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Speaker 1: My grandfather married his mistress where my grandmother was bury.

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Speaker 2: A two for one deal.

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Speaker 1: The combo piece Pops is ruthless. I thirty one female

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Speaker 1: was always very close with my grandma. She taught me

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Speaker 1: So, my grandfather always had a parade of mistresses when

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Speaker 1: my dad and his brother were growing up, and because

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Speaker 1: my grandmother was traditional and didn't believe in divorce, she

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Speaker 1: got stuck with these women being practically waved in her face.

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Speaker 2: So she was in an open marriage before it was cool.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, she was in an open marriage, but only for Pops.

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Speaker 1: Sadly until the very end. She loved my granddad dearly

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Speaker 1: myself growing up. From since I can remember the latest

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Speaker 2: Grandpa knows what he wants.

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Speaker 1: My grandma sadly developed Alzheimer's, which meant that my granddad

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Speaker 1: bring X along with him, which I found insulting, but boy,

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Speaker 1: had I seen nothing yet. Sadly, my grandmother passed, but

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Speaker 1: ash scattering announced he was getting married to X, his mistress.

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Speaker 1: I was mortified as to how distasteful it was, but

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to go for obvious reasons, but my

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Speaker 1: It was the biggest crap show I've had the misfortune

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Speaker 1: I usually think they're cute, but I didn't want to

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Speaker 1: I just tried not to pay attention and counted down

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Speaker 1: And according to my friend, I had a fixed serial

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Speaker 3: In my hand.

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Speaker 2: So she's just saying like, yeah, it's great, everything's great.

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Speaker 2: We all had the meal, and then the speeches. Oh god,

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Speaker 2: the speeches. I had never wanted to crawl under a

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Speaker 1: The audience, my gosh, and ended with a joke about

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Speaker 2: Dude to take him to the sun with you man, not.

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Speaker 3: Even the sun, black hole, black hole.

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Speaker 1: X's speech was sentimental bollocks about finding love, which is

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Speaker 2: So this guy has a lot of money.

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Speaker 3: This guy's got money.

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Speaker 1: He's probably got looks, he's probably got swag, but you

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Speaker 3: Right through it. Yeah, because he is a piece of garbage.

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Speaker 1: The final straw was during Granddad's speech where he accidentally

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Speaker 1: what heartless?

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Speaker 3: What in the world.

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Speaker 1: My uncle managed to escape this circus living abroad, but

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Speaker 2: Is sent from the devil himself? Like I know they

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Speaker 2: said in the story that Grandma didn't believe in divorce

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Speaker 1: Did he like want a divorce and she was like,

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Speaker 1: I won't do it. So he's like, all right, I

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Speaker 3: Until you are no longer one with this mortal plane.

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Speaker 2: That's what it sounds like.

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Speaker 3: What a mess of a situation that hurts my brain.

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Speaker 1: Sadly, all this crap runs in the family, as my

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Speaker 3: Well, apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: Luckily I was mostly kept from all that as my

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Speaker 1: insane family story, and we plan on getting married. The

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Speaker 1: and we do have an update.

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Speaker 2: We have a update.

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Speaker 1: I hope the update is that you did get married

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Speaker 1: there and they gave it you the whole thing for free.

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Speaker 2: X got most of it.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's actually such a good point. Who's getting

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Speaker 2: And the dad's gonna be mad because he was like,

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Speaker 2: I'm your son, why didn't you give me this?

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Speaker 3: Well, let's get into it.

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Speaker 1: To add to this whole dumpster fire, when my granddad passed,

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Speaker 1: he asked for half of his ashes to be scattered

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Speaker 1: he used to take his mistress for dirty weekend trips. Dude,

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Speaker 1: I'd scatter his ashes in the still water. I'd scatter

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Speaker 2: Where the mosquitoes are breeding with.

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Speaker 3: A scum is, because he'd be right at home there.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, and.

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Speaker 1: the comments. For those asking X is still in the

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Speaker 1: Update number three thought I would mention there is a

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Speaker 1: happy ending to this story, thank god. Where When my

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Speaker 1: we've been together for just over a year and a half.

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Speaker 2: Congrats.

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Speaker 1: We plan on start making marriage preparations once our finances

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Speaker 1: are better.

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Speaker 2: Yes? You know, whatever my grandfather died, he had like

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Speaker 1: Thing sometimes, you know, it's always nice when there's a

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Speaker 1: something I sadly never saw growing up, witnessing my granddad

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Speaker 1: crappy things happened for I guess op, I'm so glad

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Speaker 1: that you escaped the cycle of the mistresses. But do

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Speaker 2: I'm glad you found someone, and hopefully the grandpa gets

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Speaker 3: In a way.

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Speaker 1: You know, his karma was losing out on whatever sort

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Speaker 1: End of that story. You can say that again, op

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Speaker 3: With my friends.

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Speaker 2: Hey, honeymoon for you too.

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Speaker 2: Not again.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from user unfair Tadpole four

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Speaker 3: And he said, I'm so sorry to hear about that.

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Speaker 2: Now what that's kind of My mom stopped picking out

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Speaker 2: Yeah, unless she likes the farm. Who does Kathy op

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Speaker 3: Why is she doing this?

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Speaker 2: Because she put a shot collar on him because he

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Speaker 2: Dude, I'm sorry. You know this man likes being told

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Speaker 2: Like whenever too vjj's meat which VIJJ forms into a

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Speaker 3: They just need tools. They need their tools. They need

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Speaker 1: Well, sometimes people need like a guiding force in their

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Speaker 1: because of exams, we decided to move it a bit

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00:20:55,320 --> 00:20:58,480
Speaker 1: more than a week when we didn't have classes or exams.

446
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Speaker 3: Bry a solid idea.

447
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:02,840
Speaker 1: I mentioned this to my dad when telling him about

448
00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:06,040
Speaker 1: my day and my summer plans. My dad suggested that

449
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,560
Speaker 1: because of our prior arrangement, I could attend the wedding

450
00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:12,080
Speaker 1: ceremony and be in the family pictures and then leave.

451
00:21:12,320 --> 00:21:14,480
Speaker 3: I told him that it was fine. I wanted to

452
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:15,320
Speaker 3: spend the day with him.

453
00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:18,560
Speaker 1: It came out that Kathy was worried about me drinking

454
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Speaker 1: at the wedding.

455
00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:20,840
Speaker 3: At Kathy's just a worry work.

456
00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:23,160
Speaker 2: Kathy's the extremely conservative person.

457
00:21:23,320 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 1: Oh Kathy, Kathy, Kathy, I do drink on occasion, but

458
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:31,119
Speaker 1: rarely more than his normal for a university student. Kathy

459
00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:33,800
Speaker 1: also thought that my suit a dark gray with a

460
00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:37,440
Speaker 1: floral emerald shirt would ruin the photographs. I don't care

461
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,639
Speaker 1: that my dad didn't argue with her. At this point,

462
00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:43,240
Speaker 1: I would do anything to avoid tension in fights, so

463
00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:47,040
Speaker 1: I reluctantly agreed. The day of the wedding came and

464
00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:50,880
Speaker 1: everything went as planned. I smiled and cried through the ceremony.

465
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,639
Speaker 1: I smiled for the photos I was asked to be in.

466
00:21:54,040 --> 00:21:56,800
Speaker 1: I then said goodbye and left. I picked up my

467
00:21:56,840 --> 00:21:58,760
Speaker 1: friends and their boyfriends, and the five of us went

468
00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,359
Speaker 1: away for the rest of the law On weekend, we

469
00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:05,080
Speaker 1: had an incredible weekend at the beach, swimming, tanning, hiking,

470
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 1: doing wine tastings, all that good stuff. I noticed calls

471
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 1: and texts from people, but didn't check it because I

472
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:14,919
Speaker 1: honestly didn't have the time. I was also enjoying myself

473
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:18,640
Speaker 1: too much. When I came back that Tuesday, I finally

474
00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:22,320
Speaker 1: checked my phone. There had been drama at the wedding.

475
00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:25,680
Speaker 3: Of course, my dad's friends had been confused.

476
00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:29,240
Speaker 1: Then I left, my dad explained the situation, and his

477
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 1: friends got angry. They're all like aunts and uncles to me,

478
00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:35,720
Speaker 1: and from what I've heard, my dad's best friend called

479
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 1: Kathy out in front of everyone. Her speech at dinner

480
00:22:39,760 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 1: had gone something along the lines of quote, look at

481
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,840
Speaker 1: my perfect little family here. My dad's friend then apparently

482
00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,480
Speaker 1: said something along the lines of you are so lucky

483
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 1: to have these three kids in your family of seven,

484
00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:56,199
Speaker 1: not six in his speech. Now everyone is attacking Kathy

485
00:22:56,280 --> 00:22:59,199
Speaker 1: for excluding me. People went into her social media and

486
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:01,320
Speaker 1: started to point out, yeah, that I was nowhere to

487
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:05,000
Speaker 1: be found while my siblings were. Kathy wants me to

488
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:07,959
Speaker 1: make a post explaining that it was my decision and

489
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,200
Speaker 1: that I hate photos, which is why I'm not in them.

490
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 1: I don't even have social media. My dad and I

491
00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 1: have agreed that I should keep my distance for the

492
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:19,879
Speaker 1: time being until everything is settled down. But it's been

493
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:22,400
Speaker 1: a few weeks and I miss my dad, but Kathy's

494
00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 1: refusing to.

495
00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 3: Let me see him.

496
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:26,720
Speaker 1: Hey, did you know that your dad can actually make

497
00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:29,080
Speaker 1: choices for himself because he's a grown man.

498
00:23:29,480 --> 00:23:31,240
Speaker 2: Yeah? Did you know that your dad could have chose

499
00:23:31,320 --> 00:23:33,440
Speaker 2: not to marry Kathy but he still did for some

500
00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:34,359
Speaker 2: wacko reasons.

501
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:35,960
Speaker 3: Well, and it wasn't wacko right.

502
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 1: Op said that she noticed a lot of positive changes

503
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 1: in her dad, like when they got together, but at

504
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 1: the same time.

505
00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:44,919
Speaker 2: Kathy is stopping him from seeing his kids.

506
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 1: He's trying to prevent him from having a relationship with her,

507
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 1: which is unacceptable, and you need to start pressing him

508
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:52,720
Speaker 1: to tell him, Hey, you need to put your foot

509
00:23:52,760 --> 00:23:55,200
Speaker 1: down with Kathy that it's not her place to tell

510
00:23:55,240 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 1: you how to have a relationship with your own daughter. Yeah,

511
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 1: my brother and sister say that I should just apologize,

512
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 1: while my friends are telling me that it doesn't matter.

513
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 1: Am I the one in the wrong here when one

514
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:08,199
Speaker 1: my dad suggested it and two Kathy didn't want me

515
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:10,520
Speaker 1: at the wedding in the first place. And we do

516
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,679
Speaker 1: have an update, I would say you're not the a

517
00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 1: hole clearly because you had worked this out ahead of

518
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: time with your dad. If anything, your dad should be

519
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 1: the one stepping out in front of this. And see,

520
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:24,000
Speaker 1: this was my idea. It was just to make everyone.

521
00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 1: You know, it was a compromise to make it work

522
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,360
Speaker 1: for everyone. Yeah, it needs to start taking an active

523
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 1: role in you know, in your life, in making these

524
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: things clear.

525
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Speaker 3: Let's go into the update.

526
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Speaker 1: It has been a few months since my last post

527
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,320
Speaker 1: and there have been a few developments. First off, I

528
00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:42,640
Speaker 1: want to answer some questions and explain a few things

529
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: from the comments on my first post. A lot of

530
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 1: people are saying that Kathy can't be good for my dad,

531
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,879
Speaker 1: which I agree with. But my dad was a workaholic

532
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: before they started dating. Except for the occasional visit to friends,

533
00:24:54,600 --> 00:24:57,080
Speaker 1: he was basically a hermit. Kathy gets him out of

534
00:24:57,080 --> 00:25:00,159
Speaker 1: the house and active. He's part of the community and

535
00:25:00,280 --> 00:25:03,400
Speaker 1: involved at the school. He also never looked after himself,

536
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:06,200
Speaker 1: but now he does. That is why I say she's

537
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 1: good for him. She takes care of him and makes

538
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:11,399
Speaker 1: him take care of himself as to abiding by her

539
00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: wishes and making a post. I have no social media

540
00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 1: weird for somebody my age, but I just don't have

541
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,679
Speaker 1: any social media besides Reddit, which I barely use, and Tumblr.

542
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:24,439
Speaker 1: I don't see the use in making an account, be

543
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,520
Speaker 1: it Instagram or Facebook, just to make a post for her.

544
00:25:27,800 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 1: Don't worry, though, my mom has been very honest with

545
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 1: anyone who reached out to ask her what happened. From

546
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,440
Speaker 1: what I've heard, my dad has been getting quite a

547
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,600
Speaker 1: bit of flak for his actions or.

548
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:42,240
Speaker 3: What I would call in action boom get roasted.

549
00:25:42,440 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 1: I have decided to go no contact with my dad

550
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 1: and Kathy and her kids. I notified my dad and

551
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:52,160
Speaker 1: he wasn't very happy about it. I explained that everyone

552
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:54,480
Speaker 1: can calm down for a few months and then we

553
00:25:54,520 --> 00:25:55,880
Speaker 1: can reevaluate everything.

554
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,320
Speaker 2: Okay, so that's good. It's not permanent, permanent, it's just

555
00:25:58,359 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 2: for now, no cost, it's.

556
00:25:59,560 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 1: Temporary, and maybe that'll make your dad understand the value

557
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 1: of a relationship with his daughter, and he'll wake up

558
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 1: and say, I can't let my wife bully me about

559
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: seeing my children. I had full intentions on contacting him

560
00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 1: again after a year, but I no longer do.

561
00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:16,600
Speaker 3: Oh what did Dad do?

562
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 2: Oh? God?

563
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,919
Speaker 1: He texts me every now and again, just saying that

564
00:26:19,960 --> 00:26:23,160
Speaker 1: he loves me and good luck with my exams. Kathy's

565
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 1: kids have reached out through my siblings for help with

566
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:27,920
Speaker 1: essays and projects. I helped as much as I could

567
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 1: without actually speaking to them. They didn't do anything wrong

568
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 1: except keep their mouths shut, so I'm trying to be

569
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,200
Speaker 1: as lenient as possible to them. My brother and sister

570
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:39,119
Speaker 1: are supporting me. They still see my dad and Kathy

571
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,800
Speaker 1: and plan on spending Christmas with that side of the family.

572
00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,680
Speaker 1: I'm all for it because I will be spending Christmas

573
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:48,159
Speaker 1: with Violet and her family. My brother and sister update

574
00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 1: me every now and again when somebody gives my dad

575
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,920
Speaker 1: flack or if something big happens like my stepbrother break

576
00:26:53,960 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 1: in his arm. My mom and stepdad have been really

577
00:26:57,000 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: supportive of my decision as well. They don't bring up

578
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: what happen happened unless I do, and they don't engage

579
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 1: with anyone asking questions online. Whenever someone asks something in person,

580
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 1: they're more than happy to tell them the entire story. Though,

581
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 1: on a happy note, I actually got married. Oh wow, congratulations.

582
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:17,159
Speaker 1: This isn't really the point of this post, but I

583
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 1: think context is necessary and I like saying it.

584
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:20,399
Speaker 4: So.

585
00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,679
Speaker 1: Shortly after the last post, I met a guy and

586
00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:26,080
Speaker 1: we started dating. One thing led to another, which led

587
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: to jealousy, and Violet and I admitted that we loved

588
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,440
Speaker 1: each other for years but didn't want to ruin our friendship.

589
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:36,919
Speaker 1: We broke up with our boyfriends and have been together since.

590
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:39,680
Speaker 1: We've been friends for over a decade, and once we

591
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:42,200
Speaker 1: were dating, we realized that we've been doing couple things

592
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 1: for so many years that we were technically dating without

593
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: realizing it. We were out with friends one night and

594
00:27:48,160 --> 00:27:50,919
Speaker 1: just thought why not. We got a priest and with

595
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:54,359
Speaker 1: our closest five friends as witnesses. We got married in

596
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,240
Speaker 1: our local church and went out to have drinks after

597
00:27:57,320 --> 00:28:00,000
Speaker 1: for our celebration. We didn't tell anyone until a week later.

598
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 1: Kathy moved in with me and my siblings until me,

599
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: Kathy and Nina and Chris got an apartment, which we love.

600
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,399
Speaker 1: It's been a roller coaster from there. Our parents are

601
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:12,800
Speaker 1: happy for us, even if they demand we have a

602
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:14,400
Speaker 1: proper wedding that they can attend.

603
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 3: Isn't Kathy the mother in law?

604
00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,120
Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, yeah, the crazy conservative mother in law.

605
00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 3: Moved in with them.

606
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,359
Speaker 1: Kathy moved in with me and my siblings until me,

607
00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:24,360
Speaker 1: Kathy and Nina and Chris got an apartment.

608
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:25,399
Speaker 3: Kathy cannot be.

609
00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:26,720
Speaker 2: I think he's a different person.

610
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,800
Speaker 3: It's got to be a different yeah, yeah, yeah.

611
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:32,879
Speaker 2: Different death keviy. I think Kathy's one of OPI's friends.

612
00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:33,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

613
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,919
Speaker 1: It's been a roller coaster from there. Our parents are

614
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: happy for us, even if they demand we have a

615
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 1: proper wedding that they can attend. My sister told my

616
00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 1: dad and he called. I was out of the room

617
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 1: when he did, and Violet answered. By the time I

618
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: walked into the room, she was yelling at him, telling

619
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: my dad, you treated her like a coat that you

620
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: could use and put away whenever you want. I'm treating

621
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: her how she deserves to be treated, trying to make

622
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: up for your parenting. I've cleaned up the language quite

623
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:01,719
Speaker 1: a bit, but it made me cry, and I couldn't

624
00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: love anyone more than I loved her. In that moment,

625
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: I really fell even more in love with her.

626
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 3: And she's got your.

627
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 2: Back, dang you and Violet. Yeah, and she's wearing that

628
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:12,720
Speaker 2: coat every single day.

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Speaker 1: She's like, I don't even take it off when it's

630
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:17,360
Speaker 1: hot outside. Violet has helped me stay no contact with

631
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: my dad throughout this ordeal. She's also been helping me

632
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 1: work through my initial guilt overgoing no contact with him.

633
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 1: She's been making sure that I'm attending therapy and working

634
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 1: through my emotions. I've done a lot of work, and

635
00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,120
Speaker 1: I've come to a lot of realizations that I can't

636
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 1: make everything perfect by pretending that it is. One of

637
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:39,880
Speaker 1: the major things has been the wedding. Every girl wants

638
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 1: their dad to walk them down the aisle, and Violet

639
00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 1: simply said that our moms would walk us down the aisle.

640
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: Since she doesn't have a dad. She's been helping me

641
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: come to terms with my treatment over the years, and

642
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:53,239
Speaker 1: it's honestly been a fantastic feeling. I feel lighter and

643
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 1: happier and like I can see everything more clearly. My

644
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 1: siblings have told me that Kathy is cursing us high

645
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:01,520
Speaker 1: and low to anyone and still listening to her. My

646
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: dad's friends are extremely conservative, but they've all commented their

647
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 1: congratulations on my mom's post. Kathy also apparently told my

648
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 1: dad that I was never allowed in their house again

649
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: and would only be forgiven if I got a divorce.

650
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:15,840
Speaker 1: I'm not planning on it, but you know what I

651
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: want y'all to plan on. Well's joining us when we

652
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: go live every weekday at three pm PST on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok,

653
00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 1: and Twitch. All you gotta do is tap our profile

654
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 1: and you're in. Other than that, my university graduation is

655
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:33,479
Speaker 1: coming up. My university runs from February to November violent

656
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 1: and I can't wait to start our postgrads and maybe

657
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 1: in a few years have an actual wedding. Kathy can

658
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 1: screw it, and my dad can go along with her

659
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:44,840
Speaker 1: until he realizes that he should be protecting his daughter instead.

660
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 1: Of leaving her in harm's way. I'll be keeping this

661
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,400
Speaker 1: account for a while because Violet wants to see what

662
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 1: people say, but after that I'll probably delete it. Thank

663
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 1: you everyone for all the support you've given me. Who

664
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Speaker 1: knew the internet could actually be helpful?

665
00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 2: Now we do.

666
00:30:58,320 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 3: We're on the Internet and we're helpful our personas on

667
00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 3: the internet.

668
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 2: I just realized that.

669
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story.

670
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 2: My cousin calls drama at my wedding, so I broke

671
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 2: all ties with my dad's side of the family.

672
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 5: One bad apple can spoil the whole bunch.

673
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 2: Hello there. It all started a few years back, when

674
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 2: I didn't even know when and who I was gonna marry.

675
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:22,800
Speaker 2: This cousin of mine from my father's side, let's call

676
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:27,360
Speaker 2: her Lisa, got married to a guy I really didn't like.

677
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:30,120
Speaker 2: Don't hate me for it. Later you'll realize no one

678
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 2: in the family likes him. Let's call him for Robert.

679
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:35,720
Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Enough Carbo twenty seven

680
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 2: to sixty nine of the rsish Okay Storytime Subred. So still,

681
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 2: my cousin married him, and a few years later they

682
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 2: came to live near us. Now, my father a really

683
00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 2: nice person helped them settle down completely because of course

684
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 2: they were new to the place. Now, this guy thinks

685
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:56,000
Speaker 2: he owns us all because we live a slow life

686
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:58,480
Speaker 2: and he came from the big hurry city area.

687
00:31:58,600 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 5: He's all about that there selling bustle.

688
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:04,479
Speaker 2: According to him, we don't know how to live because

689
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:07,320
Speaker 2: we don't show off and have big fancy things in

690
00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 2: our houses. For all these years, he has made fun

691
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 2: of all the cousins who live nearby by, passing comments

692
00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 2: and whatnot. We all stayed quiet because of course he

693
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 2: is the son in law of the family. Now, for

694
00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 2: all three to four years he has been feeding little

695
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 2: lies and micro pointing out every single mistake, all details

696
00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 2: to my cousin. Ultimately, my cousin also started resenting us

697
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 2: all but didn't show up, but you can feel it

698
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:38,960
Speaker 2: from their speaking meeting and whatnot. In between all this,

699
00:32:39,160 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 2: Lisa had a fight with my other cousin. That's a

700
00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 2: whole nother story to tell, but let's just focus here now.

701
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:49,400
Speaker 2: This fight came to a point where these two cousins,

702
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:53,560
Speaker 2: who I love wholeheartedly, stopped talking to each other. Now

703
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 2: comes my wedding preparations and the real drama, the real drama.

704
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 2: Lisa and Robert started showing their real colors my engagement day.

705
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:08,520
Speaker 2: She stayed annoyed the whole time and just smiled at

706
00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 2: the pictures. My fiance and I were having dinner and

707
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 2: she and her husband sent a few feet from us

708
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 2: and totally ignored us, not even looking at us. Yeah,

709
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,240
Speaker 2: they're probably like someone else is getting attention. We can't

710
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 2: get them.

711
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 3: We would like all the attention, please, Just to be clear.

712
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 2: We were the only people in the room. Only I

713
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,240
Speaker 2: know how awkward it was to sit there when my

714
00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 2: fiance had no idea why she's behaving like this. After

715
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 2: a few days, I texted her asking what was wrong

716
00:33:36,400 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 2: because I love her and wanted her to be a

717
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:41,719
Speaker 2: part of my wedding like I was at hers working

718
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 2: as a bridesmaid full time, from shopping to taking ten

719
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 2: days off non paid leave, which I couldn't afford. So

720
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:53,040
Speaker 2: she texted back saying she didn't think I would do

721
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 2: this to her. I was taken by surprise. She told

722
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 2: me that she had come by my house fifteen days

723
00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 2: ago and I was at home to receive her. How

724
00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 2: could you not be there fifteen days ago to receive her?

725
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:07,200
Speaker 2: A backstory that day, I had my salon appointment for

726
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,799
Speaker 2: my engagement, which I was late, so I stayed at

727
00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 2: my other cousin's home, whom she had a fight with.

728
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 2: According to Lisa, I was partying with my other cousin

729
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:20,319
Speaker 2: and did not give her enough attention. I knew it

730
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 2: was about attention. I freaking called that, Yeah, these are a

731
00:34:23,040 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 2: little attention babies. I was at the salon appointment. I

732
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,879
Speaker 2: kept saying, I'm sorry, but I can't choose between two

733
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 2: people I love and I want both people at my wedding.

734
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:37,080
Speaker 2: But she came to my parents' house crying and all

735
00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,719
Speaker 2: complaining to my parents about look at her, look what

736
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 2: she's doing to her. I listened to all the crap

737
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 2: and let her speak her mind so she would calm down.

738
00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 2: But I was wrong. After that, she made herself distanced

739
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,799
Speaker 2: from me and my family, telling each detail to their

740
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 2: mother and in her city. Now her mother went after

741
00:34:56,360 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 2: my father. They are so helpful and considerate, but in reality,

742
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,400
Speaker 2: all she did was lie to her mother that she's

743
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:07,280
Speaker 2: visiting us every other day, which she is not. Lisa

744
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 2: and her mother called me for shopping and to do

745
00:35:09,560 --> 00:35:14,640
Speaker 2: some damage control. I went happily, but oh boy, I

746
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 2: came back crying after three days, three days of shopping,

747
00:35:19,760 --> 00:35:22,359
Speaker 2: A three days of war, man three, after three days

748
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 2: of shopping, I'd be crying too. I was walking the

749
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:26,960
Speaker 2: Mummy and I saw a part where they were like

750
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 2: they were at war for seven years, And I'm like,

751
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 2: how can you be constantly at war for seven straight years?

752
00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:33,919
Speaker 2: How do you eat? How do you blah blah blah

753
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 2: blah blah blah. Like I was like overthinking, like twenty

754
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,279
Speaker 2: four to seven, seven years to the dragon Emperor, Yeah,

755
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:41,640
Speaker 2: something like that. Yeah, a scorpion one.

756
00:35:41,560 --> 00:35:44,799
Speaker 3: A scorpion one, the scorpion king to the Mummy too.

757
00:35:45,320 --> 00:35:48,319
Speaker 2: One. They taunted me the whole time, didn't let me

758
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 2: shop what I wanted for my wedding. They left me

759
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 2: in the car alone when I had a fever and

760
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 2: was hungry to check on some garage sales.

761
00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: Oh, you were sick and tired, and they ditched you

762
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 1: for garage sale and you're shopping for your own wedding.

763
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 3: These people suck. Now.

764
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 2: Mother of Lisa came a few days before the wedding,

765
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 2: and the whole time she kept on complaining about her pain.

766
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:13,440
Speaker 2: And now her daughter was all alone with no relatives

767
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:16,359
Speaker 2: in the city when all we did was call her.

768
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 2: She didn't take their call and told her we're not

769
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:21,360
Speaker 2: going to give her enough attention. I am the bride.

770
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,839
Speaker 2: I should be crying for attention. Lisa was talking through

771
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:27,760
Speaker 2: text this whole time to me very nicely. She's lying.

772
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:29,799
Speaker 2: She's like, oh, everything's finding out.

773
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:30,520
Speaker 5: Mother.

774
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 3: They won't say.

775
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 2: She's in the room with us, right, Oh, oh it

776
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:40,800
Speaker 2: was you. Oh wow, that's a great impression. Wedding function

777
00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:44,359
Speaker 2: starts and guess who is not there? Lisa and her

778
00:36:44,440 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 2: husband's thinking, Robert. They made such a big deal out

779
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:49,920
Speaker 2: of all of it that they didn't attend one function,

780
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:53,040
Speaker 2: saying she was ill. My aunt Lisa's mother asked my

781
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:55,719
Speaker 2: brother to go to their home, leaving the functions of

782
00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 2: the wedding and saying sorry and to bring them to

783
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 2: the venue. Dude, I was fed up with all of

784
00:37:00,960 --> 00:37:03,000
Speaker 2: this drama. I was just trying to keep it all

785
00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:05,840
Speaker 2: together because this was the last function of me and

786
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:09,360
Speaker 2: my parents' home. Wedding day comes, I got married and

787
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 2: left for my in law's place. My grandfather, who was

788
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:14,960
Speaker 2: really happy about my wedding, asked for a cig after

789
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 2: the rituals. He's not allowed, but he was so dang

790
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:21,480
Speaker 2: happy that he couldn't stop. My aunt came running to

791
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 2: him after I left and started crying, Look what they're

792
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 2: doing to us and her daughter. She made a whole

793
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 2: scene when everyone was supposed to be happy and relieved

794
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 2: that the wedding got over so successfully, and she made

795
00:37:33,560 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 2: it about herself and her daughter. My father didn't shed

796
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 2: a cheer when I left home, but he cried when

797
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 2: she abruptly took all of her belongings and left, saying

798
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:45,959
Speaker 2: we should feel sorry for making her feel this way.

799
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,759
Speaker 2: I cut off all my connections with her and her

800
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:51,759
Speaker 2: daughter after that, though after a couple of years, my

801
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 2: parents and my aunt started talking again, but I couldn't

802
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 2: make myself to forgive them. I cut off all my

803
00:37:58,239 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 2: ties with them. But please don't cut off ties with thoughts.

804
00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 2: When we go live every weekend at three pm PST

805
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 2: on yoused toube, Twitch, TikTok, and Facebook, just taper profile

806
00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:07,839
Speaker 2: check her for we're live right now. But we got

807
00:38:07,840 --> 00:38:10,080
Speaker 2: a little bit left of the story. What do you think?

808
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:14,799
Speaker 2: Clearly these people just care about themselves more than they

809
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 2: care about up and especially given the context of everything

810
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:20,920
Speaker 2: like what this is like, they catch them smoking a

811
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 2: cigarette and then they're like, let's make a big problem

812
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:27,759
Speaker 2: instead of just like being you know, an adult about it,

813
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 2: and I don't know, having like a side and being like, hey,

814
00:38:30,760 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 2: I thought we talked about this. I thought you weren't

815
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:33,760
Speaker 2: gonna be smoking, Like you want.

816
00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 3: To blow up the spot at op's wedding. It's like,

817
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 3: I mean, that's.

818
00:38:37,120 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 2: About yourself, dude, what thing's wrong with you? And that's

819
00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:43,359
Speaker 2: probably a microcosm of much larger issues. Whenever people are

820
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 2: talking about cutting off family like permanently, like you know,

821
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 2: it's used to your prerogative, but I always say to

822
00:38:48,800 --> 00:38:52,280
Speaker 2: leave some level of a crack in the door room

823
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:53,960
Speaker 2: for forgiveness.

824
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 1: Right, because people can change, people can grow and see

825
00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 1: like that they you know, have made mistakes, and you know,

826
00:38:59,680 --> 00:39:02,480
Speaker 1: when it it comes down to a relationship like parents,

827
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: it's like a lot of times, you know, later in

828
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:07,399
Speaker 1: our lives, we can get messed up about it if

829
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:10,439
Speaker 1: we've cut them off and now we can't go back, YadA,

830
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 1: YadA YadA. It's you know, it's a story that's been

831
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,440
Speaker 1: told many many times of like I wish I could

832
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:18,239
Speaker 1: have fixed things before they passed. Yea, you know, I

833
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 1: wish I could have fixed things before this, before that, Like,

834
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 1: it's just always.

835
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 3: Something to be aware of, I guess. But if they're

836
00:39:23,520 --> 00:39:25,560
Speaker 3: not going to change, then you know you have no

837
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:26,479
Speaker 3: obligation to do.

838
00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 2: So you've done your part by being the best version

839
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 2: of yourself and they didn't. Salsa was the only bridesmaid

840
00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 2: I had because I'm an introvert and the pain of

841
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:36,360
Speaker 2: getting ready alone at every event for the wedding was

842
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 2: unbearable when I didn't have anyone to help me. It

843
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:42,400
Speaker 2: keeps me awake. Still, where did I go wrong on

844
00:39:42,480 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 2: my important day? Because I love the most and shared everything.

845
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 2: What didn't even show up for me?

846
00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 3: Oh?

847
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 2: That didn't even makes it worse. That was just the

848
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 2: cherry on top of this dog pile of crap.

849
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 3: It's an unfortunate situation, but hopefully bridges can be rebuilt.

850
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and hopefully your honeymoon was nice. Hopefully your honeymoon

851
00:39:58,160 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 2: was the greatest. Yeah.

852
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:02,360
Speaker 1: I wish you your partner nothing but success in the future.

853
00:40:02,560 --> 00:40:04,720
Speaker 1: I love, but that is the end of that story.

854
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 4: My wife and sister don't get along, and I don't

855
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 4: know what to do.

856
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:09,680
Speaker 5: Break up with both of.

857
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:13,719
Speaker 4: Those Okay, Yeah, my wife twenty seven and I twenty six,

858
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,319
Speaker 4: have been together for five years now, and I just

859
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 4: got married earlier this spring. I guess I'll start from

860
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 4: the beginning. At first, my mom and my sister did

861
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:25,359
Speaker 4: not like my wife at all. She's from Russia, so

862
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 4: to most Americans she can come off as a bit

863
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 4: cold and uninviting, even to me at first. As I

864
00:40:30,200 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 4: got to know her, though, she really showed me her

865
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 4: fun and goofy side oh and opened up to me

866
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 4: a lot, as she eventually did with my family as

867
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:39,319
Speaker 4: they got to know each other. By the way, this

868
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:41,959
Speaker 4: comes from Tumbleweed Live four three three on the Okay

869
00:40:42,000 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 4: storretime Severed It. So our relationship, as most has definitely

870
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 4: been anything but perfect. One thing I noticed was that

871
00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 4: for the first two years of our relationship we had

872
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:54,000
Speaker 4: hardly had a single fight, which I thought was a

873
00:40:54,000 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 4: great sign, as none of my relationships had been that

874
00:40:56,360 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 4: way previously. Still, my family didn't like her, though we

875
00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:01,600
Speaker 4: had been living with my parents for most of our relationship.

876
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 4: For those of you that have experienced the same thing,

877
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 4: you know how stressful it can be. We paid rent

878
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:08,880
Speaker 4: and my wife actually ran her business out of the

879
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:11,400
Speaker 4: house in a separate room that she would pay extra for.

880
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 4: My mom would always get upset though, that she wouldn't

881
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:16,279
Speaker 4: clean up the house in her downtime, even if it

882
00:41:16,320 --> 00:41:18,680
Speaker 4: was other people's messes. She would also get upset that

883
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 4: my wife wouldn't share her food or cook for other

884
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,880
Speaker 4: people when she would make dinners and small things like that.

885
00:41:24,160 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 4: Although I think it would be nice for my wife

886
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 4: to do these things from time to time, it shouldn't

887
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:30,799
Speaker 4: be expected. Also, in her defense, she was trying to

888
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:33,320
Speaker 4: lose weight and had a very strict diet at the time,

889
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 4: so she had to weigh her food and portion things

890
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 4: out correctly. Groceries are also very expensive where we live,

891
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:40,359
Speaker 4: and we were trying to save up to move out

892
00:41:40,360 --> 00:41:43,080
Speaker 4: of the house one day, so that's where the most

893
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 4: arguments between my mom and us would be about. Now

894
00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:48,239
Speaker 4: that we've moved out of my house, though the relationship

895
00:41:48,239 --> 00:41:50,399
Speaker 4: between my mom and my wife is great, we would

896
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 4: have thought, okay, so it's not issue, no great. I

897
00:41:52,480 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 4: just wanted to give that context to show how my

898
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 4: wife's relationship is with other people in my family. So

899
00:41:57,680 --> 00:41:59,440
Speaker 4: you can tell me your opinions on who was in

900
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:02,480
Speaker 4: the wrong here or what to do Now Onto the

901
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:06,080
Speaker 4: topic of my sister and my wife. As I said before,

902
00:42:06,280 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 4: my sister never really liked my wife that much. They

903
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 4: just didn't click, which is totally fine with me. I

904
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,760
Speaker 4: don't need them to be besties, but to get along

905
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:16,040
Speaker 4: when they're around each other would be nice. I'm going

906
00:42:16,040 --> 00:42:18,600
Speaker 4: to fast forward to about a year ago. Six months

907
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:20,680
Speaker 4: before our marriage. We had been moved out of the

908
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:22,520
Speaker 4: house for almost a year now. We had also picked

909
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,960
Speaker 4: up a husky puppy as soon as we moved in

910
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 4: Bad Idea. Little did we know that huskies were one

911
00:42:28,000 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 4: of the most difficult breeds to deal with. So moving

912
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 4: into a half finished house my grandma owns it and

913
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:35,560
Speaker 4: I've been renovating it for about six months before we

914
00:42:35,600 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 4: moved in, and my wife pretty much raising the pup

915
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 4: on her own since she worked from home at the time,

916
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,120
Speaker 4: was causing a lot of stress in our lives. I'm

917
00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 4: also very OCD and my wife was not picking up

918
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:48,759
Speaker 4: after herself. Now I was seeing what my mom was

919
00:42:48,800 --> 00:42:51,400
Speaker 4: talking about, and this was causing a lot of stress

920
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:53,880
Speaker 4: for me having to pick up after her constantly. I

921
00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 4: felt like I had to be my mom telling her

922
00:42:55,680 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 4: what to do all the time, and I ate it it.

923
00:42:57,920 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 4: So after the puppy could be on his own. About

924
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 4: six months after we got him, my wife decided to

925
00:43:02,000 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 4: pick up a job working for a boat tour company

926
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:06,520
Speaker 4: so she could get out of the house from it.

927
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:08,640
Speaker 4: I told her to go for it. It was about

928
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 4: an hour and a half drive, and some days she

929
00:43:11,239 --> 00:43:13,520
Speaker 4: would get off at nine pm and after work the

930
00:43:13,560 --> 00:43:15,880
Speaker 4: next day at five am, so she would stay the

931
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 4: night at a friend's house near her work on those

932
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 4: nights long hours scotty jeez. Of course I was hesitant

933
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 4: about this at first because I have been cheated on

934
00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:26,560
Speaker 4: in the past, but I decided that if I couldn't

935
00:43:26,560 --> 00:43:28,719
Speaker 4: trust her, then she wasn't the one for me.

936
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:29,800
Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, you're married.

937
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 5: At this point, you're married, You're full married.

938
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:32,279
Speaker 2: Yeah.

939
00:43:32,320 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 4: I should also note that my wife is much more

940
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 4: extroverted than me in some ways. She loves to go

941
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:38,879
Speaker 4: out and dance with her friends, where I would much

942
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,239
Speaker 4: prefer staying home for the night. We both are very outdoorsy, though,

943
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 4: so we would bond in that way, going camping, hiking,

944
00:43:45,239 --> 00:43:47,400
Speaker 4: and to the beach. But every time she asked me

945
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,200
Speaker 4: to go out and dance with her and hang out

946
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:51,399
Speaker 4: with her friends, I would say no, which I later

947
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 4: realized was just not very considerate on my end and

948
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:56,600
Speaker 4: probably showed her that I hadn't had as much interest

949
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 4: in her as I did before. Fast forward this year,

950
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:00,720
Speaker 4: one week for the wedding.

951
00:44:00,840 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 3: They're not married yet.

952
00:44:01,800 --> 00:44:02,000
Speaker 5: Oh.

953
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 4: Things were a bit stressful between us due to planning

954
00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 4: it completely by ourselves and having a pretty tight budget

955
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 4: to make the stream wedding happen that wouldn't put us

956
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 4: in debt or anything like that. My sister calls me

957
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 4: and says she needs to talk to me one on one.

958
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 4: We meet up. She tells me that she heard a

959
00:44:17,239 --> 00:44:20,880
Speaker 4: rumor that my wife cheated on me with someone at work.

960
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:24,360
Speaker 5: Well, I was not expecting.

961
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 4: I didn't expect that to be Yeah, she doesn't like her.

962
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:29,360
Speaker 5: Then says, I'm calling cheating.

963
00:44:30,200 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 4: You got it, you nailed it.

964
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 5: We don't know if it's true.

965
00:44:33,080 --> 00:44:34,839
Speaker 4: You don't know it's true. There's a lot room debt.

966
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 4: She shows me the guy. We both cry. I drive

967
00:44:37,600 --> 00:44:40,399
Speaker 4: home and confront my wife about it. My wife tells

968
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 4: me nothing happened other than some harmless flirting. The fact

969
00:44:44,040 --> 00:44:47,280
Speaker 4: that flirting happened is not looking good for you girls.

970
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:49,800
Speaker 6: It's the fact that there's a rumor about you cheating

971
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 6: on someone and you're like, oh, it flirted.

972
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:56,320
Speaker 5: I only flirted. Yeah, so there is something that happened.

973
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 4: Which I can't blame her for as I have done

974
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:01,960
Speaker 4: the same before and I during our rough patches. Okay,

975
00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:04,879
Speaker 4: this guy she supposedly cheated on me with also has

976
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:08,800
Speaker 4: a wife and three kids. Not that that stopped anyone before,

977
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 4: but this is a small town and there are no

978
00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 4: cheap motels or anything like that to stay.

979
00:45:13,200 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 3: For the night.

980
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:15,719
Speaker 4: I'm not saying they couldn't pull it off, but to

981
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:18,120
Speaker 4: do it at his home would be unlikely, or at

982
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:21,279
Speaker 4: a hotel would be unlikely. Then I tell my close

983
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 4: friends about it to get their opinions on the situation.

984
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 4: One of them calls me and tells me that he

985
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:28,319
Speaker 4: would bet that it is true, and tells me a

986
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:31,279
Speaker 4: story I've never heard before. One day, my wife got

987
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:34,799
Speaker 4: wasted and texted him to come over and completely came

988
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:35,399
Speaker 4: on to him.

989
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 5: WHOA okay, And.

990
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 4: He came over. She's like come over and he was like, okay.

991
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was making out with your wife. And then

992
00:45:41,760 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 5: I realized she was cheating on.

993
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 4: You, cheating on you, and I wouldn't do that to

994
00:45:44,920 --> 00:45:46,640
Speaker 4: my best friend. So we kissed a little bit more,

995
00:45:46,719 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 4: and I said, stop.

996
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 6: If one thing to cheat on a partner, to cheat

997
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:51,080
Speaker 6: on them with their friend, Yeah, like a whole other

998
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:52,440
Speaker 6: level of disrespect.

999
00:45:52,520 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 4: Messeda Luckily I keep my circle close, and he refused

1000
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:56,439
Speaker 4: and sent her.

1001
00:45:56,360 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 5: On her way only after a couple kisses.

1002
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:00,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, just a couple of smooth He said he he

1003
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:02,000
Speaker 4: never told me about it because he didn't want it

1004
00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 4: to ruin mine in his relationship. I was his best

1005
00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 4: friend here. I thanked him for telling me. Now I'm

1006
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:10,520
Speaker 4: frickin pissed. I knew she was lying. I confronted her

1007
00:46:10,520 --> 00:46:12,279
Speaker 4: about it, and she admitted to what my friend had

1008
00:46:12,320 --> 00:46:15,399
Speaker 4: told me, but still denied the rumor my sister had heard.

1009
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:18,120
Speaker 4: Obviously she had to, as this was coming directly from

1010
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:20,040
Speaker 4: my friend and not some rumor he had heard. I

1011
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 4: left and stayed the night at my sister's to give

1012
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:24,600
Speaker 4: us both some time to think. Now, I know what

1013
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:26,920
Speaker 4: you're all probably thinking at this point. I would be

1014
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:29,319
Speaker 4: stupid to stay with her. She's a cheater. I might

1015
00:46:29,360 --> 00:46:31,319
Speaker 4: have no self esteem, but I like to try to

1016
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:33,920
Speaker 4: put myself in other people's perspectives. At the time, A

1017
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:37,600
Speaker 4: boat of these things supposedly happening. I was almost completely

1018
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 4: neglecting her, not truly showing my love for her, and

1019
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,720
Speaker 4: not going out of my way to make her feel special.

1020
00:46:42,760 --> 00:46:45,800
Speaker 4: She'd always done so for me, and I still loved her.

1021
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:49,520
Speaker 4: The thing is, if what happened was you were neglecting her,

1022
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:51,799
Speaker 4: she cheated on you and then came to you and said,

1023
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 4: oh my god, this happened. Let's figure out what we

1024
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:56,760
Speaker 4: need to do to fix our relationship. That's a different story,

1025
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 4: but it seems like you were being neglectful. She cheated

1026
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 4: on you, went about her day, and then you found out,

1027
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 4: and she was like, Nope, didn't do that. Couldn't be me.

1028
00:47:04,040 --> 00:47:05,959
Speaker 6: But I mean, it's still not confirmed if that is true,

1029
00:47:06,480 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 6: but she is confirmed that she did try to.

1030
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 5: Chan yes with his friend. Yeah.

1031
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,320
Speaker 4: The next day I came back home and we talked.

1032
00:47:12,400 --> 00:47:14,480
Speaker 4: The wedding was in a week. I had family from

1033
00:47:14,480 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 4: all over flying in. We had all this money put

1034
00:47:17,000 --> 00:47:19,360
Speaker 4: into the wedding that there's no way we could refund.

1035
00:47:19,440 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 4: My wife was doing everything she could to make it

1036
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:23,680
Speaker 4: up to me. She apologized to my sister, to my

1037
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:25,880
Speaker 4: friend that she came on to. She got ahold of

1038
00:47:25,920 --> 00:47:28,200
Speaker 4: the guy that she supposedly cheated on me with and

1039
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:30,560
Speaker 4: let him know of the situation. He texted me to

1040
00:47:30,560 --> 00:47:33,839
Speaker 4: deny the accusations, though that meant little since he had

1041
00:47:33,840 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 4: a wife and three kids, he had every reason to

1042
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 4: deny it. Yes, she even came to work with me

1043
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 4: that day and genuinely helped me finish my job. I

1044
00:47:41,200 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 4: have my own business that's very labor intensive and not

1045
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 4: easy by any means. I was still unsure, but she

1046
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,239
Speaker 4: was taking all the right steps towards making things better

1047
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 4: between us. I decided to go through with the ceremony

1048
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:54,960
Speaker 4: but not sign any papers since we had so much time, money,

1049
00:47:55,000 --> 00:47:57,160
Speaker 4: and family coming out to see us, and their money

1050
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,320
Speaker 4: as well. Our wedding was almost.

1051
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:03,279
Speaker 5: Perfect besides the facts you tried to cheat it on him.

1052
00:48:03,360 --> 00:48:05,880
Speaker 4: Everything went beautiful until the next day we got a

1053
00:48:05,920 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 4: text from the person watching our dog to let us

1054
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:12,279
Speaker 4: know that he had stayed nia truck and passed shut up.

1055
00:48:12,520 --> 00:48:14,960
Speaker 4: I loved that dog like a son. It had taken

1056
00:48:15,000 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 4: us so much time and energy to get him to

1057
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 4: where he was, and although he wasn't as behaved as

1058
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:20,839
Speaker 4: I would have liked him to be, we had an

1059
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:25,239
Speaker 4: unbreakable bond. This broke us me, especially given what I

1060
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:27,399
Speaker 4: had just gone through. In a way, though, I think

1061
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:29,680
Speaker 4: it allowed us to bond more through the grief and

1062
00:48:29,800 --> 00:48:32,520
Speaker 4: kind of forget what happened prior to the wedding, not completely.

1063
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:34,480
Speaker 4: As I told her my conditions as to what I

1064
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:37,000
Speaker 4: would be comfortable with her doing for us to possibly

1065
00:48:37,040 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 4: sign papers and be legally married. One day, she quit

1066
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:42,120
Speaker 4: her job working on the boats her suggestion, and went

1067
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:44,160
Speaker 4: back to working at the house. She didn't go out

1068
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 4: late with her friends anymore. She really started to help

1069
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:48,360
Speaker 4: around the house more, and we had a lot of

1070
00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 4: difficult conversations to get to where we are now post wedding.

1071
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:54,080
Speaker 4: I would say, despite my beautiful little boy passing, our

1072
00:48:54,120 --> 00:48:56,200
Speaker 4: relationship had been better than it had been in a

1073
00:48:56,239 --> 00:48:59,400
Speaker 4: long time. I decided it was time to sign the papers.

1074
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:02,320
Speaker 4: I didn't know for sure whether she had actually cheated

1075
00:49:02,320 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 4: on me. This is a small town, after all, and

1076
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:05,800
Speaker 4: rumors start very easily.

1077
00:49:05,880 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 5: Well, she tried to, and that's confirmed.

1078
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:09,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, regardless of whether she actually went through it.

1079
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:10,160
Speaker 5: She tried. Yeah.

1080
00:49:10,200 --> 00:49:12,680
Speaker 4: My wife isn't from here, and she's very beautiful. I

1081
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 4: could definitely see the other girls seeing her flirt a

1082
00:49:14,880 --> 00:49:16,960
Speaker 4: bit with some guy and starting a rumor about them

1083
00:49:16,960 --> 00:49:19,399
Speaker 4: hooking up. I wasn't discounting the fact that she could

1084
00:49:19,400 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 4: be lying still, but I loved her and forgave her

1085
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:24,240
Speaker 4: for it. I said, if I heard about anything happening

1086
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:27,360
Speaker 4: ever again, I would leave, no questions asked. She understood.

1087
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 4: My sister, however, never forgave her for this. At this point,

1088
00:49:30,719 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 4: the only people who knew about the situation were her,

1089
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:36,160
Speaker 4: my wife, my sister, and a couple of my close friends,

1090
00:49:36,239 --> 00:49:38,520
Speaker 4: and I intended to keep it that way, as it

1091
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:41,680
Speaker 4: was nobody else's business. My sister threatened to tell my family,

1092
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:44,000
Speaker 4: as she said she couldn't hold it in anymore because

1093
00:49:44,040 --> 00:49:46,200
Speaker 4: everyone would ask her why she doesn't like my wife

1094
00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:48,480
Speaker 4: and she couldn't answer. I was upset at first, but

1095
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 4: understood her position, so I told my wife she should

1096
00:49:51,080 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 4: probably tell them first to get ahead of the situation,

1097
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:56,439
Speaker 4: feeling that this is that is not her place at

1098
00:49:56,480 --> 00:49:59,880
Speaker 4: all to tell them. That is so inappropriate of her,

1099
00:50:00,239 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 4: Like you cannot like your brother's wife, that's fine, but.

1100
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:06,800
Speaker 5: Like, yeah, it's not your to actively.

1101
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:08,920
Speaker 4: Try and ruin the relationship.

1102
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 6: To be able to tell Yeah about something they're deciding

1103
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:12,160
Speaker 6: as a couple.

1104
00:50:11,960 --> 00:50:13,239
Speaker 5: To work through it, to work through.

1105
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 4: Oh my god, that's actually really annoying.

1106
00:50:14,760 --> 00:50:16,360
Speaker 5: But I'm more upset about the dog.

1107
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:18,520
Speaker 4: I'm very that's the worst part of the story.

1108
00:50:18,680 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sad.

1109
00:50:19,719 --> 00:50:22,440
Speaker 4: My wife met with my mom and told her everything.

1110
00:50:22,520 --> 00:50:24,600
Speaker 4: I think she was surprised when my mom forgave her

1111
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:26,840
Speaker 4: pretty easily and told her that it wasn't her business

1112
00:50:26,840 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 4: in the first place. There is another dynamic to the situation.

1113
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:32,560
Speaker 4: Remember how I told you we live in a small town. Well,

1114
00:50:32,600 --> 00:50:35,600
Speaker 4: here's a love triangle for you. My sister had an

1115
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:38,880
Speaker 4: ex boyfriend before her now husband. They were best friends

1116
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 4: before my sister and her husband started dating. Well, obviously

1117
00:50:41,640 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 4: they aren't friends anymore. Anyways, I still get along with

1118
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 4: her ex boyfriend and we hang out every so often.

1119
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 4: My wife also happens to get along very well with

1120
00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 4: his now girlfriend and their friends. She was actually made

1121
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 4: of honor at her wedding.

1122
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:54,240
Speaker 5: Oh it's gonna get sticky.

1123
00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:56,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, so they get invited to some things that my

1124
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:59,440
Speaker 4: sister and her husband are also invited to. My sister's

1125
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:02,040
Speaker 4: ex boyfriend and his girlfriend are completely fine with that

1126
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 4: at this point, as it's been half a decade since

1127
00:51:04,560 --> 00:51:06,960
Speaker 4: they broke up, and my sister is married now anyways,

1128
00:51:07,120 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 4: every time they're invited, though, my sister gets upset with

1129
00:51:10,160 --> 00:51:12,479
Speaker 4: my wife for inviting them, even though my wife gives

1130
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:14,880
Speaker 4: her a heads up beforehand that they will be invited

1131
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 4: out of respect. I should also note that my sister

1132
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:19,399
Speaker 4: has been a devout Christian as of the last two

1133
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:22,080
Speaker 4: years since she married her husband, and he and his

1134
00:51:22,120 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 4: family are all religious as well. I am not religious myself,

1135
00:51:25,040 --> 00:51:26,880
Speaker 4: but I don't see any issue with it other than

1136
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:29,319
Speaker 4: the fact that my sister has become well, let's just

1137
00:51:29,400 --> 00:51:32,440
Speaker 4: say she's changed a lot since her newfound faith. My

1138
00:51:32,480 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 4: mom and I agree that this change is not for

1139
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:38,239
Speaker 4: the better anyway. Oh, that actually adds a lot of

1140
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:40,480
Speaker 4: context into it. If she's the cheating.

1141
00:51:40,200 --> 00:51:40,680
Speaker 5: For her.

1142
00:51:42,560 --> 00:51:47,480
Speaker 6: Oral judgment, Yeah, cheating because Jesus would not approve anyways.

1143
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:49,880
Speaker 4: To bring it back around, this has been a constant

1144
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 4: issue since the wedding. My sister has tried to meet

1145
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:54,440
Speaker 4: up with my wife and talk things out, but according

1146
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:57,440
Speaker 4: to her, every time they talk things go well, and

1147
00:51:57,480 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 4: my wife f's it up by inviting her ex boyfriend

1148
00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:02,759
Speaker 4: slash his girlfriend to the same parties they attend. My

1149
00:52:02,840 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 4: sister also claims that my wife is lied to work

1150
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:08,480
Speaker 4: on a couple occasions, which is true, but they are

1151
00:52:08,600 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 4: white lies regarding being busy. When my sister invites her

1152
00:52:12,000 --> 00:52:14,960
Speaker 4: to church or Bible studies or things of that age,

1153
00:52:15,120 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 4: so's Bible study and she's like, I've got the work.

1154
00:52:18,960 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, I need to pick up the dog from the cleaner.

1155
00:52:22,880 --> 00:52:25,719
Speaker 6: They're like she's dead and we're like, oh, I need

1156
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 6: to do something else.

1157
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:30,719
Speaker 4: Ummm, you know it goes. My wife is not religious either,

1158
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:33,640
Speaker 4: and we both are pretty agnostic in our faith. By

1159
00:52:33,680 --> 00:52:36,520
Speaker 4: the way, you should have faith that we will be

1160
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 4: live every weekday. I three pmpst on YouTube, just tap

1161
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:41,759
Speaker 4: our profile and also Facebook and TikTok. I know that

1162
00:52:41,800 --> 00:52:44,160
Speaker 4: there's a lot to the story and kind of spiraled

1163
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:46,320
Speaker 4: out of control and went more back to my relationship

1164
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,520
Speaker 4: with my wife. I guess it's been looming over me

1165
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:51,960
Speaker 4: as I'm still uncertain about everything and looking for outside opinions.

1166
00:52:52,040 --> 00:52:54,400
Speaker 4: But I am open to opinions about it all. Just

1167
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:56,960
Speaker 4: please no harsh words or judgment. Thanks everyone. Yeah, it

1168
00:52:56,960 --> 00:52:59,280
Speaker 4: seems like, I mean, your sister's being kind of super

1169
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:01,680
Speaker 4: judgmental and stick in her nose where it doesn't belong,

1170
00:53:01,800 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 4: and she's allowed to be protective of you, but to

1171
00:53:03,800 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 4: the point where she's actively trying to sabotage your relationship.

1172
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 4: And you know what you've already discussed with your wife

1173
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 4: in the agreements that you've made. That's too far.

1174
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:11,920
Speaker 3: That's say.

1175
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:12,399
Speaker 4: That's story.

1176
00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:15,160
Speaker 6: My brother is getting married, but I think I should

1177
00:53:15,200 --> 00:53:16,480
Speaker 6: warn his fiance.

1178
00:53:16,960 --> 00:53:19,880
Speaker 2: Ooh, it's always a good thing to get right before

1179
00:53:19,880 --> 00:53:21,840
Speaker 2: you get married, A nice, healthy warning.

1180
00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 5: Yeah. I mean, it's how you blessrop her marriage. Yeah,

1181
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:25,000
Speaker 5: warn them.

1182
00:53:25,120 --> 00:53:27,640
Speaker 6: I twenty two year old female, have a younger brother,

1183
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:30,640
Speaker 6: twenty year old male, who started dating his current girlfriend

1184
00:53:30,680 --> 00:53:33,279
Speaker 6: about a year ago. I have no general problems with her.

1185
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:35,800
Speaker 6: She is a sweet girl, seems like she means well

1186
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 6: and gets along with the family. Initially I had no

1187
00:53:38,280 --> 00:53:40,640
Speaker 6: problems with her, and even now I still don't have

1188
00:53:40,719 --> 00:53:43,160
Speaker 6: any real issues with her. By the way, this comes

1189
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:46,240
Speaker 6: from you, Ash remarkable ostroche sixteen on the rt okay

1190
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:49,040
Speaker 6: storytime subreddit. So here's where things get murky from me.

1191
00:53:49,160 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 6: My brother and his girlfriend let's call her Alice, started

1192
00:53:52,239 --> 00:53:54,880
Speaker 6: dating a couple of months after my brother, let's call

1193
00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:58,000
Speaker 6: him Bryden, got back from boot camp for the Marine Corpse.

1194
00:53:58,080 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 6: After coming home, he had decided that he wanted to

1195
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 6: go on a Mormon mission. This was before he met

1196
00:54:03,040 --> 00:54:06,279
Speaker 6: his girlfriend. Him and Alice begin dating three months before

1197
00:54:06,280 --> 00:54:07,840
Speaker 6: he was set to leave on his mission. If you

1198
00:54:07,840 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 6: don't already know, you're not supposed to date while you're

1199
00:54:09,920 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 6: on your mission. So I worried this would end up

1200
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:14,000
Speaker 6: bleeding into his journey.

1201
00:54:13,640 --> 00:54:14,799
Speaker 5: For his service to God.

1202
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:16,680
Speaker 6: As a side note, I am not religious, but in

1203
00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 6: supportive of my family and what they want to believe in.

1204
00:54:18,920 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 5: Though I don't believe in your code of conduct of

1205
00:54:21,760 --> 00:54:23,640
Speaker 5: your religion, but at least follow it.

1206
00:54:23,880 --> 00:54:24,080
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1207
00:54:24,600 --> 00:54:27,040
Speaker 2: I'm not religious, but if you're gonna be like, do

1208
00:54:27,080 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 2: it right, lease, do it right?

1209
00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:28,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, come on.

1210
00:54:29,120 --> 00:54:31,680
Speaker 6: I don't believe in the Mormon Church and do not participate,

1211
00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:33,560
Speaker 6: but you better win Mormonism.

1212
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 5: My entire family is active Mormon.

1213
00:54:35,440 --> 00:54:37,880
Speaker 6: Anyways, I thought they would cool things down once he

1214
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:40,240
Speaker 6: left for his mission back in January, but if anything,

1215
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:42,680
Speaker 6: it seems things just continued. I wouldn't have an issue

1216
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 6: with this, as I don't care about the Mormon Church,

1217
00:54:44,600 --> 00:54:46,800
Speaker 6: but my brother has made it his mission to force

1218
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 6: Alice into the family while he's gone. As I said before,

1219
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:51,520
Speaker 6: she's a sweet girl, and they don't have a problem

1220
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:53,920
Speaker 6: with her. I guess I feel uncomfortable being forced to

1221
00:54:53,920 --> 00:54:56,120
Speaker 6: spend time with her at family events when they only

1222
00:54:56,200 --> 00:54:58,799
Speaker 6: dated for three months before he left. Brandon pressures my

1223
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 6: parents into inviting her to everything, and it's a bit

1224
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:03,840
Speaker 6: of a shock when she shows up at intimate family dinners.

1225
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 6: So this isn't to say that I would feel the

1226
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 6: same way if my brother was home and they were dating.

1227
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:10,400
Speaker 6: My issue comes from being in a completely different county

1228
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 6: supposed to be somewhat isolated from what's happening outside of

1229
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:15,520
Speaker 6: his mission. I think from him being in a completely

1230
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:17,880
Speaker 6: different I think they meant countries. Yeah, My thing is

1231
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,399
Speaker 6: he should have just stayed home. He's been gone less

1232
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 6: than a year and he's talking about leaving his mission

1233
00:55:22,760 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 6: early so he could come home and marry Alice. He

1234
00:55:25,200 --> 00:55:26,960
Speaker 6: just worries me a bit because she is such a

1235
00:55:26,960 --> 00:55:27,480
Speaker 6: sweet girl.

1236
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:30,520
Speaker 5: And I know my brother and he isn't the nicest person.

1237
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 6: He bullied me all growing up, and I figured he

1238
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 6: would grow out of it when he got older and matured.

1239
00:55:35,040 --> 00:55:37,200
Speaker 6: That's what I thought. It feels like he's only got demeanor.

1240
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:39,279
Speaker 6: He doesn't treat my family well, But I seem to

1241
00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:40,879
Speaker 6: be the only one that stands up to him, while

1242
00:55:40,920 --> 00:55:44,160
Speaker 6: everyone else just seemingly ignores him, which just enables his behavior.

1243
00:55:44,200 --> 00:55:46,640
Speaker 6: He will be belittling me or my younger brother, and

1244
00:55:46,680 --> 00:55:48,920
Speaker 6: no one will say anything. The only time they speak

1245
00:55:48,960 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 6: up is when I get frustrated and set my boundary

1246
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:52,759
Speaker 6: with him and they tell me I should calm down.

1247
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:54,440
Speaker 5: He's just like that. It's very frustrating.

1248
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:56,720
Speaker 6: I guess my feelings are more revolved around my brother

1249
00:55:56,760 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 6: and our relationship more than Alice and her as a person.

1250
00:55:59,440 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 6: My mom told me that he's basically planning his wedding

1251
00:56:02,160 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 6: while he's on his mission, and he will text her

1252
00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:06,080
Speaker 6: and tell her to look into wedding stuff when he

1253
00:56:06,120 --> 00:56:08,640
Speaker 6: should be focusing on his mission. She's made it sound

1254
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:10,600
Speaker 6: as though he feels he will come home and be

1255
00:56:10,800 --> 00:56:13,200
Speaker 6: entitled to their dream wedding. My parents aren't going to

1256
00:56:13,239 --> 00:56:15,879
Speaker 6: take care of and pay for everything. My parents only

1257
00:56:15,880 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 6: covered the venue for my wedding as well as my

1258
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:20,840
Speaker 6: older sister, so I'm not sure where he's getting this idea.

1259
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:22,720
Speaker 5: The venues, you know, it's spent.

1260
00:56:22,680 --> 00:56:25,960
Speaker 3: A sizable chunk. It's not everything, though, but it's a lot.

1261
00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, he tells her that he's going to come home

1262
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:31,400
Speaker 6: get married and buy a house. He doesn't even have

1263
00:56:31,440 --> 00:56:33,480
Speaker 6: a car, and maybe his savings that I don't know

1264
00:56:33,480 --> 00:56:35,160
Speaker 6: about to my knowledge, but he doesn't have a big

1265
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:37,600
Speaker 6: savings account, which makes my mom believe that he's going

1266
00:56:37,680 --> 00:56:40,280
Speaker 6: to expect them to help him. For some additional context

1267
00:56:40,360 --> 00:56:43,080
Speaker 6: and possibly why this upsets me so much, my parents

1268
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:46,160
Speaker 6: haven't financially supported me. Once I got past eighteen, I

1269
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:48,239
Speaker 6: was on my own. After that point, I met a

1270
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 6: nice person and got married, where me and my husband

1271
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:52,520
Speaker 6: paid for almost everything on our own. We bought a

1272
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:55,240
Speaker 6: house the same year with savings my husband had set aside.

1273
00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:57,879
Speaker 6: Now we're currently pregnant with our first baby. Bryden wasn't

1274
00:56:57,880 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 6: able to come to our wedding, which was sad for

1275
00:56:59,560 --> 00:57:01,120
Speaker 6: us since he was in the Marines, But when he

1276
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:03,359
Speaker 6: came home, it seems he only had bad things to say.

1277
00:57:03,440 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 5: He made fun of the home we bought. When we

1278
00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:05,839
Speaker 5: told him we.

1279
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:07,640
Speaker 6: Were pregnant, he said our baby would be born the

1280
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 6: same month as he was born, saying his birth month

1281
00:57:10,280 --> 00:57:11,239
Speaker 6: is a superior month.

1282
00:57:11,320 --> 00:57:13,840
Speaker 3: Dude, How jealous and insecure could you possibly be?

1283
00:57:14,000 --> 00:57:17,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, he's like, sorry, November is my month.

1284
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:20,120
Speaker 2: That's my month's better than your month. My nanny nanny

1285
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:22,920
Speaker 2: boo boo. He's like, can you like delay the birth.

1286
00:57:23,000 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 2: What's really getting me is like, how do you insult

1287
00:57:25,840 --> 00:57:27,880
Speaker 2: someone after becoming a homeowner?

1288
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:29,280
Speaker 3: Like, I feel like.

1289
00:57:29,240 --> 00:57:31,800
Speaker 2: That's so like like when he's like your house sucks, yeah,

1290
00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:33,959
Speaker 2: or it's like, yeah, where's your house dude? Yeah?

1291
00:57:33,960 --> 00:57:35,240
Speaker 3: Did you leave it on the mission?

1292
00:57:35,720 --> 00:57:35,800
Speaker 2: No?

1293
00:57:36,040 --> 00:57:38,480
Speaker 3: Like, what are you doing? What are we talking about?

1294
00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:40,880
Speaker 6: So he also does this thing with my nieces where

1295
00:57:40,920 --> 00:57:43,280
Speaker 6: he tells them he's their favorite uncle and makes them

1296
00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 6: say it back to him, but no one says.

1297
00:57:45,680 --> 00:57:47,320
Speaker 5: Anything, dude. This guy's weird.

1298
00:57:47,360 --> 00:57:50,280
Speaker 6: Now, maybe it's harmless, but it really frustrates me, and

1299
00:57:50,320 --> 00:57:52,080
Speaker 6: I'm just not ready to have to deal with that

1300
00:57:52,160 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 6: with my own children. I've already told my mom that

1301
00:57:54,240 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 6: if I need to, I will distance myself from Brandon

1302
00:57:56,600 --> 00:57:58,560
Speaker 6: because of how toxic he can be. If my family

1303
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 6: said anything and put him in his once in a while,

1304
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:03,040
Speaker 6: maybe I wouldn't be so inclined to feel as strongly.

1305
00:58:03,160 --> 00:58:04,720
Speaker 6: But I worry that no one will have my back

1306
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:06,560
Speaker 6: when I attempt to set boundaries with him. I can

1307
00:58:06,600 --> 00:58:08,520
Speaker 6: deal with his antics, but I don't want my kids

1308
00:58:08,520 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 6: to have to put up with it, especially because they.

1309
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:11,440
Speaker 5: Won't understand what's going on.

1310
00:58:11,480 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 6: I have to protect them and be their example of

1311
00:58:13,320 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 6: how you should treat people. All this to say, it

1312
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 6: really doesn't have anything to do with Alice, as she's

1313
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:20,320
Speaker 6: genuinely a sweet girl, but more to do with my brother.

1314
00:58:20,440 --> 00:58:22,320
Speaker 6: I feel bad not getting close to her, but with

1315
00:58:22,400 --> 00:58:24,640
Speaker 6: how things have been going with Braiden, it's really hard

1316
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:26,520
Speaker 6: to want to get close to Alice. It's to the

1317
00:58:26,520 --> 00:58:28,800
Speaker 6: point where I worry there will come a day after

1318
00:58:28,800 --> 00:58:31,120
Speaker 6: our baby's born where I won't be able to tolerate

1319
00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 6: being with my entire family. At the same time, I

1320
00:58:33,640 --> 00:58:35,560
Speaker 6: am the black sheep and I do my best to

1321
00:58:35,640 --> 00:58:38,959
Speaker 6: just be family, but I always feel left out and uncomfortable.

1322
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:39,880
Speaker 5: Shout out op.

1323
00:58:40,360 --> 00:58:43,320
Speaker 6: I also resonate with the black sheep trigger in my family,

1324
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:44,520
Speaker 6: and that's not fun.

1325
00:58:44,560 --> 00:58:45,920
Speaker 5: So I sympathize with you for that.

1326
00:58:45,960 --> 00:58:47,360
Speaker 3: Shout out all the black sheep, All the.

1327
00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:48,560
Speaker 5: Black sheep, shout you out.

1328
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:52,520
Speaker 6: All right, My husband's family is warm and welcoming, and

1329
00:58:52,560 --> 00:58:54,640
Speaker 6: I feel so much more safe and comfortable with them,

1330
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 6: which is an environment I want my kids to and

1331
00:58:56,760 --> 00:58:58,800
Speaker 6: you can bring your kids. You just have to come

1332
00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:01,760
Speaker 6: join us live on you to Facebook TikTok every weekday

1333
00:59:01,760 --> 00:59:03,520
Speaker 6: through PMPST just tap our profile.

1334
00:59:03,680 --> 00:59:04,320
Speaker 5: I'm not sure.

1335
00:59:04,400 --> 00:59:07,880
Speaker 6: It's confusing, and I feel so conflicted. It isn't Alice's fault,

1336
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 6: and I don't feel it's my place to warn her

1337
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:12,360
Speaker 6: about him. Even the interactions I saw with them when

1338
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:14,560
Speaker 6: he was home, he was still his normal, controlling self,

1339
00:59:14,600 --> 00:59:16,560
Speaker 6: at one point taking away her phone.

1340
00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 5: That's so inappropriate. It's like guaranteeing your.

1341
00:59:20,320 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 3: Your partner, like being a high school teacher to your

1342
00:59:25,040 --> 00:59:25,880
Speaker 3: soon to be wife.

1343
00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:27,760
Speaker 5: Put your phone in the phone cub behind him.

1344
00:59:27,800 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 3: You'll get it back after the end of second period.

1345
00:59:30,200 --> 00:59:31,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know.

1346
00:59:31,320 --> 00:59:33,200
Speaker 6: I feel bad because no one else seems to say

1347
00:59:33,240 --> 00:59:35,920
Speaker 6: anything except my mom. But even then, she's still included

1348
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:39,080
Speaker 6: in everything. We just celebrated my niece's fifth birthday yesterday

1349
00:59:39,120 --> 00:59:41,479
Speaker 6: and she was included. It just made me uncomfortable because

1350
00:59:41,480 --> 00:59:43,760
Speaker 6: I feel that Braiden pressures my family to include her

1351
00:59:43,800 --> 00:59:45,960
Speaker 6: and everything, going as far as telling my mom she

1352
00:59:46,040 --> 00:59:48,560
Speaker 6: needs to invite Alice over to their house for dinner.

1353
00:59:48,600 --> 00:59:50,720
Speaker 6: In my opinion, we should have the option to be

1354
00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:53,120
Speaker 6: close with her, especially with him being in another country

1355
00:59:53,120 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 6: for two years. If he sticks out his whole mission,

1356
00:59:55,160 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 6: I would have no problem if he was home and

1357
00:59:57,000 --> 00:59:59,080
Speaker 6: they'd been maintaining their year.

1358
00:59:59,000 --> 01:00:01,560
Speaker 5: Long relationship at home. I just don't know. Am I

1359
01:00:01,640 --> 01:00:03,000
Speaker 5: the a hole? What can I do here?

1360
01:00:03,080 --> 01:00:04,760
Speaker 6: I feel so lost and want to be close with

1361
01:00:04,800 --> 01:00:06,600
Speaker 6: my family, but it's hard when they seem to let

1362
01:00:06,640 --> 01:00:09,000
Speaker 6: Braiden walk all over them. I think there's a lot

1363
01:00:09,040 --> 01:00:12,480
Speaker 6: of things going on, and I think the main part

1364
01:00:12,520 --> 01:00:15,160
Speaker 6: of this story is your relationship with Braiden.

1365
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:17,120
Speaker 5: You don't know if you want to have it or not.

1366
01:00:17,280 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 6: There's always resentment you hold for good reason, and you're

1367
01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:21,960
Speaker 6: up in the air of if you want to have

1368
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 6: a relationship with your brother, and then it seems like

1369
01:00:24,080 --> 01:00:26,640
Speaker 6: it's just like salt in the wound that you don't

1370
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:28,919
Speaker 6: even want to necessarily have a relationship with your brother,

1371
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,840
Speaker 6: and this person that he's barely been seeing is joining

1372
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:35,080
Speaker 6: the family, and it seems like it's just still reminding

1373
01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:37,280
Speaker 6: you the fact that your family put.

1374
01:00:37,200 --> 01:00:39,360
Speaker 5: Up with all the bs that your brother does.

1375
01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:41,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, and so I don't think that like talking to

1376
01:00:42,000 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 6: Alice or anything around Alice is actually the problem.

1377
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:46,600
Speaker 5: I think that's just kind.

1378
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:48,800
Speaker 6: Of the scapegoat for the real fact that you need

1379
01:00:48,840 --> 01:00:50,600
Speaker 6: to figure out the boundaries you want to set with

1380
01:00:50,640 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 6: your brother and the type of relationship, if any, relationship

1381
01:00:53,640 --> 01:00:55,040
Speaker 6: that OP wants to have with their brother.

1382
01:00:55,360 --> 01:00:57,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, maybe some family counseling.

1383
01:00:57,080 --> 01:00:58,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it can be a conversation with mom and

1384
01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:01,600
Speaker 2: dad and you and can go and sit down and

1385
01:01:01,600 --> 01:01:04,160
Speaker 2: figure out what exactly and get all you on the

1386
01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 2: same page.

1387
01:01:05,360 --> 01:01:07,240
Speaker 5: It's like a personal how do I want to relate

1388
01:01:07,280 --> 01:01:07,920
Speaker 5: to my own brother?

1389
01:01:08,120 --> 01:01:10,560
Speaker 6: And then like how do I want to relate to

1390
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:12,720
Speaker 6: this with my family involved as well.

1391
01:01:13,080 --> 01:01:17,800
Speaker 1: My entitled brother informed me that he would be taking

1392
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:19,480
Speaker 1: my dog for three days.

1393
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:22,480
Speaker 3: I'd like to see him try try it, do it.

1394
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 1: I thirty one female, have a man child entitled brother.

1395
01:01:26,520 --> 01:01:29,240
Speaker 1: He lives in the house I co own with my mom.

1396
01:01:29,360 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 1: My mom has told him he has until May thirty

1397
01:01:31,720 --> 01:01:34,320
Speaker 1: first to move out. I've been anxiously waiting for him

1398
01:01:34,360 --> 01:01:36,480
Speaker 1: to leave, doing my best to bide my time.

1399
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:39,440
Speaker 3: But I have finally reached the end of my rope.

1400
01:01:39,480 --> 01:01:42,360
Speaker 1: And for something that I'm not sure is the straw

1401
01:01:42,560 --> 01:01:45,400
Speaker 1: or the log that broke the camel's back, by.

1402
01:01:45,240 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 2: The way archiefe ten on the r slash okay storytime

1403
01:01:50,080 --> 01:01:50,600
Speaker 2: soub reddit.

1404
01:01:50,640 --> 01:01:52,479
Speaker 3: So sometimes it's just a heavy load.

1405
01:01:53,600 --> 01:01:57,560
Speaker 2: Last night while I was in bed, Entitled brother quote

1406
01:01:57,680 --> 01:02:00,680
Speaker 2: informed me he would be taking my dog Spot for

1407
01:02:00,800 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 2: three days on some fishing trip.

1408
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:04,800
Speaker 3: I told him that there's no way he could do that.

1409
01:02:04,920 --> 01:02:08,640
Speaker 1: He says he wasn't asking, he was telling me, he said, quote,

1410
01:02:08,680 --> 01:02:11,560
Speaker 1: he's my dog too, and that he's entitled to take

1411
01:02:11,600 --> 01:02:14,920
Speaker 1: him wherever he pleases. Here is the thing, though, nine

1412
01:02:15,040 --> 01:02:18,600
Speaker 1: years ago, entitled brother demanded a dog. I begged my

1413
01:02:18,720 --> 01:02:21,920
Speaker 1: mom not to he had one previously, but he neglected

1414
01:02:21,960 --> 01:02:24,240
Speaker 1: it and my mom ended up rehoming it, for which

1415
01:02:24,320 --> 01:02:26,360
Speaker 1: he never let her hear the end up. But of

1416
01:02:26,440 --> 01:02:30,200
Speaker 1: course she caved and the same problem persisted. Entitled bro

1417
01:02:30,680 --> 01:02:33,760
Speaker 1: never cared for Spot. I ended up taking over his care.

1418
01:02:33,880 --> 01:02:35,840
Speaker 1: I paid for his vet bills, I fed him, took

1419
01:02:35,880 --> 01:02:38,360
Speaker 1: him to get groomed, et cetera. Things came to a

1420
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:40,480
Speaker 1: head when we had to move in with family members

1421
01:02:40,520 --> 01:02:42,600
Speaker 1: and they said we are not allowed to bring a dog.

1422
01:02:42,840 --> 01:02:45,479
Speaker 1: Entitled brother didn't do anything to find Spot a new home.

1423
01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:48,040
Speaker 1: It was now my problem. I found him a foster

1424
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:50,960
Speaker 1: home where I visited him every day after my college

1425
01:02:50,960 --> 01:02:53,240
Speaker 1: classes ended, and was able to get him back two

1426
01:02:53,320 --> 01:02:55,720
Speaker 1: years later, when we finally had a place to live again.

1427
01:02:55,800 --> 01:02:58,440
Speaker 6: Hey, so she OPI kept up this relationship with the

1428
01:02:58,520 --> 01:02:59,280
Speaker 6: dog the whole time.

1429
01:02:59,400 --> 01:03:01,880
Speaker 3: This is a o peas dog. Spot is Ope's dog.

1430
01:03:01,960 --> 01:03:04,320
Speaker 1: Additionally, when I moved out of my house for a year,

1431
01:03:04,440 --> 01:03:07,400
Speaker 1: Spot went with me. Spot sleeps with me every night

1432
01:03:07,440 --> 01:03:09,560
Speaker 1: and has my name on all of his record.

1433
01:03:09,680 --> 01:03:11,960
Speaker 3: He is now ten and has arthritis.

1434
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:15,360
Speaker 1: He takes meds for his hips and his stomach, and

1435
01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:18,560
Speaker 1: he needs frequent bathroom breaks. Oh and he hates the water.

1436
01:03:18,760 --> 01:03:21,560
Speaker 1: So when Little Bro said he wasn't asking me, he

1437
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:24,000
Speaker 1: was telling me. I knew that Spot would be miserable

1438
01:03:24,040 --> 01:03:27,000
Speaker 1: and possibly in pain that whole trip. He hadn't asked

1439
01:03:27,120 --> 01:03:30,200
Speaker 1: or even mentioned taking Spot before. So he is due

1440
01:03:30,240 --> 01:03:32,200
Speaker 1: for a refill on his pills tomorrow. Had I known,

1441
01:03:32,240 --> 01:03:34,600
Speaker 1: I would have gotten the refill sooner. I tried telling

1442
01:03:34,640 --> 01:03:37,600
Speaker 1: him Spot needs a lot of care, and he said.

1443
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:39,880
Speaker 3: Quote, yeah, so just give me everything he needs.

1444
01:03:40,040 --> 01:03:43,000
Speaker 1: And I was so irritated you wait until the night

1445
01:03:43,080 --> 01:03:45,440
Speaker 1: before to tell me this. Then he said something that

1446
01:03:45,480 --> 01:03:48,560
Speaker 1: made my blood run cold. Quote I could have just

1447
01:03:48,600 --> 01:03:50,680
Speaker 1: taken him and let you panic, but I was being

1448
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:52,240
Speaker 1: nice telling you ahead of time.

1449
01:03:52,440 --> 01:03:53,000
Speaker 3: That did it.

1450
01:03:53,240 --> 01:03:55,520
Speaker 1: I don't know why, but every alarm bell went off

1451
01:03:55,520 --> 01:03:58,120
Speaker 1: in my head. I grabbed my purse, put on my slippers,

1452
01:03:58,120 --> 01:04:00,360
Speaker 1: and told Spot to get in the car. I drove

1453
01:04:00,400 --> 01:04:03,160
Speaker 1: to my fiance's house and slept there last night. I

1454
01:04:03,240 --> 01:04:05,720
Speaker 1: was going to move into fiance's house this summer, But

1455
01:04:05,840 --> 01:04:08,280
Speaker 1: now I'm asking myself why the heck am I waiting?

1456
01:04:08,400 --> 01:04:10,919
Speaker 1: Everyone on Reddit keeps asking me why I stay home,

1457
01:04:11,000 --> 01:04:13,160
Speaker 1: and right now I can't remember any of the reasons

1458
01:04:13,160 --> 01:04:13,920
Speaker 1: I had before.

1459
01:04:14,080 --> 01:04:15,880
Speaker 3: I'm done. But I don't know.

1460
01:04:16,320 --> 01:04:18,240
Speaker 1: Well, I guess you know your brother sucks, but at

1461
01:04:18,320 --> 01:04:20,720
Speaker 1: least he showed you the light of like, oh, dang,

1462
01:04:20,760 --> 01:04:23,000
Speaker 1: I should just move out. My mom is staying out

1463
01:04:23,000 --> 01:04:25,800
Speaker 1: of it right now, and I'm glad because I genuinely

1464
01:04:25,880 --> 01:04:28,200
Speaker 1: don't care what she has to say. I know she

1465
01:04:28,280 --> 01:04:30,360
Speaker 1: doesn't want me to go, but I just can't take

1466
01:04:30,640 --> 01:04:33,880
Speaker 1: entitled brothers little power trips. He can do whatever he

1467
01:04:33,960 --> 01:04:36,840
Speaker 1: wants to the house, punching holes in the walls, kicking appliances,

1468
01:04:36,920 --> 01:04:39,120
Speaker 1: calling the place a dump, but I draw the line

1469
01:04:39,160 --> 01:04:41,800
Speaker 1: at him taking my dog without my permission?

1470
01:04:41,840 --> 01:04:43,439
Speaker 5: Is he doing those things? Is that real?

1471
01:04:43,640 --> 01:04:46,120
Speaker 3: Sounds like it. Punch on the walls sounds like he's

1472
01:04:46,120 --> 01:04:46,600
Speaker 3: a menace.

1473
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:49,160
Speaker 5: He's just alone punch in the wall in his room.

1474
01:04:49,240 --> 01:04:51,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, that was the final straw.

1475
01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:53,800
Speaker 1: That's my baby, and I'm not gonna just stand by

1476
01:04:53,920 --> 01:04:56,240
Speaker 1: while he does whatever he wants with my pet when

1477
01:04:56,280 --> 01:04:59,440
Speaker 1: I explicitly told him no, no, which is something that

1478
01:04:59,520 --> 01:05:03,240
Speaker 1: he rare ever hears ps. I occasionally have asked bro

1479
01:05:03,320 --> 01:05:05,800
Speaker 1: to let Spot out for bathroom breaks since he doesn't

1480
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:08,120
Speaker 1: work until the afternoon, and his response.

1481
01:05:07,760 --> 01:05:10,480
Speaker 3: Is always that he's too busy to do that.

1482
01:05:10,560 --> 01:05:11,960
Speaker 5: Well, he's busy punching the walls.

1483
01:05:12,120 --> 01:05:15,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's busy check and the appliances in the kitchen

1484
01:05:15,800 --> 01:05:16,840
Speaker 1: with my fists.

1485
01:05:17,440 --> 01:05:18,200
Speaker 3: I'm busy here.

1486
01:05:18,680 --> 01:05:21,160
Speaker 1: He has given me no reason to trust him to

1487
01:05:21,200 --> 01:05:23,600
Speaker 1: care for my dog for even a few hours, let

1488
01:05:23,640 --> 01:05:25,600
Speaker 1: alone three days on a fishing trip.

1489
01:05:25,600 --> 01:05:26,400
Speaker 3: And we do have an edit.

1490
01:05:26,440 --> 01:05:28,959
Speaker 1: My brother does not know where my fiance lives, and

1491
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:32,680
Speaker 1: even if he did, fiance's two huge German shepherds would

1492
01:05:32,880 --> 01:05:33,680
Speaker 1: devour him.

1493
01:05:34,120 --> 01:05:36,200
Speaker 5: I've been practicing on these drywalls.

1494
01:05:36,200 --> 01:05:36,520
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1495
01:05:36,760 --> 01:05:38,040
Speaker 5: I've been coming these dogs.

1496
01:05:38,080 --> 01:05:41,000
Speaker 2: He's been building, building up the calluses on those knuckles,

1497
01:05:41,080 --> 01:05:42,160
Speaker 2: fighting the oven.

1498
01:05:41,960 --> 01:05:44,200
Speaker 3: Door like, I don't know what he's doing in there.

1499
01:05:44,200 --> 01:05:45,400
Speaker 3: And we do have another update.

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01:05:45,480 --> 01:05:47,480
Speaker 1: First of all, I would like to thank everyone for

1501
01:05:47,520 --> 01:05:50,080
Speaker 1: all their support, well wishes and for reaching out to

1502
01:05:50,160 --> 01:05:52,360
Speaker 1: check on me and Spot. It was such a relief

1503
01:05:52,400 --> 01:05:54,160
Speaker 1: to know that so many of you would have had

1504
01:05:54,240 --> 01:05:57,400
Speaker 1: the same instinctual reaction that I had in my situation.

1505
01:05:57,600 --> 01:06:00,640
Speaker 1: After many months, I finally have an update for you all.

1506
01:06:00,840 --> 01:06:04,240
Speaker 3: Entitled Bro has finally moved out. Yeah.

1507
01:06:04,400 --> 01:06:07,240
Speaker 5: Oh, However, he didn't move out until the end of July.

1508
01:06:07,560 --> 01:06:09,680
Speaker 1: He was supposed to move out by May thirty first,

1509
01:06:09,720 --> 01:06:12,240
Speaker 1: but my mother allowed him to push the date back twice.

1510
01:06:12,400 --> 01:06:15,080
Speaker 1: I wasn't pleased, but since I moved out abruptly in April,

1511
01:06:15,200 --> 01:06:17,360
Speaker 1: I couldn't let myself get worked up over it. I

1512
01:06:17,440 --> 01:06:20,640
Speaker 1: was focusing on making a safe space for Spot and myself.

1513
01:06:20,680 --> 01:06:23,360
Speaker 1: Since Entitled Bro has moved out, my mother has made

1514
01:06:23,400 --> 01:06:25,640
Speaker 1: the house her own, and I'm proud to say it

1515
01:06:25,720 --> 01:06:28,040
Speaker 1: is finally everything she envisioned it to be.

1516
01:06:28,160 --> 01:06:28,960
Speaker 5: Everyone's winning.

1517
01:06:29,120 --> 01:06:30,480
Speaker 3: Everybody is winning up in here.

1518
01:06:30,560 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 1: The house looks immaculate now that Entitled Bro isn't prouding

1519
01:06:34,280 --> 01:06:36,560
Speaker 1: her space. She's very proud of all of her home

1520
01:06:36,600 --> 01:06:39,360
Speaker 1: improvement projects and always has something new that she wants

1521
01:06:39,440 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 1: to show me when I visit. She seems so happy

1522
01:06:41,840 --> 01:06:44,680
Speaker 1: on that makes me happy. The only thing that concerns

1523
01:06:44,720 --> 01:06:49,200
Speaker 1: me is how uncharacteristically friendly, entitled bro has been acting

1524
01:06:49,240 --> 01:06:50,720
Speaker 1: with her since he moved out.

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Speaker 3: More on that later.

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01:06:51,680 --> 01:06:54,160
Speaker 1: Spot is doing so much better since we went to

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01:06:54,200 --> 01:06:56,800
Speaker 1: live with my fiance and his two German shepherds. I

1528
01:06:56,840 --> 01:06:59,640
Speaker 1: think fiance's dogs understood that Spot is older and not

1529
01:06:59,760 --> 01:07:02,440
Speaker 1: Q's white as athletic as them, but that didn't stop

1530
01:07:02,520 --> 01:07:04,520
Speaker 1: him from trying to keep up with them. After moving in,

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01:07:04,600 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 1: Spot's favorite pastimes include running around the huge yard, laying

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01:07:08,800 --> 01:07:11,200
Speaker 1: in the sun, and eating the tasty little nuggets that

1533
01:07:11,440 --> 01:07:12,360
Speaker 1: the chickens leave.

1534
01:07:12,240 --> 01:07:14,320
Speaker 3: In the yard. And yeah that's I mean, chicken poop

1535
01:07:14,400 --> 01:07:17,160
Speaker 3: grows you well, who knows, Maybe they need it.

1536
01:07:17,160 --> 01:07:18,680
Speaker 5: I don't know, Spot's a little freaky.

1537
01:07:18,920 --> 01:07:21,600
Speaker 1: Maybe they get some nutrients in there. If you have

1538
01:07:21,680 --> 01:07:23,720
Speaker 1: read this far and are wondering what took me so

1539
01:07:23,800 --> 01:07:25,960
Speaker 1: long to update, I apologize for the delay, but I

1540
01:07:26,000 --> 01:07:28,320
Speaker 1: have a good reason. My fiance and I bought our

1541
01:07:28,400 --> 01:07:33,400
Speaker 1: first home ye home ownership big steps.

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01:07:33,400 --> 01:07:33,840
Speaker 5: Seriously.

1543
01:07:33,880 --> 01:07:35,960
Speaker 1: We fell in love with a tiny little house in

1544
01:07:36,040 --> 01:07:38,640
Speaker 1: our ideal area and had been working on renovating it.

1545
01:07:38,680 --> 01:07:41,080
Speaker 1: I'm very pleased to announce that we moved in last month,

1546
01:07:41,120 --> 01:07:43,560
Speaker 1: and if that wasn't good enough news for you, here's

1547
01:07:43,600 --> 01:07:45,000
Speaker 1: the biggest announcement of all.

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01:07:45,200 --> 01:07:54,800
Speaker 3: We got married. Congratulations. I can't go any higher than

1549
01:07:54,800 --> 01:07:55,200
Speaker 3: that right now.

1550
01:07:55,720 --> 01:07:57,840
Speaker 5: So low, yeah, because I'm so low in manly Yeah

1551
01:07:57,920 --> 01:07:58,480
Speaker 5: yeah yeah.

1552
01:07:58,520 --> 01:08:00,960
Speaker 1: After all the hard work we put into the house,

1553
01:08:01,000 --> 01:08:02,800
Speaker 1: we knew it was the perfect place for us to

1554
01:08:02,880 --> 01:08:05,680
Speaker 1: tie the knot. We invited his dad, his siblings, and

1555
01:08:05,760 --> 01:08:08,040
Speaker 1: my mom over and we had a quick ceremony in

1556
01:08:08,080 --> 01:08:12,160
Speaker 1: our living room amongst unpacked boxes and mix matched furniture.

1557
01:08:12,280 --> 01:08:13,160
Speaker 3: It was perfect.

1558
01:08:13,240 --> 01:08:16,800
Speaker 1: But oh, this wouldn't be an entitled people post without

1559
01:08:16,880 --> 01:08:20,200
Speaker 1: some entitled bro stories. Here are some of the highlights,

1560
01:08:20,240 --> 01:08:22,439
Speaker 1: for lack of a better term, of what I've dealt

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01:08:22,439 --> 01:08:24,439
Speaker 1: with since my last post. For the three to four

1562
01:08:24,479 --> 01:08:28,160
Speaker 1: weeks after I moved out, entitled bro would not stop asking.

1563
01:08:27,920 --> 01:08:31,680
Speaker 3: Where's Spot, Where's my dog? Over and over. I just

1564
01:08:31,720 --> 01:08:32,320
Speaker 3: ignored him.

1565
01:08:32,320 --> 01:08:34,120
Speaker 1: But while I was silent, he said a lot of

1566
01:08:34,240 --> 01:08:36,800
Speaker 1: very revealing things, such as, I bet you won't bring

1567
01:08:36,840 --> 01:08:38,880
Speaker 1: Spot back because you were afraid I'll do the same

1568
01:08:38,880 --> 01:08:41,519
Speaker 1: thing to you through what take her, take the I guess,

1569
01:08:41,560 --> 01:08:43,519
Speaker 1: take the dog, take her, take her to the lake.

1570
01:08:43,680 --> 01:08:45,160
Speaker 5: I'm gonna take you to the lake and give you

1571
01:08:45,200 --> 01:08:47,280
Speaker 5: a nice vacation. I'm taking you to the lake, and

1572
01:08:47,320 --> 01:08:49,400
Speaker 5: you don't have any say about it. Yeah.

1573
01:08:49,640 --> 01:08:51,559
Speaker 3: Ohp clarified that she was talking about taking the dog

1574
01:08:51,600 --> 01:08:52,519
Speaker 3: because she took the dog.

1575
01:08:52,720 --> 01:08:53,360
Speaker 5: Oh okay, got it.

1576
01:08:53,400 --> 01:08:55,800
Speaker 1: He was like, I'm taking the dog to lake. She's like, yeah, right,

1577
01:08:55,840 --> 01:08:58,000
Speaker 1: I'm taking the dog to my fiancees. I wanted to

1578
01:08:58,000 --> 01:09:00,320
Speaker 1: point out that the whole reason I felt the need

1579
01:09:00,320 --> 01:09:02,680
Speaker 1: to remove Spot was because he threatened to take my

1580
01:09:02,800 --> 01:09:05,280
Speaker 1: dog without my permission. But I didn't waste my breath

1581
01:09:05,320 --> 01:09:07,960
Speaker 1: now to mention the fact that all the medication and

1582
01:09:08,000 --> 01:09:09,759
Speaker 1: all the different thing, it was just a bad idea

1583
01:09:09,840 --> 01:09:12,519
Speaker 1: to bring Spot to the lake, especially Spot doesn't like water.

1584
01:09:12,680 --> 01:09:15,639
Speaker 1: At one point, he got so worked up about this

1585
01:09:15,800 --> 01:09:18,160
Speaker 1: that he said, fine, don't tell me where Spot is.

1586
01:09:18,200 --> 01:09:22,000
Speaker 1: I'll find out, which only solidified my confidence that I

1587
01:09:22,120 --> 01:09:24,599
Speaker 1: made the right choice. A couple months ago, he had

1588
01:09:24,640 --> 01:09:27,240
Speaker 1: information that I needed in order to help our aunt

1589
01:09:27,320 --> 01:09:29,639
Speaker 1: with a task. My aunt asked him to please send

1590
01:09:29,640 --> 01:09:32,360
Speaker 1: me the info so I could complete the task for her.

1591
01:09:32,479 --> 01:09:34,920
Speaker 1: He said he would, but never sent me anything, despite

1592
01:09:34,920 --> 01:09:36,840
Speaker 1: how many times she reminded him. It got to the

1593
01:09:36,840 --> 01:09:38,880
Speaker 1: point where the deadline was getting close, so I had

1594
01:09:38,920 --> 01:09:41,200
Speaker 1: to call and text him multiple times. He refused to

1595
01:09:41,200 --> 01:09:44,920
Speaker 1: give me anything, saying that I quote needed to apologize

1596
01:09:44,920 --> 01:09:47,600
Speaker 1: for being so rude because I had the audacity to

1597
01:09:47,760 --> 01:09:50,320
Speaker 1: ask him for the information. I decided to act fed

1598
01:09:50,400 --> 01:09:52,760
Speaker 1: up and told him forget it. Someone else can do it.

1599
01:09:52,840 --> 01:09:54,840
Speaker 3: He's the one leaving your aunt out to dry well.

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01:09:54,840 --> 01:09:56,960
Speaker 2: There's nothing oh he could do. He's going to give

1601
01:09:57,040 --> 01:09:59,559
Speaker 2: the yeah, the info. I guess someone else is going

1602
01:09:59,600 --> 01:10:00,920
Speaker 2: to do it now. Yeah, thanks brother.

1603
01:10:01,160 --> 01:10:03,920
Speaker 1: I then asked my cousin Molly to text him, saying

1604
01:10:04,080 --> 01:10:06,240
Speaker 1: she was the one to contact instead. He sent the

1605
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:08,960
Speaker 1: info to her instantly, and I had Molly forward the

1606
01:10:08,960 --> 01:10:10,840
Speaker 1: information to me. The look on his face when he

1607
01:10:10,920 --> 01:10:12,840
Speaker 1: later found out I was the one who took care

1608
01:10:12,880 --> 01:10:14,479
Speaker 1: of everything for my aunt was priceless.

1609
01:10:14,520 --> 01:10:16,960
Speaker 3: He enjoyed having things to hold over my head.

1610
01:10:17,000 --> 01:10:19,439
Speaker 2: The final thing I will mention is entitled bro was

1611
01:10:19,479 --> 01:10:21,639
Speaker 2: a nightmare for my mother until the day he moved out.

1612
01:10:21,680 --> 01:10:24,320
Speaker 2: He went through many waves of giving my mom the

1613
01:10:24,360 --> 01:10:28,360
Speaker 2: silent treatment, fan angrily hounding her for quote ruining his life,

1614
01:10:28,400 --> 01:10:31,200
Speaker 2: to having personal pity parties, and saying things like he

1615
01:10:31,280 --> 01:10:32,120
Speaker 2: was so depressed and.

1616
01:10:32,080 --> 01:10:35,559
Speaker 1: He didn't want to live anymore. Oh man, Well that's rough.

1617
01:10:35,640 --> 01:10:38,040
Speaker 6: But it seems like the brother is having like a

1618
01:10:38,040 --> 01:10:41,679
Speaker 6: lot of mental struggles and is acting out and has

1619
01:10:41,760 --> 01:10:43,040
Speaker 6: just a lot going on internet.

1620
01:10:43,200 --> 01:10:46,519
Speaker 1: Definitely, I'll say this really quickly because of the angrily

1621
01:10:46,560 --> 01:10:48,599
Speaker 1: hounding his mom for ruining his life.

1622
01:10:48,640 --> 01:10:50,360
Speaker 3: One of the most freeing things we can do.

1623
01:10:50,400 --> 01:10:53,479
Speaker 1: Is people is accepting responsibility for everything that has ever

1624
01:10:53,479 --> 01:10:55,760
Speaker 1: happened to us, even if it's not our fault. And

1625
01:10:55,760 --> 01:10:59,320
Speaker 1: it's because it allows us to take ownership of our

1626
01:10:59,520 --> 01:11:02,320
Speaker 1: like the of our life, and it's you know, of course,

1627
01:11:02,360 --> 01:11:04,080
Speaker 1: not everything that happens to us is our fault, but

1628
01:11:04,120 --> 01:11:07,080
Speaker 1: by taking that responsibility, you take one hundred percent of

1629
01:11:07,120 --> 01:11:09,519
Speaker 1: the power back in your life and then you can

1630
01:11:09,600 --> 01:11:12,000
Speaker 1: navigate forward from there. But it sounds like this guy

1631
01:11:12,200 --> 01:11:15,000
Speaker 1: doesn't have any responsibility for himself. He's not taking care

1632
01:11:15,040 --> 01:11:17,680
Speaker 1: of quote his dog, which is not his dog. He's

1633
01:11:17,720 --> 01:11:19,519
Speaker 1: never taken care of it the entire time they've had it.

1634
01:11:19,560 --> 01:11:21,840
Speaker 1: So I think a nice dose of responsibility would probably

1635
01:11:21,880 --> 01:11:25,040
Speaker 1: be good for entitled brother. My mom got so fed

1636
01:11:25,160 --> 01:11:27,280
Speaker 1: up that by his moving out day she had no

1637
01:11:27,400 --> 01:11:30,600
Speaker 1: pity for him anymore. Just secondhand embarrassment. But then he

1638
01:11:30,680 --> 01:11:33,160
Speaker 1: did something very strange. He was literally in the middle

1639
01:11:33,160 --> 01:11:35,080
Speaker 1: of yelling at her and blaming her for all of

1640
01:11:35,120 --> 01:11:38,719
Speaker 1: his shortcomings, when he suddenly broke down and cried, saying

1641
01:11:38,760 --> 01:11:40,759
Speaker 1: he was so sorry for what he put her through.

1642
01:11:40,840 --> 01:11:42,760
Speaker 1: All he wants is to be loved by his mom

1643
01:11:42,800 --> 01:11:45,920
Speaker 1: and sister, and asking what would you do if I

1644
01:11:46,240 --> 01:11:48,960
Speaker 1: was unalived? My mom says she thought it was a

1645
01:11:48,960 --> 01:11:51,680
Speaker 1: miracle from God and tried to gently ask and I

1646
01:11:51,880 --> 01:11:54,400
Speaker 1: tried to gently ask her if it wasn't more likely

1647
01:11:54,439 --> 01:11:56,880
Speaker 1: that it was just a manipulation tactic. She said that

1648
01:11:56,920 --> 01:11:59,160
Speaker 1: she is choosing to believe that this is a sign

1649
01:11:59,240 --> 01:12:01,439
Speaker 1: that her son is finally changing for the better. Well,

1650
01:12:01,439 --> 01:12:03,559
Speaker 1: if it's anything, it's definitely a sign that the son

1651
01:12:03,720 --> 01:12:04,639
Speaker 1: wants to change.

1652
01:12:04,840 --> 01:12:08,120
Speaker 6: Yeah, that like he's probably just fid defenses and ways

1653
01:12:08,120 --> 01:12:11,120
Speaker 6: of acting inappropriately are kind of like falling apart, and

1654
01:12:11,160 --> 01:12:12,439
Speaker 6: he's like I need hope.

1655
01:12:12,520 --> 01:12:16,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, the facade is dropping, and he's just like, I suck,

1656
01:12:16,439 --> 01:12:16,960
Speaker 1: Please help.

1657
01:12:17,160 --> 01:12:19,519
Speaker 3: I don't know what to do. I find it very

1658
01:12:19,560 --> 01:12:22,880
Speaker 3: hard to believe that he is actually changing for the better.

1659
01:12:23,000 --> 01:12:25,360
Speaker 1: So now he acts as if he was never the

1660
01:12:25,640 --> 01:12:29,200
Speaker 1: absolute h double hockey stick spond that plagued our home

1661
01:12:29,320 --> 01:12:31,719
Speaker 1: for eight years. And my mom is so happy because

1662
01:12:31,720 --> 01:12:33,760
Speaker 1: she thinks that now her son is reform. I think

1663
01:12:33,800 --> 01:12:36,000
Speaker 1: it's more likely that he is just trying to stay

1664
01:12:36,000 --> 01:12:38,320
Speaker 1: in her good graces because he wants to use her

1665
01:12:38,520 --> 01:12:40,559
Speaker 1: as a safety net. My mom claims that she would

1666
01:12:40,600 --> 01:12:43,080
Speaker 1: never take him back in unless it was a true emergency,

1667
01:12:43,080 --> 01:12:44,840
Speaker 1: but I don't know about that. That is the only

1668
01:12:44,880 --> 01:12:47,559
Speaker 1: thing about entitled bro that makes me uneasy to this day.

1669
01:12:47,640 --> 01:12:49,720
Speaker 2: By the way, you know, it would make me the

1670
01:12:49,760 --> 01:12:52,680
Speaker 2: opposite of uneasy to me if y'all joined.

1671
01:12:52,439 --> 01:12:55,840
Speaker 1: Us when we go live every weekday at three pm

1672
01:12:56,040 --> 01:12:59,120
Speaker 1: on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch.

1673
01:12:59,200 --> 01:13:01,160
Speaker 3: Oh just tap our profile. You do have a little

1674
01:13:01,160 --> 01:13:01,720
Speaker 3: bit of story left.

1675
01:13:01,720 --> 01:13:05,160
Speaker 1: We're about to finish, but before we continue, I think

1676
01:13:05,280 --> 01:13:08,160
Speaker 1: in regards to the mom being like the brother has

1677
01:13:08,280 --> 01:13:11,040
Speaker 1: now turned over a new leave, I think you just

1678
01:13:11,080 --> 01:13:13,679
Speaker 1: have to let her have that because that's gonna allow

1679
01:13:13,840 --> 01:13:15,240
Speaker 1: her to have the most peace.

1680
01:13:16,000 --> 01:13:18,040
Speaker 3: And people do change.

1681
01:13:17,720 --> 01:13:20,640
Speaker 1: People have the capacity to change, and he may have

1682
01:13:20,680 --> 01:13:23,599
Speaker 1: reached a breaking point, and now does you know want

1683
01:13:23,640 --> 01:13:25,800
Speaker 1: to change? Other than that, I have no interest in

1684
01:13:25,840 --> 01:13:28,599
Speaker 1: dealing with him and will not be including him in anything.

1685
01:13:28,640 --> 01:13:30,840
Speaker 1: He does not have my address and my relatives know

1686
01:13:31,000 --> 01:13:33,240
Speaker 1: not to share it with him. Although I have had

1687
01:13:33,280 --> 01:13:35,639
Speaker 1: to deal with a lot of drama these past few months,

1688
01:13:35,680 --> 01:13:38,599
Speaker 1: I am so relieved that I left that tumultuous home

1689
01:13:38,640 --> 01:13:40,880
Speaker 1: life when I did. If I hadn't, I wouldn't have

1690
01:13:41,160 --> 01:13:44,000
Speaker 1: a safe space for myself or Spot. I wouldn't finally

1691
01:13:44,040 --> 01:13:46,000
Speaker 1: have a home of my own with someone who loves

1692
01:13:46,000 --> 01:13:48,439
Speaker 1: me completely, and I wouldn't have married the sweetest, most

1693
01:13:48,439 --> 01:13:51,200
Speaker 1: supportive man. I'm so grateful to be able to write

1694
01:13:51,200 --> 01:13:53,640
Speaker 1: this happy update on my couch in my home, with

1695
01:13:53,720 --> 01:13:54,479
Speaker 1: my husband at my.

1696
01:13:54,560 --> 01:13:56,680
Speaker 5: Side and my sweet Spot Dan his head in

1697
01:13:56,720 --> 01:14:00,680
Speaker 1: My lamp, finally and happy, and get that story, and

1698
01:14:00,760 --> 01:14:01,400
Speaker 1: it's a good ending.