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Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we got it for you.

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Speaker 1: Strawberry LETTA subject A good man not trusted, that is

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Speaker 1: the subject. Hello morning crew. So I've been in a

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Speaker 1: relationship with my fiance for seven years now and I

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Speaker 1: can't trust him. He's never done anything for me. Not

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Speaker 1: to trust him, but looking at all the men in

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Speaker 1: my family and knowing that they cheated, I can't trust

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Speaker 1: him because I feel there is no way he's faithful.

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Speaker 1: I have the mindset that all men cheat. My grandfather, dad,

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Speaker 1: and uncles all cheated on their wives, and those idiots

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Speaker 1: are still with them after they've been caught time and

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Speaker 1: time again. I refuse to get hurt. I've never had

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Speaker 1: a problem with females calling his phone or anything. But

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Speaker 1: I can't trust him. He does everything for me and

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Speaker 1: the kids. Every day he comes home from work or school,

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Speaker 1: I'm asking him if he's talked to any girls and

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Speaker 1: asking him has he ever cheated on me? This is

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Speaker 1: every day he says he's never cheated and will put

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Speaker 1: it on his mother who is deceased and his kids

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Speaker 1: that he's never cheated. What am I to do? And

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Speaker 1: my about to run a good man away? Uh? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you can very well run this man away with your

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Speaker 1: nagging every day. Uh. And if this has been going

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Speaker 1: on for seven years, I'm really surprised he's still there.

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Speaker 1: But he must be a good man. But this letter

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Speaker 1: is really really about you and your trust issues and

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Speaker 1: your fear issues. You said, this man has never done

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Speaker 1: anything for you to feel this way. You're comparing him

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Speaker 1: to all the men in your family who have cheated.

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Speaker 1: I kind of understand that because that's what you saw

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Speaker 1: growing up, and and based on that you made an

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Speaker 1: assessment about all men. But in relationships, you have to

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Speaker 1: judge your man individually by how he treats you. You

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Speaker 1: he's coming home every day. Uh. Seven years is a

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Speaker 1: really long time. Don't you want to get married? One day,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have to trust someone. Okay, we're running out

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Speaker 1: of time, but when we come back from the break,

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Speaker 1: we'll have more of today's Strawberry Letters subject a good

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Speaker 1: Man not trusted? All right, Steve, come on, let's get

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Speaker 1: to part two of your response to today's Strawberry Letter

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Speaker 1: sub A good Man Not Trusted. Hello, Morno crew. So

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Speaker 1: I've been in a relationship with my fiancee for seven

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Speaker 1: years now, and I can't trust him. He's never done

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Speaker 1: anything for me. Not to trust him, but looking at

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Speaker 1: all the men and my family and knowing that they cheated,

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Speaker 1: I can't trust him because I feel that there's no

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Speaker 1: way he's faithful. I have the mindset that all me

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Speaker 1: and cheat My grandfather, dad and dad and uncles have

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Speaker 1: all cheated on their wives, and those idiots are still

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Speaker 1: I refused to get hurt. I've never had a problem

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Speaker 1: with females calling his phone or anything. But I can't

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Speaker 1: trust him. He does everything for me and the kids.

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Speaker 1: Every day he comes home from work or school, I'm

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Speaker 1: asking him if he's talked to any girls and asking

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Speaker 1: him has he ever cheated on me? This is every day.

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Speaker 1: He says he's never cheated, never will and he put

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Speaker 1: it on his mother who has deceased, and his kids

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Speaker 1: that he's never cheated. What am I to do? Am

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Speaker 1: I about to run a good man off? Yeah? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: matter the fact, you're you're lucky he's still that because

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Speaker 1: I'd have been going out your crazy ass life. What

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Speaker 1: you ain't gonna do? For seven years. I'm doing the

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Speaker 1: right thing, and you're checking me every day. I'm on

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Speaker 1: the man side. This time. You need therapy. You need

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Speaker 1: gonna sit out somewhere, check yourself into a class with

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Speaker 1: a room full of multicultural people. You need doing with

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Speaker 1: about Chinese women, white women, yourrigreat women, pig me women.

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Speaker 1: You need to get in a group with all kinds

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Speaker 1: of women. So y'all can set your crazy ass in

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Speaker 1: the group in a circle and look at each other

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Speaker 1: and say this mess to them crazy women over there.

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Speaker 1: You need therapy. Your man has never done anything, but

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Speaker 1: you are of the mindset that all me and cheat

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Speaker 1: and then just say and then these women didn't know

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Speaker 1: they cheated. Still staying with these idiodiots? You've been with

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Speaker 1: you for seven years? Don't you think he cheat? Ain't

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Speaker 1: you still sitting your ass up to her? So now

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Speaker 1: who's stupid here? But you've been to run a good

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Speaker 1: man off. The man ain't done nothing. I am stunned

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Speaker 1: that he's still there. She's nagging him. Would abndon got

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Speaker 1: me somebody else? A matter of fact? Or what you

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Speaker 1: ain't been through to me? Make me you think I'm cheating?

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Speaker 1: I show yeah, Please lady, you need to go get

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Speaker 1: yourself some help and quit doing this to this man.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, no man gonna take this for everything

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Speaker 1: right here? And then you say I refused to get hurt.

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Speaker 1: You're hurting now. That's the line that I underlined in

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Speaker 1: my letter. And you're hurting him, the kids, everybody. You

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Speaker 1: can't trust me if you think, oh man, cheat what

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Speaker 1: you want want for you know you can go the

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Speaker 1: other way. You know that's an available chance. Don't get

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Speaker 1: you a woman hello. Since you don't like me and

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Speaker 1: all I cheat, go get you a wo man down. Hello,

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Speaker 1: that's a different answers. And we're doing crazy stuff. Let's

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Speaker 1: just do crazy stuff. I don't know what to tell

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Speaker 1: you except you need therapy before you run this good

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Speaker 1: man off who ain't cheated on you. But please know,

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Speaker 1: if you keep going, it's going to have to happen.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, thank you. You know we gotta get

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Speaker 1: out of here. We gotta go. Email us or instagram

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Speaker 1: us your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at my girls,

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