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Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if

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Speaker 1: we're gonna read this one right here, right now. You

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Speaker 1: Strawberry letter. All right, subject, thank you ju and your

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Speaker 1: subject he's for the streets. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a

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Speaker 1: thirty three year old single woman and my older sister

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Speaker 1: just married a man. That's for the streets. I know

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Speaker 1: you're going to say I need to mind my business,

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Speaker 1: but my brother in law is a whore. When I

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Speaker 1: graduated from college ten years ago, I went to a

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Speaker 1: party and he was one of my classmate's boyfriends at

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Speaker 1: the time. I was annoyed by him flirting and staring

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Speaker 1: up some time for dinner. I didn't give him my number,

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Speaker 1: and I told him it was a one night stand

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Speaker 1: that shouldn't have happened. A few days later, my cousin

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Speaker 1: and I didn't go in. I didn't say anything to

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Speaker 1: to see if she and the guy hit it off,

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Speaker 1: and she said he gave her an STI, so she

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Speaker 1: dumped him. I was disgusted, but relieved because I had

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Speaker 1: gotten a clean bill of health after my encounter with him. Now,

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Speaker 1: the tricky part is how he met my nerdy sister.

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Speaker 1: My sister is very naive to be thirty five years old,

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Speaker 1: so he latched onto her and moved into her nice

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Speaker 1: didn't recognize him with a bald head and sunglasses. She

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Speaker 1: calls him Stephen, and everyone else calls him by his

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Speaker 1: middle name my cousin, and I want to tell her

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Speaker 1: that she eloped with the devil, but we don't know

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Speaker 1: how Do I let him use her and cheat on her?

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Speaker 1: Or do I tell him? Do I tell her she's

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Speaker 1: married a whore? All right? Not your place, not your business? Okay, seriously,

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Speaker 1: I mean you're right when you said that we would

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Speaker 1: would definitely say that. My question to you is, why,

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Speaker 1: after she's already married the guy. I do think this

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Speaker 1: is different because A, it's your sister, and be both

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Speaker 1: you and your cousin have had dealings with him. You

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Speaker 1: both slept with him. You because you said you were

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Speaker 1: drunk off to quila her. I don't know why, but anyway,

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Speaker 1: it's the whole timing thing that's off here. I do

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Speaker 1: get why you're concerned. It's your sister. But did you

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Speaker 1: not tell her because she eloped and you didn't get

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Speaker 1: a chance to initially because you didn't mention that in

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Speaker 1: the letter? But what about when they started dating and

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Speaker 1: he was living with her and her nice home as

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Speaker 1: you put it, Where were you then? Where were you then? Why?

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Speaker 1: Couldn't you if you wanted to say someone, if you

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Speaker 1: cared so much, why couldn't you say something then? I mean,

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Speaker 1: So I just think now it's best to let the

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Speaker 1: situation play out. He is her husband, and I can

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Speaker 1: She'll get defensive because she loves him. This is her husband,

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Speaker 1: and she's gonna think you're jealous. I mean, that's just

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Speaker 1: to save your sister, but I just think it's too much,

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Speaker 1: too late. Now. You gotta let this from play out

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Speaker 1: she finds out that's it. That's all you can do. Steve. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: me because I don't know what your angle is here,

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Speaker 1: and I don't know what you want. You're thirty three

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Speaker 1: year old single woman, Your oldest sister just married a

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Speaker 1: man that's for the streets. Now you don't say in

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Speaker 1: exactly right. That's exactly what we're going to say. You

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Speaker 1: I got news for you. I'm not really fond of

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Speaker 1: But my brother in law is a horror w h

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Speaker 1: r E. My brother in law is a whore. Very

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Speaker 1: he was my classmate's boyfriend at the time. I was

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Speaker 1: She made she's annoyed, But listen to the next line.

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Speaker 1: I had way too much tequila. He followed me into

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, I thought you said your brother in

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Speaker 1: law was a whore. See that's what you said. You

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Speaker 1: said your brother in law was a wore. Now we

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Speaker 1: allow this type of thing on this show because of determinology.

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Speaker 1: What you call your brother in law whore? And you

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Speaker 1: say you are annoyed by him flirting instead at you

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Speaker 1: all night? Then you say I had too much of Keila.

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Speaker 1: He followed me into the bathroom, we had sex in

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Speaker 1: the tub. I'm confused. So why are your brother why

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Speaker 1: he got to be the one? Why he get the

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Speaker 1: girl back, I have more. All right, Look, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two and gather yourself, Steve. We'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of Steve's response coming up in twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour Strawberry letters, subject He's for the streets. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show.

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject is he's for the streets. This very conflicting

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Speaker 1: letter of this thirty three year old single woman whose

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Speaker 1: oldest sister just married a man that's for the streets.

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Speaker 1: But like I said earlier, I don't appreciate the timing

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Speaker 1: I know before that you were surely gonna need to

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Speaker 1: say I need to mind my own business you do.

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Speaker 1: You do need to mind your own business, because none

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Speaker 1: of this is yours, and I'll tell you why. First

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Speaker 1: of all, let's start with the timing of it. My

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Speaker 1: you a letter like you wrote it. He is a whore, okay,

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Speaker 1: all I remember. Now, listen to this line. I was

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Speaker 1: She was your classmate invited you to the party, then

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Speaker 1: little girl. I'm just reading your letter. Then I ran

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Speaker 1: him by his middle name. My cousin, and I want

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Speaker 1: married to a whore. Now, let's go over a couple

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Speaker 1: Now y'all want to go in there and bust bubble

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Speaker 1: why you don't know this man. All this that you

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Speaker 1: all of us have some things in our past that

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Speaker 1: So you're going back there to point this out is wrong. Secondly,

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Speaker 1: how many times have you dated a man and it

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Speaker 1: do do I let him use her and she don't hurt. No,

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Speaker 1: letter the whoy was consensual between more than one at

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Speaker 1: stop calling him one. All right, he was the one

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