1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:06,560 Speaker 1: I was donkey up to day. Damn he hogged. It's 2 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:10,200 Speaker 1: time for donkey. I'm trying to be donkey today. 3 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 2: No more. 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: They should be embrassed by what they already did. I'm 5 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: not making these people do these days. 6 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:16,959 Speaker 3: Called donkey of the day, and it really caught me 7 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 3: off guard. Damn Charlamagne, who got the donkey of the 8 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:21,119 Speaker 3: day today? 9 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:23,960 Speaker 1: Well, Jefsailarry, it's donkey today. 10 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 3: For Tuesday, April fifteenth goes to a thirty four year 11 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 3: old former police officer named Edgar Verdusco. He used to 12 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 3: be a police officer for the Los Angeles Police Department, 13 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,040 Speaker 3: and he is the latest example of why I simply 14 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:35,680 Speaker 3: hate humans. 15 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:38,240 Speaker 1: I've come to the conclusion that what annoys me about. 16 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 3: Life the most is people, which is strange because the 17 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 3: thing I love most about life is people. 18 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: But I like considerate people. 19 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 3: Okay, we had mel Robbins up here yesterday and she 20 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:50,599 Speaker 3: was speaking to how emotionally disconnected some people are from 21 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:54,640 Speaker 3: the actual human experience, and this story is just another 22 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 3: example of that. Edgar on Friday pled guilty to three 23 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 3: counts of murder. Okay, man killed a mother, of father 24 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 3: and a teenage son. Would you like to know how 25 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:05,200 Speaker 3: it happened. Let's go to ABC seven Eyewitness News for 26 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:05,559 Speaker 3: the report. 27 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:09,000 Speaker 2: Police a former LAPD officer is heading to prison after 28 00:01:09,040 --> 00:01:12,399 Speaker 2: pleading guilty to murder in a fiery dui crash. Thirty 29 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 2: four year old Edgar Verdusco faces fifteen years to life 30 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:18,400 Speaker 2: for killing three people on the six Ozho five Freeway 31 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:21,600 Speaker 2: and twenty seventeen. The off duty police officer was driving 32 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 2: one hundred and fifty miles an hour while under the 33 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 2: influence of alcohol when he hit two vehicles. One of 34 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 2: them plowed into the center divider and burst into flames, 35 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:33,680 Speaker 2: killing Marabelle and Mario Davla and their nineteen year old son, Oscar, 36 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 2: who was a student at UC Riverside for Disco is 37 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,440 Speaker 2: do back in court in July for sentencing rest. 38 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: In peace to that family. 39 00:01:40,240 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 3: Man dead because of somebody else's negligence. Edgar, you have 40 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 3: to get the book thrown at you, Okay, put him 41 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:47,960 Speaker 3: under the prison. You're a police officer, so you know 42 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 3: the law. You knew drinking and driving, the speeding, the 43 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 3: reckless driving, vehecula homicide. You know the law and you 44 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 3: know what all that carries. Plus your job is to protect, 45 00:01:58,000 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 3: and serve. You did none of that, so your penalty 46 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:03,280 Speaker 3: has to be harsh. Okay, And I'm taking in this 47 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 3: story and it makes me feel why did God give 48 00:02:06,440 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 3: us free will? Okay, I'm glad God gave it to us. 49 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:11,800 Speaker 3: But free will is like a baked potato. Okay, it 50 00:02:11,880 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 3: needs toppings to really elevate it. Okay, you can eat 51 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 3: a big potato plan, but when you put butter on it, 52 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:21,040 Speaker 3: or sour cream or chives or salt or pepper. Some 53 00:02:21,080 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 3: people like cheese, I'm lactose intolerance, so I don't do that. 54 00:02:23,800 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 3: Some people like chili on it, green onions. I've seen 55 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 3: broccoli on bike potatoes. My point is free will and 56 00:02:29,600 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 3: free will alone is not enough, Okay. In order to 57 00:02:32,760 --> 00:02:35,520 Speaker 3: maximize free will, you need self awareness. You need to 58 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 3: pay attention to the present moment. You need to manage 59 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 3: your emotional state. You need to be a good character. 60 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 3: And you don't need to be on drugs and alcohol 61 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:44,720 Speaker 3: because those things cause you to make poor choices with 62 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:47,520 Speaker 3: that free will. And what does your uncle Shaula always 63 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:50,160 Speaker 3: tell you on this damn radio, Destiny is not a 64 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:52,639 Speaker 3: matter of chance, It's a matter of choice. This guy, 65 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 3: Edgar exercised his free will to make a poor choice, 66 00:02:56,440 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 3: and this is why I don't like humans. When mel 67 00:03:00,400 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 3: Robbins was here talking about people who leave the bathroom disgusting, 68 00:03:03,040 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 3: it hit me because that's one of my pet peeves. 69 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:06,399 Speaker 3: I hate when I walk in the bathroom and see 70 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 3: somebody else's dodo in the toilet. 71 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: Even worse, when you see that. 72 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 3: They left the toilet lining on the seat, It's like, 73 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 3: what type of rusher you in? Don't you know other 74 00:03:14,040 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 3: people have to use this bathroom. I feel the same 75 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:20,360 Speaker 3: way about drunk driving. Okay, now you're talking to a 76 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 3: person who almost killed himself drunk driving when I was 77 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 3: a young lad, so I'm speaking from experience. 78 00:03:24,960 --> 00:03:25,680 Speaker 1: I was selfish. 79 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 3: I wasn't thinking about anybody but myself. I had zero 80 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 3: regard for other people's lives in that moment, and thank God, 81 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:34,040 Speaker 3: my dumb ass, you know, when I wrecked, didn't kill 82 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 3: myself or anyone else. For more on that story, go 83 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 3: to Amazon and purchase my first book, Black Privilege, Opportunity 84 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 3: Comes to Those who created It, available everywhere you buy books. Now, 85 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:46,400 Speaker 3: I hate people, Okay, This man, Edgar posted a video 86 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 3: on social media with the hashtag oh that's the part 87 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:50,440 Speaker 3: of the story I left up. 88 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: This man. 89 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 3: Edgar posted a video on social media with the hashtag 90 00:03:57,600 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 3: don't drink and dry, and then shortly after gotten his card, 91 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 3: drunk and killed three people. 92 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:09,880 Speaker 1: I repeat this man. Edgar posted a video. 93 00:04:09,720 --> 00:04:13,760 Speaker 3: On social media with the hashtag don't drink and drive, 94 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 3: and then shortly after kill three people drunk driving. This 95 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:19,280 Speaker 3: goes back to what I said about self awareness, paying 96 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:19,800 Speaker 3: attention to. 97 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: The present moment. 98 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:25,440 Speaker 3: God, God literally told Edgar what to do, and he 99 00:04:25,480 --> 00:04:29,320 Speaker 3: did the opposite. We have all these conversations about signs, 100 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 3: look for signs. God put it in his head, in 101 00:04:32,240 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 3: his heart so much that he shared with social media 102 00:04:36,080 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 3: a message that he ignored. Don't drink and drive, Edgar, 103 00:04:41,640 --> 00:04:44,720 Speaker 3: that was for you in that moment. It doesn't get 104 00:04:44,800 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 3: much clearer than that gang, But you can't see it 105 00:04:47,400 --> 00:04:49,720 Speaker 3: because you are a human being that is so disconnected 106 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 3: from the interconnection to the human experience. I don't care 107 00:04:52,880 --> 00:04:56,360 Speaker 3: if you drinking and driving or leaving a public bathroom filthy. 108 00:04:56,480 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 3: When you do those things, you are simply not thinking 109 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:02,960 Speaker 3: of other people. But don't listen to me though, Okay, 110 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 3: I just stopped being a sociopath about a decade ago. 111 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:06,919 Speaker 1: Mel Robins explains it way better than me. 112 00:05:08,800 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 4: When you go into a public bathroom, two things. I 113 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 4: always leave the space better than when I found it. 114 00:05:14,800 --> 00:05:17,400 Speaker 4: If somebody destroys the seat, peas all over it and 115 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 4: then they leave, that is a human being that is 116 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 4: so disconnected from the interconnection of the human experience. You 117 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:31,119 Speaker 4: are leaving that for another person. And so making sure 118 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 4: that you don't leave your mess for another person, making 119 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:35,479 Speaker 4: sure that you just kind of wipe down the counter. 120 00:05:35,560 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 4: And then here's the second thing. If there is a 121 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:39,640 Speaker 4: human being cleaning that bathroom, please look in the ai 122 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:41,560 Speaker 4: and say thank you all the time, all the time 123 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,920 Speaker 4: like that right there is a simple thing that will 124 00:05:47,320 --> 00:05:50,040 Speaker 4: make you start to shake out of that woe is 125 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 4: me or that stress or that overwhelm Let them know 126 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:56,720 Speaker 4: you appreciate and see what they're doing, like you know, 127 00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:59,560 Speaker 4: I can't look you, I'm gonna cry. People are just 128 00:06:00,320 --> 00:06:05,120 Speaker 4: walking around disconnected and the power of starting to be 129 00:06:05,240 --> 00:06:09,479 Speaker 4: the one that wakes people up. These relationships matter because 130 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:11,839 Speaker 4: they make you feel human again. 131 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 3: The moral of the story is get connected to the 132 00:06:15,839 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 3: interconnection of the human experience. You're not on this earth alone. 133 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 3: Please let rem Ma give Edgar Ford Dusko the biggest 134 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:24,599 Speaker 3: he hull. 135 00:06:24,800 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 5: He ha he ha. 136 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: You stupid mother, are you dumb? 137 00:06:30,640 --> 00:06:33,480 Speaker 5: All right, well, thank you for that. Donkey to day, Yes, ma'am. 138 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 6: All right now when we come back eight hundred just ignore, 139 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 6: just ignorant, just ignored, Just ignore it. 140 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,440 Speaker 5: He's fantasized right now. Ignore it. 141 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:44,799 Speaker 6: Eight hundred five eight five, one oh five one. My book, 142 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:47,960 Speaker 6: Real Life, Real Family is out today. Gia was just 143 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:50,720 Speaker 6: joined the breakfast Club what about forty five minutes ago, 144 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:53,440 Speaker 6: and we were talking about how we raise our kids. 145 00:06:53,440 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 5: And this is how the conversation went. 146 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:58,359 Speaker 3: Would you say that you and uh and we have 147 00:06:58,480 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 3: two different parenting styles. 148 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 1: Absolutely the more lenient. 149 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 6: It depends what it is. I'm disciplined. I was the 150 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:06,840 Speaker 6: yell of the screamer because I said, so, gear is 151 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:10,400 Speaker 6: a lot different. She wants to know why, Yeah, how 152 00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:10,960 Speaker 6: did you feel that? 153 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:12,440 Speaker 1: But I she likes to break down. 154 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 3: You don't get it, You're gonna get it by the 155 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 3: end of the right exactly. 156 00:07:17,960 --> 00:07:19,760 Speaker 6: So you got to think, really think before you speak 157 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 6: to us, because she's like, all right, explain that, like. 158 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 5: I just said it, just because no, no, no, explain this. 159 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:26,000 Speaker 5: But so I'm more like. 160 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:29,000 Speaker 6: Because I said so, She's more like, well, you can't 161 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 6: go to the more because of this, because this could happen. 162 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 5: Explain your parents. 163 00:07:32,760 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 6: Mine is my dad was like no, and you didn't 164 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,240 Speaker 6: ask why, it just it was what it was. You 165 00:07:37,280 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 6: just figured out later. Is a little different. I prefer 166 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 6: the explanation. 167 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 7: Yeah, so that's how my parents were with me. I 168 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 7: knew that my parents never said no just for the 169 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 7: sake of saying no. Because parents are overworked and they 170 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 7: are stressed. You really have to take a moment. You 171 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:53,840 Speaker 7: have to take a beat. We all have to take 172 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 7: a beat to listen to our children and be patient. 173 00:07:57,360 --> 00:08:00,160 Speaker 7: And because I knew that my parents were invest sit 174 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 7: in me that way, I knew that when they said no. 175 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 5: There was a good reason. 176 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 6: So we're asking eight hundred five eight five one oh 177 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:10,760 Speaker 6: five one. How does your parenting style different from your partners? 178 00:08:11,000 --> 00:08:13,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean explanations are good. That's how you learn, 179 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 3: not just in parenting, like even just as a couple. 180 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:17,280 Speaker 3: For example, if you say to your wife did you 181 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 3: orgasm and she says no, you know she should explain 182 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 3: to you why she didn't so you can make her 183 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 3: the next time. 184 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 6: Right, So the question is eight hundred five eight five 185 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 6: one oh five one. How does your parents style different 186 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 6: from your partners? Like Jess, I'm sure you and and Chris? 187 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:32,520 Speaker 6: Is your parenting different? 188 00:08:32,559 --> 00:08:33,320 Speaker 1: Or even you and Rome? 189 00:08:33,679 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 6: So when we come back, we'll find out, you know, 190 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,800 Speaker 6: how it differs and how which one works? 191 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:40,520 Speaker 5: How you say, I just ignore ch'all the mate? 192 00:08:40,720 --> 00:08:43,000 Speaker 3: Yes, like yesterday for the birthdays. I'm sure y'all did 193 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:44,839 Speaker 3: two different things, right? No? 194 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 4: No, no, Rome had actually work So Rome had them 195 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:47,600 Speaker 4: last week? 196 00:08:47,800 --> 00:08:48,319 Speaker 1: Oh got you? 197 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:48,920 Speaker 5: Yeah? 198 00:08:48,960 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 6: Then he came home, So that is the question. 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