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Speaker 1: Well, guys, it's time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: hold on tight. We got it for youa Strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, nephew. Subject my husband and his

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Speaker 1: pretty best friend. Okay, Dear Stephen Shirley. I've known my

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Speaker 1: been in an on and off relationship for thirty one years. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Years ago, my husband made bad choices and he was

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Speaker 1: sentenced to eight years in prison for selling marijuana. I

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Speaker 1: stood by him the entire time he was incarcerated because

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Speaker 1: I knew he was my soul mate. When he got

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Speaker 1: out of prison, he kept his promise to be with

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Speaker 1: me forever, and we have been married for five years.

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Speaker 1: He has a good job even though he's an ex con,

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Speaker 1: and he bought us a new house and he takes

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Speaker 1: his friends while I'm at work. There is one friend

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Speaker 1: in particular that I have a huge problem with. We

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Speaker 1: have both known her since high school. Since we were

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Speaker 1: in high school, but they became closer friends over the years.

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Speaker 1: He has four close male friends and they're all married,

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Speaker 1: but this single woman hangs out with them. She's still

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Speaker 1: a beautiful woman and she's kept herself up over the years.

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Speaker 1: She is treated like one of the boys, so she

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Speaker 1: is always at my house during the day, whether I'm

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Speaker 1: she's sitting in my living room. My husband says, I'm

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Speaker 1: tripping and it's no different than one of his boys

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Speaker 1: being there. If the shoe was on the other foot,

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Speaker 1: he'd have a hissy fit. I jokingly told her that

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Speaker 1: I don't get much quality time with my husband because

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Speaker 1: she's there all the time, and she snapped at me,

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Speaker 1: and she said that if it's a problem, my husband

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Speaker 1: would have to ask her to stop coming over so much.

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Speaker 1: Woo Shirley, What should I do about this? If this

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Speaker 1: is my only problem in my marriage, should I overlook it?

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Speaker 1: Or do you think I'm being too lenient in this situation.

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Speaker 1: I'm sick of seeing her. Please help me. Okay, let's

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Speaker 1: just get right to this. Yes, you're absolutely being way

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Speaker 1: too lenient, and stop joking. You said you jokingly told

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Speaker 1: her that you don't get much quality time because she's

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Speaker 1: always there. Stop joking. This is no joking matter at all.

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Speaker 1: You gotta tell her get out, get out, and her husband,

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Speaker 1: your husband, doesn't have to be the one to tell her.

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Speaker 1: I don't care what she says. You can tell her

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Speaker 1: because guess what, it's your house too. What are you

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Speaker 1: joking about? This is a serious situation here. You got

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Speaker 1: a woman sitting up in your house, whether you're there

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Speaker 1: or not with your husband you're at work. That's very serious.

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Speaker 1: There's no jokes here, no jokes. Uh, there's no way

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Speaker 1: she should be doing this. This is so disrespectful. This's

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Speaker 1: just from your husband. I don't care if he says

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Speaker 1: she is one of the boys. You don't you're not there,

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Speaker 1: you don't know what's going on. And she snapped at you,

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Speaker 1: Oh no man at your house. Yeah, this is in

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Speaker 1: your own self house. Get her out. If you're if

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Speaker 1: you can't get tell your husband to tell her to

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Speaker 1: because he's wrong for having her in there. This is

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Speaker 1: just wrong on so many levels. Uh, this is your house.

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Speaker 1: You could say whatever you need to say to whoever's

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Speaker 1: else or come on. Well. Good, good response, Shirley. I

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Speaker 1: agree with everything you said. Here's another different perspective on it.

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Speaker 1: My husband and his pretty best friend. I've known my

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Speaker 1: an owning off again relationship for thirty one years. I've

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Speaker 1: done some numbers on this. Oh, they round forty seven now.

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Speaker 1: So we got some good and grown ass people in

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Speaker 1: this letter right here. You've been in the on again,

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Speaker 1: high school seventy and fifteen and thirty one four less

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Speaker 1: forty six. They somewhere between forty five and fifty. Husband

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Speaker 1: made some bad choices, got did eight years for selling weed.

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Speaker 1: You stood by him the whole time he was in

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Speaker 1: He kept his promise to be with me forever, and

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Speaker 1: we've been married for five years now. He has a

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Speaker 1: our finance. Oh, he came up. Man. Most people struggle

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Speaker 1: kind of job this is. He got a good job.

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Speaker 1: My only problem is that he works from home. Stop

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Speaker 1: stop the letter. You're married to an ex con that

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Speaker 1: and work from home. Well, well, what is he doing

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Speaker 1: to be another awful moment in y'all's relationship because he's

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Speaker 1: asking to go and do another eight. I don't know

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Speaker 1: nobody work from home making house money. I don't any person.

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Speaker 1: I just want to just throw that out there. I

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Speaker 1: I'm at work. There is one friend in particular I

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Speaker 1: got a huge problem with. We both have known her

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Speaker 1: since we were in high school, but they came closer

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Speaker 1: over last years. He got four close male friends. They

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Speaker 1: all man, but this single woman hangs out with them.

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Speaker 1: She is still beautiful, and she had kept herself up

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Speaker 1: over the years. We come back. She had kept herself up.

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Speaker 1: You know what that means all these years. We'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: listening show, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. My husband and his pretty best friend. Well

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Speaker 1: so far as a man that's been locked up for

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Speaker 1: eight years, they soul mates, been knowing each other for years,

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Speaker 1: and you know they married now. And he kept his

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Speaker 1: promise when he got out of prison, said people working

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Speaker 1: working from the house. You know, hello, Anyway, he worked

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Speaker 1: during the day. Cities ain't adding up to me. Do

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Speaker 1: you work from a home? You are ex con You

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Speaker 1: didn't bought a house, take care of finance, and you

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Speaker 1: job where that job at y'all where you can buy

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Speaker 1: How the hell you got money and a lot of

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Speaker 1: we got this up, got this We both have known

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Speaker 1: the last years. Now he got four close male friends

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Speaker 1: and they all married, but this single woman hangs out

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Speaker 1: with him. She is still a beautiful woman, and she's

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Speaker 1: kept herself up over the years. That means she ain't

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Speaker 1: has kept herself up, meaning you know, I didn't you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm late forty out kind of fell off a little

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Speaker 1: bit because all of a sudden she's still beautiful. She

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Speaker 1: But I'm fine too. She is treated like one of

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Speaker 1: the day, whether I'm there or not. Well, she's treated

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Speaker 1: he got all this free time, right, that's crazy. So

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Speaker 1: she's always at my house doing the day, whether I'm

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Speaker 1: and she's sitting in my living room. My husband says,

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Speaker 1: I'm tripping, And there's no difference than one of the

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Speaker 1: a hissy fit. Well, let me just stop for a minute.

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Speaker 1: That sho ain't going on the other foot. I'm telling

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Speaker 1: tell you what, he won't be the second time, because

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna do what you did. I jokingly told

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Speaker 1: girl you know something, girl, don't it? I don't even

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Speaker 1: You're sitting up in yourself with your lead crossed. Did

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Speaker 1: snap contest? Yes, she snapped at me you're talking about

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Speaker 1: my husband would have to ask her to stop coming

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Speaker 1: over so much. Shirley, what should I do? Shirley told

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Speaker 1: you write a letter? Fault? And what is you? What

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Speaker 1: did you? What is she making demands? Fault in your house?

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Speaker 1: This is your house. If this is the only problem

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Speaker 1: with my marriage? Should I overlook it? What? This ain't

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Speaker 1: the only problem? Your only problem in your house is

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Speaker 1: let me sell you what the problem is this man

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Speaker 1: ain't that that's one problem. Second problem, she bold enough

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Speaker 1: ass is fun is fine. So during the free time

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Speaker 1: Girl stopped, girl stopped. The man been locked up for

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Speaker 1: eight years. Everybody he see, he thinking fine when you've

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Speaker 1: Her ass was fine. The big lady on the gas station,

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Speaker 1: fine when you'ven't done eight years? Or do you think

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Speaker 1: I'm being too lenient with this situation? I'm sick of

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna kill you. Tell me get to check out

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Speaker 1: If you see you kill tomorrow, I will kill you.

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