WEBVTT - | Ep 52 | That’s What Friends Are For! 0:00:00.680 --> 0:00:04.360 Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of The Black Effect 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:17.000 Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to another episode 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:20.920 of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up? What's up? Everyone? 0:00:21.000 --> 0:00:24.080 This is Robin Dixon. Thank you once again for listening 0:00:24.120 --> 0:00:28.880 to s Yes, I love when people listen because it 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:32.360 allows us to know that we're not just talking to 0:00:32.400 --> 0:00:35.559 ourselves for no reason. But you know what, even if 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:37.360 they didn't listen, at least we get to talk to 0:00:37.400 --> 0:00:40.400 each other's. Yeah, that is true. That's true. Okay, true 0:00:40.400 --> 0:00:43.560 to form. It's time for a reasonably shady moment. Of course, 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:55.200 m M. My reasonably shady moment kind of taps into 0:00:55.320 --> 0:00:57.080 what we talked about a couple of weeks ago, a 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:01.959 group text messages, because this just happened to me yesterday. Okay, 0:01:02.560 --> 0:01:04.759 And I think I didn't say this when I talked 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:08.000 about how I hate Group Texas. This is why I 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:10.720 hate them. And this continues to happen to me to 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:12.600 the point where I'm just I just want to throw 0:01:12.640 --> 0:01:16.040 my phone in the toilet. Okay. So there's a there's 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:18.240 a small group text. It's just like me and three 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:22.959 other ladies, and I don't like when people ask me 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:29.040 direct questions on the group text like Giselle blah blah blah, Like, 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:35.760 no direct questions are individual text messages because the answer 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.560 to the question that you've asked me, I don't that 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:40.960 ain't nothing their business. Yeah, the other girl on it, 0:01:40.959 --> 0:01:43.000 it ain't her business. Actually I don't like that, hope. 0:01:43.440 --> 0:01:46.680 So I'm just saying, this is why I hate group Texas, 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.280 because you're you're calling me out and I'm not gonna 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:50.600 answer you in the group right. Yeah, that's that is 0:01:50.680 --> 0:01:53.280 kind of weird when it is a topic that only 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:56.280 relates to you tube like why text in the group 0:01:56.280 --> 0:02:00.880 text exactly? So, and she doesn't know how I really 0:02:00.920 --> 0:02:03.440 don't like one of the other girls. So maybe it's 0:02:03.480 --> 0:02:05.600 my fault because I haven't shared that because I've just 0:02:05.880 --> 0:02:09.040 been keeping that to myself. So I need to say 0:02:09.320 --> 0:02:10.880 I need to go on an individual text and say 0:02:10.919 --> 0:02:12.919 I'm not fooling with that whole So I'm gonna answer 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:16.480 this individually. Yeah, definitely answer it directly to that person. 0:02:16.560 --> 0:02:19.440 But do you also so there's four total? Yeah, so 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:22.120 then do you just create another group chat with just 0:02:22.240 --> 0:02:25.960 the three y'all? I I hate groom tact, so I 0:02:26.000 --> 0:02:27.280 just I just want to get off of it. Just 0:02:27.520 --> 0:02:30.399 talk to me individually. Okay, yeah, I feel you. Yeah, 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:33.360 you know what this reminds me. Um, I'm about to 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:35.720 go off on a tangent. But you remember the issue 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.760 that we have with the Instagram posts, which one how 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:41.799 like we keep seeing like random people's posts. So someone 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.560 replied to um on the reason with shady page. They 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:47.840 told us like, so when you press the little x, 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:50.640 it actually there's a option where it says snooze all 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:55.600 suggested post for thirty days that Okay, I'm gonna do that. 0:02:56.000 --> 0:02:58.040 You're gonna do that, And it feels so stupid because 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:00.280 it's been there the whole time. I was always just 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.400 like like, don't you know clicking the one where it's like, 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:06.480 don't suggest post from this person, not doing the other part. 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:08.760 Shout out to that person, shout out to that. But 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:11.200 I have a confession to make. So because I haven't 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:13.760 clicked it, I've been getting because I don't follow Maverick City. 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:16.760 Maverick City is like I think a gospel group whatever 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:19.320 it's Kirk Franklin has something to do with it. Anyway, 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:21.239 every now and again, Maverick City will pop up and 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:23.440 they'd be like a gospel song and it's just when 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:27.680 I need some Jesus. So I'm excited about it, right, Yes, 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:31.040 I need some Jesus. That doesn't scare you, Like, wait 0:03:31.040 --> 0:03:32.760 a minute, how did you know I needed Jesus right 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:36.240 this moment? Well, normally I need Jesus on a regulars. 0:03:36.960 --> 0:03:39.000 All right, what's the shady moment? So my shady moment 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:43.920 is happening live in real time, y'all. My internet is 0:03:43.960 --> 0:03:47.320 not working in my house. Yes, it's a struggle bus. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:50.360 And it's not an issue of turn your router off 0:03:50.440 --> 0:03:52.760 and turn it back on. Like we've literally done that 0:03:52.840 --> 0:03:55.400 like fifteen times, and like last night, so summertime, like 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:57.680 my kids stay up all night. They're waking me up 0:03:57.720 --> 0:03:59.960 at one in the morning. Mom, the internet doesn't work 0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:03.160 because they're playing the video game. They got kicked off 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:06.200 the video game and just randomly the internet stopped working 0:04:06.240 --> 0:04:08.920 at one in the morning. So it's like I can't 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:11.960 even tell you why that would have happened. It's a mystery. 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:14.920 So now to the point where like it's like, you know, 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:18.000 we've been at Walmas on the phone with like technical support. 0:04:18.080 --> 0:04:20.800 They couldn't solve it. From the phone. Someone has to 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:25.560 come out like who has time? Who? Wh and can 0:04:25.600 --> 0:04:28.360 you like when my kids think? I don't y'all, it's 0:04:28.800 --> 0:04:31.200 twelve three and my kids still sleep when they wake 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:35.200 up and they see that they don't have internet. Okay, 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:39.600 we'n pause. It's twelve thirty in the afternoon. Guys, why 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.400 your kids still sleep? Because they're growing. Boys, they're growing 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:45.719 growing your sleep. Okay, so we forget breakfast. We we 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:49.680 damn never forget lunch. We passed lunch time. But you 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:54.200 grow in your sleep, right Listen, I'm telling you these 0:04:54.240 --> 0:04:57.520 teenage boys, they can sleep. Corey literally I think one 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.320 time slept like sixteen hours straight at I make no 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:04.040 damn sense because my girls be up now. I kind 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:06.200 of wake him up, like like, Hi, play with me, 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:10.039 remember me, I'm here, it's me, Termine. What are you 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:13.799 doing today? Stop had stop hating because you have boys? Okay, 0:05:13.800 --> 0:05:17.760 stop Haydan All right now listen, I do want to 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:20.400 I do want to um because by the time this airs, 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:24.400 Black Effect is having a podcast festival and you need 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:26.680 and you know, reasonably shady of course we'll be showing 0:05:26.760 --> 0:05:29.400 up and showing out, but you need to get your ticket. Yes, 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:32.200 get your ticks, So definitely either go to the Black 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:35.080 Effect page on Instagram or go to reason Shady page. 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:37.880 Go somewhere and get your tickets so you can be 0:05:37.920 --> 0:05:41.080 there with us. It's I believe August is in Brooklyn 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:44.040 and New York and Reasonably Shady will be all over 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:46.360 it and we will be in the building with other 0:05:46.400 --> 0:05:51.080 Black Effects. Yes, podcasts amazing ones, horrible, decisions are decisions 0:05:51.120 --> 0:05:53.479 are girls. They'll be there. We'll be there. So it's 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:55.320 gonna be a good time, y'all. So definitely you want 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.839 to check that out. But you know, today's podcast is 0:05:58.880 --> 0:06:03.560 all about friendship. We love this topic. This is like 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:07.320 a topic that you can just talk about forever and 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:09.440 ever and ever you can you can't. But before we 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:10.800 get into it, I do want to say a couple 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:12.280 of things that have been happening in the world that 0:06:12.320 --> 0:06:14.039 we didn't talk about the last time, because you know, 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:15.839 last time it was the fourth of July. So I 0:06:15.839 --> 0:06:17.599 do want to give a little shout out to the 0:06:17.640 --> 0:06:21.280 b ET Awards. Happened okay a little while ago, and 0:06:21.360 --> 0:06:23.720 Robin missed the whole damn thing. I am, I am, 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:28.640 I have officially aged out of the I know, but 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:32.159 you know I did too. However, my little sister, her 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:35.200 name is Latto. Everybody says she, you know, we look alike. 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:40.160 She won. She's like the new artist of the year. Okay. 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:42.640 So she gave a little speech, and her speech she 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:45.520 was crying and she was like, you know, y'all didn't 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:47.360 think I could do this, but I could do this, 0:06:47.400 --> 0:06:49.719 and I got this the first award I've ever gotten 0:06:49.720 --> 0:06:53.200 from my people, and I'm so excited and thank you, Giselle, 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:56.960 and blah blah. Okay, fine, she didn't think but she 0:06:57.520 --> 0:06:59.320 is like a little cute pot and I just want 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:05.560 to congratulate her publicly. Oh that's sweet, yes, very sweet. Yeah, 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:07.520 we're not related to y'all, but she, you know, everybody 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:12.080 says she looked like my little SIPs. Very cute. It's 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:20.440 giving about fit. Thank you guys, thank you Mom. I 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:24.880 know you're watching. Oh, thank you to my tea. I'm 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:32.120 like and and um, before we moved further because this 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:35.720 this interested me. Okay, So we also want to talk 0:07:35.720 --> 0:07:37.560 about the fact that R. Kelly. You got thirty years, sir, 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:40.680 and I'm so happy about it. So if you got 0:07:40.680 --> 0:07:44.440 thirty years in your how old is R Kelly probably good. 0:07:44.520 --> 0:07:47.840 So that brings you to what two about eight, Yeah, 0:07:47.880 --> 0:07:49.520 that's where you need to be for the rest of 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:52.240 your life. And you have charges pending in other cities, 0:07:52.280 --> 0:07:53.800 so I hope they get you on that too. They 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:56.080 just added on okay, because we don't never need to 0:07:56.120 --> 0:07:57.840 see you out, I know. And you know, it's a 0:07:58.000 --> 0:08:00.640 damn shame it took this long. It's actually a damn 0:08:00.640 --> 0:08:02.800 shame that it took a documentary to make this happen, 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:07.360 like a picture this If that documentary did not air, 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:09.680 it was not made, he would still be doing this 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:12.360 ship he should be doing it for a very long time. 0:08:13.120 --> 0:08:15.880 And I like, I just feel so bad for the 0:08:16.000 --> 0:08:19.000 young ladies who have to deal with the you know, 0:08:19.080 --> 0:08:22.320 the memories and the are he ruined families? He ruining 0:08:22.440 --> 0:08:25.160 hundreds of families lives like they have to deal with 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:26.520 that for the rest of their life. So I almost 0:08:26.560 --> 0:08:29.720 think thirties not enough. It's not And and let's keep 0:08:29.760 --> 0:08:31.560 in mind that this went on so long because these 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:35.960 were black girls and don't nobody care about us. But finally, 0:08:36.320 --> 0:08:38.720 you know, due to the documentary, this man is getting 0:08:38.760 --> 0:08:42.520 thirty years today. Hopefully they'll add more years to him. 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:45.840 Sir okay, but I want to I want to first 0:08:45.880 --> 0:08:49.160 talk about We're gonna we're going to get into talking 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:53.760 about friendships by first talking about Drake, okay, because I 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:57.760 have decided Drake don't have no friends. Okay, he he 0:08:57.840 --> 0:09:01.240 has no friends tat all, no friends. No. So I 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:04.520 was on the Instagram and when I was there, I 0:09:04.559 --> 0:09:07.600 saw a little video of Drake in the club dancing, okay, 0:09:07.600 --> 0:09:10.720 and it was the Goofy is non dance I've ever seen. 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:12.240 It was like a two step of four step, a 0:09:12.280 --> 0:09:16.560 six step goofy dance. Yeah, but see I am goofy okay, 0:09:16.640 --> 0:09:21.680 and maybe he is. No, he's Mr Swamp to see 0:09:21.679 --> 0:09:24.640 this video. The video was terrible, okay, but all his 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:28.120 friends around him were like tapping him up, like yeah, Drake, 0:09:28.200 --> 0:09:31.000 do it, Drake, Drake, Drake Drake. And I was like, 0:09:31.080 --> 0:09:33.880 you look goofy, You look goofy. You don't have no friends. 0:09:34.360 --> 0:09:37.320 I am convinced you're just a Drake hater. I am, Yeah, 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:39.920 I know, question about it. I think his fans know 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:43.160 he can't dance, they know he's goofy, they know he's like, 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:46.079 you know, a little goofy boy from Toronto, and none 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:50.600 of them care because he's uber duber Rich Megan music 0:09:50.960 --> 0:09:53.520 making all this little dance music that people are gonna 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:57.040 play at the pool of Miami, and he's because they're 0:09:57.040 --> 0:10:00.520 gonna plays his new stuff. They're gonna play that nowhere else. Yeah, 0:10:00.600 --> 0:10:02.760 they're playing the pool with them in Miami or like 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:05.640 somewhearing the Beza or something. But he was smart actually 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:10.000 making that that album because dance music. Yes, it's huge. 0:10:10.160 --> 0:10:13.960 It's really big, especially in Europe. So so although like 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:17.800 you know, our people not feeling it. Oh, the people overseas, 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.120 they're gonna listen to it. They're gonna play the album 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:23.320 on repeats, yes, all up and through because it's all 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:26.120 one song exactly. Yeah, it is all one song. It 0:10:26.200 --> 0:10:28.520 literally is like I mean, it all sounds the same. 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:30.840 But he was smart with it. He really was. Even 0:10:30.840 --> 0:10:32.760 though people don't like it, he was smart we think 0:10:32.880 --> 0:10:34.600 Do we think he was smart? Yes? You know how 0:10:34.720 --> 0:10:38.640 much money don't eat m and dance dance music DJs make. 0:10:38.920 --> 0:10:40.760 He's going to make a lot of money just that. 0:10:40.800 --> 0:10:42.840 I just want to everybody trash. I just wanted Drake 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:44.840 to go away, but he since he ain't going away. 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:51.040 Drake is is borderline for me almost to the Kanye mode, 0:10:51.160 --> 0:10:53.400 meaning this is the last time we're talking about Drake, 0:10:53.440 --> 0:10:55.880 because you know, we don't talk about Kanye anymore, friendship 0:10:55.960 --> 0:10:59.079 might break up. I'm just letting you know that right now. Okay, okay, fine, 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.520 we're talking about I mean, we're gonna talk about him 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:03.600 three more times and we're done. I'm gonna put him 0:11:03.600 --> 0:11:15.680 in the Kanye buckets. Speaking of friendship, okay. So, and 0:11:15.720 --> 0:11:17.520 we kind of touched on it a little bit. So 0:11:17.640 --> 0:11:22.040 if if you're with a group of girlfriends and let's 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:25.640 say Robin you're not there and all of the group 0:11:25.960 --> 0:11:30.280 is trashing Robin Dixon, Oh my gosh. First of all, 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.400 I'm not gonna allow that to happen, right Oh yeah, 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:36.520 you know, definitely not. I'm shutting it all my down. 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:40.520 But if they did get some snippets out, some hate 0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:42.880 duration out before I was able to shut it down, 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:47.520 do I immediately tell you you better? Okay, So you 0:11:47.600 --> 0:11:52.960 immediately tell the person, yeah, because like I'm thinking about it, 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:56.240 like it's kind of okay, it's gosh, it's like you 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:58.720 you almost have to wonder, like, okay, the dynamics of 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:02.680 the friendship, like who's closer with who, and who's saying what? 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:05.160 But you know, when you put it on a level like, Okay, 0:12:05.200 --> 0:12:07.319 if it was a group of friends and it was 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:10.880 you and I and somebody was trashing you, then yeah, 0:12:10.960 --> 0:12:13.400 I'm like, we're gonna talk and you're gonna be like, hey, girl, 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:15.120 how is the party? I'm like, girl, the party is 0:12:15.120 --> 0:12:17.720 all right. But let me tell you immediately what mary 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:20.000 Sue said about you. Okay, but let's say it's one 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.360 of the girlfriends that's not necessarily as close to you 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:26.280 and they were they were trashing this particular girlfriend. Do 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:28.480 you then call her on the phone and say, hey girl, 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:30.160 let me tell you what went down last night? Or 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:31.839 do you just like let it ride? So if I'm 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:34.400 not that close with them, yeah, yeah, I'm probably staying 0:12:34.400 --> 0:12:35.720 out of it. You're staying out, You're just gonna let 0:12:35.720 --> 0:12:43.040 it RIDEE. Does that make you less of a friend? Um? 0:12:43.080 --> 0:12:47.800 I don't think so, because I think it's WoT. I 0:12:47.840 --> 0:12:49.679 feel like, no, it doesn't make you less of a friend. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:52.200 But I feel like if you were to tell that friend, 0:12:52.440 --> 0:12:55.120 then maybe makes you more of a friend. Do you 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:57.520 know what I'm saying? So if you say nothing, you 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:02.640 just you just level out exactly exactly, but I would 0:13:02.760 --> 0:13:05.880 expect you know, on the on first of all, yes, 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:08.480 if some if we're if we're if I'm not there 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:12.199 and someone's talking about me, like, oh, I'm pretty sure 0:13:12.200 --> 0:13:16.240 you're gonna shut it down there immediately, like you're gonna 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:18.199 speak up, You're gonna be like, we ain't doing this, 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:20.960 that's not what we're doing, right exactly. Yeah, Okay, Now 0:13:21.000 --> 0:13:24.199 this is another question. So if if we're talking about 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:25.760 if there's a group of girls that says five of 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:29.320 us and we're and one person starts talking about a 0:13:29.360 --> 0:13:32.560 woman a lady that's not there, and then three of 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:36.360 us chime in to co sign the drag nation of 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:38.880 it all like let's let's let's say we co sign 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:42.360 and what is being said? Are we wrong for co sign? 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:45.280 And what is being said because we didn't bring it up, 0:13:45.280 --> 0:13:46.840 We just co signed it as it was coming out 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:52.360 somebody else's mouth. A very good question, you know what 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:57.559 I'm saying, Like, it's this really gossip. It's hard because 0:13:57.600 --> 0:14:01.160 it's like if it's if it's like true, or if 0:14:01.200 --> 0:14:04.200 people can co sign it and you're like really friends, 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:12.400 then this is it's it is really hard, um because 0:14:12.440 --> 0:14:15.000 this because I feel like this should be entitled what 0:14:15.160 --> 0:14:17.800 the F Not to do? If you are in a 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:22.520 friendship with a group of girls. Okay, so if one 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:26.400 if if there's a girlfriend that's not there and somebody 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:28.960 else who's who's at the table is spilling her beans 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:32.840 and telling all her business and everybody else at the 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:36.280 table agrees. Is everybody else at the table wrong? Oh god, 0:14:37.160 --> 0:14:39.600 it's so hard I kind of say no. Yeah, I 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:42.480 say no as well, because she just depends, all right. 0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:45.600 So so clearly the person that's like spilling the beans 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.440 has you know, has it out for that person, right, 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:52.920 And but if that, but if they are saying something 0:14:52.960 --> 0:14:56.600 that's true, the other people sitting there, like I can't 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:58.640 sit there, shouldn't sit there and be like I don't 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.560 know what you're talking about? Right, right, you know what 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:03.400 I mean? But it's like that one person opened the 0:15:03.440 --> 0:15:06.240 can of worms. This this is true. Um, it's just 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:08.200 but maybe she's just maybe as a friend, you should 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.520 just kind of like stay out of it. Yeah, I mean, 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:12.160 it's just hard because like when you have a group 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.880 of friends, not everyone has the same level of friendship 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:18.920 with each other. So so yeah, it's like it's hard 0:15:18.960 --> 0:15:21.000 to stay out of it, and I'm so shady. I 0:15:21.000 --> 0:15:22.600 want to be in it exactly, and you want to 0:15:22.640 --> 0:15:25.240 know like what's being said, So yes, tell me more 0:15:25.840 --> 0:15:28.280 and then give me the facts. Run it down, right, 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:30.040 So it's better just to be like, tell me more, 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:34.800 but not to like say anything in reply. Yeah, okay, okay, Okay. 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.320 So that's what she should do. You should not necessarily 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.280 you should get all the information, but don't chime in exactly. 0:15:40.440 --> 0:15:43.440 That is what you should give me the t Yeah, 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:45.200 but I got nothing to say in response. I got 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:47.040 nothing to say in response. Okay. So let's say you 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:49.520 had a girlfriend and she's going through a divorce, right, 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:53.360 and the divorce isn't final, they're just going through the divorce. 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:57.880 And the guy she's divorcing is around town on dates 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:03.600 and we see that happening. Do we tell our girlfriend 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:06.840 that he's going that he's around town on dates? Do 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:09.720 we stay out of it? Do we add field to 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:12.440 the fire and let her know? What? Do we do? Yes, 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:15.240 we definitely tell her. Why do we tell her? Does 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.600 she care that going through a divorce? I mean, why 0:16:17.600 --> 0:16:21.640 wouldn't you tell her? I feel like, and so it's hard. 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:24.440 I feel like My question is when people are going 0:16:25.120 --> 0:16:29.520 through a divorce as their friend. Is it better to say, 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:31.560 all right, girl, we well, we're gonna get you out 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:33.200 in the streets, We're gonna find you somebody to date. 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:36.680 Or is it like you know what like for me, Like, okay, 0:16:36.680 --> 0:16:41.160 I believe in um, you know, trying to keep marriages together, 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:44.360 trying to keep families together. Like, so I'm not gonna 0:16:44.440 --> 0:16:46.800 be like so quick to be like our girl, let's 0:16:46.840 --> 0:16:48.920 get you out. So it's like, when do you bring 0:16:48.960 --> 0:16:52.680 you When do you kind of encourage your separated friend 0:16:52.720 --> 0:16:55.600 who's going through divorce not yet divorce, to actually like 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:58.360 go out. Okay, So this is what I would do. 0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:00.000 I don't I don't know the answer to that question. 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:02.600 Oh wait, man, as soon she tells me she's getting 0:17:02.640 --> 0:17:06.000 a divorce, it's on it popping. I'm immediately trying to 0:17:06.040 --> 0:17:08.760 set you up with other people, no question, not saying 0:17:08.800 --> 0:17:10.800 I just feel like I would wait until the divorce's final. 0:17:10.960 --> 0:17:15.200 Nah nah, because you're like done. If you're getting a divorce, 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:17.080 and if you have it in your in your spirit 0:17:17.640 --> 0:17:20.280 and you didn't call it an attorney, then you want 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:23.399 to be out. But there's always a chance of reconciliation. 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:26.480 So reconcile after you didn't sat on a couple of penuts. 0:17:27.480 --> 0:17:31.800 That's that's when you reconcile. You got in. I guess 0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:34.320 it depends, Like I guess, I feel like if I 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:37.120 think you know it's worth saving this marriage, Like if 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:39.920 I'm like, okay, y'all divorcing for like silly reasons you 0:17:40.040 --> 0:17:42.280 got kids or whatever, Like I'm not ready to throw 0:17:42.320 --> 0:17:44.600 you into the streets. Okay, I'm ready to throw you 0:17:44.600 --> 0:17:47.360 into the streets now because you want them to join you. 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:53.040 I mean, yes, I want company in the streets. Okay, 0:17:53.240 --> 0:17:55.359 there's nothing wrong with that. Okay, I'm gonna trying to 0:17:55.440 --> 0:17:58.480 keep your marriage. I'm trying to save it. Okay. So basically, 0:17:59.280 --> 0:18:01.520 Robin is saying what you're not supposed to effing do 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:07.680 is what I just said. However, um let's let's say that, uh, 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:11.119 you you're you're going through your divorce or whatever. Your 0:18:11.160 --> 0:18:14.800 husband's out here in these streets, he's on dates. I 0:18:14.840 --> 0:18:16.560 want you to know, I'm the girl that's gonna take 0:18:16.560 --> 0:18:19.680 two pictures and the videos and I'm going to send 0:18:19.680 --> 0:18:21.719 them to you, right Okay, it's as you might need 0:18:21.800 --> 0:18:24.600 them in your in your like divorce settlement okay, okay, okay, 0:18:24.600 --> 0:18:26.000 I thought you're gonna tell me no I should I 0:18:26.000 --> 0:18:28.000 should stay out of it. No, no, no, yeah, take 0:18:28.040 --> 0:18:30.160 two pictures tell me whatever. You know what I'm saying, 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:33.919 like if if I don't, I feel like because you 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:36.720 just never know when people agree to divorce, you never 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:38.480 know if they actually going to go through with it 0:18:38.600 --> 0:18:41.399 or or you know, if it turns contentious or whatever, 0:18:41.480 --> 0:18:43.879 if it's a bunc he says, she say all that 0:18:43.920 --> 0:18:46.560 type of stuff, like, yeah, let's tell them, tell your friends, 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:50.919 Oh I saw your man whatever, your ex husband. Okay, 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:54.720 I believe in in in the cheating situations, unless you 0:18:54.760 --> 0:18:58.800 have receipts, they didn't cheat. I could because this is 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:01.159 this is how I feel because like if you say, oh, 0:19:01.520 --> 0:19:03.560 just that I saw your dude walking down the street 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:07.040 holding hands with somebody, unless you gotta picture that it 0:19:07.080 --> 0:19:10.320 didn't happen or the street or that's what they say. 0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:13.640 They said, they said they saw you walking down the street. 0:19:13.680 --> 0:19:16.359 That's what. Who the hell is they? Right? So unless 0:19:16.400 --> 0:19:18.520 you can tell me who they is, unless they have 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:22.239 some sort of video footage, then don't come to me 0:19:22.240 --> 0:19:23.720 with this because you don't have no receipts. So you're 0:19:23.720 --> 0:19:25.439 making a sen and then only have to be like 0:19:26.000 --> 0:19:28.600 she lying, that wasn't me right in the story. Right, 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:30.399 Because if you go to your dude and you're like, 0:19:30.640 --> 0:19:32.439 did you were you walking there the street told her 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:37.600 hands with somebody, He's gonna be like, we're no res. Yeah, 0:19:37.640 --> 0:19:40.000 he's gonna be like, no, that won't me. That was 0:19:40.040 --> 0:19:44.200 another black man that looked like me. Next, and then 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:45.879 and then you have nothing to back that up, and 0:19:45.880 --> 0:19:49.840 then you look stupid. Right, Yeah, So unless you have receipts, ladies, 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:53.560 then keep it to yourself. I agree. Let's let's talk 0:19:53.560 --> 0:19:57.719 about sensitive issues, sensitive topics. Because you know, we're women. 0:19:58.280 --> 0:20:03.080 We have like scares, health scares, We've got, um, you know, 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:06.080 our hair has fallen out, we have ingrown tone nails. 0:20:06.080 --> 0:20:07.919 I don't know. We have stuff that happens and to 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:12.000 us that's sensitive to us. Um are we sharing that 0:20:12.040 --> 0:20:14.520 with our girlfriends? Do we share that information? Do we 0:20:14.600 --> 0:20:17.760 keep that to ourselves? I mean, it depends on what 0:20:17.800 --> 0:20:22.560 it is. I think, Gosh, I think there's like a 0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:26.400 time and a place for which you share. And you know, well, 0:20:26.400 --> 0:20:28.840 first of all, I'm sure people you share stuff with 0:20:28.880 --> 0:20:31.040 your like closest girlfriend the way you talked to all 0:20:31.040 --> 0:20:33.399 the time, right, but like do you share it with 0:20:33.440 --> 0:20:36.320 the group all at once? And like what is it? 0:20:36.640 --> 0:20:39.240 So what are we talking about? Like, okay, because you 0:20:39.240 --> 0:20:43.080 have differently Okay, I'm pregnant. No, no, let's let's say 0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:46.600 you have a tumor. Okay, under underneath your arm pit? 0:20:46.760 --> 0:20:49.479 God forbid. I mean, I don't know if that ever happens. 0:20:49.720 --> 0:20:51.399 But let's but you're not really sure whether or not 0:20:51.440 --> 0:20:53.680 it's a tumor. You're just going through the process with 0:20:53.760 --> 0:20:56.640 the doctors. Do you come to a group of girlfriends 0:20:56.640 --> 0:20:58.439 and then do you share this information? Because if you 0:20:58.440 --> 0:21:01.760 share this information is really nothing to it, Like, there's 0:21:01.800 --> 0:21:04.439 nothing really wrong with you. Don't you just look like 0:21:04.480 --> 0:21:06.159 a person that's like, look at me, look at me. 0:21:06.400 --> 0:21:08.200