425 00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,920 Speaker 1: To know that? Yeah, exactly, And that's smart because all happen. 426 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 4: When do you bring it back up? When is it 427 00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:40,439 Speaker 4: time to discuss it? 428 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:43,000 Speaker 2: Is there time? Do you carve out time? 429 00:20:43,200 --> 00:20:45,680 Speaker 4: Or then does your schedule get a little bit more 430 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:47,760 Speaker 4: booked and busy earth? 431 00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:50,720 Speaker 3: I think we figured it out. I think so. Her 432 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:52,400 Speaker 3: thing is she wants to talk about it right there. 433 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:55,120 Speaker 3: My thing is it might be a week later. 434 00:20:56,160 --> 00:20:57,639 Speaker 2: That's a long time. 435 00:20:57,880 --> 00:20:59,280 Speaker 1: There is a lot of time, Jerry. 436 00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:05,159 Speaker 3: But we stay mad still because she'll say, oh, so 437 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:07,000 Speaker 3: we're not gonna talk about it, and we kind of 438 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:10,800 Speaker 3: move past it, like I try to get positive conversations going, 439 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:13,640 Speaker 3: and then when we finally talk about it, neither one 440 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 3: of us are heated. 441 00:21:14,640 --> 00:21:16,360 Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, I can't. 442 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:17,120 Speaker 2: For the week. 443 00:21:17,240 --> 00:21:19,639 Speaker 3: This is what you made me feel like in that moment. 444 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 3: This is what you made me feel like in that moment, 445 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:25,639 Speaker 3: And I feel like it's more level headed conversation that 446 00:21:25,680 --> 00:21:28,960 Speaker 3: can be progressive versus. 447 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:30,640 Speaker 1: The night that in heaven. And I'm like, I need 448 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:33,080 Speaker 1: a minute, Yeah, but let me let me challenge you 449 00:21:33,119 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 1: on this. Jud And you too, Brad, Like if either 450 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 1: one you make each other mad, it doesn't have to 451 00:21:38,080 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: be resolved immediately before, but before you go to bed. 452 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: I'm mad at you, but I love you, so at 453 00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:44,879 Speaker 1: least you go to bed. And it's like, you know 454 00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:46,399 Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So because if my mom. 455 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:48,520 Speaker 4: She won't say, she ain't the one that's gonna say 456 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:53,679 Speaker 4: she will take us to sleep, turn over you like 457 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:57,040 Speaker 4: you're gonna you're gonna sleep good like that, and we're 458 00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:57,560 Speaker 4: going through this. 459 00:21:59,840 --> 00:22:01,680 Speaker 2: I'm just sitting there like, really. 460 00:22:02,040 --> 00:22:03,120 Speaker 3: I accept your challenge. 461 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:05,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, because my mom did always teach me that never 462 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: go to bed angry because the worst it is not promising. 463 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,200 Speaker 1: People are going just like that, not to get too deep. 464 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:13,520 Speaker 1: But that's something she always taught me, and I held 465 00:22:13,600 --> 00:22:15,280 Speaker 1: on to that because I'm like, dang, like, you're right, 466 00:22:15,600 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 1: how would I feel if tomorrow woke up and you 467 00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:21,359 Speaker 1: didn't wake up with me? I would be crushed? So 468 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,000 Speaker 1: I always think about that. No matter nothing is that deep. 469 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:25,400 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I love you, but we're 470 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:28,399 Speaker 1: gonna figure this out later. I'm still mad, you know, right, 471 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,200 Speaker 1: So times with y'all, Yeah. 472 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 3: She could do that. She is the one oh, so 473 00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:37,600 Speaker 3: you ain't gonna say nothing. Well, I love you too. 474 00:22:37,640 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 1: Then, so she is already you probably like roll your 475 00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:43,280 Speaker 1: eyes and turn around, be like no. 476 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 3: I'm probably sleep. 477 00:22:44,320 --> 00:22:45,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, she probably sleep. 478 00:22:46,440 --> 00:22:48,679 Speaker 3: And it's not that I don't care. It's not I 479 00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:51,760 Speaker 3: comes off as that sometimes and I'm sorry that it does. 480 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 3: It is literally me going into what you just say, 481 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:58,680 Speaker 3: almost survival mom was going into Okay, let's focus on 482 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,280 Speaker 3: the good, yeah, because we don't need the bad to 483 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,520 Speaker 3: come crumbling in something. 484 00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,639 Speaker 1: I want to ask both of you, what is something 485 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:08,639 Speaker 1: that you both have learned about love as adults that 486 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:10,560 Speaker 1: you wish you had to learn earlier in life. 487 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:19,639 Speaker 3: I think for me learning that understanding your love language 488 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,399 Speaker 3: is one thing, but understanding your partner's love language is another. 489 00:23:22,840 --> 00:23:28,400 Speaker 3: Because although I'm a gift giver, she prefers acts of service. 490 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:34,160 Speaker 3: So I don't give a how much I give to her. 491 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:38,200 Speaker 3: She would just want my time. She would just want 492 00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:40,960 Speaker 3: me to, you know, like take the initiative to take 493 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:42,760 Speaker 3: her out on a date. And a day could be 494 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 3: in our kitchen and I cooked us some spaghetti, and 495 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:49,480 Speaker 3: I've made time, and I put a candle up about 496 00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,960 Speaker 3: the bundley I bought her that none of that, but 497 00:23:53,200 --> 00:24:01,800 Speaker 3: me what But that's what I learned. I had to 498 00:24:01,880 --> 00:24:04,639 Speaker 3: learn that even though gift given is a thing for 499 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:06,480 Speaker 3: me and it makes my heart smile and that's how 500 00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 3: I show love, how does she interpret or receive loss? 501 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 1: That's so good and that's real? What about you, Brad? 502 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 1: What is something that you've learned about love that you 503 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:16,399 Speaker 1: wish you had to learn earlier? 504 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:28,800 Speaker 4: On HMM, I would say to really listen to your 505 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:36,320 Speaker 4: partner instead of answering just to have an answer or reply, like, 506 00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:39,520 Speaker 4: really listen to what they're saying, and try to understand 507 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,800 Speaker 4: where they're coming from so you can kind of meet 508 00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:46,000 Speaker 4: them and kind of put yourself into the situation where 509 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 4: they're coming from, opposed to just talking to respond. And 510 00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:53,480 Speaker 4: I'm used to kind of being a little combative and like, 511 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 4: come on, we're gonna go toe to toe. 512 00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:59,119 Speaker 2: And that's just not her thing, so you know, and 513 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:03,080 Speaker 2: sometimes she'll say, what you're listening, but you're you're responding to. 514 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:06,679 Speaker 3: What You're listening to respond because you that means you 515 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:10,119 Speaker 3: haven't heard what I said. I'm trying to get you 516 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:12,399 Speaker 3: to receive it and not in a bad way, but 517 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,879 Speaker 3: you're listening to respond. Like you literally listen to defend 518 00:25:16,880 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 3: yourself right versus understanding. 519 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 1: I think a lot of us are guilty of that. 520 00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:25,960 Speaker 1: I'll definitely been that person. I'm trying to right. You 521 00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:27,760 Speaker 1: ain't gonna make me look bad. That's not what I meant. 522 00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:35,000 Speaker 1: I'm saying, you know, yeah, exactly, like yeah, but you 523 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:38,440 Speaker 1: have to have a little more patience too. I'm trying 524 00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,520 Speaker 1: you have to have a little more patience. 525 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:42,440 Speaker 2: With me when it comes to that. 526 00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,160 Speaker 4: Should you be ready to give up, get out the car, 527 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,199 Speaker 4: walk out the room, slam the door, and in the 528 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:51,520 Speaker 4: conversation and it just shouldn't end like that, I don't 529 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,280 Speaker 4: think so. You should work on your patience as I 530 00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:56,120 Speaker 4: still work on my other stuff too. 531 00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 1: This is so good. I feel like we're like in 532 00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 1: therapy right now, this too. 533 00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 3: And I think that's another thing is love is like 534 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 3: it's not a destination. It's like you have to work 535 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,359 Speaker 3: on it every day. Yeah, and you have to be 536 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 3: committed to it, and it will be difficult. Sometimes it 537 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,280 Speaker 3: will feel like the best thing ever, and then it 538 00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:15,040 Speaker 3: will feel like. 539 00:26:16,480 --> 00:26:18,040 Speaker 2: You better not say the worst thing ever. 540 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:21,199 Speaker 3: No, no, not the worst thing ever. But I was 541 00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,719 Speaker 3: I was making a face, Okay, So it feels like, 542 00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:26,720 Speaker 3: you know, not today. You know. 543 00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:33,919 Speaker 1: Y'all comedy, y'all are so fun. That's all that's you. 544 00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 3: I'd just be going off her. 545 00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:38,560 Speaker 2: Boy, girl, that is a lot. You are hilarious, No. 546 00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:41,600 Speaker 1: Seriously, so funny. I want to ask you in writing 547 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:43,960 Speaker 1: this book, were there any private moments that you had 548 00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:45,880 Speaker 1: a challenge with actually putting it into the book where 549 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,480 Speaker 1: you're like, I don't know if I want to share 550 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:50,080 Speaker 1: this or do you guys feel like pretty much open book, 551 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:50,880 Speaker 1: literally open book. 552 00:26:51,040 --> 00:26:52,600 Speaker 3: You know what's crazy. I thought she would be a 553 00:26:52,600 --> 00:26:54,399 Speaker 3: little bit more private. She went to talking about our 554 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 3: sex life, and I was like, you, we're talking about 555 00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:02,800 Speaker 3: this because she's she's super proud when it comes to 556 00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 3: stuff like that. She like, I'm a I'm a public 557 00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,440 Speaker 3: displays of affection. I'm all of that. Sh It's real, 558 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:11,960 Speaker 3: you know girl. When she was I said, so you're 559 00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:15,280 Speaker 3: gonna telling people that? So I was surprised. So I 560 00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 3: don't think when it came to the thing that I. 561 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:22,880 Speaker 1: Thought, yeah, you know, it wasn't that girl. She's a girl. 562 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:24,879 Speaker 3: I didn't even understand who this woman was when she 563 00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:25,919 Speaker 3: was doing this book. 564 00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,560 Speaker 2: Really on that part, I was like, I'm surprised. 565 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 3: Girl. 566 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:32,359 Speaker 4: You had gave up so much information. I felt like 567 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,440 Speaker 4: I wasn't giving up enough, so you had to step up. Yeah, 568 00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 4: I had to step my game up to keep up 569 00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 4: with you, girl. 570 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:40,320 Speaker 3: But you and your exes of you. 571 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:45,520 Speaker 2: And yours, honey, yours? Uh uh. 572 00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:50,760 Speaker 3: The difference is mine were gone prior to us starting 573 00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:55,080 Speaker 3: to date. She was still clearing her path, so they 574 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 3: had some remnants and lingering. 575 00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:57,400 Speaker 1: That's fair. 576 00:27:58,680 --> 00:27:59,920 Speaker 2: You're you're accurate. 577 00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 3: See what I talk about the pretty feet, I mean, 578 00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:06,040 Speaker 3: I'm the bread I had some. I did say you didn't. 579 00:28:06,359 --> 00:28:08,120 Speaker 3: I should have been gone before you got one, That's true. 580 00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:09,800 Speaker 4: But I didn't know I was gonna fall in love 581 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:11,800 Speaker 4: with you. I ain't know it was gonna escalate to 582 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,879 Speaker 4: what it escalated to. And I was gonna be spending 583 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:16,240 Speaker 4: the night at your condo and all of that stuff. 584 00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:17,920 Speaker 4: I ain't know I was gonna go in the door 585 00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:21,119 Speaker 4: and never want to leave. And that's what happened. So 586 00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:23,840 Speaker 4: I was like, I got some cleaning up to do. 587 00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:26,720 Speaker 4: And it took a while. It took a while. There 588 00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:29,919 Speaker 4: was children involved. I had to you know, it just 589 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:32,119 Speaker 4: took more time than I wanted it to take. You 590 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,560 Speaker 4: because of course, I wanted to clear everything out for 591 00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,080 Speaker 4: our situation, but it didn't happen quite like that. 592 00:28:37,280 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, she also didn't articulate that. 593 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,440 Speaker 4: I was scared to articulate them because I didn't want 594 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:44,720 Speaker 4: to lose her, because you know, you tell somebody, well, 595 00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:46,640 Speaker 4: you know, I kind of got a situation that'd be like, oh, well, 596 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,000 Speaker 4: I'm out picture situation. 597 00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:48,880 Speaker 2: I'm gonna holler at. 598 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 1: You right because I'm doing I found out. 599 00:28:50,520 --> 00:28:51,760 Speaker 3: I told her. I said, I'm gonna give you a 600 00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,960 Speaker 3: little bit of time. She did give you a little 601 00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:55,440 Speaker 3: bit of time, you better get together. 602 00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 2: And what you said was you should have got rid 603 00:28:59,240 --> 00:28:59,800 Speaker 2: of your other. 604 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:03,160 Speaker 4: Girl and before you got another one and mushed me 605 00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:12,960 Speaker 4: and got out of my truck. I was like, but 606 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,600 Speaker 4: the good part is that she didn't leave me. 607 00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:17,200 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, because that's what I was 608 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:17,720 Speaker 2: scared of. 609 00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,120 Speaker 4: I was like, I'm gonna lose her soon as she 610 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,800 Speaker 4: finds I'm gonna lose her. 611 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:22,880 Speaker 2: And I didn't. 612 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: Oh, here we are, and here we are a child later, 613 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:33,200 Speaker 1: right Exactly, a lot of people struggle keeping their identity 614 00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,760 Speaker 1: when they're in relationships. You kind of lose yourself in 615 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,280 Speaker 1: each other. How have you both been able to continue 616 00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:40,760 Speaker 1: to keep your identity, but you're still lost in each other. 617 00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:42,560 Speaker 1: Like I can tell the way y'all walk in and 618 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,840 Speaker 1: look at each other. It's like I just love her, 619 00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,640 Speaker 1: but you both still stand on your own power. Please, 620 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:49,400 Speaker 1: I advocate for her to keep her. 621 00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:53,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, what you mean, that's a bad way because motherhood 622 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 3: has consumed her so much. That's what she is. Being 623 00:29:56,600 --> 00:30:00,160 Speaker 3: a girlfriend first and being a wife consumed her so much. 624 00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:05,200 Speaker 3: Like I told her recently, leave take three days for yourself. 625 00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:09,400 Speaker 3: I need you because I do that, I volunteer. I'm 626 00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:11,640 Speaker 3: just let you know in about a couple of weeks 627 00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:14,400 Speaker 3: and she'll she'll take me to the place like I'm 628 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:17,200 Speaker 3: not trying to get away from my family, but sometimes 629 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,760 Speaker 3: you need time away. And I was just telling her 630 00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:23,400 Speaker 3: to leave, even down to you know, maybe go somewhere 631 00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:25,640 Speaker 3: with your friends. And not that I'm saying get out, 632 00:30:25,720 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 3: but I also I've been the person that's lost myself 633 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,400 Speaker 3: in somebody else or lost myself in a situation and 634 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:33,800 Speaker 3: I look back years later regret it. And what I said, 635 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:35,960 Speaker 3: what I never want her to do is feel like 636 00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:40,200 Speaker 3: she's been everything to me, but you know, disregarded herself 637 00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,200 Speaker 3: because now if we if we're about to eat lunch, 638 00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:45,320 Speaker 3: and she hate when I say this, if we're about 639 00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:49,080 Speaker 3: to eat lunch, and it's like, okay, well what do 640 00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 3: you want to eat? Whatever you want? And I'm like, no, 641 00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:56,080 Speaker 3: what do you want? Whatever you want? No, what do 642 00:30:56,120 --> 00:30:58,080 Speaker 3: you you want? 643 00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,560 Speaker 4: Anything from any place? That She too, just I don't 644 00:31:00,560 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 4: think that's a bad thing. 645 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,280 Speaker 3: It's not. So even down to when we were talking 646 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:07,400 Speaker 3: about like I was talking about life plans, I'm like, okay, 647 00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,640 Speaker 3: you know the success of the business, we have, all 648 00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:13,000 Speaker 3: of this, all of this, you know money we're making, 649 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:15,959 Speaker 3: and you know what do you see yourself doing? Do 650 00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:17,840 Speaker 3: you want to invest in this? Do you want to 651 00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:19,280 Speaker 3: do this? Do you want to do that? Do you 652 00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:21,760 Speaker 3: want to do this? And she's like I'm happy like this, 653 00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:23,920 Speaker 3: And I'm like, no, we need to figure out what 654 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 3: you want being a planner. But just it's like what 655 00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:29,760 Speaker 3: do you want. 656 00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:30,000 Speaker 2: To do it? 657 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,720 Speaker 1: But okay, yeah, I think. 658 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:34,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I do that. 659 00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:36,640 Speaker 1: I like that because I feel like if everybody was 660 00:31:36,680 --> 00:31:38,880 Speaker 1: a judy, you know what I'm saying, Like, it's like 661 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,360 Speaker 1: everybody can't be as ambitious as you are. Like you 662 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:44,280 Speaker 1: are highly ambitious, Holly, you have the vision, you know. 663 00:31:44,680 --> 00:31:46,440 Speaker 1: And then there are some people like I've dated a 664 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:49,080 Speaker 1: person like you, Brad, where he was just like I'm 665 00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:50,960 Speaker 1: okay with him? Like how are you okay with? Just 666 00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:52,959 Speaker 1: like we need to be So I'm like you, so 667 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,520 Speaker 1: I get it, but I feel like kind of each other. 668 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,479 Speaker 3: So do you want? You want to go to Paris 669 00:31:58,520 --> 00:32:00,320 Speaker 3: for a month? Do you want to? But she she's 670 00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:03,240 Speaker 3: done a lot of that, you know, So it's like, okay, 671 00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,160 Speaker 3: So she's done that, she's done that. She's just like, 672 00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,640 Speaker 3: I'm okay, No, we got stuff to do. What do 673 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:09,160 Speaker 3: you want to do? 674 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 4: Tell me whatever you want to do. I'm gain whatever 675 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:13,760 Speaker 4: you want to do. I'm gonna support it. Let's do it, 676 00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,280 Speaker 4: and I'm gonna have fun doing it. I'm gonna live 677 00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:18,480 Speaker 4: my life just like that and enjoy it no matter 678 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 4: what we do. As long as we together with our 679 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,560 Speaker 4: family and everybody's good, all the people we bless and 680 00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,959 Speaker 4: help and take care of that warms our hearts and 681 00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:28,160 Speaker 4: our souls and our spirits. And as long as you 682 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:31,000 Speaker 4: could keep being Judy Clause and Judy this and and 683 00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:33,320 Speaker 4: all this stuff, and I could keep being Brad and 684 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,800 Speaker 4: getting loved on and loving on people like that's all 685 00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:39,200 Speaker 4: I need. I live day to day. Tomorrow is not promised. 686 00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:42,440 Speaker 4: I don't know, no plan. I don't give what's going on. 687 00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,760 Speaker 4: As long as we happy alive together and we got 688 00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:46,880 Speaker 4: God and that's it. 689 00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:49,840 Speaker 1: Were good, that's beautiful. I love that. I love it, 690 00:32:49,880 --> 00:32:52,160 Speaker 1: and I think y'all balance each other out. I think 691 00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:57,440 Speaker 1: it's perfect. And you just gotta be like, Okay, five years. 692 00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:58,520 Speaker 2: From now, what do you want to be doing? 693 00:32:58,880 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 3: I don't know. 694 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:00,680 Speaker 1: I ain't about tomorrow. 695 00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,520 Speaker 4: You're like, you want to be whatever whatever we're doing 696 00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:09,880 Speaker 4: with you, race my son whatever, he'd be like five 697 00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:11,200 Speaker 4: years from now, what you know? 698 00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:13,920 Speaker 2: Wherever we are? Do do you want to live in 699 00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:14,680 Speaker 2: the same house? 700 00:33:15,240 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 3: I don't know. 701 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,320 Speaker 2: If we move, let's move. If we don't, we'll be 702 00:33:19,440 --> 00:33:19,960 Speaker 2: right here. 703 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:21,400 Speaker 3: Like, I don't know. 704 00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:24,160 Speaker 1: I love that. I love I do because I and 705 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:27,640 Speaker 1: I feel you because I get frustraight, I'd be like 706 00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:29,760 Speaker 1: like come on, but like if Tyler had to tell 707 00:33:29,760 --> 00:33:31,800 Speaker 1: me that, Crystal, everybody isn't wired, that we we're wired. 708 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:33,640 Speaker 1: And there's some people that are just like I'm good, 709 00:33:34,200 --> 00:33:37,120 Speaker 1: and sometimes I aspire to be like the I'm okay 710 00:33:37,160 --> 00:33:38,840 Speaker 1: because I'm always like what's next for snacks? Like what 711 00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:40,760 Speaker 1: we're doing, like I'm always I. 712 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,960 Speaker 3: Think that's the thing because I will never forget my 713 00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:45,280 Speaker 3: first Guinness for a Record I. 714 00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:48,520 Speaker 1: Got, come on say again, the first, the first, not. 715 00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 3: The the first Guinness for a Record I got less 716 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:54,160 Speaker 3: than an hour after receiving it. I was I'm at 717 00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:55,920 Speaker 3: my house and I'm like, okay, we're we doing. Now, 718 00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:58,680 Speaker 3: what's the next thing. I couldn't stay like, there isn't 719 00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:01,280 Speaker 3: staying in a moment. I don't. I don't know how 720 00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:04,000 Speaker 3: to like, yes, you could celebrate, but you don't celebrate 721 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:04,880 Speaker 3: and lose yourself. 722 00:34:05,040 --> 00:34:08,400 Speaker 4: But you also don't give yourself your flowers and you 723 00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:10,319 Speaker 4: don't and you don't like for people to point out 724 00:34:10,400 --> 00:34:15,520 Speaker 4: that you're an amazing let's give them to your beautiful mother. 725 00:34:15,880 --> 00:34:19,759 Speaker 4: Just everything. You're everything that a woman can aspire to be. 726 00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,719 Speaker 4: You are all that, like wrapped in one person. I 727 00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:25,360 Speaker 4: don't know how you run Kaleidoscope as the CEO. 728 00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:28,680 Speaker 2: It's so many you gotta wear everybody's hat. If one 729 00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:29,480 Speaker 2: person mess up. 730 00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:33,759 Speaker 4: You're doing everything like you. I just don't know how 731 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:35,640 Speaker 4: you do it. You're on you're on phone calls twenty 732 00:34:35,640 --> 00:34:38,600 Speaker 4: four seven, the computer, you're fixing this you're fixing that 733 00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,200 Speaker 4: at the same time, your mother to True, your mother 734 00:34:41,280 --> 00:34:44,239 Speaker 4: to Daisy, your grandmother to Kinzie, you have a daughter, 735 00:34:44,320 --> 00:34:47,680 Speaker 4: to your mama, like it's it is. I don't want 736 00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:48,680 Speaker 4: to ever be a CEO. 737 00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:50,000 Speaker 2: I'm gonna just stay right. 738 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:55,240 Speaker 4: Here with you and be your wife and your baby 739 00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:59,719 Speaker 4: mama like and rapper and actress and all the other 740 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:01,880 Speaker 4: things I do separate from that, Like you wear a 741 00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:04,880 Speaker 4: lot of hats and you don't like to get your flowers, 742 00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:08,560 Speaker 4: but you are everything and you deserve them, and I 743 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,800 Speaker 4: love you and I appreciate you, and you're the best 744 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:13,759 Speaker 4: thing that's ever happened to me and my son and 745 00:35:13,800 --> 00:35:17,359 Speaker 4: my family and anybody you come across, because you are 746 00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:19,839 Speaker 4: that and you prove it every single day. 747 00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm about to cry. 748 00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:22,920 Speaker 3: I know why does she do that? 749 00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:31,000 Speaker 1: Receive it, Jesus, receive it, You receive it. Okay. Now 750 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:33,560 Speaker 1: I have another challenge for you, gd I want you 751 00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:36,799 Speaker 1: to also take moments to just because I know you, 752 00:35:37,160 --> 00:35:39,400 Speaker 1: I know your woman of faith and God has blessed 753 00:35:39,400 --> 00:35:43,160 Speaker 1: you tremendously, take moments to just sit in it. Because 754 00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:47,800 Speaker 1: gurd now you're about to cry. I tried to control. 755 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:51,640 Speaker 3: That was so beautiful, because I think the reason she's 756 00:35:51,719 --> 00:35:55,799 Speaker 3: upset is because in this season, no matter how much 757 00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 3: you try to give people grace, it's just the thing 758 00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:00,000 Speaker 3: that I would never let happen. I would never let 759 00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:04,040 Speaker 3: my company anything like we've had some and just sub 760 00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:04,919 Speaker 3: that's what I say. 761 00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:09,440 Speaker 4: Yeah, well semester millions of dollars. But she got to 762 00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:09,799 Speaker 4: fix it. 763 00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:12,960 Speaker 3: Oh, I always. She always. I built this from the 764 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:16,040 Speaker 3: ground up, strap, no investors, no nothing. So I was 765 00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:18,759 Speaker 3: a person that had to control inventory planning from when 766 00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:20,920 Speaker 3: we were ordering thirty pieces to when we ordered three 767 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,719 Speaker 3: hundred thousand pieces. So there's not there's no part of 768 00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:26,799 Speaker 3: the company that I'm unfamiliar with. So because of that, 769 00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,760 Speaker 3: I am going to be in the meetings six o'clock 770 00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,200 Speaker 3: in the morning, ten o'clock at night. I am going 771 00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:35,000 Speaker 3: to stay up at night doing the Google she trying 772 00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:38,080 Speaker 3: to correct somebody's inventory order forecast. I am going to 773 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:41,640 Speaker 3: be doing the budgets for administrations, said, I am going 774 00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,799 Speaker 3: to That's that's what I So she's she's witnessed me 775 00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:46,000 Speaker 3: having to do that. 776 00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:48,800 Speaker 4: Because the people that mess up they have no repercussions. 777 00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:51,840 Speaker 4: They might get fired, but they don't have to compensate 778 00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:55,280 Speaker 4: for the millions that got lost and misplaced or whatever. 779 00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:57,560 Speaker 4: And I can't go up because I got true and 780 00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:59,680 Speaker 4: I got a family, and I got my ch. 781 00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,640 Speaker 3: But what I kind of no matter what I explain to her, 782 00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:07,680 Speaker 3: maybe you can help me on this. If I've empowered 783 00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:09,200 Speaker 3: somebody in the seat to be able to make a 784 00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:11,239 Speaker 3: decision that could cost me millions of dollars, that was 785 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:14,440 Speaker 3: my risk and even though it was their mistake, it 786 00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:17,759 Speaker 3: was my risk because also in my company, with having 787 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:20,800 Speaker 3: no shareholders or anything, I benefit the most. So that 788 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,600 Speaker 3: means you also have to take the most losses. So 789 00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:26,760 Speaker 3: if if year one through and we in year eleven, 790 00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:31,000 Speaker 3: if ye're one through eight eight eighty percent of the profit. 791 00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:33,960 Speaker 3: You know, companies come a year or two later. If 792 00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,560 Speaker 3: it's something that I have to sow back into it, 793 00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:38,919 Speaker 3: it's something that I fall on the sword every time 794 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:41,560 Speaker 3: I will fall on. You have to take even if 795 00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:43,920 Speaker 3: it's somebody else's, But it's my company. 796 00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:47,960 Speaker 4: So that's what happened, right exactly. 797 00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:53,200 Speaker 2: And the rapper and all that good stuff over here, right, 798 00:37:53,360 --> 00:37:54,399 Speaker 2: So yeah, just. 799 00:37:54,360 --> 00:37:56,440 Speaker 3: Being responsible and hiring and I can tell you that's 800 00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:58,680 Speaker 3: the talent that I hadn't had so I'm learning how 801 00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:02,360 Speaker 3: to better hire. I am perfectly okay with saying what 802 00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:04,120 Speaker 3: I'm good and not good at because I don't feel 803 00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:06,000 Speaker 3: like I know everything. I feel like I know I'm 804 00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:07,960 Speaker 3: good at marketing, but not even all parts of it. 805 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:10,319 Speaker 3: I know I'm good at social media, but not even 806 00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,280 Speaker 3: all parts of it. And everything is also ever evolving, yes, 807 00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:16,680 Speaker 3: but being open to say, hey, we need some help, 808 00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:20,280 Speaker 3: Hey I need some help when it comes to building 809 00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:23,920 Speaker 3: out structures. KPIs building our systems and processes because I 810 00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:26,120 Speaker 3: never had to have that. I didn't go to college. 811 00:38:26,120 --> 00:38:28,359 Speaker 3: I didnt even go to my high school graduation. So 812 00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:31,279 Speaker 3: getting it I was here by guys grace by you know, 813 00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,520 Speaker 3: the mess ups to you know, and the mess ups 814 00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,920 Speaker 3: are gonna be expensive, but the generated income is also 815 00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:39,319 Speaker 3: way more money than the mess up. Like, yes, we 816 00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:41,360 Speaker 3: had a million dollar mistake, but made twenty five million 817 00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:44,160 Speaker 3: a year. So you feel what I'm saying, Like, what's 818 00:38:44,160 --> 00:38:52,799 Speaker 3: the that's a part of the business I started. When 819 00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:54,719 Speaker 3: we first got in a relationship, I didn't let her 820 00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:58,600 Speaker 3: in much because she is angry, she does want to 821 00:38:58,680 --> 00:39:00,759 Speaker 3: punch somebody in the face. Let her in much. But 822 00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:03,279 Speaker 3: then I realized the more I left her isolated the 823 00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,440 Speaker 3: more she didn't understand why I'm taking these long meetings, 824 00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:07,920 Speaker 3: why she understand why I'm doing this person shop. But 825 00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:10,880 Speaker 3: now that I've let her in, yeah, she's angry, and 826 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:12,920 Speaker 3: I'm like, well, this actually is the order of business 827 00:39:13,000 --> 00:39:15,920 Speaker 3: when you have a company. This happened, Yeah, it's it's 828 00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:19,759 Speaker 3: there's no company that has succeeded that has been All 829 00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:22,120 Speaker 3: workers have done their job one hundred percent the whole 830 00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:25,120 Speaker 3: entire time, and anything that ever falls it always gonna 831 00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:25,759 Speaker 3: roll to the topic. 832 00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:29,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so true, so true. I love that. I 833 00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,719 Speaker 1: have really enjoyed my time with you guys today. Seriously, 834 00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:35,840 Speaker 1: we've had tears, we've left, we had a little therapy session. Okay, 835 00:39:35,880 --> 00:39:38,960 Speaker 1: we got a few challenges. I appreciate you guys. The 836 00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:42,000 Speaker 1: Way Love Goes comes out February third, twenty twenty six. 837 00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:43,439 Speaker 1: Can we pre order now? 838 00:39:43,800 --> 00:39:47,360 Speaker 2: Yes, you can pre order, Yes, pre ordered. 839 00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:50,560 Speaker 1: Now. Let's make this a New York Times bestseller and beyond. 840 00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:52,399 Speaker 2: They send our bios as well. 841 00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,759 Speaker 1: Perfect, We'll have your Instagram handles so that everybody can 842 00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:57,680 Speaker 1: tap in and get your bucks. 843 00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:57,919 Speaker 2: Now. 844 00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,960 Speaker 1: Okay, let's award these ladies. I love you guys. I 845 00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:03,520 Speaker 1: know our community loves you and we support you. Let 846 00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:05,320 Speaker 1: us know anything else we can do. Is there anything 847 00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:06,880 Speaker 1: else besides the book that you have coming up that 848 00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:08,080 Speaker 1: we need to be all look out for. 849 00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:11,719 Speaker 3: We have a new launch, but yeah, we can just 850 00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:12,640 Speaker 3: talk about the book. 851 00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:13,799 Speaker 1: All right, all right? 852 00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:17,200 Speaker 2: Thank you so much, Thank you so much. I love you, 853 00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:17,719 Speaker 2: thank you. 854 00:40:22,040 --> 00:40:26,400 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, what an amazing conversation. We laughed, we cried, 855 00:40:27,200 --> 00:40:30,480 Speaker 1: all the things. Today's conversation was reminded that love is 856 00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:33,480 Speaker 1: one thing, but happiness takes attention. Thank you guys so 857 00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:35,839 Speaker 1: much for tuning in to another episode of The Keeping 858 00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:38,920 Speaker 1: Positi Sweety Show. Don't forget to subscribe and share this 859 00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:41,760 Speaker 1: episode with someone who could use a little positivity today. 860 00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:46,000 Speaker 1: And it's always stay blessed, stay encouraged, and remember keep 861 00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:46,480 Speaker 1: your positive. 862 00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:48,600 Speaker 2: I love you guys until nex's time.