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Speaker 1: Subject My wife keeps leaving me and coming back. She

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Speaker 1: keeps leaving me and coming back. Just Stephen Shirley. I'm

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Speaker 1: a thirty five year old man with two kids and

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Speaker 1: a stepdaughter by my wife. I love my family, but

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Speaker 1: I have come to a breaking point with my wife.

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Speaker 1: For the second time in four years. She has left

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Speaker 1: the home and cut off all contact with me and

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Speaker 1: the kids. The first time she left, she ran off

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Speaker 1: with a man that she met online. She bought a

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Speaker 1: bus ticket and wrote wrote out west and didn't contact

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Speaker 1: us for a month. Eventually, the guy dumped her and

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Speaker 1: she reached out to me. I ended up sending her

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Speaker 1: four hundred dollars for her to get back home. Earlier

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Speaker 1: this summer, I was grilling and the kids were in

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Speaker 1: the pool. My wife said she had to run to

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Speaker 1: Walmart to get a few things. We have not seen

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Speaker 1: her since then. The kids and I rode all around

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Speaker 1: town looking for her that night and the next day.

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Speaker 1: I kind of figured she'd left us again, but I

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Speaker 1: didn't want to upset the kids. I filed a missing

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Speaker 1: person's report with the police, and the police told me

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Speaker 1: since she'd left before, they wouldn't open an investigation right away.

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Speaker 1: I posted pictures on Facebook, and instantly I got all

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Speaker 1: kinds of messages saying that she'd been seen around our

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Speaker 1: and I waited for her to call home. After forty

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Speaker 1: five days, she called, saying she needs to come back

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Speaker 1: home and she is ashamed of what she keeps doing

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Speaker 1: to the family. I tell the kids she called and

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Speaker 1: is ready to come home. They said I shouldn't let

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Speaker 1: her come back, and we'd be just fine without her.

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Speaker 1: We've been married fourteen years, and I've kept the marriage

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Speaker 1: together for the kids. But now they're saying to throw

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Speaker 1: her and the whole marriage away. Do you think I

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Speaker 1: please advise well, I mean, you know, the decision, of course,

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Speaker 1: is ultimately up to you. What you do. Should you

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Speaker 1: Is that what you want to do? Well? It certainly

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Speaker 1: not what the kids want you to do, because they're

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Speaker 1: sick of her. They really are, and they let you

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Speaker 1: know so you can let yourself off the hook. They

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Speaker 1: want you to stop feeling guilty about all this, your

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Speaker 1: wife leaving and coming back and running off with some

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Speaker 1: man she met online, and you know, just not hearing

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Speaker 1: from her, no contact for forty days in a month,

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Speaker 1: forty five days. What is all of this? And then

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Speaker 1: you have two kids, and one of them is her stepdaughter.

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Speaker 1: She's sick of her mom too. They want to divorce

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Speaker 1: from her, and really so should you. At this point

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Speaker 1: your wife doesn't care about you, She doesn't care about

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Speaker 1: the kids. And your kids I don't know how old

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Speaker 1: they are. You said they were in the pool while

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Speaker 1: you were grilling, but I mean they're cool just with

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Speaker 1: but your wife is trifling and she's a horrible mom.

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Speaker 1: I mean, is she on drugs or something. What is

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Speaker 1: this is devastating for your children. I'm sure it is.

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Speaker 1: Who does this? Why should they have to continue to

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Speaker 1: go through this time and time again? They can't be secure,

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Speaker 1: they can't you know, they're unsure of themselves. And why

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Speaker 1: I say, pack her bags, put yourself and your kids

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Speaker 1: fine without her. She's selfish and that's what the kids

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Speaker 1: I don't know, don't let her back, Okay, she she's

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Speaker 1: a source of misery for you, guys. Steve, Well, let

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Speaker 1: me start by saying this to you. It ain't a

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Speaker 1: good look when your kids are smarter than you, right,

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Speaker 1: you know, it just ain't a good look. Let me

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Speaker 1: just start there. Okay, all right, here we go. You're

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Speaker 1: a breaking point. For the second time in four years.

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Speaker 1: She had left home, cut off all contact with me

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Speaker 1: on land. She bought a bus ticket and rolled out west.

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Speaker 1: What this badass decision? Who buys a bus ticket to

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Speaker 1: or something. Go west, young man, fortune out there. And

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Speaker 1: Your wife is not a bright person. The kids are,

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Speaker 1: the wife is not. So let's try to make some

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Speaker 1: sense of it. And she bought a bus ticket road out.

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Speaker 1: She didn't contact us for a month. Damn man, that's hard.

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Speaker 1: Eventually the guy dumped her. She reached out to me.

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Speaker 1: get back home. Now you obviously bought a plane ticket.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, We'll hold on. Steve. Hold that thought, just

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Speaker 1: hold it, hold it. We'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: Today's subject my wife keeps leaving me and coming back.

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Speaker 1: We'll get into it right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve. Look's recap today strawberry letter. Let's subject

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Speaker 1: my wife keep leaving me and coming back. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: she's been doing it, second time in four years. She

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Speaker 1: didn't left the first time. She left with a man

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Speaker 1: a dude online, he's buy you a bus ticket? All right?

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Speaker 1: Eventually got doctor. You ended up sending four hundred dollars

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Speaker 1: for her way to get back home, y'all, Steward and

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Speaker 1: bought airline ticket. Clearly you care more about her than

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Speaker 1: the dude online. Now hit a good one right here.

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Speaker 1: Earlier this summer, I was grilling kids, was outside in

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Speaker 1: Aunt sick, horrible? What did she? Why happened at to Walmart?

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Speaker 1: Then the dude said, because he got tuition, I kind

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Speaker 1: of figured she left us again. I ain't want to

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Speaker 1: Police told me since she left before, they wentn't open

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Speaker 1: an investigation right away. Then you put some pictures on Facebook,

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Speaker 1: down that Arl Turners. Well, I saw up at Abigails.

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Speaker 1: she an old brad that God count your stuff. You know,

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Speaker 1: this ain't no big city chick oh okay because of

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Speaker 1: doing to the family. Shirley says, something right. Is she

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Speaker 1: on drugs because this guy crackhead rolled all over Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: a matter of fact, let me let me let me,

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Speaker 1: Is she on mathew? Let me tell you what when

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Speaker 1: because if you on, Matthew, your teeth is shot. Oh

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Speaker 1: you ain't seen the tiger king? Yeah yeah his man.

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Speaker 1: Did you see his mouth? Oh oh oh yeah yeah

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Speaker 1: yeah yeah, yeah, that's right. Yeah. What your sexual preference is?

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Speaker 1: You got to want somebody was in better looking teeth

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Speaker 1: You have to, you have to. Now. I told the

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Speaker 1: You know, you messed up when your kids don't want

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Speaker 1: We've been married fourteen years, and I've kept the marriage

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Speaker 1: So she had a step daughter. The step daughter got

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Speaker 1: I ain't saying she owned drugs. It do sound like

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Speaker 1: I divorce, Yeah, divorcing her. I don't think it has

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Speaker 1: I mean we're out west, just west. Yeah, yeah, probably

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