WEBVTT - Juicy Fruit Feat. O'Ryan

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Erica and I'm Niela and it's Junior.

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<v Speaker 3>It's my birthday month.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really excited because this month, you know, we're highlighting

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<v Speaker 2>more male voices.

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<v Speaker 1>We you know, we some talking ass bitches. We always

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<v Speaker 1>have bitches on the show. It's time to have some

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<v Speaker 1>niggas on the show.

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<v Speaker 3>We need another perspective.

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<v Speaker 1>How are you doing about it?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm doing good. I'm feeling good. I'm feeling strong and

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<v Speaker 3>confident and excited about you know, the hot girl summer activities,

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<v Speaker 3>the healing and the hoeing that will happen surely, and

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<v Speaker 3>you know, it just feels good. This is, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>where I thrive in the summertime. I'm a summer solstice baby.

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<v Speaker 3>So you know, I'm feeling right and airy about it.

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<v Speaker 3>How about you, baby?

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<v Speaker 2>I feel great. I feel I'm I'm ready. Summer is here,

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<v Speaker 2>the kids is out of school?

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<v Speaker 1>Is we late? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>The retreat is coming up. If you guys have it yet,

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<v Speaker 2>checked out the Good Vibe Retreat. We're going to Costa

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<v Speaker 2>Rica on July thirty first, it's our first date. And

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<v Speaker 2>August tenth is our second date.

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<v Speaker 1>Come. If you haven't planned your summer trip, this is

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<v Speaker 1>the one.

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<v Speaker 3>This is your sign if you need something to do,

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<v Speaker 3>We've taken care of everything for you. Trap Yoga Bay

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<v Speaker 3>will be their week one, and Sexual Essentials will be

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<v Speaker 3>there week two. It's going to be poppin'. They're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>host workshops, we're gonna host worgshops, and we're gonna have

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<v Speaker 3>a good motherfucking time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yes, so make sure you check that out. Everything

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<v Speaker 2>is in the episode description.

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<v Speaker 1>But I kind of just want to jump it.

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<v Speaker 2>I tell you how you're doing, but I really just

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<v Speaker 2>want to like get it in right. I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>time you guys, ladies, tribe members.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really excited. We have a special guest today. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you know we are.

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<v Speaker 2>Some expert d M sliders, Okay, and we slid right

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<v Speaker 2>into this.

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<v Speaker 3>Man's d M deep dive.

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<v Speaker 2>We have none other than rockstar dad, entrepreneur, vibe curator Oriyan.

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<v Speaker 4>You did yours truly peace.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, should we also call you the watermelon Connoisseur?

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you?

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<v Speaker 3>We gotta say we gotta say it twice, orian O,

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<v Speaker 3>Watermelon an abundance.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all having an awesome day having an awesome night. I

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<v Speaker 4>love you, You love you, you did day. The most important part

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<v Speaker 4>of that.

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<v Speaker 5>Mantra is you love you because the thing about love is,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, it's like, if this is your love cup

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<v Speaker 5>and it ain't even full, please don't pour your.

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<v Speaker 4>Last bit of water in mind because you but I'm

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<v Speaker 4>filled up and you did give me your last.

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<v Speaker 3>That's true.

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<v Speaker 4>So love yourself first, and that's yeah, that's that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I love that, especially as a man, I'm happy

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<v Speaker 2>to hear that you you share these ideals because a

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<v Speaker 2>nigga will ask you to pour your last. Actually, they

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<v Speaker 2>don't even ask a bitches just do it. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>even know why we do it.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't even ask us. We just do it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I think it's natural.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, you guys are nurturing, and you know you

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<v Speaker 5>gotta put the nurture in.

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<v Speaker 4>The right direction.

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<v Speaker 3>We like to poor, we like to pour, and then

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<v Speaker 3>we forget that that poor should be an exchange, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>And we're nurturers by nature. So we're hoping if we

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<v Speaker 3>water a nigga, you know he's gonna water us. He's

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<v Speaker 3>going to be fruitful and multiply. But we all know

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<v Speaker 3>that some of these niggas are a cacti.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, And that's why you gotta learn the land, ladies.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, you got to learn the land and.

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<v Speaker 4>Research who you're dealing with, you know.

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<v Speaker 5>And and when I saw these cards, I was so

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<v Speaker 5>glad to see that, because you know, there are tools

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<v Speaker 5>out here to give you some foresight to what you're

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<v Speaker 5>dealing with. And a lot of ladies make us some

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<v Speaker 5>thinking that all men are the same, or that we

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<v Speaker 5>all operate from the same os. Like, no, some dudes

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<v Speaker 5>out here are still iPhone Force.

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<v Speaker 3>Honey, they have the flip slide. There's been a sidekick

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<v Speaker 3>that might be too that might even too good. They

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<v Speaker 3>the Nokia with the snake on it. They don't make

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<v Speaker 3>the b That's That's all I got is the good

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<v Speaker 3>game the same.

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<v Speaker 5>But you know, a lot a lot of the you know,

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<v Speaker 5>the thing is about the good guys.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, a lot of them are are they're.

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<v Speaker 1>Out here, they're like they're taking.

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<v Speaker 5>And they disappear, they're off the scene. That's how wife

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<v Speaker 5>he wants it, that's how we're it seemed to be

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<v Speaker 5>securing the whatever. But I see a problem with that,

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<v Speaker 5>because this is why a lot of guys aren't motivated

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<v Speaker 5>to go in that space either because it's like all right, man,

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<v Speaker 5>you're happy and you're good over there, but I'm trying

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<v Speaker 5>to get over there.

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<v Speaker 4>Man, build a bridge. Man, you know, how do I

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<v Speaker 4>how do I get there?

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<v Speaker 5>You know? And it's told to us like oh you

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<v Speaker 5>have to do this and you got to do that,

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<v Speaker 5>But it's told to us by women and you know,

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<v Speaker 5>not men, like hey, dude, this is.

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<v Speaker 4>How you're supposed to want to go here? Do this? Well?

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<v Speaker 1>Are are men having the conversations?

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<v Speaker 4>Well that's what That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 5>The good men they get taken away from us that

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<v Speaker 5>want to be good men too.

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<v Speaker 4>There's there's no you know, are you transitional? Like you

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<v Speaker 4>know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 5>Like say say say I got an og and he's married, right,

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<v Speaker 5>and like, oh man, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Look up to him.

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<v Speaker 5>He's fit and he's like got his money together and

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, og, like I want to you feel me.

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<v Speaker 5>This dude is busy. He's like hard to get in

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<v Speaker 5>touch with. You know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>He's changed his.

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<v Speaker 4>Number and he means business.

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<v Speaker 5>So it's like you know, there there are there isn't

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<v Speaker 5>any there's not much fellowshipping with those who have.

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<v Speaker 4>Made it to those who want to go.

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<v Speaker 3>There, well, I agree, I totally agree, And Eric I

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<v Speaker 3>have talked about this multiple times on the show because

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<v Speaker 3>you know, as you know, we're doing a retreat, we

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<v Speaker 3>hoped we host retreats, and just in general, like this,

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<v Speaker 3>this entire like this entire journey has been us, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>healing as in the form of talking, and we've just

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<v Speaker 3>really noticed, like we feel like women are like there's

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<v Speaker 3>a revolution with women happening right now. We're waking up

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<v Speaker 3>to our power, to our divine femininity, to who the

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<v Speaker 3>fuck we are. We're you know, we're kicking down doors

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<v Speaker 3>and taking names and we're taking less ship from the cacti,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, and we're just like, where are the men

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<v Speaker 3>that are on the journey of healing themselves too, so

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<v Speaker 3>that when we're all healed and ready, we don't have

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<v Speaker 3>to be lesbians, right, you know, Like, so is this

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<v Speaker 3>a thing? And you're like, I just want to know,

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<v Speaker 3>because you see him evolved, you see.

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<v Speaker 5>Him like all the healing is definitely a huge part

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<v Speaker 5>of any any dudes I hang out with or you know,

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<v Speaker 5>my brother, Like we went last year, we went on

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<v Speaker 5>two weeks I think it was ten days. It was

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<v Speaker 5>fourteen days yoga retreat with sad Guru who's like one

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<v Speaker 5>of the most famous yogis like on the planet right now.

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<v Speaker 4>He's from India, and we went.

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<v Speaker 5>To to his his His land is so crazy. It's

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<v Speaker 5>like it was a it was an old like national park,

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<v Speaker 5>it seemed like. And he's got like the biggest yoga

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<v Speaker 5>it's in Tennessee. It's in Tennessee, so there's green everywhere, waterfalls,

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<v Speaker 5>It's like it's amazing. The biggest yoga like place, the

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<v Speaker 5>biggest yoga like dome in the in the nation right now.

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<v Speaker 5>It's there, and they have this huge like statues. It's

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<v Speaker 5>the land is is special. And my brother and I

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<v Speaker 5>we did this last year and it just was a

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<v Speaker 5>game changer and it's like we did that for us,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, and it's like next week we're doing the

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<v Speaker 5>me and it's like we have a good balance.

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<v Speaker 1>Of can you invite more men with you?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, well yeah, yeah, I think it'd be a retreat healer. Ryan,

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<v Speaker 3>Do you want to go into retreat business with that?

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely retreat collab for the men.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm interested.

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<v Speaker 3>We need to heal the men.

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<v Speaker 5>We do we do and you know, like I said earlier,

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<v Speaker 5>there's a lot of dudes who want to do that

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<v Speaker 5>and they want to go in that direction, but they're like,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't want to go right there where it's looking

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<v Speaker 5>like I don't know what I'm looking at.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I feel like it's a gay I'm like, absolutely, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean a bunch of niggas on a property, like

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<v Speaker 2>we're going to retreat that less ship we'll see.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, a lot of a lot of straight guys may

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<v Speaker 5>think it's a little gay because sometimes they might see

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<v Speaker 5>a gay person healing themselves before they are, you know

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<v Speaker 5>what I mean. So it may it may seem like

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, they may be a little hesitant. But

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<v Speaker 5>that's why I stay in that space and why I

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<v Speaker 5>you know, in the mornings.

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<v Speaker 4>Got meditated.

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<v Speaker 5>I'll go live and meditate just to show people like,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, like I'm not too cool for this, like

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<v Speaker 5>healing man, Like I'm not too like fly to like

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<v Speaker 5>sit there with my toes out and just folk, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>and sit there and do nothing, think nothing.

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<v Speaker 3>We have to do it, you know, I know I

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<v Speaker 3>tapped into your life this morning. I was like, oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I saw the brog.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh yeah, you know, like all of your healing energy

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<v Speaker 5>and power it's within as above so below yeah, or

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<v Speaker 5>God's like I mean, it's everywhere telling you you know,

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<v Speaker 5>we've got it.

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<v Speaker 4>We just have to do it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I think too that like with the with

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<v Speaker 2>the men doing the healing, the women doing the healing,

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<v Speaker 2>I think there's also like there has to be a

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<v Speaker 2>coming together of it because I felt there's a big

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<v Speaker 2>distrust between men and women as well.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, yeah, yeah, because of the traumas and the you know,

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<v Speaker 5>the things we've separately gone uh through separately and the

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<v Speaker 5>things we've gone through together. Like you know, there there

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<v Speaker 5>was a literal separate, like there was a intentional separation

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<v Speaker 5>of us, and we have to intentionally come.

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<v Speaker 4>Back together, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 5>So it's it's happening, you know, slowly but surely, And

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<v Speaker 5>I think that that's the best way because we all know,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, the faster it comes through, the faster it leaves.

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<v Speaker 5>So this slow pace of of you know, everybody slowly

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<v Speaker 5>kind of coming together and like peeking over and like hey, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>like we have to do it that way. It's not

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<v Speaker 5>gonna be this big, Like it's not gonna be that

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<v Speaker 5>you know, what I mean. You know it's not gonna

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<v Speaker 5>be on television, and it's gonna be low key.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's just gonna slowly happen.

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<v Speaker 3>So the revolution will not be televised.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean they told us it's gonna be a live

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<v Speaker 5>stream though the revolution will be.

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<v Speaker 1>Like it might be a carousel post.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes it will, it will. You know who owned the TV.

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<v Speaker 4>They're not telling us every ding. They're telling us they

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<v Speaker 4>vision and that's fine. We got our own. Now it's

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<v Speaker 4>our time.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we usually start the episode with an affirmation. Do

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<v Speaker 3>you have an affirmation for us today?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes? I do. Uh, part of it is what I started.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't sure if that was it was so strong,

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't sure.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm gonna say it again.

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<v Speaker 3>Please we can repeat it with you, so you can.

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<v Speaker 4>Say it with me. Peace, Love and abundance.

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<v Speaker 3>Peace, Love and abundance.

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<v Speaker 5>Have an awesome day, have an awesome day, having an

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<v Speaker 5>awesome nights, hav an awesome night.

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<v Speaker 4>I love you, I love you, you love you, you

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<v Speaker 4>love you.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeay, And you gotta say it with that energy because yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>it just it tells, you know, our body, It tells

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<v Speaker 5>the DNA like, hey, we're going up to this happening.

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<v Speaker 4>I know you said.

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<v Speaker 5>We're going up. You did because I love me and

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<v Speaker 5>you love me too, you know, so let's go.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, that's true. We need that, We need that extra

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<v Speaker 3>you know. I was telling myself the other day. I

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<v Speaker 3>was feeling like sad for myself that I didn't clean

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<v Speaker 3>my house and I had a lot of ship to do.

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<v Speaker 3>So I was like, this house is dirty. Damn it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, it's okay, it's okay, you're the ship.

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<v Speaker 3>You canna clean your house on Friday. Was like, you

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<v Speaker 3>can't do everything, girl, at least you got a house.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, that's true. House is still dirty. It's

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<v Speaker 3>not Friday yet, but I'm gonna get that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna get around to you get there.

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<v Speaker 2>Was actually wearing our merch right now, and she's customized it.

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<v Speaker 2>I did, she customized the merch. She said, fuck a shirt.

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<v Speaker 2>Gila's always mad because we're making shirts, and she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't look good in shirts. She's like, I'm small,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like shirts. I don't and so literally she

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<v Speaker 2>pulled up yesterday the other day at my house and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, she literally cut the shirt all the

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<v Speaker 2>way down the middle.

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<v Speaker 1>I did, that's very creative.

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<v Speaker 3>I said, now wear our shirts because my cleavage is

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<v Speaker 3>that I feel I can breathe now. I can breathe.

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<v Speaker 5>Here.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello, Hello, I'm here. Honestly, when I wear shirts, i'd

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<v Speaker 3>be like sometimes it's like, just get me out of here.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like close that much anyway. I have very

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<v Speaker 3>little assets, so these little these are the assets that

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<v Speaker 3>will show. I want to go pick up Luda in

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<v Speaker 3>the shirt yesterday and I was like, let's coooluck these parents.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm the ship.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, Sally, wish you wish.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, is this aggressive? First one?

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<v Speaker 1>For my kids?

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<v Speaker 3>School is like predominantly white. I'm wearing black as fuck,

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<v Speaker 3>fine as fuck, And I'm like, and I have a

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<v Speaker 3>purse that's protect black women.

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<v Speaker 1>Parents are like, who is my necklaces?

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<v Speaker 3>Bad? Bad choices? My titties around? I'm like, come on, little,

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<v Speaker 3>let's go. Mom's here.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the coolest mom at school for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>I claimed it. So I okay, So Orian Orian. We

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<v Speaker 3>usually start the episode with a little well, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>certain we pick and choose, we play this game with

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<v Speaker 3>it for you. We've decided that we want to play

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<v Speaker 3>this game. It's called trigger. And how we play the

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<v Speaker 3>game is I'm going to say one word and then

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna just tell me the respond the first thing

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<v Speaker 3>that comes to mind quickly, maybe one word? Maybe, don't

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<v Speaker 3>don't ever think it? Ay ready, fatherhood, me, monogamy, what?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Pretty much? Boxers or briefs.

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<v Speaker 4>Neither right?

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<v Speaker 3>Idle your idle, most spontaneous thing you've ever done this year?

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<v Speaker 4>Just random trip up the coast.

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<v Speaker 3>Kevin Samuels, out of pocket, bad habits.

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<v Speaker 4>Come easy. Marriage needs to be refined, Molly about.

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<v Speaker 3>The Trinidad James child support? What favorite stream?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh lucky lady, mm hmm mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 3>Omnicron I ain't gonna say that.

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<v Speaker 4>I would just do that. We have to.

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<v Speaker 3>No chill, you said, nurture. No, well, okay, nurture mom.

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<v Speaker 3>Happily ever after.

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<v Speaker 6>Disney Black Women, everything turn on, Black women, turn off everything.

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<v Speaker 3>Favorite porn category.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't my own. I don't watch porn.

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<v Speaker 2>You make the chords, you're only fans.

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<v Speaker 3>Suscribers personal collection, the archives, got it. Favorite position mm hmmm,

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<v Speaker 3>verse charg that's a good one. Celebrity crush.

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<v Speaker 4>Mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 5>Honestly, you know, because I became one Very, I had

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<v Speaker 5>a celebrity because very Okay, and it's gonna sound crazy.

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<v Speaker 4>It's gonna sound crazy.

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<v Speaker 5>But when I was younger, gonna be too.

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<v Speaker 4>I love like fresh album and I still, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>love her and she's beautiful. I would never you know.

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<v Speaker 3>It changed, It changes when you get older.

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<v Speaker 4>You still love that.

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<v Speaker 3>It's not as like as raunchy as it once was.

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<v Speaker 5>She just just had that that brown skin and that

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<v Speaker 5>wavy hair.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god, all day love think love you, oh my,

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<v Speaker 3>I can't even think of thanks JJ. Put the wish and.

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<v Speaker 7>Not in my day dreams come true.

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<v Speaker 3>That baby, Sorry, I had to drop it. That was

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<v Speaker 3>like my favorite fucking album. In the seventh grade. Maybe

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<v Speaker 3>it was like the fifth but it was great. Shout

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<v Speaker 3>out to Tail for that epic one album that she.

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<v Speaker 4>Still bangs out here. Okay, no disrespect.

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<v Speaker 3>You're banging. You're banging. Single mom, need everything, manifestation, masturbation.

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<v Speaker 4>Tapping, therapy, needed for everyone.

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<v Speaker 3>Best advice you've ever.

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<v Speaker 4>Received, not received yet?

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<v Speaker 3>Mm hmm. Big Sean is a rapper insecurity? What is

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<v Speaker 3>that biggest regret?

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<v Speaker 4>Zero?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, that's all I got today. There's all the triggers

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<v Speaker 3>you completed. Trigger that was really smooth. You did a

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<v Speaker 3>good job. Most people get stuck. Your smooth guy. Good

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<v Speaker 3>Mom's approved.

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<v Speaker 1>Trigger.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you excellence.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, yeah, you don't have to put too much

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<v Speaker 5>thought into what's natural to you.

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<v Speaker 3>You know it's true when you smooth the smooth.

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<v Speaker 1>So you mentioned that you had your daughter. I think

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<v Speaker 1>you said at twenty.

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<v Speaker 4>At twenty, yes, yes, at twenty.

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<v Speaker 1>What was that like for you at that time in

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<v Speaker 1>your life?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, it was so crazy because her and

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<v Speaker 5>I we had we had been in a relationship. We

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<v Speaker 5>were younger for a couple of years, probably started like

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<v Speaker 5>when we were eighteen nineteen twenty, and she's a year younger.

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<v Speaker 4>Than me.

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<v Speaker 5>So we started young, you know, hanging out and getting

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<v Speaker 5>to know each other.

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<v Speaker 4>We actually went to the same.

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<v Speaker 5>Elementary school, so you know, we've seen each other with

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<v Speaker 5>other people before we got together.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's why I wasn't triggered.

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<v Speaker 5>But yeah, I didn't have anything any more than that.

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<v Speaker 5>But for me, it was like I had a decision

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<v Speaker 5>to make when I was told when I got the news,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, and it was like, you know, do this

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<v Speaker 5>or that, like be like your dad or be unlike

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<v Speaker 5>you know, and I chose to be nothing like my dad,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, And I planned it out as far as

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<v Speaker 5>I could, you know, I was like, hey, you know, pregnant,

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<v Speaker 5>stay with me, you know, throughout this pregnancy. I want

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<v Speaker 5>you to be happy, you know, I want you to

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<v Speaker 5>be eating good like you know everything. I didn't see

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<v Speaker 5>my mom like kind of have you know that I

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<v Speaker 5>wish she did. That was my plan. That was the motivation.

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<v Speaker 5>And yeah, that was that was it, you know. And

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<v Speaker 5>the first the first i'll say, the first seven years

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<v Speaker 5>of my daughter's life. She'll be fourteen this year. The

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<v Speaker 5>first seven years, you know, I was just heavily influenced,

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<v Speaker 5>heavily involved, you know, and that was my that was

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<v Speaker 5>my plan.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, even at twenty you're like, I'm dedicated to.

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<v Speaker 4>Music, acting all that.

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<v Speaker 5>I put that on a back burner because I didn't

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<v Speaker 5>want to. I didn't want my daughter to see me

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<v Speaker 5>in that perspective, Like I wanted her to see me

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<v Speaker 5>and actually touch me and feel me sorry and actually

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<v Speaker 5>know I was there. So you know, I just was

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<v Speaker 5>like I made my decision. Once I got the news,

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<v Speaker 5>it was like, all right, cool. So you know, once

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<v Speaker 5>you know, like I said, the first seven years that

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<v Speaker 5>were up, it was like her, you know, her mom,

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<v Speaker 5>she really started like coming into who she was, like

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<v Speaker 5>not just as a person, but as an artist as well.

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<v Speaker 5>And I felt like as a friend and as an artist,

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<v Speaker 5>fellow artist, fellow friend, you know, I felt like, you know, hey,

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<v Speaker 5>like the best way I could support that dream, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>is to to provide a space where she doesn't have

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<v Speaker 5>to worry about her daughter, our daughter that like.

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<v Speaker 4>When it comes to that, she got to worry about

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<v Speaker 4>that when it comes to dad, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>Like it's a beautiful period.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 5>That was my goal, Like, hey, I don't want nowhere

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<v Speaker 5>get to worry, you know, don't worry about it. You're

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<v Speaker 5>not annoying me when you ask me anything, you're not.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not an issue. It's gonna get done. Please, don't

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<v Speaker 5>I think you're bothering me. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 5>because a lot of women feel like, you know, they

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<v Speaker 5>don't want to you know what I mean, when they

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<v Speaker 5>get to know all the things you gotta do, all

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<v Speaker 5>the things.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, man, it's got to I gotta handle this

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<v Speaker 4>and that they're like, oh, I don't want to bother you.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's like, no, don't worry. We got this. So

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<v Speaker 4>that was that was my plan. I stuck to it.

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<v Speaker 5>And that's why my daughter is you know, it's lit.

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<v Speaker 5>That's why you know she's amazing, and you know that's

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<v Speaker 5>why it's all happy.

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<v Speaker 4>You feel me?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, damn, that's not mature twenty year old dad. Should

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<v Speaker 3>I ever heard? Where the fun do they source you at?

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<v Speaker 8>Because ship Mama made thank you, Mama, Mama, may you know,

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<v Speaker 8>tried shout out all you know, my aunties, my name,

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<v Speaker 8>I love you, I miss you, Rest in peace Nana,

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<v Speaker 8>And yeah, it was all of them, you know, me

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<v Speaker 8>seeing you know where everything was lacking, you know it

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<v Speaker 8>just when.

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<v Speaker 4>I had the chance, I was like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 4>I know what I'm doing. I'm doing what never been done,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, And well.

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<v Speaker 2>That's amazing that you have, like I guess, like the

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<v Speaker 2>self awareness too at that age to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>do that, that's a real that's a gift.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, my nana, you know, and my mom, like I said,

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<v Speaker 5>I grew up, you know, my brother being like kind

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<v Speaker 5>of like the you know, he's always been the way

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<v Speaker 5>he is now. He's always been like a performer, always entertaining,

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<v Speaker 5>like always.

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<v Speaker 4>Like since we were kids, since I've known him, since

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<v Speaker 4>I've been a lot. And myself, you know, like I

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<v Speaker 4>was always in the books, you know, in the corner reading.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I remember looking at.

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<v Speaker 5>Books when I couldn't even read as a child and

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<v Speaker 5>like I'm gonna learn this.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what this is, just keep on looking, figut,

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<v Speaker 3>don't cook you feel me?

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<v Speaker 4>And I remember thinking like that, you know, at five six,

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<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean. So that's just who I am.

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<v Speaker 5>And I I was blessed enough to you know, create

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<v Speaker 5>with someone that understood who I was, you know, because

0:24:17.560 --> 0:24:20.879
<v Speaker 5>I feel like a lot of complications with that, it

0:24:21.040 --> 0:24:24.399
<v Speaker 5>comes with people not knowing who they're dealing with. You

0:24:24.480 --> 0:24:26.200
<v Speaker 5>know what I mean, or not knowing like you know,

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<v Speaker 5>that was my motivation. It was like to be better

0:24:28.280 --> 0:24:30.159
<v Speaker 5>than my father, you know what I mean. And some

0:24:30.400 --> 0:24:33.199
<v Speaker 5>some people may not have that motivation. Actually a lot

0:24:33.240 --> 0:24:35.159
<v Speaker 5>of people don't have that motivation, you know what I mean.

0:24:35.920 --> 0:24:39.520
<v Speaker 5>And some people, you know, may have an example that

0:24:39.680 --> 0:24:43.040
<v Speaker 5>wasn't good and that messes up everything. You know, I

0:24:43.080 --> 0:24:44.840
<v Speaker 5>didn't have an example at all, and I think that

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<v Speaker 5>that's great.

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<v Speaker 4>You know. I never held that against my father or

0:24:48.680 --> 0:24:52.119
<v Speaker 4>like you're like, oh, you know, I hate you like

0:24:52.240 --> 0:24:53.520
<v Speaker 4>I love my dad, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 3>You have a relationship now, No, No, I wish we did.

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<v Speaker 5>But you know, I don't hold him accountable for not

0:25:01.840 --> 0:25:05.920
<v Speaker 5>being able to have tools to give me right he

0:25:05.920 --> 0:25:10.800
<v Speaker 5>didn't have it. Thank you for staying away, not giving

0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:14.800
<v Speaker 5>me things that I couldn't do right, because that's that

0:25:14.880 --> 0:25:17.960
<v Speaker 5>happens a lot. That does just for the sake of tradition.

0:25:17.720 --> 0:25:19.639
<v Speaker 3>And being you know what I mean, just being just

0:25:19.720 --> 0:25:20.560
<v Speaker 3>to pretend to be there.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, you know, I think a lot of I mean,

0:25:22.520 --> 0:25:24.160
<v Speaker 1>that's funny that you say that, because I think that's

0:25:24.160 --> 0:25:26.520
<v Speaker 1>a lot of Like we were talking and we're doing

0:25:26.560 --> 0:25:29.159
<v Speaker 1>trigger and we're saying like happily ever after or the like,

0:25:29.240 --> 0:25:31.359
<v Speaker 1>saying that it needs to be redefined and things like

0:25:31.400 --> 0:25:35.040
<v Speaker 1>that and that nature. Like, I think the family dynamic.

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<v Speaker 2>A lot of times we you know, especially I think

0:25:37.240 --> 0:25:40.040
<v Speaker 2>in black in our black community, because being a baby

0:25:40.080 --> 0:25:42.840
<v Speaker 2>mama or baby daddy has looked down upon being a

0:25:42.920 --> 0:25:46.720
<v Speaker 2>single parent. So we hold these families together and actually

0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:50.000
<v Speaker 2>do so much more harm to our children by trying

0:25:50.080 --> 0:25:53.200
<v Speaker 2>to like force relationships and like, you will be with

0:25:53.280 --> 0:25:55.920
<v Speaker 2>your dad this weekend, you know, because you need a dad.

0:25:56.000 --> 0:25:58.280
<v Speaker 2>I don't care if he's not perfect. You'll get that imperfect.

0:25:58.359 --> 0:25:59.920
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, You're going to go over there and spend time.

0:26:00.119 --> 0:26:02.000
<v Speaker 4>Yeah yeah, yeah yeah.

0:26:02.000 --> 0:26:04.520
<v Speaker 5>And I feel like, you know, the generation after they

0:26:04.600 --> 0:26:06.520
<v Speaker 5>had to deal with it, they're not having it, you

0:26:06.600 --> 0:26:07.040
<v Speaker 5>know what I mean.

0:26:07.160 --> 0:26:10.000
<v Speaker 4>They're like, no, we're going to try something new. You know.

0:26:10.320 --> 0:26:12.600
<v Speaker 5>I was, like I said, I was blessed enough to

0:26:13.359 --> 0:26:16.400
<v Speaker 5>to be with someone that was willing to try something.

0:26:16.200 --> 0:26:19.080
<v Speaker 4>And willing to trust me, willing to trust my word,

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<v Speaker 4>willing to.

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<v Speaker 5>Be like all right, you're going to follow through with this,

0:26:21.880 --> 0:26:23.760
<v Speaker 5>you know, and be like all right, you got it,

0:26:23.960 --> 0:26:28.359
<v Speaker 5>you know, and that in return, you know, I.

0:26:28.400 --> 0:26:30.159
<v Speaker 4>Had to keep my word. You feel me like I

0:26:30.280 --> 0:26:32.200
<v Speaker 4>had to, you know, it's like all right, we'll go.

0:26:32.480 --> 0:26:33.879
<v Speaker 4>And it was like, oh, all right, let me go,

0:26:34.160 --> 0:26:36.720
<v Speaker 4>you know. So that that helped me a lot, you know,

0:26:38.359 --> 0:26:40.760
<v Speaker 4>just her believing that I would do.

0:26:40.880 --> 0:26:43.960
<v Speaker 3>What I say I did, like, you know, even thinking

0:26:44.000 --> 0:26:46.520
<v Speaker 3>about that, like as a mom, as a single mom,

0:26:46.560 --> 0:26:49.880
<v Speaker 3>as a single mom, like building an empire, building a business,

0:26:50.040 --> 0:26:52.080
<v Speaker 3>and it's like this it is, we're gonna. We're like

0:26:52.600 --> 0:26:55.760
<v Speaker 3>in a sense building this like untraditional brand, you know,

0:26:56.160 --> 0:26:59.840
<v Speaker 3>even though it's not new. But like hearing you say

0:26:59.880 --> 0:27:03.359
<v Speaker 3>that at the guilt that I feel sometimes for like

0:27:04.240 --> 0:27:07.240
<v Speaker 3>building this business, you know, and having to be away

0:27:07.440 --> 0:27:10.000
<v Speaker 3>and being like listen, I gotta go, and like worried

0:27:10.040 --> 0:27:12.080
<v Speaker 3>about low Ki, Like what are you saying to her?

0:27:12.240 --> 0:27:14.600
<v Speaker 4>Are you holding you? Yeah?

0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:17.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, And like if like I think men do

0:27:18.960 --> 0:27:23.000
<v Speaker 3>just the community such a disservice by not I mean, yeah,

0:27:23.240 --> 0:27:28.320
<v Speaker 3>not really supporting mothers and supporting their women or even

0:27:28.400 --> 0:27:32.000
<v Speaker 3>like like even I've known my baby daddy for since

0:27:32.000 --> 0:27:34.320
<v Speaker 3>I'm thirteen, you know, for a long fucking time, and

0:27:34.560 --> 0:27:37.960
<v Speaker 3>still there's this rift and it's like because I knew

0:27:38.040 --> 0:27:40.440
<v Speaker 3>him and I chose still, you know, that's really what

0:27:40.520 --> 0:27:42.800
<v Speaker 3>it is. But you know I was young too. But

0:27:43.119 --> 0:27:46.240
<v Speaker 3>it's also like what happens to the community when the

0:27:46.320 --> 0:27:49.000
<v Speaker 3>women are supported in that way, Like you know, I'm

0:27:49.040 --> 0:27:50.680
<v Speaker 3>going to build this business regardless.

0:27:51.000 --> 0:27:55.520
<v Speaker 5>You know, magic magic magic, because people forget to realize.

0:27:55.560 --> 0:27:59.159
<v Speaker 5>I'm sorry because you off. But like you know, big Mama,

0:27:59.560 --> 0:28:02.560
<v Speaker 5>you feel me, Big Mama. They call it Mother Earth

0:28:02.680 --> 0:28:03.320
<v Speaker 5>for a reason.

0:28:04.280 --> 0:28:06.520
<v Speaker 3>Mama, paa, come on, you feel me.

0:28:06.680 --> 0:28:09.680
<v Speaker 4>So it's like we all come from big Mama. We

0:28:09.840 --> 0:28:11.000
<v Speaker 4>all need big Mama.

0:28:11.200 --> 0:28:14.200
<v Speaker 5>Big Mama gonna let everybody stay over. Big Mama gonna

0:28:14.200 --> 0:28:15.920
<v Speaker 5>take care of whoever pull up. It could be some

0:28:16.080 --> 0:28:19.000
<v Speaker 5>random kid, Big Mama gonna take care of it. So

0:28:19.480 --> 0:28:21.920
<v Speaker 5>I come from like my nana was a big mama.

0:28:22.359 --> 0:28:25.840
<v Speaker 5>You know, I've you know, my mom having me at eighteen.

0:28:27.240 --> 0:28:29.479
<v Speaker 5>I remember being at my mom's thirtieth birthday.

0:28:29.680 --> 0:28:30.160
<v Speaker 3>Oh wow.

0:28:31.119 --> 0:28:35.240
<v Speaker 4>So my perspective on women way beyond.

0:28:35.000 --> 0:28:37.879
<v Speaker 5>What a lot of them can understand. Like, sweetheart, I

0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:39.880
<v Speaker 5>can have an intelligent conversation.

0:28:39.600 --> 0:28:41.880
<v Speaker 4>With your mom. Your mom gonna tell you.

0:28:42.600 --> 0:28:45.560
<v Speaker 5>Your mom might check you before I do with me, right,

0:28:45.840 --> 0:28:48.680
<v Speaker 5>because your mom probably knows what you're dealing with.

0:28:49.480 --> 0:28:52.080
<v Speaker 4>You know what I'm saying, and you know, I just

0:28:52.160 --> 0:28:54.400
<v Speaker 4>feel like it has to be that way, you know

0:28:54.400 --> 0:28:54.760
<v Speaker 4>what I mean.

0:28:54.960 --> 0:28:57.040
<v Speaker 3>It's just a beautiful thing. What happens like when you

0:28:57.160 --> 0:28:59.520
<v Speaker 3>pour back into big Mama, you know, like we've had

0:28:59.600 --> 0:29:01.920
<v Speaker 3>oh you know what I'm saying, Like, imagine that giveth

0:29:02.120 --> 0:29:04.800
<v Speaker 3>being watered too, you know, and and and how that

0:29:05.200 --> 0:29:08.120
<v Speaker 3>waters the family, How that waters the children. How that's

0:29:08.120 --> 0:29:13.800
<v Speaker 3>going to water our daughters and everybody eats and then

0:29:13.840 --> 0:29:14.720
<v Speaker 3>suddenly healed.

0:29:15.640 --> 0:29:19.760
<v Speaker 4>Certainly we back to berth. Everybody what they need.

0:29:20.200 --> 0:29:21.240
<v Speaker 1>Global warming is also.

0:29:21.120 --> 0:29:25.800
<v Speaker 2>Cured exactly because Mama, it's true.

0:29:25.960 --> 0:29:28.040
<v Speaker 3>It's true. And it's just like it's a beautiful thing

0:29:28.120 --> 0:29:30.440
<v Speaker 3>that you were like at even a young age, you know,

0:29:31.120 --> 0:29:34.000
<v Speaker 3>having that experience to understand like I'm going to support

0:29:34.040 --> 0:29:36.440
<v Speaker 3>you and have your back because hey, we've made this

0:29:36.600 --> 0:29:41.080
<v Speaker 3>child together. How about that? And b Like what happens

0:29:41.080 --> 0:29:43.080
<v Speaker 3>when a woman can go and do her thing and

0:29:43.240 --> 0:29:45.920
<v Speaker 3>not feel be shame and guilt about it?

0:29:46.280 --> 0:29:50.560
<v Speaker 4>That you can see exactly And what.

0:29:50.680 --> 0:29:54.120
<v Speaker 3>A beautiful manifestation of a unit. And I like how

0:29:54.160 --> 0:29:56.000
<v Speaker 3>you called it a co creator, you know, because we

0:29:56.040 --> 0:29:58.720
<v Speaker 3>are co creators, but you know, like this this co create,

0:29:58.800 --> 0:30:01.040
<v Speaker 3>like when we support our coke creators, and it's and

0:30:01.120 --> 0:30:05.560
<v Speaker 3>it's you know, fluid, and it's it's reciprocal. Our kids win,

0:30:05.880 --> 0:30:06.080
<v Speaker 3>you know.

0:30:06.360 --> 0:30:09.640
<v Speaker 5>And it's so crazy because you know, we've known each

0:30:09.640 --> 0:30:12.480
<v Speaker 5>other so long and we've supported each other in such

0:30:12.520 --> 0:30:14.720
<v Speaker 5>a unique way that a.

0:30:14.760 --> 0:30:16.080
<v Speaker 4>Lot of people don't understand.

0:30:16.240 --> 0:30:18.320
<v Speaker 5>You know, a lot a lot of people you know,

0:30:18.840 --> 0:30:20.560
<v Speaker 5>her saw they don't a lot of people in my

0:30:20.680 --> 0:30:22.600
<v Speaker 5>family they don't get it because they've never done it,

0:30:23.240 --> 0:30:23.560
<v Speaker 5>seen it.

0:30:23.640 --> 0:30:25.560
<v Speaker 1>It's almost like they look for conflict. They want to

0:30:25.600 --> 0:30:30.680
<v Speaker 1>look Okay, yeah, a.

0:30:30.680 --> 0:30:32.600
<v Speaker 3>Whole life, you got that baby all.

0:30:33.440 --> 0:30:35.840
<v Speaker 5>And then I have to remind people like, yeah, I

0:30:36.160 --> 0:30:39.920
<v Speaker 5>saw the baby come out. There's nothing more. There's no

0:30:40.160 --> 0:30:43.560
<v Speaker 5>more intimate I could get with this person. I know this,

0:30:44.080 --> 0:30:46.360
<v Speaker 5>Like I love this person. I know this person, and

0:30:46.520 --> 0:30:50.920
<v Speaker 5>that's it. So if this person has love over here,

0:30:51.240 --> 0:30:54.480
<v Speaker 5>love is something over here, I support that too, you know,

0:30:54.720 --> 0:30:57.360
<v Speaker 5>Like I don't know if y'all seen like you know,

0:30:57.600 --> 0:30:59.520
<v Speaker 5>like we've been close to me and my baby mom.

0:30:59.560 --> 0:31:02.640
<v Speaker 4>We've been since we've been closed, you know, like I've.

0:31:02.560 --> 0:31:07.280
<v Speaker 5>Gone on trips with her and her you know, right

0:31:08.720 --> 0:31:10.800
<v Speaker 5>whole you know what I mean, Like it can be done,

0:31:11.240 --> 0:31:14.400
<v Speaker 5>but it's just people are are kind of stuck in tradition,

0:31:15.040 --> 0:31:17.800
<v Speaker 5>you know, and you know and a lot of yeah

0:31:17.960 --> 0:31:19.760
<v Speaker 5>ego and a lot of traditions that are.

0:31:19.720 --> 0:31:24.120
<v Speaker 4>Not ours, not even ours. So you know, we have

0:31:24.200 --> 0:31:25.920
<v Speaker 4>to get back to the original.

0:31:26.760 --> 0:31:29.640
<v Speaker 3>You know, we're a tribe. We function as tribe. We

0:31:29.720 --> 0:31:33.680
<v Speaker 3>function as a village. That is an African proverb, you know,

0:31:33.920 --> 0:31:36.440
<v Speaker 3>like it takes a village is not no bullshit.

0:31:36.200 --> 0:31:40.360
<v Speaker 5>Yes, and like that that was it is an African proverb.

0:31:40.640 --> 0:31:44.320
<v Speaker 5>But don't forget on this land here. That's what they took,

0:31:44.960 --> 0:31:47.600
<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean, that's what they took here.

0:31:47.960 --> 0:31:49.720
<v Speaker 4>You know what I mean. It's still going on there,

0:31:50.080 --> 0:31:52.520
<v Speaker 4>but that's what was usurped here.

0:31:53.040 --> 0:31:56.040
<v Speaker 1>And that's why there's so so much divide and that's

0:31:56.080 --> 0:31:59.000
<v Speaker 1>why you know, when they break the family, they break everything.

0:31:59.280 --> 0:32:01.120
<v Speaker 5>You feel me and you know, just like you got

0:32:01.200 --> 0:32:04.160
<v Speaker 5>the East Indians, you know, were the West Indians over

0:32:04.280 --> 0:32:08.040
<v Speaker 5>here going through it and you know, Big Mama's coming back.

0:32:07.960 --> 0:32:11.560
<v Speaker 4>Though, well the women are Big Mama's coming back. I know.

0:32:12.080 --> 0:32:15.520
<v Speaker 5>I feel like you know, through through the history here,

0:32:15.600 --> 0:32:18.760
<v Speaker 5>you know, like we've had the revolution, we have black Panthers,

0:32:18.840 --> 0:32:21.200
<v Speaker 5>we have everything you know now BLM and you know,

0:32:21.240 --> 0:32:24.160
<v Speaker 5>we have all this stuff, and it's like right now,

0:32:24.360 --> 0:32:26.880
<v Speaker 5>I feel like we're in a special time for us,

0:32:27.160 --> 0:32:29.840
<v Speaker 5>like we are the we're the ones now, so.

0:32:29.920 --> 0:32:32.840
<v Speaker 4>We can literally change this like that.

0:32:33.400 --> 0:32:35.040
<v Speaker 5>We just got to get on one accord, you know,

0:32:35.080 --> 0:32:37.920
<v Speaker 5>and we just have to respect each other's power and

0:32:38.120 --> 0:32:41.360
<v Speaker 5>know what we're capable of and what we're responsible for,

0:32:41.680 --> 0:32:42.960
<v Speaker 5>and then you know, it's easy.

0:32:43.320 --> 0:32:47.320
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, And it's like, really understand loving yourself and understanding

0:32:47.360 --> 0:32:50.560
<v Speaker 3>your power is really the superpower. I think. Yeah, even

0:32:50.600 --> 0:32:53.400
<v Speaker 3>in this journey, like I've realized like, oh, like we

0:32:53.520 --> 0:32:55.400
<v Speaker 3>talked about this before we started, Like me and Erica

0:32:55.480 --> 0:32:58.880
<v Speaker 3>will literally speak some shit and then within like seven

0:32:58.920 --> 0:33:02.320
<v Speaker 3>to ten days we will get it. I mean, without doubt.

0:33:03.200 --> 0:33:04.640
<v Speaker 3>I don't even have to think about it. I just

0:33:04.720 --> 0:33:06.880
<v Speaker 3>say we can literally be like, oh I want I

0:33:06.960 --> 0:33:08.160
<v Speaker 3>want to Ryan to come on the show.

0:33:09.040 --> 0:33:10.120
<v Speaker 4>Y'all are that powerful?

0:33:10.560 --> 0:33:11.320
<v Speaker 3>It's crazy.

0:33:11.640 --> 0:33:14.560
<v Speaker 5>That's why you guys have to speak life into us too,

0:33:15.400 --> 0:33:16.600
<v Speaker 5>because we've messed up.

0:33:17.480 --> 0:33:21.360
<v Speaker 4>We've gotten done. We've gotten done, done, done done that

0:33:21.520 --> 0:33:23.560
<v Speaker 4>undone done Yeah.

0:33:24.240 --> 0:33:27.040
<v Speaker 3>Okay, And it's difficult because we've a lot of us

0:33:27.120 --> 0:33:30.120
<v Speaker 3>have been hurt, have been talked down to, have been disrespected,

0:33:30.400 --> 0:33:32.320
<v Speaker 3>there's a lot of lost men who are putting that

0:33:32.400 --> 0:33:35.200
<v Speaker 3>that hurt on their women, and then we're scorned and

0:33:35.280 --> 0:33:36.040
<v Speaker 3>we can't come back.

0:33:35.920 --> 0:33:40.240
<v Speaker 5>Another tradition that's not ours, that was picked up what

0:33:41.240 --> 0:33:45.760
<v Speaker 5>treating their women like that? Yeah, you know we we historically,

0:33:46.160 --> 0:33:48.080
<v Speaker 5>you know, when you go back and you see relics

0:33:48.120 --> 0:33:50.800
<v Speaker 5>and you see old things that are tribes and everything

0:33:50.880 --> 0:33:52.920
<v Speaker 5>that we worshiped, it was the woman.

0:33:53.360 --> 0:33:57.640
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, okay, and the woman. So all that disrespect the

0:33:57.680 --> 0:33:58.920
<v Speaker 4>women that ain't natural to us.

0:33:59.120 --> 0:34:00.600
<v Speaker 3>No, that ain't to us.

0:34:01.360 --> 0:34:04.880
<v Speaker 5>That's picked up by someone else and carried on into

0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:06.800
<v Speaker 5>the culture. But that ain't naturally us.

0:34:07.520 --> 0:34:08.640
<v Speaker 4>You feel me, So.

0:34:10.120 --> 0:34:10.719
<v Speaker 1>I think it's true.

0:34:10.760 --> 0:34:12.560
<v Speaker 2>Though you're right, like I think you know. Me and

0:34:12.640 --> 0:34:14.120
<v Speaker 2>me love talked about a lot on the show. You know,

0:34:14.200 --> 0:34:16.200
<v Speaker 2>I'd be lying if I said fu niggas like a

0:34:16.280 --> 0:34:27.560
<v Speaker 2>hundred times. I often battle with that too because I'm like, okay, wait, wait, wait, wait,

0:34:27.560 --> 0:34:29.800
<v Speaker 2>hold on, Okay, I know I said, so, I know

0:34:29.880 --> 0:34:30.440
<v Speaker 2>I said niggas.

0:34:30.440 --> 0:34:31.080
<v Speaker 1>Ain't it last week?

0:34:32.520 --> 0:34:35.680
<v Speaker 2>But like, how do we okay, how how do I

0:34:36.160 --> 0:34:40.160
<v Speaker 2>empower the man? How do I without without pouring my

0:34:40.280 --> 0:34:43.160
<v Speaker 2>last drop you know what I mean? Without feeling like

0:34:43.440 --> 0:34:45.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm going to be at a loss by pouring into

0:34:46.040 --> 0:34:48.879
<v Speaker 2>you and speaking into you and not you know, maybe

0:34:48.920 --> 0:34:51.560
<v Speaker 2>getting anything back in return. I mean obviously maybe not

0:34:51.680 --> 0:34:54.560
<v Speaker 2>having the expected expectation of gettingything back in return and

0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:55.880
<v Speaker 2>just pouring in.

0:34:56.600 --> 0:35:01.160
<v Speaker 5>But it's like, gotta be careful with that because you know,

0:35:01.200 --> 0:35:03.200
<v Speaker 5>we got to know that we at a disadvantage. We've

0:35:03.239 --> 0:35:05.360
<v Speaker 5>been at a disadvantage for so long. We got to

0:35:05.400 --> 0:35:07.160
<v Speaker 5>know when we're in the orange or the red or

0:35:07.400 --> 0:35:09.840
<v Speaker 5>you know, like, hey, you gotta know if you can

0:35:09.920 --> 0:35:12.120
<v Speaker 5>pour or not. If you can't pour, guess what you

0:35:12.239 --> 0:35:14.480
<v Speaker 5>gotta you got you got a friend that can pay.

0:35:16.040 --> 0:35:19.279
<v Speaker 4>We're flowing. So yeah, you know what I'm saying.

0:35:19.440 --> 0:35:23.080
<v Speaker 5>And you know, I think conversations, you know, for me,

0:35:23.719 --> 0:35:26.000
<v Speaker 5>I can say, like, you know, being a young dad,

0:35:26.160 --> 0:35:28.960
<v Speaker 5>like when I was twenty three, twenty four, you know,

0:35:29.120 --> 0:35:31.520
<v Speaker 5>like my daughters like five, and it's like you know,

0:35:32.000 --> 0:35:34.960
<v Speaker 5>I you know, it wasn't much to do around that time.

0:35:35.040 --> 0:35:36.880
<v Speaker 5>Like I wouldn't say it was easy, but it was

0:35:36.960 --> 0:35:39.520
<v Speaker 5>like the easiest hard when they're younger, that was the

0:35:39.600 --> 0:35:43.520
<v Speaker 5>easy part. The hard part is when they become people,

0:35:43.680 --> 0:35:46.480
<v Speaker 5>you have to really guide them and be like, hey, listen.

0:35:46.640 --> 0:35:49.920
<v Speaker 4>That's not right, you know, but.

0:35:51.880 --> 0:35:54.080
<v Speaker 3>Sorry, I lost It's okay, high.

0:35:56.480 --> 0:35:58.400
<v Speaker 5>I just I was talking about yeah, like the pouring

0:35:58.520 --> 0:36:01.239
<v Speaker 5>into okay, sorry, yeah, I just speak from my mind.

0:36:01.320 --> 0:36:05.320
<v Speaker 5>I think before I speak, must be inquirsed leo moving.

0:36:05.440 --> 0:36:07.920
<v Speaker 5>But yeah, like you guys got to make sure you're

0:36:08.040 --> 0:36:10.960
<v Speaker 5>pouring into a cup that has a little something many

0:36:11.600 --> 0:36:14.880
<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean, and that that comes with discernment,

0:36:15.280 --> 0:36:17.360
<v Speaker 5>you know, like women, when do you guys learn.

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<v Speaker 1>Then we don't have discernment?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I would say thirty three and a half. It's

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<v Speaker 3>me right now. I just learned it last week, and

0:36:33.360 --> 0:36:36.000
<v Speaker 3>I can say that you know, and and you I

0:36:36.080 --> 0:36:39.560
<v Speaker 3>think as women, intuitively, we're some intuitive ask natures.

0:36:39.760 --> 0:36:40.279
<v Speaker 4>Oh my god.

0:36:40.640 --> 0:36:42.440
<v Speaker 3>Like I know people get weird about this word. But

0:36:42.680 --> 0:36:45.000
<v Speaker 3>when I say we're witches, it is because our words

0:36:45.040 --> 0:36:47.640
<v Speaker 3>are spelled. It is because we are alchemists. It is

0:36:47.719 --> 0:36:50.960
<v Speaker 3>because we are powerful and we really can't manipulate the

0:36:51.120 --> 0:36:53.080
<v Speaker 3>energies that be. I've seen it happen.

0:36:53.600 --> 0:36:58.120
<v Speaker 5>We are wizards, don't you know. Don't leave that little

0:36:58.200 --> 0:37:00.920
<v Speaker 5>power over there. We are wizards to you, absolutely are.

0:37:01.120 --> 0:37:03.480
<v Speaker 3>But I think with all of that being said, I

0:37:03.560 --> 0:37:07.479
<v Speaker 3>think sometimes because of where we're at how we've lost

0:37:07.560 --> 0:37:10.839
<v Speaker 3>touch with our powers of who we are in each other.

0:37:11.160 --> 0:37:15.200
<v Speaker 3>Like there are things that you know, we know instinctually,

0:37:15.600 --> 0:37:18.960
<v Speaker 3>but we believe the programming, and so we try and

0:37:19.080 --> 0:37:21.040
<v Speaker 3>we try. Let me try it this way, let me

0:37:21.120 --> 0:37:22.960
<v Speaker 3>go over, let me go under, let me hit it here.

0:37:23.239 --> 0:37:25.120
<v Speaker 3>Maybe if I go in the back window, maybe if

0:37:25.160 --> 0:37:26.520
<v Speaker 3>I pour over here, maybe if I shake like this,

0:37:26.640 --> 0:37:28.160
<v Speaker 3>you know what I'm saying, Like there's all these things

0:37:28.200 --> 0:37:31.320
<v Speaker 3>where like you see this like one percent of like

0:37:31.440 --> 0:37:33.680
<v Speaker 3>of potential, and then you want to water that. But

0:37:33.800 --> 0:37:36.640
<v Speaker 3>in reality and then we want to cling You know

0:37:36.760 --> 0:37:40.000
<v Speaker 3>that I'm a cancer, So Lord Jesus, that clinging shit

0:37:40.280 --> 0:37:44.319
<v Speaker 3>is like outside soft hands, so fucking soft soft is kitten,

0:37:44.400 --> 0:37:45.120
<v Speaker 3>motherfucking candy.

0:37:45.239 --> 0:37:48.760
<v Speaker 4>I love I got a cousin, is a cancer shutout.

0:37:49.239 --> 0:37:49.960
<v Speaker 4>I love Jesus.

0:37:50.120 --> 0:37:53.640
<v Speaker 3>I love aquariuses. I'm learning to love aquariuses recently.

0:37:53.960 --> 0:37:58.320
<v Speaker 5>Hard to love because we're so spaced out. We're in

0:37:58.400 --> 0:37:59.920
<v Speaker 5>the age of Aquarius. You know, we went from the

0:38:00.080 --> 0:38:03.080
<v Speaker 5>age of Pisces, who brought you guys, Jesus and Buddha

0:38:03.120 --> 0:38:03.440
<v Speaker 5>and all that.

0:38:03.560 --> 0:38:05.560
<v Speaker 4>But now we're in the age of Aquarius, and we

0:38:05.719 --> 0:38:06.319
<v Speaker 4>changing it up.

0:38:06.320 --> 0:38:07.960
<v Speaker 3>We shaking it up is shaken up.

0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:10.359
<v Speaker 4>We're shaking it up. If you want to get shu,

0:38:10.640 --> 0:38:11.200
<v Speaker 4>come this way.

0:38:11.360 --> 0:38:14.920
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna shook it. I'm here to get shook it

0:38:15.920 --> 0:38:21.879
<v Speaker 3>shook with me, but for real, like yeah, it's it's

0:38:22.040 --> 0:38:25.800
<v Speaker 3>it's that discernment and you know, like I've been I

0:38:25.920 --> 0:38:28.480
<v Speaker 3>told I always talk about this. There was his last relationship.

0:38:28.520 --> 0:38:29.719
<v Speaker 3>This was when I was thirty three and a half

0:38:31.280 --> 0:38:34.040
<v Speaker 3>and I was like, don't do this. I saw the light.

0:38:34.120 --> 0:38:36.240
<v Speaker 3>I was like, you're healing. You're doing so well, you're evolving.

0:38:36.280 --> 0:38:39.640
<v Speaker 3>And then I was like huh. I was like, I'm

0:38:39.719 --> 0:38:41.360
<v Speaker 3>going to the light and I was like yeah. I

0:38:41.400 --> 0:38:44.719
<v Speaker 3>was like, over here, is that the darkness? Is that

0:38:44.800 --> 0:38:50.480
<v Speaker 3>a dark alley calling my name? Is that backwards? I'm

0:38:50.560 --> 0:38:53.400
<v Speaker 3>so curious about what's happening. If I sink, if I

0:38:53.480 --> 0:38:55.880
<v Speaker 3>sink into this cluick sand. But I did it consciously

0:38:55.920 --> 0:38:58.640
<v Speaker 3>and then I came out of it consciously quicker thought.

0:38:58.760 --> 0:38:58.960
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:38:58.960 --> 0:39:04.879
<v Speaker 3>I was like, oh, mage have it. But I knew

0:39:05.000 --> 0:39:08.200
<v Speaker 3>like that into that intuitive bullshit. I was like, I

0:39:08.400 --> 0:39:12.040
<v Speaker 3>told myself to myself, I said, bitch, this is a test.

0:39:12.320 --> 0:39:14.359
<v Speaker 3>Are you mature yet? And I was like no, I'm

0:39:14.400 --> 0:39:16.279
<v Speaker 3>not I'm a dumb bitch.

0:39:17.480 --> 0:39:21.520
<v Speaker 5>I'm at least you owned it, and I feel like

0:39:21.760 --> 0:39:26.600
<v Speaker 5>that's that is where you know people can People can

0:39:27.080 --> 0:39:30.200
<v Speaker 5>rest in that owning it and have more either fun

0:39:30.440 --> 0:39:33.080
<v Speaker 5>or go further in the intellect of what we're doing.

0:39:33.239 --> 0:39:35.480
<v Speaker 5>Like you know, a lot of the women that me

0:39:35.600 --> 0:39:38.920
<v Speaker 5>me man like, I tell them off the rip, like,

0:39:39.840 --> 0:39:41.080
<v Speaker 5>trust me, you don't want to fall.

0:39:40.960 --> 0:39:42.239
<v Speaker 4>In love with me. If you don't want to be

0:39:42.320 --> 0:39:44.560
<v Speaker 4>madly in love with someone, if you don't want to

0:39:44.680 --> 0:39:49.560
<v Speaker 4>like think of one, don't just like me from right there.

0:39:50.160 --> 0:39:50.520
<v Speaker 3>Don't want to.

0:39:52.200 --> 0:39:53.920
<v Speaker 4>And like me from right there, because if you get

0:39:53.960 --> 0:39:56.680
<v Speaker 4>any closer, you're going to think about me every day.

0:39:57.360 --> 0:39:58.239
<v Speaker 4>I tell that too.

0:39:58.880 --> 0:40:00.640
<v Speaker 1>Do you think about that every day?

0:40:01.320 --> 0:40:03.520
<v Speaker 4>Are you? Are you.

0:40:05.760 --> 0:40:09.400
<v Speaker 5>Falling deep? But I'm falling deep in everything I do.

0:40:10.040 --> 0:40:13.360
<v Speaker 5>So don't think I don't love you because I'm falling

0:40:13.400 --> 0:40:15.279
<v Speaker 5>deep in this. I'm about to fall I'm about to

0:40:15.320 --> 0:40:17.040
<v Speaker 5>go wag up and then fall back and deep in

0:40:17.120 --> 0:40:20.440
<v Speaker 5>with you. But because everybody can't do that, they may

0:40:20.560 --> 0:40:22.400
<v Speaker 5>be like, oh, you don't love me, but it's like no,

0:40:22.560 --> 0:40:25.960
<v Speaker 5>I just love the same way I love you. So

0:40:26.320 --> 0:40:29.359
<v Speaker 5>just be patient with me and just know the love

0:40:29.480 --> 0:40:31.399
<v Speaker 5>is a boomerang. You know what I'm saying, It's gonna

0:40:31.400 --> 0:40:32.680
<v Speaker 5>come right back, you know what I mean.

0:40:36.640 --> 0:40:39.160
<v Speaker 3>So you know, as moms, we're so busy. We make

0:40:39.200 --> 0:40:41.520
<v Speaker 3>sure our kids are fed, they're going to school, they're

0:40:41.560 --> 0:40:45.440
<v Speaker 3>staying healthy, happy, safe. We do all this while working,

0:40:45.600 --> 0:40:47.960
<v Speaker 3>earning a living, and taking care of the home. And

0:40:48.440 --> 0:40:51.920
<v Speaker 3>I'm fucking pooped, like I have no time and space.

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0:43:26.239 --> 0:43:28.600
<v Speaker 3>like a pretty low key guy. I never you know, Yeah,

0:43:28.719 --> 0:43:30.640
<v Speaker 3>you seem pretty private. I've never seen you on this

0:43:30.800 --> 0:43:33.759
<v Speaker 3>on this shade rim the news of the of the

0:43:33.840 --> 0:43:36.360
<v Speaker 3>new era. What are like?

0:43:36.800 --> 0:43:37.320
<v Speaker 4>You know? Are you?

0:43:37.360 --> 0:43:37.880
<v Speaker 3>Are you single?

0:43:38.480 --> 0:43:40.600
<v Speaker 4>Yes, single handedly doing my thing?

0:43:41.800 --> 0:43:46.839
<v Speaker 3>I've heard that, baby, babe it What in dating are

0:43:46.920 --> 0:43:48.759
<v Speaker 3>you seeking, like a long term relationship do you have?

0:43:48.960 --> 0:43:52.920
<v Speaker 3>What are you like? Non negotiables? Ladies?

0:43:53.640 --> 0:43:56.279
<v Speaker 1>Ladies want to know what top three non negotiables?

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<v Speaker 4>All right, all right, you've got to love yourself. You

0:44:01.280 --> 0:44:02.919
<v Speaker 4>gotta have self esteem, baby.

0:44:03.040 --> 0:44:06.040
<v Speaker 5>That's number one for me, because you're not about to

0:44:06.080 --> 0:44:07.920
<v Speaker 5>get mad at me for all the self esteem I

0:44:08.000 --> 0:44:11.120
<v Speaker 5>got right, You're not about to make me question my shit.

0:44:11.640 --> 0:44:14.440
<v Speaker 5>So I need you to have full self esteem. I

0:44:14.560 --> 0:44:16.840
<v Speaker 5>need you to be a self starter, you know, a

0:44:16.960 --> 0:44:20.080
<v Speaker 5>self motivator. You know, because in the wee hours of

0:44:20.080 --> 0:44:21.880
<v Speaker 5>the night when I'm creating, or i leave the studio

0:44:21.960 --> 0:44:24.040
<v Speaker 5>or I'm going home and I can't sleep, like I

0:44:24.239 --> 0:44:25.799
<v Speaker 5>have to make myself go to sleep.

0:44:26.160 --> 0:44:28.520
<v Speaker 4>No one's there. I'm not taking no pills. I'm not

0:44:28.560 --> 0:44:29.240
<v Speaker 4>taking no drugs.

0:44:29.239 --> 0:44:32.359
<v Speaker 5>I'm a natural reagen out of rude way, so I'm

0:44:32.440 --> 0:44:34.800
<v Speaker 5>not you know, I ain't taking no pills or anything

0:44:34.920 --> 0:44:39.680
<v Speaker 5>chemical to get me there. I'm basically putting myself through

0:44:39.719 --> 0:44:41.560
<v Speaker 5>the worst shit so that no.

0:44:41.600 --> 0:44:46.799
<v Speaker 4>One else can. That's my logic. So it's like, yeah,

0:44:47.120 --> 0:44:49.680
<v Speaker 4>I put myself through the worst so that whatever comes

0:44:49.880 --> 0:44:52.200
<v Speaker 4>or whatever. You know, it's nothing to me.

0:44:52.360 --> 0:44:54.480
<v Speaker 3>This seems like a job listing. Are you a self starters?

0:44:54.480 --> 0:44:55.120
<v Speaker 3>A self starter?

0:44:55.600 --> 0:45:03.600
<v Speaker 4>Yourself? Love yourself? And you know what's that? Uh, I

0:45:03.640 --> 0:45:06.640
<v Speaker 4>don't know. You might gotta smoke, we you might go

0:45:09.360 --> 0:45:11.600
<v Speaker 4>if you don't smunkly. You gotta do shrooms. You gotta

0:45:11.640 --> 0:45:19.719
<v Speaker 4>do some type of like, oh, you're out drink. If

0:45:19.760 --> 0:45:22.239
<v Speaker 4>all you do is drink, we're not gonna get along.

0:45:22.800 --> 0:45:24.360
<v Speaker 5>You know what I'm saying, Like you need to do

0:45:24.480 --> 0:45:27.279
<v Speaker 5>some type of like something natural, like I said, mushrooms

0:45:27.880 --> 0:45:30.600
<v Speaker 5>or like weed, you know that comes from the earth.

0:45:31.040 --> 0:45:33.520
<v Speaker 4>So I'm tied to the land, baby, you know what

0:45:33.560 --> 0:45:35.920
<v Speaker 4>I'm saying, Like you need to be tied to the

0:45:36.000 --> 0:45:38.080
<v Speaker 4>land too. If you just tied to like other.

0:45:38.000 --> 0:45:43.480
<v Speaker 5>Things, we're gonna disconnect. So yeah, self confidence, self motivating,

0:45:43.640 --> 0:45:45.479
<v Speaker 5>and you gotta be of of the land.

0:45:45.520 --> 0:45:47.400
<v Speaker 4>You gotta know, you.

0:45:47.440 --> 0:45:51.360
<v Speaker 5>Gotta like either be into like beating or like hiking

0:45:51.719 --> 0:45:53.000
<v Speaker 5>or like you know what I mean. You can't just

0:45:53.120 --> 0:45:57.400
<v Speaker 5>be like you gotta be into arts and crafts like

0:45:57.520 --> 0:45:59.040
<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean. You gotta you have to

0:45:59.120 --> 0:46:01.640
<v Speaker 5>do something like that, because if you wanted them shorties,

0:46:01.680 --> 0:46:04.719
<v Speaker 5>I just want to go out, go to restaurants, eat this,

0:46:05.000 --> 0:46:08.279
<v Speaker 5>don't even really eat everything, take the stuff home, don't

0:46:08.280 --> 0:46:10.080
<v Speaker 5>even eat it like you're trying to reheat it in

0:46:10.160 --> 0:46:10.440
<v Speaker 5>the air.

0:46:10.560 --> 0:46:10.799
<v Speaker 4>Fright.

0:46:11.080 --> 0:46:13.800
<v Speaker 5>The next day, were on something else, we meditating today

0:46:14.040 --> 0:46:14.960
<v Speaker 5>we're not even eating that.

0:46:15.440 --> 0:46:16.759
<v Speaker 4>It's over. Yeah, you know.

0:46:16.960 --> 0:46:19.719
<v Speaker 5>So it's like them shortis that want to get lit

0:46:19.800 --> 0:46:21.960
<v Speaker 5>and they want to go to the nice restaurants and

0:46:22.000 --> 0:46:22.200
<v Speaker 5>all that.

0:46:22.440 --> 0:46:24.600
<v Speaker 4>You know, I do that from time to time, but

0:46:24.719 --> 0:46:25.839
<v Speaker 4>I've done it so long.

0:46:26.040 --> 0:46:29.240
<v Speaker 5>Like you know, you wanted to go to the clubs

0:46:29.640 --> 0:46:31.600
<v Speaker 5>the Chef and mashows and Beverly Hills, like I know

0:46:31.680 --> 0:46:34.200
<v Speaker 5>the Chef because I've been going there so many years.

0:46:34.719 --> 0:46:35.439
<v Speaker 1>You do both.

0:46:35.520 --> 0:46:39.840
<v Speaker 3>You could go to mass shows and do like grounding

0:46:40.520 --> 0:46:45.400
<v Speaker 3>that's I'm like, I'm like, take me to the restaurant. Yeah, yeah, yeah, we.

0:46:48.520 --> 0:46:50.000
<v Speaker 4>Walk, I'm doing both.

0:46:51.560 --> 0:46:53.880
<v Speaker 3>Take me to the mass shows on the beach and.

0:46:53.920 --> 0:46:59.200
<v Speaker 5>Then yeah, we have to go to that one because

0:46:59.280 --> 0:47:01.920
<v Speaker 5>you know, the the negative ions that's hitting.

0:47:01.680 --> 0:47:03.600
<v Speaker 3>The ocean, it's gonna take away the badness.

0:47:03.640 --> 0:47:07.000
<v Speaker 4>And if you think about that you just went through

0:47:07.000 --> 0:47:08.160
<v Speaker 4>before you put up.

0:47:08.880 --> 0:47:11.320
<v Speaker 3>Eat like I eat fine dining by the beach and

0:47:11.400 --> 0:47:16.000
<v Speaker 3>do melamones? Have you have you heard of milamones? Let

0:47:16.040 --> 0:47:18.080
<v Speaker 3>me teach you. I know you meditate and ship, like

0:47:18.120 --> 0:47:20.399
<v Speaker 3>maybe you want to adopt this into your practice. I've

0:47:20.400 --> 0:47:22.520
<v Speaker 3>been spreading the words, so you know, I'm just offering

0:47:22.560 --> 0:47:25.200
<v Speaker 3>it up to everyone. And it's just you know, like

0:47:25.680 --> 0:47:28.640
<v Speaker 3>just like stretching is the release. What we've discovered. I've

0:47:28.680 --> 0:47:31.879
<v Speaker 3>discovered that, like, you know, using voice as a release too.

0:47:32.239 --> 0:47:34.719
<v Speaker 3>If it's sometimes you got to cry, sometimes you gotta yell,

0:47:35.120 --> 0:47:38.239
<v Speaker 3>and sometimes as humans we forget like that moaning is

0:47:38.360 --> 0:47:41.960
<v Speaker 3>not just reserved for sex. It's you know, it's pleasurable,

0:47:42.000 --> 0:47:44.800
<v Speaker 3>like oh that's beautiful, for really beautiful?

0:47:45.360 --> 0:47:46.640
<v Speaker 4>Did you hear Yeah?

0:47:46.760 --> 0:47:48.000
<v Speaker 3>I did? Well did I didn't hear it?

0:47:48.080 --> 0:47:48.360
<v Speaker 7>But I was.

0:47:48.520 --> 0:47:49.120
<v Speaker 1>But when I saw you.

0:47:49.160 --> 0:47:50.640
<v Speaker 3>I was like, he needs to know about Mela mos.

0:47:50.680 --> 0:47:51.520
<v Speaker 4>I start at the end.

0:47:51.600 --> 0:47:54.480
<v Speaker 5>I started doing a Yeah, I told everybody to do

0:47:55.080 --> 0:47:57.640
<v Speaker 5>because od is one of my favorite I mean, besides

0:47:57.719 --> 0:48:01.000
<v Speaker 5>obviously is amazing, but ah.

0:48:02.680 --> 0:48:03.600
<v Speaker 4>Liberates myself.

0:48:05.320 --> 0:48:16.520
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, just like m hm oh ship yeah give.

0:48:22.640 --> 0:48:24.320
<v Speaker 7>Mm hmmmm.

0:48:28.320 --> 0:48:33.840
<v Speaker 4>H hey, honestly, let me be real man, it took me.

0:48:34.800 --> 0:48:35.520
<v Speaker 4>M m all right.

0:48:37.320 --> 0:48:40.200
<v Speaker 5>I've been like, I'm like thirty five, so I'm like,

0:48:41.280 --> 0:48:44.600
<v Speaker 5>I'm like twenty years into my sex career.

0:48:45.040 --> 0:48:49.120
<v Speaker 4>Mm hmm right, all right, and it took me.

0:48:52.239 --> 0:48:53.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna call you.

0:48:55.200 --> 0:48:55.879
<v Speaker 1>We gotta get better.

0:48:55.960 --> 0:48:58.400
<v Speaker 3>We gotta shark it raises.

0:48:58.920 --> 0:48:59.120
<v Speaker 4>Oh.

0:48:59.680 --> 0:49:03.719
<v Speaker 5>So, what I've learned when I'm thinking about like all

0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:05.759
<v Speaker 5>my little phases, what I would do, what I was

0:49:05.840 --> 0:49:08.480
<v Speaker 5>into and stuff like that, what I'm learning right now

0:49:08.640 --> 0:49:12.040
<v Speaker 5>in my sex career is that, you know, this is

0:49:12.160 --> 0:49:13.839
<v Speaker 5>like my first in the last five years.

0:49:13.880 --> 0:49:16.520
<v Speaker 4>This is my first time really like letting the moan out.

0:49:16.800 --> 0:49:21.560
<v Speaker 3>Oh wow, they forget what we like that though.

0:49:22.080 --> 0:49:25.160
<v Speaker 5>Well, I learned that a couple of years ago because

0:49:25.320 --> 0:49:28.080
<v Speaker 5>my first experience she did something I was just like,

0:49:29.840 --> 0:49:30.560
<v Speaker 5>what are you doing?

0:49:30.600 --> 0:49:31.759
<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna have to know what that was?

0:49:32.840 --> 0:49:37.680
<v Speaker 5>Well, well, she just started, you know, doing things that

0:49:37.960 --> 0:49:41.239
<v Speaker 5>have never been done, you know, And I'm like, wait

0:49:41.280 --> 0:49:43.440
<v Speaker 5>a minute, I'm comfortable with you.

0:49:43.880 --> 0:49:45.920
<v Speaker 4>Why are you doing this? Why why do you want

0:49:45.960 --> 0:49:49.520
<v Speaker 4>to make me feel this good? You feel me? And

0:49:50.400 --> 0:49:53.040
<v Speaker 4>I learned about myself, like I heard, I heard my mom.

0:49:53.120 --> 0:49:55.759
<v Speaker 3>And then it's kind of a turn on, right, my

0:49:55.920 --> 0:49:57.080
<v Speaker 3>pleasure sounds.

0:49:56.840 --> 0:49:59.920
<v Speaker 4>Good like nam money. Yeah, you need to get in.

0:50:00.080 --> 0:50:00.920
<v Speaker 4>You know, I could sing this.

0:50:01.239 --> 0:50:03.440
<v Speaker 3>You know you know I sing, so you know, can

0:50:03.480 --> 0:50:04.680
<v Speaker 3>you can you sing a month for us?

0:50:06.200 --> 0:50:10.239
<v Speaker 4>Absolutely not. It would be fake. It would be fair.

0:50:10.719 --> 0:50:11.319
<v Speaker 3>You know what I'm saying.

0:50:11.320 --> 0:50:12.640
<v Speaker 4>It would be fake, and I don't want to get

0:50:12.640 --> 0:50:13.080
<v Speaker 4>you all fake.

0:50:13.120 --> 0:50:16.080
<v Speaker 3>All right, those other mons were good. I appreciate you

0:50:16.200 --> 0:50:18.520
<v Speaker 3>for joining, Thank you for joining.

0:50:18.760 --> 0:50:21.480
<v Speaker 4>I'm a tinner. I'm a tinner, slightly an alto.

0:50:22.320 --> 0:50:25.719
<v Speaker 5>So ladies, hmm, if I'm speaking to you and you're

0:50:25.719 --> 0:50:28.879
<v Speaker 5>close to me, you're going to feel the viber.

0:50:30.880 --> 0:50:31.040
<v Speaker 4>With me.

0:50:32.120 --> 0:50:37.120
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, no, it's fucking true. I did with a

0:50:37.160 --> 0:50:39.200
<v Speaker 3>baritone voice. And I didn't even like him at first,

0:50:39.239 --> 0:50:42.480
<v Speaker 3>and he like whispered some ship. But it was only

0:50:42.520 --> 0:50:45.759
<v Speaker 3>when he got like in it, like yeah, literally I

0:50:45.920 --> 0:50:48.160
<v Speaker 3>was cool on him. I was like, I'm like, I'm cool.

0:50:48.880 --> 0:50:50.960
<v Speaker 3>He got like three inches from my bitch's ear level.

0:50:51.000 --> 0:50:53.080
<v Speaker 3>He was like the room number is. I was like,

0:50:53.239 --> 0:50:56.800
<v Speaker 3>what the fuck? I was like, yeah, I was like what.

0:50:59.280 --> 0:51:02.680
<v Speaker 3>I was like, Okay, that was a nigga that I

0:51:03.000 --> 0:51:07.759
<v Speaker 3>said was a back alley, dark dark way.

0:51:08.440 --> 0:51:09.920
<v Speaker 4>Everything's bright except this.

0:51:10.280 --> 0:51:14.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah that that voice. Yeah, yeah, I gotta stop

0:51:14.040 --> 0:51:15.440
<v Speaker 3>talking about him on my episodes.

0:51:16.120 --> 0:51:20.040
<v Speaker 5>I had an impression. You know, shadow work is important too.

0:51:20.400 --> 0:51:23.480
<v Speaker 5>You know a lot of people, you know, obviously we

0:51:23.600 --> 0:51:26.640
<v Speaker 5>come up in religion and praying.

0:51:26.360 --> 0:51:27.759
<v Speaker 4>And getting on your knees and praying.

0:51:27.920 --> 0:51:30.720
<v Speaker 3>Did you grow up Christian or like in religious?

0:51:30.760 --> 0:51:31.719
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I grew up.

0:51:32.400 --> 0:51:36.000
<v Speaker 5>My aunt had a church, she's a pastor, so yeah,

0:51:36.040 --> 0:51:39.799
<v Speaker 5>I grew up Christian. And then my sister's dad, who

0:51:39.920 --> 0:51:42.040
<v Speaker 5>is not my dad, my dad, but my mom my

0:51:42.400 --> 0:51:43.600
<v Speaker 5>sisters we have different dads.

0:51:44.320 --> 0:51:46.600
<v Speaker 4>He was seven day of minutes, so I was like

0:51:47.320 --> 0:51:49.919
<v Speaker 4>ten eleven years old in a seven day minutes. Yeah,

0:51:51.160 --> 0:51:53.800
<v Speaker 4>you know about the seven day that's yeah, yeah, I

0:51:53.880 --> 0:51:55.520
<v Speaker 4>had to I had to have the experience.

0:51:56.640 --> 0:51:58.200
<v Speaker 3>I was talking about that intent.

0:51:59.520 --> 0:52:01.160
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I lost my originator.

0:52:01.680 --> 0:52:04.640
<v Speaker 5>So it was like, yeah, Friday night to Saturday night,

0:52:05.000 --> 0:52:07.960
<v Speaker 5>no nothing, you know, but we weren't doing any settings.

0:52:08.040 --> 0:52:10.000
<v Speaker 4>So that was that was the part I couldn't respect.

0:52:10.040 --> 0:52:12.120
<v Speaker 4>It was like, all right, we're gonna get us into this,

0:52:12.320 --> 0:52:14.920
<v Speaker 4>like learn the keys. But it's just like, no, you

0:52:15.000 --> 0:52:18.319
<v Speaker 4>can't play video games right now, you can't.

0:52:18.360 --> 0:52:19.920
<v Speaker 3>You know, you can't do anything. Don't do anything.

0:52:20.280 --> 0:52:22.920
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, So you know it's it's levels. You know.

0:52:23.080 --> 0:52:26.799
<v Speaker 5>I grew up that way, but you know, through time

0:52:26.920 --> 0:52:30.560
<v Speaker 5>I developed my own modalities because I realized this is

0:52:31.160 --> 0:52:32.960
<v Speaker 5>this is all, this is all you know.

0:52:33.160 --> 0:52:33.840
<v Speaker 4>What you make it?

0:52:34.280 --> 0:52:36.440
<v Speaker 3>What are some of the modalities you've adopted to do

0:52:36.560 --> 0:52:40.000
<v Speaker 3>shadow work? And what shadow work have you done? Like

0:52:40.080 --> 0:52:42.640
<v Speaker 3>maybe there's a man man tuning in first.

0:52:42.440 --> 0:52:43.560
<v Speaker 4>And foremost.

0:52:45.080 --> 0:52:49.960
<v Speaker 5>Doing mushrooms, you feel me, I know on TV and

0:52:50.040 --> 0:52:53.600
<v Speaker 5>the media, like maybe someone saw mushrooms like being done

0:52:53.640 --> 0:52:56.960
<v Speaker 5>on TV or you know, but that's not the actual

0:52:57.120 --> 0:52:58.120
<v Speaker 5>original purpose.

0:52:58.239 --> 0:52:59.879
<v Speaker 4>You feel me like this comes from the earth.

0:53:00.239 --> 0:53:03.400
<v Speaker 5>And every time I do mushrooms, it's shadow work because

0:53:03.560 --> 0:53:06.399
<v Speaker 5>I'm presented with some ship I did or some ship

0:53:06.719 --> 0:53:09.440
<v Speaker 5>that happened to me. You know, it's coming up in

0:53:09.560 --> 0:53:12.279
<v Speaker 5>the trip and I'm like, oh my god, how did

0:53:12.320 --> 0:53:14.320
<v Speaker 5>I feel? You know, a lot of times when we

0:53:14.440 --> 0:53:18.520
<v Speaker 5>have trauma, we don't we put it to the side.

0:53:19.280 --> 0:53:20.800
<v Speaker 3>A lot of times when you're black, you put it.

0:53:20.920 --> 0:53:21.560
<v Speaker 4>You got on.

0:53:23.440 --> 0:53:26.200
<v Speaker 1>Look, you got on the side, literally almost every time.

0:53:26.280 --> 0:53:26.920
<v Speaker 1>Let's be honest.

0:53:27.080 --> 0:53:29.600
<v Speaker 5>Okay, we have so much stuff on the side and

0:53:29.719 --> 0:53:33.800
<v Speaker 5>we just moving and walking around and hey we lit no, no, no, no, no,

0:53:33.960 --> 0:53:36.360
<v Speaker 5>you need to get that stuff on the side.

0:53:36.840 --> 0:53:41.400
<v Speaker 4>So, you know, Ayuasca was a big, big help for me.

0:53:42.960 --> 0:53:46.200
<v Speaker 3>Purging, you know, right in the ayahuasca experience.

0:53:46.360 --> 0:53:50.640
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, the ayahuasca experience was amazing. It was life changing.

0:53:51.360 --> 0:53:57.239
<v Speaker 5>Like I did it after after the tour, which the

0:53:57.360 --> 0:54:01.040
<v Speaker 5>tour was so tough, you know for me because it's

0:54:01.040 --> 0:54:03.520
<v Speaker 5>been a while since I've been in that world, and

0:54:03.640 --> 0:54:06.560
<v Speaker 5>it was like revisiting some people from the past that

0:54:06.680 --> 0:54:08.360
<v Speaker 5>I've moved on from, and.

0:54:08.400 --> 0:54:11.080
<v Speaker 4>It was like, why are we doing this?

0:54:11.360 --> 0:54:12.840
<v Speaker 3>What did you learn in that experience?

0:54:13.560 --> 0:54:18.240
<v Speaker 5>I learned that you know, the past is the past,

0:54:18.719 --> 0:54:23.520
<v Speaker 5>and however you choose to you know, you have to

0:54:23.800 --> 0:54:25.960
<v Speaker 5>you have to decide how you're going to walk away.

0:54:26.600 --> 0:54:28.360
<v Speaker 4>A lot of people when we have trauma and stuff

0:54:28.400 --> 0:54:29.719
<v Speaker 4>happens to us, we like.

0:54:30.200 --> 0:54:32.920
<v Speaker 5>Run away and we're like, oh this happened to me,

0:54:33.200 --> 0:54:36.680
<v Speaker 5>and this is wrong, and now I'm here dealing with

0:54:36.800 --> 0:54:39.800
<v Speaker 5>this what happened to me, But you have to approach

0:54:39.880 --> 0:54:43.640
<v Speaker 5>it and be like, yo, that was wrong.

0:54:44.239 --> 0:54:47.000
<v Speaker 4>This wasn't supposed to happen to me. And I know that,

0:54:47.840 --> 0:54:49.279
<v Speaker 4>and now I'm carrying.

0:54:49.040 --> 0:54:52.839
<v Speaker 5>On this is it is over, you know, And that tour,

0:54:53.520 --> 0:54:56.160
<v Speaker 5>you know, really helped me deal and heal with that

0:54:56.320 --> 0:54:57.480
<v Speaker 5>because you.

0:54:57.520 --> 0:54:59.239
<v Speaker 4>Know, when I first started my career when I was

0:54:59.280 --> 0:55:00.080
<v Speaker 4>sixteen sevent.

0:55:00.040 --> 0:55:05.120
<v Speaker 5>Team I would suppose Orion, Orion's career was supposed to

0:55:05.160 --> 0:55:08.480
<v Speaker 5>have the support of B two K's career, and because

0:55:08.560 --> 0:55:11.600
<v Speaker 5>they didn't want they got jealous of me, you know,

0:55:11.800 --> 0:55:14.560
<v Speaker 5>and we almost fought on my first performance.

0:55:14.680 --> 0:55:18.560
<v Speaker 4>You know, that turned me off from doing everything I

0:55:19.120 --> 0:55:23.960
<v Speaker 4>was destined to do. You know. So shit happens, but

0:55:24.120 --> 0:55:25.560
<v Speaker 4>it's all about how you deal with it.

0:55:25.680 --> 0:55:28.400
<v Speaker 5>And at that moment the tour, it was like okay.

0:55:29.480 --> 0:55:31.360
<v Speaker 5>It was like, hey, you want to still be a

0:55:31.480 --> 0:55:34.440
<v Speaker 5>victim or you want to be a victor. And you know,

0:55:34.719 --> 0:55:36.879
<v Speaker 5>like I said, my dad his name is Victor. Shout

0:55:36.920 --> 0:55:39.080
<v Speaker 5>out my dad, even though you know we're not you

0:55:39.160 --> 0:55:41.480
<v Speaker 5>know what I'm saying where I wish we were, But

0:55:42.520 --> 0:55:45.360
<v Speaker 5>my dad's name is Victor. So I would always be victorious.

0:55:46.600 --> 0:55:49.239
<v Speaker 5>So after the tour, that was like, oh, this is

0:55:49.280 --> 0:55:52.560
<v Speaker 5>my moment. Get back to yourself or Ryan enough daddy,

0:55:52.800 --> 0:55:55.960
<v Speaker 5>that's what I call it, dadding. Yeah, enough dadding, you know,

0:55:56.200 --> 0:55:58.759
<v Speaker 5>like get back to your purpose. Like my purpose wasn't

0:55:58.800 --> 0:56:00.560
<v Speaker 5>to be a good dad. It's just part of who

0:56:00.640 --> 0:56:03.399
<v Speaker 5>I am. But my purpose is to influence the world,

0:56:03.800 --> 0:56:06.040
<v Speaker 5>to change the world. So I have to get back

0:56:06.080 --> 0:56:09.359
<v Speaker 5>to my strongest modality, which is entertainment, which is being

0:56:09.440 --> 0:56:10.120
<v Speaker 5>in front of people.

0:56:10.680 --> 0:56:13.520
<v Speaker 4>And you know that just that tour was the catalyst

0:56:13.600 --> 0:56:15.160
<v Speaker 4>for me because, like you.

0:56:15.200 --> 0:56:17.440
<v Speaker 5>Said earlier, I felt a lot of guilt, you know,

0:56:17.680 --> 0:56:21.080
<v Speaker 5>like because my original plan was to be like president

0:56:21.160 --> 0:56:22.600
<v Speaker 5>in my daughter's life and all that.

0:56:22.719 --> 0:56:25.080
<v Speaker 4>And you know, once my mom's.

0:56:24.800 --> 0:56:28.400
<v Speaker 5>Career started kicking off and you know, settling, and you know,

0:56:29.080 --> 0:56:31.239
<v Speaker 5>like I said, after seven, you know, she started being

0:56:31.280 --> 0:56:33.680
<v Speaker 5>with mom more. You know, she started going, my daughter

0:56:33.760 --> 0:56:36.800
<v Speaker 5>start having lady changes and going through things, and it's like,

0:56:36.800 --> 0:56:38.600
<v Speaker 5>all right with your mom, I.

0:56:40.200 --> 0:56:40.640
<v Speaker 4>Don't have it.

0:56:40.920 --> 0:56:44.480
<v Speaker 3>Well, I don't have any I don't have this experience.

0:56:44.520 --> 0:56:46.719
<v Speaker 4>You know, I can tell you this, but that ain't

0:56:46.719 --> 0:56:49.040
<v Speaker 4>gonna work for you. It's gonna work for me. But

0:56:50.200 --> 0:56:51.960
<v Speaker 4>you know, your mom needs to tell you this.

0:56:52.840 --> 0:56:55.160
<v Speaker 5>Your aunt needs to tell you this, you know, because

0:56:55.520 --> 0:56:58.040
<v Speaker 5>me being your dad, me telling you you know my dad,

0:56:58.760 --> 0:56:59.359
<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean.

0:56:59.840 --> 0:57:03.879
<v Speaker 4>But I understand that, so you know it all it all.

0:57:04.000 --> 0:57:08.719
<v Speaker 3>You know, that's beautiful. I think sometimes with shadow work people, yeah,

0:57:08.840 --> 0:57:11.880
<v Speaker 3>like you said, run away from it and just like

0:57:12.000 --> 0:57:14.239
<v Speaker 3>the dark side of Like, I think shadow work is

0:57:14.280 --> 0:57:17.880
<v Speaker 3>a lot of things dealing with trauma also, like you know,

0:57:17.920 --> 0:57:19.840
<v Speaker 3>I always say, like you got to feed the beasts

0:57:19.920 --> 0:57:22.040
<v Speaker 3>a little bit. Hello, Like like you said, you got

0:57:22.120 --> 0:57:24.160
<v Speaker 3>to go to the you gotta do the we're all

0:57:24.200 --> 0:57:26.480
<v Speaker 3>about the yingang and bad choices.

0:57:27.160 --> 0:57:29.040
<v Speaker 4>You got to go to the fort a purpose.

0:57:29.200 --> 0:57:33.040
<v Speaker 3>You can't have one but about that bad even like one.

0:57:34.160 --> 0:57:37.760
<v Speaker 5>Like actually like solidifies the other when when you think

0:57:37.760 --> 0:57:40.360
<v Speaker 5>about it in whole, it's like, yeah, this one does that,

0:57:40.560 --> 0:57:41.320
<v Speaker 5>so it can.

0:57:41.720 --> 0:57:45.200
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but we're if we are really in true wholeness,

0:57:45.840 --> 0:57:48.360
<v Speaker 3>then we are dabbling in both at you know, in

0:57:48.560 --> 0:57:52.720
<v Speaker 3>balance really and you really can't even in like a

0:57:52.840 --> 0:57:56.680
<v Speaker 3>lot of traditional religions Christianity and all the other ones whatever,

0:57:57.040 --> 0:58:00.720
<v Speaker 3>there is this huge like don't do this, don't indulge

0:58:00.760 --> 0:58:03.560
<v Speaker 3>in sex, don't indulge in drinking, but it's like, well

0:58:03.880 --> 0:58:06.720
<v Speaker 3>that ship feels good. Sex feels good, pleasure feels good,

0:58:07.080 --> 0:58:10.120
<v Speaker 3>moaning feels good, Being naked feels good. There are things

0:58:10.160 --> 0:58:13.000
<v Speaker 3>that which are there's something there. There's something there, something

0:58:13.080 --> 0:58:15.120
<v Speaker 3>that God or you can learn.

0:58:15.440 --> 0:58:18.360
<v Speaker 4>That you can take away. Yes, yes, whether it's about

0:58:18.360 --> 0:58:20.960
<v Speaker 4>yourself or whether it's about.

0:58:21.080 --> 0:58:23.720
<v Speaker 3>The dark alley, darky down.

0:58:24.640 --> 0:58:26.920
<v Speaker 4>Maybe you're in the dark alley, Like why do I

0:58:27.080 --> 0:58:28.320
<v Speaker 4>like dark alleys? Yeah?

0:58:28.600 --> 0:58:29.880
<v Speaker 3>Now I got to figure out what I got? Like

0:58:30.080 --> 0:58:31.560
<v Speaker 3>how do I see lights in these dark allies?

0:58:32.000 --> 0:58:33.760
<v Speaker 1>What am I am?

0:58:33.800 --> 0:58:36.080
<v Speaker 3>I the dark alley? And when I'm indulging in this

0:58:36.160 --> 0:58:37.320
<v Speaker 3>dark alley only because.

0:58:37.080 --> 0:58:38.840
<v Speaker 4>They're not trying to light up some ship.

0:58:40.480 --> 0:58:41.240
<v Speaker 3>That can't be lit?

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<v Speaker 8>Or do I need to walk the funk away and

0:58:43.520 --> 0:58:45.520
<v Speaker 8>you need to give with my tribe and stay lit

0:58:45.800 --> 0:58:49.320
<v Speaker 8>exactly stop trying to you know, project in this person

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<v Speaker 8>what I really need to do for myself.

0:58:51.240 --> 0:58:54.760
<v Speaker 4>Yes, I really need to do for myself, you.

0:58:54.800 --> 0:58:58.960
<v Speaker 5>Know, Like like I said when on this fatherhood journey,

0:58:59.240 --> 0:59:01.680
<v Speaker 5>you know which, I didn't have a role map. You

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<v Speaker 5>know what I'm saying, I'm not one of them dudes,

0:59:03.600 --> 0:59:06.000
<v Speaker 5>Like I didn't have my dad, Like I have no

0:59:06.120 --> 0:59:10.040
<v Speaker 5>one to fucking mirror. But people in my memory or

0:59:10.120 --> 0:59:12.920
<v Speaker 5>people I've read about, or you know, Sean will Smith,

0:59:13.040 --> 0:59:15.360
<v Speaker 5>you know, people like him, you know, like I have

0:59:15.600 --> 0:59:19.040
<v Speaker 5>no none of that. Uncle Phil rest in peace, but

0:59:19.280 --> 0:59:23.520
<v Speaker 5>like you know, so knowing that, it's just like, all right, man,

0:59:23.640 --> 0:59:26.520
<v Speaker 5>how I wanted to be you feel me? I wanted

0:59:26.600 --> 0:59:30.280
<v Speaker 5>to be where you know, you know, for Janey. You

0:59:30.320 --> 0:59:32.680
<v Speaker 5>know what I'm saying, like there was certain comfort in

0:59:32.760 --> 0:59:35.240
<v Speaker 5>her that I wanted her to have that I never

0:59:35.320 --> 0:59:37.560
<v Speaker 5>seen my mom have. You feel me as far as

0:59:37.680 --> 0:59:41.720
<v Speaker 5>like with working. You know, like my mom was a hairstylist,

0:59:41.760 --> 0:59:44.040
<v Speaker 5>So it's like I grew up in the salon. I

0:59:44.120 --> 0:59:46.880
<v Speaker 5>grew up around, you know, all of that shit that

0:59:47.320 --> 0:59:50.800
<v Speaker 5>at it's intercelt, so you know I grew up around that,

0:59:51.040 --> 0:59:51.440
<v Speaker 5>and you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know, it's just like yeah, man, But before we started talking,

0:59:56.240 --> 0:59:58.560
<v Speaker 3>when he came in, when you came in, you were saying, like,

0:59:58.840 --> 1:00:02.280
<v Speaker 3>you know, I when you guys crept into our DM

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<v Speaker 3>talking about I know all about good mom's bad choices,

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<v Speaker 3>We're like, well, what the fuck do you mean you

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<v Speaker 3>know about good mom's sad choices? But you were essentially

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<v Speaker 3>you said you were raised by your mom primarily she

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<v Speaker 3>you know, she worked in the Harislon. I'm sure she's

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<v Speaker 3>working the fuck a lot to support her, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>you and your your siblings. And she smoked weed, and

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<v Speaker 3>from the community's standpoint, she was doing making bad choices.

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<v Speaker 1>But then she created these I mean amazing me being.

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<v Speaker 5>My brother, my older brother being born at sixteen when

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<v Speaker 5>she was sixteen, Me being born at eighteen.

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<v Speaker 4>That was already a bad choice.

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<v Speaker 5>Not only for her, but like my grandma, Like you know,

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<v Speaker 5>people were talking shit, y'all, what y'all doing.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all got these little dudes like what they gonna do?

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<v Speaker 4>You feel me? And it's like, turns out we did.

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<v Speaker 4>It's still a good jobs I was supposed to do.

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<v Speaker 4>You feel me?

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<v Speaker 5>And it turns out when when ladies like my mom

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<v Speaker 5>and my nan and all them, when they got it,

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<v Speaker 5>when they.

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<v Speaker 4>Got it under control, you feel me. Look how it happens.

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<v Speaker 5>Now. There are some things that I'm missing. There are

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<v Speaker 5>some parts I'm missing You know that I was I

1:01:08.240 --> 1:01:10.880
<v Speaker 5>wasn't allotted. You know that I'm gathering now that I

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<v Speaker 5>seek now, you know, like you know, working out and

1:01:15.440 --> 1:01:17.680
<v Speaker 5>like you know, going to the gym. It's like those

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<v Speaker 5>are things I didn't do as a kid that I

1:01:19.640 --> 1:01:22.840
<v Speaker 5>should have done if a mail was around me influencing that.

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<v Speaker 4>But you know, I'm into it now and I have.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I got ogs. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna say, I think the ladies don't think

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<v Speaker 1>that that's been missing. I think.

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<v Speaker 3>I think you're doing just fine, that you've been doing

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<v Speaker 3>just well.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, you know we saw the pictures. We saw the watermelons.

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<v Speaker 4>Indeed, yes, indeed I love watermelons.

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<v Speaker 5>You do.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, now you know we brought we didn't. We

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<v Speaker 3>gifted Oriyan O'Ryan a couple of swetters. But yes, I

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<v Speaker 3>want you to know that, my dear, we have one

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<v Speaker 3>more gift for you.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all just surprises.

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<v Speaker 1>When you come to the Good Mom Show, you get

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<v Speaker 1>taken care of, you get nurtured.

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<v Speaker 3>You do get nurtured. We're nurturing women.

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<v Speaker 4>We're all making me feel like at home hanging out.

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<v Speaker 4>Well we have.

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<v Speaker 3>I also want to apologize to you. We usually smoke

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<v Speaker 3>during our episodes, but HR is here today so we can't.

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<v Speaker 3>We're going to smoke outside. But we do have another

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<v Speaker 3>gift for you, and just just say right here, hold on,

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<v Speaker 3>you're ready.

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<v Speaker 4>My god, I was surprised this is why I love.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh Lord, we have so Erica and I really thought

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<v Speaker 3>this really through mostly Erica. Oh yeah, please get comfortable.

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<v Speaker 4>Hold it.

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<v Speaker 1>Need to get to hear God, God, damn it.

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<v Speaker 3>Here, I'll hold we can hold it.

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<v Speaker 4>Hold it, you can hold it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, you hold it.

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<v Speaker 3>I can actually assist you with this watermelon if you

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<v Speaker 3>need to hold it and let me just yeah, actually,

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<v Speaker 3>let me get a bigger one for you, because we

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<v Speaker 3>heard from the instagrams that O Marion, I mean o'rian

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<v Speaker 3>really loves watermelon. So ready oh oh oh.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh wow.

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<v Speaker 4>Mhmm, how is that? How is that?

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<v Speaker 3>Go ahead?

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<v Speaker 4>Go ahead, it's so juicy. Oh no, I know I

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<v Speaker 4>got some drip.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, oh oh my goodness.

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<v Speaker 3>The instagram didn't lie.

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<v Speaker 4>For you.

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<v Speaker 1>Mhm all no, no, that's all.

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<v Speaker 3>That's all natural, man, right.

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<v Speaker 9>One thing I love is the juices. Baby, let the juice.

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<v Speaker 9>Thot know, some of y'all be nervous about the juice

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<v Speaker 9>is spraying us. Don't be nervous about that. Please let

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<v Speaker 9>it go, Please let.

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<v Speaker 1>It go on that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, don't breathe. You can't breathe now, you gotta.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, I think you.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me try to.

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<v Speaker 4>See hold on how much motel milion.

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<v Speaker 3>Y'all, we got another one.

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<v Speaker 4>Y'all got use if you put the ten on it,

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<v Speaker 4>I can show y'all.

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<v Speaker 3>A little spice.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh lord, you know we discovered on arbitree. Honestly, Ti there,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, how do we make women feel safe? She's

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<v Speaker 3>like I was like, I was like, we should feed

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<v Speaker 3>them fruit. I'm going to feed my friends.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, don't give me no see me.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, it's okay, so what but this is this is

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<v Speaker 3>how you This is how you cultivate friendships.

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<v Speaker 5>Absolutely, and we're connected through the fruit and the juices.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay and the juice and Ma and Mama. See this

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<v Speaker 5>is what we do in mama's you know, big Mama.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you. We love you, big Mama because you know

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<v Speaker 4>you allow us to come together.

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<v Speaker 1>In this way.

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<v Speaker 3>This is beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>While let me tell you, I don't think we've ever

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<v Speaker 1>eaten on the show.

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<v Speaker 3>We haven't.

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<v Speaker 4>Can I get you? Let me finish?

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<v Speaker 3>Go ahead, we have more for you. Don't worry.

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<v Speaker 1>There's more of.

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<v Speaker 4>Mm hmm. So you can't leave. You can't leave the

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<v Speaker 4>rhymee my guy, my god.

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<v Speaker 5>When you're done with that, Ryan, it gotta look like

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<v Speaker 5>a hello like a happy face looks happy.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh oh oh Lord is right Hollo.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm so happy you picked a good Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I got these motherfucker watermelons yesterday, I said Erica had

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<v Speaker 3>the idea.

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<v Speaker 4>Wait, first of all, was the first watermelon I've had

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<v Speaker 4>this year? What first one this year? Be gone? And

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<v Speaker 4>you know this cherry you just reminded me.

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<v Speaker 5>I gotta go see my man Sam's watermelons on Normandy Engage.

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<v Speaker 3>He's the best ones.

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<v Speaker 4>It's in the hoods in l A. But I'm telling y'all,

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<v Speaker 4>if y'all want you ever tried to yellow.

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<v Speaker 3>Water can be come with yellow.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I trip.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, yellow watermelon, orange watermelon, and watermelon with seeds.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, we need to say from Texas extinct, Yes, from Texas.

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<v Speaker 5>So you know, yeah, we gotta, yeah, we gotta plany

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<v Speaker 5>that out, you know what I mean, Because we gotta

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<v Speaker 5>we gotta do a watermelon feast.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I mean? Just everybody just.

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<v Speaker 3>Rather good friends after dark? That's interesting after dark after yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 3>you know we do well.

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<v Speaker 5>See, I gotta I got a freaky Friday playlist, we see, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>now see I love the way y'all think.

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<v Speaker 4>See ladies. I love the way y'all think.

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<v Speaker 3>May come the Patreon for some exclusive watermelon content.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, you know, because I could do this, but I

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<v Speaker 4>think they would.

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<v Speaker 3>I think we're good. I mean, ladies, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>If you see this plate, we can we can all

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<v Speaker 1>do that.

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<v Speaker 5>We can do with the shirts off, you know, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>because honestly, it's a lot of fellows out there. They

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<v Speaker 5>don't know how to properly, you know, take that watermelon

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<v Speaker 5>and get it right on in. I think I think

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<v Speaker 5>they need storial see hold on, see when you gotta this,

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<v Speaker 5>this is this is a small one. So you want

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<v Speaker 5>to finish this in Like I said, okay, you know

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<v Speaker 5>what I mean, because you need to let her know, like, hey,

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<v Speaker 5>you're gonna you're gonna go first.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, got a little Ryan right there. I went a

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<v Speaker 4>little too Haim.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm sorry, baby, but I have to let you know,

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<v Speaker 5>like listen, you're gonna be good, and you're gonna go first,

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm gonna be right behind you.

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<v Speaker 1>Baby.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, there's something so erotic and pleasurable and beautiful

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<v Speaker 3>about just you know, being one with the earth, divine, feminine, divine, masculine,

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<v Speaker 3>and the mama patcha.

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<v Speaker 5>This is.

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<v Speaker 3>This goes to show how beautiful just friendship is. Absolutely

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<v Speaker 3>friendship is.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know how y'all knew. I ain't nothing today,

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<v Speaker 4>I ain't had a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so glad we could.

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<v Speaker 5>And that was the perfect first meal of the day.

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<v Speaker 5>And I mean I don't I don't wake up and

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<v Speaker 5>like go to food.

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<v Speaker 3>That's it's a good way to drink.

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<v Speaker 4>That was amazing. We have we have one of those

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<v Speaker 4>free to go home with thinking about it all night.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh good, because so we'll we That was a delicious.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't even going to be presented with amazing.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, we bear gifts, you know, good good moms are

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<v Speaker 3>full of surprises. Keep hanging out, you know, you never

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<v Speaker 3>know what you're gonna get over here.

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<v Speaker 1>Always invited.

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<v Speaker 3>I was Erica was telling me we should get a

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<v Speaker 3>watermelon on like my carf on the phone on speaker.

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<v Speaker 3>My daughter was a backseat, so she was like later

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<v Speaker 3>she was like, mom, you know when you have a cabation.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, what she's like when you like when

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<v Speaker 3>someone comes on the show. I was like, oh, guest,

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<v Speaker 3>She's like, yeah, you know how you said you're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>eat watermelon. I was like yeah, She's like, that's a

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<v Speaker 3>good idea because watermelon is delicious.

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<v Speaker 5>I was like it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, it is a good idea. And you're

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<v Speaker 3>full of water and it's full of water and water

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<v Speaker 3>and women make women and men make life. We create life.

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<v Speaker 4>We hold life, you know, and you know, wh his

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<v Speaker 4>life save the soil.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you like a vegetarian or vegan? Are you like

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<v Speaker 3>very your diet?

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<v Speaker 4>Like I'll say this, I am.

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<v Speaker 7>I am.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like eighty percent plant based, but because I have

1:10:14.920 --> 1:10:18.439
<v Speaker 5>friends that are not, you know, I don't make my

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<v Speaker 5>friends feel weird about the choices.

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<v Speaker 4>That they choose, you know. Like I have a best friend,

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<v Speaker 4>what up Joe? He loves steak, you know, he loves

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<v Speaker 4>waggy steak. And I'm like, you know, but if we're

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<v Speaker 4>going to dinner, I'm not gonna be I don't want

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<v Speaker 4>to go there. It's a steakhouse. Like what am I

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<v Speaker 4>going to eat? Sides? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but I'm gonna eat some size for my bro tonight,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, because you know, because that's what you do

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<v Speaker 5>when you love people.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, your compromise. So I'm I'm plant based, but

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<v Speaker 4>I compromise for those hard I'm a video.

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<v Speaker 3>Those dipping tacos I know, did me.

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<v Speaker 5>Even though some really good like Jackfruit, I know, Oh

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<v Speaker 5>my god, yo what they're doing with jack Fruit's.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, it also depends on your bood type.

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes certain blood types need me like I'm an a

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<v Speaker 3>b plan.

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<v Speaker 4>I need to do that.

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<v Speaker 5>I heard it's it's a blood type test something you

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<v Speaker 5>can do to Yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Need to get into that.

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<v Speaker 3>The conspiracy part of me was like, don't tell your

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<v Speaker 3>blood type on the podcast. The government JJ blipped.

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<v Speaker 4>That out, you know, but yeah, meet you up about that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, good, Yeah, I'll help you. I'll lead you need,

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<v Speaker 3>lead you to your blood type diet or wherever wherever

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<v Speaker 3>you need me to take it, because you know whatever,

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<v Speaker 3>I'll take it. Oh my god, me and him are

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<v Speaker 3>literally about to kill this fucking bottle.

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<v Speaker 1>Of bell air.

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<v Speaker 3>Here's the watermelon champagne and Wednesday Friday and hump Day

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<v Speaker 3>to hump Day. Yes, okay, Well, at the beginning of

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<v Speaker 3>the show, we asked you to pull a card, and

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<v Speaker 3>it's just like the witchy bitch that I.

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<v Speaker 4>Am, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Have pulled the Emperor card and shout out to Mahogany

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<v Speaker 3>Tiaro for having the best black and brown cards on

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<v Speaker 3>the in the game. But when I pulled this card

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<v Speaker 3>and we looked at it, I said, huh, that looks

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<v Speaker 3>like you. Well, I said, well, I'll be damn let

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<v Speaker 3>me say the Emperor right, it just looks like it's

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<v Speaker 3>like him sitting in there. It does, it does.

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<v Speaker 4>Start.

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<v Speaker 3>So let's let's see. Let us know if this resonates

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<v Speaker 3>with you. Okay, so upright. It means authority, establishment, structure,

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<v Speaker 3>father figure huh. As the father figure of the Tarot tech,

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<v Speaker 3>the Emperor suggests that you are adopting this fatherly role

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<v Speaker 3>regardless of whether you are male or female, providing for

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<v Speaker 3>your family and protecting and defending your loved ones. You

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<v Speaker 3>may be the breadwinner or the rock for those who

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<v Speaker 3>rely on your stability and security. Similarly, the Emperor represents

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<v Speaker 3>a powerful leader who demands respect and authority. Status, power

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<v Speaker 3>and recognition and are essential to you, and you are

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<v Speaker 3>the most comfortable in leadership role where you can command

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<v Speaker 3>and direct others. As a leader, you rule with a

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<v Speaker 3>firm but fair hand. You have a clear vision of

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<v Speaker 3>what you want to create, and you organize those around

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<v Speaker 3>you to manifest your goal. You listen to the advice

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<v Speaker 3>of others, but you prefer to have the final say

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<v Speaker 3>com wow. He literally said, this conflict doesn't scare you,

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<v Speaker 3>and you won't hesitate to use your power to protect

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<v Speaker 3>those that you care about, and in return, those people

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<v Speaker 3>will repay you with their loyalty and respect you deserve.

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<v Speaker 3>Claim your authority as leader and influencer, and don't let

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<v Speaker 3>others put you down. The Emperor reflects am bound by

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<v Speaker 3>rules and regulations. You create law and order by applying

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<v Speaker 3>principles or guidelines to a specific situation, even if they're

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<v Speaker 3>your own. Create calm out of chaos by breaking down

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<v Speaker 3>any problem into parts and then mapping out the actions

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<v Speaker 3>you need to take to resolve it. Be systematic, strategic,

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<v Speaker 3>and highly organized in your approach, and stick to your

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<v Speaker 3>plan until the end. It also signifies world knowledge and expertise.

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<v Speaker 3>Through the course of your life, you have gained valuable

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<v Speaker 3>wisdom and life experience, and now you enjoy offering guidance, advice,

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<v Speaker 3>and direction to someone who might benefit from it.

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<v Speaker 1>Retreat leader.

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<v Speaker 3>The Good Vibe or treat men the Good Vibe treat

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<v Speaker 3>for men.

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<v Speaker 5>Retreat leaders that the Emperor cards were just describing me

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<v Speaker 5>in my life to the t and you know that's energy.

1:14:50.880 --> 1:14:52.719
<v Speaker 5>You know, like how you guys were talking about earlier,

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<v Speaker 5>that's manifestation that I mean, we all align right now

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<v Speaker 5>because you know, when you guys hit me up, I

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<v Speaker 5>was just like, like, you know, I'm I'm in a

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<v Speaker 5>space right now with my career and with all this,

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<v Speaker 5>like you know, my plan was, you know, like I

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<v Speaker 5>said earlier, to be present, you know, and now that

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<v Speaker 5>my daughter is like a teenager not worried about me,

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<v Speaker 5>got our own things.

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<v Speaker 4>Going on, I'm like, you know, what, perfect time to

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<v Speaker 4>get back in it.

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<v Speaker 5>So, uh, you know, when you guys hit me like

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<v Speaker 5>and I did a little research on y'all, it just

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<v Speaker 5>was it was perfect. And when you pick that, I

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<v Speaker 5>always get the Emperor card, you know, I you know

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<v Speaker 5>I do. I definitely dabble. So you know that was

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<v Speaker 5>confirmation for me too that I'm where I need to be.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys are a part of my dream.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you for being a part of my dream, making

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<v Speaker 5>me making me feel like, you know, yeah, I'm going

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<v Speaker 5>in the right direction.

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<v Speaker 4>You guys are my confirmation for that I'm going in

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<v Speaker 4>the right directions.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy, We're happy to be that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, what made you say yes, were you like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I felt like I met you before, I know you

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<v Speaker 5>somewhere or maybe you know right, So I was just like,

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<v Speaker 5>wait a minute, I think you know my cousin.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, this is a familiar person, but not that

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<v Speaker 5>familiar like my name and you know, but I'm like,

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<v Speaker 5>this is a familiar person. So I just was like,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, I get dms all the time. The dms

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<v Speaker 5>go crazy. I'm sure I was like this, but I

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<v Speaker 5>like to curate the things that I'm involved in, like

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<v Speaker 5>I like them to be about what I'm about because

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<v Speaker 5>I don't have management and don't have you know, I.

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<v Speaker 4>Got a little publicism and you feel me. But my

1:16:46.720 --> 1:16:49.720
<v Speaker 4>career is run by me. Everything I do. I like

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<v Speaker 4>the cars, I have the last say.

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<v Speaker 5>So, so if I don't want to do it is

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<v Speaker 5>because if it's not done, it's because I didn't want

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<v Speaker 5>to do it.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 5>If it's because it's done, it because I wanted to

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<v Speaker 5>do it. So, you know, thank you guys for having

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<v Speaker 5>me and considering me, thinking about me to you know,

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<v Speaker 5>be here, because this was like you got I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>I told my mom, you know, I told I'm like, Mom,

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<v Speaker 4>you gotta check this out about listen, I'll be chiefing

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<v Speaker 4>with Mama.

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<v Speaker 3>That makes us really feel special because someone told someone

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<v Speaker 3>told eric and that we're not the type of women

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<v Speaker 3>that would take you take home your mom. The fact

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<v Speaker 3>that you told your mom about us, we really needed.

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<v Speaker 1>To hear that.

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<v Speaker 4>Little do they know more than the mama's back in

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<v Speaker 4>the day. They know what time it is. They ain't

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<v Speaker 4>corny and cookie cutter.

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<v Speaker 3>Get me, You're a product of a good mom, bad choices.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, so happens this is this.

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<v Speaker 5>A good mom do her thing and allow her to,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, manifest her ideas, and you believe in her.

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<v Speaker 5>Because I'm gonna tell you all right now. Like I

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<v Speaker 5>said before, I can remember I can recall as a kid,

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<v Speaker 5>people telling them my mom, you know, you know you'd

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<v Speaker 5>be sneaking around you listening to conversation ship. I can recall,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, some of my my grandma's friends and all

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<v Speaker 5>of them saying, my mom, you know, we wasn't gonna

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<v Speaker 5>be nothing.

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<v Speaker 4>We was gonna be in jail.

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<v Speaker 5>Wenna, have all these kids all of that ship. Look

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<v Speaker 5>at me now you feel me influencing your little grandson.

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<v Speaker 5>He's looking at me now, So you need to watch yourself,

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<v Speaker 5>you feel me, because you never know who's gonna come out.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, victorious, you know what I mean. And you

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<v Speaker 5>know through my past and through what I've gone through,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, I'm glad my mom and then was able

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<v Speaker 5>to display the strength for me to get through things without.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I mean, without taking too much of

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<v Speaker 4>what it was.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I want to.

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<v Speaker 2>Personally thank your mother. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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<v Speaker 2>Her name is may No Leslie, Leslie, Thanks Leslie.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to last thing I want to ask you

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<v Speaker 3>because you've had like this experience with your mom and

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<v Speaker 3>you're obviously on your own journey and you're involved, and

1:18:56.560 --> 1:18:59.040
<v Speaker 3>you're a dad and you've been a young dad. How

1:18:59.120 --> 1:19:01.320
<v Speaker 3>have you? I mean, your daughter's.

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<v Speaker 4>Fourteen now, she'll be fourteen in November.

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<v Speaker 3>What's your birthday?

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<v Speaker 4>November nineteenth?

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<v Speaker 3>My daughters is the twenty seventh. Yeah, oh yeah, that's Erica. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>well spice a little spicy. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, you don't know your we're special Scorpio children. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, especially when I'm to double Scorpio Sage Moon.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, oh my gosh, it's a lot.

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<v Speaker 4>You are.

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<v Speaker 3>How how have you instilled your spirituality with what's you

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<v Speaker 3>daughter's name means child of the way, Yeah, okarious.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's a water signed.

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<v Speaker 4>Beautiful and her mom's water science.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I mean Erica and I are both waters for me.

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<v Speaker 4>So what was the question?

1:19:48.640 --> 1:19:54.360
<v Speaker 3>How have you instilled your your spirituality? Have you practiced

1:19:54.360 --> 1:19:56.519
<v Speaker 3>spirituality and brought her into that as a.

1:19:56.840 --> 1:20:00.560
<v Speaker 4>Honestly you know, being open with her, share, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>meditating with her.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, when I go and I'm like building my

1:20:06.680 --> 1:20:09.000
<v Speaker 5>altar in my in my space and all that, like,

1:20:09.280 --> 1:20:11.519
<v Speaker 5>come here, baby, you need to know what I'm doing.

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<v Speaker 4>Right. You see this picture of your grandma right here.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, you gotta put this up. You gotta honor her.

1:20:16.760 --> 1:20:19.840
<v Speaker 4>And she's gone, but hey, listen, gotta put an altar up,

1:20:19.880 --> 1:20:21.919
<v Speaker 4>you know what I mean. So when I'm doing.

1:20:21.840 --> 1:20:25.080
<v Speaker 5>Things, I just make sure she's there and I explain

1:20:25.160 --> 1:20:28.040
<v Speaker 5>it to her and I let her know like, hey, listen,

1:20:29.200 --> 1:20:30.559
<v Speaker 5>your dad's gonna give you the keys.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't worry about it. I'm gonna tell you everything. There's

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<v Speaker 4>nothing you can tell me that's like.

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<v Speaker 5>Tell me, let's go, let's do this, let's do this,

1:20:41.560 --> 1:20:44.120
<v Speaker 5>and let's do this right, you know, because one thing

1:20:44.520 --> 1:20:48.799
<v Speaker 5>I can recall, like she's like five six or whatever.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, family members and women saying to me like, oh,

1:20:53.000 --> 1:20:54.880
<v Speaker 5>what are you gonna do when she's like start liking

1:20:55.000 --> 1:20:58.640
<v Speaker 5>boys and ah, And I'm like, listen, I'm gonna be

1:20:58.720 --> 1:21:01.720
<v Speaker 5>excited because of the type of man I am.

1:21:02.600 --> 1:21:05.840
<v Speaker 4>I want to see what type of influence, what what

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<v Speaker 4>type offfluence like look like me? Because if he is,

1:21:12.160 --> 1:21:15.559
<v Speaker 4>I'm love that. You know, I'm gonna I'm gonna hope.

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<v Speaker 4>So you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, you know, you kind of get to see

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<v Speaker 1>the work in action.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think in the black community or just in

1:21:24.320 --> 1:21:28.040
<v Speaker 3>like the parental community, I think we forget, especially for

1:21:28.160 --> 1:21:30.400
<v Speaker 3>little girls, and it's like this huge thing to be

1:21:30.520 --> 1:21:32.960
<v Speaker 3>like too all dads like you ain't gonna have no

1:21:33.080 --> 1:21:34.960
<v Speaker 3>boyfriend or oh I can't when she turns.

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<v Speaker 4>That ain't our culture either.

1:21:37.760 --> 1:21:41.080
<v Speaker 3>But the thing is that little girls growing to be women,

1:21:41.320 --> 1:21:44.680
<v Speaker 3>you know, that is what happens. That's a part of it.

1:21:44.720 --> 1:21:48.000
<v Speaker 3>And if if you like completely, if you completely don't

1:21:48.439 --> 1:21:51.640
<v Speaker 3>negate that, pretend it doesn't exist, then she then you

1:21:51.880 --> 1:21:54.479
<v Speaker 3>develop a child or a young woman that is not

1:21:54.680 --> 1:21:57.160
<v Speaker 3>in tune with herself as a woman. And in her

1:21:57.240 --> 1:22:01.519
<v Speaker 3>divine feminine and by totally darving that part and ignoring it,

1:22:01.640 --> 1:22:04.200
<v Speaker 3>it does not do ship for how she's going to

1:22:04.280 --> 1:22:08.240
<v Speaker 3>know herself as a whole human inevitably in adulthood. And like,

1:22:08.439 --> 1:22:10.880
<v Speaker 3>I think people get really weird about talking about this

1:22:11.040 --> 1:22:14.240
<v Speaker 3>part of women developing young women developing into women, but

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<v Speaker 3>it is so fucking important.

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<v Speaker 4>Let me tell you.

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<v Speaker 5>We see what happens when Thanksgiving my daughters with me.

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<v Speaker 5>She's at my house, nanas and all that. She asked

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<v Speaker 5>me if one of her little guy friends school, She went.

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<v Speaker 3>To, you know, if they can come over, how'd you

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<v Speaker 3>handle it? So, yeah, come on right right, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>need to know.

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<v Speaker 4>Bring them over here in my playing field so I

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<v Speaker 4>can see what's going on.

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<v Speaker 3>And thankfully she feels comfortable enough to do that.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh I love that. Yeah, I was.

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<v Speaker 2>Accepted the invitation because she might have not asked. Again,

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<v Speaker 2>the secrets happened and then.

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<v Speaker 1>All that shit.

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<v Speaker 3>Nobody got time for that, and you even know who

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<v Speaker 3>it was and what they are about.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like you got to trust your parenting. Like it's

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<v Speaker 1>like a lot of the work, Like do you not

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<v Speaker 1>trust your parenting?

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<v Speaker 4>What do you think?

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<v Speaker 5>He was right?

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<v Speaker 2>This was always my argument with my I mean, granted

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<v Speaker 2>I was like doing some function when I was a kid.

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<v Speaker 3>That's because she fell.

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<v Speaker 1>I would always tell my mom, I'm like, you're not.

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<v Speaker 4>Trust your parenting because said, well, okay, yeah, so you

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<v Speaker 4>know my daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>Understand whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but yeah, I would I would say that, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be and and she would be like that would

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<v Speaker 2>be her response, like, yo, I'm like, you did a

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<v Speaker 2>great job, but hold on.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you've done a great job.

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<v Speaker 4>So you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And and even what you said remind me of what

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<v Speaker 1>Problems said a few weeks ago on our episode where

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<v Speaker 1>he was like, I'm not raising my daughter to be

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<v Speaker 1>a childld I'm raising her.

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<v Speaker 3>To be a woman.

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<v Speaker 4>Problem That was. That was lit. That was lit.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know him like personally, but I know a

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<v Speaker 5>few people that know him and always know him to

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<v Speaker 5>be like a solid person.

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<v Speaker 3>So yeah, that was that was maybe one of the

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<v Speaker 3>people that you're talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>He actually.

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<v Speaker 3>He's talking.

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<v Speaker 4>I can take him on the retreat and we unfolded,

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<v Speaker 4>we unlocked some shing.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because that's you know with the Fellas Man and

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<v Speaker 5>you know with meditation and ship like that, and it's

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<v Speaker 5>like what they don't know, is like it's so much

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<v Speaker 5>power in that man, if you just take it back,

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<v Speaker 5>you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 4>But you want to go to the gym, pump iron.

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<v Speaker 4>But you know it's like, bro, can you really withstand

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<v Speaker 4>a situation that you couldn't even fathom?

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<v Speaker 5>Like are you gonna are you gonna be able to

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<v Speaker 5>still be a man in that and not act out

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<v Speaker 5>on your emotions?

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<v Speaker 4>And yeah, because when women see nigga freaking out and

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<v Speaker 4>it's a rap, rap, God, damn niggas was the over

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<v Speaker 4>you feel me? So it's like, you know, I love that.

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<v Speaker 5>You know I was able to come up under you know,

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<v Speaker 5>my nana who was studying you know all right, so

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<v Speaker 5>my nana was like came up Yoruba right by choice

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<v Speaker 5>though by choice, great Grandma, shout out, nanny, you feel me?

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<v Speaker 5>Chalk tawn Indian, full blooded. She obviously got bit by

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<v Speaker 5>the Bible. You know what I'm saying that she got

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<v Speaker 5>bit by the Bible that ain't even in its original text.

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<v Speaker 4>So she got bit by the remixed Bible. And you

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<v Speaker 4>know Christianity.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, I'm sorry, you know, I gotta say it,

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<v Speaker 5>but it sucked a lot of us up because what

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<v Speaker 5>we don't realize is we got Sorry, it's clear we

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<v Speaker 5>got Christianity the same time as slaves so called slavery,

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<v Speaker 5>because so called slavery.

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<v Speaker 4>Didn't go high. They said it went just so you know,

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<v Speaker 4>but it did go. It did go, but not how.

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<v Speaker 4>But you know that. You know, my my my circle

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<v Speaker 4>is is really all responsible for my thoughts and what

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<v Speaker 4>I do. Like like you guys said this, I'm the product.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm the literal product of a good mom, bad choice.

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<v Speaker 3>Your grandma was practicing like what should there she was doing.

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<v Speaker 5>I was I was six and and going, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>seeing her go, like you know, seeing her go do

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<v Speaker 5>rituals with Africans and they you know, there was this

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<v Speaker 5>thing that used to happen in la.

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<v Speaker 4>Called the African Marketplace in the nineties.

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<v Speaker 5>Like my grandma used to always have a booth there,

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<v Speaker 5>and you know, she was like the first entrepreneur I've

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<v Speaker 5>ever seen.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's bomb.

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<v Speaker 5>You feel me, Like, I mean, making necklaces, beads and

1:26:45.360 --> 1:26:49.040
<v Speaker 5>like really creating from here, you know what I'm saying.

1:26:49.120 --> 1:26:52.479
<v Speaker 4>So you know, seeing that and knowing that that.

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<v Speaker 5>That's all it takes, is like it's a gift. All

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<v Speaker 5>I gotta do is do my part and make sure

1:26:59.040 --> 1:27:01.160
<v Speaker 5>I'm around the right people. Just do any part.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you. That makes me feel really good. I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like seeing you a product of like free women, entrepreneurial women,

1:27:08.840 --> 1:27:10.240
<v Speaker 3>good mom's bad choices.

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<v Speaker 5>It's like it made me like val repond immediately, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I was just like, wait a minute, where was this?

1:27:19.600 --> 1:27:22.040
<v Speaker 4>You know, like my mom, you know, like my mom

1:27:22.120 --> 1:27:22.680
<v Speaker 4>didn't have that.

1:27:22.800 --> 1:27:26.080
<v Speaker 5>My mom didn't have any friends that were like you know,

1:27:26.200 --> 1:27:29.280
<v Speaker 5>she opted out of friends to take care of us,

1:27:29.520 --> 1:27:32.280
<v Speaker 5>you know, to take us to skating, you know what

1:27:32.320 --> 1:27:32.559
<v Speaker 5>I mean.

1:27:32.680 --> 1:27:35.360
<v Speaker 4>She opted out of that. You know. So when I

1:27:35.439 --> 1:27:37.840
<v Speaker 4>started like watching you guys and like watching your whole thing,

1:27:37.920 --> 1:27:41.200
<v Speaker 4>I'm like, yo, I'm pulling up on them because.

1:27:41.479 --> 1:27:44.400
<v Speaker 5>I respect it, I love it. I'm a product of this,

1:27:45.200 --> 1:27:47.760
<v Speaker 5>and you know, it's just it's my duty. Like you know,

1:27:48.040 --> 1:27:50.720
<v Speaker 5>like I don't know if y'all got sons or y'all got.

1:27:53.479 --> 1:27:53.679
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

1:27:53.680 --> 1:27:56.320
<v Speaker 5>I mean, my daughter she's you know, like she's a

1:27:56.400 --> 1:28:00.160
<v Speaker 5>great artist. She can draw, amazing, she does everything thing.

1:28:00.240 --> 1:28:03.240
<v Speaker 5>But like you know, I instilled in my daughter like hey,

1:28:03.479 --> 1:28:07.120
<v Speaker 5>if you have you got to give, yeah, you know,

1:28:07.240 --> 1:28:13.600
<v Speaker 5>whether that's information structure, you know, knowledge, whatever, if you.

1:28:13.760 --> 1:28:15.120
<v Speaker 4>Have you have to give.

1:28:15.560 --> 1:28:20.120
<v Speaker 3>I feel very very like, I'm very aware that you know,

1:28:20.160 --> 1:28:22.360
<v Speaker 3>when you're aligned with people, whether it be through the DMS,

1:28:22.400 --> 1:28:24.439
<v Speaker 3>hether someone say hey, interview him and then he pulls up.

1:28:24.960 --> 1:28:26.559
<v Speaker 3>I was going to tell you, like, thank you very much,

1:28:26.640 --> 1:28:29.439
<v Speaker 3>because just as you were supposed to be here, I

1:28:29.479 --> 1:28:32.040
<v Speaker 3>think there was a message for you, for us from

1:28:32.160 --> 1:28:34.760
<v Speaker 3>you and that like this is the product of you know,

1:28:35.200 --> 1:28:37.960
<v Speaker 3>watering your garden and that it is okay. And sometimes

1:28:38.000 --> 1:28:39.599
<v Speaker 3>we're going to feel guilt and we're going to feel

1:28:39.840 --> 1:28:41.679
<v Speaker 3>you know, because maybe we don't have the baby daddy.

1:28:41.720 --> 1:28:47.800
<v Speaker 3>That's right, Ryan, Who's fucking Who's Yeah, But at least

1:28:47.880 --> 1:28:50.439
<v Speaker 3>we know that doing what we're doing is going to

1:28:50.640 --> 1:28:53.880
<v Speaker 3>see children that are understand respect the hustle and understand it.

1:28:54.360 --> 1:28:56.919
<v Speaker 3>And so like you know, it's it's always in exchange.

1:28:56.960 --> 1:28:58.599
<v Speaker 3>And it's so beautiful to have you here.

1:28:59.000 --> 1:28:59.800
<v Speaker 4>Thank you for having me.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, you know, like I said, you know what the

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<v Speaker 5>title alone, I'm like, this is it first of all,

1:29:06.200 --> 1:29:08.160
<v Speaker 5>because I know y'all lying, y'all don't make it bad.

1:29:08.600 --> 1:29:10.800
<v Speaker 3>It's all good most of them, you know.

1:29:11.920 --> 1:29:13.519
<v Speaker 5>I mean that may be bad to someone else, but

1:29:13.640 --> 1:29:15.760
<v Speaker 5>if you if you're making a choice wholeheartedly.

1:29:16.360 --> 1:29:18.080
<v Speaker 3>It ain't bad, and then you grow from it, even

1:29:18.080 --> 1:29:19.000
<v Speaker 3>if it's not the fact.

1:29:18.920 --> 1:29:21.680
<v Speaker 4>Because it might be a choice. You got to learn exactly. So,

1:29:21.880 --> 1:29:24.719
<v Speaker 4>you know, I saw that in you guys.

1:29:24.920 --> 1:29:27.120
<v Speaker 5>And when I was hearing you guys talk about certain

1:29:27.200 --> 1:29:30.120
<v Speaker 5>bring up certain things you guys are doing, I was like, see,

1:29:30.920 --> 1:29:32.360
<v Speaker 5>I need to tap in with them. You know what

1:29:32.400 --> 1:29:36.680
<v Speaker 5>I mean, I need I need two for what I

1:29:36.840 --> 1:29:39.599
<v Speaker 5>do in my tribe. You know what I'm saying, y'all

1:29:39.600 --> 1:29:40.360
<v Speaker 5>gotta be around.

1:29:40.560 --> 1:29:46.840
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'm talking about you on the show.

1:29:48.880 --> 1:29:53.360
<v Speaker 5>You know, like I do things like you know when

1:29:53.400 --> 1:29:56.200
<v Speaker 5>we do like family family cookouts and ship like that,

1:29:56.400 --> 1:29:59.000
<v Speaker 5>Like I invite my friends like I'm on the grill.

1:30:00.280 --> 1:30:02.800
<v Speaker 3>I can bring some signs we cooked.

1:30:02.760 --> 1:30:05.920
<v Speaker 4>Could kids, kids running around.

1:30:06.040 --> 1:30:11.280
<v Speaker 3>Yes, the dose over here, Yeah, it's not even the hiding.

1:30:11.360 --> 1:30:13.240
<v Speaker 3>We're smoking weight to go to the fucking way and

1:30:13.320 --> 1:30:15.080
<v Speaker 3>see we're smoking way by that and.

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<v Speaker 5>See you know, my niece and my nephew and my daughter,

1:30:17.560 --> 1:30:20.160
<v Speaker 5>you know, they know when when uncle's in that garage,

1:30:20.240 --> 1:30:22.040
<v Speaker 5>when Papa's in that garage.

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<v Speaker 1>Shape, you smell that, I know, you smell it gone,

1:30:25.240 --> 1:30:27.840
<v Speaker 1>And I'll be in there smoking the flower.

1:30:27.880 --> 1:30:30.560
<v Speaker 5>Because I need them to see me stone so that

1:30:30.720 --> 1:30:33.479
<v Speaker 5>they know no one can tell them at fifteen sixteen,

1:30:33.760 --> 1:30:35.400
<v Speaker 5>Oh you smell weight you?

1:30:36.560 --> 1:30:39.439
<v Speaker 4>Yeah? No, I see my dad that nigga smoke four

1:30:39.520 --> 1:30:44.439
<v Speaker 4>blunts and then he made dinner. So wait.

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<v Speaker 3>The other day. The other day, I went to the

1:30:46.800 --> 1:30:48.439
<v Speaker 3>farmer's market and I was like, I didn't have any

1:30:48.479 --> 1:30:49.960
<v Speaker 3>weed in the house. So I got to my friend's house.

1:30:50.240 --> 1:30:51.880
<v Speaker 3>We were with the kids. I was like, she had

1:30:51.920 --> 1:30:53.840
<v Speaker 3>one joint left. We smoked a joint. We went down

1:30:53.880 --> 1:30:56.760
<v Speaker 3>the hill to this fucking farmer's market in Studio City, right.

1:30:56.840 --> 1:30:58.559
<v Speaker 3>I was stone. I was like, I don't know how

1:30:58.560 --> 1:31:01.040
<v Speaker 3>I'm so stone. We can pull up to like the

1:31:01.120 --> 1:31:04.439
<v Speaker 3>coffee one or whatever. So I'm in line and they're ordering,

1:31:04.479 --> 1:31:06.280
<v Speaker 3>and I'm looking at the sign and I'm reading it

1:31:06.320 --> 1:31:08.519
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like, I know what that word says, but

1:31:08.640 --> 1:31:10.439
<v Speaker 3>it looks like a different word. So I'm like it

1:31:10.479 --> 1:31:12.960
<v Speaker 3>goods to me. I'm high in my mind, in my

1:31:13.040 --> 1:31:15.360
<v Speaker 3>mind and by myself. I'm looking at the word. I'm

1:31:15.360 --> 1:31:18.040
<v Speaker 3>about to order the coffee. I'm like, I'll take the Yeah,

1:31:18.160 --> 1:31:21.200
<v Speaker 3>I'll take the parate. She was like pirates.

1:31:23.680 --> 1:31:28.320
<v Speaker 4>I was like, yo was high level pronunciation.

1:31:28.560 --> 1:31:30.759
<v Speaker 1>I was like, he's a classy.

1:31:31.880 --> 1:31:37.400
<v Speaker 3>I said, well, I'm a very come find it the

1:31:37.439 --> 1:31:39.519
<v Speaker 3>pate of the Cariban. But I was like, I'll take

1:31:39.560 --> 1:31:42.680
<v Speaker 3>the pate lat She was like the Pirates latte. I

1:31:42.800 --> 1:31:46.720
<v Speaker 3>was like, I'm high. I was like, I'm so, and

1:31:46.840 --> 1:31:49.160
<v Speaker 3>I'm fancy. I said, I'm still that I'm fancy. I said,

1:31:49.160 --> 1:31:53.280
<v Speaker 3>the Pirates with the oat milk, okay, the old milk.

1:31:55.200 --> 1:31:57.320
<v Speaker 3>My daughter, who's learning to read, was like, this pitch

1:31:57.439 --> 1:32:03.080
<v Speaker 3>is dumb. Meanwhile, I'm like, I'm high, bitch, don't correct

1:32:03.120 --> 1:32:08.920
<v Speaker 3>men of my daughter's wanting to read. I was like,

1:32:09.040 --> 1:32:10.800
<v Speaker 3>that's you know, And I told I was like, you know,

1:32:11.200 --> 1:32:12.360
<v Speaker 3>words are difficult.

1:32:12.400 --> 1:32:12.640
<v Speaker 1>I know.

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<v Speaker 4>The English English language.

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<v Speaker 3>At the time, we don't know why K is in

1:32:19.120 --> 1:32:26.040
<v Speaker 3>front of n O w okay, shut up. I don't know,

1:32:26.080 --> 1:32:28.800
<v Speaker 3>it doesn't make sense. Who fucking knows, but this is

1:32:28.800 --> 1:32:35.720
<v Speaker 3>a goddamn parate. Give me, goddamn it. Then my friend

1:32:35.760 --> 1:32:37.200
<v Speaker 3>looked down. She's like a bitch. That was gonna be

1:32:37.240 --> 1:32:42.720
<v Speaker 3>like an accident over the or something. I just had

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<v Speaker 3>to That's the high thing I did this week. Well,

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<v Speaker 7>M is Ellena j Solo baa recorder elasab Yeah