WEBVTT - Conversations About Passport Bros 0:00:01.840 --> 0:00:04.360 Watch up and welcome back to another episode and No 0:00:04.519 --> 0:00:07.480 Sillers podcast with your host Now funk that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:24.520 low glasses malone time and I'm like fun Now, I'm like, yeah, 0:00:24.560 --> 0:00:27.160 I'll be having to leave little backups in the car. 0:00:27.240 --> 0:00:30.120 And why do you got to leave the car? Because 0:00:30.160 --> 0:00:32.880 I might need it? You see how I don't have 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:34.840 no weed today, but I had some weed in the car. 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:39.280 That's why I got it now, So backup. It's like 0:00:39.320 --> 0:00:41.800 an Asia bag. All my friends used to have Asia bags. 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:45.800 Nobody got Asia backs. No more because Asia sold up. 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:53.000 She's living up well. Back to the point, I was, ha, 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:58.440 that's the thing. Like women really connor will find themselves 0:00:58.440 --> 0:01:00.600 in bad positions, Like she feel like I got to 0:01:00.600 --> 0:01:02.840 clean up, Like she really don't want to clean up. 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:06.399 So in order for her to move into that space 0:01:06.600 --> 0:01:10.319 right of a wife, there are things that people expect 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:14.600 of a wife. She do want to clean up. But yeah, 0:01:14.840 --> 0:01:16.720 you know what I'm saying, she's I think it's more 0:01:16.800 --> 0:01:20.160 so pressure now for her because it's like she wants, 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:22.320 you know, she wants all these things that she wants 0:01:22.319 --> 0:01:25.240 a husband, and so she's trying to do all these 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:27.679 things that I don't know because she does clean, she 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:32.120 does take care of children. She's she just he you know. 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:34.200 The thing is that he go to work all day 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.679 and you know, she makes her money and she ain't 0:01:37.680 --> 0:01:40.520 got to work like that, you know, So he like 0:01:42.160 --> 0:01:43.880 which I told her, I said, look, he's going to 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.680 work all day and when he come home, because she 0:01:46.760 --> 0:01:48.280 like when he wants me home? I said, you should 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:50.800 be home when he come home, like you know, and 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:55.720 you home all day, the house should be clean. I 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:57.640 told her that, like it should you're not working, you're 0:01:57.640 --> 0:02:00.920 not you know. So he's like, well where are you at? 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:04.400 Well what are you doing? You know? And the thing 0:02:04.480 --> 0:02:07.440 is with her, like she's just very she's just used to. 0:02:08.360 --> 0:02:15.600 She takes she does things. She's like what Jamaican. So 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:19.000 he wants her there when he gets home from work? 0:02:19.800 --> 0:02:22.280 Why does he want her there? You know what? I 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:24.239 can ask a woman why that? Because I would I 0:02:24.360 --> 0:02:27.000 don't know, because men really probably has I want to 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:30.320 know why most men do want you home when they 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:33.960 come home. I mean, unlet you ask work. You know, 0:02:35.160 --> 0:02:37.600 if you're working, that's different from what's what I'm saying, 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:41.880 Like what else? Like where else would she be? Exactly? 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:47.520 But I get it. I don't. I don't quite note. No, 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.560 I'm because I'm really trying to figure out because she 0:02:49.680 --> 0:02:54.040 go be, she's gonna be everywhere. She just be everywhere, 0:02:54.160 --> 0:02:57.040 like she just harand she might need to do or 0:02:57.200 --> 0:03:00.400 she's the type of she's the type of check where 0:03:00.639 --> 0:03:02.919 she wake up in the morning, she's gonna get dressed, 0:03:02.919 --> 0:03:05.760 and she goes to eat breakfast every day, would like 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:07.680 say a certain person and she goes to get her 0:03:07.720 --> 0:03:12.480 coffee and like she just she's there. And I told her, 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:19.639 it's funny because it feels like she would be compromising 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:26.720 herself to really be with somebody. Yeah, she's just Yeah, 0:03:26.880 --> 0:03:29.520 I think like I told you, I think she was. 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:34.359 She's setting her ways and now she's looking at it 0:03:34.480 --> 0:03:40.040 like she went through it. And I think that's what 0:03:40.120 --> 0:03:43.400 anybody g I think anybody that anybody that has been 0:03:43.440 --> 0:03:46.760 single for a long time, male or female, you have 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:51.080 to grow accustomed to dealing with someone else in your life, 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:55.400 especially if you've been single for years for a long time. 0:03:56.240 --> 0:03:59.080 But it was an easy transition, don't lie. Yeah, I mean, 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:04.080 what do you mean, Trance, You were single, But that's 0:04:04.120 --> 0:04:05.800 why I said, I think it's the kind of person 0:04:05.880 --> 0:04:09.280 you are like, so, yeah, I've been I was single forever, 0:04:09.880 --> 0:04:14.080 but I've never been single, like I never conduct myself 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:18.520 like a truly single person. Like probably the worst thing 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:20.360 that I did. I used to work all the time, 0:04:20.440 --> 0:04:22.440 Like I would work into the night, like I don't 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:25.719 even care. So that's kind of what I did. But 0:04:25.760 --> 0:04:29.000 as far as broad like, I wasn't never really ho 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:31.680 hopping hard like that. That just ain't really my style. 0:04:33.120 --> 0:04:35.400 I really think I'm pretty valuable in my mind. I 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:41.960 think it's different stuff like um checking in, you know, 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:45.280 like if but but this is my thing, right, so 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:49.480 real checking in? Right, So relationship check in and like 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:52.680 hip hop check in is the same type of checking in, 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:56.320 so right, it just depends on the mentality of the person. 0:04:56.880 --> 0:05:00.240 So when I check in, like right, when I check again, 0:05:00.320 --> 0:05:02.840 if I go to another nigga town, I really want 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:04.960 to hang out with the niggas towns that I'm in. 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:08.279 So if I go to New York, I'm gonna hit 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:11.040 my nigga wink all, my Flatbush partners, I'm gonna hit 0:05:11.279 --> 0:05:13.680 Trade Pizzy next time I go, I'm gonna see Tray 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:16.040 Pizzy and them in the Bronx. Feel me, I'm here, 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:18.960 my partnering queens, my potler stat nil and hit my 0:05:19.000 --> 0:05:21.320 people because I really want to function with my people's 0:05:21.320 --> 0:05:24.720 while i'm here. So what somebody else may feel as 0:05:24.760 --> 0:05:30.200 a burden of fellowshipping with a loved ones, I don't 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:32.920 see it that way. So even as a marriage, as 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.000 a maryor as a married person, I don't see it 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:38.119 as a burden. Yeah, it's like, I want to talk 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:41.520 to this motherfucker and never had a problem. I didn't 0:05:41.520 --> 0:05:44.920 feel like it was a burden. But I'm saying for me, 0:05:45.160 --> 0:05:48.520 I did have to remind myself, like it's you in 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:53.400 a relationship. You need to make sure that okay, Like example, 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:55.839 this is the ship that I used to do, and 0:05:55.880 --> 0:06:00.920 I had to check myself. Um, I'll make plans. I 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:03.839 ain't told this man nothing. The day comes for the 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:07.520 plans and I'm like, oh, I'm going with woo here. 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:10.240 Oh you didn't say that. You didn't. You didn't say 0:06:10.240 --> 0:06:13.480 anything to me about that, And I would get like 0:06:13.920 --> 0:06:16.600 why the woman? I mean, like, I just I made plans. 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.760 I'm sorry, but I'm telling you right now like that 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:22.160 I'm going here like I'm not hiding it. I'm not. 0:06:22.240 --> 0:06:25.160 It's not I'm not you know, and it was it 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:27.680 was like, why would you you knew? How long you 0:06:27.760 --> 0:06:29.680 knew about this? And I'm like, oh, probably a couple 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:32.400 of days, okay, and you're just telling me today and 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:35.160 I'm just like, I didn't get I didn't know if 0:06:35.200 --> 0:06:39.120 that's about being single, why is that? Well, I don't 0:06:39.160 --> 0:06:41.080 know what it is. It's about moving the way you 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:44.159 want to move, right, But I think so it depends, 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:46.479 right if you like you may not just be a 0:06:46.480 --> 0:06:49.000 trustworthy person. Oh my god, I'm a I'm a very 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:50.920 trustful What does that have to do with me? I'm 0:06:50.960 --> 0:06:54.239 a very trustworthy person. What are you talking about? Okay, 0:06:54.279 --> 0:07:00.480 that's not the right way. Let me that's wracked up. 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:08.240 Let me empty that burrito back out of reaping. Okay. 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:10.440 So maybe part of the reasons I do what I 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:13.960 do because I know who I am, Like, I know 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:16.320 who I am as a person, and I know how 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:19.440 other people see what I can be. So then I know, 0:07:19.520 --> 0:07:26.920 motherfucker's be worried. Right, So, like, I don't quite know. 0:07:27.520 --> 0:07:30.680 I mean, would I be offended if a woman if 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:34.480 somebody didn't tell me what their plans were. I mean, 0:07:34.520 --> 0:07:36.800 I probably wouldn't be offended, but I probably would be 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:40.000 like damn that was or maybe not. I guess it 0:07:40.040 --> 0:07:41.960 just depends, like wait a minute, we talking about in 0:07:41.960 --> 0:07:43.640 the middle of the day, like are you telling me 0:07:43.680 --> 0:07:49.760 you're going to the at so short? Because because even then, 0:07:49.920 --> 0:07:53.720 like I think the natural insecurity is one thing, right, 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:56.320 you have a natural insecurity. But for the most part, 0:07:56.360 --> 0:07:59.160 I'm glad when I'm by myself sometimes, like I'm glad 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:01.640 when she's around. I'm glad when I'm by myself. Like 0:08:01.640 --> 0:08:07.360 I'm pretty much a glad person the whole experience. But um, 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:09.480 I don't know. I just I just think that's weird, 0:08:09.520 --> 0:08:11.760 Like I don't know quite like what does that mean? Like, 0:08:12.160 --> 0:08:14.520 but she didn't used to complain. She's like, that's the 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:18.800 probably this single so long, And I'm like, what am 0:08:18.800 --> 0:08:21.680 I doing that makes you? Like? What what a part 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:23.880 of this makes you feel like it's a single move? 0:08:26.120 --> 0:08:29.480 Maybe not like she said, like, um, were you like 0:08:29.560 --> 0:08:32.600 not checking into maybe you weren't doing something like that. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:36.520 But I'm always kind of I tell her so she knows, 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:40.600 like I want to tell her, got you no, But 0:08:40.679 --> 0:08:43.280 I did too. I'm just saying when I first it 0:08:43.360 --> 0:08:45.520 was it was just weird because I was just used 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:47.400 to getting up and just going and doing what I 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:50.120 needed to do or whatever. So yeah, and didn't sometimes 0:08:50.120 --> 0:08:52.080 it didn't dawn on me. It wasn't that I was 0:08:52.160 --> 0:08:56.240 doing anything or trying to hide something or it wasn't 0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:58.160 nothing like that. So I do see why you're saying that. 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:01.160 Maybe it was like some trustworthy stuff, but no, it 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:03.280 wasn't like that. He just wanted to. He was like, 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:07.200 you should be. Why wouldn't I know that? Well? He? Um, 0:09:07.240 --> 0:09:11.600 so the homegirl, you know, dude, he's saying that she 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:16.720 don't call him all day how many times? See but that, 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:21.360 But me and you talked about this before that sometimes 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:24.000 the way we've been loved was the wrong way, and 0:09:24.040 --> 0:09:26.280 then we make that the way that we understand love 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:29.080 because we really think that. So we started comparing everything 0:09:29.120 --> 0:09:32.560 somebody else did. That's why it's bad, Like like, um, 0:09:34.480 --> 0:09:37.120 when you compare things to the past, like if somebody 0:09:37.160 --> 0:09:38.920 did this this way and this person don't do it 0:09:38.960 --> 0:09:41.079 this way, you will find yourself in the fun up position. 0:09:41.520 --> 0:09:43.880 And like I always say, well, if I compared to that, 0:09:43.880 --> 0:09:46.719 that didn't work. So I hope this motherfucker not doing that. 0:09:48.320 --> 0:09:50.320 And I'm not saying that you could have liked that 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:52.640 part of the relationship, right that you liked this that 0:09:52.760 --> 0:09:55.240 the third because but that don't mean it really was 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:58.760 good for you. Like me and Red was talking about 0:09:58.760 --> 0:10:00.880 some ship. Me and my sister was talking about some 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:02.760 same type of ship when she was like, oh, well, 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:04.720 you know, I want this dude to sleep with me 0:10:04.760 --> 0:10:10.040 all the time. And I'm like why, well, who else 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:13.280 he's sleeping with? And I'm like this was recently. I'm like, damn, 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:16.839 I just had this conversation on a podcast and I'm like, 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:21.440 they don't get the intimacy changes. And we've talked about 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:26.760 the intimacy changes and it becomes way, but what if 0:10:26.920 --> 0:10:31.440 both parties in the relationship have never really experienced real intimacy, 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:34.400 how do they like, like cope with that ship because 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:37.640 they both of them don't know gratitude. The key is 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:42.200 gratitude the kids to stop overlooking the simple things like 0:10:42.320 --> 0:10:45.320 they're nothing. These are still things you're not doing with 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.360 everybody else. There's certain things you do with the motherfucking 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:50.160 really funk with that you just don't do with all 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:53.480 the nig and those are the intimate things that you 0:10:53.600 --> 0:10:55.800 just overlooked, and you go to the things that a 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:57.840 stranger does to you to show you they like you, 0:10:57.880 --> 0:11:00.320 and you're like, well, I need the stranger type of 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:02.840 approval where it's like, you know when when guys usually 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.640 like me, they sleep with me, and it's like no, 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:07.760 but then somebody like you, they take care of you. 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:15.360 So but no sailings, jail handing, read bro stuff, shout 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:20.840 out to he came by here, I missed too. Yeah, 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.280 I'm to put a mailbox out this motherfucker so you 0:11:23.280 --> 0:11:27.760 can drop it off. Bread was heading driving family. Ain't 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:32.840 no criminal right now, right now, So know what I 0:11:32.920 --> 0:11:35.120 was stripping off of. Did y'all look at any of 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:39.320 the YouTube videos I sent you? So this movement that's 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:45.000 going down called the Passport Bros. Where it's a bunch 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:47.960 of brothers, And I called him early. I saw, you know, 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.319 one of the main guys Zoom to Thailand, Richie Mac. 0:11:50.360 --> 0:11:53.840 I saw him probably about a year or two. Yeah, 0:11:54.240 --> 0:11:57.240 So I saw him and he was just making these videos. 0:11:57.440 --> 0:12:00.120 And I remember seeing the first video where he was like, 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:03.200 you know, he was like, she makes me breakfast, she 0:12:03.360 --> 0:12:09.320 folds my clothes, and I was like, and he was 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:11.920 talking in the video about how he was having problems 0:12:11.960 --> 0:12:14.400 in the States meeting women to do that, and I'm like, 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:17.920 I never met a woman who didn't cook breakfast or 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:22.160 fold clothes. But I started listening to I started going 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:27.440 down that rabbit hole of passport bros, like going down 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:29.720 that rabbit hole falling, and I'm listening to the dudes 0:12:29.800 --> 0:12:34.920 talk about like these foreign women and comparing them to 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:37.800 the you know, the sisters here American women, and I 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:41.960 just was thinking to myself, like, damn, women ain't doing 0:12:42.000 --> 0:12:43.880 this simple shift for y'all. Like they was like, yeah, 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:46.400 she's so pretty. And I'm like, I ain't never bust 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.480 no bad looking at as women in the States. They 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:52.560 ain't never had no women. The women in the States 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:56.120 they want to get over a year, so they're gonna 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:59.839 talk to this is the women here in America. But 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:04.160 the women that she's meeting that they're meeting, the foreign 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:06.679 women they want to come, want to come here, they 0:13:06.679 --> 0:13:09.400 want to get married and come here. So they're gonna 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:12.960 talk to a negative look like you gotta also remember 0:13:15.240 --> 0:13:18.880 what did you just say that? But I say, I 0:13:19.040 --> 0:13:22.199 like said she said it, and it sound when the 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:25.280 man said. But I was thinking to myself, like, yeah, 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:28.080 maybe as these dudes look strange or they're strange guys 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:31.680 or something. No. I have a friend that Um. I 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:33.600 make jokes with him all the time, like Nigga, I 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:36.599 know you're going to the Philippines to get you a 0:13:37.280 --> 0:13:40.760 pride that ship all the time, like why are you 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:42.960 doing over there? Because he go over there by himself 0:13:43.000 --> 0:13:46.480 a quick trip Like okay, what you doing over there? Right? 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.920 We cloud him all the time about that. What's crazy 0:13:50.040 --> 0:13:54.440 is in two thousand and fifteen, right fourteen and fifteen, 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:57.640 I was planning to move to South Africa, really but 0:13:57.720 --> 0:13:59.760 I was gonna move there in two thousand and sixteen, 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:04.679 and uh, I was gonna buy uh my boy c 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:08.400 Will Rock Slanger from from over g Do Solid super 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:12.160 rep Um. He was showing me all these bomb mass 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:15.360 places in South Africa and I was looking at these, 0:14:15.400 --> 0:14:18.680 like these condos on the beach for like seventy eight 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:21.200 thousand on the beach, and I'm like, yo, I could 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:23.840 move here. The internet is popping. I could do my 0:14:23.880 --> 0:14:27.400 stuff from there and record music and meet African women 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:29.120 and chill and go to the African places, just be 0:14:29.120 --> 0:14:32.400 a crip in Africa. I had this start like I 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:34.800 can go be a cripp in Africa. I mean all 0:14:34.840 --> 0:14:38.840 my Western African homies to my Nigerian homies. They was like, yo, 0:14:38.880 --> 0:14:41.160 South Africans don't really funk with other Africans. Like they 0:14:41.280 --> 0:14:45.280 was like, really, tell me about how prejudice it was. Man, 0:14:45.320 --> 0:14:48.480 it's crip like, you know, this criping is good everywhere. 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:54.240 So I was planning to go there, and I guess 0:14:54.240 --> 0:14:56.720 I didn't think about the women as a primary thing. 0:14:56.800 --> 0:14:59.400 I started living on the beach in Africa would be 0:14:59.440 --> 0:15:02.800 solid for somebody of African descent. You feel you can 0:15:02.800 --> 0:15:05.800 make some dope music, like I had it planned out, 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:10.800 But I never thought the women was my thought of 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:13.880 moving anywhere. And as I start falling down the whole 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:16.280 of all of these people that are talking about traveling, 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:20.440 you know what I mean, they was like married. The 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:24.120 thing was called like okay, I'm not gonna deny cost 0:15:24.160 --> 0:15:28.840 of living was important, but the women, Yeah, that's like Brazil. Mary. 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:32.200 I heard, you know people will go to Brazil. The 0:15:32.360 --> 0:15:38.680 go to Brazil because the women is going down downs everywhere. Yeah, 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:41.160 but I guess I don't know. We're gonna say. I 0:15:41.160 --> 0:15:43.600 can't speak for them. They must be a little easier 0:15:43.640 --> 0:15:46.720 to crack. I just think that it's a mutual situation. 0:15:46.840 --> 0:15:50.200 They wanted that's going to do? You know what I mean, 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:53.320 what they want or whatnot? What could they want? That's 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:56.600 so crazy? Like what am I missing that? Sisters here 0:15:56.680 --> 0:15:59.720 don't do. I'm gonna be honest with you right now. 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:02.040 Have a voice. I was about to say that, but 0:16:02.080 --> 0:16:04.760 a lot of sisters are like they got a voice. 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:07.960 They really they depended. They're gonna say, yeah, they really independent. 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:10.920 They're not them saying the foreigners they're not gonna speak 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:13.000 up too much. Oh yeah, they're not because they want 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:16.320 they they're gonna do whatever. They're gonna say, yes, yes, 0:16:16.800 --> 0:16:19.800 Do y'all think that's more feminine? What do you mean 0:16:20.360 --> 0:16:23.000 like because that is considered submission? Do y'all feel like 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:25.960 that's more feminine? Like foreign women would be more feminine 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:28.280 to y'all because you'll always have something to say? Does 0:16:28.320 --> 0:16:31.320 that represent all of us? Have there's a lot of 0:16:31.360 --> 0:16:34.520 submissive That's what I'm saying in here. So no, but 0:16:34.600 --> 0:16:38.880 I'm so am I they don't have because they don't have, 0:16:39.080 --> 0:16:44.960 but they're they're not looking for um citizenship. Yeah, but 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:49.240 so you think the foreign women are acting right because 0:16:49.240 --> 0:16:52.840 they hope if you marry them, and yes, why wouldn't 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:55.760 they of course, yes, So you don't think they genuinely 0:16:55.800 --> 0:17:01.400 just like these guys. No, No, they don't say maybe 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:05.560 they grow into I think maybe they can grow in 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:10.720 love with them. For her actually did that with his wife. 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:15.200 With his wife, his wife is um, she's Chinese, I believe. 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:19.080 I'm sorry if she's not, just to say Asian. Um. 0:17:19.440 --> 0:17:25.120 And they met when she was I don't know. I'm 0:17:25.160 --> 0:17:29.119 not trying to. I can't remember this, says okay, whatever, 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:33.159 that's the most racist way to say, because you have 0:17:33.920 --> 0:17:40.159 orient It's like you got an Oriental rug. But it 0:17:40.240 --> 0:17:42.800 was really I don't know, but I just know that 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:46.199 I could tell by their interaction and everything and um, 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:47.920 how he was telling me how they met and stuff. 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:51.719 I'm like, oh, like, it was just really weird. And 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:55.800 she's very yes, sure, would you need me to get 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.679 this for you? And but it's also a culture of 0:17:58.680 --> 0:18:02.080 how they raised That might have been her culture, because 0:18:02.119 --> 0:18:05.080 I know my my sister in law, she always says 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:09.480 that she was raised to do a cater to you 0:18:09.520 --> 0:18:11.840 know what I mean, or a man in the house. 0:18:12.040 --> 0:18:14.920 In the house. That's not how all women are raised. No, 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:19.400 that's not how all women are raised. You never your 0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:21.439 mom when your dad would come around, would never be 0:18:21.480 --> 0:18:24.240 like get this for your dad. Oh yeah, But I remember. 0:18:24.400 --> 0:18:26.960 It's so funny because I remember when I was younger, 0:18:27.080 --> 0:18:31.000 I used to tell my uncle's and all them like, 0:18:31.080 --> 0:18:33.000 I'm not getting a man like you, cause you'll just 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:37.760 I'm not about to be Um. It's so funny because 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:40.879 I'm not about to be making plays and cooking dinner 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:46.800 and go do this. And I was younger, why because 0:18:46.880 --> 0:18:50.119 I felt like they were just bossing them around, like 0:18:50.160 --> 0:18:51.600 telling them what to do. You know what I'm saying, 0:18:51.600 --> 0:18:55.720 I'm young. I'm not understanding like, Okay, this is a 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:59.399 a partnership, you know, a benefit or whatever. My into 0:18:59.480 --> 0:19:02.919 like he would be in the studio or like in 0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:04.879 the back where his boys and all this, and my 0:19:05.040 --> 0:19:07.240 aunt I would see her like doing all this stuff, 0:19:07.359 --> 0:19:09.719 or he'll be like calling her like can't weary, this 0:19:09.960 --> 0:19:13.240 can't bear that. And I'm like, I'm not kidding though, man, 0:19:13.240 --> 0:19:16.120 he's a laugh. When I get older, I don't want 0:19:16.119 --> 0:19:20.240 a man like you. But you know what, though, my 0:19:21.200 --> 0:19:23.800 you know, I think y'all was both raised to do 0:19:23.840 --> 0:19:27.200 the same for men, especially like your father and my grandmother, 0:19:27.480 --> 0:19:32.040 and um, so what went wrong went wrong? What we're 0:19:32.040 --> 0:19:35.200 wrong to where you feel like because I don't think 0:19:35.240 --> 0:19:37.640 that I should. I don't have a problem with one 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:39.639 of those things. But we were talking about the past 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:44.720 more bros. How they said they're not able to meet 0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:47.920 women that will do this, this, this and that. Well 0:19:49.880 --> 0:19:52.720 he was like, she cooks me breakfast. He ain't going 0:19:52.760 --> 0:19:56.080 in the right, he ain't looking right. I mean, you got. 0:19:56.160 --> 0:20:00.800 I mean, it's just there's there's women that I don't 0:20:00.840 --> 0:20:04.000 I don't make my man breakfast every day. I make 0:20:04.080 --> 0:20:07.159 him food. I do, but he's not like a breakfast person. 0:20:07.760 --> 0:20:10.960 But I can't say every day I'm making breakfast. This woman, 0:20:11.040 --> 0:20:15.000 she's not missing a day probably unless don't you why 0:20:15.040 --> 0:20:18.600 do you miss a day because I might just not 0:20:18.760 --> 0:20:21.040 want to feel like doing it that day, or maybe 0:20:21.119 --> 0:20:23.600 I just I don't know, I just didn't do it. 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:27.840 But that's crazy because but I but I still make 0:20:27.840 --> 0:20:29.639 sure he eats. Because I was gonna say that's like 0:20:29.840 --> 0:20:32.639 with my like with my children, like okay, I gotta 0:20:32.680 --> 0:20:34.399 make I gotta get up and cook them dinner and 0:20:34.440 --> 0:20:37.080 make them breakfast. So you feel more indented to make 0:20:37.119 --> 0:20:40.960 your children breakfast then your dude. No, I'm saying when 0:20:40.960 --> 0:20:44.479 they were younger, I did that. I cooked dinner, always 0:20:44.520 --> 0:20:47.200 make sure I cooked dinner. But I mean, I guess 0:20:47.240 --> 0:20:50.520 maybe because I wasn't a breakfast person. And I another 0:20:50.520 --> 0:20:54.120 reason why I didn't make breakfast because I was always 0:20:54.640 --> 0:20:56.800 gone in the morning, Like you know what I'm saying, 0:20:56.800 --> 0:20:59.119 I would leave, like to leave for work or you know, 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:02.400 now I'm home. But I don't know. I just don't 0:21:02.400 --> 0:21:04.640 make it every day. I don't. I don't make breakfast 0:21:04.720 --> 0:21:07.320 every day. On the weekends I do. I don't know. 0:21:07.320 --> 0:21:10.080 Why would you not a lot of time? And I 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:12.280 think I've told you this before, and we talked about 0:21:12.280 --> 0:21:16.479 this about making place. How don't you actually feel like 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:19.280 this is like why would you not want it? I 0:21:19.320 --> 0:21:21.600 don't get that, Like I don't get why a man 0:21:21.720 --> 0:21:25.000 don't want to take care of his old lady. I 0:21:25.040 --> 0:21:27.040 don't get how you could not want to take care 0:21:27.040 --> 0:21:31.680 of somebody I do. It's just sometimes, you know, but 0:21:32.000 --> 0:21:34.879 it's even then, it's like that's the best time to 0:21:34.920 --> 0:21:37.919 do it when you're tired, because it is more gratifying, 0:21:38.080 --> 0:21:40.919 like you're like, oh I got through this, Like today, 0:21:41.000 --> 0:21:45.800 I'm like, is it just lazy, I'm tired at that time. Yeah, 0:21:48.640 --> 0:21:54.879 but I'll why am I spoiled? I'm not. I'm asking. 0:21:55.280 --> 0:21:57.760 I'm not really accusing you. I'm really thinking about this, 0:21:57.880 --> 0:22:02.280 Like you have the ability to make your husband breakfast 0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:04.840 every morning, and you're like, well, I just don't do it, 0:22:04.840 --> 0:22:06.439 and I just do it on the week. Why that 0:22:06.640 --> 0:22:09.280 is not how? No, I said, I don't do it 0:22:09.520 --> 0:22:16.359 every day, but I make his lunch in his dinner 0:22:16.720 --> 0:22:21.639 and pack his lunch every day. Do that just he 0:22:22.840 --> 0:22:26.840 remember he he gets up at four, I will send 0:22:26.880 --> 0:22:29.480 I guess like I'll send a breakfast sandwich to work. 0:22:29.560 --> 0:22:32.160 It's just he leaves at to thirty. He doesn't always 0:22:32.200 --> 0:22:35.920 eat in the morning, so that you know, I wasn't 0:22:35.960 --> 0:22:41.880 really doing breakfast. And at the same time, we've been 0:22:41.920 --> 0:22:48.400 together a year and when we lived together, I didn't 0:22:48.440 --> 0:22:50.960 make breakfast in the morning. I make breakfast. She made 0:22:51.000 --> 0:22:54.320 breakfast on bread morning. I don't see. This is what 0:22:54.400 --> 0:22:56.679 I don't get right, or at least a smoothie. We 0:22:56.720 --> 0:23:00.600 want to be in these situations right where we be married, 0:23:01.080 --> 0:23:03.960 and I think we all want to individually carve out 0:23:04.000 --> 0:23:06.480 our own ways of doing it versus doing what needs 0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:10.280