WEBVTT - Making Mami an Ally 0:00:00.600 --> 0:00:06.400 Hi, Carolina, Why are you looking so cute today? I 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:08.800 had a lot of work to do today that required 0:00:08.800 --> 0:00:11.920 me to show my face. That's why did you? Did 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:14.640 it require the high pony with the little hair wrapped 0:00:14.640 --> 0:00:17.440 around because you know you can't show off that elastic band. 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:22.759 You know, this is my Arianna pane. It's so cute. 0:00:23.040 --> 0:00:25.520 Did you hear Ariana Grande just bought a fourteen million 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:28.080 dollar house. I didn't see that, but I did see 0:00:28.120 --> 0:00:33.120 she unfollowed Starbucks? Why oh wait? What happened with with that? Well, 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:36.120 the whole Black Lives Matter you know fiasco where they 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:37.839 said that none of their employees were going to be 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:41.080 allowed to wear anything black Lives Matter? I thought they 0:00:41.159 --> 0:00:43.480 changed that though. Was it because of people like Arianna? 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:46.280 They changed it? But she's not with it, so she 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:50.400 deleted them. She was like, unfollowed, I had enough in life. 0:00:51.120 --> 0:00:53.280 You just wait until she needs like an ice green 0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:55.440 tea this summer, and then we're gonnas gonna be a 0:00:55.440 --> 0:00:59.760 whole different story. Oh, welcome to life in Spanglish, Honey German. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:01.840 It has only been a week, and I feel like 0:01:01.880 --> 0:01:03.760 it's been a year since the last time I spoke 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:06.280 to you. It's so crazy, Carolina, because it's just like 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:09.399 so much happens in one week in my in my 0:01:09.520 --> 0:01:13.600 life has had things like ever moved this fast. I'm 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:18.720 talking like I went outside and people were like, Corona 0:01:18.800 --> 0:01:23.479 is gone. Like okay, I watched your Instagram story. I've 0:01:23.480 --> 0:01:26.480 been hanging out at home. You said that. And then, 0:01:26.720 --> 0:01:30.919 funny enough, there was a headline or a article written 0:01:30.920 --> 0:01:34.679 by Time magazine and it said America is done with 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:38.800 COVID nineteen. They are nineteen is not done with America. 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:41.959 And it's like, if that's not the truth, it is 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:45.000 it really is. Carolina listened. I was outside, right, I 0:01:45.040 --> 0:01:49.640 was outside in Jersey, in the Bronx in uptown, in 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:53.600 Midtown and going on a tour. Yeah, I wanted to 0:01:53.600 --> 0:01:56.680 see how people were moving this weekend, Carolina. People outside, 0:01:56.720 --> 0:01:59.760 no no wonder. Cuomo was like, I'm gonna lock atasses 0:01:59.800 --> 0:02:05.360 back up. Not everyone, but a lot of people are 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:08.720 done with Corona. I was on like I was in Midtown. 0:02:08.840 --> 0:02:11.920 I went through the village. I'm talking like hundreds of 0:02:11.919 --> 0:02:14.919 people outside of the bars drinking and hanging out like 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:18.400 just like whatever, like people are done with COVID nineteen. 0:02:18.520 --> 0:02:20.520 Like they're like I'm ready to get back to my 0:02:20.560 --> 0:02:23.320 regular life. I'm going to risk it all. But that's 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:25.240 the thing. It's like, you know, we've spoken about this 0:02:25.280 --> 0:02:27.360 at length over the past couple of episodes, you know, 0:02:27.360 --> 0:02:28.839 and I don't want to spend too much more time 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.840 on it because I feel like there's like quarantine fatigue, 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:36.240 there's COVID fatigue. But like, I definitely believe that there 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:38.480 is something. I think New Yorkers I do have to 0:02:38.480 --> 0:02:40.560 pick us up right now because I think we crushed 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:43.240 it as far as like the social distancing and staying home. 0:02:43.400 --> 0:02:46.000 I really do. I think the numbers show it. I 0:02:46.040 --> 0:02:47.880 think the behavior shows it. I think that now we're 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:50.200 getting a little to relax, and that's why, as you said, 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:53.040 with Cuomo, he's like kind of whipping us into shape. 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:56.320 But my hope is that we did the good work 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:59.600 in the beginning. We did. We really did an amazing job. 0:02:59.639 --> 0:03:01.040 First of all, aparently know the fact that they were 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:03.120 able to lack down New York for like two full 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:07.239 and then people weren't outside like boycotting, and like while 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:10.440 now like because of the pandemic and because of the lockdown, 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:15.040 that's huge. I almost I almost regret not taking a 0:03:15.040 --> 0:03:17.040 trip into the city at that point to see how 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:20.600 beautiful it was without anyone, without the hustle and bustle 0:03:20.680 --> 0:03:22.760 as we know it. Well, you know, guys, Okay, so 0:03:22.760 --> 0:03:24.679 we're gonna let you in on a little secret right now. 0:03:25.000 --> 0:03:27.960 So earlier, well, you know what the secret is. Earlier today, 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:31.000 we got an email from our you know, from our 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:34.040 company saying, you know, we're expecting to move back into 0:03:34.080 --> 0:03:36.680 the offices on such and such date. And you know, 0:03:37.240 --> 0:03:40.440 a little part of me, a little tiny part of me, 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:43.600 was like, oh man, But then there was that other 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:46.800 part where it's like I get to be me again. 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:49.680 I get to go back to the city. I get 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:52.680 to start really getting back into my routine of who 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:56.240 I am and how I move. And it's like, I'm 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:58.440 I'm looking forward to it, but I definitely have that 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:01.040 re entry anxiety. And we're gonna keep you guys posted 0:04:01.080 --> 0:04:02.840 and let you know how things go for us, like 0:04:02.960 --> 0:04:04.840 along the way, you know, But how did you feel 0:04:04.840 --> 0:04:09.680 when you saw it? Um, I wasn't expecting anything sooner. 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:12.600 Labor Day was kind of like my my own you know, 0:04:12.720 --> 0:04:14.560 cut off, like Okay, this is the time, and then 0:04:14.560 --> 0:04:17.400 maybe I'll get back into the into the train, and 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:19.200 then I was like, Okay, you know things are starting 0:04:19.279 --> 0:04:21.640 to reopen, so maybe working from home right that bad 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:25.200 once I can go outside because working from home, you know, 0:04:25.360 --> 0:04:28.240 while I've been blessed and and and happy to have 0:04:28.279 --> 0:04:32.320 a job being at home and only doing one thing, 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:36.600 which was working, and then maybe like it's been a 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:39.240 lot for me, like it really has. And the other 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:41.320 day I was like, well my life back, Like I 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:45.240 really feel like my whole entire core of who I was, 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:48.840 how I moved, where I went, like it was all stripped. 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:52.039 But don't you think that says something about us though, 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:54.239 that like our work defines us. Like I was thinking 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:56.560 about this too, because in the past, I would be 0:04:56.640 --> 0:05:00.400 like I was that person that was overscheduled, and you 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:02.880 know that. I mean you would see my hand and 0:05:03.279 --> 0:05:05.440 you know we're all over scheduled. Though I'm not just 0:05:05.440 --> 0:05:08.160 saying it for myself. I feel like you You're worth 0:05:08.520 --> 0:05:13.400 was put into how much time you had left right like, 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:15.440 oh I can, I'm just so busy. I don't have 0:05:15.480 --> 0:05:17.200 time for this or that, you know, And so I 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:20.240 think that this is every set that really was both 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:21.800 of us. Though I'm not even gonna lie to you. 0:05:22.279 --> 0:05:25.640 Every time, you would look at like you were doing 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:28.080 something I could barely like, I'm like walking talk walk 0:05:28.120 --> 0:05:30.120 and talk like we were both heading somewhere as soon 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:32.800 as we finished. But I'm always out of breath. You know. 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:35.120 It's like I always sound like I ran a marathon, 0:05:35.160 --> 0:05:37.400 don't look like it, but I always felt like I'm like, Okay, 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:39.719 I gotta go here. Okay. Yeah, so you know, but 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:42.000 like now this has really made me pause and take 0:05:42.040 --> 0:05:45.680 a moment and like really digest what's going on and 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.359 also try to see how I can continue some of 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.960 these good practices that I've picked up along the way, 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.839 you know what I mean, Like to be present and 0:05:54.160 --> 0:05:56.400 to put the phone down, to not be so locked 0:05:56.400 --> 0:05:59.440 into social media and stuff. So um but no, speaking 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:03.000 of which, you posted a meme today and I was 0:06:03.120 --> 0:06:08.440 crying when I saw it, and it's talking about all 0:06:08.480 --> 0:06:10.520 of the fantasies you had as a kid, when your 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:13.640 parents would be mad at you, not when my parents 0:06:13.680 --> 0:06:16.240 were mad at me, when my be the living ship 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:19.760 out of me. Were you making plans? I was like, 0:06:19.800 --> 0:06:21.880 I'm just gonna run away from home. I'm gonna run 0:06:21.960 --> 0:06:24.279 away and they are gonna miss me, and I'm gonna 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:28.160 show them. And by the way, I was like nine, okay, Earlina, 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:30.440 I was that kid that used to say, I wish 0:06:30.640 --> 0:06:33.800 I wish I was never born, Like that's dramatic. I 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:37.240 was like, that is drama. You know. I actually look 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.360 exactly like my dad. And I even accused them, I'm 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:44.200 not from this family. I don't believe. I don't believe 0:06:44.279 --> 0:06:47.520 I belong in this family. Yeah, but Latino parents, like 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:51.039 growing up, it was just accustomed to like beat your kids, 0:06:51.120 --> 0:06:54.160 you know, like yeah, maybe not all families, but I 0:06:54.200 --> 0:06:56.839 got whipped. I got whipped like at least once a week. 0:06:56.920 --> 0:07:01.080 Like my mother wanted to see blood if I if 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:03.039 I cursed. My mother needed to bust my lip, like 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:05.240 I needed to go to sleep, you know, with the 0:07:05.279 --> 0:07:13.120 whole like yeah, yeah, you can't catch your breathe. So 0:07:13.360 --> 0:07:15.680 but trust me, every time I would get that beat down, 0:07:15.680 --> 0:07:17.840 I would be like, nah, I gotta escape this family. 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:20.600 I gotta figure out where I and you know what, 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:23.520 I used to go live with my grandmother at times. 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:26.400 Sometimes I would live with my grandmother for like six months. 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:28.720 Sometimes I would go live with my dad for like 0:07:28.760 --> 0:07:32.280 a year. She would give you a sabbatical. That's that's 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:34.880 like literally a sabbatical. My mom would not let us escape, 0:07:35.000 --> 0:07:36.840 and she was like no, no, no, no, you stay 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:40.520 here someone I cannot again, you know, like she was 0:07:40.600 --> 0:07:44.040 just not playing with letting us escape to anybody else's house. No, 0:07:44.240 --> 0:07:46.160 my mother wanted a break from me. I was a 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:51.160 really really bad kid, like that that kid that you're like, wow, 0:07:51.160 --> 0:07:53.240 this kid is gonna put me in the early grade. 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:55.960 That was me. But my mom explains a lot of 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:59.480 things to me now that makes sense, and she's just like, 0:07:59.520 --> 0:08:01.720 you know, you were reading when you were like two 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:03.520 and a half years old. She was like, you were 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:08.080 just mentally very mature. So we wanted to discipline you 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:11.080 and tell you how to do things. You already thought 0:08:11.120 --> 0:08:14.200 you were an adult because you were so far advanced mentally. 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:17.160 So we clashed a lot because when I was ten, 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:19.640 I probably had the mentality of fifteen year old. So 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:21.520 it was just like, I'm ten years old, but don't 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:22.560 tell me what to do it, don't tell me how 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:24.040 to dress, don't tell me what to sit. So of 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:27.000 course that don't sit right with any parents. No, no, 0:08:27.160 --> 0:08:29.200 of course, Well right now I'm going through with my 0:08:29.280 --> 0:08:31.760 two I said to my son, No, uh, I go 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:34.480 you know, last week of distance learning, we did it. 0:08:34.600 --> 0:08:36.720 You can do this. I have like a big present 0:08:36.760 --> 0:08:40.080 for them for the last day of school, Oh for sure, Yeah, 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.280 because I wanted to just celebrate them. They rocked it, 0:08:42.400 --> 0:08:44.320 you know. And so I said to him the other day, said, 0:08:44.320 --> 0:08:46.120 come on, buddy, you can do this. You know, we gotta. 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:47.920 He goes, mom, I don't even know why you're making 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:52.240 me do this. I already know all this stuff. Okay. 0:08:52.320 --> 0:08:54.040 I go, well, no, there's a whole lot that you 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:58.640 don't know. And uh and he goes, Mommy, come on, 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:01.520 And I said, but it's like he's very serious when 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:03.960 he says, like he truly believes that he knows, you know. 0:09:04.000 --> 0:09:06.360 But it's like I have a different way of parenting, 0:09:06.760 --> 0:09:08.719 and so for him, I'm just like, well, you might 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:11.400 know a lot, but there's always something to learn, you know, 0:09:12.720 --> 0:09:16.360 something's not even as adults. You know. I love teaching, 0:09:16.400 --> 0:09:18.520 but I also love learning. And can I tell you 0:09:18.520 --> 0:09:22.240 one thing, Carolina. The other days, I felt like I 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:25.000 need an older person in my life, and that if 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:27.520 that makes sense, like somebody I can go to, because 0:09:27.800 --> 0:09:30.600 I've become the go to person for everybody else. And 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:33.199 you know, I'm using my mom more. Now I'm like, okay, 0:09:33.240 --> 0:09:35.120 you know what, let me just use my mom more. 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:38.600 But I at the beginning, I disassociated herself. You know, 0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:41.920 I disassociated like me from being able to go to 0:09:42.000 --> 0:09:43.800 her because I felt like, Okay, she's my mom. I 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:45.880 can't really like tell her the things I want to say, 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:48.840 or she's not going to understand. You know, she's sixty. 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.400 It's like she's not going to get it. But now 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:54.120 it's like I've turned to her during the pandemic and 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:58.599 I find that she's there, I can use her, and 0:09:59.040 --> 0:10:02.080 I asked her these questions, and for like twenty years, 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:07.000 I haven't resorted to her for anything. That's growth. That's 0:10:07.040 --> 0:10:08.960 growth for both of you, you know. I mean, I 0:10:08.960 --> 0:10:11.200 think I found that space with my mom because I 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:13.600 didn't necessarily get along with my mother growing up either, 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:15.720 And I think that might be like maybe I don't 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:17.720 know if it's a woman thing because I don't have daughters, 0:10:17.800 --> 0:10:20.600 but you know, I definitely clashed with my mother, maybe 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:25.880 because we're both very motivated, hardheaded or stubborn, however you 0:10:25.920 --> 0:10:29.000 want to put it. But like, I definitely found that 0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:31.840 space with my mom later on in my twenties and 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:34.000 I think eventually you do find that, you know, like 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:36.199 you you find a way to go back to them 0:10:36.200 --> 0:10:39.880 for that advice or you know, for their input. Whereas 0:10:39.920 --> 0:10:42.320 before I never wanted to know what she thought. You know, 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.280 I didn't need it my mom. In my mind, my 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:47.160 mom did not exist when it came to like seeking 0:10:47.240 --> 0:10:52.400 advice or what does she know? Exactly, Like I don't 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:54.640 want to talk to my mom about my marriage problems. 0:10:54.640 --> 0:10:56.280 I want to talk to my girlfriends. But then I 0:10:56.280 --> 0:10:58.800 started realizing I'm like, Okay, I am the girlfriend that 0:10:58.840 --> 0:11:01.960 gives the advice, Like who advising me? And who better 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:04.880 than Vena that's been married three times? Like I mean 0:11:07.080 --> 0:11:11.880 you're Carryan's okay, you need rent and Aulita you need one. 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:14.080 It's like we need to start a business, you know, 0:11:14.880 --> 0:11:18.920 killa Um, Well, you know what, I just think that 0:11:19.040 --> 0:11:23.840 now as we've grown out of this whole situation, I 0:11:23.880 --> 0:11:25.720 think that's the beautiful thing. And we had mentioned this 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:27.800 in the last podcast, is that your family, you guys, 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:31.960 have become even more bond. Your bond is stronger, you 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:35.280 become more connected, and that's always a beautiful thing, you know, 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.400 at least for me, I think it's wonderful to find 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:41.160 those inroads with people because that's gonna last. You know, 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.960 it's good, it's good. I feel like the most amazing 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.280 thing to come out of all of this has been 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:50.240 my ability to reconnect with my family, Like we're all 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:53.360 we're all gonna go like see my mom for her birthday, 0:11:53.400 --> 0:11:58.079 Like we've never done that. I'm talking like that's awesome. 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:02.240 That's like, Oh, we're gonna surprise Mom. It's like I've 0:12:02.280 --> 0:12:03.959 told you, you know, in all of our life and 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:06.320 spanquished listeners that you know, some people reach out to 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:08.640 me like I have a very complicted relationship with my 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:12.120 mom just like you do. And I want whoever is 0:12:12.160 --> 0:12:15.560 listening that has this situation to know that there can 0:12:15.600 --> 0:12:19.280 be a resolution, that that there can be a change. 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:21.400 Like I really thought like I am going to die 0:12:21.480 --> 0:12:24.520 with a bad relationship with my mom. But these months 0:12:24.520 --> 0:12:26.720 it's gotten so much better. And it's like we no 0:12:26.800 --> 0:12:30.120 longer argue now. It's like we joke around. I'm like, Mom, 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:33.800 did you see Trump? Oh? See to be local, you know, 0:12:33.880 --> 0:12:36.760 and we go back and forth. So it's like that's 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:41.040 that's something, but something I'm proud of. Actually, that's amazing 0:12:41.040 --> 0:12:43.200 and there's common ground there and you found it, you know, 0:12:43.240 --> 0:12:46.760 like and despite like the circumstances, which I'm sure you 0:12:46.800 --> 0:12:48.679 wish they would have been better, you know what I mean, 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:51.160 like that you didn't have to find it in this way. 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.120 But I think it's just it's wonderful. And you know 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:55.079 what I you need to cultivate that and make sure 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:57.839 that it continues. Now, we got a problem on our 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:01.880 hands because most around Father's Day is coming up on 0:13:01.960 --> 0:13:08.800 each other. Carolina And okay, so I did the most 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:11.679 on this Father's Day because I couldn't go to stores. Now, 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:14.360 mind you, I told you before. Mark is very different 0:13:14.400 --> 0:13:17.920 from Noony. He does not want anything. He does not 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:20.600 want me to buy him things. He doesn't want shoes, 0:13:20.720 --> 0:13:23.360 He's not There isn't anything that I could buy this 0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:27.080 guy that he would be like. This is amazing. Other 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:31.800 than a dog, Okay, that's all this man wants. He 0:13:31.880 --> 0:13:34.800 wants a dog. No girl, he doesn't want just a dog. 0:13:34.840 --> 0:13:38.240 He wants a fucking German shepherd. Okay, listen, that's my 0:13:38.320 --> 0:13:42.600 dream dog. Don't get me. Oh my gosh, I'm talking 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:48.720 to the wrong person. Then, so I stupidly said no, no, 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:52.079 I said to my girlfriends, I said, all right, I'm 0:13:52.080 --> 0:13:54.280 gonna call I'm gonna get this ball rolling. I'm gonna 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:56.000 try to get this dude to dog because like that 0:13:56.160 --> 0:14:00.720 is just as mine. First of all, all the shelters 0:14:00.720 --> 0:14:04.680 are closed. Even if the shelters were open, all of 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:11.680 the dogs have been adopted or rescued because quarantine time. 0:14:11.720 --> 0:14:13.760 Because I said I would get him a German Shepherd mix. 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.640 I I rescued my last baby, my my little girl, 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:20.360 my Chihuahua mix, and UM, and I always try to 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:22.360 go to the rescues first, you know, because I do 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:25.400 think that there are some really incredible dogs. So no, 0:14:25.680 --> 0:14:28.160 I got shut down by um three of the ones 0:14:28.200 --> 0:14:29.720 that are around here. So I said, all right, well 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:32.240 let me reach out to some breeders. I had a 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:35.280 breeder laugh at me on the phone, and she said, 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:38.160 you wanna what I said I would like, I'm inquiring 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:40.360 about a puppy. She said, well, you're going to need 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:44.760 to wait until December at this point because people are 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:49.800 dog crazy. Who knew? Who knew that? Like everybody has 0:14:49.840 --> 0:14:52.240 been going for these dogs, right and so um, I 0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:54.600 found one that said that she might have a litter 0:14:54.760 --> 0:14:57.640 in July or something that where somebody might drop out. 0:14:57.720 --> 0:14:59.760 I said, can you put me on a list? She goes, well, 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:04.520 you're like tenth on the list. So I said, this 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:07.880 is just like so anyway, I oh, ship, hold on, 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:11.000 let's decline that. Okay, Um, are they going to hear 0:15:11.040 --> 0:15:14.640 that on the podcast? Oh no, I'm gonna edit out. 0:15:16.720 --> 0:15:19.120 I'm gonna say leave it. Who cares? People need to 0:15:19.120 --> 0:15:22.560 know we're like doing this on our computer. Leave it. 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:25.880 Make your life easier. So then I asked his mom 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.520 to send me like a million pictures of him with 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:32.320 his father. My husband's father passed the year after we 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:35.000 were married, so he never got to meet our sons. 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:39.320 He was, I mean, honey, it's a really beautiful thing. 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:41.840 Like I was looking through these pictures of my husband 0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:44.640 with his dad when he was a kid. The look 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:50.320 in his dad's eyes of adoration and just love, you know, 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:53.320 it was it was so incredible to just do that. 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:56.520 So I made a photo album for him to share 0:15:56.560 --> 0:16:00.200 with our boys, because our boys always asked about his dad, 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:03.120 and he doesn't really talk about him. I don't know 0:16:03.160 --> 0:16:05.080 if it's a guy thing. I don't know if it 0:16:05.360 --> 0:16:07.440 makes them sad. You know, Mark is just like a 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:11.720 steel trap, Like he just doesn't really so I'm really 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.240 hoping I get some tears on this Father's Day. I said, 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:19.120 that's that's yeah. Yeah, so I record it. Make sure 0:16:19.160 --> 0:16:21.080 you record it when he opens up the video, even 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:24.440 I mean the album, even if it's just for you. 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:26.960 I record a lot of stuff. I'm the person that 0:16:27.000 --> 0:16:29.360 records everything, like yeah, but then I don't know what 0:16:29.400 --> 0:16:30.720 to do with it, Like what do I do? My 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:33.680 memory is full, honey, where do I put this ship? 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:37.240 Needs up? There? Your damn phone? Talking about your memory 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:41.160 is like listen, I record everything I'm gonna tell you. 0:16:41.600 --> 0:16:47.920 During the pandemic Nooni's best friend Covide, and this man 0:16:48.200 --> 0:16:50.640 really thought he was gonna die and he was being 0:16:50.720 --> 0:16:53.760 a real big baby, and I recorded him every single 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:56.000 time on face time, and I have those videos that 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:58.760 I'm going to share them with him one day. Oh 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:02.360 my gosh. That's so thoughtful, though, Like I just don't 0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:05.119 think that way. While they would be on face time, 0:17:05.200 --> 0:17:08.720 I would record Neonie's phone so that he can have 0:17:08.960 --> 0:17:13.760 these videos later on, because he was really like I'm 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:17.760 gonna die. Like that's so scary. Though, that is so scary, 0:17:17.840 --> 0:17:20.800 But it's like that's the bottom, Like this is your 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:23.119 worst moment in your life, and like you can have 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:24.720 a video, you can watch it and you can see 0:17:24.760 --> 0:17:29.400 what you dodged on that person. Look, you were being 0:17:29.440 --> 0:17:31.840 a drama king. Okay, so now I'm gonna just throw 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:34.840 this back at you so you can realize how extra 0:17:34.960 --> 0:17:38.760 you were being. Um No, but talking about our husbands. 0:17:38.800 --> 0:17:42.119 You had Noonie on your Instagram live and I was 0:17:42.359 --> 0:17:47.800 on your story. Honey, you need to be nicer to NOONI. 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:52.080 I'm he was. He was angry, you were. You were 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:54.439 busting on him. He was just trying to drink his 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:58.120 sun kissed in peace, and you darken on me. You listen, 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:00.240 you don't even understand what this man as hung Greek. 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:04.520 I'm just hungry. I'm starving, and I'm like, O, can 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:06.720 we go here? No, I'm hungry. Like I'm saying, I 0:18:06.760 --> 0:18:10.320 don't feed this man. Things do not neutralize and calm down. 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:13.120 But now are you responsible for that? Now even more 0:18:13.200 --> 0:18:16.240 because of the pandemic, Like have you been feeding this man? 0:18:16.400 --> 0:18:20.880 Like you're responsible for breakfast, lunch and dinner for breakfast 0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:23.119 and then I'm responsible for like lunch and dinner. And 0:18:23.160 --> 0:18:25.399 but now you know what's crazy, Carolan, Like the first 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:28.639 month and a half. We were like crazy in the kitchen. 0:18:28.680 --> 0:18:31.320 Now it's just like I'm tired of eating. I am 0:18:31.320 --> 0:18:35.040 tired of cooking. Get a pizza at Albis and put 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:37.200 it in the oven, like I'm not doing this anymore. 0:18:37.200 --> 0:18:41.000 Those five course meals, rasta pasta, you know, Chinese fool 0:18:41.200 --> 0:18:47.080 because those are gone. Out Door dining is open. I'm 0:18:47.119 --> 0:18:48.960 about to go to Ruoney's one a weekend, get a 0:18:48.960 --> 0:18:52.240 table by the corner, and like, oh my god, this 0:18:52.320 --> 0:18:55.880 man's made. I gave my kids Lucky Charms the other 0:18:56.000 --> 0:18:58.640 night for dinner because I am a cool mom. I'm 0:18:58.680 --> 0:19:00.480 not a regular mom. I said to them, I go, 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:02.440 you know what, are you hungry? They said yeah, and 0:19:02.480 --> 0:19:05.959 I was like, there's leftovers. They're like, we don't want leftovers. 0:19:06.040 --> 0:19:07.959 And I said, you know what we're gonna do? They 0:19:07.960 --> 0:19:09.720 said what I go, I'm gonna give you guys a treat. 0:19:09.760 --> 0:19:13.680 I said, it's Lucky Charms night. They lost their minds. 0:19:13.760 --> 0:19:15.600 One of them took his shirt off. He was swinging 0:19:15.600 --> 0:19:17.640 his shirt around. I'm not even kidding. The little one 0:19:18.040 --> 0:19:20.720 he took a shot. He was like lucking sharms like 0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:24.280 They're like, mom has completely lost its Mama is sick. 0:19:24.320 --> 0:19:27.720 And tired. How about that? I said, That's what I said. 0:19:27.840 --> 0:19:30.560 I was like, you can have leftovers. There's some pizza. 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:32.600 It was like on a Tuesday, the pizza was left 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:34.480 over from Friday, so you know, it was like not 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:37.640 even good anywhere refresh. But like that's the thing I said, 0:19:37.760 --> 0:19:43.400 I'm gonna release myself of any of the like pressure judgments. 0:19:44.119 --> 0:19:47.040 I'm gonna let them have those moments, pancakes for dinner, 0:19:47.280 --> 0:19:48.960 you know what I'm saying, because it's like those are 0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:51.360 the memories that they're gonna remember. Yeah, no, they are, 0:19:51.400 --> 0:19:54.480 and it's listened. They already locked up, like we were 0:19:54.520 --> 0:19:58.040 like we can talk about this forever, like being pretty 0:19:58.119 --> 0:20:00.160 much like our house. Arrest for the past few months 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:03.760 has been hard on adults, but it's been even harder 0:20:03.800 --> 0:20:07.280 on kids because it's like people that are working, It's 0:20:07.280 --> 0:20:09.480 like those kids are ignored to half the time because 0:20:09.520 --> 0:20:11.879 you don't have time to be coddling them and talking 0:20:11.880 --> 0:20:14.840 to them all day long. It's like, now, I do 0:20:14.880 --> 0:20:18.240 you do? Yeah, but tell me don't like, of course, 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:21.080 thank god you do. Imagine being stressed out with a 0:20:21.160 --> 0:20:24.320 boss all day long, demanding your attention from nine am 0:20:24.320 --> 0:20:27.480 to five pm. How do you even like take care 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:30.720 of the kids, homeschool them. Talk to my heart. My 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:34.199