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Speaker 1: Hi. I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson.

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Speaker 1: We wanted to do something that highlighted our relationships and

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Speaker 1: what it's like to be siblings. We are a sibling, Railvalry, No, no, sibling.

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Speaker 1: Don't do that with your mouth, Vely, that's good. This

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Speaker 1: episode you're about to listen to is Amy Schumer and

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Speaker 1: Kim Caramelli sisters. And unfortunately I had influenza A, not B,

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Speaker 1: not Corona. Let's not get crazy here, but I had

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Speaker 1: influenza A. I was unable to make the trip and

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Speaker 1: I was actually super bummed out because I was I

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Speaker 1: was very excited to hang with these girls. But I

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Speaker 1: did find an amazing replacement. Her name is Goldie Hawn.

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Speaker 1: She happens to be my mother. And I don't even

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Speaker 1: know what I don't even know what the hell any

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Speaker 1: they've talked about. I haven't listened to it. I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't even know. Like, I'm sure it's going to

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Speaker 1: be great. My only fear is is that you guys

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Speaker 1: are going to enjoy my mother more than myself. And

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Speaker 1: there's going to be a petition on move on dot

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Speaker 1: org that is going to kick me out of sibling revelry,

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Speaker 1: and my mother will replace me. I really don't want

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Speaker 1: that to happen. I mean, I do hope she does

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Speaker 1: a really good job. Maybe not a great job, but

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Speaker 1: a really good job. So it's like, oh, that was

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Speaker 1: really fun, but you know, we still want all of her.

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Speaker 1: That that's what I'm hoping for. Anyway, I'm sure it

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Speaker 1: was an amazing Amy and Kim are amazing. I've known

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Speaker 1: Amy for a little bit now, but I'm actually just

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Speaker 1: as excited to listen to this as you guys are.

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Speaker 1: So enjoy I will be listening along with you. Careen,

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Speaker 1: Mellie one is in front of us, all I'm so

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Speaker 1: happy to be here. I'm so happy to be here.

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Speaker 1: You guys are here, I know. And it's so funny

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Speaker 1: because all ofver can't be here because he's sick. He's

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Speaker 1: got the flu, and so we come to New York

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Speaker 1: and I was saying, oh my god, this is mom

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Speaker 1: was going to be here, and I was so excited

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Speaker 1: because it was like this just worked out, so this

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Speaker 1: is so it's so sorry, Allie, I'm sorry about the flu.

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Speaker 1: But when I heard you of the flu, I was

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Speaker 1: so excited because I knew that meant Goldie was coming.

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Speaker 1: Amy shrieked out of the window in delight in our

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Speaker 1: cab and I was like, he's really sick. She's like,

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Speaker 1: I don't care. New York. It was like, yeah, it

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Speaker 1: was my first real New York. Yeah, it was all

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Speaker 1: you get in, both hands up into light. I thought,

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Speaker 1: kim Bey, you were saying that you you love this podcast.

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Speaker 1: You listened to it, and it was the moment with

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Speaker 1: Goldie you heard. So I was listening to one of

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Speaker 1: the episodes and Goldie you had you called in and

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Speaker 1: they're like, oh, Mom's calling. And I don't think you

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Speaker 1: called in on purpose, No, you were, because you just

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Speaker 1: you kind of just got right to business. You were like,

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Speaker 1: where you know? Where's body at? And and you guys

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Speaker 1: were talking about how Goldie you had gotten a chef

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Speaker 1: for Oliver when he was in college, and I guess

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Speaker 1: you guys had some follow up questions about that, and

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Speaker 1: and the phrasing of the question was such that it

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Speaker 1: And you were like yes, and he said, why did

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Speaker 1: as though it was this grave injustice that you caused him.

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Speaker 1: Why did you do that to me? Why did you

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Speaker 1: get that for me? Mom? And you just laughed and

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Speaker 1: It was such a delightful. It was like, this is

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Speaker 1: my favorite concas all a setup. They set me up.

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Speaker 1: They sent you up. Oh yeah, we didn't. Oh I called, didn't.

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Speaker 1: I mean, well, yeah, you you all know. It was

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Speaker 1: one of those moments that was hilarious because we were

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Speaker 1: just talking about you and the phone ring and it goes,

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Speaker 1: oh my god, it's mom. It was one hundred coins.

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Speaker 1: It was it was a happened on film, let's put

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Speaker 1: it that way. Yeah, it's so funny. But we're excited

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Speaker 1: to be here. So so what we normally do on

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Speaker 1: then Kim okay, and so where did you guys grow up?

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Speaker 1: We grew up on Long Island, kind of in one

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Speaker 1: really there was no downside for you. But I mean

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Speaker 1: got to play soccer. But anyway, we grew up in

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Speaker 1: like one of the jew families. Uh, explain kind of

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Speaker 1: the house in which you grew up in was I'm

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Speaker 1: actually writing and starring in the show for Hulu right

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Speaker 1: now about that we were we were our dad was

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Speaker 1: really wealthy when we were really young. Oh yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 1: And we lived in like kind of a mansion and

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Speaker 1: you know they he had like his own plane for

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Speaker 1: a little while and then lost every thing. And so I,

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Speaker 1: that was until you were about nine and I was five.

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Speaker 1: Are you trying to plug the musical nine to five? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Is that not? Is that not? What? We don't use this? Oh? Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: well then wait, so you moved within the same town,

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Speaker 1: like literally from the mansion to it was riches, to

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Speaker 1: we lived in was it twelve different houses and apartments

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Speaker 1: more than every year? Yeah? Wow, we got smaller and smaller.

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Speaker 1: Do you remember it? Do you? I? Literally do I do?

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Speaker 1: get to watch like the progression of our downfall. We're

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Speaker 1: He loves mommy. Yeah, yeah, I love him. You're so sweet.

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Speaker 1: I mean every time, Well, what I learned more, you know,

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Speaker 1: You're saying that everything your whole life turned upside down exactly.

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Speaker 1: But when you go out of hand, we were little.

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Speaker 1: was like, shut up, and I'm playing. Okay. She was

425
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: twenty two and she was last year, and she was

426
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 1: projecting her feelings about the relationship. I was in onto

427
00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 1: what she thought. I thought about her husband. Yea. And

428
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 1: they got married in like a courthouse in Yonkers and

429
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:40,240
Speaker 1: I was like her witness, you know. And the night

430
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,240
Speaker 1: before was like, I don't think you like Vinnie, and

431
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:45,520
Speaker 1: I was like, you're an idiot. You are an absolute

432
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:47,399
Speaker 1: of course I love whatever. I was like, I'm coming.

433
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 1: Don't think this conversation ends. I'm coming to your wedding. Yeah.

434
00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 1: Our full time job is like not letting each other

435
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:56,199
Speaker 1: push the other one away. Yeah, it's really so important.

436
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 1: I mean, my God, at the end of the day,

437
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 1: and I'm way older than you are. Sisters are more important,

438
00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:06,440
Speaker 1: more valuable, you know, But who who is the most reasonable?

439
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 1: Do you think neither of us are? Oh you're crying

440
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 1: A sister. A lot of close girlfriends. I feel like

441
00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 1: they're still not my sister. Sister. Yeah. Well, I'm happy

442
00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:22,679
Speaker 1: I have one daughter because I'm surrounded by boys. Although

443
00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: now I have two granddaughters and so you know, you

444
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:29,919
Speaker 1: have a daughter, but it is different bonds. It's a

445
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,719
Speaker 1: very different bond. It's a different kind of love. Yeah,

446
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,120
Speaker 1: it's an ugly kind of love. Yeah. Well she doesn't

447
00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:39,600
Speaker 1: let me touch her. Oh really, Like I I'm very

448
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:42,399
Speaker 1: affectionate and I want I'm aware that I'm wearing her

449
00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:44,640
Speaker 1: sweater and I'm upset about it. Yeah. I don't want

450
00:25:44,680 --> 00:25:46,160
Speaker 1: to be cold, but I don't want to be wearing

451
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: her things. But I just want to, like, like, you know,

452
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,880
Speaker 1: hug her, and she's just like get awayfully. Yeah. Are

453
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 1: you like that with your Husbandian? No, it's Amy specific.

454
00:25:57,800 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 1: It's me really. I don't like drink after her. She's so,

455
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: she is, did you have you moved back or are

456
00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 1: you still in Chicago? Oh? No, I moved back to Connecticut,

457
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:15,320
Speaker 1: So I'm they moved a half hours away. How long

458
00:26:15,359 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 1: have you been married for I've been married for eleven years.

459
00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:24,119
Speaker 1: Isn't that crazy? Ye to Carmel got to skip the

460
00:26:24,320 --> 00:26:28,959
Speaker 1: whole dating all that? Yeah? Did you go to college? Yes?

461
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 1: And did you go to college? We both graduated from

462
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: college and I went to grad school. I was a

463
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 1: school psychologist and I went I'm been acting meiser two

464
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:42,480
Speaker 1: year intensive. So when she left for college. How was

465
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:48,879
Speaker 1: that for you? That was four years of it was

466
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 1: without your Like, you cannot imagine how bad it went

467
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:59,880
Speaker 1: the most veriest bad? Really? Oh yeah, I tanked, Yeah,

468
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:04,320
Speaker 1: and I like I could not believe I was going

469
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,800
Speaker 1: that I was away. Oh yeah, no, it it like

470
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:12,919
Speaker 1: ship went wild. How quickly were you out of the house?

471
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:16,399
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's kind of like how long did I

472
00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:20,879
Speaker 1: last in the house alone without her? A year and

473
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 1: a half. Yeah, a year and a half and then

474
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:27,120
Speaker 1: and then I had to be I came home a lot.

475
00:27:27,400 --> 00:27:31,040
Speaker 1: I came home a lot also, and not because she

476
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 1: was asking me to come home, but I would just

477
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: come home a lot. Yeah, so we could be together

478
00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,760
Speaker 1: and I would like go like visit me. I would

479
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 1: like not be in school, and like it would be

480
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,919
Speaker 1: like it's Tuesday, not on break, like what are you

481
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: doing here? Like? Yeah, it was it was real, real

482
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 1: rough separation anxiety and you weren't but you were close,

483
00:27:52,440 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: you were She wasn't too far away, right she was

484
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 1: in Maryland Baltimore. Oh yeah, no, it was a it

485
00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:00,200
Speaker 1: was a absconded. Yeah, no, I was. I was out

486
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:02,480
Speaker 1: but you could get there. Yeah, yeah. I took a train, train,

487
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:09,800
Speaker 1: and then when did you start stand up? When did

488
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:14,439
Speaker 1: I become a star? I started stand up when I

489
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: was like twenty three, right right after school, righttty much

490
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:22,399
Speaker 1: right after college. Yeah, and she's probably why that's a

491
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:24,879
Speaker 1: great question. I mean it is. It's a very brave

492
00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:28,120
Speaker 1: thing to do. I mean, to stand up and be funny,

493
00:28:28,200 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 1: and you know, it's it's a masochistic thing. I was

494
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 1: gonna say, I'm going to take the leap. Yeah. I mean,

495
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 1: you're friends with a bunch of stand ups, you know,

496
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 1: like they're the most delightful, mentally ill people, you know,

497
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 1: probably I uh, I was funny, like I was a

498
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: funny kid and all that. You know, when you just

499
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 1: have a little something that people just laugh when they

500
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:54,200
Speaker 1: see you. And uh, I mean, no one has it

501
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: more than you, Goldie, because you know it's crazy on them. Well,

502
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: I would be real about it and do a stand

503
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: up though, because you didn't even have to talk. You

504
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:08,840
Speaker 1: just stood there and everyone was hysterical, laughing and loving you.

505
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: But I feel like I had that little thing. And

506
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:14,160
Speaker 1: then so I tried to improv and that was not

507
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:16,640
Speaker 1: for me. And then one of the girls the improv troupe,

508
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 1: one of the girls she was like fifty. She did

509
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 1: stand up and I went to see her. She's really bad,

510
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:25,000
Speaker 1: and I was like, well, I think I could do

511
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 1: better than that. I just tried it. Just delusion and

512
00:29:29,400 --> 00:29:32,880
Speaker 1: you know your first stand up experience were you Was

513
00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 1: it scary or was it in your mind just sort

514
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: of okay, let's let's see what this is. It was

515
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 1: physically scary, yeah, it was like, you know, it wasn't

516
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:46,080
Speaker 1: the stage right of people looking at you, but it

517
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:50,120
Speaker 1: was okay, like you know, you just get up and talk,

518
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 1: you know. And so I wrote a little set and

519
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: it wasn't good, but I was likable enough that it

520
00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: went okay. Were you there? I don't know if I

521
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 1: at your very first. I don't know if it was

522
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 1: at your very but you you say that like a lot,

523
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 1: that it wasn't very good or whatever or that like

524
00:30:06,320 --> 00:30:09,240
Speaker 1: you were like not good right away, Like I think

525
00:30:09,280 --> 00:30:14,080
Speaker 1: you were so good because you love me. No, I

526
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 1: think I mean you're like, no one's good. You were

527
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 1: so funny and like you're like the things that you

528
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 1: were talking about were funny and like people laughed right away,

529
00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,240
Speaker 1: and some people get up. Some people get up and

530
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 1: it's crickets, like you got up some people and you're

531
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: literally like why are you doing it? And then yeah

532
00:30:30,800 --> 00:30:32,960
Speaker 1: and they and they go, I'm not gonna sorry. You

533
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 1: know what, I'm going to your life ever said you

534
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 1: were funny. I don't even think you're the funniest one

535
00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:41,320
Speaker 1: of your friends, right right you You got up and

536
00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 1: people were like, like, they laughed, they liked me, but

537
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 1: I wasn't good. But you don't get good at stand

538
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,440
Speaker 1: up for years. It's not that. Yeah, you weren't good

539
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 1: at stand up, but you were funny up there, and

540
00:30:50,320 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 1: you had like funny things to talk about, like like

541
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:56,240
Speaker 1: I think I think you're selling yourself short. No, your nice.

542
00:30:56,600 --> 00:31:00,720
Speaker 1: It was bad. I remember one show in Central Park

543
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 1: summer stage where you were there right three out doors, yes,

544
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 1: but okay, like three to five thousand people and I

545
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 1: went up real ready to just destroy and it was,

546
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 1: you know, a showcase. So I was doing fifteen minutes

547
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:19,200
Speaker 1: and I could hear out of those thousands of people

548
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 1: just my mom laughing, you know. So it wasn't even

549
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:28,000
Speaker 1: like I think the acoustics is the trees. I could

550
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,440
Speaker 1: hear just my mom trying to get everyone to laugh.

551
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I have bombed significantly what happens to you

552
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: after you bomb? No one will make eye contact with you.

553
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 1: You know, you look to people to be like, was

554
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 1: that as bad as it felt? You know, and everyone

555
00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,720
Speaker 1: just kind of looks at the floor. I've been with

556
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:49,560
Speaker 1: Amy twice when she's bombed, and this was not at

557
00:31:49,600 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 1: the beginning. One is Buffalo, right, or was it you

558
00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,600
Speaker 1: bombed in Buffalo? I've bombed. We've all bombed in Buffalo.

559
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 1: And one was like a private bond. Was that at

560
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: a countrymt a huntry? Oh? This was the first time

561
00:32:01,440 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 1: our dad was ever gonna see me do alive, you know,

562
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 1: because he's like in a wheelchair. You can't always. I

563
00:32:06,320 --> 00:32:09,720
Speaker 1: have seen I have seen Amy like at like a

564
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 1: sold out arena, like people crying, laughing, just like like

565
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,880
Speaker 1: a stadium erupting and laughter. And nothing compares to the

566
00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 1: feeling of elation that I feel when Amy has just

567
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:27,560
Speaker 1: just just fully room people who are just like no

568
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:33,000
Speaker 1: and no. And then she gives me, and she gives

569
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:36,480
Speaker 1: me on stage when she knows she's bombing, and and

570
00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:40,480
Speaker 1: I mean, we're we're dying laughing a moment and Kim

571
00:32:40,680 --> 00:32:42,840
Speaker 1: Kim always goes like this, she dances to the side.

572
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:47,000
Speaker 1: I look over at her and she's going like this, yeah,

573
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 1: just it's just it's a moment where it's just like

574
00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 1: and like, what are you gonna do? You gotta stay

575
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 1: out there, just stay out there. There's nothing you can do,

576
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 1: because it's also like she knows it's not her fault.

577
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: She's not doing like there's nothing you can about it,

578
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,000
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? And just but I mean,

579
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: the funny thing is we're still gonna have a lovely evening,

580
00:33:04,520 --> 00:33:06,719
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, we're gonna have a nice evening no

581
00:33:06,720 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 1: matter what. It's going to get off stage, it's gonna

582
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,920
Speaker 1: be fine. But just in that moment where I know

583
00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:13,800
Speaker 1: she's got another like twenty two minutes, oh yeah, and

584
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 1: like you know how those minutes go vibe But comics,

585
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:18,720
Speaker 1: you know, if if I if you see your friend

586
00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:22,000
Speaker 1: try a new joke and it just bombs, like there's

587
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: nothing funnier, you know, you know, no, exactly, friend Kyle,

588
00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: our friend Kyle, who yeah, Kyle, get for a We

589
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: like have made him do this one joke that we

590
00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 1: know is gonna bomb. It's convince him, like no, it's

591
00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 1: so fun. You have to do, please, you have to

592
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:37,960
Speaker 1: do you have to do it. And he'll not good.

593
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 1: It never gets long, this crowd like trust you have

594
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:43,440
Speaker 1: to do it was the crowd like you have to

595
00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 1: do And he'll get on stage and he'll do the

596
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: joke no and it ruins the set and he'll look

597
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 1: over to us, so we'll be like yeah, and we're

598
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:57,400
Speaker 1: like it's the best feelings. Oh my god. You know.

599
00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 1: The one thing I have to say about comedians and

600
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:04,120
Speaker 1: particularly stand up but you know that moves into acting

601
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:07,000
Speaker 1: as well whatever, is that there's a lot of tragedy

602
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 1: and sadness in their life and it part of what

603
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:15,160
Speaker 1: makes us survive is how we laugh at certain stuff

604
00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,960
Speaker 1: that literally other people would look at and go, how

605
00:34:18,000 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 1: did you get through it? Well? Because we have some

606
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:25,839
Speaker 1: weird sense of humor about life and it's always been there.

607
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: But that's why I said, like with all the stuff

608
00:34:27,560 --> 00:34:31,000
Speaker 1: you know from our childhood, truly, like looking back, it's

609
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:35,439
Speaker 1: never like I never remember us like collapsing into each

610
00:34:35,480 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 1: other in sorrow. It's always it's always like how we

611
00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 1: were just like yikes, and we move on. You know,

612
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:46,080
Speaker 1: you're so thet THET You're so lucky. I mean to

613
00:34:46,200 --> 00:34:49,080
Speaker 1: have that because it's even like what you're saying like

614
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:53,239
Speaker 1: you're up there bombing, you're laughing, your asshole, you're looking

615
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:56,920
Speaker 1: at me through and she's it and the reality is

616
00:34:57,000 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 1: is like okay, like we've been through so much more exactly.

617
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 1: There were times I've been doing stand up for fifteen years,

618
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:08,520
Speaker 1: and you know, probably in my first ten there were

619
00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 1: just some and a heckler would come at me and

620
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: I would go, I think you guys have seen me

621
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,799
Speaker 1: do stand up? I feel like I did I lose it.

622
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 1: I did anything happen where I'm okay, no, But you know,

623
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:25,520
Speaker 1: because other people the professional thing that's nice for the

624
00:35:25,560 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: audience is to say something that gets a laugh and

625
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:33,759
Speaker 1: move on. But it triggers me. It has triggered me

626
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 1: in a way where I'm like, what you know? And

627
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 1: then it just gets ugly. Have you gone at someone

628
00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 1: to the point where I felt bad later? Have you

629
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,879
Speaker 1: ever seen me like? I mean, I don't. I mean,

630
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:50,040
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say you'd feel bad later. I think I

631
00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 1: wouldn't qualify with that. A couple of times I felt

632
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:56,200
Speaker 1: bad later. Really yeah, I don't think you should up

633
00:35:56,239 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 1: for years. I think they should shut right on the

634
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 1: fuck up. Remember that show and Chicago and that girl, Tatiana,

635
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 1: it's not the time and night girl. Yeah, I think

636
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 1: about the bats thing all the time. This girl's in

637
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 1: the front row in Chicago. That's how I get out

638
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 1: of it. And she was. It was like toward the

639
00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:13,799
Speaker 1: end of the show. It had been a really good

640
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: show and the audience was happy and I feel good,

641
00:36:17,520 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 1: and this girl, I think, just got real drunk by

642
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:23,960
Speaker 1: the end and was like like yelling for me to

643
00:36:24,040 --> 00:36:28,360
Speaker 1: like show my booth or my vagina or something like.

644
00:36:28,400 --> 00:36:31,719
Speaker 1: She's like like it was just really dark, and I

645
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 1: tried to get her to be quiet and she wouldn't.

646
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:37,480
Speaker 1: And then I was like, when's the last time you

647
00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 1: saw your dad? Oh my? Oh yeah, oh yeah, I

648
00:36:41,960 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 1: mean I went and I don't that sounds awesome, that

649
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:55,839
Speaker 1: sounds great. But you know what Chris, I know, but

650
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:59,920
Speaker 1: Chris says Chris Rockets a quote. He's like, if ignorance

651
00:36:59,920 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: is bliss, then what's the opposite of that. It's you know,

652
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 1: comics see or performer, you know, you see everything, like

653
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 1: it's our job to read other people, and so that's

654
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 1: it's the opposite of bliss. It's like kind of a hell.

655
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: But god, I haven't heard that quote. Oh the best

656
00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:22,120
Speaker 1: like dramatic performances that I've seen recently have been by

657
00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 1: like people who are typically like comedic actors, And I

658
00:37:26,360 --> 00:37:28,640
Speaker 1: just think that it's like that, like kind of like

659
00:37:28,640 --> 00:37:31,319
Speaker 1: what we were talking about, how like comedians and people

660
00:37:31,320 --> 00:37:33,879
Speaker 1: who are really funny have this way of handling dark

661
00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: things and kind of perceiving darkness and doing something with

662
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 1: that that I think translates to drama in such a

663
00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:44,040
Speaker 1: distinct and clear and beautiful way. The best comics are

664
00:37:44,080 --> 00:37:46,879
Speaker 1: really vulnerable, I think, yeah, and really kind of gets

665
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 1: to the crux of things. And that's why I think that,

666
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 1: you know, like like Odin Kirk's performance on Better Call Saul,

667
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 1: I'm just like I'm blown away by it so much,

668
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:57,840
Speaker 1: and like he's so funny, and I just I really

669
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 1: like this trend of seeing like these like really comedic

670
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:02,759
Speaker 1: people being cast in these dramatic roles, and I just

671
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 1: I think it's like such an exciting thing. Well, it's

672
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,520
Speaker 1: the other side of comedy. Yeah, and we you know,

673
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 1: you possess the darkness, you know. I'm you know, I've

674
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 1: gone out there and I've been funny most of my life, right,

675
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 1: even though my mother didn't think I was funny. But

676
00:38:15,320 --> 00:38:18,920
Speaker 1: well that's why. Yeah, no, exactly, they're not that funny.

677
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:22,920
Speaker 1: But you know, like my favorite author, my favorite poets,

678
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 1: my favorite thing are dark you know, will Go for instance,

679
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 1: you know, and I just I'm much more attracted to

680
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:32,799
Speaker 1: that sort of the underworld, what what really is going on?

681
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 1: Where does pain come from? And it is it's just why,

682
00:38:36,080 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 1: it's like the it's like the clown, you know, it's

683
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:42,160
Speaker 1: like the gestures Gesters court gestures, knew everything. You know.

684
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: I personally think that it's much harder to be funny

685
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:48,719
Speaker 1: than it is to be oh my god. Yeah, I

686
00:38:48,719 --> 00:38:51,879
Speaker 1: mean it's much funnier. And and by the way, when

687
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: Amy Schumer cries, so do we same with all all

688
00:38:56,360 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 1: u ho's I mean seriously sort of when we cry us.

689
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 1: But but you know, in a movie like and I've

690
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:10,000
Speaker 1: told you this before, but How to Lose a Guy

691
00:39:10,040 --> 00:39:14,439
Speaker 1: in Ten Days, like that is such a classic, amazing

692
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 1: comedy that I feel like I have, you know, taken

693
00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 1: so much from uh and like I don't know, it's

694
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 1: like a classic, it's like a it was on the

695
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:27,320
Speaker 1: other day when I was getting my nails done, brag,

696
00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: got my nails up. Everyone. It's just like everyone loves

697
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 1: that movie and it's hilarious. It's hilarious and you're also

698
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:39,160
Speaker 1: heartbreaking it it makes you feel good and it's relatable. Yeah,

699
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: I mean I love that movie. I love it too.

700
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:44,879
Speaker 1: I loved making that movie. Yeah. It was also really

701
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 1: fun because that was one of those movies where we

702
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:49,400
Speaker 1: wrote every you know, you had your set pieces, but

703
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: I really like in order for them to come to life,

704
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,920
Speaker 1: there was a lot that had the ad libbing and

705
00:39:54,960 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 1: everything that I don't sell it. No, everything I was

706
00:39:57,480 --> 00:40:01,239
Speaker 1: doing was it wasn't written. You know. It set me

707
00:40:01,360 --> 00:40:04,400
Speaker 1: up for like the best my favorite kind of stuff,

708
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 1: which is just like going you know and proper. It

709
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 1: was also like kind of like revolutionary because it was like,

710
00:40:10,680 --> 00:40:12,640
Speaker 1: you know, I just felt like as women, we were

711
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:14,960
Speaker 1: just all supposed to like you want to try to

712
00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:19,120
Speaker 1: get a guy and you know, do a good job

713
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 1: and don't be too loud and don't be you know,

714
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: just be pretty and whatever. That's just like what it

715
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: felt like society song is to do. And then it

716
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 1: just felt kind of revolutionary to see a woman like

717
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 1: breaking all the rules, like I'm going to go so

718
00:40:32,239 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: far into that lane, you know, just yeah, because I'm

719
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:42,200
Speaker 1: because we're just as smart as you. We're smarter, you know. Yeah,

720
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 1: that makes me feel good. Oh my god. How often

721
00:40:45,719 --> 00:40:50,920
Speaker 1: do you guys talk a day? Every probably every day,

722
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:54,480
Speaker 1: especially every every day. Then sometimes not for a couple

723
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:56,680
Speaker 1: of days. But we talk a lot, yeah, depending on

724
00:40:56,719 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 1: like I mean sometimes like there's just like a lot

725
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: going on. We are like who like I call it.

726
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 1: I was like, can I complain for like thirty minutes?

727
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:08,279
Speaker 1: And she's like definitely clean. Yeah. And then also we

728
00:41:08,360 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: have an app called Polo like Marco Baro Yeah, which

729
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 1: is just which is just so good because sometimes you know,

730
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:18,840
Speaker 1: like like we don't maybe have like little video yeah,

731
00:41:18,880 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 1: like enough to say to have like a full like

732
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 1: conversation or whatever, but it's just like quick things or

733
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,600
Speaker 1: whatever where like I need her to see Like she's

734
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:28,360
Speaker 1: like I got a new plant that she needs me

735
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: to see, and I need You're gonna need to see that, yeah,

736
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: And I'm like yes, and then you know, but it's

737
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:33,920
Speaker 1: always keeping in touch. This is what I feel like

738
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:39,319
Speaker 1: is like a beautiful part of our sisterhood. A couple

739
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:41,800
Speaker 1: of years ago, I called her at like five PM

740
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 1: and I complained about some you know, some shit for

741
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:49,359
Speaker 1: like twenty minutes and it's five PM, and she goes,

742
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 1: it's my birthday. No, this so so this is okay,

743
00:41:55,200 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 1: it's this is my favorite. This is my favorite conversation. Okay,

744
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: it is five, it is five twenty two. We talked

745
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: for such a long time. She's just like talking to

746
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:11,320
Speaker 1: him like yeah, like oh my god, totally and she's like, okay,

747
00:42:11,400 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 1: I have to go. I'm going this thing whatever, what

748
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:15,440
Speaker 1: else is going on? What are you doing tonight? And

749
00:42:15,480 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 1: I went, well, it's my birthday, so and then both laughing.

750
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:22,959
Speaker 1: We laughed for so and it's just like, but that's

751
00:42:23,480 --> 00:42:26,560
Speaker 1: you know, and it's like and you see like you

752
00:42:26,600 --> 00:42:28,839
Speaker 1: see in like movies and shows or whatever where it's

753
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,719
Speaker 1: like that would like cause a fight or something like right,

754
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 1: but that's also not our language of love. We're not

755
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:36,320
Speaker 1: like gifts are not our Oh what is your language

756
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 1: of love? I love this act of what I did

757
00:42:44,080 --> 00:42:46,720
Speaker 1: not know how you were going to finish that. Okay, okay,

758
00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:51,240
Speaker 1: a service, really acts service that your number one actually

759
00:42:51,360 --> 00:42:53,479
Speaker 1: acts of service is probably my number one. I don't

760
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:56,480
Speaker 1: know what. And that's my husband's number one too, And

761
00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:58,520
Speaker 1: it's so funny because wait, you don't know what this

762
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:01,480
Speaker 1: is at all. Oh okay, you like figure out your

763
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:04,640
Speaker 1: love language, like sort of how you express I love

764
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:09,879
Speaker 1: words of affirmation. But Chris doesn't. My husband doesn't care,

765
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 1: like like it does nothing for him. So I'll be like,

766
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 1: you are such a great husband. I'm I feel lucky

767
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 1: every day. I love you so much. You're such a

768
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:21,919
Speaker 1: good dad. And he's like, can you turn the lights off?

769
00:43:22,120 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 1: Like he doesn't care, He doesn't, it doesn't it does

770
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: nothing for him. I hear that, And I don't have

771
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:32,760
Speaker 1: to see you for a week. Yeah, Kim's physical touch. No,

772
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 1: that was an act. I know. I'm gonna barn this. Okay.

773
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:44,160
Speaker 1: Will you tell the story about how you guys started

774
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 1: working together? Oh my god, yes, So I was. I was.

775
00:43:48,719 --> 00:43:53,120
Speaker 1: I was working as a school psychologist in Chicago. And

776
00:43:53,640 --> 00:43:56,120
Speaker 1: Amy head she was very good at it. It was

777
00:43:56,200 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: very Yeah, it was a kids loved an act, like

778
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:05,800
Speaker 1: an act to functioning there, I know. And and Amy

779
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 1: had just like Comedy Central had just like been like

780
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:12,319
Speaker 1: you're you know, given her a TV show and she

781
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 1: called me and she was like, I want you to

782
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:16,759
Speaker 1: come and write for the TV show And I was

783
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 1: like no, it was like I'm busy. I was like,

784
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:24,560
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do that, you know, because like

785
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 1: I just like started a new school, a new job

786
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,239
Speaker 1: or whatever. I was like, if you get picked up

787
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:32,359
Speaker 1: for a second season, I'll come to it. She never

788
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:36,200
Speaker 1: thought that would happen, really, because every you get picked

789
00:44:36,280 --> 00:44:39,440
Speaker 1: up for a year, and those are words of affirmation.

790
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:43,640
Speaker 1: I was good luck with your comedy. Yeah I was.

791
00:44:43,680 --> 00:44:46,719
Speaker 1: I was fully bluffing. I was like, you know, like

792
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:50,879
Speaker 1: catch you back at waiting tables. And then it's kind

793
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:53,320
Speaker 1: of like when she got picked up for a second season.

794
00:44:53,360 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 1: I could hear it in her voice, like I knew

795
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 1: you didn't think I was going to make this. She's like,

796
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,800
Speaker 1: yues what and she called me. I think she actually said,

797
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: like guess what, bitch. And she was like I got

798
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:10,360
Speaker 1: picked up for it, and I was like yeah, okay.

799
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 1: And so I went in to ask for a sabbatical

800
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:16,080
Speaker 1: because I was like, okay, I will come for to

801
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: write the show with you for six months and then

802
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: I'm going back to my life as a school psychologist

803
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:26,680
Speaker 1: in Chicago. And so I asked she thought I was

804
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:28,680
Speaker 1: going to make it six more months in the business

805
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 1: six Well, no, because I just I was coming, you know,

806
00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:32,480
Speaker 1: like I was going to just try it. I was,

807
00:45:32,520 --> 00:45:36,359
Speaker 1: you know, and so I asked for a sabbatical and

808
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:39,120
Speaker 1: uh and my principal was like, yeah, I'm sure the

809
00:45:39,120 --> 00:45:40,759
Speaker 1: school board will be fine with that, like you know,

810
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:43,120
Speaker 1: you're you're great, we love you here. And the school

811
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:47,360
Speaker 1: board was like no, And I was like, oh, I

812
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,640
Speaker 1: guess I quit and they're like oh. I was like

813
00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 1: all right, bye, and so I I quit, you know,

814
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: I quit. Yeah, And so I had to like but

815
00:45:58,719 --> 00:46:01,000
Speaker 1: you know, like when really it wasn't like this was

816
00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: a career change at all. It was like I am

817
00:46:04,719 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: going to just like go and like try this thing.

818
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 1: So I like talk to my husband and it was

819
00:46:08,200 --> 00:46:10,160
Speaker 1: it wasn't like we're moving in New York. I was like,

820
00:46:10,560 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna like go do this thing for six months,

821
00:46:13,480 --> 00:46:16,080
Speaker 1: like you stay here and like work and like be

822
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:19,160
Speaker 1: with the dog, and I'll like fly home every other

823
00:46:19,200 --> 00:46:22,440
Speaker 1: weekend for what was supposed to be. We rented Jake

824
00:46:22,520 --> 00:46:27,280
Speaker 1: Jillenhall's apartment and try baca and did you find anything

825
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:30,360
Speaker 1: weird inside of his Oh? We we try that place

826
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 1: closet we got we got a phone call about like

827
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:38,400
Speaker 1: shoes one day. Who We're like, yes, like there was

828
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 1: just no evidence of him at all, Like, yeah, I

829
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:46,080
Speaker 1: mean the only thing that was left was a frozen

830
00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 1: birthday cake in his freezer, which when I would get drunk,

831
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 1: I would not. And then we eventually made a video

832
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 1: like where I was pretending like I was at the

833
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 1: party where the kid had as his guest and I'm like, hi, Jake,

834
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:12,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like too, I think it was something. Yeah, yeah,

835
00:47:12,640 --> 00:47:14,279
Speaker 1: but we had a great and we went we went

836
00:47:14,320 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 1: to Berry's boot camp. Really skinny. I've never been to

837
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:20,759
Speaker 1: Berry's boot camp in Night, Maryland. I feel like it

838
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:24,000
Speaker 1: might be kind of fun. It's good if you're young

839
00:47:24,000 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 1: and you've never experienced trauma. Yeah, but no, it's I

840
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:30,880
Speaker 1: mean depending on like my body. If I did it,

841
00:47:30,960 --> 00:47:33,280
Speaker 1: I would need to be fully taken out to stretch.

842
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 1: It was. It was great. That's cool, but it is fun.

843
00:47:37,040 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 1: It's hard. It's hard, and then you feel you feel great.

844
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay, so you can't. I slept with our instructor. Well,

845
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:48,839
Speaker 1: then it was awesome. I want not only don't take

846
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 1: that out, I want that twice. Can you do? Can

847
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:57,640
Speaker 1: you play it and then play it again? Lucky girl? Please,

848
00:47:57,960 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 1: I'm proud that you you started working. So I came

849
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:04,640
Speaker 1: and then like it was kind of like we realized that, like, oh,

850
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:07,799
Speaker 1: like you're actually doing I'm actually doing this, and like

851
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:11,359
Speaker 1: I was like like good, and and then it was

852
00:48:11,400 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 1: like I was going to just be there for the writing,

853
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:14,600
Speaker 1: and then it was like, oh, like I should also

854
00:48:14,640 --> 00:48:17,279
Speaker 1: be here for when we're shooting this, because like that

855
00:48:17,320 --> 00:48:20,160
Speaker 1: would be good too, And then it was going to

856
00:48:20,200 --> 00:48:21,920
Speaker 1: be like right from there, Amy was going to go

857
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 1: and start like working on train Wreck, and she was like, hey,

858
00:48:25,480 --> 00:48:29,560
Speaker 1: like can you also like come and do this as well?

859
00:48:29,760 --> 00:48:32,040
Speaker 1: Then this idiot's living in l A. And then so

860
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 1: those apartments called the oak Woods. Then it's looking like

861
00:48:38,040 --> 00:48:40,200
Speaker 1: this is what we're going to do. So then I

862
00:48:41,840 --> 00:48:44,279
Speaker 1: and I was like hey, and then they gave him

863
00:48:44,320 --> 00:48:47,120
Speaker 1: a fucking sabbatical. I was like, your people gave you

864
00:48:47,160 --> 00:48:50,240
Speaker 1: a sabbatical. And so so he and my my dog

865
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: and we all like went to l A. And and

866
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:59,320
Speaker 1: then that was you're here and I'm in Connecticut. Yeah yeah, yeah, fun,

867
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:01,840
Speaker 1: and then I need to be back. I'm so happy

868
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: to be back. Oh my god. It's been so nice

869
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,600
Speaker 1: because I just like I come here. I'm here probably

870
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:10,759
Speaker 1: like once a month on average more. Yeah, it's it's

871
00:49:10,760 --> 00:49:15,399
Speaker 1: been it's been so nice you're at that close proximity. Yeah. Well,

872
00:49:15,440 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 1: the day that Jean, that that Gene was born, I

873
00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:20,880
Speaker 1: was I was here or whatever. And then because he

874
00:49:20,920 --> 00:49:22,160
Speaker 1: wasn't going to be here to the next week, I

875
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:24,000
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, see next week, and I went home

876
00:49:24,040 --> 00:49:26,360
Speaker 1: and then Amy Collin was like hey, actually, and I

877
00:49:26,360 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 1: was like okay, and I came right back. You know,

878
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:31,240
Speaker 1: if I was in Chicago, I know that couldn't have happened.

879
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:33,479
Speaker 1: You know. It's just it's it's so nice being this close.

880
00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:35,719
Speaker 1: I love it. It's you run on everything by each

881
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:40,680
Speaker 1: other pretty much. No, no, no, not really, it's no,

882
00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,600
Speaker 1: we're it's nice. We were We do run a lot.

883
00:49:43,680 --> 00:49:47,680
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884
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885
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:51,720
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886
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887
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890
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892
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894
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941
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Speaker 1: when you're thinking about parenting or after having the baby,

942
00:53:29,640 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 1: after having gene go, you know, I'm going to do

943
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 1: something very differently than how I was raised. Does that

944
00:53:37,280 --> 00:53:40,320
Speaker 1: Is that an active thought for you? Yeah? An active

945
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:44,960
Speaker 1: thought for me is you know, I'm like I've never

946
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 1: I haven't yet like spent the night away from him,

947
00:53:49,360 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 1: and I have a hard time leaving and even for

948
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:57,120
Speaker 1: a couple hours for work, just leaving the room. You know,

949
00:53:57,680 --> 00:54:01,640
Speaker 1: that guilt and the shame and the and I have

950
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 1: been teaching myself like you're not that important, you know,

951
00:54:07,040 --> 00:54:09,719
Speaker 1: like just a mom is very important. But it's like,

952
00:54:10,360 --> 00:54:14,879
Speaker 1: don't make him, don't make yourself this important to him.

953
00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:17,680
Speaker 1: In your mind, and don't you know. I still want

954
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:19,600
Speaker 1: to be present and be a great mom, but I

955
00:54:19,640 --> 00:54:23,920
Speaker 1: don't want to. I don't want like, I don't want

956
00:54:23,920 --> 00:54:27,040
Speaker 1: to make myself his life. You don't really say things

957
00:54:27,120 --> 00:54:30,319
Speaker 1: like Mama loves you or like you know, stuff like that,

958
00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 1: like like, yeah, you don't really put yourself in sentences

959
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 1: about him or whatever. It's more like like what do

960
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 1: you want? And what do you what are you doing?

961
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:40,520
Speaker 1: And everything like that. Yeah, you don't really make it,

962
00:54:40,880 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 1: which like no, I just want him to be his own.

963
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:45,799
Speaker 1: But I have the same thing. I mean with Ryder,

964
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:47,759
Speaker 1: I didn't leave until he was two, almost two and

965
00:54:47,760 --> 00:54:49,799
Speaker 1: a half for the first time. I mean I had

966
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:51,840
Speaker 1: a full on because you want them to feel so

967
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:55,359
Speaker 1: low secure and it was my own and and and

968
00:54:55,480 --> 00:54:58,480
Speaker 1: he I mean, yeah, it was obviously great for him

969
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 1: to have that kind of attachment. And I went everywhere

970
00:55:01,080 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 1: with him. I didn't leave. It's called security, right. The

971
00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 1: studies have shown that a child who has secure attachment

972
00:55:08,000 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 1: does very well in life. Yeah, children that don't, their

973
00:55:11,120 --> 00:55:14,799
Speaker 1: trajectory is not very good. Yeah, So theres attachment, and

974
00:55:14,840 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 1: then there's the other level. Well, then there's there's a

975
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:23,720
Speaker 1: different thing then there's Munchausen. Yeah, yes, but it's between

976
00:55:23,800 --> 00:55:27,960
Speaker 1: it's between you know, zero and like two and a

977
00:55:28,000 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 1: half years old. That's when that that's when it and

978
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be a mom, that's that's who

979
00:55:35,719 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 1: like the learning of Like, you know, he loves his

980
00:55:39,640 --> 00:55:43,080
Speaker 1: nanny Jane, and Jane loves him so much. This sounds

981
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:50,160
Speaker 1: like I'm doing Tarzan and Jane. Jane loves Jean, but uh,

982
00:55:50,400 --> 00:55:53,800
Speaker 1: and to not feel weird about that because he loves

983
00:55:53,840 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 1: me too, you know. It's like I want him to

984
00:55:55,800 --> 00:55:57,960
Speaker 1: love the person, yes, and you want him to know

985
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 1: what love is because that's really important. Yeah. I know

986
00:56:01,560 --> 00:56:03,960
Speaker 1: that there's a lot of gals who will have babies

987
00:56:03,960 --> 00:56:06,560
Speaker 1: and they become jealous of their nanny and then the

988
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:09,239
Speaker 1: baby wants the nanny and doesn't want the mommy. Yeah.

989
00:56:09,360 --> 00:56:13,600
Speaker 1: I remember thinking that child is learning how to love. Yeah,

990
00:56:13,920 --> 00:56:17,759
Speaker 1: and as many people as this kid, my babies can love.

991
00:56:18,160 --> 00:56:21,719
Speaker 1: It's the greatest thing ever more fearlessly love. Yeah, you know,

992
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:24,239
Speaker 1: and I never felt like that because you always know

993
00:56:24,320 --> 00:56:27,040
Speaker 1: the child is always going to love you. Unfortunately, no

994
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:30,840
Speaker 1: matter what, you can't shake them right, you know, like

995
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:33,320
Speaker 1: they would feel better if you were there all the time,

996
00:56:34,840 --> 00:56:38,080
Speaker 1: but just making sure it's not about me. I also

997
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,759
Speaker 1: try to remind people too. It's a funny thing because

998
00:56:40,800 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 1: when people go, oh, you you know, have nannies or

999
00:56:43,320 --> 00:56:47,279
Speaker 1: helpy whatever. I always say, people don't realize that we

1000
00:56:47,280 --> 00:56:50,680
Speaker 1: weren't supposed to do this on our own. Like we were.

1001
00:56:51,040 --> 00:56:55,479
Speaker 1: We were all in a tp together raising each other's children. Work.

1002
00:56:55,560 --> 00:56:58,960
Speaker 1: We had to work, we had to farm, we had

1003
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:02,440
Speaker 1: to everybody chipped in. Everybody was ya. I was always

1004
00:57:02,840 --> 00:57:06,200
Speaker 1: were always helping each other with our with childberry was

1005
00:57:06,239 --> 00:57:09,960
Speaker 1: what we did it. For some reason, now one woman,

1006
00:57:10,520 --> 00:57:13,640
Speaker 1: one woman is supposed to be everything to all the children,

1007
00:57:13,680 --> 00:57:18,080
Speaker 1: and it's impossible. You know, it's impossible. You're you're asking

1008
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:21,280
Speaker 1: the impossible of it goes against it. I don't even

1009
00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:24,080
Speaker 1: know what's based instinct. Was there like a time in

1010
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:27,440
Speaker 1: consumerism where there was like that woman that were I mean,

1011
00:57:27,480 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 1: it's it's such a lie. I mean, I I don't,

1012
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:32,080
Speaker 1: I mean it had to be. I mean, I'm sure.

1013
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:35,640
Speaker 1: I remember I did this film Swing Shift right yea,

1014
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 1: and that movie was all about what happened during the

1015
00:57:37,960 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 1: Second World War, well with these women and we all

1016
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:42,440
Speaker 1: went in and it was Rosie the riveter, and they

1017
00:57:42,480 --> 00:57:45,520
Speaker 1: became they got jobs right, and they suddenly became sort

1018
00:57:45,560 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 1: of actualized and in many ways sexualized, and ways that

1019
00:57:49,000 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 1: they could fix their own toaster, and they became independent.

1020
00:57:51,760 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 1: And what was interesting about the notion of the movie

1021
00:57:55,120 --> 00:57:58,000
Speaker 1: is is that they had all the propaganda about the

1022
00:57:58,080 --> 00:57:59,520
Speaker 1: end of the movie, which it shows is that they

1023
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:02,880
Speaker 1: have new shwashers, they had no washing machines, and they

1024
00:58:02,920 --> 00:58:05,520
Speaker 1: brought women back into the kitchen. They wanted to bring

1025
00:58:05,560 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 1: them back in and this was sort of the theme

1026
00:58:08,840 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 1: of the movie. It's the theme of messaging and no exactly.

1027
00:58:12,880 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 1: So it was like luring them back into that world

1028
00:58:16,360 --> 00:58:22,360
Speaker 1: of service and not any the self sparkly a sparkle

1029
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:26,480
Speaker 1: and a lovely a lovely little apron, lovely Apron. But

1030
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:29,640
Speaker 1: we're only just coming out of the that now. I

1031
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 1: feel like these last couple of years where everybody's eyes

1032
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:37,400
Speaker 1: are really open to how insane we got used to

1033
00:58:37,440 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 1: being treated. Oh yeah, everybody felt like it was okay.

1034
00:58:41,880 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 1: I feel like it's still really well. I have to

1035
00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:48,280
Speaker 1: say too, when you came on the scene and the

1036
00:58:48,280 --> 00:58:51,800
Speaker 1: things that you were talking about, and I remember the oh, okay,

1037
00:58:51,920 --> 00:58:55,200
Speaker 1: so this is going to change the dialogue of how

1038
00:58:55,280 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 1: women talk about themselves. And I think you had a huge,

1039
00:58:59,400 --> 00:59:02,760
Speaker 1: huge part in that because you were the first woman

1040
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:06,680
Speaker 1: to be accepted who really came out and was like,

1041
00:59:06,840 --> 00:59:09,360
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm going to actually just talk about

1042
00:59:09,400 --> 00:59:12,400
Speaker 1: how it really is for me as a woman. And

1043
00:59:12,880 --> 00:59:16,240
Speaker 1: and I think Vagina was in there somewhere. Vagina was

1044
00:59:16,600 --> 00:59:18,640
Speaker 1: But you know what, I need to throw it back

1045
00:59:18,680 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 1: to you and say that I think that I was

1046
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:23,840
Speaker 1: really inspired by a lot of your work, like just

1047
00:59:23,920 --> 00:59:25,800
Speaker 1: that's the truth. That would nobody like to take a

1048
00:59:25,840 --> 00:59:28,640
Speaker 1: compliment and and and you know you weren't at all

1049
00:59:28,680 --> 00:59:33,080
Speaker 1: in any way and influence. So I'm sorry about that. No,

1050
00:59:33,160 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 1: but I mean that's really cool because that's exactly how

1051
00:59:35,800 --> 00:59:38,680
Speaker 1: I feel. But you, but you did make it okay

1052
00:59:38,880 --> 00:59:40,880
Speaker 1: for a lot of women to feel like, oh I

1053
00:59:40,960 --> 00:59:43,920
Speaker 1: can be more truthful like a human. Yeah. Yeah. The

1054
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:46,880
Speaker 1: audacity of ye trying to be treated like a yes,

1055
00:59:47,200 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 1: well gosh, the audacity of just deciding that you wanted

1056
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:53,919
Speaker 1: to make a movie that you know you had to

1057
00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:56,800
Speaker 1: figure out how to be the leader and you say

1058
00:59:56,800 --> 01:00:02,240
Speaker 1: I want to produce, yeah, produce, yeah, just st right.

1059
01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:06,760
Speaker 1: It really was a double edged sort and these women yesterday.

1060
01:00:06,840 --> 01:00:09,520
Speaker 1: I just you know, this is where it's like. But

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01:00:09,960 --> 01:00:15,320
Speaker 1: these women are from this uh they're the you know,

1062
01:00:15,320 --> 01:00:19,280
Speaker 1: they grow tomatoes, they harvest the tomatoes in Florida. They're

1063
01:00:19,280 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 1: like this the Mocholy Coalition, this tribe and these women

1064
01:00:24,960 --> 01:00:29,680
Speaker 1: from from Guatemala. Like what if I was like the

1065
01:00:29,720 --> 01:00:32,840
Speaker 1: person who tried to say it right from Watemala, Like

1066
01:00:32,880 --> 01:00:36,960
Speaker 1: I just hit it hard anyway, and you're like, oh,

1067
01:00:37,040 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 1: they But anyway, they're these farm workers and they make

1068
01:00:42,600 --> 01:00:47,600
Speaker 1: about thirteen grand a year, you know, and they fought

1069
01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:51,160
Speaker 1: and eighty percent of these workers get assaulted in the field.

1070
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:53,560
Speaker 1: You know, it's sexually assault in the field, starting at

1071
01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:58,720
Speaker 1: fourteen years old. Anyway, they got together and they came

1072
01:00:58,800 --> 01:01:02,640
Speaker 1: up with the Fair Food Act. So just there's oversight

1073
01:01:02,720 --> 01:01:05,560
Speaker 1: and so you can you know, and so the tomatoes

1074
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:09,440
Speaker 1: on this burgers that you get from McDonald's or Burger

1075
01:01:09,520 --> 01:01:12,800
Speaker 1: King or all these places signed on for the Fair

1076
01:01:12,880 --> 01:01:16,240
Speaker 1: Food Act, so you know that those workers are protected.

1077
01:01:16,840 --> 01:01:19,560
Speaker 1: And then there's some places like Wendy's or Publics or

1078
01:01:19,600 --> 01:01:22,000
Speaker 1: Kroger's that are like, we're not signing on to that.

1079
01:01:22,360 --> 01:01:26,640
Speaker 1: But like these women band together and made this change,

1080
01:01:27,440 --> 01:01:31,440
Speaker 1: you know, and just seeing another woman act like a

1081
01:01:31,560 --> 01:01:35,280
Speaker 1: human and demand to be treated just like bare minimum

1082
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 1: like a human, it really inspires other people to do that.

1083
01:01:39,720 --> 01:01:42,120
Speaker 1: And I felt that from you guys, you know, and

1084
01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:44,040
Speaker 1: hearing that you guys felt it for me. It's cool.

1085
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:48,800
Speaker 1: I think it's the dialogue. Everything is happening, but there

1086
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:52,600
Speaker 1: still is this little part of me that every time

1087
01:01:52,680 --> 01:01:56,000
Speaker 1: I walk into a room, you know, it's a little

1088
01:01:56,000 --> 01:02:02,080
Speaker 1: bit like, don't don't now, just be this one thing right,

1089
01:02:02,200 --> 01:02:03,960
Speaker 1: And you're like, I'm not trying to be rude, but

1090
01:02:04,040 --> 01:02:07,560
Speaker 1: I created all of these jobs. I mean, you are

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01:02:07,640 --> 01:02:11,240
Speaker 1: essentially a job creator. Yeah right. I'd be doing like

1092
01:02:11,280 --> 01:02:14,280
Speaker 1: an arena. I'd be like about to do you know

1093
01:02:14,320 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 1: where the basketball teams play and the people backstage it

1094
01:02:17,880 --> 01:02:21,360
Speaker 1: would be like square Garden, baby, and it's like, oh,

1095
01:02:21,400 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 1: do you you need this? You complain about that the

1096
01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:28,000
Speaker 1: music is not loud enough or whatever. I'm like, yeah,

1097
01:02:28,080 --> 01:02:31,160
Speaker 1: yes I am. These people are here because I'm here,

1098
01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:35,439
Speaker 1: you know, like you treat the guys. I sometimes sit

1099
01:02:35,520 --> 01:02:38,720
Speaker 1: very quietly and I watch some of my male peers

1100
01:02:39,280 --> 01:02:43,360
Speaker 1: do certain things, and I do clock them, like if

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01:02:43,400 --> 01:02:47,480
Speaker 1: I did that, I did that, I did that that

1102
01:02:47,600 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 1: would ever go over say it would be pop it

1103
01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:58,040
Speaker 1: happened anyway, not saying it doesn't even like occur to them,

1104
01:02:58,320 --> 01:03:01,360
Speaker 1: Like there's not a moment before they say something that

1105
01:03:01,400 --> 01:03:05,000
Speaker 1: they're like should I? Maybe not like there's no Yeah,

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01:03:06,920 --> 01:03:09,840
Speaker 1: this is a little That's what is so fascinating to

1107
01:03:09,880 --> 01:03:12,160
Speaker 1: me that they're not like should I. It's just like

1108
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 1: thought here it is, you know, I'm just like that's

1109
01:03:14,160 --> 01:03:18,120
Speaker 1: why I love in like a Beyonce documentary or Nicki

1110
01:03:18,160 --> 01:03:20,880
Speaker 1: Minaj or just or tailors but whatever. There's those moments

1111
01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:24,840
Speaker 1: where you see them stand up for themselves and it's like, oh,

1112
01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:28,200
Speaker 1: it's a little alarming to see, but I know. But

1113
01:03:28,280 --> 01:03:30,920
Speaker 1: it's also like, can you believe we actually have like

1114
01:03:31,040 --> 01:03:33,440
Speaker 1: it's been as bad as it has. Yeah, well, by

1115
01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:39,720
Speaker 1: the way, I mean, have you been here in this generation? Yeah,

1116
01:03:39,880 --> 01:03:42,120
Speaker 1: it's we like to think that the needle has moved,

1117
01:03:42,680 --> 01:03:47,880
Speaker 1: but very slowly. Yeah, I mean it's just the way

1118
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 1: it is, you know, every single relationships as well. Yeah,

1119
01:03:52,280 --> 01:03:56,760
Speaker 1: and part and wealthy in a relationship. Yeah. That's another one,

1120
01:03:56,800 --> 01:03:59,400
Speaker 1: which is like you want to feel like a girl,

1121
01:03:59,440 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 1: you want to be sexy, you want to be this

1122
01:04:01,320 --> 01:04:03,120
Speaker 1: and that, you want to figure out how to make

1123
01:04:03,160 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 1: it all right, And it's very tough to be really

1124
01:04:07,400 --> 01:04:11,400
Speaker 1: successful and in the world and hold a relationship. I

1125
01:04:11,800 --> 01:04:13,680
Speaker 1: very much. But for you, it's like you were the

1126
01:04:13,720 --> 01:04:18,520
Speaker 1: epitome of adorable and bubbly and giggly, and it must

1127
01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:21,480
Speaker 1: have been so hard for people to also accept you

1128
01:04:21,760 --> 01:04:30,120
Speaker 1: as as a smart human business intelligen Like, really, if

1129
01:04:30,160 --> 01:04:32,439
Speaker 1: I get if I laugh at all and amating, it's

1130
01:04:32,480 --> 01:04:37,320
Speaker 1: just I go right back to zero air ahead. It's

1131
01:04:37,320 --> 01:04:41,280
Speaker 1: like you have to make a choice, you can exactly. Yeah.

1132
01:04:41,360 --> 01:04:43,720
Speaker 1: I figured if I walked in like showing my teeth

1133
01:04:44,280 --> 01:04:46,919
Speaker 1: and I wouldn't be upset. You know. See I never

1134
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:49,160
Speaker 1: got brasist, so I would have that like see the

1135
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:52,760
Speaker 1: bottom here, Like, yeah, I would have that very intimidating

1136
01:04:52,840 --> 01:04:59,960
Speaker 1: bottom row. Our sponsor is locks. Okay. Advice sisters who

1137
01:05:00,080 --> 01:05:05,760
Speaker 1: want to work together? Oh do it? That's it. Good advice, Okay,

1138
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:09,640
Speaker 1: do it. One word to describe the other? One word

1139
01:05:10,240 --> 01:05:22,720
Speaker 1: fat the other? Oh sorry, less fat? No? Uh hilarious, funny.

1140
01:05:25,960 --> 01:05:30,960
Speaker 1: Who's better at following rules? Me? Yeah, kim? One word

1141
01:05:31,120 --> 01:05:45,720
Speaker 1: to describe each other at twelve? Who texts the other more? Me? Yeah?

1142
01:05:45,760 --> 01:05:52,880
Speaker 1: Maybe you text more? I call him more. Favorite book

1143
01:05:52,960 --> 01:05:57,800
Speaker 1: Harry Potter your favorite book TV? Yeah, I love it.

1144
01:05:58,200 --> 01:06:03,280
Speaker 1: Have you ever seen it? I've turned on television? Yea,

1145
01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:12,080
Speaker 1: Oh god, who's an easier person to make laugh? Oh?

1146
01:06:12,080 --> 01:06:16,120
Speaker 1: She's a really good laugh Mom is the easiest to

1147
01:06:16,160 --> 01:06:20,000
Speaker 1: make laugh for us? And oh? Really? Yeah? Then I'm

1148
01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:24,400
Speaker 1: I'm second. I think, yeah, I bet who can come

1149
01:06:24,480 --> 01:06:30,680
Speaker 1: up with a better punchline? Amy Kim the closer on

1150
01:06:30,680 --> 01:06:32,800
Speaker 1: our TV show because she would always think of the

1151
01:06:32,800 --> 01:06:37,040
Speaker 1: closing punchline, which is the hardest. And I'm just good

1152
01:06:37,040 --> 01:06:41,360
Speaker 1: at like little like he laughed, Like you're reading a

1153
01:06:41,360 --> 01:06:44,400
Speaker 1: book that's funny. Isn't it interesting? Though? Because sometimes a

1154
01:06:44,440 --> 01:06:49,280
Speaker 1: punchline is just a look and those are the best. Yeah,

1155
01:06:49,360 --> 01:06:52,440
Speaker 1: it's so cool. Who is more likely to suggest taking

1156
01:06:52,440 --> 01:06:56,800
Speaker 1: a photo? Me? Oh yeah, yeah, well I was gonna

1157
01:06:56,800 --> 01:06:59,040
Speaker 1: say that. We don't really. We both like proof of life,

1158
01:07:00,600 --> 01:07:02,840
Speaker 1: you know, like if we're having a nice moment, like

1159
01:07:03,240 --> 01:07:04,880
Speaker 1: we don't want it to end, it's like, somebody take

1160
01:07:04,920 --> 01:07:06,400
Speaker 1: a picture of this, like you want to look at

1161
01:07:06,440 --> 01:07:13,600
Speaker 1: it later. Most disagreed on topic. Most disagreed on topic.

1162
01:07:16,720 --> 01:07:19,560
Speaker 1: I don't know what that means, like like traveling, Like

1163
01:07:19,640 --> 01:07:21,600
Speaker 1: what do you guys disagree? I would say I want

1164
01:07:21,640 --> 01:07:26,600
Speaker 1: her to travel doing things like activities, and she thinks

1165
01:07:26,600 --> 01:07:29,560
Speaker 1: that I should like teach our dog how to go

1166
01:07:29,600 --> 01:07:35,480
Speaker 1: to the bathroom outside. I have, I have, I have

1167
01:07:35,520 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 1: been pretty firm on that, and I just don't see

1168
01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:41,160
Speaker 1: that for her. I don't see that for her, And

1169
01:07:41,200 --> 01:07:47,520
Speaker 1: by the look she doesn't, she's not. I had a

1170
01:07:47,560 --> 01:07:50,200
Speaker 1: little one too, and I think it's also just a

1171
01:07:50,280 --> 01:07:52,760
Speaker 1: lazy parent. Because I had a lot of peepee pads.

1172
01:07:52,800 --> 01:07:56,320
Speaker 1: I was like, no, she's fine, she's pads all over

1173
01:07:56,720 --> 01:08:01,720
Speaker 1: and that if the peepee pads old, we're fall We're

1174
01:08:01,760 --> 01:08:04,640
Speaker 1: taken as a suggestion. No rugs are the new pepe

1175
01:08:04,760 --> 01:08:08,920
Speaker 1: pad is just rugs. I close my bedroom door here. Yeah,

1176
01:08:08,960 --> 01:08:13,360
Speaker 1: who has a better poker face? Amy? What? Oh? I poker? Me?

1177
01:08:13,760 --> 01:08:16,600
Speaker 1: But in life? Amy in life? Me in life? Me.

1178
01:08:16,720 --> 01:08:19,679
Speaker 1: But she's actually at actual poker. He's an actual better

1179
01:08:19,720 --> 01:08:23,240
Speaker 1: poker face. If but okay, if they had to eat

1180
01:08:23,360 --> 01:08:27,679
Speaker 1: one fast food forever, what would it be. We're just nothing.

1181
01:08:27,720 --> 01:08:30,640
Speaker 1: We're just both going pasta it's both just yeah, we

1182
01:08:30,680 --> 01:08:33,800
Speaker 1: would skip the best food. This is fun. It is

1183
01:08:33,880 --> 01:08:38,920
Speaker 1: so fun. One thing you can do your sister can't, Oh,

1184
01:08:39,080 --> 01:08:47,320
Speaker 1: make a man orgasm. I haven't I've been googling. I

1185
01:08:47,400 --> 01:08:51,519
Speaker 1: read a book. No, that's why I don't have any kids.

1186
01:08:51,680 --> 01:08:58,320
Speaker 1: I can do. I can open a bottle of wine. Yeah,

1187
01:08:58,400 --> 01:09:03,200
Speaker 1: make like a cocktail. Yeah, you can function in society.

1188
01:09:03,200 --> 01:09:10,160
Speaker 1: Now what can you do that I can't? You can't. Yeah,

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01:09:10,240 --> 01:09:15,360
Speaker 1: I have I have better like long term Wait, you

1190
01:09:15,400 --> 01:09:18,200
Speaker 1: have a really good memory memory? She tested my I

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01:09:18,320 --> 01:09:21,759
Speaker 1: Q once. Yeah, she's a school psychologist, and I tested

1192
01:09:21,800 --> 01:09:24,840
Speaker 1: in some categories as a true genius, and then in

1193
01:09:24,920 --> 01:09:29,160
Speaker 1: some categories as if I no offense to anyone, but

1194
01:09:29,439 --> 01:09:32,160
Speaker 1: like as if I had down syndrome. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

1195
01:09:32,200 --> 01:09:35,240
Speaker 1: but it's not a dig. That's the numbers. It was

1196
01:09:35,320 --> 01:09:39,440
Speaker 1: numbers of statistic But what your your my my word recognition,

1197
01:09:39,520 --> 01:09:42,840
Speaker 1: like if I read if I read a list of words,

1198
01:09:42,840 --> 01:09:45,439
Speaker 1: I'll have full confidence, but I'll read them wrong. Yeah. Yeah,

1199
01:09:45,479 --> 01:09:47,960
Speaker 1: so your short term memory and my memory is good.

1200
01:09:48,000 --> 01:09:50,640
Speaker 1: Your long term memory is great. But her ability to

1201
01:09:50,680 --> 01:09:54,040
Speaker 1: attend and focus on something is like it's almost non existent.

1202
01:09:54,320 --> 01:09:56,400
Speaker 1: So that's something that I can do. Really, she has

1203
01:09:56,439 --> 01:10:01,799
Speaker 1: to go. Yeah, who gives better relationship advice? Probably you?

1204
01:10:01,880 --> 01:10:06,080
Speaker 1: Probably me career advice. I think it's it's just it's different.

1205
01:10:06,160 --> 01:10:08,639
Speaker 1: I mean we both have such like narrow we're both

1206
01:10:08,720 --> 01:10:11,479
Speaker 1: not good at navigating like the business now. We just

1207
01:10:11,520 --> 01:10:14,000
Speaker 1: both like writing and whatever. Yeah, we're both like we

1208
01:10:14,000 --> 01:10:17,639
Speaker 1: could both use a lesson. Yeah yeah, but I mean

1209
01:10:17,840 --> 01:10:20,240
Speaker 1: we're not good at it. But you know because a

1210
01:10:20,240 --> 01:10:21,960
Speaker 1: lot of people, a lot of the business in LA

1211
01:10:22,000 --> 01:10:25,000
Speaker 1: it's like people pretending to give notes or something. We're

1212
01:10:25,080 --> 01:10:28,320
Speaker 1: like fucking idiots and walk out. Yeah, and then they

1213
01:10:28,360 --> 01:10:32,080
Speaker 1: probably they destroy you that they destroy you. My favorite

1214
01:10:32,120 --> 01:10:34,800
Speaker 1: note I ever got on a movie was I just

1215
01:10:34,880 --> 01:10:41,040
Speaker 1: don't like bows, and I went, I can't change that.

1216
01:10:41,760 --> 01:10:46,519
Speaker 1: You mean like both like like little Bo's no like

1217
01:10:46,640 --> 01:10:50,160
Speaker 1: bows like on clothes. She didn't like how did they

1218
01:10:50,200 --> 01:10:53,320
Speaker 1: get in any room? We know you're not talking about Pascal.

1219
01:10:56,240 --> 01:10:59,240
Speaker 1: Play that twice. Play that one twice. If you could

1220
01:10:59,240 --> 01:11:03,479
Speaker 1: do another job, what would it be? A tugboat captain. Oh,

1221
01:11:03,560 --> 01:11:05,120
Speaker 1: you'd be great at that. I trained in it for

1222
01:11:05,160 --> 01:11:07,720
Speaker 1: a little while, you know, driving boats. I'd like to

1223
01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:09,599
Speaker 1: do that. I'll do that with you. I can talk

1224
01:11:09,640 --> 01:11:14,919
Speaker 1: about your hell people talk about like no, but likes

1225
01:11:14,960 --> 01:11:18,400
Speaker 1: incredible A boat that's incredible, like one like right, and

1226
01:11:18,640 --> 01:11:23,439
Speaker 1: that's really cool hard. I'll just do that with you, guys, Okay,

1227
01:11:23,479 --> 01:11:25,160
Speaker 1: you're going to be able to talk about Yeah, I'll

1228
01:11:25,160 --> 01:11:28,160
Speaker 1: help out on the okay. So our last question is

1229
01:11:28,240 --> 01:11:32,519
Speaker 1: always a two part question and and and each person,

1230
01:11:32,600 --> 01:11:37,160
Speaker 1: each we ask what is it about your sister that

1231
01:11:37,439 --> 01:11:41,320
Speaker 1: is something a characteristic that you wish that you had

1232
01:11:41,360 --> 01:11:44,120
Speaker 1: more of in your life? And then what is one

1233
01:11:44,240 --> 01:11:49,720
Speaker 1: characteristic that you kind of wish or or sort of

1234
01:11:49,760 --> 01:11:52,639
Speaker 1: anxiety or something that you wish you could alleviate from

1235
01:11:52,760 --> 01:11:55,320
Speaker 1: your sister because you knew it would be good for her.

1236
01:11:56,760 --> 01:12:02,559
Speaker 1: Amy is the bravest, most straightforward person I know, and

1237
01:12:02,800 --> 01:12:08,679
Speaker 1: I think that that would It's almost like there's something

1238
01:12:08,760 --> 01:12:12,800
Speaker 1: just so unquestionable about how she lives her life that

1239
01:12:12,840 --> 01:12:17,479
Speaker 1: I think would alleviate such anxiety in mine. Like she

1240
01:12:18,200 --> 01:12:22,599
Speaker 1: if there's something, if there's some injustice going on, there's

1241
01:12:22,640 --> 01:12:25,960
Speaker 1: not even like a question if it's going to be addressed,

1242
01:12:26,120 --> 01:12:29,360
Speaker 1: Like there's no should I shouldn't I address it or

1243
01:12:29,360 --> 01:12:30,880
Speaker 1: take care of it. Like we were on our way

1244
01:12:30,880 --> 01:12:34,240
Speaker 1: home yesterday from something and there were there was like

1245
01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:37,000
Speaker 1: two guys on the street about to get in a fight,

1246
01:12:37,680 --> 01:12:40,880
Speaker 1: and like she didn't like check in with me about

1247
01:12:40,920 --> 01:12:44,000
Speaker 1: this or anything like this. She just went and rolled

1248
01:12:44,040 --> 01:12:46,599
Speaker 1: the window down, she went, cops are coming, the police

1249
01:12:46,640 --> 01:12:49,720
Speaker 1: are coming, you know, and immediately just like like got

1250
01:12:49,800 --> 01:12:52,679
Speaker 1: it because like a delivery guy was being yelled at, yeh,

1251
01:12:52,760 --> 01:12:55,720
Speaker 1: And it wasn't even a thought like should I interjeck

1252
01:12:55,760 --> 01:12:59,400
Speaker 1: should I interceed? If if she sees something that's not right,

1253
01:13:00,760 --> 01:13:03,639
Speaker 1: nothing else fucking matters, She's going to address it and

1254
01:13:03,720 --> 01:13:06,599
Speaker 1: do whatever she can to fix it. And I wish

1255
01:13:06,600 --> 01:13:11,720
Speaker 1: that I had that, Like I'll like I could like

1256
01:13:11,800 --> 01:13:16,680
Speaker 1: I'll probably eventually arrive at some semblance of like the

1257
01:13:16,720 --> 01:13:19,160
Speaker 1: brave thing to do, but like it's not, It's just

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Speaker 1: it's just part of her and I have always and

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Speaker 1: it always has been, and I've just respected that so

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Speaker 1: much and I wish that I had that bravery of myself.

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Speaker 1: And the thing that I would like alleviate from her,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I have to think about that. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. Can I think for for a hot sec? Well,

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Speaker 1: I'll start with what I would alleviate, which is is

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Speaker 1: holding on to some anger, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like I'm better at like getting rid

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Speaker 1: of my anger, and you know, yeah, like just that's

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Speaker 1: what I would alleviate, Like just a place for you

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Speaker 1: to put your deserved, deserved anger. And what I would

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Speaker 1: love to have possessed that Kim possesses is like, I

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Speaker 1: don't know, she has this cool shirt that I really like.

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Speaker 1: It's probably your shirt I stole from you. No, she

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Speaker 1: has a real capacity to love and enjoy people. Like

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Speaker 1: she doesn't love a lot of people, you know, she

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Speaker 1: doesn't let a lot of people get close to her.

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Speaker 1: But if you are one of the few people that

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Speaker 1: she knows she loves, it's like you feel like you're

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01:14:58,840 --> 01:15:02,000
Speaker 1: you're safe and you're gonna you'll be okay no matter what.

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Speaker 1: And she has like made me understand that that we

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Speaker 1: have each other for life in a way because of

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Speaker 1: you know, being a little older than her experiencing our parents,

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Speaker 1: Like it's pretty incredible that I can even have that.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, she's just really selective and like we can

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Speaker 1: love endlessly in a way that I wish I could more. Anyway, Well,

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Speaker 1: if you should choose to forego your room, come to

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Speaker 1: the bachelor's suite with me, that's so funny, don't tell

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Speaker 1: us what happened. Were still alleviate thing is actually like

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Speaker 1: a bizarrow twist on the anger thing. Oh, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: you wish I would get more anger. I think you

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Speaker 1: should cut the people out of your life who aren't

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Speaker 1: fucking totally great good to you, and who don't only

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Speaker 1: bring you good positive things. All right, fine, Goldie, get

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Speaker 1: write out note that that really is that? Really? Is

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Speaker 1: that really is a suggestion that I like that. I

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01:16:16,520 --> 01:16:18,920
Speaker 1: really do think that. I think that's actually that's a

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Speaker 1: great certain people anyway, have people in your life cut

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Speaker 1: them out? I think there are a lot of should

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Speaker 1: keep letting it happen. I've cut some out a lot

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Speaker 1: when Jean was born, but I go a couple of

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Speaker 1: and I'd like to be the one. I have moments

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Speaker 1: in my life where I'm like, I do I think

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Speaker 1: about that all the time. I'm like, why am I

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Speaker 1: still in this? Yeah? What? What am I? Yeah? What

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Speaker 1: is it? When people show you who they are? Believe?

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Speaker 1: I believe them. I love you, guys. I love you though.

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Speaker 1: I love you guys. This was so amazing, Oliver. Sorry

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Speaker 1: for your influenza a even though I'm grateful that he's okay. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but thank you for doing this coming over. I love you,

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Speaker 1: I love you. Sibling Revelry is executive produced by Kate Hudson,

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Speaker 1: Oliver Hudson and sim Sarna. Supervising producer is Alison Presnik.

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Speaker 1: Editor is Josh Wendish. Music by Mark Hudson a k a.

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Speaker 1: Uncle Mike,