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It's always a joy 42 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 3: to come into your homes, and if you're ever in 43 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:04,000 Speaker 3: our area, please stop by and see us. These are 44 00:02:04,040 --> 00:02:06,720 Speaker 3: the finest people in all of Houston, Texas. Right here 45 00:02:06,760 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 3: at Lakewood Chair. I promise you we will make you 46 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 3: feel right at home. But thanks for tuning in. Thank 47 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 3: you again for coming out. I like to start with 48 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:18,079 Speaker 3: something funny, and I heard about this Southern Baptist man 49 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:21,360 Speaker 3: named Bill. He loved to sneak off to the horse 50 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 3: races and bet. One day, after losing almost all of 51 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:27,920 Speaker 3: his money, he noticed a priest stepped down on the 52 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:31,440 Speaker 3: tracks and bless a horse. Sure enough, the horse won 53 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 3: first place. The next race, the priest blessed another horse. 54 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 3: Once again, that horse won, so Bill went to the 55 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 3: ATM machine took out all of his money. This time 56 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:45,000 Speaker 3: the priest not only touched the horse's forehead, but his eyes, 57 00:02:45,080 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 3: his ears, and all of his hoofs. Feeling confident, Bill 58 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,280 Speaker 3: bet all of his money, but right in the middle 59 00:02:51,320 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 3: of the race, the horse fell over and died. Bill 60 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 3: couldn't believe it. Went to the priest and said, what 61 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 3: in the world happened. The priest said, that's the problem 62 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,920 Speaker 3: with you Protestants. You don't know the difference between a 63 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 3: blessing and the last rights. Hold up your Bible, say 64 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:11,080 Speaker 3: it like you mean it. This is my Bible. I 65 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 3: am what it says, I am. I have what it 66 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:15,800 Speaker 3: says I have, I can do what it says I 67 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 3: can do. Today I will be taught the word of God. 68 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:23,480 Speaker 3: I boldly confess. My mind is alert, my heart is receptive. 69 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:27,360 Speaker 3: I will never be the same. In Jesus' name, God 70 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 3: bless you. I want to talk to you today about 71 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 3: taking control of your happiness. Some people are sacrificing their 72 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 3: own happiness to try to keep everyone around them happy. 73 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 3: They've got to stop by a friend's house to say hello. 74 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 3: If not, they may get upset. They've got to work 75 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 3: late every night. If not, the boss may be unhappy. 76 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 3: They've got to loan this friend money. They're in trouble again. 77 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 3: If they don't meet all these demands, rescue this person, 78 00:03:58,480 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 3: keep this person fixed, solve this person's problem, then they'll 79 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 3: fall out of somebody's good grace. Somebody won't understand. But 80 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 3: God did not call you to keep everyone happy. It's 81 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 3: good to be loving, kind, generous, but you are not 82 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 3: responsible for other people's happiness. You are responsible to keep 83 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 3: yourself happy. Well, Joel. If I don't loan them the money, 84 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 3: if I don't bail them out again for the twelfth time, 85 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:29,440 Speaker 3: they may get upset with me. Maybe it's time for 86 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:32,839 Speaker 3: them to be unhappy instead of you to be unhappy. 87 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 3: If they get upset, they're not friends, they're manipulators. Your 88 00:04:38,720 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 3: time is too valuable to go through life. Letting people 89 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,720 Speaker 3: control you make you feel guilty if you don't come 90 00:04:45,800 --> 00:04:49,280 Speaker 3: running every time they call. The easy thing is to 91 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 3: just give in and bail them out. Don't make any waves. 92 00:04:54,279 --> 00:04:57,640 Speaker 3: But as long as you rescue them, you're there to 93 00:04:57,760 --> 00:05:00,880 Speaker 3: keep them fixed and to keep them cheered up. You're 94 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 3: not really helping them. You're becoming a crutch. You're enabling 95 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 3: their dysfunction. The only way they're really going to get 96 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:11,839 Speaker 3: free is for you to not meet all their needs 97 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 3: and not come running every time they have a quote emergency. 98 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:18,840 Speaker 3: You've got to put your foot down and say I 99 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:21,360 Speaker 3: love you, but I'm not going to let you control me. 100 00:05:22,240 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 3: I love you, but I'm not going to jump every 101 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 3: time you call. I love you, but I am not 102 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 3: going to feel guilty if I don't meet all of 103 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 3: your demands. If somebody is controlling you, it's not their fault, 104 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:39,719 Speaker 3: it's your fault. You have to set some boundaries quite 105 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:42,279 Speaker 3: allowing them to call you all hours of the day 106 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:45,440 Speaker 3: and night and dump their problems on you. That's why 107 00:05:45,480 --> 00:05:50,360 Speaker 3: we have voicemail. Quit catering to them every time they 108 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:54,159 Speaker 3: throw a fit, ignore it. Quit loaning then the money 109 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:58,080 Speaker 3: every time they make poor choices. Don't take on that 110 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 3: false sense of responsibility. You are not the savior of 111 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:05,600 Speaker 3: the world. We already have a savior. You're not supposed 112 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:09,760 Speaker 3: to keep everyone happy, everyone fixed. If you take on 113 00:06:09,839 --> 00:06:12,560 Speaker 3: that job. The one person who will not be happy 114 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 3: is you. I know this man, and for years he 115 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 3: had a problem paying his rent. My heart went out 116 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 3: to him, and I helped him again and again every 117 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:26,600 Speaker 3: other month. Practically he would explain how something had come 118 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 3: up and he couldn't make his payments. After about the 119 00:06:29,600 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 3: fifth emergency, I started to wise up. He told how 120 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 3: his client hadn't paid him the money should show up 121 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 3: any time a relative got sick, he had to travel 122 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 3: out of town, on and on. After this long, sad story, 123 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,160 Speaker 3: he looked at me and said, now, Joel, what are 124 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 3: we going to do. I didn't say it, but I 125 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:55,160 Speaker 3: thought to myself, We're not going to do anything, because 126 00:06:55,200 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 3: this is not my problem. This is your problem, and 127 00:06:58,600 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 3: I'm not going to feel guilt because you keep making 128 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:05,839 Speaker 3: poor choices. I believe I would still be helping him today, 129 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 3: five years later, if I had not put my foot down. 130 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:11,920 Speaker 3: A lot of times we do things out of guilt. 131 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 3: Well I should help him, I feel like and if 132 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 3: I don't, I'm gonna feel bad about it. But if 133 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 3: that person is not taking responsibility, you're not really helping them. 134 00:07:21,760 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 3: You're hurting them. They're not having to deal with the 135 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 3: real issues. And some people are always having a crisis. 136 00:07:29,280 --> 00:07:32,160 Speaker 3: They're always in need, and it's good to help them 137 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 3: once twice a dozen times, certainly be kind, show mercy. 138 00:07:38,120 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 3: But five years later they're still having those regular emergencies, 139 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 3: counting on you to come running. If you keep giving in. 140 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 3: It's just like they have you as a puppet. They 141 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 3: know if they pull this string, you'll feel guilty. Pull 142 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 3: this string, you'll come bail them out. Pull this string, 143 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 3: then you'll stay late and do the project for them. 144 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 3: My message to is cut the strings. No more puppets, 145 00:08:04,200 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 3: no more letting them make you feel guilty, no more 146 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 3: come running, well, Joel, If I do that, they may 147 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 3: not be my friend anymore. There's your answer. God may 148 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 3: have just closed that door for you. The truth is, 149 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 3: if they get upset because you don't meet every demand. 150 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 3: They give you the cold shoulder because you don't call 151 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 3: on que They're not really a friend, they're a controller. 152 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 3: The sooner you break free, the better off you're going 153 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 3: to be. It's like a little child, a toddler. If 154 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:38,200 Speaker 3: every time they throw a fit, you come running, you 155 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:40,640 Speaker 3: give them what they want, they'll continue to do that. 156 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,920 Speaker 3: They know what they have to do to get their way. 157 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 3: But if you let them throw that fit a dozen times, 158 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:52,079 Speaker 3: even though they're hollering and screaming, you ignore it, go 159 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 3: about your day, enjoy your life. Before long, they'll realize 160 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,920 Speaker 3: throwing a fit doesn't do any good and they'll have 161 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 3: to change. It's the same principle in adults. As long 162 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 3: as somebody can pressure you into doing what they want, 163 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:11,160 Speaker 3: they will continue to do it. But when you don't 164 00:09:11,240 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 3: respond to their fits, you don't let their guilt cause 165 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 3: you to give in. You don't come running every time 166 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:20,800 Speaker 3: they have a need. That will force them to look 167 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 3: inside and deal with the real issues. I have some 168 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 3: friends this couple. The first several years of their marriage 169 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 3: was very miserable. The young lady went through some unfair 170 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 3: situations as a child, and she was extremely unhappy extremely negative. 171 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:40,240 Speaker 3: If she didn't get her way, she would throw fits, 172 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 3: go four or five days having a pity party, pouting. 173 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:47,400 Speaker 3: Her husband is as good as can be. He did 174 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 3: everything he could to try to keep her happy. I 175 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:54,120 Speaker 3: was constantly encouraging her, trying to fix her problems, telling 176 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:57,760 Speaker 3: her everything was going to be okay. For three years, 177 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 3: he catered to her night and basically giving up his 178 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 3: happiness to try to keep her happy. One day, it 179 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 3: dawned on him, she's not going to change. He realized, 180 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:14,160 Speaker 3: even though he had good intentions, he wasn't helping her. 181 00:10:14,679 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 3: He had become a crutch. He told her, I love you, 182 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 3: but I cannot make you happy. I've tried everything I 183 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:26,200 Speaker 3: can and I'm done trying. As harsh as that sounds, 184 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 3: she said that was the best thing that ever happened 185 00:10:29,640 --> 00:10:33,560 Speaker 3: to her. That forced her to look inside and deal 186 00:10:33,600 --> 00:10:37,080 Speaker 3: with those issues. You may be in relationship with somebody 187 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 3: like that, don't take on that false sense of responsibility. 188 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 3: God did not call you to be unhappy in order 189 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:49,800 Speaker 3: to keep somebody else happy. And yes, there may be 190 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 3: seasons where we make sacrifices and we have to put 191 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 3: up with some things to help a friend get wild. 192 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:59,200 Speaker 3: Or to help a loved one overcome. But you cannot 193 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:03,439 Speaker 3: let us see turn into a lifetime where you are 194 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 3: sacrificing your happiness, not pursuing your dreams, putting your life 195 00:11:08,440 --> 00:11:12,280 Speaker 3: on hold to try to keep somebody else happy. Life 196 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:15,920 Speaker 3: is too short to go through it letting people control 197 00:11:16,040 --> 00:11:19,800 Speaker 3: you who will not make good decisions for themselves. And 198 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 3: there's a fine line here, but you are not responsible 199 00:11:23,040 --> 00:11:27,400 Speaker 3: for your spouse's happiness, your children's happiness, your friend's happiness. 200 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 3: You can't make people do what's right, no matter how 201 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:33,760 Speaker 3: hard you pray, how hard you try. You can't make 202 00:11:33,760 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 3: a family member serve God, can't make a friend stay 203 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:40,199 Speaker 3: out of trouble. When we love people, it's very easy 204 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:43,680 Speaker 3: to take on that responsibility and spend all our time 205 00:11:43,760 --> 00:11:47,320 Speaker 3: and energy thinking we've got to get them fixed. The 206 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:51,400 Speaker 3: problem is some people don't want to be fixed. You 207 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:54,720 Speaker 3: got to turn those people over to the Lord. Quit 208 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:58,360 Speaker 3: being frustrated because they won't do what's right. That's what 209 00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 3: it means to become code dependent. Somebody has a problem, 210 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 3: they won't make good choices, and you make the mistake 211 00:12:06,360 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 3: of letting their problem become your problem. If you're putting 212 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:14,480 Speaker 3: off your happiness until they change. You may be unhappy 213 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 3: for a long time. Why don't you let that person 214 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:20,480 Speaker 3: off of your potter's will. You are not the potter. 215 00:12:20,760 --> 00:12:23,800 Speaker 3: God is the potter. God knows how to get people 216 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:29,000 Speaker 3: to change. Your job is to love them, pray for them, 217 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:33,200 Speaker 3: help them when you can, but don't take responsibility for 218 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:36,199 Speaker 3: their poor choices. I talked to a lady a couple 219 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:38,800 Speaker 3: of weeks ago in the lobby. Her twenty four year 220 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:41,800 Speaker 3: old son has gotten way off track, and for the 221 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:47,080 Speaker 3: last three years she's been emotionally drained and physically worn out. 222 00:12:47,679 --> 00:12:50,800 Speaker 3: She looks ten years older than normal. You can see 223 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:53,680 Speaker 3: the weight of the world that she's been carrying. She's 224 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:59,240 Speaker 3: constantly rescuing her son, bailing him out, loaning him the money. 225 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:04,199 Speaker 3: He's giving up her happiness until her son gets straightened out. 226 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 3: And of course we all love our children, we do 227 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 3: anything in the world for them, but sometimes the best 228 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:16,599 Speaker 3: thing is to not rescue them, don't keep enabling that dysfunction. 229 00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:20,440 Speaker 3: In the story of the Prodigal Son, the young man 230 00:13:20,600 --> 00:13:25,439 Speaker 3: took his inheritance, went out wasted all the money, partying 231 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:29,680 Speaker 3: wild living, making poor choices. He ended up in the 232 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:33,840 Speaker 3: hog pen. No money, so desperate that he was eating 233 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:39,199 Speaker 3: hog food to survive. What's interesting is the father didn't 234 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:42,920 Speaker 3: go rescue him. Father didn't go bail him out, didn't 235 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:45,720 Speaker 3: send him his staff to get him all fixed up. 236 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 3: He just left him there. The father went about his business, 237 00:13:49,080 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 3: living life, pursuing his goals. Eventually, Luke fifteen seventeen says, 238 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 3: the young man came to himself. He came to his 239 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 3: senses and realized, hey, I'm making poor choices. I got 240 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:04,000 Speaker 3: to get back on the right track. He went home 241 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 3: and got his life straightened out. And I'm all for 242 00:14:07,440 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 3: helping people, saving them whenever we can from heartache and pain. 243 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 3: But some people you can help them a hundred times, 244 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,920 Speaker 3: and when they leave, every time, they'll go right back 245 00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 3: to the mess they were in. The only way they're 246 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:22,840 Speaker 3: really going to get free is to come to a 247 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 3: place where nobody's bailing them out, nobody's paying their bills, 248 00:14:28,200 --> 00:14:32,440 Speaker 3: nobody's acting as a crutch. Then, like the prodigal son, 249 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:35,440 Speaker 3: at some point they're going to come to themselves. They're 250 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:38,520 Speaker 3: going to realize, hey, I've got to take responsibility for 251 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 3: my life. I've got to rise up and become who 252 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:44,360 Speaker 3: God's created me. To be, But some of you today 253 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:47,840 Speaker 3: you're doing too much for other people and not enough 254 00:14:47,880 --> 00:14:52,479 Speaker 3: for yourself. You're so good hearted, so kind, You're sacrificing 255 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 3: your happiness to keep everyone around you happy, but your 256 00:14:56,560 --> 00:15:00,880 Speaker 3: first priority is to keep yourself happy. You need to 257 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 3: evaluate your relationships. If you're doing all the giving and 258 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:09,640 Speaker 3: very little receiving, something is out of balance. If you 259 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:12,400 Speaker 3: have to keep that person cheered up twenty four hours 260 00:15:12,440 --> 00:15:15,800 Speaker 3: a day, something is wrong. You should be able to 261 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:18,120 Speaker 3: tell your friend no, I'm not going to be able 262 00:15:18,160 --> 00:15:22,000 Speaker 3: to go and them not try to make you feel guilty. 263 00:15:22,200 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 3: If they do, they try to give you the culd shore, 264 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:28,920 Speaker 3: they get upset. They're not a friend, they're a controller. 265 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:32,760 Speaker 3: Don't go the next twenty years trying to meet all 266 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:36,680 Speaker 3: their demands. The best thing you could do is cut 267 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:40,520 Speaker 3: the puppet strings. They're not really interested in you, They're 268 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 3: interested in what you can do for them. You don't 269 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 3: have time to play games, get distracted, entangled trying to 270 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:52,840 Speaker 3: keep everybody around you happy. You have a destiny to fulfill. 271 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:57,840 Speaker 3: Be bold and take control of your own life. When 272 00:15:57,840 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 3: I was growing up, my grandfather would buy a new 273 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:03,720 Speaker 3: car every two years, and he would give one of 274 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 3: us grandkids his old car. He was very generous. When 275 00:16:07,560 --> 00:16:10,840 Speaker 3: I was a junior in high school, my grandfather gave 276 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 3: me his four year old Buick Lesabra, had a lime 277 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 3: green body and a white top. I loved my grandfather, 278 00:16:19,680 --> 00:16:23,640 Speaker 3: but it was the ugliest car on the road. One 279 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:26,200 Speaker 3: of my friends that I played basketball with he had 280 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 3: a car as well. We decided to carpool. I'd go 281 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 3: pick him up a week and take him to school, 282 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 3: and he would drive me the next week. He lived 283 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:38,560 Speaker 3: about fifteen minutes in the opposite direction from the school, 284 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:40,480 Speaker 3: so I'd have to go that way and come all 285 00:16:40,520 --> 00:16:42,880 Speaker 3: the way back by my house. I didn't mind doing that. 286 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,320 Speaker 3: He drove a week, I drove a week. This happened 287 00:16:45,360 --> 00:16:48,800 Speaker 3: two or three times. Then his car was in the shop. 288 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 3: Then his brother needed to borrow the car he couldn't drive. 289 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 3: Then something else came up. It got to where I 290 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 3: was driving all the time, and I really didn't mind it, 291 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 3: but it seemed like he was grateful. He acted like 292 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:04,960 Speaker 3: I owed it to him to go pick him up. 293 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:08,120 Speaker 3: One day, I got my nerve up. I asked him 294 00:17:08,119 --> 00:17:10,399 Speaker 3: if he was ever going to drive again, and he 295 00:17:10,520 --> 00:17:14,120 Speaker 3: explained how he was trying to keep the mileage down 296 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:18,760 Speaker 3: on his car, and basically that I needed to keep 297 00:17:18,800 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 3: picking him up. He acted like he was doing me 298 00:17:21,760 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 3: a favor to ride in my car, and even though 299 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:27,199 Speaker 3: my car was ugly, he didn't deserve on being in it. 300 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:31,920 Speaker 3: I did what I'm asking you to do. It's very polite, 301 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:34,680 Speaker 3: had a big smile on my face, but I told him, 302 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:37,400 Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I'm not going to be able to come 303 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:40,359 Speaker 3: out there and pick you up anymore. You would have 304 00:17:40,359 --> 00:17:43,160 Speaker 3: thought I told him his life was coming to an end. 305 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 3: He tried to put me on the biggest guilt trip, 306 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:50,120 Speaker 3: told me how selfish I was being. He would hardly 307 00:17:50,200 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 3: speak to me again. I thought, that is fine with me. 308 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,280 Speaker 3: If he's only going to be my friend, if I 309 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:59,919 Speaker 3: meet all of his demands and cater to his every need, 310 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:03,639 Speaker 3: good riddance. I don't need friends like that. Go find 311 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:06,560 Speaker 3: somebody else to control, But you're not gonna control me. 312 00:18:08,080 --> 00:18:10,399 Speaker 3: I don't mind being good to people, but I do 313 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:14,120 Speaker 3: mind being used. If you allow it, people will run 314 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:16,880 Speaker 3: your life. They'll tell you what to do and where 315 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 3: to go, and how to dress, how to spend your money. 316 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:22,920 Speaker 3: It's good to get free from addictions. Free from debt, 317 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:26,359 Speaker 3: free from depression. But one of the greatest freedoms is 318 00:18:26,400 --> 00:18:30,280 Speaker 3: to get free from people. Quit letting people pressure you 319 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 3: into becoming something that you're not. Quit living on eggshells 320 00:18:35,160 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 3: thinking you're gonna fall out of their favor. If you 321 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:42,840 Speaker 3: don't perform perfectly, call them on queue, come running every 322 00:18:42,880 --> 00:18:45,919 Speaker 3: time they ask. Then Joel, they may get upset with me. 323 00:18:46,600 --> 00:18:50,399 Speaker 3: My message today is let them be upset. If you 324 00:18:50,560 --> 00:18:56,160 Speaker 3: spend your life trying to please everyone, letting people control you, 325 00:18:56,160 --> 00:18:59,639 Speaker 3: you may make them happy, but you will miss your destiny. 326 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:03,439 Speaker 3: I would rather please God and have a few people 327 00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:06,720 Speaker 3: upset with me than to please people and have God 328 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 3: upset with me. You got to especially, you need to 329 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:15,560 Speaker 3: especially be careful of high maintenance people. That's what my 330 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:19,080 Speaker 3: friend was. High maintenance people. You can never do enough 331 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:22,560 Speaker 3: for them. No matter how much you do, they expect more. 332 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:26,440 Speaker 3: You got to be available twenty four to seven, run 333 00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 3: their errands, compliment them, keep them cheered up. If not, 334 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:33,280 Speaker 3: they get their feelings hurt. They try to make you 335 00:19:33,400 --> 00:19:37,560 Speaker 3: feel guilty. Don't go year after year playing up to 336 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:43,160 Speaker 3: people like that. High maintenance people are impossible to keep happy. 337 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 3: If you do that, all that's going to do is 338 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:48,479 Speaker 3: end up frustrating you. Friend of mine is a pilot. 339 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:52,240 Speaker 3: He told how there are four main principles in flying 340 00:19:52,280 --> 00:19:59,600 Speaker 3: an airplane. There is lift, thrust, weight, and drag. You 341 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:02,480 Speaker 3: have to take into account all four of these to 342 00:20:02,520 --> 00:20:07,040 Speaker 3: make sure the plane will fly. Most people fall into 343 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:10,440 Speaker 3: one of these four categories. There will be people who 344 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:15,440 Speaker 3: lift you, brighten your day, make you feel better about yourself. 345 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 3: When you leave, you've got a spring in your step. 346 00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:22,560 Speaker 3: They're lifters. There are people who will thrust you. They 347 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:26,200 Speaker 3: motivate you, They inspire you. They challenge you to move 348 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:30,600 Speaker 3: forward and accomplish your dreams. They are thrusters. Then there 349 00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:34,600 Speaker 3: are people who are a weight. They pull you down. 350 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 3: When you leave, you feel heavier, discourage, negative, worse than 351 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:44,000 Speaker 3: you were before. Number four, there are people who are 352 00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 3: a drag. They've always got a sad story, had a 353 00:20:48,359 --> 00:20:53,480 Speaker 3: flat tire, dishwasher broke, goldfish dyed, mother in law, just 354 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:57,880 Speaker 3: moved in permanently. They're always in the pits and they 355 00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:01,440 Speaker 3: expect you to cheer them up to solve their problems, 356 00:21:01,520 --> 00:21:05,680 Speaker 3: to carry their heavy load. In life, we all encounter 357 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:09,399 Speaker 3: people from these four different groups. Here's the key. Make 358 00:21:09,440 --> 00:21:14,240 Speaker 3: sure you're spending the majority of your time with lifters 359 00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:20,440 Speaker 3: and thrusters. If you're only hanging out with weights with drags, 360 00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 3: they will keep you from becoming all God's created you 361 00:21:23,560 --> 00:21:28,440 Speaker 3: to be. Some people have a perpetual problem, always got 362 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 3: a sad story, and if you allow it, they will 363 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:35,320 Speaker 3: use you as a trash can to dump all their garbage. 364 00:21:35,400 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 3: You spend an hour with them, feel like you just 365 00:21:37,600 --> 00:21:41,560 Speaker 3: ran a marathon. Their energy suckers. You leave drained and 366 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:45,639 Speaker 3: worn out. You cannot continue to put that in day 367 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:49,439 Speaker 3: after day and expect to reach your highest potential. You 368 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:52,840 Speaker 3: will not lift off. You will not be thrust into 369 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:56,200 Speaker 3: the amazing future God has in store. If you are 370 00:21:56,520 --> 00:22:00,760 Speaker 3: weighted down, letting people dump their problems on you make 371 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:04,159 Speaker 3: you discouraged, taking all your energy, thinking that you have 372 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:09,159 Speaker 3: to spend your time keeping them fixed, keeping them encouraged. No, 373 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 3: it's hard enough to keep yourself encouraged. Don't take responsibility 374 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:18,320 Speaker 3: for their happiness. And yes, I realize there are times 375 00:22:18,520 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 3: that we need to sow a seed, be a listening ear, 376 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:25,280 Speaker 3: help love somebody back into wholeness. But that should be 377 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:30,320 Speaker 3: for a season, not an ongoing drama to where every 378 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 3: day somebody calls you and tells how bad their husband's 379 00:22:34,080 --> 00:22:36,760 Speaker 3: treating her and how the neighbor didn't do her right. 380 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:40,000 Speaker 3: They're in the pits now. They're expecting you to work 381 00:22:40,040 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 3: your magic. It's like guiding Light Jersey Shore, Real Housewives 382 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:47,360 Speaker 3: of Beverly Hills all put into one Listen. You've got 383 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,800 Speaker 3: enough drama in your own life without listening to everybody 384 00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:56,640 Speaker 3: else's drama. You cannot put that negativity in and expect 385 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 3: to soar like God wants you to. 386 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:00,399 Speaker 5: You. 387 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:04,120 Speaker 3: If you don't make an adjustment in this area and 388 00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:07,560 Speaker 3: not spend so much time with the weights and the drags, 389 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:11,159 Speaker 3: it'll keep you from God's best Well, Joel, what if 390 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:14,399 Speaker 3: they get their feelings hurt? What if you miss your destinies? 391 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:17,600 Speaker 3: What if they get upset with me? What if you 392 00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:22,040 Speaker 3: don't accomplish your God given dreams? Pay attention to who 393 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:26,280 Speaker 3: you're spending time with. Are they lifters thrusters? Do they 394 00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:30,600 Speaker 3: motivate you, inspire you, challenge you, leave you better than 395 00:23:30,600 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 3: you were before? Or is it just the opposite They 396 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 3: drag you down. Many years ago, I used to get 397 00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,440 Speaker 3: my haircut by this young lady. She was as nice 398 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:42,600 Speaker 3: as can be, had a great heart, but she was 399 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:47,000 Speaker 3: very negative. Every time I went in, month after month, 400 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,399 Speaker 3: year after year, she would tell me all of her problems, 401 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 3: how the owners weren't treating her right, they were making 402 00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:56,600 Speaker 3: her work long hours, She had a sister that was 403 00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,920 Speaker 3: causing her problems. She was never sure she could pay 404 00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 3: her rent each month. Her father wasn't well. When I left, 405 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:08,000 Speaker 3: always felt so heavy, so discouraged. And I did my 406 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:11,560 Speaker 3: best to encourage her. I would pray with her, I 407 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 3: spoke faith into her, I gave her money, I sent 408 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:19,080 Speaker 3: her customers, but it was never enough. One day I 409 00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:23,680 Speaker 3: realized what I'm telling you, I cannot go where God 410 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 3: is taking me with her in my life. I love her, 411 00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:31,200 Speaker 3: I pray for her, but I cannot fulfill my destiny 412 00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:35,120 Speaker 3: with that weight and drag being put on me every month. 413 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:37,960 Speaker 3: And I made a change. And it wasn't easy, because 414 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:41,080 Speaker 3: I never liked to hurt somebody's feelings. But I knew 415 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:45,800 Speaker 3: my assignment was too important, my destiny was too great 416 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:50,680 Speaker 3: to allow someone to continually pull me down. You too 417 00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:54,040 Speaker 3: may have to make a change. And where you do 418 00:24:54,200 --> 00:24:57,719 Speaker 3: business and where you work out, in whose phone calls 419 00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:01,720 Speaker 3: you take. Don't let that negativity go into you day 420 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:06,639 Speaker 3: after day. You need to be around other thrusters, other lifters, 421 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:10,480 Speaker 3: people that motivate, people that inspire. That's why so many 422 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:13,960 Speaker 3: people are drawn to our ministry. There are enough weights, 423 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 3: enough drags. I'm gonna push you forward. If you get 424 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,520 Speaker 3: around me, I'm gonna do my best to encourage you 425 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 3: to challenge and inspire you, hopefully leave you better than 426 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,960 Speaker 3: you were before. Now, I know some of you work 427 00:25:28,000 --> 00:25:30,919 Speaker 3: around people who are a weight, or you go to 428 00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,320 Speaker 3: school with people who are a drag. You don't have 429 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:36,119 Speaker 3: a choice. You have to be there. Here's the key. 430 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:39,720 Speaker 3: Before you go to work, before you go to school, 431 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:44,840 Speaker 3: you got to get prayed up, praised up, encouraged. You 432 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:48,000 Speaker 3: gotta set your mind that's going to be a great day. 433 00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:52,480 Speaker 3: You cannot go into that negative environment in neutral. You 434 00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:57,320 Speaker 3: gotta get already filled up, already encouraged. Don't let your 435 00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,840 Speaker 3: guard down, stressed out because of the traffic, worried about 436 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 3: your deadline. Listen to the news now. If you're not 437 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 3: on the offensive, the weights and drags will pull you down. 438 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,639 Speaker 3: On the way to work. Maybe it's a twenty minute drive. 439 00:26:10,800 --> 00:26:13,480 Speaker 3: Why don't you put on some good praise music, get 440 00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:17,560 Speaker 3: your spirit person built up, have a grateful attitude. Start 441 00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:20,560 Speaker 3: thanking God for what he's done, or put on a 442 00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:25,120 Speaker 3: good teaching CD. Something that inspires you motivates you. Then 443 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,439 Speaker 3: start talking to yourself the right way. This is going 444 00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:30,359 Speaker 3: to be a great day. I have the favor of God. 445 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,320 Speaker 3: I am strong in the Lord. I can do all 446 00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,080 Speaker 3: things through Christ. Something good is going to happen to 447 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 3: me today. That's how you stay strong and not let 448 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:42,639 Speaker 3: the weights and drags pull you down. You've got to 449 00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:46,720 Speaker 3: build up that resistance. Well, what happens if you live 450 00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:50,720 Speaker 3: with a wait, perhaps you're even married to a wait, 451 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,240 Speaker 3: married to a drag. Don't look at your spouse now, 452 00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:57,840 Speaker 3: that wouldn't be good. You gotta do the same thing. 453 00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 3: Take extra doses of praise, encouragement, inspiration, stay filled up, 454 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:09,360 Speaker 3: and while God is in the process of changing that person, 455 00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:12,600 Speaker 3: don't let them steal your joy. Some people don't want 456 00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:15,480 Speaker 3: to be happy. They like living in the pits. You 457 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 3: got to have the attitude. If you don't want to 458 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,200 Speaker 3: be happy, that's fine, but you're not going to keep 459 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,119 Speaker 3: me from being happy. If you want to live in 460 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,639 Speaker 3: the pits, that's your choice. But I'm not getting in 461 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:29,480 Speaker 3: the pits with you take responsibility for your own happiness. 462 00:27:29,920 --> 00:27:34,360 Speaker 3: Don't let those issues sour your own life. Pray for them, 463 00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:38,640 Speaker 3: be respectful, but don't become codependent where you let their 464 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:43,320 Speaker 3: problem become your problem and you miss your destiny. Friends, 465 00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:47,520 Speaker 3: it's time to break free. Is there something keeping you 466 00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:51,320 Speaker 3: from being happy? Are you allowing somebody to control you? 467 00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:55,159 Speaker 3: Make you feel guilty because you don't meet all their demands? 468 00:27:55,480 --> 00:28:00,119 Speaker 3: Why don't you cut the puppet screens, set some boundaries. 469 00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:05,000 Speaker 3: Don't miss your destiny trying to keep everyone happy, everybody fixed. 470 00:28:05,359 --> 00:28:08,880 Speaker 3: God did not call you to be unhappy to keep 471 00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:13,800 Speaker 3: somebody else happy. Make sure you have plenty of thrusters 472 00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:17,359 Speaker 3: and lifters in your life. If you'll learn this principle 473 00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:21,199 Speaker 3: of taking control of your own happiness, I believe and 474 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:24,840 Speaker 3: declare this is going to be a new day. Bondagest 475 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,639 Speaker 3: that have held you back for years are being broken 476 00:28:27,760 --> 00:28:30,359 Speaker 3: right now. You're going to step into a new sense 477 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:34,040 Speaker 3: of freedom, a new sense of joy, a greater happiness. 478 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:38,160 Speaker 3: You will overcome every obstacle, defeat every enemy, and become 479 00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:42,240 Speaker 3: everything God's created you to be in Jesus' name, If 480 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 3: you receive it, can you say amen? We never like 481 00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:50,000 Speaker 3: to close our broadcast without giving you an opportunity to 482 00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:52,760 Speaker 3: make Jesus the lord of your life. Would you pray 483 00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:57,480 Speaker 3: with me? Just say, Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. 484 00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:04,480 Speaker 3: Come into my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. Friends, 485 00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 3: if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got 486 00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:10,320 Speaker 3: born again. Get in a good Bible based church. Keep 487 00:29:10,360 --> 00:29:13,239 Speaker 3: God first place. He's going to take your places that 488 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:14,240 Speaker 3: you've never dreamed of. 489 00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:18,360 Speaker 5: Thank you for listening to the Jolos Deine podcast. Help 490 00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,200 Speaker 5: us continue to share the message of hope with those 491 00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:25,200 Speaker 5: all over the world. Visit jolostin dot com slash give 492 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:26,959 Speaker 5: Hope to give a gift today. 493 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,120 Speaker 3: Thanks so much for listening to today's message. 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