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Speaker 1: Good morning, a good afternoon, Buenos Harda, Buenos Dia, Buenos

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Speaker 1: I don't know, is it Buenos tardaes.

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Speaker 2: Buenos tardes. I guess we're saying that you left Spain

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Speaker 2: a couple of weeks ago.

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Speaker 1: I know I'm gonna and guess where. I just landed

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Speaker 1: in Hawaii, so I don't even know what language I'm speaking.

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Speaker 3: Aloha.

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Speaker 2: I did the same thing last year when we went

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Speaker 2: to Hawaii. Everyone kept saying Aloha, and I kept responding.

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Speaker 1: With ola, Yeah, exactly, exactly. So Molly and I, Molly

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Speaker 1: and I flew in before my shows on Maui and

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Speaker 1: then Honolulu, and all of our cousins and their babies

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Speaker 1: are here. So we're about to go to the beach

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Speaker 1: and get down to business.

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Speaker 2: Amazing, I'm so pleased for you. Well, I just came

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Speaker 2: from your house.

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Speaker 3: Oh what was going on there?

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Speaker 4: Well, we got Tamikas who's charming into lightfall?

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Speaker 5: Oh, Gustavaria.

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Speaker 1: Gustavaria, that's what I've ready named him, Goose, And well Goose,

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Speaker 1: his name is Gus and he's one of my new

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Speaker 1: assistants and.

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Speaker 5: He speaks Spanish.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, Gus, we are only speaking Spanish, and

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Speaker 1: so I call it Gustavenia.

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Speaker 5: In my mind that means I would like Gus. So

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Speaker 5: we'll see who's Doug there at the house.

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Speaker 2: Yes, he was a totally well quaffed good boy, was he.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I asked Gus if he'd been sassy at all, and

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Speaker 2: he said, no, he's been a perfectly well behaved good boy.

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Speaker 2: He just got back from two weeks of training.

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Speaker 5: Two weeks. He had five weeks of training. He went

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Speaker 5: to training nept for five weeks. They sent me videos

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Speaker 5: of him at the store where they would go Doug sit,

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Speaker 5: He'd sit, and then they'd go lie down and he

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Speaker 5: lies down, and then then get a toy treat and

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Speaker 5: they shake it like ten feet away from him, and

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh my god, if this dog training

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Speaker 1: company worked, I can't wait to tell everyone about it.

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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, you'll have to tell me about it because

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Speaker 2: Wendell has decided that if we're in the pool, we're

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Speaker 2: in grave danger. So now he wants to bark at

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Speaker 2: us when we're in the pool, and it's all it's

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Speaker 2: just a mess.

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Speaker 1: So well, I got even better news. I found out

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Speaker 1: that that Doug is flying with me. I'm gonna go

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Speaker 1: see a concert at Red Rocks. And there's this new airline,

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Speaker 1: agg Bark Airlines that you could travel with your dog on.

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Speaker 1: And then Jetsuitet also allows you to bring your dogs.

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, oh my god, I'm going to bring

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Speaker 1: dog with me everywhere.

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Speaker 4: It's over for every other airline. Yeah, flying first class.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to a special shout out also to Australia

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Speaker 1: and New Zealand because we had such an epic time there.

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Speaker 1: We had so much fun. Sydney is one of the

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Speaker 5: That harbor we went whale watching on the.

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Speaker 1: Last day and we we went out of the harbor

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Speaker 1: all of these people were throwing up. I've never been

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Speaker 1: in sea that high. It was epic and I Molly

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Speaker 1: But we saw so many pods of whales and it

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Speaker 1: of the food in Sydney, and like the way they

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Speaker 1: the way the beaches are, this harbor that like they

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Speaker 1: do all of this like beautiful stuff, and they create

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Speaker 3: You know, Sam is boring after a while.

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Speaker 4: We need more action, some like rocky beaches.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, so I had that. I just that

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Speaker 3: Choplin with my cousin.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, onto her guest today.

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Speaker 3: Today we have one.

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Speaker 1: I mean, this is gonna be This is one of

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Speaker 1: the funniest episodes ever. He's the host of a podcast

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Speaker 1: called Dinners on Me, but you probably know him from

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Speaker 1: many other a bevy of other things. So please welcome

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Speaker 1: one of my favorite people, Jesse Tyler Ferguson. I'm sitting

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Speaker 1: here with my friend Jesse Tyler Ferguson. When was the

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Speaker 1: last time I saw you?

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Speaker 3: Do you remember?

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Speaker 7: It's been a while.

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Speaker 8: I feel like I might have seen you, like the

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Speaker 8: Hollywood Bowl or something Hollywood Bowl, neither of us.

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Speaker 7: Hilary Swing's house. Oh remember that a.

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Speaker 3: Long times ago. Right, she's had twins. Since she's had.

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Speaker 7: Like four different she's like husband and now twins.

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Speaker 3: Well we should say she's happily married now.

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Speaker 7: But she has been through She's been through a few

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Speaker 3: I was with her with like three.

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Speaker 8: Different I know, I mean I think I was. I

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Speaker 8: haven't seen her for like since like two husbands ago.

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Speaker 7: Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 8: Every time I was speak to her, She's like, you

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Speaker 8: have to meet so and so. It's like, well, what

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Speaker 8: happened to you know? Lots of his face. There's always

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Speaker 8: someone new. But I'm glad she's happy.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Can you imagine if we just made a whole podcast

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Speaker 1: about Hillary Swank's love life Jesse and I just.

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Speaker 7: I mean, we could fill it more than an hour.

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Speaker 3: She would probably be fine with it.

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Speaker 1: Knowing her anyway, Okay, Jesse Tyler Ferguson is here in studio.

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Speaker 3: I'm so happy to see you.

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen you in many years, but here we

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Speaker 1: are reunited with Doug in studio.

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Speaker 7: Love Doug. I'm obsessed.

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Speaker 3: How are you my friend?

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Speaker 7: I'm really good?

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Speaker 3: What is happening? In your life.

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Speaker 1: Besides promoted coming on to promote a new podcast, which

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Speaker 1: everybody is going to be very anger about.

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Speaker 7: Everyone has a podcast.

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Speaker 3: There's hardly any podcast, Jesse.

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Speaker 8: I don't know what, hardly any of them. I have

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Speaker 8: actually been very prolific, prolific recently. Yeah no, I was

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Speaker 8: doing theater for a while and then the strikes all happened,

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Speaker 7: But hopefully things are going to start happening soon. I

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Speaker 7: don't know. I'm happy to have the podcast to focus.

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Speaker 3: What is the podcast about.

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Speaker 8: It's called Dinners on Me, and I basically take my

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Speaker 8: guess out to a dinner and we have alcohol. Alcohol

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Speaker 8: is sometimes included, well it should be, should be I

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Speaker 8: mean whatever you guys want.

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Speaker 3: To order at dinner, for sure.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, sometimes it's like a breakfast, but.

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Speaker 3: It's oh well, yeah, well then just better.

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Speaker 1: I always believe a little alcohol during an interview setting

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Speaker 1: is helpful for people, for sure, who get nervous being interviewed.

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Speaker 8: Although I would go on watch What Happens Live and

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Speaker 8: I would have a little bit of alcohol, and there's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, right, I know what you mean. I mean because

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Speaker 1: It should be a sip or like a half a

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Speaker 3: Not more than that. Yeah yeah yeah, because then that

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Speaker 2: It's kind of falling down.

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Speaker 7: It's yeah, move it closer, move it closer my mouth.

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Speaker 7: Put it in my.

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Speaker 3: Mouth septicles that we can use, literally put his.

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Speaker 7: Dick in my mouth. I was like, oh, hi, what's

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Speaker 8: That's what He has a girlfriend, who's always setting up

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Speaker 3: Who has a girlfriend justin.

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Speaker 8: My husband has a girlfriend and we're always setting her

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Speaker 7: It is true.

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Speaker 3: I set someone up.

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Speaker 1: Recently, my friend was like having a relationship with a woman,

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Speaker 3: That is available and great in bed, and.

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Speaker 3: Who cares if you have to.

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Speaker 1: It's over and the sex with me and him is over,

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Speaker 1: so like, go for it, but there's no that attraction

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Speaker 8: Head, an ex lesbian and an ex level and an

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Speaker 7: Are great?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 7: Also and that you had good taste and you know

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Speaker 7: I don't know who this person is right here.

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Speaker 7: Every time I've seen you with someone, I was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure? Okay, I don't know where I am.

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Speaker 7: A really long time. We just see children, two children now. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: I've seen you since I had kids, not twins.

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Speaker 1: I usually cut off relationships with people when they have children,

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Speaker 8: I've been married. I'll be eleven years in July that

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Speaker 7: Gummies?

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Speaker 3: Much better for you to day cummies.

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Speaker 7: Yes, one of my favorite things that you you did.

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Speaker 7: Skinting so ridiculous.

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Speaker 4: This week.

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Speaker 2: We'd love for you to write in about your secrets.

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Speaker 2: If you'd like advice about a secret that you're keeping

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Speaker 1: And we're back with Jesse Tyler Ferguson, who is an

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Speaker 7: Have I ever?

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Speaker 2: I told him about those feelings, and yet a month

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Speaker 2: later he's diving in. I don't think this guy is

449
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Speaker 2: worth ruining a friendship over, but I think the pattern

450
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Speaker 2: of my friend is troubling. I called him out, put

451
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Speaker 2: some distance between us, and I don't know how to

452
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Speaker 2: move forward. What's going on here? Please help me work

453
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Speaker 2: through how to move on and keep this friendship going,

454
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Speaker 2: hopefully with better boundaries.

455
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Speaker 3: M Well, Jesse, it sounds like you're up.

456
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Speaker 7: Well, let me just tell you.

457
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Speaker 8: I've been this guy in this situation I had when

458
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Speaker 8: I first moved to La. I'd go out with my

459
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Speaker 8: he's a famous actor.

460
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Speaker 1: I'll tell you that you have such a very euphonious voice.

461
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Speaker 1: It's gonna be great on a podcast. Seriously, it's just

462
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Speaker 1: very nice here and to listen.

463
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Speaker 8: Yeah, but we every time he went out, he would

464
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Speaker 8: hook up with the person I showed interest in it

465
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Speaker 8: every time. Yeah, someone someone I'm sure you know. And

466
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Speaker 8: we remain friends. And I just had to sort of

467
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Speaker 8: decide whether or not, like his friendship was meaningful enough

468
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Speaker 8: for me to you know, over overlook that. I mean,

469
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Speaker 8: every time I went out he was at my side.

470
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Speaker 8: Like there was moments that I went out with other

471
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Speaker 8: people and then I didn't have to worry about him.

472
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Speaker 7: But like I did make fun of him.

473
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Speaker 8: It's like, I can't believe everyone I showed interest in you,

474
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Speaker 8: like immediately go after.

475
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that just sounds like sabotage, right, latant sabotage jealousy,

476
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Speaker 1: so like like try to sabotage, you get in your way.

477
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Speaker 8: Gay communities trying to sabotage. They're all trying to sleep

478
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Speaker 8: with each other. That's a thing. I mean, men are dogs.

479
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Speaker 8: And then you put a whole bunch of men who

480
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Speaker 8: earned another man in the same room expecting.

481
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Speaker 1: To happen exactly right. It almost gives you permission.

482
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Speaker 8: To do whatever you want want all gay bachelor because

483
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Speaker 8: everyone would just be fucking each other in the Bachelor

484
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Speaker 8: house like it hasn't happened because it wouldn't have because

485
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Speaker 8: if the rules are they don't apply.

486
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Speaker 3: Yeah.

487
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Speaker 7: So I don't know.

488
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Speaker 8: I kind of feel like it is sort of just

489
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Speaker 8: the way of it sucks with your friends doing that

490
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Speaker 8: to you. But I don't know, I don't know, I

491
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Speaker 8: really I think you just kind of have to lean

492
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Speaker 8: into it or yeah.

493
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Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely you could lean into it, or like do

494
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Speaker 1: you need to be friends with this person? Is like

495
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Speaker 1: did I miss Is he just in the general group

496
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Speaker 1: of everybody?

497
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Speaker 4: No, they're like they're like besties. It's like.

498
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Speaker 7: Yeah, support system.

499
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Speaker 1: Okay, so well then you're gonna have to really work

500
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Speaker 1: just to get past it and accept the behavior.

501
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Speaker 3: And I mean not what am I saying?

502
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Speaker 7: Just take it.

503
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Speaker 1: No, you're gonna have to talk, Like don't you think

504
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Speaker 1: they have to have a conversation, like because you have

505
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Speaker 1: to be called.

506
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Speaker 3: Out for that, don't you.

507
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Speaker 8: But I think he said he did have a conversation

508
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Speaker 8: about like how that guy like really hurt him and

509
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Speaker 8: the guy went after him any ways.

510
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Speaker 2: Right, yeah, And I do I do like the making

511
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Speaker 2: fun of him for it that you mentioned earlier, like.

512
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Speaker 1: Like he's gotta be yeah, like you can't ignore it.

513
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Speaker 1: It is very obnoxious behavior from your friend, Like yeah.

514
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Speaker 8: I mean, like next time he's showing interest in someone,

515
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Speaker 8: like but I better step aside becase you're probably going

516
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Speaker 8: to roll right on over there, aren't you. I mean,

517
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Speaker 8: I don't know, Listen, I'm always up for like being

518
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Speaker 8: super upfront with someone letting them know when you're you know,

519
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Speaker 8: annoyed with their behavior. But it's at the end of

520
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Speaker 8: the day, you got to realize there are a whole

521
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Speaker 8: bunch of gay men in a room and they're all

522
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Speaker 8: just going to try and sleep with poor Maybe you're

523
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Speaker 8: not being active enough, maybe our writer, maybe AM's not

524
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Speaker 8: being active enough and like being aggressive enough. Maybe it's

525
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Speaker 8: just an opportunity to up up the game.

526
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Speaker 3: I don't know.

527
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Speaker 1: I don't like to, Like I wouldn't be friends with

528
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Speaker 1: somebody that was doing that all the time, you know

529
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Speaker 1: what I mean, Like there's too many there's too many

530
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Speaker 1: other people to hang out with.

531
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Speaker 7: That that's true. Well, maybe fine.

532
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Speaker 1: I just want to be friends with somebody who is

533
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Speaker 1: like openly trying to sabotage me after I called them

534
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Speaker 1: out about it and continue to do it. It's like,

535
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Speaker 1: is that friendship actually worth it for you? If it is,

536
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Speaker 1: then yeah, get over it. So there we go, a

537
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Speaker 1: problem solved and and I'm done for the day. Okay,

538
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Speaker 1: bocking out, blocking out, You're welcome.

539
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Speaker 7: Well.

540
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Speaker 2: Our next question comes from Cameron. Cameron says, Dear Chelsea,

541
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Speaker 2: I'm a fifty year old gay man. I had lots

542
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Speaker 2: of sex in the past, living in Mexico, Spain, Argentina,

543
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Speaker 2: and Brazil.

544
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Speaker 4: I think I'm stuck like the type.

545
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Speaker 2: I think I'm stuck thinking that I'm only quote interesting

546
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Speaker 2: while being a foreigner loving abroad and domestic relationships seem

547
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Speaker 2: out of reach. Since I feel like I am a

548
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Speaker 2: dim ad dozen average homo. What is your secret to

549
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Speaker 2: cultivating exciting relationships while globe trotting, and is my love

550
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Speaker 2: of adventure abroad a sign that I'm unable to have

551
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Speaker 2: a long term relationship or is it just fun loving you?

552
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Speaker 4: Cameron?

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Speaker 1: There is something about being a vagabond and Catherine, we

554
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Speaker 1: had someone call on the other day where this was

555
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Speaker 1: kind of analogous where there is something about being very

556
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Speaker 1: peripatetic around the world and apothetic and also, yeah, yeah,

557
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Speaker 1: try try and keep it like somebody who's constantly on

558
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Speaker 1: the move.

559
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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, now spell it. Spell it p A R I.

560
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Speaker 7: T E P E T I c very pathetic.

561
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Speaker 1: So there is something about when you're a vagabond or

562
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Speaker 1: a globe trotter or however you want to, like, when

563
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Speaker 1: you bounce around a lot. No, mad, you're not very yeah,

564
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Speaker 1: you're not very anchored anywhere. So it kind of is

565
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Speaker 1: prohibitive to actually finding a long term love. But what

566
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Speaker 1: I'm hearing from him is that he just wants adventure

567
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Speaker 1: love and all these different ports in the storm.

568
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Speaker 3: Correct, Like, that's also what I'm about. I like that.

569
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Speaker 4: Yeah, And Cameron, do we have you with us here?

570
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Speaker 3: Oh he's on the phone.

571
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Speaker 4: Yeah, Oh yeah, he's on the phone.

572
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:34,040
Speaker 1: Great, let's get down to business. I mean, we have

573
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Speaker 1: Jesse Tyler Ferguson here.

574
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Speaker 3: Who better? Who better to guide us through this storm?

575
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Speaker 8: We have the same taste in men all those countries

576
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Speaker 8: are like yep, I get it feels like everyd.

577
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Speaker 3: But it feels like every gay guy loves those times.

578
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Speaker 7: Oh yeah, that's true. That's true, that's true. We do.

579
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Speaker 8: There's also something so mysterious about being, you know, the

580
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Speaker 8: stranger in a new land. But it's what I was

581
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Speaker 8: also getting from him is that he was frustrated, that

582
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 8: sense of he's more enticing in other countries, like he's

583
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Speaker 8: not as exciting here.

584
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Speaker 3: Well, I can relate to this because I travel so much.

585
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Speaker 3: I love to be on the move.

586
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Speaker 1: Like I get very bored if I'm in like La

587
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Speaker 1: for too long, And I have no reason to be

588
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Speaker 1: other than Doug who you know.

589
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Speaker 4: Oh there he is, Hi, Good to see you.

590
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Speaker 7: Hi.

591
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Speaker 1: We have Jesse Tyler Ferguson here today as our special guest.

592
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Speaker 7: Hello, Chelsea, Hey, how's it going good?

593
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Speaker 6: Dish?

594
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Speaker 1: Okay, So elaborate a little bit on your letter, like

595
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Speaker 1: are you looking for a long term relationship or are

596
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Speaker 1: you looking for just more lovers in different places?

597
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Speaker 6: Well, I would take either one of those. But you know,

598
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Speaker 6: I love a relationship that is distant but.

599
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Speaker 3: Close, And how do you mean.

600
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Speaker 7: I would like.

601
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Speaker 6: To feel like I have access to a relationship, but

602
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Speaker 6: I don't want in my place all the time.

603
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Speaker 1: Right, I'm with you, I relate to you completely. I

604
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:07,280
Speaker 1: feel the same way. I like to have little fun actions.

605
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Speaker 1: But repeated customers like it's nice to have you know

606
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Speaker 1: the same guy like somebody in Spain that I see

607
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Speaker 1: when I go there, and somebody I see when I

608
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Speaker 1: go there and there.

609
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Speaker 3: So I understand what you're saying.

610
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Speaker 1: But I would say that attitude in it of itself,

611
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Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be prohibitive, but it can be.

612
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Speaker 1: Like for me, I had to really change the way

613
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Speaker 1: that I looked at it. I had to really kind

614
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Speaker 1: of energetically be more open minded about being open about

615
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Speaker 1: what I was looking for with other people. But like

616
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Speaker 1: saying very honestly and upfront in the beginning, like making

617
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Speaker 1: it very clear, this is fun, this is not going

618
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Speaker 1: to be long term.

619
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Speaker 3: If it is, that wouldn't be the plan.

620
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Speaker 1: Everything is going to be happening naturally and there's no

621
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Speaker 1: pressure on anything, and I will also be dating other people.

622
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Speaker 1: I feel like when you are very honest with yourself

623
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Speaker 1: about being that way, it attracts more people that are

624
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Speaker 1: interested in what you're doing and are like minded. Yeah.

625
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Speaker 6: I just think that your situation is ideal for me

626
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:07,000
Speaker 6: because I would love to have that kind of opportunity

627
00:25:07,080 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 6: to jump around a little bit.

628
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Speaker 1: And didn't you say that that's what you were doing,

629
00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,760
Speaker 1: is going to Argentina and to Brazil and all these

630
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Speaker 1: different places.

631
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Speaker 6: Yeah. I lived in all of those places and really

632
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Speaker 6: had a lot of success because I kind of had

633
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Speaker 6: a built in narrative about how I'm interesting because I'm

634
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Speaker 6: living in these different countries, or I am a foreigner

635
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Speaker 6: who has a little bit of extra sparkle because of that.

636
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Speaker 8: Are you thinking that you don't you don't have that

637
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:45,760
Speaker 8: shine and sparkle here? Yeah, okay here in America.

638
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Speaker 6: Yeah, it just doesn't feel like I have the same

639
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Speaker 6: amount of a llure.

640
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Speaker 8: I think that's just you being down on yourself because

641
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Speaker 8: I think you're very allowing.

642
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 7: What is it? I hear an accent? Where are you from?

643
00:25:56,200 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 6: Oh? Minnesota? Oh?

644
00:25:58,600 --> 00:25:59,680
Speaker 7: Really? Okay?

645
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:02,160
Speaker 8: All of a sudden, like Dutch or something, Just say

646
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,359
Speaker 8: you're Dutch. Just go in like be like I'm I'm

647
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:07,400
Speaker 8: here from Switzerland.

648
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Speaker 6: Strategy.

649
00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:13,439
Speaker 1: First of all, like inhibit that this this aura that

650
00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 1: you want, like when you're feeling like you're down on yourself,

651
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 1: that kind of shows up in your physicality and I

652
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 1: can kind of see it as you're talking about it.

653
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,320
Speaker 3: I mean, if you believe that, then that is kind.

654
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Speaker 1: Of your truth. If you choose to believe you are

655
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: from you have had all these experiences. I'm sorry, I

656
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:31,440
Speaker 1: thought you met you were currently going to all these places,

657
00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 1: so I misread that but or misheard it. But I

658
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,439
Speaker 1: think you need to just like build yourself back up

659
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Speaker 1: and whether that's like every day being like all right,

660
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,240
Speaker 1: here's a new day. Here's a new day for me

661
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 1: to have like positive energy about myself. All of those

662
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:46,439
Speaker 1: things that you're talking about are part of your history

663
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 1: that makes you a unique person and a unique human

664
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Speaker 1: being who has something to offer people that nobody else

665
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Speaker 1: has to offer them, don't you think?

666
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Speaker 7: Yeah? Also, where are you living right now in Seattle? Okay?

667
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Speaker 7: Do you tend to go to the same places over

668
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 7: and over and over, like your same haunts? If you

669
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Speaker 7: go out?

670
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Speaker 6: No, I'm not going out a lot.

671
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:08,440
Speaker 1: Oh well, that's part of the problem too. You got

672
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 1: to get out there. You got to go to things,

673
00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:14,160
Speaker 1: go to events, go to concerts. Do you like music, Yeah, yeah,

674
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,720
Speaker 1: go to concerts. Go to like low key concerts, you

675
00:27:16,760 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 1: know where you're going to be mingling with people and

676
00:27:19,040 --> 00:27:22,439
Speaker 1: standing around talking to people, and go to bars and

677
00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 1: get yourself out in the world a little bit more.

678
00:27:25,920 --> 00:27:28,120
Speaker 1: Nothing's going to come and knock on your door if

679
00:27:28,160 --> 00:27:29,639
Speaker 1: you're not out there, you know.

680
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,439
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean, I guess it's a way of like

681
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 8: treating your own hometown like you would treat a city

682
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 8: you were visiting, like you in Argentina or something, and

683
00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 8: looking for those fun places where you would meet people.

684
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 6: Yeah, that is I think hard to do because it

685
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:47,480
Speaker 6: seems like, oh, I know what I'm gonna see when

686
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 6: I go out, or I know who I'm going to meet.

687
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:53,520
Speaker 3: But you don't. You don't.

688
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 1: You're like stabbing yourself in the foot before you get

689
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: out the door. You don't know who you're going to

690
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 1: see or who you're going to meet. And you should

691
00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:02,159
Speaker 1: turn that whatever phrase, your phrase of yours, do the

692
00:28:02,200 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 1: opposite and start thinking the opposite. Just say I don't

693
00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 1: know who I'm going to meet, I don't know what

694
00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 1: I'm going to see, so you have to just do

695
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 1: a complete dipsy doodle and flip around, flip it and

696
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 1: reverse it, flip it.

697
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:14,600
Speaker 7: And reverse it.

698
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,159
Speaker 8: But yeah, like go like find the local museums, like

699
00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 8: all the things you would do when you were traveling.

700
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 8: I mean, Seattle is an incredible city. There's so much

701
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 8: to do there.

702
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, you just have to get outside of your comfort zone.

703
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 1: Go to some like events or like they have public

704
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 1: readings of things. You can go to book events where

705
00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:34,400
Speaker 1: they have authors. You know, those kind of intimate settings

706
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 1: where you're going to have something in common with the

707
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: other people that are there and you're going to have

708
00:28:38,200 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 1: a natural spark of conversation.

709
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 3: But get off of your ass and get out of

710
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 3: your house.

711
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 2: As the bottom line, you're a well traveled, distinguished, good

712
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 2: looking guy like who wouldn't want to come talk to you?

713
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 2: But I think you know, Chelsea, you're hitting the nail

714
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:53,040
Speaker 2: on the head too. It's not like you don't have

715
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 2: to go be in the club. Go somewhere where you

716
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:56,720
Speaker 2: can strike up a conversation with someone.

717
00:28:57,320 --> 00:28:58,960
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's really good advice.

718
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:02,200
Speaker 1: I was like, what's the curb? I was like, what,

719
00:29:03,240 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 1: don't go there, sir, Do not knock, go there.

720
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 7: The curb's no good.

721
00:29:06,560 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's a weird age, you know, fifty, because it's.

722
00:29:10,240 --> 00:29:12,680
Speaker 3: Not though I'm forty nine, it's not forty eight.

723
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:14,640
Speaker 7: I'll be forty nine a few months. It's not that

724
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 7: we're fine.

725
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:19,040
Speaker 1: He always says, whatever age I am, he does that. Yeah,

726
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: it's bullshit, by the way, that Yeah, it's not a

727
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:24,120
Speaker 1: weird age.

728
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:25,520
Speaker 3: It's a weird age. That's exactly.

729
00:29:25,560 --> 00:29:29,400
Speaker 1: There's another sentence. Fifty is a great age. Opposites everything

730
00:29:29,440 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 1: you're saying. Do the opposite of fifty is awesome. This

731
00:29:34,240 --> 00:29:37,200
Speaker 1: is a new adventure, it's a new chapter. Get excited

732
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,400
Speaker 1: about your life, because no one is going to get

733
00:29:39,400 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 1: excited about your life until you do.

734
00:29:41,440 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think also find some like cute polyamorous

735
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,680
Speaker 2: person who like doesn't want to be in your space

736
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:48,560
Speaker 2: all of the time, but can give you those wonderful

737
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 2: cuddles that you deserve and the intimacy.

738
00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 1: Also, you know, you can go on these dating websites

739
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 1: or apps, all of them and be very clear about

740
00:29:56,600 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 1: what you're looking for, like a casual lover or whatever.

741
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: You know, the term anology that you're supposed to use.

742
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 1: I don't think that's it.

743
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 7: No casual lover's not.

744
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 8: It can definitely attest to that is a forty eight

745
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:08,720
Speaker 8: and eleven month old.

746
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 3: But you could go and be very clear about what

747
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 3: your intentions are.

748
00:30:14,640 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 1: You know, I know a lot of women probably want more,

749
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 1: or you think that they want more, but you'll be

750
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:20,239
Speaker 1: surprised to find out that there are a lot more

751
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:21,800
Speaker 1: people on your wavelength than you think.

752
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:23,240
Speaker 4: Oh no, cameraon dates fellas.

753
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, everything so far about this call I've gotten wrong,

754
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:28,440
Speaker 1: So there's no reason to stop now.

755
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 3: I mean, I can't even keep track of what's going on.

756
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm in a midlife I mean, I'm in a breakdown,

757
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:39,840
Speaker 1: you know what I'm actually, I'm in my mental breakdown.

758
00:30:39,800 --> 00:30:41,520
Speaker 7: You know what they say, fifty is a weird year.

759
00:30:44,440 --> 00:30:47,480
Speaker 6: To decide crisis you want to have. But yeah, it's

760
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 6: good advice to just get over myself and get out.

761
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, definitely get out.

762
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 1: And gay men are definitely not going to care that

763
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 1: you want to have casual relationships at all.

764
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 6: Okay, I just appreciate the advice, and I.

765
00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: Think I don't. I don't think you should thank me,

766
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 1: thank Jesse, but I don't. Obviously I've got another podcast

767
00:31:06,360 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: right now.

768
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 3: He's like, I called into dear Chelsea.

769
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 7: It's so weird. Everything was wrong.

770
00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 1: It's like going to a psychic or medium and they're like,

771
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 1: I see you have a son. They're like, I don't

772
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 1: like I see him though. All right, Well, anyway, good

773
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 1: luck and keep us posted when you find your part

774
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,720
Speaker 1: time lover or all of your part time lovers. But

775
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 1: also listen when I'm before you go, I do want

776
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 1: to be serious about saying that you have to talk

777
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,600
Speaker 1: to yourself in a positive way. It actually makes a difference.

778
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:43,480
Speaker 1: You may think I don't know what I'm talking about,

779
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 1: but I do.

780
00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 3: I do know. I do it all the time.

781
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,360
Speaker 1: If you get into a negative headspace, it's your job

782
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: to get yourself out of it, and you have to

783
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:53,520
Speaker 1: do that by being positive, putting yourself out in nature,

784
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 1: going out and doing things that you normally wouldn't do.

785
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:58,479
Speaker 1: It really builds your self esteem and it builds your

786
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 1: self worth. So stop poop pooing on everything and saying

787
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 1: this isn't going to be fun, and say this is

788
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,360
Speaker 1: gonna be fun. I'm going to go out and have

789
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 1: a good time, and I promise you're going to start

790
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:09,600
Speaker 1: having a better time in life.

791
00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:11,280
Speaker 6: Hey, I will stop poop pooing.

792
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, peace out, Thanks Cameron, bye bye.

793
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,080
Speaker 3: Wow that was a real doozy, mostly for.

794
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:23,320
Speaker 7: Me, but mostly for me.

795
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it looked like he was in the

796
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 1: Hampton's Like it reminded me of like Shelter Island. Have

797
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,240
Speaker 1: you ever been to Shelter Island? I was like, Oh,

798
00:32:30,280 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 1: that looks so nice, cold, wet, rainy. I love that

799
00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 1: everyone in La hates the rain. I love the rain.

800
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: I love that East Coast like damp where.

801
00:32:38,080 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 7: You don't really moody weather.

802
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, where you don't want to go out having to

803
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:41,960
Speaker 3: go out.

804
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, like watching tea, just getting a bed, watching TV

805
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:45,880
Speaker 1: at like two in the afternoon. I love that.

806
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:46,600
Speaker 7: Seattle.

807
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, if you go to Seattle, you go to

808
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:53,040
Speaker 1: bed at too, because it's dark. Out of three, what's next, Catherine.

809
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 2: Well, our next color is Genevieve and Jesse. I think

810
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 2: this is like a perfect call for you. So I'm

811
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:02,400
Speaker 2: really excited that this worked out timing wise. From what

812
00:33:02,440 --> 00:33:04,400
Speaker 2: I have read, this is part of your truths, So

813
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:08,840
Speaker 2: Genevieve says, Dear Chelsea, I grew up laughing at your

814
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 2: comedy on Chelsea Lately, and you definitely shaped my sense

815
00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:14,280
Speaker 2: of humor into what it is today. I was excited

816
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 2: to learn you not only had a podcast, but we're

817
00:33:16,240 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 2: offering your solicited advice.

818
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:19,280
Speaker 3: You're welcome.

819
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 2: I'm a regular at my local gym, and I self

820
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 2: identify as a total battie. I love feeling strong and

821
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 2: sexy during my workouts, but nothing ruins my workout harder

822
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 2: than unwanted thirsty gym boys hitting on me during my session.

823
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 2: When I'm at the gym, I tend to avoid eye contact,

824
00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 2: stay focused on my workout, and never ever smile at anyone.

825
00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 2: I'm here for myself and not to socialize. However, right,

826
00:33:41,800 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 2: calmed down, Fuck, we get it. She should wear one

827
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 2: of those signs no molested, no moll'star. However, lately, this

828
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 2: new boy has started working out at the same time

829
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 2: as me, and I have to admit I cannot not

830
00:33:58,360 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 2: notice him. He is sexy and delicious, one hundred percent

831
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 2: my type, and I want to know who he is.

832
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 2: I feel stumped. How do I approach this sexy man

833
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 2: at a place where I so strongly hate being hit

834
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,960
Speaker 2: on myself. I can tell that he too, is focused

835
00:34:11,000 --> 00:34:13,000
Speaker 2: on his own workout, and I understand how annoying it

836
00:34:13,000 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 2: can be when someone interrupts Genevieve.

837
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:20,440
Speaker 3: Wow, this is just very pressing matter. Hi Genevieve, Hi Genevieve.

838
00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:21,880
Speaker 4: Hi guys.

839
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:23,880
Speaker 1: Okay, so you're trying to just figure out how to

840
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:24,759
Speaker 1: basically go up.

841
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 3: And hit on this guy or introduce yourself not hit

842
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:27,319
Speaker 3: on him.

843
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, in a space where like I don't want people

844
00:34:30,560 --> 00:34:33,719
Speaker 2: to approach me in that area, and I can tell

845
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:35,400
Speaker 2: he's focused on his workout.

846
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,560
Speaker 4: We're doing different things, like how do I go up?

847
00:34:38,600 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 3: And like just even can't you find him on Instagram?

848
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,160
Speaker 1: Like it would be better to DM him? I think

849
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:46,600
Speaker 1: in that scenario, how to find out his name?

850
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 3: You mean yelling?

851
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,239
Speaker 4: How do you find someone on Instagram?

852
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:52,279
Speaker 3: Well, first you have to find out what their name is.

853
00:34:53,640 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, go to the girls at the front and be like, listen,

854
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 4: I think that guy's cute. Tell me his name. Oh

855
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 4: that's good, get them on your team.

856
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:01,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a good idea.

857
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 3: But then she's talking to people she doesn't want to

858
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 3: talk to. That's a very.

859
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 7: Difficult The reason quite a predicament.

860
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 8: She's like, look, I want I want to I want

861
00:35:11,080 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 8: this to go down, but I want to go down

862
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 8: my terms.

863
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: I want this to go down, but I'm not willing

864
00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 1: to break the rules, so I put in place to

865
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:18,319
Speaker 1: make this go down.

866
00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 3: So it's very Yes, it is quite a predicament.

867
00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 8: I mean I would just put myself in the line

868
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:25,440
Speaker 8: of fire with him, be like whatever he's doing, be like,

869
00:35:25,520 --> 00:35:28,200
Speaker 8: oh are you using this thing? So it doesn't look

870
00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:30,840
Speaker 8: like you're like like, hi, my name shouldn't be with charity, like,

871
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:34,000
Speaker 8: but you're like, just it's a casual thing, so that

872
00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:36,880
Speaker 8: you could start a conversation, like even if he's like,

873
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 8: oh no, I'm done with that twenty pound or like whatever,

874
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 8: Like at least you've started some sort of a conversation.

875
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 8: You know, I met my husband at at the gym

876
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:45,239
Speaker 8: in the locker room, So.

877
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:47,839
Speaker 3: You're way to bury the lead.

878
00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 7: I know, I know. That's why I feel like this

879
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:51,719
Speaker 7: is why I was being teed up.

880
00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,920
Speaker 4: I discovered this on the internet. I was hoping it

881
00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 4: was true.

882
00:35:54,680 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 8: Yeah, so I'm not I'm not. I'm not suggesting you

883
00:35:57,200 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 8: follow him into the locker room, although that would strike

884
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 8: up conversation. I mean he'd definitely be like, what what's

885
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 8: going on. That's all to say, you never know where

886
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:08,920
Speaker 8: you're going to meet your your your person, and I

887
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,640
Speaker 8: didn't think i'd meet mine in the locker room of

888
00:36:11,640 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 8: the Equinox them West Hollywood.

889
00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 7: Calm down. I mean he also fully clothed. We were

890
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 7: fully closed.

891
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 8: But that's where it happened, and so I would just

892
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:25,640
Speaker 8: and you know what, Justin did not want to approach

893
00:36:25,680 --> 00:36:29,040
Speaker 8: me because he recognized me from television and he lived

894
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 8: in he'd grown up in LA and he's like, I

895
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:33,400
Speaker 8: don't want to bother him. He probably gets bothered all

896
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:35,279
Speaker 8: the time. And he's like, you know what, fuck it,

897
00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:37,400
Speaker 8: I'm going to say something. He had just started working

898
00:36:37,440 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 8: on marriage equality that we're trying to pass it here

899
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,319
Speaker 8: in California with Proposition eight was happening, and so he's like,

900
00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,440
Speaker 8: I'm just going to talk to this guy and say,

901
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 8: I think that this show that you're on it's going

902
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 8: to really help that fight for marriage equality. So it

903
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:51,880
Speaker 8: came from actually very like a very connected place. So

904
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:54,000
Speaker 8: I think it's you know, as long as you're not

905
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 8: coming in a creepy way, I don't think there's anything

906
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 8: wrong with putting yourself in the line of fire and

907
00:36:58,600 --> 00:37:01,800
Speaker 8: be like are you done with this set? Or I've

908
00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 8: seen you a lot here. You look like you're really

909
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 8: focused and you're looking good at whatever. I mean, I

910
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:09,560
Speaker 8: don't know. I'm also terrible with like one.

911
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 3: But no, I don't think it needs to be one liner.

912
00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:12,320
Speaker 3: I think that's true.

913
00:37:12,360 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 1: Like the spirit of it just has to be like

914
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 1: natural and organic, you know, I mean intentional, like you

915
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 1: want to go over there and you know, rush past

916
00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:22,000
Speaker 1: him or whatever or have an in interaction with him.

917
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,240
Speaker 1: So if you keep in mind that that's what you're doing,

918
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,319
Speaker 1: like in a fun way, like it doesn't have to

919
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:30,879
Speaker 1: be awkward. You could just go, oh wow, like you're

920
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:32,960
Speaker 1: super focused. You like, how focused to you?

921
00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 8: I'm breaking my own rule right now and saying hello

922
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:36,359
Speaker 8: to someone at the gym. I hate when people say

923
00:37:36,360 --> 00:37:36,759
Speaker 8: hello to me.

924
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,480
Speaker 3: But that's cute. That's a good one.

925
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:41,960
Speaker 7: Yeah, look at you, Yeah you Yeah?

926
00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:44,360
Speaker 4: Would you ask him to teach you something?

927
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:46,800
Speaker 3: Would you ever walk over and ask to be finger blasted?

928
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 4: Also a conversation starter.

929
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 7: That is definitely render.

930
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 3: It depends who you're talking to fingerplasted?

931
00:37:56,000 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 4: Oh no, And then he's like, I have a girlfriend.

932
00:38:01,800 --> 00:38:04,160
Speaker 7: Well then you know, and that's okay too.

933
00:38:04,360 --> 00:38:05,920
Speaker 4: There will be more cute guys at the gym.

934
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 8: Who cares I met justin whody had a boyfriend. I

935
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 8: asked him out and he's like, I'm actually seeing someone,

936
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 8: but we can go out his friends.

937
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 7: It's like, oh no, I have enough friends yea.

938
00:38:13,320 --> 00:38:15,080
Speaker 8: And it was fine, and then he came back around

939
00:38:15,120 --> 00:38:17,040
Speaker 8: he broke up with his boyfriend, and I was like, okay,

940
00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:20,080
Speaker 8: now let's go. But yeah, so he has a girlfriend. Like,

941
00:38:20,640 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 8: you're not like asking him out, you're just saying hi.

942
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 3: Yeah exactly.

943
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:26,319
Speaker 1: And also who cares if so if he has a

944
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:28,439
Speaker 1: girlfriend and that's the end of it, then great, more

945
00:38:28,440 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 1: information for you to move on. Or you could just

946
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,239
Speaker 1: keep your mind open. Yeah, because people break up all

947
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,640
Speaker 1: the time. It's not a big deal, so don't make

948
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 1: it one.

949
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:36,840
Speaker 7: Yeah.

950
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:38,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're not creepy, so he will not be

951
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 4: creeped out.

952
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:39,919
Speaker 3: Yeah.

953
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:42,880
Speaker 1: Just remember when you're doing it, like this is gonna

954
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,600
Speaker 1: be fun and light, like, have a good time doing it.

955
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:47,320
Speaker 1: You know. When I was younger, people always used to

956
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:49,640
Speaker 1: be like when I started, like performing live, people would

957
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:51,600
Speaker 1: always be like, just have a good time, and you're like.

958
00:38:51,600 --> 00:38:52,759
Speaker 3: I fucking have a good time.

959
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:54,920
Speaker 7: Yeah, nervous, and I have to go.

960
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:56,319
Speaker 1: Out there and I have to perform, And it's like

961
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:59,319
Speaker 1: once you realize that it is really about having a

962
00:38:59,320 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 1: good time, and that your good time is going to

963
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: infect every other person you're coming into contact with. Then

964
00:39:05,600 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 1: you're fine and then you can have a good time.

965
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 1: So just think of it that way, like you're about

966
00:39:09,600 --> 00:39:11,600
Speaker 1: to go spread good vibes and good joy.

967
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 7: And who doesn't like that? Who just like be encountered

968
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:15,359
Speaker 7: with good vibes and good joy?

969
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:17,839
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean even if he's like, oh, she might

970
00:39:17,880 --> 00:39:19,880
Speaker 8: have been heading on me, but I would be flattered

971
00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 8: if someone came up to me at the gym and

972
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 8: just like struck up conversations like, oh maybe they think

973
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:24,839
Speaker 8: I'm cute, Like it makes me feel good.

974
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:26,719
Speaker 3: Okay, you're passing me up.

975
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:27,359
Speaker 6: That's good to hear.

976
00:39:27,600 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, good.

977
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 6: Yeah.

978
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:29,920
Speaker 2: And I don't think you have to like ask him

979
00:39:29,960 --> 00:39:31,600
Speaker 2: to marry you, like the first time we talked to him.

980
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:33,320
Speaker 3: Like I like a build of sexual tension.

981
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 1: Per my friend Wendy, it's nice to build a flirtation

982
00:39:36,239 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: because really a flirtation the beginning of the relationship is

983
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:40,279
Speaker 1: the most fun part.

984
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 3: And you could as long.

985
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 1: As like, if you can stretch that out and have

986
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 1: a fun flirt imagine how much fun you're gonna have

987
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:48,080
Speaker 1: going to the gym, just knowing that you're gonna bump

988
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:49,240
Speaker 1: into him like every time.

989
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:49,880
Speaker 3: That's fun.

990
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:50,560
Speaker 7: I like that.

991
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's exciting.

992
00:39:52,160 --> 00:39:55,200
Speaker 3: I like that idea too. Okay, well, good luck, thank you.

993
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 4: I appreciate your guys insight.

994
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 7: Bye bye.

995
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 3: That didn't feel like a real problem.

996
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 4: I mean it was a real problem to poor Genevieve.

997
00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess she must take her own rules at

998
00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 1: the gym pretty serious, very seriously.

999
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 3: Like it's like, right, I made fuck.

1000
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:16,040
Speaker 8: No, I can't say hello, I have a stretch with

1001
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 8: no talking policy. She does.

1002
00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:21,160
Speaker 2: But I thought that Jesse would be the perfect person

1003
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 2: to encourage her sense because.

1004
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:23,920
Speaker 7: I love that.

1005
00:40:24,000 --> 00:40:26,359
Speaker 3: I didn't know that story about you meeting your lover

1006
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:26,879
Speaker 3: or there.

1007
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:30,160
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do love the added element in the locker room.

1008
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, let's take a quick break and we'll wrap

1009
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 2: up with one other little question.

1010
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:36,840
Speaker 1: Okay, we're going to be right back with Jesse. He

1011
00:40:36,880 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 1: has to take a bath. I'm going to give him

1012
00:40:38,400 --> 00:40:44,400
Speaker 1: a bath, and we're back.

1013
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:47,280
Speaker 7: I know I've.

1014
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 1: Recently got in I've recently gotten into candles. I didn't

1015
00:40:50,600 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 1: know about those earlier.

1016
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:53,360
Speaker 7: But I can never reach it.

1017
00:40:53,560 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 3: No, no, no problem, I'm really good.

1018
00:40:55,200 --> 00:40:57,520
Speaker 1: Actually, have very strong hands from being a mountain woman

1019
00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: all winter long, Catherine.

1020
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 3: So before we have to part.

1021
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 1: Ways with my lover, Jesse Tyler Ferguson, this is a

1022
00:41:03,640 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 1: very fun Episode's very fun.

1023
00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 2: It's about to get a little more fun because Cias

1024
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 2: is in a bit of a pickle.

1025
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:12,120
Speaker 4: Sia, uh no, just see, let's call her Sia. She's

1026
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,319
Speaker 4: see yah. She's using a sudame, so she's see you now.

1027
00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:18,600
Speaker 2: Cia is just writing in so she's not joining us. Okay,

1028
00:41:18,760 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea and Crewe, I'm in a bit of a pickle.

1029
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 2: I'm twenty four years old and I've always thought myself

1030
00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:26,640
Speaker 2: to be straight until a little over a year ago

1031
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 2: when my best friend and I found ourselves after a

1032
00:41:29,239 --> 00:41:32,280
Speaker 2: night of drinking to be making out later leading to sex.

1033
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,399
Speaker 2: It all felt right and we haven't stopped to this day.

1034
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 2: Although we are both quote unquote straight, and I've still

1035
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 2: had sex with other men throughout this but nothing more

1036
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 2: than just casual hookups. I don't feel attracted to other women,

1037
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 2: and neither does she, and we both have no plans

1038
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 2: of coming out about our quote relationship anytime soon, but

1039
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 2: there's definitely more jealousy when we're with other people or

1040
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 2: don't spend almost every day together. We act like we're

1041
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 2: in a relationship to each other, even admitting that we're

1042
00:41:57,960 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 2: in love with each other, but remain friends to the

1043
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:03,760
Speaker 2: outside world. And for added context that makes this harder.

1044
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:05,920
Speaker 2: There's a fifteen year age gap between us, and we

1045
00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:08,239
Speaker 2: live in a small town where everybody knows who we are.

1046
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:11,240
Speaker 4: I'm just seeking advice to navigate the situation.

1047
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 2: Do I stop completely to save ourselves from getting hurt

1048
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 2: further as this all gets deeper, or do I just

1049
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 2: keep going and see what happens?

1050
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 7: See?

1051
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:19,359
Speaker 4: Yeah, she her?

1052
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 8: So what she's described to us, She's described to us

1053
00:42:23,880 --> 00:42:27,880
Speaker 8: a relationship that's in the closet. That's like exactly what

1054
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:30,840
Speaker 8: that is? Yeah, so that let's just identify it first.

1055
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:35,240
Speaker 8: You're in a closet of relationship with your friend, which

1056
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:37,799
Speaker 8: you know, that's something I can definitely relate to.

1057
00:42:38,360 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 7: Listen.

1058
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:40,440
Speaker 8: I mean, if you have feelings for one another, I

1059
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 8: think you know it's worth talking about. I'm wondering where

1060
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 8: she's from. Is it a small town that she doesn't

1061
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 8: feel safe being out?

1062
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:50,879
Speaker 2: I don't think she actually says where, But that's kind

1063
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 2: of the sense I got.

1064
00:42:52,080 --> 00:42:52,600
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1065
00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:55,359
Speaker 1: I mean I'm all about like, if you're in love,

1066
00:42:56,040 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 1: be in love, and then figure out your way, you know,

1067
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:00,160
Speaker 1: to make it happen to get.

1068
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean it sounds like if there's like jealousy

1069
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 8: about you know, you being with other people and they

1070
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 8: don't want to spend time apart, I mean, that's that's

1071
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:10,360
Speaker 8: what the best relationships. I mean, the jealousy part is

1072
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:14,320
Speaker 8: probably not great, but like, you know, but you should

1073
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:16,720
Speaker 8: want to spend a lot of time with the person exactly.

1074
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 8: That's all. That's all good stuff. So I don't know,

1075
00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 8: I feel like there's got it. You have to figure

1076
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 8: out a way to be comfortable in this relationship.

1077
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 3: I agree. I think that.

1078
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 1: And I wish she did say something about where she

1079
00:43:29,840 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 1: was from, because I would say, a, maybe you guys

1080
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 1: should move together somewhere else where you're going to feel

1081
00:43:35,239 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: more secure being out in the open, or be out

1082
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:41,720
Speaker 1: in the open where you are give people some room

1083
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: to like accept it and and talk to your like,

1084
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 1: if you really care and you're in love with each other,

1085
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 1: then you should be talking about what your immediate future is.

1086
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:50,759
Speaker 3: Going to look like.

1087
00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I would encourage you to talk to like

1088
00:43:54,120 --> 00:43:56,280
Speaker 1: if you want to talk to another party, like about

1089
00:43:56,320 --> 00:43:58,360
Speaker 1: how you go about doing that in a more comfortable

1090
00:43:58,400 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 1: way with both of your families.

1091
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 3: You should talk to a therapist about it.

1092
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 1: But I don't see, like this isn't going to end

1093
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 1: well as a secret, right.

1094
00:44:06,800 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 8: Also this something that's interesting is that there's a fifteen

1095
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,040
Speaker 8: year age gap. I'm assuming she's fifteen years older because

1096
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 8: if our writer's twenty four, correct, Yeah, so she's thirty

1097
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 8: and nine ish, she's or.

1098
00:44:19,640 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 2: Nine or nine, which is a really different question to

1099
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 2: be asking, you know.

1100
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 8: I mean, she's she's lived a life, you know, if

1101
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:34,400
Speaker 8: you're almost forty years old, Like, I don't know, pardon me.

1102
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 8: Feel also kind of feels like your friend needs to

1103
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 8: be like, okay, like take take the reins a little bit,

1104
00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 8: help us out, Like is this a thing?

1105
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 7: Are we in love? Is this happening? Help me out? Mommy?

1106
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:45,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you gotta.

1107
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, somebody's got to step up to the plate, like

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Speaker 1: it just there's no good story ending you guys, if

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Speaker 1: you love each other, get together, figure out a plan

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Speaker 1: forward and do something about it.

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Speaker 2: No, but I think that's good advice. And I think

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00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:58,239
Speaker 2: that's the advice. She's kind of looking for. It's not

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00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,839
Speaker 2: like just to ignore this and doesn't matter that you're

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00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:02,560
Speaker 2: not attracted to other women.

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00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:03,880
Speaker 4: You're attracted to this woman.

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00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 1: Right, So she this woman's like thirty nine and she's

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00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 1: twenty four, so she's worried about like judgment about that.

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00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 1: And again I would say that you're twenty four years

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00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:15,440
Speaker 1: old in the thirty nine that's not disgusting.

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Speaker 2: No, And you know, kind of thinking about that like

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00:45:19,560 --> 00:45:23,520
Speaker 2: age gap too, Like your best friend would have grown

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00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:25,160
Speaker 2: up in a time where it was still like ooh,

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Speaker 2: are people going to come out or not. Maybe it's

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00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:29,960
Speaker 2: for the younger person to take the lead of like

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Speaker 2: let's do this.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you got there yet, right, I mean I've always

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00:45:33,400 --> 00:45:35,040
Speaker 1: dated but men that are I mean I dated men

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Speaker 1: that were twenty years older than me for like twenty

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00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 1: years until they got too old, you know, and then

1130
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: I had to dial it back. But age, yeah, there's

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00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,319
Speaker 1: no like fifteen twenty years is fine. It's I think

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00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,400
Speaker 1: when I mean, twenty years is a lot, but fifteen

1133
00:45:47,480 --> 00:45:48,160
Speaker 1: years is okay.

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Speaker 3: I think that's okay. Yeah, And also, yes, take.

1135
00:45:51,360 --> 00:45:53,279
Speaker 1: The lead as a younger person who's more with it

1136
00:45:53,360 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 1: and you know, understands the way society and culture are

1137
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: working these days. I would always like to I always,

1138
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:00,640
Speaker 1: as a personal rule, like to get ahead of a problem,

1139
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 1: not behind one. And you should get ahead of you

1140
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 1: this problem because it doesn't have to be a problem.

1141
00:46:05,680 --> 00:46:08,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, stop dating other people because you're not interested in.

1142
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:11,839
Speaker 1: Them, and let us know what happens. Yeah, I'm so Yeah,

1143
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:14,880
Speaker 1: stop dating other people. You guys are obviously together. Yeah,

1144
00:46:14,920 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 1: and let us know what Tony moved to.

1145
00:46:16,480 --> 00:46:18,959
Speaker 3: We're assuming it's the town, but like, I mean, maybe

1146
00:46:18,960 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 3: it's not the town.

1147
00:46:19,880 --> 00:46:20,279
Speaker 7: She says.

1148
00:46:20,280 --> 00:46:22,680
Speaker 8: Everyone there knows who they are, everyone knows. It just

1149
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:25,120
Speaker 8: sounds like a very small town. So of course my

1150
00:46:25,320 --> 00:46:27,720
Speaker 8: brain goes to a not very accepting place.

1151
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 7: But that's just me.

1152
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, well you're a gay person, so you would know

1153
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:33,920
Speaker 1: that better than me. I was just thinking why my

1154
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 1: mind wouldn't think fat, And it's like, oh, because I'm

1155
00:46:36,200 --> 00:46:38,359
Speaker 1: not discriminated against, right, right, right?

1156
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 3: Well the problem solved with that.

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00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 7: I'll discriminate against you though.

1158
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:44,200
Speaker 1: I feel like I was going to ask you about

1159
00:46:44,200 --> 00:46:47,040
Speaker 1: being discriminated against about something else that you were saying earlier.

1160
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 1: I wanted to say, did you feel discriminated against? But

1161
00:46:49,000 --> 00:46:52,279
Speaker 1: now I forgot what that was about. This has been

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00:46:52,320 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 1: a blur.

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Speaker 8: I don't even remember coming in this room. I feel

1164
00:46:56,880 --> 00:46:58,919
Speaker 8: like I've been here for days. He woke up here

1165
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 8: this morning. Oh my goodness, oh so funny.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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00:47:03,160 --> 00:47:05,560
Speaker 1: People are really going to enjoy this, Jesse, you are

1168
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 1: so fun you Oh me too?

1169
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:10,080
Speaker 3: This was so fun. And what's your podcast called.

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00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:11,120
Speaker 7: It's called Dinners on Me.

1171
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:13,640
Speaker 3: Dinner's on Me and invite me anytime in all?

1172
00:47:13,680 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 7: Oh my god, would you do it?

1173
00:47:14,719 --> 00:47:15,200
Speaker 3: Absolutely?

1174
00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:16,320
Speaker 7: I think you're on the schedule.

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00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 3: Action Oh okay, well then that was the trick. What

1176
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:19,000
Speaker 3: was that?

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00:47:19,360 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 1: Was that? A like you push you well, you're like

1178
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:23,279
Speaker 1: throwing a carrot against the wall over there.

1179
00:47:24,160 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 8: Yeah yeah, yeah, basically basically that's exactly what happened. I

1180
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 8: think you were on the schedule, but then maybe we

1181
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 8: had to reschedule.

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00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 3: I don't will definitely do It'll be fine. Yeah.

1183
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:34,840
Speaker 1: Add a little alcohol to this and what most what

1184
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:38,400
Speaker 1: could happen? Okay, thank you, bye, guys. We'll see you

1185
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Speaker 1: next week. Bye. Okay, So upcoming shows that I have you, guys,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be in Hawaii on Maui, Ka, Huluee and Honolulu.

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Speaker 1: I will be there in July. Also, in July. I'm

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00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,799
Speaker 1: coming to Niagara Falls on July twenty seventh. I'm coming

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Speaker 1: to Hollywood, Florida for my only show in Florida on

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Speaker 1: July twenty eighth. I'll be in Auburn, Washington on August first,

1191
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Speaker 1: and then Santa Rosa, California for my second show August second.

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00:48:03,280 --> 00:48:05,560
Speaker 1: August seventeenth is the Santa Barbara Bowl.

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Speaker 3: You do not want to miss that. And then I.

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Speaker 1: Will be all over Maine, Charlotte, North Carolina, Charleston, South Carolina.

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Speaker 3: I'm coming to Texas. I'm coming to Saint Louis and

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Speaker 3: Kansas City, and.

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Speaker 1: Then I will be in Las Vegas performing at the

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Speaker 1: Chelsea Theater inside the Cosmopolitan Hotel. My first three dates

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Speaker 1: in Vegas are September first, Labor Day weekend, and then

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Speaker 1: November two and November thirtieth.

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Speaker 3: I'm coming to Brooklyn, New York, at the Kings Theater

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Speaker 3: on November eighth.

1203
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Speaker 1: And I have tickets on sale throughout the end of

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Speaker 1: the year in December, so if you're in a city

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Speaker 1: like Philadelphia or Bethlehem, or San Diego or New Orleans

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00:48:45,600 --> 00:48:48,520
Speaker 1: or Omaha, check Chelseahandler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 2: Okay, If you'd like advice from Chelsea, shoot us an

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Speaker 2: email at Dear Chelsea podcast at.

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00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:56,040
Speaker 4: Gmail dot com and be sure to include your phone number.

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Speaker 2: Dear Chelsea is edited and engineered by Brad Dickert executive

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Speaker 2: producer Katherine Law and be sure to check out our

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Speaker 2: march at Chelseahandler dot com