1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,160 Speaker 1: All right, junior, take it away. All right, ladies and gentlemen, 2 00:00:02,200 --> 00:00:04,240 Speaker 1: here we go. Is time for the strawberry letto with 3 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:07,640 Speaker 1: my good friend Shirley stroke Berry. All right, here we go. 4 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: Subject he dropped a bomb on me, Dear Stephen Shirley. 5 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: For the past five years, I've been dating a man 6 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:16,919 Speaker 1: that is nine years older than me, and I really 7 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: love our relationship and how well he treats me. I 8 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:22,960 Speaker 1: recently started living with him and I have a problem 9 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:26,439 Speaker 1: that I need your help with. My boyfriend loves to 10 00:00:26,520 --> 00:00:30,319 Speaker 1: get a big bowl of ice cream most evenings as 11 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:33,720 Speaker 1: a treat after dinner. I try not to be overbearing 12 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 1: because he could be drinking alcohol or have another bad habit, 13 00:00:37,360 --> 00:00:41,839 Speaker 1: but his ice cream addiction is killing me slowly. You see, 14 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:47,320 Speaker 1: my boyfriend is lactose intolerant. Therefore I cannot sleep peacefully 15 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:50,479 Speaker 1: in the bed with him at night. He drops major 16 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: stink bombs all over the house at night. He tries 17 00:00:53,960 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: to be considerate and get them all out before bedtime, 18 00:00:56,880 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 1: but there's always more. Guess when he lies down next 19 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: to me. Good Lord, I have a keen sense of 20 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 1: smell and I try not to embarrass him, but he 21 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,040 Speaker 1: has got to be about. He's got to be about 22 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:11,600 Speaker 1: to pass out from the awful smell too. If he 23 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: lets the gas go into another room, you can literally 24 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,360 Speaker 1: smell it throughout the house. I have asked him if 25 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:19,319 Speaker 1: he could eat ice cream in the middle of the day, 26 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 1: or if he could eat it just a couple of 27 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: times a week instead of every night. I even threw 28 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 1: his ice cream away and he went and bought more. 29 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,680 Speaker 1: I have moved to the guest room as a final 30 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: attempt to get him to see how it's affecting me. 31 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:37,440 Speaker 1: He seems to not care. I honestly don't want to 32 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:39,880 Speaker 1: keep making it an issue. I don't want to lose 33 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:43,640 Speaker 1: a good man over a gassy situation. Shouldn't he want 34 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: to compromise, please help? Well, absolutely, he should want to compromise, 35 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: But in this situation, it doesn't look like he is 36 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 1: wanting to compromise. And you're saying he's a good man, 37 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:55,960 Speaker 1: you don't want to lose him over a gassy situation. 38 00:01:56,280 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: Completely understandable, completely, but this is an easy fix to me. 39 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:03,560 Speaker 1: This is an easy fix. All you have to do 40 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 1: is get him some lactose free ice cream. They sell 41 00:02:06,680 --> 00:02:10,079 Speaker 1: it at your local supermarket, your local grocery stores, all 42 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: of that. I mean, you know you might have to 43 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: sneak it in on him though you know at first, 44 00:02:18,040 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: because here's the deal. Just switch it out. Switch it out, 45 00:02:22,200 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 1: don't say anything, don't warn him, don't give him prior knowledge, 46 00:02:25,840 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: none of that. Switch out the regular lactose ice cream 47 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: for the lactose free ice cream. Don't tell him, you know, 48 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 1: so he won't fix his mind not to like it 49 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 1: before he even tastes it, because that can happen a 50 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:42,640 Speaker 1: lot of times. Try different stores, different flavors, all of that. Okay, 51 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:46,079 Speaker 1: see which one he likes better. I'm excited. I'm excited 52 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,240 Speaker 1: about this. I think this can work out for you guys' relationship. 53 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 1: And definitely he should want to compromise. Okay, if he 54 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:55,960 Speaker 1: gives you any problem, which he might. Now, if he's 55 00:02:56,000 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 1: stuck to his ice cream like you say he is, 56 00:03:00,480 --> 00:03:02,760 Speaker 1: I don't know what you're gonna do then, I don't know, 57 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:08,000 Speaker 1: get him some dairy free ice cream, okay, Steve, Well 58 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:13,400 Speaker 1: that's nice, thank you, sir. Students started living with this 59 00:03:13,520 --> 00:03:16,960 Speaker 1: dude that's nine years older than me, you know, and 60 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 1: got this big problem. Every night he has a big 61 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: bowl of ice cream, every evening as a treat after 62 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: dinner and not to be overbearing because he could be 63 00:03:27,120 --> 00:03:31,079 Speaker 1: drinking alcohol. Now, I used to eat ice cream every 64 00:03:31,200 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: night when I lived in New York because I was miserable, right, 65 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: ice cream and a peanut butter sandwich every single night. 66 00:03:37,960 --> 00:03:42,640 Speaker 1: And big yeah that swove. So now I know big boy, 67 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna say big boy, because if you eat 68 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: ice cream every night and then lay your ass down, 69 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: you spreading homie. Yeah yeah, if you're just laying down 70 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: and then you when you lack toast and your body 71 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:58,320 Speaker 1: starts won't sit out, so that sport's happening. You you're 72 00:03:58,360 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: dealing with the body excreting, trying to get rid of 73 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: rid itself of the toxic dairy product that is milk. 74 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: So now he lackedos in taler uh. He dropping bombs 75 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: major all through the night. You know, you know he 76 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: tried to be considered and get him all out full bed. 77 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:33,279 Speaker 1: Tell how he'd do that. But there's always more gas 78 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: when he lay down next to me, because the big 79 00:04:35,200 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: ass can't get it all out because it ain't all 80 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:40,160 Speaker 1: in the system right away. It gets in the stomach 81 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:43,360 Speaker 1: and it starts turning in all this hill, and I 82 00:04:43,400 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: got a keen sense of smell. You ain't gotta have 83 00:04:45,560 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: a keen sense of smell to smell that. You ain't 84 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 1: gotta have a good smell at all when it's somebody else. 85 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:54,839 Speaker 1: And then you'll be thinking about yeah, and then you 86 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 1: think you know he but he ought to pass out 87 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: because he ought to be Now, let me tell you something. 88 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:06,320 Speaker 1: Most people that stak don't know the stain. They have 89 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: no clue. They they it's regular, it's normal. It's normal 90 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 1: to them. Funky people don't know they funky. That's why 91 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:21,520 Speaker 1: they funky. Okay, so now you see them there. Now 92 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 1: listen to me. Now you're gonna have to buy lactose 93 00:05:25,080 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 1: in tolerted ice cream. But now surely say switch it out. 94 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:31,400 Speaker 1: But you've got to be slicker in that, because what 95 00:05:31,560 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: he can't see it that black and white cow that 96 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 1: ice cream. Yeah that's mind right, Yeah you can't see that, 97 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 1: but he already know that. Mean. Oh, what you got 98 00:05:43,200 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: to do is you got to take the ice cream 99 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,680 Speaker 1: out the carton and put the lactose ice cream in 100 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:54,680 Speaker 1: the car. It ain't switched to ice cream. You got 101 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 1: to change cartons. You cannot let him see that blue 102 00:05:59,640 --> 00:06:02,919 Speaker 1: and white label with that damn cow on that. You 103 00:06:02,920 --> 00:06:05,599 Speaker 1: got to throw that away. You're right, you got to 104 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:09,520 Speaker 1: put it in the car and get get a good 105 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: flavor too. That the hell you can disguise chunking monkey 106 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: better than vanilla is obvious. Yeah, yeah, all right, hang on, Steve, 107 00:06:17,520 --> 00:06:20,040 Speaker 1: I know you, I know you do. Come on, let's 108 00:06:20,080 --> 00:06:24,159 Speaker 1: recap the strawberry letters subject. He dropped a bomb on me. Baby. 109 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 1: She married to this dude is nine years older than him. Man, 110 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:30,279 Speaker 1: he eats ice cream every day as a treat after dinner, 111 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,719 Speaker 1: a big bowl of ice cream and then he go 112 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 1: to bed. But he Lackedosa intolerant. So this boy dropping 113 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,480 Speaker 1: bombs on this woman and she can't take no more 114 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 1: and they see what I want you to understand about 115 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: these bombs that he come on is he's nine years older. 116 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 1: So what does that mean that there's some stuff in 117 00:06:47,200 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: his sister that's had nine years It didn't fust See 118 00:06:51,240 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 1: when you Lacktosa intolerant, ain't just the ice cream you ate. 119 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:57,760 Speaker 1: It's the stuff that's caught up in your line. All 120 00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 1: that's coming up. That's a bacteria. It's when you lactose intolerant. 121 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:05,880 Speaker 1: Your system is saying to you that, to me, dairy 122 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: is toxic. Yeah, because you shouldn't be drinking the milk 123 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: from another animal anyway, we really aren't. It was meant 124 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:17,920 Speaker 1: for the animal, not for us, you know. So technically 125 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: they are correct. But when you lactose intolerant and then 126 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: your body can't it wants to throw it out as toxic, 127 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: but you insist on eating it now. And also let 128 00:07:26,360 --> 00:07:30,080 Speaker 1: me explain something, tea. It's a little pain coming lactose. Oh, 129 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,960 Speaker 1: it ain't free, It ain't just gas. Oh, it's cutting. 130 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: It's cutting. What part of the stomach is that that's 131 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:45,640 Speaker 1: under the coling that's in your Bowers coling is different 132 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:49,120 Speaker 1: from Bowers. This is after then going to the cold 133 00:07:49,200 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: and it's a little storage area right there. Ride for 134 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 1: storage area. Yeah, yeah, you got the colon and then 135 00:07:57,400 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: you got the storage area where it has for minted 136 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,360 Speaker 1: and turned into something that's gonna land and retard it. 137 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 1: That storage area is white. That laptosa what's coming out 138 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:13,440 Speaker 1: as the storage the storage compartment is rebuking the ice cream. 139 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: I think Jesus got rebuke color in the name, and 140 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 1: so boy and I know he got some weight on 141 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 1: him because he did this every night. The fat answers 142 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 1: in there, just funking up the house. Now what you 143 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:33,679 Speaker 1: then did was you asked him if he could eat 144 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: the ice cream in the middle of the day or 145 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: he could just break it down and drag a couple 146 00:08:38,320 --> 00:08:40,439 Speaker 1: of times a week. He ain't trying to hit that. 147 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: She even threw the ice cream away and he went 148 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:49,679 Speaker 1: and bought mole. Wow. So now what she said she 149 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: did was she then moved to the guest room as 150 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 1: a final attempt to get him to see how it's 151 00:08:56,040 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 1: affected me. And he seems to not care. He loves that. 152 00:09:01,040 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: Let me help him. He don't just love ice cream, 153 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:10,959 Speaker 1: He loves ice cream mold, he love you. I mean, 154 00:09:11,080 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 1: ice cream is delicious. It ain't better than sex, but 155 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:23,720 Speaker 1: and I've had some bad sex. But Steve, don't you 156 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 1: think she may have left this out? Don't you think 157 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: they know about Lacto's free ice cream? Who doesn't know 158 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 1: about that? To him about Yeah, he doesn't want you 159 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:35,640 Speaker 1: don't like the flavor. So now what I think is 160 00:09:35,679 --> 00:09:37,760 Speaker 1: you ought to get not see, here's what you're going 161 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: just an ultimato. Okay, mold ice cream, no sex. You 162 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: got to tie to something, So Now what we gotta 163 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: do is we gotta start thinking of alternative alternatives. Sobeit, yeah, 164 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:03,319 Speaker 1: how about cake, that's just try some How about cobbler? 165 00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:06,000 Speaker 1: Most black people are trade in a bowl ice cream 166 00:10:06,080 --> 00:10:09,720 Speaker 1: for a big old hunker cobbler, peach cobbler. Most people 167 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:13,680 Speaker 1: would do cobbler. You just eat this peach ice cream 168 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: care your fat can eat. But see you lacked toasts intolerant. 169 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: Now what you're gonna have to do is, man, this 170 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,560 Speaker 1: is messed up. But you got to get him to 171 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: break this habit. You got to put something on this 172 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:33,680 Speaker 1: ice cream, like I'm about to say so the next 173 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: time when he tried to just get rid of it 174 00:10:35,400 --> 00:10:38,760 Speaker 1: before he come to bed, he try to get rid 175 00:10:38,800 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: of it and gold. See once you start doing that 176 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 1: on yourself, once you sugar, yeah, your ass stops. You're 177 00:11:08,040 --> 00:11:10,599 Speaker 1: shitting up in the here and messed up your good pagamas, 178 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:16,199 Speaker 1: the ones you got for Christmas. Now you old fiber. Yeah, 179 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:18,360 Speaker 1: but she says he's such a good man. Though he 180 00:11:18,520 --> 00:11:21,559 Speaker 1: is a good man. But but but he lactose intolerance. 181 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: He's got to get rid of it. So, sister, you 182 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 1: got two options, more ice cream, no sex. We got 183 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 1: to introduce something else to it. I don't know the 184 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:35,199 Speaker 1: difference between ice cream and gelato. Okay, well we gotta try. 185 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: So we got to trick his dairy free soy ice 186 00:11:38,600 --> 00:11:42,079 Speaker 1: cream something. Don't eat soy ice cream. Black man shouldn't 187 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 1: eat soy. It raises your estrogen levels. Oh black men, 188 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 1: African American men should not go at no, this is 189 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 1: for real. You should not be eating soy products African 190 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:59,720 Speaker 1: American men. Converts soy into estrogen. Estrogen reduces your libeto estro. 191 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 1: There's a lot of things make you fatigue everything, So 192 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:06,480 Speaker 1: you can't do that. Don't do that. Okay. You can 193 00:12:06,520 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter and Steve Harvey 194 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:12,439 Speaker 1: FM or Instagram and Facebook, and please don't forget to 195 00:12:12,520 --> 00:12:15,679 Speaker 1: check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. 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