1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:12,520 Speaker 1: Welcome to Thursday Show Morning studio. 2 00:00:13,480 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 2: Everybody's here. I have a call here from Bobby and 3 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:20,119 Speaker 2: Illinois who wants to give us an update. So let's 4 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:22,279 Speaker 2: go over to Bobby first. Hey, Bobby, you're giving us 5 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 2: an update on what exactly. 6 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 3: I called a couple of weeks ago and talk to 7 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,880 Speaker 3: you about advice on my dad, who has a heart condition. 8 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:34,320 Speaker 2: You remember this conversation, Oh, and he was working hself 9 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 2: to death, and you're like, how do I get him 10 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 2: to stop working so hard? I do, remember, Yeah, how'd 11 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 2: that go? 12 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 3: Yeah? So I took your advice and I talked to 13 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 3: him and used the kids as leverage, And a couple 14 00:00:49,080 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 3: of days later he got a doctor's appointment and his 15 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 3: doctor told told him that he needed to slow down. 16 00:00:55,280 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 3: So he has. He has given me more responsibility on 17 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 3: the farm. We have just a little little farm with 18 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 3: seven head of cattle and a couple of horses. So 19 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:11,080 Speaker 3: I've been taking care of a lot of stuff up there. 20 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 3: He didn't go out and try to plow snow or 21 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 3: shovel snow. This winter. He turned down a job opportunity 22 00:01:19,560 --> 00:01:23,360 Speaker 3: that he had to go drive a truck, and he 23 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 3: says that this summer he's going to cut back on 24 00:01:25,760 --> 00:01:29,080 Speaker 3: his garden because he raises a huge garden. 25 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:33,559 Speaker 2: So in your mind, that's a win, right right. Okay, 26 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:36,200 Speaker 2: So here's the secondary advice I would give you because 27 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:38,320 Speaker 2: I love it, and for those that did not hear 28 00:01:38,360 --> 00:01:40,640 Speaker 2: the first segment, like, his dad has a heart condition 29 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:45,000 Speaker 2: and his dad just work, work, works, And you're not 30 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 2: going to get your dad to completely stop working, but 31 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 2: he is limiting his physical activity. It sounds like. And 32 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 2: all I said was leverage the grand kids. That's about 33 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 2: the only thing that's going to get him to reconsider. 34 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:57,200 Speaker 3: Now. 35 00:01:57,240 --> 00:02:00,320 Speaker 2: The only other advice I would give you now is 36 00:02:00,320 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 2: if he stops so much, it's gonna be like when 37 00:02:03,160 --> 00:02:06,279 Speaker 2: I go no sugar, and now I go no sugar 38 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 2: for like two or three weeks, and then week four 39 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:12,240 Speaker 2: there's eleven cupcakes going right down the throat because I've 40 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 2: had no sugar. So if I don't do things in moderation, 41 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 2: I'm going to fall off the wagon and just go 42 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:22,959 Speaker 2: back to crushing it. So make sure your dad doesn't 43 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 2: completely reverse course and not work so much that he 44 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:30,360 Speaker 2: just gets burnout on not working and has to go 45 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 2: back into it. Like to find that balance will be 46 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 2: the key to keeping him healthy. Am I explaining myself 47 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 2: in a way that that's not confusing. Yes? 48 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 3: And I told him, I said, Dad, I don't want 49 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 3: you to just completely stop. I want you to have some, 50 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:50,799 Speaker 3: but not all, of the responsibility. Yeah, and he's still 51 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 3: going to raise his garden. He's still we do the 52 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 3: farm stuff together now, but he is more apt to 53 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 3: let me join him and not just take it all 54 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:05,280 Speaker 3: into his hands and onto his shoulders. 55 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 2: Love it if you can get like a twenty six 56 00:03:07,200 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 2: percent decrease from him and his physical activity does a 57 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 2: major win, and then it'll slowly back off from there. 58 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:14,920 Speaker 2: Well that's great, Bobby. I appreciate you calling, and I 59 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:17,360 Speaker 2: hope this works out long term for you and your 60 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:20,359 Speaker 2: dad and your kids. And thanks for listening to the. 61 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 3: Show, No problem, Thank you, Love you guys. 62 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 2: Appreciate that. Hope you have a great day. 63 00:03:24,480 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 3: I listened to the podcast while I drive a semi 64 00:03:27,560 --> 00:03:28,919 Speaker 3: for fourteen hours. 65 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 2: A day, so I felt that I drove some one. 66 00:03:30,520 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 3: You'd be a pretty good company. 67 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:33,519 Speaker 2: Had a CD, I thought I was gonna kill everybody 68 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:33,880 Speaker 2: on the road. 69 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 4: Is by once you literally mean like once? 70 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 2: Well no more than that a cdo I had to 71 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 2: do it for like three days. Okay, so we shout 72 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 2: the show over three days, but I like a Chattanooga. 73 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 2: I'm driving an eighteen wheeler, a freaking trailer full of 74 00:03:43,840 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 2: eggs truckers. Truck drivers have the hardest job because people 75 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 2: just consider that to be like part of the road 76 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 2: and they're weaving in and out. When if that truck 77 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 2: hits you or anybody else, probably gonna kill you and 78 00:03:56,400 --> 00:04:00,280 Speaker 2: gonna absolutely stop traffic and all those goods. I gotta 79 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,960 Speaker 2: get to their place. So justice for trucker is what 80 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 2: I say. Think I'm gonna get that tattoo in my back. 81 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:09,040 Speaker 2: I want to go to Ben in Arkansas calling we 82 00:04:09,080 --> 00:04:12,880 Speaker 2: appreciate that Ben, what's going on studio? Morning? 83 00:04:13,200 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 5: I was on my way to work and I had 84 00:04:16,040 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 5: a bald eagle fly over my head and called my wife, 85 00:04:20,040 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 5: pulled my wife about it. It was cool live in Arkansas, 86 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:25,040 Speaker 5: so used to seeing him, didn't think nothing about it. 87 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 5: Eagles one Sunday, and then on my work way to 88 00:04:28,120 --> 00:04:32,440 Speaker 5: work yesterday in almost the exact same spot, Amy was 89 00:04:32,480 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 5: talking about seeing the Eagles fly out of the sun 90 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 5: and said, the Eagles, We're going to win the Super Bowl. 91 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:41,000 Speaker 5: And I decided to go ahead and go put a 92 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:43,480 Speaker 5: bed on the Eagles to win the Super Bowl. 93 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 2: Oh okay, good for you man. They're basically it's a 94 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 2: it's a coin toss, right as far as the odds, 95 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:53,160 Speaker 2: I think the Chiefs are a point and a half 96 00:04:53,200 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 2: favorite last time. I look, that's that's nothing. So I 97 00:04:56,360 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 2: hope for your I don't I got much money on cheaps. 98 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 6: You doing this is for fun, like we're not. 99 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 2: It's whole mortgage. He saw an eagle and he's betting 100 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:08,720 Speaker 2: it all. Yeah, okay, how significant of a bet has 101 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 2: it been? 102 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 5: I just bet one hundred dollars. 103 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:13,719 Speaker 2: That's already significant. Okay. Well, I hope you win. I 104 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 2: hope you see that. The crazy thing was, I was 105 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 2: driving to work this morning and saw an Indian chief 106 00:05:17,760 --> 00:05:20,040 Speaker 2: on the side of the road. So take that as 107 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 2: you will. 108 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:23,919 Speaker 4: M okay with a peace pipe, all right, take it 109 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 4: as you will. 110 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:26,479 Speaker 2: So thank you, Ben, thank you for listening. I hope 111 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:28,479 Speaker 2: you have a great rest of the day. And I 112 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:30,920 Speaker 2: hope the Eagles. I don't hope they win. I'ma be 113 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 2: honest with you. I want to see some nice but 114 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:33,720 Speaker 2: I hope they lose. But I hope for your sake 115 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 2: that you enjoyed the super Bowl. All right, thank you, 116 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 2: all right, bye bye all theaugh amy psychic prediction, even 117 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 2: before she knew they had won their last game, said 118 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 2: the Eagles were gonna win the super Bowl. 119 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 4: All right, we're here. 120 00:05:52,600 --> 00:06:02,600 Speaker 2: There's a question to be Hello, Bobby Bones, I bought 121 00:06:02,600 --> 00:06:04,599 Speaker 2: a TV a couple of weeks ago. I'm hosting a 122 00:06:04,640 --> 00:06:07,560 Speaker 2: Super Bowl party. I went with the biggest and clearest picture. 123 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 2: There's a little out of my price range. But to 124 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 2: be honest, I never planned on keeping it. My wife 125 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:14,919 Speaker 2: thought the purchase was ridiculous when I told her, but 126 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 2: then she thought it was even shadier when I said 127 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 2: I'd be returning it after the game within the return window. 128 00:06:21,320 --> 00:06:24,480 Speaker 2: Should I return the TV like I planned? Or do 129 00:06:24,560 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 2: the right thing and take it back earlier than the 130 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:32,279 Speaker 2: game like my wife insists big screen bill, Okay, this 131 00:06:32,360 --> 00:06:36,400 Speaker 2: is shady. I don't like it. There is deception involved, 132 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 2: Therefore it is dishonest. He even called it the right 133 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 2: thing because his wife, like my wife, usually knows the 134 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 2: right thing to do. Yeah, so I have like the 135 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:45,560 Speaker 2: thing to do, and she has the right thing to do. 136 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 2: I don't have. Mine's the wrong thing that hers is 137 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:50,360 Speaker 2: usually the right thing. I don't like doing it. Somewhere 138 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:52,600 Speaker 2: there's an integrity scoreboard, and I'd like to have the 139 00:06:52,640 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 2: good points over on the integrity scoreboard. I would keep 140 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:01,039 Speaker 2: the TV if you can afford it like that. I 141 00:07:01,040 --> 00:07:03,359 Speaker 2: know that's not one of the real options here, but 142 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 2: you should. You already paid for it. Keep the TV. 143 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:08,360 Speaker 2: The other two options are take it back after the 144 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 2: super Bowl or the wife says, take it back now 145 00:07:11,040 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 2: before the game. So in order I would go keep 146 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 2: it and figure out how to pay it off. Take 147 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 2: it back after the game, I know, but if you're 148 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 2: gonna shady, might as well. He's it for the game. 149 00:07:22,280 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 2: I wouldn't be shady, but if I did, I would 150 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:26,400 Speaker 2: not take it back now. I would take it back 151 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 2: after the game. But again, if you've never used it, 152 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 2: I guess there's there's a point there. If he's not 153 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 2: turned it on yet and he takes it back, it's different. 154 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 6: That's totally fine. Yeah, I think that if he uses 155 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:36,000 Speaker 6: it for the super. 156 00:07:35,760 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 4: Bowl, you're right, you're so unattractive. 157 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 2: He's already married. Yeah, I think you're probably if the TV, 158 00:07:44,320 --> 00:07:46,120 Speaker 2: if you haven't used it at all, I think you 159 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 2: take it back before you use it if like you've 160 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 2: already set it up, you get ready for the big game, 161 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 2: you've you know, watched a couple of shows on it. 162 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 2: You just keep it and watch the game and take 163 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:58,200 Speaker 2: it back. But I think you buy the TV. You 164 00:07:58,200 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 2: figure out to buy the TV. It's a little lout 165 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 2: your price range. You said that, figure out how to 166 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 2: make up for it. Buy the TV so you're not 167 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 2: doing dirty dog things. 168 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 4: If you're having a super Bowl party, can you have 169 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 4: a jar? 170 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 2: So hilarious TV fun You couldn't, And I think your 171 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 2: buddies would think that was actually funny. 172 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 6: Like my wife said, I was supposed to return this 173 00:08:18,880 --> 00:08:19,360 Speaker 6: and I did it. 174 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:20,880 Speaker 2: I think if you told the whole story and a 175 00:08:20,960 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 2: text message to all your buddies, I think willingly guys 176 00:08:23,880 --> 00:08:25,360 Speaker 2: would drop twenty bucks in that totally. 177 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 4: What would you do if you got a text message 178 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 4: like that for. 179 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 2: A friend, he'd laugh. I would think it was hilarious. 180 00:08:30,920 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 2: I would go, ha, you're shady. I thought better of you. 181 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 2: But if I'm coming to your house, I'm happy to 182 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:40,120 Speaker 2: put some money in the jar. So I would say, 183 00:08:40,160 --> 00:08:42,760 Speaker 2: try to buy the TV. Secondly, take it back if 184 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:46,400 Speaker 2: you haven't opened it, then Thirdly, but this is not 185 00:08:46,480 --> 00:08:48,439 Speaker 2: a cool thing, but this is something lunchbox would do. 186 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 7: I feel, Oh, big screen bill, nine am, the dad's 187 00:08:51,240 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 7: with the super Bowl. You are waiting at those doors 188 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 7: to return that TV. Sorry, guys, a little too big 189 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 7: doesn't fit in my space. Used though, doesn't matter. They 190 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 7: get give you a return window for a reason. They 191 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 7: want you to go home, try it out, see if 192 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 7: it fits in with the paintings on the wall, the decor. 193 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 7: And maybe it's just too a little a little too bright, 194 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 7: it's too shiny. 195 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:12,720 Speaker 2: I don't know any reason. 196 00:09:12,960 --> 00:09:15,040 Speaker 7: Just take it back day after the super Bowl, enjoy 197 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 7: the game on the big screen, and get one of 198 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:18,559 Speaker 7: your money back. 199 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 3: You know. 200 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,200 Speaker 2: Problem roll on their eyes that people bringing TVs back 201 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,200 Speaker 2: after the super Bowl and nine am like you, there's 202 00:09:23,280 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 2: like eight dudes all with TVs and they're. 203 00:09:26,160 --> 00:09:27,520 Speaker 4: Like fingerprints all over it. 204 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 2: Yes, good luck, take it back, No buy it, then 205 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:38,120 Speaker 2: take it back. The segment is for Amy and only 206 00:09:38,160 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 2: amytie all. 207 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 5: The dun Hani all the time. 208 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 6: So I highly recommend having a code word if you're 209 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:51,040 Speaker 6: in any kind of relationship. My ex husband and I 210 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 6: just came up with one for co parenting conversations and 211 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 6: it really has helped. Like I straight up ended a 212 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 6: conversation the other day by just yelling out the word pickle, 213 00:09:59,760 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 6: and then and he said, okay, by and. 214 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:01,640 Speaker 4: He hung up. 215 00:10:02,240 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 2: Okay, I need more information about why the word pickle, 216 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:07,160 Speaker 2: and like, is it if you're fighting something? I don't know. 217 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:07,600 Speaker 4: It's not. 218 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:11,320 Speaker 6: I wouldn't call it so much like a fight fight, 219 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 6: but more if there's tension on the line or in 220 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:17,920 Speaker 6: person or however you're having the conversation, it means that 221 00:10:18,080 --> 00:10:20,440 Speaker 6: we need a breather. We need to step away because 222 00:10:20,840 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 6: we're not going to be productive with this conversation until 223 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:27,199 Speaker 6: we take some space, and then when we reconvene, we'll 224 00:10:27,240 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 6: likely be able to come up with a better result. 225 00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 6: Or it was like we're just wasting each other's time 226 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:33,800 Speaker 6: if we keep talking, because we're just not in a 227 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:34,360 Speaker 6: good place. 228 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:37,760 Speaker 2: So if you yell pickle, he knows, or you know, 229 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:40,040 Speaker 2: if he says pickle to shut it down. 230 00:10:40,320 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 6: Yeah, And for us, pickle came up organically. It was 231 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:46,360 Speaker 6: actually like the day before the call, we discussed needing 232 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 6: a code word. We're like, it's almost like we need 233 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:50,320 Speaker 6: a code word, but we never finalized what that was. 234 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:52,960 Speaker 6: I don't even remember what words were thrown out. But 235 00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 6: then the next day it was almost like we were 236 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,280 Speaker 6: having a few days of just really struggling with communication. 237 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 6: And I think that we are fairly good communicators, so 238 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 6: I'd say ninety eight percent of the time we're pretty 239 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:05,920 Speaker 6: solid our co parenting. But I mean when that two 240 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 6: percent hits, it is just it's rough. And so the 241 00:11:10,120 --> 00:11:11,439 Speaker 6: next day we were on a call and I was like, 242 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:12,880 Speaker 6: what's our code Word's our code word? 243 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:13,320 Speaker 4: And I don't know. 244 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:16,640 Speaker 6: Just out of nowhere, I just blurted out pickle. And 245 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:20,440 Speaker 6: he knew, like, oh, this must be what we've come 246 00:11:20,520 --> 00:11:22,440 Speaker 6: up with, and so he just said okay, bye and 247 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 6: hung up, and I was like, wow, that went well. 248 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 6: And so now we have our word and it's pickle, 249 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 6: and we haven't had to use it since. But in 250 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 6: the future, I know, if we have to bust out 251 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 6: the word. 252 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 4: Pickle, we know what to do. 253 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 6: Okay bye. It's not disrespectful. No one's just hanging up. 254 00:11:37,320 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 4: You're just like okay, pause, bye, talk to you later. 255 00:11:40,280 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 2: I think if it were me having to use that word, 256 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 2: much like when I was thirteen, I would have used 257 00:11:44,280 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 2: a pickle I give you for any reason to get 258 00:11:46,400 --> 00:11:46,760 Speaker 2: out of it. 259 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:50,000 Speaker 6: No, no, no, no no, Because when you're co parenting, you're 260 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,559 Speaker 6: trying to co parent effectively. You have to have conversations. 261 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:54,640 Speaker 6: So you can't just constantly be blurting out the word pickle, 262 00:11:54,720 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 6: or you'll never get anything done. 263 00:11:55,920 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 2: Or if I was losing and like I knew, I 264 00:11:58,520 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 2: was pick. 265 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 4: All, that's abuse of us. 266 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 2: Here's a pickle, trust me, been there a pickle? 267 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 6: We know this is supposed to be to help you 268 00:12:07,440 --> 00:12:10,520 Speaker 6: in times that are just getting a little you know 269 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,559 Speaker 6: you're getting off the path and you need to get 270 00:12:12,559 --> 00:12:14,280 Speaker 6: back on the path that sometimes you need to pause, 271 00:12:14,320 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 6: take a breather, and then continue. 272 00:12:16,920 --> 00:12:19,600 Speaker 2: Can you use pickle if you know that you're just 273 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:21,000 Speaker 2: not having a good day and it has nothing to 274 00:12:21,040 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 2: do with what the situation is, and you know you're 275 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 2: not thinking rationally. 276 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 6: I mean, I guess you could just if you already 277 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 6: know you're not in a good headspace, you could just don't. 278 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 4: You don't even need to Can you pre pickle pickle? 279 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 6: I guess you could pre pickle, but you don't need 280 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 6: to yell out pickle. Pickle is for those dire moments. 281 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,840 Speaker 6: I would think if you have that self awareness, then 282 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:42,800 Speaker 6: at the beginning of the call, or when you're trying 283 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:44,680 Speaker 6: to text to arrange a call, like, Hey, I'm just 284 00:12:44,720 --> 00:12:45,839 Speaker 6: not in a good headspace today. 285 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:48,079 Speaker 4: Can we pump this to tomorrow? 286 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 2: Great, Pickle, this till tomorrow. So what if the show, 287 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 2: what if it's like one of these segments we get 288 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 2: into and I'm like, oh my god, this is not 289 00:12:54,679 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 2: going well. Can I just yell Pickle? And when Ray 290 00:12:57,840 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 2: hits the button and gets us out of here? 291 00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:01,960 Speaker 6: Sure, I'm I mean whatever. You can make it a 292 00:13:01,960 --> 00:13:03,959 Speaker 6: different word if you want to. I just think that 293 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 6: in any relationship. I found that this worked well for 294 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 6: us the other day, and now we have a word, 295 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:10,479 Speaker 6: and it really. 296 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 4: Was so great. He handled it so great. Like I 297 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:15,160 Speaker 4: yelled at Pickle, he said, okay, bye, we hung up. 298 00:13:15,480 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 4: We talked the next day. 299 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:17,680 Speaker 2: Maybe you thought you were going over. 300 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 4: Okay, no, okay, okay, no, no, no, no, no. 301 00:13:21,720 --> 00:13:23,959 Speaker 2: I think it's great, all seriousness. I think that's great. 302 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:27,839 Speaker 2: Everybody has and everybody I should do it to build 303 00:13:27,920 --> 00:13:30,320 Speaker 2: more effective communication techniques. I love that you guys found 304 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 2: something that works for you. Now it's going to. 305 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:34,559 Speaker 6: Be really really hard for me though, as if even 306 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 6: if I yell out hickel and he says, Okay, bye. 307 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 6: I might be like, wait, but I have one more 308 00:13:39,160 --> 00:13:41,720 Speaker 6: thing to say. But you know the rule of the 309 00:13:41,760 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 6: word is when the word is said, you. 310 00:13:44,280 --> 00:13:44,840 Speaker 2: Just hang up. 311 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 6: Yeah. 312 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:47,079 Speaker 2: You It's like run from a. 313 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:50,280 Speaker 6: Grenade, right, okay bye, and just be done with it 314 00:13:50,320 --> 00:13:52,640 Speaker 6: because you know you've hit a limit where you may 315 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:55,760 Speaker 6: say something you regret or you're just again, like I said, 316 00:13:55,760 --> 00:13:56,839 Speaker 6: wasting each other's time. 317 00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 2: Are you sure? 318 00:13:57,640 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 6: You and Caitlin like maybe sometimes need to just. 319 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:00,720 Speaker 2: Meaning I'm pickle. 320 00:14:01,760 --> 00:14:02,640 Speaker 4: Oh okay. 321 00:14:03,240 --> 00:14:06,480 Speaker 2: Usually if I say pickle on pointing somewhere, okay. 322 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:06,679 Speaker 5: They go. 323 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:13,440 Speaker 2: I would say in high school when some if I 324 00:14:13,480 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 2: was on pump return and no one catches the ball, 325 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 2: you yell Peter, and everybody runs away because you don't 326 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,560 Speaker 2: want the ball hitting the person, them not knowing it, 327 00:14:22,600 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 2: and the other team getting to recover it. So you 328 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:26,440 Speaker 2: know Peter. I think the reason you know Peter because 329 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:28,000 Speaker 2: Peter's like a wiener, and it was like everybody run away 330 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 2: from the wiener. I'm almost positive that's why it was. 331 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 2: But it was always Peter, like all through me playing 332 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:35,520 Speaker 2: high school ball. Even when we go work with these colleges, 333 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:37,600 Speaker 2: they yell Peter. They get away from the ball. That's 334 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:39,920 Speaker 2: gotta be it, right. So if I yell Peter, that 335 00:14:40,000 --> 00:14:43,800 Speaker 2: means we're just gonna shut the bit down right capeche pay. 336 00:14:43,880 --> 00:14:45,280 Speaker 4: Anyone'll no no. 337 00:14:45,080 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 2: No, that we'll go off the rails. So Peter will 338 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 2: be our new word. If I'm like, we got to 339 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 2: get out of Peter Ray, then you hit the you 340 00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:52,920 Speaker 2: hit the teacher, women, we get us out of here. 341 00:14:52,960 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 2: We'll just test it right now, and you can hit 342 00:14:54,400 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 2: Amy all the time. Emmy. I like it that. That 343 00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:58,560 Speaker 2: feels like an effective communication technique. I love that you 344 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 2: guys are working on that, your co parenting in a positive, 345 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:08,720 Speaker 2: effective way. And Peter all the time, Amy all the time. 346 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 2: It's time for the good news. 347 00:15:15,800 --> 00:15:19,440 Speaker 6: Interest in women's sports is on the rise, all in 348 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 6: like the gen Z category, but also in men. 349 00:15:22,600 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I Kaitlin Clark am a favorite American athlete. 350 00:15:25,840 --> 00:15:28,360 Speaker 6: So gen Z's interest in women's sports it's growing. It's 351 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:31,200 Speaker 6: up eleven percent since twenty twenty two. 352 00:15:31,440 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 2: All from Kaitlin Clark. I'm telling you all from Kaitlin Clark. 353 00:15:34,040 --> 00:15:36,320 Speaker 4: Yeah. Probably, yeah, that's what they're saying. 354 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:39,520 Speaker 6: My dad always loved women's basketball, so I feel like, 355 00:15:39,600 --> 00:15:41,760 Speaker 6: oh man, what a time to be alive, he would say. 356 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:43,640 Speaker 2: The two people I give credit to, and there are 357 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:45,480 Speaker 2: a lot of people behind the scenes we don't know of, 358 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 2: are Kaitlin Clark and DJ Gasso, assistant softball coach University 359 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:51,880 Speaker 2: of Arkansas. 360 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, but okay, my. 361 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 2: Brother in law. 362 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 7: Yeah. 363 00:15:55,120 --> 00:15:58,960 Speaker 2: Who you know softball makes raizorback softball fan. 364 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, and your men are increasingly paying attention to the 365 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:02,840 Speaker 4: w NBA. 366 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:07,720 Speaker 2: So and assistant coach women's are parking softball? Yeah? So, 367 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:11,240 Speaker 2: Kaylyn Clark and DJ Gasso shout outs women's sports. 368 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 6: Women's sports. I think it's more of the team. This 369 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:16,280 Speaker 6: is about women. DJ's a man, but DJ. 370 00:16:16,160 --> 00:16:18,080 Speaker 2: Is a coach for womenmen, the leader of women. 371 00:16:18,160 --> 00:16:20,520 Speaker 4: I know, I get that, but this is about women. 372 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:23,200 Speaker 2: He's my brother in law. Okay, anyway, what. 373 00:16:23,200 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 4: About his mom. Let's give his mom and a shout 374 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:25,560 Speaker 4: out because she's a woman. 375 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:29,080 Speaker 2: She has well, all moms are women. Yeah, Coach Gaso, 376 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:31,000 Speaker 2: forget it, Coach DJ Gasso. 377 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 4: No, Well, what's her first name? 378 00:16:32,560 --> 00:16:35,200 Speaker 2: Don't matter. I'm a DJ Gaso gat myself. Yeah, I 379 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:37,640 Speaker 2: mean Patty. She's won like a million national championships. But 380 00:16:37,680 --> 00:16:39,880 Speaker 2: you know what, I'm more of a dj Gasso. Guy. Okay, 381 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 2: thank you, that's a great story. No, seriously, I am invested. 382 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 2: I have the WNBA League Pass. What does that mean 383 00:16:47,320 --> 00:16:49,120 Speaker 2: I have access to every game on Amazon? 384 00:16:49,280 --> 00:16:50,560 Speaker 4: Oh, you can watch it all? 385 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:53,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I just watched the fever for the most part. 386 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:55,880 Speaker 2: Sometimes the Las Vegas Aces if I wanted to lose, 387 00:16:55,880 --> 00:16:59,240 Speaker 2: but that's about it. Okay, occasionally the sparks. But see 388 00:16:59,280 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 2: even that, I know. Oh that is wild. 389 00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:01,480 Speaker 7: That's cool. 390 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 2: All right, that's it. That's what it's all about. That 391 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:09,480 Speaker 2: was telling me something good. There's a disease called pintherophobia. 392 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 2: They say men and women both suffer from it. They 393 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:13,719 Speaker 2: don't share a lot of times they do suffer from it. 394 00:17:13,840 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 2: They're encouraging people not to be scared to say they 395 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:19,960 Speaker 2: have pintherophobia. But pintherophobia is the intense fear of your 396 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 2: mother in law. Oh wow, yep, let's go around now, 397 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:27,280 Speaker 2: Lunchbox's your mother in law. You've had many stories about her. 398 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:30,040 Speaker 2: They stayed at your house for how long? Oh, two weeks, man, 399 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:33,880 Speaker 2: two weeks? And how many days were you actually comfortable 400 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:37,800 Speaker 2: with them staying? Probably about four four days and they 401 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:42,600 Speaker 2: stayed fourteen They stayed fourteen days. Man fourteen. Do you 402 00:17:42,640 --> 00:17:46,120 Speaker 2: feel like you have pintherophobia? I wouldn't say. 403 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:49,480 Speaker 7: I'm fearful of my mother in law. It can get 404 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:54,439 Speaker 7: uncomfortable at times. It's awkward. She hits on me, she 405 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 7: makes weird comments. She accuses me of smoking weed. I mean, 406 00:17:58,359 --> 00:17:59,000 Speaker 7: it's just weird. 407 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 2: That's a lot of different things, and they had nothing 408 00:18:03,320 --> 00:18:05,000 Speaker 2: to do with each other. I don't think she really 409 00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:07,399 Speaker 2: hits on you. I think you doesn't interpret any female 410 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 2: talking to you is hitting on you. Maybe maybe she 411 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:13,400 Speaker 2: was smoking. Yeah. 412 00:18:13,440 --> 00:18:16,880 Speaker 7: We were at their house for Thanksgiving one year and 413 00:18:17,080 --> 00:18:20,200 Speaker 7: I left to go do something. And then I came 414 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:24,560 Speaker 7: back and we're sitting in the living room and she goes, sure, 415 00:18:24,600 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 7: smells like weed, and there's only one person that left. 416 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:32,440 Speaker 2: Dang. And I was just like, what did she think 417 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:34,080 Speaker 2: she was kidding? I thought she was kidding. 418 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 7: No, and that's what I said, And I thought she 419 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:40,040 Speaker 7: was kidding. And my wife goes, oh, that's funny. She goes, well, 420 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 7: he is the only one that left. After she looked 421 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,119 Speaker 7: right at me and I was like, Okay, she wasn't joking. 422 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:47,680 Speaker 2: It was very awkward, like she knows you. But if 423 00:18:47,680 --> 00:18:51,160 Speaker 2: you just looked at you and didn't know you. You'd think that, Yeah, 424 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:56,000 Speaker 2: I get it a lot. Yeah, but you don't. No, Amy, 425 00:18:56,240 --> 00:18:57,920 Speaker 2: you're I don't know ex mother in law. 426 00:18:58,359 --> 00:19:00,399 Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I still text with her all the 427 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,080 Speaker 6: time and my ex father in law. 428 00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:05,439 Speaker 4: But I know that this is focusing on the mom. 429 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:08,000 Speaker 6: And we had a great relationship the whole time, and 430 00:19:08,040 --> 00:19:09,800 Speaker 6: she's still the grandmother of my children. 431 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:13,480 Speaker 4: She'll always be in my life. Yeah, we have a Yeah. 432 00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:15,600 Speaker 4: I saw her over Christmas break. 433 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:17,359 Speaker 6: We were all in Colorado at the same time, and 434 00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:19,280 Speaker 6: I my sister and I went and met them at 435 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:21,439 Speaker 6: my sister's coffee shop and had coffee with them, and 436 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:22,520 Speaker 6: it was great to catch up. 437 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:24,200 Speaker 4: And she's still she texted me. 438 00:19:24,160 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 6: Most every morning and every night, just like a little 439 00:19:26,040 --> 00:19:27,280 Speaker 6: Mooji's like heart and works. 440 00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:30,400 Speaker 4: No, that's too much love and prayer, just real quick 441 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 4: love and prays. 442 00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 6: Yeah, that's when she's praying for us, and I love that, 443 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:38,480 Speaker 6: Like it's just sweet and I just double tap it 444 00:19:38,560 --> 00:19:40,600 Speaker 6: or I give a heart back and or sometimes we'll 445 00:19:40,640 --> 00:19:43,760 Speaker 6: text about more in depth stuff, but most time it's 446 00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:46,320 Speaker 6: just thinking of you, guys, praying for you. Let me 447 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:49,480 Speaker 6: know if the kids need prayer about anything specific. She's 448 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:50,400 Speaker 6: very thoughtful that way. 449 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 2: How does your ex feel about you and his mom 450 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 2: still be in BFF? 451 00:19:56,400 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 6: Well, I've known her since I was a child, and 452 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:00,640 Speaker 6: she was very close to my mom, so away after 453 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:03,320 Speaker 6: my mom died, like I still I see them as 454 00:20:03,960 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 6: and my dad is passed on too, but my mom 455 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:10,200 Speaker 6: was first, and so she really took on that role 456 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 6: for me, like if I needed advice, like I go 457 00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:15,120 Speaker 6: to them. Like when they came they came to town 458 00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:17,520 Speaker 6: for Thanksgiving and we're staying with him and they left 459 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:19,879 Speaker 6: his house, They're like, we're gonna go over to Amy's. 460 00:20:20,359 --> 00:20:22,359 Speaker 6: And they came over to my house for pick a 461 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:26,199 Speaker 6: couple of hours and like we hung out and they 462 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:28,360 Speaker 6: knew they he knew they came over. 463 00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:30,360 Speaker 4: I think that he's okay with it. 464 00:20:30,800 --> 00:20:32,560 Speaker 2: I think the fact though, that she has the grandma 465 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:36,159 Speaker 2: to your kids, that that is that's an element that 466 00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:39,360 Speaker 2: I didn't consider. So yeah, all good. I love it. 467 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,720 Speaker 2: My mother in law is a boss, and we don't 468 00:20:42,760 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 2: have kids yet, and I expect when we do, she 469 00:20:45,600 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 2: can be over here helping. It's not even about that, 470 00:20:47,600 --> 00:20:52,679 Speaker 2: Like she's hilarious. She like runs a business now, like 471 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:54,880 Speaker 2: she's cutting funny, which is my favorite kind of funny, 472 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 2: which where my wife gets it, like I do not 473 00:20:56,800 --> 00:21:00,360 Speaker 2: have pent theophobia. We went on vacation this summer and 474 00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,640 Speaker 2: it was my idea, not that what my wife wasn't 475 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:06,359 Speaker 2: for it, but I was like, let's go on this 476 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 2: vacation and take your parents with us. And part of 477 00:21:09,000 --> 00:21:12,119 Speaker 2: that is probably I never had parents, but holy crap, 478 00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:16,520 Speaker 2: like I have the opposite. I have panthera liking. Is 479 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:20,240 Speaker 2: that a word? Pinthera positive? I'm pinther a positive. That's 480 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:23,840 Speaker 2: what I identify as. So anybody have a bad relationship 481 00:21:23,840 --> 00:21:27,560 Speaker 2: with their mother in law? RAYMONDO? You good? Yeah, she's awesome. 482 00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:30,120 Speaker 2: She buys me any president I ever want. Whenever it's 483 00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 2: a birthday, Christmas. Yeah, there's ten boxes and it's just me. 484 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:35,439 Speaker 2: I'm not even a kid anymore, and she treats me 485 00:21:35,480 --> 00:21:37,639 Speaker 2: like I'm twenty. Okay, you know, I get presents to 486 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:39,959 Speaker 2: a Christmas a lot of them. It's awesome. Yeah, uh 487 00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:41,119 Speaker 2: Scuba Steve mother in. 488 00:21:41,160 --> 00:21:42,600 Speaker 8: Law all of mine. I used to live with them 489 00:21:42,640 --> 00:21:45,000 Speaker 8: for years in San Francisco. So she was amazing, just 490 00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 8: like Ray great experience. She used to watch my laundry, 491 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:48,879 Speaker 8: she used to take care of me, feed me. And 492 00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 8: even my other mother in law before when I was 493 00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,080 Speaker 8: married my first time, she was amazing too. She used 494 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:54,920 Speaker 8: to buy my cruises take care of me. So I've 495 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:56,439 Speaker 8: always attracted great mother in laws. 496 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:58,600 Speaker 2: So if our mother in law's like a mommy, we 497 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 2: like them, and if they're not, we're like, ah, that's tough. 498 00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 2: So Lunchbox, I think you're in the minority here. Yeah, 499 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:11,960 Speaker 2: I think I got the phobia. Hey, could you if 500 00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:14,199 Speaker 2: your mother in law was like, hey, Lunchbox, let's just 501 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,320 Speaker 2: go spend three days getting to know each other better, 502 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:20,639 Speaker 2: just you and I, would you do that? No? That 503 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:24,359 Speaker 2: was it was so weird. Yeah, so weird. Got it. 504 00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:26,119 Speaker 2: You don't have to sleep in the same bedroom or anything, 505 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 2: but let's say two hotel rooms next to each other, 506 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:30,159 Speaker 2: but all day for like three days, you guys just 507 00:22:30,200 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 2: going like walk and give me to go to a game. 508 00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 7: Oh man, I know what's unto about for three days. There's 509 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:39,560 Speaker 7: no way I can do like two to three minutes 510 00:22:39,600 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 7: at a time. We have a little conversation. I couldn't 511 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:43,200 Speaker 7: do three days. 512 00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 2: Amy. What's up with that basketball coach you saw? 513 00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:50,199 Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, he was yelling at his players in 514 00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:51,520 Speaker 6: the most aggressive way. 515 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 4: Like all the parents around me anytime he would yell 516 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 4: at them like they would do something. 517 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:57,879 Speaker 6: Wrong, and he would be like, you have one job 518 00:22:58,240 --> 00:22:59,920 Speaker 6: to like make a pass. But the way he was 519 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:03,160 Speaker 6: I can't even manke how he was sixth grade. 520 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:06,560 Speaker 2: I mean, okay, because at high school coach, I'm like, 521 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:07,000 Speaker 2: I get it. 522 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:10,200 Speaker 4: No, no, no, no. This was like anger. I can't even 523 00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:10,800 Speaker 4: mimic it. 524 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:15,000 Speaker 6: I don't even know how to get across how angry 525 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:18,520 Speaker 6: and aggressive he was. And it would be like, okay, okay, 526 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 6: one bad pass, like you're a wonder Like I was like, oh, 527 00:23:23,080 --> 00:23:24,560 Speaker 6: But all the parents around me, we would kind of 528 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:26,920 Speaker 6: look at each other like what is what is happening? 529 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:30,439 Speaker 6: But the parents of the team that the coach, the yeller, 530 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:33,719 Speaker 6: the aggressive guy, they were unfazed. So obviously they are 531 00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 6: used to it, but we were concerned. Even the security 532 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,399 Speaker 6: guard that was standing next to us, that's there just 533 00:23:39,400 --> 00:23:41,359 Speaker 6: at the school for the game, like he was like, oh, 534 00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 6: my blood is boiling. I do not like the way 535 00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 6: he's talking to these kids, like this needs to stop. 536 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,000 Speaker 6: Like he was ready to go in there if he 537 00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:49,280 Speaker 6: needed to to kind of shut this guy down because 538 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:52,760 Speaker 6: he was so mean, mean, and. 539 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:57,560 Speaker 2: All coaches coached differently. Sixth grade that does feel a 540 00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:01,600 Speaker 2: bit young for someone super aggressive. However, a coach knows 541 00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 2: his players like a parent knows their kids. Right. It 542 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:07,800 Speaker 2: wasn't the team you were rooting for, though, so that 543 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,359 Speaker 2: is kind of why the shock is that what you're saying, Yeah, 544 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 2: but you had never seen him before? No, I just 545 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,040 Speaker 2: did you want to say something? Would you in any 546 00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:15,280 Speaker 2: world have gone up to him? 547 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:19,199 Speaker 4: I know probably not, but I mean I definitely was. 548 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 6: Every time it would happen, we would just my jaw 549 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:22,800 Speaker 6: would sort of drop and I would. 550 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:24,320 Speaker 4: Look at them be like, oh my gosh, this is 551 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:25,280 Speaker 4: so awkward. 552 00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:28,440 Speaker 6: Like it was so it was that kind of aggressive 553 00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 6: to where it's awkward. I mean, I didn't feel the 554 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 6: need to step in and protect these kids. I don't 555 00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,880 Speaker 6: think that they were in danger. But the security guard 556 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,159 Speaker 6: definitely didn't like it, like he was triggered, like he's like, 557 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:40,439 Speaker 6: I did not like this at all whatsoever. And I 558 00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,919 Speaker 6: was more like mortified for the man because I'm like, 559 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:43,800 Speaker 6: this is embarrassing. 560 00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:47,840 Speaker 2: Did his team win? Yes, Okay, I'm good then. 561 00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:51,720 Speaker 4: Okay, as long as they win, it doesn't matter. 562 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:53,040 Speaker 2: Well, it doesn't sound like he's hitting. 563 00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 4: No, no, no, no. 564 00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,800 Speaker 2: I think kids need to be coached in different ways. 565 00:24:56,960 --> 00:25:01,160 Speaker 2: I needed to be coached a specific way. Second grade, 566 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:03,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, no chance, but that sixth and seventh grade 567 00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 2: it's travel ball to almost time for the real world. 568 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,520 Speaker 2: I didn't see it, so I can't look at it 569 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 2: and just absolutely good. But you know, some coaches are 570 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,880 Speaker 2: great too at how effective they are at communicating. And 571 00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,479 Speaker 2: if his most effective way is very aggressive? Was he 572 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 2: always aggressive with everyone? 573 00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:21,879 Speaker 4: No, I mean when they would come. 574 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,480 Speaker 6: I was watching that because I was like, when they 575 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,159 Speaker 6: wouldhuddle up or there would be time out, like he would, 576 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:28,879 Speaker 6: you know, high five bump, he'd be like, oh, do 577 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 6: good job, good job, dam good da da da. But 578 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:33,680 Speaker 6: it was more during the heat of the moment plays 579 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 6: that I could understand having passion and wanting to get 580 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:39,560 Speaker 6: a kid's attention and yell at them to. 581 00:25:39,560 --> 00:25:40,080 Speaker 4: Do it right. 582 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:43,600 Speaker 6: But I don't know, Maybe it's just his demeanor was 583 00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,919 Speaker 6: very aggressive and angry, and I thought a tad too 584 00:25:47,000 --> 00:25:51,439 Speaker 6: much even for high schoolers, Like if the kids were older, 585 00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:54,200 Speaker 6: I still think it would have been too much. But whatever, 586 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,679 Speaker 6: I guess it's working. And if y'all are not phased 587 00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 6: by it. I'm sure y'all were yelled at at kids sports. 588 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:01,640 Speaker 6: I'm just not used to seeing anything like that. 589 00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:06,880 Speaker 2: Big guy, little guy, big guy. Okay, it probably looked 590 00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:09,000 Speaker 2: even more aggressive because he was bigger. I have no 591 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 2: problems with aggressive coaches if the aggression is out of love, 592 00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:15,919 Speaker 2: but they're also meeting that aggression with kindness, love and 593 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 2: support in other ways. Because if you're a hammer and 594 00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:21,639 Speaker 2: the whole world's a nail, that's all you're doing is 595 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 2: hammer and nails, and that only lasts for a bit 596 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,720 Speaker 2: of time before it's not effective anymore. So, hey, any one, 597 00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 2: let's go all right, I think i'll pro coach here. 598 00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,240 Speaker 2: He hit anybody? He won? 599 00:26:33,520 --> 00:26:35,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, I just didn't know how far is too far. 600 00:26:35,400 --> 00:26:37,640 Speaker 6: I wanted to take video, but then I thought that 601 00:26:37,960 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 6: seems wrong. 602 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 4: I didn't know if i'd have to get his permission. 603 00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:43,920 Speaker 2: No, you wouldn't have. It was in a public place. 604 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:46,840 Speaker 2: I was at a high school game maybe two years ago, 605 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:49,360 Speaker 2: and the coach on the other team, the basketball coach, 606 00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:50,840 Speaker 2: walked up to the score table in the middle of 607 00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:52,480 Speaker 2: the game and took a full drink and through it 608 00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:54,879 Speaker 2: on the court. No, because he didn't like how the 609 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,199 Speaker 2: refs were calling that that was aggressive and so they 610 00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:00,280 Speaker 2: had to spend like fifteen minutes cleaning up the court's 611 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:02,120 Speaker 2: running it. In the middle of the game, he took 612 00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 2: a full container from the press box from running the 613 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,679 Speaker 2: press box just chunked it on the court. It was hilarious. 614 00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:13,119 Speaker 6: The other night or however whenever that was like I 615 00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,120 Speaker 6: don't know, last weekend or the weekend before when Tennessee 616 00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:16,840 Speaker 6: was playing Auburn. 617 00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:17,840 Speaker 4: The Tennessee coaches. 618 00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,560 Speaker 6: Yeah, the Tennessee coach got mad at one point and 619 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:22,760 Speaker 6: threw his water bottle down in the hand to clean. 620 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:23,240 Speaker 4: Up the court. 621 00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:24,880 Speaker 2: And did you say, that's way aggressive? 622 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,880 Speaker 4: And he was like, way too aggressive. I just thought 623 00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:29,399 Speaker 4: he was. 624 00:27:29,480 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 6: It was very reactionary, like he had his water and 625 00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:33,440 Speaker 6: then all of a sudden, he's like he just threw 626 00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:36,840 Speaker 6: it down. I understand that, Like I've thrown things in 627 00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:37,520 Speaker 6: my own house. 628 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:39,480 Speaker 2: You've jumped into pools fully clothed. 629 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,560 Speaker 6: Yeah, but I wasn't yelling at anybody like you exit. 630 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 6: But I know at home I have lost it before. 631 00:27:47,359 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 6: And it was almost like this like I was watching 632 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:51,680 Speaker 6: him lose it, but it's almost like this is his method. 633 00:27:52,680 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 2: He's losing it. I think that's how he does it. 634 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:56,760 Speaker 2: And again, had you told me they lost, maybe I 635 00:27:56,760 --> 00:27:58,840 Speaker 2: felt different about this. Okay, but I'm for a winner, 636 00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:02,200 Speaker 2: all right. Got this voicemail from Melanie. 637 00:28:02,560 --> 00:28:06,600 Speaker 9: I need some help. I have a big issue with 638 00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:11,199 Speaker 9: not going for something because I'm afraid of failure, be 639 00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:17,280 Speaker 9: that a certification test or a promotion opportunities. Even though 640 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:21,040 Speaker 9: I can like talk myself into knowing it's a good idea, 641 00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:25,160 Speaker 9: I can't seem to do it. I need therapy, obviously, 642 00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:27,760 Speaker 9: But you guys are always my first job. So if 643 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 9: anyone has advice, i'd appreciate it. 644 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:32,960 Speaker 2: Okay, Melanie, I'm gonna give you two very easy things 645 00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:36,439 Speaker 2: to think about that hopefully we'll make this process easier 646 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 2: for you. Number One, nobody likes to fail, so I 647 00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:42,880 Speaker 2: don't feel like you're alone. And the only regret that 648 00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,120 Speaker 2: you're going to have later in life is not that 649 00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:50,360 Speaker 2: you failed at something. It's if you never tried. Because 650 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 2: we fail at things all the time, we're also obsessed 651 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,880 Speaker 2: with ourselves, meaning we think if we suck at something, 652 00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 2: we fail at something, other people look at us and 653 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:02,520 Speaker 2: think less of us. I'm wildly insecure. It's why I 654 00:29:02,520 --> 00:29:04,680 Speaker 2: do this job. You really don't get into an art 655 00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,880 Speaker 2: and be a creator unless you're wildly insecure, and that 656 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:13,080 Speaker 2: is me. But I also realize nobody cares like we're 657 00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,720 Speaker 2: also obsessed with ourselves that if somebody else fails, I 658 00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 2: don't think about it for more than once pit second 659 00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 2: and I move all my life because I'm so obsessed 660 00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:22,600 Speaker 2: with myself. But that's how everybody is. So let's just 661 00:29:22,640 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 2: say the reason you don't want to fail is because 662 00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 2: you don't want to be embarrassed. Other people aren't spending 663 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 2: any other time thinking about you, and that is the 664 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 2: most freeing. Although it doesn't feel like that. It feels 665 00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 2: like it's an insult. Nobody cares about you. Well, the 666 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:37,640 Speaker 2: people very close to you in your life do you 667 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:39,720 Speaker 2: care about you? And they didn't love you regardless whether 668 00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,480 Speaker 2: you fail or not. But the people that you're like, 669 00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:46,000 Speaker 2: oh man, I'll be looked at as a failure. Yeah, 670 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,000 Speaker 2: maybe for zero point two seconds, because everybody is so 671 00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,640 Speaker 2: obsessed with themselves. So the first part of this is 672 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 2: you're gonna regret not doing it more than if you 673 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:02,240 Speaker 2: do it, and you do it poorly, that's number one. 674 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,640 Speaker 2: Number two, if you do it poorly and people judge 675 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:07,440 Speaker 2: you for it. They're only going to judge you for 676 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:11,000 Speaker 2: a split second because they're too worried about themselves. Nobody cares. 677 00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:14,320 Speaker 2: So my advice to you is, think of yourself three 678 00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 2: years from now. What if you're in the same exact 679 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:24,920 Speaker 2: spot three years from now having this internal monologue of 680 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:27,080 Speaker 2: I don't know if I can do it. I don't 681 00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,320 Speaker 2: think it's a good idea. You're going to look back 682 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 2: three years ago and go, man, I wish I would 683 00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:33,160 Speaker 2: have just tried it then, because here's what happens. Let 684 00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:36,160 Speaker 2: me play the situation out. You go and you attempt 685 00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:42,360 Speaker 2: one of these certifications or promotion opportunity and it goes bad. 686 00:30:43,160 --> 00:30:45,120 Speaker 2: So first you tried, but secondly, you're going to be 687 00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:48,520 Speaker 2: able to learn so much from it not happening. Now. 688 00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,320 Speaker 2: Do you want to get it? Absolutely, But what you're 689 00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 2: going to be able to take from it is, Okay, 690 00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:55,960 Speaker 2: it didn't happen. Why didn't happen? What was I not 691 00:30:56,200 --> 00:30:59,880 Speaker 2: doing that I could have done better? How did I 692 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 2: communicate that maybe wasn't the best form of communication? That 693 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,160 Speaker 2: I can communicate better with my boss? Who can I 694 00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:10,080 Speaker 2: learn from to actually get better? How do I create 695 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:14,880 Speaker 2: leverage for a promotion. How So, any time you fail 696 00:31:14,920 --> 00:31:18,640 Speaker 2: at something, as long as you don't quit, you learn 697 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:22,160 Speaker 2: from that something. So my advice to you is, and 698 00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:25,560 Speaker 2: I say this in the most loving way, suck it up. 699 00:31:26,520 --> 00:31:28,240 Speaker 2: Because it sounds like you want to do it. It sounds 700 00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:29,720 Speaker 2: like you think you're good enough to do it. It sounds 701 00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:33,160 Speaker 2: like you think you can do it. But what's holding 702 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:37,960 Speaker 2: you back is this fear of either other people judging you, 703 00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,800 Speaker 2: which I will say again, nobody cares enough about you. 704 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:44,160 Speaker 2: Your family does, your A list always does, your inner 705 00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:48,600 Speaker 2: circle always does. That's one, and then number two, you're 706 00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,880 Speaker 2: going to regret it so bad in a year or 707 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:52,760 Speaker 2: two year, three year, six year, ten year, twenty years 708 00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,600 Speaker 2: that you didn't try. You will never regret something that 709 00:31:55,680 --> 00:31:57,760 Speaker 2: you failed at if you kept going, because eventually you're 710 00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 2: going to get it. You will always regret not trying. 711 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:03,080 Speaker 2: So that's my advice to you. I believe in you. 712 00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:04,959 Speaker 2: You want to do it, and ain't even about therapy. 713 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,880 Speaker 2: It's about just committing and going. The hardest thing to 714 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,720 Speaker 2: do is just go. It's like, I hate working out. 715 00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:14,280 Speaker 2: Do you know how I can start working out? Crap? 716 00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,680 Speaker 2: Let's just go, Let's just get it. Over with. Let's go. 717 00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:22,000 Speaker 2: Hardest thing is starting, so go get it. Don't whine 718 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:24,840 Speaker 2: about it. If you do whine about it, whine about 719 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:26,960 Speaker 2: it alone like in your room. You got it, no 720 00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:30,640 Speaker 2: problem eventually. All right. That's my advice to you, Melanie, 721 00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:32,920 Speaker 2: Go get them. I'm rooting for you. Hey, you need 722 00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:34,920 Speaker 2: to know one of these tough love talks. I'm right here. 723 00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,680 Speaker 2: I've done everything wrong in my career. Everything. Hey. I 724 00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,840 Speaker 2: wrote a whole book on failure called fail Until You 725 00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,440 Speaker 2: Don't where I talk to a bunch of people how 726 00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:45,160 Speaker 2: I feel about it. You heard that. But I talked 727 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,320 Speaker 2: to a bunch of people that are wildly successful that 728 00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,360 Speaker 2: weren't wildly successful, and they had so much failure in 729 00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,800 Speaker 2: their life. I had Stapleton in my book. I had 730 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:57,480 Speaker 2: the former governor of Arkansas. I had Charlotmagne and the god. 731 00:32:57,880 --> 00:32:59,880 Speaker 2: I had Walker Hate. I had all these people that 732 00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:01,600 Speaker 2: you look at it, go man, they are so successful, 733 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:03,440 Speaker 2: but when you hear about all the crap that they 734 00:33:03,440 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 2: had to get through just to get to the point 735 00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:11,280 Speaker 2: where we see their success. My greatest talent is tenacity, 736 00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:14,040 Speaker 2: and I believe you have that too. So thank you 737 00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:17,560 Speaker 2: for the voicemail. Leave a voicemail anytime anybody eight seven, 738 00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:21,520 Speaker 2: seven seventy seven, Bobby, Melanie, I'm rooted for you, and 739 00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:24,720 Speaker 2: suck it up and put in the work, make the 740 00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:26,600 Speaker 2: effort and go get it. And if you don't get it, 741 00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:30,280 Speaker 2: repeat the step. Suck it up, put in the work, 742 00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:33,280 Speaker 2: go get it the second time. All right, that's it. 743 00:33:33,280 --> 00:33:39,400 Speaker 7: It's time for the good news, Bobby. 744 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:42,680 Speaker 2: The house got burned down in the California wildfires. So 745 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:46,400 Speaker 2: after it was clear, they went back to the remains 746 00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:49,720 Speaker 2: to see if anything had survived the flames. So they 747 00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:51,480 Speaker 2: go back and they're looking, and he goes to look 748 00:33:51,520 --> 00:33:54,960 Speaker 2: in this special place. It's Brian and Stephanie and they 749 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:58,400 Speaker 2: live together, not married, but they go through just looking 750 00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:00,600 Speaker 2: for some stuff, and he knows where kind of this 751 00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,960 Speaker 2: safe area is. He goes in. He finds the ring 752 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,200 Speaker 2: that he was going to use to propose to her, 753 00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:11,280 Speaker 2: still perfect shape. So that's what he did, right there 754 00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:13,919 Speaker 2: at the site that the house had burned down. There's 755 00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,480 Speaker 2: a picture. He gets on his knee and proposes to her. 756 00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,839 Speaker 2: He's like, I can't wait. All this happened brought us 757 00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,279 Speaker 2: even closer together, and it sucks. But what doesn't suck 758 00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:23,719 Speaker 2: is being with you. He didn't say that, but he 759 00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:25,319 Speaker 2: should have said that exactly. That was what he did. 760 00:34:26,680 --> 00:34:28,840 Speaker 2: I just nailed that. But that's a great story, and 761 00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,560 Speaker 2: there's a great picture of him proposing. It sucks because 762 00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:35,240 Speaker 2: all the houses are just gone around him. It's terrible, 763 00:34:36,080 --> 00:34:38,520 Speaker 2: but we are focusing on the good because they are 764 00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:42,040 Speaker 2: now together. She said, yes, obviously she has a mask on, 765 00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:44,399 Speaker 2: and you know the picture where they do the hand, 766 00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,200 Speaker 2: it's like, look at my finger. She's wearing like a 767 00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:47,800 Speaker 2: full mask. 768 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:49,680 Speaker 4: That's good. 769 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,799 Speaker 6: I mean, this is one of those situations where it'll 770 00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:55,080 Speaker 6: either like ring it closer together or tear you apart. 771 00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:58,960 Speaker 2: Ye think about him together. That's a great story. The 772 00:34:59,000 --> 00:35:01,680 Speaker 2: second part is good luck to those crazy kids. We 773 00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,399 Speaker 2: love love that stories from the mirror. That's what it's 774 00:35:04,400 --> 00:35:08,799 Speaker 2: all about. That was telling me something good. And that 775 00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:13,240 Speaker 2: is the end of the first half of the podcast. 776 00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,880 Speaker 2: That is the end of the first half of the podcast, 777 00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:19,440 Speaker 2: the first tip of the podcast. That is the end 778 00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:21,560 Speaker 2: of the first time of the podcast. You can go 779 00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:24,920 Speaker 2: to the podcast too, or you can wait till podcast 780 00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,080 Speaker 2: to come out.