WEBVTT - Conversations About A Woman's Pride 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:04.400 What's up and welcome back to another episode of No 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:07.520 Sealer's Podcast with your hosts Now fuck that with your 0:00:07.560 --> 0:00:08.800 low glasses. 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:20.400 Malone, What I think you're not thinking anything of that? 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:24.240 Like I think that we're we have a lot of emotion, 0:00:24.840 --> 0:00:27.400 So you're not thinking that comes into that. 0:00:28.320 --> 0:00:30.560 It's not, it's not. We think differently. 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:35.040 We think, you know what, what you're not about to 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:36.320 do is play in our faces. 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:41.160 No, y'all feel and we think. 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:44.000 No, that's true. I agree with that. 0:00:44.240 --> 0:00:47.400 And I'm not saying women are not intelligent. I'm not 0:00:47.440 --> 0:00:50.159 saying women are not educated or women are not smart. 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:54.720 I'm saying we think y'all feel. It's more intuition. 0:00:55.760 --> 0:00:58.680 I mean, but I wasn't feeling it when I'm like, okay, 0:00:59.120 --> 0:01:01.680 you know, can you move something? And I just didn't 0:01:01.680 --> 0:01:04.319 say exactly what it was, but you know what I 0:01:04.400 --> 0:01:05.040 mean though. 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:06.600 No, no, we don't know what you mean. 0:01:07.400 --> 0:01:10.880 But if okay, so if you know that we're putting 0:01:10.920 --> 0:01:13.480 some some we don't know what you can something here 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:14.920 and we already talked about that. 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:17.880 You can't put the math together to make you right. 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:19.160 Yes you can. 0:01:19.360 --> 0:01:21.520 Sometimes you just have to be wrong. And I know 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:23.280 that's virtually impossible for y'all. 0:01:23.760 --> 0:01:26.240 No, you know what, I'm being honest, keep it one hundred. 0:01:26.400 --> 0:01:29.120 I have been working on apologizing. 0:01:29.240 --> 0:01:29.680 Be wrong. 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:34.480 Hey, if I'm wrong, I'm working on apologizing. Damn it. 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:36.319 It's only it's only happened twice so far. 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:41.840 So far, I've only been wrong far. 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.200 Well, I'm saying, are you saying I haven't been wrong 0:01:44.360 --> 0:01:46.800 or no? Not, I've only been wrong. I'm saying, he's 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:54.400 only apologized. I apologize like you only apologized. Probably probably 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:59.560 the fuck. I'm being honest like I, Hey, I said it, 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.520 even if it's wrong, I said it. I used to 0:02:02.560 --> 0:02:03.040 say like. 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:05.000 That, what do you say? 0:02:06.160 --> 0:02:08.120 Oh my god? I used to say, what the fuck? 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:09.919 Like I should stop calling you daddy because you really 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:13.000 think you are my daddy? And I said, this is why. 0:02:13.200 --> 0:02:15.240 See let me stop. Don't be so mad at me 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:15.760 talking about this. 0:02:15.800 --> 0:02:16.240 But fuck it. 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:18.680 So I always used to tell people like I don't 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:23.320 call my man daddy. I smember, I said, I ain't 0:02:23.360 --> 0:02:26.760 calling no daddy. Used to say that, And now I'm 0:02:26.760 --> 0:02:29.919 figuring out why Why I said that. It's because the 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:33.240 nigga really thinks he's my daddy. I don't like it. 0:02:37.240 --> 0:02:40.400 Why are you shaking your hand. I don't like. 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:44.840 It because a good relationship, like a good there is 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:46.919 like one thing I don't want to do with no 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:49.359 centers that turn into a bunch of fucking relationship. I 0:02:49.400 --> 0:02:54.040 hate them, I feel. Let me say this, you do 0:02:54.120 --> 0:02:57.880 take on the role of somebody's parents. You know, when 0:02:57.880 --> 0:03:01.880 it comes to Karen for your significant other, you your god. 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:08.120 You become his mother. Your dude becomes your father. Now, yes, 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:12.000 he's not your father in a sense that the only 0:03:12.040 --> 0:03:15.519 thing different y'all doing is fucking But you really want 0:03:15.600 --> 0:03:18.080 him to protect you if somebody gonna kick your ass. 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:21.239 You want him to go out and provide for you. 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:23.720 You want him to be your father. You don't want 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:26.680 him to be anything else. Yes, you probably don't want 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:29.120 to just have to listen, you know what I mean. 0:03:29.160 --> 0:03:31.040 That's probably the one thing you don't want to have 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:33.160 to do is just listen. You know, that's the one 0:03:33.240 --> 0:03:35.960 thing your father demands, like you have. 0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:41.520 To listening, right, So listen right, Like everything else is good. 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:43.560 But when I gotta listen, that's where the. 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:48.080 Problem on everything. No, But I'm telling you guys, I'm 0:03:48.120 --> 0:03:51.360 working on self, and I'm really proud of myself. I 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:55.680 used to be like fucking whatever. Yeah, and even though 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:58.640 and honestly, I know, like if I really care about you, 0:03:58.720 --> 0:04:00.400 like I know that really would fuck with me later, 0:04:00.640 --> 0:04:06.640 But in that moment, it's like, so what and that's bad, 0:04:07.000 --> 0:04:10.880 Like that's really bad. So I've really been talking to myself. 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:13.400 I know, like, look, girl, you can't be doing that, 0:04:13.440 --> 0:04:15.200 like if you really let this man, you can't be 0:04:15.240 --> 0:04:18.880 doing that. Right now, I can see it. 0:04:18.880 --> 0:04:22.600 Okay, relax, Jesus Christ. 0:04:23.240 --> 0:04:26.920 What you want us to open up? Right? You know 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:29.960 it's just you know, no, but it's true, like you 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:32.120 have to work on self, like you can't really put 0:04:32.160 --> 0:04:35.040 everything off on the other person. And I'm starting to 0:04:35.080 --> 0:04:38.640 like I never really did it like that, but I'm 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:42.600 starting to Well, let's say I didn't see that I 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:45.800 was doing that like that, I didn't see that I 0:04:45.839 --> 0:04:48.240 was doing certain things. Well, clearly, I didn't see that 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:53.200 I need to differentiate the dresser from the nightstand when 0:04:53.680 --> 0:04:55.040 clearly I didn't. 0:04:54.760 --> 0:04:58.440 Know that people also put clothes in nightstands. I mean 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:03.520 underwear and stuff for socks. But you know, I don't know. 0:05:03.440 --> 0:05:07.360 Are they are those two things not articles of clothes? 0:05:07.400 --> 0:05:10.640 They are they are? I guess I'm just trying to 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.880 figure out how I'm right here you're not. I know, 0:05:14.480 --> 0:05:17.400 I know you're not right, and I be really trying 0:05:17.440 --> 0:05:20.000 to find the logic, you know, I'll be trying to 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:24.120 find the logic in why I'm telling you this, Like 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:28.640 you know why I'm saying. You don't understand what I'm saying, 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:32.440 Like I'm really trying to be like, girl, you are right. 0:05:33.040 --> 0:05:36.240 And then when I hear other men and you guys 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:37.520 are thinking the same way. 0:05:39.080 --> 0:05:49.599 I mean, we're just thinking you're supposed to be able to, like, 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:51.800 you know, understand, like pick it up, like I know 0:05:51.839 --> 0:05:52.440 what she means. 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.920 Why you can't just say, baby, I know what you mean. 0:05:57.040 --> 0:06:00.520 I'm gonna move, I'm gonna move the nightstand and you know, 0:06:00.720 --> 0:06:03.200 so that everything's good, I know what you mean? 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:04.920 Why? Why why you just can't do that? 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:09.800 What if he didn't know though, What if he moves 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:12.479 the wrong thing and you, like, I wasn't talking about that, 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:15.000 which happens. 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.080 That's true, that does happen. 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:18.599 He's trying to take initiative. 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:21.599 This was very clear, though, because we have something that's 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:23.000 going in that area. 0:06:24.080 --> 0:06:27.000 It's not clear you felt like it was I did. 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:30.039 I felt like it was clear, and so you know, 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:33.200 I don't know why. I just get so frustrated though, 0:06:33.320 --> 0:06:36.840 like it really like not frustrated, but like it really 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:39.720 like hurts my feelings to where I'm like, he just 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:43.960 like trying to like pick and it's was supposed to 0:06:44.000 --> 0:06:46.919 be like a good day. Like that's the part that 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:51.599 just makes me upset. So then I'm like, I'm not 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:53.080 about to deal with this, you know. 0:06:53.440 --> 0:06:56.680 So that's the defense. That's the defense ascidism that we have, 0:06:56.839 --> 0:06:57.880 like we just be like fuck it. 0:06:58.640 --> 0:07:01.520 So I just was quiet, you know, He's like, you 0:07:01.560 --> 0:07:03.560 do nothing to say. No, I don't have nothing to say, 0:07:04.279 --> 0:07:05.080 you know, not. 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.599 Just say my bad baby, I'm meant the nights. 0:07:06.640 --> 0:07:10.320 Then I did. I think I did, but it was 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:13.680 just like a point that needed to be proven. Yes, 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:16.160 I did know you didn't I probably didn't. 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:19.800 Just listen, listen, we went over this right, let tell you, 0:07:19.840 --> 0:07:22.920 because you're about to cry and ship up taking all. 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:31.320 I'm not even upset or I'm not laughing. Seriously, even 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:34.720 though we may have a standoff moment, like with y'all, 0:07:34.760 --> 0:07:37.800 it's not like a real fight. It's not the end 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.680 of the world. Sometimes you could wear it that way. 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:41.880 As a woman right that it's not the point of it. 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:47.480 We've talked about this on the other No Seilings podcast. 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:50.320 This is No Seilings. G L Way did the intro 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:52.800 Red Red, what's up? 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:56.560 What's going on? You got that counseling session going. It's 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:57.440 just flying my. 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:00.280 Man six k through the spot six what's up, yo? 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:00.800 What's happening? 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:05.880 Thank you for fopping in. So look, the clinical definition 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:10.640 of listen and here to hear is to acknowledge the 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:16.320 sound sound right. So when sometimes we talk to women 0:08:16.600 --> 0:08:20.120 right and I know you're not listening, you're hearing me. 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:23.960 So that's why you will respond with it sounds like 0:08:24.040 --> 0:08:29.840 you said. To listen is to list an end right 0:08:30.080 --> 0:08:33.360 right there. So sometimes when you when y'all be talking like, 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:37.320 the reason he could react this way also is because 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:40.320 there were other times you said something and that's not 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:44.480 what the fuck you meant. Y'all have a real Ever 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:48.319 since the original White Man can't Jump, y'all have this 0:08:48.400 --> 0:08:50.760 weird fucking way of talking where y'all feel like people 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.000 supposed to know what the fuck y'all, I'm not thirsty. 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.200 It doesn't mean I want a drink of water. It 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:59.920 means that I'm thankful for like, bro, remember white man, 0:09:02.000 --> 0:09:06.360 that's women's thoughts. That's how y'all feel about things. You 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:10.280 want people to communicate with how you feel about something 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:15.080 or how you acknowledge it versus what actually it is. 0:09:15.679 --> 0:09:17.800 And then we come to a place to where we clash. 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:21.000 And instead of sometimes y'all just saying, hey, I'm wrong, 0:09:21.440 --> 0:09:23.920 my bad, baby, I don't know how I mix the 0:09:23.960 --> 0:09:28.359 two up, not acting like he's wrong for not understanding 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:32.360 what the fuck you're talking about. I know that's not right. 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:36.640 And instead of you saying, hey, my bad, I'm you 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:39.760 know shit, I don't really stinguish difference. I meant the nightstand. 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:43.719 It's like you'll have an attitude cause because be like, Yo, 0:09:43.760 --> 0:09:45.560 what the fuck are you talking about? Why am I 0:09:45.600 --> 0:09:46.320 moving a dresser? 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:48.680 I know? 0:09:48.840 --> 0:09:52.439 And it just sounds so close you know, No, it's 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:56.040 just talking about it is like okay, damn, okay, I 0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:56.680 fucked up. 0:09:56.800 --> 0:09:59.640 You know you didn't fuck up. It's not that serious. 0:09:59.760 --> 0:10:02.480 It's not that serious. But I just really was like, 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:06.880 you really are just not trying to understand. You know 0:10:06.880 --> 0:10:07.360 what I'm saying. 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:11.160 You are not speaking English, it's not he's not trying 0:10:11.160 --> 0:10:16.000 to understand you're not speaking English, like you're not speaking 0:10:16.640 --> 0:10:25.640 about You're not speaking English. I don't speak Asia. I 0:10:25.640 --> 0:10:30.680 don't speak Red. Oh god, we don't know Red. That's 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:34.079 not we don't know you. We don't know the language 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:38.679 that is read language. We wasn't educated to that. We 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:44.000 were all educated because in English, regular traditional English, and 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:45.880 you can even throw in a little bit of slang 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:49.800 like motherfucker, motherfucker could be a thousand different things, but 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:53.880 we know what all them motherfuckers mean. So sometimes we're 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:56.280 not It's not we don't want to understand you, nigga, 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.880 you are not speaking English. 0:11:00.000 --> 0:11:05.160 Okay, Oh yeah, I know me and shit, Like I 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:07.320 told you guys, I've been doing good, so I'm gonna 0:11:07.400 --> 0:11:08.040 keep on trying. 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:12.800 That's it's all to come down to, is trying, right, 0:11:12.880 --> 0:11:17.080 You just gotta try. So what was all my brain was? 0:11:17.120 --> 0:11:19.400 And it's funny because this is kind of what this 0:11:19.480 --> 0:11:22.560 is about. The irony. Right, you just literally had a 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:25.480 discussion that you're making like you had an argument. You didn't. 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:28.200 You just overreacting a little bit. But your woman is 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:34.760 your right to feel, but a woman's pride, right. I 0:11:34.800 --> 0:11:38.840 was telling my niece that she didn't need pride. A 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:42.000 woman doesn't need pride. She was like, of course we 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:47.120 need fucking pride. And I told my homegirl she didn't 0:11:47.120 --> 0:11:51.240 need pride. Of course I need pride, right, Pride is 0:11:51.280 --> 0:12:00.439 the over sensationalized you know, joy from accomplishment, you know, 0:12:00.520 --> 0:12:05.120 I mean roughly roughly right, that's the definition of joy 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:09.240 as the creator and the birth of all things. Like, 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:14.079 I just don't think you know, women are the creator 0:12:14.240 --> 0:12:17.400 and they birth all things? What the fuck would you 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:21.760 need pride for? And a pride for woman is an 0:12:21.760 --> 0:12:25.680 independent woman? Now, not an independent woman could that take 0:12:25.720 --> 0:12:31.079 care of herself? Every adult takes care of themselves, most 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:34.480 of them. If you've grown ups an adult, because you 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:37.079 could be an adult, not be grown Every grown person 0:12:37.120 --> 0:12:40.080 takes care of themselves. But the independent woman is a 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:46.360 woman that brags about providing for herself. That's a pride 0:12:46.440 --> 0:12:49.680 for women. Why the fuck would you be bragging that 0:12:49.720 --> 0:12:52.360 you put a roof over your own head. You're fucking adult, 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:54.360 you're grown up. How the fuck would you not put 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:56.240 a roof over your fucking own head? You just sleeping 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:56.800 in the box. 0:12:58.040 --> 0:13:02.160 Well, I mean it's also to say for the women 0:13:02.240 --> 0:13:09.959 that aren't, you know, they're you know, taking somebody else's 0:13:10.000 --> 0:13:12.160 money and spending their money, and you know what I'm saying, 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:15.440 like they're not doing it for theirselves. That's also to 0:13:15.760 --> 0:13:18.160 I guess, you know, to tell them like, hey, you know, 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:20.400 I'm independent. I don't need a nigga or I don't 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:23.560 need a man, or I don't need this other woman 0:13:23.640 --> 0:13:26.319 or this person to do anything for me. Because a 0:13:26.360 --> 0:13:29.480 lot of people feel like if they're taking care of me, 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:32.440 then I need to stay or do what it is 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:34.800 that they want, you know, me to do. And so 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.880 that's just pretty much like I can do what I 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:44.000 want to do because I pay my own way, so you. 0:13:43.960 --> 0:13:44.920 Know, but. 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:48.640 All adults, all grown ups do not. 0:13:48.840 --> 0:13:52.600 I mean, yeah, all grown ups do. But it's just different, 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.600 like I don't know, people tend to feel like women 0:13:56.360 --> 0:14:00.839 you know, shouldn't like like just said it, shouldn't have 0:14:00.880 --> 0:14:05.360 pride or shouldn't want to say what they're doing or 0:14:05.400 --> 0:14:06.800 whatever or put out there that. 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:09.640 And I need more because you just didn't even say nothing. 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:11.080 No, I'm just saying that it does. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:14.199 What do you mean you did? You just did not 0:14:14.240 --> 0:14:17.840 speaking English, I was talking about that said a bunch 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:19.720 of nothing and put it together like it was a 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:23.240 fucking formulated sentence because that wasn't a sentence because you 0:14:23.280 --> 0:14:25.760 are not making sense. You didn't say. 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:29.000 I'm saying, like, what is the problem with about not 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:32.320 being Why a woman shouldn't have to have pride? Like 0:14:32.360 --> 0:14:32.680 I don't. 0:14:33.040 --> 0:14:36.320 Why do you need the sense to brag about accomplishing? 0:14:36.920 --> 0:14:40.560 But I should anyone men have to because we are 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:44.440 not the birth. We didn't birth the fucking universe. Okay, 0:14:44.560 --> 0:14:48.400 but so literally we don't make everything, so pride is 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:52.440 so this is crazy, right, So in the streets you 0:14:52.480 --> 0:14:56.640 need pride because that becomes your most value stock, reputation 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:59.040 and pride, you know what I mean, how other men 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:01.240 could treat you. You know what I mean, the things 0:15:01.240 --> 0:15:03.640 that people know about you determines what you can go 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:09.040 out and get accomplished. Like if niggas know that I 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:11.480 stood up for myself and I did whatever that person 0:15:11.520 --> 0:15:14.560 had to do, that may stop this situation from happening. 0:15:15.320 --> 0:15:20.680 This beef right, if little do dirty them from top 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:23.680 of the roof, crip gang, if they know that old 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:26.320 Glasses got into it with them, he fucked this nigga 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:28.760 over stood up for itself. God is money and he 0:15:28.840 --> 0:15:33.280 left this person from white wall Crip may not try 0:15:33.280 --> 0:15:37.160 to steal from me. That's the point of pride. It 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:41.200 determines how I earn the next time. Prime example, when 0:15:41.240 --> 0:15:43.800 the music business. As a up and coming artist, you 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:47.280 don't need pride. You really need to be humble and 0:15:47.280 --> 0:15:49.760 willing to learn from however motherfuckers want to teach you. 0:15:49.800 --> 0:15:51.840 I didn't know that neither. But in the streets you 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:55.240 need your pride. Women, what do you need your pride for? 0:15:55.600 --> 0:16:00.880 Like what type of man do you get? Because you're independent? 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:04.800 Who the fuck cares you think somebody? You think a 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:07.480 nigga ever said, man, she take care of herself. She's 0:16:07.480 --> 0:16:08.760 a batter beast than other business. 0:16:08.800 --> 0:16:10.320 A lot of niggas right now are saying that because 0:16:10.320 --> 0:16:12.400 they don't want to take care of females. I'm so 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:14.960 tired of that, Like that conversation, always bringing it well, 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:18.120 you put in all the tam time, like what people 0:16:18.160 --> 0:16:20.160 bring to the table. It all just comes back to that, 0:16:20.680 --> 0:16:21.560 Like it's just. 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:25.240 The nigga who started that conversation looked like a homosexual man. 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:28.800 He did that, yeah, but everything that he said was 0:16:29.200 --> 0:16:32.480 pretty much like he didn't even value a woman at all, period, 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:34.400 Like she couldn't do really anything for him. So that's 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:35.080 why I was. 0:16:35.080 --> 0:16:38.360 Like, yeah, I don't think he does. 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:40.600 I don't think he values at all. 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:46.840 Tangible things are one thing, right, but what value can 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:49.480 be for a woman is different. That's why I've been 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:55.520 saying forever that conversation is weird, because like, what do 0:16:55.520 --> 0:16:57.560 you mean what does a woman bring to the table? 0:16:57.920 --> 0:16:58.200 Nigga? 0:16:58.240 --> 0:16:59.040 Do you like the bitch? 0:16:59.120 --> 0:16:59.280 Work? 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:00.600 Right? 0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:04.719 If you like her? The fuck? What the fuck are 0:17:04.760 --> 0:17:06.520 you talking about? What does she bring to the table? 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:10.760 You like her, That's why you want to take care 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:12.399 of her, That's why you want to be in a 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:15.439 relationship with her. You feel like she is somebody you 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:18.760 want around you. The fuck are you doing a fucking 0:17:19.600 --> 0:17:21.400 like is this a corporate takeover? 0:17:22.640 --> 0:17:26.240 That's what I didn't understand for me, Like I always 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:28.800 felt like a man would say, like you guys said 0:17:28.800 --> 0:17:30.320 all the time, like I want a home cook meal. 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:32.400 I want a woman that don't give me no headache, 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:34.520 like you know what I mean, Like I'll be able. 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:34.840 You know. 0:17:36.280 --> 0:17:38.959 I just didn't understand that for him to say, like 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:41.320 the whole what do you bring to the table? I mean, 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:44.679 if that person coming she's doing that, then she's bringing 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:46.359 something well. 0:17:46.200 --> 0:17:48.919 He was just dominate, trying to dominate the conversation to 0:17:49.040 --> 0:17:52.040 me because he basically, you know, she's like, well, I 0:17:52.080 --> 0:17:54.240 cook a meal and I can clean the house. 0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:55.080 Turn the house into a home. 0:17:55.160 --> 0:17:57.080 Yeah exactly, I turned the house to a home. And 0:17:57.119 --> 0:17:59.480 he's like, oh, I can I could pay for. 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:02.560 That, can get paid that number because it was a lot. 0:18:02.720 --> 0:18:04.960 I was like, that is not going to be a month. 0:18:06.840 --> 0:18:11.040 No mother, we're cooking, no motherfucking that many meals for 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:14.800 hundred dollars a week. You must be going to get 0:18:14.800 --> 0:18:18.000 there from Mexico. And I don't think you get it 0:18:18.000 --> 0:18:19.919 done from there. The ain't not. You can't get that 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:21.160 from home depot. They charged. 0:18:22.640 --> 0:18:23.440 They charged a lot. 0:18:23.520 --> 0:18:26.760 Now, yeah, my fuck crazy. But that was my point. 0:18:27.680 --> 0:18:30.119 That's why it doesn't matter, Like there's no reason to 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:35.119 brag that you're an independent woman. Hints back to my 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:38.040 digress to my original point of pride the. 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:41.439 Pride I mean, but not every woman is saying that 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:44.080 they're prideful because they're independent women. 0:18:44.440 --> 0:18:46.200 I'm just giving you one, okay, because. 0:18:46.160 --> 0:18:49.000 I'm going to say, you know, there's I mean, so 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:52.040 many other things that women are are prideful for, but 0:18:52.200 --> 0:18:56.560 some of those women that are. I mean, you prideful 0:18:56.680 --> 0:19:00.560 because you know you are college educated, or because your 0:19:00.600 --> 0:19:05.600 parents are you know, from a certain community or whatnot. 0:19:05.600 --> 0:19:09.040 You're you're just prideful of where you come from, you know. 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:13.960 But it doesn't mean to say like the women that 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:16.679 are prideful that they take care of theirself like you 0:19:16.720 --> 0:19:19.840 don't know or we don't know their situation where they 0:19:19.880 --> 0:19:23.240 came from. I mean they may have you know, been 0:19:23.320 --> 0:19:28.000 out on the streets and you know, was hoeing or 0:19:28.200 --> 0:19:30.320 you know, had to do this or do that, and 0:19:30.359 --> 0:19:32.240 here it is now they're like, okay, I'm not going 0:19:32.320 --> 0:19:35.359 to put myself in that situation again to where I 0:19:35.440 --> 0:19:38.639 can't take care of myself. So that's all they know 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:41.040 is to say, okay, I can do this, I can 0:19:41.080 --> 0:19:44.679 do this on my own, because probably everybody that they, 0:19:45.160 --> 0:19:49.119 you know, trusted in their life was like, okay, well 0:19:50.160 --> 0:19:52.640 you can't count on me yet or if you're if 0:19:52.680 --> 0:19:54.879 you are, then you need to do this, this, this 0:19:54.960 --> 0:19:57.520 and that. So you know, a lot of those women 0:19:57.560 --> 0:20:03.080 that are prideful from being independent. A lot of them, 0:20:03.520 --> 0:20:07.879 I don't think that they're coming up in certain situations 0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:11.720 like I think most of them have come from more 0:20:11.720 --> 0:20:15.879 of a struggle, I think, and or you know, seeing 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:19.800 a struggle, and so they're just I could pay my 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:21.600 own bills, I could you know, I could do this, 0:20:21.720 --> 0:20:24.120 I could do that, And that's all they know. And 0:20:24.200 --> 0:20:27.359 it's there'sn't a man or maybe they father somebody like 0:20:27.520 --> 0:20:31.800 you know, so apologize that should happen. 0:20:32.119 --> 0:20:34.320 So then don't you need at that point, then yes, 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:36.520 you don't need pride, you need therapy. 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:41.080 Okay, you might need therapy, but I mean I think 0:20:41.119 --> 0:20:43.800 that that's a valid point, Like that's the reason why 0:20:43.880 --> 0:20:46.400 they most of the time would be pridefle So. 0:20:46.320 --> 0:20:50.000 Then you need therapy. Goes to the point like, listen, 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:54.560 do you think a wealthy woman is successful? 0:20:55.440 --> 0:20:58.040 A wealthy woman is successful? I mean that depends on 0:20:58.119 --> 0:20:59.800 what her success is. 0:21:00.400 --> 0:21:04.080 She could be well, I mean wealthy and. 0:21:05.760 --> 0:21:07.680 Doesn't mean she's successful. 0:21:08.119 --> 0:21:10.480 I'm gonna show you the difference. Six is a wealthy 0:21:10.520 --> 0:21:13.639 man successful? Ye? 0:21:14.200 --> 0:21:15.560 What's the difference? Now? 0:21:16.520 --> 0:21:18.639 You see we didn't have to think about it. We 0:21:18.640 --> 0:21:21.360 didn't give a fuck what he did, because that's our 0:21:21.520 --> 0:21:24.480 measurement of success is what we go out and build 0:21:24.520 --> 0:21:28.640 in this world as builders. Right, I think a woman's success, 0:21:29.240 --> 0:21:33.080 I think more women will be Michelle Obama than Oprah. 0:21:33.119 --> 0:21:35.560 I think traumatized women will want to be open. Somebody 0:21:35.600 --> 0:21:38.040 who grew up poor, somebody who grew up not knowing 0:21:38.080 --> 0:21:41.320 their fathers all the But that's my plot. I think 0:21:41.359 --> 0:21:44.000 that's it. I think most women want to have a 0:21:44.040 --> 0:21:48.200 successful husband, a healthy family, blah blah blah. Now maybe 0:21:48.240 --> 0:21:51.960 that's a bit traditional in value, but ain't that where 0:21:52.000 --> 0:21:54.680