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Speaker 1: All right, guys, it is time now for today Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: And if you need advice on relationships, on sex, on dating,

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Speaker 1: on work, on parenting, and more, please submit your Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click submit Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air,

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Speaker 1: just like we're going to do this one, right, nephew,

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Speaker 1: you that's right, so buckle up and hold on tight.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here it is. It's that

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Speaker 1: time the straw very letter subject ain't nothing holy about

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Speaker 1: his behavior, Dear Stephen Shirley. My family has a church

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Speaker 1: that they've been going to all their life, and I

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Speaker 1: recently joined. I decided to devote my life to fellowship

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Speaker 1: and service at this church. My pastor is great, but

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Speaker 1: I always thought he was a bit creepy because of

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Speaker 1: the strange relationship he has with my cousin. I have

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Speaker 1: been watching them for a while, and then, in a

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Speaker 1: stewardship meeting, my pastor mistakenly call my cousin babe or

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Speaker 1: babe and she blushed. Immediately after the meeting, I asked

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Speaker 1: my cousin what's up with her in the pastor, and

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Speaker 1: she got all awkward and tried to lie at first,

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Speaker 1: but then she ended up spilling the beans. I was devastated.

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Speaker 1: My heart dropped, and I couldn't believe what she had

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Speaker 1: told me. She swore me to secrecy, but I don't

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Speaker 1: care about her feelings. I care about the pastor's wife's

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Speaker 1: feelings because she is ill and I have the utmost

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Speaker 1: respect for her as the first lady of the church. Now,

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Speaker 1: my family is whispering about them messing around, and I'm

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Speaker 1: having a hard time acting naive. When they mentioned it.

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Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, she missed church, and the pastor pulled

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Speaker 1: me to the side and asked, where's my friend today.

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Speaker 1: I guess my cousin has shared with him that I'm

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Speaker 1: in on their little secret. He grosses me out now,

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Speaker 1: and I want to find a new church home. My

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Speaker 1: grandmother told me that I need to just focus on

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Speaker 1: God and that's it. She said, God will take care

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Speaker 1: of my cousin and the past I still want to

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Speaker 1: leave this church, but I enjoy sundays with my family.

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Speaker 1: I'm so conflicted. What should I do? Please advise? Wow, Well,

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Speaker 1: first I have to tell you this that God isn't

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Speaker 1: just at that one church. God is everywhere Okay, I

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Speaker 1: do agree with your grandmother. She's right, you do need

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Speaker 1: to focus on God when you're at church, and God

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Speaker 1: will take care of your cousin and the pastor. But

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Speaker 1: I still see no reason for you to check out

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Speaker 1: another church if you just can't stomach going to your

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Speaker 1: about your cousin and the pastor. You also have to

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Speaker 1: know that just like there's mess going on at church church,

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Speaker 1: there's mess at a whole bunch of churches. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: mean there's mess at other churches too. I mean you

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Speaker 1: just have to know that. Remember, pastors are human, they

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Speaker 1: are mere mortals, and they're not God. Okay, even though

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Speaker 1: we do hold them to a higher standard a church,

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Speaker 1: we do put them on a pedestal. But you know,

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Speaker 1: if you don't want to leave, and you do want

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Speaker 1: to enjoy Sundays with your family, you're going to have

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Speaker 1: to not judge and do like your grandmother said, take

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Speaker 1: her advice and let God deal with that. Um, you know,

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Speaker 1: with handling the situation with your pastor and your cousin.

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Speaker 1: If you're no longer getting fed there, that's something different.

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Speaker 1: Then of course, you know, go to a different church.

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Speaker 1: But I see no reason for you to check out

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Speaker 1: a different church if you just can't stand to be

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Speaker 1: in their presence. You know, if that's if that's not

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Speaker 1: what you're into, I definitely can support you in that. Steve, well, well,

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Speaker 1: well if it ain't Green Leaf, Yeah, we a own network.

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Speaker 1: Now what's my ship? Don't do this to me. You

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Speaker 1: did it to yourself. My family has a church. They've

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Speaker 1: been on to all that life. My pastor is great.

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Speaker 1: But see this statement my pastor is great. But it

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Speaker 1: usually take a little bit longer for a person to say,

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Speaker 1: but but my past a great. But let me just

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Speaker 1: this woman trying to get to this damn letter. I

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Speaker 1: always thought he was a bit creepy because of a

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Speaker 1: when you say strange relationship with your cousin, I'm assuming

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Speaker 1: your cousin is a female soul. What is this strangeness

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Speaker 1: It's when you know you had one of them churches.

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Speaker 1: I was at a stewardessship meeting. Now what is that? Truely,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. It tells you how to be a

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Speaker 1: I don't remember that. Yeah, i'd have been the choir rehearsal. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: mistakenly called my cousin babe or babe, and she blood

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Speaker 1: he hadn't lost his damn mon, he didn't got so

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Speaker 1: damn com So what about you, bab I mean sister Pola,

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Speaker 1: Now you know what was up? Because you've always thought

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Speaker 1: I was devastated. She spilled the beans. I was devastating.

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Speaker 1: My heart dropped. I couldn't believe what she told me.

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Speaker 1: have to guess what that is. Junior. Do a sound

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Speaker 1: like sicker? Sale? Do you na now? This sound like

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Speaker 1: a jay? Do a sound like diabetes to you? All Right?

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Speaker 1: We covered them too, We got damn. Part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's respond to sound like she ignorant to you that

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's responds to twenty three after the hour

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Speaker 1: you're listening show, let's recap today's strawberry letter. And this

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Speaker 1: woman been going to this family one family had been

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Speaker 1: In the end he messed run and call her baby baby,

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Speaker 1: I came about to pass a white feelings because she's

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Speaker 1: ill now. We don't went over the show. We didn't

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Speaker 1: find out that it end ain't sick herself now, and

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Speaker 1: she ain't suffering from igness illness. I'm going over all

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Speaker 1: I'm crazy, so it don't sound actually crazy to me. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Shirley dud she sounds bullshie to you, Okay, so she

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Speaker 1: ain't bullshie. This college. Doesn't sound like she's suffering from

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Speaker 1: an overdoseerhood overdoses sound like she country is hell, Come on, Mississippi. Okay, cool,

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Speaker 1: she don't have none of that, so we will not

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Speaker 1: know what's wrong with the first round. Now, my family

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Speaker 1: is whispering about them messing around, and I'm having a

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Speaker 1: hard time acting naive when they mentioned it, Well, your

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Speaker 1: family been whispering about them messing around. It's just you

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Speaker 1: just became a member of the church, and now you

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Speaker 1: prove it to the inside information. They've been thanking this

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Speaker 1: You ain't gotta act naive. Ain't know two weeks ago

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Speaker 1: the side as well. My little friend at the wow, well,

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Speaker 1: I guess my cousin that shared with him that I'm

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Speaker 1: and I want to find a new church home. You should.

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Speaker 1: My grandmama told me I need to just focus on God,

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Speaker 1: and I said, well, you can't cause you're in there

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Speaker 1: because passes the pimp. I don't know where you got now,

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Speaker 1: dog on it. Let's stop all this. Well, it's how

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Speaker 1: I still want to leave the church, and you should

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Speaker 1: sitting up in here watching him just do what he

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Speaker 1: like it's all right now. Woman sitting over there sick,

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Speaker 1: we do on He can't even find out what she got.

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Speaker 1: Six damn adults on this shot, and we still don't

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Speaker 1: know where she got. She fell. Just ain't no sickness,

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Speaker 1: she ain't got the coffer, no damn flu. She is

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Speaker 1: something really wrong with this woman. Days when she can't

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Speaker 1: sitting up in Edward on the front road, just playing

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Speaker 1: peekabue with the damn the pulpit. I'm not gonna keep

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Speaker 1: going to this damn church. We're just not gonna do it.

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Speaker 1: Should that have been the subject. Steven said, it ain't

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Speaker 1: nothing holy about his behavior. Well, ain't nothing holy about

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Speaker 1: his play? Well, they ain't nothing holy about pimps. Holy

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Speaker 1: people's a deacons and Elberts bishops. Damn damn his holy

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Speaker 1: pimps ain't holy. To stop saying it. Somebody needs to

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Speaker 1: get on this. Letting get on the phone callers. Woman,

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Speaker 1: find out what's wrong with her so we can start

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Speaker 1: to go fund the page and get something for her.

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Speaker 1: So you think she should get into another church. Got

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Speaker 1: to get out of there. Why is he talking like this,

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Speaker 1: trying to get his morning from Get you clear now, fool,

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Speaker 1: Crystal to pinto beans is what this is? This princier beans.

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Speaker 1: Pimps is needing to be stopped. The I and tbs

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Speaker 1: this daying looks like panto beans, but pimps is needing

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Speaker 1: to be stopped. These pinto beans. Pimps is needing to

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Speaker 1: be stopped. Look like pinto beans, but it's real. You

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Speaker 1: got put a stop to this. You got to leave

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Speaker 1: Sitting up in here watching this going on with my

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Speaker 1: little friend, and you ain't got no damn friend, you

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Speaker 1: to pass passers, ain't got friends. Passage out, parishioners, passage

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Speaker 1: got shape. I'm just checking on my little friend. Now,

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Speaker 1: church keep you're a shepherd. Pimp's got little friends. Might

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Speaker 1: Willer just said one of my main fans already called

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Speaker 1: our baby and damn stewardship meeting justin got cured. It

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Speaker 1: shouldn't have been here talking to the water to call

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Speaker 1: her baby in front of everybody in the all the

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Speaker 1: comedy head is gonna deacon talking about wow here to

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Speaker 1: hush your boy going Jesus, yes, Jesus. He didn't call

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Speaker 1: her baby. Sh over that blushing, so she doesn't care

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Speaker 1: of everyone else. It's just fanning. Oh god, I know

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Speaker 1: he called your baby, but shut your ass. Any words

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Speaker 1: of boomerang. You won't close, you'll stop with your read

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