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Speaker 2: I thought you were going into California Love Scrub scrubbing in.

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Speaker 2: They go scrubbing and we're still working on our music.

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Speaker 2: No judge.

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Speaker 4: I mind going to California Love though, but we have

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Speaker 4: to pay royalties for that or something or.

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Speaker 2: We can't do that. Yeah, we don't have a budget

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Speaker 2: for that.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: We do have a Dear Bonya episode. I have to say,

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Speaker 2: people loved the Paulina episode. They lost the game. They

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Speaker 2: want her back on after the wedding, we will hire Wish.

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Speaker 3: She's our commands.

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Speaker 1: The Instagram video of them of you and Paulina trying

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Speaker 1: to spell roddy Savia Beach is very fine.

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Speaker 2: I still don't know how to spell it. All I

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Speaker 2: know is there's a J in there and it starts

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Speaker 2: with a R A D.

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Speaker 4: My friend Ashley texted me and she goes, does Paulina

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Speaker 4: have a poor on her skin?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: I was like, no, everyone's like Paulina so.

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Speaker 2: Like I don't think you realize until like when you

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Speaker 2: see Paulina in person. She is her face is like flawless.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's annoying, it's crazy. Yeah, it's literally flawless.

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Speaker 5: It's what she's poor, like poor poor, like I wish.

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Speaker 2: I was poor poor. No, she's sunning and she's funny

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Speaker 2: and she's wonder package, whole package. Okay, Mark, take it away.

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Speaker 1: This is anonymous. Hi before you start.

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Speaker 3: Do you think really pretty people know they're really pretty?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Yes you do, Yes.

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Speaker 1: I think so. See I think about don't you too

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Speaker 1: think that you're really pretty?

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Speaker 2: I think, uh, well, or who are you referred? Are

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Speaker 2: you talking about? Like Paulina?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but like I was thinking of like the like

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Speaker 4: the Angelina Jolie, every perfect feature that you could want.

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Speaker 4: So but I still think even just these models, I

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Speaker 2: Every person has insecurities. But I think pretty people know

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Speaker 2: that they're pretty, agreed.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know about that.

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Speaker 2: I think people can have insecurities and and and say

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Speaker 2: like someone with uh, I'm trying to think of what

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Speaker 2: you would if you're Angelina Jolie, what you would not want?

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Speaker 2: But I'm sure Angelina Jolie looks at something on herself

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Speaker 3: Oh, we all do it, but it's so crazy.

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Speaker 2: Feel competent that Angelina Joel he knows that she's absolutely st.

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Speaker 1: Right, if you're making a living by having people take

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Speaker 1: pictures of your face, you have to know that you're.

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Speaker 2: Pretty just on the principle of them wanting to take

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Speaker 3: But you could be androgynous. Is that the word?

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Speaker 1: Yes? But still what's the word?

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Speaker 3: What does that mean?

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Speaker 2: That means you can like you look kind of gender neutral?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Is that what it is? Yeah, that's not really what

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Speaker 2: Oh, Like, if you're a supermodel, how they have like

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Speaker 2: pretty and then there's uniquely pretty, right, where like someone

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Speaker 3: Like Brad Pitt, Like, yes.

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Speaker 2: You think I think of anyone in the world, Brad

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Speaker 4: Like Brad Pitt looks in the mirror just like the

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Speaker 1: Like he can't even turn on TV without somebody referencing

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Speaker 1: he is synonymous with good looks. What are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Like?

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Speaker 1: Do you think of that?

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Speaker 3: Not sure?

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Speaker 2: Do you think Paulina thinks that she's pretty? Is that

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Speaker 1: He Hi back in Tianya, Mark and Easton. I first

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Speaker 1: wanted to say thank you for putting out two episodes

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Speaker 1: a week. I mean, the final stretch of my PhD

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Speaker 1: so much joy during this stressful time. It really means

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Speaker 1: a lot. The como episode inspired me to write in

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Speaker 1: I got engaged in twenty four, I'm getting married in

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Speaker 1: twenty six. Plenty of time to finish school. I know

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Speaker 1: I have time to choose my bride's maids. But since

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Speaker 1: spring for graduation, I want to have a plan so

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Speaker 1: I can start asking them. Here's my I don't know

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Speaker 1: be surprised if they weren't. But I also have a

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Speaker 1: childhood best friend who I really want to be my

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Speaker 1: maid of honor. I am hers in the fall. She'd

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Speaker 1: been by my side through every stage of life. We

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Speaker 1: best friend. It feels fitting. I initially plan to have

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Speaker 1: just those three girls and my fiance's sister as my bridesmaids,

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Speaker 1: four total, but now I'm thinking about I having two

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Speaker 1: more close friends, making it six. That way, I could

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Speaker 1: have all three maids of honor like Tanya did. I

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Speaker 1: don't care about titles. I just want to make sure

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Speaker 1: Do I go with my heart and ask my childhood

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Speaker 1: I'm very torn any creative ideas on how to make

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Speaker 2: I have an idea, what if you make everyone a

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Speaker 2: so like it's it's like gives them a something that

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Speaker 2: it's all uniquely individual. Or you make everybody a maid

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Speaker 2: ask the childhood best friend to be your maid of honor.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I think you should ask everybody to be your maid

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Speaker 1: Do you have you have two?

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Speaker 4: I have two, and then I'm my sister who's my

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Speaker 3: What I mean?

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Speaker 4: Having that division was just unnecessary at the end of

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Speaker 3: I should have just made you all maids of honor.

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Speaker 2: Or how do your sister be your matron of honor

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Speaker 2: and all of us be right?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's what I would do. I would

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Speaker 3: Or just like screw the rules you don't have one.

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Speaker 1: But what's the difference between everyone being a maid of

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Speaker 3: No, it's like nicer.

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Speaker 2: But do you know I have to say, as someone

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Speaker 2: multiple weddings, I don't care about my title. Like I'm

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Speaker 2: very like comfortable in both roles and I don't feel

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Speaker 1: Don't know how the others are going to feel about it.

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Speaker 1: We can't assume they don't care either, especially since something like.

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Speaker 2: They might I think you just say, hey, I I

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Speaker 2: I want you all to be my maids of honor.

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Speaker 3: Who's gonna be your maid of honor?

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Speaker 2: I haven't gotten there.

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Speaker 3: I know it's not gonna be me. It's fine, why not,

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Speaker 2: I don't I really don't know.

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Speaker 4: I'm not holding on to hope.

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Speaker 1: A similar dilemma.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I might just say I might just make

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Speaker 1: It's like like you were saying, Made of Homecoming, Queen

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Speaker 1: prom Queen Planeteers Art.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, earth wind Fire, just start naming. I might.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna do that with you, guys.

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Speaker 4: I tell you that in the beginning, I was gonna

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Speaker 4: do like made up and like give everybody like something

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Speaker 2: You gotta think of it.

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Speaker 3: No, it's just not so weird.

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Speaker 4: Like I was like, like the's certain things I love

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Speaker 4: about you. It was just like made of like there

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Speaker 4: was like, what am I doing? I'm just not going

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Speaker 5: Always response to my text quickly.

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Speaker 4: No, like somebody that's on top of it, like somebody

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Speaker 2: Like that.

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Speaker 4: Hire it so much, you know what I mean, like

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Speaker 3: Is just not going the way that I made of

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Speaker 2: No, you would have to like be really thoughtful and

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Speaker 4: Synonyms to like make it really beautiful.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I like that idea and it's cute, but

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Speaker 2: I also just think, either make everyone a made of

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Speaker 1: Mark, I like this one not from Emory. Gave us

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Speaker 1: It's a red flag I want to date.

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Speaker 4: This guy if his mom has that much of an

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Speaker 1: Yes, If he didn't say to her mom, I'll decide

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not fifteen.

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Speaker 1: I guarantee she still does his laundry, she still makes

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Speaker 3: It's a problem.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, ride it downtown.

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Speaker 2: Oh. I think your gut feeling is more so that

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he he needs distance from his mom. It sounds like,

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Speaker 2: Emery, I think you're you're better than this. Don't get

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Speaker 3: Yeah, your whole life, your whole life.

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Speaker 4: as an individual. And like, this guy clearly doesn't have

445
00:20:04,119 --> 00:20:06,679
Speaker 4: that chip, and like, if you're missing that chip, it's

446
00:20:06,720 --> 00:20:10,919
Speaker 4: gonna be a problem. Yeah, your whole marriage, right, relationship, whatever,

447
00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 4: it's always.

448
00:20:11,480 --> 00:20:14,640
Speaker 2: Going to be an issue. Yeah, so you've got this

449
00:20:14,960 --> 00:20:17,480
Speaker 2: move on, new coffee shop, new barista.

450
00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:19,400
Speaker 3: Bye bye, bye bye.

451
00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:23,399
Speaker 1: This is cute. Well it's not cute, it's sad. But

452
00:20:23,760 --> 00:20:27,480
Speaker 1: let me sneak it in here, okay, Anonymous, Uh, the

453
00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:29,600
Speaker 1: first part is the cute part. I love you all

454
00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:31,680
Speaker 1: so much. Becka is my favorite person who's ever been

455
00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 1: in the Bachelor franchise.

456
00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:35,359
Speaker 5: Whoa you take that?

457
00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:39,280
Speaker 1: Ben Higgins, Mark n Easton always coming through with the

458
00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:40,120
Speaker 1: fatherly advice.

459
00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:42,040
Speaker 5: All hey, childless man over here.

460
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Speaker 1: And Tanya, well, let me tell you, my mom recently

461
00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,359
Speaker 1: talked about Ryan in the Morning Show, and without thinking,

462
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,159
Speaker 1: I said oh, my friend is his co host.

463
00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:49,480
Speaker 2: No.

464
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Speaker 1: Thanks to you all for making us feel like friends.

465
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Speaker 1: I'm writing in because my partner of twelve years we

466
00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,000
Speaker 1: were never married and I should have known better. He

467
00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:00,159
Speaker 1: left me with no mourning. His reasons were he had

468
00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,080
Speaker 1: severe depression and our recent news, and our very recent

469
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:05,240
Speaker 1: news that I wouldn't be able to have kids due

470
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:08,320
Speaker 1: to my having different diseases. I was blindsided. I feel

471
00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:10,760
Speaker 1: so abandoned and betrayed. It has been four months he's

472
00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 1: already dating. I can't even fathom the thought of it.

473
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:15,639
Speaker 1: Two weeks prior to the break, could be told me

474
00:21:15,640 --> 00:21:17,840
Speaker 1: in both of our families that there's no world in

475
00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 1: which we don't spend the rest of our lives together.

476
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:23,160
Speaker 1: Two weeks. How can someone be so cold and shut

477
00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:24,800
Speaker 1: off to get rid of the closest person of them

478
00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:26,720
Speaker 1: on a whim. I don't know how to recover from

479
00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 1: this and to be able to trust someone again. If

480
00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,120
Speaker 1: I'm being honest with myself, I've always known deep down

481
00:21:31,119 --> 00:21:33,359
Speaker 1: that I deserve far more than he ever gave me.

482
00:21:34,040 --> 00:21:35,960
Speaker 1: It's just hard being the one who was left when

483
00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:38,520
Speaker 1: I committed my life to him. No matter what, I

484
00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:40,680
Speaker 1: don't even know what my question is I just appreciate

485
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 1: any uplifting words or thoughts you all have. Thanks for

486
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 1: sharing your lives with us.

487
00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:48,680
Speaker 2: Anonymous, this guy did you a favor because you said

488
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:52,120
Speaker 2: something you said. If I'm being honest with myself, I've

489
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:54,320
Speaker 2: always known deep down that I deserve far more than

490
00:21:54,359 --> 00:21:56,359
Speaker 2: he ever gave me. You would have stayed in a

491
00:21:56,440 --> 00:22:00,399
Speaker 2: relationship where you felt like you deserved more for ever,

492
00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,320
Speaker 2: and you would have never left, and he did do

493
00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:04,080
Speaker 2: a favor in them.

494
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:07,480
Speaker 1: I'm ripping out that sentence of what she wrote. It

495
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:10,199
Speaker 1: is such a perfect that is the answer to the

496
00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:10,640
Speaker 1: whole thing.

497
00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:13,879
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's like an Arts and crist.

498
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:15,920
Speaker 1: I've always known deep down that it is far more

499
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:20,040
Speaker 1: than he ever gave. Yes, you do, Yeah, that's your mantra.

500
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:22,840
Speaker 1: Now I deserve better than that guy.

501
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:25,879
Speaker 2: It always hurts when you're not, when you're not the

502
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,439
Speaker 2: one to make a decision to walk away from something

503
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 2: like that, because it ultimately, as a human being, it

504
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 2: it hits this place of rejection that we all fear.

505
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:39,040
Speaker 2: But it's also like you have been rejecting yourself by

506
00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:41,760
Speaker 2: being with someone who didn't want to be with you

507
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:45,280
Speaker 2: so or that you felt deserved and that you deserve

508
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 2: more from.

509
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Speaker 4: Twelve years is a long time, but it's better than

510
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:49,920
Speaker 4: twenty one totally.

511
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,920
Speaker 1: No, that's right. Twelve years is better than twelve years

512
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:54,440
Speaker 1: in one day.

513
00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:58,560
Speaker 2: Twelve years, yeah, right, it is. And I think you

514
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:00,560
Speaker 2: would have stayed in this because you were like, well,

515
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 2: it's been twelve years, I don't want to start over,

516
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,560
Speaker 2: and he gave you the greatest gift of all time,

517
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 2: even though he doesn't feel like that right now, like

518
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: you're going to look back. I cannot wait for you

519
00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:14,600
Speaker 2: to write in and say you guys, I finally had

520
00:23:14,640 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 2: the moment where I realize I haven't thought of this guy.

521
00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:19,239
Speaker 4: And also, don't compare yourself to him, the fact that

522
00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:22,240
Speaker 4: it's been four months and he's already dating, Like let him, like,

523
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:25,359
Speaker 4: let him date, let him do yeah, let him do

524
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,120
Speaker 4: his thing. If you're not ready to date, don't date.

525
00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 4: Do you do it feels right to you? Honor yourself

526
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,000
Speaker 4: because he like you're just different. So like, you can't

527
00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:36,400
Speaker 4: fixate on that, because I know you probably are fixating

528
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 4: on that, But let yourself have the time that you

529
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,000
Speaker 4: need to like move on and process. And if you

530
00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:42,719
Speaker 4: don't want to date for a year, then don't date

531
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Speaker 4: for a year, but do it on your own time.

532
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 1: When you feel he's trying to he's trying to hook up. Yeah,

533
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:49,960
Speaker 1: that's all he's doing, trying to get so's trying to

534
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:50,280
Speaker 1: get some.

535
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,200
Speaker 2: Let yourself heal and and it's it's fine to gree.

536
00:23:53,320 --> 00:23:55,359
Speaker 2: I mean, twelve years is such a long time, but

537
00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:58,240
Speaker 2: I also think let yourself grieve and also let yourself heal,

538
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:01,120
Speaker 2: and also let yourself realize that this is the best

539
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:02,520
Speaker 2: thing that he could have ever done for you.

540
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 1: The best part of your life is about to begin.

541
00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:08,359
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, this is terrible news you've gotten. That sucks,

542
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,760
Speaker 1: but everything is looking up from here. True.

543
00:24:10,840 --> 00:24:15,159
Speaker 3: Yes, Should we end with these little bullets?

544
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: The random questions are my favorite and they're coming up now.

545
00:24:37,320 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 2: All right, we are back with Mark's favorite part of

546
00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:42,360
Speaker 2: the show, our last emails.

547
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 1: Thank you to Emily for the random question. She says, Hey,

548
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:49,120
Speaker 1: Bonya and Meston, Day one scrubbery here and just want

549
00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 1: to say I love the podcast. It's always the most

550
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,439
Speaker 1: random discussions that have me laughing so hard. Usually it's

551
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 1: something Donya says. The discussions and how you wash your

552
00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:59,480
Speaker 1: feet slash, how you shower should be should be so

553
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 1: boring for the best parts of the show. So I've

554
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: got a couple of questions and I hope will spark

555
00:25:04,359 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 1: some more fun. How often do you wash your water bottles?

556
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,320
Speaker 2: I feel like I feel like I wash my water

557
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 2: bottle every day.

558
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 4: I think I've maybe washed mine twice ever, Ever, I

559
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:24,879
Speaker 4: watched the straw that I drink out of.

560
00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:27,560
Speaker 3: I change the straws twice.

561
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 1: Ever, Emily, that's a good idea.

562
00:25:34,400 --> 00:25:36,120
Speaker 2: Absolutely. How do you.

563
00:25:36,200 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 3: Justify that I'm constantly drinking out of it? There's constantly

564
00:25:39,600 --> 00:25:41,240
Speaker 3: water in it. When is there a time where there's

565
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 3: not water for me to drink out of it? I

566
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 3: don't have it in the sink to wash, but do

567
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:46,800
Speaker 3: it's either?

568
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:48,960
Speaker 2: It seems like if I carried around a dirty plate,

569
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:50,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I always had to play with me.

570
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 3: But I was like, that's kind of what it's like.

571
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 3: There's always water for me to drink. Oh my gosh,

572
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Speaker 3: So it doesn't go into the zinc for me to wash,

573
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 3: do you know what I mean?

574
00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,199
Speaker 2: But you couldn't take some time to you make your

575
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,640
Speaker 2: homemade water in there almond milk, will You couldn't take

576
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,920
Speaker 2: some time to rinse it out with some soap really quick.

577
00:26:10,960 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 3: And I've done it a handful of times in my life.

578
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 1: Why should it not a handful?

579
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Speaker 4: Maybe a couple more than twice, like maybe like when

580
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 4: I'm sick, although I don't know, I don't know. God,

581
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 4: I change out the straw and I washed my straw

582
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:25,920
Speaker 4: like once a week.

583
00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 5: Wait, when you wash the straw, can't you just throw

584
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 5: the bottle in there too?

585
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 3: So the water is still in the in the bottle.

586
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:38,479
Speaker 5: I see, that's the ima for there.

587
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:41,440
Speaker 1: Why the water and the good water.

588
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:44,159
Speaker 3: I'm not going to just waste it a drought mark. Yeah,

589
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 3: thank you.

590
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,639
Speaker 1: I'm not wasting my drink after a full day of

591
00:26:47,680 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 1: being in there.

592
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 3: It's never in there for a full day. I'm constantly

593
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:51,679
Speaker 3: filling it.

594
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 1: But there is a point where it's empty. Is there not.

595
00:26:55,800 --> 00:26:57,359
Speaker 5: Cup overflowish?

596
00:26:57,400 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 4: Like?

597
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: Is it just water on it?

598
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 6: Like water?

599
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:02,159
Speaker 2: Bottle? Is this it?

600
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:02,600
Speaker 1: Never?

601
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 2: There's no way, so my.

602
00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:21,440
Speaker 4: Straw only gets not to the bottom. So I never fully.

603
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

604
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: Emily had a great idea to send in some random questions.

605
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 3: Whatever are the gross one in the.

606
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:28,639
Speaker 2: Group most like you? It's it's just it goes against

607
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:29,919
Speaker 2: other parts of your life.

608
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:35,080
Speaker 1: Yes, right, showering three times a day. You're very obsessed

609
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 1: with germs in most situations.

610
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 4: I know, I'm surprised this one. Uh, it doesn't do

611
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 4: it for me. But doesn't do it for me.

612
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:44,439
Speaker 2: Listen, pick your bottles.

613
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you.

614
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:45,960
Speaker 2: This isn't one of the battles.

615
00:27:45,960 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 1: When you get down to that area you can't reach anymore,

616
00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:50,160
Speaker 1: that would be the time to dump it and wash it.

617
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:51,959
Speaker 1: That's not much of water you're wasting.

618
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 3: Maybe perhaps perhaps, all right, it's something to think about it.

619
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 2: Something I'll think about it.

620
00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, next question, what is your bedtime routine?

621
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,600
Speaker 2: Interesting? I washed my water bottle out and then refill

622
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,040
Speaker 2: it with ice and water, which I know you're not

623
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:09,680
Speaker 2: supposed to have like cold water, but I love cold water.

624
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:12,720
Speaker 2: And then sometimes if Haley doesn't, if Haley's needs to

625
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 2: be refilled, I'll do hers too. And then I take

626
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 2: Phoebe out and give her medicine and a treat, and

627
00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 2: then wipe her paws off. And then we get into

628
00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:27,440
Speaker 2: bed and I take my two Lemmy gummies, put my brush,

629
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 2: my teeth, scrape my tongue, Aqua four hand lotion WO

630
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:36,439
Speaker 2: and then Haley and I play a wordle of the

631
00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,480
Speaker 2: new York Times games and then watch friends till I

632
00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:43,080
Speaker 2: fall asleep. Wow, put the sleep timer on, typically fall

633
00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:44,640
Speaker 2: asleep before it goes off.

634
00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 3: Wow, it's a little bit about me.

635
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a little bit about me.

636
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 5: Thank Yeah.

637
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:58,600
Speaker 4: A routine actually, yeah, so I'm taking suggestions of how

638
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:00,360
Speaker 4: to switch it up a little because I'm not so

639
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:06,640
Speaker 4: in love with my bedtime routine. Really, most of it

640
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:08,719
Speaker 4: is brushing my teeth because I have that permanent retainer,

641
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,600
Speaker 4: so I have to like do the like hooky floss

642
00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:13,360
Speaker 4: and the thing, and then I screamed my tongue and

643
00:29:13,400 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 4: then I've lost all the rest of my teeth. So

644
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 4: brush my teeth is quite lengthy for me.

645
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 2: I know, I remember when we shared and it takes.

646
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 3: Takes some time. So that's really all it is.

647
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 4: And then it's my face stuff, like my face facial products.

648
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 4: This is after the shower, so obviously take a shower.

649
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 2: Right, This is I skipped my skin care and all that.

650
00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is shower, skin and care. Brush my teeth,

651
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:42,440
Speaker 4: take my lemmies, Brush my teeth again. Why takes honey

652
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 4: out to potty?

653
00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 2: Why are you doing that twice?

654
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 4: Because the floss one takes me so long that I

655
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 4: just do it out of the shower because I'm like

656
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 4: already in there and I'm like doing it all.

657
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,720
Speaker 2: Why don't you put your lemons so soon.

658
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:56,040
Speaker 4: To take my lemmies? Like I need to take my

659
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:57,920
Speaker 4: lemmies like half an hour before I go to sleep.

660
00:29:58,520 --> 00:29:59,959
Speaker 4: So then I take my lemmies and then I just

661
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 4: I just like rinse them, you know, like a quick

662
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 4: little I don't like floss and do the whole thing again.

663
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:09,280
Speaker 1: How much time between each of those brushes half an hour? Wow?

664
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Speaker 3: Forty five minutes?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems like he's wait, that's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 3: I'm asking for suggestions.

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Speaker 4: So then we'll put something on the TV. We'll watch

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Speaker 4: like an one episode of something, and then.

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Speaker 3: We'll go to sleep.

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Speaker 1: Robby and his T shirt and oh.

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Speaker 4: My gosh, hold on, I have to show you guys

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Speaker 4: this video. I don't know how well it's going to

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Speaker 4: translate on I think I sent it to you two

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Speaker 4: on Instagram. I sent it to him, but it was

675
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Speaker 4: like this guy talking about how people sleep at night,

676
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Speaker 4: and he was like, that goes to bed.

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Speaker 1: Donald dug style Man's work.

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Speaker 5: You should will put your T shirt on before.

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Speaker 1: You put your.

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Speaker 3: He just goes on and on about it's so funny.

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Speaker 4: I think most people would agree it's fine.

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Speaker 1: All right, next question, what's your morning? Oh? I don't

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Speaker 1: know that they care so much. I think this is

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Speaker 1: These are questions for you too. I'll share a few

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Speaker 1: share marks every night. A floss, I brush my teeth.

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Speaker 1: I do a four minute plank. Wow. Uh, I stretch

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Speaker 1: my spine. Physical therapist got me.

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Speaker 3: Good to hear, because I should incorporate stretching into my nighttime.

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Speaker 1: You got me one of those foam rollers that has

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Speaker 1: like a slot kind of in the middle where your

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Speaker 1: spine goes, and it's really nice for stretches. It's his

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Speaker 1: own design, I guess, will uh, And so I do that,

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Speaker 1: stretch my neck, do that stuff, then my plank, and

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Speaker 1: then you know, pretty much bring the dogs up if

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Speaker 1: I'm home alone, Like I was.

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Speaker 4: Just the cleaning of Phoebe's pause too, that was an

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Speaker 4: interesting element that I will incorporate into my nighttime routine.

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Speaker 2: I'll sleep with you.

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Speaker 3: She's in our bed until bedtime.

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Speaker 1: If only your water bottle. I got the same care

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Speaker 1: as Phoebe's pause, not Phoebe Sunny's posts.

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Speaker 3: I never wipe her pause.

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Speaker 1: You should you never wipe her pause ever?

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Speaker 3: No, unless she like steps in something gross that I

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Speaker 3: know of.

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Speaker 2: I know, like she's definitely stepping in something gross.

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Speaker 4: Like know what I've seen she stepped in like gumb

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Speaker 4: before and so I've had to like clean that out

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Speaker 4: and like you know, stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: When you walk her outside, you then let her on

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Speaker 1: the bed without ever wiping her pause. This is not

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Speaker 1: in character for you.

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Speaker 3: This is me, baby, the true It's it's nice.

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00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 2: It's almost like a relief something nice about it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you're still not a shoes off house.

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Speaker 3: I think about it.

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Speaker 4: It grosses the hell. Yeah, So like now I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: probably reathink things. The shoes thing grosses me out. Like

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Speaker 4: I wish we could be a shoe free house.

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Speaker 3: It's just not possible. We just can't do it. We

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Speaker 3: haven't figured out the how to do it.

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Speaker 1: You could, I bet you could.

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Speaker 3: We can't. We try.

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Speaker 1: We are a shue free house. And can I tell

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Speaker 1: you we wipe the dog's feet every time they come

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Speaker 1: back from a walk. Doesn't take long. It takes thirty seconds.

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Speaker 1: We did that too.

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Speaker 3: I know you do too.

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Speaker 7: I mean, well, when we had a dog, we would

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Speaker 7: wipe his feet every every time he stepped outside, even

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Speaker 7: if he thought about being outside, I was so wipe

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Speaker 7: his feet.

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Speaker 2: So I'm not every time.

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Speaker 1: But I know.

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Speaker 4: She's been doing the ten She's been walking through some

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Speaker 4: some stuff lately.

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Speaker 7: Wow, every time the little baby wipes by the door,

738
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Speaker 7: it takes two seconds.

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Speaker 1: Well, I think, were you want to do your bedtime routine?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: Sure, I take a shower, I d moisture as my face,

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Speaker 7: I get into bed, and I put my seapat machine

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Speaker 7: on right, yes, and then I have to Then I

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00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 7: hear just women screaming outside, just so enamored with lust.

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Speaker 7: After I have to deal with that, and then I

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Speaker 7: fall off to dreamland. The sound so that's what I do.

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Speaker 2: Is that Allison's white noise?

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Speaker 7: I know that's my seapet machine. Yeah, may the meat

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Speaker 7: stop breathing in the middle of the night.

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Speaker 1: Then she asked you your morning routine and how often

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Speaker 1: do you brush your teeth? And they brush your teeth

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Speaker 1: tan you apparently does every half an.

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Speaker 2: Hour, which that's good.

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Speaker 4: The morning routine is is so meticulous.

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Speaker 2: For me that you don't have You're not you're not

756
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Speaker 2: able to have any other routine because the morning routine

757
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Speaker 2: is so locked in.

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Speaker 4: It is so locked in, like it's actually crazy. I

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Speaker 4: set my alarm to the exact minute that I know

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Speaker 4: that I need to the minute it goes off. I

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Speaker 4: go into the bathroom. I already pre selected my clothes

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Speaker 4: and everything that are waiting for me in the bathroom,

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Speaker 4: I go pee, I take a shower, I put my

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Speaker 4: clothes on, I do my makeup. I leave the bathroom,

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Speaker 4: go downstairs, make my eggs, make my coffee, write my

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Speaker 4: note to Robbie and leave.

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Speaker 2: Has Robbie kept up with his letters a day even

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Speaker 2: when he was on his.

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Speaker 3: Bachelor party, he kept him in my bedside table.

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Speaker 4: And I was like one a day, Oh wow, impressed

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Speaker 4: and like kids are really like actually thoughtful. Like there

772
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Speaker 4: was one other day where he was like, you know,

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Speaker 4: we talk about this invisible string, but he was like,

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Speaker 4: do you think that there was ever a point where

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Speaker 4: when we crossed paths in the Maybourne that like we

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Speaker 4: saw each other, like we caught each other's eyes, and

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Speaker 4: then like when we actually met for our first date,

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Speaker 4: that we'd like already possibly like seeing each other. And

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Speaker 4: I was like, that's a whole thing that I didn't

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Speaker 4: think about that Now I'm like maybe you're possible.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was cute.

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Speaker 2: Crazy. I don't really have a morning routine. Every day's different,

783
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Speaker 2: that's crazy crazy. I love it.

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Speaker 1: I'm the same as time, Like, it's almost exactly the

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Speaker 1: same except for the note. But it's forty five minutes

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Speaker 1: from the time that alarm goes off to the time

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Speaker 1: I'll walk out the door, and it is meticulous to

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Speaker 1: the minute.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I believe it.

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Speaker 3: Mine's like fifty minutes.

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Speaker 1: Nice.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, mine does change every I don't have a routine either,

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Speaker 7: Like some days I wake up and I go in

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Speaker 7: my pajamas down the hall to just start working. And

795
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Speaker 7: sometimes I get up and shower and then come to work.

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00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 7: Sometimes I make breakfast. Times I don't. It's yeah, you know, I.

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Speaker 3: Thought about yesterday.

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00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:15,359
Speaker 4: I was like, because I'm doing this trying to get

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Speaker 4: ten k steps in a day, and some days when

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Speaker 4: I'm working later, I can't do it because sun goes

801
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 4: down and Mondays are usually one of those days. So

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00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,439
Speaker 4: I was like, hey, should I wake up like half

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00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 4: hour before my alarm to like get out just going

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Speaker 4: a walk on the street. And I was like, no,

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Speaker 4: I can't.

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Speaker 3: I'm not messing with that.

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Speaker 2: Thank yeah, and thank you all, dear Bonia. If you

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Speaker 2: ever have questions, comments, or concerns, please d m us

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Speaker 2: scrubbing into iHeartMedia dot com and we love hearing from

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Speaker 2: you guys. These episodes are so fun. We love it

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