1 00:00:03,040 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who 2 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:13,320 Speaker 1: talked back. Thank you for tuning into a new episode 3 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:16,639 Speaker 1: that we talked back. It's your girl a j And 4 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:19,439 Speaker 1: it's Tam Bam, y'all, and we are excited to be 5 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:23,040 Speaker 1: back another week to talk ship with you, niggers and bitches. 6 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: How was your weekend so far? Um? I'm excited to 7 00:00:30,400 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: watch the Mayweather fight tonight. By the time y'all hear 8 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:37,199 Speaker 1: this Mayweather, we'll have either been beaten by Logan or 9 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: beaten Logan's ask. But I'm gonna go with the ladder. 10 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:44,800 Speaker 1: Do you know that Mayweather gets fifty of pay per 11 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: view sales or Logan only gets ten? Damn? And I 12 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: think the white boy has uh two hundred fifty thousand 13 00:00:53,600 --> 00:01:01,680 Speaker 1: guaranteed and Mayweather five million guaranteed two hundred two. I 14 00:01:01,720 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: don't know who negotiated his contract, but he already lost 15 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:07,959 Speaker 1: the fighters as far as I'm so maywere that I 16 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: here really beating people up for the check, right, But 17 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: no matter what happens, he already won exactly. But you know, 18 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:19,399 Speaker 1: like we're talking about boxing, like you can win a 19 00:01:19,440 --> 00:01:22,120 Speaker 1: hundred fights, but that one fights you lose. Boy, you. 20 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna never let you forget it like Lebron right now, 21 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:28,440 Speaker 1: you know what. They need to leave Lebron the funk alone. 22 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:32,320 Speaker 1: God damn, they can't stand to see somebody like you're 23 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: not gonna win them all. Like people can't stand to 24 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: see he's not the underdog for sure. But like when 25 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: you're on top, it's like people be waiting for you 26 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 1: to fall, Like, yes, that nigga foully lose. He's mediocre 27 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: like me. Yes, people literally don't be um satisfied until 28 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 1: you back where he at. He never right back what 29 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: they had. But you know he's on a losing team 30 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 1: right now, right shame. We still love you, Lebron. You 31 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:09,760 Speaker 1: to go. Hell yeah, and look, i'd be telling people 32 00:02:09,800 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: Lebron James is my cousin because he got the same 33 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: last name, and like everything on my daddy side of 34 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,640 Speaker 1: the family tallest. Hell, even the women be like six 35 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:25,760 Speaker 1: one six. Your family just had the same slave owner. 36 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 1: That's all why the slave owner couldn't have been a 37 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: black man last same James. It's black. Yeah, it's a 38 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:36,840 Speaker 1: non fact that black people's own slaves, for sure. But 39 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: speaking of slavery, oh, let's get into the today messed up, 40 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: you guys. I'm sorry that we're talking about slavery. Speaking 41 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: of slavery. Before we get into it today's topic, let's 42 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: um go to and ask a black friend for this week. Yea. 43 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 1: You know, I had um some criticism from one of 44 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: my friends saying that we're not going to get a 45 00:03:12,200 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: lot of questions from white people because we mean in 46 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: our responses to them. Really are we? I don't feel 47 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 1: I don't feel like we're me. We've only had a 48 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 1: couple we only we've only had a couple of people 49 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:25,560 Speaker 1: submit questions that I remember. I believe out of the couple, 50 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: two of them were pretty much the same thing. How 51 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 1: do you deal with um, white guilt, white guilt, white guilt, 52 00:03:33,400 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 1: and you know, people saying that they don't have white privilege, Like, 53 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 1: how do you deal with having white privilege? That's not 54 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:41,800 Speaker 1: something I can really answer for a white person. So 55 00:03:41,920 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: we've had probably just a few questions, maybe five or so. 56 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 1: I don't know how we could have been any now, 57 00:03:48,800 --> 00:03:50,400 Speaker 1: you sir. I don't think we were mean at all, 58 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 1: but mm hmmm, that's how they feel. Hey, look y'all 59 00:03:55,440 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: need to stop being stuff goddamn sensitive isn't that what um? 60 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 1: Narcissists usually people? You're too sensitive. I'm not working with 61 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 1: your head. You're just too sensitive. Al right. So today's 62 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: UM ask a black friend comes via email. The person 63 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 1: would like to remain anonymous, so we're not saying any 64 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:17,680 Speaker 1: names or emails, all that good stuff. UM So here 65 00:04:17,680 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 1: it goes. It says, one of my black friends noticeably 66 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:25,159 Speaker 1: uses the term cracker. We're referring to white people. It's 67 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:28,239 Speaker 1: not super excessive, but enough to make me right until 68 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 1: we talk back. I have never challenged him about it, 69 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:34,040 Speaker 1: but since I would never call him the N word, 70 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 1: I just wish she would refrain from using the term 71 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:40,760 Speaker 1: because it may refer to me. Do you believe that 72 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:45,479 Speaker 1: black people truly can't be racist? Is reverse racism a thing? 73 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:48,919 Speaker 1: This is a good one, tim, m hm, this is 74 00:04:48,960 --> 00:04:54,159 Speaker 1: a great one. UM. I don't know if I believe 75 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: in reverse racism because I think of racism UM is 76 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: a way to oppress others. And I don't feel like 77 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: this person can oppress you or keep you from having 78 00:05:05,200 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: anything by calling you a cracker. It just probably just 79 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: hurt your feelings. Most most importantly, I don't know if 80 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: maybe it's a form of prejudice, not reverse racism for me, 81 00:05:20,400 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: but I mean, if that's your friend, just tell her 82 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:26,080 Speaker 1: you don't like it. It's a guy, oh yeah, oh 83 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: well tell him you don't like it, Like Yo, stop 84 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: saying cracking around me, bro, exactly because the life person 85 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:36,480 Speaker 1: was saying the N word a lot. You know, they 86 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:42,640 Speaker 1: would get checked about it a lot once exactly, like 87 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:45,040 Speaker 1: if they grew up in the hood, like who why 88 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: are you using the word nigga? Like right, So just 89 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:52,760 Speaker 1: check them on it, Like if you don't like that 90 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:56,279 Speaker 1: anything that anybody is doing that is especially your friend 91 00:05:56,400 --> 00:05:58,719 Speaker 1: or even not your friend, that you don't like in 92 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:03,280 Speaker 1: your presence, it's sore to address it absolutely and again, 93 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:06,040 Speaker 1: like what Tam was saying about, um, black people not 94 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 1: being able to be racist, I believe it is prejudice. 95 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 1: And I believe all groups of people have some type 96 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 1: of prejudice. Um beliefs um that could be coming from 97 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 1: real places, like you know, even with stereotypes, they come 98 00:06:19,960 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: from real places, right, So I believe I really do 99 00:06:23,520 --> 00:06:25,960 Speaker 1: love chicken and watermelon. I love that ship. It's not 100 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:29,760 Speaker 1: a not a joke. I love that ship. This is 101 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: why the watermelon costs so much. Why is watermelon eight 102 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 1: dollars for a small wa watermelon that don't even have season? 103 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 1: Exactly y'all selling GM a watermelon for eight dollars. Let's 104 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:45,480 Speaker 1: get back on track. The fuck literally was just in Walmart. 105 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: I do not want a seedless watermelon for eight dollars. 106 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:52,000 Speaker 1: Who y'all playing with? I was trying to find me 107 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:54,160 Speaker 1: a watermelon just so I could put mustard on it 108 00:06:54,200 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 1: like Lizo did over the weekend. What it tastes like? Yeah, 109 00:06:59,320 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 1: me too. There's a trend about putting mustard on your watermelon, 110 00:07:02,480 --> 00:07:04,279 Speaker 1: and I wanted to taste it to see what was 111 00:07:04,320 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 1: going on. And when I saw the price of watermelon, 112 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:10,120 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not paying that for that fake watermelon. Yeah, 113 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: you gotta go to a farmer's market. Yeah, but um yeah, 114 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,600 Speaker 1: back to our ask a black friend, Like, black people 115 00:07:17,640 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: are not at this point, We are not in a 116 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:24,360 Speaker 1: position to put laws and bills and things like that 117 00:07:24,440 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: in place to systemically oppress the white people. So really, 118 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: if we use the word cracker, it's literally us just 119 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 1: talking ship. We can't we we it has no merit 120 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: behind it because we can't do ship. We can't exactly, 121 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: we can't do anything we can't do anything to really 122 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 1: affect you're getting a job, getting housing, getting food, uh, 123 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: taking care of your family. We can't. So I understand 124 00:07:51,560 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: his sentiment absolutely, and yes he should address it like 125 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 1: you should not. If you feel uncomfortable, you know you 126 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,760 Speaker 1: should address it. But in the South, a cracker usually 127 00:07:59,840 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 1: is a redneck for real, for real, you know what 128 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: I'm saying, which they can. They are damn their equivalent 129 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: to any nigger out the projects because they're just as ghetto, 130 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:10,720 Speaker 1: because it's all a state of mine. Um. The way 131 00:08:10,760 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: they act, you know, the way they dress, the things 132 00:08:13,440 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: they do. The culture of a cracker is different from 133 00:08:16,560 --> 00:08:21,640 Speaker 1: a regular traditional white person as far as I'm concerned. Yeah, 134 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 1: so I don't feel like that. Sometimes I use the 135 00:08:26,320 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 1: term cracker when I'm talking about a cracker, though, you 136 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:30,640 Speaker 1: know what, I'm saying that I got white friends like 137 00:08:30,640 --> 00:08:33,000 Speaker 1: they like to say, I got black friends. I wouldn't 138 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: call my white friends a cracker because they just aren't crackers, right, 139 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 1: I want to say, And that's a cracker ass cracker, 140 00:08:39,679 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: I don't just use one. I'm sorry, we are we 141 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:52,080 Speaker 1: offending you. I apologize, and we probably should not talking 142 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: about you though we should probably apologize in advanced First 143 00:08:55,040 --> 00:09:01,920 Speaker 1: of all, yeah, but we listen, we're sorry for your friends. 144 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 1: You should talk to that person and tell them not 145 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:06,239 Speaker 1: to say that in your presence because it makes you uncomfortable. 146 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 1: And you probably aren't a cracker because if you listen, 147 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:11,560 Speaker 1: I don't feel like crackers listen to our show. But 148 00:09:11,640 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: if you do, please keep tuning in. You appreciate you. Yeah, 149 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:21,199 Speaker 1: let's look at the historical term, the historical meaning of cracker, right, 150 00:09:21,240 --> 00:09:24,800 Speaker 1: you know, the government, it's probably made up of some 151 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: crackers because they stay whopping us right on our ends exactly. 152 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: So that's where the turn cracker even comes from in 153 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 1: the first place. So listen, it's not a salt team. 154 00:09:38,120 --> 00:09:40,680 Speaker 1: Check your friend. Check your friend. If that's really your friend, 155 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: they'll understand. But I really don't think that they're talking 156 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:45,960 Speaker 1: to you personally. I know you may feel that way 157 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: because you might have some crackers in your family, m 158 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:53,640 Speaker 1: but I promise it's no malice behind it, especially if 159 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:58,000 Speaker 1: you consider this person a friend. So yeah, that's just 160 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 1: that on that. So the crazy part is we would 161 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:06,199 Speaker 1: not give the same exact advice flipped. If the conversation 162 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 1: was flipped totally different exactly because they are in more 163 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:13,960 Speaker 1: of a position to really affect what we do on 164 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 1: a day to day basis and how we live our 165 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: lives as a body of people. Like maybe that one 166 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 1: white person has no bearing on the black person's life, 167 00:10:23,120 --> 00:10:26,560 Speaker 1: you know, just between the two of them, but as 168 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:28,840 Speaker 1: a body of people, y'all do. And that's why you 169 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: can't just be going around saying that in words. Right, 170 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 1: we'll fight and we'll fight you about it too. It's 171 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: probably not good. You know. Black people are really like 172 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:43,679 Speaker 1: some uh, black people embody like a lot of empathy, 173 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:46,200 Speaker 1: and that's how we that's why we're in a position 174 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:48,480 Speaker 1: we are now because we just naturally like kind even 175 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: though we're really nasty to each other, we're naturally like kind. 176 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: So like that word could get your ass what before 177 00:10:56,600 --> 00:11:00,439 Speaker 1: anything else, right, because it comes from a place of 178 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:05,400 Speaker 1: painness embedded in our spirits. Yeah, like nigga, excuse me 179 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,840 Speaker 1: before you even though it and the most kindest, nicest 180 00:11:11,880 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 1: person that don't even bother anybody mussed around and beat 181 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:19,640 Speaker 1: the dogs out of you. Hold on, before we get 182 00:11:19,679 --> 00:11:26,880 Speaker 1: into anything else, Let's pay some bills real quick. Let's 183 00:11:26,920 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 1: get into a topic today. It has nothing to do 184 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:31,600 Speaker 1: with you know what, it really doesn't have anything to 185 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:34,480 Speaker 1: do with slavery. But we are living in a different time, right, 186 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,200 Speaker 1: So that's why I was talking. That's why I said, 187 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: speaking of slavery, but maybe hold on a little bit 188 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:40,280 Speaker 1: and make it may have something to do with slavery 189 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: a little bit. We want to talk about this term 190 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 1: modern woman, um, as opposed to a traditional woman. There's 191 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,080 Speaker 1: a lot of talk right now in the Black community 192 00:11:56,440 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 1: in regards to modern women. Are mordern women? Finish? Um, 193 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: ain't nobody fucking with modern women? What exactly is a 194 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:11,240 Speaker 1: modern woman? Like? What are y'all nigg is talking about? Actually, 195 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: last week we had three really really really successful Black 196 00:12:14,880 --> 00:12:17,959 Speaker 1: women on one of them is engaged to be married. 197 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: I guess we would consider them modern women. You know, 198 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,560 Speaker 1: they're able to finance their entire lives without a man. 199 00:12:25,240 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: So really a man is a necessity. How women have 200 00:12:28,200 --> 00:12:32,080 Speaker 1: always been a necessity to men, you know. So now 201 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 1: we're more in a position to have more of a voice. Uh, 202 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:41,480 Speaker 1: we're making more money, we're getting more educated, um, and 203 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: now we're considered like this modern woman as if it's 204 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 1: a negative thing. I'd like to think of myself as 205 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:50,200 Speaker 1: a like a hybrid kind of we do want to 206 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:55,600 Speaker 1: maintain that independence, but I also still exactly and I 207 00:12:55,640 --> 00:12:58,000 Speaker 1: still want to be treated like a damn lady. I 208 00:12:58,000 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: still want to be treated like a woman. I still 209 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 1: want you to sit facing the door so you could 210 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 1: see who walking up behind me, like my nigga, like 211 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:08,079 Speaker 1: that used to be your own guard. Argument Because I'm sitting, 212 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:11,400 Speaker 1: I like to watch you coming in, right, But he's like, 213 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:13,240 Speaker 1: you want to get up and fight first or what, 214 00:13:13,640 --> 00:13:16,800 Speaker 1: So sit here, okay, So going forward, I know that 215 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:19,680 Speaker 1: my back is facing the door, so he could see 216 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 1: who coming in the door. So that's Those are just 217 00:13:22,200 --> 00:13:26,120 Speaker 1: some of the things. Um I've seen some ship on Clubhouse. 218 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:30,360 Speaker 1: A bitch was arguing with a guy because he literally 219 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:33,800 Speaker 1: broke up with her because he wanted to sleep. They 220 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:37,680 Speaker 1: were out of town at a hotel and she wanted 221 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:40,480 Speaker 1: to sleep on the side of the bed closest to 222 00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 1: the door. And this is it just came up to 223 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:46,679 Speaker 1: be like two things that are true at the same time. 224 00:13:46,880 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: So she was single but in a relationship with this guy, 225 00:13:49,400 --> 00:13:52,680 Speaker 1: but she had children, so she slept closest to the 226 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:55,440 Speaker 1: door so that she could be basically on call for 227 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: her kids, right, but now and they're together in the 228 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:02,800 Speaker 1: hotel and he was saying how he was telling her 229 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:05,319 Speaker 1: to sleep on the other side. He's going to sleep 230 00:14:05,360 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: by the door for you know, because that's an innate 231 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: thing that some may have. Yeah, the protector right right, 232 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:17,240 Speaker 1: And she argued him down about this. They broke up 233 00:14:17,240 --> 00:14:19,920 Speaker 1: over it. They broke up over and sleeping on the 234 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 1: side of the band. And who's patty though? Is the 235 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:28,160 Speaker 1: woman patty or the guy the woman? Because based on 236 00:14:28,160 --> 00:14:33,160 Speaker 1: this term modern woman capable, she's incapable of being protected basically, 237 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 1: mm hmmm, basically, but at the rise of the modern woman. 238 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:43,920 Speaker 1: Do we feel like it correlates with the decline of 239 00:14:44,080 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 1: marriage in our community? I'm looking here and it says 240 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:51,160 Speaker 1: in two thousand nineteen only thirty percent of African Americans 241 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: were married, compared to forty eight percent of all Americans. 242 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:57,920 Speaker 1: So do we think that in our community with us 243 00:14:57,960 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: to be more educated and having more money is ruining 244 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: are a black family unit even more? It's very well possible. 245 00:15:06,480 --> 00:15:08,440 Speaker 1: And you know a lot of women may not see 246 00:15:09,400 --> 00:15:13,480 Speaker 1: see it that way, but I believe it's very well 247 00:15:13,520 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 1: possible because you look at things that that have been 248 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 1: done to the black community to deter us from the 249 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:24,160 Speaker 1: success that we know we are destined for. Right. So, um, 250 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 1: you know I told you all I was writing a 251 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:27,960 Speaker 1: book before. So in the very first like the introduction 252 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:31,120 Speaker 1: of my book, I talked about the history of black marriage. 253 00:15:31,760 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 1: So before nineteen sixty the majority of black people, and 254 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:39,560 Speaker 1: I don't want to use the term African American. I'll 255 00:15:39,560 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 1: tell you about that in a minute. But before nineteen 256 00:15:43,080 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 1: sixty five, the majority of black people in America over 257 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:49,960 Speaker 1: the age of thirty were married. We're more married, you know, 258 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 1: in comparison to the white to their white counterparts. But 259 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 1: something happened, like different things happened, like you had to 260 00:15:56,480 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 1: warn drugs, the civil rights movement, redline, all these different 261 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:06,600 Speaker 1: things happened, and especially the War on drugs, right, um, 262 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:10,120 Speaker 1: which caused a lot of black men to be incarcerated 263 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 1: for petty ship in comparison to black I mean sorry, 264 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 1: in comparison to white men. So it kind of ripped 265 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: apart the black family dynamics. Um, they took the men 266 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:25,160 Speaker 1: and then they gave women. They gave black women, you know, 267 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:27,400 Speaker 1: public house and government assistance. So now and then you 268 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:30,800 Speaker 1: also can't have the black man in the home when 269 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: you're on public housing. Right, So it's like the government 270 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,280 Speaker 1: is now your daddy, the government is now your husband. 271 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 1: Black men can't get a job, so then black men 272 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:43,480 Speaker 1: can't take care of their families. And people are using 273 00:16:43,480 --> 00:16:46,240 Speaker 1: that now as if it's an excuse for some black men, 274 00:16:46,320 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: Like some black men are using that as an excuse 275 00:16:48,800 --> 00:16:52,960 Speaker 1: to not show up for their families. Um, but it's 276 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:55,600 Speaker 1: really not an excuse. Like even an educated black woman, 277 00:16:55,640 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: you and that black man could possibly have the same degree. 278 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:02,200 Speaker 1: I feel that the black woman could possibly get that 279 00:17:02,280 --> 00:17:07,000 Speaker 1: job before the black man would. So they're intentionally and 280 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,560 Speaker 1: it's still a form of white supremacy there somewhearing their 281 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: hidden right that's still turning us against each other. Right, 282 00:17:14,480 --> 00:17:17,159 Speaker 1: because it also says, uh, in two thousand nineteen, just 283 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:20,760 Speaker 1: under half or forty eight percent of black women have 284 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 1: never been married. Forty eight percent of us have never 285 00:17:25,320 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: been married, and that's up from forty four percent in 286 00:17:28,560 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: two thousand and eight and up from it's two thousand 287 00:17:32,080 --> 00:17:35,160 Speaker 1: and five. So the number of us not getting married 288 00:17:35,280 --> 00:17:38,440 Speaker 1: married is just going up and up and up. Yeah, 289 00:17:38,440 --> 00:17:40,840 Speaker 1: because I remember at my high school, Sorry, what were 290 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:44,400 Speaker 1: you gonna say? Tom? But then the money we're making 291 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:49,320 Speaker 1: is going up and up and up. Two. Yeah, but 292 00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:53,840 Speaker 1: what do we want a husband our money? Right? That's 293 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:55,800 Speaker 1: why I said I'm a hybrid, Like I want both, 294 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:59,240 Speaker 1: Like I want a man who's not that insecure to 295 00:17:59,320 --> 00:18:01,159 Speaker 1: not give a ship about this money, because guess what, 296 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:04,000 Speaker 1: I'm giving it to you. I'm gonna give you the 297 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 1: money like I'm not. First of all, I'm not messing 298 00:18:05,880 --> 00:18:09,840 Speaker 1: with somebody who is mentally broke. There's a difference. There's 299 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:12,400 Speaker 1: a difference between a man who's you know, living paycheck 300 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 1: to paycheck like a lot of people do, and then 301 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:18,200 Speaker 1: just somebody who's out here not trying. If you are 302 00:18:18,240 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 1: mentally broke, I can't funk with you. That has nothing 303 00:18:20,840 --> 00:18:21,960 Speaker 1: to do with how much money you have in the 304 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:24,520 Speaker 1: bank account. That just has That has everything to do 305 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:28,560 Speaker 1: with you know, what you want out of life? No ambition, 306 00:18:28,640 --> 00:18:32,439 Speaker 1: no goals, no nothing that's different. So should if I 307 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:35,320 Speaker 1: get to the bag first here, because I know you'll 308 00:18:35,400 --> 00:18:38,880 Speaker 1: multiply the same way. If a man gives a educated 309 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:43,080 Speaker 1: woman something, she's gonna double it. Right, You give her 310 00:18:43,080 --> 00:18:44,879 Speaker 1: a home, she give her a house, she make it 311 00:18:44,920 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 1: her home. Yes, So I would give him the bag 312 00:18:49,080 --> 00:18:50,760 Speaker 1: if I got to it first, I wouldn't be that 313 00:18:50,840 --> 00:18:53,480 Speaker 1: concerned about And I'm not messing with somebody who has 314 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:58,520 Speaker 1: nothing now, because here's my question for men. Oftentimes, do 315 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:04,439 Speaker 1: y'all funk with broke niggas? Yeah? Do they? Well, they 316 00:19:04,480 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 1: go into business with a broken nigga, Well, they go 317 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 1: into business with somebody who because the marriage is a business, 318 00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:13,560 Speaker 1: what you're going to somebody that does not have the 319 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:18,639 Speaker 1: proper business plan? No, that doesn't have the proper um 320 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:23,640 Speaker 1: financial standing, that does not have any history of being 321 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:27,960 Speaker 1: successful at any fucking thing. No, So why are y'all 322 00:19:27,960 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 1: expecting that out of women? It's the same thing. Men 323 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:37,639 Speaker 1: love men with money too. What is the problem? Right, bigimie, 324 00:19:39,880 --> 00:19:44,679 Speaker 1: big dog, big brow in this guy? What are you 325 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:50,360 Speaker 1: talking about? So? Yeah, y'all want men with money too, 326 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:52,919 Speaker 1: So what's the problem like? And it doesn't necessarily like 327 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:55,920 Speaker 1: the man doesn't necessarily have to have the money today, 328 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:58,399 Speaker 1: but you have to always be working towards it. I 329 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:01,840 Speaker 1: feel that, Um, if you are with a woman who 330 00:20:02,000 --> 00:20:05,880 Speaker 1: is not at least worthy of you aspiring to one 331 00:20:05,960 --> 00:20:08,840 Speaker 1: day take care of your complete family, then leave her. 332 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:12,320 Speaker 1: Leave her today if she's not worth it. That's the 333 00:20:12,359 --> 00:20:16,040 Speaker 1: bottom line exactly, leave, get up right now and going 334 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:19,160 Speaker 1: there and be like, hey, Kea, just say working, I'm 335 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:22,120 Speaker 1: about to go and walk out that motherfucker. Yeah, leave 336 00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:25,080 Speaker 1: her if she ain't worthy. Are y'all nigg is waiting 337 00:20:25,119 --> 00:20:26,680 Speaker 1: for your sons to grow up to take care of 338 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,000 Speaker 1: a mama? Is that what y'are waiting for? Because I 339 00:20:29,040 --> 00:20:32,520 Speaker 1: know half these men were raised by single black women right, 340 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:34,800 Speaker 1: never saw a man take care of their mom. So 341 00:20:34,840 --> 00:20:37,880 Speaker 1: they their whole lives, they've they've been striving to get 342 00:20:37,920 --> 00:20:40,360 Speaker 1: to a certain point so that they can take care 343 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:43,240 Speaker 1: of their mama because they never saw a man do it. Right, 344 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,720 Speaker 1: Are you saying that you are making the woman that's 345 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:50,520 Speaker 1: in your life wait for her son to then get 346 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:52,919 Speaker 1: older to take care of her, Because that's what it 347 00:20:52,960 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 1: sounds like to me. It's a it's a hamster wheel. 348 00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:59,840 Speaker 1: It's just over and over and over again, same, over 349 00:20:59,880 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 1: and over and over again. What can we do about it? Though? 350 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:06,959 Speaker 1: How can we create a paradigm shift that will we 351 00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 1: can have equality or send my equality in our relationship 352 00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,919 Speaker 1: and still get married and be happy with one another? 353 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 1: What the fund can we do? That's the question? What 354 00:21:19,640 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 1: can we do? What can we do um. I think 355 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 1: are we better off when we were in the kitchen? 356 00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:32,040 Speaker 1: So here's the thing home. What with the pandemic, it 357 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:34,480 Speaker 1: forced a lot of people to be at home. It 358 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:36,800 Speaker 1: forced a lot of people to teach their children. It 359 00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,919 Speaker 1: forced a lot of people to be more tentative to 360 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,400 Speaker 1: their household, right, and it forced people to see who 361 00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:44,679 Speaker 1: they're actually married to, and who they are actually in 362 00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:49,000 Speaker 1: relationships with, and who the funk they are themselves. So 363 00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,119 Speaker 1: a lot of people, from a lot of people I know, 364 00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:52,879 Speaker 1: didn't a lot of children to go back to school. 365 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:56,240 Speaker 1: They're better off being home schooled. Like I think children 366 00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:57,959 Speaker 1: need to go to school more so for like the 367 00:21:58,000 --> 00:22:03,000 Speaker 1: social aspect of it, right, proper secialization. Yes, But as 368 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:05,760 Speaker 1: far as the teaching, I feel like parents should be 369 00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,760 Speaker 1: responsible for the curriculum that the children are getting, not 370 00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:14,000 Speaker 1: some fifty old, sixty ye old white woman at the schoolhouse. 371 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,919 Speaker 1: You don't know what they're teaching your kids. You know what. 372 00:22:17,040 --> 00:22:19,320 Speaker 1: I don't mind a fifties sixty year old white woman 373 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,719 Speaker 1: teaching their kids, but I just feel like the parents 374 00:22:21,760 --> 00:22:24,400 Speaker 1: need to also teach their children the things that they 375 00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:28,960 Speaker 1: is not solely the response exactly of the teacher to 376 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 1: to rear these kids. It's our responsibility, especially the things 377 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:35,960 Speaker 1: that apply to our culture and things like that that 378 00:22:36,040 --> 00:22:37,840 Speaker 1: they're not receiving in school. We have to give it 379 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:41,520 Speaker 1: to them ourselves. I remember I used to make my 380 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:45,320 Speaker 1: ex boyfriend's daughter, like six daughters sit down and watch 381 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:49,960 Speaker 1: different documentaries and watch like Black Girls Rock and write 382 00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 1: a report on it. And they were really little, so, 383 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:55,880 Speaker 1: I mean, the reports wasn't going to be like but 384 00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:58,679 Speaker 1: I would make them do it, and I would have 385 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:00,919 Speaker 1: to pay them though that would have to like the 386 00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:05,679 Speaker 1: reward would be like money. But that was okay for 387 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:08,440 Speaker 1: me because I knew some of that information. They would 388 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:12,919 Speaker 1: eventually start to retain it. Yeah, yeah, even though they 389 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,879 Speaker 1: were just doing it for the money. So you know. 390 00:23:16,119 --> 00:23:18,400 Speaker 1: So that's why I said I'm a hybrid, Like I 391 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,959 Speaker 1: definitely believe that I should be teaching my children. I 392 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 1: believe I should be breastfeeding. I really wan't like when 393 00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:26,040 Speaker 1: I have a child, I would like to make their 394 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:29,399 Speaker 1: food preservatives and you know, not feeding the bullshoot at 395 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:32,359 Speaker 1: the store. I believe the woman is responsible for the 396 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:36,280 Speaker 1: nourishment of the family. I have a lot of traditional 397 00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:40,399 Speaker 1: values values, but at the same time, I do not 398 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:42,359 Speaker 1: want to be in a situation where the man isn't 399 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:46,840 Speaker 1: respecting me. So men, it has to come with I 400 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:50,120 Speaker 1: think that's what the and that's the hard part actually 401 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:54,040 Speaker 1: a j because sometimes I remember, like so both of 402 00:23:54,080 --> 00:23:57,000 Speaker 1: us have like seven values and we're traditional in those 403 00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:01,080 Speaker 1: types of ways. Because yeah, and I take place to 404 00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:03,919 Speaker 1: the table. I love it. I love That's one of 405 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:06,160 Speaker 1: the things that make me happy. Like I'll literally make 406 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 1: a good meal and I'll stand there after I hang 407 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 1: your player, I want you to tell me and tastes good. 408 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,399 Speaker 1: Like that's one of the things that make me happy 409 00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,120 Speaker 1: outside of family and money and ship like that. Yeah, 410 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:20,399 Speaker 1: being a nurturer to man and eight my boyfriend, my ex, 411 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:23,919 Speaker 1: we'll get to the point where on Sundays he'll be 412 00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:27,880 Speaker 1: watching football all day. That was his thing. That's cool whatever, 413 00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:30,359 Speaker 1: But he will hold his beer bottle in the air 414 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,800 Speaker 1: and be like bag and just hold the beer bottle 415 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:35,640 Speaker 1: in the air. And they spent me to come get 416 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:37,639 Speaker 1: it and replenish it and take the old one to 417 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:39,840 Speaker 1: the trash. And that ship used to piss me off 418 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:43,960 Speaker 1: because he started to treat me like a servant. Mh, 419 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,399 Speaker 1: Like he don't even ask no more, were you working 420 00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,000 Speaker 1: at the time, Yeah, I was working. And see that's 421 00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,359 Speaker 1: the thing. Now let this, let me break this down 422 00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:55,680 Speaker 1: for for you guys, and why what's the problem you 423 00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 1: have with modern women? Here's the thing. You want to 424 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:05,439 Speaker 1: them in to go to work for someone else, and 425 00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:08,120 Speaker 1: then you want her to come to come home, work 426 00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:12,119 Speaker 1: for you, work for the children, work for the house 427 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,720 Speaker 1: as a whole, and suck dick on demand, all while 428 00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 1: you just maybe cut grass and then you go out 429 00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:23,919 Speaker 1: to your job and work for the white man. Or 430 00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,160 Speaker 1: if you want to run a business like that's all 431 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:30,640 Speaker 1: you have, that's all you're responsible for, and I'm responsible 432 00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:33,480 Speaker 1: for everything else. If I got to be the homemaker 433 00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 1: and also work, I feel like the homemaker responsibility should 434 00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,320 Speaker 1: be split between us and I'll and I'll do the 435 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:43,520 Speaker 1: brunt of it. But don't hold your fucking beer bottle 436 00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:46,520 Speaker 1: in the sky to shake it in the air and 437 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:50,720 Speaker 1: call my name like I'm so fucking made girl. You 438 00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:54,200 Speaker 1: see like you need some therapy about that trump there. Yes, 439 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,600 Speaker 1: I almost took one of them bottles and cracking over 440 00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:04,680 Speaker 1: his boyfucker head babe shaking the glass in the sky. Girl, 441 00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:13,119 Speaker 1: I want to karate kick that shut of his that 442 00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:16,600 Speaker 1: was That was my fault because I got him so spoiled, 443 00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:20,840 Speaker 1: which just you know, just doing everything in that capacity 444 00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:22,920 Speaker 1: for him where he just got to the point where 445 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:24,680 Speaker 1: he just felt like he could just scratch his nuts 446 00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,679 Speaker 1: on the couch, nuts on the couch and hold the 447 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:32,960 Speaker 1: bottom there. That's why I fixed the fixed the fixes respect. 448 00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:39,879 Speaker 1: Black women and black women need to equally have respect 449 00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:43,640 Speaker 1: for one another, and that'll fix everything. We don't respect 450 00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 1: each other, how it is easy to respect. Listen to 451 00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:48,960 Speaker 1: the music that these children all right, First of all, 452 00:26:49,000 --> 00:26:52,600 Speaker 1: we had the kids are the future, right, Um, so 453 00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 1: are we the music that we're they're feeding them? Are 454 00:26:56,080 --> 00:27:00,119 Speaker 1: we teaching them to respect each other? Hell no, But 455 00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,639 Speaker 1: there's nothing in our music that is aligned with us 456 00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:06,199 Speaker 1: respecting each other as a unit. But that starts with 457 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,119 Speaker 1: us as black women. You know, did you know that 458 00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,280 Speaker 1: black women are the number one is consumed, number one 459 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:14,520 Speaker 1: consumers of music. We are the ones spending money aside 460 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,680 Speaker 1: from white people, We're the ones spending money on this music. 461 00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,639 Speaker 1: We get all of TikTok videos going on, these nigga songs, 462 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:25,919 Speaker 1: all of ship. So one may say that a nation 463 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,320 Speaker 1: is only as strong as the women. So we're allowing 464 00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,240 Speaker 1: this ship. We set the standards and we're not working 465 00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:35,000 Speaker 1: with the music. Niggas is not making money off this bullshit. 466 00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:37,240 Speaker 1: No more Future cannot have a new album come out 467 00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:39,760 Speaker 1: telling people to go Papa Molly and all this bullshit, 468 00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:43,800 Speaker 1: which I feel like he's changed a little bit. But yeah, 469 00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,479 Speaker 1: we we shouldn't allow that ship our community. That's up 470 00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 1: to us, right, But it's so conflicted in my soul 471 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:52,120 Speaker 1: because I enjoy it. Yeah, I mean too. But the 472 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:55,280 Speaker 1: thing is is that we're adults, right, We have the 473 00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,480 Speaker 1: we we have the amount the brain power to differentiate 474 00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:02,359 Speaker 1: between real and what's entertainment. You see what I'm saying. 475 00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:04,439 Speaker 1: These kids don't, so when they're in the car, like 476 00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:09,359 Speaker 1: little Dirk brother just got murdered, right, Yeah, so the 477 00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:13,199 Speaker 1: men that probably murdered her and were on drugs hopping 478 00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:16,760 Speaker 1: in the car listening to some fucking rap music on 479 00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 1: the way to commit a fucking vicious ass crime, like 480 00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:26,480 Speaker 1: they shot him in the head and he died on impact. Like, 481 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:29,080 Speaker 1: we have to be careful of the things that we 482 00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:33,560 Speaker 1: listen to, the thoughts that we have because it's really programming. 483 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:36,640 Speaker 1: That could be a whole another topic for a whole 484 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:39,720 Speaker 1: another day. Is rap music detrimental to the Black community, 485 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,840 Speaker 1: and it's it absolutely is. You know, we actually fought 486 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 1: for this in legislation, like freedom of speech and all 487 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,239 Speaker 1: that ship to be able to talk this crazy and 488 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:52,960 Speaker 1: fucking music. Like people don't realize, like black people. You 489 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,320 Speaker 1: see how we start moving when music starts playing, and 490 00:28:55,360 --> 00:28:58,000 Speaker 1: how we moved to the beat. And you know, it's 491 00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:00,760 Speaker 1: funny how when white people moved they can't get rhythm. 492 00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 1: Is certain type of white people that can. It's a 493 00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:06,240 Speaker 1: real thing with vibration. I even think about, like with 494 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,880 Speaker 1: the radio stations and how most black stations are on 495 00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:13,480 Speaker 1: like a nine to like a thousand and one frequency. 496 00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: It could be a reason that they put our stations 497 00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 1: are our radio. Black black stations and black music are 498 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:25,120 Speaker 1: certain radio frequencies because those frequencies really feed your your ship, 499 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 1: your body. So if you're listening to all this crazy 500 00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:34,720 Speaker 1: ass talk on a certain frequency, it really can affect 501 00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:38,320 Speaker 1: you mentally. And if you're a young impressionable adult, young 502 00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:42,960 Speaker 1: impressionable child, how do you different? And then you're living 503 00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:46,040 Speaker 1: in the hood, you know what I'm saying, living amongst 504 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:47,960 Speaker 1: this stuff, you don't even know that there's a way out. 505 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 1: You don't even know that there's a possibility that you, 506 00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:53,080 Speaker 1: like you can change the trajectory, that you can change 507 00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 1: the trajectory of your life. But this is all your 508 00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 1: surrounded by, it's responsibility. So if there's going to be 509 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:07,400 Speaker 1: some change, unfortunately, it really lies heavily on women. It 510 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:11,520 Speaker 1: definitely lies on man men too, because it's just too 511 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:14,840 Speaker 1: easy for men to now leave their homes. It's still 512 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:16,480 Speaker 1: easy for you to have a baby and then not 513 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,680 Speaker 1: take care of that kid. And I don't know if 514 00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:20,840 Speaker 1: that's stemming from slavery too, because they you know, they 515 00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: really was just literally breeding us, moving people from plantation 516 00:30:24,400 --> 00:30:26,480 Speaker 1: and plantation, so you had no choice but to leave 517 00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:31,240 Speaker 1: your family. So now it's like we are voluntarily splitting up, 518 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: voluntarily leaving your children, acting like they don't even exist, 519 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,760 Speaker 1: like that's something we can't help. Black men gotta change 520 00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:39,959 Speaker 1: that bullshit. But for the most part, black men are 521 00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:42,480 Speaker 1: with black women, black women are Black women are with 522 00:30:42,600 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 1: black men. As far as people not taking care of 523 00:30:45,120 --> 00:30:49,840 Speaker 1: their responsibilities, I feel like more black men need to 524 00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:52,640 Speaker 1: talk to more Black men who are doing well and 525 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,600 Speaker 1: doing right by their community and by their families need 526 00:30:55,680 --> 00:30:59,600 Speaker 1: to then go out and have conferences, have brunches, have 527 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 1: hunches like black women do to congregate and communicate and 528 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,040 Speaker 1: talk about all our issues. But I think they do 529 00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:10,600 Speaker 1: do that a j what like maybe fraternities they do 530 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 1: it a lot. But I mean, the average black man 531 00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 1: is not even telling his friends what he's going through. Yeah, 532 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:19,120 Speaker 1: you're right about and not talking to people about their problems. 533 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:21,520 Speaker 1: And you know what else, I feel like black men 534 00:31:21,560 --> 00:31:25,320 Speaker 1: should start doing more. They should start taking care of 535 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,640 Speaker 1: each other as far as the health is concern. Like 536 00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:30,960 Speaker 1: these niggas will see the nigga killing themselves and be 537 00:31:31,040 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 1: like he grown. There's a grown man, Like especially once 538 00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:39,280 Speaker 1: you start getting closer to forty, Like you see that 539 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:42,200 Speaker 1: your friend is unhealthy, and you don't say anything about him, 540 00:31:42,720 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 1: how he's eating, how he drinking. He needs to go 541 00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:47,040 Speaker 1: to the doctor and go see a doctor, bro, Like 542 00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:50,960 Speaker 1: you're not doing enough. And then y'all dying and wearing 543 00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:52,560 Speaker 1: a T shirt with a nigga face on it and 544 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:54,800 Speaker 1: he was right there and never said nothing to him 545 00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:58,400 Speaker 1: about his health. Yeah, black men just don't talk enough. 546 00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,160 Speaker 1: So that's what I would like that. I think that's 547 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 1: another way to combat what's going on in the black community. 548 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:05,920 Speaker 1: Black men need to talk to each other more y'all 549 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,440 Speaker 1: writing books telling women how to think like a man 550 00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:10,560 Speaker 1: and act like a woman, Like, what the funk? Why 551 00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:13,040 Speaker 1: don't y'all tell niggas how to be men first, and 552 00:32:13,080 --> 00:32:15,400 Speaker 1: make sure your homeboy isn't sucking up in love, life 553 00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:19,120 Speaker 1: and business. Check him, check him, check on him. Talk 554 00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:22,440 Speaker 1: to each other, congregate. Tell you, tell your friends you 555 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:23,920 Speaker 1: know what's going on with you? What you got a 556 00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:26,959 Speaker 1: problem with Black men just be having so much pride 557 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:29,240 Speaker 1: when they all got shipped. Sometimes you don't got ship 558 00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:32,120 Speaker 1: and you got and you got a side ego come 559 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:36,920 Speaker 1: before the fall or some ship like that, like that 560 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:44,520 Speaker 1: ego cometh before the fall. Yeah, yeah, it's the ego, man, 561 00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:47,120 Speaker 1: you gotta I don't have ego when it comes to 562 00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:49,960 Speaker 1: the people I love. I try. I strive not to 563 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:52,720 Speaker 1: let my ego get the best of me. I feel 564 00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:54,880 Speaker 1: like in order to be successful, you do have to 565 00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:58,160 Speaker 1: have some ego. Ego. You have to have a little 566 00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:02,760 Speaker 1: bit of narcissum as well, narcissism. Narcissism, you have to 567 00:33:03,040 --> 00:33:05,280 Speaker 1: have a little bit of narcissism, a little bit of 568 00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:08,240 Speaker 1: ego to get through this goddamn life, and a lot 569 00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 1: of humility though, yes, absolutely so those I don't know. 570 00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:15,360 Speaker 1: This is a great conversation though. We don't want me 571 00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:17,840 Speaker 1: a husband though, and I just feel like my mouth 572 00:33:18,120 --> 00:33:21,520 Speaker 1: is gonna hinder me sometimes. I don't think so, because 573 00:33:21,560 --> 00:33:23,400 Speaker 1: you've told me some stories and I'd be like, that's 574 00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:27,160 Speaker 1: all you're saying, did you like, in comparison to me, 575 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,080 Speaker 1: that's all you said that I would have said this, 576 00:33:31,520 --> 00:33:34,800 Speaker 1: I maybe like in comparison to you, but in comparison 577 00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:41,560 Speaker 1: to people with husbands, we both talked too much. My 578 00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:48,080 Speaker 1: nigga skin gotta be this thick. My skin thick. You 579 00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,160 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, I feel like not mine? 580 00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:54,440 Speaker 1: You ready to cry? I'd be like, that's why they 581 00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:57,000 Speaker 1: ain't even your baby. I mean, he'd be like, that's 582 00:33:57,080 --> 00:34:02,440 Speaker 1: not your hair. How could you say that? Look, if 583 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,200 Speaker 1: nigga want to win an argument with me, I don't care. 584 00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:07,560 Speaker 1: If I got a million dollars in the bank you 585 00:34:07,640 --> 00:34:13,080 Speaker 1: called me fat, you win. As soon as you call 586 00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:24,480 Speaker 1: me fat, you fucking wind And I might hate you this. 587 00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:27,040 Speaker 1: I don't be trying to go there with niggas. I 588 00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:29,879 Speaker 1: already learned my lesson about putting my hands on men 589 00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:34,600 Speaker 1: because I used to be a domestic violent, domestically violent woman. 590 00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:37,799 Speaker 1: But I had one nigga, get me together. You got 591 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,160 Speaker 1: me right on together your life. As I slid down 592 00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 1: the wall, I was like, you know what, it was 593 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:45,279 Speaker 1: like a cartoon character, you know when they hit the 594 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:48,279 Speaker 1: wall hardness, slide down. That's how I felt like. I 595 00:34:48,320 --> 00:34:49,799 Speaker 1: was cooling down that wall, and I was like, you 596 00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:52,240 Speaker 1: know what, I really should keep my hands to myself. 597 00:34:53,040 --> 00:34:55,919 Speaker 1: Then I didn't hit nobody, since exactly nigga saved your life. 598 00:34:55,920 --> 00:35:02,000 Speaker 1: You hit the wrong man, right, Modern women, I hope 599 00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 1: you all not here beating niggas out right. Keep your 600 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,399 Speaker 1: hands to yourself. Modern women and don't always been well 601 00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:13,279 Speaker 1: for you. Right, So I'm a hybrid. I'm traditional and 602 00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:16,880 Speaker 1: I'm modern at the same time. Can you can we 603 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:19,960 Speaker 1: be that? Yes? I believe you can be that. Like 604 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,239 Speaker 1: you know, um one of the ladies from last week, 605 00:35:23,320 --> 00:35:25,120 Speaker 1: she was saying, like the husband, he'd have to be 606 00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:28,480 Speaker 1: okay with outsourcing, like outsourcing the meals and stuff like that, 607 00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:32,080 Speaker 1: like when you got a certain type of certain type 608 00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:34,239 Speaker 1: of money, like we can get somebody to clean the house, 609 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:39,200 Speaker 1: we could get somebody to make food. But I definitely 610 00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:42,600 Speaker 1: want to be in a loving relationship with a man. 611 00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:44,919 Speaker 1: Like people say marriage don't have nothing to do with love, 612 00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:49,040 Speaker 1: Are you kidding me? I guess they may be thinking 613 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:52,000 Speaker 1: about like how people have arranged marriages, which even then 614 00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,520 Speaker 1: they grow to love the person they're with. It has 615 00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:59,080 Speaker 1: to be a certain level of of um love and 616 00:35:59,160 --> 00:36:02,400 Speaker 1: respect in a union, or my Funcker's would just be 617 00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 1: killing each other. That they'll just be killing each other 618 00:36:06,719 --> 00:36:11,960 Speaker 1: ship not as much as they don't kill each other. 619 00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:16,080 Speaker 1: Will get their asks and mirked right quick. Quite woman, 620 00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:18,880 Speaker 1: But we ain't just out here killing men. Within the 621 00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,480 Speaker 1: last couple of years, I know at least three women 622 00:36:21,520 --> 00:36:24,200 Speaker 1: who have been murdered or at least like shot up 623 00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:28,680 Speaker 1: by a man that was supposed to love him. Yes, 624 00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,759 Speaker 1: but they just wanted to possess them. I guess that's 625 00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:33,240 Speaker 1: another thing with me, Like I'm not trying to possess anybody. 626 00:36:33,239 --> 00:36:36,000 Speaker 1: I want to exist and I want to experience people. 627 00:36:36,480 --> 00:36:39,000 Speaker 1: I don't want to possess anybody to I feel like 628 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:41,799 Speaker 1: you belong to me, Yeah, like you're a thing. And 629 00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:44,840 Speaker 1: I feel like some men they see women as things. 630 00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:47,800 Speaker 1: Like I said, it's an asset to what they already 631 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,759 Speaker 1: have going on in their lives. So if you have 632 00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:52,799 Speaker 1: a man who is a provider, when he brings a 633 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:56,600 Speaker 1: woman on, it's more like, because I want that woman. 634 00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:59,400 Speaker 1: I want her. I'm not bringing her into my situation 635 00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:01,719 Speaker 1: because I needed her to pay half the bills. Is 636 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:04,480 Speaker 1: because I want her hair, So I'm gonna make sure 637 00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:07,920 Speaker 1: I finance her whole life. Like you've got these broadcast 638 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:10,879 Speaker 1: niggas out here. Sorry, y'all get sicket a little bit 639 00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:14,439 Speaker 1: before we're in this discussion. You know, you gotta add 640 00:37:14,480 --> 00:37:19,320 Speaker 1: that in there. They want to talk about not caring 641 00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,040 Speaker 1: about a woman's degrees, not caring about how much a 642 00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:25,520 Speaker 1: woman makes. Half y'all men half to half the men 643 00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:29,160 Speaker 1: in the black community on child support. You definitely care 644 00:37:29,160 --> 00:37:31,239 Speaker 1: about how much woman, how much money the woman that 645 00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:35,319 Speaker 1: you're worth is making. A lot of them need help, 646 00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:37,880 Speaker 1: just like black women need help. The problem is that 647 00:37:37,920 --> 00:37:40,040 Speaker 1: black men and black women are all we're all in 648 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:43,799 Speaker 1: their trenches in America. We don't come from families out 649 00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:48,480 Speaker 1: you know, super affluent families, you know, um generations and 650 00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:51,799 Speaker 1: generations of money. We don't come from that. But if 651 00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:55,080 Speaker 1: we expect to build generational wealth in the United States, 652 00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:58,319 Speaker 1: we gotta work together. That's just it. That's the only 653 00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:02,520 Speaker 1: way we gotta work to. Are we going to I'm 654 00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,560 Speaker 1: going to, I'm violent, I'm going to. I want to. 655 00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:09,760 Speaker 1: But as a community, I was on the Shade room yesterday, 656 00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:13,600 Speaker 1: and did you see those kids in Chicago on top 657 00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:17,720 Speaker 1: of the police cards working and the police trying to drive, 658 00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:22,680 Speaker 1: and they just it's kids. It's kids being raised secondhand 659 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:27,719 Speaker 1: embarrassment watching that, yes, as kids being raised by the unraised. 660 00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,880 Speaker 1: So grandmas are like our age now in their thirties 661 00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:35,640 Speaker 1: because they had their kids at fifteen. It's just it's 662 00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:40,800 Speaker 1: just messy out here, man. And um, there's black people 663 00:38:40,800 --> 00:38:45,759 Speaker 1: and then there's niggas. There's people, and there's I love 664 00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:50,839 Speaker 1: all of us because I mean, not just to laugh 665 00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:54,359 Speaker 1: at them, but everybody is necessary. You have that like 666 00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:57,280 Speaker 1: like Charlemagne always saying you have to have the righteous 667 00:38:58,400 --> 00:39:01,719 Speaker 1: and the ratchet, like it has to go together in 668 00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:04,400 Speaker 1: that way. And I still feel like I'm a hybrid 669 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:06,839 Speaker 1: of that. Look at this fucking show, like we two 670 00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:10,839 Speaker 1: educated women, we'll be talking all crazy like we it's 671 00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:12,680 Speaker 1: either we could be either one way or the other 672 00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:20,960 Speaker 1: and both spontaneously exactly exactly. And it's fun. The fun 673 00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:24,120 Speaker 1: because I can go listen you can take me everywhere 674 00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:25,839 Speaker 1: from the trap house to the White House, and I'll 675 00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:30,040 Speaker 1: be able to conduct my exactly. And it's a whole skill. 676 00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:33,960 Speaker 1: It's a whole skill. So look, before we move on 677 00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:42,040 Speaker 1: to the next segment, let's have a word from our sponsors. Yeah, 678 00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:44,799 Speaker 1: so we talked back and just I'll talk about these niggas. Man. 679 00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:51,920 Speaker 1: I I firmly agree that the funds of the responsibility 680 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:54,719 Speaker 1: it kind of lies on the black woman. Man. We 681 00:39:54,840 --> 00:39:57,360 Speaker 1: set the standards. We set the standards for the world. 682 00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:00,200 Speaker 1: We set the beauty standard at this point, now we 683 00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:04,439 Speaker 1: set the standard for these men. Stop sucking. But here's 684 00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,960 Speaker 1: the thing, all right, it's my and that not a 685 00:40:08,080 --> 00:40:10,400 Speaker 1: change everything if women stopped. But you know that's not 686 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:17,640 Speaker 1: gonna I'm trying to fun. After we hang up, it's 687 00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:21,319 Speaker 1: her birthday. Sex I had sexident. Oh y'all, y'all go 688 00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:25,080 Speaker 1: to a J's page and wish her happy birthday. It's 689 00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:31,040 Speaker 1: her birthday, she's turned it's plus a few thirty something. 690 00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:36,840 Speaker 1: I'm all right. So the music I kind of do, 691 00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:38,960 Speaker 1: not the lyrics that just feel the beat. At this 692 00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,560 Speaker 1: point I don't even like because some of the words 693 00:40:41,600 --> 00:40:44,680 Speaker 1: are just kind of just so you listen to the 694 00:40:44,760 --> 00:40:47,359 Speaker 1: rap music and you can hear the words and it's like, oh, 695 00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,240 Speaker 1: this is so degrading to my soul and spirit. However, 696 00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:54,360 Speaker 1: the drums and the rhythm makes me want to dance. 697 00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,480 Speaker 1: I usually listen to that ship when I'm on a 698 00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:02,560 Speaker 1: long trip, where really I listen to R B R 699 00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:06,480 Speaker 1: B R B. I listen to UM, R and B 700 00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:10,239 Speaker 1: when I'm driving now in the gym, straight trap, shit, 701 00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:20,640 Speaker 1: little baby, dub baby future, everybody, everybody, I'm listening to 702 00:41:20,719 --> 00:41:25,520 Speaker 1: that ship. But um, but we live in a society 703 00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:29,360 Speaker 1: right now where is pay to play. That's what these 704 00:41:29,440 --> 00:41:33,200 Speaker 1: girls are like. I don't know. Young girls are like 705 00:41:33,360 --> 00:41:36,680 Speaker 1: just it's money for pussy and that's that's it. Okay, 706 00:41:36,719 --> 00:41:38,759 Speaker 1: But listen, if the man don't have the money, you're 707 00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:41,319 Speaker 1: not giving out the pussy. Imagine when we were growing up, 708 00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:45,000 Speaker 1: bitches just just fucking, just fucking for what reason. Don't 709 00:41:45,000 --> 00:41:46,960 Speaker 1: you think these girls probably having less sex than us. 710 00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,440 Speaker 1: I don't know, forty dollars, it's a lot of forty 711 00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:57,640 Speaker 1: dollars out here. Listen, these girls are in high school 712 00:41:57,640 --> 00:42:00,120 Speaker 1: with Gucci bags and Louis bags. I don't know the 713 00:42:00,160 --> 00:42:02,759 Speaker 1: parents buying it or the fucking nigga's body. I don't 714 00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:05,399 Speaker 1: know who purchasing it, but I feel like they are 715 00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:08,680 Speaker 1: very high meetenings. Okay, I don't feel like they're busting 716 00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,600 Speaker 1: it wide open just because maybe I could be wrong. 717 00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:14,640 Speaker 1: I don't know. I believe these I look on Instagram 718 00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:16,880 Speaker 1: and I don't know. I believe they are just because 719 00:42:17,800 --> 00:42:20,240 Speaker 1: I feel like men feel like you owed them sex 720 00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:24,839 Speaker 1: faster than when we were young. No niggas be three 721 00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:27,520 Speaker 1: days and then one day they could be like ready 722 00:42:27,520 --> 00:42:33,280 Speaker 1: to get some pussy. And you had that happening here recently. Yeah, 723 00:42:33,920 --> 00:42:38,200 Speaker 1: like what, I didn't even bring my pussy. I don't 724 00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:42,400 Speaker 1: bring my pussy this early, leaving at home exactly a 725 00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:45,400 Speaker 1: matter of fact, I ran out of pussy, got it. 726 00:42:47,239 --> 00:42:50,040 Speaker 1: I had a guy that I was talking to and 727 00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:54,640 Speaker 1: we just weren't equally yoked, I'll say that. And he 728 00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:56,920 Speaker 1: said he had sent me some money. I was in 729 00:42:56,960 --> 00:42:58,600 Speaker 1: another city and I was told I was about to 730 00:42:58,600 --> 00:43:02,120 Speaker 1: go shopping. So he's at me some money, right, He 731 00:43:02,239 --> 00:43:04,520 Speaker 1: sent me a text message asking me for that money 732 00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:08,600 Speaker 1: back because I ain't never sleep with him. What when 733 00:43:08,640 --> 00:43:13,359 Speaker 1: did he asks for it back in the text? Months later? 734 00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,000 Speaker 1: Oh that's some bullshit, that's your money at this point. 735 00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:20,440 Speaker 1: So basically, you're asking me to borrow some money and 736 00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:25,120 Speaker 1: get out of my face. I'm not for sale for one. 737 00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:27,840 Speaker 1: If you do anything for me, doing out the goodness 738 00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:30,480 Speaker 1: of your heart, okay, because that's how I operate. I 739 00:43:30,520 --> 00:43:32,400 Speaker 1: do things out of the goodness of my heart. And 740 00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:35,040 Speaker 1: I didn't like I've I offered to do nice things 741 00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:37,239 Speaker 1: for him too. It wasn't like he just I was 742 00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:40,640 Speaker 1: just a taker and he wasn't you know. Yeah, man, 743 00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:43,880 Speaker 1: I didn't give it real gold Digg is tricked first. 744 00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:50,399 Speaker 1: I buy you a little trinket, and I just seen 745 00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:53,080 Speaker 1: him a bunch of laughing faces and said, no, no, 746 00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:56,440 Speaker 1: I'm not sending you nothing back that money but spent 747 00:43:56,480 --> 00:44:01,400 Speaker 1: when I was in New York out of here, Shane. 748 00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:06,440 Speaker 1: Am I wrong for that? No? Hell no. I wouldn't 749 00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,719 Speaker 1: never sent him no money back. You sent me that 750 00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:11,640 Speaker 1: money as a gift, funk, I look like sending it 751 00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:18,200 Speaker 1: back two months later? The hell that's because so if 752 00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:19,640 Speaker 1: you had slept with him, you wouldn't been able to 753 00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:23,600 Speaker 1: get your pussy back, right. That's why you just gotta 754 00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:26,200 Speaker 1: keep your rejoinal to yourself. Yeah, man, we need to 755 00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:29,080 Speaker 1: stop working as much man, and I bet you, I 756 00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:31,600 Speaker 1: bet you everything. That's that's like the movie shy Town. 757 00:44:32,120 --> 00:44:34,440 Speaker 1: That's and that actually is based off of true true events. 758 00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:37,279 Speaker 1: You know, when all the women stopped having sex shy Town, 759 00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:43,279 Speaker 1: shy rack, sorry Shyra. Yeah, the movie sh Iraq. It 760 00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,960 Speaker 1: was like the women's started sustaining from sex to fix 761 00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:49,880 Speaker 1: the community, to stop all the violence and ship Like 762 00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,480 Speaker 1: that's a real I really feel like that maybe we 763 00:44:52,520 --> 00:44:54,200 Speaker 1: could do that again. How could we do that? What 764 00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:56,520 Speaker 1: will we call the movement? We just I mean, we're 765 00:44:56,520 --> 00:44:58,239 Speaker 1: just gonna have to beat some bitches up though, because 766 00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:00,160 Speaker 1: they're just gonna want to stow smash these ning is 767 00:45:00,160 --> 00:45:02,799 Speaker 1: on the low, Like if everybody just stopped working for 768 00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:05,239 Speaker 1: a little while and of the enforced men to step 769 00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,680 Speaker 1: it up. You cannot get no pussy if you don't 770 00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:11,160 Speaker 1: have a headboard on your bed, if you don't have 771 00:45:11,280 --> 00:45:13,040 Speaker 1: nice pillows on your bed, if you have a comforter, 772 00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:14,879 Speaker 1: if you don't have a bad set, if you don't 773 00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:16,640 Speaker 1: have a car, if you don't have a job or 774 00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:20,080 Speaker 1: something form of income, you can't get a pussy. That's 775 00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:22,880 Speaker 1: your sin. You shouldn't be able to. I don't even 776 00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:25,000 Speaker 1: think you should be really focusing on pussy if you 777 00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:28,000 Speaker 1: don't have a headboard yet. So the headboard. You can 778 00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:31,000 Speaker 1: get a headboard on Wayfair for like a hundred fifty dollars. 779 00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,520 Speaker 1: They got headboard. Girl. I had this nigga one time, 780 00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:38,160 Speaker 1: went to his house, went upstairs, blow up, mattress, went 781 00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:43,840 Speaker 1: back downstairs, right, Mattress, And I explained in this bouncy house, 782 00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:51,080 Speaker 1: I told him why he couldn't get this pussy. A 783 00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:53,720 Speaker 1: couple of months later, I get a fucking picture message. 784 00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:56,960 Speaker 1: He got a nice little bad set. He wanted me 785 00:45:57,040 --> 00:46:00,319 Speaker 1: to see that he got a bad set. I great 786 00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:04,600 Speaker 1: life exactly. We gotta be honest with these dudes. Man, No, 787 00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:07,520 Speaker 1: this isn't this, ain't it. I'm pretty sure somebody allowed 788 00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:09,839 Speaker 1: you to fund them on this block, Mattress, But I 789 00:46:09,920 --> 00:46:12,680 Speaker 1: can swer it is. Your house being renovated is something 790 00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:15,319 Speaker 1: while you're on there? What? What's what's going on? But 791 00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:19,440 Speaker 1: you are a single man living alone with a blowout Mattress. No, 792 00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:26,560 Speaker 1: how does your back even feel? Okay? Right? A lor 793 00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:30,040 Speaker 1: So we gotta go into our next segment, which is 794 00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:36,719 Speaker 1: random sex facts and love is six. Yes, what are 795 00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:40,520 Speaker 1: we talking about? All right? So today's random sex fact 796 00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:44,640 Speaker 1: and it's really not random. It closely aligns with what 797 00:46:44,719 --> 00:46:48,440 Speaker 1: today's topic was. It says love makes for better sex. 798 00:46:48,719 --> 00:46:51,319 Speaker 1: A recent study presented at the annual meeting of the 799 00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:58,000 Speaker 1: American Sociological Association found that the most mind blowing sex 800 00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:02,840 Speaker 1: comes with being in love with your partner. And it's true. 801 00:47:03,640 --> 00:47:08,560 Speaker 1: It is true because you will have said, let's say 802 00:47:08,600 --> 00:47:11,719 Speaker 1: your man has he's not very well in doubt, but 803 00:47:11,800 --> 00:47:14,479 Speaker 1: you in love with him. That little dick be hitting good. 804 00:47:14,560 --> 00:47:18,920 Speaker 1: He's like that little dick. But when you fall out 805 00:47:18,920 --> 00:47:23,120 Speaker 1: of love with him, like this a little dick fuck, 806 00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,120 Speaker 1: you know, little last dick. You can't him, you know, 807 00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,520 Speaker 1: you know this sucked, this slurp on that little blunt 808 00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:32,640 Speaker 1: right that love you as fake choking on it the 809 00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:42,959 Speaker 1: stroke his ego. No damn well, I should ain't hitting 810 00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:46,040 Speaker 1: on nothing. And there you fall out of love, right boy, 811 00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,920 Speaker 1: oh boy, because look, women minds leave before that person 812 00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:53,080 Speaker 1: be it. Do be hitting though, because you in love 813 00:47:53,160 --> 00:47:56,080 Speaker 1: in your mind mine has told you like, oh, this 814 00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,480 Speaker 1: is the most special little miniature dick I've ever had 815 00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:03,320 Speaker 1: in my life, and I wanted forever until you don't. 816 00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:08,080 Speaker 1: So for people say that you don't have to be 817 00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,200 Speaker 1: in love to be in a marriage. Like marriage is 818 00:48:10,239 --> 00:48:15,319 Speaker 1: not about love, it most definitely is in sex. It's 819 00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:17,440 Speaker 1: it's I mean, you may not be in love with 820 00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:20,880 Speaker 1: the people you fucking, but unless you're a car hopper, 821 00:48:21,719 --> 00:48:24,120 Speaker 1: in order to really enjoy it, you have to have 822 00:48:24,239 --> 00:48:27,360 Speaker 1: some type of feelings for the person you're having sex with. 823 00:48:27,480 --> 00:48:32,560 Speaker 1: No right, Yeah, exactly, unless you funk for a living. 824 00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:36,560 Speaker 1: And that's how you get your paper right, And then 825 00:48:36,560 --> 00:48:41,759 Speaker 1: there's that part. I enjoyed this conversation today, me too. 826 00:48:42,160 --> 00:48:45,280 Speaker 1: We need to have more of these, uh semi intellectual 827 00:48:45,320 --> 00:48:47,960 Speaker 1: conversations because I know people just think we're super ratchet 828 00:48:48,440 --> 00:48:50,640 Speaker 1: and just be cussing and saying niggers and bitches and 829 00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:56,200 Speaker 1: holes and dick and pussy like all those like those 830 00:48:56,239 --> 00:49:05,960 Speaker 1: words cock suck your cock, like that cock dick with 831 00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:08,879 Speaker 1: black people, black women, Let me see that dick. Send 832 00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:11,200 Speaker 1: me a cock shot. Now, I do say that cell 833 00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:15,600 Speaker 1: phone save lives. Bit a cock shot will save you. Okay, 834 00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:17,759 Speaker 1: you might like a nigger and he's seeing that little 835 00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:19,239 Speaker 1: dick like listen, I don't even go get to the 836 00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:22,680 Speaker 1: point of loving this little dick that See that's mean 837 00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:25,000 Speaker 1: Because one if a guy was like, see me your 838 00:49:25,040 --> 00:49:28,239 Speaker 1: pussy and you're sitting that Roastby sandwiches and they'd be like, 839 00:49:27,719 --> 00:49:33,239 Speaker 1: I'll eat that Arby's bitch. Your feelings hurt. I wish 840 00:49:33,280 --> 00:49:36,480 Speaker 1: people would stop talking about coochie and dick with the coochies. 841 00:49:36,480 --> 00:49:39,480 Speaker 1: You haven't seen those pictures on Instagram. It's like different 842 00:49:39,520 --> 00:49:42,040 Speaker 1: coochies and how they're shape and ship like. People are 843 00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:45,640 Speaker 1: born that way. It's not like cheese ran through some people. 844 00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:50,000 Speaker 1: Labia Libya or whatever. Labia is hanging out like that's 845 00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:54,000 Speaker 1: just how their vagina is. Like, why are y'all associating 846 00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:56,600 Speaker 1: that with somebody who's extra promiscuous and who that had 847 00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:59,480 Speaker 1: a lot of sex men just on no ship, even 848 00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:03,640 Speaker 1: with Brad. It's genetics, you know what I'm saying. Everybody, 849 00:50:04,120 --> 00:50:07,880 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna have like the super you know, firm 850 00:50:07,880 --> 00:50:11,080 Speaker 1: sitting up right breast like the fund is wrong with 851 00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:15,719 Speaker 1: your Everybody ain't gonna have a big dick. We're talking 852 00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:18,799 Speaker 1: about them. What about a skinny dick with a big head? 853 00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:22,480 Speaker 1: You like, those are like a soldier. He's like a 854 00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:27,839 Speaker 1: soldier helmet. Yes, mushroom like a mushroom head pencil dick 855 00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:30,680 Speaker 1: with the mushroom I like, um, you know, I don't 856 00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:32,759 Speaker 1: mind it because the head has got the girth, but 857 00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:37,520 Speaker 1: I prefer girth the shaft all the way around. Yeah, 858 00:50:37,960 --> 00:50:45,920 Speaker 1: m hmmm, warts my spirit. All right, y'all. If you 859 00:50:45,920 --> 00:50:48,800 Speaker 1: guys enjoyed this episode, please tune in to us every 860 00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:52,880 Speaker 1: Thursday UM on the I Heart Radio app or wherever 861 00:50:52,960 --> 00:50:56,200 Speaker 1: you get your podcasts at that's and yeah, keep sitting 862 00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:59,880 Speaker 1: in those dumb bit stories, keep sitting in those sympons. 863 00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:04,480 Speaker 1: You can follow me on Instagram at official tam bam 864 00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:09,400 Speaker 1: follow a j at aj holiday two point oh. All right, 865 00:51:09,440 --> 00:51:10,920 Speaker 1: we all y'all. Bye,