1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:01,840 Speaker 1: Do your parents have a something accent? 2 00:00:02,320 --> 00:00:03,800 Speaker 2: My mother does, Okay. 3 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 3: She she'll say things like, oh, man, I haven't seen 4 00:00:06,640 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 3: you since Kuda was a child. 5 00:00:08,760 --> 00:00:12,560 Speaker 2: Who's Kuda? I don't know who's Kuda? I don't know. 6 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 2: Or she wants to tell you something important. 7 00:00:14,200 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 3: She'd be like, oh, child is the honey hush, This 8 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:24,600 Speaker 3: is the honey hush. 9 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: Hey everybody, I'm a Shelby Toe. 10 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:30,280 Speaker 2: I'm mis Shelby Toe too. No, I'm just kidding. I'm 11 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 2: Jordan Carlos and welcome to Adulting from w NYC Studios. 12 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 2: You know what this show is about. 13 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 3: It's about growing, learning, being our best and most positive sels. 14 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 2: Am I right? 15 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: Yes, you right, honey. In this episode we hear from. 16 00:00:43,520 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 2: Two amazing people, Damien Lemon. 17 00:00:45,400 --> 00:00:47,160 Speaker 1: And Vanessa Williams. 18 00:00:47,440 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 2: Don't move, stay. 19 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,920 Speaker 4: Tuned, you can move, just still stay tuned. 20 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true. It feels very Yeah, it's weird. It's 21 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 2: kind of a TV thing. What's up, Brooks. 22 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:04,640 Speaker 4: It's in the form, Wow you haven't, We're about to 23 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 4: change your life. 24 00:01:05,360 --> 00:01:10,560 Speaker 1: Bitch makes some noise. If you've listened to the Adulting podcast, 25 00:01:15,240 --> 00:01:17,880 Speaker 1: you know what's funny. Everybody's just like too much airporn. 26 00:01:17,920 --> 00:01:21,960 Speaker 2: I'm like, get your life, bitch. Not enough, that's not enough. 27 00:01:22,120 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: Have you been to any party in Brooklyn? Have you 28 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:25,640 Speaker 1: seen a spike Lee moving. 29 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 2: More Airport maximum? 30 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,920 Speaker 1: That's so cute. We gotta make it louder because we 31 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: gotta turn up. 32 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 2: I'll turn it up. 33 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: Okay, get An, please turn it up. 34 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:41,720 Speaker 2: Thank you for coming, y'all. Oh my god, a show. 35 00:01:42,040 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 4: This is the one we got living motherfucking brown titty legends. 36 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: And it's not even Black History Month or Women's History Month. 37 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:55,559 Speaker 1: We're just out here in July, just. 38 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:59,760 Speaker 2: Like doing it. Caught and bron caught. 39 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: And and he's living our best life. 40 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 2: Yep. 41 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 5: I became. 42 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, I became in New Yorker this week, though. 43 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 1: You you became in New Yorker this week. Pay for sex? 44 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 6: I know, uh uh that's sex workers. Thank you. No, 45 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 6: I didn't. I didn't pay for What the fuck am 46 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 6: I saying? 47 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 7: No? 48 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:29,040 Speaker 2: My phone fell into the subway tracks. No, and I 49 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 2: went and got that ship, got. 50 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 8: Right, got right. 51 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:40,799 Speaker 6: I stand before you and adults, I was. 52 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:44,840 Speaker 4: Wearing don't tell me my motherfucking play. 53 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: Were you wearing those pants? 54 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:46,959 Speaker 5: I was? 55 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:48,480 Speaker 2: I was. 56 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 6: I was wearing the green Imagine he's in green sis, 57 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:54,239 Speaker 6: let's set our filter to green for these pants. Okay, 58 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 6: So I'm wearing my green pants. I have my artist jacket, 59 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 6: you know, hat, same hat, and I'm just on twenty 60 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 6: third Street, my territory, on the R train, right by 61 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:06,320 Speaker 6: Madison Squire Perk. 62 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:12,960 Speaker 2: The visual painting so much EXPI fucking pits is sure 63 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 2: anyway I get. 64 00:03:15,360 --> 00:03:17,480 Speaker 6: I think I put my phone in the in the 65 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 6: in the pockets in my pocket and it fell. They're 66 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:24,240 Speaker 6: they're fun and loose and uh, and it slid in 67 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:25,880 Speaker 6: that gap like diet, get get get a get right 68 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:28,639 Speaker 6: between the train and the track. I did not take 69 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 6: a step on the train. People on the train are like, 70 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 6: you come in. So I was like I'm gonna go on. 71 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 6: I'm not gonna go on. And the people on the 72 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 6: train are like, oh shit, he knows something, right, And 73 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:39,080 Speaker 6: I was like, I don't know anything. 74 00:03:39,120 --> 00:03:42,160 Speaker 2: I don't know anything. I don't know anything. Now they're like, 75 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 2: he definitely knows something is up. He this train's gonna plow. 76 00:03:45,640 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 2: I was like, it's not gonna blow. Everything's fine. 77 00:03:47,480 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 6: So the train takes off and like you motherfuck you know, 78 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 6: like whatever train takes off. I go to the guy 79 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:53,440 Speaker 6: in the subway booth. Like I was like, oh my god, 80 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 6: there's a human in there. And I was like, subway 81 00:03:55,440 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 6: booth person, please help me. And he's like, it's fall 82 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 6: But all I make out is you should go get 83 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 6: some coffee. 84 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,520 Speaker 2: And then he says, unless you know some other way 85 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 2: to get it. 86 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 9: And. 87 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:20,600 Speaker 6: So I go back in and I just there were 88 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:23,280 Speaker 6: tourists coming in. There were these Italian tourists. They were 89 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,960 Speaker 6: like and I was like, I was like, okay, well 90 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 6: I gotta wait for them to leave. We got a 91 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:30,120 Speaker 6: wait for the next train. But luckily we have technology. 92 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:30,720 Speaker 2: You're like a. 93 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:32,560 Speaker 4: Woman trying to take a ship in the public bathroom. 94 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 4: You're just like waiting for everyone to leave. So nice 95 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 4: to be warmed about. 96 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 2: I don't want it, Auden. It's eleven in the morning. 97 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 6: But then everybody decides this is the hour to check 98 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:44,919 Speaker 6: the fucking a train, so they all come down. I 99 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:46,599 Speaker 6: have a huge audience now, and so I was like, 100 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 6: fuck it, it's your die. I have seven minutes by. 101 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,440 Speaker 2: The wall clock. I go down. I get right. 102 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:53,559 Speaker 6: We have pack now, how to jump, how to jump 103 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 6: just like fucking badass like I was in the Avengers, 104 00:04:57,760 --> 00:04:58,159 Speaker 6: just kidding. 105 00:04:58,160 --> 00:04:59,080 Speaker 2: I slipped a little. 106 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:02,440 Speaker 6: Bit, but but I landed solid, like good, you know 107 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:04,480 Speaker 6: what I mean. And then I was down there and 108 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 6: my I was so my phone was like sending notifications 109 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:08,599 Speaker 6: and it was like I was like, I know, I know, 110 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:09,360 Speaker 6: Daddy's here. 111 00:05:09,640 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 2: So I was like, I was like really getting scared. 112 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:15,560 Speaker 2: And a rat crawled across it. He's like the rat. 113 00:05:15,640 --> 00:05:17,600 Speaker 2: I swear to God, I swear to got. 114 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 6: A rat was like, I got always my phone now 115 00:05:19,200 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 6: and I was like, no, no phone, rat, you know. 116 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 2: So I get the phone. 117 00:05:23,400 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 6: And I jumped down and then this lady screams and 118 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 6: I go and then this just comes out. I go, 119 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 6: I love myself like that, which is. 120 00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 2: Why why did I say that, Michelle? Why did I 121 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:39,680 Speaker 2: come out? It's like I love my set, I love 122 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 2: my son. So I get the phone. 123 00:05:43,600 --> 00:05:46,039 Speaker 6: It's cracked. My baby's cracked. I'm like, oh no, you know, 124 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 6: but I put it back on. No one's helping me out. 125 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:53,600 Speaker 6: By the way, the track is about here, right are 126 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:55,720 Speaker 6: you know? Like the platforms, did you like swing. 127 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:58,479 Speaker 1: Your leg over? No, I just like a big titty 128 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:06,400 Speaker 1: bitch at the pool. Just roll yourself over because gravity 129 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: is a bitch. 130 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,520 Speaker 2: People just took out their phones. That's all they did. 131 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 2: You are alone in this world? 132 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 5: Do you understand it. 133 00:06:15,440 --> 00:06:16,599 Speaker 2: Is on you. 134 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:18,880 Speaker 6: You are the calvary, You are who you have been 135 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:20,279 Speaker 6: waiting for to rescue you. 136 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:23,320 Speaker 2: So I got a little red in my H and 137 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 2: M pants. 138 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:27,479 Speaker 6: And I swung back up. I was like thundercat home 139 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 6: and I got over good quarantine. I was like, thank 140 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 6: you brown Rice. And then I like got on the 141 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:35,200 Speaker 6: train and this guy was like staring. 142 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 2: At me like I was like what, and he goes, 143 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:41,360 Speaker 2: you did that? And I'm like, come on, yes, give 144 00:06:41,400 --> 00:06:47,040 Speaker 2: it up for Joran lit his phone. Everybody that's that's fat. 145 00:06:47,279 --> 00:06:49,840 Speaker 1: I am truly truly impressed. 146 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 4: I feel like H and M should just give you 147 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 4: a free size thirty two of whatever you wear. 148 00:06:56,200 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 2: Thank you. The phone is busted to fuck, I'm gonna 149 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:02,360 Speaker 2: get a new one. 150 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm you know what happened. 151 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:07,800 Speaker 2: Here's what happens. So here's what happens. 152 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:10,240 Speaker 6: Dreams come true because the next day I got a 153 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:12,520 Speaker 6: little little text on my busted phone that said, hey, 154 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:14,840 Speaker 6: you just qualified for a fucking upgrade. 155 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 2: And I was like, thank you so much. Yes, that's right. 156 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 2: Well all back to what all day? 157 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 10: Are you? 158 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 5: For you? 159 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 2: For you? For you? 160 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:52,160 Speaker 11: All right? 161 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 4: Very excited to bring our first guest to this stage. 162 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 4: He's so fucking funny. I met him years ago. 163 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:02,760 Speaker 6: Comedy Knockout Guy, cod Girl, The Night of so Many Things. 164 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 2: He's amazing, True TV that other show. Give it up 165 00:08:06,520 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 2: for Damian Lemmit. 166 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 5: I'm good. I'm good. 167 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:19,240 Speaker 9: Great. 168 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 1: You know meat, no dairy right now. 169 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 11: Not at all. 170 00:08:22,040 --> 00:08:23,960 Speaker 5: I'm beating. 171 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:24,720 Speaker 2: Look at that. 172 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,840 Speaker 1: Do you get your eyebrows threaded? Manscaping? 173 00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 5: Forgot? I'm chilling. 174 00:08:32,200 --> 00:08:34,560 Speaker 10: I'm just out here living life. Yeah, trying not to 175 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 10: get diabetes, you know what I mean. 176 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 4: So you gotta keep all your toe yeah yeah, and. 177 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 2: Uh you got your baby curls popping, Yeah, I got. 178 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 10: I try to, you know, grow this ship out because uh, 179 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:48,679 Speaker 10: I don't know if I might. 180 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:50,199 Speaker 5: I might be thinning in the back, so. 181 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,839 Speaker 10: This might be like this is like a final fro. 182 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 10: You know how you got your fear front. I want 183 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:58,240 Speaker 10: to document this ship. 184 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:00,400 Speaker 2: You're not. I don't think. I don't think it's going 185 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:03,680 Speaker 2: involved everybody right soon. 186 00:09:04,400 --> 00:09:06,560 Speaker 1: Do you do you do drugs? Have you ever done drugs? 187 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:07,960 Speaker 2: Hard drugs? 188 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 10: Yeah? 189 00:09:08,640 --> 00:09:10,679 Speaker 5: Nah, I'm too scared to do hard drugs. 190 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:13,080 Speaker 2: Because do you like to be in control of the situation? 191 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:13,839 Speaker 3: Yeah. 192 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 10: I mean I've had you know, I've had that shit 193 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 10: in my family, so I've seen like both sides of it, 194 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 10: you know what i mean. 195 00:09:19,640 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 5: And it's just like, especially now that they're gonna have 196 00:09:22,920 --> 00:09:25,199 Speaker 5: been on TV, if I was like to. 197 00:09:25,160 --> 00:09:27,760 Speaker 10: Become a crackhead, you know what I mean, it would 198 00:09:27,800 --> 00:09:30,440 Speaker 10: be almost predictably depressing if you like see, I know 199 00:09:31,400 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 10: it has smoked all this opportunities. I do want to 200 00:09:35,360 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 10: try mushrooms. I do want to try mushrooms. 201 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:40,560 Speaker 5: I have done. 202 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 4: I have done shrooms before, and nobody told you you 203 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 4: take a little poop. You haven't really you gotta take 204 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 4: a little poop. And I was like, this isn't working. 205 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:51,440 Speaker 4: Everyone's laughing and looking at a cloud. 206 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:52,880 Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, motherfucker's crazy. 207 00:09:53,520 --> 00:09:55,880 Speaker 4: And so I went to a toilet, sat down, and 208 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:59,280 Speaker 4: then the marble on the door turned into Jesus's face 209 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 4: with three low wow, and I was like, it's working. 210 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 1: It's great. Although everybody sound like Adam Sandler, I was like, stop. 211 00:10:11,240 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 10: I'm gonna remember that because I also have an addicted personality, 212 00:10:14,240 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 10: like I'd like to binge out on all types of shit, 213 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 10: and god forbid, if I love some cocaine, you know 214 00:10:18,920 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 10: what I mean, because now I gotta indulge like I'm 215 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 10: a you know. 216 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 5: That's also one. 217 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:25,079 Speaker 10: Of the ways you kind of see as you get 218 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:27,960 Speaker 10: a little bit of success, you indulge, and shit like 219 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:30,679 Speaker 10: your price point get bigger. You go from an eighth 220 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 10: to a half to a ohd to like, you know what, 221 00:10:33,200 --> 00:10:35,560 Speaker 10: you know what I mean? You smoking like a migo, 222 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:36,439 Speaker 10: you know what I mean. 223 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 2: So it's like, I know exactly what you mean. And 224 00:10:39,320 --> 00:10:40,720 Speaker 2: I took the today. 225 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:44,439 Speaker 5: Have you done hard drugs? 226 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:45,040 Speaker 6: No? 227 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 4: I did ecstasy one time in Amsterdam for the first time, 228 00:10:48,760 --> 00:10:49,520 Speaker 4: but I was late. 229 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 2: I was a late bloomer. 230 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 4: I was like thirty, and so that was great because 231 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 4: you know, I was able to handle my emotions. You know, 232 00:10:56,600 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 4: it was Queen's Day in holland everybody was doing it. 233 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 2: It was great. 234 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 4: I was like, oh my god, I do love you. 235 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 4: Oh my god, I love me too. Yeah, and it 236 00:11:05,000 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 4: was and it was dope. I mean, I think doing 237 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:11,199 Speaker 4: drugs and other places that you know are responsible with it, 238 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 4: like you could take it to the police station, get 239 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:15,320 Speaker 4: it tested to make sure you're doing something pure is 240 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:17,440 Speaker 4: like such a great way to handle people. 241 00:11:17,679 --> 00:11:20,880 Speaker 10: That's like a set up that sounds like a set up. 242 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:23,680 Speaker 10: I just saw when they see us, I'm not fucking 243 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:27,439 Speaker 10: with the cops like voluntarily you can go, oh man, 244 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:30,640 Speaker 10: did he waits in the house or some voluntarial shit. 245 00:11:30,800 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 10: And ten years later he's talking to Oprah like they 246 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 10: got me. 247 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 2: That was the most shit. 248 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 10: But that's kind of why I didn't do drugs, because 249 00:11:39,520 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 10: it would seem like you could see the narrative early. Yes, 250 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:44,719 Speaker 10: Like my mother was good for that when she was younger. Mother, 251 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 10: like I'd hang out with kids and she'd be like, 252 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:49,880 Speaker 10: don't fuck with him. He gonna be in jail. Like wow, 253 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 10: And she was at least seventy percent from the line, 254 00:11:52,480 --> 00:11:53,199 Speaker 10: like she was like. 255 00:11:53,200 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 5: She could see it in the future. 256 00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 4: Right, So that's dope. And you live with someone now, right? 257 00:11:58,800 --> 00:11:59,480 Speaker 4: You have a girlfriend? 258 00:11:59,559 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 5: I do? Yeah. 259 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:01,680 Speaker 2: How long have you been going out? 260 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 5: Oh, like a long time. 261 00:12:04,080 --> 00:12:07,400 Speaker 10: We've been thegether over ten years. We've been together, Like, yeah, 262 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:08,319 Speaker 10: we've been at it for. 263 00:12:08,280 --> 00:12:08,880 Speaker 5: A long time. 264 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 1: Does she want to get married? 265 00:12:10,960 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 10: She want to get married. She want to get married. 266 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:15,559 Speaker 10: We we you know, we working towards it, you know 267 00:12:15,600 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 10: what I mean. She's working towards me, you know, oh, rush, 268 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:20,720 Speaker 10: since nothing. 269 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: Working towards it was. 270 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:32,800 Speaker 2: Listen, no New York law. 271 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 1: She's in town, ZAPPI ship right? 272 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 5: Is that true? 273 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 2: How long have you lived? I can't have her ship too? 274 00:12:39,040 --> 00:12:41,959 Speaker 2: She got paper. We're doing all right? We alight. How 275 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:42,839 Speaker 2: long have you lived together? 276 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:48,479 Speaker 10: Ah, for a while, for a while, for a wow. 277 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 10: Not as long as we've been together. But we've been there, 278 00:12:51,120 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 10: you know, I've been. I've seen marriages walking crumble like 279 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:03,199 Speaker 10: I've seen this ship not work. 280 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:04,920 Speaker 6: By the way, in the state of New York, if 281 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:06,559 Speaker 6: you live together for seven years, that means that you 282 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:07,800 Speaker 6: are legally common law married. 283 00:13:08,240 --> 00:13:10,839 Speaker 2: We know I'm married already. Give it up for us. 284 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:18,439 Speaker 4: We've been We've been hitting everybody with the question, what's 285 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:20,120 Speaker 4: the most adult thing you want to do for yourself? 286 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:21,040 Speaker 2: Get married? 287 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 5: Saw that. 288 00:13:25,679 --> 00:13:27,080 Speaker 2: I don't know the most both. 289 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 1: Of you for your future? What do you want? 290 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:31,480 Speaker 5: But I mean, this is the thing. 291 00:13:31,480 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 10: I want to say this because yeah, we're not married, 292 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:36,280 Speaker 10: but we have built some ship. 293 00:13:36,400 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 5: These are not years that are in vain. 294 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 10: We we you know the relationship is gonna be what 295 00:13:41,160 --> 00:13:43,120 Speaker 10: it's gonna be if it gets there, it's gonna get there. 296 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:46,040 Speaker 10: To that marriage situation doesn't validate what we have at 297 00:13:46,040 --> 00:13:47,000 Speaker 10: this point, but. 298 00:13:47,760 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 5: I just want to have somebody that I could know 299 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 5: what I could like. Honestly, the most adult shit is just. 300 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 10: Really being content and where you are I'm saying, like, 301 00:13:59,280 --> 00:14:02,440 Speaker 10: I mean where entertainers, you know, and there's a there's 302 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:06,440 Speaker 10: a constant pursuit of what we're trying to do in 303 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:07,880 Speaker 10: this life, you know what I mean. 304 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:10,320 Speaker 5: I hate to say, but every time you see somebody 305 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:10,640 Speaker 5: in the. 306 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:13,120 Speaker 2: Street, it's like, well, what's next? What are you doing? 307 00:14:13,240 --> 00:14:14,360 Speaker 2: Da da da da dah. 308 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:17,160 Speaker 10: So it's like you don't really fuck with the moment 309 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 10: that you're in. And then if you don't ever appreciate 310 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:22,240 Speaker 10: the moment you win, when the ship is all the 311 00:14:22,240 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 10: way and rap, you're gonna be like, damn, well that's what. 312 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 4: Yeah. I always say, celebrate the small things. Otherwise you 313 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 4: have nothing to celebrate, right, so you gotta you know, 314 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:32,520 Speaker 4: Daniel Brooks is on the show and she's like, I 315 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 4: celebrate the breath of my body and having money on 316 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 4: my subway card. It's just like, we have to really 317 00:14:37,040 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 4: be thankful for shit, otherwise we're just gonna be like, 318 00:14:39,320 --> 00:14:39,960 Speaker 4: what next? 319 00:14:40,240 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 2: And that's how you fucking get bald? 320 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:46,400 Speaker 5: Yeah, the God give it? 321 00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 2: Hey, vulnerable, vulnerable, oh, Terri, one more. 322 00:14:56,000 --> 00:15:09,440 Speaker 7: Time for Damien women everybody, we'll go back. 323 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 11: To what day. 324 00:15:20,880 --> 00:15:21,240 Speaker 2: Side? 325 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:23,400 Speaker 1: You guys are good? 326 00:15:24,480 --> 00:15:25,720 Speaker 2: Are you guys still having a good time? 327 00:15:26,320 --> 00:15:26,560 Speaker 5: Yeah? 328 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:29,040 Speaker 2: Are you guys? Okay? 329 00:15:29,080 --> 00:15:29,600 Speaker 12: Over here? 330 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:34,040 Speaker 6: Do you have do you have orthotics or something like 331 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:34,960 Speaker 6: that in your shoes? 332 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:37,280 Speaker 2: Okay they're young? Okay, okay. 333 00:15:37,400 --> 00:15:39,160 Speaker 4: We're gonna do a couple of questions before we bring 334 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:42,760 Speaker 4: out our last guests. How do people go on coffee 335 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 4: dates without having to then ship on said date? 336 00:15:47,400 --> 00:15:52,800 Speaker 2: But what, however, of coffee are you drinking? That's how 337 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:54,640 Speaker 2: long are you staying? Question? 338 00:15:56,320 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 13: Question deserves an airhorn, annoys your boony making. Oh my god, 339 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:06,120 Speaker 13: it's true, I always can we just from just give 340 00:16:06,120 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 13: it up for a moment for the people at coffee 341 00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:11,640 Speaker 13: shops have to clean those toilets. That is like a 342 00:16:11,800 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 13: scene out of the wire or or just a new 343 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:16,400 Speaker 13: black slow clup. 344 00:16:17,200 --> 00:16:19,760 Speaker 1: You know what, Get the macha? What can I tell you? 345 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:23,040 Speaker 4: Get the macha gets something like. 346 00:16:22,280 --> 00:16:26,440 Speaker 2: Like yes, yeah, absolutely, get a tea? 347 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god. 348 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:29,520 Speaker 6: Next question, if I drink a lot of water in 349 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:30,960 Speaker 6: Pea five times a day? 350 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:35,360 Speaker 2: Okay, Hannibal, like the I, uh, should I wash my 351 00:16:35,440 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 2: hands every time? Even if it means. 352 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:47,880 Speaker 9: Over stand by, even if it means overdrying them and 353 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 9: killing the good bacteria when you're in your kill room. 354 00:16:53,480 --> 00:17:01,320 Speaker 6: Okay, oh my god, see dear, I wash hands. 355 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:04,399 Speaker 4: This is how we have fucking ebola and broken and 356 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:05,960 Speaker 4: ship motherfuckers. 357 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:08,640 Speaker 1: All hands. 358 00:17:09,680 --> 00:17:11,320 Speaker 6: All you need is sixty four I think it's like 359 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:12,199 Speaker 6: sixty four ounces. 360 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:16,280 Speaker 4: Five they're in a dull ciper, You dumb fuck. 361 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 2: There you go he five times like this. 362 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:23,200 Speaker 1: It's like the rudest I've ever been, but I know past. 363 00:17:23,320 --> 00:17:26,600 Speaker 6: Damn well, congrats to stand so lubricated. But Jesus Christ. 364 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:30,160 Speaker 1: Next question, how do you find a good dentist? 365 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:31,680 Speaker 2: That's a great question. 366 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 4: I like to go to ZocDoc because you can like 367 00:17:34,560 --> 00:17:35,480 Speaker 4: write a motherfucker. 368 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: I'm gonna zoc doc right. But again, it's like a hairdresser. 369 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,880 Speaker 4: Ask your friend, Ask your friend, because like, I don't 370 00:17:41,880 --> 00:17:42,760 Speaker 4: even like cleanings. 371 00:17:43,000 --> 00:17:44,880 Speaker 1: It feels very personal with someone's in your mouth. 372 00:17:46,600 --> 00:17:48,880 Speaker 2: I always ask people with great teeth. You don't want 373 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:51,119 Speaker 2: somebody with like a jangly asked for a teeth, like 374 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:57,520 Speaker 2: you want white. I want to see beautiful gums. 375 00:17:57,520 --> 00:17:57,960 Speaker 14: This is. 376 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:02,159 Speaker 2: And I'm like, who's your person? Who is your person? 377 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:08,480 Speaker 2: Look are you high. Did you take trip CBD? Wheal today? 378 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:13,080 Speaker 4: Okay, I am all the way excited. Oh my heart 379 00:18:13,080 --> 00:18:14,560 Speaker 4: just scipts a beat, honey. 380 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:18,480 Speaker 2: H We have icons on the show, Yeah, we had icons. 381 00:18:18,520 --> 00:18:19,080 Speaker 2: We have. 382 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. 383 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:30,320 Speaker 15: She is a mother, she's a singer, she's a Broadway star, 384 00:18:35,359 --> 00:18:40,480 Speaker 15: she's a movie star. Jesus, she's a living, motherfucking legend, 385 00:18:40,520 --> 00:18:42,239 Speaker 15: and she's here tonight for all of us. 386 00:18:42,320 --> 00:19:02,240 Speaker 1: Please giving up for the house where hell yeah, sit here? 387 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:10,879 Speaker 2: Oh my god, Hello everybody? Hello, helloh you? Oh sup? 388 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:14,680 Speaker 1: Am I gonna cry. 389 00:19:15,040 --> 00:19:15,880 Speaker 2: It's a pleasure to. 390 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:20,240 Speaker 4: Be I just want to say, Okay, I might cry 391 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:27,560 Speaker 4: as a little shy, big titty girl in Jersey watching 392 00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:32,719 Speaker 4: TV and movies, never seeing anyone that looked like me. 393 00:19:33,280 --> 00:19:35,360 Speaker 1: The minute I saw you, I felt like. 394 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:42,600 Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, truly, I felt like as possible. 395 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 2: I still haven't found anybody looks like me on TV. 396 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 6: But but you're great, and uh. 397 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:52,880 Speaker 4: I want to know everything. How did you grow up? 398 00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 4: Did you know you had a gift? Does someone tell 399 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:57,160 Speaker 4: you you had a gift? 400 00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:57,439 Speaker 5: One day? 401 00:19:57,440 --> 00:19:59,639 Speaker 1: They just heard you in the hallway singing what happened? 402 00:19:59,680 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 1: Tell me? 403 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:00,480 Speaker 2: Okay? 404 00:20:00,520 --> 00:20:03,440 Speaker 14: I grew up in Westchester, both my parents are music teachers, 405 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:07,879 Speaker 14: all right, Uh yeah, Actually Damien, my mother taught Damien 406 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:09,480 Speaker 14: at Claremont School in Austin Wood. 407 00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 2: Yes, he just told me Bury the lead Damien. 408 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:17,680 Speaker 14: So my parents were music teachers. My mom taught vocals 409 00:20:18,000 --> 00:20:20,720 Speaker 14: in elementary school in Austin. My dad was the band 410 00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:25,400 Speaker 14: teacher in Elmsburg, which is both in both in Westchester. 411 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:27,880 Speaker 14: And it was me and my brother and we grew 412 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:30,560 Speaker 14: up in a little town right next to Chappaqua where 413 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:31,640 Speaker 14: the Clintons live now. 414 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:34,280 Speaker 1: But we're trying to go hiking to find her. I 415 00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:38,800 Speaker 1: couldn't you couldn't do not in those whats is that weird? 416 00:20:40,480 --> 00:20:43,480 Speaker 14: And we are the first black family move in nineteen 417 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:44,120 Speaker 14: sixty four. 418 00:20:44,560 --> 00:20:47,600 Speaker 2: Wow, and uh yeah yeah, clap now. 419 00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:49,800 Speaker 14: But it wasn't you know, there was a bunch of 420 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:53,320 Speaker 14: neighbors that wanted us not to move in. We're talking 421 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:55,879 Speaker 14: sixty four in the middle of the uh you know, 422 00:20:55,920 --> 00:21:00,360 Speaker 14: the Civil rights movement. My parents both had their mass 423 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:04,120 Speaker 14: both had their teaching accreditations, and we're trying to start 424 00:21:04,160 --> 00:21:07,200 Speaker 14: their lives. So I grew up as the one black 425 00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:09,119 Speaker 14: girl in my class, you know, all the way up 426 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:11,040 Speaker 14: through high school. I think I was the first one 427 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:14,480 Speaker 14: to go from first grade to twelve as an African American. 428 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,840 Speaker 14: Although I did have black friends that I accumulated through 429 00:21:17,880 --> 00:21:20,439 Speaker 14: the high school years, that's when other families started moving in. 430 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:24,200 Speaker 14: So yeah, and my mother always said, you're going to 431 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 14: have to do better than everybody else just to be 432 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:27,440 Speaker 14: considered equal because of. 433 00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:29,680 Speaker 2: Who you are and how you're going to be judged. 434 00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 14: So my mantra in life and I open myself up 435 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,679 Speaker 14: to but it's people are going to always assume something. 436 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,400 Speaker 14: Everyone judges a book by its cover, and you never 437 00:21:40,520 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 14: know what's inside. You know what's inside, So don't let 438 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:49,439 Speaker 14: what people assume you are dissuade you from who you 439 00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:53,040 Speaker 14: know you are. And you'll get that opportunity to show 440 00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:54,960 Speaker 14: them who you are. We don't know when it's going 441 00:21:55,040 --> 00:21:58,080 Speaker 14: to happen, but it will happen. 442 00:21:58,160 --> 00:21:59,200 Speaker 2: So you have to know. 443 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,720 Speaker 14: You'll get your thought one day and then it's like, yeah, 444 00:22:03,760 --> 00:22:07,320 Speaker 14: here I am. I was this all the time, somebody follow. 445 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:14,560 Speaker 4: Up as a black woman am in corporate America that 446 00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 4: I tried for a little bit, and then, like you know, 447 00:22:17,080 --> 00:22:21,760 Speaker 4: TV and film, I always find it difficult to share 448 00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:26,200 Speaker 4: my opinion without being looked at as the one that's 449 00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:28,600 Speaker 4: trying to be sassy and loud and like have an 450 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:30,840 Speaker 4: attitude and start an argument and be that bitch. 451 00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 14: But you are sassy and loud when you choose to 452 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:35,080 Speaker 14: be and there's nothing wrong with that. 453 00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 2: Okay. You know, so own that. Okay, I mean you 454 00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 2: made a little off of it. 455 00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:40,639 Speaker 5: You know. 456 00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 2: That's who you are. 457 00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:44,719 Speaker 14: That's what we love about you. That's a side of 458 00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:46,240 Speaker 14: you that has made you money. 459 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 2: But that's who you are. But what was it? What 460 00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:49,399 Speaker 2: was it like to me? 461 00:22:52,920 --> 00:22:56,480 Speaker 1: You're loud, you're allowed you, Where are the tissues? 462 00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:56,919 Speaker 5: Sorry? 463 00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:57,320 Speaker 4: Go ahead? 464 00:22:57,680 --> 00:22:58,640 Speaker 2: I was I was always wondering. 465 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,199 Speaker 6: So you're saying like first and then it's like, I 466 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,680 Speaker 6: just remember you being the black the black face were. 467 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:05,640 Speaker 2: In a sea of white usually you know what I'm saying, 468 00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:09,040 Speaker 2: like miss America. Yeah, yeah? And so I did. I 469 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:10,159 Speaker 2: dance my whole life. 470 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:12,760 Speaker 14: I started doing a theater and did a lot of 471 00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,680 Speaker 14: lead roles in community theater and also high school and 472 00:23:15,760 --> 00:23:18,679 Speaker 14: middle school. And then when I was came time to 473 00:23:18,720 --> 00:23:21,320 Speaker 14: go to college, it was like nineteen eighty one and 474 00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,280 Speaker 14: I was thinking about where I wanted to go to school, 475 00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 14: and they said, well, is there a musical theater major? 476 00:23:26,240 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 2: And They're like yeah. 477 00:23:26,840 --> 00:23:28,840 Speaker 14: I was like, really, I mean, I can do something 478 00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,440 Speaker 14: that I'm good at. And I ended up going to 479 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:36,920 Speaker 14: Syracuse for musical theater, Go Orange anyone out there, and 480 00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:43,920 Speaker 14: the local Miss Syracuse pageant like basically scouts the talented 481 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,000 Speaker 14: people up on the hill on the Crous College and 482 00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:48,280 Speaker 14: the VPA, and they kept saying, we'd love to do 483 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:50,639 Speaker 14: the passion I said, I'm not a passiont girl. I'm 484 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,680 Speaker 14: my role is to finish here, go to Yale School 485 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,560 Speaker 14: of Drama to get my master's and then go on Broadway. 486 00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,600 Speaker 14: And I said to my mom, you know you sing 487 00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:02,760 Speaker 14: I should do this pageant And she's like, is there 488 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:03,879 Speaker 14: scholarship money? 489 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:05,200 Speaker 2: And because I always got. 490 00:24:05,040 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 14: Scholarships every year, and I said yeah, I said, well 491 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:11,679 Speaker 14: go ahead. And I ended up singing a song that 492 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,160 Speaker 14: I didn't perform as class called being good Isn't good enough? 493 00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:19,359 Speaker 2: Being good isn't good enough? Being good won't be good 494 00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:25,200 Speaker 2: enough When I fly Ilma wast fly extra high. Being 495 00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:28,119 Speaker 2: good just won't be good enough. 496 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:42,119 Speaker 12: I'll be the best on nothing at all. 497 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:45,399 Speaker 2: That's the song I sang. 498 00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:50,080 Speaker 4: That's from Hallelujah Baby, just to walk around with that 499 00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 4: inside you. 500 00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:58,440 Speaker 2: But again I know, I guess amazing. 501 00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:01,119 Speaker 1: Wait, so okay, can we talk about your kids for 502 00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:01,600 Speaker 1: a second. 503 00:25:01,760 --> 00:25:04,480 Speaker 2: Yes, you have four kids? Yeah, I have four kids. 504 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,240 Speaker 1: How do you. 505 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:09,560 Speaker 2: Tell us about them? 506 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 4: Well, how do you help them facilitate their dreams? 507 00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:12,680 Speaker 5: Yes? 508 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:19,240 Speaker 2: How do you? Yes? 509 00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 14: I just tell them that you never know when it's 510 00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:24,480 Speaker 14: going to happen. And again, I was twenty years old. 511 00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:26,679 Speaker 14: I sang a song that I did in performance class, 512 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:30,159 Speaker 14: that i'd done, you know, as a performance, and I 513 00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:33,800 Speaker 14: ended up winning Miss Syracuse in April, went to the 514 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:37,280 Speaker 14: States in July one Miss New York, and in September 515 00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:39,960 Speaker 14: one Miss America. So I had no idea that it 516 00:25:39,960 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 14: would happen. But also I knew in my mind why 517 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:46,320 Speaker 14: couldn't it happen? I was smart enough, I had enough talent. 518 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:48,560 Speaker 14: So they were talking nineteen eighty three. 519 00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,760 Speaker 6: Did your parents always inspire that in you? Were they 520 00:25:51,800 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 6: like my parents always? 521 00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,399 Speaker 14: I mean again, my parents were a music teacher, so 522 00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,960 Speaker 14: they respected the arts, and they never told me get 523 00:25:58,960 --> 00:25:59,639 Speaker 14: a real job. 524 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:00,359 Speaker 2: I feel like. 525 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:03,879 Speaker 6: Children began as artists, Like my kids were like, you know, 526 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:05,640 Speaker 6: painting seashells. 527 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:07,399 Speaker 2: I was in Maine and. 528 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:10,680 Speaker 6: And now and like you know, as you get older, 529 00:26:10,720 --> 00:26:12,399 Speaker 6: people are like, don't do that, you know, like like 530 00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,160 Speaker 6: they we get rid of our artistic impulsees. 531 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:17,280 Speaker 2: Well, follow your skill set, that's what I say. Man. 532 00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:18,960 Speaker 2: I know everyone says follow your dreams and what are 533 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:19,440 Speaker 2: you good at? 534 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,639 Speaker 14: I mean I was good at singing, dancing and acting 535 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 14: and I love doing it and I was good at it, 536 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:25,679 Speaker 14: So you know, follow your skill set doesn't mean that 537 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:27,520 Speaker 14: I knew that I was going to have a career 538 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,399 Speaker 14: on Broadway and that would be the bread and butter. 539 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 2: But it at least got me in the door. 540 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,440 Speaker 4: You know, it's a very tough business. People are very 541 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:36,199 Speaker 4: mean to you. I mean not you, but one in general. 542 00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 4: Everyone loves it and if they don't get out. 543 00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:42,760 Speaker 2: What was we had a question? 544 00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:45,359 Speaker 6: Wanted to say, how do you how do you do it? 545 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,480 Speaker 6: How do you wear the mantle of kindness? 546 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:50,040 Speaker 14: Yes, I think it's being in the business for a 547 00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:53,440 Speaker 14: long time and I'm working with at least somebody everywhere 548 00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:53,639 Speaker 14: I go. 549 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:54,919 Speaker 2: There's at least somebody that I know. 550 00:26:56,160 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 14: But again, it's it's being prepared once you get wherever 551 00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:03,920 Speaker 14: you are. Again, I'm giving all these these life lessons, 552 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:07,440 Speaker 14: but you know, you'll continue to get jobs and work 553 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:09,760 Speaker 14: if you walk in the door and you know your 554 00:27:09,800 --> 00:27:15,160 Speaker 14: shit and you're on time. That's when people respect you 555 00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:21,000 Speaker 14: fucking down. They can count on you and then you deliver. 556 00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:24,160 Speaker 14: So it's doing something you love but also being dependable. 557 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:25,320 Speaker 2: And that's how I've. 558 00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:27,240 Speaker 14: Made it in Like, you know, I'm fifty six years 559 00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:28,640 Speaker 14: old and I still you. 560 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:32,640 Speaker 2: Know, still doing Its. 561 00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:35,280 Speaker 4: Dependable in your work life, you're also a dependable person 562 00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:35,720 Speaker 4: at home. 563 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,199 Speaker 14: I feel like, yeah, I love being a mom. Been 564 00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,399 Speaker 14: a mom for thirty two years, so it's easy. 565 00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 2: How I know. 566 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,239 Speaker 4: I know you're a new new mom, new mom, and 567 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 4: I feel selfish sometimes when I have to leave and 568 00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:51,560 Speaker 4: go do a show. I know, you know, it's like 569 00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:59,160 Speaker 4: being I think Beyonce said it best in Homecoming, where 570 00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:01,160 Speaker 4: she was like, I got to do these dance routines, 571 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:04,640 Speaker 4: but my mind, my headspace is being a twin mom. Yeah, 572 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,720 Speaker 4: so like how do you it never even never leaves 573 00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:11,159 Speaker 4: because you always but know that you can. 574 00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:14,639 Speaker 14: Enjoy this point in their lives and they're going to 575 00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:17,879 Speaker 14: be only this tiny at this moment, So next year 576 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:19,360 Speaker 14: is going to be a whole other thing, and you'll 577 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,160 Speaker 14: continue to grow and you'll be able to I mean, 578 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 14: nowadays you can bring those kids everywhere. I mean we're 579 00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:27,000 Speaker 14: talking back. You know, I had Melanie. My oldest is 580 00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:29,119 Speaker 14: thirty two in eighty seven. You have to kind of 581 00:28:29,160 --> 00:28:31,880 Speaker 14: hide your pregnancy, especially as a recording artist. 582 00:28:31,960 --> 00:28:34,359 Speaker 2: Nobody want to see you pregnant, you know. Nobody wanted 583 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 2: to know that you were married, and it's people. 584 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:37,880 Speaker 1: Want to see you crowning at the Grammy. 585 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:46,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, oh my god. 586 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:48,720 Speaker 6: Do you have any do you have any like parental 587 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 6: hacks for any Are there any parents on the audience 588 00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:51,160 Speaker 6: at all? 589 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:51,840 Speaker 7: Oh? 590 00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,840 Speaker 6: Right, So any hacks for people like, you know, like 591 00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:57,600 Speaker 6: just troubleshooting, you know, any tips. 592 00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:03,040 Speaker 2: For keeen age kids and especially girls. 593 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:07,040 Speaker 14: Seventh seventh grade is the year because they go in 594 00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,239 Speaker 14: like lambs and come at like lions, and it's just 595 00:29:10,280 --> 00:29:13,720 Speaker 14: because they can't help the hormones. So as a mother, 596 00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:16,960 Speaker 14: you've got to have compassion because you're going to try 597 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:19,400 Speaker 14: to reason with them and like, why are you acting 598 00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:22,400 Speaker 14: the way you are and they can't help it, So 599 00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:24,640 Speaker 14: they're gonna say they hate you, They're gonna slam the doors, 600 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:27,160 Speaker 14: they're gonna act out of their bodies because they are 601 00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:27,840 Speaker 14: out of their bodies. 602 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:29,840 Speaker 2: So of course you have to set some guidelines. 603 00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:32,320 Speaker 14: But know that they're going to be crazy and they 604 00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,280 Speaker 14: will eventually come back. 605 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: You know, I thought you just described my marriage. 606 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:39,520 Speaker 6: So what do you What do you like to do 607 00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:41,920 Speaker 6: for yourself? You're you're a mom, But is there any 608 00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,960 Speaker 6: way that you like you? Vanessa Williams unwinds, how do 609 00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 6: you I. 610 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:47,240 Speaker 2: Like to horseback ride? 611 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:47,840 Speaker 14: Yes? 612 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:57,040 Speaker 4: Cool, So that's that's what white shirt it's like, Daniel Steel, Yeah, exactly. 613 00:29:55,800 --> 00:29:57,360 Speaker 1: With a statement red lip. 614 00:29:59,120 --> 00:30:02,360 Speaker 2: At a crop of a crop of course. Of course 615 00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,720 Speaker 2: English riding. Of course. I was just going to say 616 00:30:05,760 --> 00:30:06,040 Speaker 2: that I. 617 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:11,360 Speaker 6: Do western side saddles, so I would love to ride 618 00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:12,800 Speaker 6: with you sometimes. 619 00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:18,120 Speaker 2: On my steed widow Maker. It's a Shetland. 620 00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:22,280 Speaker 1: I prefer a nice Freezian. 621 00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:22,720 Speaker 2: I don't know. 622 00:30:22,760 --> 00:30:23,720 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to jump in. 623 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:25,000 Speaker 2: It's fine, all right. 624 00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:27,200 Speaker 1: So we have some questions from the audience about adulting. 625 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:29,320 Speaker 1: Please answer him. 626 00:30:29,400 --> 00:30:33,000 Speaker 6: You're getting your questions answered by Vanessa Wiliams. 627 00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:38,840 Speaker 14: Are real adults allowed to cry on public transport, then. 628 00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:40,920 Speaker 2: You are not an adults. But if you have not 629 00:30:41,000 --> 00:30:44,240 Speaker 2: cried on public transport, then you are not an adult. 630 00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,000 Speaker 6: You are not in New Yorker unless you eat and 631 00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:49,560 Speaker 6: cry at the same time. 632 00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:52,520 Speaker 10: It's true. 633 00:30:53,720 --> 00:30:58,920 Speaker 4: Yeah, I go, yeah, I'm I'm I'm big on it. 634 00:31:00,840 --> 00:31:02,640 Speaker 4: I also like to check in with people. You know, 635 00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 4: I see people cry. I'm like, you are right, and 636 00:31:04,320 --> 00:31:05,959 Speaker 4: they're like, I'm like, I see you. 637 00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:06,880 Speaker 1: You walk away. 638 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:08,880 Speaker 2: You don't need to stay there and fix it. 639 00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:15,040 Speaker 14: At what point in a relationship can I ask my 640 00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:19,680 Speaker 14: boyfriend to please wipe his fucking pubes off the toilet. 641 00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,160 Speaker 1: See, I'm so sorry, but I can in peace. 642 00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:28,240 Speaker 2: That's very descriptive. I am so sorry. Vanessa. You are 643 00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:33,480 Speaker 2: the lady, so you are a charming woman. I can 644 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:34,719 Speaker 2: this broadcast? 645 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 1: What is our what is our audience? 646 00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:38,440 Speaker 12: Oh? 647 00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:42,320 Speaker 2: Man, I apologize. I'm so you better. 648 00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:44,239 Speaker 4: Take your man back to nursery school and make a 649 00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:45,280 Speaker 4: macaroni necklace. 650 00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:46,760 Speaker 1: I'm done. 651 00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:48,880 Speaker 6: That was like a dog took a ship from a 652 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 6: rocky A'm barras. 653 00:31:51,160 --> 00:31:51,480 Speaker 2: You know what. 654 00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:52,640 Speaker 1: Now I'm gonna have to edit. 655 00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 4: How often should I check my bank account statement every morning? 656 00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,120 Speaker 2: Don't you check it every day? Every time? Every morning? 657 00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:05,440 Speaker 1: Take money out? I check it once a month, like 658 00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:06,160 Speaker 1: a period. 659 00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:09,160 Speaker 2: Every month. 660 00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,080 Speaker 6: I have think you're can have some surprises if you 661 00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:13,880 Speaker 6: do it every month like same. 662 00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:14,520 Speaker 1: Like my period. 663 00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:15,080 Speaker 2: I'm surprised. 664 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:24,680 Speaker 14: What do you say to white co workers who ask 665 00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:32,000 Speaker 14: to touch your hair or ask how you got it 666 00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:35,600 Speaker 14: to grow so long after you get box fraids. Oh, 667 00:32:40,360 --> 00:32:42,800 Speaker 14: it's the same question at the test of time. 668 00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:49,320 Speaker 4: It's why would you ever put your hand on somebody's head? 669 00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:52,400 Speaker 4: Are you gonna give me a papsmere to get away 670 00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:56,320 Speaker 4: from me? You know, it's odd so much sometimes you 671 00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:57,760 Speaker 4: just gotta break it down if you care. 672 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,600 Speaker 14: I mean, how did you have to try twins in 673 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:02,680 Speaker 14: seventh grade? Asked me seventh grade? Back again? 674 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:06,120 Speaker 2: Do you have an afro down there? Yeah? 675 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:07,000 Speaker 1: And you showed up? 676 00:33:09,280 --> 00:33:14,520 Speaker 2: What now they stayed back? They needed some more school? No, yeah, yeah, 677 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,800 Speaker 2: but it's you know, that's it's it's the curiosity. 678 00:33:17,840 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 14: And again the older you get, you realize that it's 679 00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:24,600 Speaker 14: it's curiosity. Yeah, it's you know, so try not to 680 00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:27,960 Speaker 14: take it personally. But then you got to check yourself. 681 00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:31,240 Speaker 4: And feel like again with all the high speed internet, 682 00:33:31,280 --> 00:33:33,960 Speaker 4: please just google image some ship and figure it out. 683 00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:36,600 Speaker 2: But I don't have an afro down there? 684 00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:40,120 Speaker 5: I do. 685 00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:47,560 Speaker 14: How do you deal with co parenting with your husband's 686 00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:52,520 Speaker 14: X when she's extremely manipulative and you have kids involved? 687 00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:55,120 Speaker 2: All right, I'll speak to that one. 688 00:33:57,240 --> 00:33:59,400 Speaker 1: Since I've been married three times and have four kids. 689 00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:00,040 Speaker 2: Everybody tell. 690 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,000 Speaker 14: So I had three with my first husband, and then 691 00:34:04,040 --> 00:34:06,440 Speaker 14: I got married again and had one for my second 692 00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:11,160 Speaker 14: And I never wanted my kids to panic when they 693 00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:13,600 Speaker 14: saw mom and dad in the same room, because you know, 694 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,960 Speaker 14: you have friends like that, Oh my god, my parents 695 00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:18,239 Speaker 14: are together. So I always wanted to be the kids 696 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:21,160 Speaker 14: come first, and no matter what happened in the marriage, 697 00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:26,279 Speaker 14: I wanted to make it zen and cool. And it 698 00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,480 Speaker 14: got so cool that my ex husband's actually took my 699 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:32,640 Speaker 14: kids skiing together while I was Miami. 700 00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:34,680 Speaker 2: On vacation. 701 00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:38,200 Speaker 14: So it can be that easy. Wow, But you have 702 00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:41,000 Speaker 14: to be open. I mean I would cook Thanksgiving. Both 703 00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:43,919 Speaker 14: exes would be there with all the kids collectively, So. 704 00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 2: It's your mindset. 705 00:34:45,040 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, we have the same birthday. 706 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:53,120 Speaker 14: You and Ray July twenty fourth, Yea and Jalo and 707 00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:54,760 Speaker 14: jal and Amelia Earhart. 708 00:34:54,800 --> 00:35:01,920 Speaker 4: Oh really yeah, we're both back with directions too soon. 709 00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:09,960 Speaker 1: Last question, Okay, I think we should all answer this. 710 00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 1: How to be a good best man? 711 00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 2: But when you are broke, oh for a wedding? 712 00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:21,880 Speaker 4: I mean, oh, I don't know, is that for I 713 00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:25,759 Speaker 4: thought you just meant as a man in life. I'm 714 00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:27,200 Speaker 4: just going to answer it as if you were a 715 00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:35,000 Speaker 4: man in life. Sure, I've always said I will. I 716 00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:36,960 Speaker 4: am in love with ambition. I don't care how much 717 00:35:36,960 --> 00:35:39,839 Speaker 4: money you have, so I feel like if you are ambitious, 718 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:45,600 Speaker 4: then something will definitely happen, you know, but also make money. 719 00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:48,200 Speaker 2: What do you think how to be a good man? 720 00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:48,680 Speaker 2: What do you think? 721 00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,360 Speaker 14: I agree with ambition because it's the fuel that's in 722 00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,880 Speaker 14: your belly that you get attracted to and you'll always 723 00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:56,400 Speaker 14: have and never dies hopefully. 724 00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:56,759 Speaker 5: Yeah. 725 00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:58,120 Speaker 2: So that's very, very. 726 00:35:57,960 --> 00:36:03,640 Speaker 14: Attractive as a as a partner. Yeah, but it's also 727 00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,440 Speaker 14: a sense of compassion, so someone is always there as 728 00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:10,080 Speaker 14: your ride or die no matter what you're going through. 729 00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:12,680 Speaker 2: You know that they got your back and you can 730 00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:13,279 Speaker 2: count on them. 731 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:13,880 Speaker 1: So I love that. 732 00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:14,239 Speaker 5: Yeah. 733 00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:15,399 Speaker 1: What about you done well? 734 00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:15,879 Speaker 2: Well? 735 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:17,640 Speaker 8: I've never been a best man at a wedding, so 736 00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:18,719 Speaker 8: I can't answer that part. 737 00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:19,520 Speaker 5: But I have been. 738 00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:23,319 Speaker 8: Broke, and the way to get around it is to 739 00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:25,360 Speaker 8: be interesting and curious. I mean, there's a bunch of 740 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:27,200 Speaker 8: cheap shit you can find to do. The Galley is 741 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,879 Speaker 8: on twenty third Street. They're open every Thursday with free 742 00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:31,759 Speaker 8: wine to the high Line. 743 00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:32,400 Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying. 744 00:36:32,640 --> 00:36:35,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, free date night for you guys on Thursday nights. 745 00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:37,200 Speaker 1: But yeah, creativity is everything. 746 00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:44,680 Speaker 2: Yep. To be a great man journal every night? 747 00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:47,360 Speaker 1: Way can you do it as Obama? 748 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:54,080 Speaker 11: To be a great man's journal every night? Something something 749 00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:57,480 Speaker 11: that we do with our house. He is Michelle and 750 00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:04,520 Speaker 11: I will do Roses and Thornt's and Nike Sasha Mali. Uh, 751 00:37:05,320 --> 00:37:06,560 Speaker 11: what's the best part of your day? 752 00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:16,520 Speaker 2: And that's all I got? 753 00:37:16,880 --> 00:37:20,280 Speaker 4: Okay, So we always ask our guests, what's the most 754 00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,280 Speaker 4: adult thing you want to do for yourself? 755 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:24,080 Speaker 2: Oh? 756 00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:30,520 Speaker 14: The most adult thing is do more producing. So it's 757 00:37:30,560 --> 00:37:34,120 Speaker 14: again it's about creativity and what's next? What can I do? 758 00:37:34,239 --> 00:37:36,719 Speaker 14: What can I make? What can I produce? It's never 759 00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:38,399 Speaker 14: too late to create my show? 760 00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:45,640 Speaker 1: Please, fansta. 761 00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:52,520 Speaker 11: Are you so huh huh huh huh one more time? 762 00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:56,360 Speaker 2: Please? Oh you're not entertained. 763 00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:58,360 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for coming that. 764 00:37:58,400 --> 00:37:59,279 Speaker 2: It's been adult thing. 765 00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:01,920 Speaker 1: You guys have been amazing, Thank you, Thank you. 766 00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:13,440 Speaker 2: Epic epic epic show. Damian Lemon, Vanessa Williams legends. 767 00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,600 Speaker 4: I mean, I will listen to this episode over and 768 00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:17,000 Speaker 4: over and over. And now I look at these pictures 769 00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:19,160 Speaker 4: as if I'm looking at my wedding Pictures. 770 00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:22,279 Speaker 2: So Proud basking That. 771 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:25,360 Speaker 4: Adulting was produced by Blakeney Shake and Adelia Rubin. The 772 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:30,120 Speaker 4: Adulting team includes join Us, Solatara, Paula Schumann, Joe Plored, Keeking, Zimma, 773 00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:33,640 Speaker 4: Bill O'Neil, George Wellington, and Irene Trudell, and the live 774 00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:35,440 Speaker 4: show is produced by Christian Bunda. 775 00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,479 Speaker 6: Our theme music is by Isaac Jones, with additional music 776 00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:39,600 Speaker 6: by Don. 777 00:38:39,400 --> 00:38:42,759 Speaker 13: Will And if you like this episode, y'all please. 778 00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:44,879 Speaker 6: Write out at us don't be too harsh or writer 779 00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:46,800 Speaker 6: in you or both or whatever. 780 00:38:46,560 --> 00:38:48,880 Speaker 4: At the same time, and subscribe wherever you get your 781 00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,960 Speaker 4: podcasts so you don't miss our next episode, cuz he 782 00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:51,560 Speaker 4: gonna be. 783 00:38:51,560 --> 00:38:53,640 Speaker 2: Good, gonna be so good. 784 00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:55,760 Speaker 6: And if you're going to coffee with somebody, don't send 785 00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:57,400 Speaker 6: like one of those Google invitations. 786 00:38:57,440 --> 00:38:57,920 Speaker 2: It's weird. 787 00:38:58,120 --> 00:38:59,359 Speaker 1: Oh god, that's too much. 788 00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:00,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, it's too much. 789 00:39:00,560 --> 00:39:03,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely edit your Google invitations. That is a good 790 00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:13,920 Speaker 4: adult piece. Nugget of things. 791 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:18,040 Speaker 2: Williams was in the hem. Yes, did you see when 792 00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:21,120 Speaker 2: she came in the room. I immediately threw the turkey 793 00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:22,839 Speaker 2: chili down because I was like, I can't ever see 794 00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:27,680 Speaker 2: me like this. I could have exploded against the wall 795 00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:34,480 Speaker 2: you like stuck up behind the couch, like scared will 796 00:39:34,520 --> 00:39:36,560 Speaker 2: absolutely get you. I couldn't even open the fruit. 797 00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:40,479 Speaker 6: I was like no, I took scissors out. We lost 798 00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:42,239 Speaker 6: our personalities around but. 799 00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:46,080 Speaker 2: Then she dropped the nachos and I said it. She's 800 00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:50,200 Speaker 2: just like us. She's human, she's fallible, she makes. 801 00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:51,480 Speaker 1: And then she wanted another beer. 802 00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:57,279 Speaker 2: You're like jetting everywhere.