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Speaker 1: It's Amber the producer here. I have a quick announcement.

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Speaker 1: We are having our midseason break. The Legend, the Lady,

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Speaker 1: the song Dress, the Friend, the mentor, and the mother.

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Speaker 1: Jill Scott is on tour. If you haven't grabbed your

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Speaker 1: tickets yet, what are you waiting for? Do that? Immediately?

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Speaker 1: I saw her show in Philly and wow. I mean, like,

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Speaker 1: we know she's incredible, but the live experience something else.

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Speaker 1: While we take a break from releasing new episodes, we're

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Speaker 1: going to run back some of our favorites from this season,

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Speaker 1: starting with mine. So a little bit about me. Some

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Speaker 1: years ago, I had a pretty traumatic experience with an

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Speaker 1: ob gyn, which I know I'm not alone in because

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Speaker 1: black woman. And that experience led me to wanting a

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Speaker 1: deeper understanding and connection to my body and my wom

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Speaker 1: in particular. So I went on to steady herbalism and

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Speaker 1: specifically spiritual herbalism with master herbalist Karen Rose. Look her up, y'all,

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Speaker 1: Karen Rose. Those courses changed my life and my health.

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Speaker 1: The mind body genetic connection is so real, so it

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Speaker 1: is no surprise that my favorite episode this season is

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Speaker 1: the new f word. Enjoy what's up everybody. It is

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Speaker 1: a pleasure to be with you again. Welcome to Jay

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Speaker 1: dot Il the Podcast. This is Jill Scott and I'm

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Speaker 1: here with my sister friends. Lie is Saint Cloud. Hello everybody,

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Speaker 1: and the infamous song on your commercial commercials age a

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Speaker 1: great and Dan's la Hello there, Hello all, sound like

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Speaker 1: a life in bed? Yes, she is slish. Somebody getting licensed?

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Speaker 1: That's what commercial? Is it? Ada or I don't even know?

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Speaker 1: That's funny what song is in the world of publishing.

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Speaker 1: In the world of publishing, you know, record companies own

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Speaker 1: the copyright, so the permission really wasn't mine to get.

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Speaker 1: But because I own the publishing, gotta pay me. There

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Speaker 1: you go, so they can use it all they want to.

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Speaker 1: But guess what you give me my quins, your queens. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but don't say I told you to take that medicine.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what that medicine is. Y'all better read, laugh, y'all, listen,

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Speaker 1: y'all better do all y'all's due diligence. Don't say Kendren

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Speaker 1: told you to do it. Here, it's just a nice song.

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Speaker 1: It's a nice song, you know. That goes for all medication,

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Speaker 1: you know, anything that you take out you here the

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Speaker 1: commercials they're always talking about, oh when this will help

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Speaker 1: you with whatever your your footage it, but it also

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Speaker 1: will make your eye levels fall out and you push

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Speaker 1: because anything that makes your cause to know. For me,

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Speaker 1: it's the may cause it's priorities. I don't want either,

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Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Thank you so much. I

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Speaker 1: don't want either. I don't want to die or I

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Speaker 1: don't want my COUCHI this thing, and I don't want

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Speaker 1: to die with stinky coop word up worked because you know,

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Speaker 1: whoever is in the mortgage is gonna talk about you. Um,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop, y'all gotta can we not just can

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Speaker 1: y'all not make me laugh? Y'all know it's a situation.

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Speaker 1: Situation my family and friends is that ideas La Saint

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Speaker 1: Clair has had some fibroids removed from her body. So

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Speaker 1: now for yeah, if you will, what um Just for

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Speaker 1: anybody who who doesn't know, UM, what fibroids are, It's

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Speaker 1: like it's like a tumor. Some of them are big,

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Speaker 1: some of them are small. UM. But they are tumors

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Speaker 1: that are typically in the uterus. Right, but nine tumors

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Speaker 1: of what you're feeling. I've done. Somebody get my pocketbook now,

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Speaker 1: where where my fucking keys? Yes, is not making this easy,

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Speaker 1: causes like majorum excessive bleeding for your monthly um, a

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Speaker 1: walking around every day with fibroids and not knowing what's

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Speaker 1: because if you're losing that much blood, your iron is

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Speaker 1: that you've been and not unknowing you were carrying all that.

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Speaker 1: And that's the thing, and that's the thing that starts

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Speaker 1: What does that look like? What I'm supposed to be doing,

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Speaker 1: Like after a week, I'm supposed to like lay down,

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Who comes for her for real?

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Speaker 1: from a section of our mean, a large portion of

425
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Speaker 1: black women that are not being addressed because they're being

426
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Speaker 1: completely erased. They're not even part of the conversation. It's

427
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 1: like they're they're acting like like this is not a

428
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:19,040
Speaker 1: thing that is happening so close to the norm, that

429
00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 1: this is some sort of fringe experience, and it's like

430
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Speaker 1: It is amazing to me that is still the culture

431
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:30,359
Speaker 1: of this country, and even within the black community, we're

432
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 1: just not talking about it. And then when celebrities talk

433
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 1: about it, there's also this thing, oh, well, that person

434
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 1: is just they're successful, and so that's this thing that

435
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,679
Speaker 1: happens to black women who are this or that, but

436
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:44,520
Speaker 1: not the average black women. You talk about eighty percent,

437
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Speaker 1: eighty percent, eighty eighty percent. We'll be back after the break.

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Speaker 1: If you've noticed that your wife or your girlfriend, or

439
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 1: your sister, or your aunt, or your mother or your

440
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:19,639
Speaker 1: friend is having a really heavy menstrual flow, excessively heavy,

441
00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: if you're if you're and painful, if you're noticing these things,

442
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,760
Speaker 1: if you're noticing that this is a youthful person but

443
00:26:26,800 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 1: they're having a hard time holding the water, you know

444
00:26:30,400 --> 00:26:34,080
Speaker 1: you have to please suggest them to see a guy

445
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:41,360
Speaker 1: in ecologist somewhere. The challenging portion is that initially when

446
00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 1: I moved to Tennessee, I'm just gonna speak on my

447
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: own experience. I'm searching around trying to find a guy

448
00:26:46,840 --> 00:26:50,719
Speaker 1: in ecologist, because that's what adult women do, you know,

449
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 1: we make sure to maintain our coucci. And I could

450
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 1: not find um, and I could not get an appointment

451
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Speaker 1: or a first time. You want the first time? I appointment? Honey,

452
00:27:01,760 --> 00:27:03,719
Speaker 1: six months, I couldn't get an appoint to me the

453
00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 1: first time. Yeah, you gotta get in the system first,

454
00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 1: you gotta get in. Yeah that's six six months from now,

455
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 1: six months months yeah, months, Like that's insane. It's interesting.

456
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:18,119
Speaker 1: I was thinking when agians talking about the celebrity aspect,

457
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: because you know, usually you can match an issue with

458
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,439
Speaker 1: a celebrity. This is not one of those issues. I

459
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 1: was thinking, the only time I've heard is being spoken

460
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 1: about on television, and I know y'all are like, yeah,

461
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 1: here you go. You're talking about Cynthia Bailey. Yeah, yes, yes, yes, yes,

462
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 1: because she had five words in the way that the

463
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Speaker 1: way that I remember Peter said some shit that really

464
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 1: fucked me up because he just made a comment about

465
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Speaker 1: how it was hard to have sex with her sometimes,

466
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 1: and I was like, the fuck And she went into

467
00:27:56,080 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 1: her five or situation and so wow, because sex is

468
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 1: an issue sometimes with five rights here and it was

469
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Speaker 1: noticeable because she was a model and right right, so

470
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Speaker 1: it's like clearly something is wrong. But you know, I like, yeah,

471
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Speaker 1: I never looked at you once and thought, oh, you

472
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Speaker 1: look four months pregnant. You never looked four months pregnant

473
00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: to me ever, But I was like, all right, I

474
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Speaker 1: can look like this. What I was saying is that

475
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 1: this is more this is more recent. But the brat

476
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Speaker 1: was talking about this here recently, right, she's newly married.

477
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 1: She was talking about having a baby. And there was

478
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Speaker 1: Judy five boys, yes, that five boys being an issue

479
00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:52,720
Speaker 1: for her and I and it was circulating quite a

480
00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:56,120
Speaker 1: bit on the internet, I mean on social media. But

481
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: they were talking about that, and I said, wow, that's

482
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Speaker 1: probably one of the few times that I've seen the

483
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Speaker 1: celebrity also talk about fibroids. And it's you know, fitting

484
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 1: at this time period, because honestly, there is a little

485
00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:10,240
Speaker 1: bit more conversation going on about it than I remember

486
00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 1: having in the past, but still not even close to enough.

487
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:17,440
Speaker 1: And then also to like the study like studying black women.

488
00:29:17,920 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 1: I remember, as someone sent me an article years ago

489
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Speaker 1: about how black women are just not studied, like we

490
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:30,320
Speaker 1: just there's not enough research about our bodies. So most

491
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:35,280
Speaker 1: times even treatments and medicines and things like that are

492
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 1: not really catered towards any kind of study. That happened

493
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:42,960
Speaker 1: that any extensive study that's happened around our bodies and

494
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: our lived experience. Just recently, they started to paint the

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00:29:47,200 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 1: examples brown, all the examples of the uterus and the

496
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Speaker 1: baby in utero, and and all the they were never.

497
00:29:56,480 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: They were never brown people, never brown babies, never brown bodies. Never.

498
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:03,480
Speaker 1: And I would it's interesting. I would like Amber to

499
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Speaker 1: talk about this because one of my random girlfriends hit

500
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Speaker 1: me up the other day. Again. We were like, what

501
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:09,560
Speaker 1: you're doing recovering? She was like, oh, I had it too,

502
00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: And then she sends me an article about well my

503
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 1: girlfriend had she had another girlfriend who had like I

504
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:17,120
Speaker 1: don't know, fifty but she got rid of them naturally.

505
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 1: Now I said to her, I'm not going to read

506
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Speaker 1: this article right now because I just had a Maya mactimate.

507
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 1: And I don't mean I don't kind of regrets. Don't worry,

508
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 1: it will spell it for you in your phone. But

509
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 1: I do know this sugar and diet and things of

510
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: that nature. But my thing is it sounds like, if

511
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 1: you really want to get rid of five words naturally,

512
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:41,600
Speaker 1: you just don't. You don't eat nothing that you want

513
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 1: to eat, and you live a life of strict discipline.

514
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,520
Speaker 1: But yeah, Amber, can you speak on this whole natural

515
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 1: way of getting rid of these fire So I want

516
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:51,760
Speaker 1: you got all the ut my approaches an RBS. I

517
00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,520
Speaker 1: believe there's a like a symbiotic relationship between Eastern and

518
00:30:55,560 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 1: Western medicine. I don't believe you have to be all

519
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 1: natural or you have to be all this. I think

520
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 1: that they can really work together, and I wish more

521
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:04,080
Speaker 1: people had that attitude towards it, like they can work together.

522
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: You can have amiam to me, because maybe that's what

523
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 1: you needed, you know, Like I feel like if someone

524
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,720
Speaker 1: has the level of fibroids that you have, trying to

525
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 1: clear that naturally would take a decade, you know what

526
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So I believe, like you know, like I

527
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:20,400
Speaker 1: don't think that you made the wrong choice at all

528
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: or you should have any regrets about your journey. It's

529
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 1: all about how you move from here, because now that

530
00:31:24,520 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 1: you've had this clearing, how are you now going to

531
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,440
Speaker 1: nourish your body? There's no way to be perfect or

532
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: live talks and free anyways, So like that's not the answer.

533
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 1: Have the things that you want and moderation, you know,

534
00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:36,600
Speaker 1: take your herbs, take care of your body, being connected

535
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 1: with your body. I personally think that's the biggest piece,

536
00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 1: Like are you connected and are you listening when something

537
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:45,120
Speaker 1: is off so that you can adjust? You know, are

538
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:46,600
Speaker 1: you are you in touch with your body? Are you

539
00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 1: taking that four to six weeks to listen to her

540
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 1: and learn her talk to her? So I'm not bad.

541
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:53,920
Speaker 1: I'm not bad for getting cut and not just cutting sugar,

542
00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 1: because I mean, I do feel like if that is

543
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 1: a to do it, at some point, maybe I should listen.

544
00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you what I

545
00:32:06,000 --> 00:32:09,400
Speaker 1: used to tell people about, well about childbirths, but oh

546
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 1: I want to have natural childbirths or should I have?

547
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:14,640
Speaker 1: I feel bad because I got drugs or this, that

548
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 1: and the other, and I'm like, listen, when that baby comes.

549
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 1: Nobody's gonna give you a metal honey. You're not gonna

550
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:25,680
Speaker 1: get a star, You're not gonna get an award, you're

551
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: not gonna get a certificate for none of that. That's

552
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:32,880
Speaker 1: why you have to make a decision that works for you.

553
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,800
Speaker 1: If you had done it naturally, guess what guests who

554
00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 1: would have showed up at your doorstep with with a trophy? Nobody? Okay,

555
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:46,160
Speaker 1: you have to wake up in the morning and be

556
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:50,480
Speaker 1: okay with your decision and how you listen to your

557
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:54,800
Speaker 1: body and your experience. And I'm tired as we get

558
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 1: shamed for enough shit. Come on, can we just start

559
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 1: marking something thing off of this list of things that

560
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: we have to fucking be in order for everyone to

561
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,640
Speaker 1: feel comfortable? Girl, please, I had to get over the

562
00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:10,760
Speaker 1: guilt of having a white male doctor for a second.

563
00:33:10,840 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 1: I was like, oh Lord, jesus cha, but he was

564
00:33:16,320 --> 00:33:21,960
Speaker 1: so good. He was great, a great surgeon. And yeah,

565
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 1: so yeah, you're right, Asia, We're working. I'm speaking for

566
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:27,400
Speaker 1: all its folks listening. We're working through it. You write

567
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 1: no medals of being given here. I'm glad you brought

568
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 1: it up, though, because again, these are the things that

569
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 1: go on in our minds and we don't discuss them,

570
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: we don't say them publicly, and we just sit with that.

571
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:40,800
Speaker 1: And it's more sitting, and it's more thinking, and it's

572
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 1: more mulling, and it's more things that are backing themselves

573
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,240
Speaker 1: up in our emotions and our thoughts and our bodies,

574
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:49,120
Speaker 1: and it's just we can't do this anymore to ourselves.

575
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 1: I saw something was it a might have been yesterday

576
00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: where a young woman was talking about I think it

577
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 1: was like American horror story happening. I've watching too. I

578
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 1: love those two jail Yeah, I'm glad to see it. Um.

579
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:12,600
Speaker 1: And the young woman on the show said that fear

580
00:34:13,239 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 1: wasn't our biggest enemy. It's shame. Oh yeah, I like it.

581
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 1: That thing hit different, thann't it? It hit different? So

582
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: like have the shame of having or choosing to as

583
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 1: a somebody that you know, maybe holistic, having surgery. Listen,

584
00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:37,040
Speaker 1: you know, that's that's about going into in itself and

585
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 1: listening to yourself for real. It's it's about making a

586
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 1: decision for real and in the quietest place for was

587
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:50,840
Speaker 1: what benefits you the most? And um that's it, honey,

588
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 1: That's that's really the gist of it. You know. I like,

589
00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,320
Speaker 1: I'd like whatever said about having a doctor that is

590
00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 1: both um or choosing you know, doctor that is both

591
00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:06,439
Speaker 1: holistic and you know, certified board h MD. I only

592
00:35:06,560 --> 00:35:10,760
Speaker 1: know of one. I'm sure there's others. Um. I definitely

593
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 1: invite all doctors that are INDs to get into some

594
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,960
Speaker 1: holistic medicine as well and make that a part of

595
00:35:18,040 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 1: your practice. You have to do it. You know quietly,

596
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,760
Speaker 1: but nonetheless. You know we're talking about doctor Frederick Burton,

597
00:35:24,600 --> 00:35:30,120
Speaker 1: yes on City Line Avenue, Philadelphia. Yeah, I think I've

598
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,759
Speaker 1: heard of him. Okay, all right, all right. It's it's

599
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,960
Speaker 1: a lot of blood tests, I'll say. And the tests

600
00:35:36,000 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 1: are not for when when someone takes your blood, typically

601
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:45,279
Speaker 1: they're testing for what they're looking for. Only with a

602
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:52,800
Speaker 1: holistic doctor, they're testing for everything everything, any any insufficiency,

603
00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 1: any abnormality. Um, they're looking for that, you know, any

604
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,400
Speaker 1: customers shouldn't. You can get to your doctor too about

605
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 1: that too. I forget, but there's a way to get

606
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 1: your labs and really have him go through everything. I

607
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:10,160
Speaker 1: can't remember the terminology, you know. But yet you're right, Jill, Yeah,

608
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:14,399
Speaker 1: I'm more than more than anything. Um, it's the kind

609
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 1: of general uptick and self awareness and that kind of

610
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:22,120
Speaker 1: general uptick and just saying I want more out of

611
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:28,400
Speaker 1: my interactions with my caregivers and stretching your village, you know,

612
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 1: expanding your village and things like that. I know, I

613
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 1: know that. It's just like, Okay, it's just more goddamn

614
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 1: black girl homework. I'm here for trying to get that

615
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 1: money for them. Man, I'm going to get that money

616
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:54,240
Speaker 1: for the rent. But it feels good too. I wouldn't

617
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 1: want to be nothing else. No, no, And I gotta said,

618
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 1: but I could tell that it can get a little

619
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: heavy having the list of things that you have to

620
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:05,800
Speaker 1: do to counteract the systems that are working against you.

621
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:07,840
Speaker 1: So it's like, oh, well, I gotta do this, we

622
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:09,440
Speaker 1: gotta do that. I gotta go to go therapy, I

623
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 1: gotta work out, I gotta take merbs, I gotta have this,

624
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 1: I gotta have that. But about in its twenty four

625
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:16,839
Speaker 1: hours and a goddamn day, you still got to earn

626
00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 1: a coin. Yeah, so I get I get it that

627
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:23,959
Speaker 1: it's a lot, but it's it's it's a necessary thing

628
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:29,200
Speaker 1: to get closer to a place of peace. Yeah, it's

629
00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 1: it's the labor of finding peace. Right. It's still lighter

630
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:34,920
Speaker 1: than what your mama and your grandmama went through. And

631
00:37:35,239 --> 00:37:37,800
Speaker 1: even though it feels heavier, sometimes it only feels heavier

632
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 1: because you have more resources and words. M hmmm. Yeah,

633
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 1: those resources and words are heavy, but you have them

634
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:50,240
Speaker 1: and they didn't. So knowledge is power, and a burden

635
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:55,640
Speaker 1: curls speaking. I'll run, y'all want me to run, y'all?

636
00:37:56,200 --> 00:38:00,840
Speaker 1: Say something. Did I say y'all around? I love you?

637
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 1: How about the whole of your holding to this table.

638
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 1: We're just trying to help, just trying to help. Who

639
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:28,400
Speaker 1: more real talk after the break. We need to be healthy.

640
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:31,720
Speaker 1: We have we have this amazing gift of life. There's

641
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:34,399
Speaker 1: so much to do with it. There's so much to see,

642
00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 1: there's so much to taste, there's so many people to encounter,

643
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: people to love, people to learn from experiences, like, there's

644
00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 1: so much to do. So, you know, we want you

645
00:38:47,960 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 1: and it takes a lot to manage all its dopeness. Yes,

646
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:55,080
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. We want you to to

647
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:58,759
Speaker 1: pay attention to your body, really really pay attention to it.

648
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:03,400
Speaker 1: I'm I'm guilty. So just don't please don't listen to

649
00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 1: this like, oh, you know she's doing everything she can.

650
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 1: I feeling fuck up. Okay, I'm trying to get some

651
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 1: probiotics right into the smoothie or something. Put the key

652
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:24,440
Speaker 1: for the key, forer key for her whatever the stuff

653
00:39:24,480 --> 00:39:26,840
Speaker 1: it tastes like vinegar. I can't do that with the

654
00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:30,800
Speaker 1: bottom with the balls at the but she talking about apples,

655
00:39:32,120 --> 00:39:39,279
Speaker 1: apple cider, vinegar, chia. I can't do that. Listen. You

656
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:41,080
Speaker 1: can do all of it if you if you got

657
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:43,920
Speaker 1: if your smoothie game is right, son, and you know

658
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 1: how to layer that john up. If you put the

659
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: chia in there, when you put the first layer of juice,

660
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 1: that ship will disappear and you never know it's in there.

661
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 1: Come on, man, I've come on. I okay, I said it.

662
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:02,439
Speaker 1: I don't bit No, I don't like smoothes. No, I don't.

663
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 1: I don't like salmon. I'm not eating. I can't. I

664
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: can't put nothing nothing. I can't do it. But I

665
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:15,520
Speaker 1: bet but I bet a bitch eat a salmon cake.

666
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 1: But I bet a bitch eat a salmon cake. I

667
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: eat my my mother's. That's the only salmon cake I'll eat.

668
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 1: I'll eat my mother's. But I said, how you get

669
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,160
Speaker 1: your old megas? If you have the oils you want,

670
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 1: you you drink the oil. Trees have no choice. Okay,

671
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:31,879
Speaker 1: are you making me sweat? I need you to drink

672
00:40:31,920 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 1: the oils, and I need you to. I mean, I

673
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,279
Speaker 1: like smoothies, but they're not a part of my daily life.

674
00:40:36,280 --> 00:40:39,040
Speaker 1: I don't. I mean I don't like y'all. Y'all got

675
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 1: a vita mix like a vitam, they'd be pushing those

676
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:49,319
Speaker 1: at the costco hard. I'd rather juice, and that's that's

677
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:53,640
Speaker 1: a lot of work too. But a lot of work,

678
00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:56,719
Speaker 1: don't y'all know? Can't it? Just? Can't we just okay?

679
00:40:56,800 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 1: So part of our reparations, can I just get a

680
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:00,359
Speaker 1: white lady to come over here and make the stuff

681
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 1: for me? Please? John? But juice? You got a smoothie

682
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:04,960
Speaker 1: place or something? I don't know what I mean my

683
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: own personal white ladies who say white ladies make the

684
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:11,239
Speaker 1: best smoothies. Oh my god, y'all, I didn't say they

685
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 1: make the best movie. See that you said something I

686
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 1: ain't say. I just want to use a label I

687
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 1: don't want. I'm not using, okays, See, but you're trying

688
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 1: to reverse this. I don't feel like making the smoothie

689
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:23,719
Speaker 1: and cleaning the juice, so I am. I am about

690
00:41:23,719 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: to ask no black woman. Cannot y'all just stop the

691
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 1: world with this announcement? I cannot believe that Agia and

692
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:30,440
Speaker 1: Jail y'all both don't work with the smoothes. Y'all are

693
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 1: like that. I didn't say it for the movie out

694
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 1: part of my daily life is what I had said.

695
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: Oh we gotta do something. We gotta do something. How

696
00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: are you gonna get there? Because you know you ain't

697
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:44,719
Speaker 1: gonna just take the sea mass in your mouth. You

698
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 1: know you gotta put it. Sometimes you gotta push it

699
00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 1: in the smoothie that you don't want to take. That's

700
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:52,359
Speaker 1: what different, No, that's what we different. I will take

701
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 1: a spoonful of sea mass. Quit easy like that, soak

702
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 1: mine and blended, and I'll take a See I like

703
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 1: to be done with my stuff. I just like hold

704
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:06,800
Speaker 1: my nose and take it. And and now yes that

705
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:09,600
Speaker 1: doesn't bother me. And also too, like I said, they

706
00:42:09,680 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 1: also make the flavor sea moss. Now yea from a

707
00:42:12,560 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 1: good company. Ye want to be all sugary y r right,

708
00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 1: But now they have those, you put them in the freezer,

709
00:42:19,080 --> 00:42:21,279
Speaker 1: then you take them out, just scoop put a little

710
00:42:21,280 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: spooning and scoop it out. You're right, You're right, gulitely

711
00:42:24,840 --> 00:42:27,240
Speaker 1: want to celebrate what a good company for sea moss

712
00:42:27,440 --> 00:42:30,360
Speaker 1: is my I do the sea moss gel and I

713
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,279
Speaker 1: love it because every time it could be my imagination,

714
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 1: but every time I take it, I swear in every time.

715
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 1: And now what kind of seams are you? Like? Just

716
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:49,839
Speaker 1: a regular. It's like a seams gel. Like I feel

717
00:42:49,880 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 1: like the sea moss thing is definitely like one of

718
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 1: the gifts of the pandemic, because definitely sea moss became

719
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:02,800
Speaker 1: like a household names in twenty twenty. Yeah, I was like, y'all,

720
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:06,879
Speaker 1: I said, I was like, ain't nobody even talk about

721
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 1: this shit? But I was loving it. Black folks will

722
00:43:10,840 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 1: see mossing it up and listen, it's Africa because it's

723
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:19,200
Speaker 1: not the Irish sea moss, right, Maybe it's the African right,

724
00:43:19,280 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: just because sometimes I don't know, don't it come out

725
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 1: the ocean. Irish is not where it's where it's from.

726
00:43:26,920 --> 00:43:29,759
Speaker 1: You can get Irish sea moss and Jamaica. Just I'm

727
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:31,320
Speaker 1: gonna just say that. It's just what it's called. What

728
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 1: the plants called. Thank you. Listen, somebody out the amber

729
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 1: was like, y'all are here being dumb. Let me get

730
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 1: in here and hit us because they are here being dumb.

731
00:43:44,960 --> 00:43:53,799
Speaker 1: Let's stop. Thank you a real black if you take

732
00:43:53,840 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 1: that Irish buffalo wings, that's not buffalo that right. I'm

733
00:43:56,800 --> 00:44:00,719
Speaker 1: just cut the shame. Cut the shame, cut the shame.

734
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:10,719
Speaker 1: You've already discussed this best that is that is the

735
00:44:10,920 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: gist of it all, try your best, and like we've

736
00:44:16,600 --> 00:44:18,520
Speaker 1: been saying over and over and over again them to

737
00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:21,800
Speaker 1: say again, pay attention to your body. Just pay attention.

738
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:27,759
Speaker 1: I don't listen. Look, look, blessen you smell what's going

739
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 1: on with you before anybody else. Yeah, okay, it's good,

740
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 1: before anybody else. There's literally no reason for somebody else

741
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 1: to tell you about you. But in the words of

742
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:48,160
Speaker 1: the great Jennifer Lewis, come on, if you're sitting shit

743
00:44:48,320 --> 00:44:53,480
Speaker 1: long enough, it stops stinking. Oh oh yeah, that's true.

744
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:58,720
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't say that about like, uh, like cats,

745
00:44:59,160 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 1: people have cats, So the cats the place blind? Yeah,

746
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:12,160
Speaker 1: have the place been like oh, but that's the thing.

747
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:14,800
Speaker 1: That is the I'm telling you, that's the thing. So

748
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:17,560
Speaker 1: listen to your body so you don't go numb to it. Yeah,

749
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:21,839
Speaker 1: oh oh, you know you don't. You don't go deaf

750
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 1: to knowledge like this. I didn't even say that. I

751
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 1: was just building off of missus Lewis. Yes, okay, and

752
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 1: we like, I congratulations to her who she just got

753
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 1: her stall. Yeah, she got kick, she got five boys.

754
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 1: I gotta see things that I wonder now every time

755
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:52,359
Speaker 1: I see a black woman. Oh, no, I'm not. It's

756
00:45:52,360 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: ain't putting that on her. I'm saying when I think

757
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 1: about black single black women. But never mind, y'all know

758
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:59,920
Speaker 1: what I'm about to say, that's gonna be. You're like,

759
00:46:00,080 --> 00:46:03,919
Speaker 1: I wonder if that has anything to do yea one

760
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 1: when you find a couple of weeks ago when I

761
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 1: went to see my lady, well that's what. They still

762
00:46:12,400 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: have a small, one, small fibroid in there. And she

763
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:17,800
Speaker 1: was like, it's nothing to worry about right now. And

764
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, you said right now, it's gonna

765
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:23,200
Speaker 1: be something to worry about later. No, you know why

766
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: because they tell us that as you approached menopause, they shrink.

767
00:46:27,680 --> 00:46:31,359
Speaker 1: So it's like, but there is this small gap if

768
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:33,759
Speaker 1: you're still a fertile myrtle that if they rid of it,

769
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:36,240
Speaker 1: you know you well, no, either way, you probably fertile.

770
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:39,919
Speaker 1: But yeah, a menopause, they start to shrink. Because they

771
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,919
Speaker 1: do come back. Some people will get I've known plenty

772
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:45,600
Speaker 1: of women who've gotten fibrates removed at an earlier age.

773
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 1: They come back, they have to get them removed again.

774
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,360
Speaker 1: But that really is what Amber was talking about, Like,

775
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:54,040
Speaker 1: has your conversation with yourself change has what you're feeding

776
00:46:54,080 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: yourself change, feeding your mental and your feel like, what

777
00:46:57,840 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 1: are the conversations you're having with your body? What are

778
00:46:59,960 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 1: the conversations you're having with yourself? I mean, just all

779
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 1: of these things that rest and recuperation and reprogramming and

780
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:12,920
Speaker 1: resetting and and really figuring out what am I going

781
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 1: to do with this freedom? What am I going to

782
00:47:14,800 --> 00:47:16,920
Speaker 1: do with this lightness, this weight that I've allowed to

783
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:19,839
Speaker 1: go away? What do I do to not welcome it back?

784
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: I mean, that's part of it too. And if we

785
00:47:22,640 --> 00:47:24,279
Speaker 1: haven't been thinking about it. First of all, we ain't

786
00:47:24,280 --> 00:47:27,319
Speaker 1: been talking about this, so we most certainly probably as

787
00:47:27,360 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 1: it has as a community, been talking about the aftermath

788
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: of it all. So you know, there's the treatments, there's

789
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 1: the there's the medical treatments, but then there's what is

790
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:37,800
Speaker 1: the life? What is the life you want to live afterwards?

791
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 1: Because like she said, this could be generational. You want

792
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:43,279
Speaker 1: you don't want to give these habits and these ways

793
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:45,479
Speaker 1: of thinking to the next generation of girls and women.

794
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:47,759
Speaker 1: I need like a guide on tape, something, Yeah, tell

795
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:50,800
Speaker 1: me I love. I need that I need for the

796
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:56,040
Speaker 1: next few weeks, some affirmation. I need an app for this,

797
00:47:56,560 --> 00:47:59,520
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. Oh, baby, I need put it

798
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,799
Speaker 1: out there the atmosphere. Hey, ladies out there that had

799
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:05,879
Speaker 1: all the tech girls like, come up with an ask

800
00:48:06,200 --> 00:48:10,719
Speaker 1: rest and recovery. Oh, I can't do it too hard

801
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:12,520
Speaker 1: as hard as you. I can't gonna hurt myself. But

802
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 1: I want to do it that hard to Yeah, I know,

803
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 1: she said, soon do herself. What is happening? That is

804
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:32,720
Speaker 1: so good? Baby, one of our babies, one of our nieces.

805
00:48:33,239 --> 00:48:35,040
Speaker 1: This is a nephew. Come on, nieces and nephew, y'all

806
00:48:35,080 --> 00:48:42,480
Speaker 1: come on, come on, y'all listening exactly what's it called?

807
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:47,759
Speaker 1: Come again? What's it called rest and recovery? As okay, ya,

808
00:48:47,800 --> 00:48:50,400
Speaker 1: Auntie's gonna need about ten percent of the deal that

809
00:48:50,520 --> 00:48:54,720
Speaker 1: you maybe just maybe five. We'll talk about it. Maybe

810
00:48:55,080 --> 00:49:02,319
Speaker 1: give them capitalists society and I need my reparations. I'm

811
00:49:02,400 --> 00:49:06,000
Speaker 1: joking only just the only problem is that, you know,

812
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 1: an idea is not something that can be copywritten. I know,

813
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: just just give Mama has a day job. Look, Auntie

814
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:16,440
Speaker 1: has a day job. He has an idea, So you

815
00:49:16,480 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: can take that one for free. I got another one

816
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:19,759
Speaker 1: day to come right down. Thing. That's fine. Yeah, you go,

817
00:49:19,840 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 1: I got another one. Just give us the hook up

818
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:24,480
Speaker 1: so that we know how to do it, that we

819
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:28,479
Speaker 1: know how to rest and explain it properly. Yeah, I'll

820
00:49:28,520 --> 00:49:32,800
Speaker 1: take a music, I'll take the chimes, I'll take the herbs.

821
00:49:33,040 --> 00:49:38,279
Speaker 1: I'll take it. Let's go. Oh, give it all the

822
00:49:38,320 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 1: tips for the hat. Okay, okay, okay. Oh give us

823
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 1: what you got, give it to us. I love. Yeah, listen,

824
00:49:45,520 --> 00:49:48,800
Speaker 1: this is mutual aid. Hell, I haven't heard that in

825
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:52,399
Speaker 1: a long time. We're working together to figure it out.

826
00:49:52,680 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 1: We are, y'all. This is a dire though. It's it's gotten,

827
00:49:56,840 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 1: it's it's it's real serious, m it is. It is

828
00:50:01,120 --> 00:50:03,399
Speaker 1: your mom, and it is your aunts and your your

829
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:06,680
Speaker 1: sisters and your girlfriends, and you and your daughter, and

830
00:50:06,800 --> 00:50:12,799
Speaker 1: you and me and my babies. Yeah, yeah, the shit

831
00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:20,759
Speaker 1: I sweet. Yet another thing to unpack. Uh uh. Put

832
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 1: in the laundry and put in a dryer or hang

833
00:50:24,760 --> 00:50:29,440
Speaker 1: it outside. Either way, it must be done. We thank

834
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:31,680
Speaker 1: you so so so so much for listening to Jay

835
00:50:31,719 --> 00:50:36,800
Speaker 1: dot Il the podcast. We look forward to sharing information

836
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:40,759
Speaker 1: with you, and we look forward to to learning more

837
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:45,480
Speaker 1: about ourselves as we grow. You are loved, You are

838
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 1: abundant and God damn it, you are worthy. Thank you

839
00:50:50,480 --> 00:51:05,960
Speaker 1: so much. Chafts period, How do you eat an elephant? One? By?

840
00:51:06,120 --> 00:51:11,640
Speaker 1: It time? Hey, listeners, it's Amber the producer here. Just

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