WEBVTT - Stop Kidding Around 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:05.720 This is How Men Think? And Gavin and I heard 0:00:05.760 --> 0:00:10.119 radio podcasts Everybody Thought, bar Bosha b A. Milla, hosts 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:14.440 of American Ninja Warrior. Uh. I'm filling in for Brooks 0:00:14.440 --> 0:00:17.840 and Gavin. I am now the guest host of How 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:21.400 Men Think. And this podcast is so interesting to me 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:25.360 because it really does do a deep dive into our 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:28.280 thought process. And today part of that thought process is 0:00:28.280 --> 0:00:33.160 going to be Alfonso Rivieriro and good friend Jerry O'Connell. Uh. 0:00:33.240 --> 0:00:37.360 Not to mention, we have some help the supernanny Joe Frost. 0:00:37.560 --> 0:00:40.560 She's in UH today and we're gonna have a discussion 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:44.000 on how to adjust to the new normal, especially at home, 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:47.920 UH with school coming back into play back to school. 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:51.239 Everyone's excited. What does that look like? I'm interested. I've 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:53.920 got four kids of my own. I know Jerry's got 0:00:53.960 --> 0:00:57.040 his kids, Alfonso's got his kids. What do we do? 0:00:57.160 --> 0:00:59.400 How are we doing it? We're gonna hear from them shortly. 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:02.960 It Right now, let's bring in my two good friends, 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:16.840 Jerry O'Connell and Alfonso. Jerry, Dude, what's up, Alfonso? How 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:19.920 you doing? Brother? I'm doing good man. I feel like 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:21.720 you just came off the golf course. I think every 0:01:21.720 --> 0:01:24.480 time I see you're always golf think I listen, I've 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:27.480 actually I haven't even been to my golf course in 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:31.479 two and a half months. Oh is that right? Yeah, 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:34.600 because I mean, why is that. Well we'll get into 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:37.039 that during the interview, but I went, I've been all 0:01:37.080 --> 0:01:40.360 over the country in my RV and haven't played really 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:43.399 any golf at home. I'm actually gonna go tomorrow for 0:01:43.480 --> 0:01:46.480 the first time in over two and a half months 0:01:46.480 --> 0:01:48.160 to play golf. I'm gonna take my boy with me. 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:51.000 Oh that's good, all right, Well, that's good. May happen 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:52.920 having a little bit of fun out there, Jerry? What 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:57.880 about you? Nothing? I actually, um, I am taking golf lessons. 0:01:57.920 --> 0:01:59.920 I'll be ready. I'm trying to get myself ready for 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.160 or when I go out with Alfonso, and I don't 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:06.680 embarrass myself totally when I'm out there. But nothing, man, 0:02:06.840 --> 0:02:10.920 just sitting at home watching you on Instagram, watching me 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:14.800 on Instagram. Well look, let's dive right into this. You know, uh, 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:17.400 everyone kind of you know, knows that school is getting 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:21.160 ready to come back in and people often how what's 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:25.040 this new normal look like? For especially for fathers um 0:02:25.080 --> 0:02:27.000 and for you to look, you guys are big time, 0:02:27.040 --> 0:02:29.480 prime time celebrities. I gotta just ask you guys, straight 0:02:29.520 --> 0:02:32.000 off the top. Do you guys cook at home? I 0:02:32.040 --> 0:02:34.880 know you know, Alfonso, you've been in and out r 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:41.400 V at home. Are you guys cooking at home? Um? No, no, no, 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:45.000 um when I've been home. But to you know, I'm 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:48.079 really good at breakfast, so I'll do breakfast. Breakfast is 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:50.320 something that I can do, but my wife is so 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:53.400 much better at it that my kids. If I actually 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:58.240 say I'm making breakfast, I hear the all like you know, like, well, 0:02:58.280 --> 0:02:59.679 I gotta feel that way. But every once in a 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:01.520 while I give my wife a break and she doesn't 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.000 want to, you know, she stays in bed a little 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:05.080 longer with the baby, and and I'll come down and 0:03:05.080 --> 0:03:07.680 cook for the boys. And it's like, you know, I'm eggs, 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:13.960 maybe a little turkey bacon, you know, just basic, basic, basic, 0:03:14.040 --> 0:03:17.639 No turkey bacon, turkey bacon. But what about pancakes. Yeah, 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.480 my wife does the pancakes. My wife, My wife does pancakes. 0:03:21.520 --> 0:03:23.839 She does the Swedish pancakes, is a regular pancakes. She 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:26.320 does the pancake. So the kids really like the pancakes. 0:03:26.600 --> 0:03:29.240 I can do. I can do French toast. Okay, but good. 0:03:30.480 --> 0:03:32.600 You know they're not really into it as much. So 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:34.200 so yeah, So I don't do a lot of the cooking. 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:37.160 My wife does most of it. But um, during during 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:40.000 this pandemic, we've been doing it in our r V 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:44.040 in different cities all over the country. So she's had 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:48.720 to really up the quick RV cooking game, right, Like 0:03:49.160 --> 0:03:50.880 you don't want to cook for an hour in the 0:03:51.080 --> 0:03:54.120 r V, you don't really get you know, super specific 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:57.920 and start getting creative. It's like, okay, what are the basics? 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:01.360 What can we eat? What's quite? And she rocks it 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:04.600 out right. So the bob Evans, you know, mac and 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:08.120 cheese and and and mash potatoes have been great for 0:04:08.240 --> 0:04:11.520 us because she can knock it out. Me. Yeah, no, 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:15.280 not so much. I know too, You're you're on that 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:19.120 bob Evans stuff too, Jerry, Listen. I know I know 0:04:19.200 --> 0:04:22.400 you're asking about our our culinary skills at bar because 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:24.800 I do follow you on social media and if I recall, 0:04:24.880 --> 0:04:28.520 you posted a recipe for your vegan pancakes a couple 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:33.039 of years ago. I recall, um, they looked amazing. I 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.400 unlike you. I'm not very good in the kitchen. Hence 0:04:35.440 --> 0:04:38.479 why I think Bob Evans and I work so well together. 0:04:38.640 --> 0:04:42.000 They are ready to eat all real ingredients. I popped 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:45.279 them in the microwave, and my children have mac and cheese, 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:48.440 mashed potatoes boom right there. Because I am now now 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:52.680 that they're distance learning, I am now their cafeteria chef, 0:04:52.960 --> 0:04:55.200 so I'm in charge of their school. So you just 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:57.560 you look it up with the Bob Evans in the 0:04:57.720 --> 0:05:00.320 boom boom boom, and they go, hey, guys, now get 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:05.360 back to your zoom class. Exactly. It's um, it's it's 0:05:05.360 --> 0:05:08.600 it's just so easy for me. And also I'm ashamed 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:12.800 to admit I am not the vegan pancake culinary expert 0:05:12.880 --> 0:05:15.760 that you are a far you well, no judgment. It 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:19.080 sounds great. I'm hungry too right now, and that sounds great. 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:22.400 You might actually convert me. Well, my wife, my wife 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:26.040 is of Swedish heritage, so she makes the Swedish pancakes also, 0:05:26.839 --> 0:05:29.000 and so she rolls them up with the butter and 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:31.960 little powdered sugar on there. So there's and then we'll 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:34.680 make them make the regular pancakes. Will make banana pancakes. 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:37.880 Will make blueberry banana pancakes, so she she rocks it 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:43.119 out me. The Swede panca. I've never heard of that before. 0:05:43.720 --> 0:05:48.360 The pcakes. The Swediest pancakes are like paper thin, so 0:05:48.400 --> 0:05:50.320 you actually need a grittle to make it all. You 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:51.600 can't make them in a pan or anything like that. 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:55.080 You gotta need a full griddle. And you make them. 0:05:55.160 --> 0:05:58.279 She makes a gluten free one and it's like super 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.880 paper thin and you roll them up. Um, you can 0:06:00.880 --> 0:06:04.400 put it's like a create. It's basically like a crepe, 0:06:04.440 --> 0:06:07.120 except of a pancake, and so it tastes a little 0:06:07.120 --> 0:06:09.640 different than a create. Create doesn't really have the flavor. 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:13.760 Where do they still have some of that flavor? Well, 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:16.120 look for all the listeners. For those of you guys 0:06:16.200 --> 0:06:20.000 who actually want to get more information on Bob Evans Farm, 0:06:20.040 --> 0:06:22.280 you guys can go and find that information on bob 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:25.720 Evans Grocery dot com. Um, I'm sure people are going 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:29.400 there right now. That sounds pretty good. We're talking about fatherhood, 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:32.280 you know, and fatherhood has been challenging, I know, at 0:06:32.320 --> 0:06:35.280 least for me because you know with four kids funds. 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:38.039 I know you have four. I've got twins Jerry, I 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:41.839 know you've got twins. What's been the adjustment, um or 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:44.960 the biggest adjustment you guys have had to make during 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.479 this time, because I think especially I know, you know, 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.320 husband and wives can kind of go at each other. 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:52.800 For me personal story, in the first two or three weeks, 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:56.880 I was like super Dad, trying to do everything, and 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:59.600 then after a while I just was like and I 0:06:59.720 --> 0:07:02.880 just hey, maybe yeah, you take this because it was hectic. 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:04.680 I didn't know what to do. And so now preparing 0:07:04.680 --> 0:07:06.880 for the new school year, I'm trying to come up 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:08.480 with some more plans, but I wanted to hear kind 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:10.120 of some of you guys plans on how you're gonna 0:07:10.160 --> 0:07:14.120 just for this new staying at home and distant learning. Well, 0:07:14.160 --> 0:07:17.559 I'm I'm actually one of those people that I view life. 0:07:18.040 --> 0:07:21.200 I'm very mental about life, right, So what I'm always 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:24.240 trying to do is recognize, Okay, this is our new normal. 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:29.840 Let's figure out how we do this for the long distance. Right. 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:32.680 So I'm not gonna be the guy who comes in 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:35.160 and goes I am super Dad for two weeks and 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:38.360 now I'm out. Um. I I want to be, you know, 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:43.520 a stable, steady flow through the summer through all of this, um, 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:45.960 and so my wife and I have agreed that I 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:48.600 think the best way to do that is to find 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:51.520 the things that we do and keep a normal pattern 0:07:51.960 --> 0:07:56.960 every day so it doesn't feel very different. Then eventually, 0:07:57.000 --> 0:07:58.920 once we reached the point where that was, you know, 0:07:59.000 --> 0:08:01.720 two and a half months old, we then said, all right, 0:08:01.760 --> 0:08:03.840 we need to switch this up and we bought an RV. 0:08:04.560 --> 0:08:08.680 So we bought the r V and went out. Basically, 0:08:09.200 --> 0:08:16.720 I've driven over twelve thousand miles. Dead serious, So we 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:19.000 broke out. We were like out of l A, like 0:08:19.200 --> 0:08:22.480 l A. The numbers are going crazy, the world is 0:08:22.600 --> 0:08:24.600 kind of opening up, but I don't believe that we're 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:26.880 gonna be okay. So we were like, let's break out 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:29.840 of here, let's go, let's go see family, let's do it. 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:33.960 R Ving is the is the easiest social distancing way 0:08:34.280 --> 0:08:38.560 to travel. You are by yourself, you never need to 0:08:38.600 --> 0:08:41.520 be around anybody. You go into the truck stop, you 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.520 put your thing in. There's actually apps that you can 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:46.920 do where you you're like, I'm at pump twenty three 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:50.760 and fill it up, get back in and keep it moving. Um. 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:57.440 The only thing you ever have huh, expensive gas for that. Um, 0:08:57.520 --> 0:09:02.400 well it's diesel, so you know, it's it's it's in 0:09:02.440 --> 0:09:04.880 some places it's more expensive. In some places it's cheaper, 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:07.640 depending on where you are in the country. But but 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:11.000 we we we just went and we and we loved it, 0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:14.600 and so we got into the rhythm of I always 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:19.719 said to her, you handle inside. I got outside, right, 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.640 So anything that we're doing outside, anything that was like 0:09:23.760 --> 0:09:26.720 physical with the RV, all of that was me. She 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.120 handled all the inside, most of the cooking, most of 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:32.240 the you know, we both clean, but um, you know, 0:09:32.280 --> 0:09:35.480 the handling of the stuff inside. She got about what 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:38.760 about the zoom meetings for for classes and and all 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:42.319 the educational stuff. So typically at most r V parks 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:45.880 they've got WiFi, so you can tap right into the WiFi. 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:49.040 The other thing is is that my RV actually has 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:54.760 a four g um actual hot spot. So I as 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:57.800 long as I have cellular, I have a hot spot, 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:01.880 and basically I have WiFi that everyone can connect to. 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:07.400 So Alfonso's WiFi in his RV is way better than 0:10:07.480 --> 0:10:12.480 my WiFi at home as loud as you've got cellular. 0:10:12.559 --> 0:10:15.280 As long as you've got cellular, the WiFi works great. 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.160 Like for the kids. We you know, we're streaming in 0:10:18.240 --> 0:10:21.040 the r V. We've got WiFi, we can get on computer, 0:10:21.200 --> 0:10:24.960 we're we are a mobile unit traveling around the country 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:27.439 and it was fantastic for all of us. Now I'm 0:10:27.480 --> 0:10:29.559 back in l A because now we're back at work 0:10:29.800 --> 0:10:31.720 and we're filming a f V again, So I've got 0:10:31.720 --> 0:10:33.760 to be here. But I have like a month that 0:10:33.760 --> 0:10:36.719 I'm gonna be off. We're wrapping up in the mid 0:10:36.760 --> 0:10:40.160 September and we're gone. We are out of here again. 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:43.080 We're gonna go away for a month, go traveling. UM. 0:10:43.120 --> 0:10:45.080 Whenever we need to go anywhere. We're gonna just make 0:10:45.120 --> 0:10:47.400 sure that the places that we go have four G 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:52.280 capability UM, and we'll be we'll be doing schooling and 0:10:52.440 --> 0:10:55.920 social distancing all of that while still not being stuck 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:58.360 in the house because we just don't know how long 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:01.320 this is gonna be. And for us, we felt like 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:04.680 it was super important to create a world that they're 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:08.280 going to be happy in. UM. Unfortunately, not to create 0:11:08.320 --> 0:11:11.080 that world for my kids, you know, to be able 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:14.239 to buy an RV, to be able to go do that. UM. 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:16.559 But but I think the important message, though, Alphonso, is 0:11:16.600 --> 0:11:20.000 what you're talking about is the ability to adapt. So 0:11:20.440 --> 0:11:23.440 you know, regardless of what their finances as your capability is, 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:25.520 you had something that you were able to adapt and 0:11:25.559 --> 0:11:28.640 it was sustainable. And and so I guess I asked you, Jerry, like, 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:31.240 what was your how did you adapt and what was 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:34.920 sustainable for you? Because you know, I think I'm looking 0:11:34.960 --> 0:11:37.960 at myself right now. I did something that wasn't sustainable. 0:11:37.960 --> 0:11:41.680 I wanted to overdrive to try to compensate for all 0:11:41.720 --> 0:11:44.079 of this hectic stuff, and like you know, new information 0:11:44.120 --> 0:11:45.480 coming out, and so I try to go an old 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:47.959 drive and then I got burnt out. It wasn't sustainable. 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.240 And then I just telling myself sitting in my office 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:52.640 watching the news, feeling like I was depressed and just 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:54.640 getting all the update, Well what should we do? Should 0:11:54.640 --> 0:11:56.959 we overbuy? And do we done by it? It was 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:59.240 all this stuff. What's been the way that you've kept 0:11:59.280 --> 0:12:02.800 things sustainable? Jerry? Well, my family and I did rent 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:05.440 in RV for four days and we drove to the 0:12:05.559 --> 0:12:11.360 settlement four miles. We we went to the southern tip 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:16.360 of Yosemite. And after four days, I mean it was 0:12:16.400 --> 0:12:18.240 not going well. We got out of their movie, so 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:21.800 we don't have I don't have the bond that Alfonso's 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:25.160 family has with each other. Obviously. UM no, if the 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:30.079 if there's anything I've learned, UM during these last five months, 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:34.040 is I really have to have patience as a dad. 0:12:34.240 --> 0:12:39.400 You know, I'm you know, I'm the dad, and um 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:44.000 if I'm freaking out, um in my household, and by 0:12:44.040 --> 0:12:45.800 the way, I have a right to be. I when 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:47.880 I got married to my wife, I never thought I'd 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:49.839 be spending this much time with her. When I had 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:54.200 children with my wife, I never thought I would be 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:56.120 spending this much time with them. I mean, we're kind 0:12:56.120 --> 0:12:58.480 of joking, but I'm not. Normally, I have a job, 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:02.120 I go somewhere. Uh, I can go out to a restaurant, 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:03.800 I can go meet my buddies at a bar. I 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:08.000 can go play golf with Alfonse. So um, really all 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:11.760 of those things are not open right now, and I'm 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:16.920 stuck with these three people in my house. And listen, 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:20.360 It's very easy when your kid comes in and screaming about, 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:23.440 you know, not being able to get onto a WiFi, 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:26.040 onto a zoom class. You know, it's so easy to 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:28.319 say like, um, you know, stop yelling at me. I 0:13:28.320 --> 0:13:30.079 don't know why you're you're kicking on the zoo class. 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:35.600 It's not like I'm not like a zoom experts um, 0:13:35.640 --> 0:13:37.600 you know, I like, I don't work at best by 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:41.160 What what do you think? You think? Geek squad um? 0:13:41.240 --> 0:13:43.080 What was it? What was your first response when your 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:45.480 kids say, hey, Dad, I want to change my background? 0:13:45.760 --> 0:13:47.800 My daughter asked me, that's like, I don't even know 0:13:47.840 --> 0:13:50.400 what that is, Like, what are you talking about? Like? 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:53.080 How do you change? All my friends have backgrounds. I'm like, 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:56.000 I'm sorry, I've never even heard of m until the year. 0:13:56.520 --> 0:14:00.720 You've having a seventeen year old, right, so she's the one. 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:03.280 It's like if I need to know how to do something, 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.920 I'm like, hey, Sienna, can you show me how to 0:14:05.960 --> 0:14:08.600 do this? And my wife is really good at that, 0:14:08.760 --> 0:14:12.640 you know. Listen. The beauty of all of this is 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:17.000 basically being able. Like I bought a new RV. New 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:22.680 RVs typically have the most problems, right, An older RV 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:26.840 actually is typically they've gone through all the problems. I've 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:29.600 gotten them fixed. Right. So I went into this knowing 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:31.800 that things were going to happen. We were going to 0:14:31.840 --> 0:14:33.840 deal with people who were going to be rude. We 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:36.600 were gonna deal with racism because we went through areas 0:14:36.640 --> 0:14:39.280 of the South and places in the Midwest that we're 0:14:39.320 --> 0:14:42.880 not school. We were dealing with, you know, the r 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:45.560 V having trouble. At the end of the day, it 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.400 was like, we're not going to allow this to affect 0:14:49.520 --> 0:14:52.440 our energy. We are going to blow it off the 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.680 shoulder and keep on moving. And I think that is 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:00.560 and I'm not saying that I'm perfect and anyway, but 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:02.840 I look at it and I say that is what 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:05.640 we all need to be able to do during this time. 0:15:06.120 --> 0:15:09.720 Nothing is in our control. We've got to let go 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:14.200 of certain things that are simply not controllable and accept that, Okay, 0:15:14.240 --> 0:15:16.680 these things are going to be difficult. These things are hard, 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:19.320 but how do we roll with it? And for me 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:21.920 as the guy, as the man, as the man of 0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:24.680 the house, I'm like, well, if I set the tone, 0:15:25.880 --> 0:15:28.800 then everybody else can follow. Right now, how do you 0:15:28.800 --> 0:15:30.360 how do you move that forward? Because there are a 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:32.680 lot of people who are you know, who are listening 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:35.840 in and they're saying, Okay, I need to now learn 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:37.600 from what I did last year. What are some of 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:40.880 the things that you learned from last year that you go, okay, 0:15:40.920 --> 0:15:43.560 you know what that didn't work. This is what I'm doing. 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:48.840 In for for example, my kids fitness levels dropped. Uh, 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:54.280 they're eating habits got nasty. I mean because and myself included, 0:15:54.320 --> 0:15:57.520 because I constantly was going to the fridge either out 0:15:57.560 --> 0:16:01.680 of emotional boredom on a stress. My kids feel like 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:04.560 they're locked up. Where you play outside, Okay, go real 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:06.720 quick and ride your back around the thing. And you 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:09.840 know we're just making stuff up. But now like for 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:12.840 for for example, I am now like creating as as 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:15.320 we're speaking now, as soon as we get off this 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:19.240 off this podcast, I'm actually creating a PE list for 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:21.680 the entire school years, so I know that the fitness 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:25.120 level no matter what during PE time, there's no I'm 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:27.360 not taking any meetings, I'm not having any work. I'm 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:31.640 not doing anything unless they come pay me to do. 0:16:32.160 --> 0:16:34.080 I want my kids and I want my kids in 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:40.000 your gym class. I will send mine to the school 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:44.080 of pech. I think, I think what you're saying is 0:16:44.080 --> 0:16:46.680 absolutely perfectly right off Like I think you're you're you're 0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:51.880 creating a system, and that is the way we all 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:55.000 function at least for us in our house, is the best. 0:16:55.120 --> 0:16:57.200 Like when it's just like well, we're just gonna roll 0:16:57.280 --> 0:16:59.720 with it. It doesn't always work the best. This is 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:01.840 what doing. We're getting up in the morning. We're gonna 0:17:01.880 --> 0:17:03.960 take our showers, we're gonna brush our teeth. We're gonna 0:17:03.960 --> 0:17:07.080 go downstairs. We're gonna have breakfast. We're gonna zoom class 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:09.160 for two hours. Then we're gonna get up. We're gonna 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:12.440 go outside. We're gonna run around. When we're outside running around, 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:14.720 we're gonna do this, this, this, this, and this. Okay, 0:17:14.760 --> 0:17:16.600 then we're gonna come back in. We're gonna do that again. 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:18.520 We're gonna got on a zoom call. Then we're gonna 0:17:18.560 --> 0:17:21.760 get off of that. Having a complete schedule, we actually 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:25.200 have a board and we write down everything that they 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.400 need to do, whether it's speech classes or whatever. It's 0:17:28.480 --> 0:17:32.159 on the board. So now you're not actually being the 0:17:32.359 --> 0:17:36.480 bad guy. The key to it is it's on the schedule. 0:17:36.840 --> 0:17:39.760 It's already on the board. We know we have to 0:17:39.840 --> 0:17:42.280 do this, and I know that it stinks right now 0:17:42.280 --> 0:17:45.159 that you've got to do it, but it's on the board. 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:48.840 You make the board the bad guy, and you sense it. 0:17:48.920 --> 0:17:50.520 And of course you know as they get older, they're 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:53.600 like you wrote the board we're talking about, but you're 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:58.600 keeping them on a schedule. Kids like consistency, right, Why 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:01.200 do kids, you know, at a younger age not get 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:03.560 upset when they have to go to school because it's consistent. 0:18:03.800 --> 0:18:05.760 They know they gotta do it. This isn't this isn't 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:13.280 a choice creating those systems. It's exactly familiarity with things 0:18:13.359 --> 0:18:18.160 that they're comfortable doing. If you create exercises in your backyard. Um, 0:18:18.200 --> 0:18:24.399 I lost ten pounds over COVID right, like, yeah, you 0:18:24.440 --> 0:18:26.760 saw it looks very gave you. Jerry just gave you 0:18:26.800 --> 0:18:29.320 that look like come on, man, like I put on 0:18:29.400 --> 0:18:32.680 you know, it was a look of I'm ashamed right 0:18:32.680 --> 0:18:36.040 now because I show you what I don't want to 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:38.280 show you what's happening under here. You know what I 0:18:38.320 --> 0:18:41.320 call it. I call it Corona Chubb. That's what I've 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:46.120 called it. I've called I've put on six pack there, 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:48.359 it's like now it's like a one pack now. But 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:51.040 it was any but any facial expressions I was making 0:18:51.119 --> 0:18:57.119 was out of jealousy, saying here like, come on, I 0:18:57.160 --> 0:19:01.560 lost ten pounds and it's just simply one wife's cooking 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:04.920 right now. I don't get to go to in and out, 0:19:05.080 --> 0:19:08.919 or I don't get to go to my favorite restaurants 0:19:08.960 --> 0:19:13.240 that put a boatload of butter and other stuff in 0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:16.119 it that like is going to make you gain weight, 0:19:16.200 --> 0:19:22.119 Like she was being consistent with breakfast, was this, lunch? 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:25.760 Is this dinner? Is this? And different? You know, switching 0:19:25.800 --> 0:19:30.120 it up of course, but it was controlled so to me. 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:33.520 And then getting up in every day when we get 0:19:33.520 --> 0:19:36.280 to a new RV site, we go for a walk, 0:19:36.920 --> 0:19:38.600 get the kids out, we're gonna go. They hop on 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:41.520 their scooters, We go for walks, we walk around the place, 0:19:41.600 --> 0:19:43.600 we get up, we do some exercise, we went a 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:46.639 little bit, we throw the ball, We're doing stuff, and 0:19:46.680 --> 0:19:51.840 we're moving every day. And that's just consistent. If you 0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:55.560 can do that every day in your home living, that 0:19:55.680 --> 0:20:00.359 consistency turns into positivity. So, Jerry, what what kind of 0:20:00.359 --> 0:20:02.640 fun activities are you doing with your kids to get 0:20:02.680 --> 0:20:05.439 them moving or just just to kind of break the 0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:07.480 monotony of being at home, because I think that's the 0:20:07.480 --> 0:20:09.480 other part that was difficult, is that I think my 0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:13.720 kids got tired of seeing our four walls, you know, 0:20:13.880 --> 0:20:17.600 just like, uh, do we have to again anything you're 0:20:17.600 --> 0:20:19.919 doing differently? First of all, at Bar. I do have 0:20:19.960 --> 0:20:22.840 to say, if you do do a PE class for 0:20:23.000 --> 0:20:27.840 kids in school, please put it on your Instagram, send 0:20:27.920 --> 0:20:30.000 us all the link. Let's all join up. This would 0:20:30.040 --> 0:20:33.040 be amazing if you had like a large PE class 0:20:33.119 --> 0:20:35.040 that you were running it. I mean, I would be 0:20:35.200 --> 0:20:38.359 definitely into that. It's tough to get my kids moving 0:20:38.400 --> 0:20:40.120 around a little bit, you know. I mean, I think 0:20:40.119 --> 0:20:43.800 it's also why I'm so grateful to be, you know, 0:20:43.880 --> 0:20:46.399 partnering with Bob Evans these days, is that you know, 0:20:46.680 --> 0:20:50.760 we're responsible for every meal at home now and if 0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:53.199 not for Bob Evans and they're ready to eat you know, 0:20:54.520 --> 0:20:58.960 meals with made with real ingredients. Um, i'd uh, I'd 0:20:58.960 --> 0:21:01.520 be up the creek man. You know, I'm gonna jump 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:04.160 on that because I can tell you real talk. My 0:21:04.359 --> 0:21:07.960 grocery bills I mean just went, I mean just it 0:21:08.119 --> 0:21:10.919 just we blew up the whole budget. The budget was 0:21:10.960 --> 0:21:13.320 just blown out because it was hard to kind of 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:16.200 figure out what the new pacing of eating was and 0:21:16.280 --> 0:21:18.760 not having stuff there, and we lost time because we're like, 0:21:18.800 --> 0:21:22.160 I'm hungry, we gotta make something because we weren't used 0:21:22.200 --> 0:21:25.399 to that that that flow where you know, at home 0:21:25.440 --> 0:21:27.639 when that's cool. We're not worried about making anything. Now 0:21:27.640 --> 0:21:29.560 we have to try to come up with the menu 0:21:29.720 --> 0:21:32.000 and try to create all of this to kind of, 0:21:32.320 --> 0:21:34.639 you know, keep the kids at bay and then you know, 0:21:34.680 --> 0:21:37.960 there's these long stretch, but any other fun activities you 0:21:38.320 --> 0:21:41.240 might be doing with the kids, or any great ideas 0:21:41.400 --> 0:21:44.040 like just to kind of break up you know, I mean, listen, 0:21:44.080 --> 0:21:48.200 I know I'm speaking to an elite athlete right now. UM. 0:21:48.440 --> 0:21:51.600