1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:01,680 Speaker 1: Trust me. 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:04,120 Speaker 2: Trust me. 3 00:00:04,480 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 3: I'm like a swat person. 4 00:00:06,200 --> 00:00:09,920 Speaker 4: I've never lived to you, do you. 5 00:00:09,840 --> 00:00:14,760 Speaker 2: Think that one person has all the answers? Don't welcome 6 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 2: to trust Me? The podcast about cult, extreme belief and 7 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 2: the abuse of power from two students of life who've 8 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:22,439 Speaker 2: actually experienced it. 9 00:00:22,440 --> 00:00:24,520 Speaker 4: I am Lola Blanc and I'm Megan Elizabeth. 10 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:27,360 Speaker 2: Today we are going to talk to doctor you've all Llower, 11 00:00:27,920 --> 00:00:32,200 Speaker 2: a behavioral and cultural scientist who studies evolutionary biology, religion, 12 00:00:32,440 --> 00:00:34,559 Speaker 2: and the sociology of religion. 13 00:00:34,640 --> 00:00:36,120 Speaker 1: This is a fascinating episode. 14 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 2: He's going to talk to us about heightened spiritual states 15 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 2: called AWE experiences, how attachment to a belief system is 16 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 2: similar to attachment to a parent or a lover and 17 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 2: goes through similar phases, and the various manipulative emotional tactics 18 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 2: that cult leaders use to generate fervor and bond their 19 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:52,440 Speaker 2: followers to that. 20 00:00:52,920 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 3: We're also going to talk about tempero love, epilepsy, and 21 00:00:56,360 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 3: hyper religiosity, and how certain kinds of seizure can make 22 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 3: people truly believe they're in touch with God. 23 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:08,479 Speaker 2: Ooh, I think we've all been mispronouncing temporal this whole time. 24 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:12,959 Speaker 4: That's so cool. That's so awesome. We're such scientists. 25 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 1: Temporal temporal who fucking cares? 26 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:21,399 Speaker 4: No one cares. So, Lola, what's the cultiest thing that 27 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 4: happened to you this week? 28 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:24,759 Speaker 1: Well, so. 29 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 2: I'm having some conflict within myself about the degree to 30 00:01:31,400 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 2: which I adhere to my own cult of skepticism. Ah, 31 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 2: so okay, So this week I got into a conversation 32 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:41,039 Speaker 2: with a girlfriend who's super smart. You know, she's very 33 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 2: good at critical thinking. I would say of my friends, 34 00:01:43,520 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 2: she's one of the best. And she showed me a 35 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,760 Speaker 2: woman that she likes, who does a lot of YouTube videos, 36 00:01:50,960 --> 00:01:54,600 Speaker 2: who talks about attachment theory. And actually, it's funny because 37 00:01:54,640 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 2: we talk a lot about attachment theory in this episode 38 00:01:56,520 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 2: Attachment theory. We will describe more later on, but it's 39 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 2: it's been helpful for me. It's been helpful for her 40 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 2: in sort of categorizing what went wrong with some of 41 00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 2: our past relationships that fucking confused us and made us 42 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 2: feel like we were crazy. Right, So she shows me 43 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 2: this woman, and this woman does YouTube video every day, 44 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:15,639 Speaker 2: she wears lots of makeup. But I go in thinking, oh, 45 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:19,240 Speaker 2: she's a psychologist. That's interesting. She specialized as an attachment theory. 46 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,800 Speaker 2: Maybe I'll look her up. So my friend is showing me. 47 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 2: We're in a pod together, so we see each other 48 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 2: in person. She shows me her video, and I start 49 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 2: looking the woman up while she's talking because some of 50 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 2: what she's saying, I'm like, this sounds like some broad 51 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 2: generalizations here. And I start googling this woman and her 52 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 2: website says that she's an m and she's a PhD candidate, 53 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:43,959 Speaker 2: but it doesn't say what school, and so I start 54 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:45,840 Speaker 2: googling trying to find what school she goes to, and 55 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:50,359 Speaker 2: I cannot find a school anywhere. And then I googled 56 00:02:50,400 --> 00:02:53,920 Speaker 2: the type of psychology that it says she studies, and 57 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 2: it's a type of psychology that is spiritual and not 58 00:02:57,680 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 2: actually a thing, like it's. 59 00:02:58,960 --> 00:03:00,880 Speaker 1: Not studied at any schools. 60 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 2: So I start saying this to my friend, and she 61 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:08,080 Speaker 2: understandably got defensive because she was showing me someone who's 62 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 2: been really helpful for her, right, And I was like 63 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 2: kind of just immediately shitting all. 64 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 4: Over it, right, right. 65 00:03:16,320 --> 00:03:18,520 Speaker 2: And so that's just a debate that I've been having 66 00:03:18,840 --> 00:03:22,359 Speaker 2: a lot within myself, which is like, yeah, this woman 67 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 2: is like kind of passing herself off as an actual psychologist. However, 68 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: she is talking about things, she's reading books that have 69 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 2: good information, and she's not so far that we're aware 70 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 2: of passing along any like terrible information. Right for me, 71 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 2: it's just inherently a red flag when someone's not being 72 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 2: transparent about what their credentials are. Yeah, yeah, that as 73 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 2: soon as I see that, if I can't figure out 74 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 2: what school you went to, or I see that you're 75 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 2: fudging something, that's immediately my red flags are like no. 76 00:03:50,720 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 1: No, no, no no. 77 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 78 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:54,119 Speaker 2: And then I dug a little deeper and I saw 79 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 2: that some of her early YouTube videos are very spiritually 80 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 2: focused and one of them even features my faceavorite cult 81 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:03,600 Speaker 2: leader on Instagram, Benton Helma Sorrow, who was like not 82 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 2: even remotely like he's just a complete and utter bullshitter. 83 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 2: So I we had this sort of light conflict and 84 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:13,680 Speaker 2: we talked about it and we resolved it and nice, Yeah, 85 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 2: it was like it went okay, But where is the line? 86 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 2: Because I do find that I, you know, I have 87 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 2: a really hard time like just letting people have something 88 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:24,560 Speaker 2: that's good for them and that works for them if 89 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 2: it's not like if I have any reflags, But does 90 00:04:29,240 --> 00:04:31,279 Speaker 2: it matter, Like why does it fucking matter? You know, 91 00:04:31,320 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 2: it would be different if she were spending a bunch 92 00:04:32,880 --> 00:04:34,840 Speaker 2: of money on this program, then I would feel the 93 00:04:34,920 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 2: need to intervene. 94 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,440 Speaker 1: But she's not. She's just watching YouTube videos right right. 95 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 4: Is it something just in you that's super protective? It is? 96 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:42,720 Speaker 4: It is? 97 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 2: It comes from, you know, my childhood with my mom 98 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 2: and feeling like, don't line of scam you you know completely, 99 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 2: but it's not helpful. I was talking to my mom 100 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 2: about it because she knows that this is something that 101 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 2: I do because I do it with her where I 102 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:59,440 Speaker 2: get very protective of her about, you know, whether she's 103 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:03,040 Speaker 2: trusting so someone prematurely or whether she looked into someone. 104 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 2: You know, I'm very vigilant about it. And I was like, Mom, 105 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:09,000 Speaker 2: what's the solution? Like, I don't I have this instinct 106 00:05:09,120 --> 00:05:11,239 Speaker 2: and I have a really hard time. I am really 107 00:05:11,279 --> 00:05:13,520 Speaker 2: really bad at faking my feelings, Like I'm really bad 108 00:05:13,560 --> 00:05:18,279 Speaker 2: at it. So her suggestion was like, give the person 109 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 2: a beat to just be supportive of what is making 110 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:24,440 Speaker 2: them happy. Like you don't have to do it right 111 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 2: in that moment and come back and revisit it later. 112 00:05:27,360 --> 00:05:29,480 Speaker 2: But like when they're telling you something that they're excited 113 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:31,279 Speaker 2: about you don't have to take the wind out of 114 00:05:31,279 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 2: their sales right in that moment, like a goddamn bitch. 115 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:36,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, so count to two then do it. 116 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 2: Anyway, I wish I had the book on you right now. 117 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 2: I can't find it, and I'm really pissed about it. 118 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,159 Speaker 2: But actually, one of the books I talked about in 119 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 2: this episode is Abraham Maslow's Religion, Values and Peak Experiences, 120 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 2: and he talks about like how skeptics they dig their 121 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:52,680 Speaker 2: heels in so deep into skepticism that that isn't any 122 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 2: better than religion, of course, and I do believe that, 123 00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:59,720 Speaker 2: and that's the cult that I find myself kind of 124 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,840 Speaker 2: getting stuck it. Yeah, but it does genuinely come from 125 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:04,840 Speaker 2: a protective place. 126 00:06:05,040 --> 00:06:05,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 127 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:08,800 Speaker 3: Ooh, I'm excited to see how this unfolds for you. 128 00:06:09,160 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 2: Ah, thanks, man, I don't know. I'm just doing I'm 129 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 2: doing my best as a person. This is a flaw 130 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 2: that I have trying to be better. 131 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:17,839 Speaker 4: Exciting. 132 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 1: Thanks. Anyway, what was the cultiest thing for you? 133 00:06:21,040 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 3: I mean, I guess I'm trying to quit caffeine, which 134 00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 3: I am in the cult of caffeine, and I've gone 135 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 3: two days without it, so wish me luck because today 136 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 3: I'm going to be doing a lot of running around. 137 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 2: Are you feeling irritable and angry and grumpy? 138 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's all the time, so I don't know 139 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 3: how much of that is from the caffeine. 140 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:42,600 Speaker 4: I just feel really. 141 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:47,280 Speaker 3: Sluggish, sloggish, sluggish, sluggish. Yeah, I feel really sluggish, and 142 00:06:47,400 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 3: yeah I feel angry. So I'm going to give it 143 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 3: a few more days and then hopefully it'll be out 144 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 3: of my system because I'm just sleeping like shit and 145 00:06:54,400 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 3: I want to join the Cult of Sleep. 146 00:06:56,920 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's a good ass cult right there. 147 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, the Dope's leader, the dream Man, Sandman Sandman. 148 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 1: I follow the Sandman religiously. 149 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 4: Well, this episode is great. 150 00:07:13,600 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 2: How about let's get into yavall now, Yeah, let's do it. 151 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 2: Welcome you've all la orl. 152 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:32,480 Speaker 5: The way you said it was fun. 153 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,160 Speaker 1: Okay, great, Thank you so much for coming on. 154 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 5: Thank you for having me. 155 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:38,760 Speaker 2: So today we're going to talk about awe and fervor 156 00:07:38,920 --> 00:07:43,560 Speaker 2: and experiences and how they get people sucked into cults 157 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 2: and keep them in there. Can you just tell us 158 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 2: about your background and how you got into the subject 159 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:49,160 Speaker 2: in the first place. 160 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 5: So my background, I dropped out of graduate school and physics, 161 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 5: and then I joined graduate school and the humanities. And 162 00:07:58,400 --> 00:08:02,440 Speaker 5: my advisor for Sir A via Blanca, who is incredible. 163 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:05,520 Speaker 5: She is an evolutionary theorist, but she reads a book 164 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:08,240 Speaker 5: a day and knows a lot about everything. When I 165 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:11,360 Speaker 5: learned evolution from her, had the hobby, developed the hobby 166 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 5: of following scientology and some other cults, so I knew 167 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:19,640 Speaker 5: basic things about scientology and about the type of manipulation 168 00:08:19,800 --> 00:08:23,560 Speaker 5: and devotion. And as part of her class, you know, 169 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 5: I wrote the final project. And my final project I 170 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 5: wanted to read about evolution of religiosity theories, and when 171 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 5: I read books in the cognitive science of religion where 172 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 5: religiosity is described in the context of the way ideas spread, 173 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:43,520 Speaker 5: and they say that ideas that have counterfactual elements are 174 00:08:43,520 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 5: remembered more. Therefore religion, the end experiences and things like 175 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 5: that are neglected. So you know, I took that class 176 00:08:52,720 --> 00:08:55,000 Speaker 5: close to twenty years ago. I've been working on this 177 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 5: for many, many years. But I wrote up first the 178 00:08:57,640 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 5: masters and then a PhD on the subject. The problems 179 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 5: with some of the academic discussion about evolution. That and 180 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:09,480 Speaker 5: having read a lot about scientology, and also the certain 181 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,320 Speaker 5: book called The Evolution of Consciousness and the Breakdown of 182 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 5: the by Camera Mind by Julian James from seventy six 183 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 5: light Rehea and I read that book before my class, 184 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 5: and I think it was a Tuesday. I went to 185 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,439 Speaker 5: Professor Ya Blanca. I asked her if you read this book, 186 00:09:24,440 --> 00:09:27,880 Speaker 5: it's about evolution, and I gave it to her on Tuesday. 187 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 5: She gave it back to me on Thursday saying it 188 00:09:29,720 --> 00:09:32,200 Speaker 5: was very good, but he doesn't understand theory of mind. 189 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:36,560 Speaker 5: All those things led me more and more towards trying 190 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 5: to come up with an evolutionary theory. Now this is evolution, evodiva, 191 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 5: evolutionary developmental theory, so this is not what it was 192 00:09:44,559 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 5: good for. And the Savannah it's none of that. So 193 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 5: that's how I got to the subject. I've never been 194 00:09:50,840 --> 00:09:53,680 Speaker 5: a cult member. I was a nationalist when I was 195 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 5: a child, but I'm not that anymore at all. And 196 00:09:57,480 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 5: I feel like I'm writing a book about tennis but 197 00:10:01,040 --> 00:10:04,839 Speaker 5: having never played tennis. Ex members or people who are 198 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:07,559 Speaker 5: phenomenal tennis players, but they don't know what they're doing. 199 00:10:08,280 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 5: They don't know how to describe what they're doing. You know, 200 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 5: they just know that they hold the racket, and they 201 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 5: like I can describe the technical things that need to 202 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 5: be done, but I don't know how it's done. You know. 203 00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:22,480 Speaker 5: I would come up with different aspects of my theory, 204 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 5: and when we discuss it with ex cult members, they 205 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:28,440 Speaker 5: would tell me that I am onto something that you know, 206 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 5: I would really value that. 207 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: Can you explain to us what belief attachment is? 208 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 5: Okay? Well, belief attachment is the current working name that 209 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:42,080 Speaker 5: I've been giving to a construct. It's another type of 210 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 5: attachment or another type of love, but it is one 211 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 5: that attaches a person, not to another person or a 212 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:54,720 Speaker 5: baby or a parent, but too. I call it a 213 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 5: package of beliefs, so it's sort of a set of ideas. 214 00:10:57,920 --> 00:10:59,880 Speaker 2: I just want to clarify to anyone who's not from 215 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:04,120 Speaker 2: with what attachment means. It's just the way a baby 216 00:11:04,120 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 2: becomes attached to their parents. 217 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 5: And the parent is attached to the baby. 218 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: So it's right. 219 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 5: It's a way to talk about love without having to 220 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:15,720 Speaker 5: get with it all the baggage that the word love might. 221 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:19,800 Speaker 2: Might come with, right, I personally am a big fan 222 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 2: of attachment theory. I apply it to all of my relationships. 223 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:25,719 Speaker 2: But it's a different thing. But I think a lot 224 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:27,920 Speaker 2: of people who listen, maybe will that will be their 225 00:11:27,960 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 2: framework for what attachment is. 226 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, but attachment theory by Boalby and Than Ainsworth, I 227 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,320 Speaker 5: think it depends too much on an assumption that we 228 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:43,480 Speaker 5: are similar to chimpanzees, especially in Bolby, and we are 229 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:47,679 Speaker 5: very different in our family relationships and chimpanzees. A chimpanzee 230 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 5: mothers never let anybody take care of the baby, so 231 00:11:50,920 --> 00:11:55,439 Speaker 5: there's no grandparents in the baby's life, no fathers, no aunts. 232 00:11:56,000 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 5: So humans are actually raised children much more like marmoset 233 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:03,319 Speaker 5: them like chimpanzees. But of course there is a lot 234 00:12:03,360 --> 00:12:06,200 Speaker 5: of great insights and Bulby is incredible. 235 00:12:06,240 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 1: Of course, no idea what that means. 236 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think just the very basic, like the basic 237 00:12:14,160 --> 00:12:17,360 Speaker 2: bitch version of attachment theory, which is just like he's 238 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:22,199 Speaker 2: an avoidant. I'm anxious, But obviously belief attachment is a 239 00:12:22,520 --> 00:12:25,200 Speaker 2: different thing. But I just wanted to explain just generally 240 00:12:25,200 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 2: what that is for people. What were you gonna say? 241 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 3: Again, I literally was going to make a joke about 242 00:12:30,880 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 3: attachment theory and it's gone now, so. 243 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:36,880 Speaker 1: Okay, I'm good. 244 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 2: So how does this kind of attachment exhibit itself when 245 00:12:44,840 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 2: someone is joining a new group, is or is in 246 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:49,160 Speaker 2: a group already. 247 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:53,760 Speaker 5: Okay, so I talked about attachments. Attachments are the relationship, 248 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 5: but they're also a commitment and they're also tied to 249 00:12:57,960 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 5: a state of emotions or psychological events that can happen. 250 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:07,560 Speaker 5: So if we look at parental love or mother to 251 00:13:07,640 --> 00:13:10,439 Speaker 5: child love, you know it's common to all mammals, right, 252 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:13,520 Speaker 5: Romantic love is in between five and ten percent of mammals. 253 00:13:14,120 --> 00:13:17,840 Speaker 5: We see that there's a certain emotion or set of 254 00:13:17,880 --> 00:13:21,280 Speaker 5: emotions that we call love, and they also have an 255 00:13:21,320 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 5: event that establishes them. Right, So you can have a 256 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:28,360 Speaker 5: falling in love event, which is a very sudden thing. 257 00:13:29,160 --> 00:13:32,160 Speaker 5: For example, if someone put a baby on your doorstep 258 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:34,720 Speaker 5: and you open the door and there's a baby there, 259 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:38,319 Speaker 5: your life might radically change in a day or two, right, 260 00:13:39,160 --> 00:13:42,319 Speaker 5: And I think that that event is the sudden conversion, 261 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:45,199 Speaker 5: the same way that you can fall in love with 262 00:13:45,280 --> 00:13:47,679 Speaker 5: a baby and it changes your life, and it changes 263 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:50,760 Speaker 5: how you think of yourself and what you do and 264 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:54,360 Speaker 5: your sense of meaning. The equivalent to sudden falling in 265 00:13:54,400 --> 00:13:58,760 Speaker 5: love is sudden conversion, where too, you can change your 266 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:02,080 Speaker 5: life you can change your habit. You can have people 267 00:14:02,120 --> 00:14:06,240 Speaker 5: who whatever the pope says, or whatever a political leader says, 268 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:09,559 Speaker 5: or whatever you know their cult leader says, they are 269 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:14,080 Speaker 5: committed to that being true even before that person said it. Right. 270 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:18,560 Speaker 5: And you can be committed to the contents of a 271 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:21,520 Speaker 5: book that you can believe with all your heart that 272 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:24,280 Speaker 5: whatever is in that book is true, but you don't 273 00:14:24,360 --> 00:14:27,880 Speaker 5: know what's in the book, but you're still committed to 274 00:14:27,960 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 5: the truth value of a set of ideas that you 275 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:31,880 Speaker 5: yourself are not aware of. 276 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 2: Right, And what do you think seals someone to this 277 00:14:36,880 --> 00:14:37,800 Speaker 2: strong belief? 278 00:14:38,200 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 5: So if you're asking what establishes an attachment to belief 279 00:14:42,120 --> 00:14:45,240 Speaker 5: with high fervor right so further, it's like the trait 280 00:14:45,320 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 5: of being in love, where you can like someone more 281 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:51,800 Speaker 5: and more and more, but once you like them enough, 282 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:56,160 Speaker 5: then you can switch into an infatuated situation. I think 283 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 5: that a similar thing happens also in parental love, but 284 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:02,840 Speaker 5: also and attachment to ideas, where you can your belief 285 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 5: can get stronger and stronger, but there is a point 286 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:08,160 Speaker 5: where the belief gets a little stronger and you get 287 00:15:08,160 --> 00:15:11,760 Speaker 5: into the state of further where things are a lot 288 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:15,840 Speaker 5: more intense. You have intrusive thoughts, and it really determines 289 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:17,880 Speaker 5: your priorities. What do you think is important. 290 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:22,440 Speaker 2: So it's like it's you're infatuated with l Ron Hubbard 291 00:15:22,520 --> 00:15:25,520 Speaker 2: or you're infatuated with whoever your leader is. 292 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:29,480 Speaker 5: Okay, yeah, and it can be quite complicated. Now you 293 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:33,400 Speaker 5: ask what establishes this? Right, how does this come about? 294 00:15:33,800 --> 00:15:37,960 Speaker 5: So I think that it is a strong AWE experience 295 00:15:38,640 --> 00:15:43,040 Speaker 5: combined with the right expectations, assumptions, and contents. 296 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 2: Okay, this is the juicy stuff, and this is what 297 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:47,840 Speaker 2: I'm excited to talk to you about. 298 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:50,120 Speaker 1: So, yeah, what is awe? 299 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:56,640 Speaker 5: If we're talking about the similarity between parental love, romantic love, 300 00:15:57,040 --> 00:16:00,760 Speaker 5: and attachment to beliefs, then all experience is play the 301 00:16:00,840 --> 00:16:05,320 Speaker 5: role that love experiences do. So normally, what triggers all 302 00:16:05,400 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 5: experiences are things that are sufficiently anomalous. Okay, Now, what 303 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:13,720 Speaker 5: is sufficiently anomalous depends on what you think is normal. 304 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:18,480 Speaker 5: So that can be things that you consider to be miraculous. 305 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:22,800 Speaker 5: For example, it can be seeing something that's very vast, 306 00:16:22,840 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 5: a vast view of asked building, or thinking about the 307 00:16:26,520 --> 00:16:29,800 Speaker 5: size of the galaxy or things like that. Right, you 308 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 5: can get it from celebrities right, So when you see 309 00:16:33,400 --> 00:16:35,760 Speaker 5: a celebrity you live in la that you can get 310 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:40,320 Speaker 5: awe and all experience. And it depends if there's a crowd, right, 311 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:42,280 Speaker 5: So if you're part of a crowd or if you're 312 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:45,080 Speaker 5: in front of a crowd, that's more likely to trigger 313 00:16:45,160 --> 00:16:49,640 Speaker 5: awe because it's what you judge to be anomalous. It 314 00:16:49,680 --> 00:16:54,000 Speaker 5: can be almost anything. And what can happen is that 315 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:57,360 Speaker 5: if a sufficiently strong experience is combined with the right 316 00:16:57,400 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 5: expectations and assumptions and context, then that experience can function 317 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 5: as a proof of things that are not related. An 318 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 5: example that I take from a previous podcast episode is 319 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 5: Lola's mother who dreamt. In the podcast, she described that 320 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:20,359 Speaker 5: she dreamt about someone and then she saw someone that 321 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 5: matches the person that she dreamt of. Now, she judged 322 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:27,240 Speaker 5: that to be sufficiently anomalous for her to have an 323 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 5: awe experience. For her, that experience function as a proof 324 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:36,160 Speaker 5: that this person was the right person for her and 325 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:39,879 Speaker 5: to believe him when he tells her this or that right. 326 00:17:39,920 --> 00:17:44,639 Speaker 5: So we see that the experience without being conscious of it, 327 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 5: without her really noticing, the strong experience, proved something that's 328 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 5: completely unrelated to the experience. Right, dreaming about someone and 329 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:59,119 Speaker 5: then seeing them could be a proof that Buddhism is correct, 330 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:03,639 Speaker 5: that Hinduism is correct, Shintoism is correct, that Christianity is correct, 331 00:18:03,840 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 5: or in her case, that fundamental Mormonism was correct, right right. 332 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:11,080 Speaker 5: And we see that again and again when it comes 333 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:14,080 Speaker 5: to examples of miracles. For example, even in the Bible, 334 00:18:14,680 --> 00:18:16,840 Speaker 5: we have the example of Jesus walking on the water, 335 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 5: and in the Biblical story, people say, oh, ghosts exist, 336 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 5: he is a ghost, But then he gets to the 337 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 5: boat and he tells him no. This miracle doesn't prove 338 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:31,119 Speaker 5: the unrelated conclusion that ghosts exist. It proves that I 339 00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:33,520 Speaker 5: am Jesus. But that is the only miracle in the 340 00:18:33,520 --> 00:18:37,439 Speaker 5: Bible that I know where people mistake what the miracle means, 341 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 5: because you know, seeing the Red Sea part, people saw 342 00:18:40,880 --> 00:18:42,960 Speaker 5: that and concluded, all right, I guess we do need 343 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:46,159 Speaker 5: to cut our penises right under ghost circumcisions. 344 00:18:46,160 --> 00:18:48,440 Speaker 2: I mean, that's the natural conclusion, the conclusion I draw 345 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:49,119 Speaker 2: from most things. 346 00:18:50,880 --> 00:18:54,200 Speaker 5: So you need to ask what determines what the experience 347 00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:56,640 Speaker 5: will prove, right, Because if the same experience could prove 348 00:18:56,800 --> 00:19:00,200 Speaker 5: one hundred different religions are true. And now you see 349 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:02,480 Speaker 5: things as they really are and you feel that it's 350 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:06,320 Speaker 5: really real. Then you can ask, well, what determines which 351 00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:10,239 Speaker 5: one was proven? And I think that to answer that, 352 00:19:10,280 --> 00:19:13,600 Speaker 5: we can think of three atheists that have the exact 353 00:19:13,640 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 5: same beliefs, and one of them, if she sees a miracle, 354 00:19:17,520 --> 00:19:20,159 Speaker 5: that would prove to her that Catholicism is correct. In 355 00:19:20,200 --> 00:19:22,520 Speaker 5: person B, if he sees a miracle, that would prove 356 00:19:22,560 --> 00:19:26,320 Speaker 5: to him that she Islam is correct. And the third person, 357 00:19:26,359 --> 00:19:29,400 Speaker 5: if they sees a miracle, maybe they would not know, right. 358 00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:33,920 Speaker 5: They might think that something is out there, but they 359 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 5: don't know what it is, and then ten years later 360 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:39,200 Speaker 5: they'll join a faith, become religion and they'll think, oh, 361 00:19:39,280 --> 00:19:43,400 Speaker 5: that's what that miracle meant. We can see that each 362 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,040 Speaker 5: one of them has a different what I would call 363 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:49,520 Speaker 5: a faith candidate. Right, so I'm not a believer, but 364 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:52,040 Speaker 5: if I see a miracle, that's what the miracle will 365 00:19:52,119 --> 00:19:55,360 Speaker 5: prove to me. Now, the faith candidate, which you don't 366 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:59,320 Speaker 5: believe in right before the experience, that's actually a lot 367 00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:02,199 Speaker 5: easier to change. So you can have a person that 368 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:06,120 Speaker 5: shows up at an ashram, right and for that person 369 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 5: normally every day if they walk down the street and 370 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:12,480 Speaker 5: they see something that they judge to be miraculous or 371 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:16,680 Speaker 5: sufficiently anomalous, it would prove to them that, let's say 372 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:21,160 Speaker 5: Catholicism is correct. But you know, they came to the ashram, 373 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:23,920 Speaker 5: they're on a trip, they're in India. Everybody in the 374 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:26,720 Speaker 5: ashram tells them that they believe that the Guru is God. 375 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:31,479 Speaker 5: So temporarily, for this settings they might not even notice, 376 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 5: but what their faith candidate is changed. So normally if 377 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:38,399 Speaker 5: they saw a miracle, they would think Catholicism was proven. 378 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:42,000 Speaker 5: Now because they're in this different setting, if they are 379 00:20:42,000 --> 00:20:45,679 Speaker 5: made to experience what they judged to be miraculous, then 380 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 5: they would prove to them that the local guru Dashrm 381 00:20:49,119 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 5: is God. So once you accepted the faith candidate, and 382 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:57,800 Speaker 5: then you said, all right, so let's do a retreat 383 00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 5: and meditate for five hours, get a blank wall right now. 384 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 5: A person that doesn't know that meditating for long hours 385 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 5: without a visual input will hallucinate. That will cause hallucinations. 386 00:21:11,960 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 5: So someone who's not aware that that would happen would 387 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:19,800 Speaker 5: judge the hallucinations when they show up as being sufficiently 388 00:21:19,800 --> 00:21:23,920 Speaker 5: anomalous right because they're unexpected and as such, they can 389 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:28,000 Speaker 5: trigger an awe experience which will prove to them that 390 00:21:28,240 --> 00:21:32,560 Speaker 5: you know, an experience is not an argument, but for humans, 391 00:21:32,680 --> 00:21:36,119 Speaker 5: the right kind of experience can be the ultimate argument. Right, 392 00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 5: and so what can happen is that person, right, they meditate, 393 00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 5: they hallucinate, they interpret that as being connected to the guru. Right, 394 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 5: the guru might do you know a magic trick or 395 00:21:48,480 --> 00:21:51,000 Speaker 5: they might know something about them that they couldn't have known, 396 00:21:51,240 --> 00:21:54,879 Speaker 5: which is hot reading for that person that can change 397 00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:57,920 Speaker 5: their life for decades or for the rest of their lives. 398 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:02,639 Speaker 5: They can be establish a commitment that is extremely strong 399 00:22:02,880 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 5: and just like the baby placed on your doorstep, it 400 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:10,080 Speaker 5: can hijack your life. This attachment. Now, when it comes 401 00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:13,200 Speaker 5: to the baby, you develop a parent to child attachment, 402 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 5: which is a very specific type. I think that many 403 00:22:16,640 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 5: people when they join a cult, their attachment to beliefs 404 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:23,919 Speaker 5: causes them to create a child to parent attachment with 405 00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 5: a cult leader, but also a parent to child attachment with. 406 00:22:28,080 --> 00:22:29,280 Speaker 4: The group with the cult. 407 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 5: Yeah, the type of giving that cult members give to 408 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:37,280 Speaker 5: their cults is much more similar to the giving that 409 00:22:37,400 --> 00:22:41,040 Speaker 5: parents give to children, rather than children give to parents. Right. 410 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,600 Speaker 3: But they go into it thinking that the cult might 411 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:44,640 Speaker 3: take care of them more. 412 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:48,960 Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, that's the dependence dream. It's called by Deckman where. 413 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 4: Oh wow, I have that for sure. 414 00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:57,760 Speaker 5: Where Yeah, where he describes how you think that you'll 415 00:22:57,840 --> 00:23:00,920 Speaker 5: join For example, I'll join Scientology and I'll be able 416 00:23:00,920 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 5: to depend Yeah. Right, we have l Ron Hubbard. He's 417 00:23:04,640 --> 00:23:08,280 Speaker 5: an amazing superhuman that will take care of us, and 418 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 5: and I'll be able to be dependent. Now, once you 419 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:13,119 Speaker 5: join Scientology, you find out that. 420 00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:17,120 Speaker 4: Psych the faith, the faith of all. 421 00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 5: Of the infinite future of countless billions of people, depends 422 00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,199 Speaker 5: on what you will do. Right, So you think that 423 00:23:24,240 --> 00:23:26,080 Speaker 5: you'll be able to depend on the cult. But then 424 00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,280 Speaker 5: once you get in, you find out that not just 425 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,160 Speaker 5: the cult depends on you to help it, but all 426 00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:34,040 Speaker 5: of humanity or all of the universe depends on you 427 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:39,000 Speaker 5: giving everything you got to the cause. Right, That's why. 428 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,639 Speaker 5: And some of you might have heard me describe this 429 00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:46,200 Speaker 5: in other places, But I think that cult members are 430 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:53,080 Speaker 5: in some ways similar to parents of evil demonic children. Yeah, yeah, 431 00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:56,560 Speaker 5: or Rosemary's baby, or some they just. 432 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:58,440 Speaker 4: Like are blind, right, they can't see. 433 00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:03,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, So it's a parent Charles Manson's parents, or Hitler's parents, 434 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:06,560 Speaker 5: or some you know, evil person's parents. We find out 435 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:09,520 Speaker 5: that they are devastated when their child died, and that 436 00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:13,359 Speaker 5: they refuse to accept the how horrible their child was, 437 00:24:14,000 --> 00:24:16,679 Speaker 5: and that they broke the law to help the child, 438 00:24:16,760 --> 00:24:20,160 Speaker 5: and that they helped the child conceal their crimes, we 439 00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:24,000 Speaker 5: excuse them. And if we find out that the child 440 00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,480 Speaker 5: also abused them horribly and that they gave all their 441 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 5: money to the child and the child took advantage of them, 442 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 5: we still forgive them. And then they're devastated when when 443 00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:35,760 Speaker 5: the child passes away. 444 00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:40,320 Speaker 4: That so sad. We don't do it with cult members, yes. 445 00:24:40,119 --> 00:24:43,520 Speaker 5: But I do think that if we understand cult members 446 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:48,880 Speaker 5: as being manipulated by a similar mechanism to the mechanism 447 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:52,680 Speaker 5: that what we call a baby manipulate us. Of course, 448 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 5: a baby is not manipulating us. It's our mind that manipulates. 449 00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 5: But this mechanism that allows the creation of a super 450 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 5: super strong commitment, right, And it comes with blind spots, 451 00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,440 Speaker 5: It comes with rose colored glasses that you don't see 452 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:10,480 Speaker 5: the faults in your baby. Right, all those reality distortions, 453 00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:14,719 Speaker 5: you develop an extreme sensitivity to criticism as a parent. Right, 454 00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:20,440 Speaker 5: try to criticize, insulve the someone's baby and cell which 455 00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:23,920 Speaker 5: is why parents whose child joins a cult, when they 456 00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:26,800 Speaker 5: insult that cult and they speak badly of it, it 457 00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:30,920 Speaker 5: can do a lot of damage because it's people will 458 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 5: not continue listening. If you want someone to insult the 459 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:37,359 Speaker 5: cult as a parent, don't do it yourself. You're the 460 00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:40,199 Speaker 5: one that needs to be the lifeline out once the 461 00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,600 Speaker 5: fervor comes down. And I'll talk about that. You can 462 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:46,439 Speaker 5: ask other people to tell the kid that there's a 463 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,840 Speaker 5: problem with the cult, but as a parent or as 464 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,560 Speaker 5: a family member, you cannot do that, right. 465 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 2: I feel like that's an important thing, and Steve hasn't 466 00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:57,200 Speaker 2: talked a little bit about that too. It's just when 467 00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:00,840 Speaker 2: you directly criticize the group that the person and is in, 468 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:03,040 Speaker 2: that's when they close off to you. That's when they 469 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:06,720 Speaker 2: shut down. And this is such an interesting explanation for that, 470 00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:08,960 Speaker 2: Like if they really do have an attachment to this 471 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,800 Speaker 2: group and feel like it's their jobtor protect it, that 472 00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:15,679 Speaker 2: makes total sense. They're operating very logically within the framework 473 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:16,240 Speaker 2: that they have. 474 00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:22,399 Speaker 5: Yeah, and it is based on experiences for many people. 475 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:26,760 Speaker 5: The certainty, the sense of certainty that those experiences can create. 476 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,199 Speaker 5: People can be stuck with that even after leaving the 477 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 5: groups decades after leaving the groups, because you know, seeing 478 00:26:34,400 --> 00:26:38,080 Speaker 5: is believing right right, And people say, I, I how 479 00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:42,280 Speaker 5: else could you explain right right? This or that? Yeah, 480 00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,560 Speaker 5: there's a lot of things that you can't explain. You know, 481 00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 5: watch a magic show, you'll see things. But the strength 482 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:52,480 Speaker 5: of the experience and the commitment that it creates to 483 00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:57,160 Speaker 5: a set of beliefs can outlast the involvement with everything. 484 00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:00,879 Speaker 5: And I think that if people understand the potential power 485 00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:05,360 Speaker 5: that such experiences have on us and to identify them, 486 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 5: I think that it can help people break away from 487 00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 5: the spell of those experiences. 488 00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:12,360 Speaker 3: So kind of just being conscious of it is all 489 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:14,840 Speaker 3: you can do once you realize that you have these 490 00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:16,600 Speaker 3: lingering Well. 491 00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:22,000 Speaker 5: So if, for example, you left scientology, but when you 492 00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:24,879 Speaker 5: had an out of body experience when you stared at 493 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:28,639 Speaker 5: someone else for five hours straight, and that proved to 494 00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:32,440 Speaker 5: you that Hubbard something he said was correct. Now, normally 495 00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:35,960 Speaker 5: when you were in scientology, that experience proved that everything 496 00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:39,720 Speaker 5: he ever said was correct. Right, But now that you left, 497 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,359 Speaker 5: you say, all right, so when he lied and manipulated me, 498 00:27:42,480 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 5: maybe that was wrong. But something was going there. Maybe 499 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:48,880 Speaker 5: I was leaving my body. I felt it myself. There's 500 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 5: nothing your lips, your mouth can say for me to 501 00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,400 Speaker 5: not know what I experienced with my own senses. I 502 00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:57,960 Speaker 5: had an out of body experience or whatever it is 503 00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:02,800 Speaker 5: that experience. Now, if you understand the power of those experiences, 504 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:06,399 Speaker 5: why those experiences can happen to you, and if you 505 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:10,160 Speaker 5: understand how they feel. So, for example, our experiences many 506 00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:16,119 Speaker 5: times have a vestibular component, right to find it. So 507 00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:20,520 Speaker 5: the vestibular is a sense one of our sensory inputs 508 00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:24,040 Speaker 5: and their sense of balance and motion. So when we 509 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 5: feel that we're floating, that would be a vestibular sensation. 510 00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,520 Speaker 5: When we feel like we're heavy, that we're sinking, that 511 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:38,480 Speaker 5: we're flying, that we're lighter or heavier. Right, So people 512 00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:42,400 Speaker 5: will have an our experience, sometimes they would lose balance. Right, 513 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,160 Speaker 5: you see people shaking on the ground the floor of 514 00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 5: the church because they are so overwhelmed by the experience, 515 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:54,240 Speaker 5: and that our experience has that vestibular aspect that they 516 00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,920 Speaker 5: need to sit down otherwise you know, they'll lose their 517 00:28:56,960 --> 00:28:59,800 Speaker 5: balance and people can fall. And we know that a 518 00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 5: lot of spiritual things are described using vestibular language. Right, 519 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:08,320 Speaker 5: it's a seventh heaven, or I was high or I 520 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:13,280 Speaker 5: felt uplifted. Another aspect of an experience many times is 521 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 5: a vastness. You can sit at a concert listen to 522 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:22,080 Speaker 5: Beethoven's Ninth Symphony, have an experience because of the auditory, 523 00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:25,240 Speaker 5: because of the music, but feel like you're connecting with 524 00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,320 Speaker 5: the universe, like you're connecting with the galaxy. You have 525 00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:30,640 Speaker 5: a sensation that has a vastness. 526 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,440 Speaker 2: Component too, right, I just want to pause for a 527 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:37,200 Speaker 2: second and talk about what some of those experiences can 528 00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:39,320 Speaker 2: look like and what they have looked like for us, 529 00:29:39,600 --> 00:29:44,520 Speaker 2: because for me, I think doing mushrooms, doing psychedelics is 530 00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:47,240 Speaker 2: one of them. Of course I do them by myself. 531 00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,680 Speaker 2: I'm able to recognize that it's just like the mushroom 532 00:29:51,000 --> 00:29:54,000 Speaker 2: doing a thing in my brain. But I liken that 533 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:59,320 Speaker 2: to what someone's spiritual experience might feel like, a connectedness, 534 00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:03,440 Speaker 2: a feeling that you one with everything you know. I'm 535 00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 2: reading Religion Values in Peak Experiences by Abraham Maslow. There's 536 00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:11,560 Speaker 2: a quote in there that I really like. This is 537 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:13,760 Speaker 2: actually kind of segueing a little bit off here, but 538 00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 2: I'm gonna say it anyway. Here's the quote. Okay, and 539 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:19,160 Speaker 2: this goes back to whatever your frame of reference is 540 00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:22,479 Speaker 2: when you do have an awe experience, small wonder. It 541 00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 2: is then that the mystic trying to describe his experience 542 00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:29,760 Speaker 2: can do it only in a local, culture bound, ignorance bound, 543 00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:33,640 Speaker 2: language bound way, confusing his description of the experience with 544 00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,400 Speaker 2: whatever explanation of it and phrasing of it is most 545 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,920 Speaker 2: readily available to him in his time, in his place. 546 00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:41,960 Speaker 2: And then he also writes still another way of understanding 547 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:44,520 Speaker 2: this phenomenon is to liken the peak experiences to raw 548 00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 2: materials which can be used for different styles of structures, 549 00:30:47,840 --> 00:30:50,040 Speaker 2: as the same bricks and mortar and lumber would be 550 00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 2: built into different kinds of houses by a Frenchman, a 551 00:30:52,440 --> 00:30:54,320 Speaker 2: Japanese person, or a Tahitian person. 552 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:55,840 Speaker 1: And I really like that. 553 00:30:56,000 --> 00:30:59,600 Speaker 2: And I think one great example that I personally see 554 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 2: all the time time is sleep paralysis, because I see 555 00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:06,680 Speaker 2: a lot of people who don't realize there's a name 556 00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:08,720 Speaker 2: for it. It's a thing that happens in your brain 557 00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 2: when you're like stuck in between sleep and awakeness. 558 00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,360 Speaker 1: And so many. 559 00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 2: People describe their their sleep paralysis experience to me as 560 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:20,640 Speaker 2: a ghost experience, right, alien abduction? 561 00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, classic, right. 562 00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:25,360 Speaker 2: So they don't have the like framework of you know, 563 00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:27,600 Speaker 2: science to with which to look at. 564 00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:29,800 Speaker 3: I mean, even people who do know that they're having 565 00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:33,800 Speaker 3: sleep paralysis will sometimes be like, but also it has 566 00:31:33,920 --> 00:31:35,200 Speaker 3: to be this thing because. 567 00:31:35,000 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 4: It's just so big and scary. Honestly, mm hmmm. Yeah. 568 00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:42,960 Speaker 2: I've had sleep paralysis, and luckily, while in the sleep paralysis, 569 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,480 Speaker 2: I'm like, all right, this is just sleep proalysis. Nice, 570 00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,040 Speaker 2: This evil feeling in the room is just in my brain. 571 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,600 Speaker 2: It's not but it's still terrifying. 572 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,880 Speaker 5: And this will pass right and right and it doesn't 573 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:58,000 Speaker 5: mean anything. I think that when it comes to the 574 00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,720 Speaker 5: mushrooms experience that that you describe, and also the sleep analysis, 575 00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:05,840 Speaker 5: if you would compare your experience on mushrooms to someone 576 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,280 Speaker 5: who doesn't know that mushrooms exist, right, don't know that 577 00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:12,520 Speaker 5: they consume this, don't know that someone put it in 578 00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,560 Speaker 5: their their you know, in their food, and they have 579 00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:17,920 Speaker 5: the same experience as you do, but it would be 580 00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:19,280 Speaker 5: drastically different. 581 00:32:19,360 --> 00:32:22,280 Speaker 1: My gosh, yes, totally similarly. 582 00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,360 Speaker 5: You know, I can go to a scientology thing, stare 583 00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:29,400 Speaker 5: at someone else for three hours, have hallucinations, maybe have 584 00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:32,280 Speaker 5: an out of body experience, and be yeah, that's what 585 00:32:32,320 --> 00:32:35,400 Speaker 5: I would expect to do when no it wouldn't prove 586 00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:37,760 Speaker 5: to me anything. It would be like you doing the mushrooms, 587 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 5: They'll be all right. Okay, So I stared until I hallucinated. 588 00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:45,000 Speaker 5: But now what someone else who who doesn't know that 589 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:48,120 Speaker 5: it will happen for them? That can prove things that 590 00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:49,440 Speaker 5: are completely unrelated. 591 00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:52,120 Speaker 2: Another one of our guests, Will Allen, was talking about 592 00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 2: how they were having drug like experiences without drugs, but 593 00:32:56,440 --> 00:33:00,959 Speaker 2: they were meditating all day long, and he was like, 594 00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,240 Speaker 2: we were ready, we were ready to have experiences. 595 00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:05,920 Speaker 1: It wasn't like actual magic was happening, you know. 596 00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:11,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, and what you expect also affects the experience. So yeah, 597 00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:15,520 Speaker 5: if you expect God to touch you when you're hallucinating, 598 00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:20,680 Speaker 5: then you will interpret any anomalous sensation you have as that. 599 00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:26,240 Speaker 5: So it's experiences, but experiences are not without context. 600 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:30,920 Speaker 2: So what are some other examples of ways that someone 601 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:33,680 Speaker 2: This is like one on one of how to be 602 00:33:33,680 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 2: a cult leader right now, but someone might manipulate and 603 00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:44,320 Speaker 2: create all experiences for someone. What the manufacturer was the 604 00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:45,080 Speaker 2: word I was looking for. 605 00:33:45,600 --> 00:33:49,880 Speaker 5: So because our experiences are as I said, anything that 606 00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:54,160 Speaker 5: you judged to be sufficiently anomalous, And some people see 607 00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:57,440 Speaker 5: a double rainbow, and for them that would be sufficiently anomalous. 608 00:33:57,600 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 5: Other people know that all rainbows are double rainbows. And 609 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:04,640 Speaker 5: you see that in cult leaders that they would tailor 610 00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:08,640 Speaker 5: what would cause the experience to the person. But for example, 611 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,520 Speaker 5: any type of magic trick, right, I could do some, 612 00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 5: but we were not recording video. See though, there's hot reading, right, 613 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:20,080 Speaker 5: So suddenly the cult leader knows something about you that 614 00:34:20,160 --> 00:34:21,520 Speaker 5: they had no way of knowing. 615 00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,240 Speaker 1: Is that different from cold reading? 616 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:27,319 Speaker 5: Hot reading is when people actually did research, or you 617 00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:30,399 Speaker 5: came to the event and someone else that you think 618 00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:33,719 Speaker 5: came to the event talks to you and you don't 619 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:37,760 Speaker 5: know that they're actually an informant for the cult. Many times, 620 00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,239 Speaker 5: because we know how to interpret the experience because of 621 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,000 Speaker 5: the people around us, we see that many cults would 622 00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:46,759 Speaker 5: use that. For example the Moonies. If you go to 623 00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:51,120 Speaker 5: a weekend intensive of the Moonies, right, it's three days 624 00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:54,240 Speaker 5: and you're told that you'll get eight hours to sleep, 625 00:34:54,800 --> 00:34:57,840 Speaker 5: and it's fine, and fifty people showed up. What you 626 00:34:57,880 --> 00:35:00,840 Speaker 5: don't know is that actually there's fifty the cult members, 627 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:04,920 Speaker 5: forty five cult members pretending to be recruits, and you 628 00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:08,200 Speaker 5: and four other recruits. So you get a lot of 629 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,799 Speaker 5: you know, do all the whatever you do during the day, 630 00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:12,600 Speaker 5: and then when it comes to go to sleep, you 631 00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,840 Speaker 5: are in a room with you know, three other potential 632 00:35:16,840 --> 00:35:19,920 Speaker 5: recruits that you don't know are actually cult members, and 633 00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:22,759 Speaker 5: you get to the room and they involve you in 634 00:35:22,800 --> 00:35:25,959 Speaker 5: a discussion about how great everything was. Right, you don't 635 00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:28,720 Speaker 5: know that it's the cult that is keeping you from sleeping. 636 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,880 Speaker 5: They don't know that it's the cult that is having 637 00:35:32,000 --> 00:35:36,080 Speaker 5: people that you judge to be honest actors telling you 638 00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:40,400 Speaker 5: what they thought. There are those kind of insidious methods. 639 00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:43,960 Speaker 5: And then also the sleep deprivation would affect the next day, right, 640 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,400 Speaker 5: So anything that would change, a change in scenery, a 641 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:52,040 Speaker 5: change in diet, change in sleep patterns. And we also know, 642 00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:57,120 Speaker 5: for example, our experiences are more likely to happen in 643 00:35:57,160 --> 00:36:01,279 Speaker 5: the small hours of the morning. They're more likely to 644 00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:04,080 Speaker 5: happen when you're a teenager or a young young adult, 645 00:36:04,360 --> 00:36:08,000 Speaker 5: or when you're very elderly. There's certain people, for example, 646 00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:11,040 Speaker 5: people who fly in their dreams that are more likely 647 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:14,800 Speaker 5: to have all experiences. So you could do miracles. I 648 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:18,560 Speaker 5: think miracles are pretty reliable. You can bring celebrities right, 649 00:36:18,640 --> 00:36:21,520 Speaker 5: and the celebrity right. God could be a celebrity, right, 650 00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 5: God being the ultimate celebrity. 651 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:27,240 Speaker 1: I just love the praise. Miracles can be reliable, yeah. 652 00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:30,600 Speaker 5: A reliable way to create awe. And there are gurus 653 00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:34,320 Speaker 5: that actually do up close magic, right. But other things 654 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:39,040 Speaker 5: that you know, trauma can can induce awe. Right, So 655 00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:44,920 Speaker 5: telling you stories, traumatic stories, you know, physical exhaustion. You know, 656 00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,600 Speaker 5: in the military, they would exhaust you and then at 657 00:36:47,640 --> 00:36:49,920 Speaker 5: a vast view and you take an oath. 658 00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,439 Speaker 2: Yeah, in nexium, they would work them to the point 659 00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:56,080 Speaker 2: of exhaustion and they would deprive them of sleep until 660 00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:58,000 Speaker 2: they were kind of in like a zombie like state. 661 00:36:58,400 --> 00:36:59,960 Speaker 2: I mean, I guess that's a classic tax. 662 00:37:00,480 --> 00:37:05,040 Speaker 5: Yeah. So that could be to cause stronge experiences, right, 663 00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:07,799 Speaker 5: So that would be something to get people in. It 664 00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:11,400 Speaker 5: could also be to get people to have regular experiences 665 00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:15,480 Speaker 5: which will maintain your faith, right, or maintain you in 666 00:37:15,520 --> 00:37:18,400 Speaker 5: a state of high fervor. In general, the state of 667 00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:21,839 Speaker 5: fervor is it's passing, it's you can think of it 668 00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:25,600 Speaker 5: as similar to the state of infatuated romantic love sometimes 669 00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:30,919 Speaker 5: called limerens, where you have blindness, but it doesn't last forever. Right, 670 00:37:31,080 --> 00:37:34,400 Speaker 5: after a while, it goes away and it changes to 671 00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:39,600 Speaker 5: hopefully to actual love, not infatuated love, because in the 672 00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:42,719 Speaker 5: infatuated state, you're in love with what you think of 673 00:37:42,760 --> 00:37:46,120 Speaker 5: the other person. Right, So that's why there's the rose 674 00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,080 Speaker 5: colored glasses that can happen. There's the joke why is 675 00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:50,360 Speaker 5: divorce so expensive? 676 00:37:50,600 --> 00:37:53,080 Speaker 2: Why because it's worth the money? 677 00:37:53,120 --> 00:37:55,880 Speaker 4: Ah, a romance. 678 00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:05,160 Speaker 5: When people are infatuated, they can make mistakes that astonish them. 679 00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:08,040 Speaker 5: How bad they their judgment was. 680 00:38:08,200 --> 00:38:10,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, I been there, and. 681 00:38:11,239 --> 00:38:14,120 Speaker 5: I don't want to, you know, speak badly of love, 682 00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:15,800 Speaker 5: but it is dangerous. 683 00:38:16,400 --> 00:38:19,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, your guard is down, Yeah. 684 00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:22,359 Speaker 5: Your guard is down, and you have you have reality distortions. 685 00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:25,840 Speaker 5: You actually you know you can you cannot see things 686 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:30,520 Speaker 5: that everybody else does see, right, so when you get converted, 687 00:38:30,640 --> 00:38:33,520 Speaker 5: you might find yourself in the state of fervor with 688 00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:39,000 Speaker 5: extra certainty, extra commitment, extra reality distortions. Right, so you 689 00:38:39,000 --> 00:38:40,799 Speaker 5: don't see the problems with the group. But that can 690 00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:42,800 Speaker 5: last for a year two years. 691 00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,880 Speaker 3: You said that after fervor wears off, you need like 692 00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,920 Speaker 3: love and terror and isolation and engulfment and all of 693 00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,279 Speaker 3: this stuff that's really interesting. 694 00:38:52,320 --> 00:38:53,799 Speaker 4: So I would love for you to touch on that. 695 00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:57,719 Speaker 5: Yes, do you know Alexandra stayin No, She wrote a 696 00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:01,239 Speaker 5: very good book called a Love Terror and Brainwall, and 697 00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:06,200 Speaker 5: she describes there how cultic relationships are in many ways 698 00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:10,960 Speaker 5: similar to it's an attachment. It's a type of attachment. 699 00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:12,239 Speaker 5: It's the bad one. 700 00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:20,240 Speaker 2: No, no, no, it's like disorganized or something disorganized. 701 00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:24,799 Speaker 5: There you go disorganized, so disorganized attachment happens. And this 702 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:28,680 Speaker 5: in the context of babies to parents or toddlers to parents. 703 00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:32,399 Speaker 5: When a toddler, the parent is their safe haven, right, 704 00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:35,840 Speaker 5: they're secure space. If a baby gets scared, they go 705 00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:37,839 Speaker 5: to their mother and then the mother comes in down. 706 00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:41,719 Speaker 5: But when the mother is what scares or when the 707 00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:45,320 Speaker 5: parent functions both is what scares the child but also 708 00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:49,120 Speaker 5: what the child goes to to alleviate distress, then you 709 00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:52,600 Speaker 5: can have a situation where the worst abuse still the 710 00:39:52,719 --> 00:39:55,440 Speaker 5: harder it is for the person to leave. When you 711 00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:59,480 Speaker 5: get disorganized attachment in adults, which you can see in 712 00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:02,600 Speaker 5: a b use of romantic relationships for example, or in 713 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:06,399 Speaker 5: cultic situations, there are many situations where you'd say if 714 00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:10,320 Speaker 5: the partner or the cult wouldn't abuse them as bad, 715 00:40:10,800 --> 00:40:14,160 Speaker 5: then there's more likely that they would leave. Normally think 716 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,960 Speaker 5: that the worst abuse, the more likely the person to 717 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,560 Speaker 5: say fuck this abuse, I'm out of here. But when 718 00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,759 Speaker 5: it comes to disorganized attachment, you get the opposite effect, 719 00:40:23,040 --> 00:40:27,680 Speaker 5: where because of the intensity of the abuse and the stress, 720 00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:32,399 Speaker 5: the person is always needing the source of relief, which 721 00:40:32,440 --> 00:40:33,919 Speaker 5: is also the source of. 722 00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,480 Speaker 1: What scares them, right, and that's trauma bonding too. 723 00:40:36,440 --> 00:40:41,080 Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, exactly. So what she describes is a person 724 00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:44,239 Speaker 5: in a cult is in this situation. But for this 725 00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:48,560 Speaker 5: to be maintained, the cult needs to isolate those people 726 00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:51,919 Speaker 5: and engulf them. Because if the cult doesn't isolate them, 727 00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,960 Speaker 5: then there's a chance that they will find an alternative 728 00:40:54,960 --> 00:41:00,480 Speaker 5: attachment figure, right, a friend, their actual family, and actual 729 00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:03,440 Speaker 5: person that they remember from before, an actual person that 730 00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:06,319 Speaker 5: they can relate to that maybe they can go to 731 00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:10,520 Speaker 5: that person to get relief. The abuser or the cult 732 00:41:10,600 --> 00:41:14,480 Speaker 5: needs to isolate the person and to engulf them. Now, 733 00:41:14,640 --> 00:41:17,359 Speaker 5: what I would like to add to this, I think 734 00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:22,720 Speaker 5: you know, very insightful description is that the psychological state 735 00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:26,120 Speaker 5: of fervor does that job for the cult or for 736 00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:30,920 Speaker 5: the abuser for the initial period. So a person falls 737 00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:34,920 Speaker 5: in love with someone who's abusive, but because they're infatuated, 738 00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:40,120 Speaker 5: romantically infatuated, that romantic infatuation makes them not see the 739 00:41:40,200 --> 00:41:43,120 Speaker 5: abuse makes them have wishful thinking that the abuse will 740 00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:48,560 Speaker 5: get better. And once the infatuated love drops, the infatuation drops, 741 00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,840 Speaker 5: then they can in many cases see things more clearly 742 00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:55,920 Speaker 5: and get out of the situation. And I think that 743 00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:59,920 Speaker 5: many cult members that join then leave two three years later. 744 00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:04,320 Speaker 5: Many times this is what happens, but because the fervor 745 00:42:04,560 --> 00:42:07,880 Speaker 5: did its job. But once the fervor went down, then 746 00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:11,600 Speaker 5: people can see things more clearly. But if the cult 747 00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:16,040 Speaker 5: or the abusive partner uses those initial months or a 748 00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:20,800 Speaker 5: few years to actually isolate and actually engulf the person. 749 00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:24,319 Speaker 5: So you join the cult, your fervor keeps you from 750 00:42:24,320 --> 00:42:26,640 Speaker 5: seeing it's a bad situation for the first year. But 751 00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:29,160 Speaker 5: if at the end of that you find yourself in 752 00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:32,320 Speaker 5: a different country without a passport, not knowing anybody outside 753 00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:35,760 Speaker 5: the cult, burned all your bridges with your previous family, 754 00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:39,040 Speaker 5: then you might be stuck in the cult. Even when 755 00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:40,440 Speaker 5: your fervor goes the right. 756 00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:45,239 Speaker 2: And a skilled manipulator instinctively probably knows that they have 757 00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:47,800 Speaker 2: to continue to manufacture experiences. 758 00:42:48,320 --> 00:42:50,960 Speaker 5: Yeah, and that's the other option. The other option is 759 00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:54,919 Speaker 5: to keep the person in the state of fervor right, 760 00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:58,720 Speaker 5: So there's continuous threats. Right. We are on the verge 761 00:42:58,800 --> 00:43:00,879 Speaker 5: of the end of the world at any moment, right, 762 00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:04,160 Speaker 5: so it can be sort of all experiences that are 763 00:43:04,200 --> 00:43:07,920 Speaker 5: triggered by traumatizing the person. So those are the two options. 764 00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:11,600 Speaker 5: Colts can either keep you in high stata fervor or 765 00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:14,600 Speaker 5: they can isolate you and engulf you and usually both. 766 00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:15,239 Speaker 1: Right, both. 767 00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:18,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I think of Jim Jones, who would 768 00:43:18,560 --> 00:43:21,279 Speaker 2: he would stage these healings where people would appear to 769 00:43:21,320 --> 00:43:23,759 Speaker 2: be healed out of their wheelchair, which of course it 770 00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:27,520 Speaker 2: was fake, and also move them all to another country. 771 00:43:27,640 --> 00:43:29,239 Speaker 1: He's really hitting all the marks. 772 00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:30,680 Speaker 5: There, Yeah, and went slowly. 773 00:43:30,920 --> 00:43:32,640 Speaker 1: Of course it was over time, right. 774 00:43:32,640 --> 00:43:37,319 Speaker 5: The gradual deterioration. Yeah, But there is another reason for 775 00:43:37,400 --> 00:43:41,760 Speaker 5: the high stress that colts might inflict on people, especially 776 00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:45,759 Speaker 5: in intensives. There was recently a very good PhD dissertation 777 00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:49,479 Speaker 5: written by a person called Hunter from South Africa. He 778 00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:54,440 Speaker 5: suffers from bipolar disorder, so he has manic episodes and 779 00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:58,480 Speaker 5: he had him before and he went to an LGAT 780 00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:03,320 Speaker 5: right large group awareness training like the forum Landmark Forum, 781 00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:06,839 Speaker 5: and he says that, you know, he was surrounded by 782 00:44:06,840 --> 00:44:10,200 Speaker 5: people that were stressed very much for a few days, 783 00:44:10,239 --> 00:44:15,200 Speaker 5: and then there was sudden stress removal, and that everybody 784 00:44:15,239 --> 00:44:21,120 Speaker 5: had hypomanic symptoms. Now he noticed them, he knows what 785 00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,799 Speaker 5: those are. Now this is not actual hypomania, because by 786 00:44:23,840 --> 00:44:28,920 Speaker 5: definition that's part of bipolar disorder, but hypomanic symptoms, which 787 00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:31,920 Speaker 5: is what he clearly recognized in himself and in the 788 00:44:31,920 --> 00:44:37,200 Speaker 5: people around them, where you're very optimistic, euphoric, it's hypomania. 789 00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,520 Speaker 5: You don't need to sleep that much. You speak very rapidly, 790 00:44:41,160 --> 00:44:44,840 Speaker 5: you make long term plans right, you are very careless 791 00:44:44,840 --> 00:44:48,520 Speaker 5: with your money. I think that many cults, as part 792 00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:52,320 Speaker 5: of the recruitment also used that. So it's high stress, 793 00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:57,680 Speaker 5: and then a sudden stress removal can create hypomania, which 794 00:44:57,920 --> 00:45:02,759 Speaker 5: is euphoric, very positive, very optimistic, very ecstatic, you don't 795 00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:04,520 Speaker 5: need to sleep right as much. 796 00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:07,279 Speaker 2: I think of this is probably a dumb reference, but 797 00:45:07,440 --> 00:45:09,320 Speaker 2: I used to love the show Homeland. 798 00:45:09,680 --> 00:45:11,600 Speaker 4: Oh, I love Homelands so much. 799 00:45:11,960 --> 00:45:15,920 Speaker 2: In season one, I feel like they illustrated so well 800 00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:18,560 Speaker 2: because I was so right there with him when they 801 00:45:18,680 --> 00:45:21,200 Speaker 2: kept him like I probably am not going to remember 802 00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:24,000 Speaker 2: the details very well, but they kept him like imprisoned 803 00:45:24,239 --> 00:45:27,319 Speaker 2: in darkness and were torturing him for days and days 804 00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,200 Speaker 2: and days and days, and finally when the like leader 805 00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:34,680 Speaker 2: of the terrorist group comes and like offers him kindness 806 00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:38,360 Speaker 2: and care and tenderness, it's such a relief that he 807 00:45:38,400 --> 00:45:41,160 Speaker 2: becomes like bonded to that person, even though he's technically 808 00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:42,720 Speaker 2: the one holding him captive. 809 00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:44,120 Speaker 1: And I just had never. 810 00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:46,319 Speaker 2: Really seen that depicted in a way that was so 811 00:45:46,440 --> 00:45:49,120 Speaker 2: relatable and so understandable. So that's where my brain goes 812 00:45:49,160 --> 00:45:51,600 Speaker 2: when I think, when I think of that. But yeah, 813 00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:54,680 Speaker 2: removing a horrible stimulus and replacing it with a positive 814 00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:55,719 Speaker 2: one makes sense. 815 00:45:55,960 --> 00:46:00,359 Speaker 5: Yeah, And it could be that a person and that suuation, 816 00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:04,560 Speaker 5: the kindness that they get and the sudden break and 817 00:46:04,680 --> 00:46:08,359 Speaker 5: the torture can function as a sufficiently anomalous experience and 818 00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:11,440 Speaker 5: create a strong owe experience, right, or create a commitment. 819 00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:14,800 Speaker 5: I do think that it is likely to also create 820 00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:18,600 Speaker 5: hypomanic symptoms at the same time, So you could say 821 00:46:18,600 --> 00:46:22,399 Speaker 5: that in some cases hypomania is what gets you into 822 00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:24,440 Speaker 5: the state of fervor, and the state of fervor what 823 00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:29,880 Speaker 5: gets you into the cult. But now, when it comes 824 00:46:29,920 --> 00:46:32,960 Speaker 5: to torture victims, I mean, I know someone who's a 825 00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:37,000 Speaker 5: real torture victim, not a fictional one. 826 00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:42,560 Speaker 2: He's a you probably know better than my stupid example, thought. 827 00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:46,359 Speaker 5: What's interesting about his example? So he's a Palestinian who 828 00:46:46,480 --> 00:46:49,080 Speaker 5: was horribly tortured for a couple of months by the 829 00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:53,400 Speaker 5: Israeli military. And normally, and I won't traumatize you with 830 00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:57,319 Speaker 5: the details because it's quite horrific, but normally he would 831 00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:00,000 Speaker 5: be part of his sleep deprivation would be a repetitive 832 00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:04,000 Speaker 5: of electronic music. But every once in a while, someone 833 00:47:04,000 --> 00:47:06,960 Speaker 5: that was guarding him would put on Israeli musician that 834 00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:11,240 Speaker 5: sings in Arabic style. Right, he loves that artist. Today 835 00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:15,000 Speaker 5: he can sing along with him in the language he 836 00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:20,680 Speaker 5: doesn't understand, right, But having that even partial relief created 837 00:47:20,719 --> 00:47:24,680 Speaker 5: a bond between him and that stimulus that is fascinating 838 00:47:24,760 --> 00:47:25,800 Speaker 5: until today. Yeah. 839 00:47:25,960 --> 00:47:29,759 Speaker 2: Right, So, while we're talking about different mental states, I 840 00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:34,920 Speaker 2: would love to touch on temporal lobe epilepsy. So can 841 00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:36,320 Speaker 2: you just tell us about that please? 842 00:47:36,800 --> 00:47:40,480 Speaker 5: Sure? So, you know, we've been discussing all experiences and 843 00:47:40,520 --> 00:47:44,640 Speaker 5: the state of fervor and you know, conversion experiences, and 844 00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:49,280 Speaker 5: it turns out there is a neurological condition that causes 845 00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:53,960 Speaker 5: people to have those experiences quite frequently, and that condition 846 00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:57,160 Speaker 5: is called temporal lob epilepsy. Temporal lob bipilepsy is not 847 00:47:57,200 --> 00:48:00,840 Speaker 5: part of the DSM, right, The diagnostis sense theistical manual 848 00:48:00,840 --> 00:48:04,040 Speaker 5: of psychiatric conditions, because even though if you look at 849 00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:06,400 Speaker 5: a person with that condition, they look like they have 850 00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:11,400 Speaker 5: a mental illness, the way you diagnose epilepsy is with 851 00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:14,520 Speaker 5: an EEG or with a you know, with a brain scan, 852 00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:18,360 Speaker 5: and so that's not part of the diagnostic and statistical manual. 853 00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:21,880 Speaker 5: That is something you diagnose with hardware. And part of 854 00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,680 Speaker 5: the symptoms of temporolo epilepsy is that you will get 855 00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:30,680 Speaker 5: a diagnostic as being schizophrenic or being bipolar, but you're not. 856 00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:32,680 Speaker 5: You do not have a mental illness, you have a 857 00:48:32,719 --> 00:48:37,480 Speaker 5: neurological illness. Right, the split between psychiatry and neurology. Right, 858 00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:40,520 Speaker 5: there's are two doctors who treat the same organ, but 859 00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:44,960 Speaker 5: it's different disciplines. Now, temparolo b epileptics, you know many 860 00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:48,799 Speaker 5: of them in This condition was first proposed in the seventies, 861 00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:53,120 Speaker 5: late seventies and eighties. It is completely fascinating because it 862 00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:57,560 Speaker 5: causes people to have a lot of awe experiences and 863 00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:02,600 Speaker 5: they see things they feel to have been proven. Many times, 864 00:49:02,640 --> 00:49:06,480 Speaker 5: they feel like they were chosen. Many called leaders might 865 00:49:06,560 --> 00:49:10,319 Speaker 5: have it. Many times they have very strong emotional experiences. 866 00:49:10,320 --> 00:49:13,480 Speaker 5: They are both positive and negative, but they're very sincere 867 00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:17,680 Speaker 5: about them right. They feel like they understand things. Many 868 00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:20,719 Speaker 5: times they have things called ideas of reference, where they 869 00:49:20,719 --> 00:49:24,120 Speaker 5: think the way I arrange my room affects the news 870 00:49:24,360 --> 00:49:27,520 Speaker 5: or the weather, or they think that the reason that 871 00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:30,200 Speaker 5: earthquake happened across the world was because I didn't drink 872 00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:33,200 Speaker 5: that glass of water. Right, So they have a lot 873 00:49:33,239 --> 00:49:37,120 Speaker 5: of connection of things that are not connected. Many of 874 00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:40,680 Speaker 5: them develop or they display a thing called graphomania where 875 00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:42,640 Speaker 5: they write a whole hell of a lot of text. 876 00:49:42,840 --> 00:49:45,279 Speaker 5: It depends on which side of the brain the epilepsy 877 00:49:45,360 --> 00:49:48,720 Speaker 5: is on. In other cases they just speak a lot 878 00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:52,440 Speaker 5: or they draw a lot, like Vincent van Goch is 879 00:49:52,480 --> 00:49:55,440 Speaker 5: said to have had a lot of writers. Fyodor Dostoevski. 880 00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:59,840 Speaker 5: It used to be called Dostuevsky's epilepsy because he describes 881 00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:02,600 Speaker 5: the symptoms in the book The Idiot. There's a character 882 00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:05,640 Speaker 5: that has the symptoms, and neurologists discovered this in the 883 00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:08,759 Speaker 5: seventies and eighties. But look, and he's describing all those 884 00:50:08,800 --> 00:50:10,560 Speaker 5: symptoms in the nineteenth century. 885 00:50:10,760 --> 00:50:12,960 Speaker 2: I just want to read a quick example from a 886 00:50:13,000 --> 00:50:15,600 Speaker 2: study that I was reading about earlier, just to give 887 00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:17,680 Speaker 2: people kind of a sense of what can happen. 888 00:50:18,200 --> 00:50:18,919 Speaker 1: So here's a quote. 889 00:50:19,000 --> 00:50:20,600 Speaker 2: It's talking about a patient who was admitted to the 890 00:50:20,600 --> 00:50:23,680 Speaker 2: hospital because he was behaving very erratically. So after the 891 00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:28,200 Speaker 2: generalized seizure, he started having increased religious thoughts. The wife 892 00:50:28,239 --> 00:50:30,920 Speaker 2: called an ambulance because she was frightened by his excessive 893 00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:33,520 Speaker 2: religious speech. She reported that he had a history of 894 00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:36,479 Speaker 2: epilepsy since the age of twenty. He mostly just had 895 00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:39,160 Speaker 2: the regular shaking kind of seizures, but occasionally he would 896 00:50:39,200 --> 00:50:43,680 Speaker 2: have episodes of hyper religiosity with secondarily generalized events. These 897 00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:46,879 Speaker 2: similar episodes of hyper religiosity in the past occurred when 898 00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:49,640 Speaker 2: he did not take his anti epileptic medications. He did 899 00:50:49,719 --> 00:50:53,319 Speaker 2: not have a history of psychiatric disease. That is so fascinating. 900 00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:57,319 Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean in general the concept of hyper religiosity, right, 901 00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:02,440 Speaker 5: which is the term that just talk about. I can 902 00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:05,759 Speaker 5: recommend a couple of books, one called Seized by eve 903 00:51:05,880 --> 00:51:07,120 Speaker 5: La plant Nice. 904 00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:08,239 Speaker 4: That's such a good name. 905 00:51:08,480 --> 00:51:11,879 Speaker 5: Another one is The Neurological Basis of God Beliefs by 906 00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:16,320 Speaker 5: a neurologists called Persinger from eighty seven this hyper religiosity. 907 00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:21,000 Speaker 5: They many times, even if they're atheists, it would be 908 00:51:21,120 --> 00:51:21,680 Speaker 5: high fervor. 909 00:51:22,000 --> 00:51:22,200 Speaker 2: Right. 910 00:51:22,320 --> 00:51:25,839 Speaker 5: So, even if it's not religiosity the way we call it, 911 00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:29,279 Speaker 5: it can be an infatuation with communism or something like 912 00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:32,439 Speaker 5: that that's not strictly a religion. Now, the thing about 913 00:51:32,440 --> 00:51:35,640 Speaker 5: tempolob epileptics is that there's a lot of a lot 914 00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:38,920 Speaker 5: we can learn about our experiences just by looking at 915 00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:42,160 Speaker 5: the functions that the temporolobe does. So, for example, the 916 00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:45,680 Speaker 5: temparolobe is associated with the vestibular sense I mentioned earlier, 917 00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:49,720 Speaker 5: but also with hearing, with smelling, with memories, with dreaming, 918 00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:54,239 Speaker 5: with language, with literacy. So hearing voices, people are much 919 00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:57,000 Speaker 5: more likely to think that they're authoritative than when they 920 00:51:57,080 --> 00:52:00,719 Speaker 5: see visions. Right in the Bible, the prophet almost all 921 00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:03,839 Speaker 5: of them hear God, but they don't see God. When 922 00:52:03,840 --> 00:52:07,640 Speaker 5: you see visions, you know you're hallucinating. When you're hearing voices, 923 00:52:07,719 --> 00:52:09,920 Speaker 5: you think that you need to do what the voices 924 00:52:10,000 --> 00:52:13,920 Speaker 5: tell you sometimes, and that's because the feelings of knowing 925 00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:17,160 Speaker 5: the certainty they seem to be related to the temprolo 926 00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:20,640 Speaker 5: and you have all sorts of strange effects. People with 927 00:52:20,760 --> 00:52:24,200 Speaker 5: the tempolo epilepsy. For example, they have things that are 928 00:52:24,239 --> 00:52:29,279 Speaker 5: described their called circumstantiality and viscosity, and those are things 929 00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:33,000 Speaker 5: that are typical of cult members. So the viscosity, they 930 00:52:33,000 --> 00:52:38,120 Speaker 5: describe it as people that don't get conversational nuances. I 931 00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:41,440 Speaker 5: think they call that stickiness. So if you walk downtown 932 00:52:41,600 --> 00:52:43,600 Speaker 5: and someone from a cult tries to talk to you, 933 00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:46,080 Speaker 5: will many people don't want to talk to them because 934 00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:47,600 Speaker 5: they think they won't be able to get rid of 935 00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:53,000 Speaker 5: that person. Right. Temparolo bypileptics have this thing where they 936 00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,759 Speaker 5: they don't get cues that you want to change the 937 00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:59,440 Speaker 5: subject that you want to ah, they have black and 938 00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:03,480 Speaker 5: white things, right, so things are either entirely good or 939 00:53:03,640 --> 00:53:06,760 Speaker 5: entirely bad, which is also typical of cults and cult members. 940 00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:12,240 Speaker 5: There's repetitiveness, there's paranoia. So there's a number of theories 941 00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:15,520 Speaker 5: as to why cult members and temporal o bipileptics would 942 00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:19,920 Speaker 5: share those traits. Temporolo bipileptics think that they were chosen, 943 00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:23,480 Speaker 5: while cult members many times believed that they were collectively 944 00:53:23,600 --> 00:53:27,320 Speaker 5: chosen as a group. Right, and they might not have graphomania, 945 00:53:27,680 --> 00:53:32,319 Speaker 5: And there's lowered sexuality or altered sexuality. But one of 946 00:53:32,360 --> 00:53:36,560 Speaker 5: the things that comes is those strong awe experiences that 947 00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:39,680 Speaker 5: include the feelings of knowing right you see things as 948 00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:43,640 Speaker 5: they really are, or you feel like you understand Now. 949 00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:47,799 Speaker 5: What sometimes happened is that people would talk to a 950 00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:52,080 Speaker 5: cult leader or someone who is a temporal bipileptic, and 951 00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:55,399 Speaker 5: they would say, when l Ron Hubbard, when that cult 952 00:53:55,480 --> 00:53:58,520 Speaker 5: leader looked into my eyes, I felt that they understand 953 00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:01,560 Speaker 5: my soul. Now they could look at a goldfish and 954 00:54:01,600 --> 00:54:05,400 Speaker 5: they would feel like they understand the goldfish's soul. Right now, 955 00:54:05,960 --> 00:54:08,520 Speaker 5: you're in front of a person. That person is having 956 00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:11,880 Speaker 5: a temparolobe event, right, call it a seizure or something, 957 00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:14,440 Speaker 5: but as a person is looking at them, you can 958 00:54:14,480 --> 00:54:17,919 Speaker 5: either catch it from them through emotional contagion or through 959 00:54:17,960 --> 00:54:20,920 Speaker 5: mirror neurons. Right. So they look at you and you 960 00:54:21,160 --> 00:54:24,399 Speaker 5: feel that they understand you because they have that look 961 00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:27,279 Speaker 5: in their eyes and there's sincerity. And now the thing 962 00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:31,480 Speaker 5: is that it's caused by epileptic looks, but some people 963 00:54:31,719 --> 00:54:36,200 Speaker 5: can be so impacted. When that guru gazed into my soul, 964 00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:38,960 Speaker 5: I understood that he understood my soul in a way 965 00:54:39,000 --> 00:54:42,400 Speaker 5: that nobody understood me or something like that that could 966 00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:46,200 Speaker 5: function as the trigger that is judged to be sufficiently 967 00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:49,239 Speaker 5: anomalous to bring about a strong experience to make you 968 00:54:49,280 --> 00:54:52,120 Speaker 5: feel like you see things as they really are. And 969 00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:56,080 Speaker 5: all those claims of the gurus are proven correct, even 970 00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:59,839 Speaker 5: though they're not at all related to I felt understood 971 00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:01,399 Speaker 5: and they looked at me right. 972 00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:03,759 Speaker 2: One of the questions that comes up for me in 973 00:55:03,800 --> 00:55:08,000 Speaker 2: conversation a lot is whether or not I think cult 974 00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:11,879 Speaker 2: leaders believe that they truly are in touch with God 975 00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:14,840 Speaker 2: or whatever. And I think the answer is it depends 976 00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:17,520 Speaker 2: on the person. I think with my guy, he absolutely 977 00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:20,239 Speaker 2: was not, but he is a megalomaniac, so he thought, 978 00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:22,719 Speaker 2: you know, he has no moral system. But it is 979 00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:25,480 Speaker 2: fascinating to imagine that there are a number of these 980 00:55:25,520 --> 00:55:29,200 Speaker 2: people who truly truly believe it, and not only believe it, 981 00:55:29,239 --> 00:55:31,399 Speaker 2: but like know it. 982 00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:33,120 Speaker 1: You believe that they know it. 983 00:55:33,239 --> 00:55:35,800 Speaker 5: Yeah, and there are people who It doesn't just depend 984 00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:38,680 Speaker 5: on the person. It many times also depends on the episode. 985 00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:41,719 Speaker 5: So there could be a cult leader that thinks that 986 00:55:41,719 --> 00:55:44,600 Speaker 5: they're a scam for the first year, but then they 987 00:55:44,640 --> 00:55:48,600 Speaker 5: start to believe it's true themselves, or you know, or 988 00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:50,520 Speaker 5: that they go back and forth. 989 00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:53,799 Speaker 4: They put them own selves in an aye. Yeah, that's yeah. 990 00:55:53,840 --> 00:55:56,120 Speaker 5: And for them the cult, the fact that people are 991 00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:59,520 Speaker 5: following them can function as the miracle the truth. 992 00:56:00,000 --> 00:56:00,759 Speaker 4: Oh yes. 993 00:56:01,040 --> 00:56:04,200 Speaker 5: So you can have people that start out thinking that 994 00:56:04,200 --> 00:56:07,440 Speaker 5: they're scamming people and then they're super surprised that they 995 00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:09,759 Speaker 5: thought they were lying, but now they see that it 996 00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:11,680 Speaker 5: really really was. 997 00:56:13,400 --> 00:56:13,640 Speaker 2: Right. 998 00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:16,840 Speaker 5: So, you know, it could be that there are periods, 999 00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:22,600 Speaker 5: especially with people who suffer from epilepsy or other mental situations, 1000 00:56:22,640 --> 00:56:24,680 Speaker 5: people who take a lot of different types of drugs. 1001 00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:27,560 Speaker 5: I can imagine that there are also many gurus that 1002 00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:31,000 Speaker 5: oscillate back and forth being believers in that. 1003 00:56:31,000 --> 00:56:33,760 Speaker 1: That's really interesting, really interesting point. 1004 00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:36,239 Speaker 2: I think that actually, now that I think about it, 1005 00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:38,120 Speaker 2: in the case of my cult leader, he has gone 1006 00:56:38,160 --> 00:56:40,839 Speaker 2: back and forth and has said that it was all 1007 00:56:40,960 --> 00:56:44,319 Speaker 2: fraud and then said just kidding. He actually is, you know, 1008 00:56:44,400 --> 00:56:46,920 Speaker 2: and who knows how much of it is true at 1009 00:56:46,920 --> 00:56:49,120 Speaker 2: what points. But I do think it's totally possible that 1010 00:56:49,160 --> 00:56:51,040 Speaker 2: he vacillates and he goes back and forth. 1011 00:56:52,000 --> 00:56:55,080 Speaker 5: A possible symptom for a temporal of epilepsy is something 1012 00:56:55,120 --> 00:56:58,479 Speaker 5: called the Cathard syndrome, and the Cathard syndrome is people 1013 00:56:58,520 --> 00:57:01,920 Speaker 5: who think that they're dead. Oh so, Burton describes talking 1014 00:57:02,000 --> 00:57:04,680 Speaker 5: to a patient who is certain that she is dead, 1015 00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:07,600 Speaker 5: and he asks her, can you feel your pulse? Can 1016 00:57:07,640 --> 00:57:09,399 Speaker 5: you do it right now? And she said, all right, 1017 00:57:09,440 --> 00:57:11,160 Speaker 5: I feel a pulse. And it says, well, what does 1018 00:57:11,160 --> 00:57:13,200 Speaker 5: that prove to you? It proves to me that that 1019 00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:18,680 Speaker 5: people can have a pulse because the feelings of knowing 1020 00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:20,720 Speaker 5: are stronger than our logic. 1021 00:57:21,040 --> 00:57:22,360 Speaker 4: You know, absolutely right. 1022 00:57:22,320 --> 00:57:26,320 Speaker 5: And we will try to rationalize something that we have 1023 00:57:26,360 --> 00:57:29,080 Speaker 5: a feeling of knowing to so they say, man is 1024 00:57:29,080 --> 00:57:32,040 Speaker 5: not a rational animal, and man is a rationalizing animal. 1025 00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:37,120 Speaker 1: That girl sounds goth as hell, though not gonna lie. 1026 00:57:39,520 --> 00:57:43,320 Speaker 2: What would you say to someone who has had some 1027 00:57:43,440 --> 00:57:47,760 Speaker 2: kind of anomaloust experience or awe experience or peak experience 1028 00:57:48,120 --> 00:57:51,160 Speaker 2: where there's a conclusion that they might potentially want to 1029 00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:53,000 Speaker 2: come to because but what would you say to that person? 1030 00:57:53,160 --> 00:57:56,920 Speaker 5: Well, first of all, it depends on the situation, on 1031 00:57:57,040 --> 00:58:00,280 Speaker 5: the rapport, on whether or not the conclusion that they 1032 00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:02,800 Speaker 5: come to from the experience is good or bad. Right, 1033 00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:06,640 Speaker 5: If it's benign, it's fine. Right. Further, is not inherently bad? 1034 00:58:06,680 --> 00:58:10,120 Speaker 5: It depends what the fervor is towards. But if it 1035 00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:12,640 Speaker 5: is a disaster, right that they have an experience that 1036 00:58:12,760 --> 00:58:15,240 Speaker 5: proved to them that they need to join a shitty cult, 1037 00:58:16,800 --> 00:58:21,080 Speaker 5: it's difficult. So if I am very close to that person, 1038 00:58:21,160 --> 00:58:23,640 Speaker 5: or if I'm a direct relative, I would have someone 1039 00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:27,440 Speaker 5: else have this discussion, because your job is to be 1040 00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:30,720 Speaker 5: the bridge that they get out of the cult. Right, 1041 00:58:30,800 --> 00:58:33,960 Speaker 5: So when the fervor goes down, you want to be 1042 00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:38,240 Speaker 5: the potential alternative attachment figure that they would go towards. 1043 00:58:39,000 --> 00:58:42,439 Speaker 5: So that's your job. But if I'm not in that role, 1044 00:58:42,800 --> 00:58:46,160 Speaker 5: first of all, you can discuss other cults, right, That's 1045 00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:49,320 Speaker 5: what Steve hassan Asink mentioned that, And that is a 1046 00:58:49,360 --> 00:58:54,520 Speaker 5: way to talk about the situation that doesn't trigger their defenses, right, 1047 00:58:55,040 --> 00:58:59,480 Speaker 5: because both scientologists and me both agree that the Moonies 1048 00:58:59,520 --> 00:59:02,920 Speaker 5: are bad, So we can discuss the movies. But this 1049 00:59:03,000 --> 00:59:06,480 Speaker 5: discussion might not have direct effect. It might lead that 1050 00:59:06,520 --> 00:59:08,640 Speaker 5: person to leave the cult a year from now or 1051 00:59:08,720 --> 00:59:12,600 Speaker 5: when their fervor goes down, but discussing the experiences and 1052 00:59:12,720 --> 00:59:16,040 Speaker 5: not necessarily the experiences that they had, right. So, for example, 1053 00:59:16,360 --> 00:59:19,080 Speaker 5: this dynamic of how a miracle can prove things that 1054 00:59:19,160 --> 00:59:21,680 Speaker 5: are not related to the miracle and how that can 1055 00:59:21,720 --> 00:59:25,480 Speaker 5: function is proofs In other groups scientologists, they do this 1056 00:59:25,560 --> 00:59:27,640 Speaker 5: and that, and then they have an experience that proves 1057 00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:30,800 Speaker 5: to them that Hubbard is correct. But it's actually just 1058 00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:34,400 Speaker 5: an all experience. If I turn water into wine, that 1059 00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:37,320 Speaker 5: could prove that Islam is correct, that Buddhism is correct. 1060 00:59:37,560 --> 00:59:41,160 Speaker 5: There is no connection. Discussing this lack of connection and 1061 00:59:41,200 --> 00:59:43,919 Speaker 5: how an experience can function is a proof of things 1062 00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:47,400 Speaker 5: that are not related. I think that that has a 1063 00:59:47,560 --> 00:59:51,840 Speaker 5: chance of going around the defenses because it's not directly 1064 00:59:51,880 --> 00:59:54,960 Speaker 5: attacking what their beliefs or their group, or their behaviors 1065 00:59:55,040 --> 00:59:59,360 Speaker 5: or anything. But getting people to try to maybe have 1066 00:59:59,640 --> 01:00:03,320 Speaker 5: a potential doubt and experiences that they've had has the 1067 01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:08,320 Speaker 5: possibility of helping the person. Disunderstanding is important for a 1068 01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:12,200 Speaker 5: person that when they do leave, they're leaving would be 1069 01:00:12,240 --> 01:00:15,600 Speaker 5: more more healthy. If you leave and you still believe 1070 01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:19,080 Speaker 5: the experiences you've had, you might say, all right, there's 1071 01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:22,800 Speaker 5: a whole lot of corruption, but there is truth in there, 1072 01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:26,000 Speaker 5: so you're open. If the leadership would change and stop 1073 01:00:26,040 --> 01:00:29,800 Speaker 5: being such horrible, vindictive assholes, then I would come back. 1074 01:00:29,960 --> 01:00:30,160 Speaker 4: Right. 1075 01:00:30,720 --> 01:00:33,880 Speaker 2: I'm just going to say in conclusion here an awe 1076 01:00:33,920 --> 01:00:38,640 Speaker 2: experience is evidence that you had an awe experience, right. 1077 01:00:39,120 --> 01:00:42,680 Speaker 5: Sometimes they are you know, you can have an experience 1078 01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:45,680 Speaker 5: that shows you something which actually was true but not 1079 01:00:45,720 --> 01:00:47,600 Speaker 5: necessarily right. 1080 01:00:47,480 --> 01:00:49,640 Speaker 2: And it's up to us to not make connections that 1081 01:00:49,680 --> 01:00:50,560 Speaker 2: aren't actually there. 1082 01:00:50,680 --> 01:00:54,000 Speaker 5: Yeah, or even if they do, to realize that those 1083 01:00:54,160 --> 01:00:56,040 Speaker 5: were possibly fallible. 1084 01:00:56,320 --> 01:00:59,480 Speaker 1: Totally. Well, thank you so much for talking to us. 1085 01:00:59,520 --> 01:01:00,360 Speaker 1: This has been amazing. 1086 01:01:00,400 --> 01:01:00,640 Speaker 2: Thanks. 1087 01:01:01,120 --> 01:01:03,080 Speaker 4: Where do we find you on social media? 1088 01:01:03,160 --> 01:01:05,840 Speaker 5: Emailing me is better and my email is my first 1089 01:01:05,920 --> 01:01:08,600 Speaker 5: name and my last name at gmail dot com. 1090 01:01:08,640 --> 01:01:09,160 Speaker 4: Amazing. 1091 01:01:09,480 --> 01:01:11,240 Speaker 1: Thanks again, thank you, thank you. 1092 01:01:12,240 --> 01:01:12,520 Speaker 4: Well. 1093 01:01:12,640 --> 01:01:16,440 Speaker 1: That was intriguing. No, I'm sick of the word intriguing 1094 01:01:16,440 --> 01:01:19,640 Speaker 1: now too. That was fascinating, transfixing. 1095 01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:22,200 Speaker 2: I mean, obviously there's not a specific cult that we're 1096 01:01:22,200 --> 01:01:25,000 Speaker 2: talking about this week, but I actually was curious, Megan, 1097 01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:28,320 Speaker 2: what if any I'm sure there's been some What all 1098 01:01:28,400 --> 01:01:29,600 Speaker 2: experiences have you had? 1099 01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:32,040 Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, I mean so many. 1100 01:01:32,440 --> 01:01:34,480 Speaker 3: There was a moment in my life where I was 1101 01:01:34,560 --> 01:01:38,640 Speaker 3: listening to this song Drimber, Oh brother, where art thou? 1102 01:01:38,960 --> 01:01:39,520 Speaker 4: That movie? 1103 01:01:39,640 --> 01:01:40,520 Speaker 1: Yes, love that movie. 1104 01:01:40,520 --> 01:01:43,240 Speaker 4: That song Go down to the River to Pray is 1105 01:01:43,440 --> 01:01:44,240 Speaker 4: so beautiful. 1106 01:01:44,320 --> 01:01:45,800 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I love that song. 1107 01:01:45,840 --> 01:01:48,800 Speaker 3: Oh it's so beautiful, and I was listening to it 1108 01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:51,840 Speaker 3: un repeat when I was like twenty seven years old, 1109 01:01:52,000 --> 01:01:54,080 Speaker 3: and all of a sudden, it felt like I was 1110 01:01:54,120 --> 01:01:59,200 Speaker 3: being wrapped up and string so tightly, and my brain 1111 01:01:59,240 --> 01:02:02,280 Speaker 3: would comple deletely blank, like I couldn't think of a 1112 01:02:02,320 --> 01:02:05,360 Speaker 3: single thought. I couldn't remember who I was kind of thing. 1113 01:02:05,480 --> 01:02:09,320 Speaker 3: It was like whow, completely different planet. I wasn't on drugs. 1114 01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:12,240 Speaker 3: It was just so weird. And then I got really 1115 01:02:12,280 --> 01:02:15,680 Speaker 3: scared and I started picking up my cat and running 1116 01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:19,080 Speaker 3: around my apartment screaming, just kidding, just kidding, I'm not ready. 1117 01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:23,320 Speaker 3: And then I watched and then I watched Drill Housewives 1118 01:02:23,440 --> 01:02:26,160 Speaker 3: of Miami. This is that your houses in Miami was 1119 01:02:26,160 --> 01:02:28,000 Speaker 3: a thing, and uh went to sleep. 1120 01:02:28,160 --> 01:02:29,560 Speaker 1: That is insane. 1121 01:02:29,840 --> 01:02:32,560 Speaker 2: Okay, hang on, so what are you doing while you're 1122 01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:33,480 Speaker 2: just sitting while it's hacked. 1123 01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:35,480 Speaker 3: I was just like sitting there and listening to that 1124 01:02:35,600 --> 01:02:38,440 Speaker 3: song and like crying because it's so beautiful and everybody's 1125 01:02:38,560 --> 01:02:43,080 Speaker 3: voices all blend together so beautifully. And I wasn't thinking 1126 01:02:43,080 --> 01:02:45,440 Speaker 3: about religion or anything. I was just thinking about all 1127 01:02:45,440 --> 01:02:49,120 Speaker 3: these people coming together. So I don't know, and it 1128 01:02:49,160 --> 01:02:52,080 Speaker 3: was like that lobe of my brain just started getting 1129 01:02:52,440 --> 01:02:55,360 Speaker 3: turned on because it wasn't all about me. I was 1130 01:02:55,520 --> 01:03:00,320 Speaker 3: fucking flying away, not on this planet at all. 1131 01:03:01,160 --> 01:03:04,360 Speaker 2: My favorite part is that you ran around saying I'm 1132 01:03:04,400 --> 01:03:05,120 Speaker 2: not ready. 1133 01:03:05,240 --> 01:03:08,080 Speaker 3: Yeah with my cat, my poor cat who hates being 1134 01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:10,919 Speaker 3: held in general, but as like holding on for dear 1135 01:03:11,040 --> 01:03:14,160 Speaker 3: life as I'm like, no, Ben, we're not ready. 1136 01:03:14,600 --> 01:03:16,840 Speaker 1: What did you think was happening? You were being taken though? 1137 01:03:17,240 --> 01:03:19,040 Speaker 3: I thought that maybe I was going to have some 1138 01:03:19,120 --> 01:03:24,400 Speaker 3: like Eghart Toole experience of my ego collapsing, which I 1139 01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:26,840 Speaker 3: think is possible, not even in a spiritual way, just 1140 01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:29,760 Speaker 3: in a normal I think that's something that can happen. 1141 01:03:30,080 --> 01:03:32,120 Speaker 3: And I thought that that's what was going about to happen, 1142 01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:34,400 Speaker 3: and I just didn't know if I was ready for that. 1143 01:03:34,640 --> 01:03:36,960 Speaker 4: Oh yeah, that sounds cool. It was cool. 1144 01:03:37,160 --> 01:03:38,960 Speaker 3: It was really cool. It was really scary. I was 1145 01:03:39,000 --> 01:03:41,280 Speaker 3: shaking for like a day, but it was really cool. 1146 01:03:41,600 --> 01:03:44,040 Speaker 4: As A went down to the movie, oh my god, 1147 01:03:44,080 --> 01:03:44,920 Speaker 4: it's happening again. 1148 01:03:48,920 --> 01:03:50,600 Speaker 1: She's not ready, She's not ready. 1149 01:03:52,760 --> 01:03:54,040 Speaker 4: Do you have any like. 1150 01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:55,600 Speaker 1: We talked about on mushrooms? 1151 01:03:55,680 --> 01:03:58,240 Speaker 2: Yes, right, but I'm trying to think of what other 1152 01:03:58,640 --> 01:04:01,680 Speaker 2: I mean, definitely as a kid when I was religious, 1153 01:04:02,200 --> 01:04:05,560 Speaker 2: there were definitely moments that I. 1154 01:04:04,840 --> 01:04:07,040 Speaker 1: Categorized as feeling the spirit. 1155 01:04:07,920 --> 01:04:11,600 Speaker 2: Post religion, I think it really has been more just 1156 01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:15,960 Speaker 2: like feeling really connected, similarly to like a song or 1157 01:04:16,000 --> 01:04:18,160 Speaker 2: a piece of art, or just feeling really really moved 1158 01:04:18,200 --> 01:04:21,440 Speaker 2: by something a sunset. It's not I want a more 1159 01:04:21,440 --> 01:04:24,240 Speaker 2: exciting one. I want one I feel like give me 1160 01:04:24,240 --> 01:04:25,160 Speaker 2: in our experience. 1161 01:04:25,400 --> 01:04:27,400 Speaker 3: I feel like you've probably had way more than that. 1162 01:04:27,520 --> 01:04:30,280 Speaker 3: But maybe your skepticism is just in the way of 1163 01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:31,080 Speaker 3: you even seeing it. 1164 01:04:31,160 --> 01:04:32,640 Speaker 2: I think I just don't think of them as all 1165 01:04:32,640 --> 01:04:35,840 Speaker 2: experiences because I frequently have moments where I'm like, I 1166 01:04:35,840 --> 01:04:37,720 Speaker 2: feel connected to the world right now, where I feel 1167 01:04:37,720 --> 01:04:40,560 Speaker 2: really connected to myself or this art. I don't see 1168 01:04:40,560 --> 01:04:43,760 Speaker 2: it as like God is moving me or although still 1169 01:04:43,760 --> 01:04:47,160 Speaker 2: sometimes I do have moments where I'm like, h, the universe. 1170 01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:48,560 Speaker 4: I mean, duh, how could you not? 1171 01:04:48,720 --> 01:04:51,640 Speaker 2: But it's much easier to do on drugs. Yeah, for sure, 1172 01:04:51,720 --> 01:04:56,120 Speaker 2: so do drugs. Is the conclusion of this story? Well, 1173 01:04:56,280 --> 01:04:59,240 Speaker 2: hey trustees, ehh. 1174 01:04:58,920 --> 01:05:05,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, hey Christine, that's a great week, and remember to 1175 01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:08,919 Speaker 3: follow your gut, watch out for a flag, and never 1176 01:05:09,520 --> 01:05:12,200 Speaker 3: ever trust me. 1177 01:05:12,680 --> 01:05:12,919 Speaker 4: Later