1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:04,800 Speaker 1: Call It what It Is with Jessica Kepshaw and Camille Luddington, 2 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,960 Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello, call It crew, and welcome to another 4 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 2: episode of Short and Sweet. 5 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 1: And I know what you're thinking, Short and Sweet, it's 6 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: not the right day. We usually have these air midweek, 7 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: but we're switching things up and the reason is is 8 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:40,400 Speaker 1: because I have a very special doctor who specializes in 9 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: hashimotos and she is going to be recording with me 10 00:00:44,479 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 1: midweek and so we will air that midweek. So today 11 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 1: you guys are getting treated to a little Short and 12 00:00:50,120 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: Sweet with a guest Guess things bad last night? 13 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 3: Kime Onie beg me, oh, plea to well join the 14 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 3: pod today? Oh please give me. I know few things 15 00:01:06,440 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 3: around and I'm here to hell you are here to help. 16 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:11,240 Speaker 1: Well, we thought we would bring that in for a 17 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: very special episode because Ashley, you're the one that sent 18 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:14,839 Speaker 1: me this article. 19 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:19,520 Speaker 2: Yes, okay, And it was an article about the new style. 20 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:23,000 Speaker 1: Of parenting, which is the total opposite of what gentle 21 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: parenting is. 22 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, And at first I thought it was a joke. Yeah, 23 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 4: And then I started down the rabbit hole and realized 24 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:32,679 Speaker 4: it's an entire movement of sorts. 25 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 1: Yeah, what did do you want to tell announced to 26 00:01:35,360 --> 00:01:37,480 Speaker 1: the crew what the new parenting movement is? 27 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 4: Oh, fafo around and find out right, crowd, I. 28 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: Know you're like, well, so most we were less it's 29 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: a friend of find out parenting exactly. 30 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,840 Speaker 2: So this sin of parenting style. If the article that 31 00:01:53,000 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 2: we read was about. 32 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 1: A woman and I believe that her son was splashing 33 00:01:59,240 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 1: her with a hoe. 34 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 3: He was being rather obnoxious. 35 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 2: I believe he's not like he's being abnocious. He was 36 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 2: flashing her win our hose. 37 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: And then instead of being like Henny for the eighth time, 38 00:02:08,480 --> 00:02:11,000 Speaker 1: let us not do how are your feelings. 39 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 2: About that time? 40 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: Yeah? 41 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 2: She just shoved him into a pond. 42 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:19,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it like really shocked him a little frown 43 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:20,799 Speaker 1: to find out. 44 00:02:20,919 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 2: But he learned the lesson. 45 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 3: At debate of whether this is maybe a new. 46 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:33,120 Speaker 2: Approach and it could be a positive approach. 47 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:34,760 Speaker 3: I think that's why we're here. 48 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 2: That's why we're here. 49 00:02:36,080 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: Do you think that we do around to finale parenting 50 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: or gentle parenting. 51 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:44,639 Speaker 3: I think we're closer on the jasule side, to be. 52 00:02:44,600 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: Honest, I think we're I think we're ninety five percent 53 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:50,839 Speaker 1: gentle parenting I'm a sessitive parents, so if I get 54 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: too groundee then sensitive parrot. 55 00:02:54,720 --> 00:02:56,959 Speaker 3: I just feel bad if if I'm too oh, you 56 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 3: have a lot of guilt, like. 57 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 4: So much parental so it's hard for me to be 58 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 4: like hardcore around and find out I. 59 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: Think, yeah, your around and find out is and then 60 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 1: I find out how guilty I feel after. 61 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:10,480 Speaker 3: Exactly. 62 00:03:10,520 --> 00:03:15,560 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, So we have been asked some questions 63 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 1: by the crew on this subject, and we're gonna we're 64 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: gonna dive into our parenting style and we're gonna reveal 65 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,519 Speaker 1: some how it goes down in our household. 66 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:28,720 Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna learn a few things, maybe. 67 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 1: Maybe from me. Yeah, yeah, you'll play Okay, okay, what 68 00:03:34,400 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: were recent moments with your kids when you thought, you 69 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:40,760 Speaker 1: know what, you're gonna have to find out the hard way? Well, 70 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,880 Speaker 1: Brown and find out way? What's the because I know 71 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: moment that is a little bit similar to what the 72 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:53,280 Speaker 1: leading the article. Yeah, Hayden was splashing Lucas are a 73 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:56,800 Speaker 1: little one and it was really bugging him and she 74 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 1: wouldn't stop. 75 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:01,119 Speaker 2: And so I just based, at least do no mead 76 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:02,200 Speaker 2: her with a splash. 77 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:04,800 Speaker 1: It was a little bit of a stunami because I 78 00:04:04,800 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: had sent to her, by the way, let me try 79 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: me says, I had. 80 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 2: Sent to her stop splashing your brother. 81 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 1: She had not, she probably said completely out. 82 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 2: Four twenty times. 83 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: I decided I wasn't maybe like, and how does the 84 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:20,919 Speaker 1: splashing make your rather feel? Because she knew it was 85 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: annoying him, and so I did a little splash tsunami 86 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 1: and then But the funny thing is, because we are 87 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 1: quote unquote gentle parents, she was. She was just shocked. 88 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 3: It was total Yeah, she was speechless. 89 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:40,920 Speaker 2: But here's what I don't think it worth. In that moment. 90 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:43,559 Speaker 1: Instead of her turning around and being like, oh my god, 91 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: now I know how the splash feels, she was like, 92 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 1: it became about your are really bad mom. 93 00:04:50,760 --> 00:04:52,360 Speaker 3: You're a bad mom. Shame on you. 94 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:54,039 Speaker 2: I can't believe you splashed. 95 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:55,880 Speaker 4: I think that's the problem is that if you had 96 00:04:55,920 --> 00:05:00,320 Speaker 4: it in many cases and scenarios that will work, there 97 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 4: are many scenarios and kids that brown to find out 98 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 4: will not work because there are so many more yes, 99 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 4: elemency feelings and it's more nuanced. 100 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe it's a long part of grown to find 101 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:17,000 Speaker 1: out is ground to find out if your kid will 102 00:05:17,000 --> 00:05:18,440 Speaker 1: turn it around on you. 103 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:21,039 Speaker 2: And then you're around and found. 104 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 3: Out on If everyone keeps run, we all basic gly. 105 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:26,320 Speaker 3: That is what I'm learning. 106 00:05:26,640 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, that didn't really work. Like I was hoping that 107 00:05:28,720 --> 00:05:31,240 Speaker 1: she'd be shock her into not doing it. Instance, she 108 00:05:31,400 --> 00:05:34,919 Speaker 1: was more like, I can't believe slash her an innocent 109 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 1: child zan gentlean charanty. 110 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,719 Speaker 2: Takes more work. It would have been really easy to 111 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:44,720 Speaker 2: slash her, like right off the bat. Yeah, okay. 112 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:47,520 Speaker 1: The guard reaction to hearing about the mom who threw 113 00:05:47,560 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: her kid in the pond after he's grayed her. I 114 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 1: do think that I think he was old enough. It 115 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:57,359 Speaker 1: sounds like he was like twelve. Yeah, I think that 116 00:05:57,440 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: he'd gone it. Do you know what I mean? 117 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,440 Speaker 2: See got the last Yeah, so I. 118 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 3: Was like the word age on the age thing. I 119 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 3: think it does matter because. 120 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 4: My parents were very fair and gentle and loving parents. 121 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,560 Speaker 4: I do remember one time. It wasn't around and find 122 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 4: out a moment. It was more of a your teen No, 123 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:19,680 Speaker 4: this was. 124 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:21,240 Speaker 2: That's some of this. 125 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 3: Okay. 126 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,680 Speaker 1: This is a great example because I think our Arginerians 127 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,279 Speaker 1: are on the generation of random. 128 00:06:27,960 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 2: Planet, and this is you have a childhood. 129 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:34,600 Speaker 1: Example of mass around and filed out the oneing and 130 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 1: fellow story. 131 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:39,839 Speaker 4: I was nineteen or my nineteenth birthday, and my parents 132 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,960 Speaker 4: had a whole day and morning planned the next day 133 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:44,840 Speaker 4: after my birthday that we were going to spend the 134 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 4: day together. 135 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 3: So the night of my birthday, I when I was some. 136 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 4: Friends and I was turning nineteen, and we went a 137 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:55,200 Speaker 4: little overboard with the alcohol. 138 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 2: And I got by the way that's illegal. 139 00:06:57,600 --> 00:07:01,680 Speaker 4: That is illegal thought, and I got to face that night, 140 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:07,360 Speaker 4: and I came home that morning embarrassingly hello, hungover, still drunk, 141 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,520 Speaker 4: and my parents were onto it, and they made a 142 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:14,320 Speaker 4: point to cook breakfast that smelled amazing but awful at 143 00:07:14,320 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 4: the same. 144 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 3: Time with the cooking bread. 145 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:19,240 Speaker 2: They were cooking a breakfast knowing that it would. 146 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: Make you want to cheep along. 147 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, and then they my dad went ahead and took 148 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 4: me on the golf trip they were going to go 149 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 4: on that morning, you know, to take me golfing. 150 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: God. 151 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 4: No, we got halfway down the road and then I 152 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:32,400 Speaker 4: puoked outside the window, and then he turned back and 153 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 4: came home. And that was Yeah, you had plans today 154 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 4: and you've brown. 155 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 2: Okay, most ridiculous consequence you've handed out in a moment 156 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 2: of all out frustration, most ridiculous consequence. 157 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: We talked about this morning a little bit like the 158 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: stuff that comes out of our mouths as parent. 159 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 4: When I hear some of the representands that I'm saying 160 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 4: my kids, I'm like, what are you saying? 161 00:07:58,520 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 3: What? 162 00:07:58,800 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 2: It's embarrassed this? 163 00:08:00,240 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, like I would say, it's like this, Like ridiculous 164 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 1: consequence in our house goes on like. 165 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 2: This, Okay, gives what. You can't be a robot for 166 00:08:09,600 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 2: the rest of them. 167 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:10,600 Speaker 1: Do it. 168 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 3: We're not gonna make robots tomorrow if you do it together. 169 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:19,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it's not it's just we sound yeah, sounds ridiculous. 170 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 2: Okay. 171 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 1: Has parenting the kids gin summer been harder with the 172 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: lack of structure, any stories. First of all, I don't 173 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:46,360 Speaker 1: know if you guys know this, but Mad and I 174 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:48,199 Speaker 1: have had our family lives far away. 175 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:50,839 Speaker 2: Matt and I have not. 176 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: Had We don't have any childcare, and we had another 177 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:55,720 Speaker 1: kids go to a pre school in our school, but 178 00:08:56,120 --> 00:09:00,640 Speaker 1: we have not had any extra childcare for we're almost 179 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 1: a year and a half. The big argument of the 180 00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:06,079 Speaker 1: summer right now is naming toys. 181 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 3: Man, it's when it's gone, But man, it's annoying. 182 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:15,480 Speaker 2: Bus This is what we're having to deal with during 183 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 2: the summer. 184 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:18,640 Speaker 1: In the summer, when our kids get a toy, we 185 00:09:18,800 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: always actually, you know what in this long and I 186 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:22,720 Speaker 1: just realize it's on us, dude. 187 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 3: We keep asking, what's. 188 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 4: The tools making I'm trying to creativity in that moment, 189 00:09:29,679 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 4: and so the show. 190 00:09:33,280 --> 00:09:34,840 Speaker 3: We're poking the bear exactly. 191 00:09:34,880 --> 00:09:37,720 Speaker 1: Okay. So what we do is we always go, what's 192 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:42,439 Speaker 1: the name and then Hayden will be like, the names 193 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: of like an elephant toy? 194 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:44,800 Speaker 2: They both have each. 195 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: One elephant t and then Lucas will go elephant and 196 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: don't know that the facts that they both have. 197 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 4: The same name and it's a name like Alan t Yeah, seriously, 198 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 4: he'll arguing over it and Bronte or giant. 199 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:04,280 Speaker 2: By the way, we. 200 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: Throw out to diffuse the fight. We throw out really 201 00:10:07,520 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 1: good things. We're like, what Dailey, Cutie, flussy, Bob, they 202 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: would probably. 203 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:15,760 Speaker 3: Love it, Bob, I think Bob. 204 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, whatever, whoever thinks of the first name that's the 205 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 4: one that's the not. 206 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 2: Causes a fight all the time naming toys. This summer 207 00:10:27,600 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 2: has been explosive. 208 00:10:29,880 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: Has there been a time when you went to dinner 209 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:34,240 Speaker 1: with another family and kids are left thinking. 210 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:35,840 Speaker 3: I actually don't think of. 211 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:37,240 Speaker 2: A time that I've been to dinner with someone else's 212 00:10:37,320 --> 00:10:38,560 Speaker 2: kids and thought what just happened? 213 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 1: I can definitely think of times even to dinner with 214 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: our kids and think what just happens? 215 00:10:44,520 --> 00:10:48,400 Speaker 4: Not often, but I do feel like sometimes button or 216 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 4: a switch goes off and they just both start mouth. 217 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: What is the very first thing when we walk into 218 00:10:55,040 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: a restaurant that can start a fight? Okay, we see 219 00:10:58,440 --> 00:10:59,679 Speaker 1: the table, let's say it. 220 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 3: I'm gonna give you that. 221 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:01,559 Speaker 2: I'm gonna set this up. 222 00:11:01,920 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 1: It's a round table. Yep, four chairs, knowing your children, 223 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 1: what is the fight that the happened? 224 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 3: One of those chairs is the best? Yes, chair at 225 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 3: that table. 226 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 2: One of those chairs and they all look the same. 227 00:11:19,800 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 3: Is the chair, yeah? And whoever decides that first, yes, 228 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 3: the other one is? 229 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:27,480 Speaker 1: It was the chair and then that and then the 230 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: chair fight happens, and then and then we and then 231 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:31,040 Speaker 1: it goes downhill from ye. 232 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:33,079 Speaker 4: Before you even order it. It's like you're putting out 233 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:36,600 Speaker 4: fires before you order. And then you get ten minutes, 234 00:11:36,640 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 4: so yeah, sailing. And then if the food's not given 235 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:40,760 Speaker 4: there fast enough, it. 236 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:44,720 Speaker 1: Starts to also this we love this. It's like a 237 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,560 Speaker 1: butter pasta for a kid is like sure thing and 238 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: it's like the butter possib will come and they'll be like, 239 00:11:50,120 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: that's not The shape of the pasta is light. 240 00:11:51,880 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, that is actually. 241 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 4: I think that's a good example of a minimal around 242 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 4: to find out moment that. 243 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 3: I think you can take the rings and yeah, but 244 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 3: we do a little bit. 245 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:18,080 Speaker 2: We're like, eat your food. Okay. Is one of you 246 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 2: the good cop and the other the bad cock? 247 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:26,280 Speaker 1: Oh wow, the silence. I think we both know the 248 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,320 Speaker 1: answer a little bit to this. Am I the fun Harrod? 249 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:34,680 Speaker 3: You are the more funny one, but you're also the 250 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:40,400 Speaker 3: one that what the reliability a little bit. 251 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 4: They know they know they're gonna gangs. You know what 252 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 4: the wants. 253 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: Okay, wait, hang on, yes, this is true. We only 254 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:55,840 Speaker 1: just discovered this. Explain why we were shopping. 255 00:12:56,160 --> 00:13:00,600 Speaker 4: Yes, and especially at this age, they just want something 256 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:01,320 Speaker 4: from everywhere. 257 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:01,840 Speaker 2: Yeah it is. 258 00:13:02,080 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 4: And I have no problem saying not today, guys, or 259 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:08,839 Speaker 4: maybe later. But they won't come to me. They'll go 260 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:12,360 Speaker 4: to mom first because they'll know it. They know they'll 261 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 4: get more of a chance. I have a little more 262 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 4: of a moh, a little more of a pushover. And 263 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:19,040 Speaker 4: then you found that out the other day when Hayden. 264 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 3: She's with me, but she was like, I just want 265 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 3: to go talk to Monk for a second. 266 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:26,160 Speaker 2: I just want to be follow me into the store. 267 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:27,719 Speaker 2: And then you're like, what's that. 268 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 4: I was like, come on, just walk around with me, 269 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:33,000 Speaker 4: and I was taken personally, but then I was like, wait, yeah, 270 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:35,280 Speaker 4: so I said, why do you want to go see mom? 271 00:13:35,480 --> 00:13:35,680 Speaker 1: Yeah? 272 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:37,680 Speaker 3: She gave me a smirk and she knew exactly what 273 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:40,400 Speaker 3: I was asking. Yeah, yeah, I am. I agree. 274 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:44,760 Speaker 2: I'm more of a pushover. Okay, what is Oh god, 275 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:47,079 Speaker 2: I know the answer to this for myself. 276 00:13:47,120 --> 00:13:50,880 Speaker 1: What's apparenting hill that you're willing to die on that 277 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:55,840 Speaker 1: you think I totally disagree with. Can I be honest 278 00:13:55,880 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: because I know the answer for you? Okay, Okay, I 279 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:05,000 Speaker 1: know that you disagree on this, but I think that 280 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:10,760 Speaker 1: once you promise something, you have to follow through it. 281 00:14:10,960 --> 00:14:16,080 Speaker 1: And you are like, no can change, which I understand. 282 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:19,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, there are details in this, but I agree we do. 283 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:20,840 Speaker 4: We kind of bt heads on this on occasion. There 284 00:14:20,840 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 4: are details. I think that a change is okay, but 285 00:14:24,560 --> 00:14:28,400 Speaker 4: I understand the promising them something and then taking it away. 286 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:30,360 Speaker 3: It's hard. 287 00:14:31,080 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay. 288 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:34,720 Speaker 4: But I feel sometimes it's warranted and that is a 289 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 4: fuck around and find out parenting. 290 00:14:39,200 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 1: It is. 291 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 3: So I'm a little more progressive if you think about it. 292 00:14:42,400 --> 00:14:45,760 Speaker 1: If the funk around is the progression or is it 293 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:49,200 Speaker 1: the regression? What's one thing that you could ask me? 294 00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:52,040 Speaker 3: One thing I could ask you one thing that you 295 00:14:52,440 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 3: is a hill that you're willing. 296 00:14:53,760 --> 00:14:54,200 Speaker 1: To know him? 297 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:55,840 Speaker 3: Oh? Man? 298 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 4: I feel like oftentimes the same thing, Like I think, 299 00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:01,760 Speaker 4: if they're if if they're pushing the boundaries a little 300 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,160 Speaker 4: bit launched in that same situation, I think it's important 301 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:07,720 Speaker 4: to teach them that they've lost that privilege. Yes, but 302 00:15:07,800 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 4: I stand back, and because I understand both sides too, 303 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:12,200 Speaker 4: back too. 304 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: But these are are we're on a little bit of 305 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: a different hill and great privileges and you're fat, you're. 306 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 2: Poking to provoke a privilege. Okay. 307 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:23,080 Speaker 1: Are there times you're too soft in your kids because 308 00:15:23,200 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 1: you're really just too exhausted? Yeah? I did. 309 00:15:26,760 --> 00:15:27,400 Speaker 3: That's where I think. 310 00:15:29,320 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 2: No, I think it's how about whatever you want? 311 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:37,640 Speaker 1: How often do you need a break from your parenting duties? 312 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 2: And what do you do a break? That's when was 313 00:15:44,120 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 2: the last time that you took a break? 314 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:45,480 Speaker 1: Dud. 315 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:48,080 Speaker 3: You actually have been really good. We've been Oh yeah, 316 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:50,720 Speaker 3: we did it this weekend. You brought up that was 317 00:15:50,760 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 3: important to give up each of us that so we've 318 00:15:53,000 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 3: been trying to. 319 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:57,200 Speaker 2: Be more comp Well we did, we you we tapped 320 00:15:57,200 --> 00:15:57,960 Speaker 2: in and tapped out. 321 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, so one of us leaves from hour to go 322 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:02,360 Speaker 1: work out. 323 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 2: That's it really. 324 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:06,320 Speaker 3: Whenever we want. 325 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:07,960 Speaker 1: If I want to sit in the cart and have 326 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:11,400 Speaker 1: a cheeseburger, go get in and out, and yeah, for sure, 327 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:13,680 Speaker 1: that's self care. And then the other one and you 328 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:16,000 Speaker 1: know what, then we I agree that we're a little 329 00:16:16,080 --> 00:16:20,320 Speaker 1: more we have a little more patience. 330 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:24,200 Speaker 4: And especially during the summer and on the weekends, just 331 00:16:24,280 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 4: giving that hour to you compress is very important. 332 00:16:27,880 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 2: Okay, so let's wrap it up. 333 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:34,000 Speaker 1: But before we do, are you going to meet employment 334 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:36,240 Speaker 1: in our family more. 335 00:16:36,400 --> 00:16:37,720 Speaker 2: Around and find out? 336 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:40,920 Speaker 3: I think so, I don't know. I feel like we're 337 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 3: doing a decent job. Yeah, some days are harder than that. 338 00:16:45,640 --> 00:16:51,720 Speaker 1: So when what's it called the SASO is necessary? All right, guys, 339 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:55,480 Speaker 1: thank you Matt for joining us spilling the beans on 340 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:59,760 Speaker 1: our parenting style, and we enjoyed answering all these questions. 341 00:16:59,760 --> 00:17:01,400 Speaker 2: And until next time, can you go. 342 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:02,400 Speaker 1: Make me a cup of coffee. 343 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 3: You got it, Boss, thank you. 344 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: Let's call it the end of the episode.