1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: King turned Ben. I mean's birthday today, Happy birthday. He 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: is a ripe twenty two years old. Man, I didn't 3 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: look at it. I didn't look like him when I 4 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:14,280 Speaker 1: was twenty two. But now I understand why a lot 5 00:00:14,280 --> 00:00:16,239 Speaker 1: of people coming up wanted to punch me in the 6 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,079 Speaker 1: face when I was coming up in the bees, because 7 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 1: I was just a young, little green grasshopper, you know 8 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:24,160 Speaker 1: what I mean. I didn't know what I didn't know, 9 00:00:24,680 --> 00:00:29,160 Speaker 1: which was nothing. I never I never viewed myself. I mean, 10 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: he's our little he's our little boys, our son, you know. 11 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: I just I never viewed myself as that, as a baby. 12 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:37,919 Speaker 1: Really he's he's just a baby. He's got the whole 13 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: world ahead of him. Twenty two years old. Man, I'll 14 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:44,559 Speaker 1: tell you what. I wouldn't do anything. Oh well, yeah 15 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:46,200 Speaker 1: I would. There was a few girls, but I wouldn't 16 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 1: do anything over again. You do him over again? Are 17 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,720 Speaker 1: you doing for the first time? No, there's if I 18 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 1: knew then what I know now, i'd probably be married. Frankly, 19 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 1: we are really probably What do you know now that 20 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: you think it would have if I, if I had 21 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: the confidence and the knowledge and the wisdom then that 22 00:01:05,080 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: I have now and I and if I somehow knew 23 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: that this would be the end result, even if I 24 00:01:10,560 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: made different choices like romantically or whatever, I probably would 25 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 1: be married. Really, I just would have had a different perspective. 26 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: My perspective towards having a partner didn't change until like 27 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: a year ago. Really, yeah, I don't know. I just 28 00:01:24,560 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: my brain has always been in the mode of like, 29 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:30,120 Speaker 1: what's next, What's next? What's next? Growth? Growth, growth, you know, career, 30 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 1: Where am I going to go next? What am I 31 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: going to do? How do I make it better? How 32 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: do we get you know, how do we grow? The 33 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: all this stuff? And then I guess I was always 34 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:41,400 Speaker 1: afraid if I, maybe subconsciously, if I got caught up 35 00:01:41,400 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: on one particular person, that I wouldn't I wouldn't have 36 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:47,160 Speaker 1: the flexibility, the mobility to make moves. Yeah, I get that. 37 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 1: But what I can also say is I don't think 38 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 1: I should have married anybody I've met so far, because 39 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:54,520 Speaker 1: I've done the thing where as you well know, we've 40 00:01:54,560 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: been listening, you know. I like to go back in 41 00:01:56,440 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: time and try and revisit relationships that didn't work. Yeah, 42 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:03,920 Speaker 1: and they still don't work. So but sometimes I really 43 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: got to know, and I really know. Sometimes I'm like, 44 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: what the hell would like that? Boy? Life would be miserable? 45 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 1: But I had to know it. I had to know 46 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,080 Speaker 1: it for sure. And I know because I blame everything 47 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: on me, Like every relationship that's failed except for maybe two, 48 00:02:20,120 --> 00:02:22,080 Speaker 1: were my fault in my opinion. It was something I 49 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 1: could have done differently, me my. So if I go 50 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: back now I'm an involved human being. If I go 51 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 1: back and revisit, well, then I will be perfect because 52 00:02:30,200 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 1: it was my fault. Only to find out it takes 53 00:02:32,360 --> 00:02:35,679 Speaker 1: two people for a relationship to fail. And sometimes when 54 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:37,920 Speaker 1: you go back and you're evolved and you've changed and 55 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: your mindset's changed in the end and result is the same, 56 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: then it's then you can blame it on them, right, 57 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: m amen? That was my deep moment of the day. 58 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: That was really deep. That was that nobody asked for, 59 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: which is? Which is most things on this show. I 60 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 1: just think they're one for listening, and anyone's listening anymore. 61 00:02:55,320 --> 00:03:00,280 Speaker 1: They're like to whatever, Yeah, deep deep thoughts with friends. 62 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:03,200 Speaker 1: I'm coming for you, Kiramo, I'm coming for you.