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Speaker 1: The Breast Show is on Fred's Biggest Stories of the Day.

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Speaker 2: Florida the Gators, Jason, they beat the Houston.

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Speaker 3: Horses.

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Speaker 2: Yep, that's exactly right, the Houston Horses. The Florida Gators

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Speaker 2: beat the Houston Cougars in an NCAA title game thriller,

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Speaker 2: which was stopped by some defense at the very end,

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Speaker 2: so it was very exciting. Sixty five sixty three, Florida

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Speaker 2: is the NCAA men's basketball national champion, So congratulations to them.

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Speaker 2: Have you been paying attention to this Karen Reid trial. No,

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Speaker 2: there's a whole documentary about him. I can't remember where

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Speaker 2: the documentary is Hulu or I think it's on Hulu.

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Speaker 3: Essentially, this woman is accused.

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Speaker 2: Of killing her boyfriend who was a cop in the

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Speaker 2: Massachusetts I think, I said at Boston maybe, and she

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Speaker 2: says she's being framed, and of course the prosecution is

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Speaker 2: saying that she ran this guy over while drinking in

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Speaker 2: the middle of the night, in the middle of the winter,

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Speaker 2: and there's a lot of talk about this thing. A

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Speaker 2: lot of people think that she's innocent, and if you

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Speaker 2: watch the documentary, I mean, my mom and I sat

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Speaker 2: and watched the whole thing a couple of weeks ago,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, I don't know, maybe she did,

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Speaker 2: maybe she didn't. It's not cut and dry, but there's

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Speaker 2: some definitely some shady stuff going on with this. But

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Speaker 2: it was a hung jury the first time around. And

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Speaker 2: so now is the sixth day of jury selection in

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Speaker 2: the second Massachusetts trial of Karen Reid. Ten jurors have

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Speaker 2: been seated for the retrial of Reid, accused of killing

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Speaker 2: her Boston police officer boyfriend John O'Keeffe by hitting him

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Speaker 2: with her SUV in twenty twenty two. At least sixteen

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Speaker 2: jurors who needed before the trial can begin. But things

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Speaker 2: told yesterday, with no jurors were selected, it's going to

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Speaker 2: be hard, I think for people around them to find

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Speaker 2: jurors around there who don't know anything about this case,

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Speaker 2: because it's been so widely talked about. I mean, it's

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Speaker 2: all over TikTok. Of course, the documentary. I'm sure there's

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Speaker 2: been a dateline about it or forty eight hours or

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Speaker 2: whatever else. But Reid claims that she left Okkei at

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Speaker 2: the house where he was found dead, and she is

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Speaker 2: being framed for the actual murder by the actual killers

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Speaker 2: the judge declared a mistrout last year when the jury

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Speaker 2: found that they couldn't reach a unanimous verdict. So we'll

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Speaker 2: see what happens with that. But I watch the documentary.

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Speaker 2: I think it's Hulu. See what you think, fred Olay,

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Speaker 2: this is for you, paulin him. You know, I like

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Speaker 2: to try and cater the stories to the people in

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Speaker 2: are tens of people listening at home, but no, I

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Speaker 2: do it for you. Fredo Lay recalls the Cantina tostitos

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Speaker 2: because of milk contamination. These are the corn tortilla chips.

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Speaker 2: The Tostitos Cantina traditional yellow corn tortilla chips rolls off

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Speaker 2: the tongue. They might contain nacho cheese made with real

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Speaker 2: milk and can cause issues to people that are allergic

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Speaker 2: or have sensitivities to milk. The recall only affects thirteen

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Speaker 2: ounce bags and were available for purchase as of March seventh.

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Speaker 2: The chips were sold in grocery, drug and convenience stories

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Speaker 2: in thirteen states.

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Speaker 1: So there, I need to go to my best friend's

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Speaker 1: house right now because he can't have that can have

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Speaker 1: milk you better.

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Speaker 2: See if you've got the tostitos cantina traditional yellow corn

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Speaker 2: tortilla chips.

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Speaker 3: The only one he eats.

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Speaker 4: What are you talking about?

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Speaker 3: Those are the one. He's a cantina guy.

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Speaker 5: He is.

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Speaker 3: He eats pretzels and tortilla chips all he can have.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well you better call him up. You better call

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Speaker 2: him up and see. Gen Z is this, according to

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Speaker 2: the New York Post, is being labeled as the ghosted generation.

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Speaker 2: So gen Z is defined as what I always get

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Speaker 2: these messed up. I'm technically somewhere between millennial and I'm

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Speaker 2: right on the cusp of millennial and gen.

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Speaker 3: X is it?

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Speaker 3: Ninety seven to twenty twelve? Is gen z? Am? I?

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Speaker 3: What am I again? Millennial?

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Speaker 2: You're a barely millennial? Or but what's before that? What's

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Speaker 3: Why? X? Right?

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Speaker 2: So yeah, So gen Z starts at ninety seven, millennials

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Speaker 2: are eighty one and ninety six, and then what's right

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Speaker 2: So gen Z is becoming the ghosted generation? Or is

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Speaker 2: According to a new article from Business Insider. Young adults

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Speaker 2: today are facing more knows than any generation before them,

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Speaker 2: from dating apps to college applications to the brutal job market.

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Speaker 3: Is that true though?

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Speaker 2: I mean maybe dating apps because you know you're there's

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Speaker 2: a much a much higher percentage of folks that you're

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Speaker 2: looking at and that could potentially not swipe right on you,

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Speaker 2: which I don't necessarily see as a no. That doesn't

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Speaker 2: seem like I mean, it's not if someone doesn't match

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Speaker 2: with me, it's not necessarily rejection. I don't if I

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Speaker 2: But I don't know. How is that any different than

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Speaker 3: Didn't have that. I don't know.

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Speaker 2: But and why are there more nos in the job

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Speaker 2: I mean, how many no's have I gotten in this business?

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Speaker 2: I get them every day still to this day. But

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Speaker 2: there's an author who says it's not about entitlement, it's

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Speaker 2: about gen z growing up in a world where yes,

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Speaker 2: seems more out of reach than ever. Despite having more

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Speaker 2: access to opportunities, think endless dating options at your fingertips,

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Speaker 2: get higher rates of loneliness. We're sending out hundreds of

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Speaker 2: job applications with nothing but radio silence in return.

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Speaker 3: Is that a new thing? Though?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm am asking an honest question. I'm

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Speaker 2: not picking on anybody, but are there really more nos

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Speaker 7: Feel like because the way we get jobs now is different.

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Speaker 7: So now you can mass you know, fine on inded

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Speaker 7: a thousand job opportunities and apply for all of them.

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Speaker 7: Back in the day, you had to know somebody or

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Speaker 7: have an internship. Sure, you shot your shot at like

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Speaker 7: one job and works your way to get it. Now

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Speaker 7: they could shoot their shot at a million jobs. Yeah,

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Speaker 7: but it's old.

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Speaker 2: No, Kiki, If I send a thousand mass job you

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Speaker 2: know resumes out, one's you know, generic application to a

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Speaker 2: let's say I do and and nine and ninety nine.

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Speaker 2: Tell me no, I don't see that as a rejection

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Speaker 2: because I didn't really invest myself in any of that.

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Speaker 7: Right, Because you're you're fishing, You're normal, right, So they

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Speaker 7: delusional and they think that they deserve all one thousand

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, Like that think you could

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 7: It's that type of delusion that they had that our

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Speaker 3: I mean, that might make it.

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Speaker 2: I can see why it might be harder to get

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Speaker 2: Because then then it might be harder for me to

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Speaker 2: but I mean this was you know, early two thousands

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Speaker 2: had to do it was you had to make a CD, right,

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Speaker 2: And I can remember there would be bins of these applications,

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Speaker 2: do you remember when I did that? He goes, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm like, couldn't you have at least called me and

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Speaker 2: said I don't have a job for you.

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Speaker 3: But that was really creative.

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Speaker 6: You know.

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Speaker 2: It's funny that you don't forget these things. But I

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Speaker 2: guess what I'm saying is if you're if you're if

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Speaker 2: you're swiping on one hundred people on a dating app

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Speaker 2: and nobody matches with you, I don't necessarily think that's

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Speaker 2: rejection because I don't there's no investment. Yeah, you know,

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Speaker 2: if I make it, If I go ten rounds in

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Speaker 2: an interview and don't get the job, that's rejection. They

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Speaker 2: decided they didn't want you now. That sucks, but that's

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Speaker 2: nothing new, right, That's been happening forever.

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Speaker 3: Well, I think now too, I doesn't know.

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Speaker 1: A whole podcast episode yesterday about it was really interesting,

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Speaker 1: and I think what's going on to is AI. I

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Speaker 1: think is going through those applications and automatically just describefying

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Speaker 1: a lot of people.

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Speaker 2: So I think, oh, that's the only way, right, because

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Speaker 2: how can they possibly if everybody on Earth who's looking

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Speaker 2: for a job is just mass applying for jobs correct,

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Speaker 2: how do they know which.

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Speaker 3: You recommend it?

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Speaker 1: They're like, don't mass apply, like make this personal, like actually,

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Speaker 1: like do it the correct way. But people are not

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Speaker 1: AI is just kind of like throwing them out basically

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Speaker 9: you like? I would never think like that. I mean,

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Speaker 9: I know they have people like designated when you're applying

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Speaker 9: to like combing through your social and that's got to

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Speaker 3: Good point, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Maybe it was a Tennessee job. I don't know, I

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Speaker 8: Last twenty dollars.

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Speaker 2: On the point is, I couldn't afford to do any

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Speaker 3: That's the point.

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Speaker 2: The point is, I guess I know that nobody else

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Speaker 2: did that, so at least take one second to call

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Speaker 2: that was her created. But maybe maybe that's what happened.

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Speaker 2: Maybe that's what happened. Critics say that gen Z was

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Speaker 9: Maybe I mean my sister's getting rejected right now for internship.

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Speaker 9: She's applying and I've never heard her saying. I mean,

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Speaker 2: Now I'm not saying she's not good enough, But what.

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Speaker 9: I mean is it hurts to make the line around.

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Speaker 2: Yes, like if I send an application and you don't

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Speaker 2: don't see that as a rejection. You don't know me

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Speaker 2: that I can understand that that's rejection. That's them saying

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Speaker 9: And she, I will say, like, she takes it better

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Speaker 3: You know, maybe the JEB was a Knox.

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Speaker 2: Whatever it was twenty two years ago, and I promise

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Thanks for going fine in that area. I

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Speaker 2: the idea, of course is that you wouldn't be distracted

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Speaker 2: His name is Mashiko and that's what his government issued

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Speaker 2: My goodness, I think a nice eighty five ninety would

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Speaker 3: or Go. Okay, Shennon, Good morning, Shennon.

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Speaker 6: Hi, good morning.

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Speaker 2: So what's going on with this this boyfriend of yours?

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Speaker 6: Okay, So we've been dating for teen years and I

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Speaker 6: We started at eighteen, so it's like, you know, those

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Speaker 3: After fifteen years, he's not ready? Yeah, you big tim.

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Speaker 2: The time, right, eight years, yes, seven seven, yeah, fifteen

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Speaker 6: Thirty five or older, they consider it cheery ass or

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Speaker 2: It's funny because Kaylen and I were having this conversation

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Speaker 2: But as far as getting married, then I asked this person,

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Speaker 2: you want, but there's two things. One it may be

439
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Speaker 2: under duress, which means a guy didn't want to do

440
00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:10,879
Speaker 2: it anyway. And two, even if he does do it,

441
00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:12,639
Speaker 2: and even if he did want to do it, you

442
00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:15,760
Speaker 2: had to tell him that you essentially are going to

443
00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:19,199
Speaker 2: wonder did I always make him do this? And I

444
00:19:19,200 --> 00:19:21,120
Speaker 2: don't think either one of those things are very good.

445
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Speaker 2: So my gut tells me, Shannon, you might need to

446
00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:25,760
Speaker 2: think about moving on.

447
00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:30,200
Speaker 6: Yeah, I know, well, he says he wants to get married,

448
00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:32,720
Speaker 6: you know, like, well, he doesn't wants to propose on

449
00:19:32,760 --> 00:19:33,440
Speaker 6: his own time.

450
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Speaker 3: But I'm like, is your watch broken?

451
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Speaker 2: Buddy?

452
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Speaker 7: Like, come on, fifteen years, he not ready? What's his

453
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Speaker 7: reason for not being ready?

454
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Speaker 6: I don't know. He just says he wants to do

455
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Speaker 6: it on his own time. And you know it's like,

456
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Speaker 6: oh work, oh of this. I'm like, there's always going

457
00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:49,159
Speaker 6: to be stuff, right, Like I am apprized and I

458
00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:50,399
Speaker 6: want to be the priority.

459
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Speaker 3: Oh well, thenger.

460
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Speaker 2: You gotta go, yeah, because I don't think you can

461
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Speaker 2: go to him if you want to be married after

462
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Speaker 2: fifteen years. I think the only way this works is

463
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Speaker 2: if you go to him and say, look, I want

464
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Speaker 2: to be married like now and then and then you

465
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Speaker 2: have to I mean it's almost like you have to

466
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Speaker 2: put a deadline on it, because again, fifteen years is

467
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Speaker 2: a life, it's half a lifetime.

468
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Speaker 3: I mean, it's a long time. And I don't know

469
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Speaker 3: how you.

470
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Speaker 2: Get a person because if you don't say anything and

471
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Speaker 2: and then status quo, you know, then it. I mean, Jason,

472
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:21,840
Speaker 2: you're kind of in this in this bottle.

473
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Speaker 3: I'm almost there. Yeah, when you're shy and then which

474
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Speaker 3: I mean, what like what do you do?

475
00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:29,040
Speaker 2: Right? You go to Mike the mechanic and go like,

476
00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:33,520
Speaker 2: hey man, you know, hey, I want to be married,

477
00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:36,080
Speaker 2: and he goes okay, but I don't want to be

478
00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:39,480
Speaker 2: and then the end of conversation unless there's a second

479
00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 2: part which is okay, but I mean really like I

480
00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,399
Speaker 2: need this in my life. I want this in my

481
00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:46,679
Speaker 2: life and it needs to happen soon. And then what

482
00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:50,560
Speaker 2: if the person says no. Then if you say okay,

483
00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:54,119
Speaker 2: then you've acquiesced and you've you've played your card. The

484
00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:57,360
Speaker 2: card has been played and you now have no leverage.

485
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Speaker 2: So the answer is there. It is So if that

486
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:04,080
Speaker 2: is so important to you and this person's not seeing

487
00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:06,719
Speaker 2: the same value in that value, then you that might

488
00:21:06,920 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 2: that might be a fundamental disconnection.

489
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Speaker 3: You may have to move on.

490
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Speaker 9: Would you be open to having kids outside, like without

491
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Speaker 9: being married? Like, is that something either of you are

492
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Speaker 9: open to?

493
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Speaker 6: I'm not open to that. I want to be married,

494
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Speaker 6: like I want the whole thing.

495
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Speaker 3: Okay, Oh gosh, it's so hard.

496
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Speaker 9: Like you have someone that treats you well and that

497
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Speaker 9: you love and it's like yeah, fifteen years right, Yeah,

498
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:28,720
Speaker 9: it's a.

499
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Speaker 1: Lot of time invested. And it goes back to, like

500
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Speaker 1: you said, the value. So like I on my podcast, lol,

501
00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:35,600
Speaker 1: but like I had a relationship expert come on and

502
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Speaker 1: talk about the situation because I think a lot of

503
00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:40,000
Speaker 1: times it's you know, you don't want to give some

504
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,879
Speaker 1: of the ultimatum. You don't want to force somebody to

505
00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:44,280
Speaker 1: do something that they don't want to right. Right, However,

506
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Speaker 1: I think it goes back to, quite literally, the like

507
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Speaker 1: what do you value in your relationship?

508
00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:48,840
Speaker 3: Right?

509
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Speaker 1: And that's what this expert was telling me, and she said,

510
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:52,560
Speaker 1: you know, is it marriage?

511
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Speaker 4: Like?

512
00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,480
Speaker 3: Is it you know, sex and your like marriage or relationship?

513
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:55,600
Speaker 2: Like?

514
00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:56,560
Speaker 3: What are your values?

515
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Speaker 1: And unfortunately the hard part with this is if you

516
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Speaker 1: go to him and ask him that, you have to

517
00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 1: be prepared for the answer. And then also it's kind

518
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:03,879
Speaker 1: of like, well, what are you going to do with

519
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:04,679
Speaker 1: that answer? Right?

520
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 3: Are you saying or are you going?

521
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:07,480
Speaker 1: And that's that's fine, we're here, there or go, But

522
00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 1: quite literally, you know, what are you going to do

523
00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:10,440
Speaker 1: with that information?

524
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Speaker 3: Because you can't get all the values? I'm sure I

525
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:14,280
Speaker 3: don't think so from one person?

526
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Speaker 1: Probably not right, Like if I value let's just say,

527
00:22:16,800 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 1: like the top three things, you know, does my husband

528
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:19,680
Speaker 1: value those?

529
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Speaker 2: No?

530
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Speaker 3: But I guess like what's priority? Like she wants to

531
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Speaker 3: be married, this is what she wants? Well, let me

532
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Speaker 3: ask you this.

533
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Speaker 2: Shannon just to be clear, and did you switch did

534
00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:29,800
Speaker 2: you flip the script at any point?

535
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Speaker 3: Like, I mean, I'm just curious.

536
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Speaker 2: I don't know the answer, of course, but like for

537
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Speaker 2: the first I don't know ten years, were you like, ah,

538
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:37,639
Speaker 2: this is fine, or for the first I mean, you

539
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,280
Speaker 2: have every right to do that, But I mean, like,

540
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Speaker 2: did you just recently say because like, for example, I

541
00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,119
Speaker 2: know a married couple. They're married, they decided they just

542
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Speaker 2: from the beginning, if we get married, I do not

543
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:51,000
Speaker 2: want to have kids one person and the person's like,

544
00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:51,720
Speaker 2: that's fine.

545
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:53,760
Speaker 3: And the person is like, I don't want.

546
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Speaker 2: To marry you and have this come up later like

547
00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:58,879
Speaker 2: this is fundamental, I don't want to have kids. And

548
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Speaker 2: the person was like that's fine, I no problem. Two

549
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 2: years in the marriage, I want to have a kid.

550
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 2: And then it was like, well, now what do we

551
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 2: do because we talked about this and then well, whoopsie

552
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 2: they had a kid. And that's a whole different conversation.

553
00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:13,919
Speaker 2: But oh it was a mistake. It was oh I

554
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 2: was an accident and it all worked out. But my

555
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:19,359
Speaker 2: thing is, like, I guess I was just curious if

556
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 2: you if you were like, yeah, no, you know, it's

557
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 2: just free and fun and whatever, and then all of

558
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 2: a sudden you're like, no, no, no, I mean we have

559
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Speaker 2: to get married now.

560
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 3: Is there any of that going on?

561
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Speaker 6: So, I mean we were together like at eighteen, so yeah,

562
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Speaker 6: of course it was like, oh, yeah, whatever, we're just

563
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Speaker 6: having fun. But I mean, I will say the last

564
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Speaker 6: ten years I've been pretty solid on like wanting a

565
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Speaker 6: family and wanting to have kids. So you know, I

566
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Speaker 6: feel like, you know, fair at twenty two, you know,

567
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Speaker 6: I'm like kind of thinking that way, and he was

568
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Speaker 6: seemed to be on the same page.

569
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Speaker 1: Yeah, and we're like allowed to change, right or do

570
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:50,359
Speaker 1: you guys dis agree?

571
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 3: Let's just say you can change.

572
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Speaker 2: But I guess if a decade goes by and you

573
00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:57,119
Speaker 2: can change your mind. But I think if you change

574
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Speaker 2: your mind in that way after saying no, no it's good,

575
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Speaker 2: it's good as good, and then a decade later you're like, no,

576
00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:02,960
Speaker 2: it's not, I think you have to be prepared that

577
00:24:03,080 --> 00:24:05,639
Speaker 2: person's gonna say, well, i've been very honest with you

578
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:09,880
Speaker 2: and transparent. We may be at a crossroad. That's why

579
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,520
Speaker 2: I was curious about that you do have a right

580
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:13,240
Speaker 2: to change your mind. I was just curious if you

581
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:16,520
Speaker 2: did really grow we evolve, because that would be one thing.

582
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:18,320
Speaker 2: But you know, you're saying that this guy has known

583
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 2: for a long time that this is what you want

584
00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 2: and hasn't done it.

585
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:25,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, you gotta go. Yeah, you gotta go. Pack it up,

586
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,560
Speaker 3: You gotta go. No, I don't blame you from being afraid.

587
00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 2: I don't blame you, but like, I don't think it's

588
00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:31,760
Speaker 2: going to happen, and if it does, it's going to

589
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,879
Speaker 2: because you you're going to feel like you force his

590
00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:34,399
Speaker 2: hand in it.

591
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:36,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, right, and that's not a good feeling, and that's

592
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:38,399
Speaker 3: not fair to you. No, he's in the way of

593
00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 3: your husband. You know your husband is or to him.

594
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 6: Right, Yeah, because if he didn't really want it, then

595
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:45,400
Speaker 6: like we're both fooling ourselves.

596
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 2: Let me, Shannon take some phone calls on this. But

597
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:49,480
Speaker 2: I don't mean to be harsh. I really don't, but

598
00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,320
Speaker 2: I just I, you know, my gut tells me that

599
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,879
Speaker 2: this this isn't going to happen on its own, and

600
00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 2: if it does, it will probably be you'll probably wonder

601
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,040
Speaker 2: for the rest of your life, did I make this

602
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:02,640
Speaker 2: guy do this? And I don't think that's a great

603
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 2: feeling to have, Even if it's not justified. Even if

604
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 2: he's right on the verge and then you push him

605
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:09,440
Speaker 2: and then he does it, you're still going to be

606
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 2: like I had to push you, and I don't think

607
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:13,640
Speaker 2: that's cool. But man, and let me take some calls

608
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 2: and have the radio on and we'll see what happens.

609
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:20,800
Speaker 2: But good luck, thank you. I'm eighty five five three five, Hi, Amanda,

610
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:21,359
Speaker 2: how are you?

611
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:24,680
Speaker 3: I'm good? How are you doing great? Sore goo? What

612
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 3: do you think?

613
00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 8: I say, go. I've been with my boyfriend for ten years,

614
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,360
Speaker 8: but we've started dating at fourteen, so I'm twenty four now,

615
00:25:32,640 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 8: and we've talked about getting a ring. We just have

616
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,439
Speaker 8: kind of surpassed our first year in both of our

617
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:44,159
Speaker 8: you know, start of our careers, so we were kind

618
00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 8: of just waiting on that. But we're both aligned on

619
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Speaker 8: the whole kid thing, and I think if you're not,

620
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Speaker 8: that's a deal breaker.

621
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Speaker 2: I will say, to start a relationship at fourteen, I mean, yeah,

622
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 2: people get married. I mean people get married at eighteens.

623
00:25:58,080 --> 00:25:59,840
Speaker 2: You know they get married young? Hey they do? Yeah, No,

624
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 2: But I mean I would say I'm not saying that

625
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 2: the first you know, three quarters of the relationship don't count.

626
00:26:07,280 --> 00:26:11,119
Speaker 2: They do, but it might be a little less realistic

627
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 2: to be married in the first part of that, right, So,

628
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,640
Speaker 2: now here we are, and so now I think it's

629
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Speaker 2: a valid conversation. And I'm not saying that the ten

630
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 2: years of your relationship don't count. But you're not gonna

631
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 2: get married at fourteen, fifteen, sixteen seven, probably so, But yeah,

632
00:26:24,240 --> 00:26:26,240
Speaker 2: I would think this guy would know where he stands

633
00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:28,080
Speaker 2: with you at this point, after all this time.

634
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:30,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, you can't.

635
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 8: Change someone's mind that easily on a topic that's huge.

636
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. And it's not the kind of thing

637
00:26:36,520 --> 00:26:38,240
Speaker 2: I want to wonder. It's not the kind of thing

638
00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:39,640
Speaker 2: I want to wonder for the rest of my life,

639
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 2: even if it even if it works, I still don't

640
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:42,639
Speaker 2: want to be like man, I had to make it.

641
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 4: I do that, right.

642
00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 8: I don't think that's you mentioned, Guil. I agree, Gil.

643
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:49,840
Speaker 8: Is not something you want in a relationship.

644
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, Amanda, thank you, have a good day, good luck,

645
00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 2: Thanks bred bye.

646
00:26:54,119 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 3: Thanks for calling.

647
00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:59,359
Speaker 2: Hey, Bethany, good morning, Hi, good morning, Hi Bethany stare go.

648
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 10: So I think that she's got to go. There's after

649
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 10: fifteen years. If you're not ready, you're never going to

650
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:07,920
Speaker 10: be ready. There's no way.

651
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think this guy wants to be married.

652
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:14,000
Speaker 2: I mean because again, good enough for fifteen years. I

653
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:16,159
Speaker 2: don't want to say not good enough for marriage. But

654
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,240
Speaker 2: that doesn't make sense, right, Like, if you're good enough

655
00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:20,880
Speaker 2: for fifteen years, then you're good enough for marriage unless

656
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:22,640
Speaker 2: you just don't want to be married, and then that's

657
00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:23,160
Speaker 2: okay too.

658
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Speaker 3: But I don't think he wants to be married. So

659
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Speaker 3: what's like the cutoff year wise? Like, are we concerned

660
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Speaker 3: at seven years? Half a lifetime ago? I don't know, right,

661
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 3: because he is about to be there. Yeah, I'm about

662
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Speaker 3: to cut him off. I don't know. I don't know

663
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Speaker 3: that it takes. I don't think it takes that long

664
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Speaker 3: to know if you want to be married. I don't, No,

665
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:43,960
Speaker 3: it doesn't.

666
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:45,400
Speaker 7: Take that long to know if you want to be married.

667
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Speaker 3: I think it takes We have to be realistic. There's

668
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Speaker 3: a life thing.

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Speaker 7: There's the thing that happened in people's lives that were

670
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 7: but there always will be, There always will be. However,

671
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 7: she doesn't have a reason. He can't even give her

672
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 7: a reason on why it hasn't happened. Now I know

673
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 7: several reasons on why things haven't happened, and why you know,

674
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,119
Speaker 7: if you're being if that's really what you want and

675
00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,160
Speaker 7: your partner won't give it to you, like leave, there's

676
00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:08,159
Speaker 7: no reason to stay in it.

677
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Speaker 3: But there's I mean, you can't put a time stamp.

678
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Speaker 7: I don't think there's a certain year like at the

679
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 7: five year marketings, and then you have to go like no,

680
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:17,200
Speaker 7: it's different for every relationship. And people settle too and

681
00:28:17,280 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 7: settle early and that doesn't work out great either.

682
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Speaker 3: So it's like you just got to do what works

683
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,119
Speaker 3: for you. Betty, she got to go. I think, yeah,

684
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Speaker 3: I think so for sure.

685
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Speaker 10: If she want, if she values marriage, and it doesn't

686
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 10: sound like he does, then there's the answer.

687
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

688
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Speaker 2: Thank you, Bethany, have a great day, you too, Glad

689
00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,400
Speaker 2: you called. Thank you for listening. Carrie, Hi, carry good morning,

690
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:40,320
Speaker 2: a car through this.

691
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Speaker 4: You did this, I did this?

692
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Speaker 3: Yes, Okay, so tell me about it.

693
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Speaker 4: Uh. So. Me and my husband met when I was

694
00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 4: fifteen and he was eighteen, and we instantly got together.

695
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Speaker 2: You know, we had a child.

696
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Speaker 4: Accidentally, we had a child, and we decided, okay, we

697
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 4: don't want to do the lockdown get married thing, you know,

698
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 4: because we were both so young. We wanted to live

699
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 4: our life and all of that. But then I got older,

700
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Speaker 4: and then I'm like, okay, you know, we got a kid,

701
00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:13,120
Speaker 4: we got kids, whatever, I want to get married. He

702
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 4: still didn't want to. And I kind of understood that

703
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 4: because from a man's standpoint, you know, you guys feel

704
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:24,440
Speaker 4: differently than women. Do You have different emotions, different things

705
00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 4: that you go through. The older you get, the more

706
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 4: you're just like, okay, I'm too old for this testosterone,

707
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 4: all that kind of stuff comes into play. So I

708
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 4: think she should say. I don't think that he doesn't

709
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:39,680
Speaker 4: value it. I think that there could be something there

710
00:29:39,880 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 4: that she just doesn't realize, or maybe it could be

711
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 4: childhood trauma that he's went through, or even some kind

712
00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 4: of emotion that he's going through that maybe they just

713
00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 4: need to sit down and like, you know, have a conversation,

714
00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 4: maybe compromise with each other. Okay, well you want children,

715
00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 4: let's have children. Don't have his last name. You'll still

716
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 4: be their father. It's not like you won't be in

717
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 4: their life. It's just maybe come to a compromise and

718
00:30:07,240 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 4: then later on get married. I know people that have

719
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,800
Speaker 4: been together for fifty years still haven't gotten married, and

720
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:13,800
Speaker 4: they still love each other.

721
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Speaker 3: Well, see now, and I agree with that.

722
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Speaker 2: Like, like I said earlier, I can see myself in

723
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Speaker 2: a situation where I get with somebody and we're just

724
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Speaker 2: happy and we don't do it at this point in life,

725
00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:24,640
Speaker 2: and that's fine, but that we would.

726
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Speaker 3: Both have to be aligned in that correct.

727
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,280
Speaker 2: If one person wants it the other person doesn't, that's

728
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 2: a fundamental disagreement that's going to be a problem.

729
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Speaker 3: Hey, thank you so much, Carrie, have a good day.

730
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Speaker 4: You're welcome.

731
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Speaker 2: Glad you called. Hey, hold on a second, I want

732
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Speaker 2: to get back to you. What's that Carrie's what's.

733
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Speaker 8: In her life?

734
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Speaker 3: Having kids with this man?

735
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Speaker 1: Man, I'm being real.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it was on purpose. But Adriana, Hi, Hi,

737
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Speaker 3: good morning.

738
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Speaker 6: Hi.

739
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Speaker 3: So this happen. You did this? You gave your fiance

740
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Speaker 3: and ultimatum. What's the situation?

741
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Speaker 5: So we've been together since we were nineteen, we were

742
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 5: college sweethearts. I just said, I do not want to

743
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 5: be one of those people who is been dating ten

744
00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 5: years and doesn't have a ring, Like we either are

745
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 5: going to be in this for the rest of our

746
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,000
Speaker 5: lives or we're not, so I said. By year six,

747
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Speaker 5: I gave that ultimatum because I know what I want

748
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 5: in life. I said, by year six, if I don't

749
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Speaker 5: have a ring, I'm out. I got my ring, and

750
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Speaker 5: we've been engaged for two years now. I have no

751
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:30,320
Speaker 5: plan on having a wedding anytime soon, but for me,

752
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 5: it was I wanted the ring. And yeah, we've been

753
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 5: together eight years.

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Speaker 3: Yes, okay, so.

755
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Speaker 2: Adrian, I'm not I'm not like, I'm not criticizing you whatsoever.

756
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 2: But you demanded a ring, you got it, but you

757
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:49,200
Speaker 2: don't necessarily want to get married. I mean so okay,

758
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Speaker 2: I mean I almost feel like you said, I.

759
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Speaker 8: Want to get married.

760
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Speaker 5: But we just bought a house in August. I finished

761
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:55,840
Speaker 5: my masters next year.

762
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Speaker 4: So.

763
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Speaker 5: After I finish everything, then and that's the next plan.

764
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Speaker 3: Okay, that I could be a I'm going to rock out.

765
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Speaker 2: With somebody for six years or seven years or whatever.

766
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 2: They like, I have to have a ring, Well, i'd

767
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 2: probably give you a ring, and that's all I gotta do.

768
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 2: And then I bought myself another seven years, like okay, okay,

769
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 2: here you go. I mean I might I might be

770
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 2: inclined to do that, so wait, that's all I gotta do. Yeah,

771
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Speaker 2: I just bought myself more time.

772
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Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know. It's just so romantic.

773
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 2: It's like, I feel like this either happens in a

774
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 2: reasonable period of time or it doesn't, and it's all right,

775
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 2: and it's okay if it doesn't. But if one person

776
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:36,640
Speaker 2: wants it and the other person is struggling with it,

777
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 2: you may never get there and that's okay, but then

778
00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 2: you may need to go another direction.

779
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 3: I don't know, what do I know?

780
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Speaker 2: Multiple people Adriana, thank you, have a good day. We're

781
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:49,440
Speaker 2: out of time and we got to go.

782
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:53,239
Speaker 3: But I don't know. I don't think everybody telling these

783
00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 3: people that people are listening to you.

784
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Speaker 9: There was a little girl that was like, I'm single

785
00:32:59,000 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 9: time man.

786
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 3: She was six, So that you know, inspiring the you, well,

787
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 3: that's again, that's the key. He's going out here is given.

788
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Speaker 3: Ted talks to kindergarten