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Speaker 1: Welcome back everybody to Golden Hour from Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 1: Thanks again for joining us, Kathy. Isn't it awesome that

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Speaker 1: we're sitting here in we.

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Speaker 2: Are here in La in the studio. I love this

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Speaker 2: looking at each other's into our eyes, and I love the.

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Speaker 3: Roses behind us in the Bachelor of Nation back drop.

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Speaker 3: It like, it's pretty cool.

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Speaker 2: That's only roses. You and I ever got anything, it's been.

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Speaker 2: It's so fun to be out here and we are.

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Speaker 2: Have a great guest today. It is Jeremy Simon from

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Speaker 2: Gen season. Welcome Jeremy Jarah. So glad you're here with us.

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Speaker 2: How are you doing today?

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Speaker 4: Lovely to meet you, guys. I'm not the person, but

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Speaker 4: I can still see your eyes.

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Speaker 2: I like your hat that says for others. Is there

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Speaker 2: something about that I should know?

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Speaker 4: It's my buddy's Brandon. He donates a lot of the

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Speaker 4: profits back to the community.

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Speaker 3: So that's awesome. That's awesome, So talk to us. How

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Speaker 3: are you?

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Speaker 4: I'm good. You know, life's been pretty normal and back

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Speaker 4: in society for about six months at this point.

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Speaker 3: Are you dating yet? Are you any of the first question?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, wait, we're going to ease into this.

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Speaker 2: So, so we're right on top of holidays here, I

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Speaker 2: suspect do you celebrate Hanakah?

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Speaker 4: I do celebrate Hankkah? Okay, maybe every single eight nights.

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Speaker 2: But so that was so I am of a I

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Speaker 2: am of a mixed marriage. My dad was Jewish and

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Speaker 2: my mother was the religion of the day, depending on

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Speaker 2: who she was married to. So we always celebrated both

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Speaker 2: religions and both holidays. And this year Hanakah, if I

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Speaker 2: am correct, begins on Christmas.

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Speaker 5: Christmas Day really all of us, which means share me.

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Speaker 2: When you send me that fabulous paper clip necklace, you

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Speaker 2: can send it to me for Christmas or Hanukkah first

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Speaker 2: day Hanka.

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Speaker 5: That's when you get the big guests, right.

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Speaker 3: Is that the big one? Is that the first was

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Speaker 3: the list?

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Speaker 5: It's eight days.

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Speaker 3: No, so you get seven little gifts in one big one.

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Speaker 5: Well, everyone doesn't differently.

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Speaker 4: I'll send it to you, okay, I'll take it. Did

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Speaker 4: you raise your kids like mixed?

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Speaker 2: So my husband was not Jewish, and as you well know,

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Speaker 2: I grew up in a completely Jewish neighborhood, but I

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Speaker 2: was a Shiksa because my mother was not Jewish. All

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Speaker 2: my boyfriends, every one of them was Jewish until I

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Speaker 2: got married.

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Speaker 5: So really, yeah, but I my dad.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I've never dated it you.

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Speaker 5: Is it important to marry?

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Speaker 4: It's it depends if you asked me or my family.

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Speaker 3: Your mother. Your mother would say different.

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Speaker 4: I don't. I personally don't care what religion I'm married,

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Speaker 4: but I do want my kids to be brought up

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Speaker 4: with a sense of.

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Speaker 2: Their Yeah, so my kids, you know, I have a

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Speaker 2: menora that was my dad's and we lit the minora.

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Speaker 2: But because my husband was not Jewish, my kids went

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Speaker 2: to they went to church. They went to a Methodist church,

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Speaker 2: which is the country club of the Christian faith. Anything goes.

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Speaker 5: But enough about that, we do a topic of the

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Speaker 5: day first, Susan, go for it.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we do.

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Speaker 1: We start off this episode with question of the Day

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Speaker 1: and we want to know your thoughts on this one.

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Speaker 1: What do you think is the best way to handle

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Speaker 1: change in a relationship. We're always growing, learning and changing,

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Speaker 1: so how do you make room for that in a

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Speaker 1: long term partnership.

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Speaker 2: See Jeremy, We're going easy on you to begin with,

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Speaker 2: we're talking in generations. Then we're going to get down

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Speaker 2: to specifically your day, and so go ahead and answer

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Speaker 2: that question.

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Speaker 4: I don't know if that's easy, but I mean you

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Speaker 4: just sort of alluded to it that everyone's changing, like

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Speaker 4: we're not going to be the same people we are

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Speaker 4: in ten years, right, won't be the people we are

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Speaker 4: and you know, ten months. I think I think the

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Speaker 4: most important thing is acceptance. You know, when you choose someone,

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Speaker 4: you just need to you're choosing them for them as

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Speaker 4: a person, and you need to accept that they will change.

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Speaker 4: And it's more about the the effort you put into

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Speaker 4: change and grow with them. And communication is obviously.

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Speaker 3: Import Yes, yes, you've got that good answer. How old

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Speaker 3: are you, Jeremy, I'm thirty. Wise man, you're so.

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you everyone that we interview that's been off

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Speaker 2: The Bachelor come off one of the shows is I

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Speaker 2: don't know, is it the show that doesn't?

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Speaker 3: Do you feel like it changed you at all? Or

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Speaker 3: the way you think or the way not?

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Speaker 4: Really? No, I know it is another experience, and I

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Speaker 4: think I've just been shaped by, you know, one experiences

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Speaker 4: and two how I was raised.

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Speaker 5: So, yeah, where did you grow up, Jeremy?

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Speaker 4: I grew up in Stanford, Connecticut, so about an hour outside.

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Speaker 5: The City, Susan grew up in Philly and I grew

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Speaker 5: up in Boston.

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Speaker 4: Characters, my best friends live in Boston. My younger sister

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Speaker 1: Really were Oh god, you know that's okay.

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Speaker 3: We don't want to give her out.

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Speaker 5: I was just going to ask you where your friends

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Speaker 5: lived in Boston.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Coolidge Corner. Oh that's a great place.

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Speaker 1: So you know, like when they say, how do you

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Speaker 1: make room for that a change and a lot, Like,

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Speaker 1: what kind of a question is that?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 5: I think I think Jeremy answered it.

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Speaker 2: It's you growing together, communicating, so to make sure you're

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Speaker 2: both in sync and step as you change and developed,

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Speaker 2: because we all do.

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Speaker 4: I feel like you guys would have the answer to

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Speaker 4: that better than me. The longest relationship relationship I've been

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Speaker 4: in this a few years, but probably longer for you guys.

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Speaker 3: Well you have some long ones.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like my marriage was almost forty six years, so yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's been.

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Speaker 3: A while and are not as easy to handle.

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Speaker 2: All right, well, all right, now we're getting down to it.

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Speaker 2: You've warmed up.

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Speaker 5: What have you been up to.

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Speaker 2: Since gen season? You're dating to come on, are you

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Speaker 2: keep it in touch with the guys? Are you're dating?

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Speaker 3: Give it all to us. We want to scoop.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's a lot of questions in one.

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Speaker 3: Okay, we've heard rumors. I'm just telling you, we've heard rumors.

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Speaker 4: No, it's been it's been six months, like almost to

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Speaker 4: the day. Life's been pretty normal. I went back to work,

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Speaker 4: you know, a week after I got back, and the

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Speaker 4: show didn't start airing until two months after I wrapped

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Speaker 4: up a few months ago. Life's been normal. Obviously, I

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Speaker 4: have more friends now within my cast and people that

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Speaker 4: I met through Bachelor Nation.

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Speaker 3: But you keep in touch with the guys, Oh.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean you guys went through the experience on

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Speaker 4: such a deep level. I talked to every single day. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: I've gotten to me some other great Bachelor Nation people,

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Speaker 4: and you just have like this, you've all been through

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Speaker 4: a similar thing. So it's a very easy ground to

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Speaker 4: work off of. No, but that's been the same besides

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Speaker 4: for like, you know, getting recognized on the street.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's cold though, you know what you're dodging. Have

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Speaker 3: you dating? Are you dating? Are you dating?

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Speaker 5: I'm from Boston. We have the direct question.

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Speaker 4: Chare I'm direct too. I've not been dating.

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Speaker 1: Me either, well, I guess I'm going to be the

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Speaker 1: third one there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're all three of them, you know, Bucketeer, you're

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Speaker 2: why are you not dating?

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Speaker 3: May? I ask?

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Speaker 5: Because you're a handsome guy.

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Speaker 4: I appreciate that, Thank you. It's just been life's been

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Speaker 4: busy between work and and I have more opportunities to

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Speaker 4: go out to cool stuff and going out and singing friends.

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Speaker 3: And you're happy.

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Speaker 4: I'm happy. So I obviously do want to meet someone.

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Speaker 4: It just hasn't been It's not that it hasn't been

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Speaker 4: a priority. It's that I know that if I, if

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Speaker 4: I do start dating, I want to make them a priority.

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Speaker 4: And like, now life's getting more normal and I'll have

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Speaker 4: more time, so I will. I will start dating again.

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Speaker 5: So have you dated anybody from Bachelor?

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Speaker 6: No?

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Speaker 3: Really?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Interesting? What did I hear about an Airbnb?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: What's where's your Airbnb? We want to rent it?

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Speaker 4: Ok, you guys can get a free stay.

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Speaker 3: Wait? Where is it for free? I want to know

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Speaker 3: where it is.

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Speaker 4: It's up in the cat Skills.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, wait, I'm serious about that.

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Speaker 2: I have never been to the Cat Skills and my

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Speaker 2: daughter just went rented an airbnb? Probably yours? I? Oh no,

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Speaker 2: we I will touch base of you. I do.

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Speaker 4: Until until I bought the house, which is a bit

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Speaker 4: of a risk. But it's in a great area. Hudson's beautiful,

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Speaker 4: great ret it's in Hudson. It's fifteen minutes away from Hudson.

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Speaker 3: Wow, a lot of snow there.

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Speaker 4: Actually haven't been up there in since before I filmed.

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Speaker 3: But don't you never go? Well, I do, but on DV.

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Speaker 4: I rented out so it gets booked up.

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Speaker 2: But okay, what's the best time to go there?

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Speaker 5: Asking for a friend?

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Speaker 4: I think I think September is beautiful. It does get

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Speaker 4: a little chillier up there, but it has a nice.

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Speaker 1: Do you think, like when the leaves change, Like October's gorgeous.

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Speaker 4: But November is not bad either.

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Speaker 5: So you guys can go good hiking.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean everything's so spread out, so you'll need

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Speaker 4: to drive no matter what. But there are some good

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Speaker 4: hikes for sure.

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Speaker 3: Nice.

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Speaker 2: I'm definitely gonna have to send us some pictures of

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Speaker 2: this place. Do you manage it yourself?

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Speaker 4: Do you manage it myself? Really not as much work

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Speaker 4: as you think. I have like good people in place

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Speaker 4: to help me with it, like cleaners and stuff.

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Speaker 2: But I've always thought about doing this, but it just

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Speaker 2: seemed like a nightmare that somebody would, you know, break

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Speaker 2: all the dishes and the housekeeper wouldn't show up and

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Speaker 2: they'd get them to be racked. You know, little mice

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Speaker 2: that made made a nest of the bed, you know,

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Speaker 2: just stuff that happens.

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Speaker 4: You just got to be on top of things. But

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Speaker 4: it hasn't been obviously, you have guests here and there

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Speaker 4: that could be a little of a pain book. It

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Speaker 4: hasn't been too bad.

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Speaker 3: That's awesome. We're gonna have to check it out.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I want the family and friends discount.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I love that you kept in touch with everybody from

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Speaker 1: the show and you made good friends that were so

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Speaker 1: blessed to have all experienced that. But what I want

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Speaker 1: to know is do you feel like something inside you

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Speaker 1: has changed the way you think or approach even dating,

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Speaker 5: And will you pay the bill?

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Speaker 3: Do you pay golf? You play golf? Do you golf?

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Speaker 2: So what I want to know you? You said you

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 3: I smart ass?

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Speaker 5: He's a smart ass.

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Speaker 3: Okay, have those of these that are listening. He is available.

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Speaker 3: But you got to put up with that now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I do have a normal job. I work in

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Speaker 2: Oh wait a minute, that's that's why you have no

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Speaker 4: I had the AIRBB before I did this job.

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Speaker 3: But okay, wait a minute.

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Speaker 2: If Susan and I want a little piano terre in

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Speaker 4: I personally cannot make that happen, but I could put

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Speaker 1: You know people, it's always good. It's good to know

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Speaker 1: they're very good.

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Speaker 3: So, Jeremy, we play this little game.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, wait, we have one more question.

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Speaker 3: We do go ahead.

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Speaker 2: Susan, Oh, I'll let the honors here because she's been

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Speaker 5: I can't believe you've forgotten.

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Speaker 1: Would do you if you're asked go on Paradise and

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Speaker 4: Exactly?

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Speaker 3: Not good?

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Speaker 2: if we came, like maybe we'd give some advice on

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Speaker 5: I told you that two months ago, that kind of advice.

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Speaker 3: Would you go on Paradise?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, as far as I know, it's still a long

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Speaker 4: to it. I think it would be. I mean, it'll

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Speaker 5: I don't.

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Speaker 3: I miss them the most. I really did.

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Speaker 2: We always That's funny you say that because Susan and

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Speaker 5: They are great people.

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Speaker 3: They are.

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Speaker 1: Is there any female that you wish or would hope.

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Speaker 4: No, I'm open to meeting anybody.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right, Well, I could tell you we've interviewed

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Speaker 5: So I think it would be hand picked perfection.

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Speaker 1: I just think the experience would be awesome, just like

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Speaker 2: And it wouldn't be it wouldn't be an interview with

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Speaker 3: That's a joke. He was teasing. I was teasing.

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Speaker 5: Was just teasing, not teasing.

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Speaker 4: First off, I need to get asked to be on Paradise.

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 5: All right?

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Speaker 3: We do this thing.

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Speaker 2: We do an advice segment where we answer questions that

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's still if it just happened, it's

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Speaker 3: I would have said something right then and there what's up?

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Speaker 4: I don't know if she would have said anything. It's

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Speaker 2: My mother, Jeremy. My mother in law did not like me.

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Speaker 2: I'm being honest, I'm not I'm not joking because my

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Speaker 3: So, you know, it's a real thing. It happens.

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Speaker 4: I think you touched on an important thing. It's like

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Speaker 3: I didn't. I'm joining the family. I didn't.

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Speaker 2: I tried everything, but it just, you know, some people

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Speaker 3: So what do you think I said that she is

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Speaker 3: I like his advice. What would you tell her.

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Speaker 2: Kat I would tell her she needs to talk to

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Speaker 1: Maybe the mother thought you're really not going to be

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Speaker 1: don't know how he feels, you know, But you were right.

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Speaker 1: I think she should have brought flowers the first time.

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Speaker 1: I hope she did, or a pie or something.

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Speaker 5: If it were just that easy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if my mother in law had liked me, if

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Speaker 4: It's not that easy? But who doesn't like being thought of?

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's flowers? Damn, Jeremy, you're flowers? Are you a flower?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Yeah, I love I love giving gifts.

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Speaker 5: Language of.

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Speaker 3: Language.

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Speaker 4: I forget all of them, but when I've been told them,

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Speaker 4: I think all of them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're definitely like me. I like them all. I can't.

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Speaker 3: But if you have to pick one, I can't. I can't.

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Speaker 1: Words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, acts of service.

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Speaker 4: I think maybe quality time is.

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Speaker 3: One right, Quality time, Yes, it is.

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Speaker 4: I think quality time would be number one if I

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Speaker 3: Nice? Nice? Do you like to give gifts or received gifts?

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Speaker 4: I like to give gifts.

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Speaker 2: Damn that necklace is coming my way.

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Speaker 4: That's that's the fourth time you've said it, so.

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Speaker 5: Yes, make sure you understand.

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Speaker 3: I have a mini one like this.

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Speaker 1: And Kathy goes, why don't you have that necklace on?

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Speaker 1: I have it on today, she's got the paper.

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Speaker 2: Wait wait a minute before we get gone to the

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Speaker 2: next question, Jermy, could you hold up your risk.

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Speaker 5: I see a bracelet on you. I might want to

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I'll take that.

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Speaker 3: Just stay clear. Okay, all right, this is from Laura. Hey,

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Speaker 1: My first ever relationship that lasted for three and a

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Speaker 1: half years, ended a few months ago. I was devastated.

449
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Speaker 1: We broke up because he cheated on me. I feel

450
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Speaker 1: like now I'm finally ready to get back out there.

451
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Speaker 3: What advice do you have for me?

452
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Speaker 1: I only dated one person and we were together for

453
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Speaker 1: a while, so I feel really out of practice. What

454
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Speaker 1: are some green or red flags I can look out for?

455
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Speaker 1: How should I start meeting people? What do you think

456
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Speaker 1: I should have on my dating profile? I'm looking for

457
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Speaker 1: anything and everything.

458
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Speaker 3: Thanks so much. I love you, lady. That's a lot.

459
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Speaker 5: Look at Jeremy.

460
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Speaker 1: Jeremy question mark another question mark? Should we break it down?

461
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Speaker 4: It down?

462
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:15,000
Speaker 3: Let's break it down.

463
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Speaker 1: Let's break it Okay, first of all, he's a jerk,

464
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Speaker 1: he's a cheater.

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Speaker 5: What do you think about that once to cheat a

466
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Speaker 5: row was a cheater?

467
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Speaker 3: What do you think So she's getting ready to get back.

468
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Speaker 3: What advice do you have for me? Uh? Out of practice?

469
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Speaker 5: Like you know, wait right, wait, we asked once to

470
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Speaker 5: cheat Row was a cheater, Jeremy or not.

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Speaker 4: No, I've never cheated. I've never been cheated on. I

472
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Speaker 4: want to say it's hard to change people, but at

473
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Speaker 4: the same time, like you want to be able to

474
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Speaker 4: give someone another chance.

475
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Speaker 3: Yeah, people do regret.

476
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Speaker 4: I personally wouldn't want to be with someone if I've

477
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Speaker 4: known they've cheated, So I might be biting my tongue

478
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Speaker 4: on that.

479
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Speaker 3: But yeah, when she says some green or red flag,

480
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Speaker 3: I can tell you about red flags, Well, what's a

481
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Speaker 3: green flag? Like?

482
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Speaker 2: I think this girl sounds to me like she's been burned,

483
00:23:06,800 --> 00:23:11,760
Speaker 2: and so she's trying to systematically and logically pick a boyfriend,

484
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Speaker 2: which isn't the way.

485
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Speaker 1: It's a feeling. Typically, it's a feeling. There is no rule.

486
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Speaker 2: I mean, if you want a green flag, it sounds like,

487
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Speaker 2: you know, look at his check book, check his teeth,

488
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Speaker 2: you know, does he have a lot of hygiene, you know,

489
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Speaker 2: does he respect his mother? Or his clothes neatly folded

490
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Speaker 2: in the drawer. I mean these are all.

491
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Speaker 3: What better but very important.

492
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Speaker 5: So I don't know what do you think?

493
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Speaker 1: How how should I start meeting How should she start

494
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Speaker 1: meeting people?

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Speaker 4: Well?

496
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Speaker 3: You got to get out there, right, No, go.

497
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Speaker 4: To a bar, join a running club.

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Speaker 1: I don't a club that we say that all the time.

499
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Speaker 1: Doing a group of something that you meet new people.

500
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Speaker 4: Just don't be afraid to talk to someone. I think

501
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,119
Speaker 4: everyone wants a connection with someone. Just don't be afraid

502
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Speaker 4: to talk to someone on the street.

503
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think when you talk about meeting people, it's

504
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Speaker 2: exactly what you just said. She's got to get out

505
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Speaker 2: and you know, if you like to sail, get out

506
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Speaker 2: and join a ceiling club. You want to play tennis,

507
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 2: go join a tennis club, you know, do something where

508
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Speaker 2: you have like minded people.

509
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Speaker 1: But she says, here, what do I think? What do

510
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Speaker 1: we think we should put on her dating profile? I'm

511
00:24:19,760 --> 00:24:24,440
Speaker 1: looking for anything and everything. You need to slow your role.

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Speaker 4: Okay, don't put like a baby picture on your dating profile.

513
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Speaker 4: I remember when girls used to do that. I'm like,

514
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:33,280
Speaker 4: you only have so many pictures?

515
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:38,680
Speaker 1: Why, like and guy look like in thirty years, don't

516
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 1: take selfies in the men's room. Like so many guys

517
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 1: have this romself. What do you think about all those

518
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:50,120
Speaker 1: questions like, well, could you tell her?

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's a lot. Don't don't be I

520
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 4: will say this, don't be looking for anything right, just

521
00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:03,119
Speaker 4: to try to live because you can't. And I know

522
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 4: people who've like like girls who have wanted guys who

523
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,480
Speaker 4: are like, oh, they need to be six four, they

524
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:10,119
Speaker 4: need to be fit, and then they'd end up.

525
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Speaker 3: What's wrong with that, Jeremy, Nothing's.

526
00:25:12,880 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 4: Wrong with that, but like you should be looking for

527
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Speaker 4: something specific. It's more like you will know if you're

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Speaker 4: into them.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I just think she's It sounds to me, Lara,

530
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:27,040
Speaker 2: like you are so worthy that you're going to get

531
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Speaker 2: cheated on that you're trying to write out numbers one

532
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:33,880
Speaker 2: through ten and if they meet these criteria, then it'll

533
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 2: be a good guy. And I think Jeremy's on to something.

534
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:39,879
Speaker 2: You just gotta get out and date and meet people

535
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:42,200
Speaker 2: and live your life and see who comes into it

536
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:43,480
Speaker 2: and the way that you need.

537
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 3: We've all been schooled to write your list if you

538
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,800
Speaker 3: will what you can accept or what you can't accept

539
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,920
Speaker 3: that you need to know about yourself, right, Yeah, like

540
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Speaker 3: that's the red flag green flag thing.

541
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I think the simple answer is what

542
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,120
Speaker 2: Jeremy said, get out there, just get out there.

543
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:06,399
Speaker 4: And yeah, and based off of her million questions, maybe

544
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 4: think a little.

545
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 3: Less slow fill. What's the red flag for you.

546
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 4: If you're not nice? Like I don't know if you're.

547
00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,160
Speaker 2: Not what's the first thing you notice about a woman

548
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 2: when you meet her? What is the very first thing

549
00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 2: you noticed?

550
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:32,719
Speaker 4: Jeremy, eyes, eyes, a smile, Like a smile is the

551
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 4: most attractive thing for me?

552
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, and then Susan stopped smiling.

553
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:38,600
Speaker 3: That's what I do.

554
00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 4: And that was raised around around girls like I noticed nails.

555
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 3: Nails.

556
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Speaker 5: Wow, I don't think I've ever heard a guy say that.

557
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:51,879
Speaker 4: I can't really see it from here, but like I

558
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 4: will know if they are done recently.

559
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

560
00:26:54,480 --> 00:26:55,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.

561
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Speaker 2: Let me ask you, is as I hold up my nails,

562
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Speaker 2: is that because it talks about grooming?

563
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 5: Like I would have thought you would.

564
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,320
Speaker 2: Have said, I like blondes, or I like a taller woman,

565
00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:08,520
Speaker 2: or I like an athletic figure, like iest.

566
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Speaker 5: I've never heard of me on nails.

567
00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: Look me in the eyes, smile. I know.

568
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,880
Speaker 4: I like it, and I think, like if you and

569
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 4: this is not like shitting on girls who don't get

570
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 4: their nails tone, but I think it's like sort of

571
00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:27,960
Speaker 4: you know, ties into maybe like up keeping hygiene.

572
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:30,480
Speaker 3: And that's what yeah, so that they care about.

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00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:32,800
Speaker 2: So do you want a girl? We're you know, we're

574
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,879
Speaker 2: getting your dating profile going here. You just don't know

575
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:36,320
Speaker 2: it yet.

576
00:27:36,680 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 5: Do you like?

577
00:27:37,640 --> 00:27:37,760
Speaker 3: Uh?

578
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 2: Do you like athletic girls or girly girls, blondes, brunettes,

579
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:43,240
Speaker 2: where are you?

580
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:47,520
Speaker 4: I really don't have a type. They could be you know,

581
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 4: tall shore, blonde, brunette, white black.

582
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: Do you have an outgoing like an outgoing personnelity Like I.

583
00:27:54,160 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 4: Was just talking to my buddy about this, I feel

584
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,119
Speaker 4: like I tend to like girls who are more outgoing.

585
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 4: Now I can be outgoing, but I'm also like a

586
00:28:02,800 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 4: quiet person.

587
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 2: I would say, yeah, I never met you before today,

588
00:28:06,600 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 2: and I would you strike me as a guy who

589
00:28:09,040 --> 00:28:13,200
Speaker 2: is sincere but a little bit on the quieter, introspective side.

590
00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:16,440
Speaker 4: Yeah. So I do like a girl who's outgoing because

591
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:18,119
Speaker 4: I feel like that brings it out of me and

592
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 4: I like it being brought out of me.

593
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 3: I like that, How tall are you, Jeremy.

594
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 4: Five to eleven. I haven't reached that. Maybe i'll grow

595
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 4: another inch in the next few years.

596
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:29,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's cool enough. You're you're tall enough. You're fine,

597
00:28:30,480 --> 00:28:31,240
Speaker 2: don't worry about it.

598
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:34,120
Speaker 4: I never I always thought I was a good height

599
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 4: until the second I walked into the Bachelor House and all.

600
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 5: These Wait, that is so funny you said that.

601
00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 2: I was just doing a podcast the other day and

602
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 2: I was, Uh, the of the women that stayed, I

603
00:28:47,960 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 2: was the tallest woman, and I'm like five seven and

604
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 2: a half. I mean there were all these women that

605
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:56,040
Speaker 2: were like five two and five three, A few Susans

606
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 2: like five five. Joan is five seven. She's like half

607
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 2: an inch shorter than I. But I mean, I didn't

608
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 2: feel like I was that tall until I went on

609
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:04,600
Speaker 2: that show.

610
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 4: It's never I never thought about it. It's never been

611
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:09,880
Speaker 4: a problem with My ex girlfriend is taller than me,

612
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 4: so I don't really care about that.

613
00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 3: Taller than five to eleven. Yeah, wow, was she a model?

614
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 3: I was just gonna say she was a model figure.

615
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:19,959
Speaker 4: Not that I know of.

616
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 2: Well wait a minute, I'm sorry you broached this and

617
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:26,440
Speaker 2: we've got all the time in the world here because

618
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 2: my hotel room isn't ready yet.

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Speaker 5: So what happened?

620
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 4: Nothing? Great girl?

621
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Speaker 5: Did you date a long time?

622
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Speaker 4: It was like a year. It was a COVID relationship,

623
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 4: so sort of.

624
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Speaker 1: But you didn't have a problem with her being taller

625
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Speaker 1: than you, and it was she were heels, she'd be

626
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: even more tall, I mean even taller. Yet that didn't

627
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Speaker 1: some men feel insecure about that?

628
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:52,920
Speaker 4: No, No, I found it attractive.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you have said two things that I

630
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:59,080
Speaker 2: really liked were like, I'm gonna I'm gonna hook you

631
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Speaker 2: up with some great girls out of Austin, Texas Southern Bells.

632
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Speaker 5: You've never been to Austin.

633
00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: Oh wow, I lived in Texas for nine years, not

634
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Speaker 1: that when I went to Austin, it's like you're not

635
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Speaker 1: in Texas anymore.

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Speaker 4: Oh. I forgot to mention the speaking of Austin because

637
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Speaker 4: when we were originally supposed to record this podcast, the

638
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Speaker 4: night before I'd met Zach shallcross of you guys and

639
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Speaker 4: sends his regards.

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you.

641
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 2: Katie was at my house. We were watching uh TV.

642
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 2: She came over to watch something with me. The other

643
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Speaker 2: night and I love those two. Uh they that has

644
00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 2: been a joy for me to get to know them.

645
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 2: They're lovely people.

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Speaker 4: And that's Zach is a great guy.

647
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Speaker 3: Yeah he is.

648
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Speaker 2: And let me tell you something, Katie is the real deal.

649
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Speaker 2: I mean he he got a gem with her.

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Speaker 1: Well, I hate to do this to us, but we

651
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Speaker 1: got to wrap it up for this episode. I want

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Speaker 1: to thank you for sharing with us, for giving some advice,

653
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Speaker 1: for opening up and letting us question you to that.

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Speaker 4: I don't think it was a lot of fun.

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Speaker 2: I really, I really hope if we get to go

656
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Speaker 2: to Paradise and you get to go to Paradise, that

657
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Speaker 2: we get to chat again and really, you are a

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Speaker 2: joy to have.

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Speaker 3: I'll be down there, bend in your ear.

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Speaker 5: I'll be the bartender I'm.

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Speaker 3: Going to be. I'm going to mix drinks.

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Speaker 4: If you guys are in New York, we can grab

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Speaker 4: a drink here.

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Speaker 3: I would love that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, if you if you liked this interview, if you

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Speaker 2: want to hear more, if you have questions, we'll ads

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Speaker 1: and we've had some really good ones, so don't be shy.

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Speaker 2: I hit the button and if you want to date

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Speaker 2: with with Jeremy here, reach out on that.

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Speaker 3: We'll hook you up now and we can rent his hair.

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Speaker 2: Unfortunately, he'll have no jewelry anymore, but he's still a

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Speaker 2: handsome good Lookica.

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Speaker 1: Listen to Bachelor app for Hours, Golden Hour and the

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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio app, or wherever you listen to your podcasts.

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Speaker 5: Everybody, have a great week and happy holidays.