Speaker 1: Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No
Speaker 1: Sillers podcast with your host Now funk that with your
Speaker 1: low glasses malone time and I'm like fun Now, I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll be having to leave little backups in the car.
Speaker 1: And why do you got to leave the car? Because
Speaker 1: I might need it? You see how I don't have
Speaker 1: no weed today, but I had some weed in the car.
Speaker 1: That's why I got it now, So backup. It's like
Speaker 1: an Asia bag. All my friends used to have Asia bags.
Speaker 1: Nobody got Asia backs. No more because Asia sold up.
Speaker 1: She's living up well. Back to the point, I was, ha,
Speaker 1: that's the thing. Like women really connor will find themselves
Speaker 1: in bad positions, Like she feel like I got to
Speaker 1: clean up, Like she really don't want to clean up.
Speaker 1: So in order for her to move into that space
Speaker 1: right of a wife, there are things that people expect
Speaker 1: of a wife. She do want to clean up. But yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, she's I think it's more
Speaker 1: so pressure now for her because it's like she wants,
Speaker 1: you know, she wants all these things that she wants
Speaker 1: a husband, and so she's trying to do all these
Speaker 1: things that I don't know because she does clean, she
Speaker 1: does take care of children. She's she just he you know.
Speaker 1: The thing is that he go to work all day
Speaker 1: and you know, she makes her money and she ain't
Speaker 1: got to work like that, you know, So he like
Speaker 1: which I told her, I said, look, he's going to
Speaker 1: work all day and when he come home, because she
Speaker 1: like when he wants me home? I said, you should
Speaker 1: be home when he come home, like you know, and
Speaker 1: you home all day, the house should be clean. I
Speaker 1: told her that, like it should you're not working, you're
Speaker 1: not you know. So he's like, well where are you at?
Speaker 1: Well what are you doing? You know? And the thing
Speaker 1: is with her, like she's just very she's just used to.
Speaker 1: She takes she does things. She's like what Jamaican. So
Speaker 1: he wants her there when he gets home from work?
Speaker 1: Why does he want her there? You know what? I
Speaker 1: can ask a woman why that? Because I would I
Speaker 1: don't know, because men really probably has I want to
Speaker 1: know why most men do want you home when they
Speaker 1: come home. I mean, unlet you ask work. You know,
Speaker 1: if you're working, that's different from what's what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like what else? Like where else would she be? Exactly?
Speaker 1: But I get it. I don't. I don't quite note. No,
Speaker 1: I'm because I'm really trying to figure out because she
Speaker 1: go be, she's gonna be everywhere. She just be everywhere,
Speaker 1: like she just harand she might need to do or
Speaker 1: she's the type of she's the type of check where
Speaker 1: she wake up in the morning, she's gonna get dressed,
Speaker 1: and she goes to eat breakfast every day, would like
Speaker 1: say a certain person and she goes to get her
Speaker 1: coffee and like she just she's there. And I told her,
Speaker 1: it's funny because it feels like she would be compromising
Speaker 1: herself to really be with somebody. Yeah, she's just Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think like I told you, I think she was.
Speaker 1: She's setting her ways and now she's looking at it
Speaker 1: like she went through it. And I think that's what
Speaker 1: anybody g I think anybody that anybody that has been
Speaker 1: single for a long time, male or female, you have
Speaker 1: to grow accustomed to dealing with someone else in your life,
Speaker 1: especially if you've been single for years for a long time.
Speaker 1: But it was an easy transition, don't lie. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 1: what do you mean, Trance, You were single, But that's
Speaker 1: why I said, I think it's the kind of person
Speaker 1: you are like, so, yeah, I've been I was single forever,
Speaker 1: but I've never been single, like I never conduct myself
Speaker 1: like a truly single person. Like probably the worst thing
Speaker 1: that I did. I used to work all the time,
Speaker 1: Like I would work into the night, like I don't
Speaker 1: even care. So that's kind of what I did. But
Speaker 1: as far as broad like, I wasn't never really ho
Speaker 1: hopping hard like that. That just ain't really my style.
Speaker 1: I really think I'm pretty valuable in my mind. I
Speaker 1: think it's different stuff like um checking in, you know,
Speaker 1: like if but but this is my thing, right, so
Speaker 1: real checking in? Right, So relationship check in and like
Speaker 1: hip hop check in is the same type of checking in,
Speaker 1: so right, it just depends on the mentality of the person.
Speaker 1: So when I check in, like right, when I check again,
Speaker 1: if I go to another nigga town, I really want
Speaker 1: to hang out with the niggas towns that I'm in.
Speaker 1: So if I go to New York, I'm gonna hit
Speaker 1: my nigga wink all, my Flatbush partners, I'm gonna hit
Speaker 1: Trade Pizzy next time I go, I'm gonna see Tray
Speaker 1: Pizzy and them in the Bronx. Feel me, I'm here,
Speaker 1: my partnering queens, my potler stat nil and hit my
Speaker 1: people because I really want to function with my people's
Speaker 1: while i'm here. So what somebody else may feel as
Speaker 1: a burden of fellowshipping with a loved ones, I don't
Speaker 1: see it that way. So even as a marriage, as
Speaker 1: a maryor as a married person, I don't see it
Speaker 1: as a burden. Yeah, it's like, I want to talk
Speaker 1: to this motherfucker and never had a problem. I didn't
Speaker 1: feel like it was a burden. But I'm saying for me,
Speaker 1: I did have to remind myself, like it's you in
Speaker 1: a relationship. You need to make sure that okay, Like example,
Speaker 1: this is the ship that I used to do, and
Speaker 1: I had to check myself. Um, I'll make plans. I
Speaker 1: ain't told this man nothing. The day comes for the
Speaker 1: plans and I'm like, oh, I'm going with woo here.
Speaker 1: Oh you didn't say that. You didn't. You didn't say
Speaker 1: anything to me about that, And I would get like
Speaker 1: why the woman? I mean, like, I just I made plans.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but I'm telling you right now like that
Speaker 1: I'm going here like I'm not hiding it. I'm not.
Speaker 1: It's not I'm not you know, and it was it
Speaker 1: was like, why would you you knew? How long you
Speaker 1: knew about this? And I'm like, oh, probably a couple
Speaker 1: of days, okay, and you're just telling me today and
Speaker 1: I'm just like, I didn't get I didn't know if
Speaker 1: that's about being single, why is that? Well, I don't
Speaker 1: know what it is. It's about moving the way you
Speaker 1: want to move, right, But I think so it depends,
Speaker 1: right if you like you may not just be a
Speaker 1: trustworthy person. Oh my god, I'm a I'm a very
Speaker 1: trustful What does that have to do with me? I'm
Speaker 1: a very trustworthy person. What are you talking about? Okay,
Speaker 1: that's not the right way. Let me that's wracked up.
Speaker 1: Let me empty that burrito back out of reaping. Okay.
Speaker 1: So maybe part of the reasons I do what I
Speaker 1: do because I know who I am, Like, I know
Speaker 1: who I am as a person, and I know how
Speaker 1: other people see what I can be. So then I know,
Speaker 1: motherfucker's be worried. Right, So, like, I don't quite know.
Speaker 1: I mean, would I be offended if a woman if
Speaker 1: somebody didn't tell me what their plans were. I mean,
Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't be offended, but I probably would be
Speaker 1: like damn that was or maybe not. I guess it
Speaker 1: just depends, like wait a minute, we talking about in
Speaker 1: the middle of the day, like are you telling me
Speaker 1: you're going to the at so short? Because because even then,
Speaker 1: like I think the natural insecurity is one thing, right,
Speaker 1: you have a natural insecurity. But for the most part,
Speaker 1: I'm glad when I'm by myself sometimes, like I'm glad
Speaker 1: when she's around. I'm glad when I'm by myself. Like
Speaker 1: I'm pretty much a glad person the whole experience. But um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just I just think that's weird,
Speaker 1: Like I don't know quite like what does that mean? Like,
Speaker 1: but she didn't used to complain. She's like, that's the
Speaker 1: probably this single so long, And I'm like, what am
Speaker 1: I doing that makes you? Like? What what a part
Speaker 1: of this makes you feel like it's a single move?
Speaker 1: Maybe not like she said, like, um, were you like
Speaker 1: not checking into maybe you weren't doing something like that.
Speaker 1: But I'm always kind of I tell her so she knows,
Speaker 1: like I want to tell her, got you no, But
Speaker 1: I did too. I'm just saying when I first it
Speaker 1: was it was just weird because I was just used
Speaker 1: to getting up and just going and doing what I
Speaker 1: needed to do or whatever. So yeah, and didn't sometimes
Speaker 1: it didn't dawn on me. It wasn't that I was
Speaker 1: doing anything or trying to hide something or it wasn't
Speaker 1: nothing like that. So I do see why you're saying that.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was like some trustworthy stuff, but no, it
Speaker 1: wasn't like that. He just wanted to. He was like,
Speaker 1: you should be. Why wouldn't I know that? Well? He? Um,
Speaker 1: so the homegirl, you know, dude, he's saying that she
Speaker 1: don't call him all day how many times? See but that,
Speaker 1: But me and you talked about this before that sometimes
Speaker 1: the way we've been loved was the wrong way, and
Speaker 1: then we make that the way that we understand love
Speaker 1: because we really think that. So we started comparing everything
Speaker 1: somebody else did. That's why it's bad, Like like, um,
Speaker 1: when you compare things to the past, like if somebody
Speaker 1: did this this way and this person don't do it
Speaker 1: this way, you will find yourself in the fun up position.
Speaker 1: And like I always say, well, if I compared to that,
Speaker 1: that didn't work. So I hope this motherfucker not doing that.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that you could have liked that
Speaker 1: part of the relationship, right that you liked this that
Speaker 1: the third because but that don't mean it really was
Speaker 1: good for you. Like me and Red was talking about
Speaker 1: some ship. Me and my sister was talking about some
Speaker 1: same type of ship when she was like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you know, I want this dude to sleep with me
Speaker 1: all the time. And I'm like why, well, who else
Speaker 1: he's sleeping with? And I'm like this was recently. I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: I just had this conversation on a podcast and I'm like,
Speaker 1: they don't get the intimacy changes. And we've talked about
Speaker 1: the intimacy changes and it becomes way, but what if
Speaker 1: both parties in the relationship have never really experienced real intimacy,
Speaker 1: how do they like, like cope with that ship because
Speaker 1: they both of them don't know gratitude. The key is
Speaker 1: gratitude the kids to stop overlooking the simple things like
Speaker 1: they're nothing. These are still things you're not doing with
Speaker 1: everybody else. There's certain things you do with the motherfucking
Speaker 1: really funk with that you just don't do with all
Speaker 1: the nig and those are the intimate things that you
Speaker 1: just overlooked, and you go to the things that a
Speaker 1: stranger does to you to show you they like you,
Speaker 1: and you're like, well, I need the stranger type of
Speaker 1: approval where it's like, you know when when guys usually
Speaker 1: like me, they sleep with me, and it's like no,
Speaker 1: but then somebody like you, they take care of you.
Speaker 1: So but no sailings, jail handing, read bro stuff, shout
Speaker 1: out to he came by here, I missed too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm to put a mailbox out this motherfucker so you
Speaker 1: can drop it off. Bread was heading driving family. Ain't
Speaker 1: no criminal right now, right now, So know what I
Speaker 1: was stripping off of. Did y'all look at any of
Speaker 1: the YouTube videos I sent you? So this movement that's
Speaker 1: going down called the Passport Bros. Where it's a bunch
Speaker 1: of brothers, And I called him early. I saw, you know,
Speaker 1: one of the main guys Zoom to Thailand, Richie Mac.
Speaker 1: I saw him probably about a year or two. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I saw him and he was just making these videos.
Speaker 1: And I remember seeing the first video where he was like,
Speaker 1: you know, he was like, she makes me breakfast, she
Speaker 1: folds my clothes, and I was like, and he was
Speaker 1: talking in the video about how he was having problems
Speaker 1: in the States meeting women to do that, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I never met a woman who didn't cook breakfast or
Speaker 1: fold clothes. But I started listening to I started going
Speaker 1: down that rabbit hole of passport bros, like going down
Speaker 1: that rabbit hole falling, and I'm listening to the dudes
Speaker 1: talk about like these foreign women and comparing them to
Speaker 1: the you know, the sisters here American women, and I
Speaker 1: just was thinking to myself, like, damn, women ain't doing
Speaker 1: this simple shift for y'all. Like they was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: she's so pretty. And I'm like, I ain't never bust
Speaker 1: no bad looking at as women in the States. They
Speaker 1: ain't never had no women. The women in the States
Speaker 1: they want to get over a year, so they're gonna
Speaker 1: talk to this is the women here in America. But
Speaker 1: the women that she's meeting that they're meeting, the foreign
Speaker 1: women they want to come, want to come here, they
Speaker 1: want to get married and come here. So they're gonna
Speaker 1: talk to a negative look like you gotta also remember
Speaker 1: what did you just say that? But I say, I
Speaker 1: like said she said it, and it sound when the
Speaker 1: man said. But I was thinking to myself, like, yeah,
Speaker 1: maybe as these dudes look strange or they're strange guys
Speaker 1: or something. No. I have a friend that Um. I
Speaker 1: make jokes with him all the time, like Nigga, I
Speaker 1: know you're going to the Philippines to get you a
Speaker 1: pride that ship all the time, like why are you
Speaker 1: doing over there? Because he go over there by himself
Speaker 1: a quick trip Like okay, what you doing over there? Right?
Speaker 1: We cloud him all the time about that. What's crazy
Speaker 1: is in two thousand and fifteen, right fourteen and fifteen,
Speaker 1: I was planning to move to South Africa, really but
Speaker 1: I was gonna move there in two thousand and sixteen,
Speaker 1: and uh, I was gonna buy uh my boy c
Speaker 1: Will Rock Slanger from from over g Do Solid super
Speaker 1: rep Um. He was showing me all these bomb mass
Speaker 1: places in South Africa and I was looking at these,
Speaker 1: like these condos on the beach for like seventy eight
Speaker 1: thousand on the beach, and I'm like, yo, I could
Speaker 1: move here. The internet is popping. I could do my
Speaker 1: stuff from there and record music and meet African women
Speaker 1: and chill and go to the African places, just be
Speaker 1: a crip in Africa. I had this start like I
Speaker 1: can go be a cripp in Africa. I mean all
Speaker 1: my Western African homies to my Nigerian homies. They was like, yo,
Speaker 1: South Africans don't really funk with other Africans. Like they
Speaker 1: was like, really, tell me about how prejudice it was. Man,
Speaker 1: it's crip like, you know, this criping is good everywhere.
Speaker 1: So I was planning to go there, and I guess
Speaker 1: I didn't think about the women as a primary thing.
Speaker 1: I started living on the beach in Africa would be
Speaker 1: solid for somebody of African descent. You feel you can
Speaker 1: make some dope music, like I had it planned out,
Speaker 1: But I never thought the women was my thought of
Speaker 1: moving anywhere. And as I start falling down the whole
Speaker 1: of all of these people that are talking about traveling,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, they was like married. The
Speaker 1: thing was called like okay, I'm not gonna deny cost
Speaker 1: of living was important, but the women, Yeah, that's like Brazil. Mary.
Speaker 1: I heard, you know people will go to Brazil. The
Speaker 1: go to Brazil because the women is going down downs everywhere. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I guess I don't know. We're gonna say. I
Speaker 1: can't speak for them. They must be a little easier
Speaker 1: to crack. I just think that it's a mutual situation.
Speaker 1: They wanted that's going to do? You know what I mean,
Speaker 1: what they want or whatnot? What could they want? That's
Speaker 1: so crazy? Like what am I missing that? Sisters here
Speaker 1: don't do. I'm gonna be honest with you right now.
Speaker 1: Have a voice. I was about to say that, but
Speaker 1: a lot of sisters are like they got a voice.
Speaker 1: They really they depended. They're gonna say, yeah, they really independent.
Speaker 1: They're not them saying the foreigners they're not gonna speak
Speaker 1: up too much. Oh yeah, they're not because they want
Speaker 1: they they're gonna do whatever. They're gonna say, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: Do y'all think that's more feminine? What do you mean
Speaker 1: like because that is considered submission? Do y'all feel like
Speaker 1: that's more feminine? Like foreign women would be more feminine
Speaker 1: to y'all because you'll always have something to say? Does
Speaker 1: that represent all of us? Have there's a lot of
Speaker 1: submissive That's what I'm saying in here. So no, but
Speaker 1: I'm so am I they don't have because they don't have,
Speaker 1: but they're they're not looking for um citizenship. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: so you think the foreign women are acting right because
Speaker 1: they hope if you marry them, and yes, why wouldn't
Speaker 1: they of course, yes, So you don't think they genuinely
Speaker 1: just like these guys. No, No, they don't say maybe
Speaker 1: they grow into I think maybe they can grow in
Speaker 1: love with them. For her actually did that with his wife.
Speaker 1: With his wife, his wife is um, she's Chinese, I believe.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if she's not, just to say Asian. Um.
Speaker 1: And they met when she was I don't know. I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to. I can't remember this, says okay, whatever,
Speaker 1: that's the most racist way to say, because you have
Speaker 1: orient It's like you got an Oriental rug. But it
Speaker 1: was really I don't know, but I just know that
Speaker 1: I could tell by their interaction and everything and um,
Speaker 1: how he was telling me how they met and stuff.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, like, it was just really weird. And
Speaker 1: she's very yes, sure, would you need me to get
Speaker 1: this for you? And but it's also a culture of
Speaker 1: how they raised That might have been her culture, because
Speaker 1: I know my my sister in law, she always says
Speaker 1: that she was raised to do a cater to you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, or a man in the house.
Speaker 1: In the house. That's not how all women are raised. No,
Speaker 1: that's not how all women are raised. You never your
Speaker 1: mom when your dad would come around, would never be
Speaker 1: like get this for your dad. Oh yeah, But I remember.
Speaker 1: It's so funny because I remember when I was younger,
Speaker 1: I used to tell my uncle's and all them like,
Speaker 1: I'm not getting a man like you, cause you'll just
Speaker 1: I'm not about to be Um. It's so funny because
Speaker 1: I'm not about to be making plays and cooking dinner
Speaker 1: and go do this. And I was younger, why because
Speaker 1: I felt like they were just bossing them around, like
Speaker 1: telling them what to do. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: I'm young. I'm not understanding like, Okay, this is a
Speaker 1: a partnership, you know, a benefit or whatever. My into
Speaker 1: like he would be in the studio or like in
Speaker 1: the back where his boys and all this, and my
Speaker 1: aunt I would see her like doing all this stuff,
Speaker 1: or he'll be like calling her like can't weary, this
Speaker 1: can't bear that. And I'm like, I'm not kidding though, man,
Speaker 1: he's a laugh. When I get older, I don't want
Speaker 1: a man like you. But you know what, though, my
Speaker 1: you know, I think y'all was both raised to do
Speaker 1: the same for men, especially like your father and my grandmother,
Speaker 1: and um, so what went wrong went wrong? What we're
Speaker 1: wrong to where you feel like because I don't think
Speaker 1: that I should. I don't have a problem with one
Speaker 1: of those things. But we were talking about the past
Speaker 1: more bros. How they said they're not able to meet
Speaker 1: women that will do this, this, this and that. Well
Speaker 1: he was like, she cooks me breakfast. He ain't going
Speaker 1: in the right, he ain't looking right. I mean, you got.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just there's there's women that I don't
Speaker 1: I don't make my man breakfast every day. I make
Speaker 1: him food. I do, but he's not like a breakfast person.
Speaker 1: But I can't say every day I'm making breakfast. This woman,
Speaker 1: she's not missing a day probably unless don't you why
Speaker 1: do you miss a day because I might just not
Speaker 1: want to feel like doing it that day, or maybe
Speaker 1: I just I don't know, I just didn't do it.
Speaker 1: But that's crazy because but I but I still make
Speaker 1: sure he eats. Because I was gonna say that's like
Speaker 1: with my like with my children, like okay, I gotta
Speaker 1: make I gotta get up and cook them dinner and
Speaker 1: make them breakfast. So you feel more indented to make
Speaker 1: your children breakfast then your dude. No, I'm saying when
Speaker 1: they were younger, I did that. I cooked dinner, always
Speaker 1: make sure I cooked dinner. But I mean, I guess
Speaker 1: maybe because I wasn't a breakfast person. And I another
Speaker 1: reason why I didn't make breakfast because I was always
Speaker 1: gone in the morning, Like you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: I would leave, like to leave for work or you know,
Speaker 1: now I'm home. But I don't know. I just don't
Speaker 1: make it every day. I don't. I don't make breakfast
Speaker 1: every day. On the weekends I do. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Why would you not a lot of time? And I
Speaker 1: think I've told you this before, and we talked about
Speaker 1: this about making place. How don't you actually feel like
Speaker 1: this is like why would you not want it? I
Speaker 1: don't get that, Like I don't get why a man
Speaker 1: don't want to take care of his old lady. I
Speaker 1: don't get how you could not want to take care
Speaker 1: of somebody I do. It's just sometimes, you know, but
Speaker 1: it's even then, it's like that's the best time to
Speaker 1: do it when you're tired, because it is more gratifying,
Speaker 1: like you're like, oh I got through this, Like today,
Speaker 1: I'm like, is it just lazy, I'm tired at that time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but I'll why am I spoiled? I'm not. I'm asking.
Speaker 1: I'm not really accusing you. I'm really thinking about this,
Speaker 1: Like you have the ability to make your husband breakfast
Speaker 1: every morning, and you're like, well, I just don't do it,
Speaker 1: and I just do it on the week. Why that
Speaker 1: is not how? No, I said, I don't do it
Speaker 1: every day, but I make his lunch in his dinner
Speaker 1: and pack his lunch every day. Do that just he
Speaker 1: remember he he gets up at four, I will send
Speaker 1: I guess like I'll send a breakfast sandwich to work.
Speaker 1: It's just he leaves at to thirty. He doesn't always
Speaker 1: eat in the morning, so that you know, I wasn't
Speaker 1: really doing breakfast. And at the same time, we've been
Speaker 1: together a year and when we lived together, I didn't
Speaker 1: make breakfast in the morning. I make breakfast. She made
Speaker 1: breakfast on bread morning. I don't see. This is what
Speaker 1: I don't get right, or at least a smoothie. We
Speaker 1: want to be in these situations right where we be married,
Speaker 1: and I think we all want to individually carve out
Speaker 1: our own ways of doing it versus doing what needs
Speaker 1: to be done consistently, and I don't get why, because
Speaker 1: you're making a good point. He didn't know. I'm not
Speaker 1: I'm not, no, no bullshit, I swear, because he was
Speaker 1: saying that, like she makes me three meals. Then I'm like, well,
Speaker 1: that's not really a big deal. That's a big deal. No,
Speaker 1: not not a big deal for a man. I'm sure
Speaker 1: man would be graded like is that really a big
Speaker 1: deal for a woman to don't think I think that's
Speaker 1: a big he had to fly tens of thousands of
Speaker 1: miles to find a woman or anybody think about that.
Speaker 1: But why do you need gays? Is she working full
Speaker 1: time though? Or is she just taking care of it?
Speaker 1: I think she is just take care of that. But
Speaker 1: he was saying that was a problem here and even
Speaker 1: America for someone not to work and to be able
Speaker 1: to because being a homemaker, that's a job, you know what,
Speaker 1: it's a it's a job. Yeah, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I would love to stop not work in just being
Speaker 1: a homemaker. I love it. I don't believe that I do,
Speaker 1: because this is why I struggle to believe that that's true.
Speaker 1: Right now, I'm not saying I'm sure you would love
Speaker 1: to not work. Okay, I'm sure, I'm sure, for sure
Speaker 1: you would love to not work. Yeah, I'm sure you
Speaker 1: don't want the pressures of working and bringing home a check.
Speaker 1: But I don't still think you would make breakfast every morning.
Speaker 1: I don't think that's nothing to do with work, and
Speaker 1: I think it's just a desire. And I'm really trying
Speaker 1: to understand if you know that, because you know it though,
Speaker 1: if you know that, because there's some morning, there's those
Speaker 1: mornings where I'll wake up and I'll be like, like
Speaker 1: I want to get up, like make breakfast, do all that,
Speaker 1: like I want to do it. But probably because there's
Speaker 1: been times where I'm like, well, I know he don't
Speaker 1: eat breakfast, but I'm sure he wouldn't be like so
Speaker 1: and I don't eat breakfast, but I should start Just
Speaker 1: when I think that's my point, I think, so just
Speaker 1: start doing it. You're because of you, Like I don't
Speaker 1: get what I'm saying, brit Is, And I'm not really
Speaker 1: giving your ship. I'm really thinking because I'm thinking, why
Speaker 1: would just need a travel ten thousand miles to me
Speaker 1: the woman to do something that a woman right here
Speaker 1: would do? And you said, like his game is whack,
Speaker 1: And I'm thinking to myself, it's like, why would you
Speaker 1: need game for a woman to show out as a woman.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying because those type of like what
Speaker 1: I mean is he may not even have the right conversation.
Speaker 1: You need to have conversation for a woman to be
Speaker 1: a woman. You want to you want, you want, you
Speaker 1: want to say, yeah, I mean over there, But you
Speaker 1: don't understand that I was just talking about this on
Speaker 1: the record. I just did about snitching. But people keep thinking, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: Nigga's niggas ain't staying lord nothing. You know, they're snitching.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, you know, nigga ain't here to
Speaker 1: do time for nobody else. That's not what snitching is about.
Speaker 1: Snitching is a personal accountability, right as you did something
Speaker 1: and then you want to tell on someone else to
Speaker 1: not be held accountable for your own ship. Right. So
Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with loyalty. You don't got
Speaker 1: to be loyal to your friend, be loyal to your character.
Speaker 1: Be a man, right, just like a woman right where
Speaker 1: you If you're saying that, right, you're like, well, he
Speaker 1: meeting the wrong woman. What's the wrong woman? And she's
Speaker 1: a woman like what type of what type of woman
Speaker 1: you need to meet that really wants to show out
Speaker 1: at being a nurturer. You know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't get quiet nurturer like my friend. Okay, so
Speaker 1: my friend, that's her. She's a nurturer. Every woman is
Speaker 1: a nurturers. Literally, your she's no, she's cooking the three
Speaker 1: meals a day. This is before he even she loves
Speaker 1: but exactly, and so she loves doing those things, like
Speaker 1: that's just in her. But women don't want to be
Speaker 1: that's why would you? But that's my point? Why would
Speaker 1: you not know? That's like a man that doesn't know
Speaker 1: how to take out the track? Why would you not
Speaker 1: learn how to cook? Like? True, why would you be
Speaker 1: my daughter? Why would you be black and not know
Speaker 1: Billy Jean? Like why would you? Why would you exist
Speaker 1: in certain spaces where these are pretty much cardinal ideas,
Speaker 1: Like I'm not saying a woman shouldn't work. Let's say
Speaker 1: a woman does want to work. I expect Oprah to
Speaker 1: know how to fucking cook. I'm gonna funk how much
Speaker 1: money she got. How the funk would you not know
Speaker 1: how to cook? You are a bringer? You are a
Speaker 1: bringer of life. See, Look, I don't want to I'm opposite.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to be the homemaker. I'm good at
Speaker 1: all this. I'm not even talking about being a homemaker.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying a woman should want to be a homemaker.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, how would you not want to know? How?
Speaker 1: I agree with? How don't you brush up on being
Speaker 1: a nurturer? Like I understand where we're in a space
Speaker 1: whereas genders or gender ro but you literally can have
Speaker 1: a baby that lets you know you may have to
Speaker 1: be responsible for feeding somebody. How don't you prepare yourself
Speaker 1: for that? That's like a man that don't got no hands.
Speaker 1: You may in this lifetime if you have a kid,
Speaker 1: become a protector. How are you gonna look if you
Speaker 1: can't protect this little dude or this little lady. There's
Speaker 1: some there's a lot of men and women there weren't
Speaker 1: raised to understand that concept of But I don't And
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. But I don't know if that's true. Man,
Speaker 1: I genuinely think I don't. I think that's a very
Speaker 1: minute few. But I think there's a not like you,
Speaker 1: there's a natural resistance to it based off how you
Speaker 1: view the world. But so it was how you were,
Speaker 1: what you interpreted, how you felt what you were UM
Speaker 1: taught you know what I'm saying as far as like
Speaker 1: like you you frowned upon your auntie, right, he's look
Speaker 1: at Monty going to get that stuff. Why is that
Speaker 1: a frown at that time? It was for me. So
Speaker 1: what I'm trying to get to that point at that
Speaker 1: time because that's when they just being a little bossy
Speaker 1: kid like, because I doubt I doubt you would feel
Speaker 1: that way if a nigga ran up it was talking
Speaker 1: crazy auntie and y'allco stepped up and knocked his ass.
Speaker 1: I don't think, like why he gotta take her face?
Speaker 1: She should let her take her own face. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: I didn't see see, I didn't see a lot of um,
Speaker 1: a lot of them like being lovy like you know,
Speaker 1: say kissing or hugging or anything. I just seen my
Speaker 1: aunt and you know, just doing all these things. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. I'm just saying, like you didn't
Speaker 1: understand what's loving him? Yeah I didn't as a twelve
Speaker 1: year old mind, you think loving is kissing and fucking
Speaker 1: you still kind of not kissing her and I say no.
Speaker 1: I did not say kissing her. I was gonna probably
Speaker 1: say no. I was probably gonna say getting things like
Speaker 1: I would see, Like I'm like dang, Like she even
Speaker 1: on her feet all day. She we we had a
Speaker 1: flat and she changed the tire. Not she called my uncle,
Speaker 1: but we were on the side of around, remember because
Speaker 1: a THEO. Anyway, it's so I'm like dang, and she
Speaker 1: not to change of tires like girl term like what
Speaker 1: like I It's just she was super woman And I
Speaker 1: didn't see the like her reaping any like benefits, like
Speaker 1: she wasn't getting a massage or like she wasn't able
Speaker 1: to just kind of like you know and so and see.
Speaker 1: And this is why I think it's incomplete. See, when
Speaker 1: you truly mature as an adult, right, when you truly
Speaker 1: hit the space, and it's hard for y'all, y'all may
Speaker 1: not never hit it as women, right because and I'm
Speaker 1: not talking ship, I'm really saying, your natural nature is
Speaker 1: very insatia. It's not very insatiable. It's it's you have
Speaker 1: a constant desire and it's going to constantly alter. That
Speaker 1: sounds a bit chauvinistic, but it's not it's true. That's why, like,
Speaker 1: what have you done for me lately? All of these
Speaker 1: songs were made by women that are close to fourty
Speaker 1: years old. You know what I'm saying that that pretty
Speaker 1: much been the theme of their love, right, So when
Speaker 1: you see it that way, right and you're like, oh, well,
Speaker 1: that's him loving her, that's her loving him. Right, So
Speaker 1: when you're saying he's not getting anything, her gift was
Speaker 1: her loving him. She loving someone is the gift, not
Speaker 1: being loved. That's the confusion to being love is not
Speaker 1: the gift, because you really can't tell if somebody being loved,
Speaker 1: like you can think loving is buying you something. And
Speaker 1: then that's why a nigga could suck you over really
Speaker 1: bad because he buying you ship and you think that's love.
Speaker 1: Loving someone is all personal gratification truly when it's done correctly,
Speaker 1: and I know that to be true. Like when you
Speaker 1: love somebody, that is the gratic to buying them. The
Speaker 1: gift is the is the present to you, not the
Speaker 1: present they get back to you, but buying them the present.
Speaker 1: You see one of those types of people and it's
Speaker 1: not even about them receiving. I don't got to see
Speaker 1: them happy me picking it, knowing that I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: this person is the whole thing. Yeah, that's because I
Speaker 1: think it's important to be like you. I like getting
Speaker 1: to what you. I know that they you know what
Speaker 1: you would like or what can make something better in
Speaker 1: your life. But see love love like love is just weird,
Speaker 1: like like I can't really give you love. I can
Speaker 1: show you it. I can't give it to you because
Speaker 1: I don't know how you were. So the showing part,
Speaker 1: that's where I'm saying, like, that's where I like to, Okay,
Speaker 1: give me a give me a kiss, let me like.
Speaker 1: But but it's not about but that's the point of
Speaker 1: So that's what I saw. So even like the love language, right,
Speaker 1: people can speak to different languages. That don't mean they
Speaker 1: can't effectively communicate. People just have to decide to a
Speaker 1: herp with somebody else's language. And it ain't always about
Speaker 1: somebody loving you the way you want to be loved.
Speaker 1: It's about somebody loving you. You know what I'm saying, Like,
Speaker 1: if you can get somebody to love you, even it
Speaker 1: may not be Let's say your love languages gifts. Let's
Speaker 1: say his love language is like what he his love
Speaker 1: language that he shows is words of affirmation. It would
Speaker 1: behoove you to not start to care about how somebody
Speaker 1: is trying to love you versus and this is how
Speaker 1: I want to be loved. Love ain't selfish, for sure.
Speaker 1: Love ain't selfish, it's for sure selfless. So if you
Speaker 1: always worried about yourself, then at that point you're not
Speaker 1: really loving nobody. But you know, I don't even think
Speaker 1: nobody being love at all. You actually ain't even truly
Speaker 1: experiencing how great it is. So that I'm asking and
Speaker 1: I'm not. I swear like I know, I give your ship.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm really not giving your ship. I'm just trying
Speaker 1: to say, why would this nigga have to go tends
Speaker 1: of thousands of miles. There's a lot of I mean.
Speaker 1: And then the other situation, Okay, another I grew up
Speaker 1: my grandmother. She was single, she didn't remarry, she ended up,
Speaker 1: she had a boyfriend. My grandmother worked. My grandmother like
Speaker 1: she did every chance, like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: So it was no like for me, like oh I
Speaker 1: have to sit and like wait like so I'm just
Speaker 1: so used to that. So when I so when I
Speaker 1: see or I felt like Okay, these men are being
Speaker 1: like like um, like I would be like damn, like
Speaker 1: they think that they like own them, like you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, like this is my what I'm thinking.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm young, and then being with um, you know,
Speaker 1: my son's father, I'm like, okay, wow, like this is
Speaker 1: like too much, like yeah, you know. So yeah, that's
Speaker 1: the point though, the way we see it, it's probably
Speaker 1: never the way it should go, for sure. I know
Speaker 1: I didn't know for a while, a long while, but
Speaker 1: but yeah, that's all I'm saying. I just don't get washing.
Speaker 1: Brothers will travel ten thou and I'm trying to forgout now,
Speaker 1: but that's what I'm saying. What is the right women? Apparently,
Speaker 1: whatever it is that they're looking forward, they're not finding
Speaker 1: it in here apparently. But I personally feel like I
Speaker 1: didn't think that's what it was. That that's the point
Speaker 1: I'm making. I just cannot But but but now listen to y'all.
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, maybe I'm tripping. Maybe women here are,
Speaker 1: but like I said, they probably don't probably no one
Speaker 1: wants to. I mean, they probably don't like him, ain't
Speaker 1: very like they not really like swaggered out to be like,
Speaker 1: what is that? But what is? Because you keep going
Speaker 1: to the woman because as women, we like that ship.
Speaker 1: Come on, keep that ship real. We like that ship.
Speaker 1: We like a man? What confidently? And I love myself?
Speaker 1: That's not that's not That's not what I'm saying. What
Speaker 1: do you mean? How do I like myself? You just
Speaker 1: asked me about the man. We're not going into myself
Speaker 1: now because you because you keep I'm not asking you
Speaker 1: about the man. I'm asking you. You mean to tell
Speaker 1: me that women only act a certain way depending on
Speaker 1: the man named. That's what you just said. How do
Speaker 1: I say that? Because you said because I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you how say you just said to me? I was like,
Speaker 1: they not mean well them type of niggas. What does
Speaker 1: that have to do with the type of woman that
Speaker 1: that like? A woman is a woman to a woman
Speaker 1: is a woman. I'm the same type of nigga, no
Speaker 1: matter what type of grill it is. That's you because
Speaker 1: I'm me for real, listen to what I'm saying. I'm
Speaker 1: not me based off the type of woman you're saying.
Speaker 1: They're meeting certain type of men because they like me
Speaker 1: and to be what they're meeting women, and the women
Speaker 1: they're meeting, they're having bad experiences. So what I'm asking
Speaker 1: you or they're not getting even the chance to In
Speaker 1: the conversation, the one of them said he was married,
Speaker 1: So you mean to tell me women or women because
Speaker 1: that's who they are, Like, you're not the type of
Speaker 1: woman you are, because we don't know if she maybe
Speaker 1: he she left him. I'm not saying I'm not I'm
Speaker 1: telling you he's complaining, right. He said he's traveled thousands
Speaker 1: of thousands of thousands of miles to meet a woman,
Speaker 1: and he's bragging about her because she cooks three times
Speaker 1: a fucking day. I mean, like you said, why the
Speaker 1: would you travel? And now I'm starting to luck apparently
Speaker 1: whatever reason why, I don't know. I think it has
Speaker 1: more to do with the what she said, them girls
Speaker 1: getting to ship. But no, but I don't think before
Speaker 1: I don't what country was that. I mean, American women
Speaker 1: know they are going to cook three times a day.
Speaker 1: They really that culture. They were raised to to do that.
Speaker 1: So what were you Listen, this is what what we
Speaker 1: and not every woman was raised to do that. What
Speaker 1: were you raised to do? If you wasn't raised to
Speaker 1: be a woman. What were you raised to do, like
Speaker 1: to nurture. I'm just saying nurture because this is about nurturing.
Speaker 1: I'm not even saying that gender roles are staying at home.
Speaker 1: I'm not even that. I'm saying, how do you get? It?
Speaker 1: Just doesn't mean they don't want to cook three times
Speaker 1: three meals? But but how would you not? Like we
Speaker 1: don't know, because you're American women, why would you not?
Speaker 1: So maybe you were raised to be what I was
Speaker 1: raised to be a woman. So then why the funk
Speaker 1: would you not cook three meals a day, no matter
Speaker 1: what the nigga is, because you might be working, might
Speaker 1: not because they have to do those things. Now there,
Speaker 1: she's home all day, glasses, I'm at work. That's an
Speaker 1: answer class. I couldn't cook breathfast I was at work.
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, I can make lunch. I mean we packed that.
Speaker 1: I was at work. So but that's not what we're saying.
Speaker 1: He's saying, Okay, so like he really that was a
Speaker 1: flesh A lot of that sent me. The man was
Speaker 1: like bragging, like this dress that the woman had on
Speaker 1: was four dollars. Maybe showed his four dollar dress. Don't
Speaker 1: that ship look good on her. He say she was happy,
Speaker 1: yeah with the dress, with the dress because she wasn't materialistic. No,
Speaker 1: but that's not how and that's how in there, And
Speaker 1: you don't think that's a fracture at that point for
Speaker 1: y'all that y'all materialistic if you just if it really
Speaker 1: comes down to the price of an item, that is,
Speaker 1: if you are if the dress looks good and you're
Speaker 1: worried about the price of it, then yeah you are.
Speaker 1: I mean it is dress like if yo if like,
Speaker 1: y'all do best start buying you outfits? But he all
Speaker 1: of them was nice though they were nice outfits, but
Speaker 1: he not buying you expensive person. Is he not buying
Speaker 1: you none of the design and stuff. He just buying
Speaker 1: you clothing and they're nice. I'm a wearried you really
Speaker 1: believe that that's what you're gonna be? What you mean?
Speaker 1: Do you know there's you could rock and look what
Speaker 1: you're being proud of it? Would you show it off
Speaker 1: like how she was? No? I mean, like look my
Speaker 1: guy got in the video. Hey, I mean I get
Speaker 1: dollar dresses showing it offs different, But that now that's
Speaker 1: just a little nah, I think na. So is there
Speaker 1: a real conversation to be happy about y'all being kind
Speaker 1: of like funked up and spoiled as women. I mean,
Speaker 1: not funked up in the sun up since but like
Speaker 1: you're so far away from the essence of actually what
Speaker 1: love is and the simplest forms that you just so
Speaker 1: driven by capitalism that the dress needs to be a
Speaker 1: thousand dollars for you to see love you versus he
Speaker 1: buying your address. That's just nice that he definitely not know.
Speaker 1: So you don't cook three breaths because you don't feel
Speaker 1: like it. No, God, you're not gonna flost this dress.
Speaker 1: So y'all making foster dress. I was telling her about
Speaker 1: how she let's me get my work done. Stop really
Speaker 1: really like, he's like this, he has to come out
Speaker 1: there them over there, And that's what I'm saying videos,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. No, but I'm saying, but what
Speaker 1: you're saying to me, It's starting to be like, but
Speaker 1: how wright is this naked? No man, is it? How
Speaker 1: right are you flying? Do you need to go to glasses?
Speaker 1: I have no idea because I never I never met
Speaker 1: a woman that I thought wouldn't cook three meals a day. Now,
Speaker 1: women what I've never I've never in my life met
Speaker 1: a woman that I didn't think wanted to cook three
Speaker 1: meals a day. I've never been around I'm long enough.
Speaker 1: I first off, I've really never until recently been around
Speaker 1: women to see if they would cook three meals a day.
Speaker 1: I'm not used to spending twenty four hours with people.
Speaker 1: Got you, I got you, I get what you're saying.
Speaker 1: So I'm saying I genuinely most women I've ever interacted with,
Speaker 1: we'll cook three meals a day. I mean, let's stay
Speaker 1: were just young. It just didn't have to cook at
Speaker 1: that time. But it all honestly, man, come on, g like,
Speaker 1: you know, there's plenty of good women that's after that
Speaker 1: are about nurturing for exactly my man, they my mom
Speaker 1: was making three meals, she's still making like a thing
Speaker 1: of the pass. I just think a lot of women
Speaker 1: are more more independent, They got more What is that?
Speaker 1: What is that? Because trying to stop me when I'm
Speaker 1: saying something, because I need to get what independent mean?
Speaker 1: What does that mean? I'm saying, like they're really into
Speaker 1: I can do it all myself and I don't need
Speaker 1: to do anything or need anyone to do anything like
Speaker 1: an adult. Why do you have a title for being
Speaker 1: an adult? Because all adults take care of themselves. Okay,
Speaker 1: but we're talking about Wait, because we're not talking about
Speaker 1: a woman that's independent. You don't want to be independent
Speaker 1: in the relationship. No, I'm just I'm just because I
Speaker 1: gotta get No, I'm gonna change you. Why hold up?
Speaker 1: Because listen, No, listen because because it's hard to move.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we say so much bullshit and I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about you. I'm saying the ship we say like being
Speaker 1: an independent woman? What the funk is that? So I
Speaker 1: can know before we move forward, because that way we
Speaker 1: can either have a full understanding or we can stop
Speaker 1: saying silly ship. So what is an adult? Are we
Speaker 1: saying an adult woman who provides for themselves is an
Speaker 1: independent woman? Well, because, like you just said, most people
Speaker 1: try to equate that you have to have a husband
Speaker 1: and so it so what so what single adult women?
Speaker 1: Well because because because I would imagine I could see
Speaker 1: if we're saying an independent woman is a woman in
Speaker 1: a relationship, she's gonna pay half of the bills, She's
Speaker 1: gonna pay half of the deals when they go out.
Speaker 1: Sometimes she's gonna pay the dating bill. That's an independent woman,
Speaker 1: and that's the woman that we're talking about. No, we're
Speaker 1: not talking about a woman in a relationship. We're talking
Speaker 1: about a single adult woman who provides for themselves. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but we're can we stop using the term independent woman?
Speaker 1: And that's about those men. But those men were probably
Speaker 1: those were the women they were in the relationship. How
Speaker 1: do we know that they're the women aren't paying the
Speaker 1: bills and you know, doing at things that he's not doing.
Speaker 1: It is a proud thing. So no, I don't think
Speaker 1: most women are in a relationship proud that they're Like,
Speaker 1: you're not proud that you have a job. I am.
Speaker 1: I like my job. I didn't say that you you
Speaker 1: wouldn't be there. I'm going to I love going to work.
Speaker 1: If I the choice, I would still go there. I'd
Speaker 1: be right here making music right now. I love what
Speaker 1: but I and I want to do it. You, on
Speaker 1: the other hand, you would not want to do it.
Speaker 1: This job, not this job. But so you said you
Speaker 1: wouldn't want him because to pay everything, that's what you're saying. No,
Speaker 1: you don't want him to know. I don't need him. No,
Speaker 1: I don't want to ask you need him to. I
Speaker 1: want my man to. That's what that god damn hands.
Speaker 1: So you mean to tell me you don't want somebody
Speaker 1: to cover all your expenses really honestly on everything else,
Speaker 1: because I know Brick gonna tell it to. So really
Speaker 1: you don't want a man? And is it because you
Speaker 1: fear that he thinks he controls you? Is it all
Speaker 1: your insecurities Because you mean to tell me you don't
Speaker 1: want as a fucking adult woman, you don't want somebody
Speaker 1: to take care of all your ship he covers your
Speaker 1: expenses your day, I'm not of course you do. That
Speaker 1: would be fucking heaven for you. The only reason you
Speaker 1: feel like it wouldn't because you feel like he would
Speaker 1: have some like you have insecurities about how it would go.
Speaker 1: In the back of your mind. Man Nick might be
Speaker 1: trying to control me and control the money and telling
Speaker 1: me this and that and silly ship not that. Like
Speaker 1: if it was really just he put you at a
Speaker 1: group account and he came and put it in, he
Speaker 1: took care of the business, and you just did what
Speaker 1: you did and he did what he did and it
Speaker 1: was all him, you would not have a problem. You
Speaker 1: just think it comes with other ship that's all, and
Speaker 1: that's cool because that's kind of something is do some
Speaker 1: niggers feel like they throw their power around like that's
Speaker 1: not me, my power up top and it ain't really
Speaker 1: in my pockets for me. Like that's why I say so,
Speaker 1: I look at somebody like them, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that would be the challenge. She's not gonna cook three times.
Speaker 1: She's gonna be cooking three times to day. Fun with me.
Speaker 1: I'm a breaker breaker like in the Dice game. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be you need to cook three meals
Speaker 1: a day, but she gonna notice that. You know what,
Speaker 1: I think this nigga might like if I cook three
Speaker 1: meals a day. I just don't stand why she wouldn't
Speaker 1: like that like a nigga like, I get it when
Speaker 1: niggas can't afford to cover the mortgage or the rent.
Speaker 1: It bothers me though, when niggas don't want to m hm.
Speaker 1: So I don't know some nigga like she did here too,
Speaker 1: now now I get it. See niggas also insecure, like
Speaker 1: sometimes like girls to that point too, they say that
Speaker 1: because they can't They just scared to say, hey, I
Speaker 1: can't cover that all by myself. So it's like, well
Speaker 1: she did here too. It's like, what I mean, you
Speaker 1: want her to pay to split the mortgage with you?
Speaker 1: You want her to split it with you. I'm saying that,
Speaker 1: and that's how I feel as a woman. You mean,
Speaker 1: you don't want to feed your nigga three times today.
Speaker 1: Now I can see if you can't, if time permits,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah, But you don't. That's not something you
Speaker 1: you aspire to do. Like as a man, you don't
Speaker 1: aspire to protect your old lady, Like if it's nigga
Speaker 1: ran up and shitty somebody wanted to fail you, like,
Speaker 1: you don't aspire to go knock that nig out in
Speaker 1: front of your lady, Like that's not what you want
Speaker 1: to happen. And that's my issue is where I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's a desire anymore. And that's what I'm
Speaker 1: saying about these brothers, Like I'm looking at it like
Speaker 1: so I can't personally use me because all this ship
Speaker 1: he talking about to me is just a challenge. I'm
Speaker 1: not going nowhere and I'm not fine way over there
Speaker 1: to dude, none of that. I need my sister as
Speaker 1: black as the night. But I understand of other brothers
Speaker 1: for me like, I don't want to challenge. I just
Speaker 1: need her to fold over and do it. Because the
Speaker 1: stuff he was talking about, we're so simple. Shout out
Speaker 1: to Richie Matt because I really dig his content. Um.
Speaker 1: But it was just weird. He's like, she makes me breakfast,
Speaker 1: she makes me grits. She I was like, grits. I'm
Speaker 1: teaching how to make pancakes and she fries chicken and
Speaker 1: ties no how to and I'm like, God, but listen,
Speaker 1: he could have found that here my brothers listen. But
Speaker 1: if you don't, Nigga's like grids, you are fucked up.
Speaker 1: I'm not. This ain't bad it, trust me, man if
Speaker 1: Yo Nigga ain't learning how to change tires. That's a problem. Yo,
Speaker 1: Nigga should not have to change lightbulbs tires. Feel me
Speaker 1: put ship together or take it to Walmart to have
Speaker 1: them do it. It's certain things as a man you
Speaker 1: should aspire to be and just like a woman, you
Speaker 1: should aspire to be every sense of a nurturer. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying a woman who doesn't set at home, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I don't care if you want a job, cares nobody
Speaker 1: said you gotta be barefoot and pregnant, which I don't understand.
Speaker 1: What's so bad about that? You ain't can't you can't
Speaker 1: carry it yall? That's why you don't understand that. I
Speaker 1: don't know, because I just doubt that I want to
Speaker 1: do a lot of ship. If I was prayed it,
Speaker 1: i'd be wanting to chill, like I don't want to
Speaker 1: do nothing. You're not gonna work still, I gotta work,
Speaker 1: that's what. So what's wrong with nik? I don't want
Speaker 1: to go nowhere where I'm going because of that reason
Speaker 1: right there. So I don't get the concept of barefoot
Speaker 1: and pray. I don't get like I get the shot
Speaker 1: at it. But it's like, what do you want to do?
Speaker 1: And I think there's this weird desire that people think
Speaker 1: being hoeing hoeing is it? So they feel like hoing,
Speaker 1: like really going out being in people's face, over socializing,
Speaker 1: socializing for no purpose, to drinking, not actually selling vagina,
Speaker 1: but like going to the club just to be in
Speaker 1: people face, just to get fake affirmation of desire that's temporary,
Speaker 1: and then you just live with it. Like that's a
Speaker 1: lot of things that we call fun that's what we
Speaker 1: You know, you tell your kids, don't you don't want
Speaker 1: to get into a serious relationship right now. You need
Speaker 1: to have your fun, enjoy life. That's what that means.
Speaker 1: Because you can do the same ship married whatever, you
Speaker 1: can go out and do ship. You could do all
Speaker 1: the same ship. The one thing you can't do is
Speaker 1: that ship. So we think that that makes some sense
Speaker 1: of fun. And I just didn't understand it. But back
Speaker 1: to the point, it's like, I don't understand why my
Speaker 1: fucker traveled three thousands of thousands of miles to be
Speaker 1: the woman. And I was thinking this bit from the
Speaker 1: do backflips or something. Its like she cooks me breakfast,
Speaker 1: but she cooks me breakfast, she doesn't bother me. I
Speaker 1: finished my work, I'm like, dam I'm a bit. Won't
Speaker 1: let you finish your working Where they're stopping, he was
Speaker 1: like showing him like, hey, we just went to this
Speaker 1: restaurant and we only spent this much money. And it
Speaker 1: was like like basically showing like y'all can come up
Speaker 1: here and live like a he got a whole movement. No,
Speaker 1: it's a whole movement. Come out here for all of me. Crazy.
Speaker 1: All things look crazy, look I'm not. I'm not. I'm
Speaker 1: not the handsomest nigga. But the Lope has got the
Speaker 1: has a glow that makes the loaf work, said the
Speaker 1: low No, it strimps. I'm not like you know. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm not but the Lope But for me, I know
Speaker 1: my glow but I don't. I was looking in there, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was looking. They had an episode where they was
Speaker 1: in the Motherfucker's Spot doing with Thiland and it was
Speaker 1: just a bunch of crazy looking niggers with crazy looking
Speaker 1: tied with him, like, oh, these bitches ain't even fine.
Speaker 1: He looked like a weirdo. Don't do that, my boy, chie,
Speaker 1: let me tell you. But you know with the bullshit,
Speaker 1: that's what I do know. That's cool because he wasn't
Speaker 1: make him three meals or let him finish this work
Speaker 1: she might make. Would you make him grit? She makes
Speaker 1: me grit. I can't believe it's going to find a brite.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to man it was here you
Speaker 1: to find a woman who know how to make something else.
Speaker 1: We didn't get to the bottom of it yet, but
Speaker 1: it's something else. It is continue it is into You
Speaker 1: don't know that though, what could be. I don't change
Speaker 1: a woman for being a woman. Oh, I'm just saying
Speaker 1: he might because he's not here. The interest is not here.
Speaker 1: When he went over there one woman because she was
Speaker 1: like a woman did everything? Yes, but what woman don't
Speaker 1: won't do everything? Woman don't just want to just do everything?
Speaker 1: What are you talking about? We're talking because she went
Speaker 1: over there. Yeah, I mean he went over there. I said,
Speaker 1: why would a woman not want to do everything? She
Speaker 1: probably was doing everything here, but it just didn't work out.
Speaker 1: So he went over there and he said, oh, I
Speaker 1: don't have but you said it didn't work out. See
Speaker 1: that's not true. You see, that's my issue. He said
Speaker 1: that he wasn't getting these things, that's why he was
Speaker 1: who brags about it? And he was married though, so
Speaker 1: did he have any So is he bashis off with
Speaker 1: just this marriage? You know? He was meeting different girls
Speaker 1: and he was like the sisters overre com playing too much.
Speaker 1: And I know he was for sure talking about how
Speaker 1: they was materialist because America does breed capitalism and he
Speaker 1: was with a black woman. I don't know woman, that
Speaker 1: could be true. I gotta see. This is what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: Like we don't know we can get to the bottom
Speaker 1: of it. If these guys are thousands of miles, I'm
Speaker 1: not saying they like I've seen them. They are very
Speaker 1: different and unique characters for sure. Like I don't what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, but that still shouldn't stop a woman from
Speaker 1: being a woman. Now I can see why I don't. Last,
Speaker 1: let's stop her from talking to him. But what are
Speaker 1: you talking about? It just depends what type of woman. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's true. Let's leave it there. Good looking out for
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