Speaker 1: He with U. If you watch Coffee Time to Baby,
Speaker 1: you know the name Flame, my role also known as
Speaker 1: my role Flame. Come in with last and come in
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Speaker 1: you can't drop a knowledge from fatherhood to politics, shouting
Speaker 1: now comics just paying homics. What's up? Tip? Yeah? You
Speaker 1: know she raped shot towns on speaking to the ground
Speaker 1: a second. We're gonna last cut of the kicking and
Speaker 1: at the end we leave it with just a lift
Speaker 1: spirits take you want to revisit, so your first take
Speaker 1: a list of your folks say it slip, oh folks
Speaker 1: that we take it. Can't do what you doin't no
Speaker 1: fish do what you do. I can't no kids do
Speaker 1: what I do with Hello, everyone, welcome Flame Math's come on,
Speaker 1: come on in the room. We're gonna have a great
Speaker 1: show today. I'm very, very pleased at my not even
Speaker 1: my co host, but my Lauren is here because I
Speaker 1: don't think she was gonna get here. I thought she's
Speaker 1: gonna be stuck at the all. Listen the travel guys
Speaker 1: in the universe. Somebody don't me flying, Okay, somebody don't
Speaker 1: want me flying, y'all. I didn't when did I leave.
Speaker 1: I left Wednesday morning, seven am flight to go to
Speaker 1: Cleveland because we had an event with Cookie Johnson around
Speaker 1: All Star weekend. Flew into Atlanta first because there's no
Speaker 1: direct flights on Delta from l A to Cleveland. Got
Speaker 1: to Atlanta, landed two minutes later, it said my flight
Speaker 1: to Cleveland was canceled. Now you know, I just had
Speaker 1: this whole other debacle for the eight hours prior to
Speaker 1: JFK lose. My bag. Flight was canceled. So I spent
Speaker 1: the night in Atlanta and came right back home. That
Speaker 1: is God telling you. So that's what I did. I
Speaker 1: spent it in Atlanta and turned around and came right
Speaker 1: back to l A. I did in the hotel or
Speaker 1: in the ample. When I wasn't done again, I was
Speaker 1: in a hotel. I definitely called our travel agent and
Speaker 1: was like, please help me. So she booked me in
Speaker 1: a hotel, stayed there for the night, and took my
Speaker 1: ass home the next day. I'm glad you're back. Thank
Speaker 1: you the universe. Right on back home. The dad, me
Speaker 1: and the daddy had because against that we had prayed
Speaker 1: for her. Come on right, you know, because my dad
Speaker 1: said he didn't want me to leave either. So y'all, shade,
Speaker 1: it was your fault. No, it's called brilliant minds. It
Speaker 1: was your fault because you know I leave next Wednesday
Speaker 1: to go back to New York. I'm sorry what happened
Speaker 1: trying us down. I'm still loud. You're not loud. I'm
Speaker 1: not loud. Your ears might be sensitive today. Is that better?
Speaker 1: That was loud? Hello? Yeah, thank you guys for joining us.
Speaker 1: I hope you guys had a wonderful Valentine's Day. Y'all
Speaker 1: say hello to Kendall. Kinda with he here saying hello
Speaker 1: to Kendle. You know, Canda, people be asking about you,
Speaker 1: like who's that man in the beanie? People be checking
Speaker 1: for you, so we gotta make sure that's Candle. Y'all. Look,
Speaker 1: I always spen on Kendall's game, but Knda, you got
Speaker 1: a whole woman. I want you to know that we
Speaker 1: hung out a couple of times. She's Asian. That's all
Speaker 1: I need to say. She's Asian. She will suck you
Speaker 1: up and you might get cooked. I'm just letting you know.
Speaker 1: So we have a good show today. I know we're
Speaker 1: going to touch on a couple of things that are
Speaker 1: happening in the political space. And then we're gonna bring
Speaker 1: in our special guests, Miss Teresa Griffin, recording artist, philanthropists,
Speaker 1: Lupus survivor Influen want sir, all of that. So we're
Speaker 1: gonna get to all that. But what happened this week? Lord?
Speaker 1: What happened? Well? Where do you want to start? I
Speaker 1: want to start with yesterday I got a teenage daughter
Speaker 1: that I had to beat up and drag out my house.
Speaker 1: But you don't don't tell the people, You're too late
Speaker 1: a total. So yeah, teenagers, That's all I'm telling. If
Speaker 1: you got teenagers, I'm praying for you. Woolf sigh, thank
Speaker 1: you Jesus. You might need to burn some stage in
Speaker 1: your house. I need to burn the house, may do
Speaker 1: an exorcism on yours, something like that. What has happened
Speaker 1: this week? Oh? Y'all Star game? Trying to go to
Speaker 1: Saturday Sunday? Well I wasn't going to the actual All
Speaker 1: Star Game on Sunday. Um, like I said, we had
Speaker 1: an event with Cookie, which I think it when well,
Speaker 1: I haven't really talked to any of my colleagues, but um, yeah,
Speaker 1: the All Star Game, Lebron one and one you know,
Speaker 1: more than half a million dollars for his kids at
Speaker 1: the I Promised School, which is of course phenomenon. The
Speaker 1: gun the dunk contest was horrible. That was very underwhelmed.
Speaker 1: See Kendall horrible right, there was more, you know, exciting
Speaker 1: dunks in the damn All Star Game. Was one of
Speaker 1: the best pictures that I saw from the All Star
Speaker 1: weekend when I saw Michael Jordan's hohog and Lebron James.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, that head did it for me. That's
Speaker 1: called greatness and greatness baby. That was hot. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: Lebron is also on hot water too today. Lebron is
Speaker 1: always in hot water, but this time is different. Did
Speaker 1: you see what happened with him this week? He was
Speaker 1: giving praise to um Sam Pressy, who's the GM for
Speaker 1: okay see, saying that he like scouted all this talent
Speaker 1: and talking about different players and supposedly it was actually
Speaker 1: a black man behind the scenes that really did everything.
Speaker 1: So people are really trying to come for him right
Speaker 1: now and saying he's throwing shade at Rob Polenka and
Speaker 1: all these different things. So it's a Lebron's back in
Speaker 1: the hot seat. So Lebron if you'll see this too warm.
Speaker 1: You can always come sitting on my sofa. It's nice
Speaker 1: and just cool and mellow because I'm a big Lebron fan,
Speaker 1: and not not so much of his basketball game as
Speaker 1: I am to what he does for people that you
Speaker 1: don't know about, put kids in college and building schools,
Speaker 1: and and and pushing blacks and single women, single mothers
Speaker 1: to do better with buy and for their children. So
Speaker 1: that that part right there. So child, he made a mistake,
Speaker 1: apologize like whoopy didn't get your job back? Well, I
Speaker 1: don't know if it's a mistake. I'm just saying it's controversial.
Speaker 1: You know. I love he's like I said, he's back
Speaker 1: in the news. I was watching ESPN today. He just
Speaker 1: wanted to steal from Kanye West, because Kanye k stay
Speaker 1: out the news. That's kind of shine. That's called I
Speaker 1: don't even know what that's called, Kanye. That's called whooped,
Speaker 1: that's called whipped baby. I ain't been whipped like that.
Speaker 1: Mental health is real since my thirties. It might be
Speaker 1: a little bit of mental unbalanced. But I think Kim
Speaker 1: must have put them. I don't know. I saw Kim
Speaker 1: point video. She don't even got the Zoos album say,
Speaker 1: I don't know about that, but anyway, yes, all Star games.
Speaker 1: So lebron one. Uh, Steph Curry hit sixteen threes in
Speaker 1: the game. Yeah, step cry three pointer from Heaven that child.
Speaker 1: I think the part where he shoots it and turns
Speaker 1: around and just knows it's going and the level of
Speaker 1: confidence is just phenomenal to me. So Um, overall, it
Speaker 1: was a very good game. They wouldn't let the boy
Speaker 1: beat the record though. I think the record was like
Speaker 1: fifty two points from Anthony Davis. Steph got to forty
Speaker 1: eight and they was like, no, you're not shooting anymore.
Speaker 1: They kept double teaming in the rest of the game,
Speaker 1: but they still one. Like I said, lebron Um one
Speaker 1: over half a million dollars for the I promised school.
Speaker 1: So congrats to the team. Yeah, they played really well.
Speaker 1: And then Karl Anthony Towns won the three point um
Speaker 1: shooting contest. Who is that? Um, Karl Anthony Towlens. He's
Speaker 1: a uh, he's a center for the Timberwolves. He also
Speaker 1: dates Jordan Woods, Kylie Jenner's ex best friend. Um. He's
Speaker 1: been through a lot. He lost his mother to COVID
Speaker 1: two years ago. You know, He's really sweet. He dunking many.
Speaker 1: Can we talk about the celebrity All Star Game with
Speaker 1: my boss and you our Friendtive Show executive producer Tiffany.
Speaker 1: She came through the tunnel kript walk and I love
Speaker 1: that she came through walking and shut it down and
Speaker 1: talk some. She was gonna be the m V people, Tiffany.
Speaker 1: I love you to that girl. You can stay your
Speaker 1: grass off the basketball court, Tithing was Sarah All. The
Speaker 1: basketball was worse than me. And I know I can't
Speaker 1: shoot the ball. I can play with the balls, but
Speaker 1: I can't shooting. Good God. It was so fun though,
Speaker 1: because they were having a good time. Who was the
Speaker 1: big guy though, the tall light skinning with the dreads
Speaker 1: who kept dunking on them? He was Oh my god,
Speaker 1: did you watch the celebrity Oh he was fantastic. He
Speaker 1: was a big monster. He thrilled me. I screamed, he
Speaker 1: thrilled you screamed. If he was a transman, The Lord
Speaker 1: is my shepherd ship want well? Alrighty then yeah. Congratulations
Speaker 1: to all the charities that made money from the All
Speaker 1: Star Game. Thank you for all the celebrities they participated
Speaker 1: and everybody that raised money. All the professional athletes. But
Speaker 1: can we go to the Star spangle banner at Macy Gray. Yeah,
Speaker 1: what do you think, Laura like, that's her sound, So
Speaker 1: it wasn't the singing that I had concerned. She looked
Speaker 1: like she was a little under the influence of something.
Speaker 1: She looked like she was still in the movie for
Speaker 1: Color Girls that Tyler Perry produced when she was doing
Speaker 1: the debauched abortions. Baby, she looked good and screw and
Speaker 1: she did. She looked very clear column it out. I
Speaker 1: don't know, and I don't know. The players were laughing.
Speaker 1: I was thoroughly entertained. They were that. I was thoroughly entertained.
Speaker 1: It was entertaining. I mean she the sound was great.
Speaker 1: I mean that's that's Macy that's her sound. But I
Speaker 1: just physically how she looked. I was a little concerned.
Speaker 1: So well, let me let me say this about the
Speaker 1: spangle bandon Macy Grey and all the people who have
Speaker 1: covered to start spangle Bannon because y'all ain't gonna get
Speaker 1: on Macy Gray and y'all ain't say nothing about one.
Speaker 1: Roseanne just completely destroyed the Stars spangle Bannon at a
Speaker 1: baseball game. Roseanne bar you didn't know that she's saying, well, no,
Speaker 1: like like, when the hell did Rosanne starts saying she
Speaker 1: didn't if it was a major scandal years ago and
Speaker 1: she was terrible, I'm sure I don't know she had
Speaker 1: vocal ability, baby, she don't. She did have vocal abilities
Speaker 1: and they took it away from it. That's why she's
Speaker 1: not a rosy Okay, So look it's been a week. Uh,
Speaker 1: we're not gonna keep you long because and our guess
Speaker 1: coming on so special to the show. She's not only
Speaker 1: is she explained Matt. She's a recording artist from from
Speaker 1: She's from Monroe, Louisiana, but she now lives in Chicago.
Speaker 1: She has multiple albums out, She's Grammy nominated. She is
Speaker 1: definitely apprintic. She is a major fruit flat. And when
Speaker 1: if you don't understand what go on a fruit flat?
Speaker 1: Sometimes only sometimes, it depends on it depends on where
Speaker 1: fruits you are. Yeah, exactly which people And the definition
Speaker 1: of a fruit flat is a person that is an
Speaker 1: ally of the LGBT community, very friendly with the gays,
Speaker 1: like almost to the plus and speaking of very friendly
Speaker 1: to the gates. Before I introduce you, Teresa, let me
Speaker 1: just say hats off to Netflix and Dave Chappelle for
Speaker 1: standing their ground and telling the Council culture to go
Speaker 1: somewhere and jump off a bridge because Netflix made it.
Speaker 1: Toldly stood on the ground and say it makes dollars
Speaker 1: and not sense, and that Da've just got for a
Speaker 1: four deal, a four comedy deal, special comedy deal. So great.
Speaker 1: So if this is going to be the beginning of
Speaker 1: the end of the Council culture, god damn, and I
Speaker 1: take it because I'm sick of y'all crying about every
Speaker 1: damn thing. It's go somewhere, put a vamper on. I
Speaker 1: don't think cancel culture is going anywhere, per se. I
Speaker 1: just don't think it's going to be as impactful as
Speaker 1: it once was. Well Netflix for at least sticking with
Speaker 1: it and not letting um the court of public opinion
Speaker 1: run everything. Okay, back to Teresa, you do it? Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna bring to risa um, Teresa. I'm gonna come
Speaker 1: and find you see if there's an easier way to
Speaker 1: do girl. I was doing the coffee time this morning.
Speaker 1: I was putting my makeup on, Teresa, we was bumping you.
Speaker 1: I bought my two songs that my flame mats. Absolutely
Speaker 1: love Teresa. Can you put something in the comments? So
Speaker 1: there she is, miss some marriages. I gotta go find
Speaker 1: you there you are live so lady, and please welcome
Speaker 1: to this show. Friend Lupus survivor, friend to the show. Cook.
Speaker 1: She has her own show called Tea Time every Tuesday
Speaker 1: and Thursday, always on the road, the only Teresa Griffin.
Speaker 1: Ladies and gentlemen, you have those people screaming, God can screaming,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, they're just screaming. Girl. You look Teresa,
Speaker 1: you look cute. Huh. You put on makeup for both
Speaker 1: me and Flames actually Flames on makeup. Well, I'm happy
Speaker 1: just to see the both of you. I'm sitting here
Speaker 1: in my basement by the fire, and and I'm just
Speaker 1: really blessed to have the opportunity to speak with you both.
Speaker 1: Do me favor, do me a favor. Aggust yourself with
Speaker 1: this girl. Back a little bit, lay back. Let me
Speaker 1: talk to that right, because you know that right titty,
Speaker 1: don't cooperate that one. Listen to miss girl. You look
Speaker 1: girl right there. She's not right now. She's trying to
Speaker 1: come out. Baby, that lady want to be seen. Every show.
Speaker 1: I was a gonout to say, Teresa, you're trying to
Speaker 1: compete with Flame today. It might be a battle of
Speaker 1: the titties today because Flames too. No, you know what,
Speaker 1: I tried to make sure, yes I have this is
Speaker 1: only this much of my head and this, you know,
Speaker 1: I want to be enticing is never right? Is never right.
Speaker 1: I love your hair, Teresa. I see you change the style.
Speaker 1: I love that you change it up. I changed man
Speaker 1: all the time too, but not a little more often
Speaker 1: in yours, because as soon as this show is over,
Speaker 1: this one gonna get changed. Mine doesn't. Come on, yo, yos,
Speaker 1: don't come on. They think you got braids. Lawrence hair
Speaker 1: is not braided. Oh no, no no, it was into
Speaker 1: miss Ceely braids and then I just took them out
Speaker 1: because I didn't feel like doing my hair today. So well,
Speaker 1: I think you both look cute. From well, I think
Speaker 1: you look fabulous. Deus. So thank you. Hello like mad
Speaker 1: to the Hello, my tea time, merge tie baby, it's
Speaker 1: like y'all doing. We've been trying to set this interview
Speaker 1: for quite some time. And you know on Love Lounge
Speaker 1: you are not only a friend to the show, but
Speaker 1: we play your music every time when they don't block
Speaker 1: us on Instagram. We played love loud, I mean Teresa
Speaker 1: Griffin's music all the time, which is why so many
Speaker 1: of my flame mats know who you are. So what
Speaker 1: I want to ask you started out first because I
Speaker 1: said you were from a role Lousi Louisiana. Was that right? Terse?
Speaker 1: Your internet is pregnant. Turn your wife out off my internet?
Speaker 1: My internet is pregnant. Turn your wife out off. That's funny.
Speaker 1: Come on, why do you say the internet is pregnant?
Speaker 1: What does that mean? Because it keeps circling and that's
Speaker 1: usually us that that's better. Teresa, Okay, I said you
Speaker 1: were from Monroe, Louisiana. Was that right? Yes? I am
Speaker 1: coming Roe Louisiana. Okay. Now, so what what we want
Speaker 1: to know is who is the Resa Griffin? Tell us
Speaker 1: tell us where you came from. Wh why this is
Speaker 1: who you are? We want to we want to hear
Speaker 1: from you. Theyn't want to hear my black ass. They
Speaker 1: want to hear from you. Well, I mean to be
Speaker 1: to be very honest, that's kind of complicated. I am
Speaker 1: we grew up in Monroe, but we also there are
Speaker 1: four girls, so let me be clear about that. There
Speaker 1: are four girls, all of us saying I think all
Speaker 1: of us are insanely uh amazing. Um at the same time, Now, y'all,
Speaker 1: I'm at home, so my wife I should be cool.
Speaker 1: I do teach time from here, so I don't know
Speaker 1: what it's great now. Okay, somebody said my wife I
Speaker 1: had the corona. I can read so so so no
Speaker 1: you didn't say, you didn't say, but but who help?
Speaker 1: That is push so either way, because I hope it's
Speaker 1: better now I understand. But I grew up in the country.
Speaker 1: I'm a country girl. I love to cook and uh,
Speaker 1: I love to help people. I I love helping kids. UM.
Speaker 1: My motto really is, you know, Lord, let me be
Speaker 1: a better version today than I was yesterday. UM. So
Speaker 1: it's kind of hard to put all of that in words.
Speaker 1: I'm work in progress. Um. I'm a performer, I'm a writer,
Speaker 1: I'm a singer. But I'm also somebody who doesn't need
Speaker 1: somebody else to tell me what to do with my
Speaker 1: happiness and how I define myself and what I take
Speaker 1: you know in this industry, what that looks like to
Speaker 1: make me happy. I've always said it's great to be
Speaker 1: a household name, but I'm good with being able to
Speaker 1: go to the grocery store and buy buy my groceries. Um.
Speaker 1: I am really of that set of you know, what's
Speaker 1: a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul?
Speaker 1: And in this industry, I feel like you can lose
Speaker 1: your soul. Um, I don't. If I had to have
Speaker 1: a deal that left me broke, then that's not a deal. Um.
Speaker 1: If I can't talk to my brother man along the way,
Speaker 1: then I've lost myself. UM. If I can't be a
Speaker 1: good wife, then I've failed in life. Um. Because I
Speaker 1: didn't have kids, so I at least need to be
Speaker 1: a good wife. And if I can help someone else's kid,
Speaker 1: because there are so many neglected kids, and I've done
Speaker 1: pretty good. Um. So UM. It is complicated because, as
Speaker 1: you know, Flame, I moved from Monroe, Louisiana to come
Speaker 1: to Chicago, and I left everything and everybody that I
Speaker 1: loved in life to do this. They were the only
Speaker 1: people that I knew. I knew no one else. And Uh,
Speaker 1: that's how much I had to believe in myself and
Speaker 1: step out on faith, uh and on what I knew
Speaker 1: would be most beneficial for my sanity. Living in Louisiana
Speaker 1: was a blessing, and at the same time, when you
Speaker 1: have three other siblings who also sing, it can be
Speaker 1: a curse because people want to pick you against one another,
Speaker 1: and that would be heartbreaking for me because I love
Speaker 1: my sister so much. I was going to ask you
Speaker 1: that because I know your sister, Mary Griffin, and she
Speaker 1: is a phenomenal thing. She's saying back out background for
Speaker 1: Patty Libell for many, many years. But I was going
Speaker 1: to ask you, growing up in the household for the singers,
Speaker 1: was there a because your dad's saying, right, not your
Speaker 1: mom my dad saying, my mama saying but had a
Speaker 1: robertry plant. But was there like a healthy competition, because
Speaker 1: I would have imagined that you know, I'm, I'm, we've sisters,
Speaker 1: but I can hit this note that you can't hit
Speaker 1: and I can do this run and not in a
Speaker 1: mean way. But sometimes the healthy competition puts a fire
Speaker 1: uponder you make you better. It was never about who
Speaker 1: could hit a run, because um, you hear do it,
Speaker 1: and um your job was to mimic it. Your job
Speaker 1: in our house was to mimic it in another key,
Speaker 1: I mean well, in a in an octave below in
Speaker 1: an octave under. You know, we needed to harmonize each
Speaker 1: other's runs, so and that in that regard, if you
Speaker 1: couldn't do that, then you're not doing what you're supposed
Speaker 1: to be doing. Anyway, My dad was insane that way.
Speaker 1: In the car on our rod on our ride to church,
Speaker 1: he would start singing, and we needed to harmonize. And
Speaker 1: if you couldn't, then you weren't listening. And so we
Speaker 1: learned to learn to musically listen, but we failed and
Speaker 1: learning to listen to one another. You just brought up
Speaker 1: a great point to reach that I'm going to touch
Speaker 1: you on. Now. You said your dad would would make
Speaker 1: y'all seeing going to church and everything. Now, did you
Speaker 1: think that made you a great singer? Because look at
Speaker 1: Janet Jackson and the geneticson's because Janet Jackson documentary just
Speaker 1: came out and Joe pushed them. Joe, even though they
Speaker 1: made it something else, he pushed them all to be greatness.
Speaker 1: So you think that your dad was the big influence
Speaker 1: that made you this and your sisters because saying, well,
Speaker 1: to be honest, my my father wanted us to sing
Speaker 1: together in church. Um, and so in that regard music wise,
Speaker 1: listening to one another. We developed quite a bit just
Speaker 1: because even everybody at the damn church saying the singers
Speaker 1: at the church were traveling harmonizing our Southern harmonaires. So
Speaker 1: you come from everyone sort of like competing on Sunday
Speaker 1: till the damned church. Doores need to be shipped? Uh?
Speaker 1: So you know when you learn, when you grow up
Speaker 1: on Jesus breaks everything or breaks everything really doesn't. I
Speaker 1: mean your sisters, that's what That's what you hear in
Speaker 1: your head your program to hear that. And then as
Speaker 1: we because we were called migrant children because we my
Speaker 1: father traveled around, we needed to get certain hours in school.
Speaker 1: So we even were in school in the summertime, and
Speaker 1: all we did was school and church. That is the extent.
Speaker 1: School and church. And if you want to learn how
Speaker 1: to perform, go to church, because those are the greatest
Speaker 1: liars and performers that you could ever run into. In
Speaker 1: Jesus name, in Jesus name, let me tell you. So
Speaker 1: we don't take all that every Sunday, Okay, it don't,
Speaker 1: but it's some about when you finally get that mike
Speaker 1: on Sunday morning, and hollelujah, the Lord has blessed you
Speaker 1: with this boat that you can touch somebody. That is
Speaker 1: an amazing feeling. And you don't need a million dollars
Speaker 1: for that. You just need paths to to give you that. Mike,
Speaker 1: that's what you need, and that is what we grew
Speaker 1: up in. When you got that, Mike, you are the star.
Speaker 1: The star is the one with the microphone. Okay, let's
Speaker 1: be clear about that. And so when my father would
Speaker 1: give all four of us to Mike, our job was
Speaker 1: to drive Jesus into your soul. So ain't no damn
Speaker 1: way when I get on the stage somebody from the
Speaker 1: out saying made because guess what, it ain't even about them,
Speaker 1: It's about Resa. For to turn it out for Teresa.
Speaker 1: I tell my musicians like, y'all ready, because if you
Speaker 1: ain't me, to get up off the stage because we're
Speaker 1: about to fuck. We're about to do this thing together
Speaker 1: and I can't do it if you ain't with me,
Speaker 1: And that's a hard person to work for. Let me
Speaker 1: ask you a question, though, because this was basically a path.
Speaker 1: It seems like that was forged to you by your father.
Speaker 1: Was there for a time when you were like, I
Speaker 1: don't know if this is what I want to do
Speaker 1: because I know, like, oh, okay, well that answers that question.
Speaker 1: Laurien Laurie Lauri hell Tho. I knew I wanted to say.
Speaker 1: I just knew I had to be on that stage.
Speaker 1: It's something about that. It's a drug, girl, It's a drug.
Speaker 1: And what's so funny is what you said about nobody
Speaker 1: was seeing you because Aretha had that same philosophy and
Speaker 1: you were on stage on the Open Weaprey Show with
Speaker 1: Aretha and with Diana Ross and they both passed your
Speaker 1: microphone Girl for Wreatha to pass you of Michael. You
Speaker 1: know Aretha was she wear nice gowns. We'll see right
Speaker 1: what areathing? Let me tell you about miss miss a
Speaker 1: wreath of what happened. Um, it's a It's an interesting
Speaker 1: story because when you're in this business, you need to
Speaker 1: be up on your A game. And when I first
Speaker 1: came here, I I was just on trying to get
Speaker 1: a game. You know. It was I can say this
Speaker 1: is what I do, and people were like, yeah, she's
Speaker 1: a great singer, so you know, let's get her to
Speaker 1: demo these songs. It's a shame what people do to
Speaker 1: you in this industry and they need to understand that
Speaker 1: God is watching them. You know what, it's really how
Speaker 1: you live your life. You know, people I want to
Speaker 1: be christ Like, well, leave your life right. And it's
Speaker 1: really some some some of this right here. When you
Speaker 1: want to live your life right, When you have the
Speaker 1: opportunity to help somebody, you don't take advantage of them.
Speaker 1: You pay them. If you can pay them, then pay them.
Speaker 1: You know. If you're gonna give them a voice in
Speaker 1: this and and and you're gonna mentor them, then be
Speaker 1: wholehearted with it, you know. And I demo stuff for
Speaker 1: Wreatha as a matter of fact on the Roads album,
Speaker 1: and my voice is still one and they never put
Speaker 1: my name on it. But the next time that I
Speaker 1: work with Miss Franklin, she said, what's that baby name?
Speaker 1: And she made sure my name was on there. So
Speaker 1: you you want to have people who understand that it's
Speaker 1: already hard and they don't have to make it harder.
Speaker 1: You know what I love about our friendship is the
Speaker 1: minute something happens for you, you call me and you
Speaker 1: try to incorporate me and what you're doing. And and
Speaker 1: that's really what makes great Hollywood. That's makes that makes
Speaker 1: great friends and it makes a great story. But for me,
Speaker 1: it's a lifetime, uh friendship that I'm you know, really
Speaker 1: grateful for. And you know I go hard from a
Speaker 1: friends but what you just described as reciprocity at the
Speaker 1: end of the day. So yes, So Teresa, you do
Speaker 1: tea Time every Tuesday and every Thursday and it's on
Speaker 1: I never said it right, what is it? It's E
Speaker 1: three six TV. I don't know why I can't get
Speaker 1: those numbers right. I played a lot of every day.
Speaker 1: Can't remember them damn numbers. And it's also on Instagram
Speaker 1: and uh, as you do you cook and you're sing
Speaker 1: at the same time. I've been to I've actually been
Speaker 1: at a tea time two of them. And I want Laura.
Speaker 1: I would love you, I know because we haven't actually
Speaker 1: met in person yet. No, but we have got to
Speaker 1: do this because I I feel a girlfriendship. You know,
Speaker 1: people say I collect when I say when they say
Speaker 1: who she collect? Women? I love women. And if I can,
Speaker 1: if I can help with a hug with a I
Speaker 1: got a baby coming over as soon as this is over.
Speaker 1: It really is about us loving one another and how
Speaker 1: we passed that on and uh, I look at you
Speaker 1: next to flame and I'm so proud you know that
Speaker 1: she chose one of us. And yes, everybody. E three
Speaker 1: sixty TV, it's under Fresh Takes. I see my girl. Lauren,
Speaker 1: the president of the Tea Time was like saying, girl,
Speaker 1: there E three sixty TV Fresh Takes, it's Tea Time
Speaker 1: and that's where we are. You can get it on
Speaker 1: Roku and and oh my god, Apple TV and and
Speaker 1: um and and I think some other stuff, but I
Speaker 1: don't want to get it wrong. You need to be
Speaker 1: on Cleo TV. Have you seen that network yet? They
Speaker 1: have like you know, it's a whole bunch of different
Speaker 1: like it's it's a black TV network. Yeah, because right, girl, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's like Timmuri just has like her whole new cooking show.
Speaker 1: It's it's literally about cooking and singing. It's it's a
Speaker 1: great TV network, but it's for black folks. So I
Speaker 1: could totally see you doing that. So I would I
Speaker 1: would love to do that. I gotta I gotta check
Speaker 1: that out. And I see somebody saying, you guys, I
Speaker 1: see your comments. They're going so fast. But I did
Speaker 1: see somebody say something about the sugar bar. Back in
Speaker 1: the day when I looked in New York. Um, I
Speaker 1: did go to the Sugar Bar, and I did perform
Speaker 1: with Ashpord and Simpson. But I also perform on the
Speaker 1: same ticket and share the ticket with And then you
Speaker 1: can look at the Ane magazine or Yet and there's
Speaker 1: a photo of me there with Ashford and Simpson. They
Speaker 1: back in the day in Chicago they would rotate entertainers
Speaker 1: for Chicago Urban League. They what I say it was
Speaker 1: back then? It was fabulous. It was fabulous, and it
Speaker 1: was crazy fabulous because you get to share this stage.
Speaker 1: Once I did it, I had, I shared the ticket
Speaker 1: with Isaac Hayes, and the next time I did with
Speaker 1: Ashford and Simpson. When girl, when I tell you it
Speaker 1: was crazy good. So you guys, I have been to
Speaker 1: the sugar Bar and and and I'm so proud that
Speaker 1: it was back when Ashford was living and uh, back
Speaker 1: when the Sugar Bar used to have all the Broadway
Speaker 1: singers in their honey they would turn it up. I'm
Speaker 1: telling you, Brian is on here. He sings with Valerie Simpson.
Speaker 1: Now his friends with Hey, Clay, how you doing. You
Speaker 1: must have met Mary? You met Mary there? You know
Speaker 1: that that's where he met Mary and he knows that
Speaker 1: help of consigned. Well, since you're going through this resume
Speaker 1: with some heavy hitters, who was your favorite you know,
Speaker 1: artists to work with? Oh and also at that, let
Speaker 1: us know who gave us you gave you your first
Speaker 1: rate because I know, but they don't know. So okay
Speaker 1: and so um. Shortly after getting into Chicago, um, there's
Speaker 1: an uh, there was this organization called Chicago Music Association,
Speaker 1: Uh Songwriters Music Association, and they and I needed a
Speaker 1: gig because I was living in a car. And they
Speaker 1: was like, okay, so you want to come and sing.
Speaker 1: If you come and sing it this thing, maybe you
Speaker 1: get a gig. And I was like okay, cool. So
Speaker 1: I came and the artists that they were, they were, um,
Speaker 1: they were honoring. His name was Jerry Butler. Now I
Speaker 1: thought that, you know, because when I come from all
Speaker 1: I ever saw it was the black and white he
Speaker 1: don't love you. So I thought he was dead and
Speaker 1: they was like, no, he's living. And I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: so this, I said, he gonna be at this. It's
Speaker 1: like yeah, so you get the same ti him. Well,
Speaker 1: I did say. I was singing to this manager the
Speaker 1: head whole song. But there was at the table together,
Speaker 1: so you know, it was it worked out cool. So
Speaker 1: at the end, the man offered me a job. He said,
Speaker 1: he came outside and he said, um, you know, are
Speaker 1: you're looking for a gig? And I was like, is
Speaker 1: that a job? And it was like yes, and I
Speaker 1: was like, yes, sir, I'm looking for a gig. And
Speaker 1: so Jerry Butler I sang with him for twenty seven
Speaker 1: years and it was the easiest gig, that was the
Speaker 1: most consistent to work with, an icon that even Michael
Speaker 1: Jackson called up on the phone. So he go to
Speaker 1: Liza Manelli with Jerry Butler. Was this this major icon
Speaker 1: who not only worked in you know, not only was
Speaker 1: a part of Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. And
Speaker 1: he and um uh, Curtis Mayfield started out together. They
Speaker 1: threw him out of the group because everybody thought that
Speaker 1: he was trying to be the lead singer. And he
Speaker 1: went on to write all of these hits and he
Speaker 1: and Curtis remained friends until um after Curtis past. You know,
Speaker 1: I think that was probably the most tragic thing, you know,
Speaker 1: outside of losing his mother, was losing Curtis because they
Speaker 1: you know, they were so great Curtis Curtis head gold
Speaker 1: toilets in his house. That's money, that's yeah. So who
Speaker 1: was your game, Irvis to work with? So I would
Speaker 1: have to say Jerry Butler and Bernie mac They Yeah,
Speaker 1: they were two of the most um influential, laid back
Speaker 1: you know. When I when when Diana passed me the
Speaker 1: mic on um on oprah, Bernie calls me up, big girl,
Speaker 1: big girl, big girl? Now are you ready? Are you ready?
Speaker 1: Baby girl? I mean like literally, he was this amazing
Speaker 1: cheerleader for me. He directed my first video. Um, his
Speaker 1: daughter even showed up, you know, she honored me. Were
Speaker 1: coming to my wedding. Uh, since Bernie couldn't you know,
Speaker 1: had had gone. But that was two major, two men
Speaker 1: who basically always gave me a gig and it didn't
Speaker 1: matter what I did outside. They didn't block me. They
Speaker 1: let me come back and work with them. I never
Speaker 1: had to worry about work because of them. This interesting
Speaker 1: that you said to me, And so, have you had
Speaker 1: issues with female artists in the past? Don't name them,
Speaker 1: but have you had issues with you and you know,
Speaker 1: across the boat, across the spectrum, black white or hispanic whatever,
Speaker 1: Let me say that I I loved. I've I've worked
Speaker 1: with some some two great women. Um I worked with
Speaker 1: Diana Ross and that was probably the most surreal thing
Speaker 1: ever to happen in my life. If I have to
Speaker 1: say the most gracious person, I would have to say
Speaker 1: that she was because she didn't know anything about me
Speaker 1: except that I learned her song before the before the broadcast,
Speaker 1: you know, before we we would want in to rehearse
Speaker 1: with her, and I wanted to know what was we singing,
Speaker 1: what we were singing. I didn't want to get there
Speaker 1: and be unprofessional. I wanted to know. I didn't want
Speaker 1: to learn on the spot. I wanted to be my
Speaker 1: best and so um I asked him what was she singing?
Speaker 1: And they told me so when I walked in and
Speaker 1: she started singing the song, like okay, y'all, we get
Speaker 1: ready to sing the song and she walks over Oly
Speaker 1: Love can come girl, and we're supposed to come in,
Speaker 1: lit up and break down these walls. And she looked
Speaker 1: at you like you do only want to know at huh.
Speaker 1: And from the rest of the day she was messing
Speaker 1: with me, calling me a little kill all sorts of
Speaker 1: stuff baby, because I was you know, I was getting
Speaker 1: ready and I was ready. And so the next day
Speaker 1: I had a different wigg and she said I like
Speaker 1: your wigs and I was like, thank you, thiss Ross.
Speaker 1: And then she said, if I get you the mike,
Speaker 1: would you be ready? And I was like yeah. She says,
Speaker 1: psych only ends up passing me that mike anyway, and
Speaker 1: you're checking you yeah and uh. And it was just
Speaker 1: working with her was surreal. You know, that was a
Speaker 1: very surreal, gracious, beautiful moment that I couldn't have asked
Speaker 1: God to tailor any better. And so my manager has
Speaker 1: always been God. He hasn't steered me wrong in I'm
Speaker 1: not broke, I'm not hungry, and say it yeah and
Speaker 1: so and because of that, you know, my fans stick
Speaker 1: with me. They bring their kids, their kids become my fans.
Speaker 1: Um I I will always get back, and that always
Speaker 1: gives me younger fans. Those young people that I've given
Speaker 1: over a six thousand trunks or laptops two they called
Speaker 1: back that hey, Ms Griffin, y'all need some help. We're
Speaker 1: helping out this time. And that is the best life.
Speaker 1: When I look back and ask God, you know, if
Speaker 1: you got something else for me, I'm ready to do it,
Speaker 1: but I want you to be pleased. And so as
Speaker 1: I as we walk into this next phase with all
Speaker 1: my friends being so blessed, you know, flame, as as
Speaker 1: I watch your blessing and uh, and I see that
Speaker 1: Tiffany is playing it forward, you know. So if I
Speaker 1: could do anything for Chicago artists, I would tell them
Speaker 1: reach back and get somebody else so Chicago can grow.
Speaker 1: That's you know, And that's the thing that's not common
Speaker 1: for Chicago. You know, people make it out, but it's
Speaker 1: not common for them. We guys have got a couple
Speaker 1: of people that do give back. I gotta tell you,
Speaker 1: do you do for sure? You guys have like Chance
Speaker 1: the Rapper, and you know, yeah, you guys have got
Speaker 1: a couple of people that are reaching back to make
Speaker 1: the city better. KALs gave back, he gave Dave, he
Speaker 1: gave day for day. I'm just gonna say it's your Oh,
Speaker 1: let me stop cut out, Teresa, So we know you're philanthropists.
Speaker 1: And what when when she said the trunk party? What
Speaker 1: you all don't know is that Teresa has these trunk
Speaker 1: parties and you have a couple of times a year, right,
Speaker 1: I actually have them in different states. I know you
Speaker 1: have in different states. That's but a couple of times
Speaker 1: a year. I do it one time a year, but
Speaker 1: we collect all year long. We do fundraisers throughout the year.
Speaker 1: We try to actually get more chapters to do it,
Speaker 1: because I think anything that's telling kids to love themselves,
Speaker 1: you know, you we should tell them that because for
Speaker 1: some reason they you know, they're at a point where
Speaker 1: they work hard at not loving themselves. So what, you know,
Speaker 1: what can we do to help them really feel like?
Speaker 1: No nobody thinks they're discover of the Earth because they
Speaker 1: I think they kind of come here thinking they're all that,
Speaker 1: and then somebody gives them a reality check and they
Speaker 1: realize you're not. And and that's tragic. You know, at
Speaker 1: that moment is everybody else's fault except their's, and owning
Speaker 1: that responsibility is difficult for them. And and here we
Speaker 1: actually say go on and make your mistakes. You're gonna
Speaker 1: make them. I'm gonna watch you make them, and when
Speaker 1: you finish, I'll be here. You know you can you
Speaker 1: give me favorite Auntie vibes. You do favor and you
Speaker 1: know what, I have the favorite aunts. I know you are.
Speaker 1: I can tell I know you are sure you think,
Speaker 1: let me ask you a question. You think that because
Speaker 1: you had have no child and of your own, that
Speaker 1: that's why it's so important for you to cover it,
Speaker 1: because you cover so many children, mine included, because you know,
Speaker 1: my children are doing you and Zenny sings with you
Speaker 1: and everything. So do you think that's why it's so
Speaker 1: Customertivity has that same philosophy. She has no children, so
Speaker 1: all the children are her children, and she does so
Speaker 1: much for kids, which needs to be more. People need
Speaker 1: to do more things for children. But you think that's
Speaker 1: why you're so close to kids or why are you
Speaker 1: try to help so hard? Yeah? I just didn't want
Speaker 1: to drop a whole person out of me. Um, you know,
Speaker 1: I just came up with who came up with this
Speaker 1: robber whole person? Who human? The whole human? First you
Speaker 1: get to carry it, you know, and then you help
Speaker 1: get widder, and I already gotta say, you like and
Speaker 1: then you hear the wader and I just I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm like, who who came up with the punishment for
Speaker 1: the woman? Because then after you do all of that,
Speaker 1: they got to call you mama, they nurse on you,
Speaker 1: and then after that you're supposed to like for the
Speaker 1: rest of your life be called not your name but mama,
Speaker 1: and I just I don't. I don't know it. Maybe
Speaker 1: later on in life I'll be like, damn, I should have.
Speaker 1: But I hope I make up for it. I hope
Speaker 1: all of my little nieces and nephews be like, we
Speaker 1: gotta handle a little bit, take care of Mama or
Speaker 1: Aunt Teresa, whoever I'm gonna be at that point. But
Speaker 1: I just I couldn't. I didn't want the responsibility. And
Speaker 1: some people really should think twice before they do it. Here,
Speaker 1: that might be a little triggering. Let me get close
Speaker 1: in the cap, a little triggering. That's a that's a
Speaker 1: double antonomy though, because you said, somebody calling you mama
Speaker 1: and they get the breastfeed and if you get the
Speaker 1: right man, he gonna call you mama and he's gonna
Speaker 1: breastfeed off. I'm just saying it's let me tell you.
Speaker 1: The women have described to me the nursing process, and
Speaker 1: that ain't like this somebody. It's sucking on your titty.
Speaker 1: That's something much right. They getting food out of you,
Speaker 1: it comes out your breast gets so are even worse
Speaker 1: because you're gonna keep filling them up with milk. It's
Speaker 1: a whole another thing. You look, you're like Moosey the
Speaker 1: cow for this baby. Hey baby, my mom gonna be
Speaker 1: asked to come out here. I'm hunger mama. No, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna put on my business on the street. But
Speaker 1: my mother did breastfeed me for a long time. She did,
Speaker 1: and I'm not gonna put my business out on the street.
Speaker 1: But it was a while. It was a while. Yes,
Speaker 1: I can tell you, uh wait, but you know what,
Speaker 1: but this is a good thing about children who have
Speaker 1: breastfed that I have learned one because of that process.
Speaker 1: They say that the child, you know, is closer to
Speaker 1: the mother and and you know there's a bond that forms. Um,
Speaker 1: I'll never know what that is. You know that I
Speaker 1: will never ever have that experience. And sometimes I say
Speaker 1: to myself, Teresa of such a freaking punk. But then
Speaker 1: I have to. But then I'm honest with myself, and
Speaker 1: I know that I would not have made a great parent,
Speaker 1: but I make a fabulous, amazing aunt. And so I
Speaker 1: think the child deserves more than you just wanting one.
Speaker 1: You know, you have to you have to understand the
Speaker 1: whole process. And for me, I just it just didn't
Speaker 1: bounce out. That's real though, that you kind of made
Speaker 1: that realization. And it's almost like you just chose not
Speaker 1: to be selfish in a way. So you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: I had to, you know, because you know, kids get hurt. Yeah,
Speaker 1: even even when you are being the best parent, you know,
Speaker 1: kids get hurt. But I'm on the road a lot,
Speaker 1: I travel a lot. Look at this, Look at look
Speaker 1: at it, Look at I've had a comment. Somebody said,
Speaker 1: I'm so damn hontstyle. It was a joke, y'all. Y'all
Speaker 1: read into the most random things. Send me in box.
Speaker 1: They swear to Lauren, be sad at me, Like when
Speaker 1: you do that anytime. It don't matter what we're on
Speaker 1: the show. It not. People don't understand. I have a
Speaker 1: chronic disease called RBS child theologist. I have resting bitch face.
Speaker 1: I can't help it, y'all. I'm sorry, it's just my face.
Speaker 1: Come back'll be trying to have Lauren and where you
Speaker 1: don't have no idea girl'll fight so badly my good
Speaker 1: Oh yes, right, Teresa, you're Leo? Are you virgo? Actually,
Speaker 1: you know what, I'm not even gonna say that because
Speaker 1: Virgo women are very different from virgo man. So anyway,
Speaker 1: let me yeah. And for real though, and Brial and
Speaker 1: Brial Jesus life. Virgos in real Jesus life, Virgos are
Speaker 1: excellent people. Okay, we are excellent. We strive for excellence.
Speaker 1: That's a problem for some people, but we're gonna apologize
Speaker 1: for it. Two of my best friends of virgos, I'll
Speaker 1: give you that. It's it's the virgo man needy people
Speaker 1: who ain't so needy. They're talking about you. I want
Speaker 1: to get serious about you because I love that you
Speaker 1: are so transparent and you're so open about even when
Speaker 1: you have health chronicles and woo woo. And so when
Speaker 1: you first exploded, told me because you're so public about it.
Speaker 1: So I don't don't y'all think I'm telling her be
Speaker 1: is and this is my friend and she has talked
Speaker 1: about it openly on many platforms about her lupus at
Speaker 1: her battle with lupus. For you many years, was that
Speaker 1: one of the harboring reasons that you did not decide
Speaker 1: to have a child or you just really didn't want
Speaker 1: to have a child because of fear. Oh no, um. Actually,
Speaker 1: after I got married, I was very clear that I
Speaker 1: did not want to do it for for certain. Um,
Speaker 1: my husband, as you know, is excellent. Yes, yes, I
Speaker 1: love you. And when we were dating, okay, so now
Speaker 1: I'm telling my beast. So when we were dating, um,
Speaker 1: John asked me. And we dated eight damn years. Most
Speaker 1: of the time no one knew we were dating. We
Speaker 1: were very very discreet and um. When we started dating
Speaker 1: and things started to get serious, Mr told me he
Speaker 1: didn't want no kids. And my answer to Mr was this,
Speaker 1: put it in writing, because I don't want nobody to
Speaker 1: show up if we decided to get married to the
Speaker 1: door talking about he, my dad and and and so.
Speaker 1: So I can hear this was already planning that I noticed.
Speaker 1: How I can feel her she will put that same
Speaker 1: thing to whoever marry her. Because the Flame makes fun
Speaker 1: of me sometimes because I always say that marriage, yes,
Speaker 1: it's about love, and you know, finding your soul made
Speaker 1: all that hooplah. But that's a business contract. At the
Speaker 1: end of the day. You're entering a business agreement with somebody,
Speaker 1: your finances, your get on, and they got a lawsuit like,
Speaker 1: that's a business contract at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: So I feel that energy put it in writing. I
Speaker 1: don't want to nobody thinking they come to get none
Speaker 1: of my coin exactly, So if you're good with it,
Speaker 1: so I don't want to get up either in the
Speaker 1: middle of the night to go feed nobody. So if
Speaker 1: you're not trying to get up neither this this we
Speaker 1: in this together, the whole hearted me, and it ain't
Speaker 1: gonna be to RecA running nobody to school Because Teresa,
Speaker 1: Daddy took up to school every day. Mama did not,
Speaker 1: So Daddy, you need to get up and take that
Speaker 1: child to school every day, not to we did. We
Speaker 1: are not going to start there Teresa get tired every day.
Speaker 1: That's not gonna happen. Kids are not fabulous. I don't
Speaker 1: care what nobody say. That's a job. Puppies are fabulous.
Speaker 1: They're cute. Their job. But let me tell you something.
Speaker 1: Don't go outment law to us go to therapy and
Speaker 1: my dog. But can I be honest though, what my
Speaker 1: dad did? One of his friends told him because I
Speaker 1: wanted a dog really badly when I was younger, and
Speaker 1: my dad was like, I'm you're not getting a dog.
Speaker 1: And his friend told him, do you want her to
Speaker 1: be pregnant at a young age? My dad was like, well,
Speaker 1: of course not. He said, get her a dog. He
Speaker 1: was right, because that's like having a damn kid. You
Speaker 1: got two of them every day. Gabel is at the
Speaker 1: city right now because I didn't want him howling in.
Speaker 1: Gabriel would have been howling and carrying on and had
Speaker 1: to pay, so I had to send him on over.
Speaker 1: People know I take great care of my furry children.
Speaker 1: Stop stop stop you do not you just like this helfer.
Speaker 1: Your ain't know about your damn dogs. They got life
Speaker 1: insurance and and and they got baby, they got all.
Speaker 1: They have our mispas and and and Christmas parties and
Speaker 1: ship for the dogs. I love people that love their
Speaker 1: I love my pet too. I just and falls on
Speaker 1: his head and all he had with some hair in
Speaker 1: his ear. So that's some money making business right there,
Speaker 1: to have a pet and ADORI because people know that
Speaker 1: you're gonna love your dog. But y'all, y'all to you
Speaker 1: meet you and and and this one right here, Lauren,
Speaker 1: y'all are possessed about y'all. That's my kid. But I
Speaker 1: understand this. Understand if I had a child, I would
Speaker 1: be that child would be a wreck because I would
Speaker 1: drive it insane. I would want to know who touched
Speaker 1: it today, what happened. I would be worse. This dog,
Speaker 1: this furry child of man, it's perfect. He's a furry baby.
Speaker 1: We he needs therapy sometimes, y'all. See hyatte he got
Speaker 1: an My dog's in therapy. Though she's not in therapy.
Speaker 1: I always they you know, Gloria said to hunt children
Speaker 1: a pressure said they are successful, so a man until
Speaker 1: they get to that great getting up yonder man or
Speaker 1: successful to Michael Michael Jackson. You know he had so
Speaker 1: many fans. We had fifty two arrangements. When he passed,
Speaker 1: he must have touched somebody. Okay, he did his job
Speaker 1: when he was on his earth, Gabriel, I mean he
Speaker 1: they doing their job. They make people smile. They make
Speaker 1: him laugh when I walk in the dog sometimes he's mad.
Speaker 1: He an he cousin. I don't know what he's really saying,
Speaker 1: but you know he's saying something. He getting it out
Speaker 1: of his system. We we we understand one another. Me
Speaker 1: and a kid shaking baby syndrome. That are hay, So, Teresa,
Speaker 1: what's the next to you? Musically? Because you got nominated
Speaker 1: for Grammy right, um, we were up for the nomination
Speaker 1: of Grammy. It's a process and so I hope so
Speaker 1: this project that I'm working on, it's really a movie.
Speaker 1: The CD is a movie. I'm trying to figure out
Speaker 1: if I'm gonna shoot the movie of the seat and
Speaker 1: have it all out at the same time. But the
Speaker 1: CD is a movie, and it's it's about you know.
Speaker 1: The last CD almost was a damn movie because I
Speaker 1: shot all those videos and they connected to one another. Um,
Speaker 1: it was my thought of trying to to make this movie.
Speaker 1: And it really is about the life of a black
Speaker 1: woman m And there's a song on there call his
Speaker 1: Mind and and how we can be possessive. But at
Speaker 1: the same time, you remember every step in life, how
Speaker 1: it took you, how you got there to that moment,
Speaker 1: and h if I can show that, you know, and
Speaker 1: film you know, because my life is very complicated. I
Speaker 1: have trans girlfriends, I have gay mail brothers. You know,
Speaker 1: I have beautiful black sisters. And in this life you
Speaker 1: get all of that, you know, you you get all
Speaker 1: of these things. And because it's complicated, love is complicated,
Speaker 1: you know. It's it's my vision of love. That's what
Speaker 1: my life is, is my vision of love and that's
Speaker 1: what this project is about. How you get it in
Speaker 1: all different packages. But I need that love. And if
Speaker 1: you can't accept the packages coming in, how I can't
Speaker 1: have you in my life? How you make this complicated?
Speaker 1: So you're gonna make this and so it's not gonna
Speaker 1: be just a visual album. It's literally gonna turn into
Speaker 1: a whole movie. It's gonna be a whole movie. It's
Speaker 1: kind of like you better Okay, yeah, it's I can't.
Speaker 1: I can't tell you what somebody else might be messing
Speaker 1: with you, right copyright copyright mangagement. It's okay, yea, No,
Speaker 1: So the reason what? What? What is your favorite CD
Speaker 1: of yours? Because people, I'm sure artists have their own
Speaker 1: favorite CDs unless you learn here you only got one?
Speaker 1: What is your favorite? But she only need one? After
Speaker 1: the miseducation along she you needed one? But what is
Speaker 1: your favorite CD? My favorite CD that I have would
Speaker 1: um have to be the very first one UM because
Speaker 1: it was my first try and and I fell in
Speaker 1: love with the fact that I I knew I could
Speaker 1: do it, and so it was an EP and it
Speaker 1: was called Songbird. I went to New York and had
Speaker 1: somebody put me in a fucking bird cage and shoot me,
Speaker 1: you know, because I wanted to be a bird, a songbird,
Speaker 1: and um, I think every every journey is beautiful, but
Speaker 1: my first journey, the very first CD. I ordered them
Speaker 1: and we did an assembly line to put them together
Speaker 1: and and the song for You was on that first CD,
Speaker 1: Hathaway song. So a song for You because I'm Chicago.
Speaker 1: They had a huge contest in Chicago radio V one
Speaker 1: on three and they had all these artists sing and sing.
Speaker 1: It was a big contest. We went on for a
Speaker 1: long time. Teresa Griffin one won the contest singing A
Speaker 1: Song for You and it's about eight minutes and every
Speaker 1: training in the country have done this. She lives except
Speaker 1: for me. It's too many air lives. I can't even
Speaker 1: learn the words of my damn script. But it was
Speaker 1: so phenomenal and that's really what blew you up in Chicago.
Speaker 1: And then they kept herb Kent the Late Grade May
Speaker 1: he rest in Peace, Our Free and her kid would
Speaker 1: bring Teresa on and Teresa would do the Sunday show
Speaker 1: with him and she would sing in Chicago just fell
Speaker 1: in love with her. But my favorite CD and all
Speaker 1: my flamemates know that my personal favorite CD of yours
Speaker 1: because even though I love what you did with Distant Lover,
Speaker 1: you remade Distant Lover by the late grade Marvin Gay.
Speaker 1: My favorite CD is still and we'll always probably be
Speaker 1: no matter what you write, because you write your own stuff.
Speaker 1: Is my Naked Soul is. Naked Soul is my favorite
Speaker 1: because I guess some songs on that they're just oh
Speaker 1: my god. You can tell you before we get cut off.
Speaker 1: Let me just tell you. My Naked Soul took so
Speaker 1: much out of me because I had so much against me,
Speaker 1: and I used to write. When I'm really writing, I
Speaker 1: write on the walls, so I have a designated room
Speaker 1: and the house just right on the walls so I
Speaker 1: can so I can see my vision and write the
Speaker 1: song lyrics out. And you know this is my insanity.
Speaker 1: So um anyhow, so that c D people radio dogged
Speaker 1: me about how nobody's gonna love the CD and why
Speaker 1: do you have a piano song on here? So somebody
Speaker 1: sat me down and and God rest his soul, deadred
Speaker 1: is gone down. Dadre said, Diva, you're always ahead of
Speaker 1: your time, and somebody will always do it after you
Speaker 1: and all and it will always be this thing, that
Speaker 1: that person captured, this and that. And he said, but
Speaker 1: you're ahead of your time. Keep doing what you do.
Speaker 1: Somebody else will find a genius and you will still
Speaker 1: live your life happy. And it took me a while
Speaker 1: to understand why he said that to me. Then here
Speaker 1: are ten years down the road. Uh, let me say.
Speaker 1: I went to South Africa, performed Wonderful. You know over
Speaker 1: there Europe they loved it. Came back ten years later,
Speaker 1: radio decided to start playing the song Wonderful, and I
Speaker 1: got so damn tickled because by that time, the damage
Speaker 1: had been done, you know, the the damage here and
Speaker 1: here have been done. You know, people saying you need
Speaker 1: to lose weight, you need to look like this, you
Speaker 1: like that, and then here comes the girls buying titties
Speaker 1: and asks and my titties and asked was a problem.
Speaker 1: And then so I came to this revelation once I
Speaker 1: I wrote the song better Love Yourself. But I and
Speaker 1: I used to have my kids, and I'm like, this
Speaker 1: is why I sing the song. But I had this
Speaker 1: moment when people started to play it ten freaking years later,
Speaker 1: and I just was like, these tears I'm tasting drowning
Speaker 1: in a see I've cried. See I'm fool lishle waiting.
Speaker 1: I love to save my life. But I better love
Speaker 1: my saying for love let me and that was my connection.
Speaker 1: You better love yourself where the hell you are when
Speaker 1: you are there, because people you're waiting for them to
Speaker 1: okay you and say you are great, you will have
Speaker 1: wasted your life were waiting. You cannot wait on anyone else.
Speaker 1: You must say in that moment, I am great. It's
Speaker 1: okay if you're not here with me, but I am great.
Speaker 1: Look at what God made you know, because somebody else
Speaker 1: is watching you and you don't know. You know when
Speaker 1: this other single started saying, man, you just kept doing it.
Speaker 1: You just kept doing it, and you never wait on
Speaker 1: nobody because the God I served and not tell me
Speaker 1: to wait. This is my life. And if if I
Speaker 1: am sixty five and somebody figures out, I'm amazing. Good
Speaker 1: glad you caught up. I always knew this. I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna let somebody else's numbers keep me from knowing. I'm fabulous.
Speaker 1: I live in a fabulous home. I own more than one.
Speaker 1: I'm defining my own purpose and I'm not sitting up
Speaker 1: worried about how I'm gonna pay my rent or my
Speaker 1: taxes or it's okay. If you believe in yourself, step
Speaker 1: out in your faith, step out in your youth, step
Speaker 1: out in your no do what makes you happy. Don't
Speaker 1: let nobody snatch it from you, tear you down, make
Speaker 1: you feel bad if you run into somebody that wants
Speaker 1: your ass instead of your mind. If you okay with it,
Speaker 1: then it's okay. If you're not okay with it and
Speaker 1: walk away. Don't live with regrets talking about if I
Speaker 1: could have shoot a water lord, if I can can,
Speaker 1: I what I is somebody I'm waiting on somebody to give.
Speaker 1: I do not wait w A I T is not
Speaker 1: from me, g O D is because I gotta be
Speaker 1: good all all the time. Baby, I cannot be messing around.
Speaker 1: I'm always going to be on time. And that's what
Speaker 1: you gotta get through. You better love yourself today. And
Speaker 1: I wrote it twenty years ago, if not more, and
Speaker 1: I knew then I needed to love me. I know
Speaker 1: even more now because I heard it that I gotta
Speaker 1: love me. Teresa. Let me ask you, did you have
Speaker 1: or have you had, any regrets with anything that you've
Speaker 1: done in your career I mean, you literally just gave
Speaker 1: this phenomenal testimony about self confidence and loving yourself and
Speaker 1: knowing you know, basically your path and your journeys for you.
Speaker 1: But has there been anything in your career where you've
Speaker 1: kind of said, maybe I wish I should have done
Speaker 1: this differently, or maybe I wish I had a little
Speaker 1: more confidence at this point in my life, because you know,
Speaker 1: the older me could have told the younger me this
Speaker 1: anything like that. You know, I have two regrets in life,
Speaker 1: and I'll tell you what they are. One is that
Speaker 1: my father and I had a disagreement, but I learned
Speaker 1: the lesson and I did get to apologize before he passed.
Speaker 1: Didn't last long. It was just he did take my
Speaker 1: car and I was here by myself, and I was
Speaker 1: mad to say on. But then he told me baby,
Speaker 1: I said, your word is your bond, and then that
Speaker 1: all you have is your word. So I understood that
Speaker 1: and we cleared that up and I apologized. Uh. The
Speaker 1: other thing was I met Harvey Fuqua, and um, he
Speaker 1: wanted to work with me, but I was so fearful
Speaker 1: of what that meant, and I often wonder what that
Speaker 1: would have looked like. UM, at the at the same time.
Speaker 1: It was three different deals. And I, you know, I
Speaker 1: didn't understand who he was. And now I make sure
Speaker 1: I know who people are. I didn't even understand what
Speaker 1: you know, who he was because for me, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm I was walking into a business that I was
Speaker 1: totally blinded by and I should have uh done my
Speaker 1: homework and and and I did work with him after that,
Speaker 1: and one day he said to me, he said, you know,
Speaker 1: it's good that you followed your own path because you
Speaker 1: never know what would have happened. And and and some
Speaker 1: things happened, and I don't know what those things were.
Speaker 1: But I also met Antoine through quals mother, and she
Speaker 1: used to talk about him all the time. And I
Speaker 1: had no idea what he was or what that meant,
Speaker 1: because I've never been impressed by names. Um. I I've
Speaker 1: always if my heart, you know, it was there with
Speaker 1: that person that I've been good. Um. I don't befriend
Speaker 1: people because of who I think they you know, what
Speaker 1: they can do for me, because I think you get
Speaker 1: in trouble there. Um that there was a time and
Speaker 1: a point where I I met r. Kelly had offered
Speaker 1: me Um to come and go on too with him,
Speaker 1: but I just didn't feel in my heart that's where
Speaker 1: I needed to be. And and so, you know, that
Speaker 1: was the only time in business with harve a few
Speaker 1: quals that I ever kind of you know, it's like, recent,
Speaker 1: do your homework, but I but I'm okay with that decision,
Speaker 1: so it doesn't just sit there. But that was the
Speaker 1: only time I ever questioned everything else something I've been
Speaker 1: very okay with knowing that I made the best decision
Speaker 1: for me. And screw everybody else who thought that I
Speaker 1: was crazy and hard to work with. I don't. I
Speaker 1: don't really care about that because usually that just means
Speaker 1: that I did something right. That was a great um
Speaker 1: synopsis of it too, about the names knowing who the
Speaker 1: person is, because Lauren be on me about that all
Speaker 1: the time. She's like, you don't know who's on? So
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, no, do I need to? But
Speaker 1: it is it's very it is very true to read.
Speaker 1: And I'm glad that I have Lauren in my head
Speaker 1: and in my ear, even when I don't be one
Speaker 1: to hear the she she talking about to say, when
Speaker 1: you need to do this, this is so and so
Speaker 1: this would be important for your career. So I get that,
Speaker 1: so that is understandable. Execondly, you said something else about something.
Speaker 1: I just lost my train of thought with you. You
Speaker 1: said something about after that you mentioned something, um, I
Speaker 1: met Antoine few quause mother and you know, and and
Speaker 1: that was me, you know, being on the road with
Speaker 1: Jerry Butler, I met people. But yeah, but my regret
Speaker 1: is definitely my one regret was, you know, me and
Speaker 1: my father having a disagreement, because that's my dad. That
Speaker 1: tells me because yesterday I told you what happened with
Speaker 1: me is he and I'm hoping that me and my
Speaker 1: daughter can come to a common ground. She got my
Speaker 1: mouth and her mama's hall. So I'm kind of doomed.
Speaker 1: But but I think, I mean even I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: touch on that fully. But you know, but I sometimes
Speaker 1: when I try to tell Flame too, it's okay to
Speaker 1: walk away from things, because we all know that, like
Speaker 1: Flame loves really hard, and I get that vibe from
Speaker 1: you too, but sometimes you need to sever ties and
Speaker 1: love people from a distance. And I honestly, and that's
Speaker 1: something that I've gotten from what you were saying to
Speaker 1: as well, is that what's supposed to be for you
Speaker 1: is for you. And it's not good to force certain
Speaker 1: things because you think that's where you're supposed to be
Speaker 1: in that particular space and time. So um, people will
Speaker 1: make you think that. People will have you thinking this
Speaker 1: is a great you know, this is someone so you
Speaker 1: should this is so and so, and this is and then.
Speaker 1: But I've always been like, I don't really give a ship.
Speaker 1: That is because I don't feel good about that person.
Speaker 1: Um um. And I'm glad in most instances, you know,
Speaker 1: I followed my mind, you know, when it came to
Speaker 1: But I try not to make abrupt decisions because I
Speaker 1: don't want to piss people off either, you know. I
Speaker 1: I I agonized over whether or not to work with
Speaker 1: Mr Fuqua because I was already working with Mr Butler
Speaker 1: and because I was working with you know, some other people.
Speaker 1: And I didn't I agonized over the decision. So I
Speaker 1: didn't sever that. I don't sever ties with people unless
Speaker 1: I let God do that. But if I see that
Speaker 1: you're trying to hurt me, I have no problem saying goodbye.
Speaker 1: You know, I can tell you goodbye. This doesn't work.
Speaker 1: You know this, this DECI doesn't work for me. It
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that we are not cool, but it doesn't
Speaker 1: work for me. I always try to make sure I
Speaker 1: leave that window there. But if you cut me, and
Speaker 1: I know you cut me, I can sever that tie
Speaker 1: and I cannot speak to you until I need to.
Speaker 1: You know, if I'm in public, I will never treat
Speaker 1: you badly. I will always say hello. I will never
Speaker 1: do that because I'm a lady. But I don't have
Speaker 1: to take you home with me. You can never be
Speaker 1: in my heart again. I am very clear with people
Speaker 1: about that. And some people hurt you to the white meat.
Speaker 1: And when it comes to your children, that's a whole
Speaker 1: another thing because that's the only one. For the most part,
Speaker 1: you never want to sever ties to and that hurts,
Speaker 1: so you know, when it comes down to parenting. That's
Speaker 1: the other part of why I didn't feel like I
Speaker 1: would make a good parent, because I can cut you off.
Speaker 1: My my family knows if you If you hurt me insanely,
Speaker 1: you can call me and I'll be there. But I
Speaker 1: can cut you off. You need to You need to
Speaker 1: be and a. You need to be in a mode
Speaker 1: where you can forgive, but you don't need to ever
Speaker 1: be in a mode where you're abused. So you can
Speaker 1: give and not be abused. I can. I can be
Speaker 1: that staff that you lean on, but I cannot be
Speaker 1: the staff that you break. You know. That's what I
Speaker 1: have to be clear with the people that are around me.
Speaker 1: And I'm because I'm constantly learning. Someone asked, can I
Speaker 1: still learn things in my craft? I can still learn
Speaker 1: things across the board. We all should be learning and
Speaker 1: thinking people. If we're not, and you know everything, then
Speaker 1: you're God. And I don't think me about that. You
Speaker 1: know well in your own words, I ain't a lady.
Speaker 1: If you cross the land with me in the streets
Speaker 1: wherever we're at, I'm cussing you straight the funk out.
Speaker 1: And if you want to get scrappy, bring it. This
Speaker 1: is West We sorry, Chicago. But the reason that's gonna
Speaker 1: come from that's gonna come out of nowhere. With all
Speaker 1: the things that you was doing and all the church,
Speaker 1: and when did you find the time to learn to cook?
Speaker 1: Because what people don't know is you'll ask could write
Speaker 1: a color You could be a colorary chef because you're
Speaker 1: such a great cook. When was the time? With all
Speaker 1: the church? Uh, it's called momma. The main't got no money,
Speaker 1: They don't play like that going to kitchen to cook
Speaker 1: their food. So but you watch, you watch both of
Speaker 1: my My father was great at grilling. He was he
Speaker 1: was the barbecue king in our house, and you know
Speaker 1: that's who did the grilling. And his church would come
Speaker 1: over and he would grill. So that was Reverend Griffin.
Speaker 1: But my mother had to learn how to cook because
Speaker 1: she was so much younger, and he taught her a
Speaker 1: lot of things. And I would pay attention. And then
Speaker 1: we went to every elderly person's house and my father's churches,
Speaker 1: churches because you know in the South they can oversee
Speaker 1: over more than one church. And all the people could
Speaker 1: say they could cook, and you could if you sat
Speaker 1: and chef the hell up, you could learn. They would
Speaker 1: tell you to pass them this and pass them there,
Speaker 1: and you watch, and I watched. And then this palette. Baby,
Speaker 1: you know I'm a thick girl. That right, tedty, it's
Speaker 1: the right there. But the palette. I know that I
Speaker 1: want lavender with lemonade. You know, I know how I
Speaker 1: want things to taste. So I know if I put
Speaker 1: this cream with this spice right here. You know, you
Speaker 1: can put cream with cinnamon, or you can put cream
Speaker 1: with a really serious spice and and add and people
Speaker 1: don't even realize that cheese has a different flavor in it.
Speaker 1: So every piece of cheese that you get is gonna
Speaker 1: taste different with this, with this heavy cream. And I
Speaker 1: love that, and I love what you can do with
Speaker 1: it with meats and vegetables. And it's just a love
Speaker 1: of mine, you know. And plus I want to be
Speaker 1: a great wife, so I want to feed him something different.
Speaker 1: That was my experience though. When I turned like ten,
Speaker 1: my mom said, I'm not cooking for you anymore. Go
Speaker 1: figure it out. The stuff in her the freezer, go
Speaker 1: de frosted. Figure it out. You watched me for ten years,
Speaker 1: figure it out. And that's how I learned how to cook.
Speaker 1: I did. I have to figure it out? What's funny
Speaker 1: you just said that. And I don't want to even
Speaker 1: bring this up publicly, but I'm wanting one of my
Speaker 1: still on my you know how the old pitchers pop
Speaker 1: up today? Two years ago, the old picture popped up
Speaker 1: of a picture of me and you, and and I
Speaker 1: say that I would send it to you. I was
Speaker 1: gonna send it to you before the show, but I
Speaker 1: ain't know what kind of mood is gonna put you
Speaker 1: in so I'm waiting after this. So guys, while we
Speaker 1: went on, let me just say that nine Alpha, a
Speaker 1: lot of the women, Gloria Wilmer, I've seen pen, I've
Speaker 1: seen a lot of the names. I just want you
Speaker 1: guys to know I'm trying to read your comments. I
Speaker 1: think you guys are absolutely amazing. I love the way
Speaker 1: that you support Flame and I I really think that
Speaker 1: this is a beautiful show. And you have insane love
Speaker 1: high insane to boot that watermelon Kate recipe. Thank you,
Speaker 1: and I love that you can stopped by and you
Speaker 1: visit me. I want to challenge you today to do
Speaker 1: something and feed somebody else. That's that's what I want
Speaker 1: you to do. If I could do anything else, I
Speaker 1: would feed. I would just if I could just feed everybody,
Speaker 1: that would be oh my god, you mean my actual
Speaker 1: food or feeding people in love knowledge you know I want.
Speaker 1: I want you to feed them. If you see somebody hungry,
Speaker 1: I want you to feed them, because when I lived
Speaker 1: in my car, I was hungry. I had one back
Speaker 1: in the day. You have a sub sandwich and they
Speaker 1: would cut it in half, and you got some fries,
Speaker 1: and they get you their pop and all of that
Speaker 1: was like four dollars, and they don't know what a
Speaker 1: pop is. Explained to him what a pop is. We
Speaker 1: know that's that's Chicago all day on pop Baby. I
Speaker 1: need a red pop, yes, baby, and I would. I'm
Speaker 1: telling y'all, I had a bottle of water for my
Speaker 1: second but the first thing I had was that pop
Speaker 1: along with that half of sandwich and half the fries.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now, somebody is hungry. So even
Speaker 1: if it's as simple as you buy, buy a little
Speaker 1: something that double stack and pass it to somebody, do
Speaker 1: that one deed and feed America today. That God said
Speaker 1: feed my sheet, and he wasn't just talking words. There
Speaker 1: have you been writing, because I know you write a
Speaker 1: lot of your stuff, and you know a lot of
Speaker 1: your lines and your music are so prolific to me
Speaker 1: that when I'm doing love Lounge, I stopped and I
Speaker 1: break it down because one of my favorite line, you know,
Speaker 1: my favorite song is um Rose Colored Glasses, but one
Speaker 1: of my favorite lines that you do is from I
Speaker 1: Came without You. When you say I know it don't
Speaker 1: sound the same, but my but my love's running through
Speaker 1: my veins. There's no escape from you, No matter what
Speaker 1: you do, because I want you to hold me. Maybe
Speaker 1: that that drug running through my veins I've had that.
Speaker 1: That's why I'm so against love now, because I've experienced
Speaker 1: such heartache and heartbreak from love. But that song lets
Speaker 1: me revisit how good it was when it was good.
Speaker 1: It wasn't a long lasting good because I had my
Speaker 1: heart broken back man and a woman. I talked about
Speaker 1: this publicly, and those words make me go back to
Speaker 1: when it was a time that I would smile about love.
Speaker 1: I ain't working with love now because now I ain't
Speaker 1: scared of a new love, but I'm terrified out of
Speaker 1: that old hurt. No thank you, oh my god answer
Speaker 1: we say pop in the UK. So let me tell
Speaker 1: you what I this. This this CD has one song
Speaker 1: in it, uh. And we've been tampering back and forth
Speaker 1: with this bye bye lives Gone um. But here's the
Speaker 1: thing that it does lead you to insane hurt, insane
Speaker 1: closure in sane love again. If I was looking for
Speaker 1: the same ship that I was looking for when I
Speaker 1: first fell out of the plane into love, until it
Speaker 1: hurt me, until my soul felt like it fell out,
Speaker 1: till I couldn't walk, I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep.
Speaker 1: You know, if I were there, and I can remember
Speaker 1: it so well, I can write from it and pull
Speaker 1: from it no matter how happy I am in my
Speaker 1: current situation, because I know how it feels to be
Speaker 1: disrespected until your soul follows apart. I know how it
Speaker 1: feels to give somebody or utter all and you love
Speaker 1: them beyond themselves until you step beyond you. So I
Speaker 1: can always write about that because I can totally feel it.
Speaker 1: I can, I can totally. I know what insanity looks
Speaker 1: like when you can't even do anything except for apologize
Speaker 1: for yourself. You know, you don't even know why you're
Speaker 1: doing it anymore because you are so lost and whatever
Speaker 1: this feeling is, this glue that made you feel like
Speaker 1: you will hold for once and then at the same
Speaker 1: time this person has the ability to take the stitches
Speaker 1: out and just rip it out. You know, how did
Speaker 1: I get to this point where I gave so much
Speaker 1: that you can undo me that way? Um, I can
Speaker 1: always go there because I know what that feels like.
Speaker 1: I also have the advantage of knowing what it feels
Speaker 1: like to have someone have nothing but your pleasure in mind.
Speaker 1: You know, I know how it feels when somebody wants
Speaker 1: to give you the world and they don't even know
Speaker 1: what time it is to give it to you. You
Speaker 1: know that they're so lost into you that you don't
Speaker 1: ever want to hurt them because you know that it's
Speaker 1: fragile and um and so I hope you get to
Speaker 1: the point that you find exactly you know that type
Speaker 1: of love. Girl. I'm married, I got three a us wives. Baby,
Speaker 1: I'm good, Lauren. I'm praying. I pray because if you
Speaker 1: feel that the respect of it keeps you in line
Speaker 1: in a whole another way, No, absolutely, I mean, and
Speaker 1: you've dropped a couple of testimonials today, But I think
Speaker 1: that's part of the reason why Too Like Flame makes
Speaker 1: fun of me. But I'm not the type of person
Speaker 1: that I'm just gonna jump into a relationship because I
Speaker 1: love being alone. I would probably enjoy my company a
Speaker 1: little too much. But with that being said, though, it's like,
Speaker 1: I know what I want, and I also have a
Speaker 1: phenomenal relationship with my father. He's really put me up
Speaker 1: on a pedestal. As you know, this is your my daughter.
Speaker 1: This is what you should and should not allow for men,
Speaker 1: even down to the smallest thing like a man coming
Speaker 1: opening up your door. I don't care what, I don't
Speaker 1: care what time it is. It could be you still
Speaker 1: need to do that. There's just certain requirements that you
Speaker 1: have to have in order to date me. And I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna settle for less. And that might be still
Speaker 1: I'm single because I also don't want to get relationships before.
Speaker 1: But anyway, I'm growing, I'm evolving, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: And you know I'm open to it now, but there's
Speaker 1: just a certain standard that I have to your point
Speaker 1: that I'm there's a certain ship I'm not gonna allow
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, so period and if
Speaker 1: and it may end up being that I get that
Speaker 1: man that you know may treat me right but end
Speaker 1: up breaking my heart. But that's okay, though, It's okay
Speaker 1: because I can tell you I've grown, you know, growth
Speaker 1: is a growth is painful, but it's but it's okay,
Speaker 1: you know. And and sometimes you can grow and it's beautiful.
Speaker 1: And I think where I am with my husband, I
Speaker 1: just want to be a better version of myself. And
Speaker 1: and not a lot of people make me want to
Speaker 1: be that, you know, some people maybe just want to
Speaker 1: be the absolute worst version of myself and slap them
Speaker 1: around and and and that already tells you that that's
Speaker 1: not the one someone that has you in confusion emotionally
Speaker 1: all the time, you know, messing with your head, you know,
Speaker 1: because people like to get up in here when they're
Speaker 1: up in here, and when they're messing with your head,
Speaker 1: and they don't know that that your love is fragile.
Speaker 1: You got to you know, you gotta be careful. But
Speaker 1: I I say walk in faith and careful. You know
Speaker 1: what I used to do is I date. But you
Speaker 1: can't come in my house. Spirit. You can take me
Speaker 1: out to dinner. Let me see how you really love
Speaker 1: a good meal? Yep? Absolutely When when when all the
Speaker 1: show's a daughter love and how should she be treated?
Speaker 1: It's hard for a person to manipulate you then, because
Speaker 1: your father have shown them real love and most people
Speaker 1: don't have that, so they seek. Okay, I love that.
Speaker 1: You know. My dad was my superhero flame. My daddy
Speaker 1: beat up a white man in the South and back
Speaker 1: when I was a little kid because your ed together.
Speaker 1: Because let me tell you something, my daddy was serious
Speaker 1: about people, and he loved everybody. And we grew up
Speaker 1: in Louisiana. So that tells you a lot, okay, And
Speaker 1: you know he was like, you know, you don't get
Speaker 1: the judge to anybody else because I'm should have break
Speaker 1: in your house as bigger, So be careful about walking
Speaker 1: out there judge and people. And I used to you know,
Speaker 1: I really love that about him. But I digress, digress, flame.
Speaker 1: I want you to know that there was some beautiful
Speaker 1: love out there for you and and and that's beautiful too.
Speaker 1: And I gotta come this ishie with I got my
Speaker 1: aunt and I got a woman. This might be a
Speaker 1: lost cause at this point, terson Tera, I hear you,
Speaker 1: and I appreciate you, but I'm good. Let me tell
Speaker 1: you something Tersa. You know what I do love though
Speaker 1: as a as a woman, and I ain't a woman,
Speaker 1: but as a woman and as a woman of color.
Speaker 1: Your I can hear how much you have touched Lauren
Speaker 1: today with your testimony, just with the things that you
Speaker 1: have said. So I can only imagine for the two
Speaker 1: hundred and seventy eight people that we have on here,
Speaker 1: how many other women heard you. And I want to
Speaker 1: tuck you thank you for when you talk about those
Speaker 1: multiple personalities on T TAM when Hazel show up and
Speaker 1: all the other crazy bitches. The fact, the fact that
Speaker 1: you have embraced it. Because I talked about this on
Speaker 1: Love Lounge, Teddy Pendergras said, you can't hide from yourself.
Speaker 1: Everywhere you go, you see there you are. But people
Speaker 1: look in the mirror and they only see that one.
Speaker 1: You have to see all those people that that you
Speaker 1: know live inside of you, and whether they're good, evil, bad,
Speaker 1: they all are part of you. Once you embrace all
Speaker 1: of at all of that stage with you and you
Speaker 1: are in control. When you let them take over, then
Speaker 1: they take over. I love the fact that you know
Speaker 1: when Hazel went want her time, you get that bit
Speaker 1: your time when the other personalities want her time. And
Speaker 1: if you don't allow yourself and we all have multiple personality,
Speaker 1: they can say what they wanted. Everybody has different ways
Speaker 1: that they feel. You have to know that you are
Speaker 1: the one that's in control. But you have to allot
Speaker 1: them their time to to come out, or they will
Speaker 1: come out when you don't want them to. Like Juggle
Speaker 1: or had they don't get therapy too, they don't get
Speaker 1: multiple personalities. No, no, but that's why I'm in therapy.
Speaker 1: That's why she's in therapy. You know, it's good to
Speaker 1: know all of you. Thank you some of us. There
Speaker 1: was a cartoon this morning, and I passed to the
Speaker 1: job because this guy took his chick on the date
Speaker 1: she finally she moved in. That's what happened. And when
Speaker 1: he got up that morning, he was looking for her
Speaker 1: as some other ugly woman was in the house. So
Speaker 1: this man was traumatized because in this car too, she
Speaker 1: don't look like who the hell he went to bed with.
Speaker 1: I'm you might be the biggest defender that. Yes, yes,
Speaker 1: like I wouldn't to think about this, but okay, I'll finish. Well.
Speaker 1: What I want to say is the most the biggest
Speaker 1: thing that I really have appreciated about you today Ms.
Speaker 1: Teresa Griffin is your authenticity. Um. I don't think we've
Speaker 1: ever really gotten to talk like this. You know, I
Speaker 1: hear phenomenal things about you, obviously, but I appreciate your
Speaker 1: authenticity and your candor at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: because you know you we're a little vulnerable to this.
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. And I do have to come to
Speaker 1: Chicago to see move around. You've got something that you do,
Speaker 1: yea bro. You can motivationally speak for for an hour,
Speaker 1: and they and saying your face off for another two hours. Girl,
Speaker 1: you know how much money isn't that that's a check.
Speaker 1: He already got an attorney, so you already there. But
Speaker 1: you know what I am. You know, when I get
Speaker 1: on stage, Teresa takes over. As you know, Flame, that's
Speaker 1: a whole another monster. You know, I have to divide
Speaker 1: today we don't have the music going. I lose myself
Speaker 1: in tea time sometime because I'm having a really great
Speaker 1: time in my kitchen and I just won't happen to
Speaker 1: have a camera on. That's how I act. As you know,
Speaker 1: these crazy people all live here, including Hazel, and my
Speaker 1: husband knows that she lives here, so when she talking,
Speaker 1: he don't even bother with her to I'm so sire.
Speaker 1: I swear my husband is so good. Flame knows he knew,
Speaker 1: which is why I took it probably eight years to say,
Speaker 1: well you married me. He knew that he was getting
Speaker 1: all of these and when I first started dating him,
Speaker 1: I said, I bipolar. So I need you to go
Speaker 1: do some research to make sure this is what you
Speaker 1: want to deal with. Because any wanted us decide to
Speaker 1: show up for the motherfucking day. Just show up, Teresa.
Speaker 1: You are just uh inspirer. You are a loved woman.
Speaker 1: And if you if you all have never seen Teresa
Speaker 1: Griffin laugh on stage, what you see on tea time,
Speaker 1: it's not even a one on the scale of two
Speaker 1: a hundred. Because she sings, he asked off. She cooks
Speaker 1: her ass out, But live, like she said, when you're
Speaker 1: on stage and that audience and that rush, this help
Speaker 1: a saying upside down and sound good. I'm telling you
Speaker 1: that's the real artist, baby lave and just clear the voice.
Speaker 1: And I always used to rotise, I say, bit you
Speaker 1: in your throat because Teresa will open her mouth and
Speaker 1: you know, like Jenfifer Holiday make all of our like
Speaker 1: she having a stroke or bill policy. Teresa, don't do that.
Speaker 1: She just opened her mouth and I was like, girl,
Speaker 1: who in there? It just colmes out so effortlessly, and
Speaker 1: I actually like bits somebody your what a tape recorder at?
Speaker 1: But Teresa, you mentioned your piano song from the Naked
Speaker 1: Soul c D. I can't play piano and we don't
Speaker 1: have piano, but I bet you you won't give me
Speaker 1: a couple of bars to that before we leave. Now,
Speaker 1: you can start off, you can start off at the beginning,
Speaker 1: but you got to get to my favorite part when
Speaker 1: you scream, Oh my god, scream. He walked into the
Speaker 1: room like many times before, something's different now. I've never
Speaker 1: seen the phone. No kisses graised my lips. They stopped
Speaker 1: a month afore. I thought that this one hast But
Speaker 1: do you say the last? No more? Anything let us Jesus.
Speaker 1: Wouldn't try and do your thing, wouldn't do inside that,
Speaker 1: wouldn't lose when you say you anymore? That's the song, y'all?
Speaker 1: Who what's the and the name of that song is anymore?
Speaker 1: It's the first song on the Naked Soul CD. But
Speaker 1: she gets to a party at the end where she
Speaker 1: get to scream, I'm not only want you to do
Speaker 1: it that. Y'all go listen. Now you gotta go download
Speaker 1: the CD on Atune, Spotify, Apple, Therese the Griffin. Whatever
Speaker 1: you need to do, you need to hear it. You
Speaker 1: need to hear with the piano. I need you all.
Speaker 1: If you are with then a hundred miles of Chicago,
Speaker 1: March and March something, be a part of the Wonderful
Speaker 1: Woman Weekend A boudoirre to drop a party on the
Speaker 1: and then on the at lunch we're having a blame
Speaker 1: slipper runch, so you can wait, wait to be where
Speaker 1: where's the location for it. It's at the Hilton Hotel
Speaker 1: in Oaklan. So we we've got some rooms and all
Speaker 1: you have to do is uh called the hotel and
Speaker 1: get your own room. And then we have the stuff online.
Speaker 1: So if you just go to my page and hit
Speaker 1: my bio here and Instagram, you can go to the
Speaker 1: thing and read all about the weekend. Bring your girl friends,
Speaker 1: get drunk for a weekend. Turn up y'all deep in
Speaker 1: a room, fol deep in a room. It don't matter
Speaker 1: that it's all women's review, right you know what, No,
Speaker 1: it's it's trans girls too. No, I'm not even talking
Speaker 1: about that. I'm just saying no men. Uh if they
Speaker 1: are gay, yes, if they're not, know what what about
Speaker 1: if they play game just for the week I know
Speaker 1: a little yea, Look we gonna know, well know now
Speaker 1: you know real girls you spot a mile away, we
Speaker 1: will we are. You're gonna be having none of that. Brother,
Speaker 1: I I've been knowing you. I've known you twenty years,
Speaker 1: and this interview taught me some things that I didn't
Speaker 1: even know with the Jerry Butther thing with the living
Speaker 1: in the car. And I've known you twenty years and
Speaker 1: we talked about everything. But I love that you. Like
Speaker 1: Lauren said, you were so transparent. You share so many
Speaker 1: jewels today and we appreciate you. The world needs to
Speaker 1: know you. And guess what, the world will know you
Speaker 1: because the higher might start ris You know, I'm a
Speaker 1: bitch that will drag another big come on business. You
Speaker 1: gotta see this, you gotta take this one. I'm real
Speaker 1: pushed you like that, Lauren. I always tell me you
Speaker 1: can't take everybody. I don't say that, well, not everybody,
Speaker 1: but I just say you can't take certain people with you.
Speaker 1: Certain people need to stay it again, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: She was talking about you. I know who she's talking
Speaker 1: about you about me? You know I wasn't talking about you.
Speaker 1: Your back boot Tersea, you were so wonderful. Lam. You
Speaker 1: can join Tercent Griffin every Tuesday and Thursday at four
Speaker 1: pm Central Standard Time on you say it because I'm
Speaker 1: always sucking it up three sixty t V at six
Speaker 1: o'clock pm. You can join me, or you can just
Speaker 1: pophone on on Facebook and get you a fake page
Speaker 1: on Facebook and just watch me on their tea time's
Speaker 1: be talking like y'all job and and so many of
Speaker 1: our fans share our love and we share a little
Speaker 1: back with them because we share fans. And I appreciate
Speaker 1: your fans. Loving flame me Bro and the flame mess
Speaker 1: loving the tea time was and Teresa Griffin, Teresa, this
Speaker 1: was awesome. You were amazing. You are beautiful, you are talented.
Speaker 1: You are a woman phenomenally. I think when she when, uh,
Speaker 1: what's her name? Who wrote phenomenal woman? May Maya Angelo
Speaker 1: wrote it. She might have wrote it for Oprah, but
Speaker 1: Oprah's name was just the top, so many other names
Speaker 1: fell up under that and beat you a number one
Speaker 1: right up on me. I love you, you know I
Speaker 1: love you. She We better go make a check. This
Speaker 1: was so awesome, Thank you so much. And we you're
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do love Lounge tonight. We're gonna play a
Speaker 1: little you know, we always play a little t g
Speaker 1: If you have not here, if you're in the GM
Speaker 1: or you're working out, you're trying to get your body right,
Speaker 1: you need some inspiration to clean. Teresa Griffin has a
Speaker 1: house version of her song Wonderful you can download on iTunes, Spotify, Apple.
Speaker 1: If you're not if you're not in the mood to dance,
Speaker 1: God dammit, this one gonna get you up off the couch.
Speaker 1: It will make you dance and make you wash. This
Speaker 1: is faster and mopping everything. Just don't play a while
Speaker 1: having sex, because somebody's gonna try to keep the beating.
Speaker 1: Somebody gonna have a stroke. I'm just saying, thank you
Speaker 1: so much, Teresa Griffin. We love love, thank you, laughing,
Speaker 1: learing baby, ladies and gentlemen, we have had the most
Speaker 1: he he she we you don't know about that. He right.
Speaker 1: I agree with that. Laura needs to be Teresa do
Speaker 1: an HF event. Oh yeah, I'll keep you in mind.
Speaker 1: You know, I work with talent. That's part of my job.
Speaker 1: So I'll call your girl, and she said, she said
Speaker 1: the big checks to Okay, Look, we'll talk to you later. Tera.
Speaker 1: I'd love you too, baby, I'll talk to you all later.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, lady, Jim, and thank you so much
Speaker 1: for having just coming in and just loving on Teresa Griffin.
Speaker 1: And you guys follow her on her page and please
Speaker 1: spell her name correct because she will fight me. T E. R. I. S.
Speaker 1: A underscore Griffin on Instagram and t R I s
Speaker 1: A g R I F F I N on Facebook.
Speaker 1: Good today, I got my smart hair. I got my
Speaker 1: smart hair, but I got a smart phone. But please
Speaker 1: dobb me another smart phone cause y'all because y'all got
Speaker 1: a new phone line called the dumb Phone. I need
Speaker 1: a dumb phone. I have not figured out this aphone yet. Anyway. Um, well,
Speaker 1: thank you guys for joining us today. This was such
Speaker 1: an amazing We did not even talk about the case.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to talk about the case. This was.
Speaker 1: This was good. Yeah, we don't want to know. This was.
Speaker 1: This was a good one. Inspiring. Yeah, you inspired. I
Speaker 1: feel very inspired. I love Lord. I could I just
Speaker 1: say I love your hair like this, thank you. I
Speaker 1: didn't do it today. I like it like no with whatever.
Speaker 1: You the braids and took it down. It does look
Speaker 1: like braids. Oh yeah, I did it. But it's you
Speaker 1: were black. What does that mean that you usually look other? Other? Okay,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying. On applications black white, other sex
Speaker 1: male female other, it was always other. Laugh. We have
Speaker 1: had such a great time. Thank you so much, Lady
Speaker 1: play man. Thank you for being part of the show.
Speaker 1: We know, we know, we didn't bring on y'all in,
Speaker 1: but Teresa had the We didn't need to conversation. Powerful Cardell.
Speaker 1: Thank you a wonderful cameraman for being here. Take a Lauren,
Speaker 1: Are we saying our model? Yes we are. I laugh
Speaker 1: and learned we have a model, and that we're not
Speaker 1: trying to get anybody to change your mind. We're simply
Speaker 1: trying to get you to use your mind. And in
Speaker 1: order to use your mind, you had to slad your
Speaker 1: wig back and have one thank you coming on. I
Speaker 1: think we got to sign off now. Oh goodness, it's
Speaker 1: time to sign off. Thank you for joining us here
Speaker 1: and laugh and learn. Ladies and gentlemen. You can follow
Speaker 1: Lauren Hogan at on Instagram at Lauren l money h
Speaker 1: and please on Facebook follow Lauren Hogan and Flame Monroe.
Speaker 1: I mean at Lauren. Don't follow my Facebook. I don't
Speaker 1: get on that. You can follow me on YouTube though,
Speaker 1: because that's why I upload all these episodes, and also
Speaker 1: our Life and Learned podcast page as well on Instagram.
Speaker 1: On Instagram and you can follow, make sure you subscribe
Speaker 1: to Lauren Hogan's YouTube page. You know I got two
Speaker 1: subscribers on YouTube. Now, I had the fighter to get
Speaker 1: a YouTube page. I had the fight. I'm not a
Speaker 1: social person anyway, I had to fight the Black Effac Network.
Speaker 1: You can follow Flame on Instagram at Monroe Flame and
Speaker 1: on Facebook at Marcus Flame Monroe Parker uh full full name,
Speaker 1: and then on YouTube at Flame Monroe. Yes, and we
Speaker 1: thank you for joining us. Uh. Such a great show,
Speaker 1: such an inspiration to talk to Teresa Griffin. Please get
Speaker 1: her music. If you have not heard Teresa or have
Speaker 1: not seen her, I'm telling you right now, it's like
Speaker 1: you wouldn't believe it. It's a phenomenon. And she entertained.
Speaker 1: She dresses up and she carries on at right. Titty
Speaker 1: is always an issue. But if you straight and you
Speaker 1: like titties, you should go to the show just for that.
Speaker 1: That right, TV Gove, thank you so much for joining us.
Speaker 1: Lady Yah, We're Stanning Off. We appreciate you. We will
Speaker 1: see you on this week. Peace, have a great week,
Speaker 1: laugh and learn. As a production of The Black Effect
Speaker 1: Network and I Heart Radio, our executive producer is Tiffany Hattish.
Speaker 1: Our theme music is by Chrissy Payne.