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Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. This is your co host a j. Holiday.
Speaker 1: What's up, Tam Bam.
Speaker 2: The side of my couchie.
Speaker 1: Itchy, Oh, what what has happened?
Speaker 2: We went to listen, I went and got I was
Speaker 2: it was Memorial weekend. I didn't get a wax and
Speaker 2: I wanted to go to the pool, so I shaved. Mistake.
Speaker 2: I'm so itchy. This is is a worse I'm sorry. Hey, y'all,
Speaker 2: this tambancome. Do we go back where our COUCHI itch?
Speaker 2: Will we shave you? Absolutely not?
Speaker 1: Okay because I don't get waxed. I don't really wax.
Speaker 1: I might wax once a year, but I normally just
Speaker 1: you know, shave and no, I'm past that. My ship's
Speaker 1: like crazy right now. I hate that I did that to myself.
Speaker 1: Is that why you sent me that video with that
Speaker 1: lady with the butt east?
Speaker 2: No? I said I didn't even listen to what she said.
Speaker 2: I was looking at her nose job. Did you see it?
Speaker 1: Oh, I don't think it was a da job. I
Speaker 1: think that's her original nose. Really it was kind of birdish.
Speaker 1: But yeah, she was talking about having butt east. She
Speaker 1: didn't know that you can get east in your butt, ma'am.
Speaker 1: You can get east any part of your body.
Speaker 2: How you get used in your butt from saying I mean,
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know how she got it, but I mean,
Speaker 1: you can get a east affection from taking antibiotics. So
Speaker 1: it's just, you know, it's just one of those things
Speaker 1: that people go through, because it's not just women that
Speaker 1: get yeast. A lot of people. What the what?
Speaker 2: What is happening? I don't know. We started off weird today.
Speaker 2: I apologize you.
Speaker 1: Started off there and I just listened. I gotta go
Speaker 1: with the conversation, like I want to dial it back.
Speaker 1: In the middle of talking about booty itch and you
Speaker 1: took it to the boodie.
Speaker 2: I just was like, the sides of my legs, that's all.
Speaker 1: Put some cream on it. You don't got no benadera cream,
Speaker 1: a hydro cordzone or something like that.
Speaker 2: Is that what I need yes, or I'm just gonna
Speaker 2: leave it alone and then just get a wax. I
Speaker 2: shouldn't have did that put some ice on it? Cool.
Speaker 2: I felt like Charlotte and from Sex and the City
Speaker 2: when she went to the pool and she had they
Speaker 2: was like wax much because she had that bush popping
Speaker 2: out her Uh. I ain't been doing that in all year.
Speaker 2: I ain't needed to wax it it. Just let it.
Speaker 2: I let it do what it do.
Speaker 1: Look, that's what I be saying. And bitches who pussy
Speaker 1: always ready, don't be the hoes like my pussy is
Speaker 1: not always ready even in a relationship. Single nigga, can't
Speaker 1: just call me about this koochie like I need advance.
Speaker 2: Notice right because I need to do some maintenance.
Speaker 1: If your pussy just be ready in a winter, you ah,
Speaker 1: I do nothing right this already?
Speaker 2: Smooth girl? You papa dad pussy on demand? What do
Speaker 2: you do over the weekend?
Speaker 1: Everything I was outside for Thursday, did I go No?
Speaker 1: I didn't even go outside sun I leave the bed.
Speaker 1: Sunday okay, Oh yeah.
Speaker 2: I talked to you Sunday. I call. I was like
Speaker 2: it was like hell, I was like, can I speak
Speaker 2: ash amazing morning day goddamn.
Speaker 1: And that probably was like three four o'clock in the afternoon.
Speaker 1: I was down bad, just acting bad, taking like edibles
Speaker 1: and drinking wine because I wasn't on no liquor like that.
Speaker 1: On Saturday night, my homegirl, uh, one of my best friends,
Speaker 1: she just came home from New Zealand. So we had
Speaker 1: like a little thing at her daddy house down here,
Speaker 1: and he'd be making wine. It's like her grandma old
Speaker 1: recipes and shit, and they all just lined up ferment.
Speaker 2: Oh yes, girl, And I.
Speaker 1: Say, you listen, that wine has the higher alcohol volume
Speaker 1: in any tequila. You could drink the wine people be making,
Speaker 1: because yes, And I was fucked up. I was definitely
Speaker 1: fucked because it tastes sweet. It tastes like you're drinking
Speaker 1: juice like this organic ass wine gonna have you have
Speaker 1: you on your back the next day. So yeah, I
Speaker 1: was fucked up. Eating crabs run the crab table just
Speaker 1: all week last week. I just been doing enjoying life,
Speaker 1: liking for now my birthday this weekend. And I ain't
Speaker 1: got ship playing.
Speaker 2: Bitch. I know what you're doing. That's what I know.
Speaker 2: Most of the advanced what you're doing for your birthday
Speaker 2: months y'all, because you know, I just I want some
Speaker 2: Prince shit.
Speaker 1: You know what Prince was like, you only got one birthday,
Speaker 1: that's the day you was born. So it's like, I
Speaker 1: I man, I want a million do I'm gonna just
Speaker 1: be honest with y'all, motherfuckers. I want a million dollars
Speaker 1: tomorrow and then I celebrate. I'm not saying I don't
Speaker 1: have nothing to celebrate, but birthdays just ain't one of
Speaker 1: them things. I just be extra crome.
Speaker 2: You should. You should because you ain't gonna make it. No,
Speaker 2: it's not. It ain't always make it. It's next week. No,
Speaker 2: it's Saturday. I mean it's I mean it's the end
Speaker 2: of this week, right.
Speaker 1: It's in four days. My birthday is Saturday, okay' damn yeah.
Speaker 1: So like even if I wanted to like celebrate with
Speaker 1: other people, it's last notice at this point. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying to come here, So I probably just
Speaker 1: what I do want to do is take pictures. I
Speaker 1: kept saying I was gonna do my little uh Bridgerton
Speaker 1: little photo shoot. Don't have a dress, so I got
Speaker 1: like another dress and I wanted to do I'm probably
Speaker 1: gonna do a photo shoot. That'd be about it.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe you and Yo, me and Yoman and your
Speaker 2: man could do something fun this weekend.
Speaker 1: And I'm sucked that same dick this weekend.
Speaker 2: Go go somewhere, y'all, to just go away somewhere real
Speaker 2: quick on a like daycation at least, right, So.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's a nice place in Charleston. I tried
Speaker 1: to start yet just yet, no matter of fact. No,
Speaker 1: this nigga was trying to plan me a little surprise something,
Speaker 1: but then ends up telling me yesterday like man, I
Speaker 1: was trying to such or such. So now you telling
Speaker 1: me to make me have to plan Yeah, what type
Speaker 1: of shit is this? If I wanted to do something
Speaker 1: that would have been planned already, Now you forcing me
Speaker 1: to plan some shit because you started planning some shit
Speaker 1: and you don't know where to go at.
Speaker 2: That's when he should have called one of your homegirls
Speaker 2: instead of you.
Speaker 1: I think he did it also, So I'm bitch just
Speaker 1: gonna stand by y'all. I know. Yeah, but I don't
Speaker 1: think nothing going on.
Speaker 2: Well maybe that's good that you don't think nothing going on,
Speaker 2: and maybe it is.
Speaker 1: It ain't nothing going on, I promised. Well, now I'm
Speaker 1: the one to charge your planning and I ain't doing it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, don't do that. You shouldn't have to do that
Speaker 2: on my weekend. So Bella is and he and she's
Speaker 2: on her cycle, and then my cycle came on. So
Speaker 2: we've just been in here bleeding all weekend. Yo, what
Speaker 2: is up with you in these pussies? I don't know.
Speaker 2: This is wild. I'm not nasty work. Putting a diaper
Speaker 2: on a dog is no fun because she'd be running
Speaker 2: from it. She hates it. I get it. I hate
Speaker 2: it too. So I just sat in the house.
Speaker 1: What's that girl on Instagram? That post I sent you
Speaker 1: the other day?
Speaker 2: With that girl? She was like, can you see my
Speaker 2: path for the bag?
Speaker 1: Y'all send me all Like, no, bet you good?
Speaker 2: I always feel like you can see yeah, because I
Speaker 2: have to wear them big ass motherfucking mattresses.
Speaker 1: Women be so insecure about them pasts. I remember Ramon
Speaker 1: Chishlm if you're listening middle school. He was like, asking,
Speaker 1: y'all past. I was off from that day forward. Okay,
Speaker 1: I was traumatized.
Speaker 2: Because you don't want nobody. It ain't no big piece
Speaker 2: of massis. Stick it at the back of your shit,
Speaker 2: it's embarrassing. It took me years to go back to tampons.
Speaker 2: I mean within the last five I mean to go
Speaker 2: back to pads within the last five years. Like I
Speaker 2: just was just traumatized on somebody gonna see this pamp
Speaker 2: on my damn but walk around here look like SpongeBob
Speaker 2: square pads. I can't wear tampons. They are so uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: I feel it. Y'all don't feel that shit.
Speaker 1: They could you be loose. I definitely be feeling it.
Speaker 1: And when you gotta pull them out, it hurts, it's
Speaker 1: and it's gross.
Speaker 2: It's just gross the whole experience. Like when I go
Speaker 2: to Heaven, the first person I might get kicked out
Speaker 2: because I'm looking straight for eve As who got the square?
Speaker 2: What she gotta do? She gotta catch this fight, because bitch,
Speaker 2: why are you need that? So let's get in the scenes.
Speaker 1: That's the first sin, remember, right.
Speaker 2: Or so they say, I don't even believe the bitch.
Speaker 2: When I get there, she's gonna be like, I didn't
Speaker 2: even eat that shit. That was that nigga exactly? He
Speaker 2: got it in his neck. You don't see that, Adams.
Speaker 2: After all these niggas.
Speaker 1: Next they've been lying on us from the beginning of
Speaker 1: the time from the creation story. But anyway, so Cardi
Speaker 1: B is beef with Bea, same niggas. Cardi B basically
Speaker 1: called her like great value. Cardi B.
Speaker 2: Yeah, version I heard, I like Bea. I like them both.
Speaker 2: What did they what is the problem? I don't know?
Speaker 1: And I just feel like this ain't one of them
Speaker 1: beasts like people even really care about for real. But
Speaker 1: I don't know, they said. It seemed to have reached
Speaker 1: the boiling point in this last couple of days. Carti
Speaker 1: says that she attempted to resolve these issues directly. The
Speaker 1: conversation started very nasty. She called her okay, after after
Speaker 1: being tweeted some subliminal bullshit on Twitter one day, Cardi
Speaker 1: B called her. Cardi B says she got her phone
Speaker 1: number and called her and she was like, the conversation
Speaker 1: did start off for your nasty. She even played some
Speaker 1: of it on her page, and she was like, I
Speaker 1: was coming to her and she was coming at me.
Speaker 1: But then I called her back because I'm so appalled
Speaker 1: at the fact that she thinks I'm copying her or
Speaker 1: stealing from her, because there's nothing that she do that
Speaker 1: I like. I don't like her music, I don't like
Speaker 1: her style. She also threatened to release their conversation, saying
Speaker 1: I will put the conversations up. We ended up. We
Speaker 1: ended the conversation very nicely, and you still went to
Speaker 1: the internet dissing me. After the conversation, you went and
Speaker 1: you started saying I copied your music video and so
Speaker 1: Carti even shows how she had this particular beat that
Speaker 1: Bia said was given to her. Carti said she's sitting
Speaker 1: on that bet since twenty twenty two, even show dropping
Speaker 1: her lyrics in twenty twenty two for the song, So
Speaker 1: how could my lyrics be about you when I dropped this,
Speaker 1: you know, two years ago. So it's a whole some
Speaker 1: extra some more rap beef between the rap bitches. I
Speaker 1: like all, it's like it's two different groups now.
Speaker 2: First of all, they're a little late for the rap
Speaker 2: beef trend. You know, y'all should have did it like
Speaker 2: a month ago when everybody was battle rapping. Don't nobody
Speaker 2: want to hear that shit now? Now we want to
Speaker 2: hear party songs. We don't want to hear y'all talk
Speaker 2: shit to each other. We just want to party. We
Speaker 2: need boat music, bitch, make some songs that make us happy,
Speaker 2: not arguing with another bitch. Nobody cares. I don't do you,
Speaker 2: absolutely not.
Speaker 1: And it's almost like it's team Cardi B and then
Speaker 1: there's team Nicki Minaj because I think those were the
Speaker 1: original beefs, right, so now the younger girls have now
Speaker 1: fallen under each group. You got JT on Nicki Minaj side,
Speaker 1: akbar V who else over there?
Speaker 2: I don't give a fuck about none of that. Y'all
Speaker 2: bitches makes some good music for me on the boat,
Speaker 2: that's all I care about.
Speaker 1: Lotto on Cardi B and Meg the Stallion side. It's
Speaker 1: just it's just a mess. It's just a mess. And listen,
Speaker 1: Nicki Minaj, you are the goddamn granny of all this shit.
Speaker 1: Why are you even engaging with these young girls?
Speaker 2: I feel like little Kim would be the granny of
Speaker 2: all this and and.
Speaker 1: The beef though, and the beef. Yes, I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about like music, the female rap genre. No I am.
Speaker 2: She kind of did. She kind of was like in
Speaker 2: a beef with Nikki at one point, right.
Speaker 1: Yeah, That's what I'm saying. So it's like, whoever sided
Speaker 1: with Nicki is over there? And then whoever sided with
Speaker 1: Cardi B and and Megdae Stallion is on the other side,
Speaker 1: and everybody's beefing underneath them. Like it's because just like
Speaker 1: JT and Glorrella beef you know what I'm saying. JT
Speaker 1: is on Nicki Minaj, Glorella is on Mega Stallion Cardi
Speaker 1: B side.
Speaker 2: Did you see that JT? I mean I JT. Karesha
Speaker 2: did an interview. He said that her and JT are
Speaker 2: like officially split, kind of like and not they're doing
Speaker 2: their own thing. I mean we kind of saw that.
Speaker 2: I mean we we don't see y'all doing much together
Speaker 2: and I and I hate that for Korisha because she
Speaker 2: was having a good run with her podcast. Uh Karsha
Speaker 2: please and uh but JT up right now. JT got
Speaker 2: that okay song where she got it sounded like Gucci
Speaker 2: Man and j Z that they put wasted and uh,
Speaker 2: j Z so what not so Icy, which which j
Speaker 2: Z song one of j Z songs together and created
Speaker 2: that beat. It took me right back in two thousand
Speaker 2: and three.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like that song Between that and uh yeah
Speaker 1: Glow that should just get you amp a little bit.
Speaker 1: I pretty that I be looking at Okay, Yes, I
Speaker 1: like man, I like has an other song with Doi
Speaker 1: that uh uh alter Ego is her name Doi raight.
Speaker 2: Alter Ego.
Speaker 1: They just dropped the alternate video for the song. That's
Speaker 1: a hit, two nice little bops. I feel like, yeah,
Speaker 1: Karsha was holding you know, City girls down, why JT
Speaker 1: was in prison and all that. JT came out and
Speaker 1: got in her place, right, and I think that I
Speaker 1: don't know what all the things like Karsha had going on.
Speaker 1: I felt like she was acting like she was bigger
Speaker 1: than the group. Yeah, and know what I'm saying. And now,
Speaker 1: if that's your partner, that's your day one. It should
Speaker 1: never be no shit like that. So then it alters
Speaker 1: the relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So now JT just just acquiesced it to whatever was
Speaker 1: going on, and she did her own separate thing, and
Speaker 1: it's okay. I mean it's okay. They obviously, just like
Speaker 1: Karsha said, like, they do best separate. She do her things,
Speaker 1: she do better at that. So they just grew apart.
Speaker 2: China is banning, China is banning well flaunting behavior on
Speaker 2: social media online and flu influencers known for their luxurious
Speaker 2: lifestyles are disappearing from Chinese social media and government crackdown
Speaker 2: and amid a government crackdown on conspicuous displays of wealth,
Speaker 2: I like that idea. I mean, I get it because
Speaker 2: they're worried about the mindset of the people in China
Speaker 2: because they see these, you know, overly lavish displays of wealth,
Speaker 2: and I think it gives people like makes them depressed
Speaker 2: or makes them feel like that's the standard for happiness
Speaker 2: and things like that, which how we live here in America,
Speaker 2: all fucked up with filters and trying to compete for wealth.
Speaker 1: Go ahead, yeah it, says one famous influencer, Wang Hong
Speaker 1: qua at h O n g q u E, who
Speaker 1: bragged about owning seven properties in Beijing and claimed never
Speaker 1: to wear an outfit worth less than ten million, which
Speaker 1: is one point three million what's dollars? Dollars? What you wearing?
Speaker 1: Outfits that cost that much, has been banned from Dallion,
Speaker 1: the Chinese version of TikTok, preventing him from interacting with
Speaker 1: his four point three million followers. His other videos depicted
Speaker 1: long live in this lavish lifestyle with numerous armaz bags, maids,
Speaker 1: and expensive sports cars. Other influencers who shared similar content
Speaker 1: have been blocked from the platform. China's Cyberspace Administration launched
Speaker 1: campaign in April targeting influencers who created a wealth flaunting
Speaker 1: persona to intentionally showcase the lavish lifestyle built on money
Speaker 1: to attract traffic and followers. According to NBC Lives, excuse me,
Speaker 1: According to I mean making up shit. According to NBC News,
Speaker 1: this is not the first time China authorities have tried
Speaker 1: to regulate internet behavior to combat undesirable social media trends. This,
Speaker 1: this is like, this needs to happen. I mean something
Speaker 1: sort of right. We know in America, like you can't.
Speaker 2: You have freedom of speech, don't You don't know.
Speaker 1: Half the time these people aren't living their lives that
Speaker 1: they're showing. Like they're saying, like social media is now
Speaker 1: like a five hundred billion dollar industry as far as
Speaker 1: like influencers scope mm hm, So people are making a
Speaker 1: living now off of social media. And I feel like
Speaker 1: the things that are the things that's happening with like
Speaker 1: AI and jobs is pushing people more towards being themselves
Speaker 1: for a paycheck or lack thereof being right. So, now
Speaker 1: you're on these platforms and this is what people like
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like I make the clothes,
Speaker 1: the shit don't make me so I don't have. Like
Speaker 1: there's a lot of people who need these things.
Speaker 2: To feel to feel good then to be validated. What
Speaker 2: I have a friend, her and her husband have their
Speaker 2: private plane, and she'd be written a plane for people
Speaker 2: to take pictures on. They don't go nowhere, don't feel
Speaker 2: the jet for nothing, just turn a bitch on and
Speaker 2: they sit in there and take pictures. That's insane.
Speaker 1: It is so that you have people who are living
Speaker 1: regular lives right who aren't trying to be social media influencers,
Speaker 1: but they they're the onlookers. These people some people have
Speaker 1: mental health issues now, especially like with the children. There
Speaker 1: has to be something these platforms do have to be
Speaker 1: held account But I remember hearing like commercials on the
Speaker 1: radio for Instagram, like the like the lawsuits, like the
Speaker 1: what's like the public lawsuits and you do a class
Speaker 1: action lawsuit. So there were like class action lawsuits against Instagram,
Speaker 1: ongoing parents getting together wanting to doe Instagram and other
Speaker 1: social media platforms because of the mental state of their
Speaker 1: children now because of these platforms. So it has to
Speaker 1: be something done. I mean I also saw where I
Speaker 1: forgot what country it was. But they're like, if you
Speaker 1: put out any marketing or advertisement for any companies, they
Speaker 1: have to note if the image had been manipulated in
Speaker 1: any kind of way. So if you have a filter
Speaker 1: on the person that's on the advertisement, you have to
Speaker 1: make it known because now you have these unrealistic beauty standards.
Speaker 2: Right expectations. You got a skincare line and you're putting
Speaker 2: a filter on somebody for the results. No, that's a lie, bitch.
Speaker 2: I just seen.
Speaker 1: Somebody argue with commenters because they said something to her
Speaker 1: about not having on makeup or like having her bear face.
Speaker 1: She was like, how the fucking Oh it was tammy,
Speaker 1: it was walka flocka ex wife. Multiple people commented to her,
Speaker 1: saying that she was showing off because she was posting
Speaker 1: videos are going live with no filters and saying like
Speaker 1: clear skin. Like they're saying like she's like flaunting what, yes,
Speaker 1: just like I have a skincare line. At what point
Speaker 1: would I be up here with filters on? She was like,
Speaker 1: I look, the filter look nice, but I'm selling products, right,
Speaker 1: so I want you all to see my natural skin,
Speaker 1: so you know my shit works right, but not people
Speaker 1: feeling like you're showing off because you're able to show
Speaker 1: up as your true authentic self on social media.
Speaker 2: People are not.
Speaker 1: That is fucking wild to me. And y'all sit at
Speaker 1: home and really like, use youall fingers and thumbs to
Speaker 1: put this ship in the and it'll be a shame.
Speaker 2: And believe what the fuck they say? And that's the
Speaker 2: crazy part. Yeah, how do you win?
Speaker 1: How do you win with these type of like personalities
Speaker 1: in the world. It's just weird. So listen. The last
Speaker 1: thing on the since docket, doctor Fauci had missed six fts,
Speaker 1: the six foot social distancing was a bullshit. I don't
Speaker 1: know if y'all have been following. I feel like people
Speaker 1: are just now seeing this shit, but I've been following
Speaker 1: all the shit with COVID since twenty twenty okay, twenty
Speaker 1: nineteen really, but they have all the Congress sessions. You
Speaker 1: can go on YouTube and view them. There's a lot
Speaker 1: of interesting shit out there that people don't know what's
Speaker 1: going on unless it's like placed on a plate in
Speaker 1: front of their faces on somebody's platform. But a lot
Speaker 1: of the COVID nineteen protocols have been called into question
Speaker 1: recently after the transcript of doctor Anthony Fauci's interview with
Speaker 1: Republicans was revealed today. In the interview, doctor Fauci explicitly
Speaker 1: Stacey doesn't recall the origins of very specific pandemic rules
Speaker 1: that affected the lives of millions of Americans. I remember
Speaker 1: a lot of people grandmothers died at home by themselves
Speaker 1: because they were afraid that family family members come in
Speaker 1: their homes. A lot of bodies were burnt, can even
Speaker 1: be buried by their family members. A lot of where
Speaker 1: shit happen during COVID, and all of it is now
Speaker 1: being called into question. All I want is an apology.
Speaker 1: Some of y'all listeners owe me an apology too, because
Speaker 1: if you're not paying attention to how they running back
Speaker 1: all all this shit, I just want to make sure
Speaker 1: that if they run this play again, people will be
Speaker 1: smarter the next go around.
Speaker 2: They just collectively, They're not collectively just because the government
Speaker 2: can't do the government can't do half this shit unless
Speaker 2: the people are complicit with it, you know.
Speaker 1: So I just feel like, I don't know. It taught
Speaker 1: me a lot about myself.
Speaker 2: COVID.
Speaker 1: It also taught me a lot about a lot of
Speaker 1: the people I know.
Speaker 2: But I like this. I like I still like the
Speaker 2: six feet rule. Just stay the fuck.
Speaker 1: Back, back back, get fifty feet.
Speaker 2: Remember that song I have to pull up? Give me Yeah, y'all,
Speaker 2: get up on you.
Speaker 1: Maybe we'll do an episode on politics. I want to.
Speaker 1: I want to talk about Agenda twenty five. It's a
Speaker 1: lot of shit going on that people just aren't aware
Speaker 1: of because you really don't care. I care about what
Speaker 1: the fuck happens to me in the future. Me, So,
Speaker 1: y'all when we get back after this break, we want
Speaker 1: to talk about something that happens. It's almost an epidemic
Speaker 1: amongst the community. Community petty pussy. We'll be right back,
Speaker 1: all right, you guys, we're back.
Speaker 2: And I hit up AJ because I had got a
Speaker 2: message from someone and she asked me, did I feel
Speaker 2: like pity pussy was a real thing? Because she felt
Speaker 2: like she just gave up some and I was like, well,
Speaker 2: what you mean? And she shared with me how a
Speaker 2: guy from her job that she communicates with and they
Speaker 2: talk all the time and he's a really She's like, oh,
Speaker 2: he's a really nice guy. That's how she described him.
Speaker 2: But she like they were watching a movie or something,
Speaker 2: and his internet went out and he started like trying
Speaker 2: to get to that bullson and she ended up giving
Speaker 2: it to him, but not because she wanted to. She
Speaker 2: just pitied him. So she gave him some and she
Speaker 2: said it wasn't good and she didn't enjoy it, but
Speaker 2: she just felt so sorry for her, so she gave
Speaker 2: him some kouchie. And I was like mm mm. So
Speaker 2: it made me think about like the idea of what
Speaker 2: pity pussy is, and so I hit AJ so we
Speaker 2: can talk about it.
Speaker 1: What's pretty Yeah, because I've definitely given a man pity
Speaker 1: pussy before, and then I didn't talk to him again. Really,
Speaker 1: she has to work with this guy, Yes, I have definitely.
Speaker 1: You know it's And I talked about this on my
Speaker 1: homeboy Von Ray's podcast, Set the Record Straate how I
Speaker 1: think this happens to women a lot and men may
Speaker 1: not consider it kind of like it's almost like a
Speaker 1: situation where you're you're in a close setting with a man.
Speaker 1: And this is why I'm against women. If you don't
Speaker 1: want to have sex with a man in any capacity,
Speaker 1: do not put yourself in a clothes setting with him.
Speaker 1: You know, it's not technically it's not a forced situation.
Speaker 1: But if you had a choice, you probably would not
Speaker 1: have done it.
Speaker 2: Really, you should have just made me, and you do
Speaker 2: have a choice.
Speaker 1: A lot of times women don't know how to get
Speaker 1: out the situation though. How do you just without hurting
Speaker 1: this man's ego? How do you leave? You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, some women don't know like that viral
Speaker 1: or daves me. Some women don't know how cause I
Speaker 1: can tell you in that situation, like I didn't know
Speaker 1: how to just get the fuck up out of there.
Speaker 1: I just let it happen, and I just didn't talk
Speaker 1: to him again because you you put the pressure on
Speaker 1: so fucking heavy that I just went ahead and had
Speaker 1: sex with you when I really didn't want to, and
Speaker 1: maybe I would have want to fuck you know a
Speaker 1: month from now. You didn't let me even get to
Speaker 1: like you enough to want to have sex with you.
Speaker 1: So now I had sex with you without liking your
Speaker 1: ass for real, and I'm out of there. Nigga blocked.
Speaker 2: But do you happen? But is that pity sex or
Speaker 2: is it just like that almost hair Nigga, hair, Nigga,
Speaker 2: it's almost it's borderline kind of Yeah, I repeat, it
Speaker 2: sounds rapist, can I say that?
Speaker 1: Yes, I said that before, right, so maybe you bleep it.
Speaker 1: But it is a little bit. It's a great area
Speaker 1: situation as some women end up in. And I and
Speaker 1: I'm saying this is in my younger days, this is
Speaker 1: not recently, because I don't think we should have Nigga
Speaker 1: to death nowadays. I'm out of there. I'm out of there.
Speaker 1: But young girls like sometimes they don't know how to
Speaker 1: find themselves out of those situations, which is why I
Speaker 1: just don't put yourself in there in it because if
Speaker 1: you go to a man's house like they automatically think
Speaker 1: you know it's right and.
Speaker 2: Don't like a nigga said he want to cook for
Speaker 2: you if he is not a chef and went the
Speaker 2: culinary school, don't go over there.
Speaker 1: Exactly.
Speaker 2: He went out. He cut his Internet off.
Speaker 1: That exactly from the app on his cell phone. He
Speaker 1: cut the internet service TV went out. Time to fuck
Speaker 1: like that. You're not about to watch Netflix to death me? Okay, right,
Speaker 1: that's what happened. I'm pretty sure she gave him some minute.
Speaker 2: But she said it like it sounds like because she
Speaker 2: sent me voice notes. It sounded like pity pussy because
Speaker 2: it was like, oh, but he's so nice, they feel
Speaker 2: so bad form I don't ever want to give out
Speaker 2: Bill Johnna. That goes with that tone.
Speaker 1: You know, and what man actually wants, Like well, actually
Speaker 1: we had a man on who said he's okay with
Speaker 1: pitty pussy. Like here you had Nigga hit his pussy,
Speaker 1: Like why do you not want the woman to also
Speaker 1: enjoy it? And I think men know when we are
Speaker 1: giving him pitty pussy, But do they give a fuck?
Speaker 1: I don't think so. They don't think.
Speaker 2: They don't care as long as they hitting it, they
Speaker 2: don't care what kind it is.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I I just had a thought about some shit,
Speaker 1: like just.
Speaker 2: I feel about One of the guests on our show
Speaker 2: said that most of the pussy he gets his pitty pussy,
Speaker 2: that nig was.
Speaker 1: Trolling man, and I'm okay.
Speaker 2: He said, every time he gets some ass is a
Speaker 2: woman feeling sorry for him because he's a nice guy.
Speaker 1: Man. That Nigga is a terrorist. That dude is a
Speaker 1: whole terrorist. Okay, he might be acting like he a
Speaker 1: nice guy. Get that Koucie up. You're gonna meet a terrorists.
Speaker 2: I I'm trying to think. Have I ever No, I
Speaker 2: can't think of anytime I've given out pity pussy where
Speaker 2: I felt sorry for a person. I've given out pity food,
Speaker 2: like damn, let me feed this nigga. I feel bad. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make dinner. I don't buy dinner, but my vagina.
Speaker 2: I ain't never felt that much pity for nobody.
Speaker 1: So everybody you've had sex with, like you really wanted
Speaker 1: to have sex with him.
Speaker 2: No, I can't say everybody I have had sex with
Speaker 2: I really wanted to have sex, but there was someone there.
Speaker 2: It was never like I just want to give you
Speaker 2: some pussy or you know, like I'm just gonna give
Speaker 2: it to you because I feel like I owe you
Speaker 2: something or no i'd had I done, got put out
Speaker 2: of places because I ain't bring no pussy with me
Speaker 2: worth more than given away puy pity pussy. I definitely
Speaker 2: don't have that habit bared it once. Humm.
Speaker 1: So pity pussy to me is like I consider pity
Speaker 1: pussy like if you're doing it, this is your first
Speaker 1: time having sex with this person, and you have sex
Speaker 1: with them. But some people are giving their husband's pity
Speaker 1: pussy after further research, people are in committed relationships where
Speaker 1: they are given their significant others pity or Another term
Speaker 1: I found was duty pussy. Now that what do you pussy?
Speaker 1: Is a motherfucker. I definitely have given out some duty.
Speaker 2: It's more duty pussy out here than anything else I think.
Speaker 1: I think it depends on the age group. Like yes,
Speaker 1: y'all at the house. Now y'all having to schedule sex
Speaker 1: and shit like that, you might be giving up some
Speaker 1: duty pussy. Like damn, I ain't get this nigga no
Speaker 1: pussy in two weeks. Let me go and fuck his
Speaker 1: ask Damn.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I have friends that be like, girl, let me
Speaker 2: I'm gonna call you back in fifteen minutes. Let me
Speaker 2: go fuck this nigga to sleep, and I'll be right back.
Speaker 2: It ain't gonna take long. I have another whole girl
Speaker 2: like we want to go on the trip, and like
Speaker 2: she hasn't planned any trip with her husband yet for
Speaker 2: the hout the summer months, but she's trying to play
Speaker 2: the trip with us. And she was like, girl, I
Speaker 2: gotta do something because they've been together for almost twenty
Speaker 2: years at this point. She's like, girl, it's the same
Speaker 2: old dick you know sames the same old dick, but
Speaker 2: let me go do something to it so I can
Speaker 2: this trip. That's beauty pussy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think it's important, Like in relationships, you can't.
Speaker 2: You have to have.
Speaker 1: Boundaries even within the union, Like with your this is
Speaker 1: still my body. I don't belong to you. You can't
Speaker 1: just do things. I think. I talked about this a
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago about I don't like people tugging
Speaker 1: at my body just randomly while I'm cooking, like stop,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because it gets to be
Speaker 1: too much, and I want to continue to want you.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I don't want somebody that's
Speaker 1: always like available to me either. So I feel like
Speaker 1: even limiting like sex within a relationship is healthy. How
Speaker 1: many times a week do you think you should be
Speaker 1: having sex with your partner?
Speaker 2: I ain't had sex all year, so that's not a
Speaker 2: good question for me because I'm talking.
Speaker 1: And in relationships, I feel like three times is enough,
Speaker 1: and sometimes even that it could be you know, excessive,
Speaker 1: Like how do I expect my man to like get
Speaker 1: up and go to work if I'm dreaming his balls
Speaker 1: every single night, like he's not gonna be productive.
Speaker 2: I don't think so either.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta limit the kuchi so you can make
Speaker 1: sure your man brings the bag home. You can't be
Speaker 1: like because if you if you're not putting that niggat
Speaker 1: asleep when you're done with him, you really ain't doing
Speaker 1: the job. No way. That part we steal energy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I think athletes, you know, oftentimes don't
Speaker 2: have sex the night before the game rule. It's a rule.
Speaker 1: They put them in the hotels, separate from these spouses.
Speaker 1: Everybody's together, like it's a whole thing. Boxers don't have sex.
Speaker 2: Like yeah, because it's it's an energy stealer.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.
Speaker 2: It's a life force stealer. Your life force is literally
Speaker 2: leaving out of your body.
Speaker 1: And then I don't like to clean up.
Speaker 2: I don't like the cleanup. It's crazy. So I have
Speaker 2: I do have.
Speaker 1: I do have duty sex. I have had duty sex
Speaker 1: and relationships, but I have given out pity pussy first
Speaker 1: time pity pussy. I've done that.
Speaker 2: And that's the thing. I don't know if I've ever
Speaker 2: had duty sex, but I don't be. I ain't been
Speaker 2: with niggas long enough for duty sex. I think all
Speaker 2: my relationships. I mean even the last one. It was
Speaker 2: like four years, almost five years, and that was the
Speaker 2: only thing that was we had it was good sex.
Speaker 1: That's fucked up too. It's like gotta be bad. It
Speaker 1: has to be balanced of some sort. I want to
Speaker 1: miss the dick even in a relationship, Like I want
Speaker 1: to be anticipating have sex, having sex with you. If
Speaker 1: you're doing it every single night, that's sheit gonna get
Speaker 1: old for the both of us. And so I read
Speaker 1: something that says quality over quantity, like I want to
Speaker 1: have quality sex when we do have sex. I don't
Speaker 1: just want to be humping for fifteen minutes and half
Speaker 1: the time I'm not even aroused, or I gotta take
Speaker 1: a shot or smoke a blunt to even do this.
Speaker 2: Like that is almost I like, no, smoking the blunt
Speaker 2: first is kind of cool, though I ain't gonna lie. No.
Speaker 2: I like, I like weeded sex.
Speaker 1: But I can tell you in my last relationship, I
Speaker 1: had to have weed. And when I stopped yes, and
Speaker 1: when I stopped getting high before sex, I didn't enjoy it. Damn,
Speaker 1: hurry up, get off me. I started being like that.
Speaker 2: M hm, damn, you like seey he just climbed on
Speaker 2: top and do his business.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I'm a very I'm a very sexual person.
Speaker 1: But I just it can't get old, so we gotta
Speaker 1: do something to make sure that shit don't get old.
Speaker 1: So we can't do it a lot.
Speaker 2: How do you like after sir? I feel like after
Speaker 2: year five, that's when it started getting like here he comes,
Speaker 2: I dig again. Two years?
Speaker 1: Yes, a year and a half?
Speaker 2: Really no, I was. I was like, yes, I said
Speaker 2: what I said. I don't know. My last relationship that
Speaker 2: was like what kept us together that long. I think
Speaker 2: was the sexual chemistry. We fought like cats and dogs,
Speaker 2: but when we were like intimate, it was very pleasing
Speaker 2: for the entirety of the relationship, which was like four
Speaker 2: and a half years. But it was all the other
Speaker 2: stuff that just made it awful.
Speaker 1: Toxiana. So this is Douglas Counseling dot com. It's the
Speaker 1: article is called pity sex, What is it? And why
Speaker 1: men hated? And this is even more interesting that pity
Speaker 1: sex really only pertains to like men being on the
Speaker 1: receiving end of it. You really don't hear about women
Speaker 1: getting pity dick?
Speaker 2: Oh no, what about Gloria on waiting to exhil. Remember
Speaker 2: she was like, Lord, let him be merciful again this time. Mmmm,
Speaker 2: she got he did. No, that was her, That was
Speaker 2: her ex, her child's father. When he came to town,
Speaker 2: he would have sex with her, but he stopped because
Speaker 2: he was gay.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, Shane, you're remembering all the TV shit.
Speaker 1: All right, So this part says how your man views
Speaker 1: pity sex. It says don't fool yourself. Your man can
Speaker 1: tell when you aren't engaged in sex. You rush past
Speaker 1: the four place, skip passionate kissing, and cheer him on
Speaker 1: to finish as fast as he can. Men men hate this.
Speaker 1: But what do I do then? If I keep telling
Speaker 1: you no, I don't feel like it, that's a problem.
Speaker 1: If I engage and go ahead and do the act
Speaker 1: and I don't as into it, that's also a problem.
Speaker 1: So I feel like there's this like an and something's
Speaker 1: up with the intimacy, right, because I think a lot
Speaker 1: of men feel like intimacy only happens right before they
Speaker 1: want to stick. They dicking you, And no, it should
Speaker 1: be all day, you should be trying to woo me
Speaker 1: all day you should be And I talk about pulling
Speaker 1: my titties out my shirt while I'm cooking grits. Okay,
Speaker 1: but I'm just textingly cute things like making me want you.
Speaker 2: First of all, please don't put my titt out, because
Speaker 2: grits pop on your titty and they don't stop burning
Speaker 2: to the school. But also, intimacy also works both ways,
Speaker 2: so you could do the same for your man. You
Speaker 2: don't have to wait for him to do it. You
Speaker 2: could start the intimacy for the first thing in the
Speaker 2: morning with him, right Because I feel like women be
Speaker 2: wanting they need the intention towards them all the time,
Speaker 2: and I think men want to be wooed a little too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, men want to feel wanted. Men also want to
Speaker 1: feel loved as well. I don't know. Look, I might
Speaker 1: need some therapy in at the part.
Speaker 2: So let me tell you. So, let me tell you this.
Speaker 2: So the girl who messaged me about her you know,
Speaker 2: pity sex, he was like, had been calling her a
Speaker 2: lot after like wanting to spend time, and she was like,
Speaker 2: she talked to him like a nigga would talk to
Speaker 2: a woman that they didn't like. And she was like,
Speaker 2: I ain't with all that consistent shit. That's what she
Speaker 2: told a man she might as well ghost him. I
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, that was so mean. And
Speaker 2: then she sent me a screenshot of what he posted,
Speaker 2: and it was like the saddest thing. He was like,
Speaker 2: you got what you wanted, so I guess you're good
Speaker 2: now or something like that, and I was.
Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, I just got dick, Like he
Speaker 1: didn't do much right and you ain't even come through
Speaker 1: with the dick for real, because even if she would,
Speaker 1: even if it could, it could have initially started off
Speaker 1: as pity sex right start off, but he could have
Speaker 1: fucked the shit out of her and it would have
Speaker 1: turned into her chasing right.
Speaker 2: He just didn't.
Speaker 1: Deliver, like she gave him the alley who like if.
Speaker 2: He did not deliver the you got what you wanted,
Speaker 2: so I guess it is what it is.
Speaker 1: See, it's the energy, man, even it just starts with
Speaker 1: the energy. She knew that Dick was gonna be whack.
Speaker 1: She knew it before he even pulled it out, just
Speaker 1: because of his energy, Because what type of dude would
Speaker 1: just be like, oh man, you got what you wanted?
Speaker 1: Like what can you blame him for a feeling that way?
Speaker 1: Though I didn't want it, I didn't want it. That's
Speaker 1: the problem. I really didn't want it, but you pressured
Speaker 1: me and I went ahead with it. And now, like,
Speaker 1: this is what you get when you don't let a
Speaker 1: woman live like you. First you wanted me to have sex.
Speaker 1: I went ahead and gave you the pussy, and now
Speaker 1: I don't really like you like that. You didn't even
Speaker 1: give me a chance to like you. You know who's
Speaker 1: good for that? The the person I gave pitty pussy
Speaker 1: to was an African nigga. I'm gonna just be honest.
Speaker 1: There's some pushy ass guys man. She like African women like.
Speaker 1: Do y'all be fucking on the first night a lot?
Speaker 1: Because I'm trying to figure out why African men beat
Speaker 1: that pushy darling darling. They don't give a fuck like
Speaker 1: they the minute they aroused and you ain't do nothing.
Speaker 1: You just walked in the room, You just walked in
Speaker 1: the restaurant, and they want you to give them pussy
Speaker 1: right now.
Speaker 2: Don't listen.
Speaker 1: If it's no nigga, you need to put yourself in
Speaker 1: a clothes setting with it's a goddamn African, don't do
Speaker 1: it them niggas is pushy ding darling, pushy so it
Speaker 1: says having pity sex may seem like a good solution
Speaker 1: to the problem when you aren't feeling up for sex
Speaker 1: and you know your partner is The truth is that
Speaker 1: having pity sex with your partner may actually lead to
Speaker 1: more problems than it fixes. Sure, you and your partner
Speaker 1: had sex, but did you really connect through the experience. Yes,
Speaker 1: So it starts to feel like eugh, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. You almost and if I start feeling disgusted
Speaker 1: when we have sex, I'm on the way out the door. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if I you know, because like it's no more, it's
Speaker 1: not even any like there anymore. Like I love you,
Speaker 1: That's why I'm giving you this pussy, But I really
Speaker 1: like you to enjoy it.
Speaker 2: But what about people who like yet? Like this is
Speaker 2: my biggest fear. I find my husband, we fall in love,
Speaker 2: we do all the things, we start growing old together,
Speaker 2: and then y'all become more like brother and sister and
Speaker 2: a marriage than husband and wife because the intimacy is gone.
Speaker 2: Y'all don't even sleep in the same room no more.
Speaker 1: We need to be I don't want a marriage like
Speaker 1: that at any age. And I you know, I tell
Speaker 1: my mam and this a lot. Like I'm gonna give
Speaker 1: a fuck if I'm a hundred. If I'm not happy,
Speaker 1: I'm leaving.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll be one hundred old.
Speaker 1: As fucking my kids.
Speaker 2: But Mama, where you go?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm going to one of y'all house.
Speaker 1: I'm out of here. I'm sick of this nigga niggas.
Speaker 2: C'read of these niggas, and I ain't gonna waste no
Speaker 2: time being with someone. But I don't know. When you
Speaker 2: get about a hundred, it might be just it's it's
Speaker 2: okay to just stay mutual.
Speaker 1: Right, that's my homeboy. But I feel like there should
Speaker 1: be a conversation, right, Like maybe we should just at
Speaker 1: a certain time in our marriage we can start exploring
Speaker 1: other people.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1: There, that's a way to bring back intimacy in your union,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like experiencing other people outside
Speaker 1: of this relationship, right, might strengthen our relationship. That's the
Speaker 1: thing you can talk about with your partner. I mean,
Speaker 1: because come on, man, we've done even married twenty years,
Speaker 1: we ain't supposed to get no other day.
Speaker 2: I met this Mexican firefighter and he had a Mexican wife.
Speaker 2: I don't know if there that don't matter that they
Speaker 2: was Mexican.
Speaker 1: But no, boy doesn't like I'm looking at you like
Speaker 1: what yeah after it?
Speaker 2: Right after a KB was like that was irrelevant to
Speaker 2: the story. But I mean, I just wanted to put
Speaker 2: the demographic out there so we could know. They're about
Speaker 2: the thirties, no late thirties, early forties, and they had
Speaker 2: been married since fresh out of high school. They had
Speaker 2: a kid who was almost grown, and they had lost
Speaker 2: all the intimacy in their marriage and then they had
Speaker 2: decided to go open, and being opened brought the intimacy
Speaker 2: back to their marriage. Like they were super attracted to
Speaker 2: each other when they found that other people were attracted
Speaker 2: to there's partners. I don't know about that.
Speaker 1: I mean we see that a lot in relationships, Like
Speaker 1: I know, people like women who, oh, you don't really
Speaker 1: like your guy no more, right, But the minute you
Speaker 1: find out he fucking on somebody else, now you're crying
Speaker 1: and boohoo win and you want the relationship to work.
Speaker 2: You was just ready to leave.
Speaker 1: So is it the competition the games that keep the
Speaker 1: relationship strong?
Speaker 2: I always to go flirt with other bitches when your
Speaker 2: girl are acting right. That's probably bad advice.
Speaker 1: That's that bad good advice, because I mean it could help.
Speaker 1: It could help, because you know when I say women
Speaker 1: don't want men that other women don't want I don't
Speaker 1: For whatever reason, men try to attack that. But it's
Speaker 1: just the truth. Like people want people who are desirable.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, I want to desire you,
Speaker 1: and I also want I want other people to desire
Speaker 1: you too, Like I got something nan nanabooboo you can't have.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I want a whore for a man.
Speaker 1: I'm saying I want somebody who is desirable to me
Speaker 1: and to other people, Like I want a bad bitch nigga,
Speaker 1: Like that's what I want.
Speaker 2: That's what I want.
Speaker 1: Like, don't nobody want my nigga?
Speaker 2: None of y'all want him?
Speaker 1: Could you imagine going to a party, your homegirl having
Speaker 1: a party at her house, and you bring this nigga.
Speaker 1: Nobody else is met, nobody's met, and everybody looking at
Speaker 1: you like does your nigga? Like you want it too bad?
Speaker 2: You? Are you okay? Are you well?
Speaker 1: Are you well? Or you want the guy that people say? Man,
Speaker 1: he's so funny.
Speaker 2: Man, he fun like.
Speaker 1: It's not about looks and none of that thing. It's
Speaker 1: just the aura of the person. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like I want somebody like.
Speaker 2: I can see why she liked him. But here's the thing.
Speaker 2: I done had niggas that nobody liked and as soon
Speaker 2: as I'm fucking with him now other bitches is liking him.
Speaker 2: Like what nobody checking for this nigga until I upgraded
Speaker 2: his ass, and now y'all like him, and.
Speaker 1: Even the upgrade because I have had a friend there, rememberdy,
Speaker 1: I feel like this is what finally made it this
Speaker 1: bitch disappear. But you would always tell me how much
Speaker 1: you hated this nigga's guts. I was with m and
Speaker 1: then you ended up fucking on him thinking I was
Speaker 1: never going to find out. And what you told him
Speaker 1: was is that you always liked him, So you even
Speaker 1: gotta be careful with that.
Speaker 2: Wow, you told.
Speaker 1: A nigga you always liked him. Meanwhile, I don't understand
Speaker 1: why you be fucking with him like when I was
Speaker 1: with him, damn.
Speaker 2: So did you ever get to say something to her
Speaker 2: about that? No?
Speaker 1: I said it here, And remember we had that episode
Speaker 1: girl Code. I set it on Girl Code and she
Speaker 1: finally stopped following me. This is one of my ex
Speaker 1: best friends. Oh so yeah she heard it yet? Yeah,
Speaker 1: okay yet, because I know. And the thing is I
Speaker 1: always knew over the years, and then you know, some
Speaker 1: people like this is always going to be mine. I
Speaker 1: feel like that about some people like this. There's never
Speaker 1: going to be a time where any friend of mine
Speaker 1: can fuck with this nigga, Like you dad, wrong if
Speaker 1: you fuck with this nigga? Right, Like you have boyfriends
Speaker 1: that you are no longer with, but they like off
Speaker 1: limits to people, to your friends, especially yes, like what
Speaker 1: even if we're not friends no more? You was never
Speaker 1: my friend right.
Speaker 2: Right here?
Speaker 1: This wan and tell him you always liked him? Weird though.
Speaker 2: Weirdough.
Speaker 1: I know she heard that episode because it was during
Speaker 1: the time where she would listen to the show.
Speaker 2: Imagine hearing it and knowing the bitch talking about you.
Speaker 1: That hurts? Oh, like damn, she know? Yes, and you
Speaker 1: never told me you can tendue to try and be
Speaker 1: my friend? Can you wanted to rekindle our friendship? Know
Speaker 1: when you had done that?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Where is crazy?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Anyway, this has quantity over quality. This is what
Speaker 1: I was talking about it, says I believe it's much
Speaker 1: more important to have quality sex versus more frequent sex
Speaker 1: that is lacking in the passion department. I have heard
Speaker 1: dozens of men report that they would rather take care
Speaker 1: of themselves than to be subjected to pity pussy. So
Speaker 1: your nigga go in the other room every morning and
Speaker 1: beat his meat. I an't got a problem with that.
Speaker 1: I'm not one of those women who got a problem
Speaker 1: with my man watching porn and none of that shit,
Speaker 1: because I definitely got my vibrator hidden. I don't always
Speaker 1: feel like the sex part. I sometimes I just want
Speaker 1: to come and go to sleep.
Speaker 2: I definitely don't have a problem with man as long
Speaker 2: as it's not interactive. I'm okay with it.
Speaker 1: Oh like him payon like the cyber bitches.
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, I don't like First of all, if
Speaker 2: you gotta pay for it, that's a problem. I don't
Speaker 2: like you spending money on pussy outside of mind. Second,
Speaker 2: I don't want it to be like a like you
Speaker 2: need to watch so much shit that's already pre recorded.
Speaker 2: If she's like John, tell me what to do next, No,
Speaker 2: now that's cheating to me.
Speaker 1: Damn.
Speaker 2: Even if it's an AI bitch. Don't do it, you
Speaker 2: fucking these virtual host No.
Speaker 1: I don't think we clearly defined like based on like
Speaker 1: what therapists say pitty pussy is. So how would you
Speaker 1: define putty pity sex? It says when you have decided
Speaker 1: that you will have sex and you will not get aroused.
Speaker 1: You think, I'm just gonna do this for my partner,
Speaker 1: I'll skip my arousal. I'll just do this for you.
Speaker 1: The problem of originates in a high desire low desire relationship.
Speaker 1: In marriage, we call it high desire spouse HDS versus
Speaker 1: a low desire spouse LDS. If one spouse or partner
Speaker 1: is interested in more sex frequency and the other feels
Speaker 1: guilty or has a hard time saying no, they use
Speaker 1: it as a shortcut because they don't want to reject
Speaker 1: reject their partner. But it's a band aid solution. But
Speaker 1: I don't know how. Like this girl who messaged you,
Speaker 1: the woman that messaged you like this is the first
Speaker 1: time experience. That's what I consider it pity pussy. This
Speaker 1: is duty pussy. When you in the relationship, it's like
Speaker 1: duty sex.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there's a difference between Like it's pity
Speaker 2: when you just it's just a random and it's duty
Speaker 2: when it's your partner or your husband. But I wonder, dude,
Speaker 2: guys give out pity dick, you know, like.
Speaker 1: Y'all we maybe we can, yeah, yeah, we need to
Speaker 1: have you ever got some pity dick? Do you think
Speaker 1: you've got?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Okay, but have you ever been fucking with somebody who
Speaker 1: don't want to fuck with you no more? And you
Speaker 1: continue to like hit them up? You continued, like, are
Speaker 1: you like? Okay? It may not be as blatant as
Speaker 1: when women give men pity pussy, but I feel like
Speaker 1: women definitely get pity dick when I think about it,
Speaker 1: there are women that be chasing dick. They be chasing
Speaker 1: a nigga might come drop dick off, but he's still
Speaker 1: don't fuck with you, you know what I'm saying, And
Speaker 1: then you know you're chasing the next time. You're trying
Speaker 1: to get this man to your house to have sex
Speaker 1: and he really don't want to come over there, but
Speaker 1: he just he might have you as an availability pussy.
Speaker 1: The woman he really want to fuck on ain't letting
Speaker 1: him have sex with her yet, and he's just still
Speaker 1: pastime Kouchie. Maybe that's what it is. Pastime pussy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, pastime pussy instead of pity, because it still ain't pity.
Speaker 1: You know how we always got these little double standards
Speaker 1: with women, like it's some pity dick. It is when
Speaker 1: you think about it, he don't fuck with your sad ass.
Speaker 2: My ego just can't even fathom this. That women's problem.
Speaker 1: That's our problem right there, our ego be doing some cold.
Speaker 2: I can't even fathom a man talk about he gave
Speaker 2: me pity dick, the nerve. You better bring your a
Speaker 2: game dick over here? Are you crazy?
Speaker 1: He might It might be a game dick, but did
Speaker 1: he really feel like fucking you? He might not have.
Speaker 1: He's just doing it because you want him to. You're
Speaker 1: not having sex, bet So it says I've encountered. This
Speaker 1: is actually from Hello Gloria dot com. It says I've
Speaker 1: encountered the discussions about pity sex, pityfucks, or obligation sex.
Speaker 1: That's another term on social media a lot recently, notably
Speaker 1: on Reddit and private mom groups on Facebook. Do you
Speaker 1: think this is new or just becoming more prevalent? And
Speaker 1: the psychologist says, I don't feel this is a sex
Speaker 1: Therapistcuse me, he says. I don't feel this is new.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure this has been happening forever, but maybe
Speaker 1: people are realizing the negative side effects and consequences of
Speaker 1: long term So when I think about female orgasm, I
Speaker 1: feel like it's just like a new thing. Within the
Speaker 1: last we'll be in twenty twenty four, I would say,
Speaker 1: within the last fifty years. Forty years. I would say
Speaker 1: within the last forty years, forty five years, so this
Speaker 1: is before we were born. But just imagine, just think,
Speaker 1: just think back to how like a lot of women
Speaker 1: were in abusive relationships. Do you don't really think they
Speaker 1: enjoyed sex with these men? Do you think men actually
Speaker 1: give a fuck about them coming. I've had conversations with
Speaker 1: older women and this the way that they like despise
Speaker 1: sex and just hate sex, And it's like, ah, the
Speaker 1: way they are about it, they didn't ever enjoy it
Speaker 1: with anybody, And it's sad. It makes me feel sad,
Speaker 1: like y'all wasn't like included in the exerience.
Speaker 2: Yes, you were, just the man was just climbing on
Speaker 2: top of you doing your business. What's it like you
Speaker 2: went to the toilet on you. That's what it felt like.
Speaker 1: Like that is that's very sad to me.
Speaker 2: Well, miss Cili, you still is a virgin.
Speaker 1: Right, Miss Salita the old lady who I had living
Speaker 1: with me that time, Me and her would talk about
Speaker 1: these things. You know, she was at the time, she
Speaker 1: was eighty three eighty four years old, and she would
Speaker 1: tell we would talk about like her experiences that she's had,
Speaker 1: and she would say how she didn't really like black men.
Speaker 1: Now this is a Caribbean lady. She was like, I
Speaker 1: don't really like men because all they want to do
Speaker 1: is have sex, sex, sex, sex, sex. And that is
Speaker 1: based off her the relationships she had been in previously.
Speaker 1: But she did speak of this one Hispanic guy that
Speaker 1: she dated once and she was like, oh, he was
Speaker 1: so nice and he just sounded like he took his
Speaker 1: time with her, right, she was so nice and he
Speaker 1: would kiss my breast. She was acting like that was
Speaker 1: such a thing, like for a man to kiss your breast,
Speaker 1: as if men wasn't kissing breast in the nineteen fifties
Speaker 1: or whatever for y'all not, Yeah, well, I mean she
Speaker 1: was born in the thirties, so so men weren't kissing
Speaker 1: breast and stuff like men weren't giving head y'all, wasn't
Speaker 1: eating gucci. We need a old man on here. I
Speaker 1: didn't understand, like when did you start eat kuccies? You
Speaker 1: just started eating young kucies, or were you like not
Speaker 1: eating gucci back in the day.
Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't think that was a thing
Speaker 2: back then. You want me to put my head where
Speaker 2: you're heathen?
Speaker 1: I don't know now. I remember that song.
Speaker 2: What's that old? It's the old old song, can no
Speaker 2: way older?
Speaker 1: I mean black and white record, sounding like it's breaking old.
Speaker 1: It was a black woman and she would sing these
Speaker 1: nasty ass, raunchy songs even back then, and they try
Speaker 1: to always bring it out to compare to like the
Speaker 1: sexy reds of today, like this ship been going on,
Speaker 1: they've been putting nasty shit on wax. Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: don't know. I I've definitely had pitty pussy.
Speaker 2: What the excuse me? I've definitely tell us about it.
Speaker 1: Shut up. I've definitely given pity pussy. I've definitely given
Speaker 1: duty pussy, the duty sex.
Speaker 2: I've done all that you miss done done.
Speaker 1: It's a bigger problem now I'm not in a I'm
Speaker 1: not in a situation where I'm scheduling sex though in
Speaker 1: my relationship, Like I have a.
Speaker 2: Friend her and her man, they have scheduled like it's like, uh,
Speaker 2: tasty Tuesday or something like that, and that's fun though, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I guess it's fun until it until it's a Tuesday
Speaker 2: and you got diarrhea and you don't feel like being
Speaker 2: bothered with it, niggain And now you got to give
Speaker 2: tasty Tuesday a chance. That was pity Tuesday. Yeah, it's
Speaker 2: pity Tuesday. Like my stomach hurt, nigga. I don't want
Speaker 2: to do it today, but it's on the schedule. It's
Speaker 2: on the schedule. So but I guess when you have
Speaker 2: kids and parents getting sick and career actors, yeah, you gotta.
Speaker 2: You gotta schedule it or it might not happen. Ever,
Speaker 2: you look up in a month then went by and
Speaker 2: you haven't had sex with your partner.
Speaker 1: And I mean sex, it's a form of communication. It's
Speaker 1: a big form of communication for me, Like, yeah, we
Speaker 1: can have we could talk and stuff like that, but
Speaker 1: if we're not having good sex when we do have sex,
Speaker 1: we disconnected. We're not connecting, And I don't want to
Speaker 1: have to be on drugs to do it right.
Speaker 2: Half having to be and wanting to be is two
Speaker 2: different things. Yeah, so what's your last last?
Speaker 1: I don't know. Don't do nothing happy boundaries, don't do
Speaker 1: nothing you don't want to do. If it's a first
Speaker 1: time situation, just listen. It's getting too hot and bothered.
Speaker 1: I'm really use your words, ladies. Don't let nobody pressure
Speaker 1: you into giving them no pity sex. Use your words
Speaker 1: and get the fuck up out of there, or don't
Speaker 1: be going to these men's houses. Let them put you
Speaker 1: out somewhere.
Speaker 2: Coffee dates is.
Speaker 1: Cool, like do like, do little things until you actually
Speaker 1: get to like that person, and then you get them
Speaker 1: the sex pity sex is too close to s a
Speaker 1: for me, you know. And then within the relationship, maybe
Speaker 1: sometimes people need to seek a little therapy. See what's
Speaker 1: going on with the intimacy and your relationship. What maybe
Speaker 1: y'all can do some little I don't know, some little
Speaker 1: things to to get.
Speaker 2: That spark back.
Speaker 1: I don't know. If therapists don't they have like packets
Speaker 1: and ship they give people like little things for them
Speaker 1: to do. What's the word I'm looking for?
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Activities, activities. Okay, y'all can do some sextivities. Okay, so
Speaker 1: y'all can get that little spark back in the bedroom
Speaker 1: so you can both enjoy sex and she's not just
Speaker 1: be men enjoying sex. Man, and you should feel bad
Speaker 1: if you just laying on top of your partner and
Speaker 1: she just looking like.
Speaker 2: I think. My last last is, never give putty pity pussy.
Speaker 2: Always give duty pussy. Always give that pussy to your
Speaker 2: husband and your man, because he gonna go get it
Speaker 2: somewhere else if you don't give it to him and
Speaker 2: then pity pity pussy. Never give that out. You don't.
Speaker 2: Don't ever pity nobody that much that you're gonna give
Speaker 2: him some of your body. It ain't that much pity
Speaker 2: in the world. Buy them a meal, Pray.
Speaker 1: For them, but the trinket.
Speaker 2: Yeah, get them something, a card to let them know
Speaker 2: that you care, but not your vagina or man.
Speaker 1: If you get some pity pussy, knocked that shit out
Speaker 1: the box. Okay, knock it out the box. At least
Speaker 1: eat it really good something, do something really well so
Speaker 1: a woman doesn't feel like she has some regrets about
Speaker 1: giving you that shit. Yeah, anyway, y'all. If you enjoyed
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Speaker 1: And never oh somethinguci pussy, No, hold your putty, pussy,
Speaker 1: pitty pussy. Oh yeah, fast, but don't hold your words.
Speaker 1: Let's use your words, ladies. Okay,