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Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network.

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Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion.

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Speaker 2: He talks back.

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Speaker 1: What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a

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Speaker 1: new episode and we talked Back and show dedicated to

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Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. This is your co host a j. Holiday.

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Speaker 1: What's up, Tam Bam.

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Speaker 2: The side of my couchie.

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Speaker 1: Itchy, Oh, what what has happened?

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Speaker 2: We went to listen, I went and got I was

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Speaker 2: it was Memorial weekend. I didn't get a wax and

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Speaker 2: I wanted to go to the pool, so I shaved. Mistake.

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Speaker 2: I'm so itchy. This is is a worse I'm sorry. Hey, y'all,

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Speaker 2: this tambancome. Do we go back where our COUCHI itch?

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Speaker 2: Will we shave you? Absolutely not?

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Speaker 1: Okay because I don't get waxed. I don't really wax.

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Speaker 1: I might wax once a year, but I normally just

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Speaker 1: you know, shave and no, I'm past that. My ship's

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Speaker 1: like crazy right now. I hate that I did that to myself.

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Speaker 1: Is that why you sent me that video with that

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Speaker 1: lady with the butt east?

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Speaker 2: No? I said I didn't even listen to what she said.

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Speaker 2: I was looking at her nose job. Did you see it?

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Speaker 1: Oh, I don't think it was a da job. I

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Speaker 1: think that's her original nose. Really it was kind of birdish.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, she was talking about having butt east. She

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Speaker 1: didn't know that you can get east in your butt, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: You can get east any part of your body.

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Speaker 2: How you get used in your butt from saying I mean,

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how she got it, but I mean,

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Speaker 1: you can get a east affection from taking antibiotics. So

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Speaker 1: it's just, you know, it's just one of those things

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Speaker 1: that people go through, because it's not just women that

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Speaker 1: get yeast. A lot of people. What the what?

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Speaker 2: What is happening? I don't know. We started off weird today.

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Speaker 2: I apologize you.

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Speaker 1: Started off there and I just listened. I gotta go

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Speaker 1: with the conversation, like I want to dial it back.

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Speaker 1: In the middle of talking about booty itch and you

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Speaker 1: took it to the boodie.

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Speaker 2: I just was like, the sides of my legs, that's all.

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Speaker 1: Put some cream on it. You don't got no benadera cream,

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Speaker 1: a hydro cordzone or something like that.

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Speaker 2: Is that what I need yes, or I'm just gonna

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Speaker 2: leave it alone and then just get a wax. I

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Speaker 2: shouldn't have did that put some ice on it? Cool.

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Speaker 2: I felt like Charlotte and from Sex and the City

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Speaker 2: when she went to the pool and she had they

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Speaker 2: was like wax much because she had that bush popping

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Speaker 2: out her Uh. I ain't been doing that in all year.

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Speaker 2: I ain't needed to wax it it. Just let it.

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Speaker 2: I let it do what it do.

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Speaker 1: Look, that's what I be saying. And bitches who pussy

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Speaker 1: always ready, don't be the hoes like my pussy is

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Speaker 1: not always ready even in a relationship. Single nigga, can't

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Speaker 1: just call me about this koochie like I need advance.

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Speaker 2: Notice right because I need to do some maintenance.

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Speaker 1: If your pussy just be ready in a winter, you ah,

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Speaker 1: I do nothing right this already?

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Speaker 2: Smooth girl? You papa dad pussy on demand? What do

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Speaker 2: you do over the weekend?

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Speaker 1: Everything I was outside for Thursday, did I go No?

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Speaker 1: I didn't even go outside sun I leave the bed.

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Speaker 1: Sunday okay, Oh yeah.

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Speaker 2: I talked to you Sunday. I call. I was like

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Speaker 2: it was like hell, I was like, can I speak

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Speaker 2: ash amazing morning day goddamn.

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Speaker 1: And that probably was like three four o'clock in the afternoon.

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Speaker 1: I was down bad, just acting bad, taking like edibles

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Speaker 1: and drinking wine because I wasn't on no liquor like that.

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Speaker 1: On Saturday night, my homegirl, uh, one of my best friends,

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Speaker 1: she just came home from New Zealand. So we had

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Speaker 1: like a little thing at her daddy house down here,

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Speaker 1: and he'd be making wine. It's like her grandma old

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Speaker 1: recipes and shit, and they all just lined up ferment.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, girl, And I.

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Speaker 1: Say, you listen, that wine has the higher alcohol volume

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Speaker 1: in any tequila. You could drink the wine people be making,

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Speaker 1: because yes, And I was fucked up. I was definitely

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Speaker 1: fucked because it tastes sweet. It tastes like you're drinking

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Speaker 1: juice like this organic ass wine gonna have you have

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Speaker 1: you on your back the next day. So yeah, I

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Speaker 1: was fucked up. Eating crabs run the crab table just

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Speaker 1: all week last week. I just been doing enjoying life,

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Speaker 1: liking for now my birthday this weekend. And I ain't

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Speaker 1: got ship playing.

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Speaker 2: Bitch. I know what you're doing. That's what I know.

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Speaker 2: Most of the advanced what you're doing for your birthday

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Speaker 2: months y'all, because you know, I just I want some

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Speaker 2: Prince shit.

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Speaker 1: You know what Prince was like, you only got one birthday,

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Speaker 1: that's the day you was born. So it's like, I

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Speaker 1: I man, I want a million do I'm gonna just

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Speaker 1: be honest with y'all, motherfuckers. I want a million dollars

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Speaker 1: tomorrow and then I celebrate. I'm not saying I don't

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Speaker 1: have nothing to celebrate, but birthdays just ain't one of

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Speaker 1: them things. I just be extra crome.

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Speaker 2: You should. You should because you ain't gonna make it. No,

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Speaker 2: it's not. It ain't always make it. It's next week. No,

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Speaker 2: it's Saturday. I mean it's I mean it's the end

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Speaker 2: of this week, right.

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Speaker 1: It's in four days. My birthday is Saturday, okay' damn yeah.

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Speaker 1: So like even if I wanted to like celebrate with

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Speaker 1: other people, it's last notice at this point. You know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying to come here, So I probably just

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Speaker 1: what I do want to do is take pictures. I

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Speaker 1: kept saying I was gonna do my little uh Bridgerton

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Speaker 1: little photo shoot. Don't have a dress, so I got

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Speaker 1: like another dress and I wanted to do I'm probably

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Speaker 1: gonna do a photo shoot. That'd be about it.

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Speaker 2: Well, maybe you and Yo, me and Yoman and your

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Speaker 2: man could do something fun this weekend.

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Speaker 1: And I'm sucked that same dick this weekend.

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Speaker 2: Go go somewhere, y'all, to just go away somewhere real

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Speaker 2: quick on a like daycation at least, right, So.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's a nice place in Charleston. I tried

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Speaker 1: to start yet just yet, no matter of fact. No,

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Speaker 1: this nigga was trying to plan me a little surprise something,

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Speaker 1: but then ends up telling me yesterday like man, I

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Speaker 1: was trying to such or such. So now you telling

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Speaker 1: me to make me have to plan Yeah, what type

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Speaker 1: of shit is this? If I wanted to do something

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Speaker 1: that would have been planned already, Now you forcing me

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Speaker 1: to plan some shit because you started planning some shit

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Speaker 1: and you don't know where to go at.

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Speaker 2: That's when he should have called one of your homegirls

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Speaker 2: instead of you.

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Speaker 1: I think he did it also, So I'm bitch just

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Speaker 1: gonna stand by y'all. I know. Yeah, but I don't

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Speaker 1: think nothing going on.

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Speaker 2: Well maybe that's good that you don't think nothing going on,

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Speaker 2: and maybe it is.

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Speaker 1: It ain't nothing going on, I promised. Well, now I'm

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Speaker 1: the one to charge your planning and I ain't doing it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't do that. You shouldn't have to do that

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Speaker 2: on my weekend. So Bella is and he and she's

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Speaker 2: on her cycle, and then my cycle came on. So

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Speaker 2: we've just been in here bleeding all weekend. Yo, what

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Speaker 2: is up with you in these pussies? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: This is wild. I'm not nasty work. Putting a diaper

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Speaker 2: on a dog is no fun because she'd be running

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Speaker 2: from it. She hates it. I get it. I hate

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Speaker 2: it too. So I just sat in the house.

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Speaker 1: What's that girl on Instagram? That post I sent you

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Speaker 1: the other day?

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Speaker 2: With that girl? She was like, can you see my

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Speaker 2: path for the bag?

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Speaker 1: Y'all send me all Like, no, bet you good?

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Speaker 2: I always feel like you can see yeah, because I

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Speaker 2: have to wear them big ass motherfucking mattresses.

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Speaker 1: Women be so insecure about them pasts. I remember Ramon

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Speaker 1: Chishlm if you're listening middle school. He was like, asking,

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Speaker 1: y'all past. I was off from that day forward. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I was traumatized.

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Speaker 2: Because you don't want nobody. It ain't no big piece

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Speaker 2: of massis. Stick it at the back of your shit,

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Speaker 2: it's embarrassing. It took me years to go back to tampons.

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Speaker 2: I mean within the last five I mean to go

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Speaker 2: back to pads within the last five years. Like I

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Speaker 2: just was just traumatized on somebody gonna see this pamp

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Speaker 2: on my damn but walk around here look like SpongeBob

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Speaker 2: square pads. I can't wear tampons. They are so uncomfortable.

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Speaker 2: I feel it. Y'all don't feel that shit.

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Speaker 1: They could you be loose. I definitely be feeling it.

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Speaker 1: And when you gotta pull them out, it hurts, it's

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Speaker 1: and it's gross.

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Speaker 2: It's just gross the whole experience. Like when I go

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Speaker 2: to Heaven, the first person I might get kicked out

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Speaker 2: because I'm looking straight for eve As who got the square?

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Speaker 2: What she gotta do? She gotta catch this fight, because bitch,

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Speaker 2: why are you need that? So let's get in the scenes.

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Speaker 1: That's the first sin, remember, right.

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Speaker 2: Or so they say, I don't even believe the bitch.

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Speaker 2: When I get there, she's gonna be like, I didn't

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Speaker 2: even eat that shit. That was that nigga exactly? He

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Speaker 2: got it in his neck. You don't see that, Adams.

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Speaker 2: After all these niggas.

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Speaker 1: Next they've been lying on us from the beginning of

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Speaker 1: the time from the creation story. But anyway, so Cardi

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Speaker 1: B is beef with Bea, same niggas. Cardi B basically

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Speaker 1: called her like great value. Cardi B.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, version I heard, I like Bea. I like them both.

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Speaker 2: What did they what is the problem? I don't know?

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Speaker 1: And I just feel like this ain't one of them

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Speaker 1: beasts like people even really care about for real. But

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Speaker 1: I don't know, they said. It seemed to have reached

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Speaker 1: the boiling point in this last couple of days. Carti

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Speaker 1: says that she attempted to resolve these issues directly. The

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Speaker 1: conversation started very nasty. She called her okay, after after

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Speaker 1: being tweeted some subliminal bullshit on Twitter one day, Cardi

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Speaker 1: B called her. Cardi B says she got her phone

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Speaker 1: number and called her and she was like, the conversation

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Speaker 1: did start off for your nasty. She even played some

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Speaker 1: of it on her page, and she was like, I

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Speaker 1: was coming to her and she was coming at me.

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Speaker 1: But then I called her back because I'm so appalled

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Speaker 1: at the fact that she thinks I'm copying her or

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Speaker 1: stealing from her, because there's nothing that she do that

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Speaker 1: I like. I don't like her music, I don't like

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Speaker 1: her style. She also threatened to release their conversation, saying

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Speaker 1: I will put the conversations up. We ended up. We

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Speaker 1: ended the conversation very nicely, and you still went to

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Speaker 1: the internet dissing me. After the conversation, you went and

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Speaker 1: you started saying I copied your music video and so

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Speaker 1: Carti even shows how she had this particular beat that

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Speaker 1: Bia said was given to her. Carti said she's sitting

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Speaker 1: on that bet since twenty twenty two, even show dropping

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Speaker 1: her lyrics in twenty twenty two for the song, So

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Speaker 1: how could my lyrics be about you when I dropped this,

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Speaker 1: you know, two years ago. So it's a whole some

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Speaker 1: extra some more rap beef between the rap bitches. I

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Speaker 1: like all, it's like it's two different groups now.

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Speaker 2: First of all, they're a little late for the rap

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Speaker 2: beef trend. You know, y'all should have did it like

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Speaker 1: I want to talk about Agenda twenty five. It's a

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Speaker 2: guy from her job that she communicates with and they

433
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:41,240
Speaker 2: talk all the time and he's a really She's like, oh,

434
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 2: he's a really nice guy. That's how she described him.

435
00:23:44,400 --> 00:23:48,240
Speaker 2: But she like they were watching a movie or something,

436
00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:51,879
Speaker 2: and his internet went out and he started like trying

437
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:55,480
Speaker 2: to get to that bullson and she ended up giving

438
00:23:55,480 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 2: it to him, but not because she wanted to. She

439
00:23:57,920 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 2: just pitied him. So she gave him some and she

440
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 2: said it wasn't good and she didn't enjoy it, but

441
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:07,440
Speaker 2: she just felt so sorry for her, so she gave

442
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 2: him some kouchie. And I was like mm mm. So

443
00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,000
Speaker 2: it made me think about like the idea of what

444
00:24:14,119 --> 00:24:17,440
Speaker 2: pity pussy is, and so I hit AJ so we

445
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 2: can talk about it.

446
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 1: What's pretty Yeah, because I've definitely given a man pity

447
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:28,040
Speaker 1: pussy before, and then I didn't talk to him again. Really,

448
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 1: she has to work with this guy, Yes, I have definitely.

449
00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,520
Speaker 1: You know it's And I talked about this on my

450
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 1: homeboy Von Ray's podcast, Set the Record Straate how I

451
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:44,120
Speaker 1: think this happens to women a lot and men may

452
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,080
Speaker 1: not consider it kind of like it's almost like a

453
00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:49,800
Speaker 1: situation where you're you're in a close setting with a man.

454
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:52,120
Speaker 1: And this is why I'm against women. If you don't

455
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:54,000
Speaker 1: want to have sex with a man in any capacity,

456
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:56,160
Speaker 1: do not put yourself in a clothes setting with him.

457
00:24:56,680 --> 00:25:01,639
Speaker 1: You know, it's not technically it's not a forced situation.

458
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:05,199
Speaker 1: But if you had a choice, you probably would not

459
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:05,639
Speaker 1: have done it.

460
00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 2: Really, you should have just made me, and you do

461
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:08,399
Speaker 2: have a choice.

462
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:10,400
Speaker 1: A lot of times women don't know how to get

463
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,080
Speaker 1: out the situation though. How do you just without hurting

464
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:16,000
Speaker 1: this man's ego? How do you leave? You know what

465
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:19,440
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like, some women don't know like that viral

466
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:23,199
Speaker 1: or daves me. Some women don't know how cause I

467
00:25:23,200 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: can tell you in that situation, like I didn't know

468
00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 1: how to just get the fuck up out of there.

469
00:25:27,480 --> 00:25:29,880
Speaker 1: I just let it happen, and I just didn't talk

470
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,000
Speaker 1: to him again because you you put the pressure on

471
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 1: so fucking heavy that I just went ahead and had

472
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 1: sex with you when I really didn't want to, and

473
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:37,840
Speaker 1: maybe I would have want to fuck you know a

474
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: month from now. You didn't let me even get to

475
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:42,399
Speaker 1: like you enough to want to have sex with you.

476
00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 1: So now I had sex with you without liking your

477
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:47,920
Speaker 1: ass for real, and I'm out of there. Nigga blocked.

478
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:50,919
Speaker 2: But do you happen? But is that pity sex or

479
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 2: is it just like that almost hair Nigga, hair, Nigga,

480
00:25:55,480 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 2: it's almost it's borderline kind of Yeah, I repeat, it

481
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:00,760
Speaker 2: sounds rapist, can I say that?

482
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:05,399
Speaker 1: Yes, I said that before, right, so maybe you bleep it.

483
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:08,679
Speaker 1: But it is a little bit. It's a great area

484
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,159
Speaker 1: situation as some women end up in. And I and

485
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: I'm saying this is in my younger days, this is

486
00:26:13,119 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 1: not recently, because I don't think we should have Nigga

487
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 1: to death nowadays. I'm out of there. I'm out of there.

488
00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:23,320
Speaker 1: But young girls like sometimes they don't know how to

489
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:25,840
Speaker 1: find themselves out of those situations, which is why I

490
00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:28,119
Speaker 1: just don't put yourself in there in it because if

491
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 1: you go to a man's house like they automatically think

492
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: you know it's right and.

493
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 2: Don't like a nigga said he want to cook for

494
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 2: you if he is not a chef and went the

495
00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:39,440
Speaker 2: culinary school, don't go over there.

496
00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: Exactly.

497
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:46,400
Speaker 2: He went out. He cut his Internet off.

498
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:49,879
Speaker 1: That exactly from the app on his cell phone. He

499
00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: cut the internet service TV went out. Time to fuck

500
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 1: like that. You're not about to watch Netflix to death me? Okay, right,

501
00:26:57,240 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 1: that's what happened. I'm pretty sure she gave him some minute.

502
00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 2: But she said it like it sounds like because she

503
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 2: sent me voice notes. It sounded like pity pussy because

504
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 2: it was like, oh, but he's so nice, they feel

505
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:17,439
Speaker 2: so bad form I don't ever want to give out

506
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 2: Bill Johnna. That goes with that tone.

507
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:26,360
Speaker 1: You know, and what man actually wants, Like well, actually

508
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 1: we had a man on who said he's okay with

509
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:31,439
Speaker 1: pitty pussy. Like here you had Nigga hit his pussy,

510
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 1: Like why do you not want the woman to also

511
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 1: enjoy it? And I think men know when we are

512
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 1: giving him pitty pussy, But do they give a fuck?

513
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 1: I don't think so. They don't think.

514
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 2: They don't care as long as they hitting it, they

515
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:43,440
Speaker 2: don't care what kind it is.

516
00:27:45,160 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I I just had a thought about some shit,

517
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:50,880
Speaker 1: like just.

518
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,120
Speaker 2: I feel about One of the guests on our show

519
00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 2: said that most of the pussy he gets his pitty pussy,

520
00:27:58,640 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 2: that nig was.

521
00:27:59,359 --> 00:28:03,360
Speaker 1: Trolling man, and I'm okay.

522
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 2: He said, every time he gets some ass is a

523
00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 2: woman feeling sorry for him because he's a nice guy.

524
00:28:11,600 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 1: Man. That Nigga is a terrorist. That dude is a

525
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 1: whole terrorist. Okay, he might be acting like he a

526
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: nice guy. Get that Koucie up. You're gonna meet a terrorists.

527
00:28:26,280 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 2: I I'm trying to think. Have I ever No, I

528
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 2: can't think of anytime I've given out pity pussy where

529
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,760
Speaker 2: I felt sorry for a person. I've given out pity food,

530
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:45,440
Speaker 2: like damn, let me feed this nigga. I feel bad. Yeah,

531
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:49,640
Speaker 2: I'm gonna make dinner. I don't buy dinner, but my vagina.

532
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:52,120
Speaker 2: I ain't never felt that much pity for nobody.

533
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:55,080
Speaker 1: So everybody you've had sex with, like you really wanted

534
00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 1: to have sex with him.

535
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 2: No, I can't say everybody I have had sex with

536
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 2: I really wanted to have sex, but there was someone there.

537
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 2: It was never like I just want to give you

538
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 2: some pussy or you know, like I'm just gonna give

539
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 2: it to you because I feel like I owe you

540
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 2: something or no i'd had I done, got put out

541
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 2: of places because I ain't bring no pussy with me

542
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 2: worth more than given away puy pity pussy. I definitely

543
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:31,920
Speaker 2: don't have that habit bared it once. Humm.

544
00:29:34,960 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: So pity pussy to me is like I consider pity

545
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:40,560
Speaker 1: pussy like if you're doing it, this is your first

546
00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 1: time having sex with this person, and you have sex

547
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 1: with them. But some people are giving their husband's pity

548
00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 1: pussy after further research, people are in committed relationships where

549
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 1: they are given their significant others pity or Another term

550
00:29:56,520 --> 00:30:00,719
Speaker 1: I found was duty pussy. Now that what do you pussy?

551
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: Is a motherfucker. I definitely have given out some duty.

552
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,160
Speaker 2: It's more duty pussy out here than anything else I think.

553
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 1: I think it depends on the age group. Like yes,

554
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: y'all at the house. Now y'all having to schedule sex

555
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: and shit like that, you might be giving up some

556
00:30:19,680 --> 00:30:21,640
Speaker 1: duty pussy. Like damn, I ain't get this nigga no

557
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 1: pussy in two weeks. Let me go and fuck his

558
00:30:23,320 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 1: ask Damn.

559
00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 2: Yeah. I have friends that be like, girl, let me

560
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 2: I'm gonna call you back in fifteen minutes. Let me

561
00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 2: go fuck this nigga to sleep, and I'll be right back.

562
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 2: It ain't gonna take long. I have another whole girl

563
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:37,239
Speaker 2: like we want to go on the trip, and like

564
00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:40,920
Speaker 2: she hasn't planned any trip with her husband yet for

565
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:43,840
Speaker 2: the hout the summer months, but she's trying to play

566
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 2: the trip with us. And she was like, girl, I

567
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 2: gotta do something because they've been together for almost twenty

568
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 2: years at this point. She's like, girl, it's the same

569
00:30:57,480 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 2: old dick you know sames the same old dick, but

570
00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:04,960
Speaker 2: let me go do something to it so I can

571
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 2: this trip. That's beauty pussy.

572
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:13,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I think it's important, Like in relationships, you can't.

573
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 2: You have to have.

574
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 1: Boundaries even within the union, Like with your this is

575
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:21,040
Speaker 1: still my body. I don't belong to you. You can't

576
00:31:21,080 --> 00:31:22,960
Speaker 1: just do things. I think. I talked about this a

577
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:25,400
Speaker 1: couple of weeks ago about I don't like people tugging

578
00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:29,040
Speaker 1: at my body just randomly while I'm cooking, like stop,

579
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:30,840
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because it gets to be

580
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 1: too much, and I want to continue to want you.

581
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. I don't want somebody that's

582
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: always like available to me either. So I feel like

583
00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 1: even limiting like sex within a relationship is healthy. How

584
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 1: many times a week do you think you should be

585
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: having sex with your partner?

586
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:48,320
Speaker 2: I ain't had sex all year, so that's not a

587
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 2: good question for me because I'm talking.

588
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:54,040
Speaker 1: And in relationships, I feel like three times is enough,

589
00:31:54,840 --> 00:31:57,880
Speaker 1: and sometimes even that it could be you know, excessive,

590
00:31:58,400 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 1: Like how do I expect my man to like get

591
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 1: up and go to work if I'm dreaming his balls

592
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 1: every single night, like he's not gonna be productive.

593
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 2: I don't think so either.

594
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta limit the kuchi so you can make

595
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 1: sure your man brings the bag home. You can't be

596
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 1: like because if you if you're not putting that niggat

597
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 1: asleep when you're done with him, you really ain't doing

598
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 1: the job. No way. That part we steal energy.

599
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I think athletes, you know, oftentimes don't

600
00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 2: have sex the night before the game rule. It's a rule.

601
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 1: They put them in the hotels, separate from these spouses.

602
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: Everybody's together, like it's a whole thing. Boxers don't have sex.

603
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 2: Like yeah, because it's it's an energy stealer.

604
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

605
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:45,719
Speaker 2: It's a life force stealer. Your life force is literally

606
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 2: leaving out of your body.

607
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,959
Speaker 1: And then I don't like to clean up.

608
00:32:54,160 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 2: I don't like the cleanup. It's crazy. So I have

609
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:03,040
Speaker 2: I do have.

610
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:05,959
Speaker 1: I do have duty sex. I have had duty sex

611
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 1: and relationships, but I have given out pity pussy first

612
00:33:10,040 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 1: time pity pussy. I've done that.

613
00:33:12,720 --> 00:33:14,440
Speaker 2: And that's the thing. I don't know if I've ever

614
00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 2: had duty sex, but I don't be. I ain't been

615
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 2: with niggas long enough for duty sex. I think all

616
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 2: my relationships. I mean even the last one. It was

617
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 2: like four years, almost five years, and that was the

618
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 2: only thing that was we had it was good sex.

619
00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 1: That's fucked up too. It's like gotta be bad. It

620
00:33:38,560 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 1: has to be balanced of some sort. I want to

621
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 1: miss the dick even in a relationship, Like I want

622
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,880
Speaker 1: to be anticipating have sex, having sex with you. If

623
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 1: you're doing it every single night, that's sheit gonna get

624
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:51,840
Speaker 1: old for the both of us. And so I read

625
00:33:51,880 --> 00:33:55,320
Speaker 1: something that says quality over quantity, like I want to

626
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:58,760
Speaker 1: have quality sex when we do have sex. I don't

627
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 1: just want to be humping for fifteen minutes and half

628
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 1: the time I'm not even aroused, or I gotta take

629
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,920
Speaker 1: a shot or smoke a blunt to even do this.

630
00:34:08,440 --> 00:34:11,920
Speaker 2: Like that is almost I like, no, smoking the blunt

631
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,399
Speaker 2: first is kind of cool, though I ain't gonna lie. No.

632
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 2: I like, I like weeded sex.

633
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 1: But I can tell you in my last relationship, I

634
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 1: had to have weed. And when I stopped yes, and

635
00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 1: when I stopped getting high before sex, I didn't enjoy it. Damn,

636
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,799
Speaker 1: hurry up, get off me. I started being like that.

637
00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:36,239
Speaker 2: M hm, damn, you like seey he just climbed on

638
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 2: top and do his business.

639
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I'm a very I'm a very sexual person.

640
00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:48,479
Speaker 1: But I just it can't get old, so we gotta

641
00:34:48,560 --> 00:34:50,640
Speaker 1: do something to make sure that shit don't get old.

642
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 1: So we can't do it a lot.

643
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,000
Speaker 2: How do you like after sir? I feel like after

644
00:34:56,120 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 2: year five, that's when it started getting like here he comes,

645
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 2: I dig again. Two years?

646
00:35:05,440 --> 00:35:06,880
Speaker 1: Yes, a year and a half?

647
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 2: Really no, I was. I was like, yes, I said

648
00:35:12,840 --> 00:35:17,320
Speaker 2: what I said. I don't know. My last relationship that

649
00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:20,880
Speaker 2: was like what kept us together that long. I think

650
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:25,160
Speaker 2: was the sexual chemistry. We fought like cats and dogs,

651
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 2: but when we were like intimate, it was very pleasing

652
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 2: for the entirety of the relationship, which was like four

653
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,879
Speaker 2: and a half years. But it was all the other

654
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:38,760
Speaker 2: stuff that just made it awful.

655
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 1: Toxiana. So this is Douglas Counseling dot com. It's the

656
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 1: article is called pity sex, What is it? And why

657
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 1: men hated? And this is even more interesting that pity

658
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:56,279
Speaker 1: sex really only pertains to like men being on the

659
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:59,240
Speaker 1: receiving end of it. You really don't hear about women

660
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: getting pity dick?

661
00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:10,800
Speaker 2: Oh no, what about Gloria on waiting to exhil. Remember

662
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 2: she was like, Lord, let him be merciful again this time. Mmmm,

663
00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 2: she got he did. No, that was her, That was

664
00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:22,800
Speaker 2: her ex, her child's father. When he came to town,

665
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:24,919
Speaker 2: he would have sex with her, but he stopped because

666
00:36:24,920 --> 00:36:25,399
Speaker 2: he was gay.

667
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, Shane, you're remembering all the TV shit.

668
00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:34,800
Speaker 1: All right, So this part says how your man views

669
00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: pity sex. It says don't fool yourself. Your man can

670
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:41,240
Speaker 1: tell when you aren't engaged in sex. You rush past

671
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:45,239
Speaker 1: the four place, skip passionate kissing, and cheer him on

672
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 1: to finish as fast as he can. Men men hate this.

673
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:52,880
Speaker 1: But what do I do then? If I keep telling

674
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:54,880
Speaker 1: you no, I don't feel like it, that's a problem.

675
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 1: If I engage and go ahead and do the act

676
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 1: and I don't as into it, that's also a problem.

677
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:05,320
Speaker 1: So I feel like there's this like an and something's

678
00:37:05,400 --> 00:37:07,560
Speaker 1: up with the intimacy, right, because I think a lot

679
00:37:07,600 --> 00:37:10,640
Speaker 1: of men feel like intimacy only happens right before they

680
00:37:10,640 --> 00:37:12,840
Speaker 1: want to stick. They dicking you, And no, it should

681
00:37:12,880 --> 00:37:14,719
Speaker 1: be all day, you should be trying to woo me

682
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:17,880
Speaker 1: all day you should be And I talk about pulling

683
00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:20,240
Speaker 1: my titties out my shirt while I'm cooking grits. Okay,

684
00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:24,400
Speaker 1: but I'm just textingly cute things like making me want you.

685
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:26,799
Speaker 2: First of all, please don't put my titt out, because

686
00:37:26,800 --> 00:37:28,800
Speaker 2: grits pop on your titty and they don't stop burning

687
00:37:28,800 --> 00:37:35,240
Speaker 2: to the school. But also, intimacy also works both ways,

688
00:37:35,280 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 2: so you could do the same for your man. You

689
00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:38,839
Speaker 2: don't have to wait for him to do it. You

690
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 2: could start the intimacy for the first thing in the

691
00:37:41,680 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 2: morning with him, right Because I feel like women be

692
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:50,600
Speaker 2: wanting they need the intention towards them all the time,

693
00:37:50,640 --> 00:37:52,799
Speaker 2: and I think men want to be wooed a little too.

694
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, men want to feel wanted. Men also want to

695
00:37:56,719 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 1: feel loved as well. I don't know. Look, I might

696
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:03,920
Speaker 1: need some therapy in at the part.

697
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 2: So let me tell you. So, let me tell you this.

698
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:09,799
Speaker 2: So the girl who messaged me about her you know,

699
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 2: pity sex, he was like, had been calling her a

700
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 2: lot after like wanting to spend time, and she was like,

701
00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:19,400
Speaker 2: she talked to him like a nigga would talk to

702
00:38:19,440 --> 00:38:21,319
Speaker 2: a woman that they didn't like. And she was like,

703
00:38:21,719 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 2: I ain't with all that consistent shit. That's what she

704
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 2: told a man she might as well ghost him. I

705
00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:31,319
Speaker 2: was like, oh my god, that was so mean. And

706
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 2: then she sent me a screenshot of what he posted,

707
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 2: and it was like the saddest thing. He was like,

708
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:37,680
Speaker 2: you got what you wanted, so I guess you're good

709
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 2: now or something like that, and I was.

710
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:43,239
Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, I just got dick, Like he

711
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 1: didn't do much right and you ain't even come through

712
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,480
Speaker 1: with the dick for real, because even if she would,

713
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:50,640
Speaker 1: even if it could, it could have initially started off

714
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 1: as pity sex right start off, but he could have

715
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:55,120
Speaker 1: fucked the shit out of her and it would have

716
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 1: turned into her chasing right.

717
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:58,279
Speaker 2: He just didn't.

718
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:01,479
Speaker 1: Deliver, like she gave him the alley who like if.

719
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:05,920
Speaker 2: He did not deliver the you got what you wanted,

720
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:08,040
Speaker 2: so I guess it is what it is.

721
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 1: See, it's the energy, man, even it just starts with

722
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,360
Speaker 1: the energy. She knew that Dick was gonna be whack.

723
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 1: She knew it before he even pulled it out, just

724
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,399
Speaker 1: because of his energy, Because what type of dude would

725
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:22,120
Speaker 1: just be like, oh man, you got what you wanted?

726
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 1: Like what can you blame him for a feeling that way?

727
00:39:25,239 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 1: Though I didn't want it, I didn't want it. That's

728
00:39:28,040 --> 00:39:30,920
Speaker 1: the problem. I really didn't want it, but you pressured

729
00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 1: me and I went ahead with it. And now, like,

730
00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 1: this is what you get when you don't let a

731
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 1: woman live like you. First you wanted me to have sex.

732
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 1: I went ahead and gave you the pussy, and now

733
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:43,839
Speaker 1: I don't really like you like that. You didn't even

734
00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:47,120
Speaker 1: give me a chance to like you. You know who's

735
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 1: good for that? The the person I gave pitty pussy

736
00:39:50,640 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: to was an African nigga. I'm gonna just be honest.

737
00:39:53,120 --> 00:40:00,560
Speaker 1: There's some pushy ass guys man. She like African women like.

738
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 1: Do y'all be fucking on the first night a lot?

739
00:40:03,120 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 1: Because I'm trying to figure out why African men beat

740
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:10,799
Speaker 1: that pushy darling darling. They don't give a fuck like

741
00:40:11,120 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 1: they the minute they aroused and you ain't do nothing.

742
00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,600
Speaker 1: You just walked in the room, You just walked in

743
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:21,080
Speaker 1: the restaurant, and they want you to give them pussy

744
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 1: right now.

745
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 2: Don't listen.

746
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:28,239
Speaker 1: If it's no nigga, you need to put yourself in

747
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 1: a clothes setting with it's a goddamn African, don't do

748
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:39,160
Speaker 1: it them niggas is pushy ding darling, pushy so it

749
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 1: says having pity sex may seem like a good solution

750
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: to the problem when you aren't feeling up for sex

751
00:40:45,600 --> 00:40:48,080
Speaker 1: and you know your partner is The truth is that

752
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:51,080
Speaker 1: having pity sex with your partner may actually lead to

753
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:54,960
Speaker 1: more problems than it fixes. Sure, you and your partner

754
00:40:55,000 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 1: had sex, but did you really connect through the experience. Yes,

755
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:02,800
Speaker 1: So it starts to feel like eugh, you know what

756
00:41:02,840 --> 00:41:05,360
Speaker 1: I'm saying. You almost and if I start feeling disgusted

757
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:08,800
Speaker 1: when we have sex, I'm on the way out the door. Yeah,

758
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 1: if I you know, because like it's no more, it's

759
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:13,640
Speaker 1: not even any like there anymore. Like I love you,

760
00:41:13,719 --> 00:41:15,879
Speaker 1: That's why I'm giving you this pussy, But I really

761
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 1: like you to enjoy it.

762
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:20,239
Speaker 2: But what about people who like yet? Like this is

763
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:22,600
Speaker 2: my biggest fear. I find my husband, we fall in love,

764
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:24,600
Speaker 2: we do all the things, we start growing old together,

765
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:27,279
Speaker 2: and then y'all become more like brother and sister and

766
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:31,279
Speaker 2: a marriage than husband and wife because the intimacy is gone.

767
00:41:31,360 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 2: Y'all don't even sleep in the same room no more.

768
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:36,759
Speaker 1: We need to be I don't want a marriage like

769
00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:38,839
Speaker 1: that at any age. And I you know, I tell

770
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:40,239
Speaker 1: my mam and this a lot. Like I'm gonna give

771
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:42,240
Speaker 1: a fuck if I'm a hundred. If I'm not happy,

772
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:42,760
Speaker 1: I'm leaving.

773
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:45,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll be one hundred old.

774
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:46,479
Speaker 1: As fucking my kids.

775
00:41:46,560 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 2: But Mama, where you go?

776
00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm going to one of y'all house.

777
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: I'm out of here. I'm sick of this nigga niggas.

778
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,239
Speaker 2: C'read of these niggas, and I ain't gonna waste no

779
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 2: time being with someone. But I don't know. When you

780
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 2: get about a hundred, it might be just it's it's

781
00:42:01,320 --> 00:42:03,200
Speaker 2: okay to just stay mutual.

782
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 1: Right, that's my homeboy. But I feel like there should

783
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:08,280
Speaker 1: be a conversation, right, Like maybe we should just at

784
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:10,520
Speaker 1: a certain time in our marriage we can start exploring

785
00:42:10,520 --> 00:42:11,000
Speaker 1: other people.

786
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:13,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree.

787
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:18,680
Speaker 1: There, that's a way to bring back intimacy in your union,

788
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like experiencing other people outside

789
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:27,319
Speaker 1: of this relationship, right, might strengthen our relationship. That's the

790
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:29,279
Speaker 1: thing you can talk about with your partner. I mean,

791
00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:32,360
Speaker 1: because come on, man, we've done even married twenty years,

792
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: we ain't supposed to get no other day.

793
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 2: I met this Mexican firefighter and he had a Mexican wife.

794
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 2: I don't know if there that don't matter that they

795
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 2: was Mexican.

796
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:43,920
Speaker 1: But no, boy doesn't like I'm looking at you like

797
00:42:43,960 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 1: what yeah after it?

798
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:47,880
Speaker 2: Right after a KB was like that was irrelevant to

799
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,319
Speaker 2: the story. But I mean, I just wanted to put

800
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:52,320
Speaker 2: the demographic out there so we could know. They're about

801
00:42:52,440 --> 00:42:56,160
Speaker 2: the thirties, no late thirties, early forties, and they had

802
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 2: been married since fresh out of high school. They had

803
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:03,400
Speaker 2: a kid who was almost grown, and they had lost

804
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 2: all the intimacy in their marriage and then they had

805
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 2: decided to go open, and being opened brought the intimacy

806
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:14,799
Speaker 2: back to their marriage. Like they were super attracted to

807
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:17,360
Speaker 2: each other when they found that other people were attracted

808
00:43:17,360 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 2: to there's partners. I don't know about that.

809
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 1: I mean we see that a lot in relationships, Like

810
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:28,440
Speaker 1: I know, people like women who, oh, you don't really

811
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 1: like your guy no more, right, But the minute you

812
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:34,760
Speaker 1: find out he fucking on somebody else, now you're crying

813
00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 1: and boohoo win and you want the relationship to work.

814
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 2: You was just ready to leave.

815
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 1: So is it the competition the games that keep the

816
00:43:42,000 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 1: relationship strong?

817
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:46,920
Speaker 2: I always to go flirt with other bitches when your

818
00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:49,880
Speaker 2: girl are acting right. That's probably bad advice.

819
00:43:52,200 --> 00:43:54,759
Speaker 1: That's that bad good advice, because I mean it could help.

820
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:59,320
Speaker 1: It could help, because you know when I say women

821
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 1: don't want men that other women don't want I don't

822
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 1: For whatever reason, men try to attack that. But it's

823
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 1: just the truth. Like people want people who are desirable.

824
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:09,520
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, I want to desire you,

825
00:44:09,600 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 1: and I also want I want other people to desire

826
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:15,279
Speaker 1: you too, Like I got something nan nanabooboo you can't have.

827
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:17,919
Speaker 1: I'm not saying I want a whore for a man.

828
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:23,880
Speaker 1: I'm saying I want somebody who is desirable to me

829
00:44:24,320 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: and to other people, Like I want a bad bitch nigga,

830
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 1: Like that's what I want.

831
00:44:31,040 --> 00:44:31,839
Speaker 2: That's what I want.

832
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 1: Like, don't nobody want my nigga?

833
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:34,799
Speaker 2: None of y'all want him?

834
00:44:36,200 --> 00:44:39,040
Speaker 1: Could you imagine going to a party, your homegirl having

835
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:41,320
Speaker 1: a party at her house, and you bring this nigga.

836
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 1: Nobody else is met, nobody's met, and everybody looking at

837
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:48,719
Speaker 1: you like does your nigga? Like you want it too bad?

838
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 2: You? Are you okay? Are you well?

839
00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:55,640
Speaker 1: Are you well? Or you want the guy that people say? Man,

840
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:56,440
Speaker 1: he's so funny.

841
00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 2: Man, he fun like.

842
00:44:57,960 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 1: It's not about looks and none of that thing. It's

843
00:44:59,719 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 1: just the aura of the person. You know what I'm saying,

844
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 1: Like I want somebody like.

845
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 2: I can see why she liked him. But here's the thing.

846
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:13,279
Speaker 2: I done had niggas that nobody liked and as soon

847
00:45:13,320 --> 00:45:17,240
Speaker 2: as I'm fucking with him now other bitches is liking him.

848
00:45:17,280 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 2: Like what nobody checking for this nigga until I upgraded

849
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 2: his ass, and now y'all like him, and.

850
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 1: Even the upgrade because I have had a friend there, rememberdy,

851
00:45:26,360 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: I feel like this is what finally made it this

852
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:32,520
Speaker 1: bitch disappear. But you would always tell me how much

853
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:35,680
Speaker 1: you hated this nigga's guts. I was with m and

854
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:37,880
Speaker 1: then you ended up fucking on him thinking I was

855
00:45:37,880 --> 00:45:39,919
Speaker 1: never going to find out. And what you told him

856
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:42,799
Speaker 1: was is that you always liked him, So you even

857
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 1: gotta be careful with that.

858
00:45:44,719 --> 00:45:46,760
Speaker 2: Wow, you told.

859
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:50,320
Speaker 1: A nigga you always liked him. Meanwhile, I don't understand

860
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 1: why you be fucking with him like when I was

861
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:53,800
Speaker 1: with him, damn.

862
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 2: So did you ever get to say something to her

863
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:57,719
Speaker 2: about that? No?

864
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 1: I said it here, And remember we had that episode

865
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 1: girl Code. I set it on Girl Code and she

866
00:46:03,760 --> 00:46:05,680
Speaker 1: finally stopped following me. This is one of my ex

867
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 1: best friends. Oh so yeah she heard it yet? Yeah,

868
00:46:08,880 --> 00:46:11,640
Speaker 1: okay yet, because I know. And the thing is I

869
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 1: always knew over the years, and then you know, some

870
00:46:13,680 --> 00:46:16,560
Speaker 1: people like this is always going to be mine. I

871
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 1: feel like that about some people like this. There's never

872
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:21,439
Speaker 1: going to be a time where any friend of mine

873
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 1: can fuck with this nigga, Like you dad, wrong if

874
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: you fuck with this nigga? Right, Like you have boyfriends

875
00:46:27,600 --> 00:46:29,959
Speaker 1: that you are no longer with, but they like off

876
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 1: limits to people, to your friends, especially yes, like what

877
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 1: even if we're not friends no more? You was never

878
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 1: my friend right.

879
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 2: Right here?

880
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:43,240
Speaker 1: This wan and tell him you always liked him? Weird though.

881
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 2: Weirdough.

882
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:48,919
Speaker 1: I know she heard that episode because it was during

883
00:46:48,960 --> 00:46:50,680
Speaker 1: the time where she would listen to the show.

884
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:55,319
Speaker 2: Imagine hearing it and knowing the bitch talking about you.

885
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: That hurts? Oh, like damn, she know? Yes, and you

886
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: never told me you can tendue to try and be

887
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:05,239
Speaker 1: my friend? Can you wanted to rekindle our friendship? Know

888
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:06,080
Speaker 1: when you had done that?

889
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 2: Yeah? Where is crazy?

890
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 1: Yeah? Anyway, this has quantity over quality. This is what

891
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,439
Speaker 1: I was talking about it, says I believe it's much

892
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 1: more important to have quality sex versus more frequent sex

893
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 1: that is lacking in the passion department. I have heard

894
00:47:27,320 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 1: dozens of men report that they would rather take care

895
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:35,080
Speaker 1: of themselves than to be subjected to pity pussy. So

896
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: your nigga go in the other room every morning and

897
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 1: beat his meat. I an't got a problem with that.

898
00:47:40,760 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 1: I'm not one of those women who got a problem

899
00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,040
Speaker 1: with my man watching porn and none of that shit,

900
00:47:44,600 --> 00:47:48,240
Speaker 1: because I definitely got my vibrator hidden. I don't always

901
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:50,919
Speaker 1: feel like the sex part. I sometimes I just want

902
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:51,800
Speaker 1: to come and go to sleep.

903
00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:55,319
Speaker 2: I definitely don't have a problem with man as long

904
00:47:55,360 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 2: as it's not interactive. I'm okay with it.

905
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:01,680
Speaker 1: Oh like him payon like the cyber bitches.

906
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:05,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, I don't like First of all, if

907
00:48:05,520 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 2: you gotta pay for it, that's a problem. I don't

908
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:11,840
Speaker 2: like you spending money on pussy outside of mind. Second,

909
00:48:12,560 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 2: I don't want it to be like a like you

910
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 2: need to watch so much shit that's already pre recorded.

911
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 2: If she's like John, tell me what to do next, No,

912
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:22,719
Speaker 2: now that's cheating to me.

913
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:24,520
Speaker 1: Damn.

914
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 2: Even if it's an AI bitch. Don't do it, you

915
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,240
Speaker 2: fucking these virtual host No.

916
00:48:39,680 --> 00:48:42,359
Speaker 1: I don't think we clearly defined like based on like

917
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:46,600
Speaker 1: what therapists say pitty pussy is. So how would you

918
00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:49,840
Speaker 1: define putty pity sex? It says when you have decided

919
00:48:49,840 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: that you will have sex and you will not get aroused.

920
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 1: You think, I'm just gonna do this for my partner,

921
00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:59,160
Speaker 1: I'll skip my arousal. I'll just do this for you.

922
00:48:59,280 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 1: The problem of originates in a high desire low desire relationship.

923
00:49:04,040 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 1: In marriage, we call it high desire spouse HDS versus

924
00:49:07,840 --> 00:49:12,040
Speaker 1: a low desire spouse LDS. If one spouse or partner

925
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 1: is interested in more sex frequency and the other feels

926
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:19,640
Speaker 1: guilty or has a hard time saying no, they use

927
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:22,720
Speaker 1: it as a shortcut because they don't want to reject

928
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: reject their partner. But it's a band aid solution. But

929
00:49:27,239 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: I don't know how. Like this girl who messaged you,

930
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 1: the woman that messaged you like this is the first

931
00:49:31,520 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 1: time experience. That's what I consider it pity pussy. This

932
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 1: is duty pussy. When you in the relationship, it's like

933
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:39,120
Speaker 1: duty sex.

934
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think there's a difference between Like it's pity

935
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:45,800
Speaker 2: when you just it's just a random and it's duty

936
00:49:46,120 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 2: when it's your partner or your husband. But I wonder, dude,

937
00:49:51,440 --> 00:49:53,680
Speaker 2: guys give out pity dick, you know, like.

938
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:58,759
Speaker 1: Y'all we maybe we can, yeah, yeah, we need to

939
00:49:59,120 --> 00:50:01,680
Speaker 1: have you ever got some pity dick? Do you think

940
00:50:01,719 --> 00:50:02,120
Speaker 1: you've got?

941
00:50:02,640 --> 00:50:03,040
Speaker 2: Okay?

942
00:50:05,800 --> 00:50:08,239
Speaker 1: Okay, but have you ever been fucking with somebody who

943
00:50:08,239 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 1: don't want to fuck with you no more? And you

944
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 1: continue to like hit them up? You continued, like, are

945
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:18,319
Speaker 1: you like? Okay? It may not be as blatant as

946
00:50:18,400 --> 00:50:21,080
Speaker 1: when women give men pity pussy, but I feel like

947
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 1: women definitely get pity dick when I think about it,

948
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,280
Speaker 1: there are women that be chasing dick. They be chasing

949
00:50:26,280 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 1: a nigga might come drop dick off, but he's still

950
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:30,799
Speaker 1: don't fuck with you, you know what I'm saying, And

951
00:50:30,840 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 1: then you know you're chasing the next time. You're trying

952
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:35,879
Speaker 1: to get this man to your house to have sex

953
00:50:35,920 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 1: and he really don't want to come over there, but

954
00:50:37,480 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 1: he just he might have you as an availability pussy.

955
00:50:42,280 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 1: The woman he really want to fuck on ain't letting

956
00:50:44,280 --> 00:50:46,239
Speaker 1: him have sex with her yet, and he's just still

957
00:50:47,080 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 1: pastime Kouchie. Maybe that's what it is. Pastime pussy.

958
00:50:51,000 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, pastime pussy instead of pity, because it still ain't pity.

959
00:50:55,280 --> 00:50:58,960
Speaker 1: You know how we always got these little double standards

960
00:50:59,000 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 1: with women, like it's some pity dick. It is when

961
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:08,320
Speaker 1: you think about it, he don't fuck with your sad ass.

962
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:13,280
Speaker 2: My ego just can't even fathom this. That women's problem.

963
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 1: That's our problem right there, our ego be doing some cold.

964
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 2: I can't even fathom a man talk about he gave

965
00:51:19,320 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 2: me pity dick, the nerve. You better bring your a

966
00:51:22,280 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 2: game dick over here? Are you crazy?

967
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:27,399
Speaker 1: He might It might be a game dick, but did

968
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 1: he really feel like fucking you? He might not have.

969
00:51:30,280 --> 00:51:34,080
Speaker 1: He's just doing it because you want him to. You're

970
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 1: not having sex, bet So it says I've encountered. This

971
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:46,719
Speaker 1: is actually from Hello Gloria dot com. It says I've

972
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 1: encountered the discussions about pity sex, pityfucks, or obligation sex.

973
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:54,240
Speaker 1: That's another term on social media a lot recently, notably

974
00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:57,200
Speaker 1: on Reddit and private mom groups on Facebook. Do you

975
00:51:57,239 --> 00:52:00,239
Speaker 1: think this is new or just becoming more prevalent? And

976
00:52:00,280 --> 00:52:03,359
Speaker 1: the psychologist says, I don't feel this is a sex

977
00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 1: Therapistcuse me, he says. I don't feel this is new.

978
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:08,800
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure this has been happening forever, but maybe

979
00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 1: people are realizing the negative side effects and consequences of

980
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:17,360
Speaker 1: long term So when I think about female orgasm, I

981
00:52:17,360 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 1: feel like it's just like a new thing. Within the

982
00:52:19,719 --> 00:52:22,919
Speaker 1: last we'll be in twenty twenty four, I would say,

983
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 1: within the last fifty years. Forty years. I would say

984
00:52:29,640 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 1: within the last forty years, forty five years, so this

985
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:35,600
Speaker 1: is before we were born. But just imagine, just think,

986
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:38,640
Speaker 1: just think back to how like a lot of women

987
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:40,880
Speaker 1: were in abusive relationships. Do you don't really think they

988
00:52:40,960 --> 00:52:43,680
Speaker 1: enjoyed sex with these men? Do you think men actually

989
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:47,080
Speaker 1: give a fuck about them coming. I've had conversations with

990
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:49,920
Speaker 1: older women and this the way that they like despise

991
00:52:50,239 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 1: sex and just hate sex, And it's like, ah, the

992
00:52:53,719 --> 00:52:56,160
Speaker 1: way they are about it, they didn't ever enjoy it

993
00:52:56,400 --> 00:53:01,320
Speaker 1: with anybody, And it's sad. It makes me feel sad,

994
00:53:01,400 --> 00:53:04,680
Speaker 1: like y'all wasn't like included in the exerience.

995
00:53:05,360 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 2: Yes, you were, just the man was just climbing on

996
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:10,680
Speaker 2: top of you doing your business. What's it like you

997
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:17,359
Speaker 2: went to the toilet on you. That's what it felt like.

998
00:53:15,280 --> 00:53:18,360
Speaker 1: Like that is that's very sad to me.

999
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,319
Speaker 2: Well, miss Cili, you still is a virgin.

1000
00:53:22,440 --> 00:53:27,560
Speaker 1: Right, Miss Salita the old lady who I had living

1001
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:29,279
Speaker 1: with me that time, Me and her would talk about

1002
00:53:29,320 --> 00:53:31,279
Speaker 1: these things. You know, she was at the time, she

1003
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:35,439
Speaker 1: was eighty three eighty four years old, and she would

1004
00:53:35,480 --> 00:53:39,000
Speaker 1: tell we would talk about like her experiences that she's had,

1005
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 1: and she would say how she didn't really like black men.

1006
00:53:42,080 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 1: Now this is a Caribbean lady. She was like, I

1007
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:45,600
Speaker 1: don't really like men because all they want to do

1008
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 1: is have sex, sex, sex, sex, sex. And that is

1009
00:53:47,960 --> 00:53:51,800
Speaker 1: based off her the relationships she had been in previously.

1010
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 1: But she did speak of this one Hispanic guy that

1011
00:53:54,239 --> 00:53:56,640
Speaker 1: she dated once and she was like, oh, he was

1012
00:53:56,680 --> 00:53:58,799
Speaker 1: so nice and he just sounded like he took his

1013
00:53:58,880 --> 00:54:01,480
Speaker 1: time with her, right, she was so nice and he

1014
00:54:01,520 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 1: would kiss my breast. She was acting like that was

1015
00:54:04,280 --> 00:54:06,600
Speaker 1: such a thing, like for a man to kiss your breast,

1016
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 1: as if men wasn't kissing breast in the nineteen fifties

1017
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:16,840
Speaker 1: or whatever for y'all not, Yeah, well, I mean she

1018
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 1: was born in the thirties, so so men weren't kissing

1019
00:54:21,200 --> 00:54:25,680
Speaker 1: breast and stuff like men weren't giving head y'all, wasn't

1020
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:27,880
Speaker 1: eating gucci. We need a old man on here. I

1021
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:30,160
Speaker 1: didn't understand, like when did you start eat kuccies? You

1022
00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 1: just started eating young kucies, or were you like not

1023
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:33,719
Speaker 1: eating gucci back in the day.

1024
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 2: I don't think. I don't think that was a thing

1025
00:54:38,120 --> 00:54:40,720
Speaker 2: back then. You want me to put my head where

1026
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:41,800
Speaker 2: you're heathen?

1027
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:46,839
Speaker 1: I don't know now. I remember that song.

1028
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:51,600
Speaker 2: What's that old? It's the old old song, can no

1029
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:52,840
Speaker 2: way older?

1030
00:54:52,880 --> 00:54:57,440
Speaker 1: I mean black and white record, sounding like it's breaking old.

1031
00:54:57,600 --> 00:54:59,799
Speaker 1: It was a black woman and she would sing these

1032
00:55:00,120 --> 00:55:04,120
Speaker 1: nasty ass, raunchy songs even back then, and they try

1033
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,360
Speaker 1: to always bring it out to compare to like the

1034
00:55:06,400 --> 00:55:09,279
Speaker 1: sexy reds of today, like this ship been going on,

1035
00:55:09,320 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 1: they've been putting nasty shit on wax. Yeah, so I

1036
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:19,640
Speaker 1: don't know. I I've definitely had pitty pussy.

1037
00:55:20,440 --> 00:55:24,200
Speaker 2: What the excuse me? I've definitely tell us about it.

1038
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:29,800
Speaker 1: Shut up. I've definitely given pity pussy. I've definitely given

1039
00:55:30,040 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 1: duty pussy, the duty sex.

1040
00:55:33,200 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 2: I've done all that you miss done done.

1041
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:42,200
Speaker 1: It's a bigger problem now I'm not in a I'm

1042
00:55:42,239 --> 00:55:45,360
Speaker 1: not in a situation where I'm scheduling sex though in

1043
00:55:45,400 --> 00:55:46,759
Speaker 1: my relationship, Like I have a.

1044
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:51,800
Speaker 2: Friend her and her man, they have scheduled like it's like, uh,

1045
00:55:52,200 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 2: tasty Tuesday or something like that, and that's fun though, Yeah,

1046
00:55:58,200 --> 00:56:02,080
Speaker 2: I guess it's fun until it until it's a Tuesday

1047
00:56:02,480 --> 00:56:05,439
Speaker 2: and you got diarrhea and you don't feel like being

1048
00:56:05,480 --> 00:56:08,279
Speaker 2: bothered with it, niggain And now you got to give

1049
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:16,000
Speaker 2: tasty Tuesday a chance. That was pity Tuesday. Yeah, it's

1050
00:56:16,080 --> 00:56:19,600
Speaker 2: pity Tuesday. Like my stomach hurt, nigga. I don't want

1051
00:56:19,600 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 2: to do it today, but it's on the schedule. It's

1052
00:56:23,200 --> 00:56:27,360
Speaker 2: on the schedule. So but I guess when you have

1053
00:56:27,520 --> 00:56:31,880
Speaker 2: kids and parents getting sick and career actors, yeah, you gotta.

1054
00:56:32,239 --> 00:56:34,279
Speaker 2: You gotta schedule it or it might not happen. Ever,

1055
00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:37,480
Speaker 2: you look up in a month then went by and

1056
00:56:37,719 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 2: you haven't had sex with your partner.

1057
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:42,399
Speaker 1: And I mean sex, it's a form of communication. It's

1058
00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:45,200
Speaker 1: a big form of communication for me, Like, yeah, we

1059
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:48,080
Speaker 1: can have we could talk and stuff like that, but

1060
00:56:48,120 --> 00:56:50,480
Speaker 1: if we're not having good sex when we do have sex,

1061
00:56:51,080 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 1: we disconnected. We're not connecting, And I don't want to

1062
00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:58,879
Speaker 1: have to be on drugs to do it right.

1063
00:56:58,920 --> 00:57:01,680
Speaker 2: Half having to be and wanting to be is two

1064
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 2: different things. Yeah, so what's your last last?

1065
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:16,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. Don't do nothing happy boundaries, don't do

1066
00:57:16,160 --> 00:57:17,959
Speaker 1: nothing you don't want to do. If it's a first

1067
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: time situation, just listen. It's getting too hot and bothered.

1068
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:27,080
Speaker 1: I'm really use your words, ladies. Don't let nobody pressure

1069
00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:29,440
Speaker 1: you into giving them no pity sex. Use your words

1070
00:57:29,440 --> 00:57:32,080
Speaker 1: and get the fuck up out of there, or don't

1071
00:57:32,120 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 1: be going to these men's houses. Let them put you

1072
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:35,880
Speaker 1: out somewhere.

1073
00:57:35,960 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 2: Coffee dates is.

1074
00:57:36,800 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 1: Cool, like do like, do little things until you actually

1075
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:42,600
Speaker 1: get to like that person, and then you get them

1076
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:46,080
Speaker 1: the sex pity sex is too close to s a

1077
00:57:46,440 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 1: for me, you know. And then within the relationship, maybe

1078
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Speaker 1: sometimes people need to seek a little therapy. See what's

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Speaker 1: going on with the intimacy and your relationship. What maybe

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Speaker 1: y'all can do some little I don't know, some little

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Speaker 1: things to to get.

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Speaker 2: That spark back.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. If therapists don't they have like packets

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Speaker 1: and ship they give people like little things for them

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Speaker 1: to do. What's the word I'm looking for?

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: Activities, activities. Okay, y'all can do some sextivities. Okay, so

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Speaker 1: y'all can get that little spark back in the bedroom

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Speaker 1: so you can both enjoy sex and she's not just

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Speaker 1: be men enjoying sex. Man, and you should feel bad

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Speaker 1: if you just laying on top of your partner and

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Speaker 1: she just looking like.

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Speaker 2: I think. My last last is, never give putty pity pussy.

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Speaker 2: Always give duty pussy. Always give that pussy to your

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Speaker 2: husband and your man, because he gonna go get it

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Speaker 2: somewhere else if you don't give it to him and

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Speaker 2: then pity pity pussy. Never give that out. You don't.

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Speaker 2: Don't ever pity nobody that much that you're gonna give

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Speaker 2: him some of your body. It ain't that much pity

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Speaker 2: in the world. Buy them a meal, Pray.

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Speaker 1: For them, but the trinket.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, get them something, a card to let them know

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Speaker 2: that you care, but not your vagina or man.

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Speaker 1: If you get some pity pussy, knocked that shit out

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Speaker 1: the box. Okay, knock it out the box. At least

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Speaker 1: eat it really good something, do something really well so

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Speaker 1: a woman doesn't feel like she has some regrets about

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Speaker 1: giving you that shit. Yeah, anyway, y'all. If you enjoyed

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Speaker 2: Kick It Tam y'all is official BAM on Instagram. I

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Speaker 2: Love y'all. Remember speak now.

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Speaker 1: And never oh somethinguci pussy, No, hold your putty, pussy,

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Speaker 1: pitty pussy. Oh yeah, fast, but don't hold your words.

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Speaker 1: Let's use your words, ladies. Okay,