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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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Speaker 1: decisions Decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kurson.

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Speaker 1: You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: Oh wait, you want to say together the Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 3: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Decision Decision.

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Speaker 1: I'm your girl.

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Speaker 3: Mandy b aka Peg the Sign aka Pegan Marcle aka

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Speaker 3: Peggy Bundy aka de Bitch.

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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, I'm easy. Welcome back.

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Speaker 2: We have some guests in the building, and every time

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Speaker 2: I want to say BTL, I want to say GTL

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Speaker 2: like Jersey Shore.

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Speaker 4: Oh Jcam laundry.

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Speaker 1: But let me try to do a very good intro.

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Speaker 1: I love a good intro.

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Speaker 2: Winter and Shy the social media influencers who are two

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Speaker 2: women bringing unique perspectives in life on it hilarious little

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Speaker 2: personality that just make you laugh out loud on their show,

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Speaker 2: social media has been a part of their lives for

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Speaker 2: as long as they can remember.

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Speaker 1: Their IG hosts, oh, that's not in there, and may

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Speaker 1: understand that it's a platform over like so.

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Speaker 2: Winter believes in pushing the boundaries and living life to

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Speaker 2: the fullest, while Shy is all about inspiring and empowering

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Speaker 2: women to reach their goes and you're not.

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Speaker 1: I am the way. This was not y'all, she cheated.

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Speaker 1: This was intro website. I actually can't so anyway.

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Speaker 2: Together, they take you on a journey that explores the

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Speaker 2: complex world of social media.

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Speaker 1: But I'll tell you what I think they show it.

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Speaker 1: I think it is such a cute show before.

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Speaker 2: If you've never heard of their show, I know a

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Speaker 2: lot of our listeners I got to go on their

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Speaker 2: show haven't.

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Speaker 1: Crossed paths yet.

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Speaker 2: I would describe your show as like friendship and current

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Speaker 2: events and very very authentic.

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Speaker 1: I love the show. I've had episodes about almost breaking

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Speaker 1: up and.

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Speaker 2: Then getting back together and crying, and like, to me,

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Speaker 2: that just feels like very real and raw podcasting.

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Speaker 1: So introducing y'all to Shy Winter, that was a great intro.

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Speaker 1: I love it. I should have interrupted y'all saying I

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Speaker 1: can't write off that way.

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Speaker 5: Hold up, because look, I'm no better because I'd.

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Speaker 1: Be using Chatgypt for my intro. I call mine. Look glorious.

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Speaker 1: She knows she gets Gloria Patricia Tabernacle, That's what I

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Speaker 1: call her. I say, I gotta ask Gloria some questions

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Speaker 1: I don't have that.

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Speaker 2: I'm old school me too.

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Speaker 1: No, I've seen that.

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Speaker 5: When you said something about chat GYBT on your story,

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Speaker 5: I said, bit not too much, not to not too much.

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Speaker 1: I said, you're not gonna be talking about for exactly.

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Speaker 2: Because people been writing like really like even passive aggressive emails.

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Speaker 1: You might try to cuss me out with tack. Oh

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Speaker 1: I am that, I say. Furthermore, I'd be like, let

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Speaker 1: me handle it, chat handle it. Yeah right.

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Speaker 2: I've had emails from PR teams agents all this ship

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Speaker 2: that's chat GBT, and I'm like, oh, y'all, bish is

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Speaker 2: really paying for someone else to write it?

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Speaker 1: H know?

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Speaker 2: Anyway, So today I really wanted to do an episode

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Speaker 2: all about breakups and makeups because if you guys don't

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Speaker 2: listening behind the lives, Shi has been really open about

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Speaker 2: a breakup me, and he's been open about her breakup.

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Speaker 2: I've been open and like and well, I know, I

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Speaker 2: know you ain't going through one one right now.

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Speaker 3: So we got but we've all probably what's pverities niggas

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Speaker 3: I do, I'll be crying, shouldn't, Oh they don't know,

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Speaker 3: but I do?

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Speaker 1: So ok kidding? You cry publicly, you cry in your.

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Speaker 3: Big I mean I cried my friends, I guess okay, yeah,

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Speaker 3: tell us your sign so the people can know.

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Speaker 5: So I am an Aquarius and I am not. I

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Speaker 5: am not emotional at all. But this relationship has gotten good.

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Speaker 5: I've been going through the motions.

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Speaker 1: I've been what's the fourth saying of a grief again? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: now now I'm today.

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Speaker 5: I don't give a fuck to talk about right now.

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Speaker 5: But I really am not a crier at all. Like

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Speaker 2: Believe it'll be out by this time. So like, yeah, Shan,

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Speaker 2: my god, but Shannon will get you there.

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Speaker 5: Shanon will get you there, and she'll just stare at

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Speaker 5: you with this not even like with this, with this love,

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Speaker 6: I'm just like, you gotta and and I was literally crying.

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Speaker 1: I was like, do I still nice? No?

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I am a tourist. I definitely am really, really

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Speaker 7: an emotional person. But it's just so funny because when

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Speaker 4: But definitely I am more emotional than she is, like

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Speaker 1: So it's crazy because I don't think I knew what

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Speaker 3: And I know, you you funny, you fun I met her.

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Speaker 3: She was like squatting in the bathroom, dancing and she

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Speaker 3: I was like, well, you weren't crowing that night? I

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Speaker 1: Oh well, yeah I was not exact that. I wasn't.

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Speaker 4: She dances on the bartops and the tables and all that.

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Speaker 4: So I didn't know that. People didn't know.

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Speaker 5: People, it's so different sometimes they it's like it does

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Speaker 5: it's not even that bad. But when when we're together,

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Speaker 5: it'd be like, I'm so extreme to herself, but you

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Speaker 7: No, I get I can get there, but people don't

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Speaker 7: expect that I'm as introverted as I am when I'm outside,

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Speaker 7: Like you know, they don't really realize.

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Speaker 1: I also realize.

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Speaker 3: I'll tell you what five, five, eleven say. I was

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Speaker 3: I said, bits on, this is a sell.

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Speaker 2: Outside, Like y'all, I'll actually give the most you give

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Speaker 2: tall look like you ain't gonna be the one who

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Speaker 2: cause you know what I mean. If we've seen Winter online,

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Speaker 1: So I like it.

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Speaker 3: It gives a little opposite and said, yeah, we say

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Speaker 3: They're they're surprised at like the polar opposite of what

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Speaker 2: Was I just recently maybe I said it to Jacob.

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Speaker 2: I can't remember, but I said recently that I met

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Speaker 2: someone who said, oh, when's the next time you're on tour?

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Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, Like it gave me this

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Speaker 2: Vinnie was there shout out to that. He said, y'all

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Speaker 2: your fans like? And I was like, wow, that's interesting

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Speaker 2: you said that, because that's probably the thing that's exhausting.

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Speaker 2: My fans is turned the fuck up. My fans is

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Speaker 2: It's hurted because what they're receiving on the podcast is

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Speaker 1: They got that high and that.

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Speaker 7: not how she is. She's a social butterfly. It's easy

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Speaker 3: When I say draining, it's funny that you just use

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Speaker 3: So it's like I don't even want to go back

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Speaker 3: And literally every time he hit me to hang out,

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize how often I use the word over stimulated.

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Speaker 1: But it's that.

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Speaker 3: Between work, between traveling, between constantly having to be performative, essentially, like,

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Speaker 3: in life. You're going through a breakup, whether someone died

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Speaker 1: You know, and then I go so hard not remembering

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Speaker 1: a bit bro that's that's us. I will say.

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Speaker 5: I don't think she gives herself enough credit when it

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Speaker 5: But like in that moment, you are so loving and

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Speaker 5: so you give them your alle We give them all

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Speaker 5: our all. But you'll see moments on like the Patreon

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Speaker 3: Like like living just exactly, but they won't pick that up.

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Speaker 1: Though they won't take it up.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not even like you're really faking it.

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Speaker 1: And so you can and our fan what do be anesome? Right?

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Speaker 2: But our literally and it doesn't even matter if you

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Speaker 2: meet somebody, think about being that famous walk out of

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Speaker 2: the venue. People are looking like iccurity guard, the driver

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Speaker 2: you have, you go to a restaurant, everybody is freaking.

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Speaker 3: Out about you, and so whatever we feel for them

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Speaker 3: thirty minutes, that ain't nothing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I gotta do no more.

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Speaker 3: Though.

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Speaker 2: Now I have a game for y'all. This is called poetry.

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Speaker 2: It's our poetry. But it's a song that y'all know,

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Speaker 2: and it's gonna be read as a poem. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: so you're gonna have to try to see who we

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Speaker 2: gets this person. I'll definitely a song.

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Speaker 1: Guess the song. Okay, but I wish we had a buzzard. Okay.

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Speaker 1: Just want to get your attention. Really want to be

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Speaker 1: oh neo, no no, Really want to gets your attention.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, we made we made a bad case of judgment.

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Speaker 4: But it's like if it just happened. I'm not about

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Speaker 2: I actually think we cut it out because we started

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Speaker 2: And so in what I'm saying is like, you know

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Speaker 1: What, I'm not fucking you don't like that you're in

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Speaker 5: I'm not you know what I'm saying, even when you

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Speaker 1: If I don't want to have I'm not having it.

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Speaker 4: No, that was the I just got it.

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Speaker 1: I said, take him to the.

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Speaker 1: Like I gave the worst.

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Speaker 1: And I said, just see how he reacts.

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Speaker 3: He felt like he was getting this energy from someone.

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Speaker 1: Bad that I don't think one. And you know what

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Speaker 5: I love a good gay porn. I don't watch you off,

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Speaker 1: I'd be like, just put it on. Say you react,

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Speaker 4: I just skipped to what I need to get to

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Speaker 1: Putting a story part of porn. Do you like favorite

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Speaker 7: Would say the ending, I would say like the cum.

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Speaker 1: Shot, the middle, all the same.

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Speaker 5: No, I love a good storyline and applot. I love

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Speaker 1: Yeah y'all have been.

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Speaker 3: When they pick up a guy and I guess he's

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Speaker 7: What's the pettiest thing you've ever done after a breakup?

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Speaker 7: I'm like, hey, when was the housekeeper here last. He's like, oh, uh, Monday,

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Speaker 7: Then I stole his PS five, put it in my

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Speaker 7: come on, come on, come upstairs for me real quick.

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Speaker 1: I want to show you. He comes upstairs.

440
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Speaker 7: I put the lashes and I stick them to his

441
00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:44,600
Speaker 7: like chest, and I'm like boom, and I'm like, so

442
00:19:44,640 --> 00:19:45,280
Speaker 7: what is this about?

443
00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:46,360
Speaker 1: So you was having bitches in here?

444
00:19:46,560 --> 00:19:49,480
Speaker 4: He was like it was it was these girls.

445
00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:50,600
Speaker 7: And they had to sleep in the bed because I

446
00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:52,560
Speaker 7: had a party and they just had to sleep here.

447
00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:53,800
Speaker 4: And I didn't even go to sleep.

448
00:19:53,840 --> 00:19:56,120
Speaker 7: I pulled it all nighter and I said, I said,

449
00:19:56,119 --> 00:19:56,920
Speaker 7: where'd you meet the girls?

450
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Speaker 4: He said, I just met them off a fence. I said,

451
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Speaker 4: pull up their thing.

452
00:19:59,600 --> 00:20:02,399
Speaker 7: He goes, I forgot their thing, Like I forgot it,

453
00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:06,399
Speaker 7: blah blah blah, whatever the fuck. So I end up leaving.

454
00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:08,720
Speaker 7: I end up I'm like I'm leaving. I'm I'm out,

455
00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:11,040
Speaker 7: like blah blah blah. I go, I end up getting

456
00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:12,600
Speaker 7: drunk as hell. I'm like, no, I'm going back for

457
00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:13,120
Speaker 7: a round two.

458
00:20:13,200 --> 00:20:13,880
Speaker 1: I go back.

459
00:20:14,359 --> 00:20:16,119
Speaker 7: I had ordered some chicken to the house, so I

460
00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:20,080
Speaker 7: had a little snack when I arrived, and after I'd

461
00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:22,639
Speaker 7: already like got on him whatever, and then it was

462
00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:23,960
Speaker 7: just even more on and pop and I put my

463
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Speaker 7: hands on him and I beat him with the bag

464
00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:31,160
Speaker 7: of chicken that I don't have pictures. I do have pictures.

465
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:34,360
Speaker 7: What I have pictures of me throwing all his stuff in.

466
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Speaker 1: The pool, you know, on the phone, he was get

467
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,560
Speaker 1: on ga, I have pictures of the crash. Really, I

468
00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:43,240
Speaker 1: was like no, because here's the thing about it.

469
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Speaker 5: I'm very level headed in certain situations. And I was like, yeah,

470
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Speaker 5: you can having a mascara right there to make it wise,

471
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:50,080
Speaker 5: I say, he can.

472
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Speaker 1: Got at the makeup. Here's the picture, here's the makeup.

473
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Speaker 1: Oh you took picture? It was like ship and blood. No,

474
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Speaker 1: that's just probably yeah. Oh you was looking look oh,

475
00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:06,639
Speaker 1: because they were sucking make.

476
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Speaker 3: Up on the extra you know. Yeh wait, does that

477
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 3: girl talking to Mike? You you recording.

478
00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:23,000
Speaker 8: All this, all this all this evidence that you.

479
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:23,720
Speaker 1: Second spot that I stole.

480
00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:29,000
Speaker 2: This smiles kind of fun diabolical, was funny as hell.

481
00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 1: Nod oh, here's the lashes in the trash.

482
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Speaker 3: No, but I do have to ask a question, because

483
00:21:35,720 --> 00:21:38,120
Speaker 3: crash outs when women do all these things. You did

484
00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,920
Speaker 3: all of this. Did you see him again? Did y'all

485
00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:41,600
Speaker 3: continue talking?

486
00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:42,800
Speaker 1: Did you ever? No?

487
00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:44,920
Speaker 7: No, I did not, but he just recently un blocking

488
00:21:44,920 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 7: me off on Instagram, So I'm really exad about that.

489
00:21:48,960 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 1: You know what, I kind of do miss him. We

490
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:53,640
Speaker 1: had a really like great, you better missed the son

491
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Speaker 1: of Miami. Crashed out so bad?

492
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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I crashed out horribly bad to where I

493
00:21:59,560 --> 00:22:01,119
Speaker 5: never want to crash out again in my life. I

494
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:03,160
Speaker 5: crashed out so bad it made me go the complete

495
00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:06,359
Speaker 5: opposite ROUTD. I'm doing yoga, meditation, I'm in therapy. You

496
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:07,959
Speaker 5: need my crash out.

497
00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 1: I can't even talk about here. I would go to jail.

498
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, No, it was really funny in mine, so

499
00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:13,160
Speaker 4: I'll just say that.

500
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:15,000
Speaker 1: Well yeah, and I feel like.

501
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:17,040
Speaker 2: The next part of this episode it actually isn't gonna

502
00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 2: be far Wow. Literally, I pulled a clip about success

503
00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 2: in relationships because I feel like we talked too much

504
00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:25,959
Speaker 2: about relationships.

505
00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,840
Speaker 1: I wanted to get the good side by these niggas out. Yeah,

506
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 1: nor look, I'm about to play this.

507
00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:32,679
Speaker 5: I started doing therapy, so my crash outs. I am

508
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 5: no longer that type of woman.

509
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy. I talked about it.

510
00:22:35,600 --> 00:22:39,280
Speaker 3: I talked about it one of my longest relationships. So

511
00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 3: I think guys don't think I like them as much

512
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:45,160
Speaker 3: as I do because I don't crash out. I don't argue,

513
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,160
Speaker 3: I don't do the if we gonna argue, you could

514
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 3: just leave.

515
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna argue. I'm non confrontational with my niggas.

516
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:54,080
Speaker 3: But when we broke up, my mind went to key

517
00:22:54,119 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 3: his car, and then I was like, let me, hey,

518
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 3: a crackhead to key his car because I don't want

519
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 3: to go to jail. Then it lets to what would

520
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,080
Speaker 3: that do to me? Like all think about a crush out.

521
00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 3: I've thought about a cross out and never kill get

522
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 3: into a crush.

523
00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:08,160
Speaker 1: And you've never anything in pot of me.

524
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:15,879
Speaker 3: All right, So we're gonna play this clip, and I

525
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 3: want you all to tell me if you agree with

526
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 3: the fact that relationships can elevate you.

527
00:23:19,880 --> 00:23:22,960
Speaker 1: You read the sentiment. This is from Amy Poehler's podcast.

528
00:23:24,280 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 9: They say, like eight eighty six percent of the most

529
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 9: successful men are married.

530
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Speaker 1: I love her face.

531
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Speaker 9: I'm just saying, Scott, I mean, that's got me. You know,

532
00:23:38,920 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 9: they need that grounding, they need that home base, and

533
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:45,119
Speaker 9: women don't, no, no, because they find it in friendships.

534
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:46,840
Speaker 9: There was a study if you ask men who their

535
00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:49,359
Speaker 9: best friend is, most of them say their wives, right,

536
00:23:49,440 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 9: And if you ask a woman, she's really got her friends.

537
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Speaker 2: And I do think because one of the things that

538
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Speaker 2: I had brought up recently was like, Okay, a relationship

539
00:24:00,760 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 2: doesn't make me better per se, but relationship give me

540
00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 2: routine because when I'm single, I just be ended up

541
00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 2: in relationships like niggas be wife and me.

542
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 1: It happens.

543
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:13,120
Speaker 2: So I'll be like, let me use this time wisely,

544
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:16,880
Speaker 2: if you knew your next relationship is coming, how would

545
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:18,919
Speaker 2: you spend the next your soul may your husband?

546
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:21,239
Speaker 1: How would you spend the next ninety days? That's how

547
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:22,240
Speaker 1: I'll be treating.

548
00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,920
Speaker 2: I'm like, it's Tuesday night, Oh my god, so and

549
00:24:26,040 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 2: so I got a table.

550
00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: At the boss, and I'm going I treat every single

551
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 1: day in New York like it's fashion week.

552
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Speaker 2: When I'm saying, but what I would say is relationships

553
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:35,680
Speaker 2: have made me sometimes get more on a straight narrow path.

554
00:24:35,720 --> 00:24:36,359
Speaker 1: Even my gym.

555
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,080
Speaker 2: I've had the idea to build a concept for a

556
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:42,160
Speaker 2: gym maybe five years. Somehow I did it ten months

557
00:24:42,200 --> 00:24:45,040
Speaker 2: into my relationship. Like literally, just start an LLC ten

558
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:46,879
Speaker 2: in months. I agree, I agree.

559
00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:48,600
Speaker 7: I definitely think it will help you get on this

560
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 7: straight and narrow path. Like when I'm in a relationship,

561
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 7: I can't be outside doing as many things in like part.

562
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:56,160
Speaker 7: I mean, I can be, but like I'm not really

563
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,359
Speaker 7: worried about going out because I mean now when I

564
00:24:58,359 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 7: go out when I'm single, it's fun because it's like

565
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 7: where the hoe is that? Like you know, like when

566
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 7: I'm in a relationship, I'm more like, Okay, now I'm

567
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 7: at home with my man, I'm going to go to

568
00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:08,080
Speaker 7: a pilates class in the morning and cook dinner and

569
00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:09,480
Speaker 7: make some content for it later.

570
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:10,840
Speaker 4: Like that's like the vibe was on.

571
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Speaker 1: It also depends for me.

572
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 5: It depends on the relationship, and it depends on the

573
00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:16,560
Speaker 5: type of man that you're with as well. Like they,

574
00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 5: I think it is kind of true when they say

575
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 5: men lead the relationships, like you kind of follow suit

576
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,439
Speaker 5: with what a man is doing, Like if a man is

577
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:26,800
Speaker 5: chaos in a relationship, that relationship is going to be chaotic.

578
00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,600
Speaker 5: So I feel like with me sometimes in certain relationship,

579
00:25:30,119 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 5: I wasn't level headed because the situation that I'm in

580
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 5: isn't really a level headed relationship.

581
00:25:33,920 --> 00:25:35,080
Speaker 1: It's a tumultuous relationship.

582
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:37,560
Speaker 5: So sometimes the best work that I've gotten done is

583
00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 5: when I've been broken up.

584
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:40,960
Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying, Like reed.

585
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:43,200
Speaker 5: You know, I'm going to get my bachelor's degree, like

586
00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:44,879
Speaker 5: I'm about finish school, I'm about to start this business,

587
00:25:44,880 --> 00:25:45,640
Speaker 5: I'm about to write a book.

588
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck I'm about to do

589
00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:47,919
Speaker 1: it in my life. But I feel like sometimes it

590
00:25:47,960 --> 00:25:49,640
Speaker 1: depends on relationships and where you at.

591
00:25:50,000 --> 00:25:51,640
Speaker 2: Oh, but you know what, I think that's different though

592
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 2: shy because the breakup is.

593
00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:56,320
Speaker 1: Yes, very true.

594
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Speaker 5: But like I said, I think it depends on like

595
00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 5: the man that you would Because talked about this before too,

596
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,080
Speaker 5: like we said, you date a man who's always consistently

597
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,240
Speaker 5: working and doing things, you feel like a piece of

598
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,440
Speaker 5: shit when you at home. So that's why I'm saying

599
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 5: I agree with your standpoint as well, because it's like,

600
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:12,719
Speaker 5: all right, I got to figure out business move too.

601
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 5: If you date an entrepreneur, you get that gratifications like

602
00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:17,320
Speaker 5: all right, are that influence?

603
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:18,639
Speaker 1: Like I want to do the same thing, you know

604
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I mean, I want to respond to

605
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:22,159
Speaker 1: the clip because I don't think that that's what the

606
00:26:22,200 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 1: clip was saying.

607
00:26:25,560 --> 00:26:28,239
Speaker 3: I just want to read yeah on the clip, though,

608
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 3: I want to respond to that because we're going to

609
00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:35,240
Speaker 3: react to it. I do agree with the sentiment that men,

610
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 3: especially more successful men, need to be married, but it's

611
00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 3: that allows them to focus on their career because the

612
00:26:41,800 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 3: woman normally takes care of the household and takes care

613
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 3: of everything else. So for me, I kind of disagree

614
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 3: with the sentiment. I've seen women lose themselves entirely because

615
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:53,439
Speaker 3: they're now just focused on this man relationship.

616
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:54,880
Speaker 1: They lose out on friends.

617
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Speaker 3: We see now that even Ayisha Curry has constantly been

618
00:26:58,600 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 3: talking about it too, right, We talked about that on

619
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 3: another episode, But I think so many times because of

620
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:06,880
Speaker 3: the patriarch and because we're now in a space where

621
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 3: cool as entrepreneurs, we could talk a certain way, but

622
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 3: the majority of women still want to lead with being

623
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 3: a wife and a mother and be at home and

624
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 3: be domesticated and I've seen more so than not women

625
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 3: completely lose themselves to adapt or be an attach.

626
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,399
Speaker 7: That just depends on how you are as a person,

627
00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:26,760
Speaker 7: Like I feel like if you are comfortable with like

628
00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,040
Speaker 7: not really like having your own shit going on, there

629
00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 7: are a lot of women who are like that. Like,

630
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:33,520
Speaker 7: I know a lot of women who are like that too,

631
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:36,440
Speaker 7: who will lose their friendships and they're comfortable getting lost

632
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:37,360
Speaker 7: in a relationship.

633
00:27:37,440 --> 00:27:39,399
Speaker 4: They always end up regarding it down the line. For me,

634
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:40,440
Speaker 4: I'm not like that.

635
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:42,679
Speaker 7: Like, when I have a relationship and I have a

636
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 7: man who's like working really hard, I feel like I

637
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 7: have to have something going on, even if this man

638
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:49,399
Speaker 7: is paying all my fucking bills, I need to be

639
00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 7: stacking up all my bread.

640
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 4: Like, I'm just not like that, but you're one hundred percent.

641
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 3: I also wanted to respond to the friendship thing too.

642
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,920
Speaker 3: I think there's a difference. It's so weird the way

643
00:27:58,040 --> 00:28:02,159
Speaker 3: we grow up as as girls with our friends. I

644
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 3: think it's just different with men. They either connect through

645
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 3: sports or the hobbies. We connect with far more.

646
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 1: Emotionally, right, which is why I think.

647
00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:15,040
Speaker 3: Women will always have a best girlfriend or a homegirl

648
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:18,640
Speaker 3: and then their partner, right, and my friends. And I've

649
00:28:18,640 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 3: talked about this on the pod. All of my friends

650
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 3: come before my niggas they will say before you, they're

651
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:25,679
Speaker 3: I agree with my friends come first. I've never separated

652
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 3: from my core values with my friendships because of a relationship.

653
00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 1: But I think many women.

654
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Speaker 7: I feel like, when you're married, I feel like that

655
00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 7: is a different ballgame, and that becomes your complete life partner,

656
00:28:36,280 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 7: and that's when you have to kind of start thinking

657
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 7: about putting your husband over your friends. But I feel

658
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 7: like when you're in a relationship, I'm never first of all,

659
00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:44,800
Speaker 7: I'm never going to be put in a position where I.

660
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 4: Have to choose between a friend and a man. Like

661
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 4: that's not gonna happen.

662
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 5: A friends shouldn't put you in that position either, I agree,

663
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 5: So it depends, And I feel like with me, I

664
00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 5: feel like, how are you going to get to that

665
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 5: point of marriage if you're constantly putting everybody else over

666
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:57,400
Speaker 5: your significant other?

667
00:28:57,720 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 1: I mean, so it just to me it's like a

668
00:28:59,200 --> 00:28:59,840
Speaker 1: fine balance.

669
00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 5: How are we going to ever get there if we're

670
00:29:02,000 --> 00:29:04,000
Speaker 5: constantly putting our friendships are this or this or that?

671
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:05,719
Speaker 5: And the third, I think you have to figure out

672
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 5: your relationships that there will be a time that your man,

673
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,400
Speaker 5: your relationship things will actually have to come first. And

674
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:14,880
Speaker 5: not saying, but as a friend, I feel like there

675
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:16,720
Speaker 5: are certain times where you have to allow that friendship

676
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 5: to be able to maneuver the newfound relationships. So I

677
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 5: feel like there's their hair some you have to have

678
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 5: a balance because sometimes it could be overwhelming for a

679
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 5: friendship who's dealing with friendships and a relationship and not

680
00:29:29,520 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 5: in people around don't understand that balance.

681
00:29:31,960 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 2: So I want to bring this up because a lot

682
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 2: of women are getting engaged right now. Yeah, Skylar Marshall

683
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:41,640
Speaker 2: age shout out of Kimmy Crawford with right, right, this

684
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,160
Speaker 2: is how the era of young people getting engaged, and

685
00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 2: I fucking love it because we don't really get to

686
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:51,280
Speaker 2: see honor and commitment really to me like shown with

687
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:53,560
Speaker 2: young people. Yeah, hear about the older stories. I like

688
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 2: seeing people in the thirty or in their thirties.

689
00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 3: But many friendships break up during engagements and marriages. And

690
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 3: I watched a TikTok like time and time again someone's

691
00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 3: losing a friend when they get engaged, and they say

692
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 3: that friendships break up for three reasons, growth, jealousy, and

693
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 3: misaligned values. So either you get engaged one person make

694
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 3: it jealous, or maybe your values shift. Now here's two comments.

695
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 2: That actually completely agree with both on this is two

696
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 2: comments on friendships breaking up their engagements. One woman says,

697
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:27,400
Speaker 2: I agree that this happens, but the bride to change.

698
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 2: Sometimes they just begin to ignore friends, expect everyone to

699
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 2: spend on them, look down on their single friends as

700
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:36,560
Speaker 2: if they suddenly have the upper hand. Yep, that be

701
00:30:36,600 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 2: a motherfucker fact.

702
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:40,760
Speaker 1: Here's the contrary.

703
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:45,080
Speaker 2: Another person said, I think it's rooted in that friend

704
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 2: not being in the center of attention at the moment.

705
00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 2: The friend is used to the bride coming through for

706
00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 2: them all of the time, and now they feel like

707
00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 2: they've been inconvenienced because the bride has some.

708
00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 1: Other new things they like to focus. Both are fucking true.

709
00:30:57,920 --> 00:30:59,280
Speaker 1: Two things can be true. We've been saying that a

710
00:30:59,320 --> 00:31:00,680
Speaker 1: lot likely they can be true.

711
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 7: Be acting like no I have I literally have something

712
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 7: to say about this because I had a friend and

713
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,920
Speaker 7: like we were like super close before she was she's

714
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:13,520
Speaker 7: not married, but like she got really serious in her relationship,

715
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 7: and I know how to deal with like my friends

716
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 7: getting in relationships like I've had to deal with it before,

717
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,040
Speaker 7: So I'm not gonna like be invited my friends to

718
00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 7: the club and outre on tu hand tricks like you know,

719
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:25,640
Speaker 7: I respect those like, you know whatever. But when I

720
00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 7: was in a relationship, when I was in a relationship

721
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 7: and she was in a relationship, like we stayed close.

722
00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 7: And then when I got out of relationship, I felt

723
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 7: like she was like judging me for being back single

724
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 7: and being back on the dating scene. And I immediately

725
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 7: noticed like her shift in basically fuck with me. And

726
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 7: like also, I mean like my last relationship, I was

727
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:45,200
Speaker 7: with a very rich man, like you know, he took

728
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 7: care of me, did everything, and you know she is too,

729
00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 7: and I felt like she was looking down on me

730
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:54,280
Speaker 7: because now I didn't have that you know, I wasn't

731
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 7: a wag anymore. Like you know, I wasn't a wag anymore.

732
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:59,520
Speaker 7: So I definitely felt that way. And now we don't

733
00:31:59,560 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 7: even talk.

734
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:00,640
Speaker 1: You know what sucks.

735
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:02,360
Speaker 2: I feel like it may not even be her more

736
00:32:02,400 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 2: than it's the shit these niggas put in your head,

737
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 2: because no men really do be acting like Oh, I

738
00:32:08,080 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 2: can't tell you how many times I'm sure I've been

739
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,840
Speaker 2: the quote unquote whole friend I have a friend that

740
00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 2: stopped relationship, and as I grew as a businesswoman, suddenly

741
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: the respect level change because the nigga needed me to

742
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,720
Speaker 2: maybe like, oh hey, I have this production that it

743
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 2: shit shits right, because people can judge you in different ways.

744
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 2: And I really do think when the woman acts like that,

745
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:29,800
Speaker 2: it's the man not encouraging her.

746
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:32,240
Speaker 3: I mean, there was a scenario that wasn't presented in

747
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,320
Speaker 3: those comments that I've experienced with two different friends. For me,

748
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 3: I just didn't think the men were good partners. So

749
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:43,800
Speaker 3: both partners were abusive with both friends. One friendship no

750
00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 3: longer exists, the other friendship they're no longer engaged, and

751
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 3: so she got out of a tumultuous relationship. And for me,

752
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:56,560
Speaker 3: knowing that the proposal was coming, I just didn't support

753
00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 3: the union. And as a friend, who is not going

754
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 3: to support a woman being in an abusive relationship because

755
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 3: I basically physically and if I believe you deserve better,

756
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 3: I understand you wanting to be a wife. But that's

757
00:33:09,640 --> 00:33:14,320
Speaker 3: where I've expressed my uh, what is it dislike?

758
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 1: Dislike, disdain, disdain for.

759
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 3: The union that that friendship ended up ending, Because if

760
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:21,880
Speaker 3: you want to be a wife, so bad that you

761
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 3: go let this nigga keep beating on you and I

762
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:25,560
Speaker 3: got to be around to hear him talk talk to

763
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 3: you like that and put the.

764
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: Stands on you, and it don't get better.

765
00:33:28,160 --> 00:33:30,200
Speaker 3: This doesn't work for me because I can't sit here

766
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,800
Speaker 3: and see my friend experiencing that. So for me, it

767
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 3: could also be an end of a relationship. Not because

768
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:39,760
Speaker 3: the single bitch is jealous, not because you know she's

769
00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:41,280
Speaker 3: she mad that she ain't.

770
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 1: A nigga, ain't propos her. But you see here flowning

771
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 1: a ring to.

772
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:48,160
Speaker 3: A nigga that you not, you're not fully happy with,

773
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 3: and it's not a healthy union.

774
00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: It's not a healthy relationship.

775
00:33:51,360 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 3: And sometimes friends just want to continue being in delusion

776
00:33:55,040 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 3: because they just want to ring so bad.

777
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna let's just want the good abuse I

778
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 2: think is like obviously hard enough for all of us.

779
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, but if you just don't like the niggas, yeah,

780
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:09,560
Speaker 1: I have definitely seen some not so you ain't like y'all.

781
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 1: Y'allmost not leting it the partner. Oh, I'm bringing up

782
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 1: a spot and I'll shut up.

783
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, it's been for a minute. Yeah, Okay, No,

784
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 7: you're not to talk about it.

785
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:21,879
Speaker 1: No, I don't know where. It's just funny because it's

786
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 1: just like I do.

787
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 2: We have a lot, but we don't. It's not of you,

788
00:34:25,360 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 2: So well, hold on, let me finish. What I was

789
00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,919
Speaker 2: going to say was, is it okay if we don't

790
00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:33,520
Speaker 2: Mandy just expressed he was abusive. I don't support it

791
00:34:33,640 --> 00:34:37,759
Speaker 2: if we don't fuck with the nigga. That's why I

792
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:39,000
Speaker 2: was gonna ask you, because.

793
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:42,280
Speaker 3: In terms of not liking a partner, bro, I gotta

794
00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:43,839
Speaker 3: sleep with him and fuck him, so I don't give

795
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:46,759
Speaker 3: a Yeah, what makes either of you just.

796
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:47,800
Speaker 1: Dislike a partner?

797
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 3: Because cool, it ain't gotta be a nigga you would date.

798
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,920
Speaker 3: How do you just dislike someone for your friend if

799
00:34:53,920 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 3: they're not being unhealthy and abusive?

800
00:34:56,840 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 1: What makes you not like a partner that your friends shoo?

801
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 7: I feel like were me like in the times that

802
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,279
Speaker 7: I've been in that situation, it's hard to learn how

803
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 7: to navigate because it's it's hard when, like you have,

804
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 7: you're watching somebody that you really genuinely love and care

805
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 7: about go through these ups and downs, and it's like

806
00:35:12,920 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 7: it becomes emotionally draining for you as well, because it's

807
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 7: like when you back cool, I gotta be cool within

808
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,520
Speaker 7: it or like him. And when y'all fall out, now

809
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:21,760
Speaker 7: I gotta hate him. Now I gotta be back okay

810
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 7: with him. And it's just like, bro, I can't switch

811
00:35:24,400 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 7: on and off because I don't love this man and

812
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:27,759
Speaker 7: I really don't give a fuck about him, so it's

813
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 7: like I care about you.

814
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:31,359
Speaker 4: So that's when it has become hard for me.

815
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 1: That makes figure out. I don't like the unknown relationship.

816
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 2: Did your friends get angry with you or your ex?

817
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 3: My friends were never a part of my relationship like that.

818
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 3: But no, I mean, like, if they know you went

819
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,879
Speaker 3: through a breakup, okay, like cause you were, you'll say

820
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 3: we broke up thirteen times?

821
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 1: We did.

822
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 2: So if you hit him and you're like, oh fuck this, nagga,

823
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 2: do they get okay, Mandy, Like did you feel any

824
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 2: of that in your friendships? Irritated with you for taking

825
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 2: him back? For going back?

826
00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:00,520
Speaker 3: I mean maybe because it was like my first love,

827
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 3: my first year relationship, and the happiness that I did

828
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:07,280
Speaker 3: feel when I was happy, They enjoyed seeing the version

829
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:08,800
Speaker 3: of who I became with him.

830
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: Now, of course, when I'm sad, it's fucked that nigga.

831
00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 3: But I think my friends supported the growth that I

832
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 3: was experiencing in the relationship, and they had never really

833
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 3: seen me on one.

834
00:36:17,840 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 1: So it's different. I don't think they did. I do

835
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:20,759
Speaker 1: think that.

836
00:36:22,360 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 3: Because I don't like it, I stopped over sharing all

837
00:36:25,520 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 3: the things, so like, yeah, I tell all of y'all

838
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 3: we broke up thirteen times. My friends maybe only knew

839
00:36:31,719 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 3: about seven of yea because we would break up sometimes

840
00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 3: in increments of a week and get back together. This

841
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 3: is and it wasn't a big enough thing for me

842
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 3: to be like, girl, we that was you know what.

843
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 1: So sometimes you just got to keep some of that

844
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: information nothing.

845
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:47,560
Speaker 5: And I feel like with me, I felt like in

846
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:50,239
Speaker 5: those situations and instances, I agree with what you said,

847
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:52,920
Speaker 5: because at a certain point, your friendships can't forgive as

848
00:36:52,960 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 5: quickly as you can, so it'd be like, I'm not

849
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:55,880
Speaker 5: about to tell you every single thing. And we were

850
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 5: and like I remember one time we had a clash

851
00:36:57,600 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 5: in because I said, regardles or whatever you're going through

852
00:37:01,120 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 5: with anybody you going through, I'm not going to and

853
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:04,840
Speaker 5: she has not use this worry. But I was like,

854
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:07,799
Speaker 5: I never feel that invested in any relationship here, So

855
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 5: it's just like, why are you that invested, Like not

856
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 5: that invested, but why are you Why is it affecting

857
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,280
Speaker 5: you to that manner that I will never even understand

858
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:17,080
Speaker 5: with someone else's relationship, And because it's like you hold

859
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 5: grace and these things and it's like you're figuring it

860
00:37:18,840 --> 00:37:19,920
Speaker 5: out together, and.

861
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:22,200
Speaker 1: It's like it's multiple different relationships you have to maneuver.

862
00:37:22,840 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 5: But with me, I was like, after a while some

863
00:37:25,280 --> 00:37:27,279
Speaker 5: of the ship wouldn't even be reason for us to

864
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 5: break up, you know what I'm saying. We would just

865
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:32,160
Speaker 5: you would be it would be right now. And then

866
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 5: my friends are like, honestly, that's the straw that broke

867
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 5: the camels back. Fuck him, And I'm like, I'm not.

868
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:40,399
Speaker 1: I didn't. I'm down. I guess that's the thing too.

869
00:37:40,480 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 3: Like in terms of women, we all know that we

870
00:37:44,560 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 3: have again and we talked about it.

871
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 1: We'll go back to a man that did us wrong,

872
00:37:49,880 --> 00:37:52,200
Speaker 1: we like it, we don't keep going.

873
00:37:52,239 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 3: And as friends, as women, we all know a woman

874
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:56,200
Speaker 3: not gonna leave until she ready.

875
00:37:55,960 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: To leave exactly.

876
00:37:58,200 --> 00:38:00,879
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's friends you just kind of and again, I'm

877
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 3: not supporting abuse. I'm never gonna sit here and rock

878
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:05,520
Speaker 3: with a bitch saying with a nigga putting his hands on.

879
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:08,480
Speaker 1: Her, but for me the I love him, I don't

880
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 1: love him. We got in the argument to say working

881
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: and caring me.

882
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 2: I argue with the bitch about like, I don't know

883
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:14,800
Speaker 2: if you've had an intense combo about with one of

884
00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 2: your friends.

885
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 1: I got abused. I recently did. She went back to

886
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:17,960
Speaker 1: a dude.

887
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 2: She sent me a tape one night of him streaming

888
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:23,720
Speaker 2: and throwing stuff at her, and she said she started

889
00:38:23,719 --> 00:38:26,080
Speaker 2: filming because she thought he would do something. She said,

890
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 2: I just needed it on just in case, And I

891
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 2: was like it you knew you had to turn your

892
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:33,480
Speaker 2: fucking camera on. Yeah, Like, I ain't never got in

893
00:38:33,440 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 2: an argument with my nigga. Thought let me regarding And

894
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 2: I don't mean that as shade by any means. I've

895
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 2: been in those moments before women, But I mean to

896
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:42,880
Speaker 2: know that you had to, I'm like, you can't do this.

897
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:43,799
Speaker 1: Yeah.

898
00:38:43,840 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 2: We get into the discussion maybe a few days ago,

899
00:38:47,160 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 2: because they're in a relationship now and they're doing well

900
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 2: and he's really trying, and I said, I just don't

901
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,200
Speaker 2: understand how you had a line, especially with your family

902
00:38:55,200 --> 00:38:56,800
Speaker 2: trauma with men putting his hands on women.

903
00:38:57,160 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 1: He threw something. He never put his hands on me.

904
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,880
Speaker 2: I said that sense to me, to your baby, and

905
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:03,760
Speaker 2: tell me how fucking silly you feel.

906
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:05,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I mean I do.

907
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:06,759
Speaker 4: I agree with that.

908
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 7: And then like, also I agree with like what you

909
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:11,359
Speaker 7: were saying about when you have to like hold back

910
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,600
Speaker 7: and like not tell your friends every single argument like

911
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:14,919
Speaker 7: that is one hundred percent true.

912
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:16,320
Speaker 4: I'm a super open book.

913
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:19,399
Speaker 7: But also I haven't been in like one of those

914
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:22,759
Speaker 7: type of toxic relationships since my early twenties for real,

915
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 7: so like I don't really go through that like now,

916
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:27,640
Speaker 7: like I'll tell my friends all the business and like

917
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 7: it's whatever, because this is not somebody I'm like going

918
00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 7: back and forth.

919
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:31,720
Speaker 1: With for like years.

920
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 3: But it even came to a point where like I

921
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,640
Speaker 3: have had to be like stop telling me stuff like

922
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 3: I don't want to know anything because it's hard for

923
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 3: me to like hear, and like how you use the

924
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 3: word like why are you so invested or whatever the case?

925
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 4: Maybe yes, you know, I hate that word.

926
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:48,239
Speaker 1: I couldn't think of another word. I literally word, but

927
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 1: it's just like I can't.

928
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 7: I don't bro It's just like I don't I can't

929
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:54,120
Speaker 7: like I literally fucking cannot and I'm gonna have my

930
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:58,240
Speaker 7: own personal opinions about and also it's like the rose

931
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:01,040
Speaker 7: colored glasses thing. And also so I don't want to

932
00:40:01,080 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 7: be I don't want to be the friend who's like, fuck,

933
00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 7: can't leave him you, like blah blah blah, Like I

934
00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 7: want to be the person who's like, I'm gonna be

935
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:10,240
Speaker 7: here for you whatever decision you decide, whether in my mind.

936
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 1: Yes, bleave it please, like I'm not.

937
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 7: I don't want to like put that on you and

938
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:14,799
Speaker 7: put that pressure on you so that you feel like

939
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 7: you can't never talk to me. Because even like we

940
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 7: came to a point where it was like I'm gonna

941
00:40:19,239 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 7: try to hold my tongue so that she feels comfortable

942
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 7: opening up to me, Like I don't want to have

943
00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:25,640
Speaker 7: to be like, so what happened, Like she would like

944
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:27,800
Speaker 7: start to feel like I'm gonna just tell you what

945
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 7: happened and what's going on, and I would just be like, okay.

946
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:33,480
Speaker 5: I feel like, honestly, as adults, the older we get,

947
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:35,920
Speaker 5: I don't want to it isn't even about relationships sometimes

948
00:40:35,920 --> 00:40:38,600
Speaker 5: sometimes I feel like things should just be kept to

949
00:40:38,640 --> 00:40:41,560
Speaker 5: ourselves just in general and to answer, like with the

950
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 5: wife thing are with like a friend judging you because

951
00:40:44,800 --> 00:40:46,680
Speaker 5: you're with somebody or because you're not with him anymore.

952
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:48,759
Speaker 5: I have never been one to even do that because

953
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 5: I feel like the same way you could be in

954
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:51,920
Speaker 5: like the same way I was in a relationship for

955
00:40:51,920 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 5: four years and out of nowhere, I'm not in one anymore,

956
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:57,800
Speaker 5: that things could turn around so quickly do So why

957
00:40:57,960 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 5: who are you to judge anybody to be in a

958
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 5: relationship or to not be in a relationship, or how

959
00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 5: they handle relationships.

960
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:04,200
Speaker 1: There's definitely a hierarchy we could do.

961
00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:05,600
Speaker 2: But I think we do have to hold our friends

962
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:08,160
Speaker 2: accountable because there's a thing of like she gonna leave

963
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 2: when she want to leave? We all know, just look

964
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:13,200
Speaker 2: at ourselves. But also I think when children are involved,

965
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 2: to put my friends to a different standard. But I

966
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 2: used to take a lot of shit on the chin

967
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 2: with them, going to them, like you know, coming to

968
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:24,319
Speaker 2: me and telling me all these terrible things about these men.

969
00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:26,719
Speaker 2: But now like I really do want to hold my

970
00:41:26,719 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 2: friends accountable because it was the only things that got

971
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 2: me out of a bad relief.

972
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:33,800
Speaker 3: Like do better at first, do better is tricky, especially

973
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:34,759
Speaker 3: to do better.

974
00:41:34,560 --> 00:41:35,960
Speaker 1: Is the do better. First of all, who are you

975
00:41:36,000 --> 00:41:36,720
Speaker 1: talking to well?

976
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 2: To do better?

977
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:38,479
Speaker 1: Well? To do better?

978
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 3: And tricky because I think like there is there are

979
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,800
Speaker 3: these things that I mean. I think either we saw

980
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:46,680
Speaker 3: the trauma from growing up that people do got to

981
00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:47,800
Speaker 3: work through in therapy.

982
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: I get that right.

983
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:53,400
Speaker 3: You asked the question earlier if if a conversation had

984
00:41:53,440 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 3: ever been had that got spicy with me and a friend,

985
00:41:55,960 --> 00:42:00,239
Speaker 3: and it actually got it happened recently, and boy was

986
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:03,840
Speaker 3: and I responded with zero empathy because I felt attacked.

987
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:06,239
Speaker 3: So basically, there was an incident when she was with

988
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 3: her partner who was abusive.

989
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: We were all out one night. We had plans.

990
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:12,960
Speaker 3: People flew in, We were supposed we had dinner reservations,

991
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 3: all these things. He got in the car and said, nope,

992
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 3: we're going back to the house. Everyone's eating pizza. And

993
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 3: I felt away because I'm like, bro, everyone flew in,

994
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 3: we got these dinner reservations, and bit y'all don't play that.

995
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 3: So I hopped out the car. I said, bitch, I'm

996
00:42:26,480 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 3: going to the restaurant. And we're dressed. We're dressed, we're out.

997
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:37,080
Speaker 3: We're we've all been out all night, like for during

998
00:42:37,120 --> 00:42:40,719
Speaker 3: the day, we're outside and we have a reservation. We're

999
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 3: all in this car now. And he gets in the

1000
00:42:43,080 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 3: car and real attitude, Yeah, take us home. We can

1001
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:52,000
Speaker 3: order pizza now and hold on in My response like, bro,

1002
00:42:52,160 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 3: we all in town. The reservations made. This was a

1003
00:42:54,360 --> 00:42:58,320
Speaker 3: hard reservation to get. And I respond like, hell no.

1004
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:01,040
Speaker 3: Then I'm like, oh, y'all still and the other friends

1005
00:43:01,040 --> 00:43:04,719
Speaker 3: and her went home. I got out the car, didn't.

1006
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 1: Know what transpired after all of this, she got her

1007
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 1: ass beat and he blamed me.

1008
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:13,080
Speaker 3: So she came years later and was like, you know

1009
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:15,319
Speaker 3: what you did that night? You caused me to get

1010
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:18,799
Speaker 3: my ass g gone. And so I literally sat there.

1011
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 3: I said, what you're not gonna do? And this is

1012
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:23,760
Speaker 3: why I chose never to come around that situation ever again,

1013
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:25,320
Speaker 3: because you having.

1014
00:43:25,080 --> 00:43:27,439
Speaker 1: The nerve to blame me for why this man put

1015
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:32,200
Speaker 1: in him. It's not like I Cantina, And I.

1016
00:43:32,200 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 3: Was just like, and see, so when you say you

1017
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 3: could do better, even the logic that after this relationship,

1018
00:43:37,680 --> 00:43:39,000
Speaker 3: this is this is what.

1019
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:40,399
Speaker 1: We're going to do. You got out of the car,

1020
00:43:40,600 --> 00:43:44,279
Speaker 1: bro and and because I called and.

1021
00:43:44,760 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 3: And she got her ass beat, And then years later

1022
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:52,000
Speaker 3: she's only in the conversation, she's no longer without but

1023
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 3: years later she because and she held that and oh

1024
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:59,359
Speaker 3: but in the moment, I said, oh yeah, but you dead.

1025
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:00,480
Speaker 1: AS's wrong because I called ship.

1026
00:44:00,880 --> 00:44:03,879
Speaker 2: It wouldn't make me somoment I was Oh, I was out,

1027
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 2: we were crying.

1028
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 1: It was a little.

1029
00:44:05,400 --> 00:44:09,839
Speaker 2: High of a pedestal I'd put friends on and now

1030
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:11,760
Speaker 2: it might be your ass like no, no, no.

1031
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:12,280
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1032
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 8: I know.

1033
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:16,360
Speaker 3: I felt offended, like as a friend who also after

1034
00:44:16,400 --> 00:44:19,360
Speaker 3: that night, I saw the dynamic and I said, oh,

1035
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 3: I'm good. Don't ever invite me out while you're around him,

1036
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 3: while you stay with him. I understand, this is the

1037
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,279
Speaker 3: partner you choose, but I didn't choose to invite this

1038
00:44:26,320 --> 00:44:27,240
Speaker 3: man into my life.

1039
00:44:27,320 --> 00:44:29,040
Speaker 1: And I think that's the tricky part.

1040
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 3: About even marriage, relationships with women, all these things. Unfortunately,

1041
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:35,759
Speaker 3: a friend get with a nigga. Next thing you know,

1042
00:44:36,000 --> 00:44:38,400
Speaker 3: he's joining in on all the girls night, He's joining

1043
00:44:38,440 --> 00:44:42,160
Speaker 3: at dinner, and it's like, I didn't choose this man

1044
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:46,320
Speaker 3: as a friend, but you're making me now have friendship.

1045
00:44:46,520 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, girl, you weigh him, not me. Why Girl's night.

1046
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: I do have.

1047
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:55,959
Speaker 2: A last friend that I wish I could take back.

1048
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 2: And he always sticks out with me, so were don't

1049
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 2: have to put a trigger warning on this.

1050
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: No, no, no fresh breakup. No, this is the domestic violence.

1051
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:05,440
Speaker 1: Oh yeah right, basically like.

1052
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 2: He wasn't whooping her ass or nothing, but he just

1053
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:11,040
Speaker 2: was really mean and nasty.

1054
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:12,239
Speaker 1: So we would all hang out.

1055
00:45:12,760 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 2: We're in La one night and it was something similar,

1056
00:45:16,880 --> 00:45:19,320
Speaker 2: I'm lit, but we're all lit. I think we're leaving

1057
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:21,239
Speaker 2: like an everyday people, like day party, and I was like,

1058
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 2: ask me out. I already got to tell people at

1059
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,279
Speaker 2: Riy Hall party and he's like, who the fuck said

1060
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:27,880
Speaker 2: they going to every party? I was like, meet Nigga

1061
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:30,759
Speaker 2: out out, so and I booked this for everybody, thinking

1062
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:34,399
Speaker 2: I'm being nice. Think it was her birthday, So long

1063
00:45:34,400 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 2: story short. He starts telling me like, you want to

1064
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:38,920
Speaker 2: make plans with people, then you let people know you're

1065
00:45:38,920 --> 00:45:39,680
Speaker 2: making plans.

1066
00:45:40,200 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 1: Nine you like talking to you crazy, Yes, there's other

1067
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 1: people in other cars.

1068
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 2: I really was genuinely like being playful, like oh, I

1069
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 2: mean yeah, so I thinks out of my mouth, who

1070
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:51,080
Speaker 2: fuck do you think you're talking to?

1071
00:45:51,040 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 1: Do you think you're talking to her? Nigga? Looks great

1072
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:54,319
Speaker 1: because I'm in a motherfucking bed and.

1073
00:45:57,239 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 3: That's what the fuck CARTI b said about a lot

1074
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:01,319
Speaker 3: and had to apoloigh, No, you can't call a bitch

1075
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:02,359
Speaker 3: pussy and that's your.

1076
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 1: At this.

1077
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 7: I mean, you say I'm not your bitch, like, don't

1078
00:46:07,239 --> 00:46:09,040
Speaker 7: talk to me like that, or you could say I'm.

1079
00:46:08,920 --> 00:46:14,080
Speaker 1: Not I mean that's what I said, but I mean,

1080
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think I could say that because

1081
00:46:16,000 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm not fucking I'll talk to me like I'm your bag.

1082
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 7: I'm not saying you talked to her like that, but

1083
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:22,600
Speaker 7: I'm saying I'm not your girl. Don't don't come to

1084
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 7: me with no fucking aggression, bitch, because I now I

1085
00:46:24,200 --> 00:46:24,880
Speaker 7: got a nigga for you.

1086
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 1: Aren't you about to head your friend? You're not about

1087
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:31,960
Speaker 1: to die when it all came to a head.

1088
00:46:32,200 --> 00:46:35,279
Speaker 2: I recently apologized to her and I told my man

1089
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:37,160
Speaker 2: what happened because we were all out with him, and

1090
00:46:37,160 --> 00:46:39,279
Speaker 2: he was like, what were you saying to him that

1091
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 2: was so bad that you apologized to him too?

1092
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 1: I was like, I was calling him a pussy. I'm like,

1093
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 1: ye put that niggas like I love niggas. I was like, drives,

1094
00:46:45,840 --> 00:46:46,680
Speaker 1: don't even look.

1095
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:49,239
Speaker 3: Back here, you know, And I ain't gonna lie as

1096
00:46:49,280 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 3: a friend back to what you said about your friend.

1097
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:55,279
Speaker 1: Not one bitch could call my man out his name,

1098
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:57,440
Speaker 1: Like I think you're not about to screaming me.

1099
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:00,440
Speaker 3: I get that, But to call your man a pussy

1100
00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:03,439
Speaker 3: and money, that's over selling for sure.

1101
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:07,799
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, that should have happened.

1102
00:47:07,960 --> 00:47:12,600
Speaker 2: Should actually he yelled at her. If my homegirl gets

1103
00:47:12,800 --> 00:47:14,840
Speaker 2: yelled at by my man, call him what you want to, babe,

1104
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:16,480
Speaker 2: because you don't deserve it, and I'll.

1105
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 1: Do it again. I'll talk to my friends that way.

1106
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:20,440
Speaker 2: The only thing I should have never have said was

1107
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:23,359
Speaker 2: that I'm not her butreaming at me in the back.

1108
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:25,440
Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now, I'm not, Like.

1109
00:47:31,600 --> 00:47:34,839
Speaker 2: What's your friends saying? So he was like, how did

1110
00:47:34,880 --> 00:47:36,719
Speaker 2: why did you apologize? And like what did you say

1111
00:47:36,719 --> 00:47:39,439
Speaker 2: to him? So I told him what I said and

1112
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:43,800
Speaker 2: he responded by saying, you've really had niggas talk to

1113
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 2: you crazy to where you couldn't even check him hom

1114
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:51,920
Speaker 2: because you know, like that's your like trauma response, like

1115
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:53,560
Speaker 2: you saying this, You saying that now?

1116
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:54,759
Speaker 1: Granted my nigga didn't even tell me.

1117
00:47:54,800 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 2: I shouldn't have said that to him. He was like,

1118
00:47:56,160 --> 00:47:58,399
Speaker 2: you really like that and the dude apologize in front

1119
00:47:58,400 --> 00:48:00,279
Speaker 2: of him as well. Yeah, but I think what it

1120
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 2: really is is, she had later told me kind of

1121
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:06,799
Speaker 2: the same as your friend. Now he knows I told

1122
00:48:06,800 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 2: everyone he talks to me crazy. Oh and I think

1123
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:14,640
Speaker 2: to that point, I would say, time and time again. Well,

1124
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 2: I mean to be like, do you tell your friend

1125
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,320
Speaker 2: of our disagreements? I'm like, for the most part, no,

1126
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:21,839
Speaker 2: But if you ever did something crazy, yeah, yes, if

1127
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,760
Speaker 2: you ever like cheated on me crazy, screamed at me crazy,

1128
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 2: expect that.

1129
00:48:25,840 --> 00:48:28,800
Speaker 1: They all fucking know. Yeah. I am not your only judge.

1130
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 1: My family is your judge. My friends are your judge. Jesus,

1131
00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 1: poor hogs, you're judge, Nigga, I feel like it. And

1132
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 1: then no holds barred book.

1133
00:48:36,640 --> 00:48:39,319
Speaker 2: Do not play with me if you think that you

1134
00:48:39,360 --> 00:48:42,839
Speaker 2: are so special that if you were nasty, I'm going

1135
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:45,760
Speaker 2: to sit and hold it.

1136
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 3: What what?

1137
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:48,600
Speaker 1: What did? What did kat Williams say?

1138
00:48:48,640 --> 00:48:50,839
Speaker 5: He said, you don't get to dictate how you how

1139
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:53,040
Speaker 5: I think you show up in my life. And that's

1140
00:48:53,040 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 5: what he said, right, He said, you don't get to

1141
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:55,799
Speaker 5: dictate how I show like how or would I tell

1142
00:48:55,840 --> 00:48:57,600
Speaker 5: people you show up in my life? But I asked,

1143
00:48:57,640 --> 00:48:59,040
Speaker 5: what did your friend say in that moment while he

1144
00:48:59,080 --> 00:49:02,040
Speaker 5: was yelling at you? Like did she just s she was?

1145
00:49:02,040 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: She was crying, she knew like.

1146
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 7: I can't even imagine if any of my friends and.

1147
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 4: Better check your No, you can't do that.

1148
00:49:18,960 --> 00:49:20,479
Speaker 1: Your elbows are up. No, you can't.

1149
00:49:20,680 --> 00:49:22,680
Speaker 5: But those boundari should never just be crossed in general.

1150
00:49:22,719 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 5: It's like, no, you got to check that man and

1151
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:25,680
Speaker 5: that moment, and you have to have to also check

1152
00:49:25,680 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 5: the woman because it's like you can't, you can't.

1153
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 2: What's something that you and Winter like, just for everyone listening,

1154
00:49:32,719 --> 00:49:35,279
Speaker 2: we were on their pod and you guys made up

1155
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:37,120
Speaker 2: and kept doing your show, and I know your listeners

1156
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:39,840
Speaker 2: are so fucking happy. What's a boundary or promise you

1157
00:49:39,840 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 2: guys have made to each other in your friendship that

1158
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:44,399
Speaker 2: made it not a friend breakup but a makeup.

1159
00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:46,560
Speaker 4: Like recent Yeah, a boundary.

1160
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:48,680
Speaker 7: I mean I think our stuff was more like work

1161
00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 7: related and we just really needed to We need to

1162
00:49:51,239 --> 00:49:53,359
Speaker 7: still kind of like go over some stuff, but we

1163
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:54,120
Speaker 7: just want to.

1164
00:49:55,280 --> 00:49:55,600
Speaker 1: Okay.

1165
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:58,400
Speaker 4: Well, A, well, there's a couple of things I would think.

1166
00:49:58,440 --> 00:50:02,000
Speaker 1: Like, for well, how do you move forward? Not like no, yeah,

1167
00:50:02,040 --> 00:50:02,800
Speaker 1: how we move forward?

1168
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:04,480
Speaker 7: I would definitely say there was something that I have

1169
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:06,320
Speaker 7: brought up to Shy, which I think it's like worth

1170
00:50:06,480 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 7: talking about because we've already gotten through it, but like

1171
00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:11,239
Speaker 7: not holding on to things from the past and like

1172
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:14,840
Speaker 7: bringing it up in current shit, because that's kind.

1173
00:50:14,680 --> 00:50:15,240
Speaker 4: Of what happened.

1174
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 7: It was like a boilover of this little thing, this

1175
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 7: little thing, this little thing, and then like it was

1176
00:50:19,520 --> 00:50:22,040
Speaker 7: kind of like brought forward, and I was like, I

1177
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:24,319
Speaker 7: don't want you to be bringing up shit that we've

1178
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 7: already gotten through and worked through. Even if I understand

1179
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:29,040
Speaker 7: you're trying to like prove your point. It's like a

1180
00:50:29,120 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 7: slap in the face because we have had to get

1181
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 7: through a lot of stuff, and it's just like, you

1182
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 7: can't be bringing up shit from six months ago to

1183
00:50:36,560 --> 00:50:38,879
Speaker 7: prove your point because now we gotta fucking argue again

1184
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:39,239
Speaker 7: about the.

1185
00:50:39,239 --> 00:50:41,480
Speaker 3: Point from six months Did you really work through? I

1186
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 3: feel like we did, because if I bring something up,

1187
00:50:43,680 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 3: I don't believe it.

1188
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:46,120
Speaker 1: I don't think we yeah, And that's how I kind

1189
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 1: of feel too.

1190
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:48,919
Speaker 5: I for the most part, with me, with certain things,

1191
00:50:48,960 --> 00:50:51,239
Speaker 5: it's just like it's like to me, I'm trying to

1192
00:50:51,280 --> 00:50:54,000
Speaker 5: explain a misunderstanding and the problem with me sometimes is

1193
00:50:54,040 --> 00:50:55,279
Speaker 5: that when we talked about this when you were on

1194
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 5: the podcast, we were like, things will build up and

1195
00:50:57,440 --> 00:50:59,239
Speaker 5: build up and build up, and then when I blow up,

1196
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:02,560
Speaker 5: it's like be confusing and it'll be like, well and

1197
00:51:02,640 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 5: I have to explain to you why that build up was.

1198
00:51:05,360 --> 00:51:07,319
Speaker 5: To me and for her it would be like, all right,

1199
00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 5: this is this seems like a tit for it seems.

1200
00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 4: Like a.

1201
00:51:12,320 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 7: Differently we communicate very We heard youtate.

1202
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:18,200
Speaker 2: A lot of Tauruses and one thing that's been difficult

1203
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:20,080
Speaker 2: for me, but it's also kind of beautiful about a Taurus.

1204
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 1: They're a little too matter of fact.

1205
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 2: I don't know if you're that way, but I felt

1206
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:28,399
Speaker 2: like sometimes when I'm emotional an argument with a tourist,

1207
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 2: they'll kind of just be like more so trying to

1208
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 2: like steer back to a point, or maybe aren't being

1209
00:51:35,600 --> 00:51:38,000
Speaker 2: a good listener, and that's all I'm interpreting it. They

1210
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,520
Speaker 2: could really only handle one issue at a time, and

1211
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 2: you're water signed girl, haig.

1212
00:51:44,120 --> 00:51:44,680
Speaker 1: I don't like.

1213
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 7: I just don't like feeling like like you're holding resentment

1214
00:51:49,040 --> 00:51:51,279
Speaker 7: towards me because I will get through some shit, like

1215
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:53,960
Speaker 7: I can take my accountability. I can be wrong like,

1216
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:56,200
Speaker 7: I'm I'm okay with that. I can when I if

1217
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 7: I hurt her feelings or if I do something and

1218
00:51:58,040 --> 00:52:00,400
Speaker 7: I know I'm wrong, I could be like, oh, okay,

1219
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 7: you're right, I'm not going to do it again, whatever

1220
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:04,080
Speaker 7: the case.

1221
00:52:04,200 --> 00:52:05,720
Speaker 4: Blah blah blah, let's move forward.

1222
00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 7: I want to move forward then, like, I don't want

1223
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 7: bringing this shit up because I.

1224
00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:11,920
Speaker 3: Mean, because then the next time I'm bringing something up,

1225
00:52:12,680 --> 00:52:15,000
Speaker 3: if you're going back there now, we're not taking care

1226
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:18,200
Speaker 3: of the matter at here. It's the And I've brought

1227
00:52:18,200 --> 00:52:20,799
Speaker 3: this up in therapy a lot too, just in terms

1228
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:23,399
Speaker 3: of being able to express your emotions. And I dealt

1229
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 3: with this with my ex, Oh my god, a lot,

1230
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 3: but it came to be where you feel like it's

1231
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:32,359
Speaker 3: never a safe space to share how you feel. So

1232
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:35,239
Speaker 3: the resentment is okay, Well, if I can't say I

1233
00:52:35,280 --> 00:52:38,000
Speaker 3: have an issue right here, because instead of us addressing it,

1234
00:52:38,239 --> 00:52:40,080
Speaker 3: you're going to bring something else up from the past

1235
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:42,560
Speaker 3: that you didn't get over that I thought we already

1236
00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 3: worked over. Then at this point we awful, right too,

1237
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:51,920
Speaker 3: Hey A lot of moments sharing your feelings like.

1238
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:55,239
Speaker 2: Being like, hey, like I feel hurt by this, so

1239
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:59,319
Speaker 2: we can't live in the accountability that I think a

1240
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 2: lot of people need maturation for it too, Like it

1241
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:03,920
Speaker 2: takes time, Like it takes a lot of healing. Like

1242
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 2: I think that might be everybody's number one issue in

1243
00:53:05,800 --> 00:53:06,320
Speaker 2: an argument.

1244
00:53:06,480 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 3: That was like a big thing for me too, like

1245
00:53:09,120 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 3: because it was like I felt like, if I don't

1246
00:53:13,640 --> 00:53:16,840
Speaker 3: agree with something, it's hard for me to tell you that,

1247
00:53:16,960 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 3: because I felt like you're holding onto other things and

1248
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:20,880
Speaker 3: it's gonna make you automatically be defensive.

1249
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:22,640
Speaker 1: But I'm not trying to come at you no way.

1250
00:53:22,560 --> 00:53:24,400
Speaker 3: You talk like me, Like, just because I disagree with

1251
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 3: you doesn't make this an argument. We're supposed to be

1252
00:53:26,560 --> 00:53:29,160
Speaker 3: able to agree and disagree, not everything's the argument.

1253
00:53:29,200 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 7: But I understand, Yeah, I understand from her perspective though,

1254
00:53:32,000 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 7: Like I understand like why she would maybe be defensive

1255
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 7: because of arguments or disagreements we've had in the past,

1256
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:38,080
Speaker 7: but like also it's like.

1257
00:53:38,000 --> 00:53:39,919
Speaker 1: You guys get over those or do you never get

1258
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:40,879
Speaker 1: over them? Is that the thing?

1259
00:53:41,239 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 5: For the most part our most recent argument when we

1260
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:45,799
Speaker 5: talked about this on the podcast, to me, like when

1261
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 5: she said she felt like we would go through the things,

1262
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:48,600
Speaker 5: I was like, there were certain things that I have

1263
00:53:48,719 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 5: never said vocally out loud, and why I'm bringing up

1264
00:53:51,239 --> 00:53:53,520
Speaker 5: these things, why I'm saying it's because of these things.

1265
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:55,360
Speaker 5: Like when I would say, I would give examples for

1266
00:53:55,400 --> 00:53:57,880
Speaker 5: certain things, and that's to me, it was like examples

1267
00:53:57,880 --> 00:54:00,120
Speaker 5: of why I feel this way. It wasn't a I

1268
00:54:00,239 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 5: genuinely was not trying to me. I feel like, if

1269
00:54:04,640 --> 00:54:06,160
Speaker 5: we can get over it, we can get past it,

1270
00:54:06,200 --> 00:54:07,000
Speaker 5: then it'll be fine.

1271
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:09,239
Speaker 1: You want try to tell you something really vulted her?

1272
00:54:09,400 --> 00:54:11,600
Speaker 1: I mean, of course I do. Of course things aren't.

1273
00:54:11,840 --> 00:54:15,800
Speaker 5: Things don't be that deep, like you know, to me,

1274
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:17,160
Speaker 5: if it's like, if we can get over this, if

1275
00:54:17,160 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 5: we find then it'll.

1276
00:54:17,880 --> 00:54:20,600
Speaker 7: Be like that, she likes to She honestly like she's

1277
00:54:20,600 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 7: the type of person that would be like, okay, well whatever,

1278
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 7: like let's move on, like we could just brush it.

1279
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,239
Speaker 7: I'm the type of person to be like we kind

1280
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:28,359
Speaker 7: of got to like address the shit, like you know,

1281
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:30,640
Speaker 7: that's how to hold on, Like I will like I

1282
00:54:30,680 --> 00:54:33,400
Speaker 7: will have my feelings her until I express my feelings.

1283
00:54:33,400 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 7: She don't feel the need to always express herself, but

1284
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 7: then when she does, it's like a fucking pile up.

1285
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 7: If I'm like, and you know what you have. That's

1286
00:54:40,200 --> 00:54:43,960
Speaker 7: a real blessing, a safe space. She's like willing to

1287
00:54:44,000 --> 00:54:44,439
Speaker 7: hear you.

1288
00:54:44,480 --> 00:54:48,400
Speaker 2: Like the mean problem with friendships to me when friends

1289
00:54:48,480 --> 00:54:51,400
Speaker 2: argue is like if I've been burned telling you something

1290
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 2: like I'm so sensitive about my parents that if I'm

1291
00:54:54,239 --> 00:54:56,080
Speaker 2: not a friend, not get deep enough for me, I

1292
00:54:56,080 --> 00:54:57,120
Speaker 2: won't tell you shit about it.

1293
00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:58,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you could.

1294
00:54:58,120 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 2: Be like I didn't know all that happened. Oh yeah,

1295
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:01,239
Speaker 2: because I and feel like you were warmed for me.

1296
00:55:01,920 --> 00:55:03,560
Speaker 2: The fact that you have that, I think you guys

1297
00:55:03,600 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 2: will always be able to like be okay in your

1298
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:07,120
Speaker 2: work relationship, because that.

1299
00:55:07,239 --> 00:55:09,000
Speaker 5: Is the worst part, you know, because we put we

1300
00:55:09,040 --> 00:55:11,000
Speaker 5: have to put our friendship first, and you know, it

1301
00:55:11,040 --> 00:55:14,680
Speaker 5: is a it is a vulnerability that sometimes like maybe

1302
00:55:14,719 --> 00:55:17,360
Speaker 5: like I sometimes I'm not as emotional or you know,

1303
00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:20,239
Speaker 5: and people like say that about us sometimes, like we

1304
00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:22,440
Speaker 5: had an episode where they were just like shy, I

1305
00:55:22,560 --> 00:55:24,520
Speaker 5: just not have don't seem like she doesn't have empty

1306
00:55:24,520 --> 00:55:27,040
Speaker 5: and it's like I do. I have so much empathy

1307
00:55:27,040 --> 00:55:29,200
Speaker 5: in these situations, but we just handled it differently.

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Speaker 1: Like she will cry, like lately I've been crying out

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Speaker 1: in public.

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Speaker 5: She will cry in public, I'm crying in the shower.

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Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying, Like I and then I

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Speaker 5: have to show up. I am this personality. It's weird

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Speaker 5: when I don't show up as myself. So I am

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Speaker 5: just a We just handle emotions differently, and just how

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Speaker 5: we do it kind of shows up in our communication

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Speaker 5: because if I can get if I can get over

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Speaker 5: the situation. And I also have four older sisters, yeah,

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Speaker 5: I know we can argue.

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Speaker 3: I'm never did I have half siblings so you're an

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Speaker 3: own child? I mean no, they weren't in the house

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Speaker 3: with me all the time sometimes.

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Speaker 1: But so that's what that goes to show that, like

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Speaker 1: I can understand the dynamic of like we might just

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Speaker 1: have this big ass fucking argument and then two hours later,

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Speaker 1: can I borrow your shirt?

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Speaker 3: Yes?

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Speaker 5: She was like the things don't really like and yeah,

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Speaker 5: and this is like my this is my like my

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00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:24,960
Speaker 5: sister damn near so to me. But the thing is that,

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Speaker 5: like I have to remember sometimes it's not just friendship,

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00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:31,239
Speaker 5: it's business. So in business, the difference is we have

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Speaker 5: to address these things now. And I feel like I've

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Speaker 5: gotten better with that. But then I'd be like it'd

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Speaker 5: be certain things, but like I would.

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Speaker 3: Just set our argument off was so dumb, petty.

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Speaker 1: It was a dictator.

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Speaker 7: I was like, that somedam dictator and I needed to

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00:56:48,480 --> 00:56:50,880
Speaker 7: learn how to be a partner rather than a problem.

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Speaker 1: And then she takes it to the group child and the.

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Speaker 7: Assisted she goes I think Winter, I said, okay, but

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Speaker 7: she want to take.

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Speaker 1: It here now, bro, I was being extremely aggressive.

1343
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Speaker 5: I know it was the fun I was doing, you

1344
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:07,680
Speaker 5: know'sive and I hate that ship was yeah, I said,

1345
00:57:08,680 --> 00:57:10,839
Speaker 5: talking about the queen Winter.

1346
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Speaker 1: I said, you know what going to mind you?

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00:57:12,880 --> 00:57:14,799
Speaker 7: It was so dumb. It was a picture that we

1348
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:16,560
Speaker 7: were going to post on Instagram, but now we.

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Speaker 1: Got to see it.

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Speaker 2: It was so as we end this episode, y'all sharing

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Speaker 2: this motherfucking picture.

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Speaker 1: Is wait, no, I don't behind because we agree. Oh yeah,

1353
00:57:26,280 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 1: this bitch was like, don't post ship with me on

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00:57:28,320 --> 00:57:29,880
Speaker 1: that back. I said, you think you're hurting me. I

1355
00:57:29,880 --> 00:57:32,840
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck it. I was like, do not

1356
00:57:32,960 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 1: post me on nothing? And the petty it was that

1357
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,560
Speaker 1: argument was her about post on nothing.

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00:57:37,680 --> 00:57:39,280
Speaker 7: I was like, yes, because now we were in the

1359
00:57:39,320 --> 00:57:41,120
Speaker 7: petty moment because she wanted to post something.

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00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:44,880
Speaker 5: No, it wasn't I was going to be in pairs

1361
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 5: I knew I was gonna be gone, so I'm like,

1362
00:57:46,120 --> 00:57:47,360
Speaker 5: we're gonna do something very was.

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00:57:47,440 --> 00:57:50,120
Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with that, wasn't it cute? Like how creative

1364
00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:51,840
Speaker 1: you comment and said, y'all been just creative as hell

1365
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 1: with the cardboard thing.

1366
00:57:52,840 --> 00:57:53,720
Speaker 3: I love that.

1367
00:57:54,120 --> 00:57:54,680
Speaker 1: I think so.

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00:57:54,920 --> 00:57:57,640
Speaker 4: But that wasn't the issue in the photo she said.

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00:57:57,480 --> 00:58:00,080
Speaker 1: Miss Queen done Instagram for twenty five years day and

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00:58:03,160 --> 00:58:06,120
Speaker 1: the pictures asking me how to do an Instagram. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I love it, but this wasn't This wasn't a part

1372
00:58:08,960 --> 00:58:10,480
Speaker 1: of that. This was just like we need some ship

1373
00:58:10,560 --> 00:58:12,480
Speaker 1: to promote and it was cute. It was cute. That

1374
00:58:12,640 --> 00:58:18,120
Speaker 1: bare the problem over. No, we don't we love each other.

1375
00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 1: This is really no, this is.

1376
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 3: This is just funny because we've had the same argument

1377
00:58:23,440 --> 00:58:26,760
Speaker 3: over pictures. It was literally moving before I'd be like,

1378
00:58:26,760 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 3: well I'm finishing.

1379
00:58:27,960 --> 00:58:30,240
Speaker 1: I wasn't allowed to post Getty images and I said

1380
00:58:30,480 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 1: stay on the internet. I didn't get you.

1381
00:58:32,880 --> 00:58:34,520
Speaker 3: Was like, don't post some of them, and I was like, bitch,

1382
00:58:34,560 --> 00:58:36,520
Speaker 3: I paid so much money for this clown and all

1383
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:39,520
Speaker 3: of our pictures were I was like, yeah, well I

1384
00:58:39,560 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 3: tried to cut you out and then it didn't fit

1385
00:58:40,800 --> 00:58:41,200
Speaker 3: on Instagram.

1386
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:42,280
Speaker 1: So didn't have to cut it out.

1387
00:58:42,680 --> 00:58:44,720
Speaker 3: But yeah, like it's so funny, like the pictures thing.

1388
00:58:44,760 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 3: Yeahs of thing, but but it's like these.

1389
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:49,960
Speaker 5: Small little it was small little things that trickled over

1390
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 5: to make this big thing. And I'm happy that we

1391
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:53,920
Speaker 5: did address it, and like I do still feel like,

1392
00:58:53,960 --> 00:58:56,200
Speaker 5: you know, like she's like she said, it was basically

1393
00:58:56,240 --> 00:58:57,919
Speaker 5: like putting together. But I was like there were certain

1394
00:58:57,920 --> 00:59:00,040
Speaker 5: things I said I had never spoken about, and I

1395
00:59:00,040 --> 00:59:01,560
Speaker 5: didn't feel like we're resolved. So I had to lay

1396
00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:03,240
Speaker 5: everything I'm on the table, not even for you, for

1397
00:59:03,360 --> 00:59:05,800
Speaker 5: myself so I could be like, I know everything that

1398
00:59:05,840 --> 00:59:08,400
Speaker 5: I've said from this point forward, like moving forward, we

1399
00:59:08,440 --> 00:59:09,320
Speaker 5: have to move as a unit.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1401
00:59:10,440 --> 00:59:13,000
Speaker 2: Y'all laugh about argument though, I think now they can

1402
00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 2: feel good.

1403
00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, because the argument part was funny. That was made part.

1404
00:59:17,720 --> 00:59:20,080
Speaker 7: The other ship that came after was not funny. But

1405
00:59:20,120 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 7: that was what I when I said, Queen went no,

1406
00:59:26,920 --> 00:59:27,200
Speaker 7: and I.

1407
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:29,080
Speaker 1: Was when she was like dictator.

1408
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 4: I said this dumb mass and.

1409
00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 2: I was like, you're mad, I said, you responded, are

1410
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:34,880
Speaker 2: you mad?

1411
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:36,440
Speaker 1: Was weird?

1412
00:59:37,120 --> 00:59:39,240
Speaker 7: I was like saying, some ship. But at that point

1413
00:59:39,240 --> 00:59:40,960
Speaker 7: it was funny. Then it didn't it wasn be then

1414
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:42,000
Speaker 7: at a point it wasn't funny.

1415
00:59:42,040 --> 00:59:44,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's not awesome. I love that Yob made

1416
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:44,439
Speaker 1: it through.

1417
00:59:44,560 --> 00:59:48,040
Speaker 3: I always say, like in terms of friends potting, I say,

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00:59:48,080 --> 00:59:50,479
Speaker 3: listen as long as you're prepared for one or both

1419
00:59:50,480 --> 00:59:51,200
Speaker 3: things to end.

1420
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:53,240
Speaker 1: Either the friendship the business are both.

1421
00:59:53,680 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 3: I've been in one where both ended, and so kudos

1422
00:59:57,000 --> 00:59:58,520
Speaker 3: see all for work in Yeah.

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00:59:58,720 --> 01:00:00,760
Speaker 2: And you guys have like so many people that they're

1424
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Speaker 2: doing live shows y'all, So I don't know when y'all

1425
01:00:02,920 --> 01:00:05,360
Speaker 2: next one is, but we're probably watching this in December,

1426
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 2: so hopefully y'all got something right.

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Speaker 4: I'm actually are well wend in December.

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Speaker 7: We're thinking about doing a show in early December in

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01:00:11,080 --> 01:00:12,320
Speaker 7: La and I'm in La, so.

1430
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Speaker 1: In two Ford got to see it. I want to

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Speaker 1: be the Drunks fall to save.

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Speaker 5: Oh no, literally, because were I told about when in Houston,

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Speaker 5: like eye shows do get a little fucking crazy, and

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Speaker 5: like we noticing the difference because we went to a

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Speaker 5: venue with no hard liquor and we used to be like.

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Speaker 1: I guess all were boring and we used to feel

1437
01:00:30,720 --> 01:00:32,800
Speaker 1: overwhelmed with people how much they interrupted us. And I

1438
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:34,360
Speaker 1: was like we want you to.

1439
01:00:34,320 --> 01:00:36,440
Speaker 7: Be drunk as fucking a lot of body damn near

1440
01:00:36,480 --> 01:00:38,520
Speaker 7: broke her ankle falling off the stage in Houston, drunk

1441
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Speaker 7: as hell.

1442
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Speaker 2: I'm asked, so Vinny helped them with their Houston show

1443
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Speaker 2: and I hit him my ball was like, how was it?

1444
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Speaker 1: He said, remember when the bitch ran up on you

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Speaker 1: in Phoenix.

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1447
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Speaker 3: I'm here, I bought my ticket, I'm a part of

1448
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Speaker 3: the show, and just walked off stage and insane himself

1449
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:58,439
Speaker 3: into our conversation and we were like, what's but.

1450
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Speaker 1: They were draw are people but you love one of

1451
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1452
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1453
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Speaker 2: You go back on sword and run up on stage

1454
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