1 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:09,280 Speaker 1: You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garl. Hello 2 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:14,680 Speaker 1: and Happy holidays, Happy Holidays, Welcome to I Choose Me. 3 00:00:15,280 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 1: This podcast is all about making choices, choices that help 4 00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: create peace and wholeness for you and the people you love. 5 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:28,479 Speaker 1: Doesn't that sound good? This year, I have had the 6 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:33,199 Speaker 1: honor of sitting down with some really incredible guests. I've 7 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 1: been so lucky to have shared some really powerful stories 8 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: but also some powerful ways to choose yourself during the holidays, 9 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:44,680 Speaker 1: which can be the hardest time to take care of 10 00:00:44,720 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: our own needs. Let's be honest before we hear from 11 00:00:47,760 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: my fab friends Gabrielle Carteris Evett, Nicole Brown, Candace Cameron 12 00:00:53,120 --> 00:00:57,480 Speaker 1: Beret and others. Let me share my very favorite and 13 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: very easy I Choose Me moment for this season and 14 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:06,039 Speaker 1: something I'm gonna do. Choose a holiday tradition because you 15 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: love it, not because they love it. It could be 16 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:14,679 Speaker 1: watching your favorite holiday movie because you want to watch it. 17 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:18,399 Speaker 1: Don't let them pick the movie. It could be a 18 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:23,400 Speaker 1: recipe that brings back those childhood memories, or maybe you 19 00:01:23,440 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: know something that's going on in your neighborhood. Pick a 20 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:31,399 Speaker 1: local Christmas eve service you know with beautiful music just 21 00:01:31,440 --> 00:01:35,800 Speaker 1: make you feel so good. So pick one ritual that 22 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:40,479 Speaker 1: fills you up and make it non negotiable. Because when 23 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 1: you anchor yourself in something that brings you real comfort, 24 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: it naturally softens everything else around you. So cheers to 25 00:01:51,480 --> 00:01:55,040 Speaker 1: choosing yourself this holiday. Here are some tips from my 26 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: friends to have a happy and stress free holiday season. 27 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: Candice Cameron Burray, what is the one way that you 28 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:07,360 Speaker 1: find to choose yourself during the holidays to enjoy the 29 00:02:07,360 --> 00:02:10,200 Speaker 1: holiday amidst all of the chaos of the season. 30 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:14,240 Speaker 2: That's fun day. 31 00:02:14,919 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: It's it's hard because Christmas is, especially when you've raised kids, 32 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: it's a lot of work. It's a ton of work, 33 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 1: and you're tired. 34 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:30,799 Speaker 2: I think, I know, I can I answer this into 35 00:02:31,160 --> 00:02:32,840 Speaker 2: you choose which answer you want. 36 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 3: Okay, okay. 37 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 2: I love decorating my Christmas tree and I usually do 38 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:39,360 Speaker 2: it on myself because no one wants to help me, 39 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 2: to be honest, but. 40 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 3: I love it. 41 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 2: And so I put a Christmas movie on, which is 42 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:51,560 Speaker 2: usually White Christmas or like Miracle on thirty four Streets, 43 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 2: something old, and I just love it, but usually White 44 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 2: Christmas because I love the dancing in it, and I 45 00:02:57,280 --> 00:03:00,520 Speaker 2: just I just decorate like by myself, no when no 46 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:03,720 Speaker 2: one else is around, and I like, I love it. 47 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 2: This makes me really happy during the holidays. The other 48 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 2: thing I like in that during Christmas time is I 49 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 2: need everyone to get dressed up. One night. I need 50 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 2: to put on like the Christmas outfit, and nobody ever 51 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 2: wants to do that. 52 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 3: But I don't know why. 53 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 2: Everyone wants to stay cozy and pjs. But I like 54 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 2: to get like one night of a holiday Christmas y dressed, 55 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 2: fancy cocktail night kind of thing. And I don't know. 56 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 2: I feel like I force everyone to go to something 57 00:03:37,120 --> 00:03:40,320 Speaker 2: during the holidays that they don't want to. So mama 58 00:03:40,360 --> 00:03:41,440 Speaker 2: wants to get dressed up. 59 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:47,680 Speaker 1: Oh, I think that's great, Jen hat Maker, give me 60 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: one tip, one way we can choose ourselves during the 61 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 1: holiday season. 62 00:03:54,280 --> 00:04:01,119 Speaker 4: Oh my god, do not be afraid to say no. 63 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 4: Do not be afraid. You will not ruin everybody's Christmas. 64 00:04:04,840 --> 00:04:07,200 Speaker 4: You will not ruin your Christmas. You will not ruin 65 00:04:07,280 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 4: Christmas itself. If something comes up and it feels like 66 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 4: too much, too long, too far, too hard, too busy, 67 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 4: you with no equivocation, can say thank you so much 68 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:24,880 Speaker 4: for inviting me. I cannot I won't be able to 69 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:26,840 Speaker 4: make that, or I will not be able to put 70 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 4: up a second Christmas tree this year, or I will 71 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 4: not be able to be in that gift exchange, or 72 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 4: I can't come to that party. Thank you, So do 73 00:04:35,360 --> 00:04:39,120 Speaker 4: not be afraid to say no. Everybody is inviting everybody 74 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:44,280 Speaker 4: to everything everywhere. So I spent a lot of Christmas 75 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:46,840 Speaker 4: is trying to please everybody who wanted me to be anywhere, 76 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:52,839 Speaker 4: and it was disastrous. So this is your season. You 77 00:04:52,960 --> 00:04:55,919 Speaker 4: chart your path, You build out your own rhythms in 78 00:04:55,920 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 4: a way that feels like delightful to you. 79 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:05,480 Speaker 1: Perfect Theresa Kabudo, I'm just gonna ask you, how do 80 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: you choose yourself during the craziness of Christmas. 81 00:05:08,760 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 5: Oh, I think it's easier now because my kids are old, 82 00:05:11,920 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 5: so it's it's easier. But I always put a present 83 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 5: under the tree from Santa to Teresa. 84 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:21,600 Speaker 6: You are a smart Oh. 85 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, I love I love gifts. I love shopping. I 86 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 5: just I just I just love things. 87 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:34,080 Speaker 1: Well, speaking of shopping, be sure to check out your 88 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 1: beautiful jewelry line Divinely Guided, Finely Guided. 89 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:38,479 Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean. 90 00:05:38,320 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 3: It's so special. 91 00:05:39,279 --> 00:05:41,640 Speaker 5: I mean I really just wanted to create something because 92 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:45,160 Speaker 5: Heaven and Earth really do meat at the smallest moments, 93 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:48,000 Speaker 5: and I want everyone to find that. And that's why, 94 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 5: like even the pieces of wearing tete like this this 95 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 5: cross that we just it's a for our QBC to 96 00:05:54,920 --> 00:05:57,400 Speaker 5: kind of give people, no matter what faith they are, 97 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:00,560 Speaker 5: to give them that kind of little their little faith back. 98 00:06:00,560 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: Just a little reminder. 99 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 5: This is the let the light impendent. 100 00:06:03,200 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: Okay, you I got that one. That's the one you 101 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 1: sent me. That's the light dependent. 102 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,039 Speaker 5: Yeah, because in our darkest times we have to remember 103 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:14,520 Speaker 5: to let the light in. And this is when the 104 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 5: light hits this. You can see it like it reflects it, 105 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 5: but it also comes in and it's surrounded by on 106 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:25,240 Speaker 5: the top it says grounding strength and power to remind 107 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:28,120 Speaker 5: ourselves to ground us and that we have the strength 108 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 5: and power to let the light in even in our 109 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 5: darkest moment. 110 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I gotta go put it on. 111 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:37,040 Speaker 5: See and then I'm also wearing what my rosary beats. 112 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that's so good. How does Evette Nicole 113 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:49,679 Speaker 1: Brown get through the chaos of the holidays woo. 114 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 3: By not partaking in any of it? 115 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 8: I answer, I've heard telling you. I don't. I don't 116 00:06:55,839 --> 00:06:59,240 Speaker 8: trick or treat. I don't dress up for halle Thanksgiving. 117 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:00,400 Speaker 3: I usually get me a. 118 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 8: Little smoked turkey breast from a honey baked ham, like 119 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 8: two weeks before Thanksgiving and make my little meal. And 120 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:10,160 Speaker 8: by the time everybody else eating Thanksgiving, I've already had 121 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 8: my turkey and sweet potatoes over and over again. And 122 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,480 Speaker 8: then when it comes to Christmas, you know, I don't 123 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 8: do the family card, I don't do the year letter. 124 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:25,000 Speaker 1: I feel repulsed by both of those things. 125 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:27,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, I just think like I can't. I don't have it. 126 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 8: I don't remember what happened yesterday. Let alone tell you 127 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:31,680 Speaker 8: what happened in January and walk you through it. 128 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:35,600 Speaker 3: And I may have a Christmas tree that's been up 129 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 3: for two years. 130 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:38,960 Speaker 1: Oh it's just ready. 131 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 3: So that song. 132 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:41,840 Speaker 8: We need a little Christmas right this very minute, going 133 00:07:41,840 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 8: to the family room. There's some Christmas body. 134 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 3: So I honestly do not. I don't deal with any 135 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:47,560 Speaker 3: of it. I don't do any of it. 136 00:07:48,080 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: Well, Merry Christmas, happening, all the things forever, we don't 137 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:53,880 Speaker 1: ever have to talk about it again. 138 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't do it. 139 00:07:56,520 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 1: Hard enough, I don't want it, says take it easy 140 00:07:59,080 --> 00:07:59,920 Speaker 1: on yourselves people. 141 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:01,920 Speaker 3: That's what I'm trying to tell people. Y'all better relax. 142 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 1: How about you enjoy the day? 143 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 9: How about. 144 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:06,400 Speaker 10: All right? 145 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 1: Thank you so much for spending time with me. I 146 00:08:09,200 --> 00:08:10,040 Speaker 1: really love seeing you. 147 00:08:10,320 --> 00:08:15,200 Speaker 3: Yes, thank you, Brooke Broke. 148 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: What is the one way that you find to separate 149 00:08:18,560 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 1: yourself from the chaos that is the holiday season? 150 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 9: So hard? Holidays have always been madness around my house. 151 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 9: I bett they're organizing the clean up. I love the 152 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:33,120 Speaker 9: family time. 153 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:33,880 Speaker 11: It's hard. 154 00:08:34,800 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 9: I feel like my children are older now, so it's 155 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,600 Speaker 9: a little bit less is more. You remember the days 156 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 9: of trying to do all these We still do stockings, 157 00:08:43,960 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 9: by the way, even for my older kids. It's fun 158 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 9: thing in our house. But letting them really, I guess, 159 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 9: get involved and make some wishes and get the more 160 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 9: significant thing instead of a bunch. But I don't compromise 161 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:59,160 Speaker 9: my wellness around the holidays. I find that yoga is 162 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 9: my reset, my therapy, it's my medicine. It's calming for me. Lately, 163 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 9: I'm trying to do one class in the evening because 164 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 9: it helps me really wind down and drop into a 165 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:14,320 Speaker 9: greater sleep state. But I'm walking a lot trying to 166 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:18,920 Speaker 9: take some digestion walks because there's more food, there's more flavors, 167 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:21,880 Speaker 9: there's more decades we're drinking, like whatever your jam is. 168 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 9: There's just a lot more going on. And I maybe 169 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 9: add in a class. It schedule allows during the holidays. 170 00:09:29,640 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 9: One of the reasons why I like the app world 171 00:09:31,640 --> 00:09:33,800 Speaker 9: or the digital world, whether it's with me or somebody else, 172 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 9: even on YouTube, get free content. I don't have to 173 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 9: drive anywhere or go anywhere. I can kind of say 174 00:09:38,280 --> 00:09:42,520 Speaker 9: thirty forty minutes and it helps me reset so much 175 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 9: of what I do in fitnesses for my head, my energy, 176 00:09:45,200 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 9: and my strap and I'm in a much better mood after. 177 00:09:48,840 --> 00:09:49,680 Speaker 11: That work out. 178 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: That's good for the holidays. Everybody wants mama to be 179 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: happy during the holidays and not straight. 180 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 9: It's fun. Maybe you'll join us. We do it a 181 00:09:59,360 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 9: live stream a turkey burn, a like post turkey sodio 182 00:10:03,400 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 9: burn Thanksgiving. So it's really I just do it from 183 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:09,839 Speaker 9: your own home. But I think fitness has to be fun, 184 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:13,319 Speaker 9: and it's fun during the holidays to do it with family, friends, 185 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 9: love and just. 186 00:10:13,840 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 3: Take a walk. 187 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 9: Yeah yeah, just take a walk, move your body. 188 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:23,560 Speaker 1: Family walks on my list, got it. Gabrielle Carterris. The 189 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:25,440 Speaker 1: holiday season is here. 190 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:26,240 Speaker 4: It is upon us. 191 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:28,880 Speaker 1: What do you do to choose yourself during the holidays 192 00:10:28,920 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: to keep saying and to truly enjoy them? 193 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:33,679 Speaker 6: The holidays are not as hard for me to get 194 00:10:33,679 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 6: through with peace. So what I say for me enjoy 195 00:10:38,040 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 6: whatever to get through peace. Make sure to give time 196 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 6: to yourself. I find I am committed to it at 197 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 6: least an hour a day, that's just myself. 198 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:47,560 Speaker 1: What do you do? 199 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 6: I get up very early. I get five o'clock. Yeah, 200 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:54,679 Speaker 6: today was four thirty, but at five o'clock I have 201 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:59,600 Speaker 6: thirty I try not to go on my phone. Right 202 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 6: sometimes I do, I go, but I go away from it. 203 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:07,640 Speaker 6: I have a cup of tea. Sometimes I stand outside 204 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:10,440 Speaker 6: just to smell the air because I think that's to 205 00:11:10,480 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 6: remember where I'm at. And then like today, I woke 206 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:15,679 Speaker 6: up at six thirty, but when the sun came up 207 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:18,560 Speaker 6: to quarter seven, because I won't walk outside by myself 208 00:11:18,559 --> 00:11:21,080 Speaker 6: other than I went to start on a three mile 209 00:11:21,200 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 6: walk and I just smell the air and I literally 210 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 6: just live in gratitude in that moment. That's what I 211 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 6: try to do. And so this holiday will be the 212 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:34,520 Speaker 6: same thing for me, I'll take that time because I 213 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,960 Speaker 6: will hope to carry with my to my family. But 214 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 6: for me, because I I'm in a good place with 215 00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:42,680 Speaker 6: my family. We're not all there and I know that, 216 00:11:43,400 --> 00:11:46,439 Speaker 6: but I would say, family or loved ones, take the 217 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:51,160 Speaker 6: time to see them, don't rush through that moment. Maybe 218 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:53,600 Speaker 6: even let them know what they do for you in 219 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:54,280 Speaker 6: your life. 220 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:54,960 Speaker 3: And just. 221 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:59,319 Speaker 6: For me, I will be living in gratitude. I feel 222 00:11:59,520 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 6: very blessed, and I will shower them all with the 223 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 6: love that I have. And I love this time of year. 224 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 1: You're a big entertainer. You must be excited. 225 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:11,800 Speaker 6: It's gonna be great. I'll have tons of parties on 226 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:15,080 Speaker 6: everybody for dinner. I just love it. I love cooking 227 00:12:15,120 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 6: for everybody. I don't even have to talk. I can 228 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:20,400 Speaker 6: just like listen to them talk. It makes me very happy. 229 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 6: It's my my happy place. You're such a giver, very lucky. 230 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,200 Speaker 6: What will you be doing. I get up. 231 00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:33,280 Speaker 1: Earlier now so I have that buff buffer, so that 232 00:12:33,480 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: I know I have time to not look at my phone. 233 00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: Nobody's awake yet, I don't have to deal with anything. 234 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:38,440 Speaker 6: That's right. 235 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 1: It's quiet, it's quiet. I usually do a little. I 236 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 1: learned this from Brook Burk. Do a little red mask 237 00:12:43,640 --> 00:12:46,360 Speaker 1: therapy while I'm meditating in the morning, while I'm thinking 238 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: of the things I'm grateful for. 239 00:12:48,160 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 6: Great. 240 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:50,680 Speaker 1: Then from there great kind of hit the ground running. 241 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:53,040 Speaker 6: And the busier you get, the more you have to 242 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 6: take time for yourself. Yes, that's great, Jen, because you 243 00:12:56,080 --> 00:12:58,320 Speaker 6: know what, I really believe this, If you take some 244 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 6: time to yourself, more time for Jayley and the holidays, 245 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 6: when you're feeling and you're up against the wall, you'll 246 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:04,440 Speaker 6: get more done. 247 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: You get more done, You're just more present. And isn't 248 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:09,960 Speaker 1: that what the holidays are supposed to be about. 249 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:12,920 Speaker 6: It's because all this is make believe. But even that 250 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 6: you're doing this stuff, it's all great. Yeah, your family 251 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 6: and your friends in your life, that's the real truth. 252 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 6: I'd pray that's what I'm going to think about you. 253 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:24,080 Speaker 6: But you have that This holiday thank you. 254 00:13:30,760 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 1: Isn't Gabrielle the best. My guests shared some beautiful I 255 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:37,440 Speaker 1: Choose Me moments for the holidays. But the truth is 256 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:42,079 Speaker 1: these reminders aren't just seasonal. They're kind of like tools 257 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:44,720 Speaker 1: that help us find peace and wholeness all year long. 258 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 1: So congratulations for taking this. I choose me moment to 259 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 1: be with me right now. Here are some more from 260 00:13:51,920 --> 00:13:57,120 Speaker 1: this year's conversations with my amazing and wise friends Jason Priestley. 261 00:13:57,160 --> 00:14:00,440 Speaker 1: What was your last I Choose me moment? 262 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:04,640 Speaker 12: You know what, I choose me almost every day when 263 00:14:04,679 --> 00:14:08,960 Speaker 12: I go to pilates because it is a totally selfish endeavor. 264 00:14:09,679 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 12: And whether I'm going there or I'm just going to 265 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,560 Speaker 12: the gym. You know, I work out six days a week. 266 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:15,640 Speaker 1: But that's not selfish. 267 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:16,320 Speaker 3: I got to stop you. 268 00:14:16,360 --> 00:14:17,240 Speaker 1: That's not selfishish. 269 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:18,480 Speaker 3: It is no, no, no, no. 270 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 1: No, it's not selfish because you have to take care 271 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:23,040 Speaker 1: of yourself so that you can be there for your 272 00:14:23,080 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 1: kids and you have to stay healthy. 273 00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 12: Well, that's true. 274 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:28,480 Speaker 1: You're taking care of yourself so you can be a 275 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 1: better caretaker and okay father figure. 276 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:34,240 Speaker 12: Yes, okay, okay, okay. 277 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:36,320 Speaker 1: I don't want you to feel like it's selfish. 278 00:14:36,720 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 12: Okay, I don't. I don't think itself is in a 279 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 12: bad way. But I think it's I feel like it's 280 00:14:42,440 --> 00:14:47,400 Speaker 12: it is. It is a self serving act, you know what. 281 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:50,160 Speaker 12: You know. I also I also want to keep myself 282 00:14:50,160 --> 00:14:54,200 Speaker 12: in shape so I feel better. Yes, right, I mean, 283 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:57,280 Speaker 12: I you know, being being there for my kids and 284 00:14:57,320 --> 00:14:59,360 Speaker 12: being a better father for my kids. And it's sort 285 00:14:59,360 --> 00:15:02,200 Speaker 12: of a byproduct, but I feel, you know, I don't 286 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:04,480 Speaker 12: I don't ever want to be that guy. And I 287 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 12: was talking to another actor friend of mine about this 288 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:09,960 Speaker 12: the other night and just talking about, you know, like 289 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:13,040 Speaker 12: getting older and how you know, as we get older, 290 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 12: our bodies start eating all our muscle mass, and so 291 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 12: it's really important to you know, to resistance train and 292 00:15:19,560 --> 00:15:23,240 Speaker 12: keep your skin bag full so you get because if 293 00:15:23,240 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 12: you know, once your body eats all its muscle, then 294 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:27,840 Speaker 12: then your bones start to get brittle and you fall 295 00:15:27,880 --> 00:15:30,360 Speaker 12: over and you break a hip and next thing you know, 296 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 12: you're you're home sucking a brew. Now that doesn't work there, 297 00:15:35,760 --> 00:15:36,280 Speaker 12: I mean. 298 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 1: The aging thing. It's good to know that you have 299 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 1: conversations like that with your friends, because I do too. Yeah, 300 00:15:46,920 --> 00:15:51,240 Speaker 1: conversations I never saw myself having, but they matter. They 301 00:15:51,360 --> 00:15:54,479 Speaker 1: mean something to me. And sharing like knowledge and information 302 00:15:55,240 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 1: with people my same age worrying or thinking or focusing 303 00:15:59,720 --> 00:16:03,000 Speaker 1: on this things is so important. Yeah, that's one of 304 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:05,200 Speaker 1: the reasons I love doing this podcast because we can 305 00:16:05,280 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 1: really share a lot of a lot of information with 306 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:10,240 Speaker 1: a lot of people. And I think you're that message 307 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: of that what you're doing and choosing yourself for yourself 308 00:16:14,480 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 1: and as a byproduct for your family, there's nothing wrong. 309 00:16:18,560 --> 00:16:20,760 Speaker 1: That's that's what it's all about, is taking care of 310 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:23,160 Speaker 1: yourself because guess what nobody else. 311 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:23,680 Speaker 6: Is going to do it? 312 00:16:24,040 --> 00:16:30,280 Speaker 1: Goshcha Oliver Hudson, how do you find your own peace 313 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,160 Speaker 1: and wholeness? What was your last I choose me moment? 314 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 13: Mmmm? 315 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:37,280 Speaker 7: This, it's a good question. 316 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 1: The last time you said I'm gonna do this for myself. 317 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:47,160 Speaker 7: I choose Okay. This is great because I think there 318 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:50,760 Speaker 7: are little things. I think you have to choose yourself 319 00:16:51,440 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 7: at times, many times in the day, little things I 320 00:16:55,800 --> 00:16:58,600 Speaker 7: really do I'm going to take this more for myself. 321 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,160 Speaker 7: They're the big ones. But I think every day you 322 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 7: have to You have to choose yourself, even if you 323 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:06,679 Speaker 7: have kids, even if you're busy, even if you're you know, 324 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:09,720 Speaker 7: in a workplace. There are the moments where you're choosing 325 00:17:09,760 --> 00:17:13,040 Speaker 7: you every day. You have to find that, you know. 326 00:17:13,720 --> 00:17:19,160 Speaker 7: I think my big choose me moment was probably in November. 327 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 7: I go on these big fishing trips. Ten days I'm 328 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:26,439 Speaker 7: out to see you can barely get a hold of 329 00:17:26,480 --> 00:17:28,680 Speaker 7: me and leave out of San Diego. I'm on a boat. 330 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:30,200 Speaker 7: Don't get off the boat near in the middle of 331 00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:34,320 Speaker 7: the ocean, just catching tuna and with the twenty eight people, 332 00:17:34,600 --> 00:17:37,400 Speaker 7: you know, random people who now I know after being 333 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 7: on this specific trip. And again, Aaron's amazing and she 334 00:17:41,840 --> 00:17:44,680 Speaker 7: knows it's a passion of mine. But you know, I'm 335 00:17:44,800 --> 00:17:47,160 Speaker 7: choosing that this is something that I need to do. 336 00:17:47,280 --> 00:17:51,880 Speaker 7: It's personal. I love it, it's cleansing. It's the most as 337 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:54,639 Speaker 7: cathartic as you can get in the middle of the ocean, 338 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:58,119 Speaker 7: doing what I love to do and just separating, you know. 339 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:01,119 Speaker 7: So that was my last like choose me moment. And 340 00:18:01,119 --> 00:18:03,359 Speaker 7: I'm gone for ten plus days, and it's it's a 341 00:18:03,359 --> 00:18:05,080 Speaker 7: long time to be away from the family when I'm 342 00:18:05,119 --> 00:18:08,840 Speaker 7: not working, and you know, I do it all well, 343 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:10,000 Speaker 7: it fills you up here. 344 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:11,919 Speaker 14: Oh my gosh, yeah. 345 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:14,840 Speaker 7: One hundred percent. And then her, she has hers too. 346 00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:18,080 Speaker 7: You know, she's big on her friends, and she goes 347 00:18:18,200 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 7: to sleepovers, you know, for two or three nights and 348 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 7: I'm with the kids, or you know, she just did 349 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:24,879 Speaker 7: a whole trip to New York with all of her 350 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:29,119 Speaker 7: girlfriends for four nights, you know, and you know, I 351 00:18:29,119 --> 00:18:32,879 Speaker 7: think relating it to relationships, you have to let your 352 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:35,960 Speaker 7: partner have those choose me moments whenever the hell they want, 353 00:18:36,200 --> 00:18:36,399 Speaker 7: you know. 354 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, I've learned that kind of the hard way. I 355 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 1: used to be like I felt left out. I don't 356 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:44,240 Speaker 1: know if that's jealousy. I felt. I would feel left out, 357 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:48,320 Speaker 1: I would feel like unincluded, like you know, I had 358 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 1: all those very unhelpful feelings. And then something just sort 359 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:54,800 Speaker 1: of changed where I was like, Okay, you are your 360 00:18:54,800 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 1: own person. You have your own needs, and I have 361 00:18:57,640 --> 00:19:00,240 Speaker 1: my own needs, and there's nothing wrong with each of 362 00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:03,160 Speaker 1: us having the things that you know, fill us up 363 00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:04,760 Speaker 1: and they don't. They're not always going to be the 364 00:19:04,800 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 1: same things. Of course, of course we're different people. 365 00:19:08,680 --> 00:19:12,919 Speaker 7: Yeah, one pillar, that codependency. That one. If you're going 366 00:19:12,960 --> 00:19:16,920 Speaker 7: to hold up a big stone, you know, slab, one 367 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:20,600 Speaker 7: pillar right there's going to be effected, the wind might blow. 368 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:22,639 Speaker 7: That ship is much easier, it's easier, going to be 369 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:26,280 Speaker 7: easier to tip. And that's the codependency. If you've got two, 370 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 7: that ship is going to stand strong, you know what 371 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 7: I mean, whether that's family, relationship, whatever it is. You know, 372 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 7: that's why you need to have separate lives. You need 373 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 7: to have dependent and relationships independent of each other gets 374 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,760 Speaker 7: way too messy. And I've seen it so much with 375 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:49,440 Speaker 7: friends or it's like a dear but what it's up, 376 00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:51,320 Speaker 7: you know, like you need to have your own ship. 377 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:54,520 Speaker 7: I mean it's so important and refreshing and you know 378 00:19:55,520 --> 00:19:56,480 Speaker 7: it's energizing. 379 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:02,560 Speaker 1: Chelsea Hand. I know you've worked so hard this year. 380 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: How have you learned to choose yourself anytime? 381 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:09,879 Speaker 15: Now that I'm resistant towards anything, I just go for it. 382 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:11,160 Speaker 11: I'm like, oh, yes, you have. 383 00:20:11,119 --> 00:20:11,560 Speaker 14: To do it. 384 00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 13: Like I'm really bad at dancing, and I'm decided I'm 385 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:16,479 Speaker 13: just going to start dancing. 386 00:20:16,600 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 3: I'm very self conscious. 387 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 5: I know I'm a bad dancer, and i feel like 388 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:20,919 Speaker 5: everyone's staring at me, and I'm like, you know what, 389 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 5: this is good. You're going to start dancing at fifty 390 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 5: and it doesn't matter. 391 00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 1: That you were kind of dancing just like solo dancing, 392 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:27,359 Speaker 1: any dancing. 393 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:29,119 Speaker 2: Like I can't even dance to a beat, like at 394 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:32,800 Speaker 2: the tailor shoone, like just go two step and you 395 00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:33,639 Speaker 2: feel like you. 396 00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 1: Want to dance, but you hold yourself back because it's 397 00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:38,199 Speaker 1: not nobody needs to see that. 398 00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:42,320 Speaker 13: Yes, yeah, totally like self conscious It's like, my self 399 00:20:42,320 --> 00:20:44,720 Speaker 13: conscious thing is my dancing, and. 400 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 1: You should be free to just dance. I'm happy you 401 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:49,400 Speaker 1: get to dance the whole year of your I no. 402 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,919 Speaker 5: I'm gonna I'm gonna start dancing and not care what 403 00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:52,800 Speaker 5: anyone thinks. 404 00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: I love this. This is good. 405 00:20:54,760 --> 00:20:57,280 Speaker 13: Yeah, because I need I need new challenges, you know, 406 00:20:57,640 --> 00:20:59,919 Speaker 13: need something else to like be like, Okay, this is 407 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:00,760 Speaker 13: I haven't done. 408 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:02,600 Speaker 1: I haven't done a lot of acting work recently. 409 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:03,960 Speaker 11: I'm going to do that decided. 410 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 8: I'm like, I'm going to do stuff that isn't in 411 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:07,080 Speaker 8: my comfort zone. 412 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:09,520 Speaker 1: It's like a beauty of it. 413 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:10,120 Speaker 15: Yeah. 414 00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:12,640 Speaker 13: I feel like fifty is like a reset, like a reset, 415 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:13,680 Speaker 13: like okay. 416 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:14,919 Speaker 3: Now let me go around. 417 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 13: It's like you're going back into the hotel room to 418 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,240 Speaker 13: look and see what you forgot right before you check out. 419 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,040 Speaker 3: You're like, okay, you let me do one more. 420 00:21:21,960 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 1: Past my embiolic. You inspire so many people every day. 421 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,000 Speaker 1: What was your last I choose me moment? 422 00:21:31,400 --> 00:21:31,920 Speaker 10: Wow? 423 00:21:32,160 --> 00:21:35,080 Speaker 14: What was my last I choose me moment? 424 00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:36,399 Speaker 3: You know? 425 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:40,760 Speaker 14: I was supposed to go to a screening Friday night 426 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:46,280 Speaker 14: to support a friend of mine, and I really wasn't 427 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 14: feeling well. I was listening to my body. And it 428 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:54,159 Speaker 14: was so hard because everything in me was like, go, 429 00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:58,360 Speaker 14: you'll be fine, it's okay, blah blah blah, like all 430 00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,119 Speaker 14: the things like what will they think of me? 431 00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:00,879 Speaker 3: What will like this? 432 00:22:01,440 --> 00:22:04,199 Speaker 14: And I built it up so much and I finally 433 00:22:04,240 --> 00:22:08,400 Speaker 14: said to this friend, I was honest. I said I'm 434 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:13,560 Speaker 14: not feeling well and I'm very sorry. I'm not going 435 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,239 Speaker 14: to be able to come. And his response was like, 436 00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:18,960 Speaker 14: I know how much you love and support me. It's 437 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:22,080 Speaker 14: totally fine. What I'm most excited about is that you're 438 00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:23,240 Speaker 14: taking care of yourself. 439 00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 16: Oh, and it doesn't always work like that. 440 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:27,560 Speaker 14: A lot of times you'll stand up for yourself and 441 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:29,359 Speaker 14: people will be like, you let me down? 442 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:30,040 Speaker 4: Why not this? 443 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 14: But it was like a great It was a message 444 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 14: from the universe giving me permission to literally listen to 445 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:37,760 Speaker 14: my body. 446 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:40,119 Speaker 1: And it was like, there's just yeah. 447 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 14: And it didn't just make me feel better that I 448 00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:43,600 Speaker 14: didn't have to like go out late at night to 449 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 14: this thing. 450 00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:45,160 Speaker 3: It was that I. 451 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:50,400 Speaker 14: Got that elevator lift feeling for myself, like oh, you're 452 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,760 Speaker 14: allowed to advocate for yourself and if you don't feel good, 453 00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 14: it's okay. That was a really big one you know, 454 00:22:57,560 --> 00:22:59,160 Speaker 14: I watched Family Feud and went to bed. 455 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:03,080 Speaker 1: Oh good night. That's a good night. And that's the 456 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 1: whole point of this podcast. And what I talk about 457 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:10,280 Speaker 1: is that letting people know that it is okay to 458 00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:15,240 Speaker 1: choose themselves. And you choose yourself, and you also realized 459 00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:21,360 Speaker 1: in that moment, oh, choosing myself feels really good. Ever, Carodane, 460 00:23:21,359 --> 00:23:23,800 Speaker 1: what was your last I choose me moment? 461 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,200 Speaker 16: I've been thinking about this a lot good. 462 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 3: And I have two. 463 00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:32,360 Speaker 16: On my I choose me is my garden. 464 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:33,760 Speaker 11: I don't have a gardener. 465 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:36,720 Speaker 16: I do our gardening. I do our planting, I do 466 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:40,399 Speaker 16: our trimming, and so like, if I find myself sort 467 00:23:40,400 --> 00:23:44,479 Speaker 16: of in the La crazies or spinning, I will just 468 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:48,400 Speaker 16: put my gardening gloves on and my clogs and prune 469 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:50,280 Speaker 16: and weed and we have sort of like a little 470 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 16: English garden and I'm proud of it and I love 471 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 16: how it makes me feel. The other day I did 472 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,080 Speaker 16: it barefoot. I was like, maybe that'll be like grounding. 473 00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,239 Speaker 16: Maybe it's like yeah thing or something like that. That 474 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,919 Speaker 16: and then the other thing I did I sort of 475 00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:05,719 Speaker 16: was it's so funny when someone's like, what's your choose me? 476 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:07,520 Speaker 16: And you're like, I don't know. I have kids. 477 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:09,880 Speaker 1: I choose them, A lot of people say. 478 00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 16: But at the end of twenty twenty three, I sort of, 479 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:15,720 Speaker 16: you know how, everyone on social media posts like these 480 00:24:15,720 --> 00:24:18,200 Speaker 16: are the books I read this year and Obama's list, 481 00:24:18,240 --> 00:24:20,880 Speaker 16: and I'm like, Obama read fifty five books? Like what 482 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,440 Speaker 16: am I doing with my time? So at the beginning 483 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:26,560 Speaker 16: of twenty four I started a book group and the 484 00:24:26,600 --> 00:24:30,280 Speaker 16: goal was a book a month. And the book group 485 00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:33,520 Speaker 16: is kicking ass, and it's this incredible group of like 486 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,200 Speaker 16: it's like ten to fifteen of us. We meet every 487 00:24:36,280 --> 00:24:38,440 Speaker 16: month and we read a book or two a month 488 00:24:38,480 --> 00:24:42,120 Speaker 16: and it's totally awesome and it is a non negotiable. 489 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,320 Speaker 16: I have book group on the first Wednesday of every 490 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,000 Speaker 16: month period. End of story. 491 00:24:47,119 --> 00:24:47,560 Speaker 9: That's mine. 492 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: I love that. Who's in your book group? 493 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 16: Who's in my book group? But there's a lot of 494 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,040 Speaker 16: people in my book girl you might know as Meredith 495 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 16: Salinger is in my book group, Meredithsealeah, and then a 496 00:24:57,000 --> 00:24:59,440 Speaker 16: lot of moms who I've met over the years, either 497 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 16: through preschool or school. And then some other women in 498 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:04,440 Speaker 16: the book group brought in a friend and we all 499 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:08,320 Speaker 16: just sort of mesh great, it's been really it's I 500 00:25:08,560 --> 00:25:09,720 Speaker 16: highly recommend a book. 501 00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:11,280 Speaker 1: What book are you reading right now? 502 00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:11,440 Speaker 7: Then? 503 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:15,159 Speaker 16: Currently we are reading two books because we're like that. 504 00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 1: I know, we're reading over Achievers. 505 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:20,640 Speaker 16: I know, we just read East of Eden. So we're 506 00:25:20,680 --> 00:25:23,440 Speaker 16: sort of revisiting some classics, which if you haven't read, 507 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:24,440 Speaker 16: I really. 508 00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:25,720 Speaker 1: It's been a million. 509 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,040 Speaker 16: It's really good. We read it during the fires, and 510 00:25:28,080 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 16: it's really a love letter to California. We're reading House 511 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:34,680 Speaker 16: of Mirth, and then we're reading a collection of essays 512 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:39,760 Speaker 16: by a friend called Mothers and Other fictional Characters, which 513 00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:42,879 Speaker 16: is also wonderful. And I know the author, Nicole, and 514 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,920 Speaker 16: so she's going to zoom in at our next book 515 00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:47,639 Speaker 16: group and we're all going to get to kind of 516 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:49,120 Speaker 16: chat with her about her memoir. 517 00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:53,080 Speaker 1: Oh that's exciting, fun, right, it's fun. I love it 518 00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:54,880 Speaker 1: that you did that. I heard that if you read 519 00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:57,880 Speaker 1: a book for even twenty minutes a day, it has 520 00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:02,040 Speaker 1: such significant help of your mental health. 521 00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:04,040 Speaker 16: Absolutely, and like you know a lot of us, I 522 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 16: feel like, and I say this with no judgment, Like 523 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,520 Speaker 16: end of the day, I'd be sitting on the chair 524 00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:09,160 Speaker 16: looking at my. 525 00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:10,920 Speaker 1: Phone and I was like scrolling. 526 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 3: Oh, but I want my. 527 00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:15,880 Speaker 16: Kids to see me doing so. I really make an 528 00:26:15,920 --> 00:26:18,439 Speaker 16: effort to just at the end of the day for 529 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,680 Speaker 16: fifteen minutes or a chapter and just sit out there 530 00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:23,960 Speaker 16: and then if they need something, they come out. When 531 00:26:24,000 --> 00:26:25,760 Speaker 16: they find me, I have a book in my hand 532 00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:26,879 Speaker 16: and my phone. 533 00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 1: I love that. You just inspired me. Thank you. Yes, 534 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:32,560 Speaker 1: I'm going to pick up a book instead of my 535 00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:33,680 Speaker 1: phone today when I have it. 536 00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 16: Like ten minutes do it? 537 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,600 Speaker 1: I see mets before I let you go. What was 538 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:45,520 Speaker 1: your last I choose me moment? Oh oh oh could 539 00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:47,400 Speaker 1: be today, It could be yesterday, I. 540 00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:54,520 Speaker 11: Can yeah, yeah, for sure. I think it was getting 541 00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:56,840 Speaker 11: up and going to the gym, right, Like I chose that, 542 00:26:57,000 --> 00:27:05,480 Speaker 11: like I didn't want to me afterward, but starting to day. 543 00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:10,640 Speaker 11: That is a little in my little bank, my confidence bank, 544 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:14,880 Speaker 11: or my choosing myself bank, for sure, take a little. 545 00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 1: How do you do that when you're working all the time. 546 00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:20,080 Speaker 1: It's you know, I hear people that get up at 547 00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 1: four am, five am. 548 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:27,320 Speaker 11: What I'm like, what, Well, you know, what's weird? I 549 00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,119 Speaker 11: had no qualms about getting up at four am to 550 00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:33,639 Speaker 11: go to set, so okay, so what okay is it? 551 00:27:33,680 --> 00:27:36,479 Speaker 11: Because like I can do it for the people why 552 00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:37,600 Speaker 11: can't do it for myself? 553 00:27:37,600 --> 00:27:41,160 Speaker 1: You're doing You're doing it because that's your job, right, 554 00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:44,920 Speaker 1: But taking care of yourself is your job. 555 00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:45,440 Speaker 3: Yeah. 556 00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:48,159 Speaker 11: Yeah, so I had to really shift that perspective. I 557 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:52,400 Speaker 11: was like, oh no, like Christy, and as we know, 558 00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:55,879 Speaker 11: like spending eighteen hours on the set, you've got to 559 00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:59,879 Speaker 11: be in somewhat sort of shape for the endurance to 560 00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:04,040 Speaker 11: you know, a long day and what you're doing as well. 561 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:07,240 Speaker 15: Yeah. 562 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:11,320 Speaker 11: So I think for today, like that was certainly something 563 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 11: I started my day with and it sets the tone. 564 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:14,880 Speaker 6: Yep. 565 00:28:15,480 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: It definitely like revs yup for the rest of your day. 566 00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:18,440 Speaker 9: Right. 567 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:19,359 Speaker 1: I love that feeling. 568 00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:22,040 Speaker 11: Yeah, I know. I'm like, okay, okay, okay. 569 00:28:21,880 --> 00:28:22,320 Speaker 8: She did it. 570 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:30,159 Speaker 1: Oh Molly Sims, what was your last I choose me moment? 571 00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:32,560 Speaker 3: I think I choose. 572 00:28:34,280 --> 00:28:41,520 Speaker 10: It's gonna make me cry, It's okay, I think instead 573 00:28:41,520 --> 00:28:44,080 Speaker 10: of I choose me, I chose us. 574 00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 1: What does that mean to you? 575 00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:53,200 Speaker 10: Just having that, you know, the beginning of being able 576 00:28:53,280 --> 00:28:55,720 Speaker 10: to say no to things, to say yes to us, 577 00:28:55,800 --> 00:28:58,280 Speaker 10: to say yes to me, to to I choose me 578 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,960 Speaker 10: to You know, that's not going to really work for 579 00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,800 Speaker 10: me right now. And those are really hard words because 580 00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:07,720 Speaker 10: I love. I'm from the South. I love to please everyone. 581 00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:09,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, and. 582 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:15,000 Speaker 10: You know, I've lost some friends along the way because 583 00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,040 Speaker 10: I really couldn't do any more than what I was doing. 584 00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:19,400 Speaker 9: You know. 585 00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:25,680 Speaker 10: I think with COVID, the fires, you know, losing my 586 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:32,760 Speaker 10: mom and dad, I I cautiously had to take a 587 00:29:32,800 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 10: step back to choose me. 588 00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:37,840 Speaker 9: Yeah. 589 00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:39,200 Speaker 1: How does that feel? 590 00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:47,440 Speaker 10: I mean uncomfortable, you know, really, you know, I you know, 591 00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:49,280 Speaker 10: I love when people be like, oh, she's not going 592 00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 10: to do that. Like Michael, who's my publicist on this 593 00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 10: podcast listening right now, He's like, you know what, she's 594 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,120 Speaker 10: going to not do it right now, We're going to 595 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:59,000 Speaker 10: revisit this. And like I was like, oh god, I 596 00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 10: think you thank you for saying that, you know, like 597 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,880 Speaker 10: just really trying to choose me, right, like having people 598 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,239 Speaker 10: around me that help me choose me, because if not, 599 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:09,880 Speaker 10: I'm like, you know, I'll just be like, oh I'll 600 00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:11,880 Speaker 10: help you do okay, Yeah, no worries, just call me, 601 00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:16,000 Speaker 10: I'll interview like oh, well, you know, I but at 602 00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:19,720 Speaker 10: choosing me has been a lifesaver in a lot of 603 00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,880 Speaker 10: ways because there's only so much I can do. I 604 00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:25,360 Speaker 10: have to be there for my kids. I only have 605 00:30:25,480 --> 00:30:30,440 Speaker 10: so much band with But it takes a lot of honesty, right, 606 00:30:30,520 --> 00:30:34,680 Speaker 10: it takes a lot of And I used to do 607 00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 10: this as like when I would work and come like 608 00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:38,240 Speaker 10: I'm sure you did, when you would come off a 609 00:30:38,280 --> 00:30:40,360 Speaker 10: show or you'd come off a stint, or you'd come 610 00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:44,560 Speaker 10: off you know, six weeks, ten weeks, three months, you know, 611 00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,719 Speaker 10: because you did network television, so you were on what 612 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:50,200 Speaker 10: twenty three twenty four episodes was yearly, year round, right, 613 00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:55,800 Speaker 10: So when you go on those marathon runs and you stop, 614 00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:58,880 Speaker 10: it's like, hey, you. 615 00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:00,760 Speaker 3: Don't even know what to do with your no. 616 00:31:02,240 --> 00:31:04,680 Speaker 10: And b you know, for you then you had three 617 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:08,040 Speaker 10: young girls with Peter and both of your like it 618 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:13,960 Speaker 10: just it gets crazy. Yeah, it's crazy, and then life 619 00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:16,760 Speaker 10: happens in top of it. So I think I choose me. 620 00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:23,360 Speaker 10: I've chosen me. I choose me in those moments because 621 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 10: I have to do. 622 00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:28,600 Speaker 1: You feel like it's you choosing to reconnect with yourself 623 00:31:28,640 --> 00:31:30,400 Speaker 1: and your truth instead of. 624 00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:34,240 Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, we just level it out, we least balance it, 625 00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:36,760 Speaker 10: we balance it out. We kind of start back to zero, 626 00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:44,320 Speaker 10: you know. I did I do acupuncture and I'm like, girl, 627 00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 10: I was like, I don't know, I can't sleep anymore. 628 00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 10: I'm like sweat and like and I was like, you 629 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,520 Speaker 10: know all the things that you're going through, and I 630 00:31:53,560 --> 00:31:55,920 Speaker 10: was like, I was like, You've got to help me. 631 00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:59,360 Speaker 10: I'm like, I just can't sleep. Literally, like in thirty seconds. 632 00:31:59,080 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 11: She left my room. 633 00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,680 Speaker 14: I was I was like snoring right. 634 00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:04,840 Speaker 10: Like I just needed someone to like just call me. 635 00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:08,360 Speaker 10: That has been really good for me in my sense 636 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:14,040 Speaker 10: of just sense of getting back grounded and just have 637 00:32:14,160 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 10: it again. That's an hour and fifteen minutes just for me. 638 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:23,880 Speaker 10: I took a walk the other day and I'm like, 639 00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:25,680 Speaker 10: I'm not gonna go to that sports thing and they 640 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:26,880 Speaker 10: were so upsetting. 641 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:27,720 Speaker 7: What do you mean? 642 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:30,320 Speaker 3: What do you mean you're not gonna go. 643 00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:35,200 Speaker 10: I'm like, kids, Mom's gonna take a walk and I'm 644 00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:37,239 Speaker 10: not gonna call you. I'm not gonna talk to you. 645 00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:39,920 Speaker 10: I don't don't care how you do. I'm just gonna 646 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:40,560 Speaker 10: go take a walk. 647 00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:41,200 Speaker 9: You know. 648 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:43,560 Speaker 10: But those check ins are important. 649 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:45,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, you got to listen to your needs. You gotta 650 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:49,000 Speaker 1: put yourself first sometimes. And I'm so happy to hear 651 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:54,800 Speaker 1: that you're doing that because it's vital. Tammeron Hall, what 652 00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,720 Speaker 1: was your last I choose me moment? 653 00:32:57,560 --> 00:33:00,320 Speaker 13: Oh, that's a great one. Oh my last she use 654 00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:01,280 Speaker 13: me moment? 655 00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:03,680 Speaker 4: Oh it was this morning. 656 00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 13: So yesterday I had a very early morning and I 657 00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:10,280 Speaker 13: had a very intimidating thing that I had to face 658 00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:14,720 Speaker 13: and it took a lot of I actually that shy 659 00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:16,840 Speaker 13: kid and me showed up yesterday and I had to 660 00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,360 Speaker 13: deal with her and do this event that I wasn't 661 00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:20,200 Speaker 13: prepared for. 662 00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:21,640 Speaker 3: Proud of me. 663 00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:24,360 Speaker 13: So this morning, when it was time to wake up 664 00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:28,680 Speaker 13: and get my son ready for school, I fought mom 665 00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:32,200 Speaker 13: guilt as if one morning of not getting him ready 666 00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:34,960 Speaker 13: versus his dad was going to somehow change the trajectory 667 00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:39,640 Speaker 13: of his entire life. And I laid in bed and 668 00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:41,760 Speaker 13: I did it. Get up and I let my husband 669 00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:44,920 Speaker 13: warm the carrot muffin, And not that he wouldn't, but 670 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:48,680 Speaker 13: sometimes even when he's willing to will when he does 671 00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:51,080 Speaker 13: do it. And he does it every morning with me. 672 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:53,520 Speaker 13: But I feel guilty if I don't not out there, 673 00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:54,560 Speaker 13: like if I'm not you know. 674 00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:56,400 Speaker 7: Give me the kids, you know. 675 00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,680 Speaker 13: And I was like, my kid knows he loves me 676 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 13: and I love him, and I'm going to stay in 677 00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:02,480 Speaker 13: this bid. 678 00:34:03,880 --> 00:34:05,400 Speaker 11: Have a good day, kiddout. 679 00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:08,520 Speaker 1: Oh my god, that's a good one. Just stay in bed, 680 00:34:10,840 --> 00:34:15,440 Speaker 1: Bill Rosenthal, what was your last I Choose me moment? 681 00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:17,200 Speaker 15: Oh? 682 00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:20,880 Speaker 7: I guess right before I got on with you, which 683 00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:23,759 Speaker 7: is a very good I choose me moment. Talk to you. 684 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:27,839 Speaker 9: Uh, I was on the elliptical for a half hour. 685 00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:31,080 Speaker 3: That great, Right, So. 686 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:32,880 Speaker 15: Not only do I do weights in the morning, but 687 00:34:32,920 --> 00:34:35,479 Speaker 15: I find another spot if I want to watch TV. 688 00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:38,920 Speaker 1: Don't just sit there, get get up and move a 689 00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:42,560 Speaker 1: little bit. Make you do feel better? Yeah, move, move, 690 00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 1: move a little yeah. Yeah. Holly Madison, what was your 691 00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:50,440 Speaker 1: last I choose me moment? 692 00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:55,319 Speaker 15: This is just so simple and silly, but I just 693 00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:59,960 Speaker 15: have to choose to enjoy life because I'm really achievement oriented, 694 00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,080 Speaker 15: and I tend to throughout my life go through different 695 00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:05,200 Speaker 15: phases of like having anxiety of not having achieved enough, 696 00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:07,200 Speaker 15: or I'm not on track or I haven't done this yet. 697 00:35:07,760 --> 00:35:10,960 Speaker 15: And every day like I'm looking at it right now 698 00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:12,640 Speaker 15: because I'm sitting in front of my window, like I 699 00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 15: love my backyard. It's so pretty, and every day almost 700 00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:17,480 Speaker 15: I take a picture of it and I post up 701 00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,759 Speaker 15: my Instagram story and I'm like, it's a perfect day. 702 00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,479 Speaker 15: And I just remind myself to like choose to love 703 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:25,839 Speaker 15: life every day because you could have the most amazing life, 704 00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,439 Speaker 15: which I feel like I do, and still fall into 705 00:35:28,480 --> 00:35:30,719 Speaker 15: this weird funk where you feel like you don't have enough, 706 00:35:30,760 --> 00:35:33,839 Speaker 15: you're not achieving enough, and no, no, you just have 707 00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,080 Speaker 15: to choose to love life. 708 00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:36,759 Speaker 11: So that's mine. 709 00:35:36,800 --> 00:35:39,280 Speaker 1: I Choose Me moment, and there you have it. Happy 710 00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:42,759 Speaker 1: Holidays from I Choose Me. We love you. Thank you 711 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:46,920 Speaker 1: for being here and for listening, and especially for choosing 712 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:48,160 Speaker 1: yourself with me.