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Speaker 1: Here it is strawberry letter. Alright subject should I overlook

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Speaker 1: his trust issues? Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty two

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Speaker 1: helped him complete a training program and then start a career. Well,

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Speaker 1: here's the dilemma. He is extremely jealous and he missteps

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Speaker 1: accuses me of cheating on him. His ex wife cheated

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Speaker 1: He's crazy, jealous, and insecure. Behavior. It's crazy, jealous and

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Speaker 1: to trust me? This really sucks? Please advise you are

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Speaker 1: so correct. This does really suck. But please know that

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Speaker 1: this has absolutely nothing to do with you. All Right,

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Speaker 1: this tall, dark and handsome loser is insecure and he's controlling.

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Speaker 1: He's taking it out all on you. He's taking all

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Speaker 1: you like this? Uh? You know by being so ungrateful?

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Speaker 1: I just say to you, please, don't let his bad

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Speaker 1: I don't think no man is worth going through all

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Speaker 1: of this. You ask, what can you do to get

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Speaker 1: him to treat you, to trust you? You're doing it,

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Speaker 1: and you've done it. Okay, what else can you do?

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Speaker 1: I mean, you don't have to do anything else. I

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Speaker 1: get violent with this abusive behavior that he's displaying. If

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Speaker 1: Don't nobody see these letters like me. I like to

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Speaker 1: dig up under the letter and find out what's really

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Speaker 1: going on. Should overlook his trust issues? The beginning of

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Speaker 1: the letters quite clear to me. I'm a thirty two

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Speaker 1: year old divorced mother of five. Recently I met this

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Speaker 1: bananas from the moment we met. That's a young term.

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Speaker 1: It's bananas. It's bananas. That's a young term. The chemistry

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Speaker 1: was bananas. Nobody describes they love like as bananas, Taquito.

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Speaker 1: chemistry is bananas. That's all it is. H Ain't nobody

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Speaker 1: Ain't there yet it's just bananas. He accepted my children

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Speaker 1: when we met he was unemployed, living with his grandma.

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Speaker 1: This boy that's booring for a preason here to him. This, this,

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Speaker 1: of comedy, yourself, Steve this letter talking about shot out

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Speaker 1: overlook his trust. She'd have met this man. She's been

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Speaker 1: How his sex ain't gonna be good? He got tired,

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Speaker 1: Hen he's gonna be nice. Hard to be rude. You

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Speaker 1: You don't answer my tech. You won't me. I called

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Speaker 1: What can you do more right to get him to

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Speaker 1: You should get out of this situation because it's not

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Speaker 1: else can you do? You've done nothing wrong, so what

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Speaker 1: do you have nothing to fix? You're trying to fix

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Speaker 1: But he accusing you of being a b a whole

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