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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 2: You can't get mad at pregnant people.

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Speaker 1: That's illegal. That's illegal. You know what else is illegal?

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Speaker 1: Blowing someone in the street, which my friend James did

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Speaker 1: and recently being closer by, crossing streams. It's James, anything

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Speaker 1: to say for yourself, Well, it was a bonding experience,

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm gonna let the audience decide.

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Speaker 1: All right. Well, my twenty six male husband and I

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Speaker 2: It's kind of a long time.

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Speaker 1: They're coming in each other's nooks and crannies, filling each

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Speaker 2: Yep, you know, squeeze out, squeeze.

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Speaker 1: It out, squeeze it out. James, have you ever cream? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how was that experience for you?

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Speaker 2: It was messy.

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Speaker 1: It was messy. Yeah, it would be not messy because

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Speaker 2: Well, it tends to see and there's a lot there

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Speaker 1: Are you are you a squirter in the in the

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Speaker 1: A rocket ship. Yeah, okay, cool personally. So for two

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Speaker 1: Every time I missed my period, there was excitement, followed

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Speaker 1: fucking like bunnies like bang in literally every drop in

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's super tragic.

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Speaker 1: Very tragic. Do you know if you have infertility issues?

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Speaker 2: I think my swimmers are good.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know. My doctors haven't said anything otherwise,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I believe myself to be all of James's

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Speaker 1: The cream pies are endless, so we've found out. Shortly

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Speaker 2: Into children, make children.

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Speaker 1: dumpster in the comments. We dumpster. That's what they're doing, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You can call your wife or partner cum dumpster.

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Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no, I'm sorry sorry using their deposited.

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Speaker 2: Why because is any shooting blanks?

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Speaker 1: Well because like I is IVF considered a test tube baby?

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Speaker 2: So like you're shooting blanks. If he's infertile, then there's

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Speaker 2: All your partners have been satisfied with that?

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Speaker 2: It's like they've been they've been trying for two years

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Speaker 1: So different. Thomas is an asshole? Still, Yeah, I agree,

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Speaker 2: I I don't know.

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Speaker 2: That's true, that's true, it's not there. It's not his fault.

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Speaker 2: If they were acting negatively towards the couple, that's having

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Speaker 1: Wow traditional wow, fucked show. Fuck cancel James, Cancel James

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Speaker 2: The traditional way of having a child by coming in

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Speaker 1: Wow. Man, that's a that was a word. Super right there.

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Speaker 2: I'm going through a maze right now. I'm an ally.

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Speaker 2: I promise I lost my turn of thought because of

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Speaker 1: Basically, the question is, all right, we're not faulting ope

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Speaker 1: the family of uh? I think it's the sistern laws family. Yes, well,

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Speaker 1: I was confused, So yeah, sorry it was it is

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Speaker 2: I think, so yeah, we should fault them.

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Speaker 1: We should fault them.

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Speaker 2: We should fault them because like the just say, you can't.

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Speaker 1: You can't fault for an emotional reaction.

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Speaker 2: It's complicated, but like it's not fair, like they're they're

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Speaker 1: It show, it reveals their biases, and that's the asshole thing.

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Speaker 2: That's the asshole part. I agree with that it's it's

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Speaker 1: It's probably like their upbringing and the fact that they're

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Speaker 1: James is the most ally.

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Speaker 2: I'm the king of the he was the.

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Speaker 1: King of the Allies, honestly, like he's like better than

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Speaker 2: No, this is not true. In fact, I reined my

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Speaker 1: I wish I was better.

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Speaker 2: I am working to be better, always working well.

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Speaker 1: James is always working to be better. His technique for

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Speaker 1: for talking and other things is through the roof. So

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Speaker 1: call one eight hundred James or find him on grinder

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Speaker 1: because he's always there. Man will not put his phone

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Speaker 1: down for more than five minutes because he has to

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Speaker 1: pick it up. And you know what, you know what

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Speaker 2: So how Am I going to have a child? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I can't.

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Speaker 1: Our audience is eighty percent female, so you know I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. If you got you got many you

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Speaker 1: can donate a gay man, donate your ovaries to James.

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Speaker 2: Donate your eggs. Comments we'll have children?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, comments, I'll give you my ovaries, James in the comments.

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Speaker 1: If you want to do it, only make a beautiful baby.

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Speaker 1: Yeah about it, Think about it, think about it. Look

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Speaker 1: and eyes, and you know we are we gonna? Are

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Speaker 2: I didn't show up to my brother's wedding because my

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Speaker 1: Yeah, fuck family, keep your friends.

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Speaker 2: Water is not thicker than blood.

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Speaker 1: But I say, fuck your family. Leave, run away from them.

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Speaker 1: Create a little cult in the woods. That's your new family,

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Speaker 1: you know. I yeah, the woods. Let's join a cult.

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Speaker 1: I'm just trying to be more like Charles Manson Cult

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Speaker 1: of Sam, Cult of Sam. James is doing all the rituals.

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you also, this is James.

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Speaker 2: My best friend got engaged last year and they are

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Speaker 1: And international wedding like they're doing it abroad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so, probably in some cool place like

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 2: And sending out the save the dates. I received mine

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Speaker 2: about a month ago. I'm super stoked to be there

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Speaker 2: for him, and the wedding will also be a vacation

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Speaker 2: for my fiance and I. I love a destination wedding

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but it also makes it hard for everyone to

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Speaker 2: If you can get some one of your friends to

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Speaker 1: That's a real one.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna have a really good time.

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Speaker 1: That's a real one. It's the sister. You get your sister, well,

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Speaker 2: Yeah. My little brother also got engaged last year and

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Speaker 1: It's a secret.

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Speaker 2: My mom, my aunt, and myself told him multiple times

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Speaker 2: The brother just did not plan.

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Speaker 1: The brother is is why are you keeping it a secret? Yeah? What? What?

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Speaker 1: What do I think? It's a sabotage moment.

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Speaker 2: Especially if like the op has been vocal about being

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is my best friend. I'm going to be there.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, And you know siblings usually know about best

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Speaker 1: It's that day. Yep, it's that date. You're really gonna

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Speaker 2: Little Why would they be this inconsiderate?

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Speaker 1: If ridiculous, It's super James, So I invite you to

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Speaker 1: my wedding. You have the date? Yes, Thomas chooses the

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Speaker 1: You can't go to both? You're right, you agree to

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Speaker 2: It depends on who you're marrying what.

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00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:12,280
Speaker 1: You're not gonna support me in my marriage? James? All right, Ad,

440
00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: we'll moving on. I love Sam. Don't kicking you off

441
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:19,000
Speaker 1: this podcast. I don't want to support my future wife.

442
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 1: How dare you you know she's a saint.

443
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 2: She's the same, she's a saint, she's an angel.

444
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,520
Speaker 1: She's literally helping orphans money.

445
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 2: If she is helping orphans, I will absolutely miss my

446
00:23:28,920 --> 00:23:30,879
Speaker 2: twin brother's wedding to go to your wedding.

447
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:34,760
Speaker 1: Good all right, future wife, you better be helping those orphans. Yes,

448
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:35,480
Speaker 1: get to work.

449
00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 2: It's the same date as my best friend's wedding. When

450
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 2: my mom opened up the card in front of him,

451
00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:47,359
Speaker 2: her heart dropped and she said, what about your brother,

452
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:50,320
Speaker 2: to which he replied, oh, he will figure it out.

453
00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 2: That's insane.

454
00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 1: He'll figure it out by not going to your wedding.

455
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 2: Exactly, like way to split up the family.

456
00:23:58,000 --> 00:23:59,760
Speaker 1: And it's an international wedding. It's not like you can

457
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:00,880
Speaker 1: like zip on over.

458
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 2: He's gonna be gone like hours and hours and hours away.

459
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 1: Maybe it's you know, like a day ahead, and so

460
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 1: it's the next day and so they can fly back.

461
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:12,680
Speaker 2: Maybe they'll go back in time, Yeah, back in time.

462
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 2: Turns out he never told his fiance about this day,

463
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 2: so she has been planning without knowing this. Wow, his

464
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 2: little brother, just.

465
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Speaker 1: I'm so such a bad planner. I'm so confused, why

466
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 1: would you do that?

467
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,600
Speaker 2: Now, he is claiming that he forgot about multiple people

468
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:31,199
Speaker 2: telling him multiple times, and is pushing the line that

469
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:34,000
Speaker 2: since he is family, I should bail on the other

470
00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,280
Speaker 2: wedding and go to his. I tried to look into

471
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 2: even making both work because I genuinely want to be

472
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:42,800
Speaker 2: at my brother's wedding. I'm not not going out of

473
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 2: spite or because I have a random trip, concert tickets,

474
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:49,439
Speaker 2: or it's someone's wedding. I'm just going to. This is

475
00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:52,320
Speaker 2: my best friend's wedding that I've known for over twenty

476
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:52,920
Speaker 2: five years.

477
00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:54,440
Speaker 1: Twenty five years. It's a while.

478
00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, honestly, like if my, if, if my best friend

479
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 2: who is not me Sam, but Sam is very very

480
00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:05,400
Speaker 2: close in this lineup, if.

481
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: My, Yeah, that that's for you. That's for you, Sam,

482
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 1: Right we cross streams. Does that not mean anything? I mean,

483
00:25:13,320 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: it does mean a lot.

484
00:25:14,160 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 2: It means a lot, Sam, Is I could I can

485
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:19,800
Speaker 2: confidently say you are my second best friend.

486
00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,640
Speaker 1: I love you too, You're my second best friend. Yeah. See,

487
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:25,920
Speaker 1: I'm not even your best friend. You're my second best

488
00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 1: friend exactly. Reach Yeah, I think that's actually true. Yeah,

489
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:34,919
Speaker 1: I love that for us. Ariana was Christian was my

490
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 1: second best friend before I broke up with Ariana. Actually,

491
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 1: maybe you know they were probably tied. They're probably tied,

492
00:25:40,520 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 1: which Ariana wouldn't like.

493
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:43,440
Speaker 2: Yikes, Well maybe that's why I ended.

494
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 1: I literally comment on Christian's haircut, like, you know you

495
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 1: could have do so much better.

496
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you know it does need help with those

497
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 2: sorts of things and everything.

498
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:56,560
Speaker 1: Christian should be on the part. You should be Christian.

499
00:25:56,680 --> 00:25:57,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, Christians great.

500
00:25:57,880 --> 00:26:00,320
Speaker 1: If you like my second best friend, you should.

501
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,520
Speaker 2: Be his first best friend. It's a lot quieter than me.

502
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't know if he's podcast material.

503
00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 2: He ever hears that? Okay, But what I was saying

504
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 2: is like if my best friend told me that of

505
00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:15,120
Speaker 2: twenty five years, like, I'm going to his wedding, I'm

506
00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:16,879
Speaker 2: going to be his best man. I don't think my

507
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,640
Speaker 2: twin brother is going to make me his best man.

508
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: So you don't think so? No, I don't think so.

509
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 1: So who are you going to make your best man

510
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,119
Speaker 1: my best friend? Who are going to make your second

511
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:26,199
Speaker 1: best man of you?

512
00:26:26,320 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 2: Of course, when I told my brother I couldn't make it,

513
00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 2: he gave me the line of but I'm your brother,

514
00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:37,320
Speaker 2: I don't care my brother does that to me all

515
00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:37,920
Speaker 2: the time.

516
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 1: That but I'm your brother, I love this is already,

517
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 1: this is simply.

518
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:47,840
Speaker 2: This is probably gonna happen, which really sucked to hear.

519
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:50,639
Speaker 2: If I could be at both, I would be and

520
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:52,880
Speaker 2: I'm sure he is sad, but I just can't be there.

521
00:26:53,080 --> 00:26:55,680
Speaker 2: This has caused more drama in the family than I want.

522
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:58,720
Speaker 2: His future father in law called my mom and said

523
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 2: that I should skip my friend wedding and go to

524
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 2: the family wedding because family comes first. Oh, I do

525
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:10,280
Speaker 2: not agree with this. My mom, myself, and my aunt

526
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 2: all disagree. He was told multiple times by multiple people,

527
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 2: and whether it's because he messed up by not telling

528
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 2: his fiance or that he forgot it, apparently was not

529
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 2: important enough for him to have me there, so he

530
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,680
Speaker 2: picked one of the two weekends all year. I said,

531
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 2: I couldn't be at. It's entirely entirely Yeah, it's like

532
00:27:31,800 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 2: sucks to suck. The family wants him to change the

533
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:36,800
Speaker 2: date of the wedding, and I have told him to

534
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 2: just go through with it and have a great wedding

535
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:41,680
Speaker 2: and that I'm sorry I can't be there. So am

536
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 2: I the asshole for keeping a commitment? To my best

537
00:27:44,280 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 2: friend and not wavering it on it because of a

538
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 2: family member's disregard.

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00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:50,640
Speaker 1: I want to know what all of you guys think

540
00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 1: put answers to the comments, like, I think a lot

541
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:56,680
Speaker 1: of people might say, no, no family, family, family over everything.

542
00:27:57,160 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 1: But I think my friendships are very important to me.

543
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:06,439
Speaker 2: But your sister, if it was if it was Christian's wedding,

544
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:09,560
Speaker 2: if it was and he asked you to be his

545
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,640
Speaker 2: best man, that happened in this story, but just hype

546
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 2: of that up. If he asked you to be his

547
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,479
Speaker 2: best man, and you need to do your sister that

548
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 2: this was the date of Christian's wedding and she still

549
00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 2: planned her wedding at the same time.

550
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:25,239
Speaker 1: I thing is, my sister would be so considerate, so

551
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 1: like she would never do that. But if she did.

552
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 1: But if I committed to Christian's wedding, I'm going to

553
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,960
Speaker 1: Christian's wedding. It's like it's not my fault that she

554
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 1: if I'm very clear, Hey, I'm going to Christian's wedding.

555
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: I'm his best man. I really hope he found a

556
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 1: girl that could tie a not That's that's the one

557
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 1: thing that we need to really do. Christian needs a girl.

558
00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 2: Anybody in the anybody in the audience kind of.

559
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 1: Wait, Actually, let me show you guys how good looking Christians.

560
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 2: He's very fine. I think everybody in our friend group

561
00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:56,240
Speaker 2: has at one point commented on how eligible and attractive

562
00:28:56,320 --> 00:28:56,760
Speaker 2: Christian is.

563
00:28:57,040 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 1: Christian is incredibly eligible and attractive.

564
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 2: Not going to say that I have objectified him.

565
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 1: Before, because it's it's currently I'm objectifying object all the time.

566
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 1: He doesn't have any pictures or here we go. Look

567
00:29:12,760 --> 00:29:18,040
Speaker 1: at that fucking hunk. Look at that hunk has all

568
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 1: his photos are artsy like you can't even see his face.

569
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:22,560
Speaker 2: We need a clear photo of our boy.

570
00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, well I have here, I I have, I have

571
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 1: Pictures're just going to my Christian album.

572
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 2: Okay, al, I love that you have a whole folder

573
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 2: dedicated to him and your phone.

574
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:42,000
Speaker 1: Look at that cutie, Cutie, that's smolder. I don't know

575
00:29:42,040 --> 00:29:44,240
Speaker 1: if you showed them a good photo or not. This

576
00:29:44,320 --> 00:29:46,120
Speaker 1: is him in New York when we were filming a

577
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:50,400
Speaker 1: video together. He's so cute. I hope there. This is

578
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: also this is him on Halloween in New York. Okay, cutie,

579
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: but that's not those are those aren't his? Okay? This

580
00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:00,600
Speaker 1: is when we were in Patagonia on a this is

581
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 1: an ice like, you know, he's peeing on an iceberg.

582
00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:06,960
Speaker 1: I'm just fully exposing him. You should not put that

583
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:12,600
Speaker 1: on when we're on in a hostel, uh, drinking a lot,

584
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:16,480
Speaker 1: and he's right there. Oh look at up, look at cute.

585
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what a fucking cutie. Sorry, what were

586
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: we talking about?

587
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,719
Speaker 2: He almost loves He almost loves women as much as

588
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 2: he loves cars.

589
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:29,520
Speaker 1: That is, maybe I think he loves cars. I think

590
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:33,959
Speaker 1: he might love cars like way more. Yeah, in a while,

591
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: we should get back to the topic here. But yeah,

592
00:30:39,720 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: I mean, like, like, if if I was the best

593
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 1: man at Christians wedding, I'm going to go to that

594
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 1: because it's like I committed to all to to it already.

595
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: If my sister planned on the one day that I said, hey,

596
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 1: I can't do it, that's like me, that's messed up.

597
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:57,360
Speaker 1: That's on her. That's on her. It's on her that

598
00:30:57,440 --> 00:30:59,240
Speaker 1: being said to you, I'm going to be at your wedding.

599
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 2: But if Christian has his wedding at the same time

600
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 2: and you totally disregard that He's told you that Christian's

601
00:31:04,840 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 2: wedding is at the same time, then he's not going true. Yeah,

602
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 2: so I think the answer here is really clear.

603
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, not the ahole. Not the ahole. But I want

604
00:31:14,880 --> 00:31:18,480
Speaker 1: to hear what you think. And also, how do you

605
00:31:18,600 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 1: choose your like a best Is it just your best friend?

606
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 1: You choose your best man off of best the best

607
00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 1: friend shipness? Or do you choose it off of like

608
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 1: you know, like for example, this is something I've thought about.

609
00:31:32,520 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 1: Christian is my best friend, but is Sean is probably

610
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 1: like my third best friend? Now he was second, but

611
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: now he's going gone for so long.

612
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I take in his place.

613
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: But like, but like he is just the best planner.

614
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 2: That's true, he's so very very considerate.

615
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:52,280
Speaker 1: He's he is so considerate, and like he has significantly

616
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:56,800
Speaker 1: like a huge incredible best man. Yeah, he would be

617
00:31:56,840 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 1: an incredible best man. So do you choose your best

618
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 1: your your best for your wedding? Let us know the

619
00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:07,040
Speaker 1: comments and also let us know the qualities of that

620
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:08,800
Speaker 1: friend that you picked or may have family.

621
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 2: Over yeah, friend, family acquaintance.

622
00:32:13,400 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 1: Let us know and with that we'll get into the

623
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Speaker 1: next story.