1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:02,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, how are you? I'm loving this hair. Did you 2 00:00:02,759 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 1: just come out of the pool You're giving me? I 3 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:06,880 Speaker 1: just came out of the pool. Be chair just today, 4 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: I just right now, I just I just was like, 5 00:00:08,800 --> 00:00:13,319 Speaker 1: let me just jump out the pool. More devine org. 6 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: On this episode of Naked, every champion and carry champion 7 00:00:30,520 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 1: is to be a Champian of champion and carry Chappion 8 00:00:33,240 --> 00:00:36,839 Speaker 1: and carry Chapio. A champion and carry Chappion and carry Chappion. 9 00:00:37,159 --> 00:00:40,800 Speaker 1: Fred and Sports and Entertainmking Naked work in the world 10 00:00:40,840 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: of Vulnerable considered, we come and remove avail from entertainment elite. 11 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: It's the difference tween what it's real and with the 12 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:50,400 Speaker 1: public season. So here's your favorite celebrities behind the scenes. 13 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: It's refreshing up. Then the whole story specific life all 14 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 1: to rendevents to shake the person that you cany gotta 15 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:58,920 Speaker 1: champion and carry champion and girl, you didn't. It's the 16 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:02,040 Speaker 1: greatest in sports. And then the same in Connected Cheppi 17 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: and they carry Chappion is a champion, the Chappion they 18 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:08,800 Speaker 1: carry Cheppi and Chappi and they carry Chappi and they 19 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:13,760 Speaker 1: carry Chappi. And then the tame a connected Warmer, Welcome 20 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: to another edition of Naked Um. We're here, not stride. 21 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:19,319 Speaker 1: I'm getting a lot more female guests too, because I 22 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: like it. I think I had a lot of guys 23 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:23,400 Speaker 1: in the beginning because I live in that world, that 24 00:01:23,520 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 1: sports world. But but we're looking good. We're looking good 25 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:30,320 Speaker 1: today on the show actress comedian yvon Or g You 26 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: know her from Insecure Molly and I have to say this, 27 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: don't roll your eyes because you do realize she's acting, 28 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:40,760 Speaker 1: You know, you do realize that. Every Sunday when Insecures 29 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: in season, y'all mad at Molly about something she did. 30 00:01:43,880 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: And I'm like, dang Or, do you a good actress? Yo, Yvonne? 31 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: You you're really good at what you do because they're 32 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: mad at you in real life, which is really a 33 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 1: testament to how well she plays that role. So I 34 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 1: appreciate her allents, if you will. But I'm excited for 35 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:07,160 Speaker 1: my sis. She has released a book called Bamboozled by Jesus, 36 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 1: and if you follow her on the social she's been 37 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:11,160 Speaker 1: promoting it heavily. And I am here with her and 38 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 1: I stand in agreement that this will be a New 39 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:16,600 Speaker 1: York Times bestseller. I will claim that for you, my friend, 40 00:02:16,960 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 1: and I'm excited that you decided to share your story 41 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 1: with us today. Her story, though, is one that is 42 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:27,240 Speaker 1: very familiar. Ivan's nake equality is faith. She is and 43 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: that is what I have decided because I am the authority, 44 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: me and my producer. Her naked equality is faith. She 45 00:02:34,840 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: is very faithful. Her story of becoming a doctor, or 46 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 1: actually on her way to becoming a doctor and saying 47 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: if it I don't care what my parents think, I 48 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:48,359 Speaker 1: Am going to now decide to be an actor and 49 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: a comedian. Now you have to realize her parents are 50 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:53,839 Speaker 1: Nigerian immigrants, and that is a no no. You don't 51 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: walk away from what assumed or respected profession is and 52 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: say I'm gonna do this acting ing. It's that's a 53 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 1: big deal. And she did it with faith, and there 54 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 1: were times that were tough, and she shares that with us, 55 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:10,800 Speaker 1: and she also shares with us. No matter how successful 56 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: she has become, there is still that time of you 57 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: know what, God, I believe, but help me with this unbelief. 58 00:03:17,680 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: Have you guys ever quote unquote made it or did 59 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: something amazing and you were afraid someone was going to 60 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 1: take it away from you. I liken it because I 61 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: don't have kids. I liking it to having a child 62 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 1: and loving a child so much, and all you want 63 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:32,360 Speaker 1: to do is care for them and love them and 64 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 1: make sure the world does not harm them. And you're 65 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:35,880 Speaker 1: afraid to send them out in a world because you 66 00:03:35,880 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: don't want anyone to harm or her take away this 67 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: precious thing from you, perhaps even take away the innocence 68 00:03:41,760 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: of your child from you, and you hold on to it, 69 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: and you're anxious, and you know you have to let 70 00:03:48,640 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: it go and let it grow and let it do 71 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 1: its thing. But yet and still there's a part of 72 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: you that is struggling with releasing I can relate to that, 73 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: And as I hear Yvonne's story, her testimony as she 74 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: shares it, I most definitely can relate to that. To 75 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: being broken and having any money, then having money, and 76 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: then afraid that it may go away, and then what 77 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:13,840 Speaker 1: happens once you get here? How do you stay here? 78 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 1: There are so many circumstances that you can like in 79 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:21,360 Speaker 1: this too. I say, a child, a relationship, anything that 80 00:04:21,440 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 1: you love so dearly, but not in the sense that 81 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 1: you're obsessed with it, but you've worked so hard forward 82 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:29,800 Speaker 1: and yes, you do love it, but you've worked so 83 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 1: hard forward and you want to just see it grow, 84 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: and you want to see nothing but the best for it. 85 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 1: But then at the same time, you're worried, you're anxious. 86 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: I don't know what that is. It's so stressful. I'm 87 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: so stressed out even thinking about it, because I have 88 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:50,160 Speaker 1: been flow. I have been flow with that. But you 89 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:54,280 Speaker 1: gotta stay faithful. That's what this podcast is about, about 90 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:58,000 Speaker 1: staying faithful. And I'll share a private story, not so private, 91 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,359 Speaker 1: but a story about the very first time that I 92 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: met Evan. I think she might have been on maybe 93 00:05:04,120 --> 00:05:07,599 Speaker 1: the first season of Insecure, and we were at a 94 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: dinner party here in l A. And I remember thinking, God, 95 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: she's so sweet and so kind. She was so bright 96 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: eyed and bushy tailed. Right, there were a lot of 97 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: things that had yet to happen in her life. And 98 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:27,919 Speaker 1: now I look at her approaching season five of Insecure, 99 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: own comedy special Uh Countless, speaking engagement to Ted, talk 100 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:37,560 Speaker 1: of this that and the third commercials deals this that. 101 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:42,040 Speaker 1: In the third she's winning, but there is still that 102 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:46,719 Speaker 1: beautiful naivete that she has about the business and about 103 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 1: whom she is and if there is anything that I 104 00:05:50,880 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: can tell you about her and what you will hear. 105 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:58,120 Speaker 1: It's her authenticity, And boy do I appreciate that it's 106 00:05:58,160 --> 00:06:02,920 Speaker 1: tough to take things that you're uncomfortable with and share them, 107 00:06:02,960 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: and not only share them screaming from the rooftops, and 108 00:06:05,760 --> 00:06:09,039 Speaker 1: not only screaming from the rooftops, but write it down 109 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: on a piece of paper and document it. Bamboostled by 110 00:06:12,880 --> 00:06:17,760 Speaker 1: Jesus out, please go by the book. More importantly, sit back, 111 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: learn the lesson chill with my boo, ivan or G. 112 00:06:25,040 --> 00:06:26,480 Speaker 1: I would have felt the same way because you were 113 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: weren't so much about thank you, thank you God. You 114 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 1: were like, why am I at this point where I 115 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: can't get together seven dollars? So get two slices of 116 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:37,599 Speaker 1: pizza and my favorite soda. Like you're like like I 117 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 1: was a yeah, I Like he was like, can I 118 00:06:40,200 --> 00:06:43,000 Speaker 1: get in the catch? Where is noble? Noble? Noble? Like 119 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:46,479 Speaker 1: you were like, what's going on? No boo, sit here 120 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:52,280 Speaker 1: and write down these blessings? Thank you father, Go ahead, noo. 121 00:06:53,360 --> 00:07:00,359 Speaker 1: My sermon title is called nobo okay. So. Ivan Orgy 122 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:04,919 Speaker 1: is probably best known for her performance Assray's best Friend 123 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:09,000 Speaker 1: Molly and the HBO comedy series Insecure. It's heading into 124 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 1: its fifth season, so make sure you guys check it out. 125 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 1: The show follows the friendship of two black women who 126 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 1: are living their best black lives unapologetically, and sometimes it 127 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: gets wildly uncomfortable. And those are my favorite ones. What 128 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 1: that did? Do? Or do I don't do? Oh no, 129 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:30,720 Speaker 1: what do it? Definitely do? But it's been almost a 130 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: mother that I'm just not feeling cold. Then it's weird. 131 00:07:33,360 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: It's all good sex and what he be inter hold on, hold, 132 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:38,080 Speaker 1: he digs you down, makes me laugh? And you don't 133 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,560 Speaker 1: work at the airport. What was the problem because I'll here, 134 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 1: he's just not opening up. I mean what I'm telling everything. So, 135 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:47,400 Speaker 1: before evon Orgy was known to us as Molly and 136 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: the comedian that she is, she was on her way 137 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 1: to becoming a doctor. In fact, her Nigerian immigrant parents 138 00:07:53,320 --> 00:07:56,360 Speaker 1: wanted her to be a doctor. In their minds, that 139 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 1: was the only way to be successful here in the States. 140 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:01,960 Speaker 1: Howe her, she was in a beauty pageant and as 141 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: fate would have it, she had to perform. She had 142 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: to showcase a talent, and why not showcase her comedic 143 00:08:09,120 --> 00:08:12,000 Speaker 1: skill set. Well, she didn't necessarily know she had a 144 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:14,800 Speaker 1: comedic skill set. She did know that she could make 145 00:08:14,800 --> 00:08:19,880 Speaker 1: people laugh, but that is where it all began. However, 146 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:24,560 Speaker 1: until this day, Vane is very candid about saying sometimes 147 00:08:24,840 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 1: she doesn't even know her own power. I didn't know 148 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:32,320 Speaker 1: that you could say out loud in real life as 149 00:08:32,360 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: a grown person that you didn't know who you were, 150 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:39,920 Speaker 1: or that that's a thing, that's a sentence that could exist. 151 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: I didn't know I was me, and he in the term, 152 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: and he was like, if I knew I was me, 153 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: I wouldn't have entered the deal with you. If I 154 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:49,640 Speaker 1: knew I was me, I wouldn't have dated do If 155 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: I knew I was me, we wouldn't have been friends. 156 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: Like it was just like, oh my God, like it 157 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:56,080 Speaker 1: was you know, it was you know when the pandemic 158 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:57,600 Speaker 1: first hit his when I listened to the message, and 159 00:08:57,600 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: you know, obviously we're in such a like a enclosed 160 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:02,680 Speaker 1: most period of time of just trying to figure out 161 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 1: what we want, how we want to be when we 162 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:08,079 Speaker 1: come out of this thing and etcetera, etcetera. And then 163 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: in the process I'm writing this book, and so it 164 00:09:10,360 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: kind of freed me up to be like all you 165 00:09:13,520 --> 00:09:17,679 Speaker 1: have to be. It sounds so cliche. It's easy for 166 00:09:17,679 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: me to say all you have to be is be yourself. 167 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:23,079 Speaker 1: And when you're like, what is myself? What is myself? 168 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,719 Speaker 1: I think I know? But I I tricked off the 169 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 1: beautiful pieces of myself because I thought they weren't that special. 170 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: I thought they weren't the things that made me meet 171 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 1: because I would look at like other people like, oh man, 172 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:40,200 Speaker 1: it's if only I could sing, oh man, if only 173 00:09:40,320 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: I was like so assertive a man, if only I 174 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: was uh man, if own And it was just like, yeah, 175 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:50,160 Speaker 1: but the thing that you are is maybe that's it, 176 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:56,040 Speaker 1: that's it. I had to remind myself through sermons, through therapy, 177 00:09:56,200 --> 00:10:02,800 Speaker 1: through friends, you are the thing. You're the thing, and 178 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: there are going to be people that are attracted to 179 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:10,560 Speaker 1: the thing, want to encapsulate the thing, will be enamored 180 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:12,840 Speaker 1: by the thing, and there will be people who will 181 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 1: not be You won't win everybody, but you can't not 182 00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:21,959 Speaker 1: be the thing. To be the thing. And while knowing 183 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:25,160 Speaker 1: that she's the thing, she didn't necessarily own that she 184 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:28,079 Speaker 1: was the thing. Nevertheless, she moved to New York in 185 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: about two thousand and nine to pursue her dreams as 186 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:34,959 Speaker 1: a comedian slash actress. Most people know it is tough 187 00:10:35,120 --> 00:10:38,640 Speaker 1: to live in that city. Yvonne had a friend of 188 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:40,960 Speaker 1: a friend, a woman by the name of Jackie, who 189 00:10:41,040 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: let her move in. I remember Yvan sharing the story 190 00:10:45,160 --> 00:10:48,560 Speaker 1: of how times were so tough when she was just 191 00:10:48,640 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 1: starting out. She had four d and fifty dollars in 192 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: her pocket and that quickly dwindled down to nothing. I 193 00:10:55,080 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: remember I was living in the basement department of this 194 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 1: woman in New York and name was Jackie Corey and 195 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:03,559 Speaker 1: and two bros. Pizza was my jam. You could get 196 00:11:03,600 --> 00:11:06,240 Speaker 1: two slices of pizza and a great Fanta for two 197 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,200 Speaker 1: dollars and seventy five cents. But we lived in Queens, 198 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: so you needed to seventy five times two for a 199 00:11:13,520 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 1: round trip ticket to you know, the city and back. 200 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 1: I looked, I had I think I have four dollars 201 00:11:22,880 --> 00:11:26,120 Speaker 1: and like seventy eight cents. And I was like, Yo, 202 00:11:26,240 --> 00:11:30,680 Speaker 1: you're serious right now, Like I can't make it. I 203 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: can't make it to New York, grab food and come 204 00:11:33,440 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: back as a grown woman, and I'll never forget. Like 205 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: I knew Holy Spirit was about to start speaking to me. 206 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 1: I knew I felt it, and I was pissed because 207 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to hear it right now, fam, 208 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: because it's eight o'clock and if you're not speaking, it's 209 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: almost look under the couch you will find a five 210 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:51,199 Speaker 1: dollar bill. I don't want to hear it. What are 211 00:11:51,200 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: we talking about? And so I don't want to be ridiculous. 212 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:00,320 Speaker 1: I still grabbed the pen and paper and I set 213 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:02,760 Speaker 1: in that way. And when I tell you, he gave 214 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:06,200 Speaker 1: me the blueprint of what my wife would be, gave 215 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: me the blueprint of like things he saw for me, 216 00:12:08,520 --> 00:12:12,960 Speaker 1: and it sounded so lofty carry it sounded like I'll 217 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 1: never forget writing it down. Is I'm writing. I'm crying 218 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: because it sounds it is what I'm living in right now. 219 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 1: Right things that he said was, you know, I'll set 220 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: you up like people that you don't even know will 221 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: go out of their way to blessing. And he was 222 00:12:25,920 --> 00:12:28,280 Speaker 1: just like, what are you talking about? Like you know 223 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 1: what I mean? Like it was just like there's some 224 00:12:29,760 --> 00:12:33,480 Speaker 1: things were abstracts, some things are like legitimately tangible. And 225 00:12:33,520 --> 00:12:35,120 Speaker 1: I have seen him come to pass and I'm like, yo, 226 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:37,120 Speaker 1: is that what he told me? In two thousand nine, 227 00:12:37,160 --> 00:12:39,960 Speaker 1: September two thousand nine. I wrote it down is framed 228 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: in my closet, and and after I was done, I 229 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:51,400 Speaker 1: was like, God, this sounds real good. And all I'm 230 00:12:51,440 --> 00:12:54,079 Speaker 1: asking you is for two slices of people and a 231 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:58,960 Speaker 1: great fanta, And you gave me a dissertation of blessing 232 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:03,320 Speaker 1: that I can not eat right now. And I'm just like, 233 00:13:03,559 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 1: so I went to bed, you know, and I'm saying 234 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: the book. When life gets hard, just take a nap. 235 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:10,840 Speaker 1: Just we we you too stressed, You're not thinking straight, 236 00:13:10,960 --> 00:13:13,320 Speaker 1: You're not gonna make no good decisions where you're angry. 237 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:15,920 Speaker 1: Just take a nap, man, you know what. I woke 238 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 1: up to the smell of bacon, eggs and pancakes because 239 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:23,400 Speaker 1: Jackie must have heard from Jesus and had a whole 240 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: entire feast the next morning. Here's me, I was complaining 241 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:29,640 Speaker 1: in the middle of a blessing. Jackie had met me 242 00:13:29,720 --> 00:13:33,160 Speaker 1: one time when I lived in Liberia. I was on 243 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: the way to New York. Didn't have a place to stay, 244 00:13:36,679 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 1: but I was like, I'm moving to New York. In 245 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:41,320 Speaker 1: the four hour bus trip it took me to go 246 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:44,360 Speaker 1: from DC to New York, Jackie had seen my posts 247 00:13:44,360 --> 00:13:46,640 Speaker 1: on Facebook saying that like, hey, I need a place 248 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 1: to say. She messages me and it's like, hey call me. Immediately. 249 00:13:53,200 --> 00:13:55,560 Speaker 1: I called her and she says, my daughter is away 250 00:13:55,559 --> 00:13:58,959 Speaker 1: at college. We have a basement apartment. You can stay 251 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: here free for six months and and and sometimes God 252 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 1: will give you vision that's bigger than where you currently are, 253 00:14:06,679 --> 00:14:08,880 Speaker 1: and it's so hard to encapsulate it because you're like, 254 00:14:08,920 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: I want the basic and you're giving me the blessing. 255 00:14:11,840 --> 00:14:14,480 Speaker 1: But it was just it was that moment of distrust 256 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: me even and I write in the book, you know 257 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 1: all you have to do that last your darkest night 258 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:22,680 Speaker 1: by one day, and you went so, even when you 259 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:25,640 Speaker 1: think it's the worst, even when you think it's the hardest, 260 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 1: even when you think, like how much I'm telling you, 261 00:14:27,920 --> 00:14:31,760 Speaker 1: If you outlast your darkest night by one day, you win. 262 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:34,720 Speaker 1: And Ivan is unapologetic about her relationship with God. You 263 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:36,680 Speaker 1: heard her say he gave her a step by step 264 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:38,920 Speaker 1: blueprint or brown print as I'd like to call it, 265 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:41,760 Speaker 1: of what would happen next for her. And so that 266 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:45,400 Speaker 1: is why she has released this book. Um it's called 267 00:14:45,440 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 1: bamboos So by Jesus. It's to get yours book Her 268 00:14:48,480 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: Words not Mine, and Yvonne talks to us about all 269 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:54,480 Speaker 1: that she has been through, from being a starving comic 270 00:14:54,520 --> 00:14:57,800 Speaker 1: to actually having her own comedy special on HBO and 271 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:01,360 Speaker 1: appearing in a hit series on hb Yo with Lisa Ray. 272 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:04,800 Speaker 1: She has seen herself rise from the ashes, but she's 273 00:15:04,840 --> 00:15:09,040 Speaker 1: continuing to grow, continuing to get better, and she's giving 274 00:15:09,120 --> 00:15:13,040 Speaker 1: us humor along the way. I say in the very beginning, 275 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:15,400 Speaker 1: this is not a self help book. This is a 276 00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:20,000 Speaker 1: get yours book, because I've gotten mine. And it ain't 277 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 1: no fun if the homies can't have none. Okay, ain't 278 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:29,440 Speaker 1: no fun if the homies can't have none. And now, 279 00:15:29,440 --> 00:15:32,360 Speaker 1: while they may have been talking about sexually explicit, I said, 280 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:36,200 Speaker 1: I am literally talking about getting your best life. I 281 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 1: don't want you to read this and be like, oh 282 00:15:37,920 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 1: that was good. No, no, I need you to read 283 00:15:40,640 --> 00:15:42,280 Speaker 1: this and be like, oh, well, God, you're not a 284 00:15:42,360 --> 00:15:45,280 Speaker 1: respect or of persons, your respect or faith. So if 285 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 1: you get it for Evan, what's my version looked like, like, 286 00:15:48,680 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 1: how do we get in on this? Like, okay, remix 287 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:53,840 Speaker 1: it for me like I wanted on this. It's like 288 00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:56,920 Speaker 1: when your friend tells you the real real is having 289 00:15:56,920 --> 00:15:59,400 Speaker 1: a nice sale girl, and you're like, what and I 290 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 1: got this bad ask for you know, off, You're not 291 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:05,560 Speaker 1: just gonna be like, oh that's cool. That wow, that 292 00:16:05,680 --> 00:16:08,000 Speaker 1: was really nice for my friend, Like she got a 293 00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:11,280 Speaker 1: really nice and you're like, God, wait, which one the 294 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: one on our rounds? Like let's pull out, you know 295 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: whatever it is. It's like, you're gonna figure out how 296 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:20,240 Speaker 1: to get yours for you now. The bag may not 297 00:16:20,360 --> 00:16:22,320 Speaker 1: be there, but you may find your own blessing. You 298 00:16:22,360 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 1: may find something else, something better. You may have to 299 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:26,840 Speaker 1: pay a little bit more, but it's still at a discount. 300 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:30,960 Speaker 1: Whatever it is, God will remix it for you. Stick around. 301 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:32,840 Speaker 1: We have to pay some bills. But on the other 302 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:37,359 Speaker 1: side of the break. More from actress and comedian Evan Orgy. 303 00:16:37,560 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 1: Every champion and cavery champion is to be a champion 304 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 1: out of champion and carry chappion and carry chappiot the 305 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:46,520 Speaker 1: chappion and carry Chappion and carry chappion afraid it's the 306 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:55,280 Speaker 1: sports and entertainment connect him work. Every chappion and carry 307 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: chappion is to be a champion out of champion. They 308 00:16:57,720 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 1: carry chappion and the girls Chappy God chap be and 309 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:06,320 Speaker 1: they carry chippy and they carry and then making welcome 310 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 1: back to naked Evonne orgy continues, and lady, you know 311 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:14,680 Speaker 1: we can be traveling to just be honest. Let's just 312 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:19,119 Speaker 1: She's like, ah, we can. We can be traveling too, 313 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:21,199 Speaker 1: because there's the thing. Um, when I was broke, I 314 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 1: used to do this thing where I would go um 315 00:17:23,640 --> 00:17:28,879 Speaker 1: on dates for food. We've all done it. Okay, some 316 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:32,400 Speaker 1: woman get lonely, they make booty cool. I got hungry. 317 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:36,439 Speaker 1: I made foody calls, okay, and Bella's if you're not 318 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 1: going to how a footy call goes, um, you might 319 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:40,840 Speaker 1: be on one right now. It may seem as if 320 00:17:40,960 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: Yvonne has made it because we're talking about a book 321 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:45,880 Speaker 1: and she has a comedy special and she's an actress 322 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:48,439 Speaker 1: on a hit show. But I know Evan well and 323 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:52,640 Speaker 1: I know that she's extremely ambitious, but she's also very 324 00:17:52,760 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 1: very cautious. Once you get that blessing and I can 325 00:17:56,119 --> 00:17:59,400 Speaker 1: relate to this wholeheartedly. There's a bit of imposter syndrome. 326 00:17:59,800 --> 00:18:02,919 Speaker 1: Do why I belong here? Should I be here? Wilson 327 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:05,719 Speaker 1: one take it away. You start to make money and 328 00:18:05,760 --> 00:18:08,640 Speaker 1: you're cautious about it, may go away and by the way, 329 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:13,359 Speaker 1: most actors I know do feel that way. However, Yvonne 330 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:16,640 Speaker 1: still to this day, we'll talk about the most basic 331 00:18:16,760 --> 00:18:19,720 Speaker 1: blessing that she wanted when she first started in this business, 332 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,720 Speaker 1: and now that she has quote unquote arrived, she has 333 00:18:22,760 --> 00:18:25,879 Speaker 1: been working on an inside job. She has been working 334 00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:28,359 Speaker 1: on trying to make it feel as if she knows 335 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 1: that this is where she is supposed to be and 336 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:34,600 Speaker 1: this is the blessing that she deserves. There's there's even 337 00:18:34,680 --> 00:18:38,040 Speaker 1: turmoil in the blessing, right because sometimes when you're so 338 00:18:38,160 --> 00:18:41,680 Speaker 1: used to the wilderness, that's what you know. It's your 339 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:44,639 Speaker 1: brainket you know the struggle, you know the grind. And 340 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:47,280 Speaker 1: it took me a while to understand the blessing because 341 00:18:47,320 --> 00:18:50,439 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, it came so that 342 00:18:50,480 --> 00:18:52,400 Speaker 1: means it can leave. I don't never wanted to leave. 343 00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:54,040 Speaker 1: I never want to go back to the wilderness. As 344 00:18:54,080 --> 00:18:56,120 Speaker 1: I said to the Promised Lane, come on, God, how 345 00:18:56,160 --> 00:18:59,880 Speaker 1: do And it's just like you have this like lemon 346 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:04,160 Speaker 1: of mentality. Because everyone teaches you how to get to success. 347 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 1: Very few people a few people teach you how to 348 00:19:06,920 --> 00:19:09,720 Speaker 1: maintain it, how to endure it, how to how to 349 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:13,560 Speaker 1: receive it. You know what I'm saying, how it's worked 350 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:18,760 Speaker 1: to receive the blessing. It's like even a blessing can 351 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:23,919 Speaker 1: sometimes feel as cumbrousome as not even having it with insecure. 352 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:27,600 Speaker 1: It was my first ever TV thing. I've been a 353 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:30,880 Speaker 1: comic for forever, but like I had no agent though man, 354 00:19:30,880 --> 00:19:32,600 Speaker 1: and I didn't know the rules of the game. Like 355 00:19:32,680 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 1: I didn't come up being like I want to be 356 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:38,040 Speaker 1: an actress. I didn't know anything. I just I did 357 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:40,400 Speaker 1: the work and I was good at what I did 358 00:19:40,560 --> 00:19:44,679 Speaker 1: to book the job. But like I was like, is 359 00:19:44,680 --> 00:19:46,600 Speaker 1: this am I a fluke? Is this a one time 360 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:49,800 Speaker 1: thing that I tricked everybody? You know? So I'll never 361 00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:52,639 Speaker 1: forget when like Prentice was giving me notes like that 362 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:55,280 Speaker 1: first week of shooting the pilot, and he was just like, Okay, 363 00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:56,879 Speaker 1: try this way and try that way, and try this 364 00:19:56,880 --> 00:19:58,960 Speaker 1: another way, and to try it out. Everything in me 365 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,280 Speaker 1: was like I'm getting fired. I'm getting firry tomorrow. But 366 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:05,560 Speaker 1: here's a crazy part here. I wasn't doing it wrong 367 00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:07,640 Speaker 1: and I confirmed. I was like, yo, Pete, why don't 368 00:20:07,680 --> 00:20:09,160 Speaker 1: you just let me know what I'm doing wrong? Sam? 369 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:12,040 Speaker 1: And he was like what he was like, you know, 370 00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:14,560 Speaker 1: doing at me? Wrong. He literally, that's when he told me, like, 371 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,640 Speaker 1: I just want option. I didn't know that was a thing. 372 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:21,440 Speaker 1: But then also I had poverty mentality. I was so 373 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:24,760 Speaker 1: used to being broke and knowing how to make five 374 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:29,679 Speaker 1: dollars stretch. You talk about a Wendy's dollar menu. Come on, fans, 375 00:20:29,760 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 1: let's go bird man hands. What are we doing? Okay? 376 00:20:34,040 --> 00:20:36,479 Speaker 1: My goals for when I made it were so basic. 377 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:40,360 Speaker 1: It was to go to a restaurant and order anything 378 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 1: I wanted without caring about the bill. That was it 379 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:48,159 Speaker 1: because I had gone without food for so long and 380 00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 1: then for real starving artists, that making it for me 381 00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 1: meant I can buy whatever I want from a restaurant, 382 00:20:56,480 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 1: not a Chanelle bag. Now, Loubi's you, so she said, 383 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 1: then you you know what I mean? Pretty thing? Okay, 384 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:09,240 Speaker 1: So I need to peel the curtain back if you will, 385 00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,840 Speaker 1: or let you in on the behind the scenes. I again, 386 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 1: as mentioned, no Ivan pretty well. And not only is 387 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:19,360 Speaker 1: she ordering whatever she wants in a restaurant, she has 388 00:21:19,359 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 1: purchased her own home. She has lived the life that 389 00:21:21,600 --> 00:21:24,960 Speaker 1: she has always dreamed of. But she is still very practical, 390 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: which I appreciate um. But she also is so wise. 391 00:21:29,359 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 1: She says something to me that I think we all 392 00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 1: can relate to, especially when you were a black or brown, 393 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: or you're a woman, you understand what it feels like 394 00:21:38,720 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 1: to always pull out your resume or to always feel 395 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:46,720 Speaker 1: like you have to grind. That word grind represents a 396 00:21:46,880 --> 00:21:51,439 Speaker 1: physical toughness, um and exhaustion, sometimes depending on what you 397 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:55,360 Speaker 1: do for a living. And what if we could not 398 00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:58,800 Speaker 1: necessarily grind, What if we could just do the work 399 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,679 Speaker 1: as we're supposed to, but do it with ease and 400 00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:06,639 Speaker 1: flow and still reap the same benefits. Vane says this 401 00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:09,240 Speaker 1: to me in the podcast, and it blows my mind. 402 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:13,920 Speaker 1: Listen to her describe what she believes is a season 403 00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:17,320 Speaker 1: of ease and flow. I've known hustling grind. All I've 404 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:21,320 Speaker 1: known is hustling grind to get to a goal or destination. 405 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 1: Now I'm in a place where I'm like, is it 406 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 1: possible to have ease and flow that can also lead 407 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:33,720 Speaker 1: to success? And it's a beautiful it's a scary yet 408 00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 1: beautiful journey to discovering that because eas and flow is 409 00:22:39,080 --> 00:22:42,760 Speaker 1: a privilege, it comes with it comes with success. Because 410 00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 1: the reality was I realized my blanket, my safety net. 411 00:22:48,119 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 1: My covering was the hustle and the grind. God was like, 412 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:53,639 Speaker 1: she's okay, this is what she needs to do. Okay, 413 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:55,600 Speaker 1: I'm I'm not. There are other things I'm fixing in 414 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,160 Speaker 1: the season. I'm gonna let her have this one. And 415 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,159 Speaker 1: I thought, if this is how I got it, this 416 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,760 Speaker 1: is how I gotta keep it. God is definitely showing me, 417 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: baby girl. I gave you the Promised Land and you 418 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 1: still want manna, no boom and you can now have africas, 419 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:16,040 Speaker 1: you can now have grapes. I got kiwi. But you're like, yeah, 420 00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:18,119 Speaker 1: but what is this like my daily bread that you 421 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:20,480 Speaker 1: used to drop on? Baby? If you don't go to 422 00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:23,800 Speaker 1: that tree and just pluck the fruit, you know what 423 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 1: I'm saying. You don't have to like wait and hope 424 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,600 Speaker 1: and wish and be anxious, like is the man gonna 425 00:23:28,600 --> 00:23:31,320 Speaker 1: show up to more? You can literally go out, walk 426 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:35,160 Speaker 1: to a tree, I think the fruit, peel the skin, 427 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:39,920 Speaker 1: and enjoy. Any time you do something for the first time, 428 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:45,600 Speaker 1: the biggest fear is the unknown. I don't know the 429 00:23:45,640 --> 00:23:48,760 Speaker 1: results I'll get through eas and flow. I don't know, 430 00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,880 Speaker 1: And then I don't want to have guilt because if 431 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:55,240 Speaker 1: I don't get the results I desired. Do I feel 432 00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: guilty because I ain't work for it. I ain't grind 433 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,800 Speaker 1: for it then, and who's to blame? But guy is 434 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:08,680 Speaker 1: showing me even with this book. Like launch, I said, hey, Jesus, 435 00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:12,879 Speaker 1: so here's what's gonna happen family. You don't mean like 436 00:24:13,400 --> 00:24:16,640 Speaker 1: I said, here, what's gonna happen family? So check it? Um. 437 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:21,720 Speaker 1: I did the hard part. The hard part was get 438 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:26,679 Speaker 1: away from deals because like good deals, because they were like, 439 00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 1: how about we not put Jesus on the cover walking 440 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,240 Speaker 1: away from Can we just call it Bamboozoo? And I 441 00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 1: was like, no, that's suspectly movie. Um walking away? You know? 442 00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,080 Speaker 1: Because I did the hard part, I did the heart God. 443 00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 1: That was hard, Okay, it's hard to just give people 444 00:24:44,359 --> 00:24:49,199 Speaker 1: back money. It's hard. I did the hard part. I 445 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:53,080 Speaker 1: wrote and rewrote like every word I wrote while we 446 00:24:53,080 --> 00:24:55,760 Speaker 1: were shooting Season four. I wrote while we were in 447 00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:59,120 Speaker 1: a pandemic. I did a comedy tour I was writing. 448 00:24:59,440 --> 00:25:01,800 Speaker 1: I wrote while we were I was shooting a movie. 449 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,640 Speaker 1: I wrote while we were shooting Season five. I did 450 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:09,000 Speaker 1: the our thing. I took off work for seven months 451 00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:12,960 Speaker 1: in I gave up checks to write God I did 452 00:25:13,040 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 1: the Hot Team, I have done. It's okay. So now 453 00:25:17,440 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 1: that the book gets finished, I said, hey guys, so 454 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 1: here's here's what. Hey, hey, uncle, let me talk to you. 455 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,280 Speaker 1: I don't know if this is a thing that's doable, 456 00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 1: but I don't want to be able to press play 457 00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 1: and push the button and upload content and have people 458 00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:39,400 Speaker 1: who are being paid to to to amplify what needs 459 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:41,040 Speaker 1: to be and now I just want to show up. 460 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:47,040 Speaker 1: Is that possible? And I don't like, hey, god, yeah, 461 00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:50,920 Speaker 1: in the Bible, um, Jericho walls fell down because people 462 00:25:50,920 --> 00:25:54,960 Speaker 1: walked around it for seven days. Um wars were one 463 00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:59,160 Speaker 1: because people blew a trumpet. I feel like, if you can, 464 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:01,720 Speaker 1: if you could do it for them boys and them 465 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:06,000 Speaker 1: ladies back, then how I believe there's another way to 466 00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:09,160 Speaker 1: get to the Promised Land then getting there and being 467 00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:13,080 Speaker 1: hella exhausted. And that's not to say like you don't 468 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:16,000 Speaker 1: have to work. It isn't because listen, I'm working now, 469 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,119 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I'm working, but it's just 470 00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:20,880 Speaker 1: a different work. It's a work that of like, I've 471 00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:23,280 Speaker 1: done my part and I'll let my angels get to 472 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 1: work on my behalf. So remember when Evan said earlier on, 473 00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:30,280 Speaker 1: and she candidly shared this that she didn't know that 474 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 1: she was the thing. Now that is the truth. Sometimes 475 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:36,400 Speaker 1: you don't know that you are the thing. You don't 476 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:39,800 Speaker 1: need to try to be anything else but yourself. She 477 00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,919 Speaker 1: now describes while writing this book that there was a 478 00:26:43,000 --> 00:26:46,399 Speaker 1: growth process for her, a challenge the truth that she 479 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:50,680 Speaker 1: thought were facts, and she now knows that they were meants, 480 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 1: the things that especially people are colon need to understand. 481 00:26:55,119 --> 00:26:58,480 Speaker 1: Even flow has been our birthright, but that was stripped 482 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:01,120 Speaker 1: from us, so we think it's bad or like, now 483 00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:03,240 Speaker 1: you ain't hustling rhyme for it. You don't know. I 484 00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 1: know what's hustle. I'm trying to again. I'm goad. You know. 485 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,359 Speaker 1: I used to think that femininity was a bad word. 486 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:13,800 Speaker 1: I literally have to therapists on deck because I'm like 487 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:17,240 Speaker 1: and they say I need to be more feminine, and 488 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:20,480 Speaker 1: I don't. I just because I know I leave with 489 00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,680 Speaker 1: my masklis I know I can there's a woman in 490 00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 1: here somewhere. But when you got to be your own boss, 491 00:27:26,040 --> 00:27:29,320 Speaker 1: when you are in an industry like comedy that's male dominated, 492 00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,840 Speaker 1: when you have employees and I ain't got time to 493 00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,679 Speaker 1: be like h and I had. I had a therapist 494 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,840 Speaker 1: say that, like most women have no choice but to 495 00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 1: lead with the masculine. He's a man. Uh So women 496 00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,080 Speaker 1: that have both feminine and masklin they lead, they have 497 00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:50,800 Speaker 1: to have both, right. Men don't realize that having the 498 00:27:50,880 --> 00:27:54,359 Speaker 1: feminine is an asset, so they just are all machismo 499 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:58,240 Speaker 1: and bravado and it's just like, no, both people need 500 00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 1: to both sets feminine and masculine energy working in combination 501 00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:07,439 Speaker 1: with who they are, and that free me because like 502 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:11,560 Speaker 1: I definitely want a uh you know, a masculine man, 503 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:15,640 Speaker 1: but who's intact to his feminine energy, who understands conversation, 504 00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:19,879 Speaker 1: who understands using your words, who understands you know, acts 505 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:23,680 Speaker 1: of service is like serving your your Your woman is 506 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:27,359 Speaker 1: not a not beneath you, you know, because she's going 507 00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,879 Speaker 1: to give you so much more like you want to 508 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:32,640 Speaker 1: her garden, brother, You're gonna have an oak tree. Okay. 509 00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:36,800 Speaker 1: Like so I see all that to say that I 510 00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,680 Speaker 1: didn't know I had a viral reaction to the word 511 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:44,840 Speaker 1: femininity because for me, it projected weakness because I had 512 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:50,120 Speaker 1: only seen strength as the thing that was um upheld 513 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 1: or exemplified or you know what I mean, or appreciated, 514 00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna season now going with an ease and 515 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:02,680 Speaker 1: flow of like I'm going to accept help, I'm going 516 00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:08,560 Speaker 1: to receive. I'm learning to receive assistance. I'm learning to 517 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 1: be still. I'm learning that I can be loud and 518 00:29:12,560 --> 00:29:16,320 Speaker 1: not say a single word. I'm learning I can ask 519 00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,560 Speaker 1: for what I want and actually believe I'll get it. 520 00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:21,800 Speaker 1: And if I don't get it, I need to have 521 00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 1: different people that I asked around me. I mentioned before 522 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:28,240 Speaker 1: that Evan's naked quality is her faith, and you can 523 00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:31,000 Speaker 1: hear that as she shares her story, this testimony of 524 00:29:31,040 --> 00:29:34,400 Speaker 1: how she has arrived. But she's also very authentic in 525 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:37,520 Speaker 1: sharing that she struggles as we all do help my 526 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 1: belief and my unbelief all at once. Um, I know 527 00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:45,760 Speaker 1: I deserve more, but I'm struggling with what I deserve 528 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:48,600 Speaker 1: and do I really deserve more? I have no idea 529 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:50,400 Speaker 1: what that is. Boy, that's a lesson and I'm so 530 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:52,760 Speaker 1: glad she is talking about it. But what she is 531 00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,400 Speaker 1: trying to say to us right now is that ease 532 00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:59,400 Speaker 1: and flow is our birthright. Listen to that. Let that 533 00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:03,920 Speaker 1: just sit your spirit. We don't always have to grind 534 00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:07,720 Speaker 1: to the point of exhaustion step into what is rightfully 535 00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 1: ours deservedness. But something in me feels like the voicing 536 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:16,800 Speaker 1: of that feels like that too much. Is that I 537 00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:19,240 Speaker 1: can I can believe with all of my heart I 538 00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:22,880 Speaker 1: deserved it. I can believe, you know what I'm saying. 539 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:25,520 Speaker 1: But then but they will they like you saying, they 540 00:30:25,560 --> 00:30:28,560 Speaker 1: will be like I do understand, Like I just it's 541 00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,040 Speaker 1: kind of like when you're at the airport and be 542 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 1: like when I'm at American It's like, yeah, but we 543 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 1: are in I know that country, and you know I've 544 00:30:34,000 --> 00:30:37,000 Speaker 1: never done fastball does not work here. Okay, it's not 545 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:41,840 Speaker 1: like here, but it's it's that, It's like, it's that 546 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:47,160 Speaker 1: belief of who I am, innate me is entitled to 547 00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:51,160 Speaker 1: who want to expect and receive everything that I desire 548 00:30:51,200 --> 00:30:54,200 Speaker 1: and deserve from whoever. And that is the thing that 549 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,240 Speaker 1: had black people as a whole have not walked into 550 00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:01,640 Speaker 1: because we still have to prove ourselves even when we win. 551 00:31:01,800 --> 00:31:05,040 Speaker 1: We so we gotta prove it wasn't a fluke. We 552 00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 1: gotta And it's like, but I'm trying to prove it. 553 00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:08,240 Speaker 1: I'm tryd of I don't want to prove I don't 554 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:09,760 Speaker 1: want to prove if you think it was a fluke, 555 00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:12,120 Speaker 1: God blessed. If it wasn't a fluke, God blessed. Like 556 00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 1: I'm tired, I'm tired of proving. Evan is funny. And 557 00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:22,680 Speaker 1: you know, her faith is something that I really do admire. 558 00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:26,440 Speaker 1: It's it's it's hard. It's hard to have faith, especially 559 00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,040 Speaker 1: when things don't always go as you want them to go. 560 00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,680 Speaker 1: And that might be the spoiled young lady and me. 561 00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:34,760 Speaker 1: But I really do appreciate her sharing her story and 562 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,440 Speaker 1: and and this book. I need you to go support. 563 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:41,880 Speaker 1: It's hard to write a book, especially during a pandemic. 564 00:31:41,920 --> 00:31:44,920 Speaker 1: It's hard to share your truth, especially during a pandemic. 565 00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,400 Speaker 1: It is hard to grow, especially during a pandemic. You 566 00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,040 Speaker 1: get the theme here. Do me a favor. Go out 567 00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:54,160 Speaker 1: and get her book Bamboozled by Jesus Today. You can 568 00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:55,880 Speaker 1: do an audio book if you don't feel like reading, 569 00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,640 Speaker 1: because you know somebody I'll be lazy. You can also, 570 00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:01,200 Speaker 1: you know, go to Amazon. I'm sure it's available every 571 00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,959 Speaker 1: single place you get your books. Do people get books anymore? 572 00:32:03,960 --> 00:32:08,120 Speaker 1: Trouble troublesmome producer. Check out my girl support her. Next 573 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:11,720 Speaker 1: week we have a bomb fire show you do not 574 00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:15,680 Speaker 1: want to miss it. Special surprise coming up, we can 575 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:20,520 Speaker 1: real naked, I mean like real naked, like probably no underwear, 576 00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:23,600 Speaker 1: no brawl naked. Check it out and thank you for 577 00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:26,760 Speaker 1: listening to this edition of Naked with Yours truly