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Speaker 2: We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who
Speaker 2: talks back.
Speaker 1: What's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
Speaker 1: new episode that We Talk Back, the show dedicated to
Speaker 1: your dreamers and chases niggas and hosts what's up, Tam Bam.
Speaker 1: It's your co host aj Holiday.
Speaker 2: Hey, y'all, I love y'all.
Speaker 1: That's what y'all. Niggas need, y'all. Mom, they love you.
Speaker 1: She love Y'allam.
Speaker 2: I'm so happy when people who listen on the show
Speaker 2: d m me and be like, hey, Tam Bam, I
Speaker 2: just want to tell you I love you, to thank you.
Speaker 1: But the minute you do is say some ship they
Speaker 1: don't like. Let's see y'all quick. They hate you, y'all
Speaker 1: hating me day one? Fuck it that way, you can't
Speaker 1: see I changed. Always been an abusive relationship.
Speaker 2: How was your weekend? It was cool?
Speaker 1: I do much and nothing. Rode my bike this week weekend.
Speaker 1: I did eat a lot on Saturday, so I felt
Speaker 1: really guilty on Sunday. Just a whole bunch of shit,
Speaker 1: Like I just kept frying stuff like plantons and oyster
Speaker 1: mushrooms and fry shrimp. I just was cooking everything I
Speaker 1: had in the damn refrigerator as far as I'm the
Speaker 1: service and now here it is today, and I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: that shit over with, all that fat shit over with y'all.
Speaker 2: Yeah for me too. I started a detox yesterday.
Speaker 1: Like I juiced yesterday.
Speaker 2: Yeah. It's just such an uphill battle, you know, it
Speaker 2: really is.
Speaker 1: So I thought that the juice I was buying from
Speaker 1: Whole Foods was expensive because it was eleven ninety nine,
Speaker 1: but so I bought all excuse, it's really not, though,
Speaker 1: because I bought so this juice has mango, grapes, apples, ginger,
Speaker 1: and pineapple in it. So I bought all those individual fruits,
Speaker 1: spent twenty five dollars on them, and I saved the
Speaker 1: bottle from Whole Foods for my last juice that I
Speaker 1: bought from them. One side juiced maybe like thirty grapes,
Speaker 1: the whole pineapple, six apples, some ginger, and a mango.
Speaker 1: It equal that bottle plus maybe this little bit I
Speaker 1: got in a jar. So really it costs more for
Speaker 1: me to juice myself. I probably get more juice though,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, because I'm pretty sure they
Speaker 1: got some purified water some bullshit in theirs. But man,
Speaker 1: it's expensive to eat healthy.
Speaker 2: It's so expensive to eat healthy.
Speaker 1: And time consuming to juice.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I said, I want to start juicing. But I
Speaker 2: love juicing. We'll see. I want like juice watermelons, that's
Speaker 2: what I want.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love It's hard to find a good watermelon, man,
Speaker 1: And I'll go to the flea market on the weekends.
Speaker 1: Like I had got too sour ass watermelons one weekend
Speaker 1: and I had a flea market, yes, because they had
Speaker 1: the seated one usually looking Mexicans be having an old
Speaker 1: ass fruit. Man. Oh that's should be moldy as fuck
Speaker 1: out there. I was like, okay, now.
Speaker 2: Y'all showing up. Yes, come on, man, what did I
Speaker 2: do this weekend? Oh? Nothing? I only got one foot,
Speaker 2: so I can't do ship.
Speaker 1: Get on your good foot, bitch.
Speaker 2: I started watching the show with Nisi Nash. It's called
Speaker 2: grotesquea y It's it's like a who Done It? A
Speaker 2: thriller with like a sadistic serial killer.
Speaker 1: Is sheer killer?
Speaker 2: No, she's the detective? Okay, Yeah, so I support Nisi
Speaker 2: nash Uh. There's another actress in the show. She was
Speaker 2: on Being Mary Jane. She played the nise on Being
Speaker 2: Mary Jane that kept getting pregnant. I can't. I don't
Speaker 2: know her name. I'm sorry. She's too and they have
Speaker 2: her playing like this character who is you know, obese,
Speaker 2: and she has like a food addiction, so it's interesting
Speaker 2: to see. And she has picked up a considerable amount
Speaker 2: of weight. I don't know if they use AI to
Speaker 2: make her look bigger or she got bigger for the show,
Speaker 2: but ooh, that's part of the series. And I don't know,
Speaker 2: like which I.
Speaker 1: Can find a job for gaining weight? Sh no, because.
Speaker 2: It's not healthy.
Speaker 1: It is, but like, just say you did gain weight,
Speaker 1: she could still work, like she was able to find
Speaker 1: a job right gaining weight.
Speaker 2: So y'all watch the tescary if you like, like the
Speaker 2: who Done It? Yeah, so it's kind of scary, though
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: Do you watch true crime stuff?
Speaker 2: I watch it here when I'm at my mom's because
Speaker 2: they watch it.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: My sister works in that industry, so she's very entertained
Speaker 2: by this shit. But I think it's weird. To be watching.
Speaker 1: Yes, I just I remember there was a point in
Speaker 1: my life, like in my twenties, like I would be
Speaker 1: watching that shit. First of all, I haven't had cable
Speaker 1: for real since two thousand and five, so that's probably
Speaker 1: when it ended. But it's just weird that true crime
Speaker 1: is like a genre in America, like for entertainment. Like,
Speaker 1: it's weird to me. And it's a lot of women
Speaker 1: that watch that.
Speaker 2: Shit and go to sleep watching it.
Speaker 1: Yes, all of that is like in your psyche and
Speaker 1: your subconscious mind programming while you sleeping, you wake up
Speaker 1: to a bitch screaming or deep voices talking like that.
Speaker 1: That's weird to me, Like that's.
Speaker 2: A I used to watch First forty eight back when
Speaker 2: it was new. Yeah, I mean, I guess that's a
Speaker 2: true crime show. But no, that doesn't. I never like
Speaker 2: turn that on my mother. Wait, she makes me want
Speaker 2: to throw her TV out the window. I swear every day,
Speaker 2: turn on Steve Harvey that fucking Family Few. She loves
Speaker 2: some fucking Family Few. Girl.
Speaker 1: My mom would be watching them in those Korean movies
Speaker 1: all day long for the last two years. I'm like,
Speaker 1: did don't you find it? I don't know it's like
Speaker 1: they've taken over her mind. And you know, those series
Speaker 1: be like twenty five thirty episodes. She will watch them,
Speaker 1: and then because it's not in English, right, she don't
Speaker 1: like like they let the English come over, so she'll
Speaker 1: watch it in the original language and the captions. But
Speaker 1: she can't read fast, so she's literally positive all day long.
Speaker 1: So it take her like a week to watch some
Speaker 1: shit like like you positive and rewinding it to see
Speaker 1: what they said.
Speaker 2: Like what, I'm not a big fan of movies where
Speaker 2: there's no English and I have to watch the subtitles,
Speaker 2: and I especially don't like a show where it's a
Speaker 2: different language and then they put the English speaking person
Speaker 2: over it. In the mouth is even different than the words.
Speaker 2: I'll turn it off, Y'll hang it up.
Speaker 1: I don't want to watch shame. Well, let's get into
Speaker 1: stupid internet news, y'all. We're gonna start with Man, I
Speaker 1: love Whitney Houston so so much. She's my all time
Speaker 1: favorite any talent show that I would because I used
Speaker 1: to sing really well, okay and tell my sister cursed me,
Speaker 1: but I used to always the former fucking Whitney Houston song.
Speaker 1: But Sissy passed away yesterday, her mom at ninety one
Speaker 1: years old.
Speaker 2: She was a long life.
Speaker 1: Man. I don't feel sad. People be like, man, we
Speaker 1: lost another one. Like, I don't feel like it's a loss.
Speaker 1: When someone lives a full life like that. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm probably gonna get the fuck up out of here,
Speaker 1: like ninety five, between ninety five and one hundred and five,
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna live a long, full life too. So
Speaker 1: I'm always excited when people live like good, long lives,
Speaker 1: like that's a that's not a loss for real.
Speaker 2: I just I love the fact that the three of
Speaker 2: them are back together, Cissy Whitney and the baby. What's
Speaker 2: the baby's name? Bobby, Baby Bobby?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know her husband up there with him with
Speaker 1: them too now thrown no Bobby, the little girls. Oh
Speaker 1: yeah yeah, maybe he passed away as well.
Speaker 2: But you know what, it's more people gone than it
Speaker 2: is here. Just remember that, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, niggas dying every day. Be listen what weirded me
Speaker 1: out last night?
Speaker 2: Y'all?
Speaker 1: I have what's these niggas podcasts? Hold on, let me
Speaker 1: tell you all right quick, because I'm like, yo, people
Speaker 1: are we depressed? That's all I could think? You are
Speaker 1: these guys podcasts? It says Shadow Bunny Scorpio. I don't
Speaker 1: know if that's their podcast. Who the fuck? Oh maybe
Speaker 1: some random person posted this. I don't know the guy's podcast.
Speaker 1: I've seen them before in line, but they was having
Speaker 1: a conversation. The guy was like, what's the what's one
Speaker 1: thing you're going to be happy that's over when the
Speaker 1: world starts to like end, and one of the whole
Speaker 1: says living like they're gonna be glad to get the
Speaker 1: fuck up out of here, and people in the comments
Speaker 1: like agreeing it was weird to me, and I commented,
Speaker 1: I was like, am I the only warrior?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Am I the only one that's gonna fight to the
Speaker 1: end because the bitch like me gonna always live to
Speaker 1: tell the story.
Speaker 2: So I'm like going here easy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it's like it's almost like you might as
Speaker 1: well die today, you know what I'm saying, because I'm
Speaker 1: going out guns ablazing whatever's going on?
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too. I don't know what that ideology is,
Speaker 2: but maybe people are depressed and they're not happy here,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's that, And that's what I kind of
Speaker 1: want people to recognize, Like never mind waiting until the
Speaker 1: world ends. Are you happy being alive right now? Because
Speaker 1: based on these comments, our generation is highly depressed.
Speaker 2: M h.
Speaker 1: The first person that responded back to me was like, yes, baby,
Speaker 1: telling we was here, type of telling we was here
Speaker 1: for me, Like y'all ready to go? And I said,
Speaker 1: you know what, y'all the motherfuckers that would hide a
Speaker 1: zombie bite. Yeah, y'all are motherfuckers that'll be amongst a
Speaker 1: group of us trying to survive, and you do did
Speaker 1: some dumb shit, got bit and you just stole walking
Speaker 1: and hanging out with us like you regular waiting to
Speaker 1: turn go jump off a bridge. Okay. Somebody was like, yeah, girl,
Speaker 1: we're gonna fight it. We're gonna build a memorial for
Speaker 1: the following ones. I said, I'm not building naw memorial
Speaker 1: for no nigga that gave up Burnham for real, Like
Speaker 1: why would you give you on life?
Speaker 2: Listen, you gotta have compassion for people. Everybody ain't as
Speaker 2: strong as you. Everybody is not you. Everybody can't handle
Speaker 2: adversity the same way you do.
Speaker 1: But imagine a whole comment section like that, So that
Speaker 1: means won me and like a few old sprinkling so
Speaker 1: all y'all depressed and ready to go today. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: know you said worlds and you was just gonna start
Speaker 1: sniffing coke.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm gonna do some whoa, you know, but I
Speaker 2: ain't going out without a fight. But my fight gonna
Speaker 2: be highest school.
Speaker 1: How to you wait to apocalyst to get an opioid addiction?
Speaker 2: Right, I'm high as hell and I'm gonna fuck without
Speaker 2: a condo.
Speaker 1: And I guess ibody living like the end of the
Speaker 1: world because babe, I don't call no mother baby bitch.
Speaker 1: I still don't want to be burning apocalyst like you're
Speaker 1: not gonna be able to get no medication.
Speaker 2: Running from the zombies. M I pussy on.
Speaker 1: Fire and nobody can't wash like that, Like you really
Speaker 1: gonna get burned by some dirty dick.
Speaker 3: Okay, I always.
Speaker 1: Think about that watching the watching that bad meet Ricky Bobby,
Speaker 1: that pussy gonna be stayed got burned, Yet neither will I.
Speaker 2: Okay, BV to the max, anybody be very possible.
Speaker 1: Everybody got b V during the zombie Apocalypse. I'm pretty
Speaker 1: sure everybody on the Walking Dad had BV dog.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because there was a washing.
Speaker 1: Niggas had the same clothes like every fucking day, bitch.
Speaker 1: I'm just man Like's not.
Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna.
Speaker 1: Literally have wigs in my book bag during this apocalypse.
Speaker 1: Like what the I'm not about to be walking around
Speaker 1: here looking like bashon, okay, but.
Speaker 2: The fact that you worried about wigs during the zombie
Speaker 2: apocalyp this next.
Speaker 1: Level, bitch.
Speaker 2: I'm when the zombies come, I'm gonna have two corn
Speaker 2: roads going straight back and like my head right.
Speaker 1: Now underneath this week. Yeah, next girl, you.
Speaker 2: Know you will run out. You know what?
Speaker 1: Did he mama?
Speaker 2: Jide? Oh? Did hey? Mom speaks out. So Diddy's mom
Speaker 2: has finally weighed in on her son's legal troubles, stating
Speaker 2: while he might not have been completely honest about the
Speaker 2: whole castie situation, that doesn't automatically make him guilty of
Speaker 2: all the allegations in his adictment. Jenis kOhm spoke out
Speaker 2: about the situation to local ten news on Sunday through
Speaker 2: her attorney, expressing her devastation over the allegations against her son,
Speaker 2: saying he was judged by the truth. He was judged
Speaker 2: not by the truth, but by a narrative created out
Speaker 2: of lies. She also said to bear witness to what
Speaker 2: seems like a public lynching of my son before he
Speaker 2: had the opportunity to prove his innocence. Is a pain
Speaker 2: too unbearable to put into words. Okay, Mortician, listen what
Speaker 2: you call her mortician girl?
Speaker 1: Because I remember seeing a statement of what her saying, like,
Speaker 1: her son is not the monster they're making her out
Speaker 1: to be, making him out to be. She is mortitious.
Speaker 1: She had that monster Adam's family. Absolutely, Oh my god,
Speaker 1: you could not tell Mortitia her baby wasn't beautiful.
Speaker 2: But listen, here's the thing, what mother it could be
Speaker 2: little a nigga in jail named Little Pistol Starter is
Speaker 2: his nickname, and he don't kill a bunch of people.
Speaker 2: And the mom is still gonna be like, that's my baby.
Speaker 2: I love him. He's not the monster that because a
Speaker 2: mother's love is just you know, is it a different thing.
Speaker 2: So I don't knock her for supporting her baby. That's
Speaker 2: what mothers do. That's just what mothers do.
Speaker 1: Have y'all seen that movie The Good Son, You remember
Speaker 1: that movie. It was like the these people's biological son, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she dropped her son over the clifs exactly.
Speaker 1: So that would be me right, knowing I have this
Speaker 1: demon seed, right and he's about to kill all of
Speaker 1: us at this point, even the son we adopted, he's
Speaker 1: the mad seed. At some point you have to recognize that,
Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, yeah, that you kind of you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, Yeah, I agree, But that mother's love
Speaker 1: thing is just so it's the closest thing to God's love, right,
Speaker 1: and it's very unconditional at times, and it's hard to like,
Speaker 1: I think I don't know it yet.
Speaker 2: I would hope that God would bless me to know
Speaker 2: that type of love for my child, but I think
Speaker 2: it's a bond that's just hard to break mentally. It's
Speaker 2: just hard to especially when.
Speaker 1: You made your child the way they are. You know.
Speaker 1: That's something also because you know a lot of people
Speaker 1: speculate about him and his mom's relationship, not saying like
Speaker 1: they have like some crazy like Oedipis type shit going on.
Speaker 1: But you know a lot of moms enable their children
Speaker 1: to be the people that they are.
Speaker 2: Oh, anytime I see like a very fucked up line lineage,
Speaker 2: I always look at the matriarch.
Speaker 1: Exactly like we literally wear the fruit, they we bury
Speaker 1: that fruit. So I mean listen.
Speaker 2: Ooh ooh, which makes me y'all. You know, I love
Speaker 2: reading me a good book. That's what I did. I
Speaker 2: read this book in like three days. It's called The
Speaker 2: The Housemaid. If y'all are reader, and y'all like a
Speaker 2: who done it? Read The Housemaid? It is so good
Speaker 2: and it's definitely like you know about the mom. You
Speaker 2: know who's the mom and what they do for the family.
Speaker 2: So read that, y'allah.
Speaker 1: Like like I said, our mothers are definitely our gods
Speaker 1: in a way, you know what I'm saying. They literally
Speaker 1: give us life. So when you looking at like how
Speaker 1: a person is, you have to look at how they
Speaker 1: were raised. You have to, like you can't. But the
Speaker 1: thing I don't agree with with this ditty case is
Speaker 1: how this attorney has now essentially put like a class
Speaker 1: action lawsuit out there so anybody like a hotline he
Speaker 1: has and over twelve thousand people have now called into
Speaker 1: this hotlines and that they were violated by Diddy. How
Speaker 1: my nigga, Like now it's almost going to get to
Speaker 1: the point. And this is to me, I wouldn't be
Speaker 1: surprised if this, if this, if this attorney right, who's
Speaker 1: representing all these people isn't actually working for Diddy because
Speaker 1: the weird part is like, once you get twelve thousand
Speaker 1: people together, you know they're all lying in the majority
Speaker 1: of them is a lot, right. That kind of discredits
Speaker 1: the people who actually have legitimate lawsuits against Ditty, so
Speaker 1: he can kind of use this in his favor, like
Speaker 1: the wire exactly, these people are inspiring against me because
Speaker 1: if I was his attorney, bitch, that would be the
Speaker 1: route I would be going. This is all of which Hunt,
Speaker 1: This is all some bullshit, So I don't know. It's
Speaker 1: just weird, Like y'all create a hotline. Did y'all do
Speaker 1: that for Harry Wysee? No, I'm signing like niggas now,
Speaker 1: you know niggas be like, oh, they always bring the
Speaker 1: black man down. But for real, man, this is a
Speaker 1: bit much. That's a bit much. So I don't know.
Speaker 2: It's a lot twelve thousand people. He ain't had that
Speaker 2: many parties, right, Like, God, you haven't baby off of
Speaker 2: all of them people.
Speaker 1: Fly one of my I don't know that. I do
Speaker 1: want to fuck on a bloud mattress with a bunch
Speaker 1: of oil. It's just one of my things I want
Speaker 1: to do at some point, like.
Speaker 2: What is that? What that's for? I still want to know, Like,
Speaker 2: can somebody please tell me what they gotta.
Speaker 1: Be for a slipping slide party? Gotta be for slipping
Speaker 1: slide party? Like why else? First of all, that's like
Speaker 1: coconut oil would be the better option for lubrication. So
Speaker 1: I don't know what you're doing with all this fucking
Speaker 1: baby oil, all that petroleum. That's a lot sounds like
Speaker 1: BV to me. You need to use some coconut oil.
Speaker 1: And it's just weird how they put that particular point
Speaker 1: in the media. It's like, this is the world state.
Speaker 2: I could you not put that point in the media though,
Speaker 2: But that's.
Speaker 1: Why it's so unseerious, you know. That makes it so
Speaker 1: unseerious to me.
Speaker 2: But there's no children involved, So what is really like?
Speaker 1: I mean, they're saying there's children. There's now people saying
Speaker 1: that they were molested by him at nine and shit
Speaker 1: like that. There's adults now saying that, yeah, did he
Speaker 1: did this to me when I was a child. I
Speaker 1: came in for a record deal and he made me
Speaker 1: top of them off, Like for real, that's happening, yes,
Speaker 1: So I just it's just it's just too weird. It's
Speaker 1: getting real weird. So I don't know, good luck to Diddy. Man,
Speaker 1: I still can't like condemn people. That's not for me
Speaker 1: to do. Karma always come back a line to get
Speaker 1: that ass.
Speaker 2: It's a publicly like I'm people. I just can't, you know,
Speaker 2: with the Cassie thing. I because you know, I have
Speaker 2: loved Diddy forever. You know, I used to say I
Speaker 2: want to be on his boat. You know, I want
Speaker 2: to go on the boat. But God protect babies and fools,
Speaker 2: so I ain't never make it on there. But I
Speaker 2: mean what we saw him do to Cassie definitely hurt
Speaker 2: my feelings to see that happens. So I'm not like
Speaker 2: really like good luck to Diddy because he did some
Speaker 2: very agregious shit. Absolutely yeah, but I will say, like.
Speaker 1: We know, the luck ain't gonna be good. So it's
Speaker 1: not like I'm like, oh I hope he gets off.
Speaker 1: Hell no, like Nigga good luck. That's really like sarcasm.
Speaker 2: Okay, the fu.
Speaker 1: But I'm still not gonna be the person that says, oh,
Speaker 1: he deserves this, because like those are the people that
Speaker 1: would probably go to a public hanging or a public
Speaker 1: stoning online, just like his mom said, like he's being
Speaker 1: publicly like, I don't want to. I'm never gonna be
Speaker 1: one in the audience throwing a stone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, because even though I lest some shit
Speaker 2: happened to me or someone I love and I know personally,
Speaker 2: that would be the only way I have a stone
Speaker 2: to cast. Well.
Speaker 1: See, I'm different in that way too, because when it
Speaker 1: happens to one, I feel like it's happening to all right,
Speaker 1: So I I never feel like I'm exempt from any
Speaker 1: bullshit happening, right, But I'm still not here to just
Speaker 1: publicly condemn people because.
Speaker 2: Everybody got some balls. If this ship out of me
Speaker 2: and you knew, you wouldn't publicly condemn him, No, absolutely, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Ah yeah, I probably wouldn't because I want to be
Speaker 1: able to make you disappear in two years. Like so,
Speaker 1: I don't want nobody to ever tie me to your disappearance,
Speaker 1: not you, but the person who did it to you.
Speaker 1: So I probably wouldn't be as public about it if
Speaker 1: I plan actually doing something today. Fucking ass, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. It's a little different. I don't know next.
Speaker 1: Tim Moury, Okay, Tim Murray has her new reality TV show,
Speaker 1: and she said she lost the virginity to her husband
Speaker 1: at twenty five. The actress family grew up in a
Speaker 1: religious household and was not allowed to date until the
Speaker 1: age of eighteen. And the same clip, Tia talks about
Speaker 1: being her true authentic self for the first time as
Speaker 1: her white picket fence persona was not all it seemed
Speaker 1: to be. She said, at times she went home and
Speaker 1: fell alone despite being married.
Speaker 2: Oh m, she's a good woman, Savannah five, that's it.
Speaker 1: And that's the only man she's ever known. So he
Speaker 1: was her first ever thing. Is what he what she said?
Speaker 1: I can see her now wanting to live with Baybe.
Speaker 1: It ain't nothing outside, girl, Go explore a little bit,
Speaker 1: might get a few extra dicks up your sleep. But
Speaker 1: see if your husband have you back, because.
Speaker 2: Right or they'll have each other back, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like see if y'all can work ship out, because
Speaker 1: maybe he'll be understanding that you you never actually lived,
Speaker 1: because niggas be living, Okay. I don't see him ever
Speaker 1: holding off on some gucci before or after the marriage.
Speaker 2: I wish I had my virginity to my husband. That
Speaker 2: would have been nice.
Speaker 1: You know, a lot of women ain't gonna admit to that,
Speaker 1: like we'd be saying whole his life and all that ship.
Speaker 1: But girl, by, you know you can wish you can
Speaker 1: all control, all delite some of them bodies off that
Speaker 1: pussy because I know I all love them. I know
Speaker 1: what I do ripping out the plastic on my motherfucker
Speaker 1: wedther day. Okay, yeah, get rejuvenation. I mean that's kind
Speaker 1: of kind of new, Yeah for my wedding day. Kind
Speaker 1: of kind of knew a little bit. I don't know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I wish I could literally, I mean, I do delete people.
Speaker 1: You know, if I ain't coming, don't count, So it
Speaker 1: do count. That should do not count, bitch, especially if
Speaker 1: they ran to die too. What happened.
Speaker 2: Never happened. That's mean as fun.
Speaker 1: But y'all knew that.
Speaker 2: But knew that, But y'all knew I was mean.
Speaker 1: See that's what I'm saying. Never change change, So y'all,
Speaker 1: this one last story is let me know what y'all doing.
Speaker 1: So woman says her truck driver husband was missing for
Speaker 1: two days. She filed a police support and he suddenly
Speaker 1: appears and apologizes on Facebook. Baby, I'm sorry, that's what
Speaker 1: he had to say.
Speaker 2: It was a long like.
Speaker 1: Little let me pull it up right quick, hold on.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because he made a statement because people were like, uh,
Speaker 2: coming for her, and he made a statement in support
Speaker 2: of her. But bitch, where the fuck were you at?
Speaker 2: Where could worry you?
Speaker 1: So it says a man went missing for forty eight
Speaker 1: hours and his wife out a police report and told
Speaker 1: Facebook all about it. On Sunday, a woman by the
Speaker 1: name of Brittany Brittany from a now deleted Facebook page
Speaker 1: share that her husband, Joseph Avery, was a truck driver
Speaker 1: and had been missing for forty eight hours. She continued
Speaker 1: to share that his employer was contacted to locate his
Speaker 1: truck and they weren't helpful. On Wednesday, excuse me. Eventually,
Speaker 1: she updated the Facebook post and shared there was a
Speaker 1: police report filed. A few hours later, she stated her
Speaker 1: husband of four years had been found and she didn't
Speaker 1: know his condition. On Wednesday, Avery made a public post
Speaker 1: on social media site on a social media site apologizing,
Speaker 1: but he didn't share where he was when no one
Speaker 1: could find him. However, he confirmed he was in contact
Speaker 1: with his wife for two days and that was not
Speaker 1: He was not in contact with his wife for two
Speaker 1: days and that was not like him. Listen when I
Speaker 1: said this to Tabby Tims, like he gay he was
Speaker 1: a nigga for two days. Flick. Hey, let's say knowing
Speaker 1: that this guy was just found truck driver was just
Speaker 1: found in North Carolina, essentially lynched, right, I can understand
Speaker 1: her concern. Your heartsman just disappears for two whole fucking days.
Speaker 2: Forty eight hours.
Speaker 1: And we know these niggas who drive trucks, they be
Speaker 1: like whores. Okay, let's just be honest. They could skip,
Speaker 1: they bout pussy in all different states.
Speaker 2: And if they got one of the beds in the
Speaker 2: bad women be actually getting up in that truck and
Speaker 2: fucking in that truck.
Speaker 1: Girl, you sucking dick in the back of a truck.
Speaker 1: You're a wild If that's not your husband, that's not
Speaker 1: your man.
Speaker 2: What are you doing right? Why are you hopping your
Speaker 2: answer in the can?
Speaker 1: Because I'll definitely meet my nigga at a truck stop, okay,
Speaker 1: but what what are you doing? So yeah, they got
Speaker 1: the pictures of them. He kind of looked like, Uh,
Speaker 1: what's the rapper from California? The one the game, the
Speaker 1: one Sweetie Dayton genisis no sweety not dating him. What's
Speaker 1: the nigga YG? He looked like YG a little bit
Speaker 1: to meet this guy. But yeah, so she she updated.
Speaker 2: You know, yeah, he mean like YG, stay for you
Speaker 2: gates because that's what he was doing. I believe.
Speaker 1: She was like, yeah, he does suffer from health issues.
Speaker 1: They call the company he works for it. They said
Speaker 1: he was last in Maryland, but the tractor hasn't moved
Speaker 1: or moved for seventeen hours, so he basically parked that
Speaker 1: shit and somebody came and scoop his ass up. They said,
Speaker 1: if he doesn't make the delivery by tomorrow, they will
Speaker 1: call the police. Is that normal for a company to
Speaker 1: do that? Yeah, because they have like a certain timeframe.
Speaker 1: So as long as he makes he meets the delivery
Speaker 1: time right, it's not an issue. So I guess he
Speaker 1: spent his down hours somewhere somewhere, But it says edis is.
Speaker 1: I call the company several times and they told me
Speaker 1: to call tomorrow and hung up on me. So they're like, bitch,
Speaker 1: we're not about to get into no domestic shit with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's none of our business. He did his job
Speaker 2: and we're not concerned until he doesn't do his job.
Speaker 2: If that truck don't come back when it's supposed to,
Speaker 2: it's a problem for us. But other than that, that's
Speaker 2: between y'all exactly. So here's his apology.
Speaker 1: I like to issue a public apology to my wife,
Speaker 1: all caps, Brittany, Brittany, I'm sorry, baby, for the humiliation
Speaker 1: and embarrassment that I caused you. I've seen all the
Speaker 1: bashing and allegations from all the internet trolls about us
Speaker 1: not being really married or her being a crazy X stocker,
Speaker 1: and none of that is true. She's my wife and
Speaker 1: has been for four years. She was genuinely concerned and
Speaker 1: hadn't heard from me in over forty eight hours, which
Speaker 1: is unlike me. I usually always check in. She done
Speaker 1: what any wife would do. She made a post to
Speaker 1: bring awareness, especially since I suffered from health issues, so
Speaker 1: technically I was missing. Since I hadn't spoken to my
Speaker 1: wife or family for a few days, she thought something
Speaker 1: had happened to me or I was having a medical emergency.
Speaker 1: I was missing, so please stop saying she fought a
Speaker 1: false report. Again, baby, I'm sorry for causing all this
Speaker 1: stuff coming for my wife and family come at me,
Speaker 1: but they shortly thereafter that both of them deleted their
Speaker 1: Facebook posts.
Speaker 2: It's too late, baby, you made it and we talk back.
Speaker 1: Man were happening, Brittany, Joseph was fucking cheating, Okay. If
Speaker 1: the nigga was not in jail or at the hospital,
Speaker 1: he was cheating. Where is the risk band from the hospital? Like,
Speaker 1: where was he right? Where your nigga been at? We
Speaker 1: are concerned now because you made a public We need
Speaker 1: to know where that nigga been at.
Speaker 2: Where were you at, Joe, Joe? That's what?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to know where the fuck he was at? Like,
Speaker 1: my nigga cannot disappear for two days. For two days,
Speaker 1: imagine like when you get home, I won't be there.
Speaker 1: I will not be.
Speaker 2: There two whole days is crazy? Without a word? Seven
Speaker 2: who then you come back and say just I'm sorry
Speaker 2: and where were you? Seven home?
Speaker 1: Nice? She was just about through it two days and
Speaker 1: I'm just about through girl. Hold on, before we get off,
Speaker 1: did I tell you about the old man I have
Speaker 1: bought up? Like speaking of Facebook marketplace, I had bought
Speaker 1: air pump, like a portable air pump from this old way.
Speaker 2: You talking about speaking us? If we did not have
Speaker 2: that conversation we had it, yeah off here, right?
Speaker 1: But girl, why is seventy seventy something year old white
Speaker 1: man texting my damn phone now? But anyway, because I
Speaker 1: did give him my number because he does like the
Speaker 1: whole selling you know, you buy, like the some shit
Speaker 1: some might that might be something I want to get into,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, especially like cosmetic stuff. But
Speaker 1: when I went to pick the airpump up from him,
Speaker 1: we met at Zaxby's. We sat there and talked for
Speaker 1: like twenty minutes, and within this twenty minutes I knew
Speaker 1: all of his shit, all his business. But he had
Speaker 1: told me that, you know, his wife divorced him. He
Speaker 1: got divorced like in his forties. He said he used
Speaker 1: to own a firestone and some young girl came in
Speaker 1: there one day. It was basically trying to trade her
Speaker 1: ringing to get new tires and brakes, and I guess
Speaker 1: he started fucking with her. But he said that he
Speaker 1: always used to come home between six thirty and six
Speaker 1: forty five every day. Right. He said he was late
Speaker 1: coming home two times, and by the second time his
Speaker 1: wife had got a private investigator on her on him.
Speaker 2: You mentioned this on the show before I did.
Speaker 1: Yeap oh deleted you did like bitch two days too.
Speaker 1: Motherfucking you came home. You was late, though, I'm still
Speaker 1: on your ass.
Speaker 2: Fifteen minutes late.
Speaker 1: Fifteen minutes late anyway.
Speaker 2: All right, So when we get back from our break,
Speaker 2: we're going to talk about unfollowing and following, blocking and
Speaker 2: unblocking in your phone and social media? Is it healthy?
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 1: And I do it and it is a form of
Speaker 1: manipulation as far as I'm concerned.
Speaker 2: Well call me manipulation, Tam, because I'm blocking your ass.
Speaker 2: We'll be right back you guys.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, So we're back, and for today's episode,
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk about, uh, unfollowing and following people
Speaker 1: on social media? How do you feel when you unfollow people?
Speaker 1: And how do you feel when someone unfollows you or
Speaker 1: even blocks you? And to take it a step further,
Speaker 1: have you ever been blocked? Tammy?
Speaker 2: Have you I just I just got blocked.
Speaker 1: Block you.
Speaker 2: One of my old niggas.
Speaker 1: Damn you got blocked by dude.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he mad, he real sassy girl. Don't worry about it.
Speaker 2: He was sassy thing, sassy frast He told me he
Speaker 2: was gonna take me away. From my birthday, and then
Speaker 2: he was on bullshit and then he didn't do it,
Speaker 2: and then the next time he hit me up, I
Speaker 2: was like, boy, fuck you full of shit. You don't
Speaker 2: even communicate. He's like, I'm sick of your mouth, and
Speaker 2: then he blocked me. What the hell, sassy?
Speaker 1: But why would men stand on business? We be calling
Speaker 1: them sassy? That's fucked up.
Speaker 2: How's dad standing on business? All you had to do
Speaker 2: if something came up and you couldn't take me, you
Speaker 2: could have communicated that you sure you birthday? I said
Speaker 2: you just I said, you always on bullshit? You unreliable.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm, that's always your mouth. What did I say?
Speaker 1: Nigga had a block party on you.
Speaker 2: I don't care. He'll be back. They always come back
Speaker 2: with thing.
Speaker 1: I've never been blocked by a guy before, but I
Speaker 1: have definitely been blocked by an ex best friend to
Speaker 1: this date. And I'm like, well, I'm assuming to this
Speaker 1: day because I haven't checked in a while.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 1: Actually, somebody sent me that she was pregnant. But they
Speaker 1: just sent like a Facebook link and I clicked on
Speaker 1: it and I couldn't see anything. So I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: she must have got me blocked, but for what, Like
Speaker 1: your life is not that lit for me to like
Speaker 1: want to see everything you got going on to where
Speaker 1: you're on social media. Yes, that is so weird to me.
Speaker 2: I don't think I've ever had any women blocking, you know, like.
Speaker 1: I would never now I havelock and this same person
Speaker 1: I have blocked and then unblocked just so I unfollow
Speaker 1: her and she can unfollow me. You know, that's how
Speaker 1: you get people to unfollow you, Like I've done that,
Speaker 1: Like so within the same second, I'm blocking and unblocking
Speaker 1: just to get the unfollowed. But no, I've never just
Speaker 1: blocked for what picture me rolling?
Speaker 2: Well, what's the point of blocking and unblocking.
Speaker 1: So they can unfollow and you unfollow? Like you force
Speaker 1: them to unfollow you when you block and unblock, like
Speaker 1: within the same minute, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Oh, but I'm just saying, but why because.
Speaker 1: If we are no longer friends, why do you need
Speaker 1: to be following me? I'm not gonna block you.
Speaker 2: It's definitely it's still definitely girls in my uh follows
Speaker 2: that we're not friends no more, but we just never
Speaker 2: unfollowed each other.
Speaker 4: It's cool whatever, No, I feel like it's levels, right,
Speaker 4: So like best friendshit, like you were somebody I speak
Speaker 4: to every day and then now we just aren't friends anymore. Oh,
Speaker 4: I did block one of my old best That's what
Speaker 4: I'm saying, Like, that's it's just different.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: Did y'all refollow each other since y'all cool?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. To block and then y'all
Speaker 1: may eventually start talking to each other again or some
Speaker 1: shit like why are you even doing that? Or to
Speaker 1: unfollow like I felt like it was super final. That's
Speaker 1: why I went ahead and did the unfollowed thing.
Speaker 2: No, when i'm mad, I will.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you've done it to me, and so that's also
Speaker 1: a part of this conversation.
Speaker 2: Bitch.
Speaker 1: If you aren't following me, please let me know. That
Speaker 1: was that was last year? Okay. If you an't following me, bitch, bitch,
Speaker 1: let me know so I can unfollow your ass too.
Speaker 1: We like still having to do business and ship. And
Speaker 1: I realized, bitch.
Speaker 3: I just see you today.
Speaker 2: I had not forgot. Wasn't you following your ass? And
Speaker 2: you said, and I was like, oh.
Speaker 1: Ca Saio asked my mentions as a follow Bitch, did
Speaker 1: you unfollow me at one point, Petty, is you okay?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Are you okay?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 1: I wasn't then are you well? Like that never crossed
Speaker 1: my mind to unfollow Tammy, Like, no matter if we
Speaker 1: beefing or what like, I still got to see and
Speaker 1: talk to this bitch. So like that, what is that
Speaker 1: really going to do? Other than like to me, it's foolish, right,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. When I do it, it's final.
Speaker 1: I don't gotta never fuck with you again. Period.
Speaker 2: No for me is I do not want listen. The
Speaker 2: best thing they ever gave me was the mute button.
Speaker 2: That mute button is my best friend. Because if I'm
Speaker 2: not if I'm mad at you and I'm not talking
Speaker 2: to you, I don't want to see you out smiling
Speaker 2: having a good time, I don't want to see nothing. Really,
Speaker 2: get that out of my space.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is so weird.
Speaker 2: Ain't shit funny? Bitch?
Speaker 1: I'm never like that. But I realized that a lot
Speaker 1: of people and I think we even had an episode
Speaker 1: about blocking before, right, And I know I said, like
Speaker 1: to me, blocking is a form of manipulation, especially if
Speaker 1: you plan on unblocking a person and speaking to them
Speaker 1: later on. It's like you catting off access to you
Speaker 1: for a moment. That's fucked up because you do that
Speaker 1: to me, I'm not talking to you no more.
Speaker 2: If you block me, I never When I block, it's
Speaker 2: with intention to never speak to you again. Now, if
Speaker 2: somehow the universe decides first to reconcile, then okay. But
Speaker 2: in that moment, I've done with you for life.
Speaker 1: And so I guess I don't reconcile, right, because I
Speaker 1: really like being on some shit like yeah, I'm good
Speaker 1: on you whatever forever. If we get to that point
Speaker 1: to where you got the block or block me or
Speaker 1: I'm unfollowing and all that shit, man, we good forever.
Speaker 1: I'm cool. One of my ex best friends still follow me,
Speaker 1: but I've been unfollowed that bitch, and another one I
Speaker 1: kept blocking and unblocking so she can unfollow me. I
Speaker 1: don't even want you following me, bitch. That's so how
Speaker 1: much I don't like you.
Speaker 2: I literally blocked and unblocked a nigga in the same night.
Speaker 2: See that is like, in less than twenty four hours,
Speaker 2: I had them blocked to me and unblocked him. I
Speaker 2: blocked him because I was mad, but then after I'm
Speaker 2: mad at myself.
Speaker 1: A little bit.
Speaker 2: I was like, it's not that deep. I unblocked.
Speaker 1: See, I do things with a little bit more intention,
Speaker 1: so I if I go that far, that's it because
Speaker 1: I already know, like, Okay, we beefing right now, but
Speaker 1: I'm gonna want to talk to you later or I know,
Speaker 1: and my soul is not final, but the ministum shit
Speaker 1: fine on my soul, bitch, fuck you am unfollowing. I'm
Speaker 1: I'm still not blocking though, so I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: do that type of shit. I wanted to try to
Speaker 1: figure out some of the reasons, Like this is aside
Speaker 1: from like people we actually know, right, because I know
Speaker 1: we also have people. Do you follow anybody on social
Speaker 1: media you don't know personally or you've like become friends
Speaker 1: with them on social media.
Speaker 2: I follow a lot of bitches from the show. It's
Speaker 2: a lot of people who have like listen to the show,
Speaker 2: comment on something, and I'll follow them back and then
Speaker 2: we become friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I usually follow people back who like share our show,
Speaker 1: like if they share it on their story or on
Speaker 1: their page, like those usually the people I follow back
Speaker 1: because I really appreciate their support. But then then you
Speaker 1: just have people like I'll have random people following. I
Speaker 1: usually look at people who follow. I'll look and see
Speaker 1: and if they just look like they got life going on,
Speaker 1: I might follow back. But then I'll do a purge
Speaker 1: every so often, you know, and they might be one
Speaker 1: of the people I unfollow, just there's no rhyme or reason.
Speaker 2: Have you ever been following somebody and be like what
Speaker 2: did that start following this person? Why?
Speaker 1: And I've seen myself accidentally follow people before, like you
Speaker 1: just strolling and now like the follower is right there,
Speaker 1: so you can fuck run and hit it and not
Speaker 1: realize it, like it's on the image basically.
Speaker 2: So like the other day on my timeline, I saw
Speaker 2: this nigga who was like holding pistols and money and
Speaker 2: his pains was low and all that stuff, and I
Speaker 2: was like, how did I start following this nigga? When
Speaker 2: did that happen? You know? I follow?
Speaker 1: I think when people buy followers, I think they make accounts,
Speaker 1: real accounts follow people and you just have to realize
Speaker 1: you didn't follow that person and unfollow. I think that
Speaker 1: might be a package deal you can buy, because I
Speaker 1: swear it'd be people I have never seen them on
Speaker 1: my timeline before, just random ask who are you?
Speaker 2: I don't know, Yeah, because who is that guy? I
Speaker 2: would never follow somebody who running around with guns and
Speaker 2: money online, you know, like in person, perhaps, but not
Speaker 2: if that's your social media image. I'm not. That's not
Speaker 2: my ministry, baby.
Speaker 1: And even people I know who don't post shit like
Speaker 1: you haven't posted it in years, I'm unfollow you, like
Speaker 1: bitches I went to school with and shit like that. Like,
Speaker 1: I'm unfollow you if I'm doing like a low purge
Speaker 1: and you don't even use Instagram, Yeah, I'm unfollowing. So
Speaker 1: I do do that type of shit because I like numbers, right,
Speaker 1: so I want my number to say it's certain, Like
Speaker 1: the follow number is nine nine nine, So you might
Speaker 1: get Yeah, you might get kicked out because I want
Speaker 1: it to be nine because I like nine. It's a
Speaker 1: good number.
Speaker 2: So you only want nine hundred and ninety nine people
Speaker 2: you follow, and that's it. That's not strange.
Speaker 1: So here are some reasons that people will unfollow, okay.
Speaker 1: Number one is emotional boundaries. Unfollowing someone often serves as
Speaker 1: a way to protect your emotional wellbeing. If someone frequently
Speaker 1: posts content that causes stress, anxiety, or negative emotions, the
Speaker 1: follower may choose choose to distance themselves to maintain their
Speaker 1: own mental health. I have unfollowed accounts for that type
Speaker 1: of shit, like you just always posting negative shit. I
Speaker 1: hate a bit you always posting as somebody hating on them, Like,
Speaker 1: don't nobody even know you, girl? I'm unsorrowing you.
Speaker 2: You think that that is? I have no people like that,
Speaker 2: Like everybody is just against them, everybody is jealous of them,
Speaker 2: everybody is just girl relaxed.
Speaker 1: Yes, And I'm unfollowing you know, because I don't want
Speaker 1: it to ever get every for you to ever feel
Speaker 1: any type of way. If I don't like something, or
Speaker 1: if I don't comment on your post, or if I
Speaker 1: look at your story and not hearted, I never want
Speaker 1: you to feel a way. So let me just go
Speaker 1: ahead and unfollow, because those will be the people who
Speaker 1: think somebody just looking at them just to.
Speaker 2: Look and hat I don't like, but I'm one of
Speaker 2: those people, Like if you don't post me for my birthday,
Speaker 2: I will have a like are we good? Are we ah?
Speaker 2: Is you cool? I don't care why you ain't. No,
Speaker 2: why you ain't only if you're if you're a person
Speaker 2: who don't post a lot, But if You're posting all
Speaker 2: day every day, and you posting everybody else's birthday and
Speaker 2: you don't post mine? What's up? Is there a problem?
Speaker 1: So you would think that person is not your friend?
Speaker 2: You on one? What's up?
Speaker 4: You?
Speaker 1: Are?
Speaker 2: We cool? With everything? Cool? Because why didn't you post me?
Speaker 2: And then I definitely go to make sure I posted.
Speaker 2: I look at our messages and see if I posted
Speaker 2: you for yours? Oh but you got me fugged up?
Speaker 1: But what if she texts you that day and towards
Speaker 1: you happy birthday? So oh my god, Okay.
Speaker 2: Post me because I'm gonna text you. I'm gonna call you.
Speaker 2: And what else I'm gonna do on your birthday?
Speaker 1: Post and call and sing happy birthday.
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna sing to your motherfucking ass. The least
Speaker 2: you can do is post my picture on your page,
Speaker 2: especially if you're not on your page on your store.
Speaker 1: Right. Yeah, it's only like a quick click, you know,
Speaker 1: it's not much to do. But I'm still not mad
Speaker 1: at a bitch for now because I don't only my
Speaker 1: immediate friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like close friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I ain't.
Speaker 2: But if I posted you, you close enough, bitch? Post
Speaker 2: me bad?
Speaker 1: So the relationship over if the friend don't post your birthday.
Speaker 2: No, no, it's not over, but there's gonna be a
Speaker 2: conversation to be had very soon about it.
Speaker 1: Yo. And how would that conversation go? You would call
Speaker 1: him and say, what.
Speaker 2: Hey, girl, how you doing? You cool? Is everything cool?
Speaker 2: I think it's real funny. Dad.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, get the fuck off my phone.
Speaker 2: I've been stressed out all day and I didn't I
Speaker 2: didn't see your posts, So what's up. You don't like me,
Speaker 2: you hate me? What's going on?
Speaker 1: Yo? What about my dog died today or something? Now
Speaker 1: you're gonna feel like shit for stressing somebody else.
Speaker 2: Then I'd be like, I'm so sorry, I didn't know that.
Speaker 2: I would didn't apologize, but I mean, you can make
Speaker 2: a related post and I understand.
Speaker 1: Yo, okay. No. Social comparison is another reason why people
Speaker 1: may unfollow someone. So it says constant comparison with others
Speaker 1: lives as showcase on social media can lead to feelings
Speaker 1: of inadequacy. People may unfollow individuals who suppost constantly trigger envy, jealousy,
Speaker 1: or feelings of being less than. That's never me because
Speaker 1: when I see a motherfucker doing great, I know I
Speaker 1: can do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I will definitely mute somebody.
Speaker 1: Yo, you're fucking nuts.
Speaker 2: Yeah I will. I will not because I'm jealousy jealous.
Speaker 2: It's just because I don't want to ever be comparing myself,
Speaker 2: you know. If I start to feel like a parison part, yeah,
Speaker 2: I'll be like, look, this is gonna be counterproductive for
Speaker 2: what I got going on right now, So I'm just
Speaker 2: gonna mute you. It's not personal, it's just about me.
Speaker 2: Does that make sense for you? Because it's not like
Speaker 2: and be like, it's not like I look at this
Speaker 2: ship and be like, oh, you shouldn't have that. That
Speaker 2: should be me. That's never my energy. I'm always proud
Speaker 2: of everybody. I want them to do great, especially black women,
Speaker 2: you know. But if I start to feel like I
Speaker 2: could be comparing my situation to theirs, I will mute.
Speaker 1: I guess I never do that though. I never compare
Speaker 1: my situation to somebody else. Haters are bred through that
Speaker 1: type of shit, right because either you're gonna be inspired
Speaker 1: or you're gonna become a hater. So I'm not saying
Speaker 1: become a hater. Why you would block that person out?
Speaker 1: But my mind never thinks like that like I never
Speaker 1: I don't really do comparison mode for real. The only
Speaker 1: people I be jealous of, I'm gonna be honest, the
Speaker 1: motherfucking Wall Street Trapper, Chap, the Wall Street Trapper. As
Speaker 1: much as I love that nigga, because I love him, Okay,
Speaker 1: I cannot stand when that nigga show his motherfucker brokeras
Speaker 1: you count balance, I'd be so jealous.
Speaker 2: I don't be like Yo, I've been traded for years.
Speaker 2: Where's my m okay, but it's coming so I'm not dressed.
Speaker 2: It too bad.
Speaker 1: It gives me, but no, it motivates me. It motivates me,
Speaker 1: like I literally have on my vision board. Yeah, like
Speaker 1: four m four million dollars on my fucking brokerage account
Speaker 1: on my vision board. Like, no, mute, and look, I
Speaker 1: was jealous. The other day he was posting this girl
Speaker 1: for her birthday, saying how she was the one that
Speaker 1: got away. Excuse me?
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, so just mute people.
Speaker 1: You don't know you internet boyfriend of my mind? Are you? Well?
Speaker 2: I like her? You get your CA and will and will.
Speaker 1: But luckily, my nigga, don't listen to this show.
Speaker 2: I'm about the blackmail.
Speaker 1: Yo's gonna listen and send it to him, and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna kill whoever that is.
Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna either send me a tay tea tomorrow
Speaker 2: around twelve o'clock or I wasn't.
Speaker 1: Just extorting me for Boba. What is happening? Yeah, I'd
Speaker 1: be jealous of his broker's account, like that's the only
Speaker 1: person on social media, Like I'd be like, especially if
Speaker 1: I had a bad day in the market and I
Speaker 1: see somebody else made money, I'm like, oh my fucking god,
Speaker 1: I hate these people. Other than that, I'm cool.
Speaker 2: There's a it's a couple. I won't say their name,
Speaker 2: but I had to mute her because I'm just tired
Speaker 2: of y'all being in love. What y'all. I'm so sick
Speaker 2: of y'all that because I don't want y'all to be
Speaker 2: in love. I love, but I love love. But I'm
Speaker 2: just like, girl enough, bitch, I don't have a man.
Speaker 2: I can't take this. It's eating me up. You eating
Speaker 2: me up every day. I want to know a girl
Speaker 2: will tell me. I'll tell you after the ship telling
Speaker 2: everybody because they be like, not you hating on so
Speaker 2: and so. It's you know what, I am hating. Fuck it,
Speaker 2: it is what it is. I'm jealous, yo.
Speaker 1: You.
Speaker 2: So I had to mute her. I don't but listen,
Speaker 2: let me make this very clear. I don't want them
Speaker 2: to break up. I love the love. I just don't
Speaker 2: have it yet.
Speaker 1: People shit don't be looking like what it is.
Speaker 2: We know that too, right right right, It might not
Speaker 2: be as beautiful as it looks on social media and oftentimes,
Speaker 2: I mean, people post a highlight reel. They don't post
Speaker 2: the bullshit. You know. So, but.
Speaker 1: How about Chanelle and Duke. Who's that Chanelle like the
Speaker 1: fitness girl. I think it's like Chanelle, uh, Chanelle Dezzler
Speaker 1: something like that, and her fiance they engage now, name
Speaker 1: is Duke. I was so happy when he got engaged.
Speaker 1: I felt like it was like some people I actually knew.
Speaker 1: They're like the finest couple on Instagram. To me, the
Speaker 1: motherfuckers look good, both of them.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: Hold on, let me see make a funny havee real quick?
Speaker 1: Duke so fucking fine. He's Nigerian African dude. Hey, go
Speaker 1: right here.
Speaker 2: I don't be really caring about the fitness girlies with
Speaker 2: their boyfriend because I like to eat. Show me a
Speaker 2: fat couple, I'd be jealous of the shive me a.
Speaker 1: Fat bitch with her her man, I'm mad.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I've never seen these No, you don't know
Speaker 2: them in my life. No, but they are beautiful, you know, and.
Speaker 1: Duke fine and hell she's so fine. Like how you
Speaker 1: got a fat ass in a six pack? I'm confused.
Speaker 2: You can have that right now for the price of
Speaker 2: eight thousand dollars right care credit, But yep, can get you. So.
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's the only people I I mute because
Speaker 2: I don't block anybody on social media anymore. I just mute. Yeah,
Speaker 2: if I'm following them. Yeah, so just that one girl
Speaker 2: and her boyfriend, because damn, let me get a nigga
Speaker 2: before y'all put it in my face every fucking day.
Speaker 1: They're jealous ass girl.
Speaker 2: That's it. That's all. Oh like all like literally every
Speaker 2: guy that I've dated in the since Instagram started, that
Speaker 2: we fell out. They no, they please your that was.
Speaker 1: I didn't mean it to be it that.
Speaker 2: No, they're all none of them niggas engage. Only one
Speaker 2: of them is married. Oh no, two of them are
Speaker 2: married now from my past, but all of them outside
Speaker 2: industries being the whores they were when they were went me.
Speaker 2: But they're all blocked on social media.
Speaker 1: Damn you block all your old niggas.
Speaker 2: Not all of them, but a lot of them, because
Speaker 2: it always is in some type of betrayal that leads
Speaker 2: to me like you don't need to have access to
Speaker 2: me anymore.
Speaker 1: I only got one nigga blocked, or one.
Speaker 2: Guy I blocked because he didn't take care of his kids,
Speaker 2: stuff like that.
Speaker 1: You know, everybody should block him. You should put his
Speaker 1: Instagram name on your story. Everybody should.
Speaker 2: Right as your son lives down the street and he
Speaker 2: ain't seen you in years. When I found that out,
Speaker 2: I was like, oh hell, no blocked period.
Speaker 1: No value misalignment. It says as people grow and evolved,
Speaker 1: their values may shift. If someone's content no longer resonates
Speaker 1: or aligns with those evolving values, it's common for users
Speaker 1: to unfollow. For instance, if someone becomes more politically active
Speaker 1: or shares controversial opinions, others might feel the need to
Speaker 1: unfollow to avoid conflict, to conflict or discomfort. I agree
Speaker 1: with that. I really don't unblocking, especially like right now,
Speaker 1: like the political ship has been It's just a it's
Speaker 1: a bit much, okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it can get ugly.
Speaker 1: Disrespectful.
Speaker 2: Actually yeah, they're passionate and sometimes they get rude. You know,
Speaker 2: it gets to a place where And that's why I
Speaker 2: don't wanting to talk about y'all. AJ really wants us
Speaker 2: to have a political conversation on the show, but I
Speaker 2: just feel like this our show is so much fun
Speaker 2: and it's so happy, and I don't want her and
Speaker 2: I to you know.
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be like that, right, So you
Speaker 1: already in the wrong mindset.
Speaker 2: But it has been like that before when we talked
Speaker 2: about it, and that's why I don't want to enter
Speaker 2: it into that space and then we be back in
Speaker 2: so and then I'll be I'll follow you again, you
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, Like, I.
Speaker 1: Don't why does it have to be? You know? This
Speaker 1: is this is why also just in real life, regular life,
Speaker 1: I try to stay away from religion and politics too.
Speaker 1: Like I try to really gravitate towards people who have
Speaker 1: the same views, but I also like to still see
Speaker 1: what other people think. Like I'm not just to seeing
Speaker 1: in girl. I'm not a Fox girl. What I don't
Speaker 1: subscribe to no news station, but I like to see
Speaker 1: all the things, So I'm never going to just discard
Speaker 1: someone's opinion or their views about something in particular. We
Speaker 1: should be able to converse without it being an argument
Speaker 1: about some shit. Is what bitches call you willfully ignorant
Speaker 1: is when she gets stupid. Yeah, because you said that, Yes,
Speaker 1: you did call me willfully ignorant three years ago.
Speaker 2: I said it. It was because you said some slitch bitch.
Speaker 1: Nah, bitch because look, yes, ain't get vaccinated because of me,
Speaker 1: bitch like hive out here saving fucking lives. Bitch because
Speaker 1: ain't a motherfucker in this world regret not getting vaccinated. Okay, everybody,
Speaker 1: we're good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right about that. But we did like our
Speaker 2: when we would talk politics, that would get nasty, you know,
Speaker 2: So I just don't want to do it. I like
Speaker 2: where we are right now. I like the space that
Speaker 2: we're in. I like the way we were communicating, and
Speaker 2: I just don't want politics to ruin that.
Speaker 1: Well, that's why I wanted to bring on other people. Right,
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to necessarily be us having a conversation,
Speaker 1: but with a platform like we talk back, you know,
Speaker 1: and it's not like so we're not a comedy podcast, right,
Speaker 1: it's culture and society, Like we need to be talking
Speaker 1: about the things that's happening.
Speaker 2: I yes, we should be talking about the things that
Speaker 2: are happening. I agree, I just don't know politics should
Speaker 2: be one of them. But we can revisit that before
Speaker 2: the election.
Speaker 1: Well the election is in twenty nine days, okay.
Speaker 2: So we visit it next week and I'm gonna have
Speaker 2: the same shame.
Speaker 1: But yeah, some people. I haven't unfollowed people because of
Speaker 1: their political opinions, but if the shit is too radical,
Speaker 1: I'm really looking at you sideways because I just feel
Speaker 1: like it's just something. It be something there, right, it's
Speaker 1: just something like you.
Speaker 2: It's something I don't like when it when it gets
Speaker 2: to like as much as I enjoy sexy Red, I
Speaker 2: had to unfollow her because our Sukiana Sukihan is mine.
Speaker 2: Sometimes the content is just a little bit more than
Speaker 2: that agrees with my personal taste. Yes, so I just
Speaker 2: have to like follow, Yeah, no shade to them. I
Speaker 2: like it was like that one picture when she was
Speaker 2: like holding her coochie list like a penis. That's when
Speaker 2: I was like, all right, that is.
Speaker 1: For me enough. Yeah, Sukiyana I've always had a love
Speaker 1: hite relationship for her because I just know she's much
Speaker 1: more than what she presents. So I always battle with that,
Speaker 1: just not wanting to discard. And I mean, she don't
Speaker 1: know me, so it doesn't matter, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you got millions of followers. They don't care. You know.
Speaker 2: It's about the content that I want to consume, right,
Speaker 2: you know, it's not personal.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that ship is not for me. Like that, you'd
Speaker 1: be saying some super intelligence sound and ship the next thing,
Speaker 1: you know, she looking at that long ass tongue with
Speaker 1: her leg cock open eating, put s on a video
Speaker 1: all type of wearing shit.
Speaker 2: Yeah for Auntie, listen, I just come from a different
Speaker 2: I'm okay, I'm understanding and I'm accepting that. I just
Speaker 2: come from a time. Yeah, Trina raor girl like you know.
Speaker 3: Just still classy, whole classy ship.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, okay, Yeah, decluttering the digital space. So we
Speaker 1: kind of talked about that already, just you know, cleaning
Speaker 1: your page up, cleaning up the followers, looking for people
Speaker 1: that do not who are not social like I don't.
Speaker 2: Like those bitches and I call them bitches who will
Speaker 2: have a whole bunch of followers come follow you. You'll
Speaker 2: be like, oh, they got good content, follow you, and
Speaker 2: then you look back two days later and they've unfollowed.
Speaker 1: I think that's how a lot of people build their followers.
Speaker 2: Too, trying to build their followers and keep their numbers low. Bitch,
Speaker 2: don't come over here with that because I don't follow
Speaker 2: you back. Why are you doing that?
Speaker 1: You're whack if you do that type of shit and
Speaker 1: I and I've seen that, not just with the women,
Speaker 1: men do that shit too, like random ass nigga following.
Speaker 1: You might follow back because they content looks lit. A
Speaker 1: couple of days later, like what is happening? That's pretty whack.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's lame. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: I've had people I know do that, not like recently,
Speaker 1: but like.
Speaker 2: What follow you and then when you follow back on following?
Speaker 1: Yes, yes it is. At one point I wasn't on
Speaker 1: social media like that, so when I started getting back
Speaker 1: on that type of whack shit was happening.
Speaker 2: Have you ever had somebody try to force a follow
Speaker 2: from you? Yeah, keep ding and they'll follow you and
Speaker 2: unfollow follow my back and then unfollow you, and then
Speaker 2: so you can keep showing up at so they can
Speaker 2: keep showing up as a new follow, Like.
Speaker 1: I've never had that happen, but I've had people like
Speaker 1: putting messages in the comments like you'll follow me back?
Speaker 1: Why if I wanted to, I would? I saw you
Speaker 1: follow me? I promise I saw. I don't want to like.
Speaker 2: But when did our world become?
Speaker 1: So everybody wants to feel important? So that's what the
Speaker 1: follow thing is, right, it's about it feeds something in people.
Speaker 1: It feeds something in you to see the likes, right,
Speaker 1: it feeds something. Oh, it gives you do That's what
Speaker 1: Instagram is. It's instant grams of dopamine. That's literally what
Speaker 1: the fuck they've created. It's a drug. Because I can't disconnect.
Speaker 1: And we had a whole episode about just disconnecting from
Speaker 1: social media to digital detox. I'm still trying every day.
Speaker 1: I'm still trying to because I know I can do
Speaker 1: something more productive with those hours I spend on social media.
Speaker 1: And if it's not a straight six hours, I mean
Speaker 1: it adds up throughout the day you on and off
Speaker 1: the app.
Speaker 2: I have a problem with going on Facebook, Marketplace and
Speaker 2: offer up and I'm like, just I love it. Haggling
Speaker 2: motherfuckers like price haggling for shit I don't even want.
Speaker 2: I just like to see how far I can get
Speaker 2: people together. Bitch, I'm blocking you, like, I'm just like
Speaker 2: the negotiator, Like I will send them like they don't
Speaker 2: have a price for something, and I'll send them where
Speaker 2: it's a similar price marked down online for their shit,
Speaker 2: Like I can get a new one of what you're
Speaker 2: selling for. I just need to tell, right, yeah, for
Speaker 2: five dollars more than what you're trying to sell it for.
Speaker 2: So are you willing to accept this price that I've
Speaker 2: offered you? Like, I really be going back?
Speaker 1: What's the last thing you off of Facebook Marketplace?
Speaker 2: I just I just actually bought a salon sink okay
Speaker 2: off of Facebook mark and listen. It was so lit
Speaker 2: because I got a sink, uh, two dryers because they're
Speaker 2: refurbishing their salon, this Salona downtown Charlotte and I and
Speaker 2: since I'm moving from place to place, I just needed
Speaker 2: some new stuff and they gave me all this ship.
Speaker 2: So what I'm gonna do? I mean, they gave me
Speaker 2: a bunch of shit.
Speaker 1: You want to resell it? No?
Speaker 2: Period?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because they probably didn't feel, like, you know, having
Speaker 1: to deal with the things. And that's what I was
Speaker 1: talking about last week, like with my storage unit, Like
Speaker 1: I wanted to sell that stuff, but I didn't really
Speaker 1: have the time. So mm hm. Reducing social pressure. Sometimes
Speaker 1: social media connections connections feel like obligations, especially with acquaintances
Speaker 1: or distant relatives. Unfollowing can reduce the pressure to engage
Speaker 1: with people one might not have a close relationship with,
Speaker 1: creating more space for authentic interactions. Not y'all unfollowing family,
Speaker 1: because y'all all want to deal with them, and you
Speaker 1: got to be careful who you engage with. So even though,
Speaker 1: like you know, engaging with listeners because that's something I
Speaker 1: like to do, you just got to be careful because
Speaker 1: some people just they automatically just think y'all like for
Speaker 1: real besties mm hmm. You know, and some some people
Speaker 1: be cool.
Speaker 2: But then others they just start a lot of people
Speaker 2: are you know, actually really cool. But then some people
Speaker 2: be really thinking, like I don't know you.
Speaker 1: They can pull up in your city, like I had
Speaker 1: a Nigga message be like, now, maybe I just didn't say,
Speaker 1: but I don't live in Charlotte, right, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe they never heard that. But this nigga driving trucks
Speaker 1: is like I'm coming through. Excuse me, I don't even
Speaker 1: live there. You don't know my life. You don't really
Speaker 1: know my life. Dog, and my nigga is a killer. Okay,
Speaker 1: I only fuck with killers. I'm not about to risk
Speaker 1: my life or yours, sir, right legs the hell it's happened? Yeah,
Speaker 1: self esteem and empowerments. For some, unfollowing is an empowering act,
Speaker 1: so you power tripping. H It represents taking control of
Speaker 1: one's digital environment and reinforcing personal boundaries. This is particularly
Speaker 1: true in toxic relationships or after a breakup, where unfollowing
Speaker 1: may signal a need to move on and regain emotional independence.
Speaker 2: So that's when it's a prop Yeah, I've done that. Like,
Speaker 2: you don't need access to me in any way anymore
Speaker 2: after this is done. And like if we ended amicably,
Speaker 2: then okay, we can still have a followup. It's not
Speaker 2: a problem. But if it was toxic and you did
Speaker 2: some shit that really broke me, you have no accent
Speaker 2: except for cash.
Speaker 1: Apps, still a stepping those zails.
Speaker 2: You can't even can you block people on cash app? Yeah?
Speaker 1: You can?
Speaker 2: You can't walk never Why would I do suggest that
Speaker 2: it's a dumb feature.
Speaker 1: It's a broke ass future feature. Over exposure to content,
Speaker 1: people may unfollow when the content becomes repetitive or overbearing. Overposting,
Speaker 1: especially on topics like fitness, politics, or personal achievements, can
Speaker 1: lead to content fatigue, where followers lose interest or become annoyed.
Speaker 1: So at one point, I was following a lot of
Speaker 1: different fitness pages. But what I've started doing is just
Speaker 1: saving a post from that person's page instead of following.
Speaker 1: So now if I want to go to they page,
Speaker 1: I can just go to my save shit and go
Speaker 1: to their page, because I might. I don't want to
Speaker 1: see that every day all day, if that is the
Speaker 1: main thing that person does on social media. I don't
Speaker 1: really want twenty fitness bitches on my timeline.
Speaker 2: I don't. I love the fitness bitches on my timeline.
Speaker 1: I got the the ones I like, and then I
Speaker 1: see other people like who may have like a low
Speaker 1: routine I want to try or something like that I
Speaker 1: wouldn't necessarily follow. I'll just save it second, go back
Speaker 1: and visit it.
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah that makes sense.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I have like my bitches like Chanelle. I
Speaker 1: love watch that bitch.
Speaker 2: Okay, we gotta stop calling women bitches so much.
Speaker 1: Oh like that girl, Chanel. I love to see that bitch. Ye,
Speaker 1: she's so fine. Cognitive dissonance when someone posts content that
Speaker 1: goes against the followers believes values or lifestyle, it can
Speaker 1: create this comfort. Unfollowing can resolve this dissonance by eliminating
Speaker 1: the exposure to these conflicting ideas. I like learning new
Speaker 1: shit rather I agree with it or not, So when
Speaker 1: I see something, I'll go look it up. I'll never
Speaker 1: have cognitive dissonance like I be wanting to know shityeh
Speaker 1: me too.
Speaker 2: I'm open to the opinions of others, you know where
Speaker 2: you know, I'm not one of those people who typically
Speaker 2: get mad at someone else's opinion as long as they're
Speaker 2: not condescending to mine, you know.
Speaker 1: Right, You know, I just realized I did recently unfollow
Speaker 1: somebody that I haven't following for a long time. And
Speaker 1: I don't really know why. I just felt like and
Speaker 1: it could be a thing where I just outgrew their content.
Speaker 1: Really and it's like mm, because this next one says,
Speaker 1: did I skip it? Is that cognitive dissonance over exposure
Speaker 1: to content like okay, it's enough. I'll check you out
Speaker 1: some other time, and I probably I've been following that
Speaker 1: person for a long time. This next next one says uh,
Speaker 1: fomo fear of missing out reversal. It actually says fomo reversal.
Speaker 1: Initial Social media amplifies fomo. You know what that is?
Speaker 1: Fair of missing out? Yeah, by keeping people connected to
Speaker 1: a wide array of experiences. But over time, some users
Speaker 1: find that constantly seeing that others, seeing what others are
Speaker 1: doing triggers FOMO too often leading them to unfollow people
Speaker 1: who post it exacerbate that feeling. Who's post exacerbates that feeling.
Speaker 1: In many cases, the act of unasturbate bit and step
Speaker 1: let me get sorry, friend girl. In many cases, the
Speaker 1: act of unfalling is a subtle, silent action to maintain
Speaker 1: one's mental health, social standing, or personal preferences, with deeper
Speaker 1: psychological motivations lurking behind the seemingly simple act. So that
Speaker 1: friend who feel like y'all will never invite her out nowhere,
Speaker 1: she might unfollow all y'all ass, I don't want to
Speaker 1: see these bitches outside.
Speaker 2: Every time, and I ain't get to invite. But here's
Speaker 2: the thing, don't be the bitch because I am. I have.
Speaker 2: Don't be the girl who never says yes to an
Speaker 2: invite and then get mad when the invites stopped coming.
Speaker 2: I have definitely been that girl. Don't never say yes.
Speaker 2: I always staying in like, oh no, I don't want
Speaker 2: to tell that I'm tired. I'm tired. And then when
Speaker 2: they don't invite you, you gotta show up, right, you
Speaker 2: gotta show up.
Speaker 1: My problem is I just need a week in advanced notice, Like,
Speaker 1: don't be telling me bout some shit two days before,
Speaker 1: because I have to mentally prepare to leave my house.
Speaker 1: I be comfortable, Like so now I got to put
Speaker 1: clothes on it and do my hair and like put
Speaker 1: a little eyeliner on it to go outside. I don't
Speaker 1: feel like it all the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, if you tell me a day before you didn't
Speaker 2: want me to come, that's how I feel, right. Sit,
Speaker 2: you tell me the week of, Like I need to
Speaker 2: know the week before, so at least by the friday
Speaker 2: of the week before, what you need me to do
Speaker 2: the following friday?
Speaker 1: The seven days? Notice, this is what I need. Don't
Speaker 1: get me no a couple of days. Notice my homegirl,
Speaker 1: she know better, she'd be like I'm telling you now
Speaker 1: put layer clothes out today because I really got to
Speaker 1: get people not prepared, mentally prepared, because I will cancel. Bitch.
Speaker 1: Oh I love a bitch to cancel. I love if
Speaker 1: somebody say, oh, I'm going again, Thank God.
Speaker 2: That's me. I'm a kid. I'm like, I'll be. I
Speaker 2: can be hyped about something and then on the day
Speaker 2: of it's like, there is a new show that dropped
Speaker 2: on Netflix today that looks very good. I can just
Speaker 2: roll a joint and watch this and just be content.
Speaker 1: So those were I think those were Those were things
Speaker 1: like more so for like people we don't know, so
Speaker 1: what happens like with the friends unfollowing and shit like that.
Speaker 1: So this one says. Unfollowing friends on social media adds
Speaker 1: a layer of complexity because the decision might have personal, social,
Speaker 1: and emotional consequences. While unfollowing strangers or acquaintances can feel
Speaker 1: relatively straightforward, unfollowing a close friend can lead to feelings
Speaker 1: of guilt, anxiety, or even damage to the friendship. Here
Speaker 1: are the psychological factors behind unfollowing real life friends, so
Speaker 1: managing emotional triggers. So friends might post content that despite
Speaker 1: the close relationship triggers negative emotions, such as jealousy and
Speaker 1: security or frustration. That's your friend is that you can
Speaker 1: be Even though there's a bond outside of social media,
Speaker 1: their online presence may create emotional stress. For example, seeing
Speaker 1: friends on lavish vacations, celebrating milestones or flaunting success could
Speaker 1: lead to feelings of an adequacy or social comparison, making
Speaker 1: unfollowing a way to protect emotional well being. Again, I'm
Speaker 1: not unfollowing my friend because they're doing well.
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, that sounds weird to me. To unfollow your
Speaker 2: friend because they're doing well is because you need to
Speaker 2: do something.
Speaker 1: And here's the part. Here's the part that irks my
Speaker 1: nerves even thinking about realizing a close friend unfollows you.
Speaker 1: You ask them why they did it. How do they
Speaker 1: even explain that? I can only imagine a bit trying
Speaker 1: to make you the problem, which points to them not
Speaker 1: really being your friend, because explain to me why you
Speaker 1: one follows me? Because an adult, they're not going to
Speaker 1: be able to say that. They're not going to be
Speaker 1: able to say because you be on trips and shit
Speaker 1: and I ain't going on trips like they will create
Speaker 1: another reason in their minds that justify like how they're
Speaker 1: feeling other than it just being like a projection.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't see myself like saying like, hey, you know,
Speaker 2: it's not because we're not friends. I'm just not in
Speaker 2: a good space and seeing you so happy makes it
Speaker 2: harder for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what it sounds like. And so as the
Speaker 1: the friend who's having this lit social life, how do
Speaker 1: you take that? Right, because it's a thin line between
Speaker 1: love and heat.
Speaker 2: I don't know how how I could accept that, Like,
Speaker 2: I don't know what to do with that information, Like,
Speaker 2: so are we still friends, right? Because I'm not gonna
Speaker 2: not be happy to make you happy.
Speaker 1: Right, So either mute or unfollow. So even muting your
Speaker 1: friend is just weird to me.
Speaker 2: But I mean I've had friends, I mean we all
Speaker 2: go through highs and lows, right, I've had friends that
Speaker 2: when some good things were happening for me, they didn't
Speaker 2: have the excitement that I thought they would for me.
Speaker 2: But I didn't take it personal because I knew what
Speaker 2: was going on in their own life, right, And it's
Speaker 2: hard sometimes to be happy for someone when your shit
Speaker 2: fucked up, you know, as happy as you would like
Speaker 2: to be, I don't know, and I wouldn't take it personal.
Speaker 2: I didn't take it personal.
Speaker 1: You sure, bitch, you sure you ain't take it personal.
Speaker 2: No, I didn't take it personal. I mean I saw
Speaker 2: it it did you know? It didn't feel good because
Speaker 2: I want the people I love most to be like
Speaker 2: celebrate my wins, you know. But I had to like
Speaker 2: take a step back and look like, well, she got
Speaker 2: this going on, and this going on, and this's going
Speaker 2: on right now. I can't expect her to be outside
Speaker 2: doing cartwheels for me right now, right, you know.
Speaker 1: But see that's where like doing cartwheels, that's how you
Speaker 1: receive your blessings, right, doing cartwheels when somebody else is
Speaker 1: doing well, Well, give you like that if you need
Speaker 1: to push forward to me.
Speaker 2: For me, Yeah, but only if the cartwheels are real.
Speaker 2: If you faking them, then you just gonna probably feel worse.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Like I wouldn't be faking the cartwheels.
Speaker 1: They would be genuine cart wheels because my people's is winning,
Speaker 1: so I'm next in line, would be my thought process.
Speaker 1: It would never be like I'm going to be in
Speaker 1: this downstate.
Speaker 2: Right. Everybody don't think like that, you know, when when
Speaker 2: they're in the thick of their valley, it's hard. Sometimes
Speaker 2: it's hard to see this sun. Like, so I get
Speaker 2: people grace with that, because some people like this totally
Speaker 2: would totally discard a person for not she haters, she ain't.
Speaker 1: Show up, she don't like my posts. That's another one.
Speaker 1: People be like, you don't like my posts, like maybe
Speaker 1: I didn't even see it. Maybe it didn't even come
Speaker 1: on my time. Your ship hardy comes up on my
Speaker 1: timeline right or even like you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: like at the top, like story stuff, your thing don't
Speaker 1: be first. Yeah, so sometimes you miss people's things.
Speaker 2: I rarely see yours, and I just assume that you
Speaker 2: don't be posting.
Speaker 1: I posted my story every day almost some days I like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't even see it, but it won't be like
Speaker 1: a whole I used to post a lot of shit
Speaker 1: on my story. It's not as much as it used
Speaker 1: to be, but yeah, I post something something.
Speaker 2: On it in each other the algorithm. Maybe because I
Speaker 2: don't follow you this.
Speaker 1: Exactly, bitch. We fell out. We fell out real life
Speaker 1: and on the internet.
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 1: Protecting friendships, Sometimes people unfollow real life friends to preserve
Speaker 1: the friendship that ain't what happened to. If a friend
Speaker 1: constantly posts advice of annoying or controversial content that may
Speaker 1: lead to conflicts or resentment, unfalling conserve as a way
Speaker 1: to maintain harmony. By creating distance online, a person avoids
Speaker 1: unnecessary tension, ensuring that in person relationship isn't negatively affected.
Speaker 1: That's weird. Like, I'm following on social media and I'm
Speaker 1: gonna still go out to lunch with you. No, Like,
Speaker 1: as much as people like don't want to admit it,
Speaker 1: this is our lives now. Social media is a part
Speaker 1: of our life.
Speaker 2: Well, I know couples that don't follow each other on
Speaker 2: social media for that same reason, though.
Speaker 1: I think that's different though couples versus like friendships. No,
Speaker 1: it's not, I think, girl, I'm not sucking your dead girl.
Speaker 2: I don't have no dig to un I don't want
Speaker 2: you to see what other negative I might be talking
Speaker 2: to on Instagram. I have a friend on social media
Speaker 2: who is one of my real friends. He's a guy,
Speaker 2: but his the stuff that he sends me pisses me
Speaker 2: the fuck off, Like, and I have to say, don't
Speaker 2: send me.
Speaker 1: Are we the same? Is it the same? Friend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Okay, the content he sends me and it just
Speaker 2: irks me, it gives me an it. I don't like it,
Speaker 2: but I love him, so I have to tell him
Speaker 2: I haven't unfollowed him.
Speaker 1: But even if you unfollow, he'll stow you send you
Speaker 1: those things. You'd have to block him to not receive
Speaker 1: those things, and he'll probably take them to you at
Speaker 1: that point. Right, if that nigga is a nut job,
Speaker 1: shout out to that nigga.
Speaker 2: Hell love him to death. But the content he shares
Speaker 2: does get on my fucking up, So I understand what
Speaker 2: they're saying. Like, to create healthy boundaries in the friendship,
Speaker 2: sometimes you gotta do it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not gonna go through all of these, but
Speaker 1: I do want to hit this one. This last one.
Speaker 1: Different social media personalities. This is weird to me. It
Speaker 1: says many people behave differently on social media than they
Speaker 1: do in real life. A friend may post in a
Speaker 1: way that feels inauthentic, excessive, or self centered, which could
Speaker 1: clash with how they act face to face. Unfallen can
Speaker 1: be a way of acknowledging that the online version of
Speaker 1: a friend isn't someone you enjoy engaging. Engaging with even
Speaker 1: though the in person version is someone you care about. See,
Speaker 1: I'm the same person like online the in real life
Speaker 1: me too.
Speaker 2: You get what you get. But I know people like that, well.
Speaker 1: Yes, like who the fuck are you? Like, I didn't
Speaker 1: realize you had mental health issues and so on social media?
Speaker 2: Right, but you know what people deal everybody dealing with something.
Speaker 2: That's the thing. I know somebody likes so judging of
Speaker 2: people on social media and just be running people down
Speaker 2: and tearing it like they just.
Speaker 1: Meaning, somebody just sent me that person's screenshot, a screenshot
Speaker 1: from that person's page and was like, look at your friend,
Speaker 1: like that isn't not my fucking friend. Know exactly who
Speaker 1: you're talking about.
Speaker 2: But in person, they'll give you the shirt off their back,
Speaker 2: you know, like they're that person is just like a
Speaker 2: doctor Jeko mister Hyde thing, and.
Speaker 1: That needs to be studied because so is that like
Speaker 1: really people already in the matrix like there being someone
Speaker 1: else like that's their surrogate online that strangers get to meet. Meanwhile,
Speaker 1: they just somebody totally different in person.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I've seen it more than once. Then I also
Speaker 2: know another girl who like her house is so filthy, right,
Speaker 2: But she got a clean spot in there, and that's
Speaker 2: what shit brouh cleaning shit up bruh yo. You would
Speaker 2: never know.
Speaker 1: So you really consciously choosing to be nasty, because if
Speaker 1: your internet life is cleaner than your real life, that
Speaker 1: is wild.
Speaker 2: You just find a clean spot in post.
Speaker 1: Because I'm a bit you'd be studying the background, like, oh,
Speaker 1: I see that, Like why your cabinet a toilet back there?
Speaker 1: Let a niggaposted a selfie in a bathroom. Who pink toothbrush?
Speaker 1: Is that nigga? That toothbrush look old too? You don't
Speaker 1: supposed to change that shit every two three months, Like
Speaker 1: bristles are chewed up, so good shame. So I don't know.
Speaker 1: People are weird. We're living in a were living in
Speaker 1: real weird times. And I guess whatever you think you
Speaker 1: need to do to cater to your your best mental health.
Speaker 1: But I think some of these things are actually mental
Speaker 1: health issues, you know what I'm saying, Like like some
Speaker 1: of the projection, like you feel in a way about
Speaker 1: somebody they don't even know, right, they don't even know,
Speaker 1: So unfollowing them isn't remedying the problem that you actually have.
Speaker 1: Your problem is comparison, right, how do you get out
Speaker 1: of that state.
Speaker 2: When you Yeah, I'm gonna do it, though, I will
Speaker 2: mute you if I feel like even a twinge of
Speaker 2: some jealousy or hate trying to like exist in my spirit,
Speaker 2: I will mute because I don't want that for me,
Speaker 2: and I don't want that for you.
Speaker 1: You know, so a lot of but that's what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: like people have to explore and I'm not. Maybe I
Speaker 1: don't know it's hate a natural because it's not nat.
Speaker 2: Jealousy and hate, yeah, but they are natural emotions. They
Speaker 2: are normal emotions. You know, it happens, you know, it does,
Speaker 2: and that's so the thing you cannot envy. I think
Speaker 2: sometimes envy has a dark something behind it, Yeah, because
Speaker 2: when you I think, when you envy somebody, it's like
Speaker 2: why do they have this? They shouldn't have it and
Speaker 2: I should, you know. But if you're jealous, I think
Speaker 2: that's natural, Like you can be jealous or something because
Speaker 2: you it's something that you want also for your life
Speaker 2: and this person has it, you know, and not saying
Speaker 2: that they shouldn't have it too. H It's I don't know,
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: Mean it's too close like it's too close for me.
Speaker 1: So I just I feel good when people are doing good.
Speaker 1: And I also know this is social media. You don't
Speaker 1: know what the fuck is going on that person's real life,
Speaker 1: you see. Yeah, so I'm gonna be You've You've conjured
Speaker 1: up these feelings and emotions about some ship that's probably
Speaker 1: not even real.
Speaker 2: They're probably jealous.
Speaker 1: I just told you who I'm jealous of. I hate
Speaker 1: to see a nigga brokerage account balance because that is
Speaker 1: something I'm very out. Other than that, I don't care.
Speaker 2: I was just jealous of one of my friends. But
Speaker 2: I told her to her face, I'm jealous. I want to.
Speaker 3: I don't want no burking and not they don't look nice.
Speaker 1: It's a social a status of a particular like social status, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like bitch, ain't got your whole month ring, your.
Speaker 1: Whole month ring? No, no that we'th thirty five forty
Speaker 1: thousand dollars, bitch my rent.
Speaker 2: Your whole thousand, I mean your whole salary for the
Speaker 2: year on my ring?
Speaker 1: Is it a real burking?
Speaker 3: Though?
Speaker 2: It is jealous? I don't know to this day, if
Speaker 2: you're listening, bitch to this day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not real materialistic like that. So like the
Speaker 1: burking way make me feel no type of way. Now
Speaker 1: I've seen a bitch hopping on planes and traveling every
Speaker 1: which you weigh like that, I'd be like, damn, man,
Speaker 1: I gotta get my stamps up up you know.
Speaker 2: Oh no, I love that.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I want to see the world and ship like that.
Speaker 1: I want to hop on uh you know, I don't
Speaker 1: been on plenty yachts. I want to get on some
Speaker 1: more or just more frequent. I want to do things
Speaker 1: more frequently. Yes, but I also know bitches be going
Speaker 1: to the airport just to take pictures on those planes
Speaker 1: on a private plane, not really ever taking out.
Speaker 2: I want real I want real life ship.
Speaker 1: I don't want to And a lot of people spend
Speaker 1: a lot of money to look like things on social media.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, they say.
Speaker 2: I have a one of my clients has a plane
Speaker 2: and she makes a lot of money just renting it
Speaker 2: for pictures.
Speaker 1: That's weird, Like that's really faking it until you make it.
Speaker 1: I don't want to do that.
Speaker 2: I'm my pictures would look so sad, like why are
Speaker 2: you crying?
Speaker 1: Because I.
Speaker 2: Don't know.
Speaker 1: But that's what we had in that man you got
Speaker 1: to get you got to get your social up when
Speaker 1: elsee guy, Yeah yeah, you you sent me two other
Speaker 1: damn things. You ain't talk about none of them things.
Speaker 2: Oh we already had an hour and we did thirty
Speaker 2: minutes of seeing.
Speaker 1: All right, anyway, block that bitch if you need to,
Speaker 1: excuse me, block that woman if you need to. This
Speaker 1: is my last last. Block whoever you need to unfollow
Speaker 1: who you need to, but make sure it is not projection.
Speaker 1: I don't know how you want to check that, but
Speaker 1: make sure you're not doing it from a place.
Speaker 2: Of like alice.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I agree, Yeah, because then that you need
Speaker 1: you're not going to remedy the issue by unfollowing this person.
Speaker 1: They're actually not the problem.
Speaker 2: So yeah, my last last don't have nothing to do
Speaker 2: with the topic. It's just gonna be just be good
Speaker 2: and kind to each other and kind to yourself. Boom,
Speaker 2: that's it.
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