WEBVTT - Ghosts of Bachelor Couples Past

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<v Speaker 1>Hell I Suck At Dating with the Nongler and Dared

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<v Speaker 1>Haven and I heard radio podcast What's going on? Everyone?

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to an all new episode of Help I Suck

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<v Speaker 1>At Dating. The date is Sunday, November. What is it?

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<v Speaker 1>What is it? November twenty nine, Sunday after Thanksgiving. That's

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<v Speaker 1>all I can remember. And everybody's had too much turkey

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<v Speaker 1>to remember what date it is. Yeah, the trip to

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<v Speaker 1>fan is kicked in. Um, Jared, what did you do

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<v Speaker 1>for Thanksgiving? So I flew down to Virginia to see

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<v Speaker 1>my in laws, including one that I named a coffee

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<v Speaker 1>shop afterwards, so they were very happy with that. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>and it was it was, it was, It was nice. Listen.

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<v Speaker 1>We went out to eat for Thanksgiving, which is something

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<v Speaker 1>that like my traditional traditional list that's a word traditionalist

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<v Speaker 1>heart did not enjoy. Not gonna lie. Um, But her

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<v Speaker 1>parents have been wanting to go out to eat for

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<v Speaker 1>Thanksgaping for years and since we've been together Ash and

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<v Speaker 1>I we've eaten at their their house, have had people over.

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<v Speaker 1>So this year they won went out to a restaurant

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<v Speaker 1>and at least the restaurant had a Thanksgiving meal, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>so that was really nice. What was the cuisine, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>it's turkey stuffing, mashed potatoes. It was traditional, which was

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<v Speaker 1>very nice because originally the idea was to go to

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<v Speaker 1>a steakhouse, which, of course I wouldn't have said anything

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<v Speaker 1>because it's my in laws and I have to keep

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<v Speaker 1>my mouth shut. But little Jared would have been very

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<v Speaker 1>sad if he went to a steakhouse on Thanksgiving. Um. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that's interesting. I don't think I've ever gone out

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<v Speaker 1>to dinner on Thanksgiving. I'm surprised that they're Well, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not surprised, I guess, but you know, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>Thanksgiving is one of those holidays where most things shut down.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm sure you're probably hard pressed to find an

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<v Speaker 1>open restaurant on Thanksgiving night, right. Oh yeah, Well the

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<v Speaker 1>problem is as well, someone like myself, who has worked

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<v Speaker 1>in the restaurant industry for the majority of his life.

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<v Speaker 1>Anytime we were open for a holiday, anybody who came in,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, screw these people, go home, go eat

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<v Speaker 1>at home. This is where that's where you should be.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I am one of those people coming in

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<v Speaker 1>on a holiday and being like, hello, reservation seven people,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm here as long as you tip a little extra

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<v Speaker 1>and you're extra grateful and all that kind of stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's totally okay as a you know, I

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<v Speaker 1>used to work in the hotel industry, um back when

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<v Speaker 1>I was in college and stuff, and I actually preferred

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<v Speaker 1>working holidays because people were more generous. You know, if

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<v Speaker 1>you work in a tipping business, people are bound to

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<v Speaker 1>tip more, a little more on the holidays. You get

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<v Speaker 1>paid time and a half, you make money. It was

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<v Speaker 1>it was nice. It was nice to make a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of money and all that kind of stuff. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I've always done, and I think this is a bit

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<v Speaker 1>of a tradition throughout America. Um More on Christmas time though,

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<v Speaker 1>Like Christmas dinner, you get Chinese food. Have you ever

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<v Speaker 1>done that before? Yes? Why is that? What a random thing?

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<v Speaker 1>It's super random. It's Christmas Eve, right, Christmas Eve. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to get uh, you know, Chinese food. It's it's

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<v Speaker 1>like Christmas even New Year's Eve. I don't know why

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<v Speaker 1>or how that became a tradition. The only thing I

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<v Speaker 1>can think of is if you've ever seen the movie

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<v Speaker 1>A Christmas Story, which is a Christmas classic, it plays

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<v Speaker 1>literally twenty four hours, twenty four hours straight from Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>Eve into Christmas Day, that's how popular it is. In

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<v Speaker 1>that movie, the Christmas dinner gets ruined because the next

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<v Speaker 1>door neighbors dogs break into the house and destroy all

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<v Speaker 1>the food on the table. So then they go out

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<v Speaker 1>to a Chinese restaurant because it's the only place open

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<v Speaker 1>on Christmas. I have no idea if the two are correlated,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's all I know from it. Um So, everyone

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<v Speaker 1>always talks about favorite Christmas movies, and since you're such

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<v Speaker 1>a movie guy, do you have a favorite Thanksgiving movie.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if it's a Thanksgiving movie, but the

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<v Speaker 1>movie that I like to watch on Thanksgiving to kick

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<v Speaker 1>off the holiday season is Home Alone. I for some reason,

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<v Speaker 1>I think of Home Alone more as a Thanksgiving Day

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<v Speaker 1>movie rather than a Christmas movie. I think it's just

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<v Speaker 1>my childhood. I think it's when we started watching it.

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<v Speaker 1>But there's nothing that gives my little Christmas heart more

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<v Speaker 1>joy than watching Home Alone on Thanksgiving night, And it

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<v Speaker 1>really just like kicks off the Christmas season in the

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<v Speaker 1>greatest way possible. I would agree. I would say Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't really start. Christmas season doesn't start until the day

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<v Speaker 1>after Thanksgiving. Maybe even someone argued December one, give yourself

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<v Speaker 1>some some time to adjust. But Kaylin actually just put

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<v Speaker 1>up our Christmas tree yesterday and I kind of had

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<v Speaker 1>a fighter on a little bit. I was like, do

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<v Speaker 1>you think it's a little too soon? Do you're putting

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<v Speaker 1>up this Christmas tree? And she was like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care what you think. I'm putting it up. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>wait till it's up. She's already decorated it and everything.

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<v Speaker 1>So I guess, um, you know people who love celebrating

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas a little But I'm with Kylin on this one.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, it's only it's literally a month and a

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<v Speaker 1>half's first of all, If you don't start celebrating until

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<v Speaker 1>after the first, it's twenty five days and then it's over.

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<v Speaker 1>So why not just put it up? What I think

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<v Speaker 1>should happen is I think that Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>should all be one holiday and it's just the whole

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<v Speaker 1>holiday season rate From Halloween, you go rain to Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>and it's two months worth of holidays. Could you imagine

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<v Speaker 1>if there weren't these holidays during this time of year?

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<v Speaker 1>The sun is just up for like six hours a day.

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<v Speaker 1>There's nothing to look forward to other than the day

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<v Speaker 1>is getting longer again. So like thank Goodness, there's Thanksgiving

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<v Speaker 1>and Christmas and Hanukkah, Kwanza, Halloween, all these holidays that

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<v Speaker 1>are to be celebrated this time of year because otherwise December, November, January,

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<v Speaker 1>it's pretty like I think about it. When January one comes,

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<v Speaker 1>the next holiday you can celebrate is like Thanksgiving, I guess,

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<v Speaker 1>and then after that you've got um MLK Day and

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<v Speaker 1>then Easter. I don't know, like like, yeah, you have Easter.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, then they have like listen, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 1>to call them dumb holidays because they're not dumb holidays.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't know. Actually I live Valentine's Day. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's a dumb, hot, stupid. I don't get it.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care if I get heat for it. Actually

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<v Speaker 1>hates the fact that I don't like Valentine's Day just

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<v Speaker 1>not a big because first of all, it comes right

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<v Speaker 1>after Christmas, and then Ashley's birthday's March six, So it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>how many gifts do I have to buy this human being?

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<v Speaker 1>I love her to death, she's my wife, but I

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<v Speaker 1>gotta get her gifts for Christmas. Then I gotta get

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<v Speaker 1>her gifts for Valentine's Day. Then I gotta get her

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<v Speaker 1>gifts for her birthday. And we're barely into March at

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<v Speaker 1>this point. I mean spread it out a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>So Valentine's Day not a big not a big fan. Yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 1>at least you can just kind of like bang them

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<v Speaker 1>all out and you don't have to worry about getting

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<v Speaker 1>gifts about the entire year, you know, just three months.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you said, we're in, we're out about a bing

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<v Speaker 1>bada boom YadA, YadA YadA. With my dumb guy brain

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<v Speaker 1>just forgets about things. So like I'm so I put

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<v Speaker 1>so much effort into Christmas that by the time valent

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<v Speaker 1>Valentine's Day rolls around, I'm like just coming out of

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<v Speaker 1>the Christmas coma and it's like I just got you

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<v Speaker 1>a gift, Now I gotta get you something else. So

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<v Speaker 1>I always get flowers, and then her birthday comes up,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, I'll that's try. I gotta get you

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<v Speaker 1>something else because it's your birthday. I've kind of adopted

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<v Speaker 1>the idea of not giving uh material gifts anymore. Like

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<v Speaker 1>maybe if you like make something, I guess that's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>But like I'm I I and This is like a

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<v Speaker 1>new concept that I'm just like starting to try out

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<v Speaker 1>this year, specifically for Christmas with my family. Um where

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna be giving like experiential gifts. Hugs. Hugs,

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<v Speaker 1>They're fine, Uh, more like experiential things like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>my family is coming out to us in Vegas this year,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm gonna like get us all tickets to a

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<v Speaker 1>Broncos game or go and see a Cirt Day Slay

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<v Speaker 1>show because or the Matrix comes out, We're gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>see the Matrix definitely. Are you a big Matrix fan? Uh? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>My brothers are huge, huge Matrix fans, and I like,

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<v Speaker 1>I like the movie series quite a bit, so I

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<v Speaker 1>have your brother Matrix Resurrections. I'm counting down the days

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<v Speaker 1>we don't have to talk about the Matrix because we're

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<v Speaker 1>a dating podcast and no one gives about it. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Trinity and Neo and we can talk about

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<v Speaker 1>that a little bit. It's a love story right there. Yeah. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's that's you know, if you're looking for some

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<v Speaker 1>gift giving advice, maybe take that into consideration too. Instead

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<v Speaker 1>of getting like a material thing, get more of like

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<v Speaker 1>a you know, I don't know, some sort of nice

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<v Speaker 1>little romantic experiencial gesture. Um, by the way, you didn't ask,

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<v Speaker 1>but my Thanksgiving was really good. First of all, I

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<v Speaker 1>was waiting till you're done, and then I was about

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<v Speaker 1>to ask, saying, hey, how was your Thanksgiving? What did

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<v Speaker 1>you do? No, let's talk about yours a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>more hired, what did you do? No? Ours was fine.

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<v Speaker 1>We just we went to Kaylin's grandparents house. Um, we

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<v Speaker 1>were a little worried because, you know, as we talked

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<v Speaker 1>about last week a little bit, I wasn't feeling super

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<v Speaker 1>super good at Ben's wedding. I had the flu, and

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<v Speaker 1>Caitlin started getting a little sick too, and uh, we

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<v Speaker 1>like didn't want to go to Caylin's grandparents house if

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<v Speaker 1>either of us are feeling ill at all. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>fully recovered and Caylin woke up the day before Thanksgiving.

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<v Speaker 1>Fee But yeah, so we went to Caylin's grandparents house

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<v Speaker 1>and her uncle came over with his new wife, and uh,

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<v Speaker 1>just played some board games, you know, just kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like the more traditional Thanksgiving experience rather than going out

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<v Speaker 1>to dinner, which I don't I don't hate the going

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<v Speaker 1>out to dinner thing. I gotta say, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't have to clean up after yourself. No one

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<v Speaker 1>has to worry about bringing dishes and like cooking ing

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<v Speaker 1>and all that kind of stuff. So I see the appeal,

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<v Speaker 1>but it sounds like you're never gonna want to do

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<v Speaker 1>it again, is that right? Yeah? No, I like it.

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<v Speaker 1>I like being at home. That's where I want to be. Uh.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's the bottom line. As they say, we do

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<v Speaker 1>have some hot topics. I guess we should start talking

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<v Speaker 1>about dating at some point besides our own lives before

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<v Speaker 1>we get to the hot topics though, because I'm looking

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<v Speaker 1>at the same run down as you. Yeah, and the

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<v Speaker 1>hot topics are great. I feel like a lot has

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<v Speaker 1>happened within the Bachelor world this past week that we like,

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<v Speaker 1>we can't not talk about those things. You know, Despite

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that we try not to be a bachelor podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>the fact remains that we, um, there were two guys

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<v Speaker 1>from the Bachelor franchise, both of which you're dating someone

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<v Speaker 1>who you met on Bachelor Paradise. I'm married and expecting

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<v Speaker 1>a kid who someone I met in Bachelor Paradise. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>let's be honest, we're a little bit of a Bachelor podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>So we've got to talk about it a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>and um, yeah, I think there's a lot of bad

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<v Speaker 1>news that came out recently within the Bachelor franchise dating

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<v Speaker 1>all the way back. Let's start like Dale and Claire

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<v Speaker 1>broke up, bad news. But and we see that Katie

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<v Speaker 1>and Blake broke up, and then not long after, we

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<v Speaker 1>see that Tasha and Zach broke up. So that's that's

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<v Speaker 1>the last three bachelorettes in a row that had just

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<v Speaker 1>broken up with their um final selection. Who's the bachelorette

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<v Speaker 1>before the Tassia and Claire season? Who the hell was that?

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<v Speaker 1>That wasn't Hannah, was it? I think it was John.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I'm losing my mind. Now I have to figure

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<v Speaker 1>that out because now I'm curious who's the last person

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<v Speaker 1>to be Who's the last bachelorette to be the person

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<v Speaker 1>they picked? Because remember, for a while there, Bachelorette was

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<v Speaker 1>kicking Bachelor's ass in terms of couples that have lasted, right,

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<v Speaker 1>But I think the last one was Rachel. Was my

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<v Speaker 1>bachelorette was Rachel and Brian who's now obviously married to Brian.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she's the last successful bachelorette because it went Rachel. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>and I gotta look this up. Becca Rachel, Becca, Hannah, Claire, Tasha, Katie. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's right. It's the last four in row. Now we

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<v Speaker 1>have got Michelle season airing, and obviously we don't know

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<v Speaker 1>who she chooses yet, but she's got a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>pressure on her shoulders. I feel like to make it work.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Did you have you followed the breakup

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<v Speaker 1>saga with any of these couples in the past couple

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<v Speaker 1>of like weeks or days. Yeah, I mean I've caught

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<v Speaker 1>up a little bit. The Tasia and Zach Juan is

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<v Speaker 1>obviously the saddest in my opinion, because one, I really

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<v Speaker 1>like Tassia. She is a sweetheart, and Zach seemed like

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<v Speaker 1>he probably is still obviously I'm super down to earth,

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<v Speaker 1>easygoing guy. I just didn't work out between the two

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<v Speaker 1>of them, which really sucks because I liked them together. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>for example, Tasia FaceTime to Ashley and was crying when

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<v Speaker 1>we announced we were having a kid and it was

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<v Speaker 1>the sweetest moment ever. So I was like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>really wish that Tassia and Zach were gonna work out. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, Well, so who did you say? So? Who

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<v Speaker 1>is the bachelorette before Um, Katie, Tassia, Claire, cla It

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't gonna Holy crap, Why does that feel like seven

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<v Speaker 1>years ago? And Becca, which I guess I didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>account in to that too. That's five in ourrow. Becca, Hannah, Tasha, Claire, Katie.

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<v Speaker 1>All five of those bachelorettes broke up with their final selection. Wow. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you're right, the last one with Rachel because there was

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<v Speaker 1>a hot streak going Caitlin with Sean and then Jojo

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<v Speaker 1>with Jordan's Rachel with Brian. I know, but then obviously

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<v Speaker 1>Sean and Caitlin broke up, so that doesn't count with

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<v Speaker 1>the hot streak. No, it doesn't. It was a hot streak,

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<v Speaker 1>no more hot streak. It ended, and then who desire

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<v Speaker 1>still with her guy man? So it was Andy before

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<v Speaker 1>Andy Dorfman picked Josh Murray. That's crazy to me. It's

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<v Speaker 1>so weird thinking about that. Now, Desiree picked Chris. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember that because I've become friends with Brooks. Brooks was

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<v Speaker 1>on that season and he left, long story. And then

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<v Speaker 1>the season before that, Emily Maynard picked Jeff Home that's

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<v Speaker 1>in sanity. And then now we're going way back. Wow, dude, Yeah, bachelorette,

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on? Why are these couples breaking up? Are we? Are?

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<v Speaker 1>We just not we? We don't believe in love anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's just a whole show thing because even

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<v Speaker 1>the bachelors haven't really been Matt and Rachel I think,

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<v Speaker 1>are still together, but like not engaged. Besides them who

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<v Speaker 1>are yeah, not not engaged. Um, there's also been a

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<v Speaker 1>pretty soury streak for the bachelors too, So I just

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like something's going on, something's in the in

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<v Speaker 1>the water. Maybe um, that they're feeding their contestants. Matt

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<v Speaker 1>and Rachel together all right, so hopefully they work out.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see they're just dating boyfriend girlfriend, so I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how serious it is. Peter obviously did not work

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<v Speaker 1>out Colton. We all know what happened with there Ari

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<v Speaker 1>Pitt to Becca, but obviously made the switch and went

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<v Speaker 1>with Lauren. Are we counting that that counts? I count

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<v Speaker 1>that too? Uh? Nick? Obviously we all know half of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Ben we all know just coming from his wedding. Chris

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<v Speaker 1>obviously did not work with Whitney. Wow, so Sean and

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<v Speaker 1>Catherine so the last guy because listen, if if we're

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<v Speaker 1>not if we're saying like Ari didn't pick, like he

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<v Speaker 1>he switched then the last guy to be still with

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<v Speaker 1>the woman he picked with Sean and Catherine from two

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<v Speaker 1>thousand and thirteen. Holy craps, I was I think I

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<v Speaker 1>was still in middle school in two thousand and thirteen.

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<v Speaker 1>Got shot. I know you're worried. You're almost as old

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<v Speaker 1>as me. They're on. So I want to go through

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<v Speaker 1>Bachelor in Paradise couples now because I really think b

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<v Speaker 1>I P. That's where it's at. That's like the saving

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<v Speaker 1>grace for the couples of the franchise. I think let's uh,

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<v Speaker 1>let's let's exclude this most recent season. It's too recent

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<v Speaker 1>to include them in the list. Yeah, should we take

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<v Speaker 1>a quick break and then come back with the Bachelor

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<v Speaker 1>Paradise couples because we're already pretty good. Let's take a

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<v Speaker 1>quick break and then we're gonna come back and remind

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<v Speaker 1>everybody of who's still together from Bachelor in Paradise because

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<v Speaker 1>Bachelorette and Bachelor kind of sucking right now and they

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<v Speaker 1>need to step up the game. But rather than just

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<v Speaker 1>reminding everyone of the couples, I want to I want

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<v Speaker 1>to see if you've got any like juicy inside scoop.

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<v Speaker 1>So stick around through the break and we'll see what

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<v Speaker 1>Jared and uh his wife have been talking about over

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<v Speaker 1>there in Rhode Island. So you're back, all right, Jared,

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<v Speaker 1>we're back. So tell us. So you're you're about to

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<v Speaker 1>get into the Bachelor in Paradise couples from let's go

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<v Speaker 1>like six and and earlier, because like I said, seven

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<v Speaker 1>is just a little too recent too, I think group

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<v Speaker 1>them into the conversation. All right, So we're not counting

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<v Speaker 1>this season, So Kenny, Maury, Kenny, Murray, Riley and Marissa

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<v Speaker 1>and Joe and Serena don't count. Okay, I'm good with that.

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<v Speaker 1>So we have Dylan and Hannah who are still engaged.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you know if they're planning? Are you friends with Dylan?

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<v Speaker 1>Are they like planning a wedding? I think so. Dylan, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>he's he's a bit of an uh an anomaly. Is

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<v Speaker 1>that the word I'm looking for? Yeah, he's he's a

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<v Speaker 1>weird guy. I like him a lot though. Oh he's yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he's a nice guy. Um, but yeah, I'm sure they're

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<v Speaker 1>planning something. Astrid and Kevin, who are in gauge but

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<v Speaker 1>are I just had a kid, so I'm assuming they're

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<v Speaker 1>planning to still get married. Oh um, congratulations to Kevin

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<v Speaker 1>and Astrid by the way, sure, Uh yeah, anyway, I

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<v Speaker 1>digress Number six on this list Dean anglerd and Kaylin

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<v Speaker 1>Miller Keys. Look at that. Look at that young Dylan Dylan.

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<v Speaker 1>Look at that young Dean face right there. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's why did you go Hannah Dylan as Kevin and

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<v Speaker 1>then me and Kaylin? You went season six to season five.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I'm sorry, I'm literally I'm just on what

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<v Speaker 1>article in my on Pure Wow the fifteen. Uh so

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<v Speaker 1>they're just going through bachelor and paradise couples who are

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<v Speaker 1>still together. I don't think there's really any rhyme or

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<v Speaker 1>reason as to why you guys are before or after them. Cool.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought you were the one using the order, so

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<v Speaker 1>that makes sense, thinks you know what's cool? It says,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it gives like the next couple is you

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<v Speaker 1>and Kalin obviously, and it gives a status on everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>For example, it says engaged for Dylan and Hannah, gauge

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<v Speaker 1>for Kevin and Astrid, status married question mark. So even

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<v Speaker 1>this uh pure Wow doesn't know if you guys are

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<v Speaker 1>actually married or not. We love to keep it a mystery, baby,

0:17:06.520 --> 0:17:09.359
<v Speaker 1>it says. Dean low Key confirmed that he's a married

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<v Speaker 1>man during a promo for the Lovebirds movie. That was

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, you were there with me. They told me

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<v Speaker 1>to say something about my wife or that I was married,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, yeah, sure, I'll say it. Why not, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that'll be fun. Cool, let's do it. Um. Adam and

0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:32.399
<v Speaker 1>Raven obviously just married Adam. Raven is pregnant, so they're

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<v Speaker 1>doing very well, it seems, which is exciting to hear.

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<v Speaker 1>The next couple on this list, Jared and Ashley. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, that's you. That's look at me. That's how

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<v Speaker 1>are they doing? They're doing all right. That was a

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<v Speaker 1>picture of me with my shirt off in Bachelor Paradise

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<v Speaker 1>season two when I had abs. Those were good days.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, it's funny. Jason Tardik posted a throwback

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<v Speaker 1>photo of like him and me and a couple other

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<v Speaker 1>guys in Vegas, like a couple of years ago, and

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<v Speaker 1>just saying like how he wished he could be at

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<v Speaker 1>Ben's wedding, but he in it and we were all shirtless,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I literally had a six pack,

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<v Speaker 1>and that concept just seems so foreign to me right now. Mhmm, yeah, man,

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<v Speaker 1>it sucks like just four one out for the homies,

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<v Speaker 1>all six of them. Umm, Jaden Tanner married. No inside scoop.

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<v Speaker 1>They're they're doing very well, very happy, three kids, beautiful kids.

0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:24.600
<v Speaker 1>Emmy is just I love Emmy so much. I love

0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:26.680
<v Speaker 1>Brooks and Read too, obviously, but we have a very

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<v Speaker 1>close connection with that mean, she's the best. Uh. Evan

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<v Speaker 1>and Carly, that's an interesting one because I think that

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<v Speaker 1>they're not together still. Like I knew that they were

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<v Speaker 1>trying to work things out, and I I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>where the relationship stands now. I gotta be honest. I

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<v Speaker 1>think that they're not together still, And because then didn't

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<v Speaker 1>they announced they were finally. Yeah, in December two, the

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<v Speaker 1>couple announced that they're calling it quits. So I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think there's I think they're still not together. I mean, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>if I was car really, I wouldn't want to be

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<v Speaker 1>with Evan either, So I totally get where she's coming from.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right, I forgot about you guys. Had that feud

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<v Speaker 1>well very imaginary. I'm just kidding. Evan seems like a

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<v Speaker 1>nice guy. I just gotta keep the feud alive. So, Evan,

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<v Speaker 1>you're definitely not listening to this. If you are listening

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<v Speaker 1>to this, d m Evan and tell him I always

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<v Speaker 1>talking a lot of crap about him on the Help

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<v Speaker 1>I Suck a Dating podcast? Is that it for the

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<v Speaker 1>couples that are together, because now all the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>the couples are ones that got together but are no

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<v Speaker 1>longer together, like, for example, in the next couple is

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<v Speaker 1>Chris and Crystal, which is really sad because I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's the only divorce in Bachelor Nation as of right now,

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't think Evan and Carley are officially divorced yet.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know yet. Um well, yeah, I mean it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like they're well I guess maybe just Bachelor Paradise

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<v Speaker 1>is more recent than Oh, I guess that's not because

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<v Speaker 1>like Tasia, Katie Claire, who else? Like I'm just naming Peter,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just naming leads that have been on the show

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<v Speaker 1>since both of us have been in relationship. I miss book.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mean. I didn't mean what I said. I

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<v Speaker 1>think you just have more time to spend with another

0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:03.040
<v Speaker 1>person on Bachelor in Paradise. See you kind of know

0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:04.639
<v Speaker 1>what you're getting yourself into a little bit better than

0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:07.080
<v Speaker 1>you do on the Bachelor and Bachelorette. But I guess

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<v Speaker 1>I got some questions for you about the breakups specifically,

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<v Speaker 1>so as we talked about a little bit, Tatian and

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<v Speaker 1>Zach broke up, Katie and Blake broke up. What do

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<v Speaker 1>you think lays ahead for all four of those individuals?

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<v Speaker 1>Like I could see Tasha dating um, like I don't

0:20:26.160 --> 0:20:30.600
<v Speaker 1>know Chris Pratt or something like that, like Chris is

0:20:30.720 --> 0:20:34.560
<v Speaker 1>Chris Pratt married to Arnold Scharstenegger's daughter Chris Pratt type,

0:20:34.600 --> 0:20:36.760
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, Like I got it about

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<v Speaker 1>Chris Evans. I think Chris Evans is single America. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like like an a list like a B list, bordering

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<v Speaker 1>a list celebrity. I could see Tasha dating Zach. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know anything about Zach, so I'm going to leave

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<v Speaker 1>that out. He seems like a nice guy. I could

0:20:51.400 --> 0:20:54.879
<v Speaker 1>see him, I guess dating like some sort of like

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<v Speaker 1>an inspirational speaker. Maybe just because Yeah, that seems nice.

0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:01.200
<v Speaker 1>I like that he's that seems like a good life.

0:21:02.240 --> 0:21:05.080
<v Speaker 1>I know it's it's always like sad to like, it's

0:21:05.080 --> 0:21:07.760
<v Speaker 1>always sad to talk about future relationships after if someone

0:21:07.840 --> 0:21:09.480
<v Speaker 1>just gets out of a relationship. But you know, we

0:21:09.520 --> 0:21:11.600
<v Speaker 1>host a podcast and we're trying to create content, so

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna do it anyway. I think true. Here's I'm

0:21:14.280 --> 0:21:16.800
<v Speaker 1>putting out in the universe right now. I love Chris

0:21:16.800 --> 0:21:21.760
<v Speaker 1>Evans because he's a Boston guy, He's Captain America. He

0:21:21.840 --> 0:21:24.439
<v Speaker 1>seems super he loves Tom Brady. He was doing an

0:21:24.440 --> 0:21:26.720
<v Speaker 1>interview about how nervous he was to meet Tom Brady,

0:21:26.760 --> 0:21:28.760
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, dude, I relate to this guy

0:21:29.160 --> 0:21:31.119
<v Speaker 1>so hard. I need to meet him and hang out.

0:21:31.119 --> 0:21:32.520
<v Speaker 1>I feel like him and I would be best friends.

0:21:32.640 --> 0:21:35.680
<v Speaker 1>So for selfish purposes, what I need to happen now

0:21:36.200 --> 0:21:39.639
<v Speaker 1>is I need Taisha to start dating Chris Evans so

0:21:39.680 --> 0:21:42.560
<v Speaker 1>we can go on a double day and make all

0:21:42.560 --> 0:21:45.160
<v Speaker 1>of my dreams come true. Like, Tasha, I love you

0:21:45.240 --> 0:21:47.439
<v Speaker 1>and and I hope the best for you, but you

0:21:47.520 --> 0:21:50.920
<v Speaker 1>need to do this for me. Okay, well yeah, let's

0:21:50.920 --> 0:21:54.280
<v Speaker 1>willet into existence. Uh, Chris Evans, if you're listening to

0:21:54.280 --> 0:21:56.720
<v Speaker 1>this podcast, and sure you know there's a chance um

0:21:58.280 --> 0:22:02.800
<v Speaker 1>call just DM or slide and she'll answer, don't Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>But You're right, it is weird to talk about new

0:22:04.960 --> 0:22:08.680
<v Speaker 1>relationshiphip new relationships for people that have just left relationships,

0:22:09.240 --> 0:22:11.760
<v Speaker 1>but I think it's natural. Yeah. I mean, we're especially

0:22:11.840 --> 0:22:14.560
<v Speaker 1>our lives, Like dude, our entire lives, our entire public

0:22:14.600 --> 0:22:17.240
<v Speaker 1>lives is centered around our dating because that's what we're

0:22:17.240 --> 0:22:19.320
<v Speaker 1>known for. We went on a dating show, so and

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that they're doing all right, you know. And

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, I hated that for so long, especially

0:22:24.760 --> 0:22:29.800
<v Speaker 1>when I was single. Um being known for like to

0:22:29.920 --> 0:22:31.960
<v Speaker 1>only be known because I went on a dating show,

0:22:32.000 --> 0:22:35.199
<v Speaker 1>so that everyone only focuses on your dating life is

0:22:35.240 --> 0:22:37.360
<v Speaker 1>like one of the most stressful things because like let's

0:22:37.359 --> 0:22:39.200
<v Speaker 1>say you're like an athlete or something, when like all

0:22:39.200 --> 0:22:41.159
<v Speaker 1>people care about is you playing the sport that you're

0:22:41.160 --> 0:22:43.000
<v Speaker 1>an athlete in, and no one cares about like your

0:22:43.000 --> 0:22:45.360
<v Speaker 1>personal life more or less. And dating is a very

0:22:45.359 --> 0:22:47.239
<v Speaker 1>personal thing. So it's like the fact that people are

0:22:47.280 --> 0:22:50.000
<v Speaker 1>so invested in both good and bad ways in that

0:22:50.040 --> 0:22:51.879
<v Speaker 1>part of your life, Like when you're single, it just

0:22:51.960 --> 0:22:54.159
<v Speaker 1>as an incredibly stressful experience. At least in my experience,

0:22:54.160 --> 0:22:58.920
<v Speaker 1>it was incredibly stressful. So I I don't envy any

0:22:59.000 --> 0:23:00.600
<v Speaker 1>of these people that just went through Rake ups. But

0:23:00.680 --> 0:23:04.480
<v Speaker 1>did you see so Katie did this weird like twelve

0:23:04.560 --> 0:23:08.320
<v Speaker 1>days of Messy thing um, which I think was a

0:23:08.400 --> 0:23:10.840
<v Speaker 1>tribute to Taylor Swift. And on the last day she

0:23:10.920 --> 0:23:14.240
<v Speaker 1>announced that she is dating another guy from her season

0:23:14.240 --> 0:23:18.560
<v Speaker 1>that she sent home like week two. Have you seen that? Yeah,

0:23:18.960 --> 0:23:22.240
<v Speaker 1>it's this guy John, because wasn't there, Like yeah, I

0:23:22.400 --> 0:23:24.360
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I mean, I got nothing for you. It's

0:23:24.640 --> 0:23:28.480
<v Speaker 1>like the twelve Days of x IS or whatever. I mean,

0:23:28.800 --> 0:23:31.440
<v Speaker 1>didn't she just break she just broke up with Blake,

0:23:31.600 --> 0:23:34.800
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't know. I'm also like not the guy

0:23:34.840 --> 0:23:38.120
<v Speaker 1>that it gets into, like the whole shade thing. Legitimately,

0:23:38.240 --> 0:23:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I had like a hour and a half conversation with

0:23:42.320 --> 0:23:45.640
<v Speaker 1>my other managers here Audrey's about the whole Jake, Jillen

0:23:45.720 --> 0:23:49.080
<v Speaker 1>Hall and Taylor Swift thing, and like I was like,

0:23:49.119 --> 0:23:51.400
<v Speaker 1>why is she throwing shade towards Jyllan Horror? Like apparently

0:23:51.400 --> 0:23:53.240
<v Speaker 1>it was not a new song. It was a song

0:23:53.280 --> 0:23:55.200
<v Speaker 1>that she wrote. But I saw something on line about

0:23:55.200 --> 0:23:57.199
<v Speaker 1>how she was staring shade towards Jillen Hall and they

0:23:57.200 --> 0:23:58.920
<v Speaker 1>did ten years ago. I don't know what the hell

0:23:58.960 --> 0:24:01.639
<v Speaker 1>is going on. So anyway, the same thing, like I

0:24:01.720 --> 0:24:03.919
<v Speaker 1>got no time for that, Like especially like guys that

0:24:03.960 --> 0:24:06.919
<v Speaker 1>she dated on her season, like come on, they're just like,

0:24:07.040 --> 0:24:09.440
<v Speaker 1>let's all, let's all move on here. She like added

0:24:09.480 --> 0:24:12.479
<v Speaker 1>new lyrics or something that specifically referred to Jake Jillen Hall.

0:24:12.520 --> 0:24:16.120
<v Speaker 1>I think is maybe what it was. Um, I think

0:24:17.440 --> 0:24:19.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't know Katie, I don't know Blake, I don't

0:24:19.320 --> 0:24:23.160
<v Speaker 1>know John. From what I've seen of all three of them,

0:24:23.240 --> 0:24:25.919
<v Speaker 1>I like Blake. He seems like a nice guy. Not

0:24:26.000 --> 0:24:29.680
<v Speaker 1>a big fan of Katie. Um, she just seems uh,

0:24:29.840 --> 0:24:34.120
<v Speaker 1>for lack of a better word, and sufferable. And um,

0:24:34.240 --> 0:24:36.760
<v Speaker 1>John seems really cool. I was creeping on John's instagram,

0:24:37.119 --> 0:24:39.959
<v Speaker 1>I think earlier this morning, and he's like a skydiver.

0:24:40.119 --> 0:24:43.040
<v Speaker 1>He flies planes. He you know, he does he We

0:24:43.080 --> 0:24:44.919
<v Speaker 1>have a lot of shared interests. So John seems like

0:24:44.920 --> 0:24:47.560
<v Speaker 1>a good guy. I just hope that Katie's got it

0:24:47.560 --> 0:24:50.760
<v Speaker 1>figured out because I'm sure Blake was hurt from the breakup.

0:24:50.920 --> 0:24:52.359
<v Speaker 1>I mean, how could you not be you were engaged

0:24:52.400 --> 0:24:54.600
<v Speaker 1>to this person. I reached out to Blake and I

0:24:54.680 --> 0:24:56.679
<v Speaker 1>was like, hey, man, like, I'm sorry you're going through this.

0:24:56.800 --> 0:24:58.800
<v Speaker 1>I can't offer anything, but but if there's anthing I

0:24:58.800 --> 0:25:00.720
<v Speaker 1>can do, let me know, and he always really nice.

0:25:00.720 --> 0:25:03.280
<v Speaker 1>He's like, oh, yeah, you know, it's uh, it's a

0:25:03.440 --> 0:25:05.880
<v Speaker 1>time of grieving. I don't know exactly what he said.

0:25:05.880 --> 0:25:07.479
<v Speaker 1>He was like, yeah, I'm sad, but thanks for reaching out. It.

0:25:07.560 --> 0:25:09.360
<v Speaker 1>So I like, Blake, Blake seems like a really nice guy.

0:25:09.480 --> 0:25:14.200
<v Speaker 1>Who do you think broke up with? Who? I think?

0:25:15.240 --> 0:25:17.240
<v Speaker 1>And do you have any inside knowledge on this, seeing

0:25:17.280 --> 0:25:20.120
<v Speaker 1>how you're talking directly to the source. No, I've I've

0:25:20.200 --> 0:25:23.280
<v Speaker 1>literally exchanged two messages with Blake I cot and it's

0:25:23.280 --> 0:25:27.840
<v Speaker 1>actually pretty funny. I congratulated him for getting engaged. I said, hey, May, congratulations.

0:25:27.880 --> 0:25:29.399
<v Speaker 1>You seem like a really cool guy. And then the

0:25:29.440 --> 0:25:32.600
<v Speaker 1>next message, I'm sorry that you guys broke up. Yeah,

0:25:32.680 --> 0:25:34.640
<v Speaker 1>and he was like, oh, thanks so much. Like I've

0:25:34.920 --> 0:25:37.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, people have compared us because you know, we're

0:25:37.480 --> 0:25:39.800
<v Speaker 1>like being outside. And that was the end of the conversation.

0:25:39.840 --> 0:25:41.840
<v Speaker 1>And then like three months later I's text right message

0:25:41.880 --> 0:25:43.800
<v Speaker 1>of again. I was like, hey man, sorry about your breakup.

0:25:44.040 --> 0:25:47.000
<v Speaker 1>So those are two messages in a row, one congratulating again,

0:25:47.040 --> 0:25:50.600
<v Speaker 1>one grieving with it. So I don't know anything about

0:25:50.640 --> 0:25:53.240
<v Speaker 1>it anything. I have got no inside Scoop. I would

0:25:53.280 --> 0:25:56.440
<v Speaker 1>say though, that Katie is probably the one that broke

0:25:56.480 --> 0:25:59.280
<v Speaker 1>up with Blake. Blake seems like the kind of guy, like, yeah,

0:25:59.320 --> 0:26:01.919
<v Speaker 1>he like you know, they live in very far off

0:26:02.000 --> 0:26:04.880
<v Speaker 1>lands from each other, once in California, ones in Canada.

0:26:05.520 --> 0:26:06.760
<v Speaker 1>I love that. I use to stay in the country

0:26:06.840 --> 0:26:08.720
<v Speaker 1>to compare places. That's not really how it should work.

0:26:08.760 --> 0:26:11.040
<v Speaker 1>But I don't know what province Blake lives in, so

0:26:11.640 --> 0:26:15.080
<v Speaker 1>um so that's that's obviously not a good thing. But

0:26:15.119 --> 0:26:19.200
<v Speaker 1>Blake was like going to Africa that all this time. Um,

0:26:19.320 --> 0:26:22.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, man, It's just it's just I feel

0:26:22.119 --> 0:26:23.680
<v Speaker 1>like Blake would have like tried to make it work.

0:26:23.800 --> 0:26:26.760
<v Speaker 1>And it seems like Katie was the one that instigated

0:26:26.800 --> 0:26:28.840
<v Speaker 1>the breakup and now she's like posting about her new

0:26:28.880 --> 0:26:33.760
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend like a couple of weeks after the breakup. So yeah,

0:26:33.800 --> 0:26:36.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, for for not having any information about anything

0:26:37.000 --> 0:26:38.760
<v Speaker 1>when it comes to this kind of stuff, it seems

0:26:38.800 --> 0:26:43.359
<v Speaker 1>like Katie's being, um a little tacky with everything. I

0:26:43.400 --> 0:26:46.199
<v Speaker 1>think a lot of times when people leave Bachelor So

0:26:46.240 --> 0:26:49.520
<v Speaker 1>maybe paradise this helps because you have more time to

0:26:49.560 --> 0:26:51.920
<v Speaker 1>talk about it. But it just seems like long distance

0:26:52.560 --> 0:26:56.720
<v Speaker 1>becomes such a great issue in a relationship, specifically when

0:26:56.720 --> 0:27:00.439
<v Speaker 1>people leave Bachelor, which makes sense, of course, because the

0:27:00.480 --> 0:27:03.280
<v Speaker 1>location of where you live is extremely important. And I'm

0:27:03.320 --> 0:27:05.199
<v Speaker 1>not even talking just about Katie and Blake because I

0:27:05.200 --> 0:27:07.600
<v Speaker 1>have no idea if if the distance was really the

0:27:07.640 --> 0:27:10.920
<v Speaker 1>grease of the issue. But it's crazy to me because

0:27:11.119 --> 0:27:14.320
<v Speaker 1>I remember being on the show thinking, you know, once

0:27:14.320 --> 0:27:16.439
<v Speaker 1>we started getting into like the final six with Caitlin,

0:27:16.680 --> 0:27:19.520
<v Speaker 1>like it was gonna be like we had conversations about

0:27:19.560 --> 0:27:21.720
<v Speaker 1>like would you live in Rhode Island if she wanted

0:27:21.720 --> 0:27:23.679
<v Speaker 1>to live in Nashville, and it was like, oh, you know,

0:27:23.720 --> 0:27:25.480
<v Speaker 1>I could see myself being Nashville for a while, but

0:27:25.480 --> 0:27:27.200
<v Speaker 1>I've always wanted to go back, and like it never

0:27:27.240 --> 0:27:31.440
<v Speaker 1>got serious obviously, but like those conversations were actively happening,

0:27:32.080 --> 0:27:36.679
<v Speaker 1>and I don't know, it's just like I feel like

0:27:37.080 --> 0:27:39.440
<v Speaker 1>it happens multiple times when two people, like they get

0:27:39.440 --> 0:27:42.160
<v Speaker 1>engaged on the show and then they leave and they're like, Okay,

0:27:42.200 --> 0:27:43.840
<v Speaker 1>well I don't want to move, and the other person's like,

0:27:43.880 --> 0:27:45.439
<v Speaker 1>well I don't want to move, and you're like, you

0:27:45.440 --> 0:27:47.719
<v Speaker 1>guys didn't think about that, Like you didn't. I know,

0:27:47.800 --> 0:27:50.439
<v Speaker 1>it's so heavy, and you know, everything is so heightened

0:27:50.480 --> 0:27:52.119
<v Speaker 1>and you're in the same location, so I guess you're

0:27:52.119 --> 0:27:55.679
<v Speaker 1>not really thinking too far ahead. But damn, that's crazy.

0:27:56.119 --> 0:27:58.160
<v Speaker 1>Like I remember, I had to I had to move

0:27:58.200 --> 0:27:59.560
<v Speaker 1>to I had to stay in l a f ash

0:27:59.640 --> 0:28:01.399
<v Speaker 1>which sense, it's like, I gotta make a decision. I'm

0:28:01.400 --> 0:28:02.879
<v Speaker 1>gonna stay in Los Angeles for a little while. And

0:28:02.880 --> 0:28:04.280
<v Speaker 1>then she was like, great, and then I'll move to

0:28:04.280 --> 0:28:06.480
<v Speaker 1>a Rhode Island for you years down the down the line,

0:28:06.720 --> 0:28:09.760
<v Speaker 1>and now here we are now in Rhode Island. I

0:28:09.800 --> 0:28:12.200
<v Speaker 1>think a big um, I agree with everything you just said.

0:28:12.240 --> 0:28:16.280
<v Speaker 1>I think another benefiting factor for something like Bachelor in

0:28:16.320 --> 0:28:19.560
<v Speaker 1>Paradise is if you go on the Bachelor Bachelorette, you

0:28:19.960 --> 0:28:22.399
<v Speaker 1>and you come off the show in a relationship, and

0:28:22.440 --> 0:28:24.199
<v Speaker 1>then the show starts airing and you start getting all

0:28:24.200 --> 0:28:29.080
<v Speaker 1>this attention and whatever. It's like kind of a lot

0:28:29.240 --> 0:28:32.080
<v Speaker 1>to take on all the same time while also fostering

0:28:32.080 --> 0:28:35.560
<v Speaker 1>a new relationship. And so the the perk of Bachelor

0:28:35.560 --> 0:28:38.520
<v Speaker 1>in Paradise, which I think is seldom spoken about, is

0:28:38.640 --> 0:28:41.400
<v Speaker 1>you've already kind of had that experience of like going

0:28:41.440 --> 0:28:44.400
<v Speaker 1>on TV and like dealing with the aftermath of being

0:28:44.440 --> 0:28:48.400
<v Speaker 1>on TV, and like people you know, talking about you

0:28:48.680 --> 0:28:50.320
<v Speaker 1>on social media and like all that kind of stuff.

0:28:50.320 --> 0:28:52.200
<v Speaker 1>So it kind of gives you like an added perspective

0:28:52.240 --> 0:28:54.760
<v Speaker 1>going into it. So there's no you know, like like

0:28:54.760 --> 0:28:57.080
<v Speaker 1>when I came off the show the first time, I

0:28:57.120 --> 0:28:59.480
<v Speaker 1>was like going to bars and girls were like, oh

0:28:59.520 --> 0:29:01.360
<v Speaker 1>my gosh, that's the guy from TV. And I'm like

0:29:01.400 --> 0:29:04.160
<v Speaker 1>walking around, you know, strutting around, thinking I'm like the

0:29:04.160 --> 0:29:07.440
<v Speaker 1>coolest guy in the world. Like people are talking about me,

0:29:07.600 --> 0:29:11.600
<v Speaker 1>girls are like buying me drinks, um, and eventually, like

0:29:11.600 --> 0:29:13.480
<v Speaker 1>that gets old. So like I was, I had a

0:29:13.480 --> 0:29:15.600
<v Speaker 1>good experience of like going on the show, having my

0:29:15.720 --> 0:29:18.120
<v Speaker 1>fun for a year or two and now I'm very

0:29:18.120 --> 0:29:20.880
<v Speaker 1>happily in a relationship with Kalen. But if you were

0:29:20.920 --> 0:29:23.080
<v Speaker 1>to leave the show in a relationship, you can't really

0:29:23.120 --> 0:29:27.880
<v Speaker 1>like get to take in all of the weird fun

0:29:28.120 --> 0:29:30.080
<v Speaker 1>that you can experience from going on TV for the

0:29:30.080 --> 0:29:32.880
<v Speaker 1>first time, you know what I mean. It's a fair point,

0:29:33.400 --> 0:29:38.959
<v Speaker 1>you know, getting attention from the opposite sex, or as

0:29:39.520 --> 0:29:41.320
<v Speaker 1>great as it was to get attention from girls, whenever

0:29:41.360 --> 0:29:42.800
<v Speaker 1>a guy came up to me, it made me so

0:29:42.880 --> 0:29:45.640
<v Speaker 1>much happier. Yeah, what I meant was in terms of

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:50.000
<v Speaker 1>like the temptation of crossing that line into cheating, you

0:29:50.000 --> 0:29:54.280
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, not to you know, make the

0:29:54.280 --> 0:29:57.160
<v Speaker 1>accusations that anybody who's breaking up breaking over that reason.

0:29:57.160 --> 0:29:59.680
<v Speaker 1>But I can totally see as that would be. You know,

0:29:59.760 --> 0:30:02.080
<v Speaker 1>you're out with like other guys that were on your season,

0:30:02.080 --> 0:30:06.240
<v Speaker 1>and like women are just flocking towards them, and you're like, oh,

0:30:06.840 --> 0:30:08.440
<v Speaker 1>and the same thing with women. I'm sure there are

0:30:08.480 --> 0:30:09.760
<v Speaker 1>guys like I'm sure there are a lot of girls

0:30:09.760 --> 0:30:12.760
<v Speaker 1>that leave the show once they get engaged and they're like, oh,

0:30:12.800 --> 0:30:15.320
<v Speaker 1>you know, I could have had that guy, I could

0:30:15.360 --> 0:30:17.600
<v Speaker 1>have had that football player or something like that. No,

0:30:17.680 --> 0:30:19.240
<v Speaker 1>I agree, and I guess I just to be clear,

0:30:19.240 --> 0:30:21.600
<v Speaker 1>I wasn't specifically talking about hooking up, but that obviously

0:30:21.720 --> 0:30:23.240
<v Speaker 1>is a side effect of it, even just like the

0:30:23.240 --> 0:30:26.760
<v Speaker 1>attention you get from every anyone, it's just like, you know,

0:30:26.800 --> 0:30:28.640
<v Speaker 1>it's fun, and it's just it would be it would

0:30:28.640 --> 0:30:31.560
<v Speaker 1>be challenging to do that while also fostering a new

0:30:31.600 --> 0:30:33.360
<v Speaker 1>relationship for the first time. It's a lot of first

0:30:33.400 --> 0:30:36.360
<v Speaker 1>to be dealing with. So it's like such uncharted territory,

0:30:36.400 --> 0:30:38.320
<v Speaker 1>uncharted waters, like you don't know what to expect, and

0:30:38.360 --> 0:30:41.320
<v Speaker 1>yet here you are expected to navigate a relationship successfully,

0:30:41.360 --> 0:30:44.560
<v Speaker 1>like in a in a way, it's like kind of bad,

0:30:44.640 --> 0:30:48.720
<v Speaker 1>like not bad, but like being the last person to you,

0:30:48.800 --> 0:30:51.520
<v Speaker 1>like be standing on the show is like it's a

0:30:51.640 --> 0:30:53.840
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot of work. So I don't know, I

0:30:53.880 --> 0:30:56.480
<v Speaker 1>feel bad for everyone that breaks up. I guess yeah.

0:30:56.520 --> 0:30:58.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean it's not especially being in the spotlight. But

0:30:58.600 --> 0:31:00.960
<v Speaker 1>moral of the story is Batchel in Paradise seems to

0:31:00.960 --> 0:31:05.480
<v Speaker 1>be the healthiest way to uh blossom a relationship coming

0:31:05.480 --> 0:31:07.800
<v Speaker 1>from the Bachelor franchise, that's it seems to be the

0:31:07.840 --> 0:31:21.520
<v Speaker 1>good one. Let's segue into a hot topic. Let's do

0:31:21.560 --> 0:31:23.480
<v Speaker 1>one of these before we take a break and get

0:31:23.480 --> 0:31:26.320
<v Speaker 1>into emails. There's something I wanted to talk about from

0:31:26.520 --> 0:31:29.800
<v Speaker 1>a Daily Mail article that talks about a relationship Coats

0:31:29.840 --> 0:31:34.280
<v Speaker 1>that says that there are five mistakes that apparently can

0:31:34.320 --> 0:31:37.680
<v Speaker 1>lower your sex appeal and the five things men and

0:31:37.720 --> 0:31:41.960
<v Speaker 1>women can do that make them appear unsexy. I feel

0:31:42.000 --> 0:31:46.560
<v Speaker 1>like I do this constantly. I feel my least sexiest

0:31:46.600 --> 0:31:48.400
<v Speaker 1>I think right now that I've felt in a very

0:31:48.400 --> 0:31:51.360
<v Speaker 1>long time. I'm not working out as much, I'm pale,

0:31:51.760 --> 0:31:53.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm not eating as well as I should be because

0:31:53.760 --> 0:31:55.640
<v Speaker 1>I'm working so much, and then when I'm not working

0:31:55.640 --> 0:31:58.040
<v Speaker 1>on with my pregnant wife who only wants to e McDonald's.

0:31:58.240 --> 0:32:02.560
<v Speaker 1>It's not a good time to be the the nutritionist

0:32:02.600 --> 0:32:05.840
<v Speaker 1>in Jared Haven's life. But that's okay. Hey, it's gonna

0:32:05.840 --> 0:32:08.840
<v Speaker 1>almost a new year, my friend. So he talks about

0:32:08.880 --> 0:32:11.440
<v Speaker 1>first the first thing that he goes into this relationship

0:32:11.480 --> 0:32:13.479
<v Speaker 1>coach that says one of the five mistakes that can

0:32:13.520 --> 0:32:16.680
<v Speaker 1>lower your sex appeal is sleep deprivation. A lack of

0:32:16.720 --> 0:32:19.480
<v Speaker 1>sleep was listed as the number one reason why your

0:32:19.520 --> 0:32:22.959
<v Speaker 1>sex appeal might dip. Quote. Not only does it dull

0:32:23.000 --> 0:32:25.920
<v Speaker 1>our skin and decrease our energy, but it also has

0:32:25.960 --> 0:32:31.400
<v Speaker 1>been proven to decrease the appearance of our general attractiveness, health,

0:32:31.560 --> 0:32:36.520
<v Speaker 1>and emotion. Generally speaking, fatigue and sleep deprivation can make

0:32:36.560 --> 0:32:41.400
<v Speaker 1>you appear less attractive totally. Like when I wake up

0:32:41.440 --> 0:32:44.360
<v Speaker 1>after like a horrible night's rest, I look at myself

0:32:44.400 --> 0:32:48.960
<v Speaker 1>in the mirror, and I'm disgusting. I look like I

0:32:49.120 --> 0:32:52.560
<v Speaker 1>look like what do I look like? I look like Frankenstein.

0:32:53.320 --> 0:32:55.680
<v Speaker 1>I look like a troll. I look like a gremlin.

0:32:55.760 --> 0:32:59.480
<v Speaker 1>That's what I look like. Yeah, Yeah, I'm right there

0:32:59.520 --> 0:33:01.160
<v Speaker 1>with you. Every morning I wake up, and I walked

0:33:01.160 --> 0:33:03.440
<v Speaker 1>into the bathroom and I look in the mirror and

0:33:03.480 --> 0:33:05.320
<v Speaker 1>I think today is the day I'm gonna be really

0:33:05.320 --> 0:33:07.200
<v Speaker 1>proud of the man that I'm looking at in the mirror.

0:33:07.320 --> 0:33:11.160
<v Speaker 1>And it just hasn't happened in a long time. Kayln uh.

0:33:11.200 --> 0:33:13.080
<v Speaker 1>I was running around the bedroom naked the other day

0:33:13.080 --> 0:33:14.800
<v Speaker 1>and Caylyn got my phone and was taking pictures of

0:33:14.840 --> 0:33:18.200
<v Speaker 1>me like running away, and um, I just felt really

0:33:18.240 --> 0:33:20.960
<v Speaker 1>bad for her. Honestly, I felt bad that she has

0:33:21.000 --> 0:33:26.440
<v Speaker 1>to look at that whenever I am unclothed. Yeah, I

0:33:26.440 --> 0:33:27.960
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't want to look at it. I wouldn't want to

0:33:27.960 --> 0:33:31.360
<v Speaker 1>look at myself. I'm Harry. I'm like, especially like the

0:33:31.400 --> 0:33:36.480
<v Speaker 1>male body compared to a woman's body. Now, obviously I'm

0:33:36.480 --> 0:33:39.680
<v Speaker 1>a straight man, so I'm attracted to women, so I'm biased,

0:33:40.080 --> 0:33:43.600
<v Speaker 1>But like, I don't know, like I just feel like, God,

0:33:43.720 --> 0:33:47.640
<v Speaker 1>we we smell, We're disgusting, We're Harry, We're like Gangaly.

0:33:48.080 --> 0:33:50.960
<v Speaker 1>Do you ever see that Seinfeld episode? Yeah, I know

0:33:51.080 --> 0:33:54.720
<v Speaker 1>men are not supposed to walk around naked, h and

0:33:54.840 --> 0:33:59.080
<v Speaker 1>especially like well I mean not t m I, but like,

0:34:00.040 --> 0:34:02.880
<v Speaker 1>you know, the penis itself, It's just like when it's

0:34:02.920 --> 0:34:07.560
<v Speaker 1>just there, like, I don't know why as a woman,

0:34:07.560 --> 0:34:09.279
<v Speaker 1>why would you want to be I don't know. I

0:34:09.320 --> 0:34:11.640
<v Speaker 1>don't know how you can like it. Hey, as a

0:34:11.680 --> 0:34:13.640
<v Speaker 1>married man with a child on the way, how often

0:34:13.640 --> 0:34:19.759
<v Speaker 1>do you how often do you man escape? Oh a

0:34:19.920 --> 0:34:23.200
<v Speaker 1>long time, my friend. I feel like posting that meme

0:34:23.280 --> 0:34:25.720
<v Speaker 1>of Titanic on Twitter where it's like it's been eighty

0:34:25.840 --> 0:34:30.640
<v Speaker 1>four years. I mean, actually I I did it last

0:34:30.680 --> 0:34:32.160
<v Speaker 1>week for the first time in a long time, because

0:34:32.160 --> 0:34:34.120
<v Speaker 1>it was like getting out of control. It was like forest,

0:34:34.280 --> 0:34:35.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, like you guys like getting to the was

0:34:35.640 --> 0:34:37.040
<v Speaker 1>it getting to the point where like your pubic hair

0:34:37.120 --> 0:34:39.239
<v Speaker 1>is longer than your dangle or yeah. I was like,

0:34:39.280 --> 0:34:41.440
<v Speaker 1>I gotta I gotta control. I gotta like man up

0:34:41.440 --> 0:34:43.560
<v Speaker 1>and like really take care of myself because I'm I'm

0:34:43.640 --> 0:34:45.920
<v Speaker 1>letting myself go. So I did. I had a nice

0:34:46.000 --> 0:34:48.960
<v Speaker 1>day to my myself and you know, showered and took

0:34:49.000 --> 0:34:51.520
<v Speaker 1>care of everything and felt really good afterwards. So I

0:34:51.560 --> 0:34:53.240
<v Speaker 1>feel like I need to start doing that more often.

0:34:53.840 --> 0:34:56.479
<v Speaker 1>It is it is, um just what We're just gonna

0:34:56.520 --> 0:34:59.600
<v Speaker 1>keep going with the tm my conversation here after doing

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:02.279
<v Speaker 1>the manscaping down there, it just is nice to look

0:35:02.320 --> 0:35:05.719
<v Speaker 1>down because it just looks, um, it just looks a

0:35:05.719 --> 0:35:10.680
<v Speaker 1>little bigger. You know, there's less clutter, there's less less

0:35:10.760 --> 0:35:14.239
<v Speaker 1>things to compare it in length to, and it just

0:35:14.360 --> 0:35:16.719
<v Speaker 1>looks bigger as just as simple as that. So I

0:35:16.760 --> 0:35:19.400
<v Speaker 1>should probably go upstairs afterwards into some escaping after this,

0:35:19.520 --> 0:35:21.640
<v Speaker 1>just to get the confidence boost. But every guy can

0:35:21.640 --> 0:35:25.480
<v Speaker 1>relate to what team just said. Number two, having a

0:35:25.600 --> 0:35:29.640
<v Speaker 1>negative attitude can apparently lower your sex appeal. So this

0:35:29.640 --> 0:35:35.359
<v Speaker 1>this uh missward is her name. The relationship coach said

0:35:35.360 --> 0:35:38.399
<v Speaker 1>that being kind and approachable to others will boost your

0:35:38.480 --> 0:35:42.760
<v Speaker 1>sex appeal, while negative attitude will lowern With this in mind,

0:35:42.880 --> 0:35:46.160
<v Speaker 1>it is important to be positive and open minded when

0:35:46.280 --> 0:35:50.239
<v Speaker 1>dating to make a great first impression. Mean girls and

0:35:50.360 --> 0:35:52.960
<v Speaker 1>mean guys of course they finished last. Okay, Well, they

0:35:52.960 --> 0:35:57.319
<v Speaker 1>often are portrayed as the intimidating, lee attractive one in

0:35:57.400 --> 0:36:01.759
<v Speaker 1>Hollywood or other big budget movies. A perspective, partner with

0:36:01.880 --> 0:36:05.040
<v Speaker 1>a nasty disposition is likely to have lower sex appeal.

0:36:05.400 --> 0:36:07.399
<v Speaker 1>She said, Yeah, that's an interesting one to me. I'm

0:36:07.400 --> 0:36:09.960
<v Speaker 1>not gonna lie. I find guys with the negative attitude,

0:36:10.320 --> 0:36:12.759
<v Speaker 1>they I feel like women are more attracted to them

0:36:12.760 --> 0:36:14.759
<v Speaker 1>in the beginning. I'm not going to let go of

0:36:14.760 --> 0:36:16.840
<v Speaker 1>that trope. I think it's true. I think girls like

0:36:16.840 --> 0:36:21.160
<v Speaker 1>a bad boy. Um. I think I'm gonna respectfully disagree.

0:36:21.200 --> 0:36:23.919
<v Speaker 1>I think that if if I were to think back

0:36:23.920 --> 0:36:26.480
<v Speaker 1>to my single days, one of the traits that, in

0:36:26.520 --> 0:36:29.440
<v Speaker 1>my opinion, made me more attractive to other people was

0:36:30.320 --> 0:36:34.439
<v Speaker 1>my sunny disposition, if you will, um, and I made

0:36:34.520 --> 0:36:36.120
<v Speaker 1>note of that too. I always say, I think like

0:36:36.160 --> 0:36:39.120
<v Speaker 1>an altruistic mentality is one of the most attractive things

0:36:39.160 --> 0:36:42.200
<v Speaker 1>anyone could always have, any one could ever have. So

0:36:42.520 --> 0:36:45.879
<v Speaker 1>I disagree. I think the nice guys should and will

0:36:45.920 --> 0:36:49.919
<v Speaker 1>continue to finish first. I mean, I like that, you know. Well,

0:36:50.040 --> 0:36:52.080
<v Speaker 1>here is the reason I was basing that off of

0:36:52.360 --> 0:36:55.560
<v Speaker 1>was because whenever I'd go out with Nick when I

0:36:55.600 --> 0:36:59.480
<v Speaker 1>was single, women would flock to Nick because you know Nick,

0:36:59.520 --> 0:37:02.200
<v Speaker 1>he likes dans. First of all, the way he stands.

0:37:02.280 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 1>This guy he stands with like his pelvic out, you

0:37:04.719 --> 0:37:07.120
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. It's just like he's just like

0:37:07.280 --> 0:37:10.480
<v Speaker 1>this aura, this energy he's putting out this vibe. But

0:37:10.560 --> 0:37:14.160
<v Speaker 1>he's like very quiet, standoffish, and I think women find

0:37:14.200 --> 0:37:17.040
<v Speaker 1>him mysteriously attractive. Now he's like a big teddy bear

0:37:17.040 --> 0:37:19.400
<v Speaker 1>because he's with Natalie, and he's just like the you know,

0:37:20.080 --> 0:37:23.200
<v Speaker 1>he's just an emotional man. He's a big teddy bear.

0:37:24.080 --> 0:37:26.759
<v Speaker 1>But um, But then when you were saying, how oh,

0:37:26.840 --> 0:37:28.560
<v Speaker 1>I disagree, and then I thought about it, I was like,

0:37:28.600 --> 0:37:30.839
<v Speaker 1>you know what, you know, why when Nick and I

0:37:30.880 --> 0:37:34.000
<v Speaker 1>would go out, women would be more attracted to him

0:37:35.040 --> 0:37:37.759
<v Speaker 1>because he's more attractive. And that's okay. You know, I

0:37:37.800 --> 0:37:40.040
<v Speaker 1>was gonna I was gonna say that, um, and I

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:43.840
<v Speaker 1>was confident in myself, but you know Nick's stud I was,

0:37:43.920 --> 0:37:45.560
<v Speaker 1>I was not going to spare your feelings and say

0:37:45.600 --> 0:37:47.960
<v Speaker 1>exactly what you said. Nick. I mean, let's be real.

0:37:48.120 --> 0:37:51.480
<v Speaker 1>Nick is more more attractive than both of us. He's

0:37:51.520 --> 0:37:54.360
<v Speaker 1>probably one of the more attractive people I know physically speaking.

0:37:54.760 --> 0:37:56.920
<v Speaker 1>But you're right. He's got a little like somber attitude,

0:37:57.040 --> 0:38:00.919
<v Speaker 1>kind of like uh yeah, like a little shy guy,

0:38:01.040 --> 0:38:03.040
<v Speaker 1>stand off fish mentality when he's like out at the

0:38:03.040 --> 0:38:06.319
<v Speaker 1>bars and stuff. See, I I disagree, I think, not

0:38:06.440 --> 0:38:10.640
<v Speaker 1>with me, but Dean. When when I think of peaked

0:38:10.640 --> 0:38:12.520
<v Speaker 1>Dean and like I said, I'm a heater, like I'm

0:38:12.560 --> 0:38:16.440
<v Speaker 1>a straight man, but like I I appreciate the beautifulness

0:38:16.480 --> 0:38:18.400
<v Speaker 1>of a man who has clothes on because like we

0:38:18.480 --> 0:38:20.239
<v Speaker 1>talked about, like without clothes. I don't get it, but

0:38:21.040 --> 0:38:25.000
<v Speaker 1>I say, peaked Dean is better than peaked Nick. Sorry Nick,

0:38:25.160 --> 0:38:28.680
<v Speaker 1>Nick like your stud but peeked Dean. And you want

0:38:28.680 --> 0:38:30.279
<v Speaker 1>to know why? You think that is? Because I've got

0:38:30.280 --> 0:38:33.000
<v Speaker 1>the sunny disposition and he's got the mean stand off

0:38:33.040 --> 0:38:35.359
<v Speaker 1>his attitude. Yep, So it all goes back to number two.

0:38:35.400 --> 0:38:37.680
<v Speaker 1>You're absolutely right, having a negative attitude with lower your

0:38:37.680 --> 0:38:39.640
<v Speaker 1>sex appeal. All right, let's let's get through these last

0:38:39.680 --> 0:38:41.680
<v Speaker 1>three pretty quickly before we take a break. Number three,

0:38:41.680 --> 0:38:44.160
<v Speaker 1>Playing mind games. Playing the game is often a strategy

0:38:44.160 --> 0:38:46.520
<v Speaker 1>both men and women take when dating, but it's likely

0:38:46.600 --> 0:38:49.400
<v Speaker 1>to backfire and it's not gonna benefit for your sex appeal.

0:38:49.560 --> 0:38:53.279
<v Speaker 1>Quote treating the mean, treating them mean, and keeping them

0:38:53.920 --> 0:38:57.440
<v Speaker 1>keen doesn't do anything to raise your appeal, just as

0:38:57.440 --> 0:39:00.239
<v Speaker 1>playing games going hot and cold, manipulating tact ext and

0:39:00.280 --> 0:39:03.640
<v Speaker 1>sending mixed signals will also erode your appeal. I agree.

0:39:04.080 --> 0:39:06.440
<v Speaker 1>Once you like start getting older and you're playing this game,

0:39:06.800 --> 0:39:10.640
<v Speaker 1>it's so unattractive Reading these, um, this list makes me

0:39:10.719 --> 0:39:13.240
<v Speaker 1>just so happy I'm in a relationship. Like being single,

0:39:13.280 --> 0:39:15.480
<v Speaker 1>it just sounds exhausting. You have to like think about

0:39:15.520 --> 0:39:17.520
<v Speaker 1>all this all this stuff all the time. Hey, by

0:39:17.560 --> 0:39:19.480
<v Speaker 1>the way, where are you Are you in like a

0:39:19.880 --> 0:39:23.799
<v Speaker 1>like a hospital closet or something, I'm kind of looks

0:39:23.840 --> 0:39:27.160
<v Speaker 1>like one. Actually, I'm actually in the office of our

0:39:27.400 --> 0:39:31.560
<v Speaker 1>coffee shopping launch, working all day and night, and I

0:39:31.600 --> 0:39:32.920
<v Speaker 1>got the lowest here. I don't know if I can

0:39:32.920 --> 0:39:37.719
<v Speaker 1>lift up my computer. Are you oh, hey, Lois? Are you? Um? Yeah,

0:39:37.760 --> 0:39:40.359
<v Speaker 1>I see like a big white blur. I figure that's here.

0:39:40.520 --> 0:39:42.719
<v Speaker 1>Are you drinking a cup of coffee right now? I

0:39:42.960 --> 0:39:46.760
<v Speaker 1>was not anymore? I had I had an ice caramel

0:39:48.840 --> 0:39:50.799
<v Speaker 1>de lishum. All right, Well, I'm gonna I'm gonna get

0:39:50.800 --> 0:39:53.279
<v Speaker 1>to the fourth one. Four. So fourth is slouching, if

0:39:53.320 --> 0:39:55.200
<v Speaker 1>you may realize, your posture and how you hold yourself

0:39:55.239 --> 0:39:57.560
<v Speaker 1>also impacts your sex appeal and can make you appear

0:39:57.600 --> 0:40:00.799
<v Speaker 1>less attractive. Miss Wart says, body languages, everything, and something

0:40:00.840 --> 0:40:04.200
<v Speaker 1>as small as slouched shoulders can lower your sex appeal. Instead,

0:40:04.239 --> 0:40:06.319
<v Speaker 1>stand up straight and sure your chin is up, and

0:40:06.360 --> 0:40:09.719
<v Speaker 1>do not sit with your arms folded. So that's a

0:40:09.760 --> 0:40:12.400
<v Speaker 1>big one too. I just feel like, especially in today's

0:40:13.120 --> 0:40:15.920
<v Speaker 1>day and age with technology, everyone just like huddled in

0:40:16.000 --> 0:40:19.160
<v Speaker 1>and on their phone constantly and like sitting on their

0:40:19.160 --> 0:40:21.279
<v Speaker 1>desk on their computer. They just like slouch all the time.

0:40:21.640 --> 0:40:25.480
<v Speaker 1>I need to constantly remind myself to fix my posture

0:40:25.560 --> 0:40:28.560
<v Speaker 1>so all the time anytime I see like guys who

0:40:28.640 --> 0:40:31.440
<v Speaker 1>are like very you know, like military guys who have

0:40:32.040 --> 0:40:34.440
<v Speaker 1>jacked and like shoulders up and like, damn, I really

0:40:34.560 --> 0:40:36.279
<v Speaker 1>like I need to fix myself up. I need to

0:40:36.280 --> 0:40:37.839
<v Speaker 1>put my posture up. I need to stick my chest

0:40:37.840 --> 0:40:39.600
<v Speaker 1>out like I need to stand. I need to like

0:40:39.920 --> 0:40:42.360
<v Speaker 1>have a you know, have an aura about me, be

0:40:42.480 --> 0:40:45.600
<v Speaker 1>like I'm I'm I'm I'm Jared. But instead I just

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:48.560
<v Speaker 1>slouched and I'm like, oh hi. That's like the interview

0:40:48.600 --> 0:40:50.600
<v Speaker 1>tip to you know, like people always be like before

0:40:50.600 --> 0:40:52.600
<v Speaker 1>you go an interview, go into the bathroom and like

0:40:53.000 --> 0:40:55.080
<v Speaker 1>stand with your hands over your head and scream as

0:40:55.120 --> 0:40:56.759
<v Speaker 1>loud as you can, and you're gonna get like the

0:40:57.840 --> 0:41:00.320
<v Speaker 1>serotonin boost you need to go when and crush you interview.

0:41:00.320 --> 0:41:02.239
<v Speaker 1>I feel like that kind of is in the same

0:41:02.320 --> 0:41:05.200
<v Speaker 1>vein as the non slouching UH. Number five of the

0:41:05.200 --> 0:41:08.000
<v Speaker 1>fifth and final is stress and complaining. Miss Ward said

0:41:08.000 --> 0:41:10.400
<v Speaker 1>that complaining or feeling stress can give off negative energy

0:41:10.680 --> 0:41:12.759
<v Speaker 1>and repel others around you, regardless of you're a man

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:14.720
<v Speaker 1>or a woman, it's important to boost your sex appeal

0:41:14.760 --> 0:41:17.759
<v Speaker 1>by having a positive attitude, controlling your stress levels, and

0:41:17.840 --> 0:41:21.200
<v Speaker 1>keeping complaints to a minimum. I think the kind of

0:41:21.280 --> 0:41:23.800
<v Speaker 1>goes hand in hand with the second one, which is

0:41:23.840 --> 0:41:26.840
<v Speaker 1>just having a negative attitude. But yeah, I mean, no

0:41:26.880 --> 0:41:28.719
<v Speaker 1>one wants you to like put your stress onto them,

0:41:28.880 --> 0:41:33.320
<v Speaker 1>like that's the worst. Yeah, nobody likes a complainer, well

0:41:33.360 --> 0:41:35.480
<v Speaker 1>except for unless you have a pregnant life. Then she

0:41:35.600 --> 0:41:37.799
<v Speaker 1>has the hall pass to complain as much as she wants. Yeah,

0:41:37.840 --> 0:41:40.239
<v Speaker 1>I mean she definitely has all fast. I watched her

0:41:40.280 --> 0:41:42.400
<v Speaker 1>go to bed and try to fall asleep with that belly,

0:41:42.600 --> 0:41:45.120
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, oh, this poor thing and her hips

0:41:45.120 --> 0:41:48.960
<v Speaker 1>are stunning to bother or now, just like pregnancy is crazy, man,

0:41:49.200 --> 0:41:50.759
<v Speaker 1>you should see like not t m I, but we

0:41:50.840 --> 0:41:54.640
<v Speaker 1>talked about it, like it's just it's there. Her body

0:41:54.760 --> 0:41:58.120
<v Speaker 1>is changing in ways I never thought possible. What is

0:41:58.200 --> 0:42:00.920
<v Speaker 1>the most um, and you can feel free to just

0:42:01.640 --> 0:42:03.319
<v Speaker 1>plead the fifth on this one. What is the most

0:42:03.360 --> 0:42:08.600
<v Speaker 1>disgusting thing you've see in her do so far? Ah? Well,

0:42:09.000 --> 0:42:14.920
<v Speaker 1>I've so uh. I have seen her throw up in

0:42:15.040 --> 0:42:19.840
<v Speaker 1>p at the same time. Um, that was at least

0:42:20.160 --> 0:42:24.640
<v Speaker 1>she's sitting on a toilet. She was throwing up and

0:42:24.800 --> 0:42:27.520
<v Speaker 1>like on her knees in the bathroom and then like

0:42:27.640 --> 0:42:29.880
<v Speaker 1>you know, she let me know. She was like, I

0:42:29.960 --> 0:42:32.640
<v Speaker 1>just pete and then I saw and I was like, yep, yeah, no,

0:42:32.840 --> 0:42:36.359
<v Speaker 1>that happened. That is happening, because it's crazy, man, Your

0:42:36.400 --> 0:42:38.719
<v Speaker 1>body like and there's all these stories about pregnancy that

0:42:38.760 --> 0:42:40.880
<v Speaker 1>nobody ever tells you, Like, that's just what happens. Your

0:42:40.880 --> 0:42:42.719
<v Speaker 1>body kind of loses control a little bit. Like she

0:42:42.920 --> 0:42:46.279
<v Speaker 1>can't she literally can't control it. She'll sneeze, She'll be like,

0:42:47.040 --> 0:42:49.759
<v Speaker 1>I just pete, and I'm like what She's like, yeah,

0:42:49.760 --> 0:42:51.400
<v Speaker 1>I can't control it. Like anytime I have like a

0:42:52.040 --> 0:42:55.920
<v Speaker 1>like you know, a violent you know, a sudden uh

0:42:56.480 --> 0:43:01.680
<v Speaker 1>like burst in my body. Just pe allright, cool whatever, Yeah,

0:43:01.760 --> 0:43:07.759
<v Speaker 1>kudos to every woman because that sounds insane, not fun,

0:43:07.880 --> 0:43:09.480
<v Speaker 1>not fun at all. But we're gonna take a quick

0:43:09.480 --> 0:43:11.400
<v Speaker 1>break so we can stop talking about Ashley peeing, and

0:43:11.400 --> 0:43:14.040
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna come back and answer your emails, which of

0:43:14.040 --> 0:43:27.160
<v Speaker 1>course is Dean's favorite part. All right, welcome back to

0:43:27.200 --> 0:43:29.680
<v Speaker 1>help I suck at dating. We have two emails coming

0:43:29.840 --> 0:43:31.880
<v Speaker 1>right at you. I don't think Mark is here Eastern

0:43:31.920 --> 0:43:33.840
<v Speaker 1>Are you here? Do you want to read some emails? Buddy?

0:43:34.120 --> 0:43:36.239
<v Speaker 1>You out in the universe? Hey, buddy, would you like

0:43:36.280 --> 0:43:43.719
<v Speaker 1>to treat some emails for us? Yeah? I love this.

0:43:44.400 --> 0:43:52.200
<v Speaker 1>I love affirmed that way. Come on, let's I'm a

0:43:52.239 --> 0:43:55.440
<v Speaker 1>good boy. Um, all right, here's here's an email from

0:43:55.880 --> 0:43:59.799
<v Speaker 1>I hope this is Rica, Right, Rica, let's go. Let's

0:43:59.800 --> 0:44:04.880
<v Speaker 1>go that Riki ch I choose you. Long story short,

0:44:04.960 --> 0:44:07.319
<v Speaker 1>I dated my ex for three years. We broke up

0:44:07.400 --> 0:44:09.480
<v Speaker 1>because he had to move to a different country. Two

0:44:09.560 --> 0:44:12.040
<v Speaker 1>years later, I'm dating someone new. I love this guy

0:44:12.200 --> 0:44:14.120
<v Speaker 1>and he makes me very happy. But a week ago,

0:44:14.160 --> 0:44:16.440
<v Speaker 1>I received a text from my ex telling me he

0:44:16.520 --> 0:44:18.839
<v Speaker 1>just recently moved back and would love to catch up

0:44:18.840 --> 0:44:22.200
<v Speaker 1>next Sunday. At first, I was like, this is absolutely

0:44:22.239 --> 0:44:24.799
<v Speaker 1>not happening. If the roles were reversed, there's no way

0:44:24.840 --> 0:44:26.800
<v Speaker 1>I would be comfortable with my boyfriend meeting up with

0:44:26.840 --> 0:44:29.120
<v Speaker 1>an X. Then there's this other side where I think

0:44:29.160 --> 0:44:31.600
<v Speaker 1>about myself and what I want, and I do want

0:44:31.600 --> 0:44:33.960
<v Speaker 1>to meet up. I talked to my boyfriend about it,

0:44:34.000 --> 0:44:36.200
<v Speaker 1>and he was so understanding and told me maybe I

0:44:36.239 --> 0:44:38.360
<v Speaker 1>need some kind of closure and that he's secure in

0:44:38.360 --> 0:44:41.319
<v Speaker 1>our relationship and that I can go. But now I've

0:44:41.320 --> 0:44:43.479
<v Speaker 1>been texting my ex ever since. I'm starting to catch

0:44:43.520 --> 0:44:46.319
<v Speaker 1>myself counting down the days, obsessing over what I'm going

0:44:46.360 --> 0:44:48.600
<v Speaker 1>to wear. I'm nervous about what he'll say when he

0:44:48.640 --> 0:44:51.320
<v Speaker 1>sees me. It's starting to feel wrong. Am I already

0:44:51.360 --> 0:44:57.480
<v Speaker 1>emotionally cheating? Oh? Well, it's not a good It's not

0:44:57.560 --> 0:44:59.360
<v Speaker 1>a good sign. Rica. I don't know if I like

0:44:59.480 --> 0:45:03.759
<v Speaker 1>where this is going. Um. I would say, if you

0:45:03.800 --> 0:45:08.680
<v Speaker 1>have these feelings of excitement and anticipation for meeting up

0:45:08.680 --> 0:45:11.880
<v Speaker 1>with your ex, maybe you should. And you like your

0:45:11.880 --> 0:45:14.600
<v Speaker 1>current boyfriend enough um to want to stay with him.

0:45:14.640 --> 0:45:17.840
<v Speaker 1>I would almost say cancel on the X because it

0:45:17.920 --> 0:45:21.360
<v Speaker 1>sounds like this is starting down a very slippery slope,

0:45:21.760 --> 0:45:26.120
<v Speaker 1>and that slippery slope is gonna lead you into something bad.

0:45:26.360 --> 0:45:31.000
<v Speaker 1>That's my take. Yeah. I mean it's nicely you talked

0:45:31.040 --> 0:45:33.840
<v Speaker 1>to your boyfriend about it and he was really understanding.

0:45:33.880 --> 0:45:35.719
<v Speaker 1>Good for him, because I don't know how understanding I

0:45:35.760 --> 0:45:38.160
<v Speaker 1>would have been about it, and that maybe you needed

0:45:38.200 --> 0:45:43.520
<v Speaker 1>some type of closure. Uh yeah, I don't know. You're

0:45:43.560 --> 0:45:45.839
<v Speaker 1>way too excited, Rica. I'm so sorry to tell you this,

0:45:45.960 --> 0:45:50.719
<v Speaker 1>but it's you're not emotionally cheating. But it's getting to

0:45:50.840 --> 0:45:52.920
<v Speaker 1>that line. And if you guys meet up, I think

0:45:52.920 --> 0:45:55.319
<v Speaker 1>it's only going to make the situation worse because then

0:45:55.440 --> 0:45:58.799
<v Speaker 1>your emotions are gonna run high, something could happen that

0:45:58.840 --> 0:46:02.399
<v Speaker 1>you might regret, or you just suddenly want to get

0:46:02.400 --> 0:46:08.359
<v Speaker 1>back together with your ex. Um. I think, unfortunately, you're

0:46:08.480 --> 0:46:11.160
<v Speaker 1>probably gonna have to try to make a decision before

0:46:11.239 --> 0:46:14.480
<v Speaker 1>meeting up with your ex whether you're willing to risk

0:46:14.520 --> 0:46:20.200
<v Speaker 1>the relationship you're currently in or not. Also, Um, before

0:46:20.200 --> 0:46:21.520
<v Speaker 1>I want, I want to get easton steak. I just

0:46:21.520 --> 0:46:24.040
<v Speaker 1>want to highlight one quick part of the email where

0:46:24.040 --> 0:46:27.200
<v Speaker 1>she says, at first, I was like, this is absolutely

0:46:27.239 --> 0:46:29.319
<v Speaker 1>not happening. If the roles are reversed, there's no way

0:46:29.360 --> 0:46:31.400
<v Speaker 1>I would be comfortable with my boyfriend meeting up with

0:46:31.440 --> 0:46:34.600
<v Speaker 1>an X. And I want to say, uh, you know,

0:46:34.640 --> 0:46:37.920
<v Speaker 1>psychologist one on one Dean Unglert over here is the

0:46:37.920 --> 0:46:40.960
<v Speaker 1>reason you feel that way is because you don't trust

0:46:40.960 --> 0:46:42.759
<v Speaker 1>yourself to meet up with your ex. And so that's

0:46:42.800 --> 0:46:44.560
<v Speaker 1>why you don't trust your boyfriend to meet up with

0:46:44.600 --> 0:46:47.560
<v Speaker 1>one of his exes. So I think that you kind

0:46:47.560 --> 0:46:52.319
<v Speaker 1>of already know how you feel, and it's just I mean, hey,

0:46:52.320 --> 0:46:54.000
<v Speaker 1>maybe the X is the person that you're supposed to

0:46:54.000 --> 0:46:56.680
<v Speaker 1>be with, But if you're getting this excited, it sounds

0:46:56.719 --> 0:46:58.440
<v Speaker 1>like you're on the way out of the creent relationship

0:46:58.480 --> 0:47:01.040
<v Speaker 1>that you're in. But Eastern, what's your take on it? Yeah,

0:47:01.080 --> 0:47:03.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean I'm with you, guys. I I think that

0:47:03.080 --> 0:47:06.799
<v Speaker 1>if you, um, if you are not into your current

0:47:06.840 --> 0:47:09.680
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend but you see yourself wanting to get back with

0:47:09.680 --> 0:47:12.960
<v Speaker 1>this X, then you should end that relationship and then

0:47:13.040 --> 0:47:15.200
<v Speaker 1>explore that. But if you if you're very happy in

0:47:15.200 --> 0:47:17.120
<v Speaker 1>your current relationship, I would not meet up with this X.

0:47:17.440 --> 0:47:20.120
<v Speaker 1>I have a hot take, UM, and I know the

0:47:20.160 --> 0:47:23.560
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend is the one who propose this, But I I

0:47:23.600 --> 0:47:26.360
<v Speaker 1>think I don't think anyone ever needs closure. Whenever I

0:47:26.400 --> 0:47:29.279
<v Speaker 1>hear someone say I need a closure, I I get

0:47:29.320 --> 0:47:32.360
<v Speaker 1>so annoyed. I hate that idea. I don't think it's necessary.

0:47:32.360 --> 0:47:35.479
<v Speaker 1>I think anytime someone says that, like, oh, we broke

0:47:35.600 --> 0:47:37.960
<v Speaker 1>up and then you know he's been texting me, I

0:47:37.960 --> 0:47:39.680
<v Speaker 1>think we should meet up just for closure. No, that

0:47:39.840 --> 0:47:41.840
<v Speaker 1>just means you want to spend time with this person again.

0:47:42.000 --> 0:47:44.600
<v Speaker 1>Like like, I don't know that. It's not like it's

0:47:44.640 --> 0:47:46.680
<v Speaker 1>a it's you know, you're closing escrow in a house

0:47:46.719 --> 0:47:48.520
<v Speaker 1>you need to find allay some papers like, that's not

0:47:49.320 --> 0:47:51.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's a real thing. Like the relationships

0:47:51.560 --> 0:47:54.520
<v Speaker 1>over maybe you don't know why it ended. But if

0:47:54.560 --> 0:47:57.239
<v Speaker 1>that's the case, then just move on. I'm sorry. I

0:47:57.280 --> 0:48:00.640
<v Speaker 1>hate whatever anyone says they need closure. I love that

0:48:00.680 --> 0:48:02.640
<v Speaker 1>you just said that, because I couldn't agree more. I

0:48:02.640 --> 0:48:05.920
<v Speaker 1>think if you guys are chasing, if you're chasing closure,

0:48:06.760 --> 0:48:11.600
<v Speaker 1>you're chasing something that doesn't exist. You're never gonna get closure. Yes, yes, exactly.

0:48:12.880 --> 0:48:15.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna sit firmly in the other camp. I think

0:48:15.200 --> 0:48:17.400
<v Speaker 1>closure is a very real thing, and I have experienced

0:48:17.440 --> 0:48:20.600
<v Speaker 1>closure in the past, so I think closure is real. Well,

0:48:20.960 --> 0:48:24.200
<v Speaker 1>explain to us then, so you had I'm assuming you

0:48:24.239 --> 0:48:27.239
<v Speaker 1>met up with the next like, still undecided whether you

0:48:27.280 --> 0:48:30.000
<v Speaker 1>wanted to be together, and then you left meeting up

0:48:30.000 --> 0:48:32.279
<v Speaker 1>with that X realizing I don't want to be with

0:48:32.320 --> 0:48:36.480
<v Speaker 1>this person. Precisely that yeah, exactly right. Um I It's

0:48:36.520 --> 0:48:38.160
<v Speaker 1>happened to me a couple of times. Actually, you know,

0:48:38.280 --> 0:48:43.080
<v Speaker 1>dated someone broke up, time war on as it as

0:48:43.120 --> 0:48:45.960
<v Speaker 1>it usually does, and then um it brought us back

0:48:46.000 --> 0:48:48.799
<v Speaker 1>together eventually. And it's one of those things where you

0:48:48.800 --> 0:48:50.719
<v Speaker 1>know we've talked about in the past where on the

0:48:50.760 --> 0:48:53.320
<v Speaker 1>podcast in the past, where you break up with someone

0:48:53.480 --> 0:48:56.120
<v Speaker 1>and you can't help but romanticizing your relationship with them,

0:48:56.120 --> 0:48:57.839
<v Speaker 1>so you only think about the good times you've had

0:48:57.880 --> 0:49:00.080
<v Speaker 1>with them, you forget about all the bad times. Then

0:49:00.080 --> 0:49:01.239
<v Speaker 1>you start to think to yourself, well, why do we

0:49:01.280 --> 0:49:03.120
<v Speaker 1>break up in the first place if all I remember

0:49:03.160 --> 0:49:07.200
<v Speaker 1>things to be so positive? And then you text them

0:49:07.280 --> 0:49:09.640
<v Speaker 1>or call them or meet up or do whatever. Uh,

0:49:09.800 --> 0:49:12.600
<v Speaker 1>you hang out and you're like, wait, no, this this

0:49:12.719 --> 0:49:15.120
<v Speaker 1>is exactly why we broke up because we're awful together.

0:49:15.480 --> 0:49:16.880
<v Speaker 1>And so that's kind of like the closure that you

0:49:16.920 --> 0:49:19.440
<v Speaker 1>need to get you like remind yourself that the relationship

0:49:19.560 --> 0:49:21.719
<v Speaker 1>was doomed from the start. So it's happened to me

0:49:21.800 --> 0:49:26.160
<v Speaker 1>multiple times. Um, I'm you know, I'm sure girls that

0:49:26.200 --> 0:49:28.239
<v Speaker 1>I've dated have gotten closure from hanging out with me

0:49:28.280 --> 0:49:30.840
<v Speaker 1>again at some point too, So I'm pro closure. I

0:49:30.920 --> 0:49:32.560
<v Speaker 1>think closure is a very real thing. I feel like

0:49:32.640 --> 0:49:34.960
<v Speaker 1>that's got to be so rare though, the idea of

0:49:34.960 --> 0:49:37.560
<v Speaker 1>two people hanging out and then being like, oh, never mind,

0:49:37.640 --> 0:49:40.319
<v Speaker 1>this didn't work out, because like, like what about the

0:49:40.320 --> 0:49:41.839
<v Speaker 1>other person that you hung out with? Did they want

0:49:41.840 --> 0:49:44.000
<v Speaker 1>to get back together with you. I feel like anytime

0:49:44.040 --> 0:49:46.080
<v Speaker 1>you need closure, one person wants to be in the

0:49:46.120 --> 0:49:49.080
<v Speaker 1>relationship and the other person doesn't. If that is the case, yeah,

0:49:49.120 --> 0:49:51.240
<v Speaker 1>if I if I'm gonna recall it a hundred percent, honestly,

0:49:51.239 --> 0:49:53.200
<v Speaker 1>I would say, at the times I've gotten closure, it's

0:49:53.200 --> 0:49:54.880
<v Speaker 1>been me saying I don't want to be in a

0:49:54.960 --> 0:49:58.399
<v Speaker 1>relationship and then being upset by it. But again, it's

0:49:58.440 --> 0:50:01.880
<v Speaker 1>it's a revisionist history. It's me bringing my my form

0:50:01.960 --> 0:50:04.239
<v Speaker 1>of it. Um, so I agree with you. I think,

0:50:04.280 --> 0:50:05.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, one person might want to be in the

0:50:05.440 --> 0:50:07.680
<v Speaker 1>relationship and then the other person isn't, and it's more

0:50:07.680 --> 0:50:09.840
<v Speaker 1>of them just getting you know, reminding themselves that they

0:50:09.840 --> 0:50:11.480
<v Speaker 1>don't want to be in the relationship. In my case,

0:50:12.040 --> 0:50:15.880
<v Speaker 1>that's how it seemed. Hm, Okay, I get I get that.

0:50:15.960 --> 0:50:18.319
<v Speaker 1>I get that, But um that doesn't mean I have

0:50:18.400 --> 0:50:22.960
<v Speaker 1>to abide by you know, I'm gonna I'm gonna by

0:50:22.960 --> 0:50:25.440
<v Speaker 1>the end of I'm gonna get you guys to buy

0:50:25.480 --> 0:50:28.279
<v Speaker 1>into the idea of closure. That's my goal. I'm it's

0:50:28.280 --> 0:50:31.799
<v Speaker 1>been old two just contacting every girl of every day

0:50:31.880 --> 0:50:33.480
<v Speaker 1>and be like, I think I need some closure here

0:50:33.520 --> 0:50:35.399
<v Speaker 1>that's all I can think about. When when Dean said

0:50:35.440 --> 0:50:37.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get you to believe inclosure, I was like, Oh,

0:50:37.600 --> 0:50:39.799
<v Speaker 1>I actually is not gonna like this. Well, you guys

0:50:39.800 --> 0:50:42.920
<v Speaker 1>don't need closure. You you've already closed everything some people,

0:50:43.160 --> 0:50:45.600
<v Speaker 1>especially me, since I suck at dating as much as

0:50:45.600 --> 0:50:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I do, or at least as much as I did,

0:50:47.560 --> 0:50:49.520
<v Speaker 1>because I don't think I do as much anymore. At

0:50:49.600 --> 0:50:53.279
<v Speaker 1>least I was constantly needing closure because I was never

0:50:53.320 --> 0:50:56.399
<v Speaker 1>doing a good enough job of getting closure the first

0:50:56.440 --> 0:50:57.959
<v Speaker 1>time around. You know what they mean, Like, you guys

0:50:58.000 --> 0:51:00.520
<v Speaker 1>are a lot more mature, a lot more intelligent. Um,

0:51:00.560 --> 0:51:02.560
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot more direct than I'm capable of being.

0:51:02.600 --> 0:51:06.080
<v Speaker 1>So you've never had the requirement to get closure from anyone.

0:51:06.840 --> 0:51:08.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to believe of this anymore. But I

0:51:08.560 --> 0:51:11.239
<v Speaker 1>would like someone to contact me asking for closure. I

0:51:11.239 --> 0:51:13.880
<v Speaker 1>think that'd be nice. Like, you know, I would like

0:51:13.920 --> 0:51:16.680
<v Speaker 1>to be headhunted in a in a job at some point,

0:51:16.760 --> 0:51:19.400
<v Speaker 1>and then i'd also like a girl to ask for closure.

0:51:19.480 --> 0:51:22.000
<v Speaker 1>I would like that. Well, it's it's a little challenging

0:51:22.000 --> 0:51:23.359
<v Speaker 1>for you at this point in your life because you've

0:51:23.400 --> 0:51:26.040
<v Speaker 1>been married for so long. It's been like a decade

0:51:26.080 --> 0:51:30.120
<v Speaker 1>since I've dated somebody else, so you know they'd come

0:51:30.120 --> 0:51:33.160
<v Speaker 1>out of the world work they still exist. We're surprised.

0:51:33.480 --> 0:51:35.759
<v Speaker 1>I'm surprised no one has. I'm sorry to interrupt your

0:51:35.800 --> 0:51:38.359
<v Speaker 1>your final email reading as no one has considering your

0:51:39.080 --> 0:51:43.359
<v Speaker 1>um you know you're your rise to success and fan

0:51:43.560 --> 0:51:45.800
<v Speaker 1>you're you know you're working so closely to Ryan Seacrest,

0:51:45.840 --> 0:51:47.560
<v Speaker 1>I could see like a scorn deck reaching out and

0:51:47.600 --> 0:51:49.960
<v Speaker 1>being like, that's supposed to be my guy. I need

0:51:49.960 --> 0:51:52.480
<v Speaker 1>to get some closure from him. I think everyone that

0:51:52.560 --> 0:51:54.400
<v Speaker 1>I dated in the relationship ended, they were more than

0:51:54.440 --> 0:51:57.919
<v Speaker 1>happy to get out of that deal and they wish

0:51:58.000 --> 0:52:01.000
<v Speaker 1>me well. All right, let to move on to Ellie.

0:52:01.760 --> 0:52:04.160
<v Speaker 1>I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend

0:52:04.200 --> 0:52:07.400
<v Speaker 1>for just over a year. I'm twenty six, he's thirty two.

0:52:07.640 --> 0:52:09.520
<v Speaker 1>A few months ago, I opened up to my boyfriend

0:52:09.520 --> 0:52:11.319
<v Speaker 1>about my dad leaving when I was a kid and

0:52:11.320 --> 0:52:13.719
<v Speaker 1>how I'm still processing a lot of resentment even though

0:52:13.760 --> 0:52:15.960
<v Speaker 1>I haven't been in contact with my father since he left.

0:52:16.320 --> 0:52:17.960
<v Speaker 1>This is a big deal for me because I never

0:52:18.000 --> 0:52:21.000
<v Speaker 1>talked about my dad to anyone. A few days ago,

0:52:21.120 --> 0:52:24.160
<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend told me that our conversation that after our conversation,

0:52:24.360 --> 0:52:27.160
<v Speaker 1>he researched my dad and ended up finding him. Long

0:52:27.160 --> 0:52:30.160
<v Speaker 1>story short, my boyfriend ended up contacting my dad. I

0:52:30.200 --> 0:52:32.080
<v Speaker 1>never asked for this, and to say I was upset

0:52:32.080 --> 0:52:34.279
<v Speaker 1>with my boyfriend would be an understatement. I feel like

0:52:34.280 --> 0:52:36.560
<v Speaker 1>he crossed so many lines and inserted himself in new

0:52:36.600 --> 0:52:39.879
<v Speaker 1>situation he knows almost nothing about. My boyfriend keeps telling

0:52:39.920 --> 0:52:41.520
<v Speaker 1>me he was just trying to help me reconnect with

0:52:41.560 --> 0:52:43.520
<v Speaker 1>my dad, But I genuinely don't know how to move

0:52:43.520 --> 0:52:46.279
<v Speaker 1>forward with my boyfriend. Am I overreacting? Should I give

0:52:46.280 --> 0:52:47.920
<v Speaker 1>my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and try to

0:52:47.960 --> 0:52:52.919
<v Speaker 1>work through this help? UM, I'll tackle this one first again.

0:52:52.960 --> 0:52:55.839
<v Speaker 1>I feel like I've been monopolizing UM these responses so far,

0:52:55.880 --> 0:52:58.080
<v Speaker 1>so I'm just gonna keep going with it anyways. UM.

0:52:58.120 --> 0:52:59.640
<v Speaker 1>And the reason I want to respond to at first

0:52:59.680 --> 0:53:03.359
<v Speaker 1>is because I've actually experienced exactly what Elliot has just

0:53:03.400 --> 0:53:07.360
<v Speaker 1>gone through as well. UM. One of my former relationships

0:53:07.520 --> 0:53:11.000
<v Speaker 1>was very adamant about meeting my dad and she was like,

0:53:11.600 --> 0:53:13.560
<v Speaker 1>we're we were like in my hometown and she was like,

0:53:13.560 --> 0:53:15.680
<v Speaker 1>We're not leaving this town until we meet up with

0:53:15.719 --> 0:53:17.840
<v Speaker 1>your dad for breakfast. And I was like, I really

0:53:17.840 --> 0:53:19.200
<v Speaker 1>don't want to do that, Like I haven't seen him

0:53:19.239 --> 0:53:21.759
<v Speaker 1>in years. I'm not going to enjoy it, Like you're

0:53:21.760 --> 0:53:24.200
<v Speaker 1>not gonna enjoy it, He's probably not gonna enjoy it,

0:53:24.200 --> 0:53:27.560
<v Speaker 1>Like there's no point in it. Um. Fast forward a

0:53:27.600 --> 0:53:29.160
<v Speaker 1>couple of days, we end up meeting with him on

0:53:29.200 --> 0:53:31.439
<v Speaker 1>our way out of town, and it just went as

0:53:31.440 --> 0:53:34.120
<v Speaker 1>miserably as I expected it too. And then afterwards, I

0:53:34.200 --> 0:53:40.080
<v Speaker 1>like was resenting my partner for having encouraged the idea

0:53:40.160 --> 0:53:41.879
<v Speaker 1>to meet up with my dad, So it was like

0:53:42.000 --> 0:53:44.000
<v Speaker 1>it it was miserable all around, just like I know

0:53:44.040 --> 0:53:45.719
<v Speaker 1>it was going to be, and then they kind of

0:53:45.719 --> 0:53:48.200
<v Speaker 1>like festered and the resentment continued and crew and all

0:53:48.200 --> 0:53:51.040
<v Speaker 1>that kind of stuff. So I I'm not a fan

0:53:51.080 --> 0:53:53.719
<v Speaker 1>of it at all, Like you know, I would never

0:53:55.000 --> 0:53:57.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I just don't like it. What do

0:53:57.080 --> 0:54:01.080
<v Speaker 1>you guys think? I think people step over boundaries and

0:54:01.120 --> 0:54:03.640
<v Speaker 1>don't even realize it, and they just try to help

0:54:03.760 --> 0:54:06.960
<v Speaker 1>so badly, but they're actually hurting. I feel like sometimes

0:54:07.080 --> 0:54:10.120
<v Speaker 1>the worst things come from the best intentions, and I

0:54:10.160 --> 0:54:13.000
<v Speaker 1>feel like this is another case of that where this

0:54:13.160 --> 0:54:15.880
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend was like, no, I'm gonna make this right, and

0:54:15.880 --> 0:54:17.759
<v Speaker 1>it's like well, it's not your place to make it right,

0:54:17.800 --> 0:54:20.600
<v Speaker 1>and I hope you can respect and understand that. And

0:54:20.760 --> 0:54:25.440
<v Speaker 1>some people, again, they have the right intentions, but that

0:54:25.480 --> 0:54:27.840
<v Speaker 1>doesn't mean they're doing the right thing. And sometimes they

0:54:27.920 --> 0:54:31.080
<v Speaker 1>make it about themselves without even realizing it, like the

0:54:31.120 --> 0:54:33.239
<v Speaker 1>person that you were with Dean in your hometown. And

0:54:33.560 --> 0:54:36.560
<v Speaker 1>even if they did it unintentionally and felt guilty about

0:54:36.560 --> 0:54:39.239
<v Speaker 1>it afterwards, they really were making that about themselves because

0:54:39.280 --> 0:54:41.279
<v Speaker 1>they were like, no, I'm gonna make this better for you,

0:54:41.360 --> 0:54:44.279
<v Speaker 1>and it's like, well, that's not really your call or

0:54:44.320 --> 0:54:47.560
<v Speaker 1>your decision. It's my decision. It's my relationship with my parents.

0:54:47.560 --> 0:54:49.799
<v Speaker 1>And I hope you can understand that and trust me.

0:54:49.840 --> 0:54:51.319
<v Speaker 1>I will let you know if I want you to

0:54:51.360 --> 0:54:53.880
<v Speaker 1>help further with it. But I think that's an example

0:54:53.920 --> 0:54:56.800
<v Speaker 1>of this where Ellie, you have every right to be

0:54:56.920 --> 0:54:59.320
<v Speaker 1>upset with your boyfriend. I hope that you guys can

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<v Speaker 1>reconcile this because I'm sure he was again trying to help,

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<v Speaker 1>So maybe this is a learning curve for him and

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<v Speaker 1>for you your relationship moving forward. I don't think you're

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<v Speaker 1>over reacting though, um two words shared heart degree, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, look at that. I'm the same page. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're in the handholding club here. This is uh. I

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<v Speaker 1>guarantee the boyfriend had this image in his head like

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to be like Oprah when like tire Banks

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<v Speaker 1>is on and she's like, I had this teacher that

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<v Speaker 1>really affected me, and I never got into the like

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<v Speaker 1>that we've brought the teacher out, you know, like that

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<v Speaker 1>kind of thing. No, the I guarantee this woman, Ellie,

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<v Speaker 1>knows how to contact her dad if she wants. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not like he was like in hiding or something like.

0:55:41.840 --> 0:55:44.680
<v Speaker 1>I guarantee she can find him. That wasn't the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>The problem is being at a point where she's ready

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<v Speaker 1>to have this person in her life again. Uh. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that has to come from her father or

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<v Speaker 1>from her reaching out. The boyfriend really stepped over a line,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's a percent in the right for being upset

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<v Speaker 1>with him. But I also think she needs to be

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<v Speaker 1>direct and and be like, hey, I really didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>this to happen. I this was not okay for you

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<v Speaker 1>to do, because if she keeps it to herself and

0:56:08.640 --> 0:56:10.080
<v Speaker 1>then she's just gonna resent him and it's going to

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<v Speaker 1>be negative. But um, yeah, this dude was being clueless

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<v Speaker 1>and I don't think he did it maliciously, but but

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<v Speaker 1>also like, come on, bro, you know you can't. This

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<v Speaker 1>is not your place to be doing something like this. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>so that I guess that raises the question then, is

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<v Speaker 1>do you think that it came from a good place,

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<v Speaker 1>like did the boyfriend do it well intentioned? Or like

0:56:28.880 --> 0:56:30.360
<v Speaker 1>you said, was he trying to make it more about

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<v Speaker 1>him than it was about trying to reconnect that too,

0:56:33.600 --> 0:56:35.239
<v Speaker 1>I think it's I think it's half and half. I

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<v Speaker 1>think I think he was trying to be helpful. I

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<v Speaker 1>think he was like, oh, this person is having like

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<v Speaker 1>could you imagine not having your father in your life?

0:56:41.120 --> 0:56:43.560
<v Speaker 1>How how horrible that would be. I'm going to fix this.

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<v Speaker 1>But then like I think he's like having to be

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<v Speaker 1>the hero that reconnects this family. You know it's gonna

0:56:48.760 --> 0:56:52.319
<v Speaker 1>because you know, and that's that's messed up. I don't

0:56:52.320 --> 0:56:54.600
<v Speaker 1>think those two things are mutually exclusive. Like I think

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<v Speaker 1>that he can be doing it with the best intentions

0:56:57.160 --> 0:57:01.760
<v Speaker 1>but also simultaneously making it about himself. Yeah, I agree.

0:57:01.920 --> 0:57:05.160
<v Speaker 1>I think it's just not not a fun position to being.

0:57:05.280 --> 0:57:07.880
<v Speaker 1>But all right, well that's that's great. Thanks guys for

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<v Speaker 1>emailing um Ellie Rika Chiu, thank you so much for emailing.

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<v Speaker 1>Keep the emails flying. I Sucker Dating at ihart media

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. Um Am, I gonna get scorned for saying this.

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<v Speaker 1>Big thank you to Katie Blake, Tasia and Zach for

0:57:20.760 --> 0:57:24.120
<v Speaker 1>giving us something to talk about today. Easton has always

0:57:24.120 --> 0:57:27.040
<v Speaker 1>thanks for jumping in and reading some emails and just uh,

0:57:27.280 --> 0:57:28.800
<v Speaker 1>you know, doing all the sound engineering on all this

0:57:28.880 --> 0:57:31.240
<v Speaker 1>kind of stuff. If you if you are a scorned

0:57:31.360 --> 0:57:34.200
<v Speaker 1>X of Easton's and you are looking for some closure,

0:57:34.240 --> 0:57:36.360
<v Speaker 1>just shoot an email I Sucker Dating at iHeart media

0:57:36.440 --> 0:57:40.800
<v Speaker 1>dot com. Perhaps we can discuss on air here else

0:57:40.800 --> 0:57:44.600
<v Speaker 1>you guys want. Gina Goss, Caitlyn Garcia, um, who else,

0:57:44.680 --> 0:57:47.720
<v Speaker 1>Kitlin McCormick, Janine Bray and you guys out there listening,

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<v Speaker 1>give me a call. It's a lot of excess. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of excess. Yeah, dang heast In, Good for

0:57:54.200 --> 0:57:56.480
<v Speaker 1>you man. Yeah, if any of you ladies want to

0:57:56.520 --> 0:57:59.200
<v Speaker 1>jump on here, UM I Sucker Dating at ihart media

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0:58:02.320 --> 0:58:04.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, get this interview rolling on the podcast here

0:58:04.640 --> 0:58:06.760
<v Speaker 1>and you can really be Oprah and be like Eastern

0:58:06.800 --> 0:58:10.680
<v Speaker 1>doesn't know. But here is a lineup of your hex girlfriends. Yeah,

0:58:10.840 --> 0:58:12.840
<v Speaker 1>that would be absolutely amazing. Anyways, thank you guys so

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