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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Well, happy New Year, Happy, Happy

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Speaker 1: New Year, Brown Ambition Family.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I know you guys are probably like, where have

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Speaker 2: you guys been?

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Speaker 3: And we're back.

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Speaker 1: It feels like it's been months. But that's only been

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Speaker 2: I know, it does feel like it's been a long time.

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Speaker 1: So going into the new year, how for? First of all,

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Speaker 1: how was your How are your holidays?

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Speaker 3: It was good, it was really good. My New Year's

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Speaker 2: Just spend it at home, Superman and friends and relax.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even usually I do like this whole reflection thing.

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Speaker 3: I didn't. I just watched movies and hung out.

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Speaker 1: Reflect sounds exhausting, I know, I.

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Speaker 3: Was like, I don't feel like it.

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Speaker 1: I reflect later, I had some spurts of reflection. I

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Speaker 1: I'm going to work tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: Oh that's nice, I mean, that's yeah.

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Speaker 1: I took a three hour nap today when I got home,

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Speaker 1: and I'm like, this is not the mode. I cannot

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Speaker 2: I was like, that sounds like my life. I'm a napcoholic.

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Speaker 1: Well, speaking of reflections, Well, let me back up for

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Speaker 1: a step. Because you had a huge day to day, yes,

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Speaker 3: Yes, you have no idea. I was so tired.

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Speaker 2: I've been like up all night darna air like twenty

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Speaker 1: Let's start off buzzworthy by talking about the huge, the

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Speaker 1: huge launch of the Literature Challenge twenty sixteen.

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Speaker 2: Yes, so this is our second year. So last year

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Speaker 2: we had about twenty thousand women sign up. This year

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Speaker 2: we just crossed the threshold of sixty thousand women.

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Speaker 1: July Baloney for real.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, God, I know, crazy, isn't it.

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Speaker 2: Sixty thousand women over seventy countries, all fifty states and

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Speaker 2: just managing it all. Like so, for example, Tanya from

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Speaker 2: my fab Finance, she created this goal sheet. So the

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Speaker 2: challenge is a series of tasks that I send out

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Speaker 2: and it's cool and it's fun. And so I send

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Speaker 2: the task every day, and you do them within a community,

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Speaker 2: a safe, loving, caring community. And so I told Tanya

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Speaker 2: because Tanya created this awesome goal sheet for the first

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Speaker 3: So she did.

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Speaker 2: And so the women one of their task for today

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Speaker 2: really dope.

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Speaker 3: What Tanya called me was like, so, y'all broke my site.

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Speaker 2: No. Meanwhile, it was like eleven am. She was like no,

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Speaker 2: She's like I can't even get on to fix it,

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Speaker 2: And I was just like really, she was like yes,

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Speaker 3: It's just a.

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Speaker 2: Whole different ballgame now.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Somebody was like, how does it feel? And I'm like,

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean the challenge is not I mean that

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Speaker 2: No, so the challenge is twenty two days, so it

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Speaker 2: ends January twenty fifth, but then it automates because I

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Speaker 2: up at Liverericherchallenge dot net and start it at any time,

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Speaker 2: but the beginning of the year special because we collectively,

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Speaker 2: like everyone the sixty thousand women that have signed up,

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Speaker 2: all sixty thousand are receiving the same email every day.

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Speaker 3: They get diverted to our.

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Speaker 3: Oh did you do this? Did this work for you?

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Speaker 1: You're focusing on the savings element that's turn around.

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Speaker 2: Right, yeah, savings and abundance, like how do you save

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Speaker 1: That's awesome. I'm so proud of you. Congratulations. I know

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Speaker 3: I'm like, we.

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Speaker 2: So you're just like and honestly, I'm way more chill

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Speaker 1: So well, it's exciting and you have to keep us updated.

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Speaker 3: Right, mm hmmm.

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Speaker 1: I might need to sign up this year because I

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Speaker 1: for yes, like I kept saying, after the new year,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, whoa, here we are. Yep, I didn't win

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Speaker 2: But then he was like, but that would require me

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Speaker 3: What did he say?

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Speaker 2: He said, this is stay here behind at home weather.

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Speaker 3: So cod I don't even know what I'd do with

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Speaker 1: I think there's two kinds of people in life, people

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Speaker 2: I mean, I understand the search because I've definitely used

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Speaker 2: its closing. My computer was like so painful, Like my computer.

439
00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:02,200
Speaker 2: We went to and we went and we we did

440
00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:03,360
Speaker 2: this thing called pole position.

441
00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:04,040
Speaker 3: Have you heard of that?

442
00:19:04,080 --> 00:19:08,119
Speaker 2: It's a indoor track, Like what is it called? Go

443
00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:10,199
Speaker 2: kart racing, but it's like the next level and it

444
00:19:10,280 --> 00:19:12,640
Speaker 2: was so much fun, and the people there really took

445
00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:17,040
Speaker 2: it too seriously. I'm like, really, dude, like people there

446
00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:19,000
Speaker 2: like clearly are like pole position addicts. But we had

447
00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:20,480
Speaker 2: so much fun. And then we went to get lunch

448
00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:24,600
Speaker 2: together from like our favorite restaurant. And so that's what

449
00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:26,320
Speaker 2: I want to do more of, like taking the time

450
00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:29,160
Speaker 2: to stop and say the work will literally always be there,

451
00:19:29,760 --> 00:19:32,960
Speaker 2: take a moment, relax, and then get back to work later.

452
00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:36,679
Speaker 1: That's amazing, especially on your launch day. I know that

453
00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:37,800
Speaker 1: he really appreciated that.

454
00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:39,680
Speaker 3: No, I think he did, because then later.

455
00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:41,440
Speaker 1: After closing the computer and saying.

456
00:19:41,280 --> 00:19:44,440
Speaker 3: I be fine for you exactly, it was literally so hard.

457
00:19:44,480 --> 00:19:47,399
Speaker 2: I was like, no, I'm fine, I'm fine, even though

458
00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:50,320
Speaker 2: my mind it was like timany there's so many emails

459
00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:52,160
Speaker 2: coming in and I'm like, you know what, and there

460
00:19:52,160 --> 00:19:53,000
Speaker 2: are just there gonna be.

461
00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:54,800
Speaker 3: So there's just always a lot of.

462
00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:57,040
Speaker 2: Emails launch day because someone always didn't get something or

463
00:19:57,080 --> 00:20:01,320
Speaker 2: someone doesn't understand something, and I'm like, it's it'll be fune, Tiffy, wait,

464
00:20:01,880 --> 00:20:04,760
Speaker 2: yeah exactly, Like no one You're not a doctor, so

465
00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:06,399
Speaker 2: no one's going to be like, oh my god, you

466
00:20:06,440 --> 00:20:08,359
Speaker 2: weren't here, so I lost my new heart or whatever.

467
00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:08,639
Speaker 3: You know.

468
00:20:09,240 --> 00:20:11,680
Speaker 1: I had to remind myself that recently about not taking

469
00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:14,280
Speaker 1: time off from work. I'm like, if you don't show up,

470
00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:17,520
Speaker 1: sorry to your ego, but the world is gonna go on, Like,

471
00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:21,359
Speaker 1: people will still visit Yahoo Finance if you're not at

472
00:20:21,400 --> 00:20:24,800
Speaker 1: your desk, So like, yeah, I know sometimes.

473
00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:26,560
Speaker 2: You do take it because you're like, I've gotta be here,

474
00:20:27,240 --> 00:20:30,240
Speaker 2: and you're like, really, this excuse.

475
00:20:29,840 --> 00:20:32,640
Speaker 1: For lack of building relationships too. I think people hide

476
00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:35,560
Speaker 1: behind their work, yes, God, just like, don't be afraid

477
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:38,040
Speaker 1: of getting out behind the desk. My desk is like

478
00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:39,800
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm chained to it every day. But

479
00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, am I really trained? I won't see any shackles.

480
00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:43,879
Speaker 1: I can get up and mingle and like you know,

481
00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:46,639
Speaker 1: walk around and stuff. But you get in that groove

482
00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:49,840
Speaker 1: and you get in this like and in some ways

483
00:20:49,880 --> 00:20:51,600
Speaker 1: it's comforting to think, oh, no, this is the way

484
00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:53,440
Speaker 1: it is, this is the way it's supposed to be. Yes,

485
00:20:54,000 --> 00:21:00,159
Speaker 1: you know, So here's to more relationships and not more,

486
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:05,040
Speaker 1: but better quality relationship time with coworkers, with family, with

487
00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:06,480
Speaker 1: I don't know, Rando's on the street.

488
00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:11,239
Speaker 2: Who knows exactly, because it's just what's the point if not,

489
00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:12,280
Speaker 2: you know, like.

490
00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 1: I want to be old and alone exactly, or just.

491
00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,159
Speaker 2: Like I don't want I want to be able to

492
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:18,919
Speaker 2: like I mean, I enjoy life, but I want to

493
00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:22,760
Speaker 2: just just at another level I don't, like, you know, lately,

494
00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:26,199
Speaker 2: I've been feeling like the next level of like I

495
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:30,359
Speaker 2: don't know if it's stress, but like I mean, I

496
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:32,200
Speaker 2: love doing a budgetisa, but I don't love as much

497
00:21:32,400 --> 00:21:35,280
Speaker 2: as I used to because I'm always doing it and

498
00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,720
Speaker 2: I'm like, Tiphany, what else brings you joy? And I

499
00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 2: had to think, and.

500
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Speaker 3: I'm like, uh, I don't know, and I'm like, dang,

501
00:21:42,160 --> 00:21:43,400
Speaker 3: you used to Like I.

502
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:44,919
Speaker 2: Used to take the trains of the city, although I'm

503
00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:46,359
Speaker 2: not doing this anymore, but I used to take the

504
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,040
Speaker 2: train to like Harlem and just walk around, or like

505
00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 2: I was an avid reader of all types of books,

506
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:54,520
Speaker 2: like you know, I love romance novels, but then I

507
00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:57,760
Speaker 2: loved racial novels and I love biographies and you know,

508
00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:00,560
Speaker 2: so but I don't even read as much I used to.

509
00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:04,520
Speaker 2: And I've actually babysat my nephew, my new nephew, he's

510
00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:06,199
Speaker 2: four months. I'm like, I told my sister, even though

511
00:22:06,200 --> 00:22:07,880
Speaker 2: I had work to do, I'm like, drop him off.

512
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 2: So she dropped him off for a few hours, and

513
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:11,680
Speaker 2: of course he cried the whole time until Superman held

514
00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,640
Speaker 2: him and then he looked at me like eh eh.

515
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 3: I was like, oh, okay, that's nice.

516
00:22:19,160 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 2: I know, but you know, so just to me, twenty

517
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:26,119
Speaker 2: sixteen really is a year of balance of like, you know,

518
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:28,920
Speaker 2: doing the remembering the other things that I love, because

519
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 2: what I've learned is that you can't just do one

520
00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 2: of the things you love because then you're got.

521
00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,760
Speaker 3: To grow to hate it. And so like you have

522
00:22:36,800 --> 00:22:37,600
Speaker 3: to ask yourself, like.

523
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:39,800
Speaker 2: You know, what's the mix. What's a good mix for

524
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:41,720
Speaker 2: what you love? You know, a little bit of work,

525
00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:43,679
Speaker 2: a little bit of boo, a little bit of family

526
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:45,280
Speaker 2: and kind of getting that in.

527
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,600
Speaker 1: And a happy Tiffany means people will continue to look

528
00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 1: at you, especially if from the literature challenge, and say, okay,

529
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:53,399
Speaker 1: if she's happy, and then kind to buy into what

530
00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:54,840
Speaker 1: you're selling, you know what I mean, Not if you're

531
00:22:54,880 --> 00:22:55,800
Speaker 1: like Haggard and.

532
00:22:55,840 --> 00:23:00,160
Speaker 3: I know, like I'm tired, why like here's a literature.

533
00:23:01,680 --> 00:23:02,080
Speaker 1: Alone.

534
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:05,959
Speaker 2: Sometimes I would get emails, and I'm like, what does

535
00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 2: this mean? But now I'm just like I've learned to

536
00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:10,440
Speaker 2: just I don't know. Plus two, you know what helped

537
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:12,320
Speaker 2: to one of my friends, And this is why it's

538
00:23:12,359 --> 00:23:16,439
Speaker 2: good to have peers and mentors and other people in

539
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:17,960
Speaker 2: your life kind of that you can kind of like

540
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,679
Speaker 2: tap into And one of my friends, her name is

541
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 2: Memi G Style, and she is dope.

542
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 3: She's like out of California.

543
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:27,159
Speaker 2: She's got like a million Facebook followers or she was

544
00:23:27,160 --> 00:23:29,160
Speaker 2: like an overnight success. It was like in like a year,

545
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,680
Speaker 2: she just kaboomed, like her her brand, and so I

546
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:34,800
Speaker 2: couldn't think of anybody else to reach out to to

547
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:36,600
Speaker 2: ask what do you do when you're kind of like

548
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,920
Speaker 2: out of soorce or feeling overwhelmed, And she just gave

549
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:42,640
Speaker 2: me such great advice. She said, honestly, Tiffany, you have

550
00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 2: to set clear boundaries.

551
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 3: And now you hear that.

552
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:48,560
Speaker 2: But then she gave me some boundary suggestions and she

553
00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 2: was like, for example, she does not answer financial enough

554
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:53,879
Speaker 2: financial but she me me G Style like makes her

555
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:57,000
Speaker 2: own clothes. She's like, I don't answer sewing questions on

556
00:23:57,280 --> 00:24:00,000
Speaker 2: social media platforms behind the scenes, like on Twitter, her instance,

557
00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:03,399
Speaker 2: she said, because there's so many inboxes, I can't possibly

558
00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:05,399
Speaker 2: manage all of them, so I just don't.

559
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 3: She said.

560
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:09,120
Speaker 2: If someone doesn't take enough effort to go to my website,

561
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 2: She's like, it's my name, it's my handle, it's all

562
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 2: over everywhere, and then click contact me and ask the

563
00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 2: question there. Then I'm not going to answer behind the scenes.

564
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:20,159
Speaker 2: And at first I was like, no, you have to

565
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:23,040
Speaker 2: be accessible, but I thought about what she said and

566
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 2: I started implementing it, and no one has died.

567
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:26,920
Speaker 3: And she's right.

568
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:29,120
Speaker 2: If someone really has a question, they will find you

569
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 2: in the appropriate way, which is your email inbox versus

570
00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:33,119
Speaker 2: asking on Twitter.

571
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:35,879
Speaker 3: Hey girl, so how do you retire? Via one hundred

572
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 3: and forty characters.

573
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,639
Speaker 2: And so like just like setting like clear boundaries or

574
00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:43,920
Speaker 2: like now too, I don't answer because Facebook was a

575
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:46,359
Speaker 2: huge place for people to hit me up in my

576
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 2: private inbox, so I don't answer those questions anymore there. Yeah,

577
00:24:51,960 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 2: so setting boundaries is just one of my core thanks

578
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:55,680
Speaker 2: for twenty sixteen as well.

579
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that goes for YouTube Burne ambition, fam y we

580
00:25:00,760 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 1: say our email address on every podcast. No, it's great,

581
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,440
Speaker 1: So if you want to email us, well, Brown Ambition

582
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:22,200
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com. We actually got a really

583
00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 1: good reader question today which we can share later. I think, okay,

584
00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 1: let's move on to the next.

585
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 2: So we're looking for, well, do you have any not buzzworthies?

586
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:35,160
Speaker 2: Do you have any breaks?

587
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 3: Brown breaks?

588
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: I want to continue. I want to double down on

589
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:39,640
Speaker 1: my brown break. This is not a cop out. I've

590
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:41,399
Speaker 1: really thought about it. I want to double down on

591
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 1: my brown break from last week or the week before,

592
00:25:43,560 --> 00:25:48,680
Speaker 1: which was to go on a spending cleanse for January.

593
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:49,920
Speaker 3: I haven't.

594
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 1: Well. I had to pay gass on my trip this weekend,

595
00:25:52,080 --> 00:25:54,480
Speaker 1: but other than that, I've kind of been good. I

596
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 1: just turned down, like I just filled out a seamless

597
00:25:57,320 --> 00:26:00,159
Speaker 1: order and then I deleted it after like staring at

598
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 1: the screen for ten minutes. But I'm like, this is

599
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:04,800
Speaker 1: not so I'm deleting my sceneless app. That's a huge

600
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,360
Speaker 1: money suck for me, Okay, And I'm just gonna try

601
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 1: and go back to basics. And it's not that I

602
00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:12,959
Speaker 1: need to be pinching pennies necessarily, but I want I

603
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:16,439
Speaker 1: feel like I have been spending a lot for like

604
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:19,679
Speaker 1: kind of chasing like little spurts of fun and like

605
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:22,119
Speaker 1: or whatever. And like it's not really helping me. And

606
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm getting back into the sort of

607
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 1: like the spiral of just spend, spend, spend without thinking

608
00:26:27,520 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 1: about it, and I want to, Yeah, I kind of

609
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,600
Speaker 1: get out of that. So I'm gonna I'm gonna really

610
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:34,840
Speaker 1: try and not spend money in January. Luckily, I've already

611
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:38,160
Speaker 1: I bought tickets for a couple of concerts like in November,

612
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: so I'm still gonna have fun, but I'm not gonna

613
00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna spend that much this month.

614
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 2: Well that's a good brown break, It's like me for me,

615
00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: my brown bak is really too. I'm taking any brown

616
00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:55,440
Speaker 2: break from from stress. So now I was gonna say overworking,

617
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,879
Speaker 2: but more so from the emotional part of it. So

618
00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:01,720
Speaker 2: I'm just like, yeah, nothing is really that serious. So

619
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 2: I told myself, Okay, I'm gonna take a brown break

620
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 2: from always because I'm like super sensitive and also too,

621
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:10,640
Speaker 2: I care a lot, so I'm like the typical middle.

622
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,400
Speaker 3: Child, like like, be love me, what did I do?

623
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 3: Tell me how to fix it?

624
00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:17,199
Speaker 2: I'll do anything, you know, And so I'm like, man,

625
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:20,679
Speaker 2: that is very like tiring and stressful, especially as you

626
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 2: start to invite more people into your life. And so

627
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 2: I'm just like, yeah, I'm gonna take a brown break

628
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 2: from that. And I told myself that just to chill,

629
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 2: and actually I'm gonna do the opposite of you. Because

630
00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 2: I never spend anything. I'm always like, well it's a

631
00:27:33,720 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 2: little bit too much. Oh, I'm not gonna get that.

632
00:27:35,800 --> 00:27:39,040
Speaker 2: And I'm like, Tiffany, you haven't bought yourself anything, like

633
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:41,560
Speaker 2: outside of stuff that's like technical stuff that I need

634
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 2: for business, you know, like even my clothes and anything

635
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:45,600
Speaker 2: that's new. It's always like, well, this is a Budge

636
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:47,800
Speaker 2: of Liza outfit. So I'm like, no, I'm taking a

637
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,719
Speaker 2: brown break from Penny Pinching too. I'm gonna do two

638
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 2: brown breaks from stress and Penny Pinching. Twenty sixteen. I'm

639
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 2: finally gonna upgrade my car. I have a ninety nine

640
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 2: Toya to camera.

641
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 1: Yeah.

642
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 2: It's like, yes, I've met that car. It's my second

643
00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 2: car adult life. I've had that car. When I got

644
00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 2: the car, it was already eight years old. So I'm like, Tiffy,

645
00:28:05,880 --> 00:28:08,720
Speaker 2: it's okay to get yourself something a little bit nicer.

646
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 2: You've been working hard for it. So you might see

647
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:12,919
Speaker 2: me and arranged. Like, I don't know, I don't know

648
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 2: something nice, but I don't know something befitting someone.

649
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:17,280
Speaker 3: Who works hard.

650
00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 2: So round break from penny pinching and brown break from stress.

651
00:28:21,800 --> 00:28:24,280
Speaker 1: Things that matter. A quality car is a good investment,

652
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:26,480
Speaker 1: it is, man. I feel that the same way about

653
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 1: my glasses right now. My glasses are so scratched up,

654
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, Mandy, your handbag costs more than it

655
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Speaker 1: would be to replace these glasses which you use every day,

656
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 1: which you need to see and not to die and work.

657
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Speaker 1: And yet I'm just like I can handle this.

658
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Speaker 3: No, I can't.

659
00:28:40,960 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: The scratches are out of control. Ah, thank goodness for

660
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Speaker 1: a new round of insurance.

661
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's right. Every news in January, right, m they'd.

662
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: Be killing me with that, Like one, you only get

663
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,800
Speaker 1: contacts or glasses, And I'm like, but I wear boats.

664
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Speaker 1: What do I do?

665
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Speaker 3: What shall I do?

666
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Speaker 1: We're just gonna buy both, damn it, because it's an investment.

667
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: So this week we have a reader question from Macara. Macara,

668
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Speaker 1: thanks for sending us an email. She has a really,

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Speaker 1: really good question that I think a lot of people

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Speaker 1: can relate to. So Macara, who is of Cambodian descent.

671
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Speaker 1: She's Cambodian American, says she has a question. She'd like

672
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Speaker 1: to continue building her career in the project management field,

673
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,880
Speaker 1: and she's worked really hard on getting to a place

674
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 1: where she feels financially secure. But she's torn because she

675
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Speaker 1: wants to go to Cambodia for a year and really

676
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Speaker 1: dive into her heritage, be around her language and the culture.

677
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Speaker 1: She said she came here when she was four years

678
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Speaker 1: old and her family was on government assistance. She never

679
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 1: grew up with parents working in corporate America, and it

680
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:53,000
Speaker 1: sounds like now she finally is. She's thirty three and

681
00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 1: she's getting into the groove of her career path and

682
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:59,960
Speaker 1: project management. However, like a lot of people her age are,

683
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Speaker 1: she doesn't have a lot of money saved and absolutely nothing,

684
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:07,479
Speaker 1: she says, in retirement, which she's not so proud of.

685
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 1: So now she has a question. Her mother wants her

686
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Speaker 1: to buy a house so her mother can come and

687
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Speaker 1: live with her. She says, culturally, I don't mind doing that,

688
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Speaker 1: but I'm not ready financially and emotionally. She wants to

689
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Speaker 1: live in Cambodia for a year to get it out

690
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Speaker 1: of her system before quote unquote settling down with my mom,

691
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Speaker 1: She says, I want to speak my language and experience

692
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Speaker 1: my culture before I finally have to be an adult. Adult.

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Speaker 1: We'll talk about that, okay. However, would I be losing

694
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Speaker 1: a lot financially if I go work in a country

695
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Speaker 1: with less earning potential. She thinks the answer is obvious,

696
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Speaker 1: but she wants to know if this is something that

697
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Speaker 1: you know it's too late for her. Should I have

698
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Speaker 1: done this in my twenties? It took me a long

699
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Speaker 1: time to get to where I am today. Because another

700
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Speaker 1: aspect to her story is that her father passed away

701
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Speaker 1: when she was twenty two, and she had to shell

702
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Speaker 1: out a lot of money to help pay for his

703
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Speaker 1: funeral expenses. It's taken her a full decade to get

704
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Speaker 1: back to a place where she feels financially healthy since

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Speaker 1: he's passed away. So essentially, her question, Macara, is should

706
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Speaker 1: I stay or should I go?

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Speaker 3: I mean, well, I.

708
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Speaker 2: Would say this, Macara that if you it's to me,

709
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Speaker 2: the age is not as big of an issue. I mean,

710
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Speaker 2: I didn't start my business really until I was like

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Speaker 2: thirty thirty one. But at the same time, I get

712
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Speaker 2: what you're saying. Financially you want to make the best

713
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Speaker 2: financial choice. But to me, this is the type of

714
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Speaker 2: thing that think with your heart first and then figure

715
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Speaker 2: out how to make it work with your head, you know,

716
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 2: because there's nothing worse than a.

717
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 3: Life with regrets.

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Speaker 2: I would hate for you to be fifty and be like,

719
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Speaker 2: you know what, thirty three, I was stinking baby, because

720
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Speaker 2: I have a lot of older friends, and so when

721
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Speaker 2: I used to tell them, I'm like, I don't know

722
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Speaker 2: if I should do it.

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Speaker 3: I'm thirty one, I'm getting so old, they'd be like, what,

724
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Speaker 3: I'm twenty five, girl, You're a baby.

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Speaker 2: Go for it. And so, yeah, I think that you

726
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Speaker 2: can make it work. Actually, Cambodia, the cost of living,

727
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Speaker 2: I've heard it's significantly less, right, Mandy, didn't you say

728
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Speaker 2: something about definitely trying to figure out a way to

729
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Speaker 2: work in Cambodia.

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Speaker 1: Absolutely, And I mean, well, first of all, what I

731
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:14,040
Speaker 1: was gonna say is I think you can make this

732
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Speaker 1: really affordable. I think I think that Southeast Asia, this

733
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Speaker 1: in the area in Cambodia can be very affordable to travel.

734
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Speaker 1: Not to mention it sounds like you have family roots there.

735
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Speaker 1: I would say, work those family connections and see if

736
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Speaker 1: there's a place you could stay for free even or

737
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Speaker 1: for a little bit of money and project management, maybe

738
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Speaker 1: a skill you find that could be transferable to a

739
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Speaker 1: job in Cambodia. Yes, you'd be making less, but maybe

740
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Speaker 1: you could save while you're there, even because the cost

741
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Speaker 1: of living would be so low. I would say, you

742
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Speaker 1: haven't really meant she hasn't really mentioned like what her

743
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Speaker 1: idea of life in Cambodia could be. Like, I don't

744
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Speaker 1: know if she wants to travel to you know, at

745
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:54,680
Speaker 1: luxury resorts or something like that. But maybe you're having

746
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 1: trouble envisioning yourself there because your expectations of what your

747
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,640
Speaker 1: travel there might look like aren't really in line with

748
00:33:01,680 --> 00:33:05,280
Speaker 1: what you could afford. Yeah, but I say go for it.

749
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Speaker 3: I don't think.

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Speaker 1: I don't think thirty three is too old at all.

751
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 1: I don't think life ends in your twenties. I hope not.

752
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Speaker 3: No, sure, only got two more years to live. No, honestly,

753
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 3: it does it.

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Speaker 2: And definitely there were times like, for example, in my twenties,

755
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 2: I was always like, well, I wanted to travel, but

756
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Speaker 2: I was like.

757
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 3: Well, I should save, and I should stock away.

758
00:33:24,200 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 2: And I should And it wasn't really until I hit

759
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Speaker 2: my early thirties that I was like, I should have

760
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Speaker 2: done these things in my twenties. So I did them

761
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Speaker 2: in my thirties, Like my first three or four years

762
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Speaker 2: of my thirties, I'm thirty six now. I spent it

763
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Speaker 2: like I was twenty five. I like shared a room,

764
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Speaker 2: like I lived in a room in the house. I

765
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Speaker 2: had a little beatdown car. I traveled the world all

766
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Speaker 2: the time, even though I'd had no money. I mean,

767
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Speaker 2: within the span of like three or four years, I

768
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Speaker 2: went to like over twenty nearly thirty countries and I

769
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Speaker 2: wasn't even working. I'd lost my job due to unemployment.

770
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Speaker 2: And I was like, I had a house. That's well,

771
00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:01,600
Speaker 2: let me not say that online. Let's just say I

772
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:03,680
Speaker 2: was running out some property and that was using some

773
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:07,719
Speaker 2: of that money to travel with and it was totally

774
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 2: not the probably the most responsible way to be financially,

775
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Speaker 2: but I wasn't completely irresponsible. But I'm so glad that

776
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Speaker 2: I chose to explore and kind of like live this

777
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,120
Speaker 2: other side of life. And if you're not ready to

778
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:25,319
Speaker 2: believe me, a house is a big responsibility. So that

779
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:28,399
Speaker 2: is not something that you should do for someone else,

780
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:29,960
Speaker 2: you know, definitely you want to be ready for that

781
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: because that's going to take a huge financial chunk out

782
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Speaker 2: of what you're making. So if there's something you kind

783
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Speaker 2: of want to do and explore, do it. But like

784
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Speaker 2: I said, lead with your heart as far as doing it,

785
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 2: but use your mind to figure out how can I

786
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Speaker 2: do so in the most financially responsible way possible.

787
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Speaker 3: But yeah, go for it. Life is so short.

788
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 2: You don't want to look back and be like, why

789
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:54,200
Speaker 2: did I go?

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Speaker 1: And the other part of I totally agree absolutely. I mean,

791
00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:00,840
Speaker 1: after college, I turned out a job for and traveled

792
00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:03,600
Speaker 1: for six months in South America, and everyone said I

793
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 1: was crazy, including my little brother who thought he was

794
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,360
Speaker 1: like my business manager. But it was the best. Not

795
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 1: only did it help me, I mean I know again

796
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 1: I was, I was young, but like it. I feel

797
00:35:12,160 --> 00:35:17,240
Speaker 1: like I believe wholeheartedly it made me more a better

798
00:35:17,440 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 1: candidate for jobs when I returned, in terms of my

799
00:35:20,200 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 1: experience and the fact that I'd been somewhere else and

800
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:26,359
Speaker 1: I had interesting stories and perspective. But I wanted to

801
00:35:26,440 --> 00:35:28,400
Speaker 1: go back to that. Yet you mentioned her mom. This

802
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 1: is a huge part of this question. I feel like

803
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:31,840
Speaker 1: it's this pressure from her mother to buy a house

804
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Speaker 1: and then have her come and live with her. And

805
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:38,240
Speaker 1: I think that culturally this is very common in pretty

806
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: much every culture besides America, right, I mean, it's quite

807
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:43,959
Speaker 1: common for the parents to move in with the kids,

808
00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 1: and I think that can be, you know, a good thing.

809
00:35:46,440 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: It's and I mean, obviously it makes sense over I mean,

810
00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 1: it makes sense from like an evolutionary standpoint, like you

811
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 1: need help, like you need help with rearing children. And

812
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 1: we see why parents would want to move home. The

813
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:00,959
Speaker 1: parents need support from the kids as they get older,

814
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:03,719
Speaker 1: and they can offer childcare or whatever. But if that's

815
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:06,960
Speaker 1: not the place that you're in right now, I think

816
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: that you shouldn't feel pressure to russian to purchasing property

817
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:16,359
Speaker 1: just to sort of fulfill this cultural responsibility. And it's

818
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 1: not like you couldn't do it in the future. She

819
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,879
Speaker 1: doesn't say if she has any siblings. Maybe if she's

820
00:36:21,880 --> 00:36:24,600
Speaker 1: an only child, there's an extra pressure which is really tough,

821
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 1: you know.

822
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:27,879
Speaker 2: And especially now if you don't have kids. Man, now

823
00:36:27,960 --> 00:36:29,480
Speaker 2: is the time to really go for things.

824
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:31,799
Speaker 1: And she says she wants to do this before she

825
00:36:31,840 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 1: has to be an adult adult exactly an adult thing

826
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 1: is hard, but it already sounds like you're doing a

827
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 1: lot of adulting, Like at the age of twenty two

828
00:36:41,160 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 1: you stepped up and helped your mom pay for your

829
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 1: dad's funeral expenses, and just dealing with the grief of

830
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:49,160
Speaker 1: losing a father that young. That's a lot of adult

831
00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 1: thing you've already done. So maybe you deserve a chance

832
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 1: to make up for a time you probably lost in

833
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,400
Speaker 1: your twenties when you were sort of taking on more

834
00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:59,280
Speaker 1: of your household responsibilities. And I don't think you should

835
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Speaker 1: feel guilty about that at all.

836
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Speaker 3: Agreed.

837
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Speaker 1: And there's something that one of my favorite writers, cheryld Stray.

838
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:09,319
Speaker 1: Cheryl Strade says she also has a podcast called Deer

839
00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 1: Sugar and She's and where she takes questions from readers,

840
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 1: and she always says that when she gets questions from readers,

841
00:37:14,800 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 1: she can tell that they not readers listeners. She can

842
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 1: tell that the person writing already knows what they are at,

843
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,480
Speaker 1: They already know the question, the answer to their question,

844
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,200
Speaker 1: or what they want to hear. And I feel like

845
00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:31,799
Speaker 1: Macara really knows she should go mm hmm and know

846
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 1: she wants to, but hey, if it helps for us

847
00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 1: to say we support you, then we support you.

848
00:37:36,760 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 3: Yes, just right? I want you to send me a

849
00:37:38,480 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 3: picture of you and Cambodia, like.

850
00:37:39,719 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 1: Hey, girls, we're here.

851
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 2: I'm here, and if you never know, you might find

852
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,640
Speaker 2: your future husband in Cambodia.

853
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 1: I mean it's a beautiful place. I've heard mm hmmm.

854
00:37:47,760 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 3: I haven't been, but I've heard that. I've heard that

855
00:37:49,560 --> 00:37:49,919
Speaker 3: as well.

856
00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:52,560
Speaker 1: And it is super affordable, So there's resources out there.

857
00:37:52,560 --> 00:37:54,760
Speaker 1: I mean, look just look at budget travel and Cambodia.

858
00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,080
Speaker 1: I I guarantee you can make it happen, especially if

859
00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: you get that that family connection to help you with

860
00:37:59,719 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 1: your living expenses.

861
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:03,480
Speaker 2: Or even doing something online, like how dope would it

862
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:06,919
Speaker 2: be if maybe you were to blog or you found

863
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 2: some sort of job that you can work online, so

864
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 2: that way you can make you know, the American dollar,

865
00:38:12,160 --> 00:38:14,759
Speaker 2: but be living on Cambodian expenses. You know, you might

866
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 2: actually save more.

867
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Speaker 1: There's a lot of people who meant who work out

868
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 1: freelance work beforehand with American based companies, or maybe your

869
00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 1: job would even let you, or you can do consulting.

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Speaker 1: Project management is like a very common like job. Maybe

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Speaker 1: there's consulting opportunities out there. I would see. I don't

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Speaker 1: limit yourself, and I mean we have to sort of

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Speaker 1: wrap up this question now, but if there's any other

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Speaker 1: progress you make on this, like, definitely email us, let

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Speaker 1: us know. We want to hear all about your plans

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Speaker 1: and see if you make it.

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Speaker 3: Yes, go go go now.

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Speaker 1: I want to go on vacation. Wins my wins. Just

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Speaker 1: to bring things full circle, I have to say that

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Speaker 1: my win was the time I spent with my Unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: I didn't get to spend time with my family this

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Speaker 1: holiday except for my dad, which was nice, which I mentioned,

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Speaker 1: which it was tough. It was as tough as I

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Speaker 1: thought it was going to be not to be with

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Speaker 1: my mom Christmas morning, and I had like my baby

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Speaker 1: moment of like, you know, oh, I'm lost in the world,

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Speaker 1: but you know, taking the time to spend time with

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Speaker 1: these really special friends who I see just a few

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Speaker 1: times a year this week I was completely reinvigorating and

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Speaker 1: it really re centered me and my focus for the

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Speaker 1: new year. So I'm just grateful to them. And I

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Speaker 1: know a couple of them are listening, So I just

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Speaker 1: want to say I love them and I really value

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Speaker 1: their friendship, and I mean that's what's really important, and

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Speaker 1: I'm really grateful to them for that.

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Speaker 2: And Honestly, my win is really similar too that I

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Speaker 2: want my wind to be that I was really able

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Speaker 2: to spend time with my family. It wasn't just like

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Speaker 2: oh Christmas morning, No, like yesterday. We had like a

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Speaker 2: family brunch and it was nice to have all my sisters,

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Speaker 2: my mom, and my dad, my sister's husband and her

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Speaker 2: new baby and to hang out. And then afterwards I

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Speaker 2: hung out with my older sister who lives in Chicago,

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Speaker 2: and so it was just nice. It was just a

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Speaker 2: lot of family time and to hang out with Superman

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Speaker 2: the Supergirl, and so I spent even though it probably

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Speaker 2: was like the busiest time of the year for me,

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Speaker 2: I actually took the most time off, which was really nice,

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Speaker 2: and so that was definitely a win for me.

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Speaker 1: And I know that once the dust settle, the dust

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Speaker 1: suttles from launch week, hopefully you can step back and

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Speaker 1: appreciate the amazing work that you're doing. I mean, you

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Speaker 1: tripled the Liberature challenge in a year, tripled.

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Speaker 3: I know.

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Speaker 1: I know a lot of companies that would love to

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Speaker 1: triple their user base.

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Speaker 2: I know, and I say I was looking behind the

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Speaker 2: scenes on like the Budgetnissa page on Facebook. I was like, wait,

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Speaker 2: we had like a reach of like eight hundred thousand.

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Speaker 3: I'm like, what, Wow, Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Are you listening, sponsors, Are you listening exactly?

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Speaker 2: You already know how I feel about them, Sponsors.

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Speaker 1: I love y'allngrats, and I can't wait to see how

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Speaker 1: far the Liberature Challenge again. It's Liberature Challenge got net. Yes,

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Speaker 1: so thanks and happy New Year everybody. Yes, Happy New Year.