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Speaker 2: I'm Erica and I'm Nila, and it's Wednesday, Happy Wednesday,
Speaker 2: Happy hot Day.
Speaker 1: It's still burning hot in the valley. It's it's actually hell.
Speaker 3: It's like we actually I don't know how many of
Speaker 3: our listeners live in southern California and are familiar with
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Speaker 1: Fuck, and the devil just happens to live right next
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Speaker 1: my what? My baby Dady used to say, Oh wait, maybe.
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Speaker 3: You know what? We keep talking about next year? And
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Speaker 1: hold on you guys. I ordered food and now they're
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Speaker 4: Okay, sorry, that was very important because if I don't
Speaker 4: eat soon, I'm gonna eat Erica's head off. I always
Speaker 4: forget to eat and then I'm acting psycho and I'm like,
Speaker 4: why am I so angry?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: I haven't eaten. That must be a cancer thing. It's
Speaker 1: that much to be a cancer.
Speaker 4: Okay, this is what works not gonna happen now that
Speaker 4: you're dating a cancer man.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna just.
Speaker 4: Groo's happen in Erica now thinks she's like mother cancers.
Speaker 1: She knows everything about the cancers. My guest friends of cancer,
Speaker 1: my boyfriends of cancer, and you all do this. Y'all
Speaker 1: are all fucking crazy whatever. Y'all are so particular about
Speaker 1: weird shit. And also I am not particular about weird shit.
Speaker 1: I'm actually the least particular person that I know. Is
Speaker 1: that a hickey on your neck?
Speaker 3: Is that?
Speaker 1: I'm not kid? I don't even know you could get
Speaker 1: pickies girl.
Speaker 3: I am kicky easy whoa, Yeah, you're like fifteen again.
Speaker 1: We're right, We're on a very ghetto episode.
Speaker 3: I'm just trying to sage the room.
Speaker 1: I can answer it. It's a FaceTime from fucking New York.
Speaker 1: I don't know who that is. Okay, we're back after
Speaker 1: four hundred interactions. Oh yes, I do get hickey. And
Speaker 1: I got a hickey. I feel like sometimes my boyfriend's
Speaker 1: doing it to kiss.
Speaker 3: On me.
Speaker 1: On you. It's a term you don't know me, like
Speaker 1: like help dogs mark their territory. I don't I don't
Speaker 1: know if I just you don't like that. I don't
Speaker 1: like that term. Okay, well that's what it's that's what
Speaker 1: it stands for me. I don't know you wanted to
Speaker 1: piss on you anyway, so like in you real life,
Speaker 1: So that's like, oh my god, speaking and pasting on people.
Speaker 4: I asked him, like, have they repeat on him? Anyone
Speaker 4: has the ever repeat on you? He's like, not on purpose.
Speaker 4: Maybe the shower some We're in the shower and I'm
Speaker 4: like he's He's like, scoop out and I had to peet.
Speaker 1: I was like, when to try. Wait, did I pian
Speaker 1: have a p on me? Oh? I said I had
Speaker 1: to be and he told me like piano's leg a
Speaker 1: little bit to turn him on.
Speaker 5: No, no, it didn't turn me on either. That's like
Speaker 5: how it was nice, Like it's almost as warm as
Speaker 5: the shower. It's like, well, guys, let me cover that. Yeah,
Speaker 5: that was basically how it went. I was like, are
Speaker 5: you feeling rock hard over there? He's like, Nope, not really.
Speaker 5: I'm not really into piss play into a pissy thing.
Speaker 5: I could see if someone was really into it, how
Speaker 5: I might get into it. But I mean, essentially, I
Speaker 5: do pee on people because you're squirting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I've you know, recently discovered that I've just
Speaker 3: been peeing all over the place.
Speaker 1: But does it smell like pee? Does it smell like Karen?
Speaker 3: You know sometimes sometimes I would say yes, but it's
Speaker 3: not like a strong set like piss smell, so like
Speaker 3: I know, it's mixed with some other shit.
Speaker 1: But yeah, anyway, we've.
Speaker 4: Got onto this topic of peace and how oh because
Speaker 4: I said he hated me, he's marking his territory.
Speaker 1: Also, he kind of I peed on him a little
Speaker 1: bit in the shower. Didn't didn't really flow anybody's boat.
Speaker 1: How's your relationship going on over there?
Speaker 4: How is everything? I haven't seen you in three days.
Speaker 4: I feel I haven't seen you in a week. What's
Speaker 4: going on over there? It's happening, I mean, life changes.
Speaker 4: Everything's good, you know.
Speaker 3: I think, when how long have you been dating? Now
Speaker 3: it's been April.
Speaker 1: Can we can we can we pount the same?
Speaker 3: Wait at the end of April, so may June to
Speaker 3: lie It'll be four months at the end of this month,
Speaker 3: so mine is like five months. Yeah, so everything's going well.
Speaker 3: I think that I've just realized that.
Speaker 1: I'm not girlfriend of the year. I am sure. It's
Speaker 1: not that I'm not girlfriend of the year.
Speaker 3: It's just like I think that I'm learning. I'm learning
Speaker 3: someone totally new, totally different than you know, my previous relationships.
Speaker 3: My other relationship needed attentiveness in a different way, and uh,
Speaker 3: and it was in it was in more of an
Speaker 3: unhealthy way. And in this relationship, like he gives me
Speaker 3: so much attention and he he's so great, Like he
Speaker 3: really he knows every shift in my energy, which can
Speaker 3: be kind of scary if I'm not ready to talk
Speaker 3: about things, which I've realized, Like the other day, like
Speaker 3: something happened and I was at his house and I
Speaker 3: got some news that I wasn't ready to really discuss
Speaker 3: with him or anyone, and I knew that I had
Speaker 3: to leave because I knew I couldn't.
Speaker 1: Fake it and even if I did fake it, he
Speaker 1: would know.
Speaker 3: And that's scary, Like that's kind of scary to be
Speaker 3: it's scary, but also like it's kind of I asked
Speaker 3: for it because in my previous relationship, like I'd be like, hello,
Speaker 3: can't you tell I'm fucking unhappy?
Speaker 1: Can't you tell like something's wrong.
Speaker 3: You're not gonna ask me, You're just gonna like let
Speaker 3: it be like this, You're gonna just let You're just
Speaker 3: gonna come in the house. And I'm gonna sit on
Speaker 3: the couch and not say shit to you, and you're
Speaker 3: not gonna ask me what's up. Cool, So my nig
Speaker 3: now will not only ask me what's up, but like
Speaker 3: just go dig deep, dig deep, and then like if
Speaker 3: I'm not feeling well, he'll like, you know, send a
Speaker 3: massuse to give me a massage, which is like so
Speaker 3: sweet and so amazing, and like he just he just
Speaker 3: really caters to me, and I feel like.
Speaker 1: I probably could cater to him more.
Speaker 3: I just I don't know, like I was saying, I
Speaker 3: think I was talking to I don't know my mom.
Speaker 1: I've talked to a few people about this that, like, I.
Speaker 3: Think that there's parts of me that are still on
Speaker 3: I can't access yet with him, because I shut those
Speaker 3: things down after my relationship ended, because I gave so
Speaker 3: much of myself so freely, because I was so.
Speaker 1: Young when I entered into my relationship, that.
Speaker 3: Those things that I could easily access before don't are
Speaker 3: don't come so easily these days. I'm glad you you
Speaker 3: said that, because I feel similar.
Speaker 4: I don't know how to be in anything healthy, kind
Speaker 4: and nice, and it is hard for me to like
Speaker 4: be super expressive and like receive kindness because I was
Speaker 4: in such a unkind relationship twice. Young Bay was not
Speaker 4: that nice either, right, And it's just it's an interesting
Speaker 4: thing to observe myself in a relationship that's healthy and
Speaker 4: not be able to reciprocate it and then be called
Speaker 4: out about it and be like, oh shit, that's right,
Speaker 4: I'm not being nice.
Speaker 1: You're so nice. I'm not being nice.
Speaker 4: I did some shit last week that was like very
Speaker 4: not nice and very not thoughtful, and I realized I
Speaker 4: was seriously just testing the waters to see if how.
Speaker 1: Far you could go.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and also like maybe just thinking like hey, whatever,
Speaker 4: like I'm a sabotaging it, well, sabotaging myself and doing
Speaker 4: some dumb shit. And I just realized, like, damn, bitch,
Speaker 4: you so used to having fuck boys around that you're
Speaker 4: not even you're not you can't even receive someone who's
Speaker 4: who's being kind to you, being commun communicating to you.
Speaker 4: And then he's like, well, you don't really communicate with me,
Speaker 4: and I'm like, what the fuck are you talking about.
Speaker 4: I'm here every weekend. This is me saying I like
Speaker 4: you the but that's not what that means. And you know,
Speaker 4: and I think a lot of deep thoughts. I'm always
Speaker 4: thinking about, like, oh god, wow, this is so wonderful,
Speaker 4: but then I don't say it out loud because I
Speaker 4: just haven't felt safe to do that. So thankfully, my
Speaker 4: boyfriend's really kind and really loves me, because even though
Speaker 4: I did some fun shit.
Speaker 1: He didn't dump me. So here we are still girlfriends. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think I realized I did.
Speaker 3: I I went to the beach the other day with
Speaker 3: my man and my friends, and I took some shrooms.
Speaker 1: And the chocolate one. Yeah you took one? No, I
Speaker 1: took more. I took two. I took like four, like
Speaker 1: the no the ones Oka a new bar. Yeah.
Speaker 4: Side note, DMUs Everything was just start a side business
Speaker 4: of mushroom makers.
Speaker 1: We are not drug dealers. So many people says to me,
Speaker 1: where I'm in La, where are the mushrooms? And I'm like,
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just like happened to fall upon them. Someone just
Speaker 3: gave me these and a friend of mine that were
Speaker 3: they did.
Speaker 1: It was yeah, it was.
Speaker 3: It wasn't before we go to our next episode. It
Speaker 3: wasn't like intense or anything, but it was cool. But
Speaker 3: I have this realization that I am getting everything I want,
Speaker 3: but I just it's hard for me to accept that
Speaker 3: it's here. It's hard for me to now accept that
Speaker 3: it's here. And now I doubt everything, even some of
Speaker 3: the things he'll say.
Speaker 1: Like I'm just I just have a really hard time
Speaker 1: with men being right in general.
Speaker 3: And I realized that, and I always have to like
Speaker 3: do my Like he'll say something and I'll be like,
Speaker 3: m let me check on that, let me like research
Speaker 3: that more, cause I don't know if you're right. And
Speaker 3: also my man is also just very he like he's
Speaker 3: very opinionated. He knows a little bit about everything, and
Speaker 3: sometimes I think that can come off as just like
Speaker 3: a know it all and for me, like sometimes that
Speaker 3: it annoys me, and so like I think that's where
Speaker 3: the disconnect sometimes comes from.
Speaker 1: And but like also I'm gonna know it all.
Speaker 3: So I just I I just realized that, like I
Speaker 3: just need to like accept what I have, what I'm getting,
Speaker 3: and like not try to push it away and be.
Speaker 1: And question it so much. But overall, I'm happy. I'm good,
Speaker 1: We're good.
Speaker 3: He's the bomb, and that's it.
Speaker 1: I agree, I'm really happy.
Speaker 4: I feel like my relationship is like a constant scene
Speaker 4: from love Jones. Honestly, he's just always lighting candles and
Speaker 4: offering to give me massages.
Speaker 1: Drinks. It's just I'm so hydrated. Honestly, Oh my.
Speaker 4: Every love jokes, Oh my god. This is a romance movie.
Speaker 4: So that feels really nice. It feels really good to
Speaker 4: just have someone who's caring and attentive and gentle, and
Speaker 4: I just need to I really feel like after you
Speaker 4: get out of any long term relationship, you might need therapy.
Speaker 1: Everyone, every single one.
Speaker 4: I agree, because I have become hyper aware of how
Speaker 4: my last relationship, not even young Bay well him too,
Speaker 4: but like one before that with that baby Daddy, that
Speaker 4: was like forever. It's still so much in my system,
Speaker 4: and as I'm trying to move on from that, I'm
Speaker 4: trying to rebel from that. Have a new boyfriend and
Speaker 4: a new relationship, and you can't do both.
Speaker 1: I've been a very rebellious.
Speaker 4: Place, like fuck niggas, fuck calling me five times, don't
Speaker 4: ask me any questions, don't ask me where I'm going,
Speaker 4: don't ask me I'll see you on Friday. Don't even
Speaker 4: ask me no soups, don't ask me questions one day
Speaker 4: through Friday.
Speaker 1: I'm an adult and was like, hey, bitch, this is
Speaker 1: how people show you they care about you.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, oh, right, but I'm so used to
Speaker 4: it being like an invasive you're doing something wrong energy
Speaker 4: that I just after I got the relationship, but I said,
Speaker 4: fuck all that.
Speaker 1: Nobody asked me any questions.
Speaker 3: Well, how's therapy going for you? With better help, it's
Speaker 3: actually going really good. I realized that I probably need to.
Speaker 4: I thought I was healed from things that I'm not
Speaker 4: healed from, and I need to take time to be like, hey,
Speaker 4: can we address these things that I'm obviously not over
Speaker 4: because I see these patterns in this relationship.
Speaker 1: But it's still going really well.
Speaker 4: I'm happy to just be like meeting right in my
Speaker 4: living room or in my bed or on my phone,
Speaker 4: you know, once a week, and I have a female
Speaker 4: therapist because I prefer to have like a female energy,
Speaker 4: and so it's just like really like a older woman,
Speaker 4: mature talk every week. That is just keeping me grounded, honestly,
Speaker 4: and I'm really grateful for it, and I feel like
Speaker 4: it's helping me be, you know, be girlfriend of the year,
Speaker 4: because right now I'm like, eh, I'm like ho.
Speaker 1: Of the year kid. Yeah, No, I feel you, I
Speaker 1: feel you.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's constantly you have to constantly check in
Speaker 3: with yourself, and it does it does help when you
Speaker 3: have I mean, I guess like a therapist can. It's
Speaker 3: kind of like an accountability partner, like and I think
Speaker 3: we are each.
Speaker 1: Other's accountability partner too, But sometimes it's.
Speaker 3: Good to have, like a someone who doesn't know you,
Speaker 3: has no you know, preconceived notions on what your life
Speaker 3: was like, you know, what, what relationships you've been in,
Speaker 3: and can just kind of give you a really clear
Speaker 3: perspective and clear steps on like what you need to
Speaker 3: do to.
Speaker 1: Reach the goals, reach your goals.
Speaker 3: Cause like I know my therapist, she she's like that,
Speaker 3: like she actually gives me real advice, and like that's
Speaker 3: what I really want out of a therapist.
Speaker 1: I want someone who's actually gonna.
Speaker 3: Like bitch, tell me what to do, don't therapize me.
Speaker 4: That's my betterhelp too, because if one doesn't work, you
Speaker 4: don't have to go to this entire problem. I mean,
Speaker 4: like you do have to go to the process of
Speaker 4: getting ig know someone, but you can just feel like
Speaker 4: this is not working, let me try again, and then
Speaker 4: like maybe find someone who better works for you, and
Speaker 4: it's just not like you don't feel I also feel
Speaker 4: like you don't feel as bad breaking up with a
Speaker 4: therapist and moving on because it's still the same group
Speaker 4: right now.
Speaker 3: If you guys haven't checked out better help, you really
Speaker 3: really should. They they're really it's I've never experienced therapy
Speaker 3: like this, obviously because of COVID. I've obviously never had
Speaker 3: therapy over the phone, but honestly just kind of like
Speaker 3: being able to really pick and choose my therapist, like
Speaker 3: I actually asked for I want a black I want
Speaker 3: a black woman. I want her to be around this age,
Speaker 3: and like you really can customize what you need. And
Speaker 3: if you're you know, married, they have therapy for couple,
Speaker 3: they have therapy for teenagers, and if you're interested, check
Speaker 3: out the details in this episode, and you guys get
Speaker 3: a pretty good discount.
Speaker 1: It's actually very affordable. It's super affordable too or anything
Speaker 1: like that.
Speaker 3: You don't even need insurance, but like it's really affordable,
Speaker 3: like because before.
Speaker 1: I'm spending so much money on therapy. After like because
Speaker 1: my therapist.
Speaker 3: Stopped taking my insurance and I was like I loved her,
Speaker 3: so I was like and we had already like built
Speaker 3: this whole thing together.
Speaker 1: She knew everything about.
Speaker 3: Me, and like I've been going to her for a
Speaker 3: few years, and I was like, I can't afford two.
Speaker 1: Hundred dollars of sessions. This isn't gonna work. Well, that's
Speaker 1: the thing.
Speaker 4: And even with me, like we so often get caught
Speaker 4: up on like I don't have insurance.
Speaker 1: And I'd be like, fuck it, I don't need it.
Speaker 1: I will say fuck it, I don't need a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of shit.
Speaker 4: I got into car accident and I was trying to
Speaker 4: convince Eric I need to go to the hospital. She's like, ah, bitch,
Speaker 4: she do. I'm like, I don't have a sharance. It's
Speaker 4: it's too much. And you know, so like I think
Speaker 4: we push pushed aside our mental health, and we prioritize
Speaker 4: going out to eat and drinking and doing all this
Speaker 4: other shit. But we won't be like, here's sixty dollars
Speaker 4: this week so I can get my mind right, and
Speaker 4: let's be real, Like I blow sixty dollars on appetizers
Speaker 4: and tequila.
Speaker 1: I do, so it's easy without blinking.
Speaker 4: So it's just really about investing in yourself.
Speaker 3: You mentioned breaking up with your therapist, and I feel
Speaker 3: like this is a great way to segue into today's episode.
Speaker 1: We asked you guys to.
Speaker 3: Submit your best breakup stories, and you guys delivered as usual.
Speaker 3: So this week we wanna share your guys' stories, and
Speaker 3: one of ours. I think I have actually a pretty funny, well,
Speaker 3: it's actually not funny. It's just it's fucked up breakup story.
Speaker 1: Because breaking up is hard, you know, and sometimes it's hard.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's very overly dramatic. It's a
Speaker 3: lot of things, and I think highlighting the funny the
Speaker 3: lows is important because if there's one thing we can
Speaker 3: all relate to here right now, like you might be
Speaker 3: listening and you might not be a mom, like you've
Speaker 3: probably broken up with someone or been broken up with
Speaker 3: So let's just gather around, come hither, come hither, and let's.
Speaker 1: Share our breakup stories, our heartaches and triumphs.
Speaker 4: Okay, this one, so this didn't happen to me, but
Speaker 4: it was my brother who did this to one of
Speaker 4: his baby mamas. The fact that this begins with one
Speaker 4: of his baby mamas. No, I'm just gonna hear, mind you.
Speaker 4: I think my brother has like fifteen children. Oh not kidding,
Speaker 4: many of them the same age. Oh no, don't share
Speaker 4: that please. Anyways, he was living with a woman who
Speaker 4: had just had this baby. I think he just wasn't
Speaker 4: feeling her, so he told the woman that he had
Speaker 4: to leave the place he was running.
Speaker 1: He packed the entire place up. She had literally just
Speaker 1: given birth.
Speaker 4: He put her in an extended living hotel and moved
Speaker 4: all his stuff into storage. As soon as he got
Speaker 4: her settled into the extended stay with their newborn infant,
Speaker 4: he moved all of his stuff right back into the
Speaker 4: place he was renting.
Speaker 1: He did all that work just to get her out.
Speaker 4: I've never realized the extent mangoes not to not be
Speaker 4: honest with women.
Speaker 1: And that was my own flesh and blood. Damn mo.
Speaker 3: Okay, I'm not gonna lie. Okay, I've never done anything
Speaker 3: bad drastic. But have you not, like when a nigga
Speaker 3: will not leave your house, pact like you have to leave,
Speaker 3: and then actually leave and then come back.
Speaker 4: I'll text you, yeah for sure, if anyone to get
Speaker 4: the hint if you had, if you didn't know, this
Speaker 4: was what you do if someone won't leave your house,
Speaker 4: You pretend like you have somewhere to go, drop around
Speaker 4: the block, pull back up.
Speaker 3: But damn your own baby. But my whole thing is
Speaker 3: you born. I don't want to move when I have
Speaker 3: to move. That's a lot like you packed up all
Speaker 3: your shit in your apartment and moved my nigga. How
Speaker 3: that is. I hope you got movers because that shit
Speaker 3: is a lot of stress. Just I mean, there'd be
Speaker 3: no other way for you to get her to leave,
Speaker 3: because I would be like, I just had your baby,
Speaker 3: I'm not going anywhere.
Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you.
Speaker 4: Just go somewhere for the extended say like, why don't
Speaker 4: you get the fuck up?
Speaker 1: If you just say? God, that was like you got
Speaker 1: to move all your shit.
Speaker 4: I mean, honestly, that just proves in all reality, like
Speaker 4: fuck boys genuinely do just exist. You had no reason
Speaker 4: to go to that that was That's ridiculous, And then
Speaker 4: the other information is just too much.
Speaker 3: God.
Speaker 1: I wonder if she ever found out, like the baby mom.
Speaker 4: She had to know, because who would even drive back
Speaker 4: over there to see because you would just assume.
Speaker 1: But like where like you have a you share a child,
Speaker 1: never gonna see where this nigga is going or lives
Speaker 1: like I don't know.
Speaker 3: That's that's that's fucked up, guys. Okay, so here's the
Speaker 3: next one, Hi, ladies. I have an epic breakup story
Speaker 3: to share.
Speaker 1: I was in a relationship with someone for almost seven years.
Speaker 3: We met in college, stayed together after he graduated, and
Speaker 3: moved in together. At some point during our relationship, I
Speaker 3: since my partner was not being faithful. I felt the
Speaker 3: need to go through his phone and found out he
Speaker 3: was still in contact with his ex. I confronted him
Speaker 3: and he denied it. He confessed he entertained her, but
Speaker 3: nothing happened. Niggas, oh said, Marriott got the fuck up anyway,
Speaker 3: For all the men that actually like that is true,
Speaker 3: All your niggas have fucked it up for you.
Speaker 1: I will never believe in nigga that says that.
Speaker 3: Anyway, we continued our relationship even though in my heart
Speaker 3: I knew he had cheated.
Speaker 1: I feel you, girl.
Speaker 3: I started a new job and I was feeling a
Speaker 3: little low about myself. I lost my self esteem, I
Speaker 3: lost my I had lost some self esteem. At my
Speaker 3: new job, I surprisingly had a lot of my bet
Speaker 3: a girl. I found myself giving in and having sexual
Speaker 3: relationships with them because they were making me feel really
Speaker 3: good about myself, something I was not getting from my partner.
Speaker 3: I noticed I never really felt guilty about cheating on him.
Speaker 3: At this job, I met a really nice guy. He
Speaker 3: was hard working, and that was a turn on. I
Speaker 3: didn't want to make him a fling like the other guys,
Speaker 3: and I obviously didn't want to cheat once again on
Speaker 3: my partner. One night, as we were going to sleep,
Speaker 3: I had a very vivid dream. I dreamt me and
Speaker 3: my partner were getting married, but I didn't have a
Speaker 3: wedding dress and he didn't have a ring.
Speaker 1: I was so upset and confused. I had another dream.
Speaker 3: Same night where I was swimming and noticed there was
Speaker 3: a drowning baby. I was trying to swim down to
Speaker 3: save them and I couldn't. Those dreams, to me, were
Speaker 3: messages that I needed to get out of my very
Speaker 3: comfortable relationship. I woke up and he asked me what
Speaker 3: our plan should be for Valentine's Day. I said, I
Speaker 3: don't want to spend it.
Speaker 1: With you anymore.
Speaker 3: He was so shocked, but we both knew it was
Speaker 3: over our Valentine's On Valentine's Day, I took my work
Speaker 3: crush to balance to a Valentine Times Day concert in
Speaker 3: San Francisco with Melanie Fiona at the mezzanine.
Speaker 1: Shout out to Melanie.
Speaker 3: Her songs about cheating hit me so hard. I ended
Speaker 3: up getting drunk so romantic, I know, and me and
Speaker 3: my work crush ended up stopping in a parking lot.
Speaker 1: Coming home and getting it on.
Speaker 3: Eight weeks later, I'm pregnant with a man I don't
Speaker 3: really know, after getting out of a seven year relationship.
Speaker 1: We have three kids and are still together to this day.
Speaker 3: My ex later emailed me to confess that he did
Speaker 3: cheat on me and that he knew I had also
Speaker 3: cheated on him. We made peace and said our goodbyes
Speaker 3: for good. That is my breakup story that ended up
Speaker 3: and happily ever after.
Speaker 1: Damn wait, I want to be clear.
Speaker 4: She broke up my boyfriend aftere Melanie Fiona concert.
Speaker 1: So she decided after this dream that she had her post.
Speaker 3: So basically the dream was that she was they were
Speaker 3: getting married, but she had no wedding dress and she
Speaker 3: had no wedding ring. And then she had another dream
Speaker 3: that same night where there was a drowning baby and
Speaker 3: like she couldn't was it that she couldn't save him
Speaker 3: or something she couldn't get to him, and like basically
Speaker 3: she took it as a sign that she needed to
Speaker 3: end it. She woke up, he was like, are you
Speaker 3: gonna Are we gonna send balance? What are we going
Speaker 3: to do for Valentine's Day? She's like, We're not doing
Speaker 3: Valentine's Day. And instead she spent her Valentine's Day with
Speaker 3: her work buddy who she was feeling and they got
Speaker 3: pregnant that night and she didn't even.
Speaker 1: Really know him.
Speaker 3: But you know, they have three kids now and are
Speaker 3: still married and so it ended up working out. And
Speaker 3: then the nigga email ran said, yep, I did cheat
Speaker 3: on you.
Speaker 1: Well, ladies, go with your gun. Yeah, go with your gun. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a true story of you know, some don't ignore
Speaker 1: the signs.
Speaker 3: If you're having dreams about drowning babies and naked ringless husband's,
Speaker 3: specifically ringless husbands.
Speaker 1: It's probably not going to work out.
Speaker 4: The nigga's a hud, You're not a dream decipher over.
Speaker 3: I should be could ride and I'd be like bitch
Speaker 3: in this dream and nigga was homing and you you
Speaker 3: were falling and said stop wait what happened.
Speaker 1: You saw an eagle fly over. Yet for sure the
Speaker 1: nigga was cheating. Oh, it's niggas cheating.
Speaker 4: Answer is it's a nigga's always the answer, no matter
Speaker 4: what the dream is, Niggas are cheating.
Speaker 1: Pick up story number three.
Speaker 4: So I dated this guy who was already an ex
Speaker 4: from high school and college years after college. Wait started
Speaker 4: an X from high school and college years after college.
Speaker 4: He had his own place on the South side of Atlanta,
Speaker 4: and I had then, and I had mine in the city.
Speaker 1: So here we come.
Speaker 4: So here he come, talking good game about how he
Speaker 4: wants to be together and live together and pay rent,
Speaker 4: and all I have to do is worry about the bills.
Speaker 1: Lies.
Speaker 4: This nigga moves in and when I asked him for
Speaker 4: the rent money, he tells me he just moved and
Speaker 4: doesn't feel like he should have to pay the rent
Speaker 4: the first month. Nigga, what okay? So he ends up
Speaker 4: paying the rent late when I tell you, he moved
Speaker 4: in on the first of June and we.
Speaker 1: Were broken up by the thirtieth.
Speaker 4: Things that led us to breaking up were he expected
Speaker 4: me to drop it, drop him off to work on
Speaker 4: the South Side, and pick him up every day.
Speaker 1: Jamie Lyn knows that ain't no right around the corner situation.
Speaker 1: It's really not. And I was writing a hooptie at
Speaker 1: the time.
Speaker 4: Then he kept dismantling my ancestor altar, which is which
Speaker 4: is a big no no oh hell no yeah, talking
Speaker 4: about I'm praying to dead people without having any education,
Speaker 4: and refusing to read literature.
Speaker 1: I gave him day after day, niggas don't read.
Speaker 4: Some niggas read. Niggas don't men reading. He was a
Speaker 4: drink Wayne. He wasn't Jyrhovah's witness, but wasn't witness and shit.
Speaker 4: So he broke up and it takes him a full
Speaker 4: thirty days to move out. He takes only some of
Speaker 4: his things, leaving his bed, which I totally fucked.
Speaker 1: True True.
Speaker 4: Boo On comes back three weeks later, and when I
Speaker 4: told him he would have to wait until I got
Speaker 4: off of work that night to get the remainder of
Speaker 4: his things, he proceeded to break into my apartment and
Speaker 4: take his things and most of mine. Tossed all of
Speaker 4: my books on the floor, obviously not read, realizing the
Speaker 4: work of the books over the ikea bookshelf, took my
Speaker 4: guitar my radio and are things of personal value. So
Speaker 4: I call this man who doesn't pick up, and tell
Speaker 4: him I'm going to call nine on one on his
Speaker 4: ass and that's currently that he's currently on probation if
Speaker 4: he doesn't return my things. I wake up two days
Speaker 4: later and open and upon leaving my apartment for work,
Speaker 4: all of my things. I wait, wait, fucking you keep
Speaker 4: writing shit down next to me. Okay, I tell hi,
Speaker 4: I'm going to call nine on one on his ass
Speaker 4: that's currently on probation if he doesn't return my things.
Speaker 4: I wake up two days later, and upon leaving my
Speaker 4: apartment for work, all of my things, with the exception
Speaker 4: of my radio, was in front of my apartment. Nevertheless,
Speaker 4: I put his ass on ice and ask spirit to
Speaker 4: never ever ever ever.
Speaker 1: See him again.
Speaker 4: And I haven't the end intros maya case of the X.
Speaker 4: You thought she'd be coming in with the party, right, saying.
Speaker 3: Not in my head?
Speaker 1: That was that was a good one.
Speaker 4: Wait, so she put his sh out No, he stole
Speaker 4: her ship. She called him and said, Niga, you don't
Speaker 4: bring my ship back. You're on probation. I'm calling the police.
Speaker 4: And he brought it, but not the radio because niggas
Speaker 4: ain't sh the radio.
Speaker 1: But like who damn, oh.
Speaker 4: My goodness, damn sure, it's just any nigga that steals
Speaker 4: breaks and in her steals.
Speaker 6: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Okay, I kind of just remembered one. Okay, oh my god.
Speaker 1: This is this is scary. It's a story. It is
Speaker 1: kind of I guess. Okay, I don't know this will
Speaker 1: qualify as a breakup story. This is like a stalker story. Okay.
Speaker 4: So I broke up with my ex and made him
Speaker 4: move out obviously, and like maybe we were still move out,
Speaker 4: but like dabbling, going back and forth whatever, but obviously
Speaker 4: not together. So just like many I must have done
Speaker 4: after something intense, you just do weird shit. You just
Speaker 4: fucking you just try and rebounding, rebounding. Has this nigga
Speaker 4: at my house? I'm pretty sure I just like found
Speaker 4: him from like junior high in a DM weird ass guy.
Speaker 1: I'm like, nothing's weirder than being alone.
Speaker 4: By and we're chilling drinking, and like I'm already really
Speaker 4: paranoid because this person was already hyper stalking me on
Speaker 4: a regular basis in the relationship. So like after relationship,
Speaker 4: he would like call me hundreds of times, sex hundred times.
Speaker 4: And I lived in a two story building, and I thought,
Speaker 4: for sure, you know, every little noise I heard, I thought,
Speaker 4: you know, he was at the door.
Speaker 1: I was always at the.
Speaker 4: Window, closing blinds, turning off lights, clocking doors. Anyway, we're
Speaker 4: sitting on the bed and smoking. And so the way
Speaker 4: my apartment is set up, I'm on the second floor.
Speaker 4: There's not even anyone belieth me. There's just a gate
Speaker 4: or something.
Speaker 1: And I just hear the gate.
Speaker 4: I hear it, and something tells me this is this
Speaker 4: can't be good. And you literally there's no You have
Speaker 4: to scale a wall. You have to be Spider Man
Speaker 4: to get to this window. And this grown ass man
Speaker 4: somehow Spider Man to the second floor. And I heard
Speaker 4: the gate. He must have climbed on the gate. So
Speaker 4: I tell this other nigga get on the floor. So
Speaker 4: we get on the floor and I start crawling to
Speaker 4: the guest room.
Speaker 1: So we crawled to the guest room because I just
Speaker 1: got scared because there's a window in my bedroom, not
Speaker 1: thinking what's gonna happen if he climbs through your window?
Speaker 1: Bitch me. And this nigga was a random nigger in
Speaker 1: the other room, and I hear the window open, and
Speaker 1: I must be froze. I'm like, what the fuck is
Speaker 1: about to happen? So the nigga just gets up walks
Speaker 1: to the other room. I just stuck. I was just stuck.
Speaker 1: Walks in the other room, open to the shit, you know.
Speaker 4: He just opened.
Speaker 1: He's like, what's she doing, my nigga? That's all you're here? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was saying, man, what she doing my nigga? This
Speaker 1: is crazy. You look crazy right now.
Speaker 4: He's like, this is my house. He's like, but you're
Speaker 4: at the wind you in the window. I shook it
Speaker 4: in the other room, nigga, I just tart. The niggera
Speaker 4: like fall down. He closed the window and then, oh
Speaker 4: my god, I was such I was such so scared
Speaker 4: that the next day.
Speaker 1: I text him. First, I called my friend.
Speaker 4: I was like, act like you were at my house
Speaker 4: last night, just in case, blah blah blah ass.
Speaker 1: I called him.
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh my god, please tell me you didn't
Speaker 4: climb up the window and try and break in the
Speaker 4: house last night. Because I gave Staycy my key and
Speaker 4: she took she took on her niggas there and she
Speaker 4: they told me that someone climbed in the window.
Speaker 1: You made him feel so did you believe that?
Speaker 3: I don't know, kinda, but that was you know what,
Speaker 3: I'm a queen of a like making you look stupid
Speaker 3: because I yeah, because I fucked up bag my cheating
Speaker 3: dings after we said.
Speaker 1: All this shit about niggas, niggas, niggas, weird niggas.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So okay, that was my one of my not so
Speaker 1: strong points of my breakup stories.
Speaker 3: Okay, here is another breakup submission. So I broke up
Speaker 3: with my first boyfriend because I wanted to date other people.
Speaker 3: He also kind of cheated by asking my friend for sex,
Speaker 3: which was convenient. That's definitely cheating, right, Yea, It is
Speaker 3: that cheating or is that just your fucked up Is
Speaker 3: it cheating the actual act?
Speaker 1: Or is that cheating? It is cheating because had she
Speaker 1: said yes, you would have fucked her. Right.
Speaker 3: I just want to be clear, crystal clear, guys. But
Speaker 3: then I realized, if I'm going to go out into
Speaker 3: the world of wolves, I didn't want to go a virgin.
Speaker 3: So I went back, gave him my virginity, and then
Speaker 3: broke up with him again.
Speaker 1: It was kind of like breaking myself open for the
Speaker 1: world cracked the egg cock yourself. Disclaimer.
Speaker 3: This method of breakup may lead him on, make your
Speaker 3: ex think you're getting back together because entanglements expression is advised.
Speaker 1: So basically, if she was like, I want to break I.
Speaker 3: Want to break my virginity or lose my virginity with
Speaker 3: someone I know and trust, and then done and didn't
Speaker 3: move on, this kind.
Speaker 1: Of leads me to my breakup story. Except I wasn't
Speaker 1: the virgin. Oh my god. I remember I was dating
Speaker 1: this guy and.
Speaker 3: He was just he was so sweet, and I was
Speaker 3: in I was in high school and he was older
Speaker 3: than me, and so you know, when you're in high
Speaker 3: school you're dating someone older, you think like, I don't know,
Speaker 3: you're doing something or some shit. But he was still
Speaker 3: a virgin, and I don't know, it just wasn't we
Speaker 3: just he just was a little more behind than I was.
Speaker 3: I just I wasn't feeling the vibes. And but I
Speaker 3: had never taken anyone's virginity and that was kind of
Speaker 3: on my bucket list, and so I took his virginity.
Speaker 3: It was at your bucket list. It takes someone's virgin nice,
Speaker 3: and you know what, at the time, like I had
Speaker 3: lost my virginity in high school as well to like
Speaker 3: this guy that I was in love with forever. Of course,
Speaker 3: you know, if you lose your virginity someone, it's like,
Speaker 3: God's the end of the world if they you just
Speaker 3: aren't with you and you're not gonna be together. But
Speaker 3: he was such an asshole, and I was like he
Speaker 3: just it was like he took my virginity and just.
Speaker 1: Like abandoned me. And I was like, fuck this, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna take someone's virginity. I'm gonna take a man, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna take a niggas virginity. So I did that.
Speaker 3: I was like, you know what, I'm gonna take your
Speaker 3: virginity and I'm gonna bring it up with you, but
Speaker 3: I'm gonna do you a favor because you he wanted
Speaker 3: to lose his virginity, like he was like really was
Speaker 3: like ready to lose it, and I was like, you
Speaker 3: know what, I'm gonna give him the best sex that
Speaker 3: he's ever had, you know, like the best seventeen year old.
Speaker 1: Sex I could maybe like actually it was probably sixteen six,
Speaker 1: maybe fifteen, Oh God Jesus Christ, fifteen year old sex.
Speaker 3: I give you the best fifteen year old sex that
Speaker 3: you ever fucking had.
Speaker 1: You're gonna thank me later. I should hit him up.
Speaker 1: I still have. I have his instagram. I'm gonna ask him.
Speaker 1: I'm like, change your life right cracked, you open like
Speaker 1: a little clamp as you do as you tend to do,
Speaker 1: as you know.
Speaker 4: If you've if you've listened to our ex episode, Eric
Speaker 4: attends to op people have like a clam.
Speaker 1: I need to go back and we listen to that episode.
Speaker 1: I know, I think I do too. We did this
Speaker 1: episode with where we interviewed our ex exes and it
Speaker 1: was it was interesting. It was very interesting. One of
Speaker 1: Jamila's exes in her clearly don't like each other. I
Speaker 1: was like, you guys don't like each other, like at all. Still,
Speaker 1: you were like, shut up, you're lying. You loved me?
Speaker 1: She did she still does.
Speaker 4: I feel like we give you part two. I'm like,
Speaker 4: how many more exes can I dig up? Okay, okay,
Speaker 4: so there's another one. But this one I asked my.
Speaker 1: I asked in venture Bay.
Speaker 4: I was like, what's he asked me, what's the craziest
Speaker 4: shit you've ever done? And I had to really think, uh, nothing,
Speaker 4: because I.
Speaker 1: Don't love these hoes.
Speaker 4: No, but honestly, I really don't do crazy shit like that.
Speaker 4: I'm like way more logical. I don't know, I just
Speaker 4: do you not?
Speaker 1: You don't just like lie to people that come to
Speaker 1: your window and make up story. Lying. Lying is one
Speaker 1: thing when I like when this, when you have when
Speaker 1: you when you feel like you have to move, I
Speaker 1: don't go like slip tires. I'm not coming knocking on
Speaker 1: your crazy as a spectrum.
Speaker 3: Guys.
Speaker 1: He is a spectrum.
Speaker 4: Okay, so I'm not crazy anyway, I asked him. I said, well,
Speaker 4: what is the craziest thing you've ever done? And this
Speaker 4: nigga here says, I'm actually still frightened. I'm still frightened
Speaker 4: about it. You know you did?
Speaker 1: You called me like should I be worried? Like I
Speaker 1: don't know, like you were really worried. And I was
Speaker 1: throwing myself that I wasn't in line.
Speaker 4: I was like, this story is going to top of this,
Speaker 4: this is this can't happen. So he tells me that
Speaker 4: when in this twenty was like fucking fifteen years ago.
Speaker 4: Thank god that he found out this girl he was
Speaker 4: dating was cheating on him. He followed her because she
Speaker 4: was getting too cute to just go to her sister's house.
Speaker 4: He followed her and she wasn't going to her sister's house.
Speaker 4: She was going to her ex's house.
Speaker 1: So this nigga went to her house, took her dogs,
Speaker 1: get break in the house. I don't I don't know.
Speaker 1: I didn't remember. Maybe he had a key.
Speaker 3: Maybe, think I'm gonna need you to know that part
Speaker 3: of the story. Okay, his nigga's breakaway.
Speaker 1: Seven weeks later, I'm gonna be like, he's picking locks
Speaker 1: seven weeks I.
Speaker 4: Was like, what have got time?
Speaker 1: He told me that story four weeks ago.
Speaker 4: I was just dying to now it's one little detail. Well,
Speaker 4: actually I do need to know that now, thanks the
Speaker 4: fucking lie. So he goes to her house and I
Speaker 4: guess she had a small dog. He took this small
Speaker 4: dogs ship. He took a plastic bag, took the ship
Speaker 4: and smeared it all over her closet and in her shoes,
Speaker 4: in her shoes.
Speaker 1: All like like. He he told me like, he was like,
Speaker 1: did you have gloves on? He said.
Speaker 4: Ship?
Speaker 1: I don't know. But I was like, oh, this nigg
Speaker 1: is crazy. Oh my, it was a long time ago.
Speaker 1: But also I wondered, I want to know what her
Speaker 1: reaction was. But she scared and he called the police.
Speaker 1: He said, call the police. Well, this is what really
Speaker 1: scared me. Well, he said, I well, I thought about
Speaker 1: what can I do. I'm not gonna go to jail.
Speaker 1: Can you not? That's that's that's a damaging personal property.
Speaker 1: I don't fucking know. But can they prove it? Her
Speaker 1: sister called him and he was like, he didn't. When
Speaker 1: I looked at his face when you tell the story,
Speaker 1: it just looks like he had anymore. And I got
Speaker 1: I thoroughly got frightened.
Speaker 4: I did. I called.
Speaker 1: It was like, oh my god, I'm gonna tell you something.
Speaker 1: Just girl, listen. I think she was in Mexican. You
Speaker 1: were in mexicost She called me with like spotty reception.
Speaker 3: Can you.
Speaker 1: Back again? I gotta get better, but literally like I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go outside. Doctor he love me? Listen, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's flat.
Speaker 3: I was like, if that's the case, nigga should be
Speaker 3: terrified of me, because I don't killed niggas in my sleep,
Speaker 3: in my dreams and are not little.
Speaker 1: And well, I guess in my dreams, not in real life.
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I mean, I just feel like
Speaker 1: I just feel like maybe she deserved it. I would
Speaker 1: you know, there's a lot of things I wish I
Speaker 1: would act more on. I do wish I was crazier.
Speaker 3: I wish that I would be crazier because, like I
Speaker 3: actually get I was excited to know, like what it's like.
Speaker 1: To like do something crazy.
Speaker 3: It just follow, like get in my car, turn my
Speaker 3: headlights off. Follow when they get around the block, like
Speaker 3: just camp out.
Speaker 1: Wait, you know what I kind of want to do it.
Speaker 1: I would get I get too crazy. If I catch
Speaker 1: you doing something, I don't know what's gonna happen to you.
Speaker 1: I'm going to black out.
Speaker 4: It's best that I take a step back and because
Speaker 4: and reevaluate how I feel, because you don't want me
Speaker 4: to pull up on you.
Speaker 1: We don't want that. Oh god, Oh adventure Bay. I know,
Speaker 1: adventure Bay. Adventure Bay. I need to ask poetry Bay,
Speaker 1: what is craziest break up story? This is very important? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you know, at least one thing.
Speaker 6: I did a bit about it. I was like, well,
Speaker 6: one thing's your show is Nigga ain't lying? This is
Speaker 6: a true story that I would have been embarrassed to share.
Speaker 6: But I'm so glad that we're being honest here. I
Speaker 6: will never lie to you ever.
Speaker 4: No, but.
Speaker 1: Well, my next breakup story is I was lied too.
Speaker 3: So I met my boyfriend, this boyfriend that I dated
Speaker 3: who was absolutely crazy.
Speaker 1: In New York. He was like I should have known, Actually, yeah,
Speaker 1: I should have.
Speaker 3: He was like on the corner like selling what's the
Speaker 3: fucking ship? Where like you like put give money to
Speaker 3: kids in Africa.
Speaker 1: Like give money to different kids. It was like children.
Speaker 1: I met him on the corner children like No, it
Speaker 1: was like a group of them and they were like,
Speaker 1: hath of these notebooks?
Speaker 3: Show me a picture. He's like had the gift of gab.
Speaker 3: I would give him that he's a Dominican from New York.
Speaker 1: Okay, fast I met him. I met him in on
Speaker 1: a trip.
Speaker 3: I was out there with my mom or something and
Speaker 3: I met him. Have like fell in love like he
Speaker 3: he oh. He also told me that he was a
Speaker 3: model for Adulchang Gabana and he showed me, even showed
Speaker 3: me in pictures and they were all like side profile pictures,
Speaker 3: so like it looked.
Speaker 1: Like him like someone else. He had this portfolio ready
Speaker 1: to he was showing me.
Speaker 3: He was like, yeah, like I bought my model for
Speaker 3: adulcea gabana, Like this is my side hustle because I
Speaker 3: care about the kids so much.
Speaker 1: I have an apartment. Oh you look, you're from La.
Speaker 1: Oh I have an apartment in La, like just gift
Speaker 1: of gap. I was like, oh my god, there's an
Speaker 1: apartment in LA. He's a model. He cares about the kids.
Speaker 1: He'd be like, he like might we went to Starbucks.
Speaker 1: He sat down held were I was like eighteen, okay,
Speaker 1: and so anyway, so this is at the time. I
Speaker 1: what was I doing?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: I was working? Oh my god, I was working. We
Speaker 1: started dating. Oh I wasn't working. I get in records yet.
Speaker 1: And that's where I met my ex that we interviewed.
Speaker 1: But uh, which he gets into the story too. Wha wait,
Speaker 1: this is New York year. I was living here.
Speaker 4: He was in me.
Speaker 3: The thing I'm talking about that lives to me was
Speaker 3: living in New York. I was on a trip and
Speaker 3: I met him and I like made him my boyfriend
Speaker 3: on that trip. You know, you do ship like that,
Speaker 3: like you go to six Flags.
Speaker 1: Together. Yeah, I don't see each other like four.
Speaker 3: Weeks, no, like four months, three months, maybe never again,
Speaker 3: because like I have a boyfriend though, like legit, like
Speaker 3: man him and.
Speaker 1: We talk of the phone every night for I will
Speaker 1: fight you. We only met once. I will fucking fight you, bitch.
Speaker 1: He's coming out here, so like I yeah, anyway, So
Speaker 1: my dumb asked, like what was I doing, Like I
Speaker 1: think I I don't know. I had a little bit
Speaker 1: of money.
Speaker 3: I was like working somewhere at the time, and I
Speaker 3: was started, like he always had a reason why you
Speaker 3: couldn't buy a ticket out to LA and so I
Speaker 3: was like buying me. I was like, sugar mama, I'm sorry, Cuddy.
Speaker 3: I fucked up before Cuddy. I'm being his sugar mama.
Speaker 3: And like I was flying him out whenever I could,
Speaker 3: like scrapping up my coins. Like I remember, I asked
Speaker 3: my mom if he could stay with us, and she
Speaker 3: was like what the fuck hell no, And I was
Speaker 3: so upset. I was like, why it was my boyfriend.
Speaker 3: They'll sleep on the couch. She wouldn't even sleep in
Speaker 3: my room. I'm eighteen now, mom, She.
Speaker 1: Was like, hey, visiting the fuck no anyway, Like I
Speaker 1: did that a few times. You were in like oh
Speaker 1: my god, his Dick was so big. He was short.
Speaker 1: He was like five seven, I'm short five seven, light
Speaker 1: skin like.
Speaker 3: He was like, this is when you're still your lights. Yeah,
Speaker 3: this is when I was still light skin and he
Speaker 3: was so he was he was pretty fine at the time.
Speaker 3: And uh, actually he just sort of following us.
Speaker 1: On Instagram recently show I need to see it. I
Speaker 1: saw him start following us, and I was like, oh no,
Speaker 1: why in this relationship last it was like nine months?
Speaker 1: Oh like that, Oh god, what is this hair?
Speaker 3: What is that is that him?
Speaker 1: Yes? Oh no, buppy, Okay, that's time. But he had
Speaker 1: like a city. He was ripped anyway, So not only
Speaker 1: throughout like throughout the relationship.
Speaker 3: I had just tried to realize that he was very
Speaker 3: much a liar, Like he would just lie about show
Speaker 3: all the time. He did not have an apartment in La,
Speaker 3: Like there was always a reason why, like we couldn't
Speaker 3: stay there, Like whenever he'd come out here and be like,
Speaker 3: oh I'm renting it out to like.
Speaker 1: Other models or like just dumb shit other model. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like it looks like a con artist. He didn't look
Speaker 1: like it used to be fine. Yes he was finer. No, yes,
Speaker 1: I promised, crowing, because I have to.
Speaker 3: Go deep, bitch, I was eighteen. You gotta go deep, deep,
Speaker 3: like way deep. Anyway, there was no Instagram deep. He
Speaker 3: was more chiseled than skinny, Okay, so I uh he
Speaker 3: I realized that he was like a liar and pretty
Speaker 3: much also that like it was very I started to
Speaker 3: realize that that adult chick of.
Speaker 1: Bona ad probably was not real either. Okay.
Speaker 3: So throughout our relationship, he had this friend and he
Speaker 3: this girlfriend and when it was like his best girlfriend,
Speaker 3: and like he was always with her, and every time
Speaker 3: I went to New York, she happened to be out.
Speaker 1: Of town and like she couldn't meet up with us.
Speaker 1: But he always assured me, like she doesn't trust me,
Speaker 1: like she's not my time at all.
Speaker 3: In fact, she is missing an arm. She told me
Speaker 3: she was missing in armady. Like that was like how
Speaker 3: much he wanted me to like just understand that it
Speaker 3: was just friends. Like there's no way he would date
Speaker 3: a bitch with one arm.
Speaker 1: So it's just definitely not it, ain't it.
Speaker 3: So at some point, like I knew it was like
Speaker 3: we our relationship became very like volatile.
Speaker 1: We would argue all the time. He didn't trust me.
Speaker 1: I didn't trust him. At some point we got engaged.
Speaker 1: Wait actually, like yeah, it was a like eighteen.
Speaker 3: Like maybe nineteen at this time, Like I think I
Speaker 3: had my birthday, but like because my mom was like
Speaker 3: another time I got mad at my mom, she wouldn't
Speaker 3: let him stay.
Speaker 1: So we stayed at my girlfriend, my girlfriend Gigi's house.
Speaker 3: Shout out to Gig and she had her own apartment
Speaker 3: at the time, and so I just remember like she
Speaker 3: left and like we were fucking on the couch.
Speaker 1: And like he was on top of me and he
Speaker 1: was like we were just having sex.
Speaker 3: And he was like, marry me, marry me, and I
Speaker 3: was like yes, And then he pulled out the ring
Speaker 3: like he had a ring, you guys, he had.
Speaker 1: I still had the ring. Oh my god, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: post it on Patreon. I'm gonna show you the ring.
Speaker 4: Guys.
Speaker 1: It is like you need to show him this picture.
Speaker 1: He's not fine. And I scrolled to the bottom and
Speaker 1: he's still not fine. Okay, it's like you gotta post
Speaker 1: this one. Particularly Oh god, so that's not a good one.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, none of them were good. Shut up. Anyway.
Speaker 3: The ring, it was like this tiny, the tiniest speckle
Speaker 3: of a diamond, like the tiniest Yes, I still have.
Speaker 1: It, just just for fuck's sake. I'm actually glad I
Speaker 1: kept it now. But yeah, I remember, like.
Speaker 3: I brought my friends to dinner to tell them we
Speaker 3: were engaged, Jessica.
Speaker 1: And my friend Natalie.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I think I kind of now remember this
Speaker 3: story now, yeah, And they were yeah, And I was like, you.
Speaker 1: Guys, I brought you here to tell you that we
Speaker 1: are engaged. And they were like, we're gonna go to
Speaker 1: the bathroom and we'll be right back.
Speaker 3: And they both left to go to the bathroom, like
Speaker 3: these bitches are going to talk shit about me, and
Speaker 3: they did. And anyway, I at some point, like in
Speaker 3: the relationship started going just it wasn't healthy, and I
Speaker 3: started working at Geffen Records, which is now was acquired
Speaker 3: by Interscope whatever. I was an intern there, and that's
Speaker 3: how I'm at my my ex boyfriend and he was
Speaker 3: my boss, and I ended up I started cheating on
Speaker 3: my boyfriend with him, and.
Speaker 1: He wasn't a real boyfriend to begin with, because he
Speaker 1: was a.
Speaker 3: Real boyfriend, and also because he didn't live here, and
Speaker 3: also because he was lying they were and that's what
Speaker 3: you do. Yeah, so can you realize you it wasn't
Speaker 3: an adulta in goodband?
Speaker 2: Oh my, you know what?
Speaker 1: Also this thing I gave you an STD Oh no,
Speaker 1: we're definitely posting hist That was the end of the line. Actually,
Speaker 1: that was where it ended. That was like the end
Speaker 1: of our relationship for sure. Chlamydia is I don't have
Speaker 1: it anymore time. She's a survivor.
Speaker 3: If I'm a survivor of chlamydia, no, I know there's
Speaker 3: a lot of you out there. I feel you in
Speaker 3: solidarity with THEIA survivors.
Speaker 1: No, I've heard it's really bad. It's very like I
Speaker 1: don't even like I'm not. I just I didn't have
Speaker 1: any symptoms. Actually, I just went to go get a
Speaker 1: regular and found out that Oh my god.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so.
Speaker 1: Is that okay?
Speaker 4: I just want to know for the record, is that
Speaker 4: a story we could tell Lenna and Irie just to
Speaker 4: prevent them.
Speaker 1: Probably.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I'm for sure telling her about my CHIA story.
Speaker 3: And I think people need to, like, I feel like
Speaker 3: we need to destigmatize the shame of sexual transmittent disease
Speaker 3: because people are out here fucking and so somebody's getting
Speaker 3: this should happened. People will be reckless like this naked anyway,
Speaker 3: So we broke up, well, we broke up, and then
Speaker 3: he still was trying to get back He was still
Speaker 3: trying to get back together with me, and like my
Speaker 3: dumb ass was still like I don't know, entertaining it whatever.
Speaker 1: I get an email from this girl.
Speaker 3: And she's like, Hi, my name is blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: I'm best friends with your man's girlfriend and they've been
Speaker 3: they've been in a relationship for a year and a half,
Speaker 3: and you know, she has told her that you guys
Speaker 3: are just friends and that like, and I was like, what, No,
Speaker 3: we've been together for nine months. He told me that
Speaker 3: she has one arm and that they are just friends. No,
Speaker 3: he told her that you have one arm.
Speaker 1: The ship you can do before Instagram she told you.
Speaker 1: She told me her thing, you have one arm, and
Speaker 1: you just give him money. I was, I'm literally gonna
Speaker 1: d m him. Who the fuck thinks of the one arm?
Speaker 4: Like that's the worst thing you can come up with,
Speaker 4: that's gonna make that's gonna brings off her.
Speaker 2: Well.
Speaker 1: You know, men they always feel.
Speaker 3: Like if they downplay a woman's like physical physical and
Speaker 3: physicality to another woman.
Speaker 1: It's for sure guarantee that that means we're not they're
Speaker 1: a trial. They would have never fund that nobody had
Speaker 1: one arm. He totally made it up, totally made it up,
Speaker 1: just fucking just no one asked you to do this.
Speaker 1: So here's the thing, though, I guarantee and I also
Speaker 1: probably would have never found out about her.
Speaker 3: I mean, at some point I would have got this email,
Speaker 3: but like I, he could have just been in New
Speaker 3: York children with the bench, like I never would have
Speaker 3: even known, Like he didn't even have to do this live.
Speaker 1: It was just a dumb ass live. I guarantee you,
Speaker 1: wherever he is in the world, he still is a
Speaker 1: pathological life.
Speaker 3: So then that was that, the chamydia and then the
Speaker 3: one arm, the dual one arm and change.
Speaker 1: That was the end of it for me.
Speaker 3: We broke up, and then I and I jumped straight
Speaker 3: into my next a traumatizing relationship.
Speaker 1: Heaps I were here discussing all of our traumas every week.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and for years that guy stopped me, like heavily
Speaker 3: stopped me, would not leave me alone, flew out to La,
Speaker 3: showed up at my mom's house just.
Speaker 1: Like your mom's, and she was like, you wanted him
Speaker 1: to stay in my house, bitch. Yeah, like showed I like,
Speaker 1: I think I brought him there one time and he like,
Speaker 1: and that was like three years before, and he remembered
Speaker 1: where she lived. Three years later. It was like he
Speaker 1: came back three years later. Could hit my friends up
Speaker 1: for years.
Speaker 4: So you tell the one under girl's friend that he
Speaker 4: proposed to you, but you were actually engaged.
Speaker 1: Of course, of course I did. I think at some
Speaker 1: point too, I had. I said, you know what, I think,
Speaker 1: this is like a promise ring. This is not an
Speaker 1: engagement ring. It's a promised ring. It was very small,
Speaker 1: and I could not accept this as my forever. And
Speaker 1: also you were crazy, but that day.
Speaker 2: Was so good.
Speaker 1: I'm minus the dirty dick's that I've seen him. I'm
Speaker 1: even more confused.
Speaker 3: I am gonna find the photo you have. Sebastian Spashion
Speaker 3: can vouch for me. He was a mine back ben
Speaker 3: he was.
Speaker 1: He was smaller and he was chiseled, and he just
Speaker 1: was like got it, know, he.
Speaker 3: Was just so.
Speaker 4: If you want to see Erica's other half to this
Speaker 4: epic breakup, go to patreon dot com backslash Good Mom's
Speaker 4: Bad Choices. We're gonna call Sebastian live, get his response.
Speaker 4: Live to these looks, this engagement ring and this overall relationship.
Speaker 1: That's right.
Speaker 4: Go to patreon dot com backslash good Mom's bad Choices
Speaker 4: so you can see what this fool looks like.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, Fash, you better not for me. Negga,
Speaker 1: don't want to do it right now.
Speaker 4: I need to know.
Speaker 1: Well, that was entertaining. Yeah, so breakaps are not always great.
Speaker 4: While we were sitting here doing breakups, I came up
Speaker 4: with like three other episodes. We need to get everybody's
Speaker 4: best cheating stories and the dumbest shit you ever did
Speaker 4: for some pussy or something like Erica accepting as a
Speaker 4: very tiny ring on the couch of her friend's house.
Speaker 1: Engagement type shit. I mean, he literally asked me to
Speaker 1: marry him while he was inside of me.
Speaker 3: I feel like that is just fucking that's just really manipulative,
Speaker 3: And of course I'm gonna say yes. I probably was
Speaker 3: like mid orgasm too. I don't even know if I
Speaker 3: said yes to him or the ring.
Speaker 1: I have no idea, but either way, still unweed to
Speaker 1: engagement so true.
Speaker 3: I've been engaged twice and don't you do modern day
Speaker 3: Elizabeth Taylor. Anyway, you guys, we are having our first
Speaker 3: meet up since COVID. We are having a social distancing
Speaker 3: meetup in downtown LA on September fourth. It's a driving movie, y'all. Yeah,
Speaker 3: we're gonna go watch next Friday. And you guys definitely
Speaker 3: want to come. I know you guys have been dying
Speaker 3: to get out. You guys are supposed to stay.
Speaker 1: In your car, so you know, be safe, do that.
Speaker 3: And there's also contactless food service and the food service.
Speaker 3: If you guys have in La, you've probably heard of
Speaker 3: Comfort La Bomb Black Owned, Yeah so good Bomb Soul
Speaker 3: Food Restaurant, and who else. Oh there's a Mexican restaurant.
Speaker 3: What are they called?
Speaker 1: Fuck, I'm forgetting.
Speaker 3: It's on the website and Mama Soul is going to
Speaker 3: be baking and having all of her delicious cakes. You've
Speaker 3: probably seen us post about it. But it's an outdoor
Speaker 3: cinema event. These events are gonna be happening throughout LA,
Speaker 3: I mean throughout downtown LA, and it's just a really
Speaker 3: dope experience.
Speaker 1: I'm really excited. You know, I've never been to a
Speaker 1: drive in.
Speaker 4: You haven't know.
Speaker 1: There used to be one in the valley years ago,
Speaker 1: there were still two in LA. You need to really
Speaker 1: do that. I am about to. Oh yeah, I'm shocked
Speaker 1: that this is your first son. I know, and I
Speaker 1: love Next Friday, so we're not bringing kids?
Speaker 3: Hell, okay, okay, yeah, let's be clear, guys, probably don't
Speaker 3: bring your kids because it's next Friday and I'm gonna
Speaker 3: be smoking weed.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be hot boxing the fuck out of my car.
Speaker 3: Sounds like a great plan, right, I'm gonna have snacks
Speaker 3: and shit and ordering food. Yeah, so it's gonna be fun.
Speaker 3: Comes and it's like our first meetup in months. Yes,
Speaker 3: I know, if you guys like, we usually do monthly
Speaker 3: meetups sometimes we try to.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we even do two.
Speaker 3: The last one we had was in New York and
Speaker 3: it was so amazing. I'm actually like, if we were
Speaker 3: gonna end at all meetups, I'm glad it ended on
Speaker 3: that one because we have met with some of our
Speaker 3: New York tribes and we had the best dinner.
Speaker 1: And like the best time. Yeah, we had so much
Speaker 1: fun with them. We went Dan say yeah afterwards, it
Speaker 1: was just it was just fire. So I'm trying to
Speaker 1: like relive that slash top that this time, So come through.
Speaker 3: Hang out, roll your joints, bring your wines, bring your friends,
Speaker 3: build that car up.
Speaker 1: Go to Instagram and get our discount code.
Speaker 3: Yeah, if you check out our link in our bio,
Speaker 3: there is the link right there, and the discount lasts
Speaker 3: until this Friday, So you definitely want to go out
Speaker 3: and purchase those tickets before.
Speaker 1: Then Friday, the twenty first August the twenty first, twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they're almost sold out, so I highly suggest
Speaker 3: that you get your your tickets now because I think
Speaker 3: last time I checked, they were already at fifty percent capacity.
Speaker 1: Because obviously it is a social distancing event and we
Speaker 1: need space. Yep. Anyway, you guys, I hope.
Speaker 3: You have oh wonderful We.
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Speaker 2: you are, life goes on, sorry or good for you,
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