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Speaker 1: Our friend's marriage is toxic and he refuses to see

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Speaker 1: the red flags. Oh you mean like you mean like

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Speaker 1: maybe like wait where to go?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: Where is it? Like this one? We coordinated this, We

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Speaker 2: We had coordinated a bit where I'd pull out a

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Speaker 2: red flag and it just got lost in by jacket.

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Speaker 2: So if you want to see our visual bits, tune

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Speaker 2: into the live stream listeners. But we love you all regardless.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get into the story.

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Speaker 1: Here we go.

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Speaker 2: This is a tale about my fiance's friend's wedding day

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Speaker 2: and the marriage that followed. So many things happened within

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Speaker 2: this couple's relationship that it's just insane. These are just

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Speaker 2: some points of major things that have happened.

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Speaker 1: Please be in bullet points, be please be guarantee you

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Speaker 1: we're gonna have it.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from user think Bodybuilder twenty

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Speaker 2: on the r slash Okay story time subreddit.

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Speaker 1: We're good, so it's gonna be a good one. We

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Speaker 1: got no bullet points though. No.

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Speaker 2: Also, I don't have a problem with any of the

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Speaker 2: age gaps that are given in this story. I have

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Speaker 2: a problem with the lack of maturity from these people

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Speaker 2: all of our ages today. To give some context, myself

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Speaker 2: twenty five female, my fiance thirty male, the groom twenty

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Speaker 2: eight male, and the bride thirty three female. Through this post,

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Speaker 2: I will be calling the bride and groom as such,

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Speaker 1: They met and started dating in twenty twenty one.

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Speaker 2: I believe some of these events happened before, during, and

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Speaker 1: Bullet points.

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Speaker 2: My fiance, the best friend, and later the groom's best

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Speaker 2: man had explicitly expressed to the groom that he didn't

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Speaker 1: Oh so the groom's best man said, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: Right there, you're able to say that this was because

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Speaker 2: She goes out partying and drinking every weekend without her

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Speaker 1: Ooh, yeah, so we got a So her actual age

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Speaker 2: Her outside of age is thirty three. Her inside age

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Speaker 2: She's a party girl on the inside of fully Yeah.

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Speaker 1: right now in the chat? All right. Bullet point number two.

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Speaker 2: I was the groom is not allowed to have any

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Speaker 2: If he didn't get back to her immediately, she freaks

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Speaker 1: This is like Kelly from the Office. I love Kelly

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Speaker 2: Their wedding took place in spring of twenty twenty three.

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Speaker 3: Yes, it was real quick. She was so quick. I'm

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Speaker 2: Spicy dancer trying to unspice the spicy dancer residue.

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Speaker 1: Yep, that's that's what I'm just gotting. Glitter on the shoulders, shoulders, right,

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Speaker 2: Okay, here's some information on why the bride showed up

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Speaker 1: Own.

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Speaker 2: If my bride is like getting plastered before, look you

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Speaker 2: I'm like, are you you clearly don't want to do this.

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Speaker 1: We're done? No, No, we're definitely, or we're reassessing at

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Speaker 2: never do that. Do not do not drink and room

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Speaker 1: To stop it. Keon.

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Speaker 2: They all continued to drink the rest of the night,

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Speaker 1: Onto the bride's obsession.

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Speaker 2: I knew that the bride had an obsession, but I

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Speaker 1: She had always talked about how much she loved zebras.

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Speaker 2: Okay, she had a full arm and legs sleeve tattoos

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Speaker 3: Hey, at least she's honest, you know.

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Speaker 2: Well, I guess some of the penguins have more than

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Speaker 2: I don't want to know about the special room. Apparently

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Speaker 2: On every wall full of zebra memorabilia, and I'm talking

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Speaker 2: that room. This sounds like the lady from The Tiger

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Speaker 2: King Carol. She had like all the tiger print stuff.

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Speaker 2: I mean, come on, dude, I mean, look, I fully

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Speaker 1: Don't know, is it a red flag entirely? I think

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Speaker 1: dominated that? Could you blow that up for me?

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Speaker 3: Big boys?

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Speaker 1: It's no way we got seventy Canadiano dollars where weird?

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Speaker 1: Just win another thirty minutes.

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Speaker 2: Kirsten Dede, thank you for the seventy Canadian dollar ronies. Hi,

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Speaker 2: Riley and Keon, hope you are both having a beautiful day.

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Speaker 2: Hope you feel better. Keon Dakota, how are you.

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Speaker 1: Doing, handsome?

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Speaker 2: I asked your smile and dipplers are almost as good

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Speaker 1: You're having a beautiful day, thank you. And I am

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Speaker 1: having a beautiful day. And it just got a little

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Speaker 1: more beautiful with those kind words. Oh, thank you very much.

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling a little bit better. I get a little bit,

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Speaker 3: but thank you.

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Speaker 2: Oh you you need water, dude. We need to get

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Speaker 2: him like a big jug of water. Can me get

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Speaker 2: someone waterration? We need water in a catheter right now? Go,

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Go. We can't go anywhere. We need a catheter, so

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Speaker 1: you can use the bathroom aser for producing. The bathroom

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Speaker 1: is ten feet away. But but that's that is thirty

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Speaker 1: seconds of not switching. I like your commitment. You're fully committed. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I had to you, guys, Dont tell Kean about the

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Speaker 3: Now, did you just have like a like a bucket?

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Speaker 1: I had a kathery room? Actually, yeah, dude, they sent

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Speaker 1: me one. No way?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, is he no way?

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Speaker 3: Get me one just for the funnies.

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Speaker 1: There's no way you still hi, you can borrow when

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Speaker 1: I used.

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Speaker 3: I'm not gonna do that.

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Speaker 1: I the one who's about to say read. How is

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Speaker 1: it me who's about to say that?

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Speaker 3: I'm sick? So I'm allowed this.

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Speaker 1: Enough catheter talk, Okay.

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Speaker 2: I went over to their apartment for the first time

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Speaker 2: and saw first hand the zebra takeover.

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Speaker 1: There were zebras throughout their entire apartment. Every throw pillow

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Speaker 1: There were zebras on everything. Wow. Next bullet point, Well,

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Speaker 1: talking about which one's worse, her going out and flirting

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Speaker 3: Do you want to say bar?

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Speaker 1: Or should we say flirting or zebra flirting or zebra?

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Speaker 1: Is gonna put that as a pole? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Remember when I last I put poles a.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that was so embarrassing. Pole and pole zebra stuff.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna say zebra stuff.

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Speaker 2: Zebra stuff or flirting anyways, Yeah, what's the what's the

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Speaker 1: Flirting with men. Yeah you let us know, okay, next

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Speaker 2: While at their apartment for the first time, I also

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Speaker 2: never guessed he even lived there. The entire apartment was

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Speaker 3: This is Yeah, he's like.

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Speaker 1: His little computer nook and like his World War two

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Speaker 1: I'm just seeing the walls painted like black and white

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Speaker 1: I can't tell where one room ends and the other begins, Like.

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Speaker 3: Is it a room with white stripes or stripe.

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Speaker 1: And their children are gonna have zebra World War two

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Speaker 2: He's gonna go on to the black mark and be like,

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Speaker 2: I want a genetic hybrid.

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Speaker 1: I want I want zebra children. Oh is that where

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Speaker 1: the World War two memorabilia comes in. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Oh, that's why they're together, because husband's a genetic engineer.

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Speaker 1: Okay, No, we're moving too far, far, too far. Not

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Speaker 1: the bad tine. He's just trying to make zebra children. Okay. Uh.

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Speaker 2: He got one corner right next to the front door,

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Speaker 2: She also has a bad habit of adopting animals for attention.

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Speaker 2: What I mean by this is she buys exotic animals

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Speaker 2: I mean, honestly, that just low key sounds kind of

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Speaker 2: For a long time, she had a big python. She

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Speaker 1: Mind you, we also.

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Speaker 2: Live in a state where we experience extremes of all

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Speaker 1: Clearly not actually taking care of the animals. Well, so

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Speaker 1: this is crazy. Almost had me, but you're not taking

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Speaker 3: Also, our poll right now is seventy eight percent, flirting

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we know, we knew the floating was worse.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean yeah, But honestly, I'm still kind of

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Speaker 2: She did the same thing as the python, with a

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Speaker 2: and still had the crazy dog, and now decided to

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Speaker 2: adopt a cat as a way to process her emotions

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Speaker 2: after losing a parental figure.

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Speaker 1: I understand that.

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Speaker 2: People process grief in different ways, but she immediately turned

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Speaker 2: no more.

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Speaker 1: Animals, and so she just doesn't respect her husband. This

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Speaker 1: is an animals a caty. It takes care of itself.

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Speaker 1: Look at it. Look at it. It's bathing itself. Look.

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Speaker 1: Look it's just hair. That's not even a mess. It's

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Speaker 1: just a hairball. Good point, right, Yeah, my cat does

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Speaker 1: my taxes?

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Speaker 2: Anyway, important? No, the groom never what Your cat doesn't

438
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:11,520
Speaker 2: do your taxes.

439
00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:13,359
Speaker 1: Why are you all looking at me like I'm crazy? No,

440
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:15,920
Speaker 1: I feel like Garfield will do taxes if he had

441
00:22:15,960 --> 00:22:16,480
Speaker 1: to do it any.

442
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, if he wasn't busy eating lasagna. Okay, we're going important. No,

443
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 2: the groom never wanted pets. He just doesn't like to

444
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:28,919
Speaker 2: have animals in the apartment. But she came with the

445
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,320
Speaker 2: ferrets and the dog, and he did not sign up

446
00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 2: for that cat on Now it's a secret credit cards.

447
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:40,400
Speaker 1: Oh my dude, it just never stops. It never stops. Well,

448
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:43,200
Speaker 1: how else is she gonna fund all over cool exotic

449
00:22:43,240 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 1: animals and her zebrabilia? Yeah, I'm just waiting for her

450
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: to buy an actual zebra. Yeah, and she's got to

451
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:52,959
Speaker 1: save money, so she goes she has the flirt to

452
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:54,800
Speaker 1: get drinks because she already matches out all her credit

453
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 1: cards secret credit cards.

454
00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:02,880
Speaker 2: About ten months after the wedding, the groom calls my fiance.

455
00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 2: He's upset and doesn't know what to do. The groom

456
00:23:06,320 --> 00:23:08,679
Speaker 2: just had someone from a collection agency show up at

457
00:23:08,680 --> 00:23:11,920
Speaker 2: the apartment, stating that his new bride had large amounts

458
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:14,880
Speaker 2: of credit card debt. He didn't even know she had

459
00:23:14,920 --> 00:23:18,439
Speaker 2: this credit card. Apparently she had secret credit cards that

460
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:21,720
Speaker 2: she never told him about. She claimed she never thought

461
00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:23,960
Speaker 2: it was important to tell him since they weren't combining

462
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 2: most of their finances. She also said that she didn't

463
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:30,080
Speaker 2: use some of them and they just got kind of

464
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:31,200
Speaker 2: lost in her mind.

465
00:23:31,240 --> 00:23:32,120
Speaker 1: She forgot about them.

466
00:23:33,800 --> 00:23:36,640
Speaker 2: That it was just sitting with all the other cards.

467
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:39,200
Speaker 2: That's why they were never paid off. I call BS

468
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,240
Speaker 2: by the way, which, yeah, that's that's BS. Oh my god,

469
00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:44,359
Speaker 2: I forgot about it after I used it to buy

470
00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:46,560
Speaker 2: twelve ferrets and a bearded.

471
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,360
Speaker 3: Dragon and more zebra stuff.

472
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, it just and then this one wasn't working, so

473
00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:52,920
Speaker 1: I just got a new one.

474
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, just kay, got a new one. They stopped letting

475
00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,000
Speaker 2: me use that one, so like dad to get a

476
00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 2: new one. Yeah, of course, how was they supposed to

477
00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 2: take care of these animals?

478
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 1: By this point, they each had their individual accounts and

479
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 1: now one joint account where they would put money into

480
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 1: pay bills. After talking more, we later found out that

481
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 1: she started putting less and less money into the joint

482
00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 1: account and was expecting him to cover most of their finances.

483
00:24:16,359 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 1: She would use the money that she was hiding to

484
00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:21,920
Speaker 1: go on spontaneous trips and continued bar hopping with all

485
00:24:21,960 --> 00:24:24,639
Speaker 1: of her friends. I try to stay out of people's

486
00:24:24,680 --> 00:24:28,280
Speaker 1: personal financial decisions, but from my understanding, the groom ended

487
00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: up dipping into his personal savings which they were using

488
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 1: to save up for a home, and used that to

489
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:41,639
Speaker 1: pay off her credit card debt. That is not good man, No, no, no.

490
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,840
Speaker 2: From what I've been told, the bride didn't have to

491
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 2: pay any of the debt from her personal account. Whoa

492
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:49,640
Speaker 2: its phones talking to me in my pocket?

493
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,520
Speaker 1: Sorry? Sorry about that.

494
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:52,359
Speaker 3: That's a red flag.

495
00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 2: She had no consequences for any of her actions, except

496
00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 2: for some embarrassment because people found out, But even that

497
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:04,000
Speaker 2: embarrassment was short lived because she continues making the same

498
00:25:04,040 --> 00:25:08,720
Speaker 2: financial decisions to this day. At the time of writing this,

499
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:12,679
Speaker 2: they have had their one year marriage anniversary. The groom

500
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,680
Speaker 2: has completely surrendered his account to her, meaning she has

501
00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:18,720
Speaker 2: complete control over all of their finances.

502
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: Oh no, oh no, no, no, no, no, my god, she's

503
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:25,760
Speaker 1: gonna start a zebra farm. Brother, Why do we have

504
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: a wet toast spine? Where did it go? We need

505
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:32,679
Speaker 1: to find it and we need to let it be

506
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 1: still for two weeks as sourdough.

507
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:38,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, we need to toast it and then make it

508
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 3: sourdough and then toast it again.

509
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:40,119
Speaker 1: Yes.

510
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,760
Speaker 2: What Yeah, at this point, I think we need like

511
00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 2: surgical reconstruction.

512
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 1: We need to put some rebar in there, because you

513
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,439
Speaker 1: it's firm up. You know, a year, a year, a

514
00:25:50,520 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 1: year they've been together. You know that they're here. What's up, Frederick?

515
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: Have a serious question, ask us and we'll answer it.

516
00:25:56,000 --> 00:26:01,640
Speaker 1: But we know that she has a problem with her finances.

517
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:05,720
Speaker 1: Why the frick? Because why does he not do that?

518
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 1: What is happening here? Yes? Save this man? Please? What

519
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:13,439
Speaker 1: sh whipped? I don't know.

520
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:16,800
Speaker 2: I mean, we haven't heard a lot about him, We've

521
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 2: only heard about his horrendous wife. Yeah, but it doesn't

522
00:26:21,480 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 2: sound like he's a guy. Maybe he didn't have a

523
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:26,000
Speaker 2: lot of options. He sees this as this is the

524
00:26:26,040 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 2: only opportunity I'll ever have. Which, guys, that's never true.

525
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 2: Anyone out there who thinks that you only have one shot,

526
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:35,120
Speaker 2: it's not true. Don't listen to eminem. You have more

527
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:40,520
Speaker 2: than one shot. Anyway, let's continue. This means that she

528
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 2: has complete control of all of their finances. He doesn't

529
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 2: even look at it anymore. He has absolutely no idea

530
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:49,920
Speaker 2: how much money is going into the shared account to

531
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 2: pay off bills and how much money is going into savings.

532
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 2: He has to now ask her before he can spend

533
00:26:56,520 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 2: any money at all. This includes groceries, clothes, necessities, fun stuff,

534
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 2: or luxuries. He's not allowed to buy any new video

535
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 2: games or new parts for his hobbies. Sometimes he's not

536
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,479
Speaker 2: even allowed to hang out with friends because it's too

537
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 2: much gas money.

538
00:27:14,119 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 3: Maybe he just likes this life, you know, Yeah, he

539
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 3: likes he's so.

540
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 1: I can't say how I actually feel about the submissive.

541
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,639
Speaker 3: Maybe he just likes his life. Man, I don't know.

542
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: Maybe can I please give chicken little soup?

543
00:27:26,119 --> 00:27:26,399
Speaker 3: No?

544
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:30,680
Speaker 1: Man, I just want some noodle soup. And he can't

545
00:27:30,800 --> 00:27:33,400
Speaker 1: have it. No, my husband's tough and he tucks it out.

546
00:27:33,600 --> 00:27:36,880
Speaker 1: Oh my god, we're not weak. But with chicken soup

547
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 1: in this house, this is gonna be eating peanut butter

548
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: and crackers for the rest of his life. Man, Oh

549
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:42,119
Speaker 1: my gosh.

550
00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 2: However, here comes another huge double stand everyone. The bride

551
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 2: is able to spend hundreds of dollars in a week

552
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:52,600
Speaker 2: on new clothes and makeup. She's constantly posting new outfits

553
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 2: on social media and new makeup looks. I'm just imagining

554
00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:58,600
Speaker 2: her face like painted, like like she's got zebra face painted.

555
00:27:59,080 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 2: She's blowing hundreds of dollars on just black and white

556
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:02,480
Speaker 2: grease paint makeup.

557
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:07,200
Speaker 1: She got her birthday makeup on every weekend, going oh man.

558
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,879
Speaker 2: She's also posting all these different hairstyles, things like getting

559
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 2: bangs spontaneously or getting your hair professionally braided with extensions.

560
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 2: I looked up at the beautician she goes to for

561
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:21,720
Speaker 2: these braids, and they're not cheap. They are high quality

562
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:25,600
Speaker 2: and definitely not cheap. At least five hundred dollars for

563
00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:29,119
Speaker 2: the braids, and that's not including the brightly colored extensions

564
00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,679
Speaker 2: that get put in The reason I point this out

565
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:33,760
Speaker 2: is because when she went through a phase where she

566
00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 2: was like getting a new set of braids every two

567
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 2: to four weeks, like all new colors in patterns. This

568
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 2: couple is basically living paycheck to paycheck, mind you dude,

569
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,600
Speaker 2: My god, Oh my god.

570
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: And not saying not saying that the wife is not, like,

571
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 1: you know, good with their job. But Phil, I'm betting

572
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 1: you this guy has a nice job. He's able to provide.

573
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:01,960
Speaker 1: And I don't think she. I don't know what her job.

574
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 1: I would like to know what the job situation is.

575
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 1: I'm not going to a nice job. I mean, it

576
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:08,959
Speaker 1: depends on their living situation. But literally, whatever it is,

577
00:29:08,960 --> 00:29:12,000
Speaker 1: they've got a budget, paycheck to paycheck. Well, even I

578
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 1: don't know did have a nice job. She can still

579
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: spend as much money as you want, because she clearly

580
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 1: has an addiction to spend money. So who cares how

581
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: much they have. You can still live paid to paycheck

582
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: if you live this way.

583
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, if you just spend everything that you make, yeah, exactly,

584
00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,840
Speaker 2: that'll that'll get your living paycheck to paycheck.

585
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:32,880
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Can you continue the scroll on there?

586
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:37,040
Speaker 1: Can you do the auto scroll? Ok? You can screech

587
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: out if you want last bullet point accusations of infidelity. Dude, Okay, okay,

588
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 1: we're gonna everyone. We need more red flags in the chat.

589
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,160
Speaker 1: How many red flags we had? Keon is gonna go

590
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:52,720
Speaker 1: through this in a little bit and he's gonna count

591
00:29:52,760 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 1: how many bullet points we just went through. I think

592
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 1: we're at eight right now, eight red flags that I'm like,

593
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: I'm out. Yeah, No, it's zebra maymber barely everywhere. I'm out.

594
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 1: I'm done. I'm done. She's made out of red flags.

595
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,120
Speaker 3: We should we should rate like on a scale of

596
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,760
Speaker 3: like one to ten, that red like how many red flags?

597
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:13,080
Speaker 3: You know? Yeah, purple point.

598
00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:16,360
Speaker 2: We need to find like the deepest shade of red

599
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,000
Speaker 2: on like the color palette, and it just used that name.

600
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 1: The name of that.

601
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 2: Color maroon, like a scarlet or she is scarlet right now?

602
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 1: Maroon is actually the navy version of red. Oh that's interesting.

603
00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 1: That's actually a fun fact. Alright, go.

604
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: A very long story made as short as possible. The

605
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 2: maid of honor from the bride's wedding broke up with

606
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 2: her long term boyfriend of about five years.

607
00:30:42,960 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: I don't know why. It was a messy breakup.

608
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:48,560
Speaker 2: She was about forty eight, while he was about twenty

609
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:49,840
Speaker 2: six at the time of the wedding.

610
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 1: Neither one handled the breakup very well. Uh.

611
00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:57,680
Speaker 2: The ex boyfriend called the groom after the breakup. He

612
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 2: told the groom that when she'd go to her home town,

613
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 2: he'd see the bride leaving bars with random guys, hooking

614
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 2: up in cars, and then coming back in to continue

615
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 2: drinking with her friends. Oh you don't say, Oh.

616
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 1: The girl who's driving an hour out of town and

617
00:31:13,760 --> 00:31:17,719
Speaker 1: then like drinking with her friends at every opportunity, and

618
00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:20,240
Speaker 1: does it let her husband have a shred of autonomy?

619
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 1: And he's only telling him this after the breakup, after

620
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:28,280
Speaker 1: the break up, after she's been doing this for years. Unbelievable.

621
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 2: What best man you should have literally like like, well

622
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 2: this is this isn't the best man. No, but I'm

623
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,479
Speaker 2: saying you should have stolen the best man of this

624
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 2: guy's wedding before they got married, before he married the

625
00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 2: zebra queen, or I don't know, the queen is too nice.

626
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 1: We need a different word.

627
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, the best man should have literally just made him

628
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 2: get lost, like just dropped him off in a field

629
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 2: somewhere and been like you'll thank me for this later,

630
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: I swear.

631
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway, so she's hooking up with people at the bars, right.

632
00:31:58,640 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 2: The guy would often be the designated driver, so h

633
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 2: to the bride and the maid of honor. This way

634
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 2: the ladies could get you know, turbo wasted and not

635
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 2: pay for an uber. Oh my god, these people just ah.

636
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 2: He didn't have any evidence, like pictures or videos. He

637
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:15,480
Speaker 2: even admitted that he often covered for the bride so

638
00:32:15,520 --> 00:32:17,200
Speaker 2: that she could get it on.

639
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 1: With random dudes.

640
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 3: I think I think he likes this man. You know

641
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 3: that he doesn't know about this. I think he just like,

642
00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 3: how can you how can you be so like blind

643
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 3: that you don't understand that this is just not good?

644
00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 2: He's just unbothered, you know what he is. He's he's

645
00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 2: the chill guy. Meme, just just put the face.

646
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: Just the chill guy who doesn't care that his wife

647
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 1: cheats on. Put the bags in the front, the fries

648
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 1: in the bag, bro, Yeah, hey, you put the fries

649
00:32:46,520 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 1: in the bag. Bro.

650
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 3: He put the bags on the fries man, he puts the.

651
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 1: Man what no dude? Oh, oh my gosh.

652
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:57,640
Speaker 3: Having zebra's a bad name.

653
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, truly, Like I refuse to let zebras be I

654
00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 2: won't let you taint Zebra's insane.

655
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:09,960
Speaker 1: He's just a chill guy who doesn't mind he's a

656
00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:11,880
Speaker 1: piggy bank. He's a piggy bank, that's what he is.

657
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 1: I don't believe that, dude. I think it would. I

658
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 1: think it'd be more of a she's using him as

659
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 1: a piggy bank. Yes, yes, thank you, thank.

660
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 3: Course, everyone's calling her the Zebra, Harlot.

661
00:33:22,960 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 1: Zebra Harlet. Yes.

662
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:31,959
Speaker 2: The groom didn't believe any of these stories. He then

663
00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:35,160
Speaker 2: yelled at him over the phone, hung up, and blocked him.

664
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 2: The guy never even reached out after that. The groom

665
00:33:38,320 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 2: came over immediately after to tell my fiance and I

666
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 2: all about this crazy accusation. I felt so sick to

667
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 2: my stomach because it honestly made sense that she would

668
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 2: go out and cheat on him. I couldn't look him

669
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 2: in the eye. We have all tried to talk to

670
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 2: him about things like this in the past, specifically the

671
00:33:56,160 --> 00:34:00,240
Speaker 2: credit card problems as examples to her controlling nature. We've

672
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 2: pointed out how it's super toxic, how she can do

673
00:34:02,520 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 2: whatever she wants with no accountability, and he's expected to

674
00:34:05,320 --> 00:34:08,360
Speaker 2: lay everything out for her. And be at her beckon call.

675
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 2: Every time we have these conversations with him, he shuts

676
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 2: us down or defends her. He claims it's not her

677
00:34:15,200 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 2: fault and she just has this kind of personality, or

678
00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 2: she just doesn't think things through. He basically has the

679
00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 2: view that if something were to happen, it would be

680
00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:25,800
Speaker 2: the other person's fault, like his wife can do no wrong.

681
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 2: That if she was to sleep with someone and we

682
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 2: had proof, he would find a way to blame the

683
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 2: guy she was hooking up with. He'd find some way

684
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 2: to justify his wife's actions and make it seem like

685
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 2: she's innocent in all this. He's in so deep we

686
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:38,399
Speaker 2: can't pull him out.

687
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:44,240
Speaker 1: That's so hard, oh man, So okay, little side tangent.

688
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 1: If I had a friend like this and I was like, dude,

689
00:34:48,400 --> 00:34:50,359
Speaker 1: this woman's not treating you right. You gotta get out,

690
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 1: you gotta get out, you gotta out, and he always

691
00:34:52,080 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 1: defends her, I might start to go low contact with

692
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:57,400
Speaker 1: that friend because he lost himself. I mean, I'll be

693
00:34:57,480 --> 00:34:59,920
Speaker 1: there for him whenever they break up and he finally

694
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:04,160
Speaker 1: homes to himself. I can't. I can't be around someone

695
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 1: like this. I don't know, man, like, I can't do that.

696
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:10,160
Speaker 1: If if you are getting like, you know, you know,

697
00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 1: carried around like this and you were being treated this way,

698
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,680
Speaker 1: and I was like a coda, get out, and you

699
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:17,719
Speaker 1: kept putting yourself under this, I'd be like, I don't

700
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:19,360
Speaker 1: know if I can like watch this happen and my

701
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:20,719
Speaker 1: heart breaks every time this happens to you.

702
00:35:22,120 --> 00:35:24,720
Speaker 3: Why because guess what, that's not your friend anymore. No,

703
00:35:24,920 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 3: it's a different person.

704
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a whole different person.

705
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 2: Well, I think maybe I would, you know, I don't know.

706
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,040
Speaker 2: I think I'm kind of agreeing halfway. I think I

707
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 2: would just be like, never, I'm never hang out with

708
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,040
Speaker 2: your wife ever ever.

709
00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: But I I as see where you're coming from. You

710
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: can still be there for him whenever he hits rock bottom.

711
00:35:43,000 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 2: Constantly, be there just being like just trying to somehow

712
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 2: inception an idea into his brain that his wife sucks.

713
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,719
Speaker 1: But he's not getting it. And I would just be like,

714
00:35:53,840 --> 00:35:56,000
Speaker 1: I don't I can't hang out with you anymore. At

715
00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 1: some point you got to call it. It's gonna get

716
00:35:57,800 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: to you. It's gonna get to you one day. Yeah,

717
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:01,919
Speaker 1: I can do it. I'm out. I'm out. I'm out.

718
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:06,240
Speaker 2: Anyway before somebody says I need to help before somebody

719
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:07,960
Speaker 2: says I need to help out and get him out

720
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 2: of there.

721
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 1: He does have history of immediately cutting people out of

722
00:36:10,880 --> 00:36:11,239
Speaker 1: his life.

723
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 2: Whoa man, I love it when we're right on op's

724
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:22,480
Speaker 2: like neurons, like the same thought. If he doesn't like

725
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 2: what they're saying, he's done. And he's done this on

726
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:29,239
Speaker 2: many occasions for much pettier things. An example would be

727
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:31,880
Speaker 2: one time someone forgot to invite him to dinner, like

728
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 2: a super small group of friends going to get dinner

729
00:36:34,200 --> 00:36:37,720
Speaker 2: at a barbecue chain restaurant. The groom was so salty

730
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 2: about it, he cut the guy out of his life

731
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 2: and has never talked to him since he always talks

732
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:45,879
Speaker 2: about him in such an awful way. He genuinely thinks

733
00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 2: that this guy is out to get him, solely because

734
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 2: he wasn't invited to one dinner with a couple of

735
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:51,440
Speaker 2: other people.

736
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:54,440
Speaker 1: The groom also wasn't even living in the same town

737
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 1: at this time. Okay, dude, okay, okay, okay. Rebecca Grawle says,

738
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:02,759
Speaker 1: sadly he's brainwashed. He's getting this from the bride. I

739
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 1: even if he's she's so toxic that he's now toxic

740
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 1: and he's thinking this way and he's like just like

741
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:13,920
Speaker 1: functioning this way because of it. Let him cut you out.

742
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: Let him cut you out. You can tell them the

743
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:15,520
Speaker 1: hard truth.

744
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:17,319
Speaker 3: Let him cut Yeah, don't put the energy into it.

745
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 3: It's not worth it. He just he's he's lost.

746
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:22,799
Speaker 1: He's so lost. You can be there, you can be there,

747
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 1: you can be that that lamp in the dark path

748
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:31,640
Speaker 1: whenever he's looking for the light. But right now he's wondering. Yeah,

749
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:34,040
Speaker 1: he's not looking for the light. He's Bane. He's Bane

750
00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:37,359
Speaker 1: from Batman. Right now. He lives in the darkness. I

751
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 1: was born in the dark. Nurse about it. Bruh. Okay,

752
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 1: we're gonna keep going to another Baine voice. Please, just

753
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: one small one? What another one? Another small funny bane? Rightly,

754
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 1: you look great today? Okay, good, Okay.

755
00:37:51,280 --> 00:37:54,560
Speaker 2: It's all really unfortunate, and it's really hard for my fiance.

756
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:57,279
Speaker 2: He really wants to help his friend out and can

757
00:37:57,320 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 2: see all these behaviors and things happening because he's on

758
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 2: the outside.

759
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:02,919
Speaker 1: It's just unfortunate that the.

760
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:06,279
Speaker 2: Groom is so dedicated that he can't see any of

761
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 2: the red flags that are flying constantly in front of

762
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 2: his face.

763
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: And also earlier the story he has h they did

764
00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:18,399
Speaker 1: say that he is autistic. Yes, yeah, so I don't

765
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: know play into that, it could play into it. I'm

766
00:38:20,520 --> 00:38:22,000
Speaker 1: not gonna be like, oh my gosh, he's autistic, he

767
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:22,720
Speaker 1: doesn't know emotion.

768
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,759
Speaker 2: But I definitely that definitely would track on like not

769
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:28,040
Speaker 2: really picking up social cues on on, like.

770
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: And the loyalty like. But anyway, you got you still

771
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:34,120
Speaker 1: gotta have a backbone.

772
00:38:33,760 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 3: Do you do have to do you think he's getting one.

773
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:40,359
Speaker 3: He's already brainwashed or it's just manipulation at such a

774
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:43,680
Speaker 3: high degree that like he doesn't know what's going on.

775
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 3: Maybe it's the same thing, But I don't know.

776
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: He's he's just brainwashed. He's brainwashed. I think he's he's

777
00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,720
Speaker 1: under the spell of the zebra Harlot.

778
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:55,240
Speaker 2: Yep, yeah, of the But you know who's not under

779
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 2: the spell of the zebra Harlot? What everybody in this room,

780
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:03,359
Speaker 2: especially when we are going live every weekday at three

781
00:39:03,400 --> 00:39:06,440
Speaker 2: pm PST on YouTube, Facebook, Twitch, and TikTok. All you

782
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:08,759
Speaker 2: gotta do is tap our profile and you are in.

783
00:39:08,960 --> 00:39:11,000
Speaker 2: And if you're watching this in the future, we might

784
00:39:11,000 --> 00:39:13,319
Speaker 2: even be live right now. But before you go check

785
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 2: on that, stick with us, because we're about to wrap

786
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:17,359
Speaker 2: this story up.

787
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 1: There is a little bit left. I mean, I think

788
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 1: the clear solution is this guy needs to leave this

789
00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:28,319
Speaker 1: He's not listening. You need to leave him. Do you like,

790
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 1: don't don't don't, don't be I could not. I'm brainstorming.

791
00:39:31,719 --> 00:39:32,520
Speaker 1: I'm brainstorming.

792
00:39:33,080 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 2: You make a finsta, Okay, you make a finsta of

793
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 2: another girl, and you try to get him to see that, mate,

794
00:39:42,600 --> 00:39:45,279
Speaker 2: because I'm thinking that from my perspective, this guy is

795
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:48,800
Speaker 2: so locked into this one relationship with this one woman,

796
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:51,200
Speaker 2: and he just in his head is like, I'll never

797
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:52,120
Speaker 2: be able to have another one.

798
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, he only has eyes for her one.

799
00:39:55,320 --> 00:39:57,879
Speaker 1: First off, and second off, she's so controlling that she's

800
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:01,839
Speaker 1: gonna clog that boy strip. Yeah, he needs boy strip.

801
00:40:01,880 --> 00:40:04,120
Speaker 3: He does a boy strip at least at least maybe

802
00:40:04,120 --> 00:40:08,239
Speaker 3: a week like vacuation, just to maybe set his mind

803
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:09,000
Speaker 3: straight of like.

804
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 1: Hey man, no phones, no fond because she's gonna be

805
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 1: hitting them up the whole freaking time.

806
00:40:14,440 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 2: You need to aspire, conspire to get a girl to

807
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:23,120
Speaker 2: hit on him and make him realize.

808
00:40:23,360 --> 00:40:25,680
Speaker 1: He needs to realize he's not gonna He's better than

809
00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: this zebra harlote, he is better than this. That's not

810
00:40:28,640 --> 00:40:31,000
Speaker 1: gonna help. The pinnacle a distraction is not gonna help.

811
00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 1: He's not gonna realize that. Andy. Plus, he does not

812
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 1: have he doesn't have eyes for anyone else. We've already

813
00:40:37,120 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 1: know that. I don't think he's gonna do that. He's

814
00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 1: not gonna do that. He needs to leave. He needs

815
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:44,439
Speaker 1: to come to the truth. The only thing is the truth,

816
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 1: not a distraction.

817
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 2: The truth, right, and he'd be really mad when he

818
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 2: found out that it was fake anyway.

819
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: God ah du oh man, I don't know what you

820
00:40:56,080 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 1: can do. He's just trying to live a simple life. Okay,

821
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:01,240
Speaker 1: let's let's finish story. Let's see how this goes.

822
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,839
Speaker 2: Please please tell me that he just wakes up one

823
00:41:04,880 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 2: day and hates Zebras. I get that love is blind sometimes,

824
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:11,359
Speaker 2: but this is a bit too much.

825
00:41:11,360 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 1: In my opinion.

826
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,799
Speaker 2: The groom has the capability and understanding that if this

827
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 2: was happening to anyone else, he would recognize that it

828
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,799
Speaker 2: was toxic behavior and a bad relationship.

829
00:41:21,040 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 1: But because it's happening in his marriage, he can't see

830
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:27,600
Speaker 1: any of it. Or if he does.

831
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,759
Speaker 2: He starts defending it, claiming that she just doesn't know

832
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:33,040
Speaker 2: what she's doing is wrong, or that she'd never be

833
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:36,960
Speaker 2: like that. We have such open communication, how can you

834
00:41:37,000 --> 00:41:39,360
Speaker 2: even say that the only person who's open.

835
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:42,760
Speaker 1: As you, she doesn't want to tell you anything. Oh,

836
00:41:42,840 --> 00:41:44,839
Speaker 1: I'm losing it. I'm losing it.

837
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,520
Speaker 2: We're finally at a point where we're just letting them

838
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:49,799
Speaker 2: figure it out. We'll be there if the groom ever

839
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 2: sees the light, like Riley said, we'll be there to

840
00:41:52,440 --> 00:41:55,240
Speaker 2: support him in whatever way we can. As for the bride,

841
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:56,919
Speaker 2: we try and keep our distance from her.

842
00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:05,640
Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story. Oh my gosh.

843
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:07,239
Speaker 3: I say, pack your bags. I'm not putting my energy

844
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 3: into this. I'm walking away. Sorry.

845
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: Well, I think Riley's right.

846
00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:12,640
Speaker 2: I think at this point they're asking, like, what can

847
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:13,760
Speaker 2: we do to help this guy?

848
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 1: There's nothing you can do. There's nothing you can do.

849
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 1: He's he's blinded by the zebra tar and sadly it

850
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:27,440
Speaker 1: doesn't he seem like this guy understands or wants to

851
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:29,280
Speaker 1: get away from me. He's like, this is just life.

852
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 1: I'm gonna live. I have to live, paycheck to paycheck.

853
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:32,799
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to live with my life.

854
00:42:33,000 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 3: He's happy with this life. He's content with this life,

855
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:37,319
Speaker 3: and he doesn't want to hear the facts, and he

856
00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:39,399
Speaker 3: doesn't want to leave it. I'm done.

857
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:41,759
Speaker 1: But I like the idea of a boy's strip where

858
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 1: there's no communication with her because he's gonna feel the

859
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:49,239
Speaker 1: weight not being on his shoulder whenever he's away from her,

860
00:42:49,360 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 1: and then whenever he gets back with her. This is

861
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 1: probably the only thing that he can realize, Oh, there's

862
00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:57,719
Speaker 1: something wrong here. Why do I feel different when I'm

863
00:42:57,760 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 1: around her rather than like when I'm with myself with

864
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:01,560
Speaker 1: people that I enjoy being around.

865
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:04,439
Speaker 2: I think that's You're right on the money. That's that's

866
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 2: the highest probability solution to this. But good luck getting

867
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 2: him on the boys trip, because's gonna say.

868
00:43:12,680 --> 00:43:14,959
Speaker 3: No, guess what you gotta just you gotta you gotta

869
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:15,560
Speaker 3: steal them.

870
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, you gotta steal them. You got her on a girl.

871
00:43:19,360 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 3: We're going in a car and we're gonna come back

872
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,520
Speaker 3: in five minutes. We got your bags packed.

873
00:43:25,440 --> 00:43:28,399
Speaker 1: Yeah, and loser, we're going camping another way there get

874
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 1: us falling away from and be like, yeah, your wife

875
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:32,360
Speaker 1: said she's totally okay with you going on a week's trip.

876
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 3: Just leave your phone here, you know.

877
00:43:34,600 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 1: Yeah man that heym that man. So we do a TLDR.

878
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,320
Speaker 1: I think some people just topped in. I'm gonna do

879
00:43:41,400 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: a really quick t O d R.

880
00:43:43,200 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 2: So O P and your fiance are friends with the

881
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:48,880
Speaker 2: subjects of this story, which is a husband and wife,

882
00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 2: and the wife is literally the biggest walking red flag ever,

883
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:57,880
Speaker 2: Like she gives him no autonomy. She's like out flirting

884
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 2: with other men at bars, and she's like been cheating

885
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 2: on him, and then the husband doesn't want to hear it,

886
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:05,600
Speaker 2: and like she has an obsession with zebras, and the

887
00:44:05,760 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 2: entire apartment they live in is Zebra this, Zebra, that

888
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 2: Zebra this, and all of his stuff is just consolidated

889
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 2: into one little corner. It's like she just doesn't even

890
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 2: It's like she doesn't even want him to live. She

891
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 2: doesn't want him to have an identity. She just wants

892
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 2: him to be her lackey. Yeah, she wants him. She

893
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 2: wants him to be another one of his exotic pets.

894
00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: Yes, he's just like an igor type person to go

895
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 1: around being like, yes, master, what do you need? Like

896
00:44:29,239 --> 00:44:32,000
Speaker 1: and he can't. He won't leave.

897
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:34,600
Speaker 2: Her and all their friends say that if he if

898
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 2: this was happening to anyone else in his life, he'd

899
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 2: be like, you need to leave her.

900
00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:39,600
Speaker 1: But it's happening to him and he can't see it,

901
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 1: and it's so frustrating that he can't see it.

902
00:44:42,760 --> 00:44:44,680
Speaker 2: And the solution that Riley came up with, which is

903
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 2: a great one, is boys trip, you gotta get.

904
00:44:46,600 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 1: Him came up. You came up with that.

905
00:44:48,400 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 3: I came up with that.

906
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 1: He came up with. I said the path, the line

907
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: in the path, and he's not going to get it. Okay,

908
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:55,240
Speaker 1: Well is a team of job kean.

909
00:44:55,280 --> 00:44:56,239
Speaker 3: Give me my credit work.

910
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 1: Thank you on to the neck. No, I just wanted

911
00:45:01,520 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 1: to do it for I saw a couple of people

912
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 1: hopped in. But we got some donos we're gonna knock

913
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 1: out real quick. More for five bucks. Where's part three

914
00:45:10,640 --> 00:45:12,400
Speaker 1: of the story with fro Frow of the dog by

915
00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 1: the way, love you guys. I read that story with

916
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:16,279
Speaker 1: fro Fro. I believe so with John.

917
00:45:16,600 --> 00:45:18,720
Speaker 3: Is that the one with the neighbor?

918
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: No, with the boyfriend. Maybe maybe you guys read it.

919
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:22,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, but there is no part three of

920
00:45:22,520 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 1: that one. Maybe maybe you guys, do you guys know

921
00:45:24,360 --> 00:45:26,560
Speaker 1: about that one. I have not heard of fro Fro,

922
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 1: but fro Fro the dog or I think they call

923
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 1: it booger in that one. Actually, never mind, I don't

924
00:45:31,120 --> 00:45:33,200
Speaker 1: remember that story. I did read a dog story, but

925
00:45:33,320 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 1: I don't know where part three is. Check our I

926
00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 1: think if you check our okay clips channel, okay story

927
00:45:41,120 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 1: time clips second and try to find that, try to

928
00:45:44,880 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 1: find that Reddit story and then we can we can

929
00:45:46,760 --> 00:45:50,879
Speaker 1: probably do that Okay story time clips yep SAE channel.

930
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:54,040
Speaker 1: I think we do have another dono on the tips link. Yeah,

931
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 1: scroll down a little bit. No, I think we hit

932
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:57,720
Speaker 1: them off. Okay cool.

933
00:45:57,719 --> 00:45:58,920
Speaker 3: And then if you want to say thank you again

934
00:45:58,960 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 3: for the oh.

935
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks mix and thank you the damn cast me out,

936
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:03,880
Speaker 1: damn mea.

937
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:09,400
Speaker 2: Uh Frederick, thank you for the twenty bucks Frederick.

938
00:46:09,560 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 1: And it seemed like Frederick was going through some hard

939
00:46:11,520 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 1: stuff a little bit ago. Can we put some hearts

940
00:46:13,239 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 1: in the chat for Frederick who just like everyone but

941
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:20,319
Speaker 1: what going on? No, if you want to put again

942
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 1: in the chat, but I think I think it's someone

943
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 1: with this kid and dad or the kid and stuff

944
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,520
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, yeah, but everyone puts some hearts in chat, yeah,

945
00:46:27,520 --> 00:46:28,120
Speaker 1: the hearts and chatter.

946
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:30,439
Speaker 2: Frederick, Sorry, you're sorry you're going through something like that.

947
00:46:30,440 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 2: That's always a mess. We've read stories about that.

948
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 1: The Goth Princess, thanks for being a night the cleaner

949
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: took away this sword? No, where's the sword? You can

950
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 1: probably let's behind you. It's right there. Come on, use

951
00:46:46,040 --> 00:46:52,399
Speaker 1: that flexibility, Shange change Shan the perfect way to hold

952
00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 1: his sword for all our listeners, he's holding it upside out.

953
00:46:56,239 --> 00:47:00,319
Speaker 2: Oh, thank you God, Princess. Welcome to the Knights and

954
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:03,400
Speaker 2: vix Mix. Thank you for the two dollars. Like the stream, guys,

955
00:47:03,719 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 2: we need a wheel spin like the stream.

956
00:47:06,560 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 1: We're only two hundred and forty three likes away from

957
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 1: a wheel spin. Good man, and I think we got

958
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:15,320
Speaker 1: we got, we got Kirsten.

959
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,799
Speaker 2: Did you we got Jen Thompson? I think Belton, thank

960
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 2: you for being a member for eight months. Dakota, just

961
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 2: the man. I wanted to see you and Keon hopefully

962
00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:28,280
Speaker 2: have a package specifically for you too, and a little Sofia.

963
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 2: Oh my, don't open, don't open Thursday. Okay, okay, okay, Belton,

964
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 2: I know that it is in. I did get a package. Uh,

965
00:47:38,920 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 2: there is a package for us at the peel box.

966
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:42,600
Speaker 2: I have not had time to go look for it

967
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:45,440
Speaker 2: or get it. We could get Sophia to do it,

968
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 2: I know, yea.

969
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 1: But and.

970
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 2: You got we could open it right now. You don't

971
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:54,360
Speaker 2: want us to open it Thursday. It's I guess you

972
00:47:54,400 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 2: won't be here Thursday. I could get Sofia to go

973
00:47:56,400 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 2: grab it for us. I mean it's called the call Sofi. Okay, yeah,

974
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,960
Speaker 2: let's let's keep going here. Vix Mix said, thank you

975
00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 2: for the ten gifted Okay, storytime memberships sound off.

976
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:09,920
Speaker 1: Oh wait, Belton, says Riley.

977
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 2: No, okay, the cats damn me out.

978
00:48:19,680 --> 00:48:21,360
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Knights. Thank you for joining.

979
00:48:21,440 --> 00:48:24,440
Speaker 2: Wow you joined and then immediately sent fifty bucks in

980
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:25,000
Speaker 2: the tippling.

981
00:48:25,640 --> 00:48:31,319
Speaker 1: Wow, that's crazy. Come in, wow Zer, that's it. Wait Riley, no,

982
00:48:31,640 --> 00:48:34,400
Speaker 1: gd Riley, do not open it Thursday. Right, open it.

983
00:48:34,440 --> 00:48:37,040
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is we'll get the package now today

984
00:48:37,200 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: and then we'll open it on the stream immediately now,

985
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: not open on Thursday. And oh, Belton, when do you

986
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 1: want us to open it? When we get it, we'll

987
00:48:43,880 --> 00:48:45,680
Speaker 1: we can open it right now. He just doesn't want

988
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:47,400
Speaker 1: us to open it Thursday. Not gonna be here. Ye

989
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 1: also Mulgary. That is so funny. And I saw two things.

990
00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:53,880
Speaker 1: One how to like to like, how to like the chat,

991
00:48:54,480 --> 00:48:57,040
Speaker 1: exit out, hit the like button. That's how you like it,

992
00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:58,719
Speaker 1: and then we'll spend a wheel. Two, you want to

993
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 1: become a member, a gifted member, you have to get

994
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:02,279
Speaker 1: in the chat and you have to you have to

995
00:49:02,280 --> 00:49:04,440
Speaker 1: be very active, and YouTube will put it on its

996
00:49:04,440 --> 00:49:06,839
Speaker 1: top priority list to gift it. So yes, And where

997
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:09,680
Speaker 1: do I send packages? Join us on discord and we

998
00:49:09,719 --> 00:49:12,440
Speaker 1: have it in the announcements where you can send us

999
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 1: package and you can only like once unless you have

1000
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 1: differ accounts. Then you can go to that and like

1001
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 1: on different accounts if you want to do that.

1002
00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 2: But one hundred ghost profiles and like the stream with

1003
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 2: all you may five you honestly could make five hundred

1004
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 2: and do that.

1005
00:49:27,360 --> 00:49:31,400
Speaker 1: And then interdour Ton, Well, realms, what is happening? Missed

1006
00:49:31,400 --> 00:49:34,319
Speaker 1: you all in the last days of my MBA. Oh

1007
00:49:34,360 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: my gosh, get after it. You are so close. Get

1008
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: the freak after it and guys, put it on me.

1009
00:49:43,120 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 1: Put it on me real quick. Guys. We have a

1010
00:49:45,280 --> 00:49:49,680
Speaker 1: story that our one and only Dakoda has found from

1011
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:53,799
Speaker 1: the depths of the Internet that he has saved so

1012
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:57,680
Speaker 1: humbly for us all so he can read it to

1013
00:49:57,719 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 1: you all on a public livestream. He is so freaking

1014
00:50:00,960 --> 00:50:03,440
Speaker 1: excited for this. Look at the smile and space Vix

1015
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:05,879
Speaker 1: makes thanks to the five kit to memberships. Let's freaking go.

1016
00:50:06,120 --> 00:50:08,280
Speaker 1: Why are you blowing up my spot like that? Because

1017
00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:13,240
Speaker 1: because you are so excited. It's a fantastic.

1018
00:50:14,239 --> 00:50:14,719
Speaker 3: Story.

1019
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:16,200
Speaker 1: It is a great story.

1020
00:50:17,360 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, so we're gonna get that story right now.

1021
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:22,600
Speaker 1: Are you ready? It is as it's yeah, you're good,

1022
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:23,480
Speaker 1: and then we caught up.

1023
00:50:27,800 --> 00:50:28,279
Speaker 3: Are you ready?

1024
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:31,920
Speaker 2: Because I hope, I hope this story rocks some world views.

1025
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:32,279
Speaker 1: Is what I hope.

1026
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:33,440
Speaker 3: I lied about my pregnancy.

1027
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 1: All right? Oh no, I I hit, I have I

1028
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 1: hid switched Belton's hud anytime other than Thursday. You got it?

1029
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 1: I will. I will try and get this po box

1030
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:46,880
Speaker 1: for today and I will not open it on Thursday.

1031
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:47,480
Speaker 3: You got it?

1032
00:50:47,520 --> 00:50:52,000
Speaker 1: Belton and Belton's husband. Absolutely. Yes? Are you ready? Yes?

1033
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:53,000
Speaker 1: Are you ready?

1034
00:50:53,600 --> 00:50:54,799
Speaker 3: I guess let's go.

1035
00:50:56,280 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 1: Uh.

1036
00:50:57,280 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 2: I hit our pregnancy from my family because I want

1037
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 2: to protect my transgender husband. It's all about protection, folks,

1038
00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:14,840
Speaker 2: It's all about protection. My husband is a transgender man,

1039
00:51:15,000 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 2: and we've always wanted to start a family together. I

1040
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:21,920
Speaker 2: have a huge fear of pregnancy, so he offered to

1041
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:26,719
Speaker 2: carry the baby. It was an insane process. He had

1042
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 2: to stop taking testosterone for a long time, but he

1043
00:51:29,800 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 2: was amazing throughout the whole process, and I did everything

1044
00:51:32,800 --> 00:51:36,319
Speaker 2: in my power to help him feel more comfortable. By

1045
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:39,080
Speaker 2: the way, this comes from user embarrassed bit eighty nine

1046
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:43,040
Speaker 2: oh nine on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit. So

1047
00:51:44,280 --> 00:51:48,240
Speaker 2: none of my family know that he is transgender.

1048
00:51:49,080 --> 00:51:50,160
Speaker 1: They are all.

1049
00:51:50,680 --> 00:51:53,640
Speaker 2: Phobic, all of the phobics that you can list they are.

1050
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:58,480
Speaker 2: But our friends know. He posted an ultrasound to his

1051
00:51:58,640 --> 00:52:02,360
Speaker 2: private Instagram, knowing that my sister follows him on a

1052
00:52:02,400 --> 00:52:06,279
Speaker 2: burner account. Well, she saw the photo and told my

1053
00:52:06,680 --> 00:52:11,239
Speaker 2: whole family. They were furious that I wouldn't tell them.

1054
00:52:11,440 --> 00:52:14,320
Speaker 2: Our plan was going to be to say that we adopted.

1055
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:18,360
Speaker 2: They assumed I was the one pregnant and blew up

1056
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:20,920
Speaker 2: on me. So I just let it go and rolled

1057
00:52:20,920 --> 00:52:26,400
Speaker 2: with the lie because I wasn't going to out my husband.

1058
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 2: I said, are we not totally invested in this story already?

1059
00:52:32,560 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 1: Like I was invested last week when you told me

1060
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 1: this was an amazing story. This is crazy.

1061
00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:41,920
Speaker 2: The first couple of months, I would let them visit.

1062
00:52:42,400 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 2: Eventually I'd start eating big meals and purposefully bloating myself

1063
00:52:46,680 --> 00:52:49,520
Speaker 2: to the point of discomfort so I looked pregnant.

1064
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:52,759
Speaker 1: So they could save face for the.

1065
00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:56,879
Speaker 2: They are literally playing the ultimate like game of cat

1066
00:52:56,920 --> 00:53:01,480
Speaker 2: and mouse. They're trying to keep the male pregnancy under wraps.

1067
00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:03,480
Speaker 1: You just have a pillow underneath you like this.

1068
00:53:06,640 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 2: Joh yeah, just stuff the pillow. Yeah, what is that?

1069
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:13,440
Speaker 2: They did that in Oceans twelve. Yep, yeah, just pulling

1070
00:53:13,520 --> 00:53:14,240
Speaker 2: Oceans twelve.

1071
00:53:14,320 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 1: You got it. I'm lactating. Ah, I'm lactating, and then

1072
00:53:18,640 --> 00:53:20,240
Speaker 1: just have like milk with you everywhere.

1073
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 3: I think Riley yell, I'm lactating. Was not on my

1074
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 3: twenty twenty four bingo card, and I hope it wasn't

1075
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 3: on yours too.

1076
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 2: Okay, somebody clip Riley saying I'm lactating.

1077
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:34,640
Speaker 1: I'm lactating. Oh no, okay, this is what happens when

1078
00:53:34,640 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: you're pregnant. I'll deal with it. Back to the.

1079
00:53:37,480 --> 00:53:41,920
Speaker 2: Story, They would remark my family, I think around the

1080
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 2: six month mark that I was remarkably small, but I

1081
00:53:45,160 --> 00:53:48,880
Speaker 2: just played it off. Eventually, I couldn't lie any longer,

1082
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:51,080
Speaker 2: so I looked for every excuse in the book to

1083
00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:53,920
Speaker 2: not see my family. I turned down the offers of

1084
00:53:53,960 --> 00:53:58,480
Speaker 2: baby showers, gender reveal parties, anything that would require us

1085
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:02,160
Speaker 2: seeing each other. Luckily, my family lives an hour away

1086
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 2: and we all live busy lifestyles, so them randomly visiting

1087
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 2: wasn't an issue. The only time that they did pop

1088
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:12,279
Speaker 2: in unexpectedly, we were out of the house. If they facetimed,

1089
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:14,960
Speaker 2: I made a point to be in bed feeling horribly sick,

1090
00:54:15,239 --> 00:54:18,200
Speaker 2: so I couldn't give them a bump update. I lied

1091
00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:22,799
Speaker 2: my boot I lied my booty off, and they just

1092
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 2: thought I had a rough pregnancy.

1093
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:28,719
Speaker 1: Oh you really did have a uh really rough pregnancy. Op,

1094
00:54:29,040 --> 00:54:31,279
Speaker 1: that's what they're gonna think. Yeah, they're like, man, she's

1095
00:54:31,280 --> 00:54:36,040
Speaker 1: going through and someone don't show, says Belton. It's true.

1096
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:39,359
Speaker 2: Yea, my best friend's wife like barely showed. Wow, and

1097
00:54:39,440 --> 00:54:40,600
Speaker 2: she had a massive kid.

1098
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:41,920
Speaker 1: He's great. Shout out.

1099
00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:44,479
Speaker 2: Well, actually, I'm not going to docs. I'm not gonna

1100
00:54:44,520 --> 00:54:47,239
Speaker 2: dock him on. My friend Okay.

1101
00:54:48,719 --> 00:54:50,480
Speaker 1: Is out? Uh you know who?

1102
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1103
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:57,120
Speaker 1: Okay to maybe baby h yeah, baby baby. Okay, back

1104
00:54:57,160 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 1: to the story. Back to the story. My husband gave

1105
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 1: birth a year ago.

1106
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 2: God, I love that sentence and went straight back on

1107
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:07,040
Speaker 2: the testosterone and now we're as happy as ever. My

1108
00:55:07,160 --> 00:55:10,640
Speaker 2: family have met our daughter and they adore her. A

1109
00:55:10,680 --> 00:55:13,960
Speaker 2: week ago, after an argument between myself and a friend,

1110
00:55:14,360 --> 00:55:19,799
Speaker 2: said friend decided to out my husband by messaging my

1111
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:24,120
Speaker 2: family and included proof. They did it by adding everybody

1112
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:28,960
Speaker 2: to a group chat, posting screenshots and basically the entire story,

1113
00:55:29,280 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 2: then saying quote, I'll leave you all to discuss, and

1114
00:55:33,080 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 2: then they left the chat and blocked me and my husband.

1115
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:42,719
Speaker 1: Whoa, Oh my god, it's crazy, this is wild, this

1116
00:55:42,760 --> 00:55:44,600
Speaker 1: is whild It sucks that you did everything that you

1117
00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:48,560
Speaker 1: could and it still didn't work out. Yeah. Hey, I

1118
00:55:48,600 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: think Sophia Cologne just made a point.

1119
00:55:51,320 --> 00:55:53,960
Speaker 2: It will come out at one point, and it came

1120
00:55:54,000 --> 00:55:58,520
Speaker 2: out because their friend completely blew up their spot in

1121
00:55:58,600 --> 00:56:02,640
Speaker 2: a transphobic rage. My mother raced to my home and

1122
00:56:02,680 --> 00:56:05,800
Speaker 2: all but beat down my front door. It was not pretty.

1123
00:56:05,840 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 2: I had to call the cops. I've been disowned, but

1124
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:11,680
Speaker 2: that hasn't stopped the daily calls and texts coming from

1125
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:15,799
Speaker 2: my parents, aunts, uncles, siblings, leaving nasty slurs on my

1126
00:56:15,880 --> 00:56:19,759
Speaker 2: voicemail and other hateful crap. I ended up crying to

1127
00:56:19,800 --> 00:56:22,000
Speaker 2: my friend yesterday, who told me that I should have

1128
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 2: been honest with my family.

1129
00:56:23,360 --> 00:56:26,200
Speaker 1: As it would have saved me a lot of heartache.

1130
00:56:26,440 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 1: I I don't know. I don't know if that if

1131
00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:30,839
Speaker 1: it would have saved you a lot of heartache. Because

1132
00:56:31,239 --> 00:56:33,960
Speaker 1: this is a response to this. This is a crazy situation.

1133
00:56:34,080 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 1: But if this was a response to.

1134
00:56:36,080 --> 00:56:39,560
Speaker 2: This, it certainly would have accelerated whatever's going on here.

1135
00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:41,680
Speaker 2: You're just at that point ripping the band aid off.

1136
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:45,919
Speaker 1: Excuse me, it.

1137
00:56:45,880 --> 00:56:50,480
Speaker 2: Was either being honest upfront or saying that we had

1138
00:56:50,560 --> 00:56:53,760
Speaker 2: a that we had lost the baby and then adopted later.

1139
00:56:54,200 --> 00:56:57,640
Speaker 2: But I'm not happy that things excuse me. I'm not

1140
00:56:57,960 --> 00:57:00,239
Speaker 2: happy that things played out the way they did. I

1141
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:01,480
Speaker 2: just feel so sad.

1142
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:01,880
Speaker 1: Now.

1143
00:57:02,200 --> 00:57:04,600
Speaker 2: Maybe it was wrong to lie to my family, but

1144
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:07,440
Speaker 2: I feel like I had no choice. And there's an

1145
00:57:07,560 --> 00:57:09,920
Speaker 2: edit because I figured i'd put this in main text.

1146
00:57:10,320 --> 00:57:14,160
Speaker 2: My husband has always encouraged me to maintain.

1147
00:57:13,800 --> 00:57:15,440
Speaker 1: A relationship with my family.

1148
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:20,600
Speaker 2: However, it was mostly for his sake Personally, I mentally

1149
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 2: checked out years ago. But when they met him, they

1150
00:57:23,720 --> 00:57:27,560
Speaker 2: welcomed him with open arms and treated him like a son. Yes,

1151
00:57:28,000 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 2: it was conditional on him being presumed cisgender. However, we

1152
00:57:32,520 --> 00:57:38,160
Speaker 2: never intended for them to find out really quick, gonna

1153
00:57:38,160 --> 00:57:41,600
Speaker 2: put it out there. That's gonna be one of the

1154
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:46,200
Speaker 2: tallest tasks you could ever give yourself. Oh, for the

1155
00:57:46,360 --> 00:57:49,520
Speaker 2: rest of your lives, you're going to keep the secret

1156
00:57:49,960 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 2: that your husband is trands from your family. That is

1157
00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:56,680
Speaker 2: a lot. I mean what that's gotta be. So the

1158
00:57:56,720 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 2: anxiety of that hanging over you if you didn't get outed,

1159
00:58:01,400 --> 00:58:05,480
Speaker 2: would eventually I gotta assume drive you mad. M M.

1160
00:58:06,000 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 1: Back to the story. Oh wait, did we have the

1161
00:58:08,240 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 1: baby yet? Yeah, they had the baby. They got outed

1162
00:58:11,040 --> 00:58:13,960
Speaker 1: after the baby. They had the baby and didn't get

1163
00:58:13,960 --> 00:58:14,280
Speaker 1: out it.

1164
00:58:14,360 --> 00:58:16,640
Speaker 3: I don't like the friend. What the friend said. It's like, oh,

1165
00:58:16,680 --> 00:58:18,960
Speaker 3: they're gonna find it's better to like clear your conscience.

1166
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:19,080
Speaker 4: Now.

1167
00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:21,640
Speaker 3: I'm like, it's not your place to tell anyone.

1168
00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:23,000
Speaker 1: That's not your places.

1169
00:58:23,080 --> 00:58:25,680
Speaker 2: Friend, we can't say it, but I have to imagine

1170
00:58:26,600 --> 00:58:31,000
Speaker 2: secret secrets are no fune anyway. Sorry, Okay, back to

1171
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:31,320
Speaker 2: the story.

1172
00:58:31,320 --> 00:58:31,880
Speaker 1: Back to the story.

1173
00:58:32,480 --> 00:58:35,919
Speaker 2: He felt, uh, so, we never intended them to find

1174
00:58:35,920 --> 00:58:40,200
Speaker 2: out he my husband felt a familial love that he's

1175
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:42,920
Speaker 2: never had from his own family before, which is why

1176
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:47,160
Speaker 2: I kept my relationship with my parents at his request.

1177
00:58:47,680 --> 00:58:50,680
Speaker 2: If it wasn't for him, I most likely would have

1178
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 2: cut them off a long time ago. I'm sad that

1179
00:58:53,240 --> 00:58:55,480
Speaker 2: this has happened, but most of that sadness is for

1180
00:58:55,640 --> 00:58:59,760
Speaker 2: my husband rather than me. Also, the friend in the

1181
00:58:59,760 --> 00:59:03,640
Speaker 2: sty who outed him is obviously no longer a friend.

1182
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:05,120
Speaker 1: And never will be again.

1183
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:07,760
Speaker 2: The other friend who said I should have told the

1184
00:59:07,760 --> 00:59:12,320
Speaker 2: truth is on thin ice. Another edit, y'all are making

1185
00:59:12,400 --> 00:59:15,280
Speaker 2: us ugly cry. Thank you so much for the support.

1186
00:59:15,720 --> 00:59:18,400
Speaker 2: Here's some relevant comments. Y Op kept in touch with

1187
00:59:18,440 --> 00:59:21,200
Speaker 2: her family. Why did you feel obligated to have any

1188
00:59:21,240 --> 00:59:23,680
Speaker 2: contact with your transphobic family at all? I have a

1189
00:59:23,680 --> 00:59:26,360
Speaker 2: feeling this is going to because of her husband. My

1190
00:59:26,520 --> 00:59:29,720
Speaker 2: husband actually encouraged me to stay in touch throughout the years.

1191
00:59:29,960 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 2: They adore well, adored him, and he adored them, and

1192
00:59:34,200 --> 00:59:36,800
Speaker 2: it was the only semblance of family that he's ever had.

1193
00:59:37,920 --> 00:59:40,680
Speaker 2: The husband's pregnancy, how did he hide his baby bump

1194
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:44,000
Speaker 2: and other body changes from them? He's quite a big guy,

1195
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 2: both tall and wide. Underneath baggy clothes, you weren't really

1196
00:59:47,680 --> 00:59:49,880
Speaker 2: able to tell he was pregnant until up about until

1197
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:53,000
Speaker 2: the seventh month mark. He looked bigger up until then,

1198
00:59:53,040 --> 00:59:56,000
Speaker 2: but he didn't look pregnant, if that makes sense. What

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00:59:56,160 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 2: the fight between the ex friend was really about. Funnily,

1200
01:00:00,800 --> 01:00:05,320
Speaker 2: there is no address to private Message because the way.

1201
01:00:05,600 --> 01:00:11,880
Speaker 1: Uh, there's no address to PM. Funnily enough because there's

1202
01:00:11,920 --> 01:00:16,080
Speaker 1: no Oh okay, there's no address to to PM two

1203
01:00:16,080 --> 01:00:16,680
Speaker 1: PM the.

1204
01:00:17,520 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 2: Right because the fight was about them becoming homeless and

1205
01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 2: us not being able to help out as much as

1206
01:00:22,800 --> 01:00:23,560
Speaker 2: they would have liked.

1207
01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:28,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god, really that's gonna be your response. You

1208
01:00:28,600 --> 01:00:29,680
Speaker 1: won't you won't house me.

1209
01:00:30,320 --> 01:00:33,320
Speaker 2: I'm ruining your entire family, dyamic, have fun with that.

1210
01:00:33,320 --> 01:00:34,080
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

1211
01:00:35,120 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 2: They failed to pay their rent and wanted to move

1212
01:00:37,400 --> 01:00:40,200
Speaker 2: in with us because they're being kicked out. I said no,

1213
01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:42,880
Speaker 2: because said person is unstable and drinks.

1214
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:45,000
Speaker 1: To the point of violence. Uh.

1215
01:00:45,200 --> 01:00:48,320
Speaker 2: Instead I offered to help find government housing or for

1216
01:00:48,440 --> 01:00:50,680
Speaker 2: low income earners, but that wasn't enough.

1217
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 1: They asked for money. We said no.

1218
01:00:53,080 --> 01:00:55,800
Speaker 2: I'm certain that they were intoxicated. At the time of

1219
01:00:55,920 --> 01:01:00,240
Speaker 2: making that group chat update, I got caught up in

1220
01:01:00,240 --> 01:01:03,040
Speaker 2: some other stuff outside Reddit for a few hours. Firstly,

1221
01:01:03,360 --> 01:01:05,760
Speaker 2: thank you all so much for the overwhelming amount of

1222
01:01:05,760 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 2: support and care. I wish I could reply to everybody.

1223
01:01:08,880 --> 01:01:11,160
Speaker 2: Y'all are right that my husband is one tough cookie

1224
01:01:11,440 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 2: and he's too wonderful for his own goods sometime.

1225
01:01:14,240 --> 01:01:14,560
Speaker 3: Wow.

1226
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean like the fact that they went on

1227
01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:21,800
Speaker 1: and got married to ope knowing that their family is

1228
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:22,200
Speaker 1: like this.

1229
01:01:22,680 --> 01:01:25,720
Speaker 2: I mean, the thing is is that everything was fine.

1230
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:28,880
Speaker 2: It was just all built on the presumption of being cisgender.

1231
01:01:29,080 --> 01:01:29,560
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1232
01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:34,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that sounds like they were maintaining it perfectly

1233
01:01:34,280 --> 01:01:36,880
Speaker 2: literally until his friend completely blew up their spot.

1234
01:01:37,000 --> 01:01:41,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, which is so crazy that like, oh, the family

1235
01:01:41,080 --> 01:01:45,000
Speaker 3: was like this is great, and then the complete three

1236
01:01:45,120 --> 01:01:48,800
Speaker 3: sixty in a the snap of like a text or whatever.

1237
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:53,920
Speaker 2: Well, like they said, they they hypothesize heavy intoxication at

1238
01:01:53,960 --> 01:01:56,720
Speaker 2: the time of making that chat, which I can only imagine,

1239
01:01:56,800 --> 01:01:59,800
Speaker 2: like you'd have to be to do something that absolutely

1240
01:02:00,400 --> 01:02:02,560
Speaker 2: like I don't even have a word.

1241
01:02:02,560 --> 01:02:03,720
Speaker 1: I don't even have a phrase for it.

1242
01:02:03,800 --> 01:02:05,240
Speaker 2: If you have a phrase for what that is in

1243
01:02:05,240 --> 01:02:07,600
Speaker 2: the chat, let me know, because I can't think of

1244
01:02:07,640 --> 01:02:08,680
Speaker 2: any that do it justice.

1245
01:02:09,240 --> 01:02:10,959
Speaker 1: Secondly, I'm sorry to all.

1246
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:13,240
Speaker 2: The transphobes that were upset by my post. It must

1247
01:02:13,280 --> 01:02:17,840
Speaker 2: be horrible being so fragile it well soon aha.

1248
01:02:18,600 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 1: Okay.

1249
01:02:19,840 --> 01:02:22,400
Speaker 2: Thirdly, after reading all your comments, my husband and I

1250
01:02:22,440 --> 01:02:24,720
Speaker 2: decided that moving will be the best thing for us.

1251
01:02:24,800 --> 01:02:26,640
Speaker 1: Yeah. Good, yes, good idea.

1252
01:02:26,680 --> 01:02:28,880
Speaker 2: It's scary because it's such a big change and will

1253
01:02:28,920 --> 01:02:31,280
Speaker 2: be in an unfamiliar place, but we're looking forward to

1254
01:02:31,320 --> 01:02:36,640
Speaker 2: living in a more LGBTQIA plus friendly area. I've asked

1255
01:02:36,640 --> 01:02:38,640
Speaker 2: a friend to call in on a welfare check on

1256
01:02:38,720 --> 01:02:41,800
Speaker 2: this ex friend since they are technically missing, but I'm

1257
01:02:41,880 --> 01:02:44,560
Speaker 2: washing my hands of this whole situation and anything to

1258
01:02:44,600 --> 01:02:48,800
Speaker 2: do with this person. Well again, thank you so much

1259
01:02:48,800 --> 01:02:52,200
Speaker 2: for the love and support. By the way, if you

1260
01:02:52,280 --> 01:02:55,000
Speaker 2: love us and you want to support us, you can

1261
01:02:55,000 --> 01:02:57,360
Speaker 2: pull up to our live stream every weekday at three

1262
01:02:57,400 --> 01:03:01,160
Speaker 2: pm PST on YouTube, Facebook, TikTok, and Twitch.

1263
01:03:01,280 --> 01:03:04,200
Speaker 1: All you gotta do is tap our profile and you're in.

1264
01:03:04,960 --> 01:03:07,600
Speaker 2: And if you're watching this in the future, we might

1265
01:03:07,600 --> 01:03:11,320
Speaker 2: be live right now, but don't go anywhere because we're

1266
01:03:11,320 --> 01:03:13,680
Speaker 2: about to finish this story.

1267
01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:17,240
Speaker 1: But why as a friend missing, That's that's kind of weird.

1268
01:03:17,440 --> 01:03:20,800
Speaker 2: I mean, they were you know, they have become unhoused

1269
01:03:20,920 --> 01:03:24,520
Speaker 2: and have uh clearly have maybe a problem with drinking,

1270
01:03:24,600 --> 01:03:26,520
Speaker 2: so they've gone a wall.

1271
01:03:26,800 --> 01:03:31,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so I mean, what are our what are

1272
01:03:31,840 --> 01:03:34,520
Speaker 1: our thoughts on movies? Process here? I I like the

1273
01:03:34,600 --> 01:03:37,120
Speaker 1: I like the steps are taking. Moving will probably be

1274
01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:40,000
Speaker 1: the safest thing to do if your family reacts like this. Also,

1275
01:03:40,600 --> 01:03:44,080
Speaker 1: from what I remembered, the family dynamic is not even

1276
01:03:44,160 --> 01:03:45,440
Speaker 1: healthy in the first place.

1277
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:51,120
Speaker 2: Definitely not for I mean, once you're not once you're out.

1278
01:03:51,120 --> 01:03:54,760
Speaker 2: It is not cisgender. I mean, and just even even

1279
01:03:54,760 --> 01:03:56,920
Speaker 2: if you I've got to imagine it was going to

1280
01:03:56,960 --> 01:03:59,600
Speaker 2: eat away at you a little bit, even if at

1281
01:03:59,640 --> 01:04:03,480
Speaker 2: first everything's great and they love you, knowing underneath that

1282
01:04:03,560 --> 01:04:06,280
Speaker 2: surface that if they did know the reality of the situation,

1283
01:04:07,000 --> 01:04:09,600
Speaker 2: that they would get so nasty. It's like it would

1284
01:04:09,640 --> 01:04:14,440
Speaker 2: probably wear at you. I can't imagine it wouldn't. But hey,

1285
01:04:14,480 --> 01:04:18,040
Speaker 2: you're better off this way, because honestly, living a lie

1286
01:04:18,080 --> 01:04:22,160
Speaker 2: is always hard, right a lot of people, you know,

1287
01:04:23,120 --> 01:04:25,520
Speaker 2: especially now, it's like there's an emphasis on trying to

1288
01:04:25,560 --> 01:04:27,400
Speaker 2: live your truth as much as you can. And I

1289
01:04:27,400 --> 01:04:29,640
Speaker 2: feel like you're almost doing a disservice to yourself by

1290
01:04:30,240 --> 01:04:33,320
Speaker 2: by staying in this household where you're not allowed to

1291
01:04:33,440 --> 01:04:36,880
Speaker 2: be who you are, even though it probably felt really

1292
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 2: good because OPI's husband didn't have that sort of connection

1293
01:04:40,440 --> 01:04:45,600
Speaker 2: from his own family. But anyway, let's finish this story off.

1294
01:04:47,400 --> 01:04:51,439
Speaker 2: Hey all, Hi all, it's been over three months since

1295
01:04:51,480 --> 01:04:55,120
Speaker 2: my post blew up on Aita. I messaged the mods

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Speaker 2: for approval for an update, but unfortunately that was not

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Speaker 2: possible due to the controversial nature of my original post,

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01:05:00,320 --> 01:05:03,640
Speaker 2: and I completely understand. First, thank you all for the support.

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01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:06,600
Speaker 2: Absolutely blown away and never expected from my first post

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01:05:06,920 --> 01:05:08,080
Speaker 2: to blow up as much as it did.

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01:05:08,440 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 1: Secondly, my husband, baby and I are safe. Nice.

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01:05:11,520 --> 01:05:14,320
Speaker 2: We moved about three hours away from our old place

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01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:17,320
Speaker 2: and we're very happy. We have lots more space, which

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01:05:17,360 --> 01:05:20,000
Speaker 2: is a blessing and a curse. A blessing because I

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01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:22,600
Speaker 2: can finally have a home studio now and my husband

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01:05:22,600 --> 01:05:25,720
Speaker 2: has enough space for a workshop. A curse because there's

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01:05:25,720 --> 01:05:32,160
Speaker 2: more rooms to clean. Baby is thriving. Yeah, we've made

1308
01:05:32,200 --> 01:05:36,000
Speaker 2: new friends too, some who have babies around Bub's age.

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01:05:36,560 --> 01:05:39,320
Speaker 2: Husband and I are missing my family despite everything that

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01:05:39,360 --> 01:05:42,000
Speaker 2: has happened. We've cut contact and I don't know if

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01:05:42,000 --> 01:05:44,760
Speaker 2: we'll ever be ready to re establish that contact. It

1312
01:05:44,880 --> 01:05:47,360
Speaker 2: hurts and it sucks, but I know it's for the best.

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01:05:47,800 --> 01:05:50,560
Speaker 2: My sister has tried reaching out but my parents are

1314
01:05:50,560 --> 01:05:51,120
Speaker 2: too stubborn.

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01:05:53,080 --> 01:05:57,480
Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story.

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01:05:58,160 --> 01:05:58,560
Speaker 3: Story.

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01:06:00,000 --> 01:06:00,920
Speaker 1: It's a great story.

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01:06:01,280 --> 01:06:07,040
Speaker 2: It is a great story, and I I did have

1319
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:12,720
Speaker 2: to do a little edit about then where the friend

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01:06:12,800 --> 01:06:17,280
Speaker 2: ended up. I will just say that friend is no

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01:06:17,360 --> 01:06:18,600
Speaker 2: longer with us.

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01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:22,520
Speaker 1: Wow. Friend disappeared off the face of the earth?

1323
01:06:22,960 --> 01:06:25,120
Speaker 3: Was it because of what they did?

1324
01:06:25,360 --> 01:06:25,800
Speaker 1: There? Was?

1325
01:06:25,960 --> 01:06:30,440
Speaker 2: There were there? They're not really sure, but no longer

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01:06:31,840 --> 01:06:33,480
Speaker 2: on this mortal plane.

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01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 3: That's crazy.

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01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:40,600
Speaker 1: Whoa I mean, didn't you know Snyder here nor there?

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01:06:41,080 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 3: Yeah? Well let it thank you for letting us know that.

1330
01:06:43,480 --> 01:06:45,280
Speaker 1: However, that is the end of the story. Yeah.

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01:06:45,320 --> 01:06:46,920
Speaker 2: I just couldn't put the way that it was written.

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01:06:46,960 --> 01:06:49,360
Speaker 2: I just it couldn't go in because of the way

1333
01:06:49,360 --> 01:06:52,840
Speaker 2: that everything works. YadA YadA, YadA, technical jargon.

1334
01:06:53,240 --> 01:06:54,680
Speaker 1: Anyways, that's the end of that story.

1335
01:06:54,720 --> 01:06:59,560
Speaker 2: So we're gonna move on to the next one after.

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01:06:59,400 --> 01:07:01,440
Speaker 1: Do we have any more? I feel like maybe we did?

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01:07:01,600 --> 01:07:03,280
Speaker 1: We didn't we do?

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01:07:03,840 --> 01:07:08,920
Speaker 2: Okay, ah a sleepy egg plant, thank you for.

1339
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:11,480
Speaker 1: Being a member for two months. Get that sword.

1340
01:07:12,840 --> 01:07:18,600
Speaker 2: He happy to be here for two months. Love you guys. Also,

1341
01:07:18,920 --> 01:07:21,920
Speaker 2: screw that friend. No friend does that over an argument.

1342
01:07:22,240 --> 01:07:26,040
Speaker 1: Sue that friend Susu Shoshu, sue, there's no need to

1343
01:07:26,080 --> 01:07:26,720
Speaker 1: do that anymore.

1344
01:07:27,800 --> 01:07:32,120
Speaker 3: That's just I mean sleep sleeve Beglen's just doing uh

1345
01:07:32,520 --> 01:07:35,640
Speaker 3: a Christiano Ronaldo thing now, Sweet.

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01:07:38,320 --> 01:07:40,640
Speaker 2: Vix Mix, thank you for the five bucks. As a

1347
01:07:40,640 --> 01:07:43,440
Speaker 2: pride mom, I salute Ope. I would have been behind

1348
01:07:43,440 --> 01:07:46,680
Speaker 2: my daughter all the way. Nice and that's why you're

1349
01:07:46,720 --> 01:07:47,480
Speaker 2: the best Fix Mix.

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01:07:47,720 --> 01:07:50,000
Speaker 1: Yeah. And Sophia Colonne, thank you for being a member

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01:07:50,040 --> 01:07:55,680
Speaker 1: for seven months. Seven months. Love you all. You're my addiction.

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01:07:56,480 --> 01:07:56,920
Speaker 3: Lo L.

1353
01:07:57,520 --> 01:07:59,760
Speaker 2: I might have things to tell the Discord in like

1354
01:07:59,840 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 2: three three months, not sure though, Wow, that is very

1355
01:08:03,640 --> 01:08:05,160
Speaker 2: small sure.

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01:08:05,040 --> 01:08:08,160
Speaker 1: Very long time from now. Hmmm, yeah, why don't you

1357
01:08:08,200 --> 01:08:09,640
Speaker 1: just tell lifef you're not gonna tell the discord, Just

1358
01:08:09,640 --> 01:08:11,720
Speaker 1: tell us in the chat you e tail us right now? Yeah,

1359
01:08:12,160 --> 01:08:14,080
Speaker 1: or anticipate what you may say else to see if

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01:08:14,080 --> 01:08:15,320
Speaker 1: you're writing in three months from now or not.

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01:08:15,720 --> 01:08:23,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's nice cool for all the people in the chat.

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01:08:24,400 --> 01:08:27,880
Speaker 2: I don't that are that are postulating if it was

1363
01:08:27,960 --> 01:08:32,760
Speaker 2: on purpose or not, this person leaving or playing because

1364
01:08:32,920 --> 01:08:34,639
Speaker 2: you weren't in the room. Riley stepped out for a second.

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01:08:34,840 --> 01:08:38,640
Speaker 2: I omitted this from the story. But the friend was

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01:08:38,840 --> 01:08:41,320
Speaker 2: she is no longer with us. Yes, and it was

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01:08:41,360 --> 01:08:44,599
Speaker 2: not from a I think it was just an accident.

1368
01:08:44,680 --> 01:08:48,160
Speaker 2: It probably she was they found her in her car.

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01:08:48,600 --> 01:08:51,920
Speaker 2: I think there was probably an intoxication thing. It was cold,

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01:08:52,000 --> 01:08:54,479
Speaker 2: you know. I think she may have become exposed to

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01:08:54,520 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 2: the elements in a way and may have passed in

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01:08:57,960 --> 01:09:01,000
Speaker 2: her sleep. But they were kind of like, you know,

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01:09:01,080 --> 01:09:03,519
Speaker 2: they were like, it's very unfortunate. It's not like they

1374
01:09:03,520 --> 01:09:05,880
Speaker 2: were super They weren't super jazzed about it or anything

1375
01:09:05,880 --> 01:09:09,519
Speaker 2: as Yeah, no one really ever is, I guess unless

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01:09:09,520 --> 01:09:10,040
Speaker 2: you're a CEO.

1377
01:09:10,720 --> 01:09:14,040
Speaker 1: But you said we're not gonna talk about I'm sorry

1378
01:09:14,080 --> 01:09:15,200
Speaker 1: it up. It teed up.

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01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:18,200
Speaker 2: I had to do it, Riley, I had to. It's okay,

1380
01:09:18,439 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 2: that's gonna be fine.

1381
01:09:20,920 --> 01:09:23,320
Speaker 1: It's too good. I teet myself up. Stop talking about it.

1382
01:09:23,320 --> 01:09:25,160
Speaker 1: I couldn't help it. And then you're talking about more

1383
01:09:25,880 --> 01:09:28,880
Speaker 1: what are we really gonna get in trouble? No, you

1384
01:09:28,920 --> 01:09:32,080
Speaker 1: said bring it up. No, we're not gonna get in

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01:09:32,120 --> 01:09:33,000
Speaker 1: trouble anyway.

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01:09:33,760 --> 01:09:37,240
Speaker 2: We're gonna go on to our next story though, Yeah right, leap,

1387
01:09:37,360 --> 01:09:40,240
Speaker 2: or are you gonna read this one or you want

1388
01:09:40,240 --> 01:09:40,720
Speaker 2: me to take it?

1389
01:09:42,479 --> 01:09:45,360
Speaker 1: I can read it. Oh boy, I don't know. I

1390
01:09:45,400 --> 01:09:49,200
Speaker 1: don't like that hesitation. I could read it. Yeah, let's

1391
01:09:49,240 --> 01:10:02,080
Speaker 1: freaking do it, okay, okay, dopey it all right, kay

1392
01:10:02,840 --> 01:10:05,920
Speaker 1: right yesterday. Yeah, but Dakota didn't want to bring it

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01:10:05,960 --> 01:10:10,200
Speaker 1: up today, so you brought it up yesterday. Yeah, but

1394
01:10:10,280 --> 01:10:12,160
Speaker 1: you said no, we can't bring it up. Well, I

1395
01:10:12,240 --> 01:10:15,080
Speaker 1: just didn't ibe. I grove Ougene nine months already. Yeah,

1396
01:10:15,240 --> 01:10:19,519
Speaker 1: time freaking flies. Also, I love the stream, baby, I

1397
01:10:19,640 --> 01:10:21,160
Speaker 1: love the people.

1398
01:10:21,160 --> 01:10:23,439
Speaker 3: Want to see that cake? Yeah you got you guys

1399
01:10:23,479 --> 01:10:26,000
Speaker 3: got some freak freak cake. You guys have some sick

1400
01:10:26,040 --> 01:10:28,719
Speaker 3: cake right there, freak cake.

1401
01:10:30,280 --> 01:10:34,080
Speaker 1: But yeah, I like the memberships because it lets me

1402
01:10:34,200 --> 01:10:39,719
Speaker 1: know how long together up there with Angie, and it helps.

1403
01:10:39,760 --> 01:10:41,200
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, it's been ten months, so now I

1404
01:10:41,240 --> 01:10:43,360
Speaker 1: have to say happy ten months whenever we hit twenty

1405
01:10:43,360 --> 01:10:49,120
Speaker 1: four this month? Oh yeah yeah yeah, and uh mt

1406
01:10:49,760 --> 01:10:52,360
Speaker 1: Ava's girl, thanks for twenty five buck arunos. Don't forget

1407
01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:54,720
Speaker 1: to like to stream everyone. Yeah, you guys even want

1408
01:10:54,800 --> 01:10:57,000
Speaker 1: us to freaking spin the wheeler one hundred and twenty

1409
01:10:57,000 --> 01:10:57,400
Speaker 1: five away.

1410
01:10:57,439 --> 01:10:59,160
Speaker 2: All you gotta do is close chat like it and

1411
01:10:59,200 --> 01:11:02,080
Speaker 2: then come back open the chatty easy time, and then

1412
01:11:02,080 --> 01:11:04,479
Speaker 2: we get to spin the wheel and it'll tickle my brain.

1413
01:11:05,120 --> 01:11:06,799
Speaker 3: The stands for Montana.

1414
01:11:06,880 --> 01:11:08,800
Speaker 1: So if I brought the vibes down everybody. I just

1415
01:11:08,840 --> 01:11:10,960
Speaker 1: realized what I should have said is it was just accidental.

1416
01:11:11,600 --> 01:11:14,720
Speaker 1: It wouldn't have been so fine. I literally took it

1417
01:11:14,720 --> 01:11:19,240
Speaker 1: out so no one got everyone, and we're gonna like

1418
01:11:19,439 --> 01:11:21,599
Speaker 1: that's all right. I was almost figure it out. I almost.

1419
01:11:21,640 --> 01:11:23,719
Speaker 1: I fumbled the bag at the very end. Riley Ashley,

1420
01:11:23,880 --> 01:11:29,360
Speaker 1: he doesn't care, but he knows he's sensitive. Oh dude,

1421
01:11:29,439 --> 01:11:34,080
Speaker 1: Sola Darling just zeroed in on you, bro. Oh yeah, dude,

1422
01:11:34,080 --> 01:11:36,559
Speaker 1: I don't even know. Riley is one of the biggest

1423
01:11:36,640 --> 01:11:43,320
Speaker 1: qutie pies. I know, straight up qut tut I tried, dude,

1424
01:11:44,840 --> 01:11:49,080
Speaker 1: was when I grow up like Riley, I would be

1425
01:11:49,080 --> 01:11:51,200
Speaker 1: like Keon with baby cokes. He said that you like

1426
01:11:51,320 --> 01:11:55,519
Speaker 1: the Widowed Men movies. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, we bought

1427
01:11:55,560 --> 01:11:57,960
Speaker 1: a zoo. We bought a zoo Dan in real life

1428
01:11:58,080 --> 01:12:01,160
Speaker 1: and up, it's a good dream. It's a good dream.

1429
01:12:01,720 --> 01:12:05,679
Speaker 1: It's your dream, bad damon. Okay, it's just the one scene.

1430
01:12:05,439 --> 01:12:08,599
Speaker 3: From I Finally learned the truth about my engagement ring.

1431
01:12:09,160 --> 01:12:11,880
Speaker 1: I finally learned the truth about my engagement ring and

1432
01:12:11,960 --> 01:12:17,560
Speaker 1: I can't stop crying about it. Way way imp four contexts.

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01:12:17,600 --> 01:12:20,439
Speaker 1: Me female thirty three and my husband thirty seven have

1434
01:12:20,520 --> 01:12:22,880
Speaker 1: been together for about ten years. I met him a

1435
01:12:22,960 --> 01:12:25,920
Speaker 1: year after he got back from deployment in Iraq and

1436
01:12:26,720 --> 01:12:30,720
Speaker 1: immediately fell in love with him. Yeah. What do you

1437
01:12:30,720 --> 01:12:33,840
Speaker 1: call that love at first getting back from deployment? Yep,

1438
01:12:33,880 --> 01:12:35,559
Speaker 1: that's exactly what they call it. By the way, this

1439
01:12:35,640 --> 01:12:39,240
Speaker 1: comes from Miss g Pine Clone Hunter on the art

1440
01:12:39,240 --> 01:12:42,800
Speaker 1: size Okay story Tom suburn So I continued the relationship,

1441
01:12:42,920 --> 01:12:46,160
Speaker 1: knowing he comes with a lot of baggage as mile

1442
01:12:46,240 --> 01:12:52,320
Speaker 1: PTSD from his service, as well as having the emotionality emotionally,

1443
01:12:52,479 --> 01:12:55,920
Speaker 1: oh and as well as having the emotionally manipulal family

1444
01:12:55,960 --> 01:12:58,839
Speaker 1: from the HT double hockey six from the Bad Place,

1445
01:13:00,240 --> 01:13:03,879
Speaker 1: the Gorge, Ohio from the Gorge. Yes, I said, Ohio

1446
01:13:04,040 --> 01:13:06,040
Speaker 1: from Ohio. That's what we're just gonna call that from

1447
01:13:06,040 --> 01:13:07,679
Speaker 1: now on. Okay, brain run.

1448
01:13:08,040 --> 01:13:12,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, skibbitty skibby. I'm sick, I'm sick, Let me have this.

1449
01:13:13,040 --> 01:13:13,439
Speaker 2: Uh no.

1450
01:13:14,720 --> 01:13:17,360
Speaker 1: Uh. When I met him, he was roughly a year

1451
01:13:17,439 --> 01:13:21,040
Speaker 1: out of his divorce with his first wife. Long story short.

1452
01:13:21,920 --> 01:13:26,040
Speaker 1: She had been cheating on him the entire druration of deployment,

1453
01:13:26,520 --> 01:13:30,000
Speaker 1: and she had confessed it and divorced him pretty much

1454
01:13:30,120 --> 01:13:33,680
Speaker 1: the moment he got back in the country. Oh goo ye, Well,

1455
01:13:33,720 --> 01:13:35,040
Speaker 1: at least she did it immediately.

1456
01:13:35,160 --> 01:13:37,360
Speaker 2: That's a silver lining, right, Like you didn't have to

1457
01:13:37,479 --> 01:13:39,960
Speaker 2: pretend to play house for like a couple of months

1458
01:13:40,000 --> 01:13:42,640
Speaker 2: before she broke and she just told you straight up.

1459
01:13:43,280 --> 01:13:46,280
Speaker 1: Because of his history with his ex, I always felt

1460
01:13:46,280 --> 01:13:50,280
Speaker 1: the need to walk on eggshells and never ask too much.

1461
01:13:52,200 --> 01:13:56,519
Speaker 1: His family immediately started treating me like garbage. Okay, this

1462
01:13:56,680 --> 01:13:59,960
Speaker 1: is a bad cry, I think, making passive aggressive comment.

1463
01:14:00,000 --> 01:14:04,360
Speaker 1: It's about my appearance, my job, I'm a teacher, again,

1464
01:14:04,520 --> 01:14:08,880
Speaker 1: insinuating I'm taking advantage of their son and brother. My

1465
01:14:09,040 --> 01:14:11,920
Speaker 1: husband insisted that they were only treating me this way

1466
01:14:12,000 --> 01:14:14,679
Speaker 1: because they were nervous that I would be the same

1467
01:14:14,760 --> 01:14:17,760
Speaker 1: as his ex, and I let it slide, believing him

1468
01:14:18,360 --> 01:14:20,840
Speaker 1: when he said, if I stuck it out and it

1469
01:14:21,040 --> 01:14:25,799
Speaker 1: was kind of to them, they would change their mind. However,

1470
01:14:26,000 --> 01:14:29,680
Speaker 1: my ignoring their rudeness only seemed to encourage them to

1471
01:14:29,800 --> 01:14:32,400
Speaker 1: be more bold. It's like, oh, she's not getting it.

1472
01:14:32,479 --> 01:14:36,080
Speaker 1: Let me, let me say it louder. Why does this

1473
01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:42,320
Speaker 1: idiot like us? We don't like us. They've done terrible

1474
01:14:42,400 --> 01:14:45,360
Speaker 1: things to me since then, such as telling anyone who

1475
01:14:45,400 --> 01:14:48,599
Speaker 1: would listen, I cheated on my husband before the wedding, which,

1476
01:14:48,720 --> 01:14:51,840
Speaker 1: by their own admission, they had no proof. They just

1477
01:14:51,880 --> 01:14:56,200
Speaker 1: thought I seemed like the type dude. Oh what, wait

1478
01:14:56,280 --> 01:15:03,439
Speaker 1: a minute, pause, Addie, Welcome to the night. What how

1479
01:15:03,479 --> 01:15:05,960
Speaker 1: long has it been a night? How long has it

1480
01:15:06,000 --> 01:15:08,920
Speaker 1: been a night? Keon, go to the go to the donos. Yeah,

1481
01:15:09,080 --> 01:15:12,920
Speaker 1: ADDIE's our one and he's been Oh. Wegminson Knights always

1482
01:15:12,920 --> 01:15:15,960
Speaker 1: back in guys. Everyone say hello to Addie and Wegminson,

1483
01:15:16,000 --> 01:15:19,639
Speaker 1: the Knights, the Goat, the freaking Gaddy, the Goat Addie.

1484
01:15:20,479 --> 01:15:23,560
Speaker 1: Every time I would approach my husband and discuss the

1485
01:15:23,600 --> 01:15:26,839
Speaker 1: mistreatment of me by his family, he would just remind

1486
01:15:26,920 --> 01:15:29,720
Speaker 1: me that his ex had cheated on him, so they

1487
01:15:29,760 --> 01:15:34,960
Speaker 1: were probably being overly protective. Just to ignore them, And

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01:15:35,120 --> 01:15:38,000
Speaker 1: that's why I would have let aside. When he would

1489
01:15:38,000 --> 01:15:40,720
Speaker 1: spend all of his very few days off at his

1490
01:15:40,920 --> 01:15:44,599
Speaker 1: mother's house doing chores for her, or when we had

1491
01:15:44,680 --> 01:15:47,280
Speaker 1: to leave events early because she was calling him to

1492
01:15:47,360 --> 01:15:50,680
Speaker 1: come take care of her, take care of things for her,

1493
01:15:51,200 --> 01:15:53,719
Speaker 1: or we wouldn't be able to go on vacations because

1494
01:15:54,080 --> 01:15:57,000
Speaker 1: he had to help his mother, and even financing his

1495
01:15:57,160 --> 01:16:00,640
Speaker 1: siblings with things that were not super necessary, such as

1496
01:16:00,760 --> 01:16:03,760
Speaker 1: paying to store his brother's classic car for the winter

1497
01:16:04,240 --> 01:16:06,200
Speaker 1: or paying his sister to stay in a hotel room

1498
01:16:06,640 --> 01:16:08,840
Speaker 1: for a conference. Shoe is going to what? So he's

1499
01:16:08,880 --> 01:16:14,000
Speaker 1: being a parentsified and a mama's boy. What is what

1500
01:16:14,240 --> 01:16:15,880
Speaker 1: is this complicated family here?

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01:16:15,960 --> 01:16:19,800
Speaker 2: I don't necessarily see anything wrong with like being a

1502
01:16:19,960 --> 01:16:22,680
Speaker 2: source of support for your family, But at the same time,

1503
01:16:22,760 --> 01:16:26,680
Speaker 2: if my family's treating someone I care about in an

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01:16:26,760 --> 01:16:29,760
Speaker 2: awful way, I might not be very quick to offer

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01:16:29,840 --> 01:16:30,759
Speaker 2: up said support.

1506
01:16:31,479 --> 01:16:36,400
Speaker 1: You know something I don't know about that. This is weird.

1507
01:16:37,040 --> 01:16:39,040
Speaker 1: This is really really weird.

1508
01:16:39,200 --> 01:16:43,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think, I mean, I just I think I've

1509
01:16:43,120 --> 01:16:46,320
Speaker 2: said my piece again. It's it's fine to support your family,

1510
01:16:46,360 --> 01:16:51,760
Speaker 2: but they're not treating your partner correctly at all.

1511
01:16:52,000 --> 01:16:56,479
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, And like conspiracy, it was him who's feeding

1512
01:16:56,560 --> 01:17:01,640
Speaker 1: his family about the rumors about a people. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yah,

1513
01:17:01,680 --> 01:17:03,680
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, because that's usually how it goes. I've been

1514
01:17:03,960 --> 01:17:06,360
Speaker 1: I've seen people where they have doubts in a relationship

1515
01:17:06,439 --> 01:17:08,240
Speaker 1: or the family has doubts, and it's all because of

1516
01:17:08,479 --> 01:17:11,680
Speaker 1: the like the family member who's dating someone feeding them

1517
01:17:11,720 --> 01:17:17,360
Speaker 1: that information and continued my best to try and prove

1518
01:17:17,439 --> 01:17:21,000
Speaker 1: I was not materialistic and using my husband. Eventually, while

1519
01:17:21,040 --> 01:17:23,360
Speaker 1: we were dating, we discussed many times the ring I

1520
01:17:23,400 --> 01:17:27,120
Speaker 1: would like, should we continue to grow close and marry

1521
01:17:27,680 --> 01:17:31,120
Speaker 1: be on the table. I said, I never wanted anything

1522
01:17:31,200 --> 01:17:34,439
Speaker 1: too flashy or expensive. But I have been very specific

1523
01:17:34,520 --> 01:17:38,280
Speaker 1: with that, and I and with that with what okay,

1524
01:17:38,479 --> 01:17:41,240
Speaker 1: one more time, But I had been very specific with

1525
01:17:41,439 --> 01:17:44,920
Speaker 1: what I did not want it to be a little

1526
01:17:45,240 --> 01:17:49,800
Speaker 1: over a year into our relationship, he proposed when I

1527
01:17:49,960 --> 01:17:53,440
Speaker 1: saw the ring, I was more than a little surprised

1528
01:17:53,479 --> 01:17:56,639
Speaker 1: at the fact that it was pretty much everything I said.

1529
01:17:56,720 --> 01:17:57,960
Speaker 1: I did not want it to be.

1530
01:17:58,479 --> 01:18:06,400
Speaker 2: Stylistically red flag how you didn't even tell him what

1531
01:18:06,520 --> 01:18:08,840
Speaker 2: you want. You said, this is what I don't want,

1532
01:18:09,360 --> 01:18:13,600
Speaker 2: and he gave you that exactly that poll.

1533
01:18:15,320 --> 01:18:17,640
Speaker 1: Wait is that? Actually was he listening? But he just

1534
01:18:17,680 --> 01:18:18,400
Speaker 1: got confused.

1535
01:18:19,160 --> 01:18:21,000
Speaker 2: He's actually a really good listener. He just missed the

1536
01:18:21,040 --> 01:18:23,400
Speaker 2: part where you said, not what I want.

1537
01:18:23,880 --> 01:18:25,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe I like you said this is what you want.

1538
01:18:25,840 --> 01:18:28,400
Speaker 1: Don't think of elephants? What are you gonna think of zebras?

1539
01:18:28,479 --> 01:18:30,920
Speaker 1: Actually I thought of I thought of a snake. Okay,

1540
01:18:30,920 --> 01:18:33,560
Speaker 1: well you're gonna think of elephants python. I thought of

1541
01:18:33,600 --> 01:18:36,640
Speaker 1: a snake snag. But yeah, if you tell someone like

1542
01:18:36,720 --> 01:18:38,639
Speaker 1: don't do this, don't do this, it sounds like they're

1543
01:18:38,640 --> 01:18:40,160
Speaker 1: gonna do it because they're dumb. Ice cream.

1544
01:18:40,280 --> 01:18:41,479
Speaker 3: Do you want to pull pull?

1545
01:18:41,920 --> 01:18:42,519
Speaker 1: Say yes or no?

1546
01:18:43,000 --> 01:18:43,519
Speaker 3: Just yes or no?

1547
01:18:43,880 --> 01:18:45,800
Speaker 1: Yep, yes or no. Are we saying yes or no

1548
01:18:45,960 --> 01:18:46,719
Speaker 1: to this proposal?

1549
01:18:46,880 --> 01:18:50,479
Speaker 3: Yes? Hmmm, we're gonna go with today?

1550
01:18:50,479 --> 01:18:51,080
Speaker 1: All right? Great?

1551
01:18:51,479 --> 01:18:51,559
Speaker 4: Uh.

1552
01:18:51,720 --> 01:18:54,840
Speaker 1: I just told myself that if this was all he

1553
01:18:54,960 --> 01:18:57,280
Speaker 1: could afford, and he bought it out of love, so

1554
01:18:57,520 --> 01:19:00,240
Speaker 1: I would live with it and never say anything and

1555
01:19:00,479 --> 01:19:03,040
Speaker 1: never say anything that's not the right thing to do.

1556
01:19:04,400 --> 01:19:07,000
Speaker 1: Communication is key. I'm just leave it at that.

1557
01:19:07,320 --> 01:19:08,400
Speaker 3: Communication is key on.

1558
01:19:08,960 --> 01:19:13,120
Speaker 1: Communication is key on. That's perfect, actually fast.

1559
01:19:13,240 --> 01:19:14,160
Speaker 3: I approve this message.

1560
01:19:14,400 --> 01:19:18,880
Speaker 1: Forward. Five stinking years later, after the birth of our

1561
01:19:18,920 --> 01:19:21,880
Speaker 1: first son, his attitude towards his family did a one

1562
01:19:21,920 --> 01:19:24,120
Speaker 1: to eighty. For the first time, he saw his family

1563
01:19:24,200 --> 01:19:27,720
Speaker 1: for what they really were. Oh right, They were uncaring

1564
01:19:27,800 --> 01:19:30,559
Speaker 1: towards my son and just kept demanding that my husband

1565
01:19:30,680 --> 01:19:34,479
Speaker 1: keeps servicing them the way he always had. They were

1566
01:19:34,600 --> 01:19:37,519
Speaker 1: unsymptomatic to the fact that we had a newborn and

1567
01:19:37,680 --> 01:19:40,920
Speaker 1: kept the threats they usually have been using for years,

1568
01:19:41,120 --> 01:19:44,040
Speaker 1: primarily that they would cut off all ties with him

1569
01:19:44,120 --> 01:19:49,880
Speaker 1: if he kept changing. Oh, my red flag for all

1570
01:19:49,880 --> 01:19:50,559
Speaker 1: of our listeners.

1571
01:19:50,640 --> 01:19:53,680
Speaker 2: I'm voraciously waving a red flag, because how are you

1572
01:19:53,760 --> 01:19:55,679
Speaker 2: going to tell someone they are not allowed to change?

1573
01:19:56,000 --> 01:19:59,839
Speaker 1: That is what life is. Life is a journey of change.

1574
01:20:00,000 --> 01:20:04,640
Speaker 1: He finally realized that they didn't care about him, They

1575
01:20:04,720 --> 01:20:08,240
Speaker 1: only cared about what he could do for them. We

1576
01:20:08,360 --> 01:20:11,240
Speaker 1: still invite them to holiday and birthday parties, but for

1577
01:20:11,320 --> 01:20:14,360
Speaker 1: the most part, we do not interact much. When things

1578
01:20:14,439 --> 01:20:16,760
Speaker 1: were a little too calm, his mother still calls to

1579
01:20:16,920 --> 01:20:20,240
Speaker 1: stir up crap. She knows how to play his guilt

1580
01:20:20,360 --> 01:20:24,920
Speaker 1: and PTSD to make him suffer for choosing me over her. However,

1581
01:20:25,000 --> 01:20:27,439
Speaker 1: since the birth of her son, he is the perfect

1582
01:20:27,600 --> 01:20:31,400
Speaker 1: husband to me in every way. He takes my opinion seriously,

1583
01:20:31,640 --> 01:20:35,920
Speaker 1: spoils me, and always values my feelings first. Okay, now

1584
01:20:36,920 --> 01:20:42,200
Speaker 1: to present day and the issue at hand. Okay, we

1585
01:20:42,320 --> 01:20:46,400
Speaker 1: had been together for ten years and married for seven,

1586
01:20:46,960 --> 01:20:49,840
Speaker 1: and we have two beautiful boys and a little girl

1587
01:20:50,040 --> 01:20:53,519
Speaker 1: in do three and a little girl do in three months.

1588
01:20:53,560 --> 01:20:57,639
Speaker 1: Our relationship and our family is perfect in every way. However,

1589
01:20:58,040 --> 01:21:01,080
Speaker 1: a month ago I went in to have my ring

1590
01:21:01,280 --> 01:21:05,040
Speaker 1: service when the all However, a month ago, when I

1591
01:21:05,160 --> 01:21:07,559
Speaker 1: went in to have my ring service, when the worker

1592
01:21:07,960 --> 01:21:12,640
Speaker 1: casually mentioned that it was a quarter carrot ring, I

1593
01:21:12,920 --> 01:21:16,080
Speaker 1: asked her to repeat herself, since my husband told me

1594
01:21:16,360 --> 01:21:18,760
Speaker 1: it was a one point five to two carrots. She

1595
01:21:18,920 --> 01:21:25,760
Speaker 1: insisted that was zero point four was the correct size. Wow,

1596
01:21:26,640 --> 01:21:30,400
Speaker 1: but this was him five years ago, five years ago,

1597
01:21:30,640 --> 01:21:35,000
Speaker 1: I mean, that's not how do you isn't carrots not

1598
01:21:35,200 --> 01:21:37,640
Speaker 1: just size? Right? It has something. There's more factors that

1599
01:21:37,720 --> 01:21:39,120
Speaker 1: go into things like the purity of it, how you

1600
01:21:39,280 --> 01:21:43,120
Speaker 1: judge carrot. But like jewelers in the chat, four is

1601
01:21:44,439 --> 01:21:47,200
Speaker 1: d low, pretty low, pretty low? What I'm aware of?

1602
01:21:47,400 --> 01:21:49,920
Speaker 2: Hey, there buying wedd and rings all day long, but

1603
01:21:51,400 --> 01:21:53,400
Speaker 2: doesn't seem like a lot, which is fine.

1604
01:21:53,479 --> 01:21:56,200
Speaker 1: Not everyone can afford like a big expensive writing ring.

1605
01:21:56,280 --> 01:21:58,160
Speaker 2: But at the same time, if you're buying, if you're

1606
01:21:58,200 --> 01:22:01,080
Speaker 2: storing your brothers sports car in the winter, and you're

1607
01:22:01,080 --> 01:22:03,280
Speaker 2: buying hotel rooms and you're doing all this for your family,

1608
01:22:03,360 --> 01:22:06,760
Speaker 2: it's like what Ace makes it says, carrot is weight?

1609
01:22:06,920 --> 01:22:11,720
Speaker 1: Thank you Ace makes it? God? Wow? Okay, all right,

1610
01:22:13,360 --> 01:22:17,439
Speaker 1: since that revelation. So much has made since. For example,

1611
01:22:17,800 --> 01:22:20,120
Speaker 1: why everyone had seemed to make a face when I

1612
01:22:20,200 --> 01:22:23,320
Speaker 1: showed them my engagement ring. Why when we were looking

1613
01:22:23,400 --> 01:22:26,479
Speaker 1: for wedding bands, every single store offered me to look

1614
01:22:26,520 --> 01:22:31,799
Speaker 1: at upgrades. Why I couldn't help but notice, whether anyone

1615
01:22:31,880 --> 01:22:34,760
Speaker 1: else knew I got engaged, their ring appeared to be

1616
01:22:34,840 --> 01:22:37,320
Speaker 1: double the size of mind. Not that I cared too

1617
01:22:37,439 --> 01:22:40,320
Speaker 1: much about it being big, but it stirred up every

1618
01:22:40,400 --> 01:22:43,200
Speaker 1: bad memory for how he used to treat me. Mmm,

1619
01:22:43,800 --> 01:22:46,320
Speaker 1: how my feelings always had seemed to take a back

1620
01:22:46,439 --> 01:22:49,840
Speaker 1: burner to the opinions of his family. How now it

1621
01:22:49,960 --> 01:22:52,439
Speaker 1: made sense that even though he had a very good

1622
01:22:52,520 --> 01:22:54,640
Speaker 1: job at the time of our engagement, he got a

1623
01:22:54,920 --> 01:22:59,000
Speaker 1: very cheap ring because he was too busy financing his siblings' lifestyles.

1624
01:23:00,600 --> 01:23:02,680
Speaker 1: For everyone in the chat, it's point four, not for

1625
01:23:02,960 --> 01:23:07,920
Speaker 1: point four four would be enormous. Yeah, that's pretty big. Uh,

1626
01:23:08,320 --> 01:23:13,880
Speaker 1: that's big. I'm proud of you boys. That one flew

1627
01:23:14,000 --> 01:23:15,840
Speaker 1: right over my head. Shut out.

1628
01:23:15,960 --> 01:23:19,439
Speaker 2: No, it didn't, did it first until you said it?

1629
01:23:19,560 --> 01:23:22,360
Speaker 2: Kean good job, guys, keeping me on.

1630
01:23:24,439 --> 01:23:27,040
Speaker 1: How for the first five years of our life together,

1631
01:23:27,200 --> 01:23:31,439
Speaker 1: I wasn't good enough to have my feelings considered or honored. Finally,

1632
01:23:31,680 --> 01:23:33,519
Speaker 1: I got to the point where I couldn't even look

1633
01:23:33,600 --> 01:23:36,280
Speaker 1: at my ring finger without it all bringing up those

1634
01:23:36,400 --> 01:23:40,959
Speaker 1: terrible memories and me bursting into tears. Let's blame pregnancy hormones.

1635
01:23:41,240 --> 01:23:43,719
Speaker 1: So for the first time in ten years, I decided

1636
01:23:43,760 --> 01:23:46,479
Speaker 1: to take off my engagement ring and put it away

1637
01:23:46,560 --> 01:23:48,479
Speaker 1: until I could get a hold of myself.

1638
01:23:51,400 --> 01:23:59,439
Speaker 2: Okay, not gonna lie. I'm thinking that this is not

1639
01:23:59,680 --> 01:24:03,160
Speaker 2: really the ring. Oh no, it's about everything surrounding it.

1640
01:24:03,800 --> 01:24:06,120
Speaker 2: So the ring's not really important here. What's important is

1641
01:24:06,160 --> 01:24:07,640
Speaker 2: I think you and your husband need to go to

1642
01:24:07,720 --> 01:24:11,639
Speaker 2: some counseling. You'all need to have a very crystal clear

1643
01:24:12,160 --> 01:24:15,719
Speaker 2: communication channel where you can express how you were feeling

1644
01:24:16,520 --> 01:24:19,760
Speaker 2: during this time period. That's being drudged up when you

1645
01:24:19,840 --> 01:24:22,679
Speaker 2: look at your ring now, yep, because that's the real problem.

1646
01:24:22,720 --> 01:24:27,599
Speaker 1: It's not the ring, it's what happened, what surrounds the ring. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1647
01:24:27,800 --> 01:24:30,640
Speaker 1: this is this is not about the ring whatsoever. It's

1648
01:24:30,680 --> 01:24:33,639
Speaker 1: about yeah exactly what what what my boy just said.

1649
01:24:36,560 --> 01:24:40,800
Speaker 1: Of course, my husband immediately noticed the next day and

1650
01:24:40,960 --> 01:24:44,640
Speaker 1: asked why I wasn't wearing it. I confessed what I

1651
01:24:44,760 --> 01:24:48,960
Speaker 1: had discovered and what I was feeling. As expected, he

1652
01:24:49,200 --> 01:24:51,599
Speaker 1: was the perfect husband about it. We had a long

1653
01:24:51,680 --> 01:24:55,400
Speaker 1: discussion about how he lives with the girl every single day,

1654
01:24:55,520 --> 01:24:57,720
Speaker 1: for how he was manipulated to treat me for the

1655
01:24:57,800 --> 01:25:00,800
Speaker 1: first five years, and now he took full responsibility for

1656
01:25:00,960 --> 01:25:04,599
Speaker 1: never listening to me about the ring. He immediately offered

1657
01:25:04,640 --> 01:25:06,600
Speaker 1: to take me to the store and buy me a

1658
01:25:06,760 --> 01:25:08,320
Speaker 1: ring that I deserve.

1659
01:25:08,479 --> 01:25:19,200
Speaker 4: Oh, hold on, I got a green flag. I've got

1660
01:25:19,320 --> 01:25:21,960
Speaker 4: a green flag green.

1661
01:25:23,040 --> 01:25:29,280
Speaker 1: Great, good job, husband, Yes, that that is awesome, that

1662
01:25:29,439 --> 01:25:33,560
Speaker 1: is freaking yes, amazing. Yeah, that's that. I mean, let's go,

1663
01:25:34,320 --> 01:25:38,680
Speaker 1: let's freaking go. And all right, all right, we are

1664
01:25:38,800 --> 01:25:45,160
Speaker 1: at another alright, thirty minutes. What the heck, let's.

1665
01:25:44,960 --> 01:25:46,720
Speaker 3: Read that one. Let's read that one, because I just

1666
01:25:46,760 --> 01:25:48,479
Speaker 3: came in and then that flooded it.

1667
01:25:48,680 --> 01:25:52,600
Speaker 1: Real quick before we get to the green flag, husband, Okay,

1668
01:25:53,400 --> 01:25:59,439
Speaker 1: Haley Bell tipping us one hundred and thirty buck runos,

1669
01:26:00,280 --> 01:26:03,559
Speaker 1: saying a word just that she's taking a note from

1670
01:26:03,680 --> 01:26:06,600
Speaker 1: Hannah's book. She said, no, no, no, let's get some,

1671
01:26:07,360 --> 01:26:10,840
Speaker 1: get some. In the chat, she just mougged. Haley Bell

1672
01:26:11,160 --> 01:26:14,640
Speaker 1: just mugged, mugged, yes, And we will get to the

1673
01:26:14,880 --> 01:26:17,439
Speaker 1: other donos in a second. We're going to finish off

1674
01:26:17,479 --> 01:26:20,040
Speaker 1: the story, but thank you for everyone that got us over.

1675
01:26:20,439 --> 01:26:22,280
Speaker 1: And we have some other big donos that we're gonna read.

1676
01:26:22,280 --> 01:26:25,559
Speaker 1: But thank you everyone for getting us over. Freaking thing.

1677
01:26:25,640 --> 01:26:28,200
Speaker 1: We have a little bit left stream right now.

1678
01:26:28,320 --> 01:26:29,439
Speaker 3: Yeah wait, did you are?

1679
01:26:29,439 --> 01:26:32,240
Speaker 1: We saw that one too, but thank you if you

1680
01:26:32,280 --> 01:26:33,799
Speaker 1: want to read that one, Dakota.

1681
01:26:34,040 --> 01:26:38,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, uh, Kirsten, did you? Thank you for the seventy dollars.

1682
01:26:39,040 --> 01:26:42,439
Speaker 2: Let's keep the party going. Love you, Dakota. Hopefully soon

1683
01:26:42,479 --> 01:26:44,960
Speaker 2: and I can send you your Christmas gift, but there

1684
01:26:45,040 --> 01:26:47,080
Speaker 2: is a post strike up here and I might not

1685
01:26:47,520 --> 01:26:49,120
Speaker 2: and it might be a while before I can send it.

1686
01:26:49,400 --> 01:26:51,120
Speaker 1: I want to see your dimples once you get it

1687
01:26:51,200 --> 01:26:54,960
Speaker 1: though a post strike. I mean, the best Christmas presents

1688
01:26:54,960 --> 01:26:58,960
Speaker 1: are after Christmas too. Thank you, Kirsten. What that's awesome.

1689
01:26:59,120 --> 01:27:01,479
Speaker 1: That's it. I can't wait. Take that's I can't wait.

1690
01:27:01,920 --> 01:27:05,280
Speaker 1: And yeah, I reflect the sentiment. Let's keep the party going.

1691
01:27:05,520 --> 01:27:07,800
Speaker 1: But we're gonna read the other donos soon. I'm gonna

1692
01:27:07,840 --> 01:27:11,080
Speaker 1: finish this story. Take it away. This isn't what I

1693
01:27:11,320 --> 01:27:14,600
Speaker 1: want it because now I feel I'm only getting the

1694
01:27:14,720 --> 01:27:18,200
Speaker 1: ring that I want because I'm being materialistic and proving

1695
01:27:18,520 --> 01:27:20,840
Speaker 1: his family right in every way. Okay, we just need

1696
01:27:20,880 --> 01:27:22,080
Speaker 1: to go to counsel in a minute, we need to

1697
01:27:22,080 --> 01:27:22,880
Speaker 1: go to counseling right now.

1698
01:27:22,960 --> 01:27:25,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, yes, exactly. It's like I'm saying, it's not

1699
01:27:25,400 --> 01:27:27,200
Speaker 2: about the ring, clearly, it's about everything else. You guys

1700
01:27:27,200 --> 01:27:28,599
Speaker 2: gotta go to counseling.

1701
01:27:29,320 --> 01:27:32,519
Speaker 1: Also, we have children, and with a new baby on

1702
01:27:32,600 --> 01:27:35,200
Speaker 1: the way, I could never be able to justify dropping

1703
01:27:35,439 --> 01:27:38,679
Speaker 1: thousands of dollars on a new ring just for my feelings.

1704
01:27:39,400 --> 01:27:43,200
Speaker 1: He insists that, whoa, that is huge. Hannah Olsen, thank

1705
01:27:43,240 --> 01:27:46,880
Speaker 1: you for the twenty freaking gift of memberships. We're almost

1706
01:27:46,880 --> 01:27:49,360
Speaker 1: to another thirty minutes. Everyone, if you got a membership,

1707
01:27:50,160 --> 01:27:52,959
Speaker 1: say thank you to Hannah. Sound off in the chat.

1708
01:27:52,760 --> 01:27:55,879
Speaker 3: And some of these my gosh, I'm dying.

1709
01:27:57,800 --> 01:28:03,439
Speaker 1: Porky. All right back to it, uh, He insists, this

1710
01:28:03,640 --> 01:28:06,240
Speaker 1: is what he wants to do for me, but I

1711
01:28:06,320 --> 01:28:09,040
Speaker 1: will not allow him to do it. I'm still hurt

1712
01:28:09,600 --> 01:28:12,760
Speaker 1: and still have to put on the ring back on.

1713
01:28:13,280 --> 01:28:15,439
Speaker 1: It's not the size of the ring. It's just a

1714
01:28:15,560 --> 01:28:19,080
Speaker 1: realization that he married me when I was only one,

1715
01:28:19,560 --> 01:28:23,040
Speaker 1: only the fourth most important person in his life. That

1716
01:28:23,160 --> 01:28:25,920
Speaker 1: he chose this ring assuming his family would be right

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01:28:26,320 --> 01:28:28,920
Speaker 1: and I would leave him, so he bought the cheapest

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01:28:28,960 --> 01:28:33,080
Speaker 1: thing he could. I do not want another ring. I

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01:28:33,200 --> 01:28:36,400
Speaker 1: do not want another bigger ring. I didn't even have

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01:28:36,920 --> 01:28:39,800
Speaker 1: intentions to bring it up until he asked. I only

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01:28:39,880 --> 01:28:42,679
Speaker 1: took it off temporarily until I could get my feelings

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01:28:42,720 --> 01:28:45,400
Speaker 1: together and move on. And you can move on to

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01:28:45,520 --> 01:28:47,800
Speaker 1: our live streams when we're live every weekday at three

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01:28:47,840 --> 01:28:51,680
Speaker 1: pm PST. We're at Dakota on YouTube, on Facebook, on

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01:28:51,880 --> 01:28:54,720
Speaker 1: TikTok on Twitch, and you're gonna do his tap or

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Speaker 1: profile and you're in, and we might even be live

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01:28:57,760 --> 01:29:00,000
Speaker 1: right now. But before you go anywhere.

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01:28:59,800 --> 01:29:01,360
Speaker 2: Before where you check on that, if you're watching this

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01:29:01,600 --> 01:29:04,920
Speaker 2: in the future, we are going to finish this story

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Speaker 2: off right now, then you can go ahead and check.

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01:29:07,240 --> 01:29:12,600
Speaker 1: So I think I'm just so tempted. The flag is

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01:29:12,680 --> 01:29:13,040
Speaker 1: not up.

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01:29:13,479 --> 01:29:16,360
Speaker 2: I'm like half red flag on this, not because I

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01:29:16,439 --> 01:29:19,600
Speaker 2: mean it's really not a red flag. It's more like

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01:29:19,680 --> 01:29:24,040
Speaker 2: op needs I think professional help to move through this,

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01:29:24,200 --> 01:29:27,240
Speaker 2: because it's like, at this point, your husband did the

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01:29:27,280 --> 01:29:29,960
Speaker 2: one eighty on his family. He saw the error of

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01:29:30,040 --> 01:29:33,640
Speaker 2: his ways, and like, honestly, if he got you the

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01:29:33,760 --> 01:29:36,400
Speaker 2: ring you explicitly said you didn't want thinking that you

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01:29:36,400 --> 01:29:40,719
Speaker 2: would leave him and you didn't like That's the proof

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01:29:40,800 --> 01:29:43,160
Speaker 2: is in the pudd Babe, like you're you're not the

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01:29:43,400 --> 01:29:46,160
Speaker 2: materialistic person that his family made you out to be,

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01:29:46,240 --> 01:29:47,880
Speaker 2: so you don't have to worry about what they think.

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01:29:48,479 --> 01:29:50,559
Speaker 2: Ye who cares what his family thinks at this point?

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01:29:50,800 --> 01:29:53,120
Speaker 2: He doesn't even care what his family thinks at this point.

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01:29:54,720 --> 01:29:57,639
Speaker 2: But I understand going through that is it a heavy

1747
01:29:57,680 --> 01:30:00,200
Speaker 2: emotional weight and it's like a can we It's like

1748
01:30:00,240 --> 01:30:01,120
Speaker 2: a foal the crease.

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01:30:01,280 --> 01:30:03,960
Speaker 1: Can we get a pole real quick? Keon renew ring

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01:30:04,600 --> 01:30:05,000
Speaker 1: or nor?

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01:30:06,360 --> 01:30:08,200
Speaker 2: I think it's fair for her. Also, it's like they

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01:30:08,240 --> 01:30:09,800
Speaker 2: have another kid on the way. It's like now it's

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01:30:09,840 --> 01:30:13,360
Speaker 2: not you know, the money is better spent on other things.

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01:30:13,920 --> 01:30:15,760
Speaker 2: But I think even just getting like you're going down

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01:30:15,800 --> 01:30:17,680
Speaker 2: and getting like a ten dollars ring, like you said,

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01:30:17,720 --> 01:30:20,440
Speaker 2: it's not about the ring. Go go have an experience

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01:30:20,520 --> 01:30:24,280
Speaker 2: together and find the ring that you both want you

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01:30:24,400 --> 01:30:24,720
Speaker 2: to wear.

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01:30:24,760 --> 01:30:29,000
Speaker 1: Op heck and also counseling. A ring pop would be cool. Yeah,

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01:30:29,120 --> 01:30:32,920
Speaker 1: maybe not a ring pop, maybe a little cute. Honestly,

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01:30:33,000 --> 01:30:36,400
Speaker 1: ring pop sounds great, adorable keon, but for sure, like.

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Speaker 2: I think, I think a counseling session would do very

1763
01:30:41,439 --> 01:30:44,080
Speaker 2: very well, And I think I love that your husband

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01:30:44,120 --> 01:30:48,040
Speaker 2: has gone from red flag to green flag over the

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01:30:48,080 --> 01:30:49,000
Speaker 2: span of five years.

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01:30:50,720 --> 01:30:53,559
Speaker 1: The poll is up, pulls up everyone one for renew

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01:30:53,640 --> 01:30:55,960
Speaker 1: ring too for Nora and will read the donos After

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01:30:56,200 --> 01:30:58,920
Speaker 1: this little bit, I feel like I've put my husband

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01:30:59,040 --> 01:31:02,559
Speaker 1: in a loose situation and I'm risking putting him into

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01:31:02,680 --> 01:31:08,400
Speaker 1: a depressive depression because he's he because he's literally because

1771
01:31:08,400 --> 01:31:11,800
Speaker 1: he literally cannot win. And I'm doing exactly what his

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01:31:11,960 --> 01:31:14,479
Speaker 1: mother did to him. Am I the a whole We

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01:31:14,640 --> 01:31:17,560
Speaker 1: have an update, I'm diving right in. Yeah, go for it.

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01:31:19,080 --> 01:31:22,479
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say like, oh wow, sorry, I'm seeing if

1775
01:31:22,560 --> 01:31:26,000
Speaker 1: that was Andrew and I knew no or not no, Okay,

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01:31:26,240 --> 01:31:28,360
Speaker 1: I still love you, but.

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Speaker 3: We got others that that's thirty more more.

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01:31:31,040 --> 01:31:34,559
Speaker 2: Let's go thirty more freaking yes, way to go. It's

1779
01:31:34,680 --> 01:31:36,400
Speaker 2: it's a ten hour stream, Bay, I can feel it.

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01:31:39,080 --> 01:31:43,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say that she's not an a hole only

1781
01:31:43,240 --> 01:31:48,240
Speaker 2: because of context, Like you clearly had a this is

1782
01:31:48,360 --> 01:31:50,880
Speaker 2: experience that you went through for five years is stuck

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01:31:50,960 --> 01:31:53,600
Speaker 2: to you in a big way. So it's understandable that

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01:31:53,920 --> 01:31:57,240
Speaker 2: you're it's it's it's hard to navigate exactly what you're

1785
01:31:57,240 --> 01:31:57,840
Speaker 2: feeling right now.

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Speaker 1: Update. Thank you so much. Your words of encouragement really

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01:32:03,680 --> 01:32:07,680
Speaker 1: helped me consider and accept my husband's offer. We purchased

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01:32:07,880 --> 01:32:12,720
Speaker 1: a new ring day and I am absolutely obsessed with it.

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01:32:13,439 --> 01:32:16,759
Speaker 1: That's so sweet. We decided to go with lab created

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01:32:16,840 --> 01:32:20,760
Speaker 1: to save money. Then a few years. Then then in

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01:32:20,840 --> 01:32:24,240
Speaker 1: a few years we will turn sorry, we will turn

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01:32:24,400 --> 01:32:28,200
Speaker 1: original engagement ring into a mother's ring. So the first ring,

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01:32:28,560 --> 01:32:31,080
Speaker 1: they're gonna change the ring into a mother's ring. Yeah,

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01:32:31,600 --> 01:32:35,719
Speaker 1: my birthstone is diamond anyway, so it works out perfectly. Okay,

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01:32:35,800 --> 01:32:37,040
Speaker 1: so we have a happy ending.

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Speaker 4: Let's go.

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01:32:38,920 --> 01:32:42,880
Speaker 2: I still think counseling would be good. Oh, however, I'm

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01:32:42,920 --> 01:32:46,240
Speaker 2: glad that y'all came to add a discussion right.

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01:32:48,000 --> 01:32:52,080
Speaker 1: Talk through systems that Mike just tried to fly away

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01:32:52,120 --> 01:32:57,320
Speaker 1: from me right now, it's great. I'm very glad. That

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01:32:57,479 --> 01:33:01,920
Speaker 1: is perfect ending. Yep, and g mean god one, John

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01:33:01,960 --> 01:33:04,479
Speaker 1: and Sam died, so we are doing it for them.

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01:33:05,400 --> 01:33:09,519
Speaker 1: They're no longer a part of this podcast. John is

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01:33:09,640 --> 01:33:13,040
Speaker 1: sick and Sam is on meetings, but he might join later.