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Speaker 1: Welcome to Unbreakable, a mental health podcast. This is Monday

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Speaker 1: Motivation with Jay Glazer. And if you're like many people,

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Speaker 1: you may be surprised to learn that one in five

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Speaker 1: adults in this country experience mental illness last year. I'm

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Speaker 1: definitely one of those people, Yet far too many failed

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Speaker 1: to receive the support they need. Caryl and Behavioral Health

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Speaker 1: is doing something about it. They understand that behavioral health

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Speaker 1: is a key part of whole health, delivering compassionate care

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Speaker 1: that treats physical, mental, emotional, and social needs in tandem.

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Speaker 1: Caryl and Behavioral Health raising the quality of life, empathy

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Speaker 1: and action. Today, Gang, I want to kind of dive

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Speaker 1: into what I do on those days when I am

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Speaker 1: really struggling. Now, the gray has different levels. It's pretty

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Speaker 1: much a chore for me to get out of bed

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Speaker 1: every single morning. My grave depression anxiety is that strong.

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Speaker 1: But I'm gonna make that choice. Once I make that

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Speaker 1: choice to get out of bed, I then make the

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Speaker 1: choice to be relentless. But there are some days, man,

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Speaker 1: that beast just gets out of the box. And sometimes

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Speaker 1: it hits in the middle of the night and then

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Speaker 1: I can't go back to sleep. And when it gets

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Speaker 1: out of the box. It really gets me to feel

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Speaker 1: that my world is coming to an end, nothing good

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Speaker 1: where it will ever happen to me again. People are

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Speaker 1: angry at me, People hate me, people don't want to

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Speaker 1: hear about my problems. The universe is kind of through

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Speaker 1: with me. It's a really bad place to be. But

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Speaker 1: I'm a fighter and I fight back. So I've learned

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Speaker 1: new tools over the years now, and especially since coming

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Speaker 1: out with the book Unbreakable, How I turn my depression

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Speaker 1: design and motivation and you can't too. I've learned so

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Speaker 1: many new things how to deal with this gray instead

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Speaker 1: of just being a victim of the gray. And one

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Speaker 1: of the things I now do when the gray gets

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Speaker 1: really really deep on me is I will call four

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Speaker 1: friends of mine and just tell them, Man, I have

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Speaker 1: struggling today. I just tell gray beast out out of

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Speaker 1: the box. I am just freaking struggling. Today sucks. And

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Speaker 1: that's me leaning into my teammates. And I lean into

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Speaker 1: all sorts of different teamates. By the way, everybody I

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Speaker 1: lean into, they've all been there for me. The Rock,

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Speaker 1: the busiest, most famous doing the planet. If I tell

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Speaker 1: him I'm struggling, he drops what he does, and we

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Speaker 1: start messaging each other immediately, something I hid from Michael

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Speaker 1: Strahand for so many years. Now when it's bad, I

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Speaker 1: will reach out to him. And I was always embarrassed

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Speaker 1: with strand for years, but now I'm like, dude. In fact,

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Speaker 1: we're in Bamas, my girl Rosie, and him and his

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Speaker 1: girl and his parent, his mom and daughters, and I

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Speaker 1: just to it. Middle of the afternoon. He was out

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Speaker 1: playing golf and oh man, he's just got out of

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Speaker 1: the box. And I said to him, bro, I'm in

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Speaker 1: a bad way right now. He's like, I'm on sixteenth hole,

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Speaker 1: be back in two holes. I got you. We'll talk

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Speaker 1: so your people want to be there for you. And

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Speaker 1: then I've called two other people, So I call four

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Speaker 1: people to tell them I'm struggling. And one of the

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Speaker 1: things you have to be convinced of is it's never

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Speaker 1: gonna get old. You're never going to say, oh stop,

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Speaker 1: this guy's calling the game. And at least that hasn't

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Speaker 1: been my experience. Okay, However, after I call those four

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Speaker 1: people that's my teammates, I then call four other people,

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Speaker 1: don't tell them that I'm struggling, just to check up

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Speaker 1: on them, and that's being of service, and being of

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Speaker 1: service truly healthy through the gray to the blue. So

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Speaker 1: I'll just call four dudes and go, hey, man, I

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Speaker 1: was just thinking about you. You're on my mind. You okay?

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Speaker 1: Everything good? I was just thinking about you, man. I

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Speaker 1: just want to make sure you're all right. And a

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Speaker 1: lot of times I would say three out of four times,

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Speaker 1: some of them go, oh man, it's good that you

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Speaker 1: called today. Dude. Yeah, I didn't really know how to

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Speaker 1: talk to about this, and there's something you could be

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Speaker 1: there for somebody. Four. So that's my immediate action plan. Now.

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Speaker 1: When I'm stuck in the worst gray, I call four

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Speaker 1: people those are my teammates to tell them are really struggling,

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Speaker 1: and I call four others just to check up on them.

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Speaker 1: And that's my way of being of service. By the

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Speaker 1: time those eight calls are done, at nowhere else to

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Speaker 1: fight and the blue starts shining through, it's way better

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Speaker 1: existence for me, I think, way better existence for all

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Speaker 1: of us. And as I start learning more and more

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Speaker 1: of these, I'm going to share more and more of

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Speaker 1: these as well, because we need to fight back together.

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Speaker 1: We need to walk this walk together. The bigger our

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Speaker 1: team is the more we realize we're not the minority anymore,

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Speaker 1: we're in the majority, the more the gray will hide

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Speaker 1: and run away. Let's keep walking this walk together