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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hi, maybe is not in today? What is she doing?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Probably momming, momming, oh, momming. Man, it's just trying to

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Speaker 2: figure out the rest of the year.

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Speaker 1: It's almost Christmas. Way, when do you holiday shop?

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Speaker 2: I've kind of started a little bit. I'm a little

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Speaker 2: disappointed in myself. Usually I'm done with your library and yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: have you started? Nope, I have a list going. But

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Speaker 2: it's it's one of those things too, where I feel

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Speaker 2: like my kids are getting out of the toy stuff,

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Speaker 2: so now I don't know really what to get them.

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Speaker 2: Like Jay still likes toys. He loves Deadpool, even though

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Speaker 2: he's never seen Deadpool, so I don't know how that

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Speaker 2: one works. But I and then the thing now with legos.

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Speaker 2: They love legos, but they don't actually put them together.

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Speaker 2: They just want all the pieces. So I just have

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Speaker 2: like big drawers of like all these Lego pieces and

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Speaker 2: so and I'm just like, what do you guys want

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Speaker 2: from Sanna? It gets hard.

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Speaker 1: It's like clothes and girls skincare and all the things. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, Ramsey basically only still plays with like slime.

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Speaker 2: Oh we've never had slime in the house, so, oh wow.

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Speaker 2: I've actually tried to it. Yeah, but I always give

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Speaker 2: in no. Yeah, yeah, no slime here. Uh well that's

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Speaker 2: nice slime. Yeah, I uh. Jolie wants she does want

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Speaker 2: a drum set? Oh wow, yeah? Have you had one?

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Speaker 2: A drum set?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: For some reason, I was thinking y'all had one once

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Speaker 1: upon a time.

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Speaker 2: Nope, no drum set. We'd like like one of those

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Speaker 2: little babies, right right right, but yeah, yeah, that sounds

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Speaker 2: awesome for nap time. Yeah. Well, we have like their

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Speaker 2: little music room as their secret room. Now, okay, so

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Speaker 2: they have these you know those things I used to

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Speaker 2: play in school? What are those things? Flute?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 2: That is only allowed in the secret room.

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Speaker 1: That is probably the most annoying thing ever. Yeah, they

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Speaker 1: have to do them in school. One of the years

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Speaker 1: I can't even remember in the school, I think it is.

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Speaker 1: I think so Emmy's already done it and Caden's already

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Speaker 1: done it. Terrible, it's awful. Yep, like you're doing great.

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Speaker 2: Goat were two of them somehow. I don't know why

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Speaker 2: you appeared in our house, but they're in. I've just

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Speaker 2: now designated that because that was what they kept playing with,

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Speaker 2: and I was like, all right, to the music room

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Speaker 2: you go. You probably can't hear them in their house. No,

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Speaker 2: I can't hear anything. Oh that's nice, that's drums are

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Speaker 2: going for Christmas. But yeah, it's just the problem is

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Speaker 2: is on when we were building. When I was building

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Speaker 2: the house, the plans, that room looked so much bigger,

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Speaker 2: and it is truly just a glorified closet. It is

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Speaker 2: the size. It's a small closet. It is pretty small.

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Speaker 2: So I'm just like cool. I don't know if you

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Speaker 2: get like a fool, I mean idea.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 1: I think we're gonna we have to get a truck.

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Speaker 1: I guess we're going to get a truck for Christmas

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Speaker 1: for my son. What I mean car, Well, he's turned

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Speaker 1: sixteen in March. I want him to have it for

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Speaker 1: a little while to drive it before he gets his license.

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Speaker 2: So see the job. Yeah he seasonally he refs, Oh

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Speaker 2: that's right, Yeah, it's funny. My ex was telling me

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Speaker 2: a funny story the other day at soccer. He was

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Speaker 2: saying how the ref is around Cayden's age and was like, hey,

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Speaker 2: I had a rough night last night. Is anyway we

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Speaker 2: can make the quarters eight minutes out of ten And

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Speaker 2: he's like no, the ref asked that, yeah, this is

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Speaker 2: like the sixteen year old roff. He's like, no, sorry

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Speaker 2: about your long night. That's hilarious. I was like, yeah, no, kidd. Also,

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Speaker 2: it's the best money. Well, this is it like thirty

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Speaker 2: bucks an hour?

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Speaker 1: It's thirty plus dollars an hour. Wow, it's amazing. I'm like, kay,

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Speaker 1: and you will never have a job like this now

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Speaker 1: sometimes he has to.

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Speaker 2: Go an hour layer.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean, like, gosh, and it's only seasonal,

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Speaker 1: but I mean he has a good bit of money

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Speaker 1: just from from refing. It's it's and he's great at it.

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Speaker 2: What are your rules going to be with driving? I'm

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Speaker 2: so stressed out about this. Actually, this is very time

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Speaker 1: Have been a number of teenage deaths lately in the

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Speaker 1: it's freaking me out.

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Speaker 2: It's really freaking me out. Do they say what that

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Speaker 2: what happened in the accident?

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Speaker 1: I don't know exactly what caused it, but it was

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Speaker 1: only one died in the In the actual car accident,

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Speaker 1: it was a teenager driving.

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Speaker 2: It's just been a lot.

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Speaker 1: But legally, when they turned sixteen, they are only allowed

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Speaker 1: to have one other person in their car.

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Speaker 2: But no one follows that rule. Yeah, no one. I

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Speaker 2: mean I didn't follow it when I was sixteen. We

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Speaker 2: didn't have it. Well, we didn't have it. But even

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Speaker 2: so the car, my Alero, my little Redillero, is super cute.

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Speaker 2: It fit five people, you know, including me, my mom's

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Speaker 2: like only you know, the two friends. I mean, I

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Speaker 2: piled in seven girls in my lero. Yeah, we were leaving.

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Speaker 1: I picked them up the other day because our high

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Speaker 1: school volleyball girls one state, so they let the kids

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Speaker 1: leave to go watch them in these tournaments. And so

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Speaker 1: I picked him and like five other boys up and

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Speaker 1: they got into this car accident at another school they

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Speaker 1: were going to this and so I've just had a

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Speaker 1: lot of conversations with them. I mean, our main rule

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Speaker 1: is if he is going to a party, he is

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Speaker 1: not a drinker. But if he is going to a party,

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Speaker 1: he will not be driving. He will not be riding

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Speaker 1: with teenagers. Like is it ubering or is it, I'll

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Speaker 1: have to. Now that might change in a couple of years,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. We'll see how. But as of now,

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Speaker 1: it's like, I don't care if I have to park

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Speaker 1: have to tell him that another teenager's picking you up,

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Speaker 1: Like right, that is just my So like for homecoming,

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Speaker 1: you know, I was going to let it.

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Speaker 2: Too comings By the way, I was really confused because

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Speaker 2: it was his girlfriend goes to a different school, got it,

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Speaker 2: So yeah, so I was like I thought they had

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But long story short, I was going to let

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Speaker 1: But once we get to this point in the night,

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Speaker 1: he might be a great kid. He may never touch alcohol.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but I'll be picking you up from

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Speaker 1: this point on. So I just have different situational rules.

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Speaker 1: There's no set he has to tell me specifically or

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Speaker 2: Really, do you think he'll be honest with now because

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Speaker 2: he's a great kid. Yeah, but like, do you think

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Speaker 2: like what happens if he's not honest, are their consequences

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Speaker 2: and then do you think they'll be because I mean

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Speaker 2: you see his phone, so technically like you be able

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Speaker 2: to like know if he's texting other people and being like, hey, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, yeah, well we'll have don't I don't get on

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Speaker 1: his phone? Oh yeah really No, I did have the

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Speaker 1: software on his but I don't. I don't get on

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Speaker 1: we're on Life three sixty and I will pay for

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Speaker 2: You can tell when they get on their phone if

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Speaker 2: you pay for it, not the free version, but yeah,

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Speaker 2: you can see how many times they you pick up

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Speaker 2: your phone when you're driving? Really, and what's that? Is there?

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Speaker 2: Hard crash all the things? Is there no phone usage

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: And so hard?

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Speaker 1: Because I've got to admit sometimes I'm I do pick

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I've got to be a better example.

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Speaker 1: But no, he'll have to check his phone and then

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Speaker 1: you know, when he gets back. Yeah, I mean we've

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Speaker 1: got to get into life.

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Speaker 2: What are you most nervous about when it comes to

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Speaker 2: him driving?

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Speaker 1: I mean, obviously just a car accident.

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Speaker 2: But but is it is it him? Is it the

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Speaker 2: other people? Is it.

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Speaker 1: Definitely other people? I mean he hasn't driven. I'm not

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Speaker 2: He hasn't driven, so he is isn't driven enough?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he's a pretty good driver, but he has

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Speaker 1: so it's like also like he's learning in these bigs.

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Speaker 2: I do him driving. So that's what I was going

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Speaker 2: to say, Is I would I still it's my It's

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Speaker 2: my lack of trust of other people. Yeah, as because

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Speaker 2: I'm like I think Kayden was going to be very responsible,

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Speaker 2: but you don't know really the other I mean even

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Speaker 2: don't know how Harlow's going to drive. Yeah, when you

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Speaker 2: know the girls off Highland and razy or whatever like.

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Speaker 1: And I think the element of that too is distraction.

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Speaker 1: And I gave him a very good example the other

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Speaker 1: and I'm trying to figure out where I'm going, and

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Speaker 1: I was like, Kayden, this is why I'm like, I

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Speaker 1: the conversations that are going on.

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Speaker 2: It's so distracting. That's what worries me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because it's not like an intentional thing, but when

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Speaker 1: you get them all together and they start talking and

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Speaker 1: they're asking questions and they're talking to the driver, it's

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Speaker 1: distracting and it's scary.

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Speaker 2: Well, that's to your point when you say, like you're

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Speaker 2: on the phone. That's one of my big things that

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Speaker 2: I really need to work on when I'm with the

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Speaker 2: kids on my phone. Yeah, but yet who cares about

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Speaker 2: me Like I am on my phone. It's not good.

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Speaker 2: But like you know, when I drive, and I need

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Speaker 2: to get better at that. But a perfect example I

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Speaker 2: was telling Alan, I said, it was one of those

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Speaker 2: really your heart just like jumps out of your chest

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Speaker 2: because if I was on my phone, there's no way

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't have had had an collision because the other

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Speaker 2: McEwan Yeah, and I had to know where to worve

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Speaker 2: But the emotions and middle school.

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00:19:45,800 --> 00:19:48,439
Speaker 1: That's why I was like, oh, it's probably you'll be

437
00:19:48,440 --> 00:19:49,000
Speaker 1: great for you.

438
00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:52,360
Speaker 2: I'm not saying it won't, but that many girls.

439
00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:54,840
Speaker 1: I don't that it just gets And I'm super close

440
00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:56,920
Speaker 1: to my twelve year old I'm girl. I mean we're

441
00:19:56,920 --> 00:19:59,040
Speaker 1: like super super close. I make sure that we have

442
00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,119
Speaker 1: a really good, real lif relationship. But it's just the

443
00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:03,920
Speaker 1: emotions of the girls.

444
00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:09,520
Speaker 2: Are I feel like, when done right though, the relationship

445
00:20:09,560 --> 00:20:11,240
Speaker 2: with a mom and a daughter when they're older is

446
00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,560
Speaker 2: such a beautiful thing. Yeah, when done right.

447
00:20:13,920 --> 00:20:15,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's the thing. I didn't have a great

448
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:19,280
Speaker 1: relationship with my mom. And so it's like this like

449
00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 1: struggle because it's the constant wanting to.

450
00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:23,240
Speaker 2: Do it right.

451
00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:25,600
Speaker 1: Yes, but then if I feel like I get it wrong,

452
00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:27,200
Speaker 1: then I put so much pressure on myself.

453
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:28,080
Speaker 2: Literally just happened.

454
00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:30,280
Speaker 1: I didn't do this right, and now we're we're gonna

455
00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:32,080
Speaker 1: have a terrible relationship when she's older.

456
00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:34,200
Speaker 2: You know, I literally think that all the time. Yeah,

457
00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,840
Speaker 2: I got our Jolie again with the hair brushing, and

458
00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 2: I'm like, I literally told you every morning, and then

459
00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:41,000
Speaker 2: because she was like then late for school and it's

460
00:20:41,040 --> 00:20:43,040
Speaker 2: this whole thing. And then when she got on the bus,

461
00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:45,200
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, she's gonna like she's

462
00:20:45,200 --> 00:20:47,399
Speaker 2: gonna hit me because I'm getting on in her her

463
00:20:47,400 --> 00:20:49,320
Speaker 2: brushing her hair, and it was it's just like this

464
00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:52,520
Speaker 2: whole thing. Yeah, like it, Yeah, it's always there. Being

465
00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:53,680
Speaker 2: a Parent's so fun.

466
00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:55,280
Speaker 3: Being a parent, and I feel like it's so hard,

467
00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:57,040
Speaker 3: and I honestly feel like a lot of the pressure

468
00:20:57,160 --> 00:21:00,320
Speaker 3: comes from what we're seeing on the outside. We see

469
00:21:00,320 --> 00:21:03,679
Speaker 3: everyone's world and how good they are at parenting, and

470
00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:05,640
Speaker 3: automatically we're like, oh, we should do that, and we

471
00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:07,920
Speaker 3: try and it doesn't go that way, and all of

472
00:21:08,000 --> 00:21:11,400
Speaker 3: a sudden, we feel like failures. It's something that I

473
00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,680
Speaker 3: very much struggle with. I mean, I was like, you, guys,

474
00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,840
Speaker 3: my kids had a MAT test this morning. One's actually sick.

475
00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm getting sick. So that's fun. But

476
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:22,000
Speaker 3: when I had a MATT test this morning, and you

477
00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:25,160
Speaker 3: know how, you're like, all right, two plus two equals four,

478
00:21:25,359 --> 00:21:27,119
Speaker 3: you know, and then you're like, all right, so if

479
00:21:27,160 --> 00:21:29,120
Speaker 3: you add one to that, what is equal? And they're

480
00:21:29,160 --> 00:21:34,080
Speaker 3: like nineteen, You're like, what the heck? Like, how did

481
00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,960
Speaker 3: you get there? Well, I'm frustrated, flustered, we're walking out

482
00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 3: the door. Therefore, she has zero confidence going into this test,

483
00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:44,919
Speaker 3: right cause I'm like, okay, you know what, let's just go.

484
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:50,800
Speaker 3: We're done. You'll be fine. Zero confidence. I left school,

485
00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:55,120
Speaker 3: dropped them, turned back around, parked, walked in and grabbed

486
00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:58,159
Speaker 3: her and was like, I'm so sorry. I had a

487
00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:00,240
Speaker 3: very stress warning you were going to do great. All

488
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:02,239
Speaker 3: you need is to know that you can do it.

489
00:22:02,280 --> 00:22:05,280
Speaker 3: But there's those moments as parents where you just lose

490
00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:09,400
Speaker 3: it and it's gonna happen a lot. I keep telling myself.

491
00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:10,919
Speaker 3: I was like, I can try not to lose it,

492
00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:13,760
Speaker 3: but that's actually not that's not going to happen for me.

493
00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:18,840
Speaker 3: Like I am a very reactional person, which is horrible

494
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:22,879
Speaker 3: it comes to parenting, but something I'm working on, but

495
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,040
Speaker 3: I'm still going to fail. So I just feel like,

496
00:22:25,040 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 3: as long as you can also show your kids that

497
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:29,439
Speaker 3: you can apologize and be like, you know what I

498
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:31,760
Speaker 3: messed up to something I'm trying to figure out.

499
00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:33,560
Speaker 2: No, for sure, I know that's not gonna say because

500
00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:35,399
Speaker 2: when when she got home, I was like, Hejulie, I

501
00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 2: just want to say I'm sorry.

502
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 3: She was it's okay.

503
00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,119
Speaker 2: I go, wait, wait, do you know why I'm apologizing?

504
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:43,920
Speaker 2: Oh my god? I was like she didn't even like.

505
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:45,520
Speaker 2: I was like, she didn't even know why I was.

506
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:47,200
Speaker 2: I was like, let me explain to you why I'm

507
00:22:47,200 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 2: apologizing before you say it's okay. You know, it's a

508
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,400
Speaker 2: constant in our house. It's a constant, but so true

509
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:55,119
Speaker 2: though with you what you're saying. But I feel like

510
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 2: even with so Jolie, the same thing, Like when she

511
00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:00,920
Speaker 2: was learning her site words you knew, She's like would say,

512
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 2: it's like, let's say it's the the you know, and

513
00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:04,320
Speaker 2: she would be like, and we go back to it,

514
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:06,679
Speaker 2: and she'd be like h and I'm like no, like

515
00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 2: the you know, and then I would get like you said,

516
00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 2: a little frustrated. But now when Jas is doing it,

517
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:14,760
Speaker 2: I'm like, they don't know, you know, so I'm like

518
00:23:14,840 --> 00:23:16,720
Speaker 2: I need to just be patient. So I'm like he's

519
00:23:16,720 --> 00:23:18,840
Speaker 2: getting a little bit more of the patient side. And

520
00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:20,600
Speaker 2: they probably with Roman, i'd be like, yeah, but that's

521
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 2: that's a yeah.

522
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that poor first kid. I'm still every day

523
00:23:25,880 --> 00:23:27,840
Speaker 1: on him with his I'm like, you were in high school.

524
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,399
Speaker 1: And then then the eighte year old, I'm like, that's fine,

525
00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:30,920
Speaker 1: you can pay it.

526
00:23:31,000 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter, you know what. This is what I

527
00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 3: always say. We're gonna succeed in what we succeeded. If

528
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 3: we're not a math genius, we're not going to be

529
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,400
Speaker 3: a mat genius does no matter how hard we try.

530
00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 3: So maybe we figure it out early and then we

531
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 3: really go towards the things we're good at. I mean,

532
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:45,879
Speaker 3: in this I feel like in this world, they're all

533
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 3: calculated as anyways, I'm going listen.

534
00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:50,160
Speaker 1: Oh you're not going to well, my twelve year old

535
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 1: she can't spell, Like I hate to call her out,

536
00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 1: but it gets a thing. She cannot spell, and I

537
00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: think it's because she had a phone early she would

538
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,080
Speaker 1: talk into it, and so she would and so so

539
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:02,440
Speaker 1: literally I was like, are your teachers, I mean, she's

540
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 1: in seventh grade. I'm like, are your teachers not worried

541
00:24:04,800 --> 00:24:08,119
Speaker 1: that you legitimately still cannot spell? Because now, actually, a

542
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:10,240
Speaker 1: teacher the other day was like, it's okay, but a

543
00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:12,000
Speaker 1: lot of people can't spell. You don't really need to

544
00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:13,200
Speaker 1: know how to spell anymore.

545
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:14,920
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh.

546
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:16,680
Speaker 3: I was like, well, you know what, I love it.

547
00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:19,680
Speaker 3: I love a teacher that leans into that, because most

548
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:21,560
Speaker 3: teachers be like, oh no, we need to send you

549
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 3: to a you know, have you start learning those teachers

550
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:25,600
Speaker 3: I have, but I.

551
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:28,520
Speaker 1: Think it's it's like the calculator and then everything is

552
00:24:28,560 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 1: spell checked.

553
00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:32,280
Speaker 2: Now they sure do, but I'm true, Okay, I guess

554
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:36,800
Speaker 2: we'll just roll with this. So switching leaning No, it's

555
00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 2: true though, leaning into the older we get. I've been

556
00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:44,919
Speaker 2: h after Roman too. I'm like, oh my, there's been

557
00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 2: so many symptoms that have kind of come up, and

558
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 2: I've been checking into certain things. I just got a in,

559
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:52,200
Speaker 2: you know, a full body scan, and when I was

560
00:24:52,280 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 2: kind of looking into your brain tumor diagnosis, you were

561
00:24:56,760 --> 00:25:01,199
Speaker 2: saying that you felt lightheaded and dizzy before did you

562
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:03,600
Speaker 2: start to go like down the doctor google rabbit hole,

563
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 2: or were you like, no, I know something's wrong, and

564
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 2: like what was kind of like what kind of person

565
00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:10,560
Speaker 2: are you? In that instance, because I go to like,

566
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 2: oh my god, I have MS and I'm dying, or

567
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:15,440
Speaker 2: like you know, or like I have this cancer or yeah,

568
00:25:15,440 --> 00:25:19,200
Speaker 2: and I just needed glasses and you know, some supplements.

569
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 3: You know what. The girls were so young. I think

570
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 3: Hunter was six months or Third was six months, or

571
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:26,600
Speaker 3: maybe like or maybe like three months at this point

572
00:25:27,160 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 3: that I noticed something was off, but I just felt

573
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 3: too busy or just too too much was going on

574
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 3: for me to really think about it. I mentioned it

575
00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 3: to Matthew, I mentioned it to my mom. I was like, gosh,

576
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:42,880
Speaker 3: I'm getting old. Like I'm trying to teach the girls

577
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:44,439
Speaker 3: how to do a front role and I'm like, I

578
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:47,840
Speaker 3: can't find my footing. Afterwards, I'm just and my mom goes,

579
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 3: you're twenty nine, I mean you're getting old. I was like, oh,

580
00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 3: I don't know, I just don't feel right. And it took,

581
00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:58,560
Speaker 3: honestly about a couple months of me feeling this way

582
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,600
Speaker 3: and some thing to actually happened like I was holding

583
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 3: Hunter and I felt myself going down just the room

584
00:26:05,080 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 3: started spinning, and I kind of threw her to Matthew.

585
00:26:09,840 --> 00:26:12,399
Speaker 3: Thank got he caught her, but I went down to

586
00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:14,240
Speaker 3: the ground and he looked at me and he was like,

587
00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 3: we're going in right now, Like this is getting ridiculous

588
00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 3: that you know, you keep telling me you don't feel right.

589
00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 3: This is occurring. You know, who's to say it's not

590
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 3: gonna occur when you're driving? And he was right, And

591
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:30,680
Speaker 3: so we went in first the emergency room in Michigan

592
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 3: and they gave me or out of out of hert

593
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 3: something like that, it's the verdigo drug. Didn't touch it.

594
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:42,199
Speaker 3: And so we were actually leaving that next day to

595
00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 3: go out of town because it was the off season

596
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:45,960
Speaker 3: and normally when we were in Detroit we had a

597
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 3: long off season, so we would leave pretty quickly and

598
00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 3: head to California. And we were doing that the next

599
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:54,520
Speaker 3: day and I was like, you know what, I'll just

600
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:58,400
Speaker 3: get checked another time, Like I'll just figure it out.

601
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:03,000
Speaker 3: We got to California and Matthew ended up scheduling me

602
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:07,199
Speaker 3: the MRI without me even really knowing, and handed me

603
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 3: like the PaperWorks like, E've an MRI tomorrow. It's like, okay.

604
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:11,920
Speaker 3: I was like, but I'm feeling fine. You know, one

605
00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,439
Speaker 3: of those things that you just kind of like. I

606
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 3: really didn't think there was anything wrong. I just thought

607
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 3: maybe I don't know what I thought, so I did

608
00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:22,840
Speaker 3: not go down the rabbit hole. I didn't really look

609
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:25,640
Speaker 3: into it at all. When I went to get my MRI,

610
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,520
Speaker 3: they called and said I wasn't on this phone call.

611
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 3: Matthew was and it was his team doctor for the

612
00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:34,720
Speaker 3: Lions called and said, you know what, they found something

613
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 3: on the scan. They're going to see you at UCLA tomorrow.

614
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 3: And didn't say anything other than that, and again I

615
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 3: just was like, well, I mean, I had no idea

616
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 3: I was and he said he is, hey, You've an

617
00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:55,280
Speaker 3: appointment at UCLA neuro Institute tomorrow, and I was like okay. Honestly,

618
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 3: I just I kind of stopped in my tracks for

619
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,800
Speaker 3: a second. But again, when you have young kids, they

620
00:28:00,880 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 3: kind of take your mind off of everything. And I

621
00:28:04,040 --> 00:28:05,840
Speaker 3: don't even remember the next day. We just went in.

622
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 3: They pulled up my MRI and they were like, here's

623
00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 3: your brain tumor. And I think I blacked out that

624
00:28:13,240 --> 00:28:15,720
Speaker 3: that Oh, it was a horrible. First of all, it

625
00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,440
Speaker 3: was a horrible way to do it. The bedside man

626
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 3: really wasn't there. I know, Matthew was in a little

627
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 3: bit of shock too. So we sat there and listened

628
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 3: and walked outside, sat in the waiting room behind a

629
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 3: girl who had a scar that now I have, Like

630
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 3: I saw her staples and I lost it. And that's

631
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 3: when he got on the phone and just started calling

632
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,160
Speaker 3: every doctor he knew to you know, get me set

633
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 3: up in the best places to figure out what to do.

634
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,680
Speaker 3: Which I'm so grateful. He's such an incredible leader on

635
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 3: that field, but he really leads his family in a

636
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 3: way that is even better than that. He really took

637
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 3: the helm of this and just kind of let me

638
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 3: sit back and did everything I needed to get done. So, yeah,

639
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 3: it was. And you know, in those moments, you think,

640
00:29:02,120 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 3: and you guys would do the same thing. Being moms,

641
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:05,880
Speaker 3: You're like, well, I'm just grateful to me and not

642
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 3: my kids, because you see, you see the kids that

643
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 3: are battling stuff and that don't understand, and to me,

644
00:29:12,680 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 3: it's truly not fair. And so in that moment, you know,

645
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 3: all I could think was I'm just so grateful. It's

646
00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:20,880
Speaker 3: not my kids and it's and it's not my hut

647
00:29:20,920 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 3: because I think I'm better as like the person going

648
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 3: through it than the caregiver. So I was got it

649
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:30,040
Speaker 3: was a Matthew either. So yeah, it was a moment

650
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 3: in time that I'll never forget. But I'm also extremely

651
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:35,240
Speaker 3: grateful for that whole thing we went through as a family.

652
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 2: So did they say that there's a chance that something

653
00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:41,040
Speaker 2: could grow back like that? Like how how because it's

654
00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:42,800
Speaker 2: like some things that they don't get at all, it

655
00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,000
Speaker 2: could potentially And does that kind of is that in

656
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 2: the back of your mind or.

657
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:50,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, they they got it all the only

658
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 3: the only thing and I and I'm getting scanned every year.

659
00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 3: I'm actually doing the full body thing you were talking about.

660
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 3: I think that's incredible, you know, and going through this,

661
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 3: I just want to be active. But the only thing

662
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,120
Speaker 3: that can happen really is, yes, it could grow back,

663
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 3: but the other side it could occur on If it

664
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:13,720
Speaker 3: does occur on this side, it is genetic. And I

665
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:17,200
Speaker 3: begged my parents to get a row because neither of

666
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 3: them can hear like there's you know, but they're just

667
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 3: old and they don't want to do it, So there's that,

668
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 3: but it is if it grows on this side, if

669
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 3: there's some things that you know, or if I start

670
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 3: feeling away and they find out then it's genetic and

671
00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 3: I'll have to get my kids tested, which that is

672
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 3: that's the biggest fear of this is just hoping that

673
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:42,080
Speaker 3: that never occurs. So I know that my kids are

674
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:45,000
Speaker 3: okay because I guess that, and the worst thing that

675
00:30:45,040 --> 00:30:48,680
Speaker 3: come this is not cancer, so we are so grateful

676
00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 3: for that. But if you get it on both sides,

677
00:30:52,000 --> 00:30:55,480
Speaker 3: and you know, you remove it because it's affecting your

678
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 3: overall equilibrium, you can lose your hearing in both years

679
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 3: and then all of a sudden and you don't have

680
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:04,480
Speaker 3: your hearing anymore. So that is the fear when it

681
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,040
Speaker 3: comes to my kids getting it and stuff like that.

682
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 3: But other than that, it's pretty I feel good. I'm

683
00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 3: so happy it's done with and I try not to

684
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:17,280
Speaker 3: think about you know too much, so yeah.

685
00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 2: Well good. It's always like so scary, but like that,

686
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 2: I'm big on. There's something else too that I've been

687
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 2: you know, starting to be a part of all just again,

688
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 2: all preventative stuff, like okay, what can we be doing

689
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 2: to help prevent things. You know, I know it's not

690
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 2: a cure for things, but anything preventative. I'm just like you,

691
00:31:32,840 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 2: John side Far moving on to the other thing you have,

692
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 2: So is it? There are two podcasts kind of like

693
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:43,200
Speaker 2: one in like two in one because I saw the

694
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,400
Speaker 2: timeout than the morning after or the morning after.

695
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 3: The Timeout is literally thanks to Taylor Swift because she's

696
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 3: gotten a lot of women and football, and the timeout

697
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:57,960
Speaker 3: is literally based is about football. It's usually like the

698
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 3: experience of game day that we went through, and also

699
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 3: just the NFL in general, like the score, stuff like that,

700
00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 3: but also learning the game starting from the bottom, trying

701
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 3: to teach and actually, like, as I'm doing this, I'm

702
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 3: realizing how much I don't know. I was talking to

703
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 3: Math the other day and I like looked at him

704
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 3: at one point. So you're telling me you do a

705
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 3: million things before that ball snapped. I'm talking. I can't

706
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 3: even imagine. I go, how do you sleep at night?

707
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 3: Like my brain would be turning at every And that's

708
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 3: what moms do, right, We think about every scenario that

709
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 3: we have to do that we haven't done. Things like that.

710
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:36,880
Speaker 3: He sleeps like a log. But I will say, is

711
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,840
Speaker 3: it is a lot tougher than I thought to know

712
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 3: the very much ins and outs. I know the basics,

713
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 3: which helps me watch it. But that's what time Out is.

714
00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 3: It's basically like learning the basics so people can enjoy

715
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,920
Speaker 3: it more when they're watching it with their sygnegica, ooh,

716
00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:54,520
Speaker 3: significant other, sorry and stuff like that. And then The

717
00:32:54,520 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 3: Morning After is really just a modern podcast about modern relationships, marriages, parenting,

718
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 3: kind of what we were talking about, just being realistic

719
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 3: about all of that. And the reason I started because

720
00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 3: I was really tired and really down on myself on

721
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 3: a lot of things as a parent, as a wife,

722
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 3: with my looks, Like I moved to La and there's

723
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 3: god knows all these there's beautiful women in Michigan here,

724
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 3: there's beautiful women here, and I was down on a

725
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 3: lot and I realized, like I am staring into a

726
00:33:24,960 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 3: screen full of everybody's best and I kind of just

727
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:32,480
Speaker 3: wanted to create a space where we talk about maybe

728
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 3: not all of our best things, but maybe we like

729
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 3: mix it up and talk about some of our failures

730
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 3: so that we don't feel so alone when we do

731
00:33:40,600 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 3: fail in all these relationships in a way, So.

732
00:33:43,600 --> 00:33:59,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, when you brought that up to matt How was

733
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 2: his or Matthew, how was his response? Like was he like,

734
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 2: I'm so proud of you, Yes, go do it? Or

735
00:34:03,800 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 2: was there was a little or was there he hesitancy

736
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:09,400
Speaker 2: because the things that you might share well and is

737
00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 2: there any awful limits? Because I've seen some headlines, so

738
00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:14,439
Speaker 2: I was like, I know there are plenty of things

739
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 2: that I wish I could go back. I mean, there's

740
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:20,000
Speaker 2: a because unfortunately I forget that people listen and then

741
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,400
Speaker 2: and then it becomes the headline and then I'm like

742
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:25,800
Speaker 2: why did I say that? Like what for what reason

743
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 2: did I say that? And then it's like you can't

744
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 2: apologize for everything you say, so then you just kind

745
00:34:29,360 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 2: of kind of keep on going. And I've saw you

746
00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:33,280
Speaker 2: lean into it, you like kind of called the tour

747
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 2: chase and the case, you know what I mean. I

748
00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:38,400
Speaker 2: was like, she's she's at least leaning into it, So like,

749
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,480
Speaker 2: how do you deal with when you see a headline?

750
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,520
Speaker 2: Cause I about vomit every time. I'm like, I like so,

751
00:34:44,400 --> 00:34:46,319
Speaker 2: but I also you know then I'm like then I

752
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:47,880
Speaker 2: then she gets pissed at me because I'm like, well,

753
00:34:47,920 --> 00:34:49,959
Speaker 2: I gotta be really careful what I say I gotta

754
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:52,359
Speaker 2: be my stop, like just talk.

755
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 3: So tell me I agree with you. I you know,

756
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 3: it's tough because I have to protect him in a

757
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 3: way just because he has a franchise behind him. But

758
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:06,120
Speaker 3: at the same time, I tell myself of these headlines,

759
00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:09,600
Speaker 3: they are picking things out and making it sound like

760
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:13,240
Speaker 3: something it's not. That is their job now as media.

761
00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 3: We know it's like it's all clickbait. There's no actual

762
00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,919
Speaker 3: well there is, but like journalism is tougher now because

763
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 3: they have to be the first ones to deliver it.

764
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 3: But you know, some headlines are tougher than others. I

765
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:30,520
Speaker 3: you know the one you're talking about that Honestly, Matthew

766
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 3: and I kind of laughed at that one because it

767
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:35,759
Speaker 3: got so blown up. And if you knew us when

768
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:39,640
Speaker 3: we were seventeen when this was occurring, I think you

769
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:44,439
Speaker 3: would kind of laugh with us. But it is. It's

770
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,920
Speaker 3: something that I'm human, Like things affect me, what people

771
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 3: say affects me. I'm not going to sit here and

772
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 3: say I don't give a shit, because I do. But

773
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 3: I also have to remind myself, like if I'm standing

774
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:00,280
Speaker 3: by who I am and if I'm being my real self,

775
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 3: and that's what that podcast is, Like, I am vulnerable,

776
00:36:02,760 --> 00:36:04,880
Speaker 3: I am out there. I want to be me because

777
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,319
Speaker 3: I feel like for a long time I was just

778
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 3: Matthew's girlfriend or wife, and I had to play this

779
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:12,880
Speaker 3: role and look a certain way and all these things,

780
00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:15,560
Speaker 3: and I just I got worn out and I lost myself.

781
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 3: And so with this podcast, I'm kind of finding who

782
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 3: I am again. And I always tell him like, you

783
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 3: know what, if people don't like that, then they don't

784
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 3: have to listen. And headlines are always going to give

785
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 3: you not a good feeling. I don't care if it's

786
00:36:29,560 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 3: good or bad, because somewhere it just it feels.

787
00:36:33,400 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 2: They've never actually put a good one out because they

788
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 2: don't want it. It's not really intended to be like

789
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:39,719
Speaker 2: they want you to click on it. No one would

790
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:42,920
Speaker 2: be like she's so in love, click here, you know exactly, So.

791
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:46,960
Speaker 3: They're all not fun. I totally agree. So, I mean,

792
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,400
Speaker 3: I don't deal with it well by any means, but

793
00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,200
Speaker 3: I just try to remind myself, like, well that was

794
00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:55,919
Speaker 3: the truth. It is what it is. And I could

795
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:57,799
Speaker 3: easily have been like, you know what, yes, we were

796
00:36:57,800 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 3: the quarterback and cheerleader and we fell in love. It

797
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:02,839
Speaker 3: for site and we were the best couple ever. But

798
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 3: it's just not true. Like we did the ups and

799
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:09,799
Speaker 3: downs through college and we loved and hated each other

800
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:12,680
Speaker 3: and it was it was what we needed to get

801
00:37:12,680 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 3: to where we are now. So and that's another thing,

802
00:37:15,080 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 3: like understanding, like where you are now is because of

803
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,359
Speaker 3: all these things that it might have happened, and all

804
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:23,680
Speaker 3: these headlines, whether they be good or bad, is it

805
00:37:23,719 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 3: got you to where you are now as a person?

806
00:37:26,000 --> 00:37:28,319
Speaker 2: And is he like this is is there anything that's

807
00:37:28,360 --> 00:37:31,280
Speaker 2: off limits or is he just so supportive of Oh yeah,

808
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 2: because of having your voice, Like like you said, like

809
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:36,120
Speaker 2: you've just been you know, Matthew Stafford's wife, and it's

810
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 2: like no, like you're coming out and you're coming out

811
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:41,800
Speaker 2: into the light and like having a voice and.

812
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 3: And and I will. He's so proud of me in

813
00:37:43,640 --> 00:37:46,279
Speaker 3: that way. He's like he always when he sits in here,

814
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:48,560
Speaker 3: he's on some podcasts. You've gotten really good at this

815
00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 3: like this is it seems very natural for you and

816
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 3: I love that. But there are off limit things like

817
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 3: I mentioned something about I don't even know what it was,

818
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,680
Speaker 3: but it affected his life. Room that is a huge No,

819
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:04,759
Speaker 3: Like that was like Ooh, I'm going to go get

820
00:38:04,760 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 3: a hotel room. He's going to be pissed. Kind of situation. Now,

821
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 3: I didn't do that because I have four kids here,

822
00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 3: so I can't really do that.

823
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 2: That would be amazing you and leave them. Yeah, I

824
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:16,719
Speaker 2: like it.

825
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 3: Actually, what a joyful day. Yeah, I'm gonna go to

826
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 3: the SPA have a great day. No, so that is

827
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:27,799
Speaker 3: off limits. I mean anything that's too personal, I'll never

828
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 3: get into, like our sex life or anything like that.

829
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 3: That's just off limits for me. But other than that,

830
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 3: I mean, he's pretty, he's he likes me showing this

831
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:39,080
Speaker 3: side of myself. He's like, this is the side I

832
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 3: fell in love with, So why wouldn't I want the

833
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:44,400
Speaker 3: world to see this side? So, yes, he is very sportive.

834
00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,440
Speaker 3: Now headlines are headlined, so you know, every once in

835
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 3: a while he'll be like, oh man.

836
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 2: Count So I know, I know it's like that. Why

837
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,840
Speaker 2: did I say that? Yeah, it's likecause you you felt

838
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 2: that way, I know, or.

839
00:38:58,600 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 3: Maybe you couldn't. We could have said it different differently.

840
00:39:01,239 --> 00:39:04,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's yeah, that's the hard part in hindsight. Sure

841
00:39:04,600 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 2: wouldn't that be great if we all said things differently?

842
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:07,240
Speaker 3: Yeah?

843
00:39:07,320 --> 00:39:08,919
Speaker 2: We just have a mic in front of us.

844
00:39:09,760 --> 00:39:12,200
Speaker 3: Yes, nobody would ever get in fights. Be great, we'd

845
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:15,399
Speaker 3: be so calm and peaceful, but that's just not the way.

846
00:39:15,800 --> 00:39:19,319
Speaker 2: So yeah, well, thank you for coming on and thank

847
00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 2: you for accepting my apology. Back in the day when

848
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,680
Speaker 2: I said Matthew was the problem, was the reason why

849
00:39:23,719 --> 00:39:25,920
Speaker 2: the Lions always lost, and then the next year they

850
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 2: went on to win the Super Bowl.

851
00:39:27,040 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 3: For the RAM so I was like, cool, all right,

852
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 3: well heyde and I'm very happy for the Lions. They

853
00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 3: are so fun to watch. I mean, it is what

854
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:38,960
Speaker 3: every time I turn on TV and I'm looking at

855
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 3: I'm like god less, and you watch them play and

856
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 3: they're just enjoying it. So I'm so happy, and I'm.

857
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 2: Sorry about the fans because that's the well that they

858
00:39:48,120 --> 00:39:50,359
Speaker 2: you know, And that's like my husband is always he's

859
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:52,400
Speaker 2: telling me things because he was he grew up in

860
00:39:52,400 --> 00:39:55,760
Speaker 2: the Premier League of playing and coaching, and those fans

861
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:59,840
Speaker 2: are so mean to even their own like players, you know,

862
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:02,879
Speaker 2: our own people, and I'm just like, I I can't

863
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 2: get over it. But when you even said they're like

864
00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:06,840
Speaker 2: when you boo at the kids, and that's that's a

865
00:40:06,840 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 2: big no. Like you remember that one someone just yelled

866
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 2: at No matter who you're voting for, it, don't yell

867
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:12,400
Speaker 2: at the kids. I saw the something going viral of

868
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 2: the supporter of someone yelling at a child, and I'm like, no, no, like, yeah,

869
00:40:16,800 --> 00:40:19,040
Speaker 2: when you're not booing or yelling at kids. And I

870
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:21,279
Speaker 2: do know they were booing and yelling at me, but

871
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:23,160
Speaker 2: when my kids are standing right next to me, they

872
00:40:23,160 --> 00:40:26,520
Speaker 2: don't know the difference they're getting, you know, taught like

873
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,440
Speaker 2: I mean, it was, But at the same time, there

874
00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:32,360
Speaker 2: were plenty of fans there who were so kind. And

875
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:34,320
Speaker 2: that's what I was gonna say. You're like, we only

876
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 2: hear those voices. There are thousands of other people that

877
00:40:38,120 --> 00:40:40,759
Speaker 2: are cheering you on. It's like the headlines, you know,

878
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:42,359
Speaker 2: you only you only see the bad ones.

879
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:45,600
Speaker 3: Well they only appear anyways, but uh yeah, and those

880
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 3: fans like you tend to remember only the bad things.

881
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:50,920
Speaker 3: And that's I don't know why we do that as

882
00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:54,920
Speaker 3: humans what we do. So that was that. That sucked.

883
00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 3: But again, I like, look back at that and go

884
00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 3: there those are. It's such a passionate fan base that

885
00:41:00,040 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 3: I miss in a lot of ways. So can you

886
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:07,759
Speaker 3: blame them? Not really? I just next time, won't make

887
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 3: the mistake of going on the field, you know, like

888
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:12,760
Speaker 3: that that was my mistake. I won't take my kids

889
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 3: down there like that. If we ever in back of Michigan,

890
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 3: we'll just you know, go quietly to our seats and

891
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:24,279
Speaker 3: sit and watch. But I do I miss Michigan. It's

892
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:28,040
Speaker 3: it's such an amazing town full of great people that

893
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 3: we definitely miss. But I'm happy for y'all. I'm happy

894
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 3: for I'm so happy for that Lion's team, like I hope, well,

895
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,319
Speaker 3: I can't say it because we are still playing.

896
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:41,120
Speaker 2: But you know, I they deserve they deserve their time.

897
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, and I live my lifetime. Yes, if it's

898
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:47,279
Speaker 3: not us, it's I would. I would hope it's y'all.

899
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:51,080
Speaker 2: So well, Kelly, it was lovely to finally connect and

900
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: tell our listeners where they can listen and find you.

901
00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:57,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, you can listen to The Morning After with Kelly

902
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 3: and Hank wherever you get your podcasts. Also with time out.

903
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 3: Time out drops on Tuesdays. In the Morning After drops

904
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,120
Speaker 3: on Thursdays, So it's fun. I appreciate you guys having

905
00:42:06,120 --> 00:42:08,120
Speaker 3: me on. It was thanks to finally connect.

906
00:42:08,320 --> 00:42:11,480
Speaker 2: Yes, the same love to see you and congrats with everything.

907
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:12,879
Speaker 3: All right, thanks for all you too.

908
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 2: Bye bye. Who's your team do you root for?

909
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 1: Not NFL? I mean Titans, I guess, but no, just

910
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 1: college they're always bad.

911
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:25,360
Speaker 2: We like the Lions, k they're terrible.

912
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 1: So there.

913
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,760
Speaker 2: I mean, I would say Titans just because I'm from Tennessee.

914
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,360
Speaker 1: Sure, but like we're just we're just we're just college

915
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 1: football because even growing up, like my parents really just

916
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,040
Speaker 1: watched or my dad just really watched U T and

917
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:42,319
Speaker 1: then now born or married into Alabama. Yeah, so you

918
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 1: don't really then watch it, I guess not right now?

919
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I just Alabama doing.

920
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:50,919
Speaker 1: Vandy beat them, but they bandy also beat Oh god,

921
00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:53,320
Speaker 1: there was another really good team they beat this year apparently.

922
00:42:53,880 --> 00:42:55,880
Speaker 1: But I don't I get I get bits and pieces

923
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 1: now because I don't. We don't pay attention as much

924
00:42:57,960 --> 00:42:59,919
Speaker 1: as we used to because we're so But now Kate

925
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 1: into it too, so like he'll be like in the

926
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:05,200
Speaker 1: car watching it, like I don't know, but I don't

927
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 1: think we're very good.

928
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:08,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's fun. I just I'll never forget that because

929
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:12,840
Speaker 2: I mean, god, I just I went off, So what happened?

930
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:16,600
Speaker 2: So okay, vaguely remember this. Matthew Stafford was on the

931
00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:20,480
Speaker 2: lines for I mean, I'm gonna probably like I make

932
00:43:20,560 --> 00:43:24,360
Speaker 2: up that it was like six something years. Maybe I

933
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 2: make up that it was at least a long time. Okay,

934
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:31,200
Speaker 2: maybe Eastern Orhannah would lovely google that right now and see.

935
00:43:31,280 --> 00:43:34,960
Speaker 2: But forever, and I just kept saying it's Matt like,

936
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 2: it's Matt, like, Matt's the problem. And I don't know

937
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:38,400
Speaker 2: if it was because my high school sweets name is Matthew,

938
00:43:38,480 --> 00:43:41,520
Speaker 2: and so I like connected the two Michigan saying this

939
00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:44,439
Speaker 2: twelve seasons, there goes a lot. It's probably a long

940
00:43:44,480 --> 00:43:47,959
Speaker 2: long time, right, so like so many years, and I'm

941
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:50,400
Speaker 2: just like, he's the problem, Like he is the reason

942
00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,719
Speaker 2: that we are losing all the time because of the

943
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:57,279
Speaker 2: interceptions or the drop right passes. So if you're gonna

944
00:43:57,280 --> 00:43:59,120
Speaker 2: blame like you know, of course you got to just

945
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:03,560
Speaker 2: blame the quarter quarterback. Yeah. Then he they trade golf

946
00:44:03,800 --> 00:44:08,399
Speaker 2: for Stafford. And that next year, so that first year

947
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 2: that Stafford goes to the Rams, he wins a Super Bowl.

948
00:44:12,040 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 2: Oh wow. And I was like, well, wait, so did

949
00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:16,320
Speaker 2: you say this out loud?

950
00:44:16,640 --> 00:44:16,839
Speaker 3: Yeah?

951
00:44:16,880 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 2: Pretty much? Did you did you say it but like, ho,

952
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:25,040
Speaker 2: now know that you said this because we were like

953
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:28,879
Speaker 2: DM sometimes and I made a public apology on Instagram

954
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 2: like one of my stories, and I was like, yo, sorry,

955
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:35,320
Speaker 2: Stafford's like totally always blamed you guys, but congrats on

956
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:35,919
Speaker 2: your super Bowl.

957
00:44:35,920 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 1: When say you said then, yeah, like when you were

958
00:44:39,719 --> 00:44:42,240
Speaker 1: being nice, you said you always blamed him.

959
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:45,399
Speaker 2: I probably did, like over family dinners and stuff too,

960
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 2: you know. So just wanted to well, she seems like

961
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:51,439
Speaker 2: she handled that well yes, no, oh yeah, she's she's

962
00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 2: I mean, like, you know, they're always the quarterback. That

963
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:58,960
Speaker 2: would be so hard. It's like the goalie in the hockey.

964
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 2: You're gonna blame Oscar. He was the best. But I'm sorry.

965
00:45:04,360 --> 00:45:07,120
Speaker 2: My Michigan is coming out of me right now. But anyways,

966
00:45:07,160 --> 00:45:09,879
Speaker 2: love it, I love it. Chat next week. Bye bye

967
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:19,800
Speaker 2: bye h