WEBVTT - Don't Look Now 0:00:09.320 --> 0:00:12.520 And we're back with another episode of separation Anxiety. I'm 0:00:12.560 --> 0:00:14.120 your host, Marcus Jordan. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:15.160 And I'm Larsa Pippen. 0:00:15.040 --> 0:00:18.280 And today we're talking about a bunch of things, but overall, 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:18.800 how you feeling. 0:00:19.160 --> 0:00:21.400 I feel great. I feel like this last couple of 0:00:21.480 --> 0:00:24.880 days has been so much fun. I feel like, you know, 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:26.000 we're living our best lives. 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:28.560 Yeah, it's obviously it was your birthday. Now that it's 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:30.400 all over, how you're feeling about it? You you had 0:00:30.400 --> 0:00:30.880 a good time. 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:32.320 I had the best time. 0:00:32.640 --> 0:00:33.280 Yeah. 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:37.760 I posted the card that you gave me with the flowers. Yeah, 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:39.360 And I feel like a lot of the tabloids picked 0:00:39.360 --> 0:00:39.640 that up. 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:42.080 I haven't. I feel like, you know, it's been such 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:44.599 a blur lately. I haven't seen it yet. So what 0:00:44.600 --> 0:00:45.120 do they say? 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:47.600 Nothing? Do you remember what you put on a card? 0:00:47.640 --> 0:00:49.320 They were like, oh, he called her his wife? 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:51.440 Yeah I did, I do. I mean, I tried to 0:00:51.479 --> 0:00:53.720 make it a card from all of us, you know, 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:57.520 myself and your children, just because you know obviously they're 0:00:57.560 --> 0:01:01.760 thinking to you. But yeah, I said to the greatest 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:06.160 mom and the best wife, Happy birthday from Marcus and Sophia, 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:09.440 Justin Preston and Scottie Jr. 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:13.360 And so, yeah, I mean, Coode, that was so cute. 0:01:13.440 --> 0:01:15.440 You know, you're really thoughtful. You're like a card person. 0:01:16.200 --> 0:01:18.640 I like to give multiple cards. You know. It's an 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:21.360 acquired thing that I learned throughout my life. 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:22.000 Who taught you that? 0:01:23.000 --> 0:01:25.840 I don't think anybody necessarily taught me that, but it's 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:29.280 just my way, you know. I like to flood and 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:32.000 shower people with love and gifts and praise. 0:01:32.160 --> 0:01:34.360 You know, that's okay. I love that for me. I 0:01:34.400 --> 0:01:35.000 love that for me. 0:01:37.600 --> 0:01:40.520 Yeah, you know, I feel like you are very thoughtful 0:01:40.560 --> 0:01:42.480 and you give great cards. I don't know, I feel like, 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:46.800 you know, cards are like an essential thing to hold 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:48.960 on too, and it says like where you are in 0:01:49.240 --> 0:01:51.800 a relationship, So you know, I don't know. I feel 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:52.640 like I try to. 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.480 Keep the cards, but I also take a photo of 0:01:55.120 --> 0:01:55.640 keep a photo. 0:01:55.880 --> 0:01:58.120 Yeah, I feel like a photo less better. 0:01:58.720 --> 0:01:59.080 Yeah. 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:01.520 I'm terrible with my cards obviously when I read them, 0:02:01.720 --> 0:02:04.040 you know, I read them and kind of take whatever 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.240 I take from them, and most of than that they 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:09.000 end up in a drawer or a book bag or 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:11.760 something like. Yeah, I never really go back to them, 0:02:11.880 --> 0:02:13.240 dependent on depending on who they're. 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:14.440 From you better keep all my cards. 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:16.200 I keep all your cards, but like you know, you 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:19.400 really you rarely go back to like, yeah, that's. 0:02:19.639 --> 0:02:21.400 Kind of why it's good to just take a photo 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:22.280 of it and then you have it. 0:02:22.520 --> 0:02:27.000 Yeah for sure, Yeah for sure. So let's jump into it. Marcus, 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:30.160 how would you describe being raised in the NBA. You know, 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:33.640 I cherished my upbringing around the NBA. I feel like, 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.600 you know, there's we talked about this previously on the 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:38.919 podcast that I feel like there's a lot of great 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:43.160 habits and traits that are instilled in you being around 0:02:43.160 --> 0:02:47.360 the NBA and playing basketball coming up, and so you know, 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:48.959 I wouldn't trade it for the world. I think there's 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:50.960 a lot of you know, fond memories that I have 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:54.040 as a kid going to the games. 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.799 But your dad didn't just play basketball. I feel like 0:02:56.840 --> 0:02:58.720 you've been around the game now too, because your dad 0:02:59.000 --> 0:02:59.720 still has a team. 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:01.880 Yeah, I mean for right now. There's no telling how 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:04.040 long that's going to be. I think they're working on 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:08.640 a sale. But yeah, I think, you know, it teaches 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:12.600 you good, have its good you know foundation. I feel like, 0:03:12.880 --> 0:03:15.160 but you know, there's some challenges too. You know, my 0:03:15.280 --> 0:03:18.080 dad wasn't there all the time in terms of like 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:20.560 for every basketball game that I had. Obviously he had 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:23.440 his own schedule. So but he did a good job 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:25.720 of like supporting me while I was on the road, 0:03:25.919 --> 0:03:27.959 or you know, making sure he came to as many 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.120 games as he's as he could. So did you miss 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.720 your dad when he was away playing NBA games? You know? 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:34.800 I think I was so young that I was doing 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:36.560 my own thing, you know what I'm saying, Like I 0:03:36.600 --> 0:03:38.560 was trying to make a kid, I was being a kid. 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:40.320 I was trying to hoop. I was just trying to 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:42.520 like hang out with my friends, and so he was 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:45.160 there as much as he could be. And obviously whenever 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:47.520 he was home, he you know, we always hung out 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:49.240 with him and stuff, and so I don't know, I 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:50.720 just I feel like I was doing my own thing 0:03:50.760 --> 0:03:53.600 and you know, trying to hoop, and I never really 0:03:54.080 --> 0:03:57.120 even noticed how frequently he was on the road, you know. 0:03:57.600 --> 0:04:00.240 Yeah, I think that like when you're when you're used 0:04:00.240 --> 0:04:02.480 to your dad being away, could be any profession, you 0:04:02.640 --> 0:04:04.160 just get used to that, you know, and you're used 0:04:04.160 --> 0:04:05.880 to your mom r the day to day. Yeah, You're 0:04:05.920 --> 0:04:07.320 used to your mom running the day to day because 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:08.720 I feel like my kids were used to that too, 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:11.360 And my kids were used to like living in multiple states, 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:14.920 going to different schools, and like there's like, you know, 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:17.640 it builds character for kids, I think when you're used 0:04:17.640 --> 0:04:20.200 to like picking up and moving or like you know, 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:21.760 we're going to go and we're gonna move Deli for 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:22.200 two years. 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:24.799 We never really moved that often. I was in Chicago 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:27.440 for all of my you know, childhood, but I think, 0:04:27.600 --> 0:04:30.400 you know, my mom being from Chicago and all of 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.279 my cousins and you know, on her side of the 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.680 family being in Chicago, like, we were hanging out with 0:04:35.720 --> 0:04:38.040 my mom's side of the family all the time, every weekend, 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:41.200 and so I think that was another thing that like 0:04:41.600 --> 0:04:44.000 I cherished in my upbringing, was just how close I 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:45.719 was with my mom's side of family. And now I 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:47.440 think that we're older, you know, my dad's side of 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:50.200 the family was in North Carolina, and so now that 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:52.560 we're all getting older, we make sure to you know, 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:54.560 reach out and hang out with my dad's side of 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:57.839 the family too. But just naturally, because my mom is 0:04:57.960 --> 0:04:59.840 based in Chicago and we were in Chicago, we spent 0:04:59.880 --> 0:05:01.240 more time with them growing up, you know. 0:05:01.240 --> 0:05:03.680 So you have like a million first, yeah, I do. 0:05:03.760 --> 0:05:03.960 I have. 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:05.719 We've got a big family, you know, we've got a 0:05:05.720 --> 0:05:08.000 big family, and uh, you know, I love all of them. 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:10.839 I think it's a it's a it's a nice bunch 0:05:10.880 --> 0:05:12.720 in cast of characters, that's for sure. 0:05:13.040 --> 0:05:14.920 Totally, totally for sure. 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:16.440 And did I feel like I had to be the 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:18.279 man of the house at a young age, you know, 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:21.960 not necessarily for me, just because I grew up in 0:05:22.400 --> 0:05:24.680 I think the definition of having a silver spoon, you 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:27.000 know what I'm saying, Like my mom and you know, 0:05:27.120 --> 0:05:29.680 our support system was there from day one, so I 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:32.479 never really had to think about leading the house or 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:36.400 being taken charge. But you know, there were chores and 0:05:36.560 --> 0:05:37.880 tasks and things that like. 0:05:40.720 --> 0:05:43.280 You do because you still don't really pick up after something. 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:47.240 My parents were very picky about working hard to earn 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:51.240 what you want, you know, in terms of like so 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:52.400 like getting good grades. 0:05:52.600 --> 0:05:55.480 You got you know, I can't even remember get rewarded. 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:57.560 You get rewarded a hundred bucks for an A or 0:05:57.600 --> 0:06:00.919 something like that, and you get rewarded were working hard 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:04.000 and so you know, whether it was getting in grades 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.320 or I can't remember any of the chores that I 0:06:06.360 --> 0:06:08.440 had but you know, there was things my mom had 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:11.640 us doing, taking out the trash and things like that. 0:06:11.839 --> 0:06:14.839 But now I never felt like I had to be 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:16.960 the man and the Obviously, my brother is two years 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:19.440 older than me, so he kind of had to suffer 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:22.040 through the brunt of being first and going through everything, 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:25.120 and so I got to reap the benefits of watching 0:06:25.200 --> 0:06:28.280 him and learning from his mistakes. I guess that's so 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:30.520 cute and so Larsa. How would you describe raising kids 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:31.360 in the NBA? 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:33.760 I loved it. Yeah, you know, I feel like I 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:36.040 was good at I can't handle my kids with or 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:36.760 without my ax. 0:06:36.960 --> 0:06:38.800 Yeah. And I feel like you were you know, you 0:06:38.839 --> 0:06:41.159 were talking about it or alluding to it, but you 0:06:41.279 --> 0:06:44.040 lived in different states. He obviously played for different teams, 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.560 So how was that like? Picking up and moving? Did 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:48.120 you move your entire family when. 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:50.119 He would, yeah, get traded or whatever. 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:51.920 Yeah, I feel like I'm really good at that. Yeah, 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:53.760 I'll be like by the way, we're packing up, And 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:55.880 that's why I don't like, I don't worry about the 0:06:55.920 --> 0:06:58.080 small things because I feel like, since I was twenty 0:06:58.080 --> 0:07:00.839 one years old, I was so used to like, we're moving, Okay, 0:07:00.880 --> 0:07:02.520 So now I have to fly here and find a house, 0:07:02.600 --> 0:07:05.000 and I have to buy furniture, and I have to 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.680 Like I was always like really hands on. I was 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:10.160 always able to like move cross country and like set 0:07:10.240 --> 0:07:12.360 up and find my kids' schools and doctors and all 0:07:12.400 --> 0:07:14.800 that stuff. And that was all like my responsibility. That's 0:07:14.840 --> 0:07:17.760 what I did as a mom. You know, it's definitely challenging, 0:07:17.840 --> 0:07:21.400 but like I said, it builds character. Challenges are good sometimes, Yeah. 0:07:21.320 --> 0:07:22.920 Did you have to be the mom and the dad? 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:24.880 Sometimes you feel like all the time, like I would 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:27.360 find my kids AAU teams and I would find all 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:29.760 that stuff. Yeah, I feel like the NBA is you know, 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:31.520 it's a seven day a week job. 0:07:31.680 --> 0:07:32.760 It's not, it really is. 0:07:33.000 --> 0:07:35.520 You're traveling, you're exhausted, you come back home. You need, 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:37.040 you know, to rehab. 0:07:37.120 --> 0:07:38.800 I feel like it's a tight knit community though. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:40.080 I feel definitely a family. 0:07:40.200 --> 0:07:43.360 You know, you know, if most people know each other, 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:45.320 you know to a degree, or you. 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:47.760 Know, yeah, when you're moving across you know, if you're 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:50.240 moving to a different team, there's so many people that 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:52.000 are there for you, and they like welcome you and 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:54.560 are there for you and help you like get acclimated 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:56.320 in the city and help you in just every way. 0:07:56.680 --> 0:08:00.120 Do you feel like it's different the NBA community a 0:08:00.200 --> 0:08:03.440 day versus like in the late nineties early two thousands. 0:08:04.280 --> 0:08:06.320 I don't know, because little Scotty is doing it now 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:08.240 and I feel like he's hanging out with like all 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:10.000 the players and they invite him to dinner, and they 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:11.920 invite him to lunch, and it's kind of like the 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.240 same close knit family, you know. 0:08:14.480 --> 0:08:19.320 Yeah, Marcus, how was your NBA experience different than Larsa's kids. 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:23.800 I think the main way that it's different, at least 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:26.960 my upbringing is different than your kids is I grew 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:30.160 up in that sweet spot of the late nineties early 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:33.120 two thousands where there was no iPhones and you know, 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:36.400 social media and so like, I kind of know what 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:40.040 life was like before the technology boom, and I don't 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.960 think your kids. I mean, how Scotti Jr. Was born 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:46.360 in two thousand, Yeah, two thousands, so by the time 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:48.320 he was seven, the iPhone came out, you know, and 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:51.440 so yeah, I don't know. I think that's the main 0:08:51.679 --> 0:08:55.040 difference was that, you know, my parents are very private people, 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.120 and so I was able to grow up with a 0:08:57.320 --> 0:09:02.079 very private upbringing. But I feel like NBA kids today 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:05.280 don't necessarily have that luxury. I mean, if you look 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:09.040 at Lebron's son, Bronnie, you know, everywhere he goes, there's 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:12.400 cameras or you know, somebody's got something to say. Obviously 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:14.840 you saw that they got denied at that party. It's 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:18.200 funny because I remember, I remember those days. Yeah, I 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:21.400 remember when I was a young kid, sixteen seventeen years old, 0:09:21.520 --> 0:09:24.520 trying to get into whatever party was popping or whatever. 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:27.400 And so I don't know. I think, you know, we 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.960 had the luxury, at least me and my siblings to 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:33.880 keep our anonymity and still maneuver through certain situations. And 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:36.040 I feel like NBA kids today they don't necessarily have 0:09:36.080 --> 0:09:36.640 that luxury. 0:09:36.760 --> 0:09:39.200 I think it depends where you live. Yeah, city, what 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:40.920 city you play for. You know, if you're in LA, 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:42.400 I think everything is magnified. 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:42.920 It's definitely. 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:44.840 You're in New York, you're in LA, you're in Miami, 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:46.960 it's different. I think Chicago is definitely more low key, 0:09:47.000 --> 0:09:49.960 and I think the culture in Chicago is definitely more 0:09:50.040 --> 0:09:52.560 low key, Like that's just the upbringing. Like my parents 0:09:52.600 --> 0:09:54.720 don't like flash people in Chicago don't really like the 0:09:54.760 --> 0:09:55.720 flashy lifestyle. 0:09:55.840 --> 0:09:57.560 Yeah, I was going to say, I feel like Chicago 0:09:57.679 --> 0:10:01.319 is like it's its own yeah culture, Yeah exactly. 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:03.480 And I feel like, you know, you could be like 0:10:03.840 --> 0:10:06.600 super successful in Chicago and you would never know because 0:10:06.640 --> 0:10:10.120 people there don't need to show their success. Yeah for sure, 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:12.520 whereas others, you know, other places. I feel like it's 0:10:12.640 --> 0:10:15.800 definitely like people drive fancy your cars and different places 0:10:15.840 --> 0:10:19.480 and they're broke. Yeah, so sometimes, you know, I don't know, 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:21.520 I think it's really good to like be in a 0:10:21.559 --> 0:10:23.800 place where like it doesn't really matter what you have, 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:26.680 and it's like the good things you know that really 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:27.600 matters matter. 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:30.000 Yeah for sure. What do you think is different about 0:10:30.080 --> 0:10:32.200 I mean, obviously you don't know anything about my upbringing, 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.160 but what do you think the difference is today for 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:36.559 NBA families versus thirty years ago? 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:38.280 Well, I just feel like you really can't like your 0:10:38.320 --> 0:10:40.800 kids are your kids are going to see everything that 0:10:40.840 --> 0:10:43.719 you do. Yeah, it's hard to avoid, you know, the 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.920 NBA trials and tribulations, you know, because your kids are 0:10:47.080 --> 0:10:49.040 very much a part of Like I mean, look what 0:10:49.080 --> 0:10:50.480 happened us or your dad said one thing and it 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:52.680 was everywhere. Yeah, and I had five thousand calls over that. 0:10:53.160 --> 0:10:55.160 So I feel like in today's world, it's just like 0:10:55.360 --> 0:10:57.600 if your parent is in the NBA, your parent has 0:10:57.640 --> 0:10:59.240 to know like whatever they do on and off the 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:02.240 court is going to be did school you know? Was 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:05.240 it Chris Paul that was talking about his son or 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:07.680 his daughter? Somebody said something to them at school? I 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:10.280 just you know, I think it's harder when social media's 0:11:10.280 --> 0:11:12.960 really destroyed so many lives. Yes, it's like I love it. 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:15.360 It's like a curse and a blessing, but like it's 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:18.360 definitely got some you know, a little bit of curse. 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:28.160 Yeah, I agree, that's the pros and cons for sure. Yeah, 0:11:28.440 --> 0:11:31.679 what are your beige flags? So a beage flag is 0:11:31.720 --> 0:11:35.280 something that's neither good nor bad, but makes you pause 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.120 for a minute when you notice it, but you still 0:11:37.160 --> 0:11:40.400 continue the relationship. So tell me what's like a beige 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:41.120 flag for you? 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:41.880 You go first. 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:46.200 I feel like a beige flag for me is like, 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:49.319 and I've talked about it before, my biggest pet peeve 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:52.040 is somebody not knowing how to chew their food or smacking, 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:52.439 you know. 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:54.720 And so is that really like a no, I feel 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:56.360 like it has to be a little deeper, Marcus. It 0:11:56.400 --> 0:11:58.800 can't be just be like something so superficial. Nah, I 0:11:58.800 --> 0:12:01.640 feel like, can't you can't you fix that someone eats? 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:03.720 Can't you be like, hey, close your mouth while you're chewing. 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:05.680 No, A lot of people can't fix that because you 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.920 innately go back to I feel like, what you're comfortable with. 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:10.960 And so for me, I think that's a bag flag. 0:12:11.000 --> 0:12:14.000 I'm gonna notice it. I'm gonna pause. I'm going to consider, 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:16.839 you know, what, what move do I want to take next? 0:12:16.920 --> 0:12:18.839 But no, I think that's a base flag for me. 0:12:19.040 --> 0:12:20.800 What would you? What's an example for you? 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.520 I feel like if someone isn't good with money? 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:26.480 True, I like that because I feel like. 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:28.680 If like you're going to be with someone as a partner, 0:12:28.720 --> 0:12:30.520 you want to make sure that they're responsible and they 0:12:30.600 --> 0:12:32.800 know how to navigate through life in a responsible type 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:34.640 of way. Yeah, because there's so many people that I 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:36.679 know that go into relationships and then they find out 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:39.200 that their spouse is in debt. Yeah, that is the 0:12:39.200 --> 0:12:40.560 worst situation you could be in. 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:42.280 That's a good one. I'll give you another one. I 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:45.920 think a bage flag is someone that can't manage their 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:46.840 time properly. 0:12:46.960 --> 0:12:47.559 Oh, I agree. 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:49.840 You know someone that like goes out all. 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:53.440 The time and doesn't handle their responsibilities. Yeah that's horrible. 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:55.400 Yeah, I think that's a good one. Like, you know, 0:12:55.720 --> 0:12:57.920 partying all the time, wants to go out and be 0:12:57.960 --> 0:12:59.680 in the social scene all the time, but isn't really 0:12:59.679 --> 0:13:02.000 making progress in their personal life or in business. 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:03.760 So you have to grow. I feel like you have 0:13:03.800 --> 0:13:06.000 to grow as a person and like, don't do the 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:08.000 same things you were doing last year. Every year should 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:10.480 be like a new, better version of yourself. 0:13:10.520 --> 0:13:13.480 You know. Would a base flag be if you're having 0:13:13.520 --> 0:13:15.440 sex with a guy and he keeps his socks on. 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:16.400 Yeah, that's annoying. 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:17.040 It's annoying. 0:13:17.240 --> 0:13:18.400 Yeah, for sure, that's annoying. 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:19.160 So it socks off. 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:20.520 Definitely socks off. 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:22.280 Yeah, I feel like everything. I feel like everything as 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:22.640 of we all. 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.880 Yeah, I'm not about the song or eventually off. 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:25.559 Okay. 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:27.320 Would it be like if you were with the woman 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:30.800 that had a hairy like situation? 0:13:31.160 --> 0:13:32.960 Yeah, okay, Eve. 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:34.120 With a woman of the hairy situation. 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:36.920 I mean, yeah, there's you know, there's two guys like 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:39.079 variety out there in terms of you guys like. 0:13:39.040 --> 0:13:41.040 That, because I feel like when I've seen stuff like that, 0:13:41.160 --> 0:13:41.920 I don't like that. 0:13:42.160 --> 0:13:47.840 I mean I feel like for me personally, there's been phases, 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:51.440 you know, like it doesn't necessarily completely turn me off, 0:13:51.720 --> 0:13:53.959 but everything's got to be well kept, you know what 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:55.440 I'm saying. You gotta be well groomed. 0:13:55.440 --> 0:13:57.040 You can't be the runway's gotta be. 0:13:57.200 --> 0:13:59.560 You can't be looking like the sixties and seventies out. 0:13:59.440 --> 0:14:02.240 Here, like like not the vine. 0:14:02.320 --> 0:14:04.880 You gotta gotta keep it clean down there, for sure. 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:05.640 Yeah, for sure. 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:08.280 Okay, So when you start dating someone, when can you 0:14:08.360 --> 0:14:09.680 start being yourself? 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:11.360 So I feel like there's like the phase of like 0:14:11.440 --> 0:14:14.080 we're both going to pretend like we're perfect, okay, and 0:14:14.200 --> 0:14:15.760 you say this, you say all the right things even 0:14:15.760 --> 0:14:18.160 though you don't mean them, okay, and then but I 0:14:18.200 --> 0:14:22.400 think like after like four months, the first three months 0:14:22.480 --> 0:14:25.840 is like hocus pocus. Yeah, yeah, I think the first like, 0:14:25.960 --> 0:14:28.240 you know, the first thirty days, you're basically both acting 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:30.720 like everything is great and I don't care if you 0:14:30.720 --> 0:14:32.720 talk to other people, and I don't care if you 0:14:32.760 --> 0:14:35.400 go out and I don't care. So it's like you're, 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.520 you know, you're pretending this and that. But I think 0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:40.680 like the later part of that, so after thirty days, 0:14:40.920 --> 0:14:43.440 maybe it's sixty days it's sixty day mark. I feel 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:46.400 like you start like setting boundaries. Okay, I mean like 0:14:46.400 --> 0:14:47.600 you know, I don't like when you do that, and 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:49.080 I don't like when you do that, And then there's 0:14:49.120 --> 0:14:51.680 like nine months into the relationship where you start questioning, 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:53.880 like do I really want to be with this person? Okay, 0:14:54.120 --> 0:14:56.040 do we have enough in common? Can we get through 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:59.120 the hurdles? But I feel like for me, a year 0:14:59.160 --> 0:15:00.960 to be with someone as a long time, like a year, 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:02.400 I need to make a decision. I'm not one of 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:04.720 those people. I have friends that literally will waste three 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:07.800 years in every relationship and then realize he's not the guy. 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:09.680 And I'm like, you could have just asked me. I 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:11.880 would have told you you wasn't the guy, by the way, 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:13.920 Like I could have saved you so much heartache, and 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:17.560 like furniture and like they'll move in together and they'll 0:15:17.600 --> 0:15:19.800 play house and at the same time, like one person 0:15:19.840 --> 0:15:22.000 wants to have a baby and the other person doesn't. Yeah, 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:23.280 or one person is like. 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:27.360 I feel like I'm always a version of myself even 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:30.000 when I start dating, Like I don't know, I've always 0:15:30.800 --> 0:15:34.600 like maneuvered into a relationship, like wanting to be myself 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:36.520 at the core, just because I feel like at some 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:40.040 point the layers are going to peel back, and if 0:15:40.080 --> 0:15:43.000 you're not being authentic, then you know you're gonna be exposed, 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:43.320 you know. 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:45.880 So really that's a very mature way of approaching it. 0:15:45.960 --> 0:15:48.080 Yeah. So I know, if you're not rocking with me 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:51.160 from the beginning, then most often then that you're out 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:51.720 of there. You know. 0:15:51.800 --> 0:15:53.880 I feel like people are in different places, right, So 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:55.480 I feel like a lot of times people bring their 0:15:55.480 --> 0:15:58.160 insecurities and other stuff that they've experienced in their old 0:15:58.200 --> 0:15:59.960 relationship into their new relationship. 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:00.600 That's true. 0:16:00.680 --> 0:16:02.600 So sometimes you kind of have to go in and like, 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:05.120 you know, lay it all out there. 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.040 Yeah, Like you know, at what point do you start 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:11.120 letting loose, like, for example, using the bathroom with the 0:16:11.160 --> 0:16:13.720 door open or something like that. Never, I know, I 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:16.320