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Speaker 1: Here it is Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject is

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Speaker 1: he here from me or just the baby? Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I am a twenty seven year old woman and I

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Speaker 1: He has a lot of drama in his life. You

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