Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say
Speaker 1: decisions Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kurson.
Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.
Speaker 2: Oh wait, you want to say together the Decisions Decisions.
Speaker 3: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Decision Decision.
Speaker 1: I'm your girl.
Speaker 3: Mandy b aka Peg the Sign aka Pegan Marcle aka
Speaker 3: Peggy Bundy aka de Bitch.
Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, I'm easy. Welcome back.
Speaker 2: We have some guests in the building, and every time
Speaker 2: I want to say BTL, I want to say GTL
Speaker 2: like Jersey Shore.
Speaker 4: Oh Jcam laundry.
Speaker 1: But let me try to do a very good intro.
Speaker 1: I love a good intro.
Speaker 2: Winter and Shy the social media influencers who are two
Speaker 2: women bringing unique perspectives in life on it hilarious little
Speaker 2: personality that just make you laugh out loud on their show,
Speaker 2: social media has been a part of their lives for
Speaker 2: as long as they can remember.
Speaker 1: Their IG hosts, oh, that's not in there, and may
Speaker 1: understand that it's a platform over like so.
Speaker 2: Winter believes in pushing the boundaries and living life to
Speaker 2: the fullest, while Shy is all about inspiring and empowering
Speaker 2: women to reach their goes and you're not.
Speaker 1: I am the way. This was not y'all, she cheated.
Speaker 1: This was intro website. I actually can't so anyway.
Speaker 2: Together, they take you on a journey that explores the
Speaker 2: complex world of social media.
Speaker 1: But I'll tell you what I think they show it.
Speaker 1: I think it is such a cute show before.
Speaker 2: If you've never heard of their show, I know a
Speaker 2: lot of our listeners I got to go on their
Speaker 2: show haven't.
Speaker 1: Crossed paths yet.
Speaker 2: I would describe your show as like friendship and current
Speaker 2: events and very very authentic.
Speaker 1: I love the show. I've had episodes about almost breaking
Speaker 1: up and.
Speaker 2: Then getting back together and crying, and like, to me,
Speaker 2: that just feels like very real and raw podcasting.
Speaker 1: So introducing y'all to Shy Winter, that was a great intro.
Speaker 1: I love it. I should have interrupted y'all saying I
Speaker 1: can't write off that way.
Speaker 5: Hold up, because look, I'm no better because I'd.
Speaker 1: Be using Chatgypt for my intro. I call mine. Look glorious.
Speaker 1: She knows she gets Gloria Patricia Tabernacle, That's what I
Speaker 1: call her. I say, I gotta ask Gloria some questions
Speaker 1: I don't have that.
Speaker 2: I'm old school me too.
Speaker 1: No, I've seen that.
Speaker 5: When you said something about chat GYBT on your story,
Speaker 5: I said, bit not too much, not to not too much.
Speaker 1: I said, you're not gonna be talking about for exactly.
Speaker 2: Because people been writing like really like even passive aggressive emails.
Speaker 1: You might try to cuss me out with tack. Oh
Speaker 1: I am that, I say. Furthermore, I'd be like, let
Speaker 1: me handle it, chat handle it. Yeah right.
Speaker 2: I've had emails from PR teams agents all this ship
Speaker 2: that's chat GBT, and I'm like, oh, y'all, bish is
Speaker 2: really paying for someone else to write it?
Speaker 1: H know?
Speaker 2: Anyway, So today I really wanted to do an episode
Speaker 2: all about breakups and makeups because if you guys don't
Speaker 2: listening behind the lives, Shi has been really open about
Speaker 2: a breakup me, and he's been open about her breakup.
Speaker 2: I've been open and like and well, I know, I
Speaker 2: know you ain't going through one one right now.
Speaker 3: So we got but we've all probably what's pverities niggas
Speaker 3: I do, I'll be crying, shouldn't, Oh they don't know,
Speaker 3: but I do?
Speaker 1: So ok kidding? You cry publicly, you cry in your.
Speaker 3: Big I mean I cried my friends, I guess okay, yeah,
Speaker 3: tell us your sign so the people can know.
Speaker 5: So I am an Aquarius and I am not. I
Speaker 5: am not emotional at all. But this relationship has gotten good.
Speaker 5: I've been going through the motions.
Speaker 1: I've been what's the fourth saying of a grief again? Yeah,
Speaker 1: now now I'm today.
Speaker 5: I don't give a fuck to talk about right now.
Speaker 5: But I really am not a crier at all. Like
Speaker 5: we we talk all the time about our difference of
Speaker 5: emotions because we are so polar opposite when it comes
Speaker 5: to it. But y'all, I had this podcast I recently
Speaker 5: went on, and I was like, I was in the
Speaker 5: middle of crying again. I was like, I probably shouldn't
Speaker 5: agree to do it. Literally, I was like, I am
Speaker 5: really cried like four different times.
Speaker 2: Believe it'll be out by this time. So like, yeah, Shan,
Speaker 2: my god, but Shannon will get you there.
Speaker 5: Shanon will get you there, and she'll just stare at
Speaker 5: you with this not even like with this, with this love,
Speaker 5: and her green eyes are just piercing into you, and.
Speaker 6: I'm just like, you gotta and and I was literally crying.
Speaker 1: I was like, do I still nice? No?
Speaker 7: Yeah, I am a tourist. I definitely am really, really
Speaker 7: an emotional person. But it's just so funny because when
Speaker 7: people first like meet us, they would assume she's like
Speaker 7: the softer one, the more emotional one.
Speaker 4: But definitely I am more emotional than she is, like
Speaker 4: by far.
Speaker 1: So it's crazy because I don't think I knew what
Speaker 1: to expect.
Speaker 3: And I know, you you funny, you fun I met her.
Speaker 3: She was like squatting in the bathroom, dancing and she
Speaker 3: bro When I first in mind you like, I didn't
Speaker 3: know she was from b She was popping her pussy
Speaker 3: above the toilet and you have to tell her to
Speaker 3: get there. She was clu I'm in the soul And
Speaker 3: I was like, well, you weren't crowing that night? I
Speaker 3: did every single morning and every single night.
Speaker 1: Oh well, yeah I was not exact that. I wasn't.
Speaker 7: I mean, you know, warned people, not like in a
Speaker 7: bad way, but I'd be like, she's a partier, like
Speaker 7: she wants to have a good time.
Speaker 4: She dances on the bartops and the tables and all that.
Speaker 4: So I didn't know that. People didn't know.
Speaker 1: You a little loose one, I know, but.
Speaker 5: People, it's so different sometimes they it's like it does
Speaker 5: it's not even that bad. But when when we're together,
Speaker 5: it'd be like, I'm so extreme to herself, but you
Speaker 5: can't get there.
Speaker 7: No, I get I can get there, but people don't
Speaker 7: expect that I'm as introverted as I am when I'm outside,
Speaker 7: Like you know, they don't really realize.
Speaker 1: I also realize.
Speaker 3: I'll tell you what five, five, eleven say. I was
Speaker 3: about to say six eight, you had the flets on.
Speaker 1: I looked down.
Speaker 3: I said, bits on, this is a sell.
Speaker 2: Outside, Like y'all, I'll actually give the most you give
Speaker 2: tall look like you ain't gonna be the one who
Speaker 2: cause you know what I mean. If we've seen Winter online,
Speaker 2: we don't think she gonna meet the one turn it up.
Speaker 1: So I like it.
Speaker 3: It gives a little opposite and said, yeah, we say
Speaker 3: that a lot like when people meet us in person.
Speaker 3: They're they're surprised at like the polar opposite of what
Speaker 3: they thought.
Speaker 2: Was I just recently maybe I said it to Jacob.
Speaker 2: I can't remember, but I said recently that I met
Speaker 2: someone who said, oh, when's the next time you're on tour?
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, Like it gave me this
Speaker 1: big wave of and you guys just got off tour.
Speaker 2: Vinnie was there shout out to that. He said, y'all
Speaker 2: show was great, and so we you know, we like
Speaker 2: we're having this conversation. And this guy out said I
Speaker 2: was at a un No party and he said, why
Speaker 2: is it that tour is giving you anxiety? What are
Speaker 2: your fans like? And I was like, wow, that's interesting
Speaker 2: you said that, because that's probably the thing that's exhausting.
Speaker 2: My fans is turned the fuck up. My fans is
Speaker 2: turned up. If I'm not turned up, they're asking me
Speaker 2: why I'm not turned up. I felt pressure to be more.
Speaker 2: It's hurted because what they're receiving on the podcast is
Speaker 2: high energy meeting exactly.
Speaker 1: They got that high and that.
Speaker 7: Is what it is for me too, Like I'll just
Speaker 7: feel so overstimulated with the amount of people we have
Speaker 7: to meet and talk to, and just like I'm just
Speaker 7: not how she is. She's a social butterfly. It's easy
Speaker 7: for her to come to National Hearth. For me, it
Speaker 7: takes a lot of effort for me to like push
Speaker 7: myself out there and talk to a bunch of people
Speaker 7: and be nice to a bunch of people and giggle
Speaker 7: with a bunch of people, So like, that's sad.
Speaker 3: When I say draining, it's funny that you just use
Speaker 3: the word. I've been talking to a guy. It's so
Speaker 3: weird because we fucked years ago, and he like, just
Speaker 3: be on my phone ow because we live in the
Speaker 3: same city, and I'm just not interested. And I feel
Speaker 3: like I'm not interested because I can't remember the dick.
Speaker 3: So it's like I don't even want to go back
Speaker 3: to it because I don't remember it. It means it
Speaker 3: wasn't me memor it wasn't memorable, So let's just be friends.
Speaker 3: And literally every time he hit me to hang out,
Speaker 3: I'm like, I'm recharging because I'm overstimulated.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize how often I use the word over stimulated.
Speaker 1: But it's that.
Speaker 3: Between work, between traveling, between constantly having to be performative, essentially, like,
Speaker 3: you know, they don't care about what we're going through
Speaker 3: in life. You're going through a breakup, whether someone died
Speaker 3: in your family, whether you're dealing with like heartache. When
Speaker 3: you see people you hug hey, be nice, you have to,
Speaker 3: you know, And so I literally am like WHOA. Every
Speaker 3: week I have to do like two to three days
Speaker 3: of like yeah, and so.
Speaker 1: You know, and then I go so hard not remembering
Speaker 1: how I got home because then when I go out
Speaker 1: a bit bro that's that's us. I will say.
Speaker 5: I don't think she gives herself enough credit when it
Speaker 5: comes to that, because we are We do take our time.
Speaker 5: But like in that moment, you are so loving and
Speaker 5: so you give them your alle We give them all
Speaker 5: our all. But you'll see moments on like the Patreon
Speaker 5: because we'll try to film behind the scenes. There'll be
Speaker 5: a moment like after the show where we just.
Speaker 3: Like like living just exactly, but they won't pick that up.
Speaker 1: Though they won't take it up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not even like you're really faking it.
Speaker 1: And so you can and our fan what do be anesome? Right?
Speaker 2: But our literally and it doesn't even matter if you
Speaker 2: meet somebody, think about being that famous walk out of
Speaker 2: the venue. People are looking like iccurity guard, the driver
Speaker 2: you have, you go to a restaurant, everybody is freaking.
Speaker 3: Out about you, and so whatever we feel for them
Speaker 3: thirty minutes, that ain't nothing.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I gotta do no more.
Speaker 3: Though.
Speaker 2: Now I have a game for y'all. This is called poetry.
Speaker 2: It's our poetry. But it's a song that y'all know,
Speaker 2: and it's gonna be read as a poem. Okay, okay,
Speaker 2: so you're gonna have to try to see who we
Speaker 2: gets this person. I'll definitely a song.
Speaker 1: Guess the song. Okay, but I wish we had a buzzard. Okay.
Speaker 1: Just want to get your attention. Really want to be
Speaker 1: oh neo, no no, Really want to gets your attention.
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly, No, wait, I.
Speaker 2: Really want go sure, but you sung the songs, you know,
Speaker 2: I ma, that's only if you ain't scared. You still
Speaker 2: didn't need to name a song, and I will get
Speaker 2: your attention. Really want to get to things.
Speaker 1: I don't ring the bells. I know this, I know,
Speaker 1: I know you, oh so well, I know this.
Speaker 3: Daddy daddy so he got it like three.
Speaker 1: Words in bitch got you know, but I knew, but
Speaker 1: I know now. I do want to going from there.
Speaker 3: We did y'all podcast Behind the Likes, by the way,
Speaker 3: love that it's in the mirk. Yeah, y'all had us
Speaker 3: draw things from a hat. Yes, and so apparently ours was.
Speaker 3: I can't wait to see how real crazy these were.
Speaker 7: Their original quote should be just for them. So now,
Speaker 7: but we didn't read these, y'all. We got left with them.
Speaker 7: So we're gonna do y'all got left with.
Speaker 1: This, so you draw I don't know exactly the one printed.
Speaker 1: Look there we go. H this is a horrible one.
Speaker 1: Oh no, I said, what's the worst advice you've ever given?
Speaker 1: On the mic?
Speaker 5: They give us ship for our advice section. So what
Speaker 5: you say, Okay, this is horrible. Please y'all do not
Speaker 5: judge this one time?
Speaker 1: We should? I tell just we actually, y'all know this
Speaker 1: is so good. I want all of us answer yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I like this.
Speaker 5: So there was one time where you're gonna say where
Speaker 5: we said something wasn't really sexual assault and it.
Speaker 1: Was oh no, wait, okay, what was it? But here's
Speaker 1: the here's the was it? I'm learning I haven't.
Speaker 5: Remember, no, And now we we really are, you know,
Speaker 5: live and learn, Live and learn.
Speaker 1: We live and learn.
Speaker 5: Honestly, we made we made a bad case of judgment.
Speaker 1: But I'll tell you the advice. I don't.
Speaker 4: I kind of stand by it a little.
Speaker 1: No, I don't really stand by because there's different there's
Speaker 1: different versions of sexual assault, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: And you can't define what some might's versions. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: where we will say we are we fall that. Okay,
Speaker 1: So what was the scenario.
Speaker 5: The scenario was basically this this girl. She had a
Speaker 5: guy best friend and you know, they would a lot.
Speaker 1: It was lurt a lot, and she let them sleep
Speaker 1: in the bed like they slept in the bed.
Speaker 5: Together, that made out. But she said, all right, we're
Speaker 5: going to sleep. Do not do not touch me anymore.
Speaker 5: Do not do anything with me, like you know, we
Speaker 5: have a pillow.
Speaker 1: She said that she didn't take pill up between us.
Speaker 1: Didn't say but all of that though, but she she
Speaker 1: didn't do all that. She just was like she's.
Speaker 3: Were So she said she woke up and he's twitter
Speaker 3: pissy and we were both like I like a little
Speaker 3: finger in.
Speaker 1: The pussy, you know, yeah.
Speaker 7: Okay, no, okay, here's here's my thing. Here's my thing.
Speaker 7: If I woke up and I'm like had made out
Speaker 7: with a nigga. We was cuddling in the bed. I
Speaker 7: woke up and he's trying to touch my pussy. I'm
Speaker 7: gonna just be like stop. And then after he don't stop,
Speaker 7: and be like do you not hear me say it?
Speaker 1: Stop?
Speaker 4: But it's like if it just happened. I'm not about
Speaker 4: to be like you said this.
Speaker 3: So the first time he did it was the assault
Speaker 3: because you said.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we don't want to fuck you. Yeah, a part
Speaker 1: of sex, just like oral sex. Why did you ever
Speaker 1: tell am not? I think he just was like touching
Speaker 1: her koochie.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but it don't matter you touch my cookie,
Speaker 3: bro regardless sexual assault and I never brought this, I
Speaker 3: have it.
Speaker 2: I actually think we cut it out because we started
Speaker 2: arguing about it, so we had a question come in.
Speaker 2: They were like, oh, my boyfriend always wants to have
Speaker 2: sex and I don't.
Speaker 1: How do I get out of this rut?
Speaker 2: And I was like, just literally get in the move
Speaker 2: or get break up, like have sex and take yourself there.
Speaker 1: So that Amandy was like, no, like you're forcing someone
Speaker 1: to fucking them.
Speaker 2: And so in what I'm saying is like, you know
Speaker 2: when you don't want to go out the house, then
Speaker 2: you do, and you're like that's all I'm saying, Yeah,
Speaker 2: he's already your man, you already live with him. Like
Speaker 2: to me, sometimes when I'm saying just do it, go
Speaker 2: through the motion, is because it's actually easier to get
Speaker 2: stuck not fucking than it is to just take the leap.
Speaker 2: So many times we're just be like, we're gonna do tonight,
Speaker 2: We're gonna do tonight, and then we don't know, actually
Speaker 2: make them measureie, put the music on, feel being that
Speaker 2: energy again, because a lot of times couples kind of
Speaker 2: like weck with that same T shirt all like.
Speaker 1: What, I'm not fucking you don't like that you're in
Speaker 1: a run.
Speaker 5: I'm not you know what I'm saying, even when you
Speaker 5: don't want to For the most part, I haven't not
Speaker 5: wanted to fuck, Okay, you know, Okay.
Speaker 1: If I don't want to have I'm not having it.
Speaker 5: I'm not I'm not fucking if. I really am just
Speaker 5: being like petty about it. But I always if I'm
Speaker 5: in a relationship and I love you and I love
Speaker 5: our sex, I'm always gonna want to fuck.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I'm not mad at that.
Speaker 7: Yeah, Sometimes I'm just like not into it sometimes like
Speaker 7: if we had sex the night before my Coochie store.
Speaker 2: Or if I'm just tired and examples night before, but yeah,
Speaker 2: yeah I didn't want What is the worst advice you've
Speaker 2: ever given one to?
Speaker 4: No, that was the I just got it.
Speaker 3: I actually just gave the worst advice and I felt
Speaker 3: kind of bad. I even was like, sorry, this is
Speaker 3: the worst advice I think I've given an all nine years.
Speaker 3: It happened on Patreon and we had a guy, uh
Speaker 3: the guy. A guy had a question where he assumed
Speaker 3: like his stepbrother or someone that wasn't related to him
Speaker 3: was kind of attracted to him by how he was acting.
Speaker 3: And I pretty much told him to like gay bait
Speaker 3: him and see if she would like.
Speaker 1: I said, take him to the.
Speaker 3: Gym, maybe spot him and set your dick on his
Speaker 3: forehead and see if.
Speaker 1: Like I gave the worst.
Speaker 3: Then I was like, ooh, so all the porn I watched,
Speaker 3: like you know, they be playing video games and like
Speaker 3: they make a pet for a little hand job.
Speaker 1: And I said, just see how he reacts.
Speaker 2: And it was me like trying to put him in
Speaker 2: all these gay want to be gay with him.
Speaker 1: He wanted to, but he was trying to see he's gay.
Speaker 3: He felt like he was getting this energy from someone.
Speaker 1: Who identifies as straight.
Speaker 3: And I was like, broaig straight all the time, but
Speaker 3: if he's giving you those signals, he just may not
Speaker 3: be comfortable.
Speaker 1: Bad that I don't think one. And you know what
Speaker 1: me saying what you did on sports, that's crazy, that's
Speaker 1: that's just but you know what's crazy before.
Speaker 5: I love a good gay porn. I don't watch you off,
Speaker 5: but I love a good gay porno intro and.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, just put it on. Say you react,
Speaker 1: what's the intro that you like? Like, I've never suck
Speaker 1: dick before? Yes you have. I don't get you, Yes
Speaker 1: you have, Johnny. I don't like intro support at all.
Speaker 4: I just skipped to what I need to get to
Speaker 4: and I keep it.
Speaker 1: Putting a story part of porn. Do you like favorite
Speaker 1: part of the cup? Do you like the I.
Speaker 7: Would say the ending, I would say like the cum.
Speaker 1: Shot, the middle, all the same.
Speaker 5: No, I love a good storyline and applot. I love
Speaker 5: on the on the van and they start talking about
Speaker 5: ship and then he's not he never act none of
Speaker 5: them having his homeboy penis and be like, yeah, we've
Speaker 5: just been roommates.
Speaker 1: Yeah y'all have been.
Speaker 3: When they pick up a guy and I guess he's
Speaker 3: struggling financially and he's like, I'll.
Speaker 1: Get I could get you. I should go.
Speaker 4: I to like, that's the born you know I like
Speaker 4: that too, though.
Speaker 1: I like that.
Speaker 8: Okay, question you have a question, compliment your co This
Speaker 8: is a little much, Oh y'all are to do this?
Speaker 1: Okay, because yeah, I actually like this is like sexy
Speaker 1: way like, okay, okay.
Speaker 7: What's the pettiest thing you've ever done after a breakup?
Speaker 1: Hear it? I got ya? Okay? Well yeah, I mean
Speaker 1: I was talking. I was talking.
Speaker 7: I was like dating this guy and like it was getting,
Speaker 7: you know, pretty seriously to the point we're like about
Speaker 7: to really be in a relationship. And basically he was
Speaker 7: in Florida for work stuff and I was in l
Speaker 7: A and then should up and then and then he
Speaker 7: had flown me, you know, obviously to him. And you know,
Speaker 7: I'm chilling in the house and I am starting to
Speaker 7: notice some odd things around the house, Like I notice
Speaker 7: a little bit of something that could be makeup on
Speaker 7: the bed.
Speaker 1: So mind you, I.
Speaker 7: Knew that the housekeeper had come like two days before,
Speaker 7: so I'm like, no, this should not be here, Like
Speaker 7: I'm there, ain't no fucking way, bitch. So I'm like
Speaker 7: investigation time. So I go to the bathroom. I start
Speaker 7: going through that bathroom trash. I find lashes, oh strength,
Speaker 7: shrip strip flashes, and then I go into the bathroom.
Speaker 7: I start doing I find a fucking makeup white still
Speaker 7: on the counter that has makeup on it. Then I'm
Speaker 7: like she was there with horight, yes, yes, So I'm like,
Speaker 7: hold on, hold on now, i gotta go back to
Speaker 7: the bed and look at this makeup, saying I see
Speaker 7: a little mass scare, a little glitter, a little a
Speaker 7: little foundation. So I'm like, all right, bet bitch, it's
Speaker 7: on it popping now. So mind you, he's at work.
Speaker 1: Mind you. I had just what the fuck did I had?
Speaker 4: Say him?
Speaker 1: I forgot what she's calling me mid crash out, crash up?
Speaker 1: What should I know better? Sometimes it's like the blindly
Speaker 1: and Blade. I was like, I knock him in his shit.
Speaker 7: So so so okay, so boom, I go downstairs. I'm like,
Speaker 7: let me make sure when the housekeeper came he had
Speaker 7: his photographer downstairs.
Speaker 4: I'll go downstairs.
Speaker 7: I'm like, hey, when was the housekeeper here last. He's like, oh, uh, Monday,
Speaker 7: two days ago, I said.
Speaker 1: I said, okay, boom.
Speaker 4: So he gets home, I'm like, oh, can you send
Speaker 4: me some money for some some something. He sends me
Speaker 4: like three bands. I'm like, cool, got me a little
Speaker 4: bit of money, mind you.
Speaker 7: By that point, I had already hit all of his
Speaker 7: left shoes, thrown hella his shit in the pool where
Speaker 7: they say you.
Speaker 1: Hid all his left shoes.
Speaker 7: Then I stole his PS five, put it in my
Speaker 7: suitcase and had it ready to go out the motherfucking door.
Speaker 7: So when he send me that money, I said, Okay,
Speaker 7: come on, come on, come upstairs for me real quick.
Speaker 1: I want to show you. He comes upstairs.
Speaker 7: I put the lashes and I stick them to his
Speaker 7: like chest, and I'm like boom, and I'm like, so
Speaker 7: what is this about?
Speaker 1: So you was having bitches in here?
Speaker 4: He was like it was it was these girls.
Speaker 7: And they had to sleep in the bed because I
Speaker 7: had a party and they just had to sleep here.
Speaker 4: And I didn't even go to sleep.
Speaker 7: I pulled it all nighter and I said, I said,
Speaker 7: where'd you meet the girls?
Speaker 4: He said, I just met them off a fence. I said,
Speaker 4: pull up their thing.
Speaker 7: He goes, I forgot their thing, Like I forgot it,
Speaker 7: blah blah blah, whatever the fuck. So I end up leaving.
Speaker 7: I end up I'm like I'm leaving. I'm I'm out,
Speaker 7: like blah blah blah. I go, I end up getting
Speaker 7: drunk as hell. I'm like, no, I'm going back for
Speaker 7: a round two.
Speaker 1: I go back.
Speaker 7: I had ordered some chicken to the house, so I
Speaker 7: had a little snack when I arrived, and after I'd
Speaker 7: already like got on him whatever, and then it was
Speaker 7: just even more on and pop and I put my
Speaker 7: hands on him and I beat him with the bag
Speaker 7: of chicken that I don't have pictures. I do have pictures.
Speaker 7: What I have pictures of me throwing all his stuff in.
Speaker 1: The pool, you know, on the phone, he was get
Speaker 1: on ga, I have pictures of the crash. Really, I
Speaker 1: was like no, because here's the thing about it.
Speaker 5: I'm very level headed in certain situations. And I was like, yeah,
Speaker 5: you can having a mascara right there to make it wise,
Speaker 5: I say, he can.
Speaker 1: Got at the makeup. Here's the picture, here's the makeup.
Speaker 1: Oh you took picture? It was like ship and blood. No,
Speaker 1: that's just probably yeah. Oh you was looking look oh,
Speaker 1: because they were sucking make.
Speaker 3: Up on the extra you know. Yeh wait, does that
Speaker 3: girl talking to Mike? You you recording.
Speaker 8: All this, all this all this evidence that you.
Speaker 1: Second spot that I stole.
Speaker 2: This smiles kind of fun diabolical, was funny as hell.
Speaker 1: Nod oh, here's the lashes in the trash.
Speaker 3: No, but I do have to ask a question, because
Speaker 3: crash outs when women do all these things. You did
Speaker 3: all of this. Did you see him again? Did y'all
Speaker 3: continue talking?
Speaker 1: Did you ever? No?
Speaker 7: No, I did not, but he just recently un blocking
Speaker 7: me off on Instagram, So I'm really exad about that.
Speaker 1: You know what, I kind of do miss him. We
Speaker 1: had a really like great, you better missed the son
Speaker 1: of Miami. Crashed out so bad?
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I crashed out horribly bad to where I
Speaker 5: never want to crash out again in my life. I
Speaker 5: crashed out so bad it made me go the complete
Speaker 5: opposite ROUTD. I'm doing yoga, meditation, I'm in therapy. You
Speaker 5: need my crash out.
Speaker 1: I can't even talk about here. I would go to jail.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, No, it was really funny in mine, so
Speaker 4: I'll just say that.
Speaker 1: Well yeah, and I feel like.
Speaker 2: The next part of this episode it actually isn't gonna
Speaker 2: be far Wow. Literally, I pulled a clip about success
Speaker 2: in relationships because I feel like we talked too much
Speaker 2: about relationships.
Speaker 1: I wanted to get the good side by these niggas out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: nor look, I'm about to play this.
Speaker 5: I started doing therapy, so my crash outs. I am
Speaker 5: no longer that type of woman.
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy. I talked about it.
Speaker 3: I talked about it one of my longest relationships. So
Speaker 3: I think guys don't think I like them as much
Speaker 3: as I do because I don't crash out. I don't argue,
Speaker 3: I don't do the if we gonna argue, you could
Speaker 3: just leave.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna argue. I'm non confrontational with my niggas.
Speaker 3: But when we broke up, my mind went to key
Speaker 3: his car, and then I was like, let me, hey,
Speaker 3: a crackhead to key his car because I don't want
Speaker 3: to go to jail. Then it lets to what would
Speaker 3: that do to me? Like all think about a crush out.
Speaker 3: I've thought about a cross out and never kill get
Speaker 3: into a crush.
Speaker 1: And you've never anything in pot of me.
Speaker 3: All right, So we're gonna play this clip, and I
Speaker 3: want you all to tell me if you agree with
Speaker 3: the fact that relationships can elevate you.
Speaker 1: You read the sentiment. This is from Amy Poehler's podcast.
Speaker 9: They say, like eight eighty six percent of the most
Speaker 9: successful men are married.
Speaker 1: I love her face.
Speaker 9: I'm just saying, Scott, I mean, that's got me. You know,
Speaker 9: they need that grounding, they need that home base, and
Speaker 9: women don't, no, no, because they find it in friendships.
Speaker 9: There was a study if you ask men who their
Speaker 9: best friend is, most of them say their wives, right,
Speaker 9: And if you ask a woman, she's really got her friends.
Speaker 2: And I do think because one of the things that
Speaker 2: I had brought up recently was like, Okay, a relationship
Speaker 2: doesn't make me better per se, but relationship give me
Speaker 2: routine because when I'm single, I just be ended up
Speaker 2: in relationships like niggas be wife and me.
Speaker 1: It happens.
Speaker 2: So I'll be like, let me use this time wisely,
Speaker 2: if you knew your next relationship is coming, how would
Speaker 2: you spend the next your soul may your husband?
Speaker 1: How would you spend the next ninety days? That's how
Speaker 1: I'll be treating.
Speaker 2: I'm like, it's Tuesday night, Oh my god, so and
Speaker 2: so I got a table.
Speaker 1: At the boss, and I'm going I treat every single
Speaker 1: day in New York like it's fashion week.
Speaker 2: When I'm saying, but what I would say is relationships
Speaker 2: have made me sometimes get more on a straight narrow path.
Speaker 1: Even my gym.
Speaker 2: I've had the idea to build a concept for a
Speaker 2: gym maybe five years. Somehow I did it ten months
Speaker 2: into my relationship. Like literally, just start an LLC ten
Speaker 2: in months. I agree, I agree.
Speaker 7: I definitely think it will help you get on this
Speaker 7: straight and narrow path. Like when I'm in a relationship,
Speaker 7: I can't be outside doing as many things in like part.
Speaker 7: I mean, I can be, but like I'm not really
Speaker 7: worried about going out because I mean now when I
Speaker 7: go out when I'm single, it's fun because it's like
Speaker 7: where the hoe is that? Like you know, like when
Speaker 7: I'm in a relationship, I'm more like, Okay, now I'm
Speaker 7: at home with my man, I'm going to go to
Speaker 7: a pilates class in the morning and cook dinner and
Speaker 7: make some content for it later.
Speaker 4: Like that's like the vibe was on.
Speaker 1: It also depends for me.
Speaker 5: It depends on the relationship, and it depends on the
Speaker 5: type of man that you're with as well. Like they,
Speaker 5: I think it is kind of true when they say
Speaker 5: men lead the relationships, like you kind of follow suit
Speaker 5: with what a man is doing, Like if a man is
Speaker 5: chaos in a relationship, that relationship is going to be chaotic.
Speaker 5: So I feel like with me sometimes in certain relationship,
Speaker 5: I wasn't level headed because the situation that I'm in
Speaker 5: isn't really a level headed relationship.
Speaker 1: It's a tumultuous relationship.
Speaker 5: So sometimes the best work that I've gotten done is
Speaker 5: when I've been broken up.
Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying, Like reed.
Speaker 5: You know, I'm going to get my bachelor's degree, like
Speaker 5: I'm about finish school, I'm about to start this business,
Speaker 5: I'm about to write a book.
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck I'm about to do
Speaker 1: it in my life. But I feel like sometimes it
Speaker 1: depends on relationships and where you at.
Speaker 2: Oh, but you know what, I think that's different though
Speaker 2: shy because the breakup is.
Speaker 1: Yes, very true.
Speaker 5: But like I said, I think it depends on like
Speaker 5: the man that you would Because talked about this before too,
Speaker 5: like we said, you date a man who's always consistently
Speaker 5: working and doing things, you feel like a piece of
Speaker 5: shit when you at home. So that's why I'm saying
Speaker 5: I agree with your standpoint as well, because it's like,
Speaker 5: all right, I got to figure out business move too.
Speaker 5: If you date an entrepreneur, you get that gratifications like
Speaker 5: all right, are that influence?
Speaker 1: Like I want to do the same thing, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I mean, I want to respond to
Speaker 1: the clip because I don't think that that's what the
Speaker 1: clip was saying.
Speaker 3: I just want to read yeah on the clip, though,
Speaker 3: I want to respond to that because we're going to
Speaker 3: react to it. I do agree with the sentiment that men,
Speaker 3: especially more successful men, need to be married, but it's
Speaker 3: that allows them to focus on their career because the
Speaker 3: woman normally takes care of the household and takes care
Speaker 3: of everything else. So for me, I kind of disagree
Speaker 3: with the sentiment. I've seen women lose themselves entirely because
Speaker 3: they're now just focused on this man relationship.
Speaker 1: They lose out on friends.
Speaker 3: We see now that even Ayisha Curry has constantly been
Speaker 3: talking about it too, right, We talked about that on
Speaker 3: another episode, But I think so many times because of
Speaker 3: the patriarch and because we're now in a space where
Speaker 3: cool as entrepreneurs, we could talk a certain way, but
Speaker 3: the majority of women still want to lead with being
Speaker 3: a wife and a mother and be at home and
Speaker 3: be domesticated and I've seen more so than not women
Speaker 3: completely lose themselves to adapt or be an attach.
Speaker 7: That just depends on how you are as a person,
Speaker 7: Like I feel like if you are comfortable with like
Speaker 7: not really like having your own shit going on, there
Speaker 7: are a lot of women who are like that. Like,
Speaker 7: I know a lot of women who are like that too,
Speaker 7: who will lose their friendships and they're comfortable getting lost
Speaker 7: in a relationship.
Speaker 4: They always end up regarding it down the line. For me,
Speaker 4: I'm not like that.
Speaker 7: Like, when I have a relationship and I have a
Speaker 7: man who's like working really hard, I feel like I
Speaker 7: have to have something going on, even if this man
Speaker 7: is paying all my fucking bills, I need to be
Speaker 7: stacking up all my bread.
Speaker 4: Like, I'm just not like that, but you're one hundred percent.
Speaker 3: I also wanted to respond to the friendship thing too.
Speaker 3: I think there's a difference. It's so weird the way
Speaker 3: we grow up as as girls with our friends. I
Speaker 3: think it's just different with men. They either connect through
Speaker 3: sports or the hobbies. We connect with far more.
Speaker 1: Emotionally, right, which is why I think.
Speaker 3: Women will always have a best girlfriend or a homegirl
Speaker 3: and then their partner, right, and my friends. And I've
Speaker 3: talked about this on the pod. All of my friends
Speaker 3: come before my niggas they will say before you, they're
Speaker 3: I agree with my friends come first. I've never separated
Speaker 3: from my core values with my friendships because of a relationship.
Speaker 1: But I think many women.
Speaker 7: I feel like, when you're married, I feel like that
Speaker 7: is a different ballgame, and that becomes your complete life partner,
Speaker 7: and that's when you have to kind of start thinking
Speaker 7: about putting your husband over your friends. But I feel
Speaker 7: like when you're in a relationship, I'm never first of all,
Speaker 7: I'm never going to be put in a position where I.
Speaker 4: Have to choose between a friend and a man. Like
Speaker 4: that's not gonna happen.
Speaker 5: A friends shouldn't put you in that position either, I agree,
Speaker 5: So it depends, And I feel like with me, I
Speaker 5: feel like, how are you going to get to that
Speaker 5: point of marriage if you're constantly putting everybody else over
Speaker 5: your significant other?
Speaker 1: I mean, so it just to me it's like a
Speaker 1: fine balance.
Speaker 5: How are we going to ever get there if we're
Speaker 5: constantly putting our friendships are this or this or that?
Speaker 5: And the third, I think you have to figure out
Speaker 5: your relationships that there will be a time that your man,
Speaker 5: your relationship things will actually have to come first. And
Speaker 5: not saying, but as a friend, I feel like there
Speaker 5: are certain times where you have to allow that friendship
Speaker 5: to be able to maneuver the newfound relationships. So I
Speaker 5: feel like there's their hair some you have to have
Speaker 5: a balance because sometimes it could be overwhelming for a
Speaker 5: friendship who's dealing with friendships and a relationship and not
Speaker 5: in people around don't understand that balance.
Speaker 2: So I want to bring this up because a lot
Speaker 2: of women are getting engaged right now. Yeah, Skylar Marshall
Speaker 2: age shout out of Kimmy Crawford with right, right, this
Speaker 2: is how the era of young people getting engaged, and
Speaker 2: I fucking love it because we don't really get to
Speaker 2: see honor and commitment really to me like shown with
Speaker 2: young people. Yeah, hear about the older stories. I like
Speaker 2: seeing people in the thirty or in their thirties.
Speaker 3: But many friendships break up during engagements and marriages. And
Speaker 3: I watched a TikTok like time and time again someone's
Speaker 3: losing a friend when they get engaged, and they say
Speaker 3: that friendships break up for three reasons, growth, jealousy, and
Speaker 3: misaligned values. So either you get engaged one person make
Speaker 3: it jealous, or maybe your values shift. Now here's two comments.
Speaker 2: That actually completely agree with both on this is two
Speaker 2: comments on friendships breaking up their engagements. One woman says,
Speaker 2: I agree that this happens, but the bride to change.
Speaker 2: Sometimes they just begin to ignore friends, expect everyone to
Speaker 2: spend on them, look down on their single friends as
Speaker 2: if they suddenly have the upper hand. Yep, that be
Speaker 2: a motherfucker fact.
Speaker 1: Here's the contrary.
Speaker 2: Another person said, I think it's rooted in that friend
Speaker 2: not being in the center of attention at the moment.
Speaker 2: The friend is used to the bride coming through for
Speaker 2: them all of the time, and now they feel like
Speaker 2: they've been inconvenienced because the bride has some.
Speaker 1: Other new things they like to focus. Both are fucking true.
Speaker 1: Two things can be true. We've been saying that a
Speaker 1: lot likely they can be true.
Speaker 7: Be acting like no I have I literally have something
Speaker 7: to say about this because I had a friend and
Speaker 7: like we were like super close before she was she's
Speaker 7: not married, but like she got really serious in her relationship,
Speaker 7: and I know how to deal with like my friends
Speaker 7: getting in relationships like I've had to deal with it before,
Speaker 7: So I'm not gonna like be invited my friends to
Speaker 7: the club and outre on tu hand tricks like you know,
Speaker 7: I respect those like, you know whatever. But when I
Speaker 7: was in a relationship, when I was in a relationship
Speaker 7: and she was in a relationship, like we stayed close.
Speaker 7: And then when I got out of relationship, I felt
Speaker 7: like she was like judging me for being back single
Speaker 7: and being back on the dating scene. And I immediately
Speaker 7: noticed like her shift in basically fuck with me. And
Speaker 7: like also, I mean like my last relationship, I was
Speaker 7: with a very rich man, like you know, he took
Speaker 7: care of me, did everything, and you know she is too,
Speaker 7: and I felt like she was looking down on me
Speaker 7: because now I didn't have that you know, I wasn't
Speaker 7: a wag anymore. Like you know, I wasn't a wag anymore.
Speaker 7: So I definitely felt that way. And now we don't
Speaker 7: even talk.
Speaker 1: You know what sucks.
Speaker 2: I feel like it may not even be her more
Speaker 2: than it's the shit these niggas put in your head,
Speaker 2: because no men really do be acting like Oh, I
Speaker 2: can't tell you how many times I'm sure I've been
Speaker 2: the quote unquote whole friend I have a friend that
Speaker 2: stopped relationship, and as I grew as a businesswoman, suddenly
Speaker 2: the respect level change because the nigga needed me to
Speaker 2: maybe like, oh hey, I have this production that it
Speaker 2: shit shits right, because people can judge you in different ways.
Speaker 2: And I really do think when the woman acts like that,
Speaker 2: it's the man not encouraging her.
Speaker 3: I mean, there was a scenario that wasn't presented in
Speaker 3: those comments that I've experienced with two different friends. For me,
Speaker 3: I just didn't think the men were good partners. So
Speaker 3: both partners were abusive with both friends. One friendship no
Speaker 3: longer exists, the other friendship they're no longer engaged, and
Speaker 3: so she got out of a tumultuous relationship. And for me,
Speaker 3: knowing that the proposal was coming, I just didn't support
Speaker 3: the union. And as a friend, who is not going
Speaker 3: to support a woman being in an abusive relationship because
Speaker 3: I basically physically and if I believe you deserve better,
Speaker 3: I understand you wanting to be a wife. But that's
Speaker 3: where I've expressed my uh, what is it dislike?
Speaker 1: Dislike, disdain, disdain for.
Speaker 3: The union that that friendship ended up ending, Because if
Speaker 3: you want to be a wife, so bad that you
Speaker 3: go let this nigga keep beating on you and I
Speaker 3: got to be around to hear him talk talk to
Speaker 3: you like that and put the.
Speaker 1: Stands on you, and it don't get better.
Speaker 3: This doesn't work for me because I can't sit here
Speaker 3: and see my friend experiencing that. So for me, it
Speaker 3: could also be an end of a relationship. Not because
Speaker 3: the single bitch is jealous, not because you know she's
Speaker 3: she mad that she ain't.
Speaker 1: A nigga, ain't propos her. But you see here flowning
Speaker 1: a ring to.
Speaker 3: A nigga that you not, you're not fully happy with,
Speaker 3: and it's not a healthy union.
Speaker 1: It's not a healthy relationship.
Speaker 3: And sometimes friends just want to continue being in delusion
Speaker 3: because they just want to ring so bad.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let's just want the good abuse I
Speaker 2: think is like obviously hard enough for all of us.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you just don't like the niggas, yeah,
Speaker 1: I have definitely seen some not so you ain't like y'all.
Speaker 1: Y'allmost not leting it the partner. Oh, I'm bringing up
Speaker 1: a spot and I'll shut up.
Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, it's been for a minute. Yeah, Okay, No,
Speaker 7: you're not to talk about it.
Speaker 1: No, I don't know where. It's just funny because it's
Speaker 1: just like I do.
Speaker 2: We have a lot, but we don't. It's not of you,
Speaker 2: So well, hold on, let me finish. What I was
Speaker 2: going to say was, is it okay if we don't
Speaker 2: Mandy just expressed he was abusive. I don't support it
Speaker 2: if we don't fuck with the nigga. That's why I
Speaker 2: was gonna ask you, because.
Speaker 3: In terms of not liking a partner, bro, I gotta
Speaker 3: sleep with him and fuck him, so I don't give
Speaker 3: a Yeah, what makes either of you just.
Speaker 1: Dislike a partner?
Speaker 3: Because cool, it ain't gotta be a nigga you would date.
Speaker 3: How do you just dislike someone for your friend if
Speaker 3: they're not being unhealthy and abusive?
Speaker 1: What makes you not like a partner that your friends shoo?
Speaker 7: I feel like were me like in the times that
Speaker 7: I've been in that situation, it's hard to learn how
Speaker 7: to navigate because it's it's hard when, like you have,
Speaker 7: you're watching somebody that you really genuinely love and care
Speaker 7: about go through these ups and downs, and it's like
Speaker 7: it becomes emotionally draining for you as well, because it's
Speaker 7: like when you back cool, I gotta be cool within
Speaker 7: it or like him. And when y'all fall out, now
Speaker 7: I gotta hate him. Now I gotta be back okay
Speaker 7: with him. And it's just like, bro, I can't switch
Speaker 7: on and off because I don't love this man and
Speaker 7: I really don't give a fuck about him, so it's
Speaker 7: like I care about you.
Speaker 4: So that's when it has become hard for me.
Speaker 1: That makes figure out. I don't like the unknown relationship.
Speaker 2: Did your friends get angry with you or your ex?
Speaker 3: My friends were never a part of my relationship like that.
Speaker 3: But no, I mean, like, if they know you went
Speaker 3: through a breakup, okay, like cause you were, you'll say
Speaker 3: we broke up thirteen times?
Speaker 1: We did.
Speaker 2: So if you hit him and you're like, oh fuck this, nagga,
Speaker 2: do they get okay, Mandy, Like did you feel any
Speaker 2: of that in your friendships? Irritated with you for taking
Speaker 2: him back? For going back?
Speaker 3: I mean maybe because it was like my first love,
Speaker 3: my first year relationship, and the happiness that I did
Speaker 3: feel when I was happy, They enjoyed seeing the version
Speaker 3: of who I became with him.
Speaker 1: Now, of course, when I'm sad, it's fucked that nigga.
Speaker 3: But I think my friends supported the growth that I
Speaker 3: was experiencing in the relationship, and they had never really
Speaker 3: seen me on one.
Speaker 1: So it's different. I don't think they did. I do
Speaker 1: think that.
Speaker 3: Because I don't like it, I stopped over sharing all
Speaker 3: the things, so like, yeah, I tell all of y'all
Speaker 3: we broke up thirteen times. My friends maybe only knew
Speaker 3: about seven of yea because we would break up sometimes
Speaker 3: in increments of a week and get back together. This
Speaker 3: is and it wasn't a big enough thing for me
Speaker 3: to be like, girl, we that was you know what.
Speaker 1: So sometimes you just got to keep some of that
Speaker 1: information nothing.
Speaker 5: And I feel like with me, I felt like in
Speaker 5: those situations and instances, I agree with what you said,
Speaker 5: because at a certain point, your friendships can't forgive as
Speaker 5: quickly as you can, so it'd be like, I'm not
Speaker 5: about to tell you every single thing. And we were
Speaker 5: and like I remember one time we had a clash
Speaker 5: in because I said, regardles or whatever you're going through
Speaker 5: with anybody you going through, I'm not going to and
Speaker 5: she has not use this worry. But I was like,
Speaker 5: I never feel that invested in any relationship here, So
Speaker 5: it's just like, why are you that invested, Like not
Speaker 5: that invested, but why are you Why is it affecting
Speaker 5: you to that manner that I will never even understand
Speaker 5: with someone else's relationship, And because it's like you hold
Speaker 5: grace and these things and it's like you're figuring it
Speaker 5: out together, and.
Speaker 1: It's like it's multiple different relationships you have to maneuver.
Speaker 5: But with me, I was like, after a while some
Speaker 5: of the ship wouldn't even be reason for us to
Speaker 5: break up, you know what I'm saying. We would just
Speaker 5: you would be it would be right now. And then
Speaker 5: my friends are like, honestly, that's the straw that broke
Speaker 5: the camels back. Fuck him, And I'm like, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I didn't. I'm down. I guess that's the thing too.
Speaker 3: Like in terms of women, we all know that we
Speaker 3: have again and we talked about it.
Speaker 1: We'll go back to a man that did us wrong,
Speaker 1: we like it, we don't keep going.
Speaker 3: And as friends, as women, we all know a woman
Speaker 3: not gonna leave until she ready.
Speaker 1: To leave exactly.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's friends you just kind of and again, I'm
Speaker 3: not supporting abuse. I'm never gonna sit here and rock
Speaker 3: with a bitch saying with a nigga putting his hands on.
Speaker 1: Her, but for me the I love him, I don't
Speaker 1: love him. We got in the argument to say working
Speaker 1: and caring me.
Speaker 2: I argue with the bitch about like, I don't know
Speaker 2: if you've had an intense combo about with one of
Speaker 2: your friends.
Speaker 1: I got abused. I recently did. She went back to
Speaker 1: a dude.
Speaker 2: She sent me a tape one night of him streaming
Speaker 2: and throwing stuff at her, and she said she started
Speaker 2: filming because she thought he would do something. She said,
Speaker 2: I just needed it on just in case, And I
Speaker 2: was like it you knew you had to turn your
Speaker 2: fucking camera on. Yeah, Like, I ain't never got in
Speaker 2: an argument with my nigga. Thought let me regarding And
Speaker 2: I don't mean that as shade by any means. I've
Speaker 2: been in those moments before women, But I mean to
Speaker 2: know that you had to, I'm like, you can't do this.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: We get into the discussion maybe a few days ago,
Speaker 2: because they're in a relationship now and they're doing well
Speaker 2: and he's really trying, and I said, I just don't
Speaker 2: understand how you had a line, especially with your family
Speaker 2: trauma with men putting his hands on women.
Speaker 1: He threw something. He never put his hands on me.
Speaker 2: I said that sense to me, to your baby, and
Speaker 2: tell me how fucking silly you feel.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean I do.
Speaker 4: I agree with that.
Speaker 7: And then like, also I agree with like what you
Speaker 7: were saying about when you have to like hold back
Speaker 7: and like not tell your friends every single argument like
Speaker 7: that is one hundred percent true.
Speaker 4: I'm a super open book.
Speaker 7: But also I haven't been in like one of those
Speaker 7: type of toxic relationships since my early twenties for real,
Speaker 7: so like I don't really go through that like now,
Speaker 7: like I'll tell my friends all the business and like
Speaker 7: it's whatever, because this is not somebody I'm like going
Speaker 7: back and forth.
Speaker 1: With for like years.
Speaker 3: But it even came to a point where like I
Speaker 3: have had to be like stop telling me stuff like
Speaker 3: I don't want to know anything because it's hard for
Speaker 3: me to like hear, and like how you use the
Speaker 3: word like why are you so invested or whatever the case?
Speaker 4: Maybe yes, you know, I hate that word.
Speaker 1: I couldn't think of another word. I literally word, but
Speaker 1: it's just like I can't.
Speaker 7: I don't bro It's just like I don't I can't
Speaker 7: like I literally fucking cannot and I'm gonna have my
Speaker 7: own personal opinions about and also it's like the rose
Speaker 7: colored glasses thing. And also so I don't want to
Speaker 7: be I don't want to be the friend who's like, fuck,
Speaker 7: can't leave him you, like blah blah blah, Like I
Speaker 7: want to be the person who's like, I'm gonna be
Speaker 7: here for you whatever decision you decide, whether in my mind.
Speaker 1: Yes, bleave it please, like I'm not.
Speaker 7: I don't want to like put that on you and
Speaker 7: put that pressure on you so that you feel like
Speaker 7: you can't never talk to me. Because even like we
Speaker 7: came to a point where it was like I'm gonna
Speaker 7: try to hold my tongue so that she feels comfortable
Speaker 7: opening up to me, Like I don't want to have
Speaker 7: to be like, so what happened, Like she would like
Speaker 7: start to feel like I'm gonna just tell you what
Speaker 7: happened and what's going on, and I would just be like, okay.
Speaker 5: I feel like, honestly, as adults, the older we get,
Speaker 5: I don't want to it isn't even about relationships sometimes
Speaker 5: sometimes I feel like things should just be kept to
Speaker 5: ourselves just in general and to answer, like with the
Speaker 5: wife thing are with like a friend judging you because
Speaker 5: you're with somebody or because you're not with him anymore.
Speaker 5: I have never been one to even do that because
Speaker 5: I feel like the same way you could be in
Speaker 5: like the same way I was in a relationship for
Speaker 5: four years and out of nowhere, I'm not in one anymore,
Speaker 5: that things could turn around so quickly do So why
Speaker 5: who are you to judge anybody to be in a
Speaker 5: relationship or to not be in a relationship, or how
Speaker 5: they handle relationships.
Speaker 1: There's definitely a hierarchy we could do.
Speaker 2: But I think we do have to hold our friends
Speaker 2: accountable because there's a thing of like she gonna leave
Speaker 2: when she want to leave? We all know, just look
Speaker 2: at ourselves. But also I think when children are involved,
Speaker 2: to put my friends to a different standard. But I
Speaker 2: used to take a lot of shit on the chin
Speaker 2: with them, going to them, like you know, coming to
Speaker 2: me and telling me all these terrible things about these men.
Speaker 2: But now like I really do want to hold my
Speaker 2: friends accountable because it was the only things that got
Speaker 2: me out of a bad relief.
Speaker 3: Like do better at first, do better is tricky, especially
Speaker 3: to do better.
Speaker 1: Is the do better. First of all, who are you
Speaker 1: talking to well?
Speaker 2: To do better?
Speaker 1: Well? To do better?
Speaker 3: And tricky because I think like there is there are
Speaker 3: these things that I mean. I think either we saw
Speaker 3: the trauma from growing up that people do got to
Speaker 3: work through in therapy.
Speaker 1: I get that right.
Speaker 3: You asked the question earlier if if a conversation had
Speaker 3: ever been had that got spicy with me and a friend,
Speaker 3: and it actually got it happened recently, and boy was
Speaker 3: and I responded with zero empathy because I felt attacked.
Speaker 3: So basically, there was an incident when she was with
Speaker 3: her partner who was abusive.
Speaker 1: We were all out one night. We had plans.
Speaker 3: People flew in, We were supposed we had dinner reservations,
Speaker 3: all these things. He got in the car and said, nope,
Speaker 3: we're going back to the house. Everyone's eating pizza. And
Speaker 3: I felt away because I'm like, bro, everyone flew in,
Speaker 3: we got these dinner reservations, and bit y'all don't play that.
Speaker 3: So I hopped out the car. I said, bitch, I'm
Speaker 3: going to the restaurant. And we're dressed. We're dressed, we're out.
Speaker 3: We're we've all been out all night, like for during
Speaker 3: the day, we're outside and we have a reservation. We're
Speaker 3: all in this car now. And he gets in the
Speaker 3: car and real attitude, Yeah, take us home. We can
Speaker 3: order pizza now and hold on in My response like, bro,
Speaker 3: we all in town. The reservations made. This was a
Speaker 3: hard reservation to get. And I respond like, hell no.
Speaker 3: Then I'm like, oh, y'all still and the other friends
Speaker 3: and her went home. I got out the car, didn't.
Speaker 1: Know what transpired after all of this, she got her
Speaker 1: ass beat and he blamed me.
Speaker 3: So she came years later and was like, you know
Speaker 3: what you did that night? You caused me to get
Speaker 3: my ass g gone. And so I literally sat there.
Speaker 3: I said, what you're not gonna do? And this is
Speaker 3: why I chose never to come around that situation ever again,
Speaker 3: because you having.
Speaker 1: The nerve to blame me for why this man put
Speaker 1: in him. It's not like I Cantina, And I.
Speaker 3: Was just like, and see, so when you say you
Speaker 3: could do better, even the logic that after this relationship,
Speaker 3: this is this is what.
Speaker 1: We're going to do. You got out of the car,
Speaker 1: bro and and because I called and.
Speaker 3: And she got her ass beat, And then years later
Speaker 3: she's only in the conversation, she's no longer without but
Speaker 3: years later she because and she held that and oh
Speaker 3: but in the moment, I said, oh yeah, but you dead.
Speaker 1: AS's wrong because I called ship.
Speaker 2: It wouldn't make me somoment I was Oh, I was out,
Speaker 2: we were crying.
Speaker 1: It was a little.
Speaker 2: High of a pedestal I'd put friends on and now
Speaker 2: it might be your ass like no, no, no.
Speaker 1: That's crazy.
Speaker 8: I know.
Speaker 3: I felt offended, like as a friend who also after
Speaker 3: that night, I saw the dynamic and I said, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm good. Don't ever invite me out while you're around him,
Speaker 3: while you stay with him. I understand, this is the
Speaker 3: partner you choose, but I didn't choose to invite this
Speaker 3: man into my life.
Speaker 1: And I think that's the tricky part.
Speaker 3: About even marriage, relationships with women, all these things. Unfortunately,
Speaker 3: a friend get with a nigga. Next thing you know,
Speaker 3: he's joining in on all the girls night, He's joining
Speaker 3: at dinner, and it's like, I didn't choose this man
Speaker 3: as a friend, but you're making me now have friendship.
Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, you weigh him, not me. Why Girl's night.
Speaker 1: I do have.
Speaker 2: A last friend that I wish I could take back.
Speaker 2: And he always sticks out with me, so were don't
Speaker 2: have to put a trigger warning on this.
Speaker 1: No, no, no fresh breakup. No, this is the domestic violence.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah right, basically like.
Speaker 2: He wasn't whooping her ass or nothing, but he just
Speaker 2: was really mean and nasty.
Speaker 1: So we would all hang out.
Speaker 2: We're in La one night and it was something similar,
Speaker 2: I'm lit, but we're all lit. I think we're leaving
Speaker 2: like an everyday people, like day party, and I was like,
Speaker 2: ask me out. I already got to tell people at
Speaker 2: Riy Hall party and he's like, who the fuck said
Speaker 2: they going to every party? I was like, meet Nigga
Speaker 2: out out, so and I booked this for everybody, thinking
Speaker 2: I'm being nice. Think it was her birthday, So long
Speaker 2: story short. He starts telling me like, you want to
Speaker 2: make plans with people, then you let people know you're
Speaker 2: making plans.
Speaker 1: Nine you like talking to you crazy, Yes, there's other
Speaker 1: people in other cars.
Speaker 2: I really was genuinely like being playful, like oh, I
Speaker 2: mean yeah, so I thinks out of my mouth, who
Speaker 2: fuck do you think you're talking to?
Speaker 1: Do you think you're talking to her? Nigga? Looks great
Speaker 1: because I'm in a motherfucking bed and.
Speaker 3: That's what the fuck CARTI b said about a lot
Speaker 3: and had to apoloigh, No, you can't call a bitch
Speaker 3: pussy and that's your.
Speaker 1: At this.
Speaker 7: I mean, you say I'm not your bitch, like, don't
Speaker 7: talk to me like that, or you could say I'm.
Speaker 1: Not I mean that's what I said, but I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I could say that because
Speaker 1: I'm not fucking I'll talk to me like I'm your bag.
Speaker 7: I'm not saying you talked to her like that, but
Speaker 7: I'm saying I'm not your girl. Don't don't come to
Speaker 7: me with no fucking aggression, bitch, because I now I
Speaker 7: got a nigga for you.
Speaker 1: Aren't you about to head your friend? You're not about
Speaker 1: to die when it all came to a head.
Speaker 2: I recently apologized to her and I told my man
Speaker 2: what happened because we were all out with him, and
Speaker 2: he was like, what were you saying to him that
Speaker 2: was so bad that you apologized to him too?
Speaker 1: I was like, I was calling him a pussy. I'm like,
Speaker 1: ye put that niggas like I love niggas. I was like, drives,
Speaker 1: don't even look.
Speaker 3: Back here, you know, And I ain't gonna lie as
Speaker 3: a friend back to what you said about your friend.
Speaker 1: Not one bitch could call my man out his name,
Speaker 1: Like I think you're not about to screaming me.
Speaker 3: I get that, But to call your man a pussy
Speaker 3: and money, that's over selling for sure.
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, that should have happened.
Speaker 2: Should actually he yelled at her. If my homegirl gets
Speaker 2: yelled at by my man, call him what you want to, babe,
Speaker 2: because you don't deserve it, and I'll.
Speaker 1: Do it again. I'll talk to my friends that way.
Speaker 2: The only thing I should have never have said was
Speaker 2: that I'm not her butreaming at me in the back.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now, I'm not, Like.
Speaker 2: What's your friends saying? So he was like, how did
Speaker 2: why did you apologize? And like what did you say
Speaker 2: to him? So I told him what I said and
Speaker 2: he responded by saying, you've really had niggas talk to
Speaker 2: you crazy to where you couldn't even check him hom
Speaker 2: because you know, like that's your like trauma response, like
Speaker 2: you saying this, You saying that now?
Speaker 1: Granted my nigga didn't even tell me.
Speaker 2: I shouldn't have said that to him. He was like,
Speaker 2: you really like that and the dude apologize in front
Speaker 2: of him as well. Yeah, but I think what it
Speaker 2: really is is, she had later told me kind of
Speaker 2: the same as your friend. Now he knows I told
Speaker 2: everyone he talks to me crazy. Oh and I think
Speaker 2: to that point, I would say, time and time again. Well,
Speaker 2: I mean to be like, do you tell your friend
Speaker 2: of our disagreements? I'm like, for the most part, no,
Speaker 2: But if you ever did something crazy, yeah, yes, if
Speaker 2: you ever like cheated on me crazy, screamed at me crazy,
Speaker 2: expect that.
Speaker 1: They all fucking know. Yeah. I am not your only judge.
Speaker 1: My family is your judge. My friends are your judge. Jesus,
Speaker 1: poor hogs, you're judge, Nigga, I feel like it. And
Speaker 1: then no holds barred book.
Speaker 2: Do not play with me if you think that you
Speaker 2: are so special that if you were nasty, I'm going
Speaker 2: to sit and hold it.
Speaker 3: What what?
Speaker 1: What did? What did kat Williams say?
Speaker 5: He said, you don't get to dictate how you how
Speaker 5: I think you show up in my life. And that's
Speaker 5: what he said, right, He said, you don't get to
Speaker 5: dictate how I show like how or would I tell
Speaker 5: people you show up in my life? But I asked,
Speaker 5: what did your friend say in that moment while he
Speaker 5: was yelling at you? Like did she just s she was?
Speaker 1: She was crying, she knew like.
Speaker 7: I can't even imagine if any of my friends and.
Speaker 4: Better check your No, you can't do that.
Speaker 1: Your elbows are up. No, you can't.
Speaker 5: But those boundari should never just be crossed in general.
Speaker 5: It's like, no, you got to check that man and
Speaker 5: that moment, and you have to have to also check
Speaker 5: the woman because it's like you can't, you can't.
Speaker 2: What's something that you and Winter like, just for everyone listening,
Speaker 2: we were on their pod and you guys made up
Speaker 2: and kept doing your show, and I know your listeners
Speaker 2: are so fucking happy. What's a boundary or promise you
Speaker 2: guys have made to each other in your friendship that
Speaker 2: made it not a friend breakup but a makeup.
Speaker 4: Like recent Yeah, a boundary.
Speaker 7: I mean I think our stuff was more like work
Speaker 7: related and we just really needed to We need to
Speaker 7: still kind of like go over some stuff, but we
Speaker 7: just want to.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 4: Well, A, well, there's a couple of things I would think.
Speaker 1: Like, for well, how do you move forward? Not like no, yeah,
Speaker 1: how we move forward?
Speaker 7: I would definitely say there was something that I have
Speaker 7: brought up to Shy, which I think it's like worth
Speaker 7: talking about because we've already gotten through it, but like
Speaker 7: not holding on to things from the past and like
Speaker 7: bringing it up in current shit, because that's kind.
Speaker 4: Of what happened.
Speaker 7: It was like a boilover of this little thing, this
Speaker 7: little thing, this little thing, and then like it was
Speaker 7: kind of like brought forward, and I was like, I
Speaker 7: don't want you to be bringing up shit that we've
Speaker 7: already gotten through and worked through. Even if I understand
Speaker 7: you're trying to like prove your point. It's like a
Speaker 7: slap in the face because we have had to get
Speaker 7: through a lot of stuff, and it's just like, you
Speaker 7: can't be bringing up shit from six months ago to
Speaker 7: prove your point because now we gotta fucking argue again
Speaker 7: about the.
Speaker 3: Point from six months Did you really work through? I
Speaker 3: feel like we did, because if I bring something up,
Speaker 3: I don't believe it.
Speaker 1: I don't think we yeah, And that's how I kind
Speaker 1: of feel too.
Speaker 5: I for the most part, with me, with certain things,
Speaker 5: it's just like it's like to me, I'm trying to
Speaker 5: explain a misunderstanding and the problem with me sometimes is
Speaker 5: that when we talked about this when you were on
Speaker 5: the podcast, we were like, things will build up and
Speaker 5: build up and build up, and then when I blow up,
Speaker 5: it's like be confusing and it'll be like, well and
Speaker 5: I have to explain to you why that build up was.
Speaker 5: To me and for her it would be like, all right,
Speaker 5: this is this seems like a tit for it seems.
Speaker 4: Like a.
Speaker 7: Differently we communicate very We heard youtate.
Speaker 2: A lot of Tauruses and one thing that's been difficult
Speaker 2: for me, but it's also kind of beautiful about a Taurus.
Speaker 1: They're a little too matter of fact.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you're that way, but I felt
Speaker 2: like sometimes when I'm emotional an argument with a tourist,
Speaker 2: they'll kind of just be like more so trying to
Speaker 2: like steer back to a point, or maybe aren't being
Speaker 2: a good listener, and that's all I'm interpreting it. They
Speaker 2: could really only handle one issue at a time, and
Speaker 2: you're water signed girl, haig.
Speaker 1: I don't like.
Speaker 7: I just don't like feeling like like you're holding resentment
Speaker 7: towards me because I will get through some shit, like
Speaker 7: I can take my accountability. I can be wrong like,
Speaker 7: I'm I'm okay with that. I can when I if
Speaker 7: I hurt her feelings or if I do something and
Speaker 7: I know I'm wrong, I could be like, oh, okay,
Speaker 7: you're right, I'm not going to do it again, whatever
Speaker 7: the case.
Speaker 4: Blah blah blah, let's move forward.
Speaker 7: I want to move forward then, like, I don't want
Speaker 7: bringing this shit up because I.
Speaker 3: Mean, because then the next time I'm bringing something up,
Speaker 3: if you're going back there now, we're not taking care
Speaker 3: of the matter at here. It's the And I've brought
Speaker 3: this up in therapy a lot too, just in terms
Speaker 3: of being able to express your emotions. And I dealt
Speaker 3: with this with my ex, Oh my god, a lot,
Speaker 3: but it came to be where you feel like it's
Speaker 3: never a safe space to share how you feel. So
Speaker 3: the resentment is okay, Well, if I can't say I
Speaker 3: have an issue right here, because instead of us addressing it,
Speaker 3: you're going to bring something else up from the past
Speaker 3: that you didn't get over that I thought we already
Speaker 3: worked over. Then at this point we awful, right too,
Speaker 3: Hey A lot of moments sharing your feelings like.
Speaker 2: Being like, hey, like I feel hurt by this, so
Speaker 2: we can't live in the accountability that I think a
Speaker 2: lot of people need maturation for it too, Like it
Speaker 2: takes time, Like it takes a lot of healing. Like
Speaker 2: I think that might be everybody's number one issue in
Speaker 2: an argument.
Speaker 3: That was like a big thing for me too, like
Speaker 3: because it was like I felt like, if I don't
Speaker 3: agree with something, it's hard for me to tell you that,
Speaker 3: because I felt like you're holding onto other things and
Speaker 3: it's gonna make you automatically be defensive.
Speaker 1: But I'm not trying to come at you no way.
Speaker 3: You talk like me, Like, just because I disagree with
Speaker 3: you doesn't make this an argument. We're supposed to be
Speaker 3: able to agree and disagree, not everything's the argument.
Speaker 7: But I understand, Yeah, I understand from her perspective though,
Speaker 7: Like I understand like why she would maybe be defensive
Speaker 7: because of arguments or disagreements we've had in the past,
Speaker 7: but like also it's like.
Speaker 1: You guys get over those or do you never get
Speaker 1: over them? Is that the thing?
Speaker 5: For the most part our most recent argument when we
Speaker 5: talked about this on the podcast, to me, like when
Speaker 5: she said she felt like we would go through the things,
Speaker 5: I was like, there were certain things that I have
Speaker 5: never said vocally out loud, and why I'm bringing up
Speaker 5: these things, why I'm saying it's because of these things.
Speaker 5: Like when I would say, I would give examples for
Speaker 5: certain things, and that's to me, it was like examples
Speaker 5: of why I feel this way. It wasn't a I
Speaker 5: genuinely was not trying to me. I feel like, if
Speaker 5: we can get over it, we can get past it,
Speaker 5: then it'll be fine.
Speaker 1: You want try to tell you something really vulted her?
Speaker 1: I mean, of course I do. Of course things aren't.
Speaker 5: Things don't be that deep, like you know, to me,
Speaker 5: if it's like, if we can get over this, if
Speaker 5: we find then it'll.
Speaker 7: Be like that, she likes to She honestly like she's
Speaker 7: the type of person that would be like, okay, well whatever,
Speaker 7: like let's move on, like we could just brush it.
Speaker 7: I'm the type of person to be like we kind
Speaker 7: of got to like address the shit, like you know,
Speaker 7: that's how to hold on, Like I will like I
Speaker 7: will have my feelings her until I express my feelings.
Speaker 7: She don't feel the need to always express herself, but
Speaker 7: then when she does, it's like a fucking pile up.
Speaker 7: If I'm like, and you know what you have. That's
Speaker 7: a real blessing, a safe space. She's like willing to
Speaker 7: hear you.
Speaker 2: Like the mean problem with friendships to me when friends
Speaker 2: argue is like if I've been burned telling you something
Speaker 2: like I'm so sensitive about my parents that if I'm
Speaker 2: not a friend, not get deep enough for me, I
Speaker 2: won't tell you shit about it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you could.
Speaker 2: Be like I didn't know all that happened. Oh yeah,
Speaker 2: because I and feel like you were warmed for me.
Speaker 2: The fact that you have that, I think you guys
Speaker 2: will always be able to like be okay in your
Speaker 2: work relationship, because that.
Speaker 5: Is the worst part, you know, because we put we
Speaker 5: have to put our friendship first, and you know, it
Speaker 5: is a it is a vulnerability that sometimes like maybe
Speaker 5: like I sometimes I'm not as emotional or you know,
Speaker 5: and people like say that about us sometimes, like we
Speaker 5: had an episode where they were just like shy, I
Speaker 5: just not have don't seem like she doesn't have empty
Speaker 5: and it's like I do. I have so much empathy
Speaker 5: in these situations, but we just handled it differently.
Speaker 1: Like she will cry, like lately I've been crying out
Speaker 1: in public.
Speaker 5: She will cry in public, I'm crying in the shower.
Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying, Like I and then I
Speaker 5: have to show up. I am this personality. It's weird
Speaker 5: when I don't show up as myself. So I am
Speaker 5: just a We just handle emotions differently, and just how
Speaker 5: we do it kind of shows up in our communication
Speaker 5: because if I can get if I can get over
Speaker 5: the situation. And I also have four older sisters, yeah,
Speaker 5: I know we can argue.
Speaker 3: I'm never did I have half siblings so you're an
Speaker 3: own child? I mean no, they weren't in the house
Speaker 3: with me all the time sometimes.
Speaker 1: But so that's what that goes to show that, like
Speaker 1: I can understand the dynamic of like we might just
Speaker 1: have this big ass fucking argument and then two hours later,
Speaker 1: can I borrow your shirt?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 5: She was like the things don't really like and yeah,
Speaker 5: and this is like my this is my like my
Speaker 5: sister damn near so to me. But the thing is that,
Speaker 5: like I have to remember sometimes it's not just friendship,
Speaker 5: it's business. So in business, the difference is we have
Speaker 5: to address these things now. And I feel like I've
Speaker 5: gotten better with that. But then I'd be like it'd
Speaker 5: be certain things, but like I would.
Speaker 3: Just set our argument off was so dumb, petty.
Speaker 1: It was a dictator.
Speaker 7: I was like, that somedam dictator and I needed to
Speaker 7: learn how to be a partner rather than a problem.
Speaker 1: And then she takes it to the group child and the.
Speaker 7: Assisted she goes I think Winter, I said, okay, but
Speaker 7: she want to take.
Speaker 1: It here now, bro, I was being extremely aggressive.
Speaker 5: I know it was the fun I was doing, you
Speaker 5: know'sive and I hate that ship was yeah, I said,
Speaker 5: talking about the queen Winter.
Speaker 1: I said, you know what going to mind you?
Speaker 7: It was so dumb. It was a picture that we
Speaker 7: were going to post on Instagram, but now we.
Speaker 1: Got to see it.
Speaker 2: It was so as we end this episode, y'all sharing
Speaker 2: this motherfucking picture.
Speaker 1: Is wait, no, I don't behind because we agree. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: this bitch was like, don't post ship with me on
Speaker 1: that back. I said, you think you're hurting me. I
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck it. I was like, do not
Speaker 1: post me on nothing? And the petty it was that
Speaker 1: argument was her about post on nothing.
Speaker 7: I was like, yes, because now we were in the
Speaker 7: petty moment because she wanted to post something.
Speaker 5: No, it wasn't I was going to be in pairs
Speaker 5: I knew I was gonna be gone, so I'm like,
Speaker 5: we're gonna do something very was.
Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with that, wasn't it cute? Like how creative
Speaker 1: you comment and said, y'all been just creative as hell
Speaker 1: with the cardboard thing.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 1: I think so.
Speaker 4: But that wasn't the issue in the photo she said.
Speaker 1: Miss Queen done Instagram for twenty five years day and
Speaker 1: the pictures asking me how to do an Instagram. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I love it, but this wasn't This wasn't a part
Speaker 1: of that. This was just like we need some ship
Speaker 1: to promote and it was cute. It was cute. That
Speaker 1: bare the problem over. No, we don't we love each other.
Speaker 1: This is really no, this is.
Speaker 3: This is just funny because we've had the same argument
Speaker 3: over pictures. It was literally moving before I'd be like,
Speaker 3: well I'm finishing.
Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to post Getty images and I said
Speaker 1: stay on the internet. I didn't get you.
Speaker 3: Was like, don't post some of them, and I was like, bitch,
Speaker 3: I paid so much money for this clown and all
Speaker 3: of our pictures were I was like, yeah, well I
Speaker 3: tried to cut you out and then it didn't fit
Speaker 3: on Instagram.
Speaker 1: So didn't have to cut it out.
Speaker 3: But yeah, like it's so funny, like the pictures thing.
Speaker 3: Yeahs of thing, but but it's like these.
Speaker 5: Small little it was small little things that trickled over
Speaker 5: to make this big thing. And I'm happy that we
Speaker 5: did address it, and like I do still feel like,
Speaker 5: you know, like she's like she said, it was basically
Speaker 5: like putting together. But I was like there were certain
Speaker 5: things I said I had never spoken about, and I
Speaker 5: didn't feel like we're resolved. So I had to lay
Speaker 5: everything I'm on the table, not even for you, for
Speaker 5: myself so I could be like, I know everything that
Speaker 5: I've said from this point forward, like moving forward, we
Speaker 5: have to move as a unit.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Y'all laugh about argument though, I think now they can
Speaker 2: feel good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because the argument part was funny. That was made part.
Speaker 7: The other ship that came after was not funny. But
Speaker 7: that was what I when I said, Queen went no,
Speaker 7: and I.
Speaker 1: Was when she was like dictator.
Speaker 4: I said this dumb mass and.
Speaker 2: I was like, you're mad, I said, you responded, are
Speaker 2: you mad?
Speaker 1: Was weird?
Speaker 7: I was like saying, some ship. But at that point
Speaker 7: it was funny. Then it didn't it wasn be then
Speaker 7: at a point it wasn't funny.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's not awesome. I love that Yob made
Speaker 1: it through.
Speaker 3: I always say, like in terms of friends potting, I say,
Speaker 3: listen as long as you're prepared for one or both
Speaker 3: things to end.
Speaker 1: Either the friendship the business are both.
Speaker 3: I've been in one where both ended, and so kudos
Speaker 3: see all for work in Yeah.
Speaker 2: And you guys have like so many people that they're
Speaker 2: doing live shows y'all, So I don't know when y'all
Speaker 2: next one is, but we're probably watching this in December,
Speaker 2: so hopefully y'all got something right.
Speaker 4: I'm actually are well wend in December.
Speaker 7: We're thinking about doing a show in early December in
Speaker 7: La and I'm in La, so.
Speaker 1: In two Ford got to see it. I want to
Speaker 1: be the Drunks fall to save.
Speaker 5: Oh no, literally, because were I told about when in Houston,
Speaker 5: like eye shows do get a little fucking crazy, and
Speaker 5: like we noticing the difference because we went to a
Speaker 5: venue with no hard liquor and we used to be like.
Speaker 1: I guess all were boring and we used to feel
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