1 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:13,920 Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. 3 00:00:14,520 --> 00:00:18,479 Speaker 1: Today's tip is about how to make better introductions, ones 4 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:22,200 Speaker 1: that put awesome people together and help nurture your relationships too. 5 00:00:23,400 --> 00:00:25,440 Speaker 1: The first part of this tip is to realize that 6 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 1: you should make introductions. I know some people listening to 7 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:32,640 Speaker 1: this are natural connectors, and they spend their entire lives 8 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 1: thinking about which far flung corners of their networks should 9 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:39,159 Speaker 1: be brought closer. But for many of us, this is 10 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: a far more acquired skill. It's taken me a long 11 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: time to realize that if I like an admire person 12 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:49,600 Speaker 1: A and I like an admire person B, there's a 13 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: pretty good chance that person A and person B would 14 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: get along, or at least have enough in common to 15 00:00:54,560 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: have a productive phone call. Some people don't have space 16 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:01,400 Speaker 1: in their lives for any more connections, but those people 17 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: are relatively rare. This game of introducing people is one 18 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: in which you can bat eight hundred or so pretty easily. 19 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: That is, if you take the second part of this 20 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:15,360 Speaker 1: tip to heart. For an introduction to work, you need 21 00:01:15,400 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: to ask both people if they want to be introduced Now, 22 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 1: this might seem like an unnecessary step, given if you 23 00:01:23,360 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: know both parties well enough to be making an introduction, 24 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: they are likely to say yes. But sending each of 25 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:32,280 Speaker 1: them a note or calling them ahead of time to 26 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:35,680 Speaker 1: get permission does a few things. First, it gives you 27 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:38,880 Speaker 1: a chance to explain who the other person is without 28 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 1: that person being part of the audience, so you can 29 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 1: be a bit more straightforward about why the introduction will 30 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: be useful to each person. This also means that when 31 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: you do send a note introducing both parties, each will 32 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 1: know who the other person is and why they should 33 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:57,600 Speaker 1: be connecting. When people fail to do this, it can 34 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 1: just be confusing. I've gotten in doctory notes for people 35 00:02:01,120 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: that just say you two are awesome and you should connect. 36 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: And while I have no doubt that the other person, 37 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 1: let's call her Bath, is awesome, I'm doing some frantic 38 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: Google searching to figure out who she is before responding 39 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 1: to the email, and then I guess totally wrong about 40 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: why we should be connecting right now. Beth might want 41 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: to talk because she's also into podcasting, but my Google 42 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 1: searching turns up that she wrote for a publication I 43 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:26,760 Speaker 1: used to write for, and so I think it's maybe 44 00:02:26,800 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 1: something about that both of us will waste time trying 45 00:02:30,480 --> 00:02:33,480 Speaker 1: to figure this out. There's always the chance that you'll 46 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: find out an introduction isn't a good idea right this 47 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: second too. Maybe one person is about to depart for 48 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: an offline month long retreat, or you were about to 49 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: suggest someone sending her resume to the other party's company, 50 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: and you find out that Party B just got fired 51 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:53,280 Speaker 1: and it's a bit of a sore subject. Again, these 52 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: are unlikely scenarios, but finding this out ahead of time 53 00:02:57,240 --> 00:03:00,079 Speaker 1: saves you all from wondering why Party B is and 54 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 1: responding and if you did something offensive, Party A might 55 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:06,400 Speaker 1: not be happy to be introduced and reach out and 56 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: get crickets in return. I'm sure she'll forgive you eventually, 57 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: but why take the risk. Double opt in introductions are 58 00:03:14,360 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: the way to go. But when you do these, you 59 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 1: can make all sorts of wonderful things happen. People get 60 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,520 Speaker 1: hired and get new long term clients, They make new 61 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: friends and meet new lovers. You change the world for 62 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: the better, and that is a great use of time. 63 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura, Thanks for listening, and 64 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Hey everybody, 65 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 1: I'd love to hear from you. You can send me 66 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:48,760 Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. 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