WEBVTT - Master the introduction

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about how to make better introductions, ones

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<v Speaker 1>that put awesome people together and help nurture your relationships too.

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<v Speaker 1>The first part of this tip is to realize that

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<v Speaker 1>you should make introductions. I know some people listening to

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<v Speaker 1>this are natural connectors, and they spend their entire lives

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about which far flung corners of their networks should

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<v Speaker 1>be brought closer. But for many of us, this is

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<v Speaker 1>a far more acquired skill. It's taken me a long

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<v Speaker 1>time to realize that if I like an admire person

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<v Speaker 1>A and I like an admire person B, there's a

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<v Speaker 1>pretty good chance that person A and person B would

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<v Speaker 1>get along, or at least have enough in common to

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<v Speaker 1>have a productive phone call. Some people don't have space

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<v Speaker 1>in their lives for any more connections, but those people

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<v Speaker 1>are relatively rare. This game of introducing people is one

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<v Speaker 1>in which you can bat eight hundred or so pretty easily.

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<v Speaker 1>That is, if you take the second part of this

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<v Speaker 1>tip to heart. For an introduction to work, you need

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<v Speaker 1>to ask both people if they want to be introduced Now,

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<v Speaker 1>this might seem like an unnecessary step, given if you

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<v Speaker 1>know both parties well enough to be making an introduction,

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<v Speaker 1>they are likely to say yes. But sending each of

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<v Speaker 1>them a note or calling them ahead of time to

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<v Speaker 1>get permission does a few things. First, it gives you

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<v Speaker 1>a chance to explain who the other person is without

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<v Speaker 1>that person being part of the audience, so you can

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<v Speaker 1>be a bit more straightforward about why the introduction will

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<v Speaker 1>be useful to each person. This also means that when

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<v Speaker 1>you do send a note introducing both parties, each will

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<v Speaker 1>know who the other person is and why they should

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<v Speaker 1>be connecting. When people fail to do this, it can

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<v Speaker 1>just be confusing. I've gotten in doctory notes for people

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<v Speaker 1>that just say you two are awesome and you should connect.

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<v Speaker 1>And while I have no doubt that the other person,

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<v Speaker 1>let's call her Bath, is awesome, I'm doing some frantic

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<v Speaker 1>Google searching to figure out who she is before responding

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<v Speaker 1>to the email, and then I guess totally wrong about

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<v Speaker 1>why we should be connecting right now. Beth might want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk because she's also into podcasting, but my Google

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<v Speaker 1>searching turns up that she wrote for a publication I

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<v Speaker 1>used to write for, and so I think it's maybe

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<v Speaker 1>something about that both of us will waste time trying

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<v Speaker 1>to figure this out. There's always the chance that you'll

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<v Speaker 1>find out an introduction isn't a good idea right this

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<v Speaker 1>second too. Maybe one person is about to depart for

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<v Speaker 1>an offline month long retreat, or you were about to

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<v Speaker 1>suggest someone sending her resume to the other party's company,

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<v Speaker 1>and you find out that Party B just got fired

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<v Speaker 1>and it's a bit of a sore subject. Again, these

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<v Speaker 1>are unlikely scenarios, but finding this out ahead of time

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<v Speaker 1>saves you all from wondering why Party B is and

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<v Speaker 1>responding and if you did something offensive, Party A might

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<v Speaker 1>not be happy to be introduced and reach out and

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<v Speaker 1>get crickets in return. I'm sure she'll forgive you eventually,

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<v Speaker 1>but why take the risk. Double opt in introductions are

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<v Speaker 1>the way to go. But when you do these, you

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<v Speaker 1>can make all sorts of wonderful things happen. People get

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<v Speaker 1>hired and get new long term clients, They make new

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<v Speaker 1>friends and meet new lovers. You change the world for

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<v Speaker 1>the better, and that is a great use of time.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, this is Laura, Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Hey everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to hear from you. You can send me

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<v Speaker 1>your tips, your questions, or anything else. Just connect with

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