1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,840 Speaker 1: Would I be a hole if I made my husband 2 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: change his gym because some girls flirted with him. 3 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:08,559 Speaker 2: Maybe I just sign up for a gym so I 4 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 2: wouldn't want to leave. 5 00:00:09,680 --> 00:00:13,960 Speaker 1: Oh, John's about to be heavily flirted with, incially when 6 00:00:13,960 --> 00:00:16,360 Speaker 1: he's got those big old arms on him. 7 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:16,479 Speaker 2: No. 8 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: Well, this comes from Ta CrossFit two three four three 9 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:25,639 Speaker 1: two and they say, I, thirty eight female had to 10 00:00:25,680 --> 00:00:29,440 Speaker 1: fight with my husband forty one male last week when 11 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 1: I asked him to change his gym. You know what's 12 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:37,840 Speaker 1: never going to be changed what our ice packs because 13 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 1: we don't have anything that is so true. 14 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 2: We're frozen in time by being sawed. 15 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 1: And he is producing today. So she's for Sophia producing 16 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: in the chat for Sophie. 17 00:00:51,159 --> 00:00:51,599 Speaker 2: Uh. 18 00:00:51,640 --> 00:00:54,360 Speaker 1: He says it's not fair to him, but I told 19 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:59,840 Speaker 1: him it was important to me, and he agreed. As 20 00:00:59,880 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: a week has past, I'm not sure if I did 21 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: the right thing and want to get a neutral opinion 22 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:08,039 Speaker 1: on this matter. So we had some contexts here. We've 23 00:01:08,040 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: been married for twelve years and have two wonderful kids. 24 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: My husband and I were into fitness when we got married. However, 25 00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: life and kids happened and we slowly stopped going to 26 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: the gym again and gained some weight. Two years ago. 27 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 1: My husband just woke up one day and told me 28 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: he wants to start going to the gym again. He 29 00:01:25,800 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: is very disciplined, and not only did he lose all 30 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:33,880 Speaker 1: the excess weights, but also started gaining a ton of muscles. 31 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: As if the gym was not enough, he started doing 32 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 1: CrossFit six months ago. So man is getting fit as 33 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:45,880 Speaker 1: a fiddle. Shredded like cheese, shredded like a surfer on 34 00:01:45,920 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: a wave. 35 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 2: Shredded like a gnarly nard narding, shredded like a guitar. Oh, 36 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 2: shredded like let us, that's pretty good. 37 00:01:55,840 --> 00:01:58,560 Speaker 1: Shredded like putting a person in a wood chipper. 38 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 2: Sam just like he rings an anti joke that is 39 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:04,440 Speaker 2: actually funny and tragic at the same time. 40 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: I think by like joke and niche is tragedy. 41 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:09,560 Speaker 2: Yes it is. 42 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:12,239 Speaker 3: When we were a kid, Sam had this one joke. 43 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 3: He was like, why did the girl fall off the swing? 44 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 3: Because she had no arms? 45 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:20,720 Speaker 1: Why did you? Yeah, that's tough, Yeah, dude, I mean 46 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 1: it's hard to swing when you have no arm, it's 47 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:23,600 Speaker 1: all core. 48 00:02:23,880 --> 00:02:26,040 Speaker 3: Or why did the plane crash? The pilot was a 49 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 3: piece of toast. 50 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:30,200 Speaker 1: Those are great jokes. Those are great jokes. Anyway, he 51 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: goes to cross fit four times a week. He goes 52 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:36,919 Speaker 1: there early morning and is generally back there and generally 53 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: the back before the kids are out. He made a 54 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:40,920 Speaker 1: lot of friends there and has generally been in a 55 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:46,160 Speaker 1: very happy mood. So basically, the husband's shredded happy there 56 00:02:46,200 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 1: for his kids. Nothing could go wrong. 57 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:49,200 Speaker 2: It's perfect. 58 00:02:49,760 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: It's perfect, but it ain't. But it ain't, but it 59 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: ain't because I won't lie. He looks amazing and I 60 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 1: can't believe he still gives melies even after twelve years 61 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 1: of marriage. 62 00:03:02,560 --> 00:03:03,480 Speaker 3: That still sounds perfect. 63 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 2: That actually did get cuter. He got cuter. It got cuter. 64 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: But two weeks ago, two weeks ago, my husband decided 65 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:14,079 Speaker 1: to invite all of his CrossFit friends for a barbecue 66 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: at our house as the weather was getting nicer. He 67 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:19,680 Speaker 1: had around nine friends come over, and it was my 68 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:22,720 Speaker 1: first time meeting this group of friends. Put an ic 69 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 1: you in the jat if you see what's coming John, 70 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:29,359 Speaker 1: If you were to paint this ic, what would you see? 71 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 1: You know? 72 00:03:30,040 --> 00:03:32,920 Speaker 2: I'm kind of envisioning this like beautiful man with like 73 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 2: curly brown hair who's just like really shredded as found 74 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 2: an amazing woman. He brings his fitness buddies over and 75 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 2: there's just like potentially eight women that he's invited that 76 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 2: are just just coming after him. 77 00:03:47,040 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: Are all they are all shredded like. 78 00:03:50,520 --> 00:03:53,240 Speaker 2: Him, And you know, he's he has to figure out 79 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,400 Speaker 2: what to do in the moment because he's being they're 80 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 2: just trying to everyone's wants a piece. 81 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're trying to shred him. Yeah, he's in protein, 82 00:04:00,080 --> 00:04:03,560 Speaker 1: tearing him apart, delicious, tearing him limb from limb, trying 83 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 1: to get a little snack, like when you have you 84 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: know what I might have like giant pieces of beef 85 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: jerky in the big pack and you're like, I can't 86 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: possibly fit all this in my mouth, so teared off. Yeah, 87 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:15,480 Speaker 1: that's what they're doing with Riley. Riley is in the 88 00:04:15,560 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: room by the way, Yes, and he's kid. I was 89 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 1: talking shot added anyway, barbecue. Nine people out of his 90 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:28,760 Speaker 1: friend group, there are five girls and four guys, all 91 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,640 Speaker 1: in amazing shape. Three of the girls joined me in 92 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: the kitchen to help me and we were having a conversation. 93 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:37,920 Speaker 1: They were giving me all the hot tea about each 94 00:04:37,960 --> 00:04:41,200 Speaker 1: of the guests in the backyard and from what I gathered, 95 00:04:41,279 --> 00:04:43,320 Speaker 1: all the people in the group were between the ages 96 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 1: of thirty five to forty and all of them were 97 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:50,359 Speaker 1: single red Fu. One of the guys was married and 98 00:04:50,400 --> 00:04:54,279 Speaker 1: the other three were single. Oh, all of the women 99 00:04:54,400 --> 00:04:59,160 Speaker 1: are single. One of the guys is married. So basically, 100 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:02,480 Speaker 1: out of the night nine eight are single. A lot 101 00:05:02,520 --> 00:05:04,640 Speaker 1: of single energy in this friend group. 102 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:07,359 Speaker 2: As Torpa Turnip says, this party is going to be 103 00:05:07,640 --> 00:05:09,280 Speaker 2: absolutely amazing. 104 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: I was asking him about their relationship status and learned 105 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: that many of the girls in the group had slept 106 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:18,600 Speaker 1: with one or more of the guys that were there. 107 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, like of the nine people, the three girls 108 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: who were with me in the kitchen told me that 109 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:28,360 Speaker 1: they were all divorced and not really interested in marriage 110 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 1: or a long term relationship anymore. They commented on how 111 00:05:31,320 --> 00:05:34,840 Speaker 1: guys at CrossFit are hot and discussing about how each 112 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:38,480 Speaker 1: of them was in bed, funny stories, etc. One of 113 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 1: the girls asked me how I met my husband. They 114 00:05:41,240 --> 00:05:44,560 Speaker 1: mostly wanted to know who approached who I chased him 115 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 1: as they were all commenting on how shy my husband is. 116 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:51,720 Speaker 1: One of them let it slip that he is completely 117 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 1: oblivious when someone flirts with him, so there are people 118 00:05:55,880 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: flirting with him. 119 00:05:57,560 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 2: You just spilled your beans, girl, Yeah, congratulations, you played. 120 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 1: Yourself spailled your beans, so we can flick the bean 121 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 1: to that story. Anyway, I will never forget. There was 122 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: this one this one girl told me of like her 123 00:06:11,279 --> 00:06:14,599 Speaker 1: first crush. I will never forget this sentence. She said 124 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: her first crush ever was Zuko from Avatar Last Airbender, 125 00:06:20,920 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: and she said, I will never forget the first time 126 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: I flicked my bean to Zuko. And that was the 127 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: first time I've ever heard I've ever heard that phrase. 128 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 2: And he's used it every day ever since, and I've 129 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 2: used it every day ever, said God bless. 130 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: Anyway, I asked it and learned that the two girls 131 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: standing outside had at times tried to be very flirty 132 00:06:40,120 --> 00:06:43,719 Speaker 1: with him as a fun competition to see when he 133 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:47,560 Speaker 1: will notice it. A fun competition like that is actually 134 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: I feel like they're telling on their self, like, yeah, 135 00:06:50,240 --> 00:06:51,479 Speaker 1: we flirted with your husband. 136 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 2: It's like a it's like a it's like a power move. 137 00:06:53,839 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 2: They're like, oh, yeah, we're to sound here, you know, 138 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 2: we're like flirting with him and like going after him. 139 00:06:59,800 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 2: Is it that hilarious? 140 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: Wife? Also, it sounds like they're increasing the amount that 141 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:09,760 Speaker 1: they flirt with him too, so it's like, oh, when 142 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:11,360 Speaker 1: will he get it? And it's just like they're just 143 00:07:11,400 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: like nut grabbing at a certain point. 144 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 2: Wow, that that escalated quickly. 145 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 1: I mean like, when does it stop because they said 146 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: they're escalating the flirtatiousness and will it just be like yeah, potentially. Well, 147 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:32,680 Speaker 1: they all said it was just a prank and complimented 148 00:07:32,720 --> 00:07:35,720 Speaker 1: me on how awesome and loyal my husband is. Well, 149 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: I guess at least they did a loyalty. 150 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:42,280 Speaker 2: It's just a prank, brom I love you, It's a prank. 151 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: At the end of the night, I was talking to 152 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:47,679 Speaker 1: my husband and told them about my conversation with the girls. 153 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:50,920 Speaker 1: He told me that these people are bonkers, but they 154 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: are fun to hang out with at the gym, especially 155 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:57,160 Speaker 1: when they're flirting with me. Actually, no, I added that 156 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 1: last bit. I added that last bit. I asked him 157 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: about the two girls that were flirting with him, and 158 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:06,240 Speaker 1: he said he did not initially notice, but then it 159 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,760 Speaker 1: became too obvious and he thought if he does not react, 160 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 1: then they will stop and move on to the next 161 00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 1: quote unquote victim. This made me feel very uneasy. It 162 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: may be my own securities about my own body, but 163 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 1: I do not want these girls with amazing bodies flirting 164 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:24,600 Speaker 1: with my husband. I know he will never reciprocate, but 165 00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 1: I just don't think they are a good idea. I 166 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 1: talked about this with him, and he says that he cared. 167 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:34,280 Speaker 1: All that he cares about is getting in good shape. 168 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: We had a fight when I told him to either 169 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: stop being friends with these horny single people got or 170 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,080 Speaker 1: change the gym. He did not take it well and 171 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 1: started resisting. I eventually told him this is my red 172 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 1: line and I do not want him to hang out 173 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 1: with girls who are single and ready to pounce on 174 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:56,680 Speaker 1: anyone with a hot body. We had a big fight, 175 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:58,720 Speaker 1: but eventually he told me he will change the gym 176 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:01,200 Speaker 1: at the month end. It would be super awkward to 177 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 1: go to this gym and suddenly stop interacting with people. 178 00:09:04,600 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 1: As I have calmed down, I feel bad to make 179 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 1: him do something that he might resent me for. Hence 180 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: I wanted an objective opinion. Am I wrong to make 181 00:09:13,520 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 1: my husband stop hanging out with these girls when I 182 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:18,080 Speaker 1: know for a fact that my husband will never be 183 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: disloyal to me. I know it's my insecurities, but I 184 00:09:21,520 --> 00:09:25,120 Speaker 1: just don't feel comfortable to have him around half naked 185 00:09:25,600 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: beautiful girls who would be aggling him and flirting with 186 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,120 Speaker 1: him as a game, even after knowing he has a 187 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:35,840 Speaker 1: wife and two kids. And there are some relevant comments 188 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 1: and an update, But John, what do you think is 189 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 1: op overreacting? 190 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 2: Well? I do have some thoughts, and I'm going to 191 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:49,200 Speaker 2: be very curious to ask our very own producer, Riley, 192 00:09:49,240 --> 00:09:52,319 Speaker 2: because I feel like he has even more specific context. 193 00:09:52,360 --> 00:09:55,080 Speaker 1: You need context on the scenario. Hiley crossfits all the 194 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: time for this. He's literally said, the CrossFit girls are 195 00:09:58,760 --> 00:09:59,520 Speaker 1: the craziest. 196 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,880 Speaker 4: Oh, back in my hometown, there's a lot of like 197 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:08,240 Speaker 4: younger people at my CrossFit gym, and they they're they're 198 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 4: pretty good, most of them. But like I would go 199 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,120 Speaker 4: to other CrossFit gyms and there'll be younger people and 200 00:10:13,160 --> 00:10:15,480 Speaker 4: you could kind of feel that sexual tension in the gym, 201 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 4: and you could definitely feel that the other gym too, 202 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:20,679 Speaker 4: But like, whenever you're working out, you're releasing this certain 203 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:23,040 Speaker 4: chemical and like you're working out with other people and 204 00:10:23,080 --> 00:10:25,040 Speaker 4: it's like you're going through this together and it's kind 205 00:10:25,040 --> 00:10:28,640 Speaker 4: of a bonding experience as well. So like you kind 206 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:30,720 Speaker 4: of can't help it. But there are different crossword gyms 207 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:32,679 Speaker 4: that have different vibes. Like there's some with like an 208 00:10:32,679 --> 00:10:35,840 Speaker 4: older demographic that are like well off and like basically 209 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:37,760 Speaker 4: what times you go to the crossword gym, Like, if 210 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:40,320 Speaker 4: you go to a noon class, there's probably like not 211 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 4: a lot of young people going there. There's why people 212 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 4: that are married or like retired or whatever. So depends 213 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 4: on when you go and where you are. 214 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:51,440 Speaker 1: So, John, you are recently a gym member, very recent right, 215 00:10:51,480 --> 00:10:54,280 Speaker 1: So you start going to the gym. You're getting shredded 216 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,760 Speaker 1: looking like a snack. And John already looks like a snack, 217 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:00,760 Speaker 1: but now he's gonna be a king size goodie back, right, 218 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:03,600 Speaker 1: So he goes into the gym looking like the king 219 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:07,200 Speaker 1: size goodie baggy as long luscious locks. Oh, there's some 220 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 1: girls that start flirting with him. He's oblivious, he doesn't know. 221 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:13,840 Speaker 1: And then your girlfriend meets them and she's like, oh wow, 222 00:11:13,880 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: they are telling stories about how they have been flirting 223 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:22,840 Speaker 1: with my boy. Would you change gyms if you noticed 224 00:11:23,559 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 1: that your girlfriend was I. 225 00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:27,800 Speaker 2: Would go to every single one of those women and say, hey, 226 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:31,920 Speaker 2: you're like making me uncomfortable. You're doing all these innu 227 00:11:31,960 --> 00:11:35,280 Speaker 2: windows like like I'm I'm gonna I'm gonna ask you 228 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:37,240 Speaker 2: to stop, and you're calling. 229 00:11:36,920 --> 00:11:39,000 Speaker 1: Me a goodie bag, where I'm just trying. 230 00:11:38,760 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 2: To work, because what the scenarios. If this is a 231 00:11:45,160 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 2: woman and all these guys are going up to her, 232 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:51,040 Speaker 2: Everyone's like yes, of course, like if she's uncomfortable, she 233 00:11:51,040 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 2: should voice her concerns and like and be able to 234 00:11:55,480 --> 00:11:58,199 Speaker 2: have that space. So as a guy, same thing, I'm 235 00:11:58,200 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 2: gonna go to these people. I'm telling hey, making me uncomfortable, Uh, 236 00:12:02,440 --> 00:12:04,600 Speaker 2: you need to stop and kind of just like stop 237 00:12:04,640 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 2: interacting with those people. The one caveat, and this was 238 00:12:07,360 --> 00:12:12,240 Speaker 2: was what I was actually asking Riley was Uh, I 239 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,839 Speaker 2: feel like it's okay. Riley just gave us the full 240 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 2: CrossFit like like breakdown. 241 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:21,160 Speaker 1: He's like, CrossFit is really sexual. Let me tell you. 242 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: There's this oozy chemical that comes when you work out 243 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: with people. And I feel like I was about to 244 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 1: get launched into like an erotica fanfic novel about like 245 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:36,640 Speaker 1: CrossFit turned lovers turned steamy spicy sleep extravaganza, and it 246 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:39,600 Speaker 1: obviously does happen. But what was your actual question? 247 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 2: I was wondering because at a gym, it seems very 248 00:12:42,280 --> 00:12:44,720 Speaker 2: easy to avoid people. Is it easy to avoid people 249 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:45,440 Speaker 2: at a CrossFit? 250 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 5: No? 251 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 4: Because in a CrossFit gyms, they're very like community community oriented, 252 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 4: so like they kind of like want to like be like, hey, 253 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 4: make sure you're talking to everyone and saying hey to everyone. 254 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 1: So that's why I feel like the smaller the gym, 255 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: the harder it is going to be to avoid someone. 256 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:07,200 Speaker 1: So that would you So I think first thing like 257 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 1: Opie's husband should do. Instead of just saying change gyms, 258 00:13:10,840 --> 00:13:13,640 Speaker 1: I think Opie should just say, hey, can you just 259 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:16,880 Speaker 1: like establish some boundaries with them instead of instead of 260 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: making them implicit, let's make them explicit. Yes, where it's like, hey, 261 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 1: my wife isn't going to be comfortable with me being 262 00:13:25,080 --> 00:13:27,200 Speaker 1: friends with you if you're constantly hitting on me, so 263 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:29,200 Speaker 1: like tone it down. 264 00:13:29,400 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 2: I feel like I would say, like, hey, you're making 265 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 2: me uncomfortable, Like can we like, yeah, cool it down. 266 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:38,959 Speaker 1: That's better instead of putting it on the wife. Would 267 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:40,439 Speaker 1: you still be friends with them? 268 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:42,880 Speaker 2: I think given? And that's why I wanted to ask 269 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:47,680 Speaker 2: for context from our resident expert Riley. I think while 270 00:13:47,679 --> 00:13:51,200 Speaker 2: the wife should ask to first set boundaries, he might 271 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:56,640 Speaker 2: have to ultimately just switch. That might be because of 272 00:13:56,679 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 2: the type of gym that it is. 273 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: That feels so it feels a lot. It feels a lot. 274 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 2: I mean, I will readily admit that all. 275 00:14:05,320 --> 00:14:08,000 Speaker 1: Also, I think think about it from his perspective too, 276 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:10,719 Speaker 1: Like it seems I don't know, it seems like there 277 00:14:10,760 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: was a drastic change in how he was feeling, how 278 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:18,560 Speaker 1: he was looking. He's like, like, he is a happier person, 279 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:21,400 Speaker 1: and his wife is noticing that, and he now has 280 00:14:21,680 --> 00:14:26,320 Speaker 1: this friend group that he feels comfortable in. And you're 281 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: essentially not only saying you can't have any of these 282 00:14:29,640 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 1: like women in your life anymore, but you can't have 283 00:14:31,920 --> 00:14:34,280 Speaker 1: any of these men in your life anymore if you're 284 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:37,920 Speaker 1: changing gems. So I feel like that's a big ask 285 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 1: if I I if I was Ope, If I was 286 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:45,840 Speaker 1: Ope and I uh noticed this, I would say, Hey, 287 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:48,960 Speaker 1: it is making me uncomfortable you having all these single 288 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:51,720 Speaker 1: friends that are flirting with you. I think if you're 289 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:54,640 Speaker 1: going to continue these relationships one I like, I don't 290 00:14:54,640 --> 00:14:56,920 Speaker 1: know if I would feel comfortable you hanging with like 291 00:14:57,040 --> 00:15:00,400 Speaker 1: them one on one if they've been like aggressively flirting 292 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: with you in the past. But could you just establish 293 00:15:03,920 --> 00:15:07,080 Speaker 1: some boundaries and say like, hey, not comfortable with how 294 00:15:07,120 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: you're you're talking with me just makes me uncomfortable. I 295 00:15:10,520 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 1: think if they set that, if he sets that boundary 296 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:15,960 Speaker 1: and then they're respectful of it, I think that's fine 297 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: and I would feel comfortable. 298 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 2: Then in reality, I don't know. I feel like after 299 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 2: that they'll just kind of drift apart, just like the 300 00:15:23,360 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 2: reality of the situation if someone if someone comes up 301 00:15:27,440 --> 00:15:29,120 Speaker 2: to you and they're like, hey, you've been making me 302 00:15:29,280 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 2: like really uncomfortable, and da da d da da da 303 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 2: da dah. 304 00:15:31,880 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: But I think there's a way to say it, like 305 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,240 Speaker 1: if if there was someone, if someone was flirting with 306 00:15:36,280 --> 00:15:39,040 Speaker 1: me and I was just like, hey, just wanted to 307 00:15:39,120 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 1: let you know, like I'm very like I love my wife, 308 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 1: I love my kids, and uh I know the like 309 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: you could even say, I know the flirting is in 310 00:15:49,040 --> 00:15:51,600 Speaker 1: good fun at all, and I appreciate that, but like 311 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:55,640 Speaker 1: like I I just uh don't want to like engage 312 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:56,880 Speaker 1: like that, and I also don't want to make my 313 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:59,840 Speaker 1: wife uncomfortable or anything like and I don't and if 314 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:02,160 Speaker 1: they me feel uncomfortable, but I love hanging out. I 315 00:16:02,160 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 1: think there's a way that you could do it where 316 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:07,400 Speaker 1: it's just like stop flirting with me. Yeah, and uh, 317 00:16:07,680 --> 00:16:09,320 Speaker 1: I think there's a way to navigate it where you 318 00:16:09,400 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 1: still could maintain that friend group relation. 319 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:15,160 Speaker 2: Chip I'm I don't. I don't know, to be honest, 320 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 2: I think I think it'll really depend on the person. 321 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:19,200 Speaker 1: But you're more for you would cut off. 322 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 2: I would be probably not saying I'm not saying you 323 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:24,520 Speaker 2: cut off, cut off. I'm saying like, once you set 324 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:27,880 Speaker 2: the boundary, I think they'll naturally like split and not 325 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 2: really be like. 326 00:16:29,400 --> 00:16:31,400 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, because it sounds like 327 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:35,720 Speaker 1: they aren't flirting with him anymore. Like it sounds like 328 00:16:35,760 --> 00:16:36,760 Speaker 1: it's I thought it was. 329 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:37,160 Speaker 2: Yeah. 330 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:41,360 Speaker 1: My understanding is it was in the past and it's like, oh, 331 00:16:41,400 --> 00:16:43,800 Speaker 1: like he's so clueless, and they they've kind of like 332 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 1: stop doing it. 333 00:16:45,560 --> 00:16:47,520 Speaker 2: I thought they were saying they've been ramping it up 334 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 2: because he hasn't like they. 335 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: I think it was like a fun game initially, Yeah, 336 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:54,840 Speaker 1: and they were ramping it up, but they don't really well. 337 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 2: One husband now is planning on moving gyms, so it's 338 00:16:57,360 --> 00:16:58,400 Speaker 2: about to be no. 339 00:16:58,440 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 1: But I think when when they invited every he went 340 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 1: over to the barbecue, They're like, Oh, we were doing 341 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:04,760 Speaker 1: this fun game where we would ramp up how much 342 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 1: we would flirt with him. But I think that's a 343 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:09,879 Speaker 1: past thing, like you wouldn't tell the wife that you 344 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:10,720 Speaker 1: were presently. 345 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:13,720 Speaker 2: I thought that's what the insanity of the could. 346 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:16,320 Speaker 1: I don't think that. I don't think that's Sophia, What 347 00:17:16,320 --> 00:17:17,840 Speaker 1: do you think. I don't think that's what happened. 348 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:20,720 Speaker 3: I think it was It sounded like they were telling 349 00:17:20,800 --> 00:17:22,400 Speaker 3: her presently that they were doing it. 350 00:17:22,600 --> 00:17:24,640 Speaker 1: I don't think it was present. 351 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:28,600 Speaker 2: We've heard people admit crazier things, because then then if 352 00:17:28,640 --> 00:17:31,560 Speaker 2: it was like, yeah, I'm flirting with your husband every 353 00:17:31,640 --> 00:17:35,240 Speaker 2: day and you're telling the person that is, it seems 354 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:36,879 Speaker 2: like they didn't think it was wrong. 355 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:38,679 Speaker 3: No, it sounded like they were like, oh, yeah, we 356 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:39,640 Speaker 3: flirt with him and. 357 00:17:39,600 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 2: He just. 358 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:44,000 Speaker 1: The exact sentence is. I asked about it, the flirting, 359 00:17:44,160 --> 00:17:47,480 Speaker 1: and learned that the two girls standing outside, so the 360 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:50,800 Speaker 1: two girls that were not on the inside had at 361 00:17:50,840 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 1: times try to be flirting with him as a fun competition, 362 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:57,120 Speaker 1: competition to see when he will notice it. They all 363 00:17:57,160 --> 00:17:59,679 Speaker 1: said it was just a prank and complimented me on 364 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 1: how awesome and loyal my husband is. 365 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:04,719 Speaker 3: It sounds like they're saying, what will notice it? So 366 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:06,160 Speaker 3: it sounds like it's. 367 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,720 Speaker 1: So then, but it's but it's not the people that 368 00:18:08,760 --> 00:18:11,399 Speaker 1: are talking to her. It's like these two people. So 369 00:18:11,440 --> 00:18:14,480 Speaker 1: I think like in that case, if that ever happens again, 370 00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:19,280 Speaker 1: husbands should I explicitly like say hey, I'm not comfortable 371 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:24,800 Speaker 1: with this, and and then if it doesn't stop, just 372 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:27,199 Speaker 1: like cut them out. It's just it sucks if you 373 00:18:27,200 --> 00:18:28,879 Speaker 1: have to move gyms. He's gonna lose all his friends. 374 00:18:28,880 --> 00:18:29,320 Speaker 1: That's lame. 375 00:18:29,400 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 2: We move a class. I think that's the app. 376 00:18:31,640 --> 00:18:33,320 Speaker 1: Who's all his friends are going at the same time. 377 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, but like at least he doesn't have to leave 378 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 2: the gym completely, and maybe maybe there is like one 379 00:18:39,600 --> 00:18:41,359 Speaker 2: or two friends that comes over and he'll probably meet 380 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:43,600 Speaker 2: a very similar group in a different class time. I 381 00:18:43,600 --> 00:18:45,880 Speaker 2: think that's probably the ultimate solution here. Man, we really 382 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:50,440 Speaker 2: dove deep into this. Yeah, every nook and granny today, 383 00:18:50,520 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 2: ladies and gentleman. 384 00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 1: I feel like I'm more on the side of of 385 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: making boundaries just because, like I feel like it is 386 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:04,040 Speaker 1: a slippery slope to enforce your insecurities on a partner. 387 00:19:04,280 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 1: But it feels like John's more like, uh, you. 388 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:11,320 Speaker 2: Make the boundary and the cut it'll it essentially is 389 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 2: cutting off because I am predicting it would result in 390 00:19:14,600 --> 00:19:18,200 Speaker 2: a flitting of the relationship of the friendship. 391 00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:23,320 Speaker 1: But there are more things and this story, let's get 392 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:29,200 Speaker 1: into it, ladies and gentlemen, so relevant comments. I'm going 393 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:32,040 Speaker 1: to be completely honest with you. As someone who has 394 00:19:32,080 --> 00:19:34,639 Speaker 1: been doing CrossFit since two thousand and nine and have 395 00:19:34,720 --> 00:19:38,600 Speaker 1: coached at multiple gyms since twenty thirteen, I can tell 396 00:19:38,640 --> 00:19:43,480 Speaker 1: you CrossFit is a hotbed for cheating. And I've seen 397 00:19:43,600 --> 00:19:47,600 Speaker 1: what you're describing more times than I can count. Wow. 398 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 1: I've seen literally dozens of marriages break up when one 399 00:19:52,080 --> 00:19:55,479 Speaker 1: person buys into CrossFit, as it is as much a 400 00:19:55,640 --> 00:19:59,920 Speaker 1: social aspect as a working out aspect, and the other 401 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 1: spouse is left behind. I myself met my now wife 402 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:07,200 Speaker 1: at CrossFit. So while many here will tell you you're overreacting 403 00:20:07,280 --> 00:20:08,959 Speaker 1: or you're wrong, and I'm not saying you are not 404 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:12,000 Speaker 1: wrong to some degree, they may not fully understand the 405 00:20:12,040 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: manner in which many CrossFit gyms tend to function, and 406 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:18,320 Speaker 1: they'll say any gym is like that, but they are wrong. 407 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 1: Most gyms do not have the social community aspect of CrossFit. 408 00:20:22,600 --> 00:20:25,919 Speaker 1: So yes, I would be wary. 409 00:20:26,200 --> 00:20:30,040 Speaker 2: Wow a balanced and contextual comment from Reddit. 410 00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:34,320 Speaker 1: Wow, yeah, it's a miracle, specially's avocado shout out to you. 411 00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,320 Speaker 2: That was that was actually a great breakdown. 412 00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:39,240 Speaker 1: I still feel it doesn't change my answer, though, even 413 00:20:39,320 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: knowing that it's a hotbed for cheating. 414 00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:44,520 Speaker 2: I'm like, eh, yeah, and I'm not even saying change 415 00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 2: the gym necessarily now, but I could see it resulting 416 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 2: in a fracture. 417 00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:53,200 Speaker 1: In v But at least if you just I feel 418 00:20:53,200 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 1: like it's regardless he should set boundaries with the women. 419 00:20:57,359 --> 00:20:59,159 Speaker 2: I think both of us are in agreement of the 420 00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:03,080 Speaker 2: exact action. It's a difference in like what we predict 421 00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:04,960 Speaker 2: that the results might happen exactly. 422 00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:08,199 Speaker 1: So Ope responded, I don't think I communicated well in 423 00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:10,440 Speaker 1: this post, but this is what I felt. People were 424 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 1: so nonchalant about sleeping around. I trust my husband, but 425 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 1: I also did not like his friends in the way 426 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,200 Speaker 1: they were talking about hooking up. As a married woman. 427 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:21,000 Speaker 1: I would immediately run if I found myself in such 428 00:21:21,000 --> 00:21:23,920 Speaker 1: a group. It never even occurred to them that they 429 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:26,560 Speaker 1: are telling me about other girls flirting with my husband, 430 00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:30,959 Speaker 1: and that was something wrong. And then Acrobatic Mechanic two 431 00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 1: sixty five says, if your husband is gonna cheat, he 432 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:37,160 Speaker 1: doesn't need a jim. Yes, you are wrong. I mean 433 00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,920 Speaker 1: that's a good point. OPI responds to that, But that's 434 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: a good point. It's like, if you're gonna cheat, Okay, Well, 435 00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:44,680 Speaker 1: actually I don't know if that's true, because it's like, yeah, 436 00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,200 Speaker 1: there's the there's the idea that if you're gonna cheat, 437 00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,359 Speaker 1: you're gonna find a way to cheat. So it's like 438 00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:52,160 Speaker 1: doesn't matter where you're in. But there's also an idea 439 00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:56,040 Speaker 1: of like, if you put yourself in situations where it's 440 00:21:56,119 --> 00:21:59,280 Speaker 1: easier to make a bad decision, then you're more likely 441 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:01,320 Speaker 1: to be that bad disc Like something that I'm a 442 00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:04,000 Speaker 1: really big fan of is it's I think it's way 443 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 1: easier to create an environment where it's great like easy 444 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:09,639 Speaker 1: to make good decisions than it is to have the 445 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: will power to make good decisions. And there's this book 446 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:17,920 Speaker 1: called Atomic Habits where it talks about how to eat healthier, right, 447 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,600 Speaker 1: and if it's it's like, if you put a six 448 00:22:20,680 --> 00:22:23,520 Speaker 1: pack of beer in your fridge and you open the 449 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:26,520 Speaker 1: fridge every time that you open the fridge, you were 450 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:28,159 Speaker 1: going to look at that six pack of beer and 451 00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 1: then maybe want to drink a beer. We have a 452 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:32,840 Speaker 1: giant bar fridge full, so we are. 453 00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:37,640 Speaker 3: And sometimes you open the fridge for a sparkling water 454 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,439 Speaker 3: and you don't look down, and then you have just 455 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 3: taken a swig of vodka seltzer. 456 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 1: You're an alcoholic. We expected better, But like I think, 457 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,639 Speaker 1: I think, actually, I don't know if I agree with 458 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:56,280 Speaker 1: this comment, because I think your environment dictates your actions 459 00:22:56,680 --> 00:23:01,000 Speaker 1: way more than people think your environment. 460 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:04,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, as in like, uh, the environment could set 461 00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 2: you up for failure, so like find put yourself in 462 00:23:07,840 --> 00:23:09,720 Speaker 2: the best environments possible. 463 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:12,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's like like put a loyal person in 464 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:17,800 Speaker 1: a place where there are people that are unscrupulous and 465 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:21,359 Speaker 1: that are constantly grabbing at your dong, like from the floor, 466 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:23,960 Speaker 1: like the underneath floors and trying to grab a piece 467 00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 1: like like like if you constantly have people grabbing for it, 468 00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:30,840 Speaker 1: you might accidentally let one hold on and by the 469 00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 1: time they're holding on, it's just like oh. 470 00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 2: Point one seconds later, so it's over. 471 00:23:37,240 --> 00:23:41,199 Speaker 1: You know, like like and ands as crude is that 472 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:45,320 Speaker 1: graphic is of these little gremlins grabbing after dongs. I 473 00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:49,640 Speaker 1: do think there is some like like willpower can only 474 00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:51,639 Speaker 1: take you so far, and you kind of have to 475 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,760 Speaker 1: have the uh you could, you have to have the 476 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:58,679 Speaker 1: I guess like forward thinkingness to create an environment that 477 00:23:58,760 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 1: makes it hard to make bad. 478 00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:01,800 Speaker 2: And there's something to be said for a person who 479 00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:06,159 Speaker 2: is intentionally trying to find those right environments. Like me, 480 00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:10,199 Speaker 2: for instance, I work out surrounded by sausages. Yeah, that 481 00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:13,560 Speaker 2: is the key to success, the key to success, Yeah, right, 482 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:22,440 Speaker 2: Like I want sausage in particular. But yeah, I'm curious 483 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:26,359 Speaker 2: what y'all think, Like, do you think it's all about 484 00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:29,320 Speaker 2: environment or do you think it's all about willpower? 485 00:24:29,880 --> 00:24:32,679 Speaker 1: Let us know. But OPI responds, I don't think my 486 00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:35,080 Speaker 1: husband will cheat. I trust him completely, but I did 487 00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:37,879 Speaker 1: not like his friends in the hookup culture in his group. 488 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:40,920 Speaker 1: That is the reason why I feel it was inappropriate 489 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,199 Speaker 1: for him to hang out with them. You are the 490 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:46,359 Speaker 1: product of the people you hang around with, so I 491 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,240 Speaker 1: trust myself to never cheat too. However, I also do 492 00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:52,119 Speaker 1: not go alone to nightclubs on Saturdays with my girlfriends. 493 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,399 Speaker 1: I just don't associate with people like that. After I 494 00:24:54,440 --> 00:24:57,240 Speaker 1: met my husband, and I expect my husband to also 495 00:24:57,400 --> 00:25:01,399 Speaker 1: have wholesome friends, which I agree with. Also, if you 496 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:04,040 Speaker 1: haven't read Atomic Habits, great book if you're trying to 497 00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:07,119 Speaker 1: change your life. But wreck, Yeah, do you read that book? 498 00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:07,840 Speaker 1: You know? 499 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 2: I don't know that I have. 500 00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:10,719 Speaker 1: Oh, it's great, righty? Do you read that book? 501 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:11,480 Speaker 5: What? 502 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:14,000 Speaker 1: Sophia definitely didn't read it? She hates those books. 503 00:25:14,280 --> 00:25:17,119 Speaker 2: Hey, am I am? 504 00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 1: I wrong? 505 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:20,440 Speaker 2: I can't who's that? Who's that? Right there? I can't 506 00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:24,840 Speaker 2: release it. Oh, I have four eyes that you know? 507 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 2: It helps me out. 508 00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:33,159 Speaker 1: But there is an update from rather recently May seventeenth. 509 00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,960 Speaker 1: So I posted this on a forum two weeks ago 510 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,040 Speaker 1: and was dragged by the subreddit for being insecure about 511 00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,680 Speaker 1: my husband going to a CrossFit gym where he had 512 00:25:41,720 --> 00:25:46,200 Speaker 1: friends with questionable morals. His friend told me about the 513 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:48,800 Speaker 1: hookup culture in the gym and how my husband is 514 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:52,800 Speaker 1: really loyal despite two women constantly hitting on him in 515 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,960 Speaker 1: the gym. Although I did not agree with many of you, 516 00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:58,760 Speaker 1: I still decided to swallow my pride and talk to 517 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:03,119 Speaker 1: my husband about my behavior and apologize. I had already 518 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,680 Speaker 1: made him quit the gym wow, and he was going 519 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: to quit in a month because that month was already 520 00:26:08,040 --> 00:26:10,359 Speaker 1: paid for. The night of the post, I talked to 521 00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:13,560 Speaker 1: him and told him about the post. He immediately read 522 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:15,959 Speaker 1: the post and was laughing hysterically at some of the comments, 523 00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 1: which I feel is a green flag. Yes, he told 524 00:26:19,359 --> 00:26:21,440 Speaker 1: me that my question was wrong and he does not 525 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,040 Speaker 1: care if I am insecure or not. He told me 526 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:32,639 Speaker 1: that my mental peace is more important em husting w 527 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,639 Speaker 1: to him than his friends, and he will still be 528 00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,840 Speaker 1: planning to quit the gym. I think reading about how 529 00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:42,480 Speaker 1: I felt about what his friends told me put my 530 00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: thoughts in perspective. He said, initially felt He initially felt 531 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:47,840 Speaker 1: offended that I was questioning his loyalty and got angry 532 00:26:47,880 --> 00:26:50,639 Speaker 1: at me. However, he understood my perspective on why I 533 00:26:50,680 --> 00:26:52,639 Speaker 1: do not want him to be friends with those people. 534 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,479 Speaker 1: He said he still might hang out with them in 535 00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:59,640 Speaker 1: a social setting, but will not be meeting with them regularly. 536 00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:01,800 Speaker 1: He told his friends about his decisions and lied to 537 00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 1: them that it was the schedule not working out for him. 538 00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:07,040 Speaker 1: Everyone was disappointed and tried to get him to continue. 539 00:27:07,400 --> 00:27:09,920 Speaker 1: Many of the people guessed that I may be the 540 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,720 Speaker 1: reason for his sudden schedule conflicts, and the women told 541 00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:16,119 Speaker 1: him that they only said good things about him to me. 542 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 1: One of the merry guys who had come to our house. 543 00:27:19,119 --> 00:27:21,040 Speaker 1: Was talking to my husband a few days ago. He 544 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:23,880 Speaker 1: was asking him if I made him quit. 545 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 5: Oh. 546 00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:26,520 Speaker 1: My husband said no, but he kept on pressing and 547 00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:30,080 Speaker 1: said that my husband was stupid to call Melissa, one 548 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,359 Speaker 1: of the girls hitting on him to our house. He 549 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:36,000 Speaker 1: said he found my husband's audacity crazy that I invited 550 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:38,840 Speaker 1: Melissa to our place. My husband said he knew she 551 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:40,760 Speaker 1: was a little flirty with him, but a good buddy. 552 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:42,879 Speaker 1: This guy then tells my husband that he does not 553 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:45,960 Speaker 1: need to pretend with him, and he knew that my 554 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:53,240 Speaker 1: husband was sleeping with her. Wait, he told him he 555 00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 1: has seen how she looks at him and her body 556 00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:59,359 Speaker 1: language and could tell. My husband called him crazy and said, 557 00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,679 Speaker 1: and it seemed like Melissa told some of the people 558 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,720 Speaker 1: at the gym that something was going on between them, 559 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 1: and he is off limit to others. 560 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:13,080 Speaker 2: The the audacity of being like, hey, he's off limits, 561 00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:17,040 Speaker 2: when it's like you're the one cheating. He's supposed to 562 00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:18,320 Speaker 2: be off limits to you. 563 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I. 564 00:28:23,359 --> 00:28:24,120 Speaker 2: Can cheat with him. 565 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:26,840 Speaker 1: Okay, you have no morals. You'd be jumping fences like 566 00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,480 Speaker 1: a belly go Like, oh, relationship. 567 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:34,240 Speaker 2: Olympic level mental gymnastics, that's what these people do. That's 568 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:37,719 Speaker 2: what these people do, My God. 569 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 1: But like shout out to them, shout out the simone bi. 570 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:45,000 Speaker 2: I mean, this is of mental gymnastics. 571 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:49,080 Speaker 1: But hopefully she doesn't stick the landing and she can 572 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:51,160 Speaker 1: stick her nose with a sun don't shine in her 573 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:54,520 Speaker 1: own butt yep, and a sweaty CrossFit but at that 574 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:59,440 Speaker 1: Oh so my husband denied that and asked if this 575 00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:03,320 Speaker 1: guy and asked this guy if he knew that so 576 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:05,480 Speaker 1: many people in the group were hooking up. He said, 577 00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:10,040 Speaker 1: that is how CrossFit gyms work. Dang, this is also 578 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:13,160 Speaker 1: a husband. Yeah, what is going on here? 579 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:14,400 Speaker 2: What is happening? 580 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:17,160 Speaker 1: Maybe the husband was kind of looking like at it 581 00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:18,480 Speaker 1: as a place to cruise. 582 00:29:19,400 --> 00:29:21,840 Speaker 2: Like to be able to find a partner. 583 00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:25,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, Riley, Riley's coming in with all right. 584 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:26,720 Speaker 2: Talk to us. 585 00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,040 Speaker 4: So whenever I first joined the cross for gym, I 586 00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 4: was like, oh, this place is cool, awesome, like there 587 00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 4: are attractive people there. But then you once you get 588 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,920 Speaker 4: inundated into the friend groups. After a few months, you 589 00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:40,760 Speaker 4: start to realize, oh, you see the they're friends and 590 00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:42,520 Speaker 4: it's like high school. It really just goes back to 591 00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,400 Speaker 4: high school again because like, dude, I know some crazy 592 00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:47,400 Speaker 4: stuff that happened to my cross for gym. There was 593 00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:49,240 Speaker 4: like one chick that definitely slept with like I think 594 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:51,120 Speaker 4: three guys there or something like that. 595 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:55,360 Speaker 2: There was an affair that happened there too, basically very similar, 596 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:56,880 Speaker 2: very similar to this. 597 00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:00,480 Speaker 1: Yes, goodness, CrossFit is a cess. 598 00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, and like my one of my best friends stopped 599 00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:04,640 Speaker 4: going because of some of a lot of the drama that. 600 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:05,280 Speaker 3: Was happening there. 601 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:06,120 Speaker 1: Yeah. 602 00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:07,920 Speaker 2: Wow, Yeah it was nuts. 603 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 1: And you guys both joined a cross fait gym. 604 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,760 Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, we joined We did not join across 605 00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:18,200 Speaker 2: with sir. Sir, let's set the record straight here right now. 606 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:19,800 Speaker 2: What is it a weightlifting gym? 607 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 1: It's just a gym. 608 00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:22,360 Speaker 3: It's just it's just it's. 609 00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,600 Speaker 2: A gym that looks like we work. That is literally 610 00:30:24,640 --> 00:30:26,720 Speaker 2: what it is. Yeah, they have that's a CrossFit equipment. 611 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 2: But there are no CrossFit classes, no classes. Me and Riley, 612 00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:32,160 Speaker 2: we just go with the boys, right, We go with 613 00:30:32,200 --> 00:30:33,000 Speaker 2: the boys. That's it. 614 00:30:33,280 --> 00:30:36,040 Speaker 4: I do want to hit up a class soon, Though's 615 00:30:36,040 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 4: like I. 616 00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 2: Swear, listen, don't throw any on my name. Don't throw 617 00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:44,120 Speaker 2: any on my name. Okay, you cannot turn this around 618 00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:48,280 Speaker 2: on me. It's improvement. 619 00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:54,280 Speaker 1: Goodness, it's how CrossFit gym's work. And he also had 620 00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:56,120 Speaker 1: slept with a few women in the group. And this 621 00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,160 Speaker 1: is a guy that has a wife. He said he 622 00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:01,880 Speaker 1: was trying to get with Melissa and that is when 623 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:05,160 Speaker 1: she told him that she is currently with my husband. 624 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:07,760 Speaker 1: What a jerk. My husband was laughing when telling the 625 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,280 Speaker 1: story and told me that he has heard that Melissa 626 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,640 Speaker 1: has spread rumors about him and he's glad to quit 627 00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:15,640 Speaker 1: the gym. Okay, see this is like at this point, 628 00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh wow, this is a cesspool. So then yeah, 629 00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 1: actually leave. Yeah. He told me about the guy's conversation 630 00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 1: because he does not want me to hear anything negative 631 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 1: about him from someone at the gym who may have 632 00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: heard such rumors too. I don't know why, but my 633 00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:33,160 Speaker 1: insecurity intuition alarms just started to flash and I messaged 634 00:31:33,160 --> 00:31:37,280 Speaker 1: two of the girls on Instagram confidently and asked them 635 00:31:37,360 --> 00:31:40,360 Speaker 1: if she had heard such rumors. They both told me 636 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:46,120 Speaker 1: that Melissa was my husband's best friend. Wait, is the 637 00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:50,640 Speaker 1: husband cheating or not? Because I am I think it's 638 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 1: definitely possible. Now I'm like, now, I'm like, is he cheating? 639 00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,240 Speaker 2: It's very possible. Is he just trying to get ahead 640 00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,280 Speaker 2: of it, because Melissa's out here telling everyone that the 641 00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:08,280 Speaker 2: husband is like, don't lie, I've done this too. I've 642 00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:10,000 Speaker 2: seen everyone in the gym do it too. I know 643 00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,960 Speaker 2: you're cheating. I can see the signs other people in 644 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:17,080 Speaker 2: the gym are talking about it. He's like like, let trump, 645 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:18,960 Speaker 2: you know, maybe trying to laugh it off or maybe 646 00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:19,520 Speaker 2: really is. 647 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:23,160 Speaker 1: But if if he truly was, I think if he 648 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:27,080 Speaker 1: truly was cheating, then he wouldn't have invited all of 649 00:32:27,080 --> 00:32:30,080 Speaker 1: those people to his barbecue. 650 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:34,720 Speaker 2: Or is he wants Is he just playing sixty nine 651 00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:37,840 Speaker 2: D chess and just trying to get ahead of all 652 00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,280 Speaker 2: the paces because the chat or the poll right now 653 00:32:40,320 --> 00:32:43,400 Speaker 2: is saying currently polling eighty percent, yes he is cheating. 654 00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,160 Speaker 1: I don't think that is currently what the people are saying. Dude, 655 00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:49,160 Speaker 1: I don't think he's cheating. Like yes, Celtic Kit says like, 656 00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:50,560 Speaker 1: oh yeah, he could be trying to get ahead of 657 00:32:50,600 --> 00:32:54,400 Speaker 1: the rumor now, but like he invited all of them, 658 00:32:54,480 --> 00:32:58,560 Speaker 1: So I don't know. I just I don't think. I 659 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:02,040 Speaker 1: don't think sixty ninety chess all right? It looks what 660 00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:06,400 Speaker 1: of you are saying yes that he cheated? So I 661 00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:08,840 Speaker 1: guess we'll find out pretty soon. They both told me 662 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:12,240 Speaker 1: that Melissa was my husband's best friend in the gym 663 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:14,320 Speaker 1: and they would always hang out at their gym together 664 00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:17,440 Speaker 1: and get breakfast, coffee, et cetera. The gym time was 665 00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:20,000 Speaker 1: early morning and they had heard the rumors, but they 666 00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,200 Speaker 1: were completely false. They again told me how nice my 667 00:33:22,280 --> 00:33:24,600 Speaker 1: husband was and that they are going to miss him. 668 00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:27,080 Speaker 1: I know my husband is great and I trust him, 669 00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:28,960 Speaker 1: but I still feel him quitting the gym is the 670 00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:31,560 Speaker 1: right thing. I also am not sure if I should 671 00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:35,520 Speaker 1: confront Melissa and tell her to stop lying about my husband. 672 00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:37,760 Speaker 1: I think I'm going to let it go and enjoy 673 00:33:38,400 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: the next month when my husband again joins our old 674 00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:44,000 Speaker 1: Jim where I work out sometimes. On a side note, 675 00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:47,880 Speaker 1: I was seriously considering messaging that guy's wife about what 676 00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:50,840 Speaker 1: he told my husband, but decided against it because if 677 00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:52,560 Speaker 1: she asked how I know. I do not have any 678 00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:58,000 Speaker 1: proof except his conversation with my husband, and there is 679 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:06,080 Speaker 1: a final all updates where we may get some more information. 680 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:07,440 Speaker 2: I'm getting whiplash. 681 00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:11,680 Speaker 1: But quick question, John, I feel like a new question 682 00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:15,240 Speaker 1: has been brought up. Yes, and the question is should 683 00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:19,160 Speaker 1: ope tell the cheating husband's wife. 684 00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,560 Speaker 2: I mean, did the guy admit to it? 685 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 1: The guy admitted to Ope's husband. 686 00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,879 Speaker 2: I mean that's pretty good evidence, Like. 687 00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:32,280 Speaker 1: Well, she doesn't have like she just this is hearsay. 688 00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:37,640 Speaker 1: It's essentially it's essentially the same as oh, like other people, Yeah, 689 00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:42,400 Speaker 1: she heard it from her husband, and that the cheating 690 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:46,800 Speaker 1: husband told Ope's husband. Ope's husband told. 691 00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:55,440 Speaker 2: Op Yeah, I yeah, these are all I mean. 692 00:34:56,760 --> 00:34:58,759 Speaker 1: Tell her no, tell her not, hell her not. 693 00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:03,880 Speaker 2: Come on, John, go to the husband and be like, hey, 694 00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:08,440 Speaker 2: I I heard I you know, heard this rumor. You 695 00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 2: should you should really tell your wife, like like, tell 696 00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:15,000 Speaker 2: your wife or I will ultimatum. I feel like that's 697 00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:16,000 Speaker 2: usually where we land. 698 00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:19,720 Speaker 3: I think that Opie's husband should tell the wife. 699 00:35:19,880 --> 00:35:23,160 Speaker 1: I think it is better for Opie's husband to say 700 00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:30,719 Speaker 1: anything say some point, but I think the potential fallout 701 00:35:30,719 --> 00:35:34,359 Speaker 1: and risk is high of like that husband being like 702 00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:36,200 Speaker 1: pissed and aggressive or whatever. 703 00:35:36,840 --> 00:35:39,040 Speaker 3: Well he's leaving the gym. 704 00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:42,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, but I mean you could go to the other gym. 705 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:44,160 Speaker 3: They're both in CrossFit. It's an equal mass. 706 00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:46,000 Speaker 2: He's gonna do you think he's gonna like go to 707 00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:49,680 Speaker 2: playing a fitness and be like boom, hey you you 708 00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:50,880 Speaker 2: ruined it all for me. 709 00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:55,640 Speaker 1: Maybe, I guess it's possible hopped up on creatine and 710 00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:59,440 Speaker 1: protein powder doing lines in the bathroom of freaking protein. 711 00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:01,080 Speaker 2: I don't know if I be worried about that. 712 00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:03,320 Speaker 1: And they're thick and straight. 713 00:36:03,360 --> 00:36:05,560 Speaker 2: I mean, Riley, do you do you think that that's 714 00:36:05,560 --> 00:36:09,440 Speaker 2: a word? Like if this happened in your past group, 715 00:36:09,520 --> 00:36:12,879 Speaker 2: do you could you see someone like trying to come 716 00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:14,280 Speaker 2: after someone? Yeah? 717 00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:18,600 Speaker 4: I would say so, because like this is again, it's 718 00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:20,880 Speaker 4: like high school. It's a high school vibe. 719 00:36:21,040 --> 00:36:23,080 Speaker 2: They're like so immature that they might do that basically. 720 00:36:23,200 --> 00:36:26,359 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just like it's not the immaturity well some people, 721 00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:28,759 Speaker 4: because I feel like Melissa is. She's kind of like 722 00:36:29,719 --> 00:36:31,839 Speaker 4: stirring the pot a lot anytime she can. I don't 723 00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:33,920 Speaker 4: think the white should talk to Melissa at all. But 724 00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:39,720 Speaker 4: CrossFit gyms do have that high school social group setting. 725 00:36:39,760 --> 00:36:41,640 Speaker 4: So that's why he invited her to the cookout because 726 00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:43,800 Speaker 4: if she didn't, if Melisa diduld go to the cookout, 727 00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:45,400 Speaker 4: then she'd be like, oh, what's going on there? And 728 00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:47,279 Speaker 4: then it'd be weird that she didn't go and she'd 729 00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:47,960 Speaker 4: feel left out. 730 00:36:48,080 --> 00:36:49,840 Speaker 1: I would tell anonymously that's what I would do. 731 00:36:50,920 --> 00:36:53,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, tell anonymous, that's prette anonymously. That's good. 732 00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:55,600 Speaker 1: And then it's just like okay, like you don't have 733 00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:58,560 Speaker 1: any proof, so it's like doesn't make sense to have 734 00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,840 Speaker 1: your name in there, but just like I actually should 735 00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:03,920 Speaker 1: be raised and then she could find out the information 736 00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:07,799 Speaker 1: telling honestly like it for yourself. Yeah, yeah, you know, 737 00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:10,360 Speaker 1: put on your little Sherlock Holmes hat, put on a 738 00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:13,719 Speaker 1: pipe and magnifying glass and look for clues. Yeah, well, 739 00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:15,120 Speaker 1: split up and look for clues. 740 00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:22,480 Speaker 3: But cronk voice. That was like a kronk voice. 741 00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:24,840 Speaker 1: What what's cronks is? 742 00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:25,080 Speaker 5: Is? 743 00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:32,279 Speaker 1: Uh yeah, yeah, that's good all right. As I said 744 00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:36,440 Speaker 1: in the conversation, I did not find any conversations with 745 00:37:36,560 --> 00:37:44,480 Speaker 1: Melissa on my husband's phone, which is suspicious. 746 00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:50,200 Speaker 2: You're right, because he deletes good point. 747 00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:54,719 Speaker 1: Like no conversations is super suspicious. 748 00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:58,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, hey, you going to the class today or like 749 00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:03,320 Speaker 2: what was that work out? I don't know, Oh no. 750 00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:07,960 Speaker 1: I thought it was gonna be. Okay, that's that's suspicious, right. 751 00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:10,480 Speaker 2: I think you're right. At first, I wasn't, but you're 752 00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:12,840 Speaker 2: you're right. Yeah, that's I would be. I'm putting on 753 00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:14,719 Speaker 2: my shirt lock at again. Let's see. 754 00:38:14,840 --> 00:38:17,520 Speaker 1: I asked my husband about it thirty minutes ago, and 755 00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,160 Speaker 1: he got really angry at me for still being on 756 00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:24,520 Speaker 1: that subject. He said, he never talked to Melissa outside 757 00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:26,960 Speaker 1: their sessions, and I need to let it go since 758 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:30,760 Speaker 1: he sacrificed his friend group for me. He never gets 759 00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,560 Speaker 1: angry at me like this, and I felt I might 760 00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:37,440 Speaker 1: have crossed some line with my insecurity. I did not 761 00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:39,960 Speaker 1: tell him that I contacted his friends behind his back 762 00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:44,400 Speaker 1: to ask about the rumors and about Melissa. I can't 763 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:47,600 Speaker 1: shake the feeling because if he never talked to her 764 00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:54,200 Speaker 1: outside of sessions but went to breakfast with Melissa. 765 00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 2: That's it. But great cross examination. 766 00:38:56,640 --> 00:39:00,879 Speaker 1: But is But do we know for a fact that 767 00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:03,200 Speaker 1: that that happened, that the breakfast happens. 768 00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:04,440 Speaker 2: We don't know for a fact. 769 00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:06,560 Speaker 3: Wait, who said the breakfast happened? 770 00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:12,320 Speaker 2: The cheating husband, the other cheating husband jection your honor? 771 00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:17,920 Speaker 1: The husband told ope what the other cheating husband, the 772 00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:21,680 Speaker 1: other cheating husband told no. And then she she actually 773 00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:26,520 Speaker 1: know because she messaged the two other friends and they 774 00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:29,360 Speaker 1: said they're very close friends. 775 00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:33,080 Speaker 3: They did say that, And if you're very close friends, 776 00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:34,719 Speaker 3: why wouldn't you have any messages? 777 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,440 Speaker 1: But did Melissa say oh, I just went to breakfast 778 00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:41,360 Speaker 1: and coffee with uh man with a wife and was 779 00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:43,960 Speaker 1: lying about that as a cover as a cover, And. 780 00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:45,960 Speaker 2: They're like, where were you this morning? Oh oh, oh, 781 00:39:46,000 --> 00:39:50,799 Speaker 2: I saw you leaving X place with uh opie's husband's name. 782 00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:53,480 Speaker 2: Oh oh, we just got some some breakfast. 783 00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:54,360 Speaker 1: Yeah. 784 00:39:54,400 --> 00:39:56,840 Speaker 3: Also, does the husband know that Melissa has been spreading 785 00:39:56,840 --> 00:39:57,640 Speaker 3: around these rumors? 786 00:39:59,000 --> 00:39:59,200 Speaker 5: Yeah? 787 00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:02,200 Speaker 1: Yes, he does, he the husband. The husband said so, yeah, 788 00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:04,640 Speaker 1: he said he told the wife of the rumors. But 789 00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:08,680 Speaker 1: I'm more saying that Melissa lied to the friends about 790 00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:13,440 Speaker 1: even getting coffee or to spread this rumor further. But 791 00:40:13,520 --> 00:40:15,280 Speaker 1: that seems like a weird rumor to spread. 792 00:40:15,400 --> 00:40:15,560 Speaker 6: Well. 793 00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:18,680 Speaker 3: I was going to say, if the husband knew that 794 00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:22,840 Speaker 3: Melissa was spreading rumors, wouldn't he have at least texted 795 00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:24,120 Speaker 3: her to say hey stop? 796 00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:25,040 Speaker 1: Yeah? 797 00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:28,000 Speaker 3: It wouldn't there be a text chain of that conversation. 798 00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:30,920 Speaker 1: Fact that he's been at this gym for months and 799 00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:36,120 Speaker 1: has never texted Melissa. Also, how would he have invited 800 00:40:36,160 --> 00:40:37,120 Speaker 1: her to the barbecue? 801 00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:41,360 Speaker 2: I think that this is overall too fishy to be innocence. 802 00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:44,399 Speaker 1: Pretty fishy. Yeah, I can't shake the feeling that he's 803 00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:46,279 Speaker 1: not telling me something or that the women in his 804 00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,520 Speaker 1: gym are lying. I do not want to go fishing 805 00:40:48,560 --> 00:40:50,680 Speaker 1: into his phone again because I'm worried he might find out. 806 00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:53,840 Speaker 1: I'm still thinking about that issue. I'm not really I 807 00:40:54,360 --> 00:40:56,680 Speaker 1: am really not able to think what to do now. 808 00:40:56,960 --> 00:40:59,160 Speaker 1: I also might delete this post later and post from 809 00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:02,440 Speaker 1: a different account, as he knows about. 810 00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:05,319 Speaker 3: This account, right, He's seen the post. 811 00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:08,280 Speaker 1: And that is where this story ends. 812 00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:09,440 Speaker 6: Wow. 813 00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:14,480 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, what a cliffhanger. My yeah, no answer questions answered? 814 00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:18,360 Speaker 1: Is he cheating or is he not? I want to 815 00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:23,000 Speaker 1: hear from everyone else, But uh, John, what do you think? 816 00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:26,480 Speaker 2: Yeah? I think I think that you'll just give a 817 00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:29,799 Speaker 2: yes or no answer. Yes, And I think everything here, 818 00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,400 Speaker 2: like I said a minute or two ago, it's just 819 00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:37,359 Speaker 2: too fishy. There's too many questions unanswered and like suspicious 820 00:41:37,400 --> 00:41:41,200 Speaker 2: things going on for everything to be completely exactly. 821 00:41:41,239 --> 00:41:43,720 Speaker 1: And it's like if we use what's is it Okham's 822 00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,960 Speaker 1: razors of you? Okay Okham's razor? Is this idea that 823 00:41:47,239 --> 00:41:51,279 Speaker 1: the simplest answer is usually the truth, right, And if 824 00:41:51,320 --> 00:41:54,880 Speaker 1: we're looking at it through that lens, the simplest answer 825 00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:58,600 Speaker 1: is he's cheating. Because what we would have to construct 826 00:41:59,080 --> 00:42:02,640 Speaker 1: for this alternative reality to be true, is that he 827 00:42:02,719 --> 00:42:06,719 Speaker 1: never texted Melissa even inviting her to this barbecue and 828 00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:11,520 Speaker 1: after yeah, and like and uh, those other two people 829 00:42:11,600 --> 00:42:15,799 Speaker 1: are lying about the best friend thing and that they 830 00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:18,919 Speaker 1: like went to breakfast together. Like there are all these 831 00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:22,960 Speaker 1: things that would have to be which you know, potentially 832 00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:27,520 Speaker 1: could be true, possible, but it is way more unlikely. 833 00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:30,400 Speaker 1: And wait, like there's way more things that would have 834 00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,839 Speaker 1: to happen for that to be true. Now, the the 835 00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:41,880 Speaker 1: that final update I think is pretty damning. It's pretty damning. Yeah, 836 00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,560 Speaker 1: I'm I feel bad for I feel bad for o P, 837 00:42:46,000 --> 00:42:48,919 Speaker 1: feel bad for OP. Should Okay, well, here here's the question. 838 00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:55,359 Speaker 1: Here's another question. Should OP investigate further? Like, like, all right, 839 00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:59,439 Speaker 1: we how have all the information oh P has has? 840 00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:01,319 Speaker 1: Now where do we go? 841 00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:05,520 Speaker 2: I think I think investigating further is a is a 842 00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:10,960 Speaker 2: good option because I think also just hearing like Op's 843 00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:13,680 Speaker 2: tone in order, just like how she felt about everything, 844 00:43:13,800 --> 00:43:16,280 Speaker 2: I feel like this will continue to bother her until 845 00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:19,680 Speaker 2: she has more conclusive answers to what's going on. 846 00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:22,359 Speaker 1: I mean she either she either I mean there's there's 847 00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:25,520 Speaker 1: two options. Really, it's forget about it or investigate more. 848 00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:27,680 Speaker 1: Which is she gonna actually forget about it. 849 00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:31,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, she wrote a whole Reddit post to strangers trying 850 00:43:31,480 --> 00:43:34,200 Speaker 2: to get some type of clarity because it was bothering 851 00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:34,680 Speaker 2: her so much. 852 00:43:34,960 --> 00:43:39,160 Speaker 3: Are are maybe the girls trying to warner her? 853 00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:42,880 Speaker 1: Yeah? Are they giving like subtle kind of thing? I 854 00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:43,879 Speaker 1: don't feel like that. 855 00:43:43,960 --> 00:43:46,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, good question to pose, But yeah, I feel like 856 00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:49,120 Speaker 2: I feel like they would probably just come out and 857 00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:55,000 Speaker 2: say it, at least more explicitly at a minimum, like hey, 858 00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:58,080 Speaker 2: you should uh that that Melissa character she's a little 859 00:43:58,120 --> 00:44:00,680 Speaker 2: shady versus like, oh, she's just playing this game and 860 00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:02,400 Speaker 2: they're like trying to flirt and you know. 861 00:44:02,680 --> 00:44:07,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't feel that this group contains a lot 862 00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:12,600 Speaker 1: of scruples. So the scruples are low all times low 863 00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:17,600 Speaker 1: Scrupleville what what a cysol? But hey, that's CrossFit for you. 864 00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:18,359 Speaker 2: There you go. 865 00:44:19,600 --> 00:44:23,520 Speaker 1: But we have a community that is full of scruples. 866 00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:26,120 Speaker 1: Oh and it's you. And also we're gonna bring some 867 00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:28,600 Speaker 1: of you guys on stage. Sofia is going to grab 868 00:44:28,880 --> 00:44:33,160 Speaker 1: someone from the discord to talk about either their I 869 00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:37,840 Speaker 1: don't know, CrossFit experience or a time that they have 870 00:44:38,000 --> 00:44:41,440 Speaker 1: either been banned by a partner from doing something or 871 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:45,160 Speaker 1: they have banned a partner from doing something or seeing someone, 872 00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:51,600 Speaker 1: and do that. Actual Birch. Nice, Actual Birch. We are 873 00:44:51,800 --> 00:45:00,160 Speaker 1: bring you up on the discord in five four three two. 874 00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:03,080 Speaker 2: Why actual Birch. 875 00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:08,439 Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, how's it going? 876 00:45:08,920 --> 00:45:10,400 Speaker 6: I'm good? How are you? Guys? 877 00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:14,360 Speaker 1: Very well? So you said you had a situation like 878 00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,400 Speaker 1: this where you had to ban a partner or your 879 00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:18,520 Speaker 1: partner ban you from seeing someone. 880 00:45:18,800 --> 00:45:21,279 Speaker 5: I have actually had a situation where I had to 881 00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:22,320 Speaker 5: ban a partner. 882 00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:25,480 Speaker 1: Oh what what happened? 883 00:45:26,520 --> 00:45:30,280 Speaker 6: He was this girl was constantly going over to his house. 884 00:45:30,719 --> 00:45:31,640 Speaker 6: It was his ex. 885 00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:36,000 Speaker 5: Oh yeah, and I knew her, so I was I 886 00:45:36,080 --> 00:45:39,400 Speaker 5: was like, okay, you know that's cool. And I was 887 00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:42,600 Speaker 5: under suspicion because she was always over there while we 888 00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,799 Speaker 5: were playing video games together. Like I would be at 889 00:45:44,800 --> 00:45:49,120 Speaker 5: my house, he'd be at his, and I'd always hear 890 00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:52,520 Speaker 5: her in the background constantly. 891 00:45:52,400 --> 00:45:53,600 Speaker 1: And well would you hear? 892 00:45:54,800 --> 00:45:58,520 Speaker 5: Like she would just be talking and I'd be like, okay, 893 00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:00,480 Speaker 5: why is she here all the time? You know, and 894 00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:03,239 Speaker 5: he'd be like, oh, you know, she's just here and 895 00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:05,080 Speaker 5: I'd be like, oh, well, you know, at some point, 896 00:46:05,080 --> 00:46:07,279 Speaker 5: can I go over? He'd be like, oh no, I'm 897 00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:10,640 Speaker 5: hanging out with my friends friends. 898 00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:12,719 Speaker 1: Are there multiple people there or is it just her? 899 00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:15,359 Speaker 6: The ex it was his house. 900 00:46:15,440 --> 00:46:17,520 Speaker 5: His parents were really because he lived with his parents, 901 00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:20,280 Speaker 5: so his parents were really cool with him having lots 902 00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:21,080 Speaker 5: of friends over. 903 00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:24,160 Speaker 1: Okay, so it was at least it was in groups. 904 00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:27,879 Speaker 5: That was my assumption sometimes, but then they actually he 905 00:46:27,920 --> 00:46:29,560 Speaker 5: actually did cheat on me with her. 906 00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:33,960 Speaker 2: Ah, well there, yeh, there you go. He could kind 907 00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:36,400 Speaker 2: of camouflage it because like so people are in and 908 00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:38,200 Speaker 2: out of the house. The parents are cool and invite 909 00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:41,040 Speaker 2: everyone over, but he uses that kind of as a cover. 910 00:46:41,000 --> 00:46:43,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, to get in and out. And oh my goodness, 911 00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:45,920 Speaker 1: that is terrible. So what did you do? 912 00:46:46,120 --> 00:46:48,520 Speaker 6: I ended up I left the situation. 913 00:46:48,600 --> 00:46:49,759 Speaker 1: Like you broke up with him? 914 00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:52,359 Speaker 5: Yeah, And we did end up going on and off 915 00:46:52,400 --> 00:46:56,279 Speaker 5: a couple of times, and then after a while I 916 00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:58,839 Speaker 5: was like, you know what, I'm done with this, and 917 00:46:59,680 --> 00:47:03,080 Speaker 5: he she ended up actually moving in with her parents 918 00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:03,920 Speaker 5: at well. 919 00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,920 Speaker 1: It sounds like they deserve each other. Honestly. That is 920 00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:10,400 Speaker 1: a terrible and it's like, again, man has no scruples. 921 00:47:10,400 --> 00:47:12,040 Speaker 1: You got to be with someone who has some scruples. 922 00:47:12,080 --> 00:47:13,000 Speaker 2: What does scruples mean? 923 00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:14,960 Speaker 1: Have you ever heard of unscrupulous? 924 00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:20,120 Speaker 2: Okay, scruples are like morals, got it good too, It's 925 00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:23,520 Speaker 2: just like a fun way to say morals. That is true. 926 00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:26,400 Speaker 1: Well, I'm glad you left the situation actual Birch, and 927 00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:30,440 Speaker 1: I feel like, honestly, you're I think like the like 928 00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:33,360 Speaker 1: the the green flag move is when your partner is 929 00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:36,320 Speaker 1: like uncomfortable, you work to make them comfortable. 930 00:47:36,440 --> 00:47:39,840 Speaker 5: Yes, yes, oh yeah my husband. I'm married now, so 931 00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:43,480 Speaker 5: my husband's incredibly like this. 932 00:47:44,520 --> 00:47:47,040 Speaker 6: He's like, Okay, yeah, I understand. 933 00:47:47,640 --> 00:47:51,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, he values your It's not even about the thing itself. 934 00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:55,040 Speaker 2: It's about him valuing your like mental well being and 935 00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,240 Speaker 2: emotions and all that good stuff. 936 00:47:57,320 --> 00:48:00,640 Speaker 6: So question, it goes both ways too. 937 00:48:00,680 --> 00:48:03,600 Speaker 1: Yes, agreed, Yeah, agreed. I'm in two way street with 938 00:48:03,640 --> 00:48:07,600 Speaker 1: every relationship. But question for you with this story, so 939 00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:13,640 Speaker 1: where it ended up basically ninety percent of the okayfam 940 00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:16,560 Speaker 1: is like he is cheating. With the knowledge that we 941 00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:20,719 Speaker 1: have from this story, what would you do in this 942 00:48:20,880 --> 00:48:24,000 Speaker 1: situation with everything that we know? Would you break up 943 00:48:24,000 --> 00:48:27,560 Speaker 1: with it? Like the husband? Would you go investigating? Go 944 00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:30,000 Speaker 1: Sherlock mode? What would you do? 945 00:48:30,239 --> 00:48:33,400 Speaker 5: I think maybe some investigating and probably a lot of 946 00:48:33,480 --> 00:48:38,520 Speaker 5: couples therapy would be best, especially because he keeps getting 947 00:48:38,560 --> 00:48:42,399 Speaker 5: angry at her for it. Yeah, that's the uncomfortable part. 948 00:48:42,440 --> 00:48:45,000 Speaker 5: And the fact that he knew she was started flirting 949 00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:48,400 Speaker 5: the entire time and never addressed it, yeah at all, 950 00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:51,520 Speaker 5: is a really big problem. 951 00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:55,239 Speaker 1: Agreed, agreed, agreed, great points. Well, thank you so much 952 00:48:55,320 --> 00:48:57,520 Speaker 1: for calling in actual birds and I'm glad that you 953 00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:59,400 Speaker 1: are in a better relationship now. 954 00:48:59,360 --> 00:49:01,120 Speaker 6: Oh, thank you, thank you for having me guys. 955 00:49:01,360 --> 00:49:04,920 Speaker 2: Of course, thanks to you in the chat see uh 956 00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:07,400 Speaker 2: ideos to MEGA. Well there you go. 957 00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:13,560 Speaker 1: So in actual Birch's situation, the suspicion turned out to 958 00:49:13,600 --> 00:49:14,760 Speaker 1: be actually true, which. 959 00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:18,040 Speaker 2: In our poll said over ninety percent. Like all signs 960 00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:23,360 Speaker 2: are pointing towards it's the divorce. Yeah, I saw. I 961 00:49:23,400 --> 00:49:25,520 Speaker 2: think it was not JC, but someone in the chat 962 00:49:25,560 --> 00:49:29,439 Speaker 2: said divorce chant really early, and yeah, fair enough. 963 00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:33,080 Speaker 1: I don't know if I would divorce, but I think 964 00:49:33,120 --> 00:49:37,640 Speaker 1: I would do what actual Birch said, which was investigate, 965 00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:38,640 Speaker 1: then therapy. 966 00:49:38,840 --> 00:49:41,600 Speaker 2: If that if yeah, if that's like investigate therapy doesn't work, 967 00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:44,120 Speaker 2: then ultimately divorce. It seems like it could be heading 968 00:49:44,160 --> 00:49:44,440 Speaker 2: down that. 969 00:49:44,840 --> 00:49:47,160 Speaker 1: If you love us, make sure to subscribe We love 970 00:49:47,200 --> 00:49:48,920 Speaker 1: you and see you tomorrow.