WEBVTT - Pity Pussy

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect Network.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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<v Speaker 1>you dreamers and chasers. This is your co host a j. Holiday.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up, Tam Bam.

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<v Speaker 2>The side of my couchie.

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<v Speaker 1>Itchy, Oh, what what has happened?

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<v Speaker 2>We went to listen, I went and got I was

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<v Speaker 2>it was Memorial weekend. I didn't get a wax and

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to go to the pool, so I shaved. Mistake.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so itchy. This is is a worse I'm sorry. Hey, y'all,

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<v Speaker 2>this tambancome. Do we go back where our COUCHI itch?

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<v Speaker 2>Will we shave you? Absolutely not?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay because I don't get waxed. I don't really wax.

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<v Speaker 1>I might wax once a year, but I normally just

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<v Speaker 1>you know, shave and no, I'm past that. My ship's

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<v Speaker 1>like crazy right now. I hate that I did that to myself.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that why you sent me that video with that

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<v Speaker 1>lady with the butt east?

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<v Speaker 2>No? I said I didn't even listen to what she said.

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<v Speaker 2>I was looking at her nose job. Did you see it?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, I don't think it was a da job. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's her original nose. Really it was kind of birdish.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, she was talking about having butt east. She

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know that you can get east in your butt, ma'am.

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<v Speaker 1>You can get east any part of your body.

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<v Speaker 2>How you get used in your butt from saying I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how she got it, but I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you can get a east affection from taking antibiotics. So

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<v Speaker 1>it's just, you know, it's just one of those things

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<v Speaker 1>that people go through, because it's not just women that

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<v Speaker 1>get yeast. A lot of people. What the what?

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<v Speaker 2>What is happening? I don't know. We started off weird today.

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<v Speaker 2>I apologize you.

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<v Speaker 1>Started off there and I just listened. I gotta go

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<v Speaker 1>with the conversation, like I want to dial it back.

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<v Speaker 1>In the middle of talking about booty itch and you

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<v Speaker 1>took it to the boodie.

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<v Speaker 2>I just was like, the sides of my legs, that's all.

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<v Speaker 1>Put some cream on it. You don't got no benadera cream,

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<v Speaker 1>a hydro cordzone or something like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that what I need yes, or I'm just gonna

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<v Speaker 2>leave it alone and then just get a wax. I

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<v Speaker 2>shouldn't have did that put some ice on it? Cool.

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like Charlotte and from Sex and the City

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<v Speaker 2>when she went to the pool and she had they

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<v Speaker 2>was like wax much because she had that bush popping

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<v Speaker 2>out her Uh. I ain't been doing that in all year.

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't needed to wax it it. Just let it.

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<v Speaker 2>I let it do what it do.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, that's what I be saying. And bitches who pussy

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<v Speaker 1>always ready, don't be the hoes like my pussy is

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<v Speaker 1>not always ready even in a relationship. Single nigga, can't

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<v Speaker 1>just call me about this koochie like I need advance.

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<v Speaker 2>Notice right because I need to do some maintenance.

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<v Speaker 1>If your pussy just be ready in a winter, you ah,

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<v Speaker 1>I do nothing right this already?

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<v Speaker 2>Smooth girl? You papa dad pussy on demand? What do

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<v Speaker 2>you do over the weekend?

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<v Speaker 1>Everything I was outside for Thursday, did I go No?

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even go outside sun I leave the bed.

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<v Speaker 1>Sunday okay, Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I talked to you Sunday. I call. I was like

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<v Speaker 2>it was like hell, I was like, can I speak

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<v Speaker 2>ash amazing morning day goddamn.

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<v Speaker 1>And that probably was like three four o'clock in the afternoon.

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<v Speaker 1>I was down bad, just acting bad, taking like edibles

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<v Speaker 1>and drinking wine because I wasn't on no liquor like that.

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<v Speaker 1>On Saturday night, my homegirl, uh, one of my best friends,

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<v Speaker 1>she just came home from New Zealand. So we had

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<v Speaker 1>like a little thing at her daddy house down here,

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<v Speaker 1>and he'd be making wine. It's like her grandma old

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<v Speaker 1>recipes and shit, and they all just lined up ferment.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, girl, And I.

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<v Speaker 1>Say, you listen, that wine has the higher alcohol volume

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<v Speaker 1>in any tequila. You could drink the wine people be making,

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<v Speaker 1>because yes, And I was fucked up. I was definitely

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<v Speaker 1>fucked because it tastes sweet. It tastes like you're drinking

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<v Speaker 1>juice like this organic ass wine gonna have you have

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<v Speaker 1>you on your back the next day. So yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>was fucked up. Eating crabs run the crab table just

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<v Speaker 1>all week last week. I just been doing enjoying life,

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<v Speaker 1>liking for now my birthday this weekend. And I ain't

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<v Speaker 1>got ship playing.

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<v Speaker 2>Bitch. I know what you're doing. That's what I know.

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<v Speaker 2>Most of the advanced what you're doing for your birthday

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<v Speaker 2>months y'all, because you know, I just I want some

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<v Speaker 2>Prince shit.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what Prince was like, you only got one birthday,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the day you was born. So it's like, I

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<v Speaker 1>I man, I want a million do I'm gonna just

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<v Speaker 1>be honest with y'all, motherfuckers. I want a million dollars

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<v Speaker 1>tomorrow and then I celebrate. I'm not saying I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have nothing to celebrate, but birthdays just ain't one of

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<v Speaker 1>them things. I just be extra crome.

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<v Speaker 2>You should. You should because you ain't gonna make it. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's not. It ain't always make it. It's next week. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's Saturday. I mean it's I mean it's the end

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<v Speaker 2>of this week, right.

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<v Speaker 1>It's in four days. My birthday is Saturday, okay' damn yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So like even if I wanted to like celebrate with

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<v Speaker 1>other people, it's last notice at this point. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying to come here, So I probably just

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<v Speaker 1>what I do want to do is take pictures. I

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<v Speaker 1>kept saying I was gonna do my little uh Bridgerton

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<v Speaker 1>little photo shoot. Don't have a dress, so I got

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<v Speaker 1>like another dress and I wanted to do I'm probably

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do a photo shoot. That'd be about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, maybe you and Yo, me and Yoman and your

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<v Speaker 2>man could do something fun this weekend.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm sucked that same dick this weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>Go go somewhere, y'all, to just go away somewhere real

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<v Speaker 2>quick on a like daycation at least, right, So.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, it's a nice place in Charleston. I tried

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<v Speaker 1>to start yet just yet, no matter of fact. No,

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<v Speaker 1>this nigga was trying to plan me a little surprise something,

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<v Speaker 1>but then ends up telling me yesterday like man, I

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<v Speaker 1>was trying to such or such. So now you telling

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<v Speaker 1>me to make me have to plan Yeah, what type

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<v Speaker 1>of shit is this? If I wanted to do something

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<v Speaker 1>that would have been planned already, Now you forcing me

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<v Speaker 1>to plan some shit because you started planning some shit

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<v Speaker 1>and you don't know where to go at.

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<v Speaker 2>That's when he should have called one of your homegirls

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<v Speaker 2>instead of you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think he did it also, So I'm bitch just

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<v Speaker 1>gonna stand by y'all. I know. Yeah, but I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think nothing going on.

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<v Speaker 2>Well maybe that's good that you don't think nothing going on,

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe it is.

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<v Speaker 1>It ain't nothing going on, I promised. Well, now I'm

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<v Speaker 1>the one to charge your planning and I ain't doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, don't do that. You shouldn't have to do that

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<v Speaker 2>on my weekend. So Bella is and he and she's

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<v Speaker 2>on her cycle, and then my cycle came on. So

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<v Speaker 2>we've just been in here bleeding all weekend. Yo, what

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<v Speaker 2>is up with you in these pussies? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>This is wild. I'm not nasty work. Putting a diaper

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<v Speaker 2>on a dog is no fun because she'd be running

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<v Speaker 2>from it. She hates it. I get it. I hate

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<v Speaker 2>it too. So I just sat in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>What's that girl on Instagram? That post I sent you

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<v Speaker 1>the other day?

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<v Speaker 2>With that girl? She was like, can you see my

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<v Speaker 2>path for the bag?

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all send me all Like, no, bet you good?

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<v Speaker 2>I always feel like you can see yeah, because I

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<v Speaker 2>have to wear them big ass motherfucking mattresses.

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<v Speaker 1>Women be so insecure about them pasts. I remember Ramon

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<v Speaker 1>Chishlm if you're listening middle school. He was like, asking,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all past. I was off from that day forward. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I was traumatized.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you don't want nobody. It ain't no big piece

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<v Speaker 2>of massis. Stick it at the back of your shit,

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<v Speaker 2>it's embarrassing. It took me years to go back to tampons.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean within the last five I mean to go

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<v Speaker 2>back to pads within the last five years. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>just was just traumatized on somebody gonna see this pamp

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<v Speaker 2>on my damn but walk around here look like SpongeBob

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<v Speaker 2>square pads. I can't wear tampons. They are so uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel it. Y'all don't feel that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>They could you be loose. I definitely be feeling it.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you gotta pull them out, it hurts, it's

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<v Speaker 1>and it's gross.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just gross the whole experience. Like when I go

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<v Speaker 2>to Heaven, the first person I might get kicked out

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<v Speaker 2>because I'm looking straight for eve As who got the square?

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<v Speaker 2>What she gotta do? She gotta catch this fight, because bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>why are you need that? So let's get in the scenes.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the first sin, remember, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Or so they say, I don't even believe the bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>When I get there, she's gonna be like, I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>even eat that shit. That was that nigga exactly? He

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<v Speaker 2>got it in his neck. You don't see that, Adams.

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<v Speaker 2>After all these niggas.

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<v Speaker 1>Next they've been lying on us from the beginning of

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<v Speaker 1>the time from the creation story. But anyway, so Cardi

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<v Speaker 1>B is beef with Bea, same niggas. Cardi B basically

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<v Speaker 1>called her like great value. Cardi B.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, version I heard, I like Bea. I like them both.

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<v Speaker 2>What did they what is the problem? I don't know?

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<v Speaker 1>And I just feel like this ain't one of them

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<v Speaker 1>beasts like people even really care about for real. But

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, they said. It seemed to have reached

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<v Speaker 1>the boiling point in this last couple of days. Carti

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<v Speaker 1>says that she attempted to resolve these issues directly. The

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<v Speaker 1>conversation started very nasty. She called her okay, after after

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<v Speaker 1>being tweeted some subliminal bullshit on Twitter one day, Cardi

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<v Speaker 1>B called her. Cardi B says she got her phone

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<v Speaker 1>number and called her and she was like, the conversation

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<v Speaker 1>did start off for your nasty. She even played some

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<v Speaker 1>of it on her page, and she was like, I

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<v Speaker 1>was coming to her and she was coming at me.

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<v Speaker 1>But then I called her back because I'm so appalled

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<v Speaker 1>at the fact that she thinks I'm copying her or

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<v Speaker 1>stealing from her, because there's nothing that she do that

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<v Speaker 1>I like. I don't like her music, I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>her style. She also threatened to release their conversation, saying

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<v Speaker 1>I will put the conversations up. We ended up. We

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<v Speaker 1>ended the conversation very nicely, and you still went to

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<v Speaker 1>the internet dissing me. After the conversation, you went and

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<v Speaker 1>you started saying I copied your music video and so

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<v Speaker 1>Carti even shows how she had this particular beat that

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<v Speaker 1>Bia said was given to her. Carti said she's sitting

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<v Speaker 1>on that bet since twenty twenty two, even show dropping

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<v Speaker 1>her lyrics in twenty twenty two for the song, So

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<v Speaker 1>how could my lyrics be about you when I dropped this,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, two years ago. So it's a whole some

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<v Speaker 1>extra some more rap beef between the rap bitches. I

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<v Speaker 1>like all, it's like it's two different groups now.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, they're a little late for the rap

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<v Speaker 2>beef trend. You know, y'all should have did it like

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<v Speaker 2>a month ago when everybody was battle rapping. Don't nobody

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<v Speaker 2>want to hear that shit now? Now we want to

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<v Speaker 2>hear party songs. We don't want to hear y'all talk

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<v Speaker 2>shit to each other. We just want to party. We

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<v Speaker 2>need boat music, bitch, make some songs that make us happy,

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<v Speaker 2>not arguing with another bitch. Nobody cares. I don't do you,

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<v Speaker 2>absolutely not.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's almost like it's team Cardi B and then

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<v Speaker 1>there's team Nicki Minaj because I think those were the

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<v Speaker 1>original beefs, right, so now the younger girls have now

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<v Speaker 1>fallen under each group. You got JT on Nicki Minaj side,

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<v Speaker 1>akbar V who else over there?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't give a fuck about none of that. Y'all

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<v Speaker 2>bitches makes some good music for me on the boat,

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<v Speaker 2>that's all I care about.

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<v Speaker 1>Lotto on Cardi B and Meg the Stallion side. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just it's just a mess. It's just a mess. And listen,

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<v Speaker 1>Nicki Minaj, you are the goddamn granny of all this shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you even engaging with these young girls?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like little Kim would be the granny of

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<v Speaker 2>all this and and.

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<v Speaker 1>The beef though, and the beef. Yes, I'm not talking

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<v Speaker 1>about like music, the female rap genre. No I am.

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<v Speaker 2>She kind of did. She kind of was like in

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<v Speaker 2>a beef with Nikki at one point, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, That's what I'm saying. So it's like, whoever sided

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<v Speaker 1>with Nicki is over there? And then whoever sided with

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<v Speaker 1>Cardi B and and Megdae Stallion is on the other side,

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<v Speaker 1>and everybody's beefing underneath them. Like it's because just like

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<v Speaker 1>JT and Glorrella beef you know what I'm saying. JT

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<v Speaker 1>is on Nicki Minaj, Glorella is on Mega Stallion Cardi

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<v Speaker 1>B side.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you see that JT? I mean I JT. Karesha

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<v Speaker 2>did an interview. He said that her and JT are

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<v Speaker 2>like officially split, kind of like and not they're doing

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<v Speaker 2>their own thing. I mean we kind of saw that.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean we we don't see y'all doing much together

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<v Speaker 2>and I and I hate that for Korisha because she

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<v Speaker 2>was having a good run with her podcast. Uh Karsha

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<v Speaker 2>please and uh but JT up right now. JT got

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<v Speaker 2>that okay song where she got it sounded like Gucci

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<v Speaker 2>Man and j Z that they put wasted and uh,

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<v Speaker 2>j Z so what not so Icy, which which j

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<v Speaker 2>Z song one of j Z songs together and created

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<v Speaker 2>that beat. It took me right back in two thousand

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<v Speaker 2>and three.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I like that song Between that and uh yeah

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<v Speaker 1>Glow that should just get you amp a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I pretty that I be looking at Okay, Yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>like man, I like has an other song with Doi

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<v Speaker 1>that uh uh alter Ego is her name Doi raight.

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<v Speaker 2>Alter Ego.

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<v Speaker 1>They just dropped the alternate video for the song. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a hit, two nice little bops. I feel like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Karsha was holding you know, City girls down, why JT

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<v Speaker 1>was in prison and all that. JT came out and

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<v Speaker 1>got in her place, right, and I think that I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what all the things like Karsha had going on.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt like she was acting like she was bigger

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<v Speaker 1>than the group. Yeah, and know what I'm saying. And now,

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<v Speaker 1>if that's your partner, that's your day one. It should

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<v Speaker 1>never be no shit like that. So then it alters

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<v Speaker 1>the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So now JT just just acquiesced it to whatever was

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<v Speaker 1>going on, and she did her own separate thing, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay. I mean it's okay. They obviously, just like

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<v Speaker 1>Karsha said, like, they do best separate. She do her things,

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<v Speaker 1>she do better at that. So they just grew apart.

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<v Speaker 2>China is banning, China is banning well flaunting behavior on

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<v Speaker 2>social media online and flu influencers known for their luxurious

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<v Speaker 2>lifestyles are disappearing from Chinese social media and government crackdown

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<v Speaker 2>and amid a government crackdown on conspicuous displays of wealth,

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<v Speaker 2>I like that idea. I mean, I get it because

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<v Speaker 2>they're worried about the mindset of the people in China

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<v Speaker 2>because they see these, you know, overly lavish displays of wealth,

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<v Speaker 2>and I think it gives people like makes them depressed

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<v Speaker 2>or makes them feel like that's the standard for happiness

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<v Speaker 2>and things like that, which how we live here in America,

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<v Speaker 2>all fucked up with filters and trying to compete for wealth.

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<v Speaker 1>Go ahead, yeah it, says one famous influencer, Wang Hong

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<v Speaker 1>qua at h O n g q u E, who

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<v Speaker 1>bragged about owning seven properties in Beijing and claimed never

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<v Speaker 1>to wear an outfit worth less than ten million, which

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<v Speaker 1>is one point three million what's dollars? Dollars? What you wearing?

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<v Speaker 1>Outfits that cost that much, has been banned from Dallion,

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<v Speaker 1>the Chinese version of TikTok, preventing him from interacting with

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<v Speaker 1>his four point three million followers. His other videos depicted

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<v Speaker 1>long live in this lavish lifestyle with numerous armaz bags, maids,

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<v Speaker 1>and expensive sports cars. Other influencers who shared similar content

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<v Speaker 1>have been blocked from the platform. China's Cyberspace Administration launched

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<v Speaker 1>campaign in April targeting influencers who created a wealth flaunting

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<v Speaker 1>persona to intentionally showcase the lavish lifestyle built on money

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<v Speaker 1>to attract traffic and followers. According to NBC Lives, excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>According to I mean making up shit. According to NBC News,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not the first time China authorities have tried

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<v Speaker 1>to regulate internet behavior to combat undesirable social media trends. This,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like, this needs to happen. I mean something

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<v Speaker 1>sort of right. We know in America, like you can't.

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<v Speaker 2>You have freedom of speech, don't You don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Half the time these people aren't living their lives that

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<v Speaker 1>they're showing. Like they're saying, like social media is now

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<v Speaker 1>like a five hundred billion dollar industry as far as

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<v Speaker 1>like influencers scope mm hm, So people are making a

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<v Speaker 1>living now off of social media. And I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>the things that are the things that's happening with like

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<v Speaker 1>AI and jobs is pushing people more towards being themselves

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<v Speaker 1>for a paycheck or lack thereof being right. So, now

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<v Speaker 1>you're on these platforms and this is what people like

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like I make the clothes,

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<v Speaker 1>the shit don't make me so I don't have. Like

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<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of people who need these things.

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<v Speaker 2>To feel to feel good then to be validated. What

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<v Speaker 2>I have a friend, her and her husband have their

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<v Speaker 2>private plane, and she'd be written a plane for people

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<v Speaker 2>to take pictures on. They don't go nowhere, don't feel

0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:01.800
<v Speaker 2>the jet for nothing, just turn a bitch on and

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<v Speaker 2>they sit in there and take pictures. That's insane.

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<v Speaker 1>It is so that you have people who are living

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<v Speaker 1>regular lives right who aren't trying to be social media influencers,

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<v Speaker 1>but they they're the onlookers. These people some people have

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<v Speaker 1>mental health issues now, especially like with the children. There

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<v Speaker 1>has to be something these platforms do have to be

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<v Speaker 1>held account But I remember hearing like commercials on the

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<v Speaker 1>radio for Instagram, like the like the lawsuits, like the

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<v Speaker 1>what's like the public lawsuits and you do a class

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<v Speaker 1>action lawsuit. So there were like class action lawsuits against Instagram,

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<v Speaker 1>ongoing parents getting together wanting to doe Instagram and other

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<v Speaker 1>social media platforms because of the mental state of their

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<v Speaker 1>children now because of these platforms. So it has to

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<v Speaker 1>be something done. I mean I also saw where I

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<v Speaker 1>forgot what country it was. But they're like, if you

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<v Speaker 1>put out any marketing or advertisement for any companies, they

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<v Speaker 1>have to note if the image had been manipulated in

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<v Speaker 1>any kind of way. So if you have a filter

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<v Speaker 1>on the person that's on the advertisement, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>make it known because now you have these unrealistic beauty standards.

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<v Speaker 2>Right expectations. You got a skincare line and you're putting

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<v Speaker 2>a filter on somebody for the results. No, that's a lie, bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>I just seen.

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody argue with commenters because they said something to her

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<v Speaker 1>about not having on makeup or like having her bear face.

0:19:35.960 --> 0:19:38.320
<v Speaker 1>She was like, how the fucking Oh it was tammy,

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<v Speaker 1>it was walka flocka ex wife. Multiple people commented to her,

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<v Speaker 1>saying that she was showing off because she was posting

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<v Speaker 1>videos are going live with no filters and saying like

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<v Speaker 1>clear skin. Like they're saying like she's like flaunting what, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>just like I have a skincare line. At what point

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<v Speaker 1>would I be up here with filters on? She was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I look, the filter look nice, but I'm selling products, right,

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<v Speaker 1>so I want you all to see my natural skin,

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<v Speaker 1>so you know my shit works right, but not people

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<v Speaker 1>feeling like you're showing off because you're able to show

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<v Speaker 1>up as your true authentic self on social media.

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<v Speaker 2>People are not.

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<v Speaker 1>That is fucking wild to me. And y'all sit at

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<v Speaker 1>home and really like, use youall fingers and thumbs to

0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:29.919
<v Speaker 1>put this ship in the and it'll be a shame.

0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:31.960
<v Speaker 2>And believe what the fuck they say? And that's the

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<v Speaker 2>crazy part. Yeah, how do you win?

0:20:34.760 --> 0:20:37.480
<v Speaker 1>How do you win with these type of like personalities

0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:41.720
<v Speaker 1>in the world. It's just weird. So listen. The last

0:20:41.760 --> 0:20:47.800
<v Speaker 1>thing on the since docket, doctor Fauci had missed six fts,

0:20:47.840 --> 0:20:52.720
<v Speaker 1>the six foot social distancing was a bullshit. I don't

0:20:52.720 --> 0:20:54.680
<v Speaker 1>know if y'all have been following. I feel like people

0:20:54.720 --> 0:20:56.760
<v Speaker 1>are just now seeing this shit, but I've been following

0:20:56.880 --> 0:21:00.800
<v Speaker 1>all the shit with COVID since twenty twenty okay, twenty

0:21:00.880 --> 0:21:05.000
<v Speaker 1>nineteen really, but they have all the Congress sessions. You

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<v Speaker 1>can go on YouTube and view them. There's a lot

0:21:07.119 --> 0:21:09.360
<v Speaker 1>of interesting shit out there that people don't know what's

0:21:09.359 --> 0:21:11.800
<v Speaker 1>going on unless it's like placed on a plate in

0:21:11.840 --> 0:21:15.960
<v Speaker 1>front of their faces on somebody's platform. But a lot

0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:19.000
<v Speaker 1>of the COVID nineteen protocols have been called into question

0:21:19.119 --> 0:21:22.960
<v Speaker 1>recently after the transcript of doctor Anthony Fauci's interview with

0:21:23.600 --> 0:21:27.520
<v Speaker 1>Republicans was revealed today. In the interview, doctor Fauci explicitly

0:21:27.560 --> 0:21:31.879
<v Speaker 1>Stacey doesn't recall the origins of very specific pandemic rules

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<v Speaker 1>that affected the lives of millions of Americans. I remember

0:21:34.320 --> 0:21:36.800
<v Speaker 1>a lot of people grandmothers died at home by themselves

0:21:37.200 --> 0:21:40.000
<v Speaker 1>because they were afraid that family family members come in

0:21:40.040 --> 0:21:43.040
<v Speaker 1>their homes. A lot of bodies were burnt, can even

0:21:43.080 --> 0:21:45.560
<v Speaker 1>be buried by their family members. A lot of where

0:21:45.640 --> 0:21:50.320
<v Speaker 1>shit happen during COVID, and all of it is now

0:21:50.400 --> 0:21:53.160
<v Speaker 1>being called into question. All I want is an apology.

0:21:54.160 --> 0:21:57.639
<v Speaker 1>Some of y'all listeners owe me an apology too, because

0:21:57.640 --> 0:21:59.720
<v Speaker 1>if you're not paying attention to how they running back

0:21:59.760 --> 0:22:02.440
<v Speaker 1>all all this shit, I just want to make sure

0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:04.679
<v Speaker 1>that if they run this play again, people will be

0:22:04.720 --> 0:22:06.639
<v Speaker 1>smarter the next go around.

0:22:06.840 --> 0:22:10.760
<v Speaker 2>They just collectively, They're not collectively just because the government

0:22:10.880 --> 0:22:14.199
<v Speaker 2>can't do the government can't do half this shit unless

0:22:14.200 --> 0:22:16.480
<v Speaker 2>the people are complicit with it, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I just feel like, I don't know. It taught

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<v Speaker 1>me a lot about myself.

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<v Speaker 2>COVID.

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<v Speaker 1>It also taught me a lot about a lot of

0:22:23.359 --> 0:22:24.040
<v Speaker 1>the people I know.

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<v Speaker 2>But I like this. I like I still like the

0:22:27.800 --> 0:22:29.760
<v Speaker 2>six feet rule. Just stay the fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>Back, back back, get fifty feet.

0:22:34.440 --> 0:22:41.040
<v Speaker 2>Remember that song I have to pull up? Give me Yeah, y'all,

0:22:41.960 --> 0:22:42.600
<v Speaker 2>get up on you.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe we'll do an episode on politics. I want to.

0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:49.560
<v Speaker 1>I want to talk about Agenda twenty five. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of shit going on that people just aren't aware

0:22:53.720 --> 0:22:57.280
<v Speaker 1>of because you really don't care. I care about what

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<v Speaker 1>the fuck happens to me in the future. Me, So,

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<v Speaker 1>y'all when we get back after this break, we want

0:23:03.000 --> 0:23:06.680
<v Speaker 1>to talk about something that happens. It's almost an epidemic

0:23:08.280 --> 0:23:12.600
<v Speaker 1>amongst the community. Community petty pussy. We'll be right back,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, you guys, we're back.

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<v Speaker 2>And I hit up AJ because I had got a

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<v Speaker 2>message from someone and she asked me, did I feel

0:23:26.400 --> 0:23:28.640
<v Speaker 2>like pity pussy was a real thing? Because she felt

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<v Speaker 2>like she just gave up some and I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>what you mean? And she shared with me how a

0:23:34.840 --> 0:23:38.000
<v Speaker 2>guy from her job that she communicates with and they

0:23:38.040 --> 0:23:41.240
<v Speaker 2>talk all the time and he's a really She's like, oh,

0:23:41.240 --> 0:23:44.000
<v Speaker 2>he's a really nice guy. That's how she described him.

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<v Speaker 2>But she like they were watching a movie or something,

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<v Speaker 2>and his internet went out and he started like trying

0:23:51.880 --> 0:23:55.480
<v Speaker 2>to get to that bullson and she ended up giving

0:23:55.480 --> 0:23:57.760
<v Speaker 2>it to him, but not because she wanted to. She

0:23:57.920 --> 0:24:01.760
<v Speaker 2>just pitied him. So she gave him some and she

0:24:01.800 --> 0:24:03.960
<v Speaker 2>said it wasn't good and she didn't enjoy it, but

0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:07.440
<v Speaker 2>she just felt so sorry for her, so she gave

0:24:07.520 --> 0:24:11.600
<v Speaker 2>him some kouchie. And I was like mm mm. So

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<v Speaker 2>it made me think about like the idea of what

0:24:14.119 --> 0:24:17.440
<v Speaker 2>pity pussy is, and so I hit AJ so we

0:24:17.480 --> 0:24:19.040
<v Speaker 2>can talk about it.

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<v Speaker 1>What's pretty Yeah, because I've definitely given a man pity

0:24:23.040 --> 0:24:28.040
<v Speaker 1>pussy before, and then I didn't talk to him again. Really,

0:24:28.280 --> 0:24:32.879
<v Speaker 1>she has to work with this guy, Yes, I have definitely.

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<v Speaker 1>You know it's And I talked about this on my

0:24:35.600 --> 0:24:41.119
<v Speaker 1>homeboy Von Ray's podcast, Set the Record Straate how I

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<v Speaker 1>think this happens to women a lot and men may

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<v Speaker 1>not consider it kind of like it's almost like a

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<v Speaker 1>situation where you're you're in a close setting with a man.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is why I'm against women. If you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to have sex with a man in any capacity,

0:24:54.080 --> 0:24:56.160
<v Speaker 1>do not put yourself in a clothes setting with him.

0:24:56.680 --> 0:25:01.639
<v Speaker 1>You know, it's not technically it's not a forced situation.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you had a choice, you probably would not

0:25:05.240 --> 0:25:05.639
<v Speaker 1>have done it.

0:25:05.800 --> 0:25:07.320
<v Speaker 2>Really, you should have just made me, and you do

0:25:07.480 --> 0:25:08.399
<v Speaker 2>have a choice.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of times women don't know how to get

0:25:10.400 --> 0:25:13.080
<v Speaker 1>out the situation though. How do you just without hurting

0:25:13.119 --> 0:25:16.000
<v Speaker 1>this man's ego? How do you leave? You know what

0:25:16.000 --> 0:25:19.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, Like, some women don't know like that viral

0:25:19.520 --> 0:25:23.199
<v Speaker 1>or daves me. Some women don't know how cause I

0:25:23.200 --> 0:25:26.000
<v Speaker 1>can tell you in that situation, like I didn't know

0:25:26.040 --> 0:25:27.480
<v Speaker 1>how to just get the fuck up out of there.

0:25:27.480 --> 0:25:29.880
<v Speaker 1>I just let it happen, and I just didn't talk

0:25:29.920 --> 0:25:32.000
<v Speaker 1>to him again because you you put the pressure on

0:25:32.119 --> 0:25:34.560
<v Speaker 1>so fucking heavy that I just went ahead and had

0:25:34.600 --> 0:25:36.320
<v Speaker 1>sex with you when I really didn't want to, and

0:25:36.359 --> 0:25:37.840
<v Speaker 1>maybe I would have want to fuck you know a

0:25:37.880 --> 0:25:40.080
<v Speaker 1>month from now. You didn't let me even get to

0:25:40.240 --> 0:25:42.399
<v Speaker 1>like you enough to want to have sex with you.

0:25:42.480 --> 0:25:45.000
<v Speaker 1>So now I had sex with you without liking your

0:25:45.040 --> 0:25:47.920
<v Speaker 1>ass for real, and I'm out of there. Nigga blocked.

0:25:48.200 --> 0:25:50.919
<v Speaker 2>But do you happen? But is that pity sex or

0:25:51.040 --> 0:25:55.320
<v Speaker 2>is it just like that almost hair Nigga, hair, Nigga,

0:25:55.480 --> 0:25:58.919
<v Speaker 2>it's almost it's borderline kind of Yeah, I repeat, it

0:25:58.960 --> 0:26:00.760
<v Speaker 2>sounds rapist, can I say that?

0:26:00.880 --> 0:26:05.399
<v Speaker 1>Yes, I said that before, right, so maybe you bleep it.

0:26:05.440 --> 0:26:08.679
<v Speaker 1>But it is a little bit. It's a great area

0:26:08.840 --> 0:26:11.159
<v Speaker 1>situation as some women end up in. And I and

0:26:11.200 --> 0:26:13.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying this is in my younger days, this is

0:26:13.119 --> 0:26:16.760
<v Speaker 1>not recently, because I don't think we should have Nigga

0:26:16.760 --> 0:26:20.760
<v Speaker 1>to death nowadays. I'm out of there. I'm out of there.

0:26:20.800 --> 0:26:23.320
<v Speaker 1>But young girls like sometimes they don't know how to

0:26:23.359 --> 0:26:25.840
<v Speaker 1>find themselves out of those situations, which is why I

0:26:25.920 --> 0:26:28.119
<v Speaker 1>just don't put yourself in there in it because if

0:26:28.160 --> 0:26:30.760
<v Speaker 1>you go to a man's house like they automatically think

0:26:30.920 --> 0:26:32.280
<v Speaker 1>you know it's right and.

0:26:32.280 --> 0:26:34.399
<v Speaker 2>Don't like a nigga said he want to cook for

0:26:34.440 --> 0:26:36.600
<v Speaker 2>you if he is not a chef and went the

0:26:36.600 --> 0:26:39.440
<v Speaker 2>culinary school, don't go over there.

0:26:41.040 --> 0:26:41.600
<v Speaker 1>Exactly.

0:26:42.720 --> 0:26:46.400
<v Speaker 2>He went out. He cut his Internet off.

0:26:46.600 --> 0:26:49.879
<v Speaker 1>That exactly from the app on his cell phone. He

0:26:50.000 --> 0:26:52.760
<v Speaker 1>cut the internet service TV went out. Time to fuck

0:26:52.920 --> 0:26:56.560
<v Speaker 1>like that. You're not about to watch Netflix to death me? Okay, right,

0:26:57.240 --> 0:27:02.000
<v Speaker 1>that's what happened. I'm pretty sure she gave him some minute.

0:27:02.040 --> 0:27:06.000
<v Speaker 2>But she said it like it sounds like because she

0:27:06.040 --> 0:27:10.280
<v Speaker 2>sent me voice notes. It sounded like pity pussy because

0:27:10.359 --> 0:27:13.280
<v Speaker 2>it was like, oh, but he's so nice, they feel

0:27:13.359 --> 0:27:17.439
<v Speaker 2>so bad form I don't ever want to give out

0:27:17.520 --> 0:27:20.320
<v Speaker 2>Bill Johnna. That goes with that tone.

0:27:20.760 --> 0:27:26.360
<v Speaker 1>You know, and what man actually wants, Like well, actually

0:27:26.400 --> 0:27:28.480
<v Speaker 1>we had a man on who said he's okay with

0:27:28.560 --> 0:27:31.439
<v Speaker 1>pitty pussy. Like here you had Nigga hit his pussy,

0:27:31.520 --> 0:27:33.359
<v Speaker 1>Like why do you not want the woman to also

0:27:33.600 --> 0:27:36.520
<v Speaker 1>enjoy it? And I think men know when we are

0:27:36.560 --> 0:27:38.520
<v Speaker 1>giving him pitty pussy, But do they give a fuck?

0:27:38.560 --> 0:27:39.960
<v Speaker 1>I don't think so. They don't think.

0:27:40.000 --> 0:27:42.280
<v Speaker 2>They don't care as long as they hitting it, they

0:27:42.280 --> 0:27:43.440
<v Speaker 2>don't care what kind it is.

0:27:45.160 --> 0:27:49.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I I just had a thought about some shit,

0:27:49.840 --> 0:27:50.880
<v Speaker 1>like just.

0:27:52.880 --> 0:27:55.120
<v Speaker 2>I feel about One of the guests on our show

0:27:55.160 --> 0:27:58.280
<v Speaker 2>said that most of the pussy he gets his pitty pussy,

0:27:58.640 --> 0:27:59.440
<v Speaker 2>that nig was.

0:27:59.359 --> 0:28:03.360
<v Speaker 1>Trolling man, and I'm okay.

0:28:05.080 --> 0:28:07.240
<v Speaker 2>He said, every time he gets some ass is a

0:28:07.280 --> 0:28:10.040
<v Speaker 2>woman feeling sorry for him because he's a nice guy.

0:28:11.600 --> 0:28:17.280
<v Speaker 1>Man. That Nigga is a terrorist. That dude is a

0:28:17.320 --> 0:28:21.359
<v Speaker 1>whole terrorist. Okay, he might be acting like he a

0:28:21.480 --> 0:28:25.480
<v Speaker 1>nice guy. Get that Koucie up. You're gonna meet a terrorists.

0:28:26.280 --> 0:28:31.080
<v Speaker 2>I I'm trying to think. Have I ever No, I

0:28:31.119 --> 0:28:35.040
<v Speaker 2>can't think of anytime I've given out pity pussy where

0:28:35.080 --> 0:28:38.760
<v Speaker 2>I felt sorry for a person. I've given out pity food,

0:28:39.520 --> 0:28:45.440
<v Speaker 2>like damn, let me feed this nigga. I feel bad. Yeah,

0:28:45.440 --> 0:28:49.640
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna make dinner. I don't buy dinner, but my vagina.

0:28:49.960 --> 0:28:52.120
<v Speaker 2>I ain't never felt that much pity for nobody.

0:28:52.480 --> 0:28:55.080
<v Speaker 1>So everybody you've had sex with, like you really wanted

0:28:55.080 --> 0:28:55.880
<v Speaker 1>to have sex with him.

0:28:58.640 --> 0:29:00.920
<v Speaker 2>No, I can't say everybody I have had sex with

0:29:01.120 --> 0:29:04.320
<v Speaker 2>I really wanted to have sex, but there was someone there.

0:29:04.800 --> 0:29:08.000
<v Speaker 2>It was never like I just want to give you

0:29:08.680 --> 0:29:12.720
<v Speaker 2>some pussy or you know, like I'm just gonna give

0:29:12.760 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 2>it to you because I feel like I owe you

0:29:16.960 --> 0:29:21.000
<v Speaker 2>something or no i'd had I done, got put out

0:29:21.040 --> 0:29:22.960
<v Speaker 2>of places because I ain't bring no pussy with me

0:29:23.680 --> 0:29:28.440
<v Speaker 2>worth more than given away puy pity pussy. I definitely

0:29:28.440 --> 0:29:31.920
<v Speaker 2>don't have that habit bared it once. Humm.

0:29:34.960 --> 0:29:38.120
<v Speaker 1>So pity pussy to me is like I consider pity

0:29:38.120 --> 0:29:40.560
<v Speaker 1>pussy like if you're doing it, this is your first

0:29:40.600 --> 0:29:42.520
<v Speaker 1>time having sex with this person, and you have sex

0:29:42.560 --> 0:29:45.200
<v Speaker 1>with them. But some people are giving their husband's pity

0:29:45.200 --> 0:29:50.520
<v Speaker 1>pussy after further research, people are in committed relationships where

0:29:50.560 --> 0:29:56.440
<v Speaker 1>they are given their significant others pity or Another term

0:29:56.520 --> 0:30:00.719
<v Speaker 1>I found was duty pussy. Now that what do you pussy?

0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:04.640
<v Speaker 1>Is a motherfucker. I definitely have given out some duty.

0:30:04.880 --> 0:30:08.160
<v Speaker 2>It's more duty pussy out here than anything else I think.

0:30:10.840 --> 0:30:13.240
<v Speaker 1>I think it depends on the age group. Like yes,

0:30:13.720 --> 0:30:16.440
<v Speaker 1>y'all at the house. Now y'all having to schedule sex

0:30:16.480 --> 0:30:19.600
<v Speaker 1>and shit like that, you might be giving up some

0:30:19.680 --> 0:30:21.640
<v Speaker 1>duty pussy. Like damn, I ain't get this nigga no

0:30:21.720 --> 0:30:23.240
<v Speaker 1>pussy in two weeks. Let me go and fuck his

0:30:23.320 --> 0:30:24.240
<v Speaker 1>ask Damn.

0:30:24.320 --> 0:30:25.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I have friends that be like, girl, let me

0:30:26.040 --> 0:30:28.440
<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna call you back in fifteen minutes. Let me

0:30:28.480 --> 0:30:31.200
<v Speaker 2>go fuck this nigga to sleep, and I'll be right back.

0:30:31.240 --> 0:30:35.520
<v Speaker 2>It ain't gonna take long. I have another whole girl

0:30:35.520 --> 0:30:37.239
<v Speaker 2>like we want to go on the trip, and like

0:30:38.560 --> 0:30:40.920
<v Speaker 2>she hasn't planned any trip with her husband yet for

0:30:41.320 --> 0:30:43.840
<v Speaker 2>the hout the summer months, but she's trying to play

0:30:43.920 --> 0:30:48.000
<v Speaker 2>the trip with us. And she was like, girl, I

0:30:48.040 --> 0:30:52.800
<v Speaker 2>gotta do something because they've been together for almost twenty

0:30:52.880 --> 0:30:57.440
<v Speaker 2>years at this point. She's like, girl, it's the same

0:30:57.480 --> 0:31:03.040
<v Speaker 2>old dick you know sames the same old dick, but

0:31:03.160 --> 0:31:04.960
<v Speaker 2>let me go do something to it so I can

0:31:05.280 --> 0:31:09.360
<v Speaker 2>this trip. That's beauty pussy.

0:31:10.000 --> 0:31:13.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I think it's important, Like in relationships, you can't.

0:31:13.760 --> 0:31:14.640
<v Speaker 2>You have to have.

0:31:14.520 --> 0:31:18.120
<v Speaker 1>Boundaries even within the union, Like with your this is

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:21.040
<v Speaker 1>still my body. I don't belong to you. You can't

0:31:21.080 --> 0:31:22.960
<v Speaker 1>just do things. I think. I talked about this a

0:31:22.960 --> 0:31:25.400
<v Speaker 1>couple of weeks ago about I don't like people tugging

0:31:25.400 --> 0:31:29.040
<v Speaker 1>at my body just randomly while I'm cooking, like stop,

0:31:29.320 --> 0:31:30.840
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, because it gets to be

0:31:30.960 --> 0:31:33.960
<v Speaker 1>too much, and I want to continue to want you.

0:31:33.960 --> 0:31:35.720
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. I don't want somebody that's

0:31:35.760 --> 0:31:38.440
<v Speaker 1>always like available to me either. So I feel like

0:31:38.480 --> 0:31:43.000
<v Speaker 1>even limiting like sex within a relationship is healthy. How

0:31:43.040 --> 0:31:44.440
<v Speaker 1>many times a week do you think you should be

0:31:44.440 --> 0:31:45.520
<v Speaker 1>having sex with your partner?

0:31:46.520 --> 0:31:48.320
<v Speaker 2>I ain't had sex all year, so that's not a

0:31:48.320 --> 0:31:49.880
<v Speaker 2>good question for me because I'm talking.

0:31:51.000 --> 0:31:54.040
<v Speaker 1>And in relationships, I feel like three times is enough,

0:31:54.840 --> 0:31:57.880
<v Speaker 1>and sometimes even that it could be you know, excessive,

0:31:58.400 --> 0:32:00.760
<v Speaker 1>Like how do I expect my man to like get

0:32:00.800 --> 0:32:03.040
<v Speaker 1>up and go to work if I'm dreaming his balls

0:32:03.200 --> 0:32:06.080
<v Speaker 1>every single night, like he's not gonna be productive.

0:32:06.440 --> 0:32:07.440
<v Speaker 2>I don't think so either.

0:32:07.800 --> 0:32:11.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you gotta limit the kuchi so you can make

0:32:11.080 --> 0:32:15.600
<v Speaker 1>sure your man brings the bag home. You can't be

0:32:15.720 --> 0:32:17.560
<v Speaker 1>like because if you if you're not putting that niggat

0:32:17.560 --> 0:32:19.560
<v Speaker 1>asleep when you're done with him, you really ain't doing

0:32:19.560 --> 0:32:22.880
<v Speaker 1>the job. No way. That part we steal energy.

0:32:23.840 --> 0:32:27.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's why I think athletes, you know, oftentimes don't

0:32:27.000 --> 0:32:30.640
<v Speaker 2>have sex the night before the game rule. It's a rule.

0:32:30.680 --> 0:32:33.200
<v Speaker 1>They put them in the hotels, separate from these spouses.

0:32:33.560 --> 0:32:38.160
<v Speaker 1>Everybody's together, like it's a whole thing. Boxers don't have sex.

0:32:38.000 --> 0:32:41.280
<v Speaker 2>Like yeah, because it's it's an energy stealer.

0:32:42.160 --> 0:32:42.560
<v Speaker 1>Mm hmm.

0:32:42.800 --> 0:32:45.719
<v Speaker 2>It's a life force stealer. Your life force is literally

0:32:45.800 --> 0:32:46.800
<v Speaker 2>leaving out of your body.

0:32:47.560 --> 0:32:49.959
<v Speaker 1>And then I don't like to clean up.

0:32:54.160 --> 0:33:01.320
<v Speaker 2>I don't like the cleanup. It's crazy. So I have

0:33:02.480 --> 0:33:03.040
<v Speaker 2>I do have.

0:33:03.360 --> 0:33:05.959
<v Speaker 1>I do have duty sex. I have had duty sex

0:33:06.080 --> 0:33:09.960
<v Speaker 1>and relationships, but I have given out pity pussy first

0:33:10.040 --> 0:33:11.960
<v Speaker 1>time pity pussy. I've done that.

0:33:12.720 --> 0:33:14.440
<v Speaker 2>And that's the thing. I don't know if I've ever

0:33:14.560 --> 0:33:17.080
<v Speaker 2>had duty sex, but I don't be. I ain't been

0:33:17.080 --> 0:33:20.000
<v Speaker 2>with niggas long enough for duty sex. I think all

0:33:20.040 --> 0:33:23.440
<v Speaker 2>my relationships. I mean even the last one. It was

0:33:23.480 --> 0:33:29.160
<v Speaker 2>like four years, almost five years, and that was the

0:33:29.200 --> 0:33:33.000
<v Speaker 2>only thing that was we had it was good sex.

0:33:35.760 --> 0:33:38.520
<v Speaker 1>That's fucked up too. It's like gotta be bad. It

0:33:38.560 --> 0:33:41.040
<v Speaker 1>has to be balanced of some sort. I want to

0:33:41.080 --> 0:33:43.640
<v Speaker 1>miss the dick even in a relationship, Like I want

0:33:43.640 --> 0:33:46.880
<v Speaker 1>to be anticipating have sex, having sex with you. If

0:33:46.880 --> 0:33:48.840
<v Speaker 1>you're doing it every single night, that's sheit gonna get

0:33:48.840 --> 0:33:51.840
<v Speaker 1>old for the both of us. And so I read

0:33:51.880 --> 0:33:55.320
<v Speaker 1>something that says quality over quantity, like I want to

0:33:55.360 --> 0:33:58.760
<v Speaker 1>have quality sex when we do have sex. I don't

0:33:58.800 --> 0:34:01.000
<v Speaker 1>just want to be humping for fifteen minutes and half

0:34:01.040 --> 0:34:04.080
<v Speaker 1>the time I'm not even aroused, or I gotta take

0:34:04.120 --> 0:34:07.920
<v Speaker 1>a shot or smoke a blunt to even do this.

0:34:08.440 --> 0:34:11.920
<v Speaker 2>Like that is almost I like, no, smoking the blunt

0:34:11.920 --> 0:34:14.399
<v Speaker 2>first is kind of cool, though I ain't gonna lie. No.

0:34:14.480 --> 0:34:16.040
<v Speaker 2>I like, I like weeded sex.

0:34:16.680 --> 0:34:19.279
<v Speaker 1>But I can tell you in my last relationship, I

0:34:19.480 --> 0:34:22.920
<v Speaker 1>had to have weed. And when I stopped yes, and

0:34:22.960 --> 0:34:27.600
<v Speaker 1>when I stopped getting high before sex, I didn't enjoy it. Damn,

0:34:28.440 --> 0:34:31.799
<v Speaker 1>hurry up, get off me. I started being like that.

0:34:32.719 --> 0:34:36.239
<v Speaker 2>M hm, damn, you like seey he just climbed on

0:34:36.320 --> 0:34:38.000
<v Speaker 2>top and do his business.

0:34:40.040 --> 0:34:44.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't. I'm a very I'm a very sexual person.

0:34:45.160 --> 0:34:48.479
<v Speaker 1>But I just it can't get old, so we gotta

0:34:48.560 --> 0:34:50.640
<v Speaker 1>do something to make sure that shit don't get old.

0:34:51.160 --> 0:34:52.279
<v Speaker 1>So we can't do it a lot.

0:34:53.600 --> 0:34:56.000
<v Speaker 2>How do you like after sir? I feel like after

0:34:56.120 --> 0:35:01.160
<v Speaker 2>year five, that's when it started getting like here he comes,

0:35:01.400 --> 0:35:04.880
<v Speaker 2>I dig again. Two years?

0:35:05.440 --> 0:35:06.880
<v Speaker 1>Yes, a year and a half?

0:35:07.880 --> 0:35:12.800
<v Speaker 2>Really no, I was. I was like, yes, I said

0:35:12.840 --> 0:35:17.320
<v Speaker 2>what I said. I don't know. My last relationship that

0:35:17.560 --> 0:35:20.880
<v Speaker 2>was like what kept us together that long. I think

0:35:21.560 --> 0:35:25.160
<v Speaker 2>was the sexual chemistry. We fought like cats and dogs,

0:35:25.719 --> 0:35:29.920
<v Speaker 2>but when we were like intimate, it was very pleasing

0:35:30.280 --> 0:35:33.000
<v Speaker 2>for the entirety of the relationship, which was like four

0:35:33.000 --> 0:35:35.879
<v Speaker 2>and a half years. But it was all the other

0:35:35.920 --> 0:35:38.760
<v Speaker 2>stuff that just made it awful.

0:35:38.880 --> 0:35:45.200
<v Speaker 1>Toxiana. So this is Douglas Counseling dot com. It's the

0:35:45.360 --> 0:35:48.600
<v Speaker 1>article is called pity sex, What is it? And why

0:35:48.719 --> 0:35:53.160
<v Speaker 1>men hated? And this is even more interesting that pity

0:35:53.200 --> 0:35:56.279
<v Speaker 1>sex really only pertains to like men being on the

0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:59.240
<v Speaker 1>receiving end of it. You really don't hear about women

0:36:00.840 --> 0:36:02.160
<v Speaker 1>getting pity dick?

0:36:04.160 --> 0:36:10.800
<v Speaker 2>Oh no, what about Gloria on waiting to exhil. Remember

0:36:10.800 --> 0:36:14.960
<v Speaker 2>she was like, Lord, let him be merciful again this time. Mmmm,

0:36:15.480 --> 0:36:19.520
<v Speaker 2>she got he did. No, that was her, That was

0:36:19.520 --> 0:36:22.800
<v Speaker 2>her ex, her child's father. When he came to town,

0:36:23.120 --> 0:36:24.919
<v Speaker 2>he would have sex with her, but he stopped because

0:36:24.920 --> 0:36:25.399
<v Speaker 2>he was gay.

0:36:26.640 --> 0:36:30.160
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, Shane, you're remembering all the TV shit.

0:36:31.880 --> 0:36:34.800
<v Speaker 1>All right, So this part says how your man views

0:36:34.840 --> 0:36:37.640
<v Speaker 1>pity sex. It says don't fool yourself. Your man can

0:36:37.680 --> 0:36:41.240
<v Speaker 1>tell when you aren't engaged in sex. You rush past

0:36:41.239 --> 0:36:45.239
<v Speaker 1>the four place, skip passionate kissing, and cheer him on

0:36:45.280 --> 0:36:48.719
<v Speaker 1>to finish as fast as he can. Men men hate this.

0:36:49.400 --> 0:36:52.880
<v Speaker 1>But what do I do then? If I keep telling

0:36:52.920 --> 0:36:54.880
<v Speaker 1>you no, I don't feel like it, that's a problem.

0:36:55.680 --> 0:36:58.480
<v Speaker 1>If I engage and go ahead and do the act

0:36:59.080 --> 0:37:02.520
<v Speaker 1>and I don't as into it, that's also a problem.

0:37:02.880 --> 0:37:05.320
<v Speaker 1>So I feel like there's this like an and something's

0:37:05.400 --> 0:37:07.560
<v Speaker 1>up with the intimacy, right, because I think a lot

0:37:07.600 --> 0:37:10.640
<v Speaker 1>of men feel like intimacy only happens right before they

0:37:10.640 --> 0:37:12.840
<v Speaker 1>want to stick. They dicking you, And no, it should

0:37:12.880 --> 0:37:14.719
<v Speaker 1>be all day, you should be trying to woo me

0:37:15.000 --> 0:37:17.880
<v Speaker 1>all day you should be And I talk about pulling

0:37:17.880 --> 0:37:20.240
<v Speaker 1>my titties out my shirt while I'm cooking grits. Okay,

0:37:20.280 --> 0:37:24.400
<v Speaker 1>but I'm just textingly cute things like making me want you.

0:37:24.840 --> 0:37:26.799
<v Speaker 2>First of all, please don't put my titt out, because

0:37:26.800 --> 0:37:28.800
<v Speaker 2>grits pop on your titty and they don't stop burning

0:37:28.800 --> 0:37:35.240
<v Speaker 2>to the school. But also, intimacy also works both ways,

0:37:35.280 --> 0:37:37.080
<v Speaker 2>so you could do the same for your man. You

0:37:37.120 --> 0:37:38.839
<v Speaker 2>don't have to wait for him to do it. You

0:37:38.880 --> 0:37:41.600
<v Speaker 2>could start the intimacy for the first thing in the

0:37:41.680 --> 0:37:45.160
<v Speaker 2>morning with him, right Because I feel like women be

0:37:45.520 --> 0:37:50.600
<v Speaker 2>wanting they need the intention towards them all the time,

0:37:50.640 --> 0:37:52.799
<v Speaker 2>and I think men want to be wooed a little too.

0:37:53.920 --> 0:37:56.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, men want to feel wanted. Men also want to

0:37:56.719 --> 0:38:02.640
<v Speaker 1>feel loved as well. I don't know. Look, I might

0:38:02.640 --> 0:38:03.920
<v Speaker 1>need some therapy in at the part.

0:38:04.040 --> 0:38:06.480
<v Speaker 2>So let me tell you. So, let me tell you this.

0:38:06.560 --> 0:38:09.799
<v Speaker 2>So the girl who messaged me about her you know,

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:12.960
<v Speaker 2>pity sex, he was like, had been calling her a

0:38:13.000 --> 0:38:16.440
<v Speaker 2>lot after like wanting to spend time, and she was like,

0:38:16.920 --> 0:38:19.400
<v Speaker 2>she talked to him like a nigga would talk to

0:38:19.440 --> 0:38:21.319
<v Speaker 2>a woman that they didn't like. And she was like,

0:38:21.719 --> 0:38:24.480
<v Speaker 2>I ain't with all that consistent shit. That's what she

0:38:24.640 --> 0:38:28.680
<v Speaker 2>told a man she might as well ghost him. I

0:38:28.800 --> 0:38:31.319
<v Speaker 2>was like, oh my god, that was so mean. And

0:38:31.360 --> 0:38:33.400
<v Speaker 2>then she sent me a screenshot of what he posted,

0:38:33.840 --> 0:38:35.680
<v Speaker 2>and it was like the saddest thing. He was like,

0:38:35.760 --> 0:38:37.680
<v Speaker 2>you got what you wanted, so I guess you're good

0:38:37.760 --> 0:38:40.120
<v Speaker 2>now or something like that, and I was.

0:38:40.080 --> 0:38:43.239
<v Speaker 1>Like, oh my god, I just got dick, Like he

0:38:43.320 --> 0:38:46.200
<v Speaker 1>didn't do much right and you ain't even come through

0:38:46.200 --> 0:38:48.480
<v Speaker 1>with the dick for real, because even if she would,

0:38:48.560 --> 0:38:50.640
<v Speaker 1>even if it could, it could have initially started off

0:38:50.719 --> 0:38:53.719
<v Speaker 1>as pity sex right start off, but he could have

0:38:53.800 --> 0:38:55.120
<v Speaker 1>fucked the shit out of her and it would have

0:38:55.160 --> 0:38:56.960
<v Speaker 1>turned into her chasing right.

0:38:57.080 --> 0:38:58.279
<v Speaker 2>He just didn't.

0:38:57.960 --> 0:39:01.479
<v Speaker 1>Deliver, like she gave him the alley who like if.

0:39:01.400 --> 0:39:05.920
<v Speaker 2>He did not deliver the you got what you wanted,

0:39:06.040 --> 0:39:08.040
<v Speaker 2>so I guess it is what it is.

0:39:08.640 --> 0:39:12.040
<v Speaker 1>See, it's the energy, man, even it just starts with

0:39:12.080 --> 0:39:14.360
<v Speaker 1>the energy. She knew that Dick was gonna be whack.

0:39:14.920 --> 0:39:17.239
<v Speaker 1>She knew it before he even pulled it out, just

0:39:17.280 --> 0:39:19.399
<v Speaker 1>because of his energy, Because what type of dude would

0:39:19.400 --> 0:39:22.120
<v Speaker 1>just be like, oh man, you got what you wanted?

0:39:22.280 --> 0:39:25.160
<v Speaker 1>Like what can you blame him for a feeling that way?

0:39:25.239 --> 0:39:28.000
<v Speaker 1>Though I didn't want it, I didn't want it. That's

0:39:28.040 --> 0:39:30.920
<v Speaker 1>the problem. I really didn't want it, but you pressured

0:39:30.960 --> 0:39:33.759
<v Speaker 1>me and I went ahead with it. And now, like,

0:39:33.880 --> 0:39:35.680
<v Speaker 1>this is what you get when you don't let a

0:39:35.719 --> 0:39:39.400
<v Speaker 1>woman live like you. First you wanted me to have sex.

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:41.880
<v Speaker 1>I went ahead and gave you the pussy, and now

0:39:42.080 --> 0:39:43.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't really like you like that. You didn't even

0:39:43.880 --> 0:39:47.120
<v Speaker 1>give me a chance to like you. You know who's

0:39:47.120 --> 0:39:50.600
<v Speaker 1>good for that? The the person I gave pitty pussy

0:39:50.640 --> 0:39:52.680
<v Speaker 1>to was an African nigga. I'm gonna just be honest.

0:39:53.120 --> 0:40:00.560
<v Speaker 1>There's some pushy ass guys man. She like African women like.

0:40:00.640 --> 0:40:02.279
<v Speaker 1>Do y'all be fucking on the first night a lot?

0:40:03.120 --> 0:40:06.640
<v Speaker 1>Because I'm trying to figure out why African men beat

0:40:06.680 --> 0:40:10.799
<v Speaker 1>that pushy darling darling. They don't give a fuck like

0:40:11.120 --> 0:40:14.800
<v Speaker 1>they the minute they aroused and you ain't do nothing.

0:40:14.840 --> 0:40:17.600
<v Speaker 1>You just walked in the room, You just walked in

0:40:17.600 --> 0:40:21.080
<v Speaker 1>the restaurant, and they want you to give them pussy

0:40:21.200 --> 0:40:21.920
<v Speaker 1>right now.

0:40:25.480 --> 0:40:26.240
<v Speaker 2>Don't listen.

0:40:26.480 --> 0:40:28.239
<v Speaker 1>If it's no nigga, you need to put yourself in

0:40:28.239 --> 0:40:30.600
<v Speaker 1>a clothes setting with it's a goddamn African, don't do

0:40:30.680 --> 0:40:39.160
<v Speaker 1>it them niggas is pushy ding darling, pushy so it

0:40:39.200 --> 0:40:42.600
<v Speaker 1>says having pity sex may seem like a good solution

0:40:42.719 --> 0:40:45.560
<v Speaker 1>to the problem when you aren't feeling up for sex

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:48.080
<v Speaker 1>and you know your partner is The truth is that

0:40:48.280 --> 0:40:51.080
<v Speaker 1>having pity sex with your partner may actually lead to

0:40:51.160 --> 0:40:54.960
<v Speaker 1>more problems than it fixes. Sure, you and your partner

0:40:55.000 --> 0:40:59.799
<v Speaker 1>had sex, but did you really connect through the experience. Yes,

0:41:00.040 --> 0:41:02.800
<v Speaker 1>So it starts to feel like eugh, you know what

0:41:02.840 --> 0:41:05.360
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. You almost and if I start feeling disgusted

0:41:05.400 --> 0:41:08.800
<v Speaker 1>when we have sex, I'm on the way out the door. Yeah,

0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:11.480
<v Speaker 1>if I you know, because like it's no more, it's

0:41:11.520 --> 0:41:13.640
<v Speaker 1>not even any like there anymore. Like I love you,

0:41:13.719 --> 0:41:15.879
<v Speaker 1>That's why I'm giving you this pussy, But I really

0:41:16.000 --> 0:41:16.920
<v Speaker 1>like you to enjoy it.

0:41:17.440 --> 0:41:20.239
<v Speaker 2>But what about people who like yet? Like this is

0:41:20.280 --> 0:41:22.600
<v Speaker 2>my biggest fear. I find my husband, we fall in love,

0:41:22.640 --> 0:41:24.600
<v Speaker 2>we do all the things, we start growing old together,

0:41:24.920 --> 0:41:27.279
<v Speaker 2>and then y'all become more like brother and sister and

0:41:27.320 --> 0:41:31.279
<v Speaker 2>a marriage than husband and wife because the intimacy is gone.

0:41:31.360 --> 0:41:33.160
<v Speaker 2>Y'all don't even sleep in the same room no more.

0:41:34.760 --> 0:41:36.759
<v Speaker 1>We need to be I don't want a marriage like

0:41:36.800 --> 0:41:38.839
<v Speaker 1>that at any age. And I you know, I tell

0:41:38.840 --> 0:41:40.239
<v Speaker 1>my mam and this a lot. Like I'm gonna give

0:41:40.280 --> 0:41:42.240
<v Speaker 1>a fuck if I'm a hundred. If I'm not happy,

0:41:42.280 --> 0:41:42.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm leaving.

0:41:43.360 --> 0:41:45.840
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'll be one hundred old.

0:41:45.640 --> 0:41:46.479
<v Speaker 1>As fucking my kids.

0:41:46.560 --> 0:41:47.799
<v Speaker 2>But Mama, where you go?

0:41:47.960 --> 0:41:49.799
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm going to one of y'all house.

0:41:49.880 --> 0:41:54.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm out of here. I'm sick of this nigga niggas.

0:41:54.080 --> 0:41:56.239
<v Speaker 2>C'read of these niggas, and I ain't gonna waste no

0:41:56.400 --> 0:41:58.560
<v Speaker 2>time being with someone. But I don't know. When you

0:41:58.600 --> 0:42:01.279
<v Speaker 2>get about a hundred, it might be just it's it's

0:42:01.320 --> 0:42:03.200
<v Speaker 2>okay to just stay mutual.

0:42:02.920 --> 0:42:05.120
<v Speaker 1>Right, that's my homeboy. But I feel like there should

0:42:05.160 --> 0:42:08.280
<v Speaker 1>be a conversation, right, Like maybe we should just at

0:42:08.320 --> 0:42:10.520
<v Speaker 1>a certain time in our marriage we can start exploring

0:42:10.520 --> 0:42:11.000
<v Speaker 1>other people.

0:42:11.920 --> 0:42:13.880
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I agree.

0:42:13.880 --> 0:42:18.680
<v Speaker 1>There, that's a way to bring back intimacy in your union,

0:42:18.840 --> 0:42:21.640
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. Like experiencing other people outside

0:42:21.640 --> 0:42:27.319
<v Speaker 1>of this relationship, right, might strengthen our relationship. That's the

0:42:27.360 --> 0:42:29.279
<v Speaker 1>thing you can talk about with your partner. I mean,

0:42:29.280 --> 0:42:32.360
<v Speaker 1>because come on, man, we've done even married twenty years,

0:42:32.480 --> 0:42:34.080
<v Speaker 1>we ain't supposed to get no other day.

0:42:34.680 --> 0:42:38.600
<v Speaker 2>I met this Mexican firefighter and he had a Mexican wife.

0:42:38.800 --> 0:42:41.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if there that don't matter that they

0:42:41.040 --> 0:42:41.960
<v Speaker 2>was Mexican.

0:42:41.600 --> 0:42:43.920
<v Speaker 1>But no, boy doesn't like I'm looking at you like

0:42:43.960 --> 0:42:45.560
<v Speaker 1>what yeah after it?

0:42:45.640 --> 0:42:47.880
<v Speaker 2>Right after a KB was like that was irrelevant to

0:42:47.960 --> 0:42:50.319
<v Speaker 2>the story. But I mean, I just wanted to put

0:42:50.320 --> 0:42:52.320
<v Speaker 2>the demographic out there so we could know. They're about

0:42:52.440 --> 0:42:56.160
<v Speaker 2>the thirties, no late thirties, early forties, and they had

0:42:56.200 --> 0:42:59.600
<v Speaker 2>been married since fresh out of high school. They had

0:42:59.640 --> 0:43:03.400
<v Speaker 2>a kid who was almost grown, and they had lost

0:43:03.440 --> 0:43:06.279
<v Speaker 2>all the intimacy in their marriage and then they had

0:43:06.360 --> 0:43:11.120
<v Speaker 2>decided to go open, and being opened brought the intimacy

0:43:11.520 --> 0:43:14.799
<v Speaker 2>back to their marriage. Like they were super attracted to

0:43:14.840 --> 0:43:17.360
<v Speaker 2>each other when they found that other people were attracted

0:43:17.360 --> 0:43:20.759
<v Speaker 2>to there's partners. I don't know about that.

0:43:22.280 --> 0:43:24.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean we see that a lot in relationships, Like

0:43:24.719 --> 0:43:28.440
<v Speaker 1>I know, people like women who, oh, you don't really

0:43:28.520 --> 0:43:30.520
<v Speaker 1>like your guy no more, right, But the minute you

0:43:30.760 --> 0:43:34.760
<v Speaker 1>find out he fucking on somebody else, now you're crying

0:43:34.800 --> 0:43:37.120
<v Speaker 1>and boohoo win and you want the relationship to work.

0:43:37.160 --> 0:43:38.400
<v Speaker 2>You was just ready to leave.

0:43:38.880 --> 0:43:41.920
<v Speaker 1>So is it the competition the games that keep the

0:43:42.000 --> 0:43:43.040
<v Speaker 1>relationship strong?

0:43:43.560 --> 0:43:46.920
<v Speaker 2>I always to go flirt with other bitches when your

0:43:46.920 --> 0:43:49.880
<v Speaker 2>girl are acting right. That's probably bad advice.

0:43:52.200 --> 0:43:54.759
<v Speaker 1>That's that bad good advice, because I mean it could help.

0:43:55.080 --> 0:43:59.320
<v Speaker 1>It could help, because you know when I say women

0:43:59.360 --> 0:44:01.520
<v Speaker 1>don't want men that other women don't want I don't

0:44:01.680 --> 0:44:04.640
<v Speaker 1>For whatever reason, men try to attack that. But it's

0:44:04.680 --> 0:44:07.160
<v Speaker 1>just the truth. Like people want people who are desirable.

0:44:07.640 --> 0:44:09.520
<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying, I want to desire you,

0:44:09.600 --> 0:44:11.960
<v Speaker 1>and I also want I want other people to desire

0:44:12.000 --> 0:44:15.279
<v Speaker 1>you too, Like I got something nan nanabooboo you can't have.

0:44:15.480 --> 0:44:17.919
<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying I want a whore for a man.

0:44:18.600 --> 0:44:23.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying I want somebody who is desirable to me

0:44:24.320 --> 0:44:27.480
<v Speaker 1>and to other people, Like I want a bad bitch nigga,

0:44:27.560 --> 0:44:28.640
<v Speaker 1>Like that's what I want.

0:44:31.040 --> 0:44:31.839
<v Speaker 2>That's what I want.

0:44:31.960 --> 0:44:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Like, don't nobody want my nigga?

0:44:33.760 --> 0:44:34.799
<v Speaker 2>None of y'all want him?

0:44:36.200 --> 0:44:39.040
<v Speaker 1>Could you imagine going to a party, your homegirl having

0:44:39.080 --> 0:44:41.320
<v Speaker 1>a party at her house, and you bring this nigga.

0:44:41.360 --> 0:44:44.759
<v Speaker 1>Nobody else is met, nobody's met, and everybody looking at

0:44:44.760 --> 0:44:48.719
<v Speaker 1>you like does your nigga? Like you want it too bad?

0:44:49.520 --> 0:44:51.839
<v Speaker 2>You? Are you okay? Are you well?

0:44:53.160 --> 0:44:55.640
<v Speaker 1>Are you well? Or you want the guy that people say? Man,

0:44:55.680 --> 0:44:56.440
<v Speaker 1>he's so funny.

0:44:56.440 --> 0:44:57.480
<v Speaker 2>Man, he fun like.

0:44:57.960 --> 0:44:59.719
<v Speaker 1>It's not about looks and none of that thing. It's

0:44:59.719 --> 0:45:02.600
<v Speaker 1>just the aura of the person. You know what I'm saying,

0:45:02.640 --> 0:45:04.920
<v Speaker 1>Like I want somebody like.

0:45:05.000 --> 0:45:08.759
<v Speaker 2>I can see why she liked him. But here's the thing.

0:45:09.040 --> 0:45:13.279
<v Speaker 2>I done had niggas that nobody liked and as soon

0:45:13.320 --> 0:45:17.240
<v Speaker 2>as I'm fucking with him now other bitches is liking him.

0:45:17.280 --> 0:45:20.560
<v Speaker 2>Like what nobody checking for this nigga until I upgraded

0:45:20.560 --> 0:45:22.920
<v Speaker 2>his ass, and now y'all like him, and.

0:45:22.920 --> 0:45:25.840
<v Speaker 1>Even the upgrade because I have had a friend there, rememberdy,

0:45:26.360 --> 0:45:28.200
<v Speaker 1>I feel like this is what finally made it this

0:45:28.280 --> 0:45:32.520
<v Speaker 1>bitch disappear. But you would always tell me how much

0:45:32.520 --> 0:45:35.680
<v Speaker 1>you hated this nigga's guts. I was with m and

0:45:35.719 --> 0:45:37.880
<v Speaker 1>then you ended up fucking on him thinking I was

0:45:37.880 --> 0:45:39.919
<v Speaker 1>never going to find out. And what you told him

0:45:40.040 --> 0:45:42.799
<v Speaker 1>was is that you always liked him, So you even

0:45:42.800 --> 0:45:43.920
<v Speaker 1>gotta be careful with that.

0:45:44.719 --> 0:45:46.760
<v Speaker 2>Wow, you told.

0:45:46.600 --> 0:45:50.320
<v Speaker 1>A nigga you always liked him. Meanwhile, I don't understand

0:45:50.320 --> 0:45:52.440
<v Speaker 1>why you be fucking with him like when I was

0:45:52.480 --> 0:45:53.800
<v Speaker 1>with him, damn.

0:45:54.560 --> 0:45:56.480
<v Speaker 2>So did you ever get to say something to her

0:45:56.520 --> 0:45:57.719
<v Speaker 2>about that? No?

0:45:57.880 --> 0:46:01.000
<v Speaker 1>I said it here, And remember we had that episode

0:46:01.520 --> 0:46:03.680
<v Speaker 1>girl Code. I set it on Girl Code and she

0:46:03.760 --> 0:46:05.680
<v Speaker 1>finally stopped following me. This is one of my ex

0:46:05.719 --> 0:46:08.840
<v Speaker 1>best friends. Oh so yeah she heard it yet? Yeah,

0:46:08.880 --> 0:46:11.640
<v Speaker 1>okay yet, because I know. And the thing is I

0:46:11.760 --> 0:46:13.640
<v Speaker 1>always knew over the years, and then you know, some

0:46:13.680 --> 0:46:16.560
<v Speaker 1>people like this is always going to be mine. I

0:46:16.600 --> 0:46:19.560
<v Speaker 1>feel like that about some people like this. There's never

0:46:19.640 --> 0:46:21.439
<v Speaker 1>going to be a time where any friend of mine

0:46:21.440 --> 0:46:23.400
<v Speaker 1>can fuck with this nigga, Like you dad, wrong if

0:46:23.440 --> 0:46:27.040
<v Speaker 1>you fuck with this nigga? Right, Like you have boyfriends

0:46:27.600 --> 0:46:29.959
<v Speaker 1>that you are no longer with, but they like off

0:46:30.040 --> 0:46:33.719
<v Speaker 1>limits to people, to your friends, especially yes, like what

0:46:34.000 --> 0:46:36.080
<v Speaker 1>even if we're not friends no more? You was never

0:46:36.160 --> 0:46:37.400
<v Speaker 1>my friend right.

0:46:38.760 --> 0:46:39.120
<v Speaker 2>Right here?

0:46:39.320 --> 0:46:43.240
<v Speaker 1>This wan and tell him you always liked him? Weird though.

0:46:46.000 --> 0:46:46.560
<v Speaker 2>Weirdough.

0:46:46.719 --> 0:46:48.919
<v Speaker 1>I know she heard that episode because it was during

0:46:48.960 --> 0:46:50.680
<v Speaker 1>the time where she would listen to the show.

0:46:53.000 --> 0:46:55.319
<v Speaker 2>Imagine hearing it and knowing the bitch talking about you.

0:46:56.280 --> 0:46:59.080
<v Speaker 1>That hurts? Oh, like damn, she know? Yes, and you

0:46:59.200 --> 0:47:01.120
<v Speaker 1>never told me you can tendue to try and be

0:47:01.200 --> 0:47:05.239
<v Speaker 1>my friend? Can you wanted to rekindle our friendship? Know

0:47:05.280 --> 0:47:06.080
<v Speaker 1>when you had done that?

0:47:06.400 --> 0:47:09.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Where is crazy?

0:47:09.800 --> 0:47:17.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Anyway, this has quantity over quality. This is what

0:47:17.000 --> 0:47:19.439
<v Speaker 1>I was talking about it, says I believe it's much

0:47:19.520 --> 0:47:24.120
<v Speaker 1>more important to have quality sex versus more frequent sex

0:47:24.480 --> 0:47:27.279
<v Speaker 1>that is lacking in the passion department. I have heard

0:47:27.320 --> 0:47:29.960
<v Speaker 1>dozens of men report that they would rather take care

0:47:29.960 --> 0:47:35.080
<v Speaker 1>of themselves than to be subjected to pity pussy. So

0:47:36.000 --> 0:47:38.000
<v Speaker 1>your nigga go in the other room every morning and

0:47:38.000 --> 0:47:40.640
<v Speaker 1>beat his meat. I an't got a problem with that.

0:47:40.760 --> 0:47:42.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm not one of those women who got a problem

0:47:42.280 --> 0:47:44.040
<v Speaker 1>with my man watching porn and none of that shit,

0:47:44.600 --> 0:47:48.240
<v Speaker 1>because I definitely got my vibrator hidden. I don't always

0:47:48.280 --> 0:47:50.919
<v Speaker 1>feel like the sex part. I sometimes I just want

0:47:50.920 --> 0:47:51.800
<v Speaker 1>to come and go to sleep.

0:47:52.520 --> 0:47:55.319
<v Speaker 2>I definitely don't have a problem with man as long

0:47:55.360 --> 0:47:58.200
<v Speaker 2>as it's not interactive. I'm okay with it.

0:47:59.000 --> 0:48:01.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh like him payon like the cyber bitches.

0:48:01.520 --> 0:48:05.440
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, oh yeah, I don't like First of all, if

0:48:05.520 --> 0:48:07.759
<v Speaker 2>you gotta pay for it, that's a problem. I don't

0:48:07.800 --> 0:48:11.840
<v Speaker 2>like you spending money on pussy outside of mind. Second,

0:48:12.560 --> 0:48:14.759
<v Speaker 2>I don't want it to be like a like you

0:48:14.800 --> 0:48:17.080
<v Speaker 2>need to watch so much shit that's already pre recorded.

0:48:17.480 --> 0:48:21.680
<v Speaker 2>If she's like John, tell me what to do next, No,

0:48:21.680 --> 0:48:22.719
<v Speaker 2>now that's cheating to me.

0:48:24.160 --> 0:48:24.520
<v Speaker 1>Damn.

0:48:25.640 --> 0:48:30.360
<v Speaker 2>Even if it's an AI bitch. Don't do it, you

0:48:30.560 --> 0:48:33.240
<v Speaker 2>fucking these virtual host No.

0:48:39.680 --> 0:48:42.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't think we clearly defined like based on like

0:48:42.480 --> 0:48:46.600
<v Speaker 1>what therapists say pitty pussy is. So how would you

0:48:46.640 --> 0:48:49.840
<v Speaker 1>define putty pity sex? It says when you have decided

0:48:49.840 --> 0:48:53.120
<v Speaker 1>that you will have sex and you will not get aroused.

0:48:53.640 --> 0:48:56.120
<v Speaker 1>You think, I'm just gonna do this for my partner,

0:48:56.200 --> 0:48:59.160
<v Speaker 1>I'll skip my arousal. I'll just do this for you.

0:48:59.280 --> 0:49:03.440
<v Speaker 1>The problem of originates in a high desire low desire relationship.

0:49:04.040 --> 0:49:07.840
<v Speaker 1>In marriage, we call it high desire spouse HDS versus

0:49:07.840 --> 0:49:12.040
<v Speaker 1>a low desire spouse LDS. If one spouse or partner

0:49:12.080 --> 0:49:16.480
<v Speaker 1>is interested in more sex frequency and the other feels

0:49:16.480 --> 0:49:19.640
<v Speaker 1>guilty or has a hard time saying no, they use

0:49:19.680 --> 0:49:22.720
<v Speaker 1>it as a shortcut because they don't want to reject

0:49:22.760 --> 0:49:27.160
<v Speaker 1>reject their partner. But it's a band aid solution. But

0:49:27.239 --> 0:49:29.200
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how. Like this girl who messaged you,

0:49:29.280 --> 0:49:31.520
<v Speaker 1>the woman that messaged you like this is the first

0:49:31.520 --> 0:49:35.040
<v Speaker 1>time experience. That's what I consider it pity pussy. This

0:49:35.080 --> 0:49:38.279
<v Speaker 1>is duty pussy. When you in the relationship, it's like

0:49:38.400 --> 0:49:39.120
<v Speaker 1>duty sex.

0:49:39.400 --> 0:49:43.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think there's a difference between Like it's pity

0:49:43.080 --> 0:49:45.800
<v Speaker 2>when you just it's just a random and it's duty

0:49:46.120 --> 0:49:51.440
<v Speaker 2>when it's your partner or your husband. But I wonder, dude,

0:49:51.440 --> 0:49:53.680
<v Speaker 2>guys give out pity dick, you know, like.

0:49:55.239 --> 0:49:58.759
<v Speaker 1>Y'all we maybe we can, yeah, yeah, we need to

0:49:59.120 --> 0:50:01.680
<v Speaker 1>have you ever got some pity dick? Do you think

0:50:01.719 --> 0:50:02.120
<v Speaker 1>you've got?

0:50:02.640 --> 0:50:03.040
<v Speaker 2>Okay?

0:50:05.800 --> 0:50:08.239
<v Speaker 1>Okay, but have you ever been fucking with somebody who

0:50:08.239 --> 0:50:09.719
<v Speaker 1>don't want to fuck with you no more? And you

0:50:09.840 --> 0:50:13.719
<v Speaker 1>continue to like hit them up? You continued, like, are

0:50:13.760 --> 0:50:18.319
<v Speaker 1>you like? Okay? It may not be as blatant as

0:50:18.400 --> 0:50:21.080
<v Speaker 1>when women give men pity pussy, but I feel like

0:50:21.120 --> 0:50:23.399
<v Speaker 1>women definitely get pity dick when I think about it,

0:50:23.719 --> 0:50:26.280
<v Speaker 1>there are women that be chasing dick. They be chasing

0:50:26.280 --> 0:50:28.120
<v Speaker 1>a nigga might come drop dick off, but he's still

0:50:28.120 --> 0:50:30.799
<v Speaker 1>don't fuck with you, you know what I'm saying, And

0:50:30.840 --> 0:50:33.600
<v Speaker 1>then you know you're chasing the next time. You're trying

0:50:33.600 --> 0:50:35.879
<v Speaker 1>to get this man to your house to have sex

0:50:35.920 --> 0:50:37.440
<v Speaker 1>and he really don't want to come over there, but

0:50:37.480 --> 0:50:42.080
<v Speaker 1>he just he might have you as an availability pussy.

0:50:42.280 --> 0:50:44.200
<v Speaker 1>The woman he really want to fuck on ain't letting

0:50:44.280 --> 0:50:46.239
<v Speaker 1>him have sex with her yet, and he's just still

0:50:47.080 --> 0:50:50.640
<v Speaker 1>pastime Kouchie. Maybe that's what it is. Pastime pussy.

0:50:51.000 --> 0:50:55.040
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, pastime pussy instead of pity, because it still ain't pity.

0:50:55.280 --> 0:50:58.960
<v Speaker 1>You know how we always got these little double standards

0:50:59.000 --> 0:51:02.600
<v Speaker 1>with women, like it's some pity dick. It is when

0:51:02.600 --> 0:51:08.320
<v Speaker 1>you think about it, he don't fuck with your sad ass.

0:51:09.000 --> 0:51:13.280
<v Speaker 2>My ego just can't even fathom this. That women's problem.

0:51:13.480 --> 0:51:16.920
<v Speaker 1>That's our problem right there, our ego be doing some cold.

0:51:16.680 --> 0:51:19.200
<v Speaker 2>I can't even fathom a man talk about he gave

0:51:19.320 --> 0:51:22.120
<v Speaker 2>me pity dick, the nerve. You better bring your a

0:51:22.280 --> 0:51:23.920
<v Speaker 2>game dick over here? Are you crazy?

0:51:24.960 --> 0:51:27.399
<v Speaker 1>He might It might be a game dick, but did

0:51:27.440 --> 0:51:29.520
<v Speaker 1>he really feel like fucking you? He might not have.

0:51:30.280 --> 0:51:34.080
<v Speaker 1>He's just doing it because you want him to. You're

0:51:34.120 --> 0:51:44.279
<v Speaker 1>not having sex, bet So it says I've encountered. This

0:51:44.320 --> 0:51:46.719
<v Speaker 1>is actually from Hello Gloria dot com. It says I've

0:51:46.760 --> 0:51:51.000
<v Speaker 1>encountered the discussions about pity sex, pityfucks, or obligation sex.

0:51:51.000 --> 0:51:54.240
<v Speaker 1>That's another term on social media a lot recently, notably

0:51:54.280 --> 0:51:57.200
<v Speaker 1>on Reddit and private mom groups on Facebook. Do you

0:51:57.239 --> 0:52:00.239
<v Speaker 1>think this is new or just becoming more prevalent? And

0:52:00.280 --> 0:52:03.359
<v Speaker 1>the psychologist says, I don't feel this is a sex

0:52:03.400 --> 0:52:05.640
<v Speaker 1>Therapistcuse me, he says. I don't feel this is new.

0:52:06.000 --> 0:52:08.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm pretty sure this has been happening forever, but maybe

0:52:08.840 --> 0:52:11.840
<v Speaker 1>people are realizing the negative side effects and consequences of

0:52:11.920 --> 0:52:17.360
<v Speaker 1>long term So when I think about female orgasm, I

0:52:17.360 --> 0:52:19.640
<v Speaker 1>feel like it's just like a new thing. Within the

0:52:19.719 --> 0:52:22.919
<v Speaker 1>last we'll be in twenty twenty four, I would say,

0:52:22.960 --> 0:52:29.640
<v Speaker 1>within the last fifty years. Forty years. I would say

0:52:29.640 --> 0:52:32.920
<v Speaker 1>within the last forty years, forty five years, so this

0:52:32.960 --> 0:52:35.600
<v Speaker 1>is before we were born. But just imagine, just think,

0:52:35.760 --> 0:52:38.640
<v Speaker 1>just think back to how like a lot of women

0:52:38.719 --> 0:52:40.880
<v Speaker 1>were in abusive relationships. Do you don't really think they

0:52:40.960 --> 0:52:43.680
<v Speaker 1>enjoyed sex with these men? Do you think men actually

0:52:43.680 --> 0:52:47.080
<v Speaker 1>give a fuck about them coming. I've had conversations with

0:52:47.200 --> 0:52:49.920
<v Speaker 1>older women and this the way that they like despise

0:52:50.239 --> 0:52:53.680
<v Speaker 1>sex and just hate sex, And it's like, ah, the

0:52:53.719 --> 0:52:56.160
<v Speaker 1>way they are about it, they didn't ever enjoy it

0:52:56.400 --> 0:53:01.320
<v Speaker 1>with anybody, And it's sad. It makes me feel sad,

0:53:01.400 --> 0:53:04.680
<v Speaker 1>like y'all wasn't like included in the exerience.

0:53:05.360 --> 0:53:07.759
<v Speaker 2>Yes, you were, just the man was just climbing on

0:53:07.960 --> 0:53:10.680
<v Speaker 2>top of you doing your business. What's it like you

0:53:10.719 --> 0:53:17.359
<v Speaker 2>went to the toilet on you. That's what it felt like.

0:53:15.280 --> 0:53:18.360
<v Speaker 1>Like that is that's very sad to me.

0:53:19.080 --> 0:53:21.319
<v Speaker 2>Well, miss Cili, you still is a virgin.

0:53:22.440 --> 0:53:27.560
<v Speaker 1>Right, Miss Salita the old lady who I had living

0:53:27.600 --> 0:53:29.279
<v Speaker 1>with me that time, Me and her would talk about

0:53:29.320 --> 0:53:31.279
<v Speaker 1>these things. You know, she was at the time, she

0:53:31.400 --> 0:53:35.439
<v Speaker 1>was eighty three eighty four years old, and she would

0:53:35.480 --> 0:53:39.000
<v Speaker 1>tell we would talk about like her experiences that she's had,

0:53:39.040 --> 0:53:41.200
<v Speaker 1>and she would say how she didn't really like black men.

0:53:42.080 --> 0:53:44.040
<v Speaker 1>Now this is a Caribbean lady. She was like, I

0:53:44.080 --> 0:53:45.600
<v Speaker 1>don't really like men because all they want to do

0:53:45.640 --> 0:53:47.920
<v Speaker 1>is have sex, sex, sex, sex, sex. And that is

0:53:47.960 --> 0:53:51.800
<v Speaker 1>based off her the relationships she had been in previously.

0:53:51.840 --> 0:53:54.120
<v Speaker 1>But she did speak of this one Hispanic guy that

0:53:54.239 --> 0:53:56.640
<v Speaker 1>she dated once and she was like, oh, he was

0:53:56.680 --> 0:53:58.799
<v Speaker 1>so nice and he just sounded like he took his

0:53:58.880 --> 0:54:01.480
<v Speaker 1>time with her, right, she was so nice and he

0:54:01.520 --> 0:54:04.160
<v Speaker 1>would kiss my breast. She was acting like that was

0:54:04.280 --> 0:54:06.600
<v Speaker 1>such a thing, like for a man to kiss your breast,

0:54:07.040 --> 0:54:12.640
<v Speaker 1>as if men wasn't kissing breast in the nineteen fifties

0:54:13.000 --> 0:54:16.840
<v Speaker 1>or whatever for y'all not, Yeah, well, I mean she

0:54:16.960 --> 0:54:21.120
<v Speaker 1>was born in the thirties, so so men weren't kissing

0:54:21.200 --> 0:54:25.680
<v Speaker 1>breast and stuff like men weren't giving head y'all, wasn't

0:54:25.719 --> 0:54:27.880
<v Speaker 1>eating gucci. We need a old man on here. I

0:54:27.920 --> 0:54:30.160
<v Speaker 1>didn't understand, like when did you start eat kuccies? You

0:54:30.239 --> 0:54:32.440
<v Speaker 1>just started eating young kucies, or were you like not

0:54:32.560 --> 0:54:33.719
<v Speaker 1>eating gucci back in the day.

0:54:34.400 --> 0:54:38.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't think. I don't think that was a thing

0:54:38.120 --> 0:54:40.720
<v Speaker 2>back then. You want me to put my head where

0:54:40.960 --> 0:54:41.800
<v Speaker 2>you're heathen?

0:54:45.360 --> 0:54:46.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't know now. I remember that song.

0:54:46.880 --> 0:54:51.600
<v Speaker 2>What's that old? It's the old old song, can no

0:54:52.239 --> 0:54:52.840
<v Speaker 2>way older?

0:54:52.880 --> 0:54:57.440
<v Speaker 1>I mean black and white record, sounding like it's breaking old.

0:54:57.600 --> 0:54:59.799
<v Speaker 1>It was a black woman and she would sing these

0:55:00.120 --> 0:55:04.120
<v Speaker 1>nasty ass, raunchy songs even back then, and they try

0:55:04.160 --> 0:55:06.360
<v Speaker 1>to always bring it out to compare to like the

0:55:06.400 --> 0:55:09.279
<v Speaker 1>sexy reds of today, like this ship been going on,

0:55:09.320 --> 0:55:16.600
<v Speaker 1>they've been putting nasty shit on wax. Yeah, so I

0:55:16.960 --> 0:55:19.640
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I I've definitely had pitty pussy.

0:55:20.440 --> 0:55:24.200
<v Speaker 2>What the excuse me? I've definitely tell us about it.

0:55:24.360 --> 0:55:29.800
<v Speaker 1>Shut up. I've definitely given pity pussy. I've definitely given

0:55:30.040 --> 0:55:33.040
<v Speaker 1>duty pussy, the duty sex.

0:55:33.200 --> 0:55:37.200
<v Speaker 2>I've done all that you miss done done.

0:55:38.040 --> 0:55:42.200
<v Speaker 1>It's a bigger problem now I'm not in a I'm

0:55:42.239 --> 0:55:45.360
<v Speaker 1>not in a situation where I'm scheduling sex though in

0:55:45.400 --> 0:55:46.759
<v Speaker 1>my relationship, Like I have a.

0:55:46.719 --> 0:55:51.800
<v Speaker 2>Friend her and her man, they have scheduled like it's like, uh,

0:55:52.200 --> 0:55:57.600
<v Speaker 2>tasty Tuesday or something like that, and that's fun though, Yeah,

0:55:58.200 --> 0:56:02.080
<v Speaker 2>I guess it's fun until it until it's a Tuesday

0:56:02.480 --> 0:56:05.439
<v Speaker 2>and you got diarrhea and you don't feel like being

0:56:05.480 --> 0:56:08.279
<v Speaker 2>bothered with it, niggain And now you got to give

0:56:08.760 --> 0:56:16.000
<v Speaker 2>tasty Tuesday a chance. That was pity Tuesday. Yeah, it's

0:56:16.080 --> 0:56:19.600
<v Speaker 2>pity Tuesday. Like my stomach hurt, nigga. I don't want

0:56:19.600 --> 0:56:23.160
<v Speaker 2>to do it today, but it's on the schedule. It's

0:56:23.200 --> 0:56:27.360
<v Speaker 2>on the schedule. So but I guess when you have

0:56:27.520 --> 0:56:31.880
<v Speaker 2>kids and parents getting sick and career actors, yeah, you gotta.

0:56:32.239 --> 0:56:34.279
<v Speaker 2>You gotta schedule it or it might not happen. Ever,

0:56:34.360 --> 0:56:37.480
<v Speaker 2>you look up in a month then went by and

0:56:37.719 --> 0:56:39.560
<v Speaker 2>you haven't had sex with your partner.

0:56:39.960 --> 0:56:42.399
<v Speaker 1>And I mean sex, it's a form of communication. It's

0:56:42.400 --> 0:56:45.200
<v Speaker 1>a big form of communication for me, Like, yeah, we

0:56:45.239 --> 0:56:48.080
<v Speaker 1>can have we could talk and stuff like that, but

0:56:48.120 --> 0:56:50.480
<v Speaker 1>if we're not having good sex when we do have sex,

0:56:51.080 --> 0:56:55.600
<v Speaker 1>we disconnected. We're not connecting, And I don't want to

0:56:55.640 --> 0:56:58.879
<v Speaker 1>have to be on drugs to do it right.

0:56:58.920 --> 0:57:01.680
<v Speaker 2>Half having to be and wanting to be is two

0:57:01.760 --> 0:57:12.239
<v Speaker 2>different things. Yeah, so what's your last last?

0:57:13.280 --> 0:57:16.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Don't do nothing happy boundaries, don't do

0:57:16.160 --> 0:57:17.959
<v Speaker 1>nothing you don't want to do. If it's a first

0:57:17.960 --> 0:57:23.240
<v Speaker 1>time situation, just listen. It's getting too hot and bothered.

0:57:23.320 --> 0:57:27.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm really use your words, ladies. Don't let nobody pressure

0:57:27.120 --> 0:57:29.440
<v Speaker 1>you into giving them no pity sex. Use your words

0:57:29.440 --> 0:57:32.080
<v Speaker 1>and get the fuck up out of there, or don't

0:57:32.120 --> 0:57:35.240
<v Speaker 1>be going to these men's houses. Let them put you

0:57:35.280 --> 0:57:35.880
<v Speaker 1>out somewhere.

0:57:35.960 --> 0:57:36.840
<v Speaker 2>Coffee dates is.

0:57:36.800 --> 0:57:40.680
<v Speaker 1>Cool, like do like, do little things until you actually

0:57:40.760 --> 0:57:42.600
<v Speaker 1>get to like that person, and then you get them

0:57:42.600 --> 0:57:46.080
<v Speaker 1>the sex pity sex is too close to s a

0:57:46.440 --> 0:57:51.400
<v Speaker 1>for me, you know. And then within the relationship, maybe

0:57:51.400 --> 0:57:53.760
<v Speaker 1>sometimes people need to seek a little therapy. See what's

0:57:53.800 --> 0:57:57.919
<v Speaker 1>going on with the intimacy and your relationship. What maybe

0:57:57.960 --> 0:58:00.800
<v Speaker 1>y'all can do some little I don't know, some little

0:58:00.800 --> 0:58:04.240
<v Speaker 1>things to to get.

0:58:04.040 --> 0:58:05.120
<v Speaker 2>That spark back.

0:58:06.600 --> 0:58:08.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. If therapists don't they have like packets

0:58:08.840 --> 0:58:13.040
<v Speaker 1>and ship they give people like little things for them

0:58:13.080 --> 0:58:14.760
<v Speaker 1>to do. What's the word I'm looking for?

0:58:15.160 --> 0:58:15.520
<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

0:58:15.960 --> 0:58:22.120
<v Speaker 1>Activities, activities. Okay, y'all can do some sextivities. Okay, so

0:58:22.240 --> 0:58:25.400
<v Speaker 1>y'all can get that little spark back in the bedroom

0:58:25.440 --> 0:58:27.720
<v Speaker 1>so you can both enjoy sex and she's not just

0:58:27.720 --> 0:58:31.280
<v Speaker 1>be men enjoying sex. Man, and you should feel bad

0:58:31.320 --> 0:58:33.320
<v Speaker 1>if you just laying on top of your partner and

0:58:33.360 --> 0:58:34.320
<v Speaker 1>she just looking like.

0:58:36.600 --> 0:58:40.960
<v Speaker 2>I think. My last last is, never give putty pity pussy.

0:58:41.080 --> 0:58:45.600
<v Speaker 2>Always give duty pussy. Always give that pussy to your

0:58:45.680 --> 0:58:49.600
<v Speaker 2>husband and your man, because he gonna go get it

0:58:49.760 --> 0:58:52.240
<v Speaker 2>somewhere else if you don't give it to him and

0:58:52.280 --> 0:58:55.680
<v Speaker 2>then pity pity pussy. Never give that out. You don't.

0:58:56.520 --> 0:58:59.800
<v Speaker 2>Don't ever pity nobody that much that you're gonna give

0:58:59.880 --> 0:59:02.200
<v Speaker 2>him some of your body. It ain't that much pity

0:59:02.200 --> 0:59:05.520
<v Speaker 2>in the world. Buy them a meal, Pray.

0:59:05.320 --> 0:59:07.200
<v Speaker 1>For them, but the trinket.

0:59:07.480 --> 0:59:10.240
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, get them something, a card to let them know

0:59:10.280 --> 0:59:17.560
<v Speaker 2>that you care, but not your vagina or man.

0:59:17.640 --> 0:59:19.760
<v Speaker 1>If you get some pity pussy, knocked that shit out

0:59:19.760 --> 0:59:22.520
<v Speaker 1>the box. Okay, knock it out the box. At least

0:59:22.560 --> 0:59:25.960
<v Speaker 1>eat it really good something, do something really well so

0:59:26.080 --> 0:59:29.000
<v Speaker 1>a woman doesn't feel like she has some regrets about

0:59:29.000 --> 0:59:35.920
<v Speaker 1>giving you that shit. Yeah, anyway, y'all. If you enjoyed

0:59:35.920 --> 0:59:38.360
<v Speaker 1>this episode, y'all tune in every Thursday on The Black

0:59:38.360 --> 0:59:41.640
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0:59:41.680 --> 0:59:45.360
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0:59:45.440 --> 0:59:47.240
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<v Speaker 2>Kick It Tam y'all is official BAM on Instagram. I

0:59:51.720 --> 0:59:53.640
<v Speaker 2>Love y'all. Remember speak now.

0:59:54.840 --> 1:00:01.880
<v Speaker 1>And never oh somethinguci pussy, No, hold your putty, pussy,

1:00:01.920 --> 1:00:06.120
<v Speaker 1>pitty pussy. Oh yeah, fast, but don't hold your words.

1:00:06.480 --> 1:00:10.840
<v Speaker 1>Let's use your words, ladies. Okay,